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Speaker 1: Welcome back, bestie's. I've missed you. I hope you guys

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are settling into your new year, New year, new meat.

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No same exact, same exact you. Listen, you guys, don't

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put too much pressure on yourself this new year. I

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know we all make resolutions to everything is going to

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be amazing this year. It's going to be another year.

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I hate to burst your bubble, but it's just going

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to be another year where good things happen and bad

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things happen, and take them all in stride. And if

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you want to do a couple more push ups, do

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a couple more push ups. If you want to drink

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some more water, drink some more water. If you want

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to get in shape, you go, girl. But listen if

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you don't want to, that's the train I'm on. I

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haven't had a New Year's resolution in years and years

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and years, so I'm just happy to be here. I'm

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happy you guys are with me. I have some dates

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coming up, upcoming dates. I would love to see you

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guys on the road. I'm in Portland, Oregon, January seventh, Seattle,

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Washington on the eighth. I have on January twenty seventh, Raleigh,

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North Carolina, January twenty eighth, Austin In, Texas, January twenty ninth, Nashville, Tennessee.

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Come see me Janesville, Wisconsin from February thirteenth and fourteenth.

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I think I'm also adding Chicago on the twelfth on

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February twelfth, so that should be up on my site.

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And then March twentieth, London, March twenty first, Berlin, March

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twenty second, Amsterdam. Come see Mama on the Road Britney

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Schmidt dot com for all of my shows and I

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will see you out there, besties. This episode, We're going

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to dive right into it. I had such a great

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conversations with one of my dear friends. She is the

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co host of a super successful dating podcast called Girls

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Gotta Eat. She is a comedian. She is announced announcing

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announced her first stand up special and I'm going to

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be featuring for her on the road. Please enjoy this

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episode with Rena Greenberg. I'm just lifted up by Lexapro.

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My whole personality now is Lexapro. This morning, when I

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was crying, I was like, wait, my meds.

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Speaker 2: We all have to have a personality. I used to

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have boobs. Those are my personality.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, now, my personality is lexipro. My personality is being

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heavily medicated. I think you're delightful. I don't know how

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you brought dog life.

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Speaker 2: I don't experience anxiety. That's not true.

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Speaker 1: Yes, no, it's not just that's like a lie you're

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telling me.

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Speaker 2: I experience aggravation all the time, but like general anxiety,

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I don't. It's not a feeling. I experience really temporary anxiety.

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Speaker 1: You're lying to my face. You're lying to my face

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and everyone that I don't need it.

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Speaker 2: I just don't need to be medicated.

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Speaker 1: I'm probably no, you don't need to be medicated, but

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you could try. You could pop your head into a

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therapy session.

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Speaker 2: Why do all the personal crises I've had in the

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last couple of years, I just send you lengthy voice

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notes you and like eight of my girlfriends, I shop

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my trauma around to everybody and then I've cured.

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Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, no, I don't. I think maybe a licensed

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professional would give better feedback than an unmedicated divorced person.

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I think a medicated divorced person.

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Speaker 2: I think eight beautiful, wonderful, successful, insightful girlfriends. The cumulative

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nature of them is one therapist. Okay, and all of

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you are in therapist.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't need to be I do talk to

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my therapist about you. Like my friend is having this.

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I'm always like, please talk to your therapist and should do,

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and she says you should come see me.

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Speaker 2: I don't need to know to tap your money.

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Speaker 1: Okay. I fear the most frugal rich person I know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I don't pay for HBO. I pay for Netflix.

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I don't pay for Hulu. I just got a peacock

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subscription from somebody else. Oh wow. And I don't pay

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for therapy.

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Speaker 1: Wow. Okay, Okay, what do you think about this? So

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I still share my not my Netflix, my HBO, and

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my Apple TV with my ex husband.

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Speaker 2: So I think people think this is weird if you

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could get somebody to pay for those things, and I say,

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go for it. The old reason why I don't want

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a man to share that with me is because, like

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they watch other stuff. So I want the recommendations tailored

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to me, but not enough to pay for it. Right.

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Speaker 1: Do you think it's weird that you no? But my

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friend who's staying with me did. She's like, what the

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fuck is this? She's like, you need to emotionally divorce,

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and I was like, I'm divorced. I just also saving money.

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Speaker 2: That adds up like one hundred fifty dollars a year.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't more than that, is it?

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Speaker 1: Pay for I would never know. I wait, you're like

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one hundred and fifty dollars a year and then you'll

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spend like seven thousand dollars on UFLE.

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Speaker 2: Okay, but all those subscriptions add up together to one

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hundred and fifty times, like six subscriptions. Who's paying for

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all this? I think I just put my YouTube TV

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Speaker 1: Too, A pause.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm never here. I need to pay hundred dollars

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a month for YouTube TV. It's one hundred dollars a

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month something like that, like eighty nine. Oh wow, yeah okay,

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Speaker 1: Yeah that's true. Are you so excited to move back

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to New York?

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Speaker 2: When I so? I live in NewYork for fifteen years

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and I moved here and I was like so done

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with New York. I was just like I need a break.

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I don't want this. I don't want this. Describing from

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hustle culture and I have a good run here. Yeah,

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bought a house. Yeah, and then I changed my mind. Yeah,

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I just I'm bored. Time to change your mind right

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after you buy a house, yeah, one year into it. Yeah,

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it's really smart, after you spend all your money out

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of house.

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Speaker 1: I just I miss being.

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Speaker 2: Surrounded by New Yorkers. I feel a little like lethargic here.

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I feel like I'm not that like excited to do

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anything here. Like my career is in media. I want

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to be in media in New York. I want to

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like walk to everything, like I want you this spot.

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If I wrapped party the other night, I was so

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excited to go, but like I was in the car

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for forty five minutes each direction. Yeah, and like the

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room was like a quarter of the way fool And

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I was like, people don't want to do anything.

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Speaker 1: In La Yeah, nobody. Everyone just stays. It's so easy

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to just stay inside. Yeah, especially now when it gets

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dark early and cold. I'm just like its feel stayed.

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Speaker 2: Your place is so perfect and amazing, Like why would

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you leave?

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Speaker 1: And That's what That's how I feel. So I'm moving

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to Palm Beach, so I have a perfect place here

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and I'm like, you know what, I'm going to go.

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Speaker 2: Well, at least i'll be get like close to you

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and it will be in the same time zone.

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Speaker 1: Something recently that said New York is sinking under the

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pressure of all the skyscrapers. It's like one point seven

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trillion tons of metal.

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Speaker 2: I'll be dead before that really affects me. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Can I say that about Miami too? And I'm like, okay,

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let it sink.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's gonna be underwater in for yours. I won't

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be alive. I don't care in a few years, I

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don't have shelteron and I'm not gonna worry.

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Speaker 1: About it, right, Okay, great, Yeah, I'm so excited. I'm

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excited for I'm excited for our home in New York.

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Speaker 2: Tim excited for ourham and pomp Beach. Yeah, you were

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just showing to me. I was like, oh my god,

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I'm gonna love waking up there. How many bedrooms are

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you guys get there?

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Speaker 1: It's two and a half.

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Speaker 2: Well, I have my own bathroom. Yeah, that's really important

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Speaker 1: Okay, well, we got you covered. Well, we got you covered. Well.

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Speaker 2: No, but that's a different price point. You're not paying

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for you to live in Florida. I have to pay

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Speaker 1: Yes, I am.

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Speaker 2: Can he get us an apartment in New York. It's

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just it's weird staying with your friend and her man

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and like you have to poop in the morning, and

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like he's around, right, I don't want to have your shits. Yeah,

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not that I care if your boyfriend's attracted to me,

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but I just I don't need to be in the mix.

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Speaker 3: You know, he's in the bagel business. He's got to

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be out by like four am.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so I can just take I can put in morning.

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Speaker 1: H Yeah, he'll be He'll be up at like two

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or three am making dough.

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Speaker 2: Oh okay, he won't be around. This is perfect, This

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is perfect.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. No, he's signing up for a tough life that

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he's never He didn't need to do it.

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Speaker 2: I just I imagine you're just in the T shirt,

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just like bringing people up at the register. That gonna

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be you.

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Speaker 1: No. No, everyone keeps saying that Santina was just on

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the podcast and he was like, are you gonna be

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working behind the counter? Like, no, my service industry days

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are behind me.

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Speaker 2: Okay, that's what everybody else is like, this is the

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decent thing to do, and you're like, absolutely not. Everyone's like,

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obviously you're gonna support your partner, and you're like, oh no, no,

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I'm not doing that. That's crazy.

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Speaker 1: Working a cash register save him some money. Well, if

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I am working the cash register, I'm getting paid. I'm

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not saving anyone money. I'm not doing community service. If

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he's like, even, okay, what if he pays.

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Speaker 2: Your rent and your bills, He's not going to Okay,

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that's not the setup. Okay, then he has he has

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to pay you an hourly wage.

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Speaker 3: What if he hires a twenty two year old blonde.

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Speaker 4: To do it?

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Speaker 1: Fine, fine, let him, let me pray hot, let him

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fucking cook. He likes older women. If you hired a

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forty year old, I'd be more scared.

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Speaker 2: I just think men that want to cheat are gonna

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cheat on you, and there's like nothing you could do

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to stop. You could work all day long at that

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register and he'll still find the way to fuck the

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other girl totally if he wanted to.

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Speaker 1: Totally.

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Speaker 2: I think people make it their whole personalities, like, and

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I understand where it comes from. If you've been cheated

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on then your paranoid all the time. But I think

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people make it their whole personality to like read people's

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emails and their texts and like figure this out. It's like,

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I don't have someone cheat on you, they're going to

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cheat on you own.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't do that. Do you read text or emails.

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Speaker 2: I've only had one partner that I like went through

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their stuff, but he was like cheating on you with everybody,

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and I had already caught him cheating one time, and

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like the feeling never went away, and I caught him

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a second time doing that too, and after that. I've

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never had a partner whose phone I ever went through. Yeah,

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I never. I've never. I've been in serious relationships with

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actually some pretty nice people who just never We don't

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all have the other problems, right, but trust was never

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an issue for me.

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Speaker 1: And that's a blessing. Yeah, I mean I I in

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my first marriage, I definitely went through his phone. And

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if you're looking for something bad, you're gonna find it,

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you know, even if it's just like something It was

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like something from his ex wife that his ex wife

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sent years ago when they were married, and I was like,

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how fucking dare you take me to the same restaurant

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you took her to it? He's like, whoa bitch.

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Speaker 2: You will find something that you don't like. And I

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don't know things that I say will sound flirty. I

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can imagine a partner of mind like reading something I

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say to somebody else and be like, eh, I don't

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love the tone of that.

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Speaker 1: But I know that it didn't mean anything, right, Yeah,

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I mean for me, it's like I have all these

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friends that are male comics, like Leo and Santino, and

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I always am like, love you by you know, and

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like I think if I saw him doing that, I

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would be like, it's.

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Speaker 2: Different when a woman does it. I don't just from

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Nam says that shit.

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Speaker 3: I know.

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Speaker 1: Also, his friends are like the hottest people alive?

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Speaker 2: Are they?

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Speaker 1: And then mine look like you found them under a

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rock in the woods. No, no, no, no, my male

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friends opposite sex friends.

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Speaker 2: You know that I'm pretty attracted to some of your

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male comedian friends.

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Speaker 1: Want in particular, Oh my god, I love a.

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Speaker 2: Toxic male comedian. I you know, you think I would

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have learned, But why learn? Why learn?

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Speaker 3: I learn?

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Speaker 2: Just keep doing the same thing.

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Speaker 1: When you can just keep getting curb stopped my life,

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why would you ever learn?

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Speaker 2: I just feel like if I got really happy, it

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would stop my comedy. Like if I just was in

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like a healthy, solid, stable relationship, Like what would I

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write about if I wasn't just continuously sleeping with comedians?

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Speaker 1: Right, And you know you're doing it for the plot

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and we all appreciate you.

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Speaker 2: But how is your heart? My heart is failed because

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I have wonderful women in my life, right. I have

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a great relationship with my dad, I have great friends.

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I love my job. It's like the one missing piece.

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But honestly, Vogue announced that it is embarrassing to have

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a boyfriend. So also, I'm not embarrassing British Fogue. I know.

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But they speak the same language there, Yeah, I know, but.

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Speaker 1: They like stay inside in the brain and just like

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think about death. Remember that was the country that they

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all were put their head in the oven. They had

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to like switch the oven.

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Speaker 2: I think people do that here too, not heading the oven.

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My heart's great, I'm sure heart heart's great. I'm okay,

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I'm hanging on by a threat. Okay, you have a boyfriend, so.

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Speaker 1: I do have a boyfriend, but I don't have your job.

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Speaker 2: I do like my job. I feel the job. I

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mean to be like, really corny, I do this. I've

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done the podcast for eight years, and I feel like

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I contribute positively to the world.

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Speaker 1: You really do. So many people DM me when I

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announced I was doing a new podcast, being like get

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rain On, we need to see you, and Raina we

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wanted you, and I was just like, Okay, she's coming.

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Speaker 2: You're funnier than I am, so they're gonna be disappointed.

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Speaker 1: Ah, but you're smarter.

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Speaker 2: Maybe in some ways. No, but I'm really excited. I

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did your last podcast, and this is really nice to

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just be solow with you. Yeah. Yeah, it's a new chapter.

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I was thinking this morning. You and I have been

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to Paris together three times. Most people have been to

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Paris in three times in their whole life. Yeah, I've

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been to Paris three times with you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. The last one hit the skids a little ran

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away from me.

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Speaker 2: On the last one, I spent like eight hundred dollars

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to leave like ten hours earlier. I wanted to get

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the fuck out of their Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, you were struggling. You were struggling.

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Speaker 2: I just I think that I have a pretty long fuse,

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but when I hit the end of it, there is

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no talking to me out of it.

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Speaker 1: I'm just oh, I know, no, I know. I saw

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you in YSL looking at flights.

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Speaker 2: You are you know what you're like one of your

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superpowers is I don't know if you know this, but

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like when you are like really like not in a

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good mood, or you're not enjoying something, or you're like done,

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you do not show it on your face or in

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your voice or in your body. Maybe like with your

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romantic partner you do. I don't know, but like I

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have been like in situation with you around like I

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know that she is done, but like you have a

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smile on your face, Like I don't know how you

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do it. I'm not capable.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what you're talking about.

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Speaker 2: I really feel that you are capable of it.

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Speaker 1: I sit there and I just you can start to

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see my double chin, and I just like fall into

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a fucking daze and then just I just dissociate.

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Speaker 2: Like the other night at dinner where you just stopped talking.

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I was like, Berre isn't talk in thirty minutes.

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Speaker 1: I knew You're right to go.

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Speaker 2: I was done.

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Speaker 1: Honestly, the MVP of that night was Shashank. At the

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end of the dinner, when he just got up and

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left after, I was like, I would go get the car.

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Speaker 2: I was like, the cars just gonna be waiting. This amazing.

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Speaker 1: He's like he was more done than me. I was like, honestly,

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stick a fork in. Us were cooked.

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Speaker 2: I just I feel like women can't do that. Men

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can get up and do that. Yeah, if a woman

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did that, it would be.

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Speaker 1: Like, oh yeah, bitch. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: But he left to get the car. I was like,

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what a prince.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, what a prince.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So but even that night, you were pleasant, Like

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I am not. I am visibly unhappy when I'm ready

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to stop doing something.

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Speaker 1: No, I know, RNA, I've yeah, I know.

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Speaker 2: I always thought I hit it. You told me I

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don't ide.

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Speaker 1: You can't really button shit up at all. Or like

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when I was doing the photo shoot at your house

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and you were having a bad week, it was not

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a good week for me to do a photo shoot.

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You came in, I had something hung.

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Speaker 2: On your railing.

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Speaker 1: Which it's a house. It's built for you know, it's

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built for that. She walked in. You're like absolutely not,

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and you pulled it off there and I was just like,

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Whitney was like.

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Speaker 2: Boo, you could say and hang out you go, No,

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you don't want that. Everyone knows you don't want that.

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The energy is that you don't want that. And I

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was like, no, totally stay, but you don't take advantage

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of that because other people be like, oh, she's saying stay. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: No, I'm like we gotta go. Yeah, we gotta fucking

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on delay this.

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Speaker 2: You see you see in set my soul?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, are you on the apps right now?

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 1: Oh, are you gonna get back on?

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Speaker 2: No? I'm in this like amazing place where I basically

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like have been writing this thing which we will talk about,

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but like I dated about it. No, okay.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So I had a situation where I was in love

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with this guy and he like shattered my heart and

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I was like, I want to like one of those situations,

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just one, just one one. And I was like, I

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want to date this year. I want to be intentional.

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I would do everything I want to do, like matchmakers

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and apps and you know, fuck my friends and do

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all these things. And I did all those things and

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I just started writing about it and I was like,

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this is like pretty funny. And I put together this

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whole thing and I was like, I think this is

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a comedy hour, Like I think I've written something. And

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I've never done a solo tour. I've been on tour

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with Ashley for seven years for Girls Got to Eat.

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She's a solo comedian and she's so amazing. And she

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went on a solo tour this year. She had forty

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three sold out shows and shot a special and it

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was so inspiring. And you and I both like went

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with her and opened the shows. And I just kept

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writing and I was like I think, I think I

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really enjoy this and I have something to say and

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this is like deeply funny. And I just started talking

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to my agent about it and I was like, I

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want to do a tour. I have like something to say.

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I love performing. And so I announced my tour, my

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solo tour in December, and it's twenty cities. I cannot wait.

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I'm going to travel over the country and You're gonna

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with me, and I'm just like I can't wait to

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do it with you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm so excited. I mean, we've been working on

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it together. I've been helping you with writing and figuring

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out structure of you know, because you're such a presence

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on stage, like truly. I mean you opened my special

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in Chicago and my girl who did my hair and

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the girl who did my makeup were like, Reina was

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the best one. And I was like, that's crushing to

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hear it. After I filed the special that I'm like,

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that's devastating. That is a fucking kill shot to hear

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when I was filming a special, But They're like, yeah, no,

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Raina was the best.

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Speaker 2: And I was like, oh, yeah, no, that's good.

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Speaker 1: That's good. That's great. But you are such a presence that,

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like you just really command the stage. And I know

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you've been performing for live shows, but comedy is such

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a different thing. But you just have the confidence. You're small,

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but you've got a lot of charisma, and like it's

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just such a good thing that like, once the structure

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is there and the jokes are kind of cooked into it,

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it's gonna be It's gonna be such a great show.

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And I can't wait to be on the road with you.

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Speaker 2: I'm just to have you there with me. I mean,

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I've never done a solo tour. I've always been with

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Ashley and our assistant and a tour manager and a

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videographer and like I've never done this, like solo tours

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to like have somebody I love so much with me

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in these moments and just like mean so much to me,

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and I just I had to I am gonna get

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back to the dating appic that you've asked me and

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connect this. I'm gonna land the plane. But I just

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started writing these stories that I just figure like relatable

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and everybody goes through these things and it's a lot

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of like trial and error and failure and like figure

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out what you want. I think that dating has changed

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so much, I mean the last couple of years with

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like Ai and chatchypt and the way that people just

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approach love and even like the articles are coming out

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now saying like having a boyfriend is embarrassing, Like people

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are thinking about love differently, and I was. I had

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so much fun writing it and I feel so proud

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of it and I'm so excited to do it that

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like actually putting my energy into that for the last

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couple of months has made me be like.

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Speaker 1: I literally don't care about dating at all.

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Speaker 2: It's like not in my airspace at all crazy. I

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don't think about it at all. I mean, I'd like

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to get fucked more.

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Speaker 1: And that's what we've been saying, and that's.

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Speaker 2: What we're here to say.

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Speaker 1: That's what we're here to tell everyone. We're all trying

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to get fucked more.

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Speaker 2: I'd like to get fucked more. But I'm gonna take

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all these experiences and I'm gonna monetize them now, and

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I'm gonna talk about my trauma on stage and I'm

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gonna like be able to like make other people feel

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like they have similar experiences and they're heard and laugh

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at the problems and the sadness and all the things.

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Because a lot of these things were really hard. I

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was like in love with my best guy friend. It

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was fucking terrible. But like to turn that into art

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is like really fun and exciting.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's the whole point of getting fucked up in

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life is to eventually turn that pain into something that

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everyone else can benefit from, including yourself.

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Speaker 2: I mean, nobody is more open and honest than you are.

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And like you're a storyteller too, Like I think that

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you're just the funniest person. The way you write is

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like unbelievable. The way you're like, can weave a joke

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and the analogies and the callbacks, Like you're so brilliant

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at it, but it's just storytelling, Like it's not observational humor. Yeah,

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and like everything you do is so personal and like,

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I just I think it's I don't want to be

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00:19:04,000 --> 00:19:05,839
like it's sound brave, but it's like a real art

473
00:19:05,880 --> 00:19:07,319
to be able to do that and have people care

474
00:19:07,359 --> 00:19:09,319
about your life. Yeah, and you're just so good at it.

475
00:19:09,680 --> 00:19:12,799
Speaker 1: Thank you. I try. I mean, I just, you know, whatever,

476
00:19:12,920 --> 00:19:15,000
we're all our own worst critic except for you.

477
00:19:14,759 --> 00:19:20,160
Speaker 4: You honestly, you honestly think the world of yourself, and

478
00:19:20,240 --> 00:19:24,640
I think that's something that's something everyone should take page

479
00:19:24,680 --> 00:19:25,319
out of your book.

480
00:19:25,759 --> 00:19:27,359
Speaker 2: No one is more confused about me and not having

481
00:19:27,400 --> 00:19:31,240
a boyfriend than May. I'm just like, I'm so awesome.

482
00:19:31,279 --> 00:19:33,519
All these people that aren't awesome I have relationships, and

483
00:19:33,519 --> 00:19:37,039
I don't get it. You are so awesome and very

484
00:19:37,079 --> 00:19:40,119
hot and smart and cool and fun. But you said

485
00:19:40,119 --> 00:19:42,480
to me the other day, you said something like I

486
00:19:42,480 --> 00:19:43,759
don't want to hang out with her and that sucks

487
00:19:43,759 --> 00:19:45,119
for her because I'm awesome, And I was like, that

488
00:19:45,200 --> 00:19:46,240
sounds like me, and really, I.

489
00:19:46,319 --> 00:19:47,279
Speaker 1: Was channeling you.

490
00:19:47,359 --> 00:19:47,640
Speaker 2: Yeah.

491
00:19:47,720 --> 00:19:49,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like I'm never gonna talk to her again,

492
00:19:49,680 --> 00:19:51,119
and that sucks for her because I'm great.

493
00:19:52,519 --> 00:19:54,319
Speaker 2: I don't know, I just I've always felt like there's

494
00:19:54,319 --> 00:19:56,160
always going to be somebody who is prettier than me

495
00:19:56,240 --> 00:19:58,359
and skinnier. It makes more money, more successful and funnier,

496
00:19:58,400 --> 00:19:59,880
and then I always dopid fucking things. But like, that

497
00:20:00,000 --> 00:20:02,759
shouldn't make you not like yourself, right, There's always gonna

498
00:20:02,799 --> 00:20:05,200
be people that are like more whatever it is than you.

499
00:20:05,400 --> 00:20:07,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, one hundred percent. No, you do have a really

500
00:20:07,880 --> 00:20:09,279
you have a lot of self esteem.

501
00:20:10,640 --> 00:20:11,200
Speaker 2: That's great.

502
00:20:11,279 --> 00:20:13,680
Speaker 1: My dad really loved me, so it did mine. But

503
00:20:14,319 --> 00:20:18,480
my mom really really did it.

504
00:20:18,720 --> 00:20:21,039
Speaker 2: So my mom was like, you think you're taking two

505
00:20:21,039 --> 00:20:22,519
steps forward, we're gonna take three back.

506
00:20:22,839 --> 00:20:24,599
Speaker 1: My Mom's like, you think you're getting married, I'm gonna

507
00:20:24,680 --> 00:20:25,319
kill myself.

508
00:20:26,680 --> 00:20:27,599
Speaker 2: It's crazy that that.

509
00:20:28,119 --> 00:20:30,960
Speaker 1: I know you think you're it's your wedding day, dig dog,

510
00:20:31,000 --> 00:20:32,400
it's my funeral, bitch.

511
00:20:32,680 --> 00:20:34,119
Speaker 2: Do you feel like you get a lot of confidence

512
00:20:34,119 --> 00:20:35,440
from your current relationship?

513
00:20:36,000 --> 00:20:39,759
Speaker 1: Yes, a ton he really hypes me up, and he's

514
00:20:39,839 --> 00:20:42,880
just he's so spat. He just thinks the world of me.

515
00:20:43,039 --> 00:20:46,720
He's like he does you know he's just like impressed.

516
00:20:46,759 --> 00:20:49,160
He's he's never really dated anyone who has had anything

517
00:20:49,200 --> 00:20:52,000
going on before shots fired.

518
00:20:56,920 --> 00:20:59,839
Speaker 2: I like it insults him and everybody he's ever dated,

519
00:20:59,880 --> 00:21:04,920
Like it insults so many people will also giving yourself

520
00:21:04,920 --> 00:21:11,160
a compliment, it was amazing rid a coded itself. He

521
00:21:11,400 --> 00:21:13,519
just like so I was I sat with him for

522
00:21:13,559 --> 00:21:15,880
like your special and like he was the first time

523
00:21:15,880 --> 00:21:17,640
he'd really seen you do comedy, and a lot of

524
00:21:17,640 --> 00:21:20,839
stuff you'd written was about other guys, and like we

525
00:21:20,880 --> 00:21:23,079
didn't know how he was going to take it, and

526
00:21:23,279 --> 00:21:25,279
I was just like, so he wasn't for you, and

527
00:21:25,319 --> 00:21:26,960
he was like I just look at her on stage

528
00:21:26,960 --> 00:21:28,880
and I'm just like I can't believe that's my fucking girl,

529
00:21:28,920 --> 00:21:31,480
Like look at her go, and like that's how we

530
00:21:31,519 --> 00:21:33,519
all want our partners to feel about us, to like

531
00:21:33,559 --> 00:21:36,440
look at us do something and be like it's outside

532
00:21:36,440 --> 00:21:38,079
of them and has nothing to do with them, and

533
00:21:38,119 --> 00:21:39,680
they can watch you do this thing and be like

534
00:21:39,839 --> 00:21:43,240
so amazed by you and like you're worthy of that amazement.

535
00:21:43,240 --> 00:21:45,440
It's not like you're like working at Salesforce just like

536
00:21:45,880 --> 00:21:46,440
a pitch deck.

537
00:21:47,279 --> 00:21:49,559
Speaker 1: No shade to anyone who's working at salesforce.

538
00:21:50,680 --> 00:21:56,079
Speaker 2: Just a good job, great, you're sales Not everybody could

539
00:21:56,079 --> 00:21:58,599
be on stage selling dick jokes, but like he was

540
00:21:58,680 --> 00:22:03,880
just there was no competitiveness, there was no jealousy, and

541
00:22:03,920 --> 00:22:04,519
that's huge.

542
00:22:04,880 --> 00:22:07,640
Speaker 1: And that's huge because I think in my first marriage,

543
00:22:07,640 --> 00:22:09,400
and I know in my first marriage, there was an

544
00:22:09,480 --> 00:22:13,599
undercurrent of like he wanted to be he's funnier than me.

545
00:22:13,680 --> 00:22:15,279
First of all, I will say that, hands down, he

546
00:22:15,319 --> 00:22:17,279
is the funniest person I've ever met my entire life.

547
00:22:17,319 --> 00:22:19,240
But he really wanted to be on stage doing that.

548
00:22:19,279 --> 00:22:21,640
So there was like a little bit of like grading

549
00:22:21,839 --> 00:22:25,880
in it. And like mister Manhattan that's what we're calling him.

550
00:22:26,400 --> 00:22:29,400
He doesn't. He has his own shit going on, and

551
00:22:29,440 --> 00:22:31,000
he's just like happy to be there.

552
00:22:31,200 --> 00:22:33,079
Speaker 2: You know, Oh this could I thought you met your

553
00:22:33,079 --> 00:22:34,599
ex husband. I was like, wait, why Manhattan?

554
00:22:34,599 --> 00:22:37,640
Speaker 1: Oh no, no, no, mister Manhattan is so I was current.

555
00:22:37,680 --> 00:22:39,720
Speaker 2: We had Estra Prel on our show and we were

556
00:22:39,720 --> 00:22:41,640
talking to her about like the times that people say

557
00:22:41,640 --> 00:22:43,920
that they're most in love with their partner, and that

558
00:22:44,079 --> 00:22:46,920
everybody says like it's when I can see them doing

559
00:22:47,000 --> 00:22:49,000
something that I'm like so proud of them doing, and

560
00:22:49,000 --> 00:22:52,680
it's outside of myself basically, and like he just was

561
00:22:52,759 --> 00:22:55,519
so proud of you. And it wasn't even like, yes,

562
00:22:55,559 --> 00:22:57,279
he's enamored by you and thinks you're beautiful and you

563
00:22:57,319 --> 00:22:59,359
look so gorgeous, but he was just like the pride.

564
00:23:00,000 --> 00:23:02,200
I never even crossed his mind, Like I just listened

565
00:23:02,200 --> 00:23:03,720
to talk for an hour of fucking other dudes.

566
00:23:03,799 --> 00:23:06,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, well it crossed his mind. Let's not get a

567
00:23:07,000 --> 00:23:08,920
twisted At the at the very end of the night,

568
00:23:09,000 --> 00:23:10,759
He's like, thank God, my friends weren't there because they

569
00:23:10,759 --> 00:23:13,079
would think I'm a cock. And I was like, Gus

570
00:23:13,920 --> 00:23:15,680
the special that just came out as the one that

571
00:23:15,720 --> 00:23:18,759
we're referring to. But he then brought one of his

572
00:23:18,799 --> 00:23:21,000
friends to come see me at the Comedy Store and

573
00:23:21,559 --> 00:23:23,599
I had a really good set and his friend loved

574
00:23:23,839 --> 00:23:26,240
the show, and I think that like relieved some tension

575
00:23:26,319 --> 00:23:27,920
for him because he was like, oh, my friends like

576
00:23:27,920 --> 00:23:29,680
actually think it's funny and they get it that like

577
00:23:30,039 --> 00:23:33,279
I'm not actively fucking somebody in the MLB right now.

578
00:23:33,400 --> 00:23:36,759
It is uncomfortable though, Like no, I mean remember in

579
00:23:36,799 --> 00:23:39,720
the beginning of before everyone went on stage, I looked

580
00:23:39,720 --> 00:23:41,400
out to the crowd and he was front and center

581
00:23:41,839 --> 00:23:43,519
and I was like to get him to move. I

582
00:23:43,559 --> 00:23:44,519
was like, move him?

583
00:23:44,680 --> 00:23:46,880
Speaker 2: What do we What the fuck is I'm not gonna be.

584
00:23:46,920 --> 00:23:49,599
Speaker 1: Sitting there talking about like sucking another guy's dick, looking

585
00:23:49,680 --> 00:23:51,680
in his eyes, And then if I look to the right,

586
00:23:51,759 --> 00:23:54,839
my dad's there, Like I can't, like I'm gonna fall apart.

587
00:23:55,160 --> 00:23:58,960
Speaker 2: This is like Novice comedy audience. Like it's like he

588
00:23:59,000 --> 00:24:01,640
doesn't know that. Like people think like I want to

589
00:24:01,680 --> 00:24:03,759
sit right in the front support her, and nobody in

590
00:24:03,799 --> 00:24:06,039
comedy wants you anyway. I don't want anybody in my

591
00:24:06,039 --> 00:24:08,480
family or my friends in my eyesight at all. Never.

592
00:24:08,839 --> 00:24:10,400
The first show I ever did, the person I ever

593
00:24:10,440 --> 00:24:12,960
got on stage, I invited like everybody I knew. It

594
00:24:13,000 --> 00:24:16,440
was like Fisher Price my first show. We sold out Carolines.

595
00:24:16,440 --> 00:24:17,960
It was like four hundred teth I invited like my

596
00:24:18,039 --> 00:24:19,880
dad and my family and actually say all of our

597
00:24:19,920 --> 00:24:22,519
friends and my friend's moms and everybody sat in the

598
00:24:22,559 --> 00:24:25,680
front table, like right right next to the stage, and like,

599
00:24:26,079 --> 00:24:29,160
why did I do that? It went great, was.

600
00:24:29,440 --> 00:24:36,240
Speaker 1: Great, but obviously there was no issues and everything was great.

601
00:24:36,279 --> 00:24:38,039
Speaker 2: It was perfect. Oh my god.

602
00:24:38,359 --> 00:24:39,960
Speaker 1: Okay, so when you are ready to get back on

603
00:24:40,000 --> 00:24:43,839
the apps, I have somebody to help you with your profile.

604
00:24:46,400 --> 00:24:48,759
I'm so glad this came up. I'm so glad I

605
00:24:48,799 --> 00:24:51,240
came up. I'm so glad you reminded me of this

606
00:24:51,359 --> 00:24:55,599
email because I forgot about it and when I first

607
00:24:55,599 --> 00:24:57,720
got it, it was like a trauma hit right to

608
00:24:57,759 --> 00:25:02,559
the soul, like it shattered me. And technically this dating

609
00:25:02,599 --> 00:25:05,480
coach was doing me a favor, so I had to

610
00:25:05,599 --> 00:25:09,359
respond and say, may you kill you? Literally They're like, oh,

611
00:25:09,400 --> 00:25:12,119
she's clinically depressed. We'll give her one more Nutch.

612
00:25:12,279 --> 00:25:15,079
Speaker 2: If you posted this, this will go viral. And also

613
00:25:15,519 --> 00:25:17,279
to give a little background, yes, you were single at

614
00:25:17,319 --> 00:25:18,759
the time and he was going to help you with

615
00:25:18,799 --> 00:25:21,839
your dating profile. And like what he wrote would make

616
00:25:22,039 --> 00:25:23,839
anybody be like, I don't know if I should be

617
00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:24,960
on this earth any.

618
00:25:24,799 --> 00:25:28,680
Speaker 1: Literally, it's so okay. So he took my hinge profile

619
00:25:29,000 --> 00:25:33,000
and I don't know what do we say? He tore

620
00:25:33,039 --> 00:25:34,000
it to shreds.

621
00:25:34,359 --> 00:25:37,559
Speaker 2: I've never honestly he really was like, I how mean

622
00:25:37,640 --> 00:25:38,480
can I be? Can I?

623
00:25:38,559 --> 00:25:40,920
Speaker 1: Yeah? So the first thing he says is the dating

624
00:25:40,960 --> 00:25:44,559
me prompt is not to be mean a terrible first impression.

625
00:25:44,680 --> 00:25:46,480
This is the first thing someone sees about you, and

626
00:25:46,480 --> 00:25:48,599
you're letting them know you're gonna tear their asshole up

627
00:25:48,640 --> 00:25:51,599
and ruin their life, unless this is the impression you'd

628
00:25:51,599 --> 00:25:52,920
like to leave. And I can't even remember what I

629
00:25:52,920 --> 00:25:55,240
said dating me. It's like I think swallowing a cheese

630
00:25:55,279 --> 00:25:58,319
grater or like eating nails. Like I'm wondering what it said.

631
00:25:58,640 --> 00:26:01,680
It said something funny. It was like my prompts on

632
00:26:01,720 --> 00:26:03,960
my profile were just like short and funny because I

633
00:26:04,039 --> 00:26:05,680
just was like, what I'm gonna say, Like, oh, I

634
00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:07,559
want you to take me on long walks and like

635
00:26:07,839 --> 00:26:10,440
we do hot yoga together, Like no, I'm not gonna

636
00:26:10,480 --> 00:26:12,960
put all of that, and also I don't want that,

637
00:26:13,279 --> 00:26:16,519
so I'm looking for. Prompt is again just setting an

638
00:26:16,519 --> 00:26:19,440
expectation that you don't take yourself seriously in the dating realm,

639
00:26:19,599 --> 00:26:22,240
that you expect everything to be a situationship. Let's do

640
00:26:22,319 --> 00:26:26,920
the opposite. Hear and vocalize what you're after exclamation point.

641
00:26:28,440 --> 00:26:30,480
Speaker 2: Okay, great, So I thought I was trying to be

642
00:26:30,559 --> 00:26:32,319
light and funny, but sure, great.

643
00:26:33,519 --> 00:26:36,160
Speaker 1: Typical Sunday prompt is again just telling the reader that

644
00:26:36,200 --> 00:26:37,400
you're going to ruin their lives.

645
00:26:38,880 --> 00:26:40,559
Speaker 2: I don't all that.

646
00:26:42,400 --> 00:26:45,680
Speaker 1: My typical Sunday Prompt was contemplating the sweet release of death.

647
00:26:48,599 --> 00:26:50,759
Speaker 2: That sounds like you're gonna read your life not there.

648
00:26:54,039 --> 00:26:55,960
Speaker 1: As you are all too aware of. Having the joke

649
00:26:56,079 --> 00:26:58,720
land on stage is a challenge having the joke land

650
00:26:58,759 --> 00:27:01,680
and writing and is infinitely more complex.

651
00:27:01,720 --> 00:27:03,680
Speaker 2: First of all, I fuck you. I don't agree that

652
00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:04,279
was hilarious.

653
00:27:04,319 --> 00:27:07,240
Speaker 1: What the fuck are you talking about? It's hard on stage?

654
00:27:07,240 --> 00:27:08,359
What do you know about stage?

655
00:27:08,359 --> 00:27:09,960
Speaker 2: What are you telling me about being a comedian?

656
00:27:10,039 --> 00:27:10,119
Speaker 1: You?

657
00:27:10,319 --> 00:27:11,000
Speaker 2: This is your job.

658
00:27:11,039 --> 00:27:13,119
Speaker 1: You're not even good at this. Don't talk me about

659
00:27:13,160 --> 00:27:15,720
my job. And here's something that made me mad. He's

660
00:27:15,799 --> 00:27:17,880
not somebody that I would ever want a date, you

661
00:27:17,920 --> 00:27:19,319
know what I mean? I'm like, why am I taking

662
00:27:19,359 --> 00:27:22,319
advice from somebody that looks like a dollar store fucking

663
00:27:22,359 --> 00:27:27,599
Pedro Pascal, like a sales rack, clearance rack Pedro.

664
00:27:27,799 --> 00:27:29,480
Speaker 2: But I think about that all the time, Like why

665
00:27:29,519 --> 00:27:31,400
would I care? I don't care about your opinion. I

666
00:27:31,440 --> 00:27:33,599
wouldn't live the life you live, right, I don't want

667
00:27:33,599 --> 00:27:35,240
to be like you. Why would I take your opinion?

668
00:27:35,400 --> 00:27:38,039
Speaker 1: Right? We don't take advice from people who you know,

669
00:27:38,119 --> 00:27:40,920
we don't what is it? We don't take advice from

670
00:27:40,920 --> 00:27:43,599
people whose lives we don't want. Yeah, is there anything

671
00:27:43,640 --> 00:27:44,440
else that I should do?

672
00:27:44,680 --> 00:27:45,640
Speaker 2: There's something about cheese.

673
00:27:46,000 --> 00:27:49,000
Speaker 1: There's something about cheese. Yeah there was. There was one

674
00:27:49,000 --> 00:27:50,759
in the beginning where he's like, this doesn't tell me

675
00:27:50,799 --> 00:27:53,279
anything meaningful about you except for the factor you like cheese,

676
00:27:53,359 --> 00:27:55,880
And I'm like, that's all you need to know? Oh yeah,

677
00:27:55,920 --> 00:27:58,680
right here. The biggest fun your profile is personal disclosure.

678
00:27:58,720 --> 00:28:01,039
There isn't a single tangible thing on your profile about

679
00:28:01,079 --> 00:28:06,440
you besides liking cheese, Like, that's all you need to

680
00:28:06,519 --> 00:28:09,000
know is that I'm not lactose. Feed me a fucking

681
00:28:09,400 --> 00:28:10,839
grilled cheese and I'll be happy.

682
00:28:11,279 --> 00:28:13,559
Speaker 2: I also think that that's kind of a well, I'll

683
00:28:13,559 --> 00:28:15,960
talk about like best dating practices, but that is a

684
00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:20,279
conversation start. He also ripped all your photos to shreds. Yes,

685
00:28:20,480 --> 00:28:22,359
it was a really long email. He put a lot

686
00:28:22,359 --> 00:28:24,039
of thought into making you really upset.

687
00:28:24,160 --> 00:28:27,880
Speaker 1: He really hate fucked that email, Like, he really hate

688
00:28:27,920 --> 00:28:28,720
fucked that email.

689
00:28:28,880 --> 00:28:30,960
Speaker 2: So, I mean at its core. So on our show,

690
00:28:30,960 --> 00:28:33,640
we've had her name's Logan Uri. She's the chief data

691
00:28:33,640 --> 00:28:36,799
scientist at Hinge. She's a brilliant genie whatever. Three times

692
00:28:36,960 --> 00:28:39,000
and we've talked a lot about like what people look for,

693
00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:41,920
how to engage people with your photos and the prompts,

694
00:28:41,920 --> 00:28:44,359
and like there's a whole science to it. Blah blah blah.

695
00:28:44,359 --> 00:28:45,920
We've had lots of people on there, like experts in

696
00:28:45,960 --> 00:28:48,400
this realm. I don't think his advice is bad. At

697
00:28:48,400 --> 00:28:51,480
its core. His advice is like, show people something about

698
00:28:51,480 --> 00:28:54,400
you that they can latch onto. Say things that people

699
00:28:54,400 --> 00:28:57,240
can like continue a conversation with you about. Don't make

700
00:28:57,319 --> 00:29:01,319
everything like sarcastic or negative or biting. I don't know

701
00:29:01,319 --> 00:29:02,759
if that's what you're saying to you, but like that

702
00:29:02,920 --> 00:29:04,839
is the general advice. Like be light, share something about

703
00:29:04,839 --> 00:29:05,759
yourself that makes you unique.

704
00:29:05,799 --> 00:29:15,720
Speaker 1: But be light. I'm clinically depressed. Like that makes you Yeah,

705
00:29:15,759 --> 00:29:16,440
like be light.

706
00:29:16,640 --> 00:29:17,319
Speaker 2: That's not me.

707
00:29:17,839 --> 00:29:20,440
Speaker 1: I'll never never walked into a room and anyone's ever

708
00:29:20,480 --> 00:29:21,759
said she lights up the room.

709
00:29:23,160 --> 00:29:25,839
Speaker 2: You light up my life, not the room. And you're like,

710
00:29:25,880 --> 00:29:27,599
I don't want to I don't want people to have

711
00:29:27,599 --> 00:29:29,880
this energy for me. No, But I think it's core.

712
00:29:29,920 --> 00:29:32,240
He meant like, share something like meaningful about yourself that

713
00:29:32,240 --> 00:29:34,319
people can latch onto and talk about that makes you different.

714
00:29:34,359 --> 00:29:37,079
You're like, I share that I'm depressed. Yeah, but like

715
00:29:37,240 --> 00:29:39,680
it's so mean and over like, I would never take

716
00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:41,200
advice from somebody that was speaking to me like that.

717
00:29:41,240 --> 00:29:43,839
I can't believe a professional would give somebody advice like that,

718
00:29:44,440 --> 00:29:46,440
even if that is genuinely what he felt about you,

719
00:29:46,519 --> 00:29:50,160
which he did not hold back. And you said something

720
00:29:50,160 --> 00:29:52,240
to me that I thought was like so poignant. You said,

721
00:29:52,279 --> 00:29:54,880
like the person that would like me will read that

722
00:29:54,960 --> 00:29:56,119
and think this stuff is funny.

723
00:29:56,200 --> 00:29:57,920
Speaker 1: Well to that to that point, so I think I

724
00:29:58,000 --> 00:30:00,720
did tweak slightly something, But I I really didn't take

725
00:30:00,759 --> 00:30:03,559
his advice because I was so offended by that email.

726
00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:06,079
I was like, I mean, I'm not going to implement

727
00:30:06,119 --> 00:30:08,759
this advice. I think I switched something to be like, well,

728
00:30:08,799 --> 00:30:12,519
I like flowers randomly or like, you know whatever, something minor.

729
00:30:12,839 --> 00:30:16,039
But when I matched with my current partner on Hinge,

730
00:30:16,079 --> 00:30:18,720
he had the same exact profile as I did before

731
00:30:20,000 --> 00:30:21,839
fucking Ike Turner got a hold of it.

732
00:30:22,359 --> 00:30:23,400
Speaker 2: Like it.

733
00:30:23,759 --> 00:30:26,640
Speaker 1: He was like, I'm weirdly attracted to the clinically insane.

734
00:30:26,960 --> 00:30:30,799
I'm weirdly afraid of small talking elevators like I don't

735
00:30:30,799 --> 00:30:32,440
remember what the third one was. But there was no

736
00:30:32,640 --> 00:30:35,599
there was no like in depth information on him. I

737
00:30:35,640 --> 00:30:38,079
could just tell he was funny and hot and tall.

738
00:30:38,440 --> 00:30:39,359
That's all I needed to know.

739
00:30:39,400 --> 00:30:41,319
Speaker 2: But that's that's what most of us need to know.

740
00:30:41,359 --> 00:30:43,240
I mean, I think we're just shopping on these dating

741
00:30:43,240 --> 00:30:46,720
apps for somebody who's like relatively inappropriate age not you,

742
00:30:46,839 --> 00:30:50,759
but other people, and relatively live in the city that

743
00:30:50,799 --> 00:30:52,480
we want them to live in, and like look good

744
00:30:52,559 --> 00:30:54,240
enough to maybe hook up with them, and then like

745
00:30:54,599 --> 00:30:57,039
we take a chance, like right, people try to like

746
00:30:57,079 --> 00:30:59,480
game dating apps like that's the science, and there's some

747
00:30:59,519 --> 00:31:01,480
science to it. You know. They say you shouldn't have

748
00:31:01,480 --> 00:31:03,559
a drink in your hand in every photo, you should

749
00:31:03,599 --> 00:31:04,079
be so low.

750
00:31:04,200 --> 00:31:05,880
Speaker 1: I mean maybe the people with a drink in a

751
00:31:05,880 --> 00:31:07,960
hand in every photo it's trying. They're trying to let

752
00:31:08,039 --> 00:31:11,079
them know I'm a raging alcohol party I FU and

753
00:31:11,200 --> 00:31:14,799
like that is good information because like when I have

754
00:31:14,920 --> 00:31:17,119
seen that, I swipe left because I'm like, yeah, I'm

755
00:31:17,119 --> 00:31:19,319
not gonna go out with the act of alcoholic.

756
00:31:19,519 --> 00:31:22,079
Speaker 2: Yes, if I saw I'm attracted to the clinically insane,

757
00:31:22,160 --> 00:31:22,920
I was swipe no.

758
00:31:23,400 --> 00:31:25,920
Speaker 1: Would you see? I was like, show up in my

759
00:31:25,960 --> 00:31:26,680
street jacket.

760
00:31:26,759 --> 00:31:27,640
Speaker 2: I'm too sane.

761
00:31:28,440 --> 00:31:34,519
Speaker 1: Oh, Reina, do you think you're so sane? You really

762
00:31:34,680 --> 00:31:38,160
just have a real lack of self Awarrens.

763
00:31:40,359 --> 00:31:43,119
Speaker 2: Yeah, but like my insanity is more self harming, you know,

764
00:31:43,519 --> 00:31:45,680
like I share it with you and other people, not

765
00:31:45,799 --> 00:31:49,279
real some harm. But yeah, I just think that like

766
00:31:49,319 --> 00:31:51,599
people try to like game this and you said I

767
00:31:51,640 --> 00:31:54,079
like cheese. That is a conversation opener to me. It's

768
00:31:54,119 --> 00:31:56,519
just I mean, this isn't that deep, Like we should

769
00:31:56,519 --> 00:31:57,960
be on dating ass we want to have a little

770
00:31:57,960 --> 00:32:00,279
bit of fun. Like if it feels so heavy and deep,

771
00:32:00,319 --> 00:32:01,960
I don't think that you should be on dating apps.

772
00:32:01,960 --> 00:32:03,960
I think that you're gonna like spiral out and crash

773
00:32:03,960 --> 00:32:06,440
out and really upset yourself. Like if I say something

774
00:32:06,440 --> 00:32:08,200
it was just like Jesus is so important to me,

775
00:32:08,200 --> 00:32:10,000
I'd be like, what kind of fucking cheese you like?

776
00:32:10,440 --> 00:32:13,960
And like then then you change two conversational sentences and

777
00:32:14,000 --> 00:32:15,240
go on a date and see if we want to

778
00:32:15,240 --> 00:32:15,839
buck each other.

779
00:32:16,599 --> 00:32:17,319
Speaker 1: That's all we're trying to do.

780
00:32:17,400 --> 00:32:18,359
Speaker 2: I don't think it's that deep.

781
00:32:18,839 --> 00:32:20,640
Speaker 1: It's not that deep. I have the hiccups.

782
00:32:22,240 --> 00:32:24,039
Speaker 2: Well, what's this book you have?

783
00:32:24,440 --> 00:32:26,359
Speaker 1: Oh, we're gonna do Word of the Week. I've got

784
00:32:26,359 --> 00:32:27,000
a word for us.

785
00:32:27,000 --> 00:32:28,279
Speaker 2: Don't worry. I'm excited.

786
00:32:28,480 --> 00:32:30,319
Speaker 1: Do you want to do it, now we can.

787
00:32:30,480 --> 00:32:31,960
Speaker 2: Do you want their dating app tips? Since you did

788
00:32:31,960 --> 00:32:33,960
meet somebody on a dating app, do you have like

789
00:32:34,559 --> 00:32:36,799
tips for how to meet somebody? How much would you do?

790
00:32:36,880 --> 00:32:40,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, Rena, I's here's my tip. Go to Rena Greenberg's

791
00:32:40,720 --> 00:32:44,039
fortieth birthday party, and then when you're going back into

792
00:32:44,119 --> 00:32:46,240
the city, decide you're going to fuck a young guy

793
00:32:47,240 --> 00:32:50,279
and never talk to him again, and then lower the

794
00:32:50,319 --> 00:32:53,079
age parameters down to twenty five just to take an

795
00:32:53,119 --> 00:32:56,960
old young buck for a ride and then meet the

796
00:32:57,000 --> 00:32:57,559
love of your life.

797
00:32:57,839 --> 00:33:01,319
Speaker 2: Okay, so if you guys just replicate that exactly.

798
00:33:02,279 --> 00:33:04,039
Speaker 1: But I think, no, I don't think there like you said,

799
00:33:04,039 --> 00:33:06,240
I don't think there is actually a science to it,

800
00:33:06,319 --> 00:33:08,559
like I don't or did you say there is a science?

801
00:33:08,599 --> 00:33:10,279
Speaker 2: No? I think that, like you know, you hear from

802
00:33:10,279 --> 00:33:13,680
everybody like being like you least expect it, you'll find somebody.

803
00:33:13,680 --> 00:33:15,680
But what I find the crux of that advice means

804
00:33:15,759 --> 00:33:18,319
is like when you just de escalate. And yes, I

805
00:33:18,400 --> 00:33:20,519
know that it's hard when you want a partner so

806
00:33:20,640 --> 00:33:22,920
badly it makes you sick. I know it's hard to

807
00:33:22,960 --> 00:33:25,000
say to yourself like, oh, just be chill about it.

808
00:33:25,079 --> 00:33:27,640
Like I validate that that's very hard, but like if

809
00:33:27,680 --> 00:33:30,200
you do just take it a little bit lightly and

810
00:33:30,240 --> 00:33:32,920
you don't take this so seriously. Like what you did

811
00:33:33,000 --> 00:33:34,680
was just be like I'm gonna find somebody hot that

812
00:33:34,720 --> 00:33:36,960
I got have fun with, and like it wasn't deeper

813
00:33:37,000 --> 00:33:38,839
than that. If you the opportunity to do that, I

814
00:33:38,839 --> 00:33:41,240
think you like open yourself up to be the most

815
00:33:41,279 --> 00:33:44,400
genuine you that you can be. Like, did you feel

816
00:33:44,400 --> 00:33:45,640
like you were like the most of you?

817
00:33:46,599 --> 00:33:49,200
Speaker 1: Yeah? I really, I mean I was just myself. I

818
00:33:49,240 --> 00:33:51,440
was present, but he like he got thrown for a

819
00:33:51,480 --> 00:33:53,039
curve because his dad showed up.

820
00:33:53,839 --> 00:33:55,279
Speaker 2: I forgot even his dad on the first day.

821
00:33:55,319 --> 00:33:57,079
Speaker 1: Yeah, I met his dad on the first day, so

822
00:33:57,160 --> 00:34:00,319
he was not himself. Like we were bantering so much

823
00:34:00,400 --> 00:34:02,559
before we met up. He was so funny, so cool whatever.

824
00:34:02,599 --> 00:34:04,440
When he got when we got to dinner, he was

825
00:34:04,519 --> 00:34:07,359
like I could feel his anxiety and he was, you know,

826
00:34:07,559 --> 00:34:08,920
trying to drink it off, and I was like, let's

827
00:34:08,960 --> 00:34:12,079
just do mushrooms. So so we did mushrooms and that

828
00:34:12,320 --> 00:34:15,239
is like how the night kind of unfolded. But like

829
00:34:15,320 --> 00:34:17,320
I do think both of us went into it with

830
00:34:18,159 --> 00:34:20,960
no expectation of ever seeing the other person again, Like

831
00:34:21,039 --> 00:34:23,159
I think we've bought Like I know that we've talked

832
00:34:23,199 --> 00:34:24,960
about it, like we both were like, yeah this is

833
00:34:25,079 --> 00:34:26,960
I live in la he lives in New York. Like

834
00:34:26,960 --> 00:34:28,639
we're never going to see each other again. We're just

835
00:34:28,679 --> 00:34:29,440
gonna go have fun.

836
00:34:29,519 --> 00:34:33,119
Speaker 2: Yep. So if you I mean it's hard to manufacture

837
00:34:33,159 --> 00:34:35,679
that attitude, Yeah, it's hard to manufacture that. I don't

838
00:34:35,719 --> 00:34:37,599
give a fuck. But like if you could just bottle

839
00:34:37,639 --> 00:34:39,239
that a little bit, well, yeah.

840
00:34:39,000 --> 00:34:42,440
Speaker 1: And I think too, because like I was intentionally dating before,

841
00:34:42,639 --> 00:34:44,159
you know what I mean, and I just kept getting

842
00:34:44,199 --> 00:34:46,880
my fucking head slammed in the pavement because guys like

843
00:34:46,960 --> 00:34:48,920
will lie and say that they're looking for something and

844
00:34:48,920 --> 00:34:50,960
they're not or they're just not interested in you, which

845
00:34:51,000 --> 00:34:52,880
is devastating. And I don't understand.

846
00:34:53,639 --> 00:34:54,639
Speaker 2: It's cray. I would be.

847
00:34:56,400 --> 00:34:56,599
Speaker 1: Ill.

848
00:34:57,119 --> 00:34:57,599
Speaker 2: I've tried it.

849
00:34:58,599 --> 00:35:01,760
Speaker 1: You're kind of into women. I tried, like on Wednesdays,

850
00:35:03,039 --> 00:35:04,599
on Wednesdays, you're into girls.

851
00:35:05,719 --> 00:35:06,960
Speaker 2: I tried one day a week.

852
00:35:07,079 --> 00:35:11,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, No, I mean there's no advice I can give. I.

853
00:35:11,480 --> 00:35:16,559
I don't think I did anything revolutionary except for just

854
00:35:16,639 --> 00:35:18,760
try and like have it not be so serious.

855
00:35:19,000 --> 00:35:20,159
Speaker 2: But I think that's going to be the kind of

856
00:35:20,199 --> 00:35:22,039
person in a relationship to that isn't like do what

857
00:35:22,079 --> 00:35:22,480
I did.

858
00:35:22,760 --> 00:35:25,480
Speaker 1: Yeah no, I also don't do what I did dating

859
00:35:25,519 --> 00:35:26,400
A twenty seven.

860
00:35:27,119 --> 00:35:28,400
Speaker 2: It worked out. I love him so much.

861
00:35:28,760 --> 00:35:30,880
Speaker 1: He's the best. He's the best, and I love him

862
00:35:30,880 --> 00:35:33,760
so much. Back off.

863
00:35:34,000 --> 00:35:34,920
Speaker 2: Don't think anybody's worried.

864
00:35:34,920 --> 00:35:35,159
Speaker 1: I don't.

865
00:35:35,159 --> 00:35:36,559
Speaker 2: I don't think I well, you tell me. I don't

866
00:35:36,599 --> 00:35:38,360
think I give off like I'm gonna flirt with your man.

867
00:35:38,519 --> 00:35:42,400
Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, no, no, you I trust inherently because

868
00:35:42,400 --> 00:35:46,360
that's prettyrue. No, that's not that's not why, because you're

869
00:35:47,039 --> 00:35:49,519
because of the brand of woman you are, Like, you're

870
00:35:49,599 --> 00:35:52,639
not the kind of woman that's gonna do that. You

871
00:35:52,719 --> 00:35:55,000
know how painful it is for it to be done

872
00:35:55,039 --> 00:35:58,000
to you, and you're not gonna do that. You're also

873
00:35:58,000 --> 00:36:00,519
you're just like mature. You're an adult and your friend.

874
00:36:00,880 --> 00:36:04,559
And I think women who lack maturity and confidence and

875
00:36:04,599 --> 00:36:07,440
which you do not lack. I think it's a lack

876
00:36:07,480 --> 00:36:10,719
of confidence thing to get try and get every man's

877
00:36:10,760 --> 00:36:11,639
attention in the room.

878
00:36:11,880 --> 00:36:13,880
Speaker 2: I find it so weird. And I guess I have

879
00:36:13,920 --> 00:36:15,639
empathy because I know where it comes from. It comes

880
00:36:15,679 --> 00:36:17,760
from self hatred. It comes from needing a lot of

881
00:36:17,800 --> 00:36:20,360
attention to like fill this void in yourself to feel

882
00:36:20,400 --> 00:36:22,920
like worthy. But I can't even explain it, Like any

883
00:36:22,920 --> 00:36:25,599
time a friend of mine is even remote, if somebody's

884
00:36:25,599 --> 00:36:27,480
gone on one date with somebody, if somebody has said

885
00:36:27,480 --> 00:36:30,039
to me that guy across the room is cute, I

886
00:36:30,079 --> 00:36:32,719
don't like that guy. I have no that guy becomes

887
00:36:32,719 --> 00:36:35,519
my brother. I have no interest in them, and I

888
00:36:35,559 --> 00:36:37,840
can't even I don't think I've had one experience where

889
00:36:37,840 --> 00:36:40,599
anybody could refute that is exactly what I'm like. It's

890
00:36:40,599 --> 00:36:43,519
not even about like girl power and sinster it. I

891
00:36:43,679 --> 00:36:45,400
just I don't know if my friends like, I'm into

892
00:36:45,480 --> 00:36:47,599
that guy, I am just not into that guy. That's

893
00:36:47,599 --> 00:36:48,079
not my guy.

894
00:36:48,320 --> 00:36:50,440
Speaker 1: How do you feel about self proclaimed girls girls?

895
00:36:51,840 --> 00:36:55,159
Speaker 2: I usually think that they are one. I don't think

896
00:36:55,199 --> 00:36:56,880
it's one of those things where people are like, I'm

897
00:36:56,920 --> 00:36:58,800
so self aware, and you're like, you're the only self

898
00:36:58,800 --> 00:37:01,000
aware person in the room. I didn't say how self aware,

899
00:37:01,079 --> 00:37:01,679
so I was confident.

900
00:37:02,000 --> 00:37:04,599
Speaker 1: No, no, no, I'm not talking about you. I think

901
00:37:04,639 --> 00:37:06,159
that people that go out of their way to say

902
00:37:06,159 --> 00:37:07,480
their girls girls are usually not.

903
00:37:08,400 --> 00:37:09,719
Speaker 2: Do you think that anybody that goes out of the

904
00:37:09,719 --> 00:37:10,920
way to tell you that they're anything.

905
00:37:11,039 --> 00:37:13,119
Speaker 1: Like if you have to say it's art you signaling,

906
00:37:13,320 --> 00:37:16,360
it's yeah, it's it's like, just be a good friend

907
00:37:16,559 --> 00:37:19,199
and be good to your girlfriends, and you don't have

908
00:37:19,280 --> 00:37:20,440
to be like, I'm a girls girl.

909
00:37:20,760 --> 00:37:22,800
Speaker 2: I don't think I've ever said that in my life,

910
00:37:22,800 --> 00:37:24,320
but I guess, like, never say to me, like the

911
00:37:24,400 --> 00:37:27,039
characteristics of that, that is what I am.

912
00:37:27,480 --> 00:37:29,159
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I would never even call you that. I

913
00:37:29,199 --> 00:37:31,800
feel I do genuinely feel that most people that say

914
00:37:31,800 --> 00:37:33,920
their girls girls are not like they will take the

915
00:37:33,960 --> 00:37:37,599
first opportunity they get to flirt with your man or

916
00:37:37,960 --> 00:37:39,599
go after someone you think is cute.

917
00:37:39,920 --> 00:37:41,960
Speaker 2: I'm like downloading it. I'm like the people that I've

918
00:37:41,960 --> 00:37:45,679
heard say that are the people I'm like, hid your man.

919
00:37:45,599 --> 00:37:48,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, hydra man one hundred percent. And like, I

920
00:37:48,519 --> 00:37:51,159
think there's just something in general about virtue signaling and

921
00:37:51,199 --> 00:37:53,280
saying you're like this great thing and then you're not.

922
00:37:53,400 --> 00:37:56,679
Like oftentimes we've seen in you know, media, especially, like

923
00:37:56,719 --> 00:37:58,440
people that say they're one thing and then it comes

924
00:37:58,440 --> 00:38:01,440
out that they're this completely different thing. Like right now,

925
00:38:01,440 --> 00:38:03,239
it's coming to my head as Cosby. Cosby was like

926
00:38:03,280 --> 00:38:05,239
the family Man and like, you know what I mean,

927
00:38:05,280 --> 00:38:07,119
and he's like behind closed doors, he's doing it. That's

928
00:38:07,159 --> 00:38:09,920
an extreme example of it. But I think oftentimes when

929
00:38:09,960 --> 00:38:12,719
people virtue signal, it's just a crock of shit.

930
00:38:13,159 --> 00:38:15,880
Speaker 2: I think it's so interesting how people speak about themselves sometimes,

931
00:38:15,920 --> 00:38:18,559
Like sometimes I'll read emails. They're usually from publicists, and

932
00:38:18,599 --> 00:38:20,199
that is their job to like hype people up. But

933
00:38:20,239 --> 00:38:22,960
it'll be like number one dating expert in the world,

934
00:38:23,079 --> 00:38:26,239
number one show in the US, best sex podcast, all

935
00:38:26,239 --> 00:38:28,960
these things, and I'm just like, I would never speak

936
00:38:28,960 --> 00:38:31,199
of myself like that. But like Ashley and I have

937
00:38:31,199 --> 00:38:33,599
a really successful brand. I could give you every stat

938
00:38:33,599 --> 00:38:35,719
on planet or we've done like one hundred and fifty

939
00:38:35,719 --> 00:38:38,840
million downloads, but I've never like put in an email.

940
00:38:38,880 --> 00:38:41,920
I'm like the number one dating pott Like I find again,

941
00:38:41,960 --> 00:38:44,000
I understand that this is publicist writing a lot of this,

942
00:38:44,079 --> 00:38:46,280
but when people tell you like they're the number one thing,

943
00:38:46,320 --> 00:38:48,440
I'm like, I'd rather people google me and figure it

944
00:38:48,440 --> 00:38:50,719
out later, right, I'd rather not have to tell you

945
00:38:50,760 --> 00:38:51,079
what I'm going.

946
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Speaker 1: It's also like what's that metric? Like what do you

947
00:38:53,360 --> 00:38:55,119
what are you up against? You know, how do you

948
00:38:55,199 --> 00:38:57,599
decide your number one. It feels like you just decided

949
00:38:57,679 --> 00:38:58,719
and then you just said it.

950
00:38:59,159 --> 00:39:01,320
Speaker 2: I mean this, Yes, there's more.

951
00:39:01,199 --> 00:39:04,360
Speaker 1: A measurable way to say I'm the number one dating coach,

952
00:39:04,480 --> 00:39:05,840
Like there's no measurement for.

953
00:39:05,760 --> 00:39:08,000
Speaker 2: That or the number one podcast like I used to

954
00:39:08,159 --> 00:39:11,519
when we first started the podcast because of the Yes,

955
00:39:11,559 --> 00:39:13,119
the top one hundred are still going to be the

956
00:39:13,159 --> 00:39:16,079
most downloaded obviously, but like it fluctuates which is the

957
00:39:16,159 --> 00:39:17,719
number one, and it can sometimes be some of the

958
00:39:17,760 --> 00:39:21,119
smaller shows. But it's it's acceleration that pushes you up

959
00:39:21,119 --> 00:39:23,239
those lists. So even when people say, like we crack

960
00:39:23,280 --> 00:39:26,119
the top three in the podcast charts, that doesn't mean

961
00:39:26,159 --> 00:39:28,519
you have the most downloads, right, it doesn't always mean that.

962
00:39:28,519 --> 00:39:30,880
It just means you like acceleration. So I yeah, I

963
00:39:30,880 --> 00:39:32,679
don't know what the measure for that is. Yeah, you

964
00:39:32,719 --> 00:39:34,000
make the most money. I don't know, how do you

965
00:39:34,039 --> 00:39:34,800
know what other people like?

966
00:39:34,880 --> 00:39:38,559
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's really just self aggrandizing. M just being like

967
00:39:38,559 --> 00:39:40,679
I'm number one, Okay, what are you talking about?

968
00:39:40,760 --> 00:39:42,880
Speaker 2: But that is an interesting question to like girls girls.

969
00:39:42,960 --> 00:39:45,400
I guess the people that I've heard say that, I'm.

970
00:39:45,199 --> 00:39:47,960
Speaker 1: Like, yeah, I have like a like a visceral reaction

971
00:39:48,039 --> 00:39:49,719
to it. Now at this point, I've just had enough

972
00:39:49,760 --> 00:39:52,440
experiences where I'm just like girls and girls are the

973
00:39:52,480 --> 00:39:53,559
scariest people alive.

974
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Speaker 2: Do you have friends? Do you think you have friends

975
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that like? You have a man they like sort of like?

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Speaker 2: I guess for I'm curious, like what you think, Like

1020
00:42:10,039 --> 00:42:11,800
if you see that behavior once, do you have a

1021
00:42:11,920 --> 00:42:14,360
zero tolerance policy for it? No? I don't. Do you

1022
00:42:14,400 --> 00:42:16,000
think like how you do one thing is how you

1023
00:42:16,039 --> 00:42:16,800
do all things?

1024
00:42:16,960 --> 00:42:19,480
Speaker 1: No, I don't. And that's something that I want to

1025
00:42:19,559 --> 00:42:22,199
change because I give people a lot of I have

1026
00:42:22,280 --> 00:42:27,599
a real problem of like I idealize who a person

1027
00:42:27,719 --> 00:42:31,199
is when I first become friends with them, and then

1028
00:42:31,239 --> 00:42:33,039
I give them a lot of passes, like they can

1029
00:42:33,079 --> 00:42:35,840
do a lot of fucked up shit because I have

1030
00:42:35,920 --> 00:42:39,280
attachment issues. And I also it's like a deep wound

1031
00:42:39,280 --> 00:42:41,360
that I'm like very familiar with, Like when I was young,

1032
00:42:41,480 --> 00:42:43,679
when I was growing up, I was bullied constantly. I

1033
00:42:43,719 --> 00:42:47,360
had no real friends. I had one friend from the

1034
00:42:47,400 --> 00:42:50,119
whole time I was in high school, Kate Ashenberg, that

1035
00:42:50,559 --> 00:42:53,320
was like my only gangster. Like everyone else, I wanted

1036
00:42:53,320 --> 00:42:55,599
friends so bad. There's nothing I wanted more than for

1037
00:42:55,639 --> 00:42:57,519
people to like me. And nobody liked me. And I

1038
00:42:57,559 --> 00:42:59,679
was like, all right, fuck this, never mind. And the

1039
00:42:59,679 --> 00:43:02,079
second and I said buck that people started coming around

1040
00:43:02,280 --> 00:43:03,760
because it is an energy thing, like you want it

1041
00:43:03,760 --> 00:43:05,199
too much, you're not gonna get it whatever. But I

1042
00:43:05,199 --> 00:43:07,480
do have a deep wound with friendships where like I

1043
00:43:07,519 --> 00:43:11,119
really really want female friendships because I didn't have them

1044
00:43:11,159 --> 00:43:13,880
when I was younger, and so in my adult life,

1045
00:43:14,079 --> 00:43:16,800
I get really close to people really fast, and then

1046
00:43:16,880 --> 00:43:21,119
it's really hard to step back from something when you

1047
00:43:21,159 --> 00:43:24,480
like throw yourself all into a friendship up top. So

1048
00:43:24,639 --> 00:43:27,239
I give people a ton of grace. I also know

1049
00:43:27,320 --> 00:43:29,960
that I'm not the perfect friend, so I want grace myself.

1050
00:43:30,000 --> 00:43:32,239
But like when I start to see things that bump me,

1051
00:43:32,880 --> 00:43:35,000
I'll just be like, oh, that's interesting. I'm collecting data.

1052
00:43:35,039 --> 00:43:37,360
I'm collecting information, you know I'm collecting. And then like

1053
00:43:37,400 --> 00:43:39,559
you get to a point where like I've collected enough information,

1054
00:43:39,679 --> 00:43:42,199
this is not this is not you know, a two

1055
00:43:42,239 --> 00:43:44,079
way friendship, Like I am not getting as much out

1056
00:43:44,079 --> 00:43:46,440
of this as they are or or whatever it is.

1057
00:43:46,519 --> 00:43:48,800
I just I don't feel safe here, you know. And

1058
00:43:48,880 --> 00:43:50,360
I think that's the main thing, is like when I

1059
00:43:50,599 --> 00:43:53,960
really stopped to I stop feeling safe. Like I'm scared

1060
00:43:54,000 --> 00:43:55,360
to get out of it because I still don't want

1061
00:43:55,360 --> 00:43:57,760
to lose the companionship, the closeness, the friendship. I still

1062
00:43:57,760 --> 00:43:58,840
have a lot of fear around that.

1063
00:43:58,960 --> 00:43:59,880
Speaker 2: But like I.

1064
00:44:01,800 --> 00:44:04,000
Speaker 1: I have to like protect myself. So no, I'm not

1065
00:44:04,039 --> 00:44:06,199
as good as I want to be about like seeing

1066
00:44:06,239 --> 00:44:08,119
bad behavior and removing myself.

1067
00:44:08,679 --> 00:44:10,679
Speaker 2: What about you, I don't know that. It's like you're

1068
00:44:10,719 --> 00:44:12,239
not bad at it. I think they're like you hit

1069
00:44:12,280 --> 00:44:14,000
the nail on the head. They're like, no one's perfect.

1070
00:44:14,039 --> 00:44:16,000
You're not perfect, and you want to be given a

1071
00:44:16,000 --> 00:44:18,000
pass if you mess up sometimes, And.

1072
00:44:17,880 --> 00:44:19,719
Speaker 1: Like I want to be given grace, but there's different

1073
00:44:19,760 --> 00:44:21,679
things that I want to be given grace about. Like

1074
00:44:21,760 --> 00:44:24,440
I if I am in a bad mood and I

1075
00:44:24,480 --> 00:44:26,679
can't be there for you through something, or if I

1076
00:44:26,800 --> 00:44:28,920
just like am having a human experience, that's fine. But

1077
00:44:28,920 --> 00:44:32,119
when somebody shows you something about their character and I

1078
00:44:32,199 --> 00:44:35,000
choose to ignore it, then that's going to bite me

1079
00:44:35,000 --> 00:44:37,000
in the ass later. And it never hasn't like it

1080
00:44:37,039 --> 00:44:39,599
always does. So it's like when someone shows you like

1081
00:44:39,639 --> 00:44:41,440
I'm gonna hit on your man in front of you,

1082
00:44:42,000 --> 00:44:45,519
and then I'm like, okay, you know, but I still

1083
00:44:45,639 --> 00:44:48,199
want to be your friend, and it's like, no, they

1084
00:44:48,320 --> 00:44:53,280
just showed you you can't trust them. And then I

1085
00:44:53,559 --> 00:44:56,760
just like put blinders on. But I didn't put blinders

1086
00:44:56,760 --> 00:44:58,679
on really because I was aware of it and I

1087
00:44:58,760 --> 00:45:01,800
was like, I was like, but I just was like,

1088
00:45:01,920 --> 00:45:04,320
still collecting information. And then when I get to a point,

1089
00:45:04,320 --> 00:45:06,199
I'm like, okay, this is no longer serving me, and

1090
00:45:06,239 --> 00:45:08,639
then I step away. But that takes longer than it

1091
00:45:08,679 --> 00:45:09,239
should for me.

1092
00:45:09,920 --> 00:45:11,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, I've seen people do things to you and I've

1093
00:45:11,840 --> 00:45:13,400
been like, I think that you should step away a

1094
00:45:13,440 --> 00:45:15,960
little bit more, but I do. I don't know there's

1095
00:45:16,000 --> 00:45:18,039
a line, because you do want to give some people

1096
00:45:18,079 --> 00:45:19,800
some grace, and you do want to be able to say, like,

1097
00:45:20,119 --> 00:45:22,199
I have a lot of trauma. I recognize that trauma,

1098
00:45:22,199 --> 00:45:24,360
and somebody else I want to allow them to have

1099
00:45:24,400 --> 00:45:27,039
a human experience. It depends on me. It depends on

1100
00:45:27,039 --> 00:45:29,679
what the thing is. So like to me, it's like

1101
00:45:29,800 --> 00:45:32,800
is this a pervasive issue or is this situational I'm

1102
00:45:32,800 --> 00:45:34,760
actually more willing to forgive the like flirting of my

1103
00:45:34,760 --> 00:45:36,679
man thing than like most things. If me and you

1104
00:45:36,719 --> 00:45:38,440
both meet a guy at the same time at the

1105
00:45:38,480 --> 00:45:40,519
bar and like I feel that you're being a little

1106
00:45:40,519 --> 00:45:42,480
annoying about it, or I'd like his attention, and I

1107
00:45:42,519 --> 00:45:44,519
feel like you're kind of like encroaching upon that, I

1108
00:45:44,519 --> 00:45:46,039
think I could at least say to myself, Okay, this

1109
00:45:46,079 --> 00:45:48,280
is a friend that maybe I don't go wing women with,

1110
00:45:48,559 --> 00:45:50,280
maybe I don't bring my man around her, but there's

1111
00:45:50,320 --> 00:45:52,760
other good things about the friendship, Like this is clearly

1112
00:45:52,840 --> 00:45:55,880
just somebody who's very attention seeking. Attention seeking to me

1113
00:45:56,039 --> 00:45:57,760
is not like the nail in the coffin. I guess

1114
00:45:57,840 --> 00:46:00,159
we all have our own boundaries. I don't mind a

1115
00:46:00,159 --> 00:46:02,079
little like that. I might not hang out with you

1116
00:46:02,159 --> 00:46:04,199
with my man. I might not go to a bar

1117
00:46:04,320 --> 00:46:06,519
to meet guys with you like I have. I have

1118
00:46:06,599 --> 00:46:08,480
a couple of girlfriends I just wouldn't I wouldn't do

1119
00:46:08,519 --> 00:46:11,400
that with but like, all in all, they're like a

1120
00:46:11,440 --> 00:46:14,480
net positive in my life. But like people that you're

1121
00:46:14,559 --> 00:46:16,559
just like, Okay, I've read this story and I don't

1122
00:46:16,599 --> 00:46:19,079
feel safe around you, and I can't see you through

1123
00:46:19,079 --> 00:46:21,920
any other lens anymore, right, you know, like if it

1124
00:46:21,960 --> 00:46:24,599
becomes like it bleeds into all the other ways, like

1125
00:46:24,840 --> 00:46:27,480
I think that you're just not trustworthy. I think I

1126
00:46:27,519 --> 00:46:29,920
can't depend on you to like do the right thing.

1127
00:46:30,599 --> 00:46:33,320
Like to me, that's more of a pervasive issue. And

1128
00:46:33,920 --> 00:46:37,000
I have gotten much better better, I don't know, for

1129
00:46:37,079 --> 00:46:39,679
better or for worse. As I've gotten older. I fight

1130
00:46:39,719 --> 00:46:42,159
with my friends less and I have less conflict with people,

1131
00:46:42,400 --> 00:46:44,679
But I am able to just ask people quicker because

1132
00:46:44,719 --> 00:46:46,760
I'm just like, you did this thing to me, it

1133
00:46:46,840 --> 00:46:51,079
was on purpose. This was not a misunderstanding. There was boundaries,

1134
00:46:51,079 --> 00:46:53,760
they were clear, they were not vague. You crossed them.

1135
00:46:53,800 --> 00:46:56,239
And I've gotten better at like explaining to somebody like

1136
00:46:56,599 --> 00:46:57,840
you did this thing and we're done here.

1137
00:46:58,079 --> 00:47:00,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I mean I think the thing it's like

1138
00:47:00,320 --> 00:47:01,880
when people show you who they are, you have to

1139
00:47:01,880 --> 00:47:04,079
believe them the first time, and I usually believe them

1140
00:47:04,079 --> 00:47:08,159
like the twelfth time, and I'm just like, all right,

1141
00:47:08,320 --> 00:47:11,440
you know what, You're right, we're done here.

1142
00:47:12,199 --> 00:47:15,159
Speaker 2: Those people can be really fun, and there's the intoxicat

1143
00:47:15,239 --> 00:47:17,639
they're the most intoxicating and the most fun.

1144
00:47:17,719 --> 00:47:20,239
Speaker 1: I've talked about them before. They're crazy makers. They're just

1145
00:47:20,280 --> 00:47:23,800
like these people that are intoxicating and they have big

1146
00:47:23,840 --> 00:47:26,920
personalities and they're beautiful and they're funny and they're great,

1147
00:47:27,079 --> 00:47:30,159
and then all of a sudden, it's like the little

1148
00:47:30,199 --> 00:47:33,599
glitches start and you're like, oh no, oh no, you're

1149
00:47:33,840 --> 00:47:34,400
a monster.

1150
00:47:34,920 --> 00:47:38,119
Speaker 2: It's hard for me to put somebody like to jump

1151
00:47:38,119 --> 00:47:40,280
boxes with people. If I'm like super close with them

1152
00:47:40,320 --> 00:47:42,519
and they do something, it's I can't really put you

1153
00:47:42,639 --> 00:47:47,679
back in like a passive sort of like acquaintance box.

1154
00:47:47,800 --> 00:47:50,360
I I'm all in or I'm all out on you.

1155
00:47:50,480 --> 00:47:51,119
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1156
00:47:51,159 --> 00:47:52,880
Speaker 2: Like I've had a couple of friendships in the last

1157
00:47:52,960 --> 00:47:54,719
couple of years where like somebody has done something to

1158
00:47:54,760 --> 00:47:56,639
me that's just very tangible. They just they did it.

1159
00:47:56,679 --> 00:47:59,079
They did it on purpose. There's no excuse for it.

1160
00:48:00,039 --> 00:48:02,159
Isn't like a human experience. It's like you you did

1161
00:48:02,199 --> 00:48:03,800
something to hurt me. I communicated to you that it

1162
00:48:03,800 --> 00:48:05,840
was gonna hurt me, and you did it, and I

1163
00:48:05,880 --> 00:48:08,039
have like I can't come back from it. Yeah, I

1164
00:48:08,119 --> 00:48:08,840
really struggle.

1165
00:48:08,960 --> 00:48:11,760
Speaker 1: I mean, I think it's one thing when you're younger,

1166
00:48:12,039 --> 00:48:14,000
you know what I mean, and you're still figuring life

1167
00:48:14,039 --> 00:48:16,119
out and you like, funck shit up and you make

1168
00:48:16,199 --> 00:48:18,639
mistakes and you're like, oh, I, you know, flirted with

1169
00:48:19,039 --> 00:48:20,719
this guy that my friend has a crush on and

1170
00:48:20,760 --> 00:48:22,880
I should not have done that, and that really hurt them.

1171
00:48:23,159 --> 00:48:26,400
But you like should learn that really fucking early, and

1172
00:48:26,440 --> 00:48:30,320
like we're just our age is too big for people

1173
00:48:30,360 --> 00:48:32,360
to be making these mistakes, you know what I mean.

1174
00:48:32,440 --> 00:48:34,719
It's just like, Okay, you didn't learn that lesson yet.

1175
00:48:35,880 --> 00:48:37,480
Speaker 2: That's how I feel. I feel like as you get older,

1176
00:48:37,519 --> 00:48:39,039
you fight less with your friends, but else you've less

1177
00:48:39,079 --> 00:48:40,599
tolerance for this stuff because you're just like, I don't know,

1178
00:48:40,639 --> 00:48:42,840
we're grown now. I think you should just like act better.

1179
00:48:43,000 --> 00:48:45,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that is one thing about maturing too. It's

1180
00:48:45,440 --> 00:48:49,199
like when friendships end, it's feels less devastating like it

1181
00:48:49,320 --> 00:48:51,920
used to for me feel so devastating when a friendship ended.

1182
00:48:51,960 --> 00:48:56,000
It would be like, I mean my best friend from college,

1183
00:48:56,280 --> 00:48:59,960
Like when our friendship ended, it was like a death

1184
00:49:00,119 --> 00:49:03,360
in the family, Like I was so broken up over it.

1185
00:49:04,199 --> 00:49:06,960
But since then, as I've had friends kind of come

1186
00:49:07,039 --> 00:49:10,159
and go, it feels a lot less of a like

1187
00:49:10,400 --> 00:49:12,760
a lot less of a below like it's just like, okay,

1188
00:49:13,039 --> 00:49:15,239
you know, not everyone's here for the long run. People

1189
00:49:15,280 --> 00:49:18,960
are here for what do they say? Seasons? Reasons, treasons, treaton.

1190
00:49:20,840 --> 00:49:23,159
Speaker 2: I also life was like long. I've certainly had falling

1191
00:49:23,159 --> 00:49:25,639
outs with girlfriends of mine over situations and like I'm

1192
00:49:25,679 --> 00:49:27,639
too in particular that I'm extremely close with, and we've

1193
00:49:27,639 --> 00:49:29,119
had times in our friendships where we were like very

1194
00:49:29,159 --> 00:49:31,199
much not speaking to each other. And so I've learned

1195
00:49:31,199 --> 00:49:34,239
that like you can have the fight, take a step back,

1196
00:49:34,320 --> 00:49:36,559
and like find each other again, and like I find

1197
00:49:36,559 --> 00:49:39,320
that comforting. But like what I need to hear from

1198
00:49:39,320 --> 00:49:42,159
somebody I need in an argument at some point, I

1199
00:49:42,239 --> 00:49:44,800
need to come to a mutual understanding of what happened here,

1200
00:49:45,039 --> 00:49:46,519
and I need to know that we are like both

1201
00:49:46,559 --> 00:49:48,639
sorry for what happened. We see each other, we understand

1202
00:49:48,679 --> 00:49:50,119
each other. I had a falling out with a guy

1203
00:49:50,159 --> 00:49:51,960
friend of mine about a year ago and he did

1204
00:49:51,960 --> 00:49:54,679
this thing to me that I just I asked him

1205
00:49:54,679 --> 00:49:57,559
not to do and he did it anyways, and he

1206
00:49:57,599 --> 00:50:00,480
was like, well, I'm gonna say you no, never do

1207
00:50:00,519 --> 00:50:02,639
anything I know and I would forget that.

1208
00:50:04,360 --> 00:50:05,239
Speaker 1: I would never do.

1209
00:50:05,280 --> 00:50:07,159
Speaker 2: It's sort of a conluded story. I asked him not

1210
00:50:07,159 --> 00:50:08,400
to do a specific thing and he was like, I

1211
00:50:08,440 --> 00:50:09,480
want to do it, and I was like, do not

1212
00:50:09,519 --> 00:50:12,599
do this, and he did it, and I kind of stop

1213
00:50:12,639 --> 00:50:13,960
talking to him, and he was like, I don't understand,

1214
00:50:14,000 --> 00:50:15,360
like I didn't think this was gonna be a big deal.

1215
00:50:15,360 --> 00:50:16,400
And I was like, but I told you it was

1216
00:50:16,400 --> 00:50:18,039
going to be a big deal, and I asked you

1217
00:50:18,119 --> 00:50:19,280
not to do it, and I told you this was

1218
00:50:19,320 --> 00:50:21,480
really hurtful, and you were just like, haha, I'm gonna

1219
00:50:21,480 --> 00:50:24,000
do it. Anyways, and we don't speak anymore. And if

1220
00:50:24,000 --> 00:50:25,599
he had said to me, like I was in a

1221
00:50:25,639 --> 00:50:28,760
really bad place at the time, I'm really embarrassed by

1222
00:50:28,800 --> 00:50:31,320
my behavior. I would do anything to take this back.

1223
00:50:31,360 --> 00:50:33,360
Any of those You can't like pre prescribe what you

1224
00:50:33,440 --> 00:50:34,880
want the apology to be. But if it was some

1225
00:50:35,079 --> 00:50:38,119
version of that, I could move on from it. But

1226
00:50:38,280 --> 00:50:41,599
like I can't otherwise, Like I didn't think you'd get

1227
00:50:41,599 --> 00:50:43,920
this upset about this. It's not that deep where I

1228
00:50:43,960 --> 00:50:44,519
can't come back.

1229
00:50:44,639 --> 00:50:48,039
Speaker 1: Someone undermining how you felt because they did something that

1230
00:50:48,079 --> 00:50:51,000
they knew was gonna hurt you is crazy, Like that's

1231
00:50:51,400 --> 00:50:53,880
a form of gaslighting. It's like it's like you don't

1232
00:50:53,880 --> 00:50:56,800
get to decide how your shitty action made me feel.

1233
00:50:57,320 --> 00:50:59,079
And then come back and say it wasn't that big

1234
00:50:59,119 --> 00:51:02,440
of a deal to move on, Like, that's not an apology.

1235
00:51:02,760 --> 00:51:05,199
Speaker 2: What kind of quality relationships you have with people that,

1236
00:51:05,360 --> 00:51:07,679
like other people have been like that's chill. Yeah, that's

1237
00:51:07,679 --> 00:51:08,679
how you apologize to me.

1238
00:51:08,880 --> 00:51:10,159
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's crazy.

1239
00:51:10,199 --> 00:51:15,559
Speaker 2: So if I see him across the street, oh my god.

1240
00:51:15,599 --> 00:51:17,039
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm going to do the word of the week

1241
00:51:17,039 --> 00:51:20,199
because I love the word of the week and do

1242
00:51:20,199 --> 00:51:20,880
we want this one?

1243
00:51:20,920 --> 00:51:22,440
Speaker 2: Are you going to drive to guess with the word

1244
00:51:22,519 --> 00:51:23,400
like I'm going.

1245
00:51:23,400 --> 00:51:28,360
Speaker 1: To see if you know it? Okay, okay? Mallfulous, mellipulous.

1246
00:51:28,719 --> 00:51:31,599
Speaker 2: That's a character in a Disney movie, Malficent.

1247
00:51:33,920 --> 00:51:38,840
Speaker 1: Mallipulous is an adjective flowing sweetly and smoothielf, mollipulous? Come?

1248
00:51:38,960 --> 00:51:41,639
Speaker 2: Does it apply to food or conversation?

1249
00:51:41,760 --> 00:51:44,360
Speaker 1: Describes a smooth, sweet sensation? I think it can apply

1250
00:51:44,400 --> 00:51:49,199
to anything. Jane's mollipulous cello playing with the envy of

1251
00:51:49,239 --> 00:51:50,519
the other musicians.

1252
00:51:50,960 --> 00:51:53,119
Speaker 2: Do you know big words? Do you know like set words?

1253
00:51:53,280 --> 00:51:55,639
Speaker 1: Some? Okay, I want to know more. That's why I'm

1254
00:51:55,639 --> 00:51:57,440
doing this mellpulous.

1255
00:51:57,719 --> 00:52:03,079
Speaker 2: Honestly, the definition doesn't let the lord the word melifluous.

1256
00:52:03,639 --> 00:52:04,639
Speaker 1: Here you try and say it.

1257
00:52:04,840 --> 00:52:08,559
Speaker 2: This one melifluous.

1258
00:52:08,639 --> 00:52:11,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, the word does not flow. We're never gonna use

1259
00:52:11,239 --> 00:52:14,840
that word. I'm drinking some melyphalous. Come.

1260
00:52:17,239 --> 00:52:19,159
Speaker 2: I think it applies to melodies and nothings that are

1261
00:52:19,159 --> 00:52:19,519
already what.

1262
00:52:20,719 --> 00:52:25,400
Speaker 1: Okay, let's do it. Of course, of course, of course,

1263
00:52:25,519 --> 00:52:28,719
of course, of course what are you saying to me?

1264
00:52:28,920 --> 00:52:31,199
Speaker 2: Of course? Is that the only boyfriend?

1265
00:52:31,239 --> 00:52:33,320
Speaker 1: That's the only way I got my calories in college

1266
00:52:33,320 --> 00:52:34,239
I couldn't afford food.

1267
00:52:34,400 --> 00:52:37,320
Speaker 2: Currently you swallow? Of course, why do you keep saying

1268
00:52:37,320 --> 00:52:40,840
of course to me? Do you not? That's why would

1269
00:52:40,840 --> 00:52:42,519
I swallow? For what reason?

1270
00:52:43,360 --> 00:52:45,920
Speaker 1: But I mean it's way more complicated to like get

1271
00:52:46,000 --> 00:52:47,480
up in what spit it in the toilet?

1272
00:52:47,480 --> 00:52:50,800
Speaker 2: I can complicate my life that far. Yes, you what

1273
00:52:51,000 --> 00:52:52,800
does A mean? You don't?

1274
00:52:53,440 --> 00:52:56,159
Speaker 1: This is why you don't have a boyfriend, Rada, This

1275
00:52:56,199 --> 00:52:58,079
is why you're alone in life. You need to fucking

1276
00:52:58,119 --> 00:52:59,320
gluck lug those loads.

1277
00:52:59,360 --> 00:53:02,519
Speaker 2: No, I'll listen. I love to give a blowjob. I

1278
00:53:02,599 --> 00:53:04,199
like it more than getting oral. I think it's like

1279
00:53:04,199 --> 00:53:06,159
I just I really enjoy it. But unless I'm like

1280
00:53:06,280 --> 00:53:10,360
in a car giving a blowjob and there is no toilet,

1281
00:53:10,480 --> 00:53:13,400
or when there's a window. I'm worried it's gonna blow

1282
00:53:13,440 --> 00:53:16,719
back onto the car or your roommate would have hit

1283
00:53:16,800 --> 00:53:17,599
you in the face.

1284
00:53:19,119 --> 00:53:20,639
Speaker 1: Writo, what are you saying?

1285
00:53:21,679 --> 00:53:25,360
Speaker 2: Why would I swallow that? That's disgusting. No, shame of

1286
00:53:25,440 --> 00:53:26,199
other people want to do that.

1287
00:53:29,719 --> 00:53:31,159
Speaker 1: I don't know why you wouldn't. I mean, I guess

1288
00:53:31,199 --> 00:53:37,159
I was just taught to by who your sister? No.

1289
00:53:37,440 --> 00:53:40,599
The first guy that I dated in uh, not dated,

1290
00:53:40,760 --> 00:53:42,159
was hooking up with in high school. He's like, you

1291
00:53:42,199 --> 00:53:45,199
always swallow, and I was like, yes, semest g.

1292
00:53:46,119 --> 00:53:49,239
Speaker 2: I'm really curious, like what the average girl does, because

1293
00:53:49,280 --> 00:53:51,199
it listen, it's not sexy to be sitting there with

1294
00:53:51,239 --> 00:53:53,079
a mouthful a spit and come and you gonna walk

1295
00:53:53,119 --> 00:53:55,519
across the apartment and like spit it out. No, it's

1296
00:53:55,599 --> 00:53:56,519
not got to come back.

1297
00:53:56,960 --> 00:53:59,719
Speaker 1: It feels almost like you have more of it in

1298
00:53:59,760 --> 00:54:02,559
your afterwards if you spin it out, I know, because

1299
00:54:02,599 --> 00:54:05,320
you expose back and forward. It's like, just let it

1300
00:54:05,360 --> 00:54:05,800
go down.

1301
00:54:06,000 --> 00:54:08,440
Speaker 2: I just I don't need it too. I'll feel sick

1302
00:54:08,480 --> 00:54:12,639
all day really knowing that I did that. Yeah, really

1303
00:54:12,920 --> 00:54:13,199
for me?

1304
00:54:13,440 --> 00:54:13,679
Speaker 4: Wow?

1305
00:54:13,800 --> 00:54:16,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, I know. I I'm curious what girls do.

1306
00:54:16,519 --> 00:54:19,280
Speaker 1: I'm curious, Well, girlies, let us. Leave in the comments,

1307
00:54:19,599 --> 00:54:20,400
leave it in the comments.

1308
00:54:20,400 --> 00:54:22,920
Speaker 2: Okay, when you get blowjobs, what do people normally do?

1309
00:54:26,440 --> 00:54:30,280
What is your Uh?

1310
00:54:30,800 --> 00:54:33,000
Speaker 3: They were swallowers when they wanted to impress. But I

1311
00:54:33,039 --> 00:54:34,320
definitely dated a girl who wasn't.

1312
00:54:34,599 --> 00:54:36,559
Speaker 2: It's picked me to swallow, is what you're saying to me.

1313
00:54:36,639 --> 00:54:37,480
It's pick me girls.

1314
00:54:37,519 --> 00:54:40,280
Speaker 1: Don't you fucking call me pick me? On my own podcast.

1315
00:54:40,960 --> 00:54:41,280
Speaker 2: It's not.

1316
00:54:41,800 --> 00:54:44,239
Speaker 1: It's just convenient. I really think it's just down the

1317
00:54:44,280 --> 00:54:45,840
hatch and then I forget about it. I don't want

1318
00:54:45,840 --> 00:54:48,400
to have to walk. Imagine walking across my apartment.

1319
00:54:48,480 --> 00:54:50,239
Speaker 2: Do it all the time? Ye, I watch Wattle.

1320
00:54:50,440 --> 00:54:52,000
Speaker 1: I want to when there's come in me and I

1321
00:54:52,000 --> 00:54:53,280
have to get to the toilet, but.

1322
00:54:53,639 --> 00:54:55,280
Speaker 2: Not you can get.

1323
00:54:57,679 --> 00:54:59,239
Speaker 3: The existed for hundreds of years.

1324
00:54:59,440 --> 00:55:06,079
Speaker 2: That's what I want for Christmas. Wow, I'm gonna shake

1325
00:55:06,079 --> 00:55:08,360
your boyfriend's hand. Okay, I'll be like, what is this for.

1326
00:55:08,440 --> 00:55:10,079
Speaker 1: I'm like, don't worry about it, don't worry about it. Well,

1327
00:55:10,119 --> 00:55:12,960
he doesn't. He doesn't come from blowjobs.

1328
00:55:13,320 --> 00:55:15,639
Speaker 2: I think that that's pretty like fifty to fifty. I've

1329
00:55:15,679 --> 00:55:17,800
seen like a lot of guys just be like, I

1330
00:55:17,840 --> 00:55:18,880
don't know, I just can't get there.

1331
00:55:18,960 --> 00:55:20,599
Speaker 1: Yeah, I really have gone to work on it, and

1332
00:55:20,679 --> 00:55:22,719
I'm like, man, really, this is like the this is

1333
00:55:22,880 --> 00:55:24,880
one of one that I have not been able to make.

1334
00:55:25,079 --> 00:55:26,639
Speaker 2: Do you get off from people going down on you?

1335
00:55:27,360 --> 00:55:30,599
Speaker 1: I don't let anyone go down at me? Why because

1336
00:55:30,639 --> 00:55:33,079
it's just a it's not for me. I've had so

1337
00:55:33,119 --> 00:55:35,199
many guys down there bumbling around, they don't know what

1338
00:55:35,199 --> 00:55:37,920
they're doing. They're just like they're like licking my fucking

1339
00:55:38,039 --> 00:55:40,159
thigh and I'm like, what the fuck do you think

1340
00:55:40,199 --> 00:55:42,159
you're doing? Because you're not doing what you think you're doing.

1341
00:55:42,199 --> 00:55:44,639
Speaker 2: Do you only have one? I only wanted two experiences

1342
00:55:44,679 --> 00:55:46,960
that it either takes forever and I'm just like, this

1343
00:55:47,039 --> 00:55:49,679
is not pleasure for years or I get off in

1344
00:55:49,800 --> 00:55:51,000
two seconds and I'm like.

1345
00:55:51,480 --> 00:55:55,599
Speaker 1: That's never happened for me, never never see. I actually

1346
00:55:55,599 --> 00:55:58,559
do think my mister Manhattan could do it because I

1347
00:55:58,760 --> 00:56:01,639
I just he's so good in bed and like every

1348
00:56:01,679 --> 00:56:04,440
single way. So like maybe one day I'll introduce it

1349
00:56:04,559 --> 00:56:05,920
because I believe in him.

1350
00:56:06,039 --> 00:56:07,920
Speaker 2: I'm curious how you would I'm curious if you would

1351
00:56:07,960 --> 00:56:08,280
like it.

1352
00:56:09,119 --> 00:56:12,599
Speaker 1: I have had it done obviously, and like sometimes it's enjoyable,

1353
00:56:12,599 --> 00:56:16,480
but like it takes so long and I have you know,

1354
00:56:16,639 --> 00:56:19,639
the vibrators that I use, Like when I come it

1355
00:56:19,679 --> 00:56:23,400
makes the dinosaurs go extinct again. Like it's like the hardest,

1356
00:56:23,480 --> 00:56:25,800
Like I just think it would take so much time

1357
00:56:25,960 --> 00:56:28,320
for a man to do what that machine is doing.

1358
00:56:28,360 --> 00:56:29,800
And just a split second.

1359
00:56:29,800 --> 00:56:31,119
Speaker 2: It is weird for somebody to go down on you

1360
00:56:31,119 --> 00:56:32,400
and for you to not finish and then you go

1361
00:56:32,400 --> 00:56:34,920
into sex. Yeah, like I always finish, but then I'm

1362
00:56:34,920 --> 00:56:35,719
just sort of like, I'm done here.

1363
00:56:35,760 --> 00:56:37,239
Speaker 1: I don't want to have to have secks.

1364
00:56:37,079 --> 00:56:39,159
Speaker 2: Right, I just I don't care about it. Yeah, if

1365
00:56:39,199 --> 00:56:41,280
somebody's really dying to do it, I don't like I'll

1366
00:56:41,320 --> 00:56:43,159
swap them away and like, do you know what I do?

1367
00:56:43,280 --> 00:56:44,599
Speaker 1: Like a little booty eating.

1368
00:56:46,119 --> 00:56:47,199
Speaker 2: And a lot of people do.

1369
00:56:47,840 --> 00:56:51,480
Speaker 1: I can't really do it. You have you ever had

1370
00:56:51,480 --> 00:56:52,000
it done?

1371
00:56:52,519 --> 00:56:53,800
Speaker 2: I don't like anything.

1372
00:56:53,920 --> 00:56:56,599
Speaker 1: Rina you have to try because I was the same way.

1373
00:56:56,719 --> 00:56:58,320
I did not like anything back there, and then one

1374
00:56:58,400 --> 00:57:00,400
day someone slipped it in. They went from front to back,

1375
00:57:00,400 --> 00:57:02,320
and I was like, oh what.

1376
00:57:02,639 --> 00:57:05,960
Speaker 2: I understand that a lot of people enjoy that. It

1377
00:57:06,079 --> 00:57:08,800
is the quickest way to turn me off. I just

1378
00:57:08,960 --> 00:57:10,800
every guy I've ever been plus to stick their fingers

1379
00:57:10,880 --> 00:57:12,679
up my buttthole while the're fucking me. I don't want to.

1380
00:57:12,719 --> 00:57:14,880
I don't like it. I don't want anything back there.

1381
00:57:15,239 --> 00:57:17,440
Speaker 1: Mister Manhatten did that when we got to Paris, he

1382
00:57:17,679 --> 00:57:19,079
stuck his fingers up my ass.

1383
00:57:19,280 --> 00:57:19,880
Speaker 2: Did you like it?

1384
00:57:20,000 --> 00:57:20,039
Speaker 3: No?

1385
00:57:20,159 --> 00:57:23,199
Speaker 1: I was constipated from the flight, so ship all over.

1386
00:57:25,960 --> 00:57:27,000
He's like, is that chocolate?

1387
00:57:27,039 --> 00:57:28,880
Speaker 2: And I'm like, no, bad, that's crazy.

1388
00:57:29,159 --> 00:57:31,960
Speaker 1: Put your fingers in my ass after a long flat.

1389
00:57:36,880 --> 00:57:39,159
Speaker 2: I'm so sorry that he's like, is that a chocolate

1390
00:57:39,239 --> 00:57:41,400
cl salt? Were you guys?

1391
00:57:41,639 --> 00:57:42,400
Speaker 1: Were you embarrassed?

1392
00:57:43,280 --> 00:57:45,239
Speaker 2: Neither? I need? No one cared.

1393
00:57:45,679 --> 00:57:47,440
Speaker 1: And that's how I knew that was my motherfucking man

1394
00:57:48,039 --> 00:57:49,800
just got like a young boy. Yeah.

1395
00:57:49,800 --> 00:57:51,239
Speaker 3: Does he call you chocolate croissant?

1396
00:57:51,480 --> 00:57:52,800
Speaker 1: No? No? Thank god?

1397
00:57:53,920 --> 00:57:55,599
Speaker 2: Have you gone back to fingers and butts?

1398
00:57:55,679 --> 00:57:55,800
Speaker 4: No?

1399
00:57:55,840 --> 00:57:57,719
Speaker 1: I don't really like it. I like he'll try and

1400
00:57:57,760 --> 00:57:59,000
do it every once in a while, and I'm like,

1401
00:57:59,039 --> 00:58:00,920
get your fingers out of my bo You want a ton?

1402
00:58:01,599 --> 00:58:02,199
I like a ton?

1403
00:58:02,320 --> 00:58:04,119
Speaker 2: Okay, doesn't a lot of people do. I'm not judging.

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I'm actually not judging that. I wish. I wish I

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00:58:07,519 --> 00:58:10,480
like butt whole play because I feel like one am

1406
00:58:10,480 --> 00:58:11,519
I left with one.

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Speaker 1: Hole yeah, what do you do? You have very snowball someone.

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00:58:16,159 --> 00:58:17,360
Speaker 2: I don't know what that means.

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00:58:17,679 --> 00:58:21,320
Speaker 3: Well, Julia Roberts taught movie theaters full of people with snowballing.

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00:58:21,440 --> 00:58:23,519
Speaker 2: Is is it when you take come in your mouth

1411
00:58:23,559 --> 00:58:26,440
you put it into their mouth? No? Have you done that?

1412
00:58:27,360 --> 00:58:27,440
Speaker 4: Like?

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00:58:27,559 --> 00:58:29,440
Speaker 1: I asked me two ones and I was like, you're good.

1414
00:58:33,639 --> 00:58:35,079
I mean, why do you want to drink your own cut?

1415
00:58:35,159 --> 00:58:37,199
Speaker 2: That's so weird. I don't understand why people want that.

1416
00:58:37,239 --> 00:58:40,239
But I've had other weird requests I've wanted. I've had

1417
00:58:40,239 --> 00:58:42,800
guys want me to talk about sleeping with other guys

1418
00:58:42,800 --> 00:58:43,880
while I was sleeping with them.

1419
00:58:43,960 --> 00:58:45,880
Speaker 1: Right, I was there for that, I mean not at

1420
00:58:45,880 --> 00:58:47,960
the room we were talking about you.

1421
00:58:48,199 --> 00:58:51,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's one of the weirdest requests I've gotten. Yeah,

1422
00:58:51,800 --> 00:58:53,800
I'm willing to try pretty much anything, but like I

1423
00:58:53,840 --> 00:58:55,920
don't take like I'll do anything to them. But I

1424
00:58:55,960 --> 00:58:58,519
don't take any pleasure from like butt stuff, which is disappointing.

1425
00:58:58,760 --> 00:59:01,119
Speaker 3: This is just disconnect between in a generation of people

1426
00:59:01,159 --> 00:59:03,719
who grew up without cell phones as a kid and

1427
00:59:03,760 --> 00:59:06,639
the kids who have had cell phones looking at porn there.

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00:59:07,079 --> 00:59:10,119
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, no, it's definitely a different.

1429
00:59:13,480 --> 00:59:15,480
Speaker 3: I remember just being happy to be there.

1430
00:59:15,719 --> 00:59:18,679
Speaker 2: Yeah, of course, and that's the generation I'm trying to date.

1431
00:59:18,920 --> 00:59:24,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh my god, gen z is what do you

1432
00:59:24,360 --> 00:59:26,519
think of gen Z? They're not going out anymore, They're

1433
00:59:26,519 --> 00:59:27,360
not doing anything.

1434
00:59:27,440 --> 00:59:30,519
Speaker 2: They are having sex less, they're drinking less. They're i

1435
00:59:30,519 --> 00:59:34,920
mean riddled with anxiety. Anxiety generation like to have grown

1436
00:59:35,039 --> 00:59:37,760
up with social media is not a thing that I envy, No,

1437
00:59:38,000 --> 00:59:41,079
not at all. I can't imagine, like thinking everything I

1438
00:59:41,119 --> 00:59:43,880
did was going to be like shown to the world.

1439
00:59:44,719 --> 00:59:46,719
I actually had no idea how ugly I was, and

1440
00:59:46,760 --> 00:59:47,320
that was great.

1441
00:59:47,599 --> 00:59:50,960
Speaker 1: That was the dream, Just like not knowing how shitty

1442
00:59:51,000 --> 00:59:53,920
you looked and having no bar for comparison. Like I

1443
00:59:53,960 --> 00:59:56,360
remember in college, I thought I was that bitch. I

1444
00:59:56,400 --> 00:59:58,719
thought I was the hottest girl in town. I look

1445
00:59:58,760 --> 01:00:01,280
at pictures of myself. I know, eyebrows, I was orange,

1446
01:00:01,320 --> 01:00:06,199
I can I tan twice a day. I was like, yes,

1447
01:00:06,400 --> 01:00:10,360
it was. I had a beer belly, and I was like,

1448
01:00:10,559 --> 01:00:13,480
I am the hottest bitch in this time.

1449
01:00:14,280 --> 01:00:17,679
Speaker 2: I had busted teeth. My eyebrows were plucked within an

1450
01:00:17,679 --> 01:00:22,519
inch of their lives. There's one pair we would we

1451
01:00:22,559 --> 01:00:24,760
would thread them into it like a needle and I'd

1452
01:00:24,800 --> 01:00:27,360
be like, nailed it, and I'd go to wet Seal

1453
01:00:27,599 --> 01:00:29,760
and get my going out tops and yes, I always

1454
01:00:29,800 --> 01:00:31,320
had a beer belly well.

1455
01:00:31,119 --> 01:00:33,960
Speaker 1: And they like so when we would go out, we

1456
01:00:34,000 --> 01:00:36,320
would get dressed up. We'd be in tiny little dresses,

1457
01:00:36,480 --> 01:00:38,800
high heels. I would drive drunk in a hailstorm to

1458
01:00:38,840 --> 01:00:41,840
go get to go, get Dick. These gen zers they

1459
01:00:41,920 --> 01:00:45,280
are going out in like Nike tennis shoes. They're ubering around,

1460
01:00:45,280 --> 01:00:47,280
They're going home at eleven PM. I'm like, what the

1461
01:00:47,320 --> 01:00:48,280
fuck happened to you? Guys?

1462
01:00:48,480 --> 01:00:49,920
Speaker 2: Like, who would I think I was? I was running

1463
01:00:49,920 --> 01:00:53,400
around Bloomington, Indiana in my little Charlotte Roost dress and

1464
01:00:53,480 --> 01:00:54,559
stiletto heels.

1465
01:00:54,559 --> 01:00:56,840
Speaker 1: You were doing what we were supposed to be doing.

1466
01:00:57,039 --> 01:01:00,480
That's what I did too in Milwaukee, Wisconsin. And I

1467
01:01:00,559 --> 01:01:02,840
was like, I'm never more sure that I was.

1468
01:01:02,800 --> 01:01:05,920
Speaker 2: That bitch I did. I drove like blacked out in

1469
01:01:06,440 --> 01:01:09,599
like snowstorms. Yeah, like get asked. I mean literally that

1470
01:01:09,679 --> 01:01:12,800
was my experience in heels all the time.

1471
01:01:13,039 --> 01:01:16,719
Speaker 1: I know, they're just the laziest generation. They're wearing heels,

1472
01:01:16,719 --> 01:01:19,840
they're staying in they're postmating Dick. Like, I'm just like, no,

1473
01:01:19,920 --> 01:01:21,280
you have to go out in the wild, you have

1474
01:01:21,360 --> 01:01:24,800
to respect the fucking game, put some cheap makeup on

1475
01:01:24,840 --> 01:01:25,719
your face.

1476
01:01:25,960 --> 01:01:28,599
Speaker 2: And then like COVID like destroyed work culture and people

1477
01:01:28,599 --> 01:01:30,360
aren't going to the office anymore. I mean, like so

1478
01:01:30,559 --> 01:01:32,920
much of my social life was the people I worked

1479
01:01:32,920 --> 01:01:34,639
with and then going out with them after work and

1480
01:01:34,679 --> 01:01:38,440
sleeping with people that I work with, and that's just over.

1481
01:01:38,719 --> 01:01:39,440
Speaker 1: I have colleagues.

1482
01:01:39,440 --> 01:01:41,199
Speaker 2: If you can't fuck them, I fucked all of them.

1483
01:01:41,480 --> 01:01:43,280
Speaker 1: I never did that. I never slept with because I

1484
01:01:43,320 --> 01:01:45,960
didn't want to have to like look someone in. It

1485
01:01:46,039 --> 01:01:48,559
was the worst I ever did was a neighbor. And

1486
01:01:48,599 --> 01:01:50,840
that was tough because, like I remember, I fucked this

1487
01:01:50,880 --> 01:01:53,199
neighbor and he was great, he was hot, he had

1488
01:01:53,239 --> 01:01:54,880
a big dick. I actually should introduce you to him.

1489
01:01:54,880 --> 01:01:57,000
Speaker 2: In an apartment building or in.

1490
01:01:56,920 --> 01:01:59,599
Speaker 1: An apartment building in Venicebela take elevators to get out,

1491
01:02:00,119 --> 01:02:02,719
no stairs, but we were neighbors, Like my door was

1492
01:02:02,760 --> 01:02:04,800
here and he was right across the hall. And I

1493
01:02:04,800 --> 01:02:07,079
remember one time I was walking in with an NBA

1494
01:02:07,159 --> 01:02:10,000
player and he was walking out and he's like, oh hey,

1495
01:02:10,800 --> 01:02:15,639
oh hey man, really big fan. I was just like,

1496
01:02:16,840 --> 01:02:19,599
this is this is blank, this is blank, and I

1497
01:02:19,679 --> 01:02:21,360
was just like, this is awkward. I can't do this.

1498
01:02:21,400 --> 01:02:22,239
I can't run into.

1499
01:02:22,159 --> 01:02:24,280
Speaker 2: No neighbors are rap. I fucked a neighbor and he

1500
01:02:24,320 --> 01:02:26,039
lived at least you could look out of your apartment

1501
01:02:26,119 --> 01:02:28,039
and like see the other door. This guy lived the

1502
01:02:28,039 --> 01:02:30,119
floor above me, so I would just like get into

1503
01:02:30,159 --> 01:02:32,519
the elevator and he'd be there. It was so uncula.

1504
01:02:33,320 --> 01:02:34,840
Oh I got that guy sucks so bad.

1505
01:02:35,159 --> 01:02:36,760
Speaker 1: But then he went to work and saw everyone else

1506
01:02:36,800 --> 01:02:38,840
you fucked, so you're just whole roster.

1507
01:02:38,800 --> 01:02:42,119
Speaker 2: Was most of my most my career. I worked in restaurants.

1508
01:02:42,119 --> 01:02:43,840
It's just assumed that you're going to like do drugs

1509
01:02:43,840 --> 01:02:46,800
and drugs at each other group on. Everybody was sleeping

1510
01:02:46,800 --> 01:02:47,000
with me.

1511
01:02:47,039 --> 01:02:48,639
Speaker 1: I did sleep with a bouncer when I worked at

1512
01:02:48,639 --> 01:02:49,199
a restaurant.

1513
01:02:49,679 --> 01:02:52,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're supposed to, that's encouraged. Yeah, I love a bouncer.

1514
01:02:53,760 --> 01:02:55,280
Eyes were a little close together. I don't think his

1515
01:02:55,320 --> 01:02:57,159
mom stopped drinking when he was in utero.

1516
01:02:57,480 --> 01:02:58,519
Speaker 1: But he was hot enough.

1517
01:02:58,719 --> 01:03:00,960
Speaker 2: Was he big? Okay?

1518
01:03:00,960 --> 01:03:02,599
Speaker 1: I love that he didn't have tattoos. He was like

1519
01:03:02,599 --> 01:03:05,679
a pretty straight edge. I can't remember his name, none

1520
01:03:05,719 --> 01:03:06,320
of my business.

1521
01:03:07,320 --> 01:03:09,440
Speaker 2: There's definitely people whose names I've never learned. I was

1522
01:03:09,480 --> 01:03:11,519
writing about that the other day, about how easy dating

1523
01:03:11,559 --> 01:03:14,000
was in my twenties, because like, I just like there

1524
01:03:14,079 --> 01:03:17,000
was no research to do on somebody like you didn't

1525
01:03:17,039 --> 01:03:19,000
like you were like looking people's like Linkeodlin and social

1526
01:03:19,079 --> 01:03:20,920
media and their ex girlfriends and like doing all this

1527
01:03:20,920 --> 01:03:23,039
stuff because like there was no information to be had.

1528
01:03:23,400 --> 01:03:24,880
If somebody had like a nine to five in a

1529
01:03:24,880 --> 01:03:27,159
bed for him, I was like, that's my man. I

1530
01:03:27,159 --> 01:03:28,800
didn't even know people's full names.

1531
01:03:29,199 --> 01:03:29,840
Speaker 1: You didn't need to.

1532
01:03:29,960 --> 01:03:30,639
Speaker 2: I didn't need to.

1533
01:03:30,719 --> 01:03:32,320
Speaker 1: It didn't matter a really nice time.

1534
01:03:32,400 --> 01:03:34,960
Speaker 2: I didn't think about people's like trauma. I wasn't like,

1535
01:03:35,039 --> 01:03:37,199
you know, are we trauma bonding? I was just like,

1536
01:03:37,239 --> 01:03:40,400
I like his hoodie, Like I never thought about this stuff.

1537
01:03:41,360 --> 01:03:43,000
Speaker 1: I like his hoodie was enough to get you to

1538
01:03:43,000 --> 01:03:45,519
the finish line. That's that's what else was there to Yeah,

1539
01:03:45,519 --> 01:03:47,960
the bar was low. The bar was low. It could

1540
01:03:47,960 --> 01:03:49,519
have been a little higher, to be honest.

1541
01:03:49,760 --> 01:03:51,679
Speaker 2: But no one told me to have a higher bar.

1542
01:03:52,280 --> 01:03:54,239
I didn't have like all these people on social media

1543
01:03:54,239 --> 01:03:57,639
being like I have the most amazing, blast, healthy, stable relationship.

1544
01:03:57,719 --> 01:03:58,159
I didn't know.

1545
01:03:58,559 --> 01:04:01,639
Speaker 1: Yeah, and also those people on social media that are

1546
01:04:01,639 --> 01:04:04,159
talking about how stable and healthy and blessed their relationships

1547
01:04:04,199 --> 01:04:07,360
are their fucking battlefields. They're not great. The more you

1548
01:04:07,400 --> 01:04:09,519
talk about how good something is on social media, the

1549
01:04:09,559 --> 01:04:11,159
worse it is. Period.

1550
01:04:11,280 --> 01:04:13,880
Speaker 2: I think that that that's pretty common knowledge and it

1551
01:04:13,960 --> 01:04:17,360
always is tracked. Yeah, and I don't know just for

1552
01:04:17,480 --> 01:04:19,639
other people's relationships, I never try to. I try to

1553
01:04:19,639 --> 01:04:21,599
not be like jealousbou what I see in other people's relationships,

1554
01:04:21,639 --> 01:04:23,559
and I'm like, people have their own problems. The amount

1555
01:04:23,599 --> 01:04:26,440
of people I have seen get divorced even by my age,

1556
01:04:27,360 --> 01:04:29,480
that like I thought, for all intents and purposes, had

1557
01:04:29,519 --> 01:04:32,760
like solid relationships that made sense, and they're like yeah,

1558
01:04:32,800 --> 01:04:35,079
no wors splitting up, Like it blows my mind. So

1559
01:04:35,159 --> 01:04:37,000
like it's weird to be jealous of other people's relationships

1560
01:04:37,000 --> 01:04:41,519
because like you literally have no idea people ever, Yeah

1561
01:04:41,679 --> 01:04:43,719
never ever, that's what we think about Gensor.

1562
01:04:43,480 --> 01:04:46,239
Speaker 1: That's what we think about and Tiabo on that, that's

1563
01:04:46,239 --> 01:04:48,400
what we think about. Gen Zy. Well, I love you

1564
01:04:48,400 --> 01:04:49,960
so much, Thank you for coming. Can you tell everyone

1565
01:04:50,000 --> 01:04:50,960
where they can follow you?

1566
01:04:51,119 --> 01:04:52,920
Speaker 2: Yes? I love you so much and I truly cannot

1567
01:04:52,920 --> 01:04:54,239
wait to be on this tour with you, Like it

1568
01:04:54,639 --> 01:04:57,079
just I get so excited to do it because I

1569
01:04:57,079 --> 01:04:59,599
know you're gonna be with men and like to have

1570
01:04:59,679 --> 01:05:02,119
your feedback and your advice, and it's just it's gonna

1571
01:05:02,159 --> 01:05:04,480
be so much fun. So you can follow me at

1572
01:05:04,519 --> 01:05:07,199
Raina dot Greenberg, get tickets to my tour at Raindogreenberg

1573
01:05:07,239 --> 01:05:09,599
dot com, and my podcast is Girls Gotta Eat Podcast.

1574
01:05:10,000 --> 01:05:10,719
Speaker 1: I love you so much.

1575
01:05:10,719 --> 01:05:11,599
Speaker 2: I love you so much.

1576
01:05:12,280 --> 01:05:14,639
Speaker 1: All right, besties, thanks for tuning in to this episode

1577
01:05:14,679 --> 01:05:16,119
of Talking Schmidt. We'll see you next week.