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<v Speaker 1>Helping leaders motivate their people to a higher level of

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<v Speaker 1>performance through strong human relations, team building and gola GV.

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<v Speaker 1>This is the seven Minute Leadership Podcast with your host

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<v Speaker 1>Paul Fellavledo.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello everyone, and welcome to the seven Minute Leadership Podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>It's episode three sixty six. Leadership doesn't start in boardrooms

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<v Speaker 2>or business books. It starts very early in life. And

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<v Speaker 2>today I want to walk you through the five leadership

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<v Speaker 2>styles that shaped the way I lead. Each one left

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<v Speaker 2>a permanent mark. Some taught me what to emulate, others

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<v Speaker 2>taught me what to avoid. But together they made me

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<v Speaker 2>the leader that I am today. First up, the sacrificial leader.

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<v Speaker 2>The very first leader I ever knew was my mom.

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<v Speaker 2>We didn't have much growing up. Money was tight, life

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<v Speaker 2>was hard, but my mother taught me the first and

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<v Speaker 2>most enduring lesson in leadership sacrifice. She would walk over

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<v Speaker 2>a mile to go to work, work all day, and

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<v Speaker 2>then walk home. She'd cook for me and my brother,

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<v Speaker 2>never a plate for herself, and then eat whatever leftovers

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<v Speaker 2>we didn't finish. That wasn't just parenting, that was leadership.

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<v Speaker 2>It taught me that leading isn't about being first in line,

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<v Speaker 2>It's about being last on purpose. She showed me that

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<v Speaker 2>real leadership gives it never takes. That lesson has never

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<v Speaker 2>left me. The next one, the compassionate commander. The next

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<v Speaker 2>major leadership influence came when I was in the Navy.

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<v Speaker 2>My company commander was the kind of leader that most

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<v Speaker 2>people only read about. He was kind, compassionate, and deeply

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<v Speaker 2>cared about the sailors under his command. But here's the key,

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<v Speaker 2>he also got the job done. He didn't confuse kindness

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<v Speaker 2>with weakness. He taught me that a leader can hold

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<v Speaker 2>the line and still have a heart. That it's possible

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<v Speaker 2>to lead with both strength and empathy. That kind of

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<v Speaker 2>leadership earns loyalty, not just compliance. The next one, the

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<v Speaker 2>relentless motivator. We're going to fast forward to a very

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<v Speaker 2>wild chapter of my life, selling knockoff perfume on the

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<v Speaker 2>streets of South Florida. Yes, you heard that right. It

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<v Speaker 2>was hot, humid, and exhausting. But my sales manager had

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<v Speaker 2>a spark in him that I'll never forget. He was

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<v Speaker 2>a true motivator. He could fire you up to go

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<v Speaker 2>out there and sell day after day, even when quitting

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<v Speaker 2>felt easy. From him, I learned that great leaders don't

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<v Speaker 2>just manage tasks, they ignite belief. He made me see

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<v Speaker 2>what I was cap belove, even when I couldn't see

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<v Speaker 2>it myself. And there is more on this chapter of

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<v Speaker 2>my life in my first book, The Seven Minute Leadership Handbook,

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<v Speaker 2>The Cautionary Tale. Then there's the one I don't name,

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<v Speaker 2>a leader I worked under who was cruel, dishonest, and unethical.

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<v Speaker 2>Everything about the way he led made people small. He

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<v Speaker 2>ruled by fear, manipulation in ego. And though I won't

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<v Speaker 2>tell you who he was or when I worked for him,

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<v Speaker 2>I'll tell you this. He was one of the greatest

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<v Speaker 2>teachers of my life because he taught me how not

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<v Speaker 2>to lead. That kind of leadership poisons teams, It crushes creativity,

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<v Speaker 2>and it burns people out. From him, I made a

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<v Speaker 2>lifelong vow if I was ever in a position to lead,

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<v Speaker 2>I'd choose character over control every time. And that brings

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<v Speaker 2>me to the servant style well I now live, which

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<v Speaker 2>is very simple my leadership style today. I lead through service.

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<v Speaker 2>I care deeply about my staff. I make sure that

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<v Speaker 2>they're okay, I make sure they're fed. I make sure

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<v Speaker 2>they have someone to turn to when they need help,

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<v Speaker 2>because sometimes that's the most important thing a leader can offer.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't sit in some tower barking orders. I lead

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<v Speaker 2>from within the team, not above it. I'm always available

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<v Speaker 2>to them, day or night. Servant Leadership isn't soft, it's strategic.

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<v Speaker 2>When people know you care, they'll go farther, faster, and

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<v Speaker 2>with more trust than you can imagine. I've seen it firsthand,

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<v Speaker 2>I've lived it, and I will never lead any other way.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'll be honest with you. This was hard and

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<v Speaker 2>emotional for me putting this episode together and revisiting all

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<v Speaker 2>these people in my mind and all the lessons that

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<v Speaker 2>they taught me. If there's one thing I want you

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<v Speaker 2>to take from this particular episode, it's this leadership isn't inherited.

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<v Speaker 2>It's absorbed. It's earned, and it's shaped by the people

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<v Speaker 2>we meet, the choices we make, and the experiences we survive.

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<v Speaker 2>So ask yourself what style shaped you? What style are

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<v Speaker 2>you passing on? And and will you be one of

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<v Speaker 2>the leaders that shape someone else during their leadership journey.

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<v Speaker 2>This has been the seven Minute Leadership Podcast, and I

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<v Speaker 2>thank you for listening.

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<v Speaker 1>For more Paul Fell of Alito Podcasts, visit paulfellowalito dot com.