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<v Speaker 1>What's good y'all. Hey, Hey, hey, welcome back to the

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<v Speaker 1>Heartest Soft Show. Before we get started, I just wanna

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<v Speaker 1>tell y'all a few things, or at least let y'all

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<v Speaker 1>know what's going on in here today. Right. It is

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<v Speaker 1>the day after the play party. It was an amazing night.

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<v Speaker 1>It was a great night. Vibes everywhere. Kingston Drinks was crazy,

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<v Speaker 1>and Eli, who was actually one of our dom tops

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<v Speaker 1>at Kingston Drinks, decided to stop one buy and do

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<v Speaker 1>an episode with me right to prepare us for Sex

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<v Speaker 1>down South, a convention that's going on in Atlanta September

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<v Speaker 1>fourth to September sixth, where Loun and I will be

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<v Speaker 1>a part of. Right. So we came in and we

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<v Speaker 1>spoke about a lot of things. There's gonna be some

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<v Speaker 1>surprises in there. Oh, they were surprising to me. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know about y'all. Y'all have the whole king community.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not sure if y'all gonna be surprised, but it

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<v Speaker 1>was uh yo, Eli's okay, he's he's that guy for real.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, we spoke about it. But the episode only

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<v Speaker 1>went by the a a hour and instead of giving

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<v Speaker 1>y'all just an hour episode, I decided that it might

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<v Speaker 1>be a good idea for you guys to get a snippet,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe about twenty minutes of the For the Love of

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<v Speaker 1>the Episode Yesterday episode that we did last week. So

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<v Speaker 1>I'm putting in after the Hour with Eli, I'm giving

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<v Speaker 1>y'all a twenty minute snippet of episode two of For

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<v Speaker 1>the Love of Yesterday. Maybe I'll give y'all half hour.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, y'all be good. I don't know if

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<v Speaker 1>y'all good girls, good guys, But yeah, I'm gonna give

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<v Speaker 1>y'all a half hour, you know what I'm saying. So

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<v Speaker 1>enjoy that and if you really want to hear the

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<v Speaker 1>full episode, because that episode was nuts, Okay nuts, It

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<v Speaker 1>was actually really good. It was such a good sequel

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<v Speaker 1>to the first episode. I'm hoping y'all enjoy that. But

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<v Speaker 1>y'all can go listen to the full episode. It's out

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<v Speaker 1>right now on Patreon. Y'all know Patreon dot com. Backslash

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<v Speaker 1>the Heart or Soft Show For the Love of Episode

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<v Speaker 1>Yesterday Episode two is up. Hm, what else do I

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<v Speaker 1>have to say? Oh, we just released the date of

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<v Speaker 1>our Halloween party. The Halloween party will be November first, Saturday,

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<v Speaker 1>November first. All right, it's already paid for, it's booked,

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<v Speaker 1>so get your flights going, get your Airbnb's. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>we're still thinking of the theme. We don't know what

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<v Speaker 1>the theme is yet. We came up with some ideas.

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<v Speaker 1>We're gonna, you know, finalize that, so you know, stay

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<v Speaker 1>tuned for that. But the play party date is Saturday,

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<v Speaker 1>November first, here in New York City. Pull on up

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<v Speaker 1>to the biggest party of the year. I think it's

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<v Speaker 1>the biggest party night of the year. I think Halloween.

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<v Speaker 1>But whatever, it's going to be the biggest Navy party

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<v Speaker 1>of the year. So pull your ass on up and

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<v Speaker 1>let's get it cracking, all right, I mean so now, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>without any further ado, here's me and Eli talking about

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<v Speaker 1>sex down South and a bunch of other stuff. That's

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<v Speaker 1>not what we're talking about. Bunch of other stuff. But

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<v Speaker 1>if you come in to six outside, I'll see you that.

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<v Speaker 1>That's September fourth through the sixth. I hope to see

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<v Speaker 1>y'all there peace. Can I ask you a question why

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<v Speaker 1>you don't never play with my nipples? I got nipples too.

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<v Speaker 1>It's my turn to get tied up knocking the headcuts though,

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<v Speaker 1>I got PTSD. Welcome the Heardest Soft where men speak.

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<v Speaker 1>So hopefully somebody will understand when you say freaky? What's

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<v Speaker 1>what's freaky? What what do you mean by freaky? If

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<v Speaker 1>I do this, you're not gonna tell your friends? Right

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<v Speaker 1>all right, everybody, after a very eventful game day play party,

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<v Speaker 1>very very eventful. Indeed, Eli the Naked Trumpet has come

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<v Speaker 1>to bless the Hardest Soft show as he blessed several

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<v Speaker 1>of our seamen or see women in the Nut Navy.

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<v Speaker 1>As we were saying, behind the scenes, if you are

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<v Speaker 1>not part of the Hardest Soft patreon, you miss a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of behind the scenes action that goes on. But

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<v Speaker 1>if you were at the game they play party, you

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<v Speaker 1>were able to see some of the behind the city.

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<v Speaker 1>I was about to say, somebody's name, my bad behind

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<v Speaker 1>the scenes, my bad action that we.

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<v Speaker 2>Have either oh man, I'm laughing at because I know

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<v Speaker 2>exactly what you're talking about, and the people that's not

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<v Speaker 2>part of the patreon, they can't see the feed, so

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<v Speaker 2>they have no idea what we're laughing at. But this

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<v Speaker 2>weekend was really good. It was a time of community

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<v Speaker 2>to hold space. I liked that there was a fembody

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<v Speaker 2>person given the consent speech and leading us into the play.

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<v Speaker 2>The Kingston Drinks was dope. I feel a little perturbed though. Man,

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<v Speaker 2>it was a whole. It was like seven or eight

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<v Speaker 2>people showed up with an inn NBA jersey.

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<v Speaker 3>Yo.

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<v Speaker 4>They all had numbers that on the back.

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<v Speaker 1>Yo.

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<v Speaker 2>These niggas had a coach yo. And so I was like, Yo,

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<v Speaker 2>where's my shirt? I was like, taholdn get one? And

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<v Speaker 2>they was like nah. I'm like, what fuck you mean?

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<v Speaker 1>They had a nut Navy basketball and we're gonna talk

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<v Speaker 1>about this in the Mad episode this week, right. They

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<v Speaker 1>had a Nut Navy Basketball Association group. They had a mascot,

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<v Speaker 1>they had a cheerleader, they had their players, and they

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<v Speaker 1>had a coach. Shout out to their coach. But if

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<v Speaker 1>he coached, what am I? Because I had a Lakers

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<v Speaker 1>jersey on you know what I'm saying. We had main

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<v Speaker 1>players there. Eli was a matter of fact talk about playing.

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<v Speaker 1>What were you doing at Kingston Drinks? What were you

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<v Speaker 1>what was your experience at Kings and Drinks?

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<v Speaker 2>So at Kingston Drinks, I was doing two things. Some

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<v Speaker 2>people asked me to play a song for them, so

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<v Speaker 2>I played, But I was doing electro play a sensation play.

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<v Speaker 2>So I turned myself into the conductor while I was

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<v Speaker 2>shocking people with my body and then using the wand

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<v Speaker 2>and some people did it allow people to shock me

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<v Speaker 2>with the wand and stuff. It was fun, but everybody

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<v Speaker 2>was really warm, welcome, in a lot of good conversations.

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<v Speaker 1>It was really good.

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<v Speaker 2>Bartender was nice and fun. She did not hold back

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<v Speaker 2>on the drinks. They were really stuffed.

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<v Speaker 1>Nice. So nice, good environment. When you said you played,

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<v Speaker 1>what does that mean?

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<v Speaker 2>I played my trumpet. So I played on trumpet on

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<v Speaker 2>a couple of people's volva and some people just wanted

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<v Speaker 2>just to hear me place. I played for them. But

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<v Speaker 2>that night at the actual party, because it was a conjunction,

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<v Speaker 2>it was a continuation, they was like, well, how does

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<v Speaker 2>it feel if I have no clothes on? So then

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<v Speaker 2>I did it for two or three people and they

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<v Speaker 2>left the bench white, so we had to clean it off.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah that's why I'm getting it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's what I mean when I say played, it

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<v Speaker 2>actually played the trumpet and because they were laying against

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<v Speaker 2>the metal bench, the vibrations were magnified that she said, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, yeah, it was you and a couple of

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<v Speaker 2>other people. Yeah, thank you for my birthday song, You're Welcome.

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<v Speaker 2>So yeah, they asked me to really, so.

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<v Speaker 1>You actually put the trumpet on the vulva area.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, some they were laying doggy styles, so some people

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<v Speaker 2>got it on the ass crack. Some people got it,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, wherever they asked for. It was the ass crack,

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<v Speaker 2>the volva where specifically they wanted it, but they had

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<v Speaker 2>a good time.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you ever been drowned off off off the playing

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<v Speaker 1>anybody ever like flooded your trumpet? Because when you when

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<v Speaker 1>you hear about it, right, you don't you just think, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>he's playing the a trumpet on somebody's ship, But.

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<v Speaker 2>It really works vibrates, so it's just like a vibrator

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<v Speaker 2>and each person is different. So my last show in

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<v Speaker 2>Baltimore was July THIRTI July eleventh, a young lady got

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<v Speaker 2>on stage and she almost busted my lip. She grabbed

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<v Speaker 2>my trumpet and then she's like started to close her legs.

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<v Speaker 2>I had to keep her legs open, so it was

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<v Speaker 2>a lot. And then when she got up, her chair

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<v Speaker 2>was messed up, but we were on stage performing. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>it has happened before, not directly like in my face

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<v Speaker 2>or anything but the trumpet, the bell of the trumpet

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<v Speaker 2>to be wet, or a lot of times they start

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<v Speaker 2>shaking and they have to back up so I don't

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<v Speaker 2>bust my lips.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, it's wow. It's intense.

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<v Speaker 2>It's intense, and because you don't, you don't really expect it,

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<v Speaker 2>and it has as more than one effect. The first

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<v Speaker 2>effect is like when Usher sings somebody like it's that,

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<v Speaker 2>oh my god, you're singing to me, and then it's like,

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<v Speaker 2>oh shit, you put it down here and I can

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<v Speaker 2>then feel something. Right, So it is and then if

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<v Speaker 2>someone is a fan of yours, it magnifies that that

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<v Speaker 2>feeling they have.

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<v Speaker 4>But it's amazing to watch out tons.

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<v Speaker 2>Of videos of people well literally orgasming from it, and

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<v Speaker 2>it's it's a beautiful experience for them and for me.

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<v Speaker 2>And so now even though I don't want to always

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<v Speaker 2>do it, people like they're kind of pissed if I

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<v Speaker 2>don't do it at a show, right, just give the

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<v Speaker 2>people they want. But it's definitely a dope time.

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<v Speaker 1>Give me a pull, the pull of the mic closer

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<v Speaker 1>to you right there? You go, all right, speaking about poll.

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<v Speaker 4>But it's a lot of that man giving out.

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<v Speaker 1>No can you do this. I know you're paying sexual

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<v Speaker 1>I know you don't. You don't what is it called?

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<v Speaker 2>Uh?

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<v Speaker 1>You deal with whoever you like, whoever you got to

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<v Speaker 1>enerjury with. Have you ever done the trumpet on a guy?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh listen all shit so at Folsom Street East last

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<v Speaker 2>year and this year and it's sex down South. I've

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<v Speaker 2>done it on male body people.

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<v Speaker 4>They love it.

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<v Speaker 2>So it's two ways you can do it. Well three

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<v Speaker 2>it's the gooch your asshole, or it's the actual shaft.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't play a trumpet into my ass bro'.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, I wasn't asking.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just not me. I'm this nigga, but I'm just like,

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<v Speaker 1>you can't. What are you bent over and you just

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<v Speaker 1>blowing like Lady sings the Blues.

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<v Speaker 4>It can be It can be long enough, so it

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<v Speaker 4>can be anything.

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<v Speaker 2>What you have to remember is like, if you use

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<v Speaker 2>a bidet that shit just feel good to say it.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't And this is what dudes get real weird. I

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<v Speaker 2>know you don't have this issue, but niggas get real weird.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like, Yo, don't act like when you use a bidet,

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<v Speaker 2>don't feel good if your girl if you if she

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<v Speaker 2>if you're taking a shower with a woman, she washes

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<v Speaker 2>your ass, the shit feels good. So it's the same

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<v Speaker 2>principle of the vibration of the trumpet. So like you

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<v Speaker 2>can blow on a woman and that shit feels good.

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<v Speaker 2>So you can feel the air coming out of the trumpet,

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<v Speaker 2>you can feel the vibration when the sound is coming out,

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<v Speaker 2>and you can feel the vibration of the actual horn,

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<v Speaker 2>so it feels good. Like for dudes, when we rub

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<v Speaker 2>our gooch, that shit feels good. When a woman looks

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<v Speaker 2>your taint, you know, that shit feels good. So it's

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<v Speaker 2>the same thing. If she put a vibrator there or trumpet,

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<v Speaker 2>it's the same. So one dude he actually put the

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<v Speaker 2>put the head on the bell of the trumpet and

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<v Speaker 2>I play, and this nigga was like, oh my god.

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<v Speaker 2>Now I was just like just don't come and come

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<v Speaker 2>ye horn.

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<v Speaker 1>And nobody ever tried to like start stroking the trumpet.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, I've never been in that position. That's the

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<v Speaker 4>one thing I can say. No one is ever.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean ladies, but no one with the filus is

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<v Speaker 2>the but no one with the penises trying, right that

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<v Speaker 1>That would be fucking nuts. And your list is right there.

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<v Speaker 1>That's that's nuts because you got to keep the notes going.

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<v Speaker 2>So if I can find somebody has the perfect size

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<v Speaker 2>to fit, I will do that ship for it.

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<v Speaker 1>Trying.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'll use my flui horn because it's a bigger

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<v Speaker 2>bet and let them the horn. That might be dope,

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<v Speaker 2>that might be something that fire. Have you ever had

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<v Speaker 2>it done to you the trumpet?

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<v Speaker 4>No?

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<v Speaker 2>Actually I have not. I can play it on myself,

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<v Speaker 2>but it's not the same. So I've done it to myself.

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<v Speaker 2>I haven't had someone do it to me.

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<v Speaker 1>How you played on your I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>Look you just I saw you just put you know,

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<v Speaker 2>hold it up like this, Yo?

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<v Speaker 1>How did you? First of all, did you leave that

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<v Speaker 1>ship downstairs? Thin? You can bring that weapon into my house?

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<v Speaker 2>No, the trump is in there.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about that dick,

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<v Speaker 1>this nigga nigga ship. Bro. I'm chilling on the couch

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<v Speaker 1>minding my damn business. He's over here. I want to say,

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<v Speaker 1>three women giving him neck at the same time.

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<v Speaker 2>It was four and the other one was sitting in

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<v Speaker 2>my face. She was she was like in my nipples,

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<v Speaker 2>So it was technically five. It was the whole basketball team.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why they said they had to reorganize their play.

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<v Speaker 2>That's that's why they were in the zoom comments talking ship. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>that's what they're talking about.

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<v Speaker 1>The man stands up. Yo, stay away from my girl,

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<v Speaker 1>that's all. I stay away from my fiance. That's nuts, bro.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you get a lot of fetishizing when it comes

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<v Speaker 1>to you? You know?

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<v Speaker 2>So I want to go back to so I did

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<v Speaker 2>talk to you, and let me tell you you what. No, listen,

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<v Speaker 2>we have the best conversations about you because she'd be

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<v Speaker 2>wanting to shock to shoot out you, so that we

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<v Speaker 2>were talking about electro.

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<v Speaker 4>Play and so she's like, did you bring your kid?

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<v Speaker 2>And every time I say yes, I end up getting

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<v Speaker 2>busy and she we never have a chance because like

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<v Speaker 2>she wants to shock you in a way that I

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<v Speaker 2>don't think y'all have the attachment. So I have the

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<v Speaker 2>one where I can turn her into the conductor and

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<v Speaker 2>she can touch you and shock you.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah yeah, the one that you put the plate on

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<v Speaker 1>your skin. Yeah yeah, the only thing about that Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so we were talking about that, but we just

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<v Speaker 2>didn't get a chance but yeah, she wants to like

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<v Speaker 2>she enjoys. But she was like, I want to shock that.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, you actually smiling. So I was laughing

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<v Speaker 2>at it. At the party. She was talking about that, say,

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<v Speaker 2>this's the thing.

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<v Speaker 1>Is about the electro play. When I put the plate

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<v Speaker 1>on my skin, right and I try to touch somebody,

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<v Speaker 1>I get shocked too. Am I doing?

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<v Speaker 5>What?

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<v Speaker 1>Am I doing wrong? Am I not? Because I kind

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<v Speaker 1>of graized the skin? Should I actually know it needs

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<v Speaker 1>to be?

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<v Speaker 2>I can, well, yeah, it has to be fully flush

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<v Speaker 2>to your skin because if it comes up and down,

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<v Speaker 2>that's not what you want. You shouldn't be able to

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<v Speaker 2>shock yourself when you're the conductor, so it has to

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<v Speaker 2>be grounded to your skin. Everybody that touches you should

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<v Speaker 2>receive a shock, but you should not be able to

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<v Speaker 2>shock yourself, right.

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<v Speaker 1>That's yeah, that's what's going on with me. Bro. When

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<v Speaker 1>I put the plate on my skin and then I

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<v Speaker 1>go touch somebody, it's a wap and I feel it.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, oh shit, Yeah, you can feel some residual

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<v Speaker 2>of the contact, but you shouldn't be like you can

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<v Speaker 2>feel it going through you, but you shouldn't be like getting.

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<v Speaker 1>Zapped like I'm getting zapped. Okay, super zap third rail?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you have it turned up too high? Probably?

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<v Speaker 2>So start always at the lowest and the front of

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<v Speaker 2>your hand is not as conductive. You touch somebody with

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<v Speaker 2>the back and you can feel the vibrations. As you

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<v Speaker 2>turn the intensity up, it feels more like a shock.

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<v Speaker 2>So as long as it's under a certain threshold, it

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<v Speaker 2>feels like a vibration. Once you hit it past a

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<v Speaker 2>certain threshold, then it starts to feel.

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<v Speaker 4>Like an actual shock. Yeah, yeah, you know, you gotta

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<v Speaker 4>fuck it. Yeah, you jump off.

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<v Speaker 2>You definitely talking about fetishizing you and your body. It's

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<v Speaker 2>or whatever about you. So it's interesting in this space.

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<v Speaker 2>I will use black and white, and I will use

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<v Speaker 2>like men and women because it is very important to

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<v Speaker 2>have the dichotomy between the two. So with white people,

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<v Speaker 2>because of the history of it, it feels differently like,

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<v Speaker 2>it feels heavier, it feels more consumptive. You can tell

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<v Speaker 2>they want to consume your body, your mind, your heart,

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<v Speaker 2>all of that. So with white men and white women,

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<v Speaker 2>it's very much that a lot of cucking like white

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<v Speaker 2>men will like, you know, have sex with my partner

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<v Speaker 2>while watch and the white women are like I'd rather

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<v Speaker 2>fuck you than him, and they enjoy that degradation between

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<v Speaker 2>the two. So that feels a little different because it's

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<v Speaker 2>more like you know, the slavery slave of in America.

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<v Speaker 2>With black men and women, they're just more like a

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<v Speaker 2>size king or a size queen. So it even though

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<v Speaker 2>it's about the same body parts and it's about my complexion,

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<v Speaker 2>it's not the same because we still have the same

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<v Speaker 2>lived and shared experience of being under the you know,

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<v Speaker 2>living under colonization. So one when it's deal with white people,

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<v Speaker 2>especially white men, it's more about their power and their money.

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<v Speaker 2>They want to own and control you in that way. Well,

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<v Speaker 2>white women, even though they say it in a way

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<v Speaker 2>where it's like they're praising and worshiping our essence, it's

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<v Speaker 2>still very consumptive. Like if you listen to or read

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<v Speaker 2>the book That Delectable Negro, it gives a very clear

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<v Speaker 2>picture of what.

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<v Speaker 4>That is and how they do it.

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<v Speaker 2>So it feels more of a weight for a delectable Negro.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's an interesting title.

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<v Speaker 2>Well because it talks about cannibalism, and even though the

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<v Speaker 2>white European said we were the cannibals, they were they

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<v Speaker 2>were literally eating and boiling Black Americans like physically wow,

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<v Speaker 2>and you know, consuming there so other things, so it

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<v Speaker 2>wasn't just.

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<v Speaker 1>Like in America.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, they would boil the ears and eat them like

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<v Speaker 2>it's it's so many accounts from the actual slave owners

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<v Speaker 2>and then different slaves, and that's what that book covers.

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<v Speaker 2>So it when it's from them, it can feel that way,

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<v Speaker 2>even though they can say it in love. But when

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<v Speaker 2>it's from black and brown people or tossing this people,

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<v Speaker 2>that's when it feels like love. Because we generally don't

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<v Speaker 2>call ourselves big black cops. Like black people may say

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<v Speaker 2>kiss my black ass, like that's that's the most black

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<v Speaker 2>times we say we're black. Other than that, we just

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<v Speaker 2>they don't move through the world like saying I'm black

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<v Speaker 2>because we fucking can see that. So it doesn't feel

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<v Speaker 2>the same. So I actually enjoy it more when it's

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<v Speaker 2>from our people.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you ever had a scene where something was said

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<v Speaker 1>or done in relation to fetishizing you or something that

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<v Speaker 1>turned you off? This is what I want to ask you.

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<v Speaker 2>The answer is yes. So recently I started working with

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<v Speaker 2>all people and I was on we were on I

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<v Speaker 2>have the video. I watched it back, and we were

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<v Speaker 2>having sex. And I'm not going to say their name

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<v Speaker 2>because whether they meant anything about it is neither he

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<v Speaker 2>nor there.

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<v Speaker 4>But I felt the way.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, oh my god, I'm enjoying your big dick.

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<v Speaker 2>And I was like, okay, it's like, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 2>it feels so good.

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<v Speaker 4>All your dick is so big.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, they're not going to say it's like,

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<v Speaker 2>oh man, you're big dick. And I was like, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>the he's big.

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<v Speaker 4>It's like okay, it's like, oh your big cock.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, okay, he's the last one they didn't

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<v Speaker 2>throw black. And they's like, oh my god, I'm just

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<v Speaker 2>enjoying your big black cock. And I was like, there

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<v Speaker 2>we go. Oh fucke. I was like, you know what,

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<v Speaker 2>I know, this is what it is like to be mad.

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<v Speaker 2>I had to deal with it. I was upset and

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<v Speaker 2>I talked to my therapist about it, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>you know what, to be mad at what someone's attracted

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<v Speaker 2>to me about is what is I just have to

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<v Speaker 2>own that. It's like if you're if you're a human,

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<v Speaker 2>you have certain body parts, people are going to be

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<v Speaker 2>attracted to those. I'm like, it is what it is.

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<v Speaker 2>But yeah, it turn me off. I was like, fuck,

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<v Speaker 2>did you keep going?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>Man, it was work.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Like we was on set shooting the scene. I

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<v Speaker 2>was just like, wow, but here we are. And you know,

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<v Speaker 2>to that point, it's always a sensitive very and I

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<v Speaker 2>recognized that the only people in the world that will

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<v Speaker 2>always be protected and can cry wolf at any point

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<v Speaker 2>in time are, though that particular, white women. So it's

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<v Speaker 2>a it's a space that I, you know, somatically am

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<v Speaker 2>like am I safer? Which is just real, like imant

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<v Speaker 2>telling all the black men that that died from the

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<v Speaker 2>South are a real thing. And even though we're past

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<v Speaker 2>that point, technically, that's still a real thing.

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<v Speaker 1>What is the after kid for you after something like that? Like,

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<v Speaker 1>what do you do for yourself? You know, you do scenes,

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<v Speaker 1>you fetishize, you service a lot of people. I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>say at the party, man, you was highly sought after.

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<v Speaker 1>Is there time a sense of decompression that you need

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<v Speaker 1>to go through? Like what do you do after something

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<v Speaker 1>like that?

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<v Speaker 2>So to be directing, to be very candid, it's a

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<v Speaker 2>couple of things. The irony or the serendipity of this

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<v Speaker 2>is so full circle funny to me. So four years

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<v Speaker 2>ago I went.

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<v Speaker 1>To that's the biggest snort I've ever heard in these headphones.

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<v Speaker 4>That's why you are headphone, So everything is magnified.

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<v Speaker 2>Four years ago, I went to a conference name called

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<v Speaker 2>Sextown like this season are wearing Sex down South. I

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<v Speaker 2>met my teacher, Amina Peterson, and she gave me a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of items on what I need to do for myself.

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<v Speaker 2>I went to the school Consent for Wheeler Consent doctor

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<v Speaker 2>Betty Martin. I took tick Trauma Informed Consensual Kink, and

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<v Speaker 2>then I took authentic consent from Amina Peterson. And what

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<v Speaker 2>I learned from those courses helped me learn to take

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<v Speaker 2>what I need for myself. So after care for me

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<v Speaker 2>is actually knowing what I want and asking for and

421
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<v Speaker 2>getting it. So whether it's hugs, water, juice, drink, I

422
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<v Speaker 2>require a day of solitude. I go to the spa.

423
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<v Speaker 2>I take myself to eat like dungeness crabs and very

424
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<v Speaker 2>specific things. So I give myself. I indulge myself in

425
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<v Speaker 2>all of my vices, if you will, and that recharges

426
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<v Speaker 2>me because when I am working, regardless of the situation,

427
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<v Speaker 2>I am fully open to the persons that I'm working with,

428
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<v Speaker 2>whatever their desire is.

429
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<v Speaker 4>We're going to talk about it. I'm gonna try my

430
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<v Speaker 4>best to fulfill it.

431
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<v Speaker 2>So I got dealt with the different people I dealt

432
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<v Speaker 2>with through this weekend. I was with the young lady

433
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<v Speaker 2>that I'm dating, and I told her. I was like,

434
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<v Speaker 2>because I came up. I flew from Atlanta and I

435
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<v Speaker 2>been staying with her for all week, but we haven't

436
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<v Speaker 2>done anything. We just been chilling and I was like, yo,

437
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<v Speaker 2>I really really want to do these things. I said

438
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<v Speaker 2>with met bussy, like porn blank, and she was like shows.

439
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<v Speaker 2>After the consented speech, we dipped upstairs. We had, we had,

440
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<v Speaker 2>we did what we did, and we came back downstairs

441
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<v Speaker 2>and she was like, I want to go again. So

442
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<v Speaker 2>she got two rounds and then that's when I was like, shit,

443
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<v Speaker 2>I'm tired.

444
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<v Speaker 4>I'm about to go leave.

445
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<v Speaker 2>I come upstairs and then you're like hey, and then

446
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<v Speaker 2>I see the basketball team. So we go back DOWNSTAIRSS

447
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<v Speaker 2>five on one and then I handle business and then

448
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<v Speaker 2>I was like, well, I'm ready to go. I got

449
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<v Speaker 2>into uber, I went back home and showered and fucking

450
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<v Speaker 2>went to sleep, and then yesterday I spent the day

451
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<v Speaker 2>in solitude. But I trained my body for this because

452
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<v Speaker 2>Amana Peterson told me, you have to treat sex like

453
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<v Speaker 2>the Olympics. And I was like, what the fuck does

454
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<v Speaker 2>that mean? And she was like athletes trained every day

455
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<v Speaker 2>for one event. They put everything into it every day

456
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<v Speaker 2>for one event. And so I started looking at why

457
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<v Speaker 2>men have, you know, issues with sex and.

458
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<v Speaker 4>Like weak pelvic floor.

459
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<v Speaker 5>This.

460
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<v Speaker 2>So I literally go to the gym and I work

461
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<v Speaker 2>on all the muscles that take you to get maintain erection,

462
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<v Speaker 2>my heart, my physical Like I run, I do a

463
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<v Speaker 2>one minute, I do on a mile and nine minutes

464
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<v Speaker 2>to make sure that my heart is healthy, that I

465
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<v Speaker 2>can breathe, like all those things. I got to make

466
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<v Speaker 2>sure my hip flexes aren't tight because I ejaculated five

467
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<v Speaker 2>times that night at the party, and I had six

468
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<v Speaker 2>more than five times, but I had five ejaculatory experiences.

469
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<v Speaker 2>And so it's a lot.

470
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<v Speaker 1>Of work, Jesus Christ.

471
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<v Speaker 2>But because I treated like the Olympics, and I control

472
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<v Speaker 2>my time in my day, I have the time to

473
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<v Speaker 2>relax and go to the spa, and when I fly

474
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<v Speaker 2>back to Atlanta, I'm gonna take two days and chill.

475
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<v Speaker 2>So I have the ability to do those things. But

476
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<v Speaker 2>can you worth it?

477
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<v Speaker 1>Can you control when you ejaculate?

478
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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes yes, the irony is when I'm concerned about ejaculated

479
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<v Speaker 2>and I won't if I don't think about it's like,

480
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<v Speaker 2>damn it, that's when you do this. So it really depends.

481
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<v Speaker 2>But for the most part, what I've learned about coitus

482
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<v Speaker 2>with volva owners, penetration is not the pend ultimate pleasure.

483
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<v Speaker 2>So as long as you stay engaged, how long you

484
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<v Speaker 2>last or don't last, it doesn't really matter. When they

485
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<v Speaker 2>get their desired outcome right, they want to have mo orgasm,

486
00:23:08.720 --> 00:23:09.920
<v Speaker 2>so it works out.

487
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<v Speaker 1>You called yourself a whole. Ye, what is the meaning

488
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<v Speaker 1>of w to you? You like that? You like that?

489
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<v Speaker 2>Oh?

490
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<v Speaker 1>Man?

491
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<v Speaker 2>It In short, it means two things. So I'm a thought,

492
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<v Speaker 2>which means I'm an ethic I ethically have fun with people.

493
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<v Speaker 2>So that means I'm not gonna lie about who I'm

494
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<v Speaker 2>having fun with and how and what configuration. So that's

495
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<v Speaker 2>one way of being a whole. Another way is you know.

496
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<v Speaker 1>So you just fuck people as much as you want.

497
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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, but that's not like that's ethical.

498
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<v Speaker 1>Home Now you said it. You said it in black person,

499
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<v Speaker 1>and tell you I said it in negro.

500
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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I do. I have sex with whomever I want,

501
00:23:51.480 --> 00:23:53.440
<v Speaker 2>but I don't lie about it. The other side about

502
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<v Speaker 2>being a whole is like you know, if there's something

503
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<v Speaker 2>that you need or want, Like I ho in a

504
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<v Speaker 2>way a lot of my clients. I go to the

505
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<v Speaker 2>house and I clean like I clean, I put I

506
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<v Speaker 2>put together the ika frontiture. One lady in underwear, another

507
00:24:04.200 --> 00:24:05.960
<v Speaker 2>lady just like we just clean butt naked. So I

508
00:24:06.000 --> 00:24:09.839
<v Speaker 2>do nude housemaid service. One lady, I wash her dishes,

509
00:24:09.960 --> 00:24:12.440
<v Speaker 2>fold and dry, wash, dry and fold her clothes.

510
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<v Speaker 4>Another lady.

511
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<v Speaker 2>I literally I feed her cat. So haween is showing

512
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<v Speaker 2>up in a way that people want to need. That's

513
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<v Speaker 2>what I would call it. You feed her cat naked,

514
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<v Speaker 2>feed the cat, change the little show.

515
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<v Speaker 1>You show up, take my clothes off, you take off

516
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<v Speaker 1>your clothes, you go get a box of kiddy food,

517
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<v Speaker 1>and you bend over and feed the cat. Is she

518
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<v Speaker 1>standing there, She's sitting there.

519
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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes she's in the living room, Sometimes she's in her bread.

520
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<v Speaker 2>I feed her cat. I make her tea like I

521
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<v Speaker 2>don't talk to her. Like she has very specific instructions.

522
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<v Speaker 2>I come in, I feed, I take off my clothes.

523
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<v Speaker 2>I feed the cat. I make her her favorite tea.

524
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<v Speaker 2>I set it on the table. I ring the bell

525
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<v Speaker 2>when it's done. And then I get after I do

526
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<v Speaker 2>all my chores, I get dressed, and she doesn't want

527
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<v Speaker 2>me to say anything.

528
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<v Speaker 4>So everyone has a different thing they want.

529
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<v Speaker 1>You go to somebody's house, you get undressed and you clean.

530
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<v Speaker 1>They crib butt ass naked and that's all they want. Yeah,

531
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<v Speaker 1>does it ever, because I've seen these poems. No, no, no, that's

532
00:25:17.319 --> 00:25:18.880
<v Speaker 1>what the men. I've seen it with the women do it.

533
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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes sometimes there's other things. But when I tell you,

534
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<v Speaker 2>like one lady, she specifically wanted me to whisper in

535
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<v Speaker 2>her ear as I gave her a massage fully button neck,

536
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<v Speaker 2>and that's all she wanted. And so because a lot

537
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<v Speaker 2>of times what you have to remember is we that

538
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<v Speaker 2>own the penis will be in a relationship and sometimes

539
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<v Speaker 2>the actual coloring, the massage, and like, we always want

540
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<v Speaker 2>to get something in return. So there's a power that

541
00:25:40.400 --> 00:25:44.000
<v Speaker 2>you feel when you can say do exactly this and

542
00:25:44.039 --> 00:25:45.960
<v Speaker 2>you get exactly that and the person's happy to do it.

543
00:25:46.599 --> 00:25:49.839
<v Speaker 2>So that's my type of homing. One lady literally we

544
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<v Speaker 2>was at the party she was she took my leash.

545
00:25:52.240 --> 00:25:54.559
<v Speaker 2>Her girlfriend said, give you your leash and then get

546
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<v Speaker 2>on your knees in front of her, and that's all

547
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<v Speaker 2>I did.

548
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<v Speaker 4>Her girlfriend was so happy. She's like, oh my god.

549
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<v Speaker 2>She was mad that she that she like made me

550
00:26:02.240 --> 00:26:04.839
<v Speaker 2>do it in that configuration, but she was also happy

551
00:26:05.279 --> 00:26:06.599
<v Speaker 2>and she had the best time. All I did was

552
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<v Speaker 2>get on my knees for her and just didn't sit there,

553
00:26:08.440 --> 00:26:10.359
<v Speaker 2>and she rubbed my head when she was happy.

554
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<v Speaker 1>Is that puppy play?

555
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<v Speaker 4>It's pet play?

556
00:26:12.640 --> 00:26:15.279
<v Speaker 2>Pet play, yeah, because whatever animal they want you to

557
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<v Speaker 2>be is That's why I'm not saying puppy play is

558
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<v Speaker 2>more pet play, because that's what kind of animals.

559
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<v Speaker 1>Can you be?

560
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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I am a wolf, but I've been a dog,

561
00:26:21.319 --> 00:26:23.359
<v Speaker 2>I've been a cow, I've been a horse. Like one

562
00:26:23.400 --> 00:26:27.039
<v Speaker 2>lady rides me around her house. You like, I walk

563
00:26:27.079 --> 00:26:28.119
<v Speaker 2>around and she gets on my back?

564
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<v Speaker 1>What do you mean?

565
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<v Speaker 4>I get on all fours?

566
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<v Speaker 1>Do you do? You do? You?

567
00:26:33.920 --> 00:26:34.119
<v Speaker 5>Nay?

568
00:26:34.279 --> 00:26:36.160
<v Speaker 2>When you're in a pet mode, you don't use words.

569
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<v Speaker 2>You can't talk, so I do whatever the horse does not.

570
00:26:43.440 --> 00:26:45.119
<v Speaker 1>You can't. You can't come here and not give me

571
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<v Speaker 1>a name.

572
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<v Speaker 2>I mean, it's look, it's fun though, yo. It's it's like,

573
00:26:52.279 --> 00:26:55.039
<v Speaker 2>you got to understand how much fun this is. People

574
00:26:55.079 --> 00:26:59.160
<v Speaker 2>are getting there having their best pleasure in their most

575
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<v Speaker 2>authentic way, and and they're doing it in a sense

576
00:27:01.960 --> 00:27:04.279
<v Speaker 2>of sovereignty and autonomy, and that's what makes it special

577
00:27:04.319 --> 00:27:07.000
<v Speaker 2>for them.

578
00:27:07.039 --> 00:27:19.160
<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry, yo, you know what. I love having fun?

579
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<v Speaker 4>Bro, No, I can tell you're always a big kid.

580
00:27:21.359 --> 00:27:24.319
<v Speaker 1>That's what sex is, bro, It's fun. That's what role

581
00:27:24.400 --> 00:27:27.279
<v Speaker 1>playing is. That's what kink is fun. Like, we got

582
00:27:27.359 --> 00:27:30.079
<v Speaker 1>enough stress in our regular lives. We got enough stress

583
00:27:30.119 --> 00:27:31.480
<v Speaker 1>every more we wake up, you think about what you

584
00:27:31.519 --> 00:27:33.480
<v Speaker 1>gotta do. You might got kids, you gotta work, you

585
00:27:33.599 --> 00:27:37.440
<v Speaker 1>got responsibilities. Being able to be your true self, let

586
00:27:37.519 --> 00:27:39.160
<v Speaker 1>all of that shit go and just express and be

587
00:27:39.200 --> 00:27:41.240
<v Speaker 1>who the fuck you wouldn't be. That shit is fied bro. So,

588
00:27:41.480 --> 00:27:46.119
<v Speaker 1>although I laugh, that's an experience. Like maybe people might

589
00:27:46.160 --> 00:27:47.960
<v Speaker 1>not want to be black beauty as far as the

590
00:27:48.000 --> 00:27:50.440
<v Speaker 1>horse right, or might not want to be whatever, but

591
00:27:50.480 --> 00:27:53.039
<v Speaker 1>there are things that we all might do. They say, like, Yo,

592
00:27:53.119 --> 00:27:54.599
<v Speaker 1>I never thought I was gonna be get this off.

593
00:27:55.160 --> 00:27:56.920
<v Speaker 1>I never thought I'd be free enough to you know

594
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<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying to the fact that you're able to do.

595
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<v Speaker 2>That service even like yes, so some of the things

596
00:28:02.079 --> 00:28:04.839
<v Speaker 2>that they're saying in the chat, some of them felt good,

597
00:28:04.920 --> 00:28:07.319
<v Speaker 2>just because they got what they asked for. They literally

598
00:28:07.400 --> 00:28:08.440
<v Speaker 2>was like will you do this? And I was like

599
00:28:08.480 --> 00:28:11.200
<v Speaker 2>sure with a smile, And so that's part of it.

600
00:28:12.000 --> 00:28:14.359
<v Speaker 2>I feel bad for the dudes that stay fully dressed

601
00:28:14.359 --> 00:28:15.559
<v Speaker 2>because like they missed all the action.

602
00:28:16.440 --> 00:28:18.119
<v Speaker 1>I mean, I kind of think that's my fault a

603
00:28:18.160 --> 00:28:21.240
<v Speaker 1>little bit, you know. I say, let me tell you

604
00:28:21.279 --> 00:28:22.759
<v Speaker 1>why we think about the themes. Well, let me get

605
00:28:22.759 --> 00:28:24.160
<v Speaker 1>this so real quick and then you can tell me

606
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<v Speaker 1>why it's not. The themes kind of should lead put

607
00:28:28.200 --> 00:28:33.880
<v Speaker 1>you in the space of something sensuality the themes right,

608
00:28:33.920 --> 00:28:37.839
<v Speaker 1>And I in my mind was like, maybe this sports

609
00:28:37.880 --> 00:28:41.279
<v Speaker 1>theme wasn't something that would get people into that mind space,

610
00:28:41.319 --> 00:28:45.519
<v Speaker 1>into that you know, sensual space. People was wearing their

611
00:28:45.599 --> 00:28:50.119
<v Speaker 1>shorts and their jerseys. That's not necessarily the sexiest outfit, right,

612
00:28:50.240 --> 00:28:53.000
<v Speaker 1>So at what point do they go from that? Especially

613
00:28:53.079 --> 00:28:56.680
<v Speaker 1>as a novice, because you hido, people who do this,

614
00:28:57.440 --> 00:29:00.000
<v Speaker 1>y'all ain't given fuck. Y'all came about your jersey, y'all

615
00:29:00.039 --> 00:29:01.880
<v Speaker 1>got right to it. It is what it is. But

616
00:29:01.960 --> 00:29:04.519
<v Speaker 1>people who are more novice or a middle you know,

617
00:29:04.599 --> 00:29:08.960
<v Speaker 1>on on a play scale, might have needed to be

618
00:29:09.160 --> 00:29:12.400
<v Speaker 1>physically in something to be able to become that character

619
00:29:12.839 --> 00:29:15.160
<v Speaker 1>and me as the person who is the I guess

620
00:29:15.160 --> 00:29:17.200
<v Speaker 1>they calling me the general manager. Now since I'm not

621
00:29:17.240 --> 00:29:21.839
<v Speaker 1>the coach, I should have foresaw that and either gave

622
00:29:21.839 --> 00:29:26.519
<v Speaker 1>instruction or make sure that the theme was something that

623
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<v Speaker 1>it would have been easier for them to fall into that.

624
00:29:29.079 --> 00:29:32.920
<v Speaker 2>But what are you thinking? So I can I agree

625
00:29:32.920 --> 00:29:35.799
<v Speaker 2>with your sentiment. I understand what you're saying. The reason

626
00:29:35.839 --> 00:29:37.640
<v Speaker 2>why I give you a little a little bit of pushback,

627
00:29:37.839 --> 00:29:43.039
<v Speaker 2>and I'll offer this everyone who listens to this podcast,

628
00:29:43.440 --> 00:29:44.039
<v Speaker 2>they see.

629
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<v Speaker 4>The maturation from where you started to.

630
00:29:45.559 --> 00:29:46.119
<v Speaker 2>Where you are.

631
00:29:46.640 --> 00:29:48.240
<v Speaker 4>They hear how you speak.

632
00:29:49.200 --> 00:29:51.039
<v Speaker 2>And they come to the party because they're looking for freedom.

633
00:29:51.079 --> 00:29:53.400
<v Speaker 2>Freedom is something that we have to get permission to self.

634
00:29:53.440 --> 00:29:56.519
<v Speaker 2>So you've done, You've laid the groundwork, You've given the

635
00:29:56.599 --> 00:29:59.160
<v Speaker 2>safe container, all the different things that vetting formed the

636
00:29:59.160 --> 00:30:02.680
<v Speaker 2>process that people have to go through. But people, especially

637
00:30:02.680 --> 00:30:05.599
<v Speaker 2>black men, have to give permission to themselves because we're

638
00:30:05.599 --> 00:30:09.319
<v Speaker 2>coming to a space where it's not like outside. The

639
00:30:09.359 --> 00:30:12.480
<v Speaker 2>women are already halfnked or neckd and they they're they're

640
00:30:12.519 --> 00:30:13.319
<v Speaker 2>not even aggressive.

641
00:30:13.359 --> 00:30:15.880
<v Speaker 4>They're inviting all these things that in New York.

642
00:30:15.920 --> 00:30:19.599
<v Speaker 2>You know, that's not what we're used to outside, especially

643
00:30:19.960 --> 00:30:22.440
<v Speaker 2>yet like like women will up here, like you can

644
00:30:22.440 --> 00:30:24.559
<v Speaker 2>get stab like saying to a woman like I'm not

645
00:30:24.640 --> 00:30:27.519
<v Speaker 2>no no no, no, no, no, no funny shit. And

646
00:30:27.559 --> 00:30:29.200
<v Speaker 2>it's because it's because of some of the shit that

647
00:30:29.240 --> 00:30:31.599
<v Speaker 2>men have done. But this is a violent place. So

648
00:30:31.720 --> 00:30:34.559
<v Speaker 2>now you got niggas coming into a party where they're like, oh, ship,

649
00:30:35.039 --> 00:30:37.240
<v Speaker 2>I can actually look at you and and there's nothing

650
00:30:37.279 --> 00:30:39.200
<v Speaker 2>wrong with that. I can I can say you're fine.

651
00:30:39.839 --> 00:30:42.119
<v Speaker 2>And so that's something that every dude that I've ever

652
00:30:42.160 --> 00:30:43.920
<v Speaker 2>talked to they have to overcome. So that's something it's

653
00:30:43.920 --> 00:30:45.640
<v Speaker 2>not you, they have to overcome that all. I now

654
00:30:45.799 --> 00:30:47.720
<v Speaker 2>it's okay to look at you. I was told one dude,

655
00:30:47.720 --> 00:30:49.000
<v Speaker 2>I said you can stare. He was like yeah, but

656
00:30:49.359 --> 00:30:51.359
<v Speaker 2>I said you can actually watch. He's like yeah, I'm

657
00:30:51.400 --> 00:30:54.319
<v Speaker 2>like and outside, I know you used to like it's

658
00:30:54.400 --> 00:30:56.279
<v Speaker 2>like outside like yeah, nigga, don't like that's too much,

659
00:30:56.279 --> 00:30:58.160
<v Speaker 2>like like you're being a creep now. And so a

660
00:30:58.160 --> 00:31:01.599
<v Speaker 2>lot of dudes have to unlearn that where unlearning that

661
00:31:01.720 --> 00:31:04.319
<v Speaker 2>in this space, the woman has consented, she took her

662
00:31:04.319 --> 00:31:06.920
<v Speaker 2>clothes off willingly. It's a room full of people doing

663
00:31:06.960 --> 00:31:09.960
<v Speaker 2>these things. They're okay with you watching and it's like

664
00:31:10.039 --> 00:31:12.839
<v Speaker 2>dudes have to adjust to that and like unlearned some

665
00:31:12.880 --> 00:31:15.200
<v Speaker 2>of the things that you know, we have have learned

666
00:31:15.240 --> 00:31:16.680
<v Speaker 2>on the outside. And when I talk to some of

667
00:31:16.680 --> 00:31:18.200
<v Speaker 2>the dudes, they had a good time and they're like, oh,

668
00:31:18.680 --> 00:31:20.160
<v Speaker 2>like this is my first time. It was like I

669
00:31:20.200 --> 00:31:21.839
<v Speaker 2>an't really think it's gonna be like this. I'm like,

670
00:31:21.960 --> 00:31:23.480
<v Speaker 2>what the fuck did you think it was gonna be like?

671
00:31:23.839 --> 00:31:26.880
<v Speaker 2>And they're like, oh, it's actually cool. So over time,

672
00:31:27.319 --> 00:31:29.880
<v Speaker 2>the people that have come over time have gotten more interesting,

673
00:31:29.960 --> 00:31:32.920
<v Speaker 2>even the women, So everybody is more open exactly. So

674
00:31:33.039 --> 00:31:36.559
<v Speaker 2>it's it's that is what you said, but you've already

675
00:31:36.599 --> 00:31:38.759
<v Speaker 2>done that. Then it's and the other part the people

676
00:31:38.759 --> 00:31:41.559
<v Speaker 2>that participate in the discord. Those dudes don't have those issues, right,

677
00:31:42.279 --> 00:31:43.680
<v Speaker 2>so it's a lot of different things. They have to

678
00:31:43.720 --> 00:31:46.039
<v Speaker 2>come out more and thann they'll feel more comfortable. But

679
00:31:46.079 --> 00:31:47.839
<v Speaker 2>it's a it's a good space.

680
00:31:48.119 --> 00:31:52.839
<v Speaker 1>I found myself in a weird had space right before

681
00:31:53.039 --> 00:31:55.079
<v Speaker 1>before the party. I had a little disagreement with somebody

682
00:31:55.119 --> 00:31:58.160
<v Speaker 1>close to me, not my lady, but just something that

683
00:31:58.200 --> 00:32:01.640
<v Speaker 1>just threw off my energy, right, and so I'm coming

684
00:32:01.640 --> 00:32:05.880
<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to get in the character my lady I

685
00:32:05.920 --> 00:32:07.920
<v Speaker 1>didn't express what happened to her because I didn't want

686
00:32:07.920 --> 00:32:10.240
<v Speaker 1>to throw her off or you know, I just kept

687
00:32:10.279 --> 00:32:11.680
<v Speaker 1>doing what I was doing. I'm in CHARACTERM doing what

688
00:32:11.720 --> 00:32:18.200
<v Speaker 1>I'm doing. As it got time to play, I felt

689
00:32:18.640 --> 00:32:21.599
<v Speaker 1>the expectation for me to want to perform, but my

690
00:32:21.640 --> 00:32:24.559
<v Speaker 1>mom wasn't in it. My mom was still somewhere. You know,

691
00:32:24.680 --> 00:32:28.039
<v Speaker 1>I'm emotional, bro whatever, my mom wasn't in it. And

692
00:32:29.160 --> 00:32:36.000
<v Speaker 1>do you ever feel as a man expected to perform

693
00:32:36.119 --> 00:32:40.079
<v Speaker 1>and not want to? Because you you did five had

694
00:32:40.160 --> 00:32:43.319
<v Speaker 1>five ejaculatory experiences? What you called them? I just said,

695
00:32:43.319 --> 00:32:46.519
<v Speaker 1>I not five times, but you you used like seven syllables,

696
00:32:47.000 --> 00:32:51.119
<v Speaker 1>but you had five ejaculatory experiences. Have you ever felt like, Jim,

697
00:32:51.160 --> 00:32:52.559
<v Speaker 1>I don't really want to be here right now.

698
00:32:52.839 --> 00:32:54.200
<v Speaker 4>I know you know the answer is yes.

699
00:32:56.960 --> 00:32:59.960
<v Speaker 2>So there's this thing that you create, like I reckoned

700
00:33:00.079 --> 00:33:03.319
<v Speaker 2>as I've put out into the world, and it has

701
00:33:03.400 --> 00:33:06.240
<v Speaker 2>actually been an achilles hill in my personal relationships. Like

702
00:33:06.359 --> 00:33:08.000
<v Speaker 2>when my ex she says something to me and it

703
00:33:08.079 --> 00:33:11.839
<v Speaker 2>was so profound and now looking back at it, I'm

704
00:33:11.880 --> 00:33:14.680
<v Speaker 2>like shit. She was like, I've seen you have sex

705
00:33:14.720 --> 00:33:17.079
<v Speaker 2>hundreds of times, Like I know that you can put

706
00:33:17.079 --> 00:33:20.559
<v Speaker 2>yourself into it, and she was commenting on like sometimes

707
00:33:20.559 --> 00:33:22.559
<v Speaker 2>I would like come home and like give her like

708
00:33:22.599 --> 00:33:25.079
<v Speaker 2>the B side sex. But at work, you know, you

709
00:33:25.119 --> 00:33:28.000
<v Speaker 2>can see niggas getting the A game, and so yeah,

710
00:33:28.039 --> 00:33:32.799
<v Speaker 2>there's there's a a feeling in my body sematically around that.

711
00:33:32.839 --> 00:33:35.319
<v Speaker 2>And it's sometimes I'm like I don't want to I

712
00:33:35.319 --> 00:33:37.039
<v Speaker 2>don't want to do anything, but it's like, no, they

713
00:33:37.079 --> 00:33:38.519
<v Speaker 2>want to see the Niga trumpeter. They don't want to

714
00:33:38.519 --> 00:33:40.599
<v Speaker 2>see Eli. I'm like, Nigga, I don't want to do nothing,

715
00:33:41.279 --> 00:33:43.079
<v Speaker 2>but I wrestle with that, and you know, you adjust

716
00:33:43.319 --> 00:33:47.559
<v Speaker 2>accordingly because then even in the world, there's expectations that

717
00:33:47.640 --> 00:33:49.119
<v Speaker 2>you have as a father that you have as a

718
00:33:49.519 --> 00:33:51.599
<v Speaker 2>like every time you put a label on something, that's

719
00:33:51.640 --> 00:33:55.480
<v Speaker 2>an expectation when you're relating to someone. So those expectations

720
00:33:55.640 --> 00:33:58.960
<v Speaker 2>they play out in the real world because people that

721
00:33:59.000 --> 00:34:00.839
<v Speaker 2>are fans of mind see the neck a trumpeter, and

722
00:34:00.880 --> 00:34:03.680
<v Speaker 2>then my partners are like, Nigga, I saw that video,

723
00:34:04.039 --> 00:34:07.400
<v Speaker 2>why am I getting this bullshit? Or or they could

724
00:34:07.440 --> 00:34:09.599
<v Speaker 2>tell like one of my partners that did a live

725
00:34:09.639 --> 00:34:12.519
<v Speaker 2>porn saying everybody had their phones out there recording it

726
00:34:12.559 --> 00:34:14.920
<v Speaker 2>and she was like, you've had sex with me, like

727
00:34:14.960 --> 00:34:15.800
<v Speaker 2>that in a long time.

728
00:34:16.119 --> 00:34:19.920
<v Speaker 4>Like, so, yeah, it can be. It can be performance

729
00:34:19.960 --> 00:34:20.440
<v Speaker 4>and anxiety.

730
00:34:20.480 --> 00:34:22.360
<v Speaker 2>It can be a lot, but it's compounded for me

731
00:34:22.440 --> 00:34:23.719
<v Speaker 2>by it because of what I do for work.

732
00:34:24.000 --> 00:34:25.039
<v Speaker 4>So yeah, right.

733
00:34:27.280 --> 00:34:35.840
<v Speaker 1>Can how do men say no to women without hurting

734
00:34:35.880 --> 00:34:41.199
<v Speaker 1>their feelings or feeling themselves like they're being a little bitchy?

735
00:34:41.679 --> 00:34:44.320
<v Speaker 1>You know what I mean? Because throughout the night she

736
00:34:44.400 --> 00:34:45.920
<v Speaker 1>was coaxing me and I didn't want to say no,

737
00:34:46.079 --> 00:34:47.800
<v Speaker 1>and I'm kind of like, I ain't in the mood,

738
00:34:48.599 --> 00:34:51.800
<v Speaker 1>but I'm trying, and she actually did turn my mood around.

739
00:34:52.079 --> 00:34:55.119
<v Speaker 1>It actually worked over time, but shit, I would think

740
00:34:55.119 --> 00:34:56.400
<v Speaker 1>it took about two hours.

741
00:34:57.159 --> 00:35:00.760
<v Speaker 2>I think that it varies from person to person. But

742
00:35:00.800 --> 00:35:03.199
<v Speaker 2>in your case, like she knows you, and I'm sure

743
00:35:03.239 --> 00:35:04.559
<v Speaker 2>she picked up on that, but she didn't care, and

744
00:35:04.559 --> 00:35:05.960
<v Speaker 2>that's why she continued to do what she did.

745
00:35:06.039 --> 00:35:07.639
<v Speaker 4>It's just the way I mean, I know your girl.

746
00:35:07.679 --> 00:35:10.039
<v Speaker 2>I know she was because I saw her, Like when

747
00:35:10.039 --> 00:35:12.000
<v Speaker 2>I was leaving, y'all were in the room and I

748
00:35:12.039 --> 00:35:13.320
<v Speaker 2>saw her talking to you and you was just like

749
00:35:13.320 --> 00:35:15.400
<v Speaker 2>you on the bed like this, and if she said

750
00:35:15.480 --> 00:35:16.920
<v Speaker 2>something and you just like put your head back, and

751
00:35:16.920 --> 00:35:20.840
<v Speaker 2>I was like, I like, but that's my earlier. I

752
00:35:20.880 --> 00:35:22.920
<v Speaker 2>was talking about we stow my electro play. She was excited,

753
00:35:22.920 --> 00:35:25.239
<v Speaker 2>but I didn't know you were going through that. But

754
00:35:26.119 --> 00:35:28.159
<v Speaker 2>part of it is when you the person knows you,

755
00:35:28.400 --> 00:35:30.079
<v Speaker 2>they don't always have to say something that's going to

756
00:35:30.199 --> 00:35:33.800
<v Speaker 2>keep being themselves. They stay consistent and gentle, and also

757
00:35:33.840 --> 00:35:37.760
<v Speaker 2>I think that being honest. Like there are times when

758
00:35:37.800 --> 00:35:40.000
<v Speaker 2>I'm in Atlanta one of my lad m Dayton, and I

759
00:35:40.039 --> 00:35:42.840
<v Speaker 2>don't want to do anything, and I don't push upon her,

760
00:35:42.920 --> 00:35:44.880
<v Speaker 2>I don't make any moves. I just but I'm there

761
00:35:47.599 --> 00:35:49.119
<v Speaker 2>and I let her know I'm not in the space

762
00:35:49.119 --> 00:35:50.639
<v Speaker 2>to connect in that way. I just want to talk,

763
00:35:50.719 --> 00:35:53.400
<v Speaker 2>you know, because then they recognize they can hold space

764
00:35:53.400 --> 00:35:57.119
<v Speaker 2>for me. But we got to be vulnerable with our

765
00:35:57.199 --> 00:35:59.239
<v Speaker 2>volva owning people and let them know that we are

766
00:35:59.360 --> 00:36:02.360
<v Speaker 2>just as emotion as they are and give them the

767
00:36:02.440 --> 00:36:04.000
<v Speaker 2>chance to show up for us and hold space in

768
00:36:04.039 --> 00:36:06.800
<v Speaker 2>the same way we asks of them. Right, because it's

769
00:36:06.800 --> 00:36:10.559
<v Speaker 2>disingagmous when you don't tell them or you yeah, try

770
00:36:10.639 --> 00:36:14.719
<v Speaker 2>to feel that way because they want to. It's a

771
00:36:14.760 --> 00:36:19.480
<v Speaker 2>relating requires us to have trust, communication, power, control, safety

772
00:36:19.480 --> 00:36:22.920
<v Speaker 2>and community safety and security, and not communicating can affect

773
00:36:22.920 --> 00:36:26.079
<v Speaker 2>any of those things. I had an issue where I

774
00:36:26.119 --> 00:36:29.239
<v Speaker 2>had an emergency come up. Instead of me calling or

775
00:36:29.360 --> 00:36:31.159
<v Speaker 2>sending a message to the person I was supposed to

776
00:36:31.159 --> 00:36:33.440
<v Speaker 2>see at eight thirty, I kept handling in an emergency

777
00:36:33.920 --> 00:36:36.119
<v Speaker 2>and she was like, I know that about you. I

778
00:36:36.159 --> 00:36:37.880
<v Speaker 2>know that you love me. I know that you want

779
00:36:37.920 --> 00:36:39.599
<v Speaker 2>me to be happy, and also I know that if

780
00:36:39.639 --> 00:36:41.360
<v Speaker 2>something come up, you're gonna focus on that and you're not.

781
00:36:41.320 --> 00:36:42.440
<v Speaker 4>Going to multitask well.

782
00:36:43.039 --> 00:36:45.079
<v Speaker 2>So she was like, I'm disappointed in that, but I

783
00:36:45.079 --> 00:36:46.920
<v Speaker 2>do know you, so I'm not mad. I'm just a

784
00:36:46.960 --> 00:36:48.639
<v Speaker 2>little hurt. I wish I wanted to see you at

785
00:36:48.639 --> 00:36:50.000
<v Speaker 2>this time because I know you're about to leave the

786
00:36:50.039 --> 00:36:53.239
<v Speaker 2>next day. So not communicating what we are going through

787
00:36:53.280 --> 00:36:55.360
<v Speaker 2>can be problematic. When we could just say, hey, i'm

788
00:36:55.400 --> 00:36:57.920
<v Speaker 2>a little off. We don't have to divulge, but at

789
00:36:58.000 --> 00:36:59.880
<v Speaker 2>least they know and they can hold space for instead

790
00:36:59.880 --> 00:37:02.199
<v Speaker 2>of saying, because the opposite is can be true why

791
00:37:02.199 --> 00:37:03.840
<v Speaker 2>this nigga ain't let me touch and why he acting

792
00:37:03.880 --> 00:37:05.800
<v Speaker 2>all weird, and then they could take it, and you

793
00:37:05.800 --> 00:37:08.400
<v Speaker 2>know that's when they can internalize it. It can be harmful.

794
00:37:08.480 --> 00:37:10.519
<v Speaker 2>So I think it's better to be upfront, even if

795
00:37:10.519 --> 00:37:12.519
<v Speaker 2>you don't say all this. Hey, baby had a little

796
00:37:12.559 --> 00:37:14.639
<v Speaker 2>rough day. I'm still here with you. But if I'm

797
00:37:14.639 --> 00:37:17.159
<v Speaker 2>a little not present, just no, I'm going through something.

798
00:37:17.920 --> 00:37:20.760
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I should have communicated better. I'm glad that it

799
00:37:20.840 --> 00:37:24.440
<v Speaker 1>turned out better throughout the night, but you're right, I

800
00:37:24.440 --> 00:37:29.360
<v Speaker 1>could have prepared her for those feelings better. I gotta

801
00:37:29.400 --> 00:37:34.199
<v Speaker 1>work on that. You keep mentioning Atlanta? Did you? Why

802
00:37:34.199 --> 00:37:35.119
<v Speaker 1>are you in Atlanta so much?

803
00:37:35.960 --> 00:37:38.679
<v Speaker 2>So I lied to this person that I'm dating and

804
00:37:38.719 --> 00:37:40.519
<v Speaker 2>I told her I didn't move to Atlanta for her,

805
00:37:40.559 --> 00:37:41.559
<v Speaker 2>which is not the truth.

806
00:37:41.840 --> 00:37:42.440
<v Speaker 1>I did move.

807
00:37:42.559 --> 00:37:44.280
<v Speaker 2>I moved to Onlant for two reasons. One because I was

808
00:37:44.320 --> 00:37:45.880
<v Speaker 2>getting away from DC, but I was like, where the

809
00:37:45.920 --> 00:37:47.840
<v Speaker 2>fuck am I going to go? And then I work

810
00:37:47.880 --> 00:37:50.840
<v Speaker 2>in Atlanta a lot. And then so because she is there,

811
00:37:51.360 --> 00:37:54.599
<v Speaker 2>that's why I'm there now. But Atlanta's dope. So I

812
00:37:54.679 --> 00:37:56.440
<v Speaker 2>keep mentioning Atlanta because that's why my heart is in

813
00:37:56.519 --> 00:37:59.480
<v Speaker 2>this moment. So that's why I keep bringing it up.

814
00:37:59.639 --> 00:38:04.320
<v Speaker 1>Fine, fire, do you have multiples? Is it one? No?

815
00:38:06.280 --> 00:38:08.360
<v Speaker 1>I know that you am I doing too much? No?

816
00:38:09.239 --> 00:38:10.559
<v Speaker 4>No, No, I just won't name names.

817
00:38:10.559 --> 00:38:15.679
<v Speaker 2>So I have three people. Let me let me back up. Okay,

818
00:38:15.679 --> 00:38:16.960
<v Speaker 2>I can go to the nickname I can, I can

819
00:38:16.960 --> 00:38:19.800
<v Speaker 2>delete this. No no, no no. I got Sweet Potato, I

820
00:38:19.840 --> 00:38:24.800
<v Speaker 2>got MJ, I got Goddess Q. And then the other

821
00:38:24.880 --> 00:38:27.199
<v Speaker 2>person they just start We've known each other for like

822
00:38:27.320 --> 00:38:28.679
<v Speaker 2>of each other for three years, but they just like

823
00:38:28.719 --> 00:38:30.920
<v Speaker 2>started flirting with me. So I have four people in

824
00:38:30.920 --> 00:38:35.639
<v Speaker 2>Atlanta that have my attention. Two people we have a

825
00:38:35.679 --> 00:38:38.119
<v Speaker 2>loose agreement and then we're working out the other I'm

826
00:38:38.119 --> 00:38:39.199
<v Speaker 2>working out the other details.

827
00:38:39.199 --> 00:38:40.920
<v Speaker 4>But then in d C, I have my.

828
00:38:42.079 --> 00:38:43.679
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, if I say that to people right home talking

829
00:38:43.679 --> 00:38:45.599
<v Speaker 2>about I have someone that I just like, I'm relating

830
00:38:45.639 --> 00:38:48.360
<v Speaker 2>to that lives in d C and we've been in

831
00:38:48.400 --> 00:38:51.079
<v Speaker 2>connection for five years. So I have like four people

832
00:38:52.119 --> 00:38:55.280
<v Speaker 2>that I am closely relating to, one in d C,

833
00:38:56.920 --> 00:38:59.519
<v Speaker 2>two in Atlanta, and then two other people I'm figuring

834
00:38:59.519 --> 00:39:03.880
<v Speaker 2>out the configuration in Atlanta. So my travel is attached

835
00:39:03.920 --> 00:39:06.239
<v Speaker 2>to my connections as much as my work.

836
00:39:08.440 --> 00:39:10.239
<v Speaker 1>I want to talk about what we have to do

837
00:39:10.320 --> 00:39:13.960
<v Speaker 1>in Atlanta for a second, right, But first I want

838
00:39:13.960 --> 00:39:15.599
<v Speaker 1>to ask the question, and I don't know what the

839
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<v Speaker 1>answer is. Seriously, I'm not not leading towards anything. I'm

840
00:39:19.840 --> 00:39:26.000
<v Speaker 1>genuinely curious as a pan sexual person who is poly right,

841
00:39:26.480 --> 00:39:31.039
<v Speaker 1>PolyAm polyamorous. Yeah, have you ever dealt with a monogamous person?

842
00:39:31.760 --> 00:39:40.239
<v Speaker 2>So yes, it's mhmm. So my long time my life

843
00:39:40.320 --> 00:39:45.880
<v Speaker 2>partner was monogamous, but now they're not. And we were

844
00:39:45.920 --> 00:39:48.639
<v Speaker 2>monogamous for a while and then we opened up our connection.

845
00:39:49.559 --> 00:39:51.360
<v Speaker 2>But I have dated other people that they're like, they're

846
00:39:51.360 --> 00:39:53.760
<v Speaker 2>okay with how I connect. They're not like restricting me

847
00:39:53.760 --> 00:39:55.480
<v Speaker 2>connecting with other people, but they're like, I'm only going

848
00:39:55.519 --> 00:39:56.000
<v Speaker 2>to date you.

849
00:39:56.039 --> 00:39:58.760
<v Speaker 4>That's that's their choice, right, But.

850
00:39:58.719 --> 00:40:01.280
<v Speaker 2>As long as they don't, you know, try to put

851
00:40:01.280 --> 00:40:02.559
<v Speaker 2>a leash on me and say what I can't do?

852
00:40:02.639 --> 00:40:03.480
<v Speaker 4>I don't mind how.

853
00:40:03.440 --> 00:40:05.360
<v Speaker 1>People connect or not right? Right?

854
00:40:05.719 --> 00:40:07.800
<v Speaker 2>Have you ever had that? Yeah? I had people try

855
00:40:07.800 --> 00:40:09.440
<v Speaker 2>to put a leashes on I had a partner who

856
00:40:09.480 --> 00:40:12.760
<v Speaker 2>was not monogamous try to put a leash on me,

857
00:40:12.760 --> 00:40:14.960
<v Speaker 2>and I was like, yeah, we don't do that. They

858
00:40:15.239 --> 00:40:17.960
<v Speaker 2>they they had all these rules that they call boundaries

859
00:40:18.000 --> 00:40:20.199
<v Speaker 2>around who I could and could not talk to, and

860
00:40:20.239 --> 00:40:21.760
<v Speaker 2>some of these people weren't even their friends. It was

861
00:40:21.800 --> 00:40:25.119
<v Speaker 2>just like it was an exhaustive list of how I

862
00:40:25.159 --> 00:40:26.639
<v Speaker 2>had to move and I was like, I don't feel

863
00:40:26.639 --> 00:40:30.599
<v Speaker 2>comfortable in that. So we disconnected last year mm, because

864
00:40:30.599 --> 00:40:34.880
<v Speaker 2>I'm not. I don't I don't restrict anyone's behavior. Well

865
00:40:34.880 --> 00:40:36.960
<v Speaker 2>whatever we agree to. So like with all the people

866
00:40:37.119 --> 00:40:39.360
<v Speaker 2>that I am intimate with, I share my results everywhere

867
00:40:39.360 --> 00:40:40.639
<v Speaker 2>every time I get tested. Here you go, you can

868
00:40:40.679 --> 00:40:43.280
<v Speaker 2>have them because it doesn't matter how we connect. We're

869
00:40:43.320 --> 00:40:45.199
<v Speaker 2>doing something where we're skin and skin in some way,

870
00:40:45.239 --> 00:40:47.079
<v Speaker 2>So you should know my status. I shouldn't hide it

871
00:40:47.079 --> 00:40:49.559
<v Speaker 2>from you, and I asked the same of them. Beyond that,

872
00:40:49.760 --> 00:40:51.519
<v Speaker 2>who you deal with is your business, but we shouldn't

873
00:40:51.559 --> 00:40:53.639
<v Speaker 2>have we shouldn't lie about our results or you know,

874
00:40:53.840 --> 00:40:55.119
<v Speaker 2>certain things that we've agreed upon.

875
00:40:55.559 --> 00:41:00.440
<v Speaker 1>If if we're both open, I find myself having an

876
00:41:00.480 --> 00:41:03.840
<v Speaker 1>issue with somebody, you don't think I should be able

877
00:41:03.880 --> 00:41:06.480
<v Speaker 1>to tell you, Hey, that would make me feel weird

878
00:41:06.599 --> 00:41:08.000
<v Speaker 1>if you mess with that person.

879
00:41:09.000 --> 00:41:10.239
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, that's called like a messy list.

880
00:41:10.840 --> 00:41:16.280
<v Speaker 2>So like, yes, I wouldn't date anybody's sister brother, like

881
00:41:17.320 --> 00:41:19.519
<v Speaker 2>not knowingly, Like I'm not trying to date your cut

882
00:41:19.599 --> 00:41:22.159
<v Speaker 2>like like your family members are off limits if I

883
00:41:22.159 --> 00:41:24.280
<v Speaker 2>didn't know, and that's like that's like okay, we have

884
00:41:24.280 --> 00:41:26.440
<v Speaker 2>to figure it out. But of like knowingly, there are

885
00:41:26.480 --> 00:41:29.039
<v Speaker 2>certain people like your best friend, I'm not like we're friends,

886
00:41:29.039 --> 00:41:30.880
<v Speaker 2>I wouldn't try to they mess with your fiancee, Like,

887
00:41:30.920 --> 00:41:33.000
<v Speaker 2>I respect you that profoundly, and I also know that this

888
00:41:33.079 --> 00:41:34.920
<v Speaker 2>is newer for you than it is for me. Right,

889
00:41:35.000 --> 00:41:36.400
<v Speaker 2>So like I have some friends and like you can

890
00:41:36.400 --> 00:41:37.840
<v Speaker 2>talk to my girl. They don't care. But I'm like,

891
00:41:38.360 --> 00:41:40.920
<v Speaker 2>I know the boundaries for the people that I'm dealing with,

892
00:41:40.960 --> 00:41:43.800
<v Speaker 2>and I respect the boundaries of our connection. So I

893
00:41:43.840 --> 00:41:47.119
<v Speaker 2>have my own limits and then I can when I

894
00:41:47.159 --> 00:41:48.960
<v Speaker 2>pay with people, we talk about a messy list, like

895
00:41:49.000 --> 00:41:52.679
<v Speaker 2>who are you uncomfortable with me dealing with? Because some

896
00:41:52.679 --> 00:41:54.760
<v Speaker 2>people don't think about that, but you it is a

897
00:41:54.840 --> 00:41:56.000
<v Speaker 2>question that I think is neat.

898
00:41:56.159 --> 00:41:58.719
<v Speaker 1>Do you respect people's messy lists even if you really

899
00:41:58.800 --> 00:42:00.760
<v Speaker 1>wanted to mess with other persons? Like say, it's just like,

900
00:42:02.199 --> 00:42:05.480
<v Speaker 1>say it's my my my ex co host, right, and

901
00:42:05.840 --> 00:42:08.119
<v Speaker 1>I met you out, say I'm not in relationship and

902
00:42:08.119 --> 00:42:10.199
<v Speaker 1>I met the girl out or whatever, and I'm telling

903
00:42:10.320 --> 00:42:12.199
<v Speaker 1>my messy list and he's on the messy list. He's like, yeah,

904
00:42:12.239 --> 00:42:13.599
<v Speaker 1>but I kind of really want to mess with him.

905
00:42:14.159 --> 00:42:15.239
<v Speaker 1>Can I be offended by that?

906
00:42:15.360 --> 00:42:17.239
<v Speaker 2>You can't be offended, And then you have to take

907
00:42:17.280 --> 00:42:19.360
<v Speaker 2>stocking if you still want to be in connection with them,

908
00:42:19.719 --> 00:42:24.840
<v Speaker 2>because that's really what it is. It matters, like messy

909
00:42:24.920 --> 00:42:27.800
<v Speaker 2>lists are messy because there's like aught between or you

910
00:42:27.880 --> 00:42:30.920
<v Speaker 2>recognize it would cause a problem. And it's not like

911
00:42:31.159 --> 00:42:33.320
<v Speaker 2>I don't look at messy lists like jealousy or envy,

912
00:42:33.480 --> 00:42:35.639
<v Speaker 2>like no, like this person is not going to steal

913
00:42:35.679 --> 00:42:37.840
<v Speaker 2>you from me and they don't have something I want.

914
00:42:37.880 --> 00:42:39.599
<v Speaker 2>It's just like, no, I don't fuck with them, and

915
00:42:39.639 --> 00:42:42.480
<v Speaker 2>I would be hell uncomfortable if you did. And that's

916
00:42:42.519 --> 00:42:46.519
<v Speaker 2>what it is to me. So yeah, such a valid concern. Yeah,

917
00:42:46.639 --> 00:42:47.239
<v Speaker 2>that's real shit.

918
00:42:47.480 --> 00:42:49.800
<v Speaker 1>A messy list I've never heard of that, I've never

919
00:42:49.840 --> 00:42:52.199
<v Speaker 1>thought of. I've never heard of it, but it makes sense. Yeah,

920
00:42:52.199 --> 00:42:54.239
<v Speaker 1>there's a list of people that you like if you

921
00:42:54.280 --> 00:42:57.840
<v Speaker 1>could have your fun, but these people would specifically make

922
00:42:57.880 --> 00:42:58.480
<v Speaker 1>me feel a way.

923
00:42:58.519 --> 00:43:01.639
<v Speaker 2>It was like that has like like let's say, I'm

924
00:43:01.719 --> 00:43:04.960
<v Speaker 2>sure like some of your lifelong friends if they came

925
00:43:05.000 --> 00:43:07.960
<v Speaker 2>to the party but they didn't know your fiance, like yeah,

926
00:43:07.960 --> 00:43:11.079
<v Speaker 2>don't like not her? Yeah no, I'm sure you you'd

927
00:43:11.079 --> 00:43:11.880
<v Speaker 2>be like, yeah, not not her.

928
00:43:12.000 --> 00:43:12.800
<v Speaker 1>I got to take this course.

929
00:43:14.880 --> 00:43:17.159
<v Speaker 2>We were we uh, we were talking about Atlanta and

930
00:43:17.159 --> 00:43:17.480
<v Speaker 2>then my.

931
00:43:17.480 --> 00:43:28.000
<v Speaker 1>Loves right, we you seem very knowledgeable. You seem very

932
00:43:28.280 --> 00:43:33.119
<v Speaker 1>experienced informed. What how have you gotten to that place

933
00:43:33.360 --> 00:43:37.199
<v Speaker 1>within this this kink space that just you seem very grounded.

934
00:43:41.239 --> 00:43:42.280
<v Speaker 4>Some of it is my mother.

935
00:43:44.119 --> 00:43:46.000
<v Speaker 2>All the things that I'm doing within the world of

936
00:43:46.079 --> 00:43:49.079
<v Speaker 2>kink I saw growing up in my household, so that

937
00:43:49.159 --> 00:43:52.840
<v Speaker 2>part is not new to me. But then as I

938
00:43:52.880 --> 00:43:58.000
<v Speaker 2>got older, it really was. It was my teachers. It's

939
00:43:58.079 --> 00:43:59.480
<v Speaker 2>as much as I can say, it's just me, like

940
00:43:59.519 --> 00:44:03.559
<v Speaker 2>I mean to Peterson, Betty Martin, they were really transformative

941
00:44:04.239 --> 00:44:05.119
<v Speaker 2>Coach Feline.

942
00:44:05.159 --> 00:44:06.800
<v Speaker 4>They helped me see.

943
00:44:08.079 --> 00:44:10.440
<v Speaker 2>See the woman's perspective in a way that I couldn't

944
00:44:10.480 --> 00:44:14.360
<v Speaker 2>without them Be and my teacher, so that really helped talk.

945
00:44:14.400 --> 00:44:17.039
<v Speaker 2>I still talked about Mom about different things, and she

946
00:44:17.039 --> 00:44:18.679
<v Speaker 2>she's the one to say, put the trumpet on the volver,

947
00:44:18.800 --> 00:44:22.239
<v Speaker 2>Like we talk about how to approach women, and my mom.

948
00:44:22.239 --> 00:44:24.320
<v Speaker 1>Your mother told her, told you I.

949
00:44:24.320 --> 00:44:25.280
<v Speaker 4>Should put the trumpet on.

950
00:44:25.400 --> 00:44:28.400
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, my mom, because we talk about what I do

951
00:44:28.480 --> 00:44:31.039
<v Speaker 2>and we talk about like she she talks about her

952
00:44:31.039 --> 00:44:34.199
<v Speaker 2>trauma with men. So I'm I've been informed and it's

953
00:44:34.199 --> 00:44:38.760
<v Speaker 2>helped me move differently with women, thinking about their their

954
00:44:38.800 --> 00:44:41.880
<v Speaker 2>their trauma and how and why and understanding that women

955
00:44:41.960 --> 00:44:43.679
<v Speaker 2>fond and they'll say yes to things they really don't

956
00:44:43.679 --> 00:44:46.119
<v Speaker 2>want to do because they've been socialized too, and so

957
00:44:46.199 --> 00:44:48.199
<v Speaker 2>it helped me see what those things could look like

958
00:44:48.239 --> 00:44:51.519
<v Speaker 2>and ask different questions. And so in my personal life,

959
00:44:51.519 --> 00:44:53.400
<v Speaker 2>the reason why I'm friends with the people before I

960
00:44:53.400 --> 00:44:56.000
<v Speaker 2>started dating them is because I need to feel safe

961
00:44:56.000 --> 00:44:57.440
<v Speaker 2>with them. I want them to feel safe with me.

962
00:44:57.840 --> 00:45:00.159
<v Speaker 2>And it's not just predicated on sex. And a lot

963
00:45:00.199 --> 00:45:02.760
<v Speaker 2>of that has come from, you know, having women to

964
00:45:02.800 --> 00:45:07.920
<v Speaker 2>be my teacher and like ask profoundly unique questions that

965
00:45:08.000 --> 00:45:11.079
<v Speaker 2>are that caused me to think about my actions. I'll

966
00:45:11.119 --> 00:45:13.679
<v Speaker 2>only deal with therapists that are women. It's really important

967
00:45:14.000 --> 00:45:16.559
<v Speaker 2>to have their perspective on some of the things that

968
00:45:16.599 --> 00:45:19.800
<v Speaker 2>I'm doing or any action that I've taken. And that's

969
00:45:19.840 --> 00:45:22.280
<v Speaker 2>what's really would help me to be more grounded because

970
00:45:23.159 --> 00:45:24.920
<v Speaker 2>I think women came first and we came out of

971
00:45:24.960 --> 00:45:26.840
<v Speaker 2>them instead of when we came first and then they

972
00:45:26.840 --> 00:45:28.159
<v Speaker 2>came out, they changed it around.

973
00:45:28.360 --> 00:45:33.440
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, misogyny strikes again. So patriarchy strikes again. Where they

974
00:45:33.519 --> 00:45:35.559
<v Speaker 1>saying that the Adam was first, you think it was first.

975
00:45:36.960 --> 00:45:39.599
<v Speaker 2>The evidence would make no sense that the man would

976
00:45:39.599 --> 00:45:43.880
<v Speaker 2>come first. That's not how it would work. It just biologically,

977
00:45:44.719 --> 00:45:47.119
<v Speaker 2>if the creation story is correct, the woman should have

978
00:45:47.159 --> 00:45:50.280
<v Speaker 2>been the first thing and then birth. The man man

979
00:45:50.360 --> 00:45:52.400
<v Speaker 2>is not missing the rib like all of those things

980
00:45:52.440 --> 00:45:54.480
<v Speaker 2>make no, it's just it's a wild thing.

981
00:45:54.960 --> 00:45:59.119
<v Speaker 1>I personally think I've never considered what you're saying. But

982
00:46:00.320 --> 00:46:03.159
<v Speaker 1>I think if we are in his form, or the

983
00:46:03.559 --> 00:46:06.960
<v Speaker 1>creator's form, he made a mistake, just like we do,

984
00:46:07.519 --> 00:46:11.639
<v Speaker 1>and he made men and he was like, this is fucked.

985
00:46:11.920 --> 00:46:13.880
<v Speaker 1>Hold on, give me a second, and he went and

986
00:46:13.960 --> 00:46:17.000
<v Speaker 1>redesigned it to add women and just made them two

987
00:46:17.039 --> 00:46:17.480
<v Speaker 1>point Oh.

988
00:46:18.199 --> 00:46:20.480
<v Speaker 2>The funny thing about that if in one certain stories

989
00:46:20.519 --> 00:46:23.679
<v Speaker 2>Lilith came first, Adam didn't come first. It was Lilith Adam.

990
00:46:24.760 --> 00:46:26.960
<v Speaker 2>Lilith is the woman that Adam wouldn't submit to Adam

991
00:46:27.039 --> 00:46:29.159
<v Speaker 2>so he had they had to make Eve out of Adam.

992
00:46:29.239 --> 00:46:32.119
<v Speaker 4>So it's still she did what.

993
00:46:32.519 --> 00:46:34.239
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, he was like, he's not my type.

994
00:46:34.559 --> 00:46:36.599
<v Speaker 2>Lilith was like, so that she ended up being in

995
00:46:36.639 --> 00:46:39.519
<v Speaker 2>some folklore, Lolith is a wife of Satan. It's a

996
00:46:39.519 --> 00:46:42.199
<v Speaker 2>at the end of the day. Any any creation story

997
00:46:42.239 --> 00:46:44.960
<v Speaker 2>that puts women as the cause of the fall of

998
00:46:45.119 --> 00:46:49.000
<v Speaker 2>mankind and then denigrates them as not a belief that

999
00:46:49.039 --> 00:46:51.679
<v Speaker 2>I want to believe me, because it's misogynistic in trade

1000
00:46:51.719 --> 00:46:55.599
<v Speaker 2>to say, like, God didn't do anything until Eve bit

1001
00:46:55.679 --> 00:46:56.039
<v Speaker 2>the apple.

1002
00:46:56.079 --> 00:46:57.000
<v Speaker 4>Then she gives to Adam.

1003
00:46:57.039 --> 00:47:00.480
<v Speaker 2>Then he's like all these all these weird constrive things.

1004
00:47:02.039 --> 00:47:04.400
<v Speaker 2>Then he magnifies her pain of birth.

1005
00:47:04.480 --> 00:47:09.280
<v Speaker 1>Got somebody in your throats to huh, So.

1006
00:47:09.280 --> 00:47:11.880
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I don't identify with those things. And listening to

1007
00:47:11.960 --> 00:47:13.800
<v Speaker 2>women that have them be my teacher has helped me

1008
00:47:13.880 --> 00:47:17.000
<v Speaker 2>be more grounded because we don't understand the perspective of

1009
00:47:17.159 --> 00:47:19.159
<v Speaker 2>how they live. All we can see is our plight.

1010
00:47:20.559 --> 00:47:24.280
<v Speaker 2>So having listening to like Adrian Marie Brown and taking

1011
00:47:24.320 --> 00:47:30.679
<v Speaker 2>in more books around queer theory and decentralizing white masculinity

1012
00:47:30.679 --> 00:47:32.079
<v Speaker 2>in my life has been very helpful.

1013
00:47:32.199 --> 00:47:40.599
<v Speaker 1>Okay, you are weighing a sex down Self conference, and

1014
00:47:40.639 --> 00:47:42.280
<v Speaker 1>the only reason I am abruptly going to that is

1015
00:47:42.280 --> 00:47:45.280
<v Speaker 1>because that's really why we're here, right, and I want

1016
00:47:45.320 --> 00:47:50.800
<v Speaker 1>to give that conference the respect it deserves. I was

1017
00:47:50.840 --> 00:47:55.599
<v Speaker 1>at Exotica one year and one of the co founders here, Tya.

1018
00:47:55.960 --> 00:47:58.440
<v Speaker 1>I think I saw her right, I saw her there.

1019
00:47:59.679 --> 00:48:01.159
<v Speaker 1>She walked up to me and she just made me

1020
00:48:01.159 --> 00:48:05.280
<v Speaker 1>feel so welcome and so like she wanted me to

1021
00:48:05.280 --> 00:48:08.960
<v Speaker 1>be there. Or at least partake in the conference. I haven't.

1022
00:48:09.000 --> 00:48:11.239
<v Speaker 1>I don't really get out much, bro, I don't. I don't,

1023
00:48:11.559 --> 00:48:15.760
<v Speaker 1>But recently you called me to be a part of

1024
00:48:15.800 --> 00:48:18.280
<v Speaker 1>the Sex down South. You call us as hardest off

1025
00:48:18.679 --> 00:48:21.719
<v Speaker 1>to come be a part of the Sex down Self conference.

1026
00:48:22.360 --> 00:48:24.519
<v Speaker 1>I don't know much about it, and I also would

1027
00:48:24.559 --> 00:48:28.639
<v Speaker 1>like our listeners to know what is sex down Self.

1028
00:48:31.159 --> 00:48:34.039
<v Speaker 2>In short, Sex down South is a safe space that

1029
00:48:34.079 --> 00:48:37.800
<v Speaker 2>was created by two black women. So two black queer

1030
00:48:37.880 --> 00:48:42.760
<v Speaker 2>films created a conference about sexuality and wellness and health.

1031
00:48:43.559 --> 00:48:45.599
<v Speaker 2>And so think of it as like you go to

1032
00:48:45.599 --> 00:48:48.440
<v Speaker 2>school during the day, but at night you party just

1033
00:48:48.440 --> 00:48:51.480
<v Speaker 2>as hard as you go to school. And so over

1034
00:48:51.519 --> 00:48:53.559
<v Speaker 2>the years, they've like people that go there said we

1035
00:48:53.599 --> 00:48:55.079
<v Speaker 2>want to learn, but we want to have fun. So

1036
00:48:55.079 --> 00:48:57.440
<v Speaker 2>there's learn and an application of the things you learn.

1037
00:48:58.000 --> 00:49:00.480
<v Speaker 2>So let's say you're go there with your partner and

1038
00:49:00.519 --> 00:49:02.840
<v Speaker 2>y'all don't know anything about ethical non monogamy, you know

1039
00:49:02.960 --> 00:49:05.519
<v Speaker 2>anything about a play party. You can go there Thursday,

1040
00:49:05.880 --> 00:49:10.760
<v Speaker 2>take classes from different people. Some people are psychiatrist, psychologists, authors, doctors,

1041
00:49:10.800 --> 00:49:11.360
<v Speaker 2>all these things.

1042
00:49:11.400 --> 00:49:12.159
<v Speaker 4>You can learn all.

1043
00:49:12.039 --> 00:49:15.119
<v Speaker 2>About sexuality, learn about swinging, the lifestyle. And then on

1044
00:49:15.159 --> 00:49:17.360
<v Speaker 2>the last day, there'll be a play party, there's going

1045
00:49:17.400 --> 00:49:19.119
<v Speaker 2>to be a strip club, there's gonna be all these things,

1046
00:49:19.159 --> 00:49:21.360
<v Speaker 2>so you can learn about all these things about yourself

1047
00:49:21.360 --> 00:49:23.960
<v Speaker 2>and sexuality, and then actually there's someone that can take

1048
00:49:24.000 --> 00:49:28.639
<v Speaker 2>you through the process, you can explore. So in that way,

1049
00:49:28.719 --> 00:49:31.519
<v Speaker 2>it's really uniquely different from exotic or any other place.

1050
00:49:32.000 --> 00:49:35.239
<v Speaker 2>And then it's created by two black people, which is

1051
00:49:35.480 --> 00:49:38.360
<v Speaker 2>especially different. So it has a real it's like going

1052
00:49:38.360 --> 00:49:40.000
<v Speaker 2>to a family or union, but we all gonna talk

1053
00:49:40.000 --> 00:49:42.559
<v Speaker 2>about sex and nobody's worried about it, so you feel

1054
00:49:42.599 --> 00:49:44.519
<v Speaker 2>like you're at home, but we also going to have

1055
00:49:44.519 --> 00:49:48.559
<v Speaker 2>a great time. And this debauchery it's a place that

1056
00:49:48.880 --> 00:49:50.599
<v Speaker 2>you know, I learned a lot about myself. And so

1057
00:49:50.639 --> 00:49:52.440
<v Speaker 2>when people ask me why am I like this, I'm like,

1058
00:49:52.440 --> 00:49:54.280
<v Speaker 2>like I told you four years ago. I met a

1059
00:49:54.320 --> 00:49:56.360
<v Speaker 2>couple of teachers down there. I went to the conference

1060
00:49:56.480 --> 00:49:59.679
<v Speaker 2>and it was a great time for me. I met

1061
00:49:59.679 --> 00:50:01.119
<v Speaker 2>my tea your essex down South, know.

1062
00:50:01.079 --> 00:50:03.239
<v Speaker 1>You did it that at the one that you said,

1063
00:50:03.360 --> 00:50:06.519
<v Speaker 1>educated you so much about this? Wow.

1064
00:50:07.119 --> 00:50:09.559
<v Speaker 2>And then from meeting her, I met another teacher, doctor

1065
00:50:09.559 --> 00:50:11.639
<v Speaker 2>Betty Martin, and so it just I met so many

1066
00:50:11.639 --> 00:50:16.199
<v Speaker 2>people at the conference that professionally have helped me and

1067
00:50:16.239 --> 00:50:18.039
<v Speaker 2>so some of the work that I do now I

1068
00:50:18.079 --> 00:50:21.079
<v Speaker 2>work with therapists in different ways just because of this conference.

1069
00:50:21.119 --> 00:50:25.440
<v Speaker 2>So it's very expansive about sexuality in the self. It's

1070
00:50:25.480 --> 00:50:30.559
<v Speaker 2>just dope. And then this year, my company Black on

1071
00:50:30.639 --> 00:50:34.039
<v Speaker 2>Black Love, we're sponsoring a sex boat at the conference,

1072
00:50:34.079 --> 00:50:36.960
<v Speaker 2>and so that's going to help sex workers. So if

1073
00:50:36.960 --> 00:50:39.719
<v Speaker 2>you create content, if you are old school sex work,

1074
00:50:39.800 --> 00:50:42.760
<v Speaker 2>whatever however you fall into that realm, we're giving a

1075
00:50:42.800 --> 00:50:45.519
<v Speaker 2>stip into the people that are coming. That was supposed

1076
00:50:45.559 --> 00:50:48.719
<v Speaker 2>to be a surprise, but we're giving a stipe into

1077
00:50:48.719 --> 00:50:50.320
<v Speaker 2>the people that are coming to the concent creators that

1078
00:50:50.320 --> 00:50:54.599
<v Speaker 2>are coming to the sex bo We were we having

1079
00:50:54.599 --> 00:50:57.199
<v Speaker 2>a photo booth. We have photographers and videographers there so

1080
00:50:57.239 --> 00:50:59.119
<v Speaker 2>they can shoot content and no calls, and we are

1081
00:50:59.119 --> 00:51:02.679
<v Speaker 2>holding space for rooms and stuff. We're making it safe

1082
00:51:02.679 --> 00:51:05.280
<v Speaker 2>as possible. We're giving them access to tax plan and

1083
00:51:05.320 --> 00:51:09.599
<v Speaker 2>tax prep, retirement planning and saving so that they can

1084
00:51:09.960 --> 00:51:11.960
<v Speaker 2>take their earnings and you know, do something with it.

1085
00:51:11.960 --> 00:51:16.719
<v Speaker 1>As positive Jamina says, it's getting more and more interesting.

1086
00:51:17.480 --> 00:51:22.440
<v Speaker 1>She loves everyone that's coming this year. What are we

1087
00:51:22.519 --> 00:51:24.599
<v Speaker 1>to expect at Sex down South?

1088
00:51:25.519 --> 00:51:29.119
<v Speaker 2>So there's gonna be a show on Saturday called Big Bang,

1089
00:51:29.920 --> 00:51:33.559
<v Speaker 2>the Big Bank, Big Bang. So if you see me perform,

1090
00:51:33.760 --> 00:51:35.400
<v Speaker 2>y'all know I do a lot of crazy things, but

1091
00:51:35.480 --> 00:51:37.679
<v Speaker 2>this year I'll be doing things that no one has

1092
00:51:37.679 --> 00:51:38.440
<v Speaker 2>ever seen me do.

1093
00:51:39.239 --> 00:51:42.159
<v Speaker 4>So you have that. You have a strip club on Thursday,

1094
00:51:42.400 --> 00:51:45.760
<v Speaker 4>I'll be at the strip club, and then what else

1095
00:51:45.800 --> 00:51:46.320
<v Speaker 4>are we doing?

1096
00:51:47.000 --> 00:51:48.880
<v Speaker 2>And then on Saturday, there's gonna be a play party

1097
00:51:48.960 --> 00:51:51.079
<v Speaker 2>after the Big Bank. So it's all these things. You

1098
00:51:51.119 --> 00:51:53.000
<v Speaker 2>can learn, you can come, you can play. So there's

1099
00:51:53.039 --> 00:51:55.400
<v Speaker 2>play all three days and there's learning all three days,

1100
00:51:55.800 --> 00:51:57.679
<v Speaker 2>and it's just a it's gonna be black as fuck,

1101
00:51:57.760 --> 00:52:00.239
<v Speaker 2>so you can come out. You can be yourself. There's

1102
00:52:00.280 --> 00:52:03.159
<v Speaker 2>nudity allowed in the hotel where we're gonna be. There's

1103
00:52:03.159 --> 00:52:04.840
<v Speaker 2>gonna be a live podcast with Tahoe.

1104
00:52:04.840 --> 00:52:05.840
<v Speaker 4>It's gonna be a lot of fun.

1105
00:52:06.239 --> 00:52:12.880
<v Speaker 1>Now just live Pa Hove Paho. This is great. That

1106
00:52:13.039 --> 00:52:17.800
<v Speaker 1>was just what am I? What am I doing this?

1107
00:52:18.599 --> 00:52:20.679
<v Speaker 2>So I'm gonna take you around and we're gonna go

1108
00:52:20.719 --> 00:52:23.320
<v Speaker 2>to different classes. We're gonna go to different workshops so

1109
00:52:23.360 --> 00:52:26.880
<v Speaker 2>you can get the full experience. Caveat So if you

1110
00:52:26.920 --> 00:52:29.679
<v Speaker 2>all do come and all the people that buy a ticket.

1111
00:52:29.800 --> 00:52:32.800
<v Speaker 2>We're shooting a live porn this year again. So on Thursday,

1112
00:52:32.800 --> 00:52:34.639
<v Speaker 2>I'll be shooting the scene and everybody be able to

1113
00:52:34.639 --> 00:52:36.880
<v Speaker 2>have their phone out of record no way, Yeah, it's

1114
00:52:36.880 --> 00:52:39.320
<v Speaker 2>gonna be It's an MMF so to be two guys

1115
00:52:39.320 --> 00:52:42.639
<v Speaker 2>and one girl. That's gonna happen Thursday during the morning.

1116
00:52:42.719 --> 00:52:46.320
<v Speaker 2>We'll have the trailer up by Friday so people can watch. Well,

1117
00:52:46.320 --> 00:52:48.599
<v Speaker 2>we're gonna go through classes, go through courses, you'll bitness,

1118
00:52:48.639 --> 00:52:52.400
<v Speaker 2>You're gonna basically you're gonna be shadow on me. You're

1119
00:52:52.400 --> 00:52:54.079
<v Speaker 2>gonna get to see some other people shoot porn like,

1120
00:52:54.119 --> 00:52:55.760
<v Speaker 2>you're gonna do all the different things.

1121
00:52:55.760 --> 00:52:56.679
<v Speaker 4>You'll be introduced to it.

1122
00:52:56.719 --> 00:52:59.440
<v Speaker 2>And then Saturday we'll do a podcast so we can

1123
00:52:59.480 --> 00:53:00.599
<v Speaker 2>talk about experience.

1124
00:53:00.639 --> 00:53:01.480
<v Speaker 1>This is nuts.

1125
00:53:01.639 --> 00:53:02.679
<v Speaker 4>No, it's gonna be dope, though.

1126
00:53:02.719 --> 00:53:06.119
<v Speaker 1>This is nuts video while I'm shadowing you because like

1127
00:53:06.159 --> 00:53:07.719
<v Speaker 1>in the port, like everything on their phone.

1128
00:53:07.760 --> 00:53:09.400
<v Speaker 4>Everywhere that there's a phone allowed, you can have your

1129
00:53:09.400 --> 00:53:09.760
<v Speaker 4>phone out.

1130
00:53:09.800 --> 00:53:12.280
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so I can bring my gimbal. Oh. This is

1131
00:53:12.320 --> 00:53:14.280
<v Speaker 1>gonna be fucking sick because.

1132
00:53:14.079 --> 00:53:17.639
<v Speaker 2>We want you because basically you got to think about it.

1133
00:53:18.079 --> 00:53:19.280
<v Speaker 2>You're a New York street niggas.

1134
00:53:19.320 --> 00:53:21.039
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, thanks, and.

1135
00:53:21.079 --> 00:53:24.159
<v Speaker 2>I mean not that like, it's real shit, And so

1136
00:53:25.079 --> 00:53:26.960
<v Speaker 2>this is what we want more and more dudes to

1137
00:53:27.000 --> 00:53:29.280
<v Speaker 2>come and see, like because as you see, as you've

1138
00:53:29.280 --> 00:53:30.840
<v Speaker 2>been going to the play parties that you've been throwing

1139
00:53:30.840 --> 00:53:34.039
<v Speaker 2>this maturation within yourself, you're more able to articulate your

1140
00:53:34.360 --> 00:53:36.639
<v Speaker 2>There's so many things that have changed about you from

1141
00:53:36.679 --> 00:53:39.960
<v Speaker 2>just being in a play space. So we're trying to

1142
00:53:40.000 --> 00:53:43.079
<v Speaker 2>show people that it's not just about sex. Sovereignty and

1143
00:53:43.119 --> 00:53:45.920
<v Speaker 2>autonomy is something as black people we don't always feel

1144
00:53:46.320 --> 00:53:49.039
<v Speaker 2>because you you alluded to. Damn sometimes I want to

1145
00:53:49.039 --> 00:53:50.519
<v Speaker 2>do it and I kind of I don't want to

1146
00:53:50.559 --> 00:53:52.519
<v Speaker 2>do it, But how do I say? You know, we're

1147
00:53:52.639 --> 00:53:54.719
<v Speaker 2>used to someone else having power and control.

1148
00:53:54.440 --> 00:53:55.199
<v Speaker 4>Of our bodies.

1149
00:53:55.320 --> 00:53:57.719
<v Speaker 2>But you know, because through through being there and the

1150
00:53:57.719 --> 00:54:00.719
<v Speaker 2>way we do the consent, everybody has the choice and

1151
00:54:00.760 --> 00:54:04.000
<v Speaker 2>they are autonomous and it feels differently. So that's something

1152
00:54:04.039 --> 00:54:06.639
<v Speaker 2>we want to we want to bring to people and

1153
00:54:06.719 --> 00:54:08.519
<v Speaker 2>I know you'll get that same feeling that I got

1154
00:54:08.519 --> 00:54:10.840
<v Speaker 2>because it's an eye opener to see so many different

1155
00:54:10.880 --> 00:54:13.480
<v Speaker 2>people living in their truth and you can ask questions,

1156
00:54:13.599 --> 00:54:17.199
<v Speaker 2>you can understand, like why you like certain things. You're like, oh,

1157
00:54:17.239 --> 00:54:19.079
<v Speaker 2>that's why I like that shit. Okay, that's dope. That's

1158
00:54:19.079 --> 00:54:20.800
<v Speaker 2>why my girl is saying this. That's what this ship

1159
00:54:20.880 --> 00:54:22.480
<v Speaker 2>means because there are things that we just don't know

1160
00:54:22.559 --> 00:54:23.119
<v Speaker 2>until we know.

1161
00:54:23.840 --> 00:54:27.039
<v Speaker 4>And for me, it was like what in the fuck?

1162
00:54:27.880 --> 00:54:29.760
<v Speaker 2>And so I want as many people to ga have

1163
00:54:29.800 --> 00:54:32.639
<v Speaker 2>that experience as possible so they can like change their

1164
00:54:32.639 --> 00:54:33.039
<v Speaker 2>life in.

1165
00:54:32.960 --> 00:54:33.559
<v Speaker 4>A better way.

1166
00:54:35.079 --> 00:54:40.920
<v Speaker 1>You said this was started by two black women Tiya and.

1167
00:54:40.440 --> 00:54:44.079
<v Speaker 2>So Tim Marie and then Martha Stewart Marla Stewart, Marla

1168
00:54:44.159 --> 00:54:45.400
<v Speaker 2>Stewart Stewart and then.

1169
00:54:45.800 --> 00:54:46.719
<v Speaker 1>Are they both going to be there?

1170
00:54:46.800 --> 00:54:47.639
<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

1171
00:54:47.719 --> 00:54:48.880
<v Speaker 1>Do I interview them as well?

1172
00:54:49.800 --> 00:54:49.920
<v Speaker 2>So?

1173
00:54:50.639 --> 00:54:53.079
<v Speaker 1>Oh so I can find out what got them into

1174
00:54:53.079 --> 00:54:55.960
<v Speaker 1>this space, how much they portrayed in the space, like

1175
00:54:56.000 --> 00:54:59.400
<v Speaker 1>where they started versus where they are now? And will

1176
00:54:59.440 --> 00:54:59.880
<v Speaker 1>that be live?

1177
00:55:00.800 --> 00:55:01.920
<v Speaker 4>We can do a lot more recorded.

1178
00:55:02.119 --> 00:55:04.000
<v Speaker 2>I think it's gonna be be both because there'll be

1179
00:55:04.000 --> 00:55:05.880
<v Speaker 2>people watching, but it'll be recorded.

1180
00:55:05.920 --> 00:55:09.239
<v Speaker 1>It'll be recorded also, and then I can release it here. Okay, dope.

1181
00:55:09.360 --> 00:55:11.000
<v Speaker 1>So if you aren't able to make it, which I

1182
00:55:11.039 --> 00:55:14.440
<v Speaker 1>hope you can. You hope you do, you will still

1183
00:55:14.440 --> 00:55:16.920
<v Speaker 1>be able to hear it on the Heart Store stream. Yeah,

1184
00:55:17.000 --> 00:55:19.360
<v Speaker 1>it's gonna be a hard soci show. Yeah, this is

1185
00:55:19.519 --> 00:55:23.880
<v Speaker 1>fucking great. Are there classes that people can sit and do?

1186
00:55:23.880 --> 00:55:24.760
<v Speaker 1>Do you know any of them?

1187
00:55:25.039 --> 00:55:25.360
<v Speaker 2>What do you mean?

1188
00:55:25.400 --> 00:55:26.639
<v Speaker 4>The people will be teaching classes?

1189
00:55:26.880 --> 00:55:28.880
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, like what what is the class? What do you

1190
00:55:28.960 --> 00:55:30.920
<v Speaker 1>know any of them? Offhand? I know I didn't ask

1191
00:55:30.960 --> 00:55:31.239
<v Speaker 1>you for this.

1192
00:55:31.440 --> 00:55:33.400
<v Speaker 2>No, no, no, So I know some of the base. I

1193
00:55:33.400 --> 00:55:35.599
<v Speaker 2>can give you the basic just so we're always gonna

1194
00:55:35.599 --> 00:55:38.079
<v Speaker 2>explore sexuality. Were always gonna talk about kink, why you

1195
00:55:38.199 --> 00:55:40.920
<v Speaker 2>like it, What kinks are They're gonna be So there's

1196
00:55:40.920 --> 00:55:42.880
<v Speaker 2>a dungeon space. There'll be people that can take you

1197
00:55:42.880 --> 00:55:44.480
<v Speaker 2>if you've never been in the dungeon space. The people

1198
00:55:44.480 --> 00:55:46.000
<v Speaker 2>that can show you how to use the equipment, what

1199
00:55:46.079 --> 00:55:48.519
<v Speaker 2>equipment is the safe way to do the different things.

1200
00:55:48.519 --> 00:55:53.840
<v Speaker 2>So there are demos for there's there was a pegging class.

1201
00:55:53.920 --> 00:55:56.559
<v Speaker 4>There was there a pet How do you do?

1202
00:55:56.679 --> 00:55:57.119
<v Speaker 1>What do you do?

1203
00:55:57.360 --> 00:55:59.159
<v Speaker 2>So the pegging class is for the top end the bottom.

1204
00:55:59.199 --> 00:56:00.840
<v Speaker 2>So people that want to be you have to know

1205
00:56:00.840 --> 00:56:02.519
<v Speaker 2>how to clean out. There's all these things. So when

1206
00:56:02.559 --> 00:56:04.199
<v Speaker 2>you don't know, you feel like I don't want to

1207
00:56:04.239 --> 00:56:07.199
<v Speaker 2>do it. So there's classes that teach you from from

1208
00:56:07.239 --> 00:56:08.760
<v Speaker 2>A to Z all the things you got to do

1209
00:56:08.800 --> 00:56:10.880
<v Speaker 2>at the bottom. As the top it's like how to

1210
00:56:10.880 --> 00:56:12.320
<v Speaker 2>buy a deal though. There's so many things that we

1211
00:56:12.360 --> 00:56:14.519
<v Speaker 2>don't know that we think we know, and then when

1212
00:56:14.519 --> 00:56:16.039
<v Speaker 2>you get to the store and you like the deal doo,

1213
00:56:16.039 --> 00:56:17.400
<v Speaker 2>it feels like shit. Like a lot of women don't

1214
00:56:17.440 --> 00:56:19.239
<v Speaker 2>like them. But they have this. They have a double

1215
00:56:20.000 --> 00:56:22.960
<v Speaker 2>a double dipped, plashed like silicone thing that feels like

1216
00:56:23.000 --> 00:56:23.519
<v Speaker 2>the real thing.

1217
00:56:23.559 --> 00:56:25.039
<v Speaker 4>But if you don't know it exists, you wouldn't know.

1218
00:56:25.079 --> 00:56:27.079
<v Speaker 2>So they teach you how to buy dial thos, what

1219
00:56:27.679 --> 00:56:29.920
<v Speaker 2>chemicals are not safe for your body. It's a lot

1220
00:56:29.920 --> 00:56:31.960
<v Speaker 2>of things, like some women are giving themselves BV through

1221
00:56:31.960 --> 00:56:34.599
<v Speaker 2>their fucking loobe. So it's like a lot of those

1222
00:56:34.599 --> 00:56:36.840
<v Speaker 2>things will be taught down there. Like there's people selling

1223
00:56:36.880 --> 00:56:40.320
<v Speaker 2>the better loobs, different things, and it's just like, uh,

1224
00:56:41.960 --> 00:56:44.000
<v Speaker 2>it's like when you buy some bootlegs, you think it's

1225
00:56:44.000 --> 00:56:45.440
<v Speaker 2>the best and you find out I should just pay

1226
00:56:45.440 --> 00:56:47.480
<v Speaker 2>the extra hundred dollars. It's like all those different things,

1227
00:56:47.519 --> 00:56:49.119
<v Speaker 2>and there's a lot of sex toys you can try,

1228
00:56:49.719 --> 00:56:55.679
<v Speaker 2>so it's I think, think of a Walmart of sex.

1229
00:56:55.519 --> 00:56:59.239
<v Speaker 1>And kink and can't Yeah, what was it gonna ask you?

1230
00:56:59.320 --> 00:57:02.760
<v Speaker 1>Are they going to be the vendors everything? How many

1231
00:57:02.960 --> 00:57:04.639
<v Speaker 1>can you. First of all, can you still be a vendor?

1232
00:57:04.800 --> 00:57:05.800
<v Speaker 1>Is it? Is it still open?

1233
00:57:06.880 --> 00:57:08.280
<v Speaker 2>If you're trying to vent I think we can make

1234
00:57:08.280 --> 00:57:10.159
<v Speaker 2>that happen, but I don't. I think the vending application

1235
00:57:10.199 --> 00:57:10.639
<v Speaker 2>may be closed.

1236
00:57:10.639 --> 00:57:12.360
<v Speaker 1>I can check. Okay, Well, no, I'm not. I was

1237
00:57:12.400 --> 00:57:15.079
<v Speaker 1>just trying to see I'm here for everybody. You know

1238
00:57:15.079 --> 00:57:16.679
<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying. Somebody like, yo, I want to be there.

1239
00:57:16.719 --> 00:57:19.440
<v Speaker 1>The didn't know what's coming because I've never know whitty

1240
00:57:19.480 --> 00:57:25.119
<v Speaker 1>y'all promote that. Do y'all get you know you've lost

1241
00:57:25.199 --> 00:57:28.519
<v Speaker 1>a million pages, you've lost I don't, yo, I don't.

1242
00:57:28.559 --> 00:57:32.920
<v Speaker 1>Even trying to stay on Eli's line is hard because

1243
00:57:33.159 --> 00:57:36.599
<v Speaker 1>Instagram be on your ass. They literally be like, oh

1244
00:57:36.639 --> 00:57:38.599
<v Speaker 1>that's him, all right, he's out of here, He's out

1245
00:57:38.599 --> 00:57:41.280
<v Speaker 1>of here, and you always go viral, but then they

1246
00:57:41.360 --> 00:57:42.159
<v Speaker 1>come and take your ship.

1247
00:57:42.480 --> 00:57:44.480
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, so interesting does.

1248
00:57:44.360 --> 00:57:46.840
<v Speaker 1>Sex down South being as sex is in the name.

1249
00:57:47.280 --> 00:57:50.199
<v Speaker 2>So their at their Instagram is just SDS con to

1250
00:57:50.320 --> 00:57:53.159
<v Speaker 2>that point, But it does make it hard to advertise

1251
00:57:53.320 --> 00:57:57.039
<v Speaker 2>in traditional spaces when your your name is sex, even

1252
00:57:57.079 --> 00:57:59.960
<v Speaker 2>if it's helpful, like their website is Sex down South,

1253
00:58:00.079 --> 00:58:02.079
<v Speaker 2>So it makes it hard to be on the billboard.

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<v Speaker 4>And things of that nature. So a lot of it's

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00:58:03.400 --> 00:58:04.039
<v Speaker 4>just word of mouth.

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00:58:04.199 --> 00:58:09.280
<v Speaker 2>It really is Instagram, uh, Facebook, Twitter, and that's just

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00:58:09.320 --> 00:58:10.559
<v Speaker 2>like people passing it around.

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00:58:11.480 --> 00:58:13.880
<v Speaker 4>That's how most things in our community get started.

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00:58:13.599 --> 00:58:16.400
<v Speaker 1>Really right, word of mouth. Right, it's still it's still

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00:58:16.400 --> 00:58:18.199
<v Speaker 1>a railroad at some point. We still got to do

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00:58:18.199 --> 00:58:20.840
<v Speaker 1>the underground railroad at some point because the powers that

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00:58:20.960 --> 00:58:24.360
<v Speaker 1>be try to, I mean, hut you down.

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00:58:24.480 --> 00:58:26.440
<v Speaker 2>The list of words that you can no longer say

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00:58:26.559 --> 00:58:28.039
<v Speaker 2>in the metaverse.

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00:58:27.559 --> 00:58:30.119
<v Speaker 1>Is not it's crazy, it's nuts. It is.

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00:58:30.599 --> 00:58:31.079
<v Speaker 4>It changes.

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00:58:31.119 --> 00:58:33.280
<v Speaker 2>So now you can't use the egg plant emoji. You

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00:58:33.320 --> 00:58:35.760
<v Speaker 2>can't use because the emojis that even signify.

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00:58:35.400 --> 00:58:36.880
<v Speaker 1>Sex or are there are you can't use it.

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00:58:37.440 --> 00:58:39.000
<v Speaker 2>You're not if you use the egg planetmoje, you're gonna

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00:58:39.000 --> 00:58:43.000
<v Speaker 2>be shuttle band I promise, I promise you. Water cat

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00:58:43.159 --> 00:58:45.719
<v Speaker 2>is because they're keeping up with the langueb right, and

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00:58:45.800 --> 00:58:47.880
<v Speaker 2>it is always evolving, but it's it's wild.

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00:58:48.039 --> 00:58:53.880
<v Speaker 1>Right. Where do we see sex down South? So? Wait,

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00:58:53.960 --> 00:58:57.039
<v Speaker 1>the Instagram or social media? Where are they on social media?

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00:58:57.159 --> 00:59:01.440
<v Speaker 2>So on Instagram is sds co o n so sds

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00:59:01.559 --> 00:59:07.639
<v Speaker 2>CON On Twitter is sex down South atl. I think

1278
00:59:07.719 --> 00:59:11.119
<v Speaker 2>Facebook is the same thing as sds CON and their

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00:59:11.119 --> 00:59:13.360
<v Speaker 2>website is Sex down South dot com.

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00:59:13.039 --> 00:59:15.400
<v Speaker 1>Okay dot com, and you can go to the website

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00:59:15.440 --> 00:59:17.400
<v Speaker 1>and you can sign up. They'll buy tickets or whatever

1282
00:59:17.800 --> 00:59:23.159
<v Speaker 1>on the website. Okay, Well, there's still a couple of

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00:59:23.159 --> 00:59:24.840
<v Speaker 1>things I want to ask you. I think I have

1284
00:59:24.920 --> 00:59:29.599
<v Speaker 1>you for two more minutes. Where does Sex down South

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00:59:29.840 --> 00:59:32.400
<v Speaker 1>go from here? What is it? What is the goal

1286
00:59:32.679 --> 00:59:35.119
<v Speaker 1>at the end? Is it staying in atl Do they travel?

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00:59:35.440 --> 00:59:38.119
<v Speaker 1>You know Exotica does, like all of these different states.

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00:59:38.159 --> 00:59:40.639
<v Speaker 1>Are they trying to do that in a black form?

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00:59:41.119 --> 00:59:44.400
<v Speaker 2>So yes, Sex down South has been in Houston. We're

1290
00:59:44.840 --> 00:59:46.519
<v Speaker 2>going to be up here in New York at some point.

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00:59:47.280 --> 00:59:48.840
<v Speaker 1>Oh, so it's already trying to do that.

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00:59:48.920 --> 00:59:50.679
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, we're trying to, Like it's gonna be a pop up.

1293
00:59:50.679 --> 00:59:52.920
<v Speaker 2>It'll be a small pop up. We're gonna do New York.

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00:59:53.360 --> 00:59:57.679
<v Speaker 2>We did Houston. Someone is trying to get us in Cleveland,

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00:59:58.679 --> 01:00:00.559
<v Speaker 2>and I know we're supposed to do DC in Philly.

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01:00:01.039 --> 01:00:02.440
<v Speaker 2>But they'll just be pop ups. They won't be a

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01:00:02.440 --> 01:00:04.679
<v Speaker 2>three day event. We'll be like a one day workshop.

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01:00:05.159 --> 01:00:06.639
<v Speaker 2>But I know that in the works.

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01:00:06.320 --> 01:00:10.960
<v Speaker 1>Right, how did you get involved with Sex down self?

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01:00:11.400 --> 01:00:12.760
<v Speaker 1>And like, what is your role now?

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01:00:13.800 --> 01:00:16.960
<v Speaker 4>So that actually I don't work for Sex down South.

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01:00:17.039 --> 01:00:20.360
<v Speaker 2>I am working with them because we have similar goals

1303
01:00:20.840 --> 01:00:22.199
<v Speaker 2>and because they help sex workers.

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01:00:22.320 --> 01:00:24.159
<v Speaker 4>What I did is this year, I.

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01:00:25.960 --> 01:00:29.920
<v Speaker 2>Think i've donated so far, I've given around three thousand

1306
01:00:30.000 --> 01:00:31.920
<v Speaker 2>and I played another So I played about six thousand

1307
01:00:32.119 --> 01:00:34.280
<v Speaker 2>dollars of my own money to Sex down South to

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01:00:34.320 --> 01:00:37.440
<v Speaker 2>help them, you know, fill their mission. Because they help

1309
01:00:37.480 --> 01:00:39.320
<v Speaker 2>sex workers. They helped me when I first went there.

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01:00:39.360 --> 01:00:42.079
<v Speaker 2>They like, come onto the conference, they allowed me to come,

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01:00:42.079 --> 01:00:43.199
<v Speaker 2>they put me in classes.

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01:00:43.400 --> 01:00:46.159
<v Speaker 4>I met a lot of people there. So they help

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01:00:46.239 --> 01:00:47.679
<v Speaker 4>people that are doing the work.

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01:00:47.679 --> 01:00:49.760
<v Speaker 2>Whether you call yourself a content creator, they help you

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01:00:49.840 --> 01:00:52.199
<v Speaker 2>get the resources you need so that you can legitimize

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01:00:52.199 --> 01:00:54.400
<v Speaker 2>what you're doing and be on.

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01:00:54.360 --> 01:00:55.679
<v Speaker 4>The right side of the law if you will.

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01:00:56.519 --> 01:01:00.119
<v Speaker 2>So for all the people that are sex workers that

1319
01:01:00.119 --> 01:01:02.679
<v Speaker 2>I want to understand more about sexuality, it's a safe

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01:01:02.719 --> 01:01:04.480
<v Speaker 2>space to learn and grow.

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01:01:05.119 --> 01:01:06.519
<v Speaker 4>And so that's how I got there.

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01:01:06.599 --> 01:01:08.159
<v Speaker 2>And so what I did is I partner with them

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01:01:08.159 --> 01:01:12.679
<v Speaker 2>this year to give money to them, and I'm also

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01:01:12.800 --> 01:01:13.840
<v Speaker 2>doing fundraising for them.

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01:01:13.840 --> 01:01:14.599
<v Speaker 4>Like I said, I believe in.

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01:01:14.599 --> 01:01:17.199
<v Speaker 2>Their mission and what they're doing, so I decided to

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01:01:17.239 --> 01:01:19.920
<v Speaker 2>help them with money and also my support in any

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<v Speaker 2>way that I can.

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01:01:20.719 --> 01:01:23.519
<v Speaker 1>That's really dope. I want to know how I can help.

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01:01:24.039 --> 01:01:26.159
<v Speaker 2>You being there like this right now we're doing the

1331
01:01:26.159 --> 01:01:29.519
<v Speaker 2>segment you're gonna come. That is a big help. Your

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01:01:29.559 --> 01:01:33.519
<v Speaker 2>presence and then talking about your experience. So you may

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01:01:33.559 --> 01:01:35.559
<v Speaker 2>not recognize the footprint that you have, but a lot

1334
01:01:35.639 --> 01:01:40.280
<v Speaker 2>of people men, especially because you know, real real niggas

1335
01:01:40.320 --> 01:01:41.079
<v Speaker 2>respect for real niggas.

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01:01:41.119 --> 01:01:43.800
<v Speaker 4>This is just nigga shit. They respect you and they hear.

1337
01:01:43.679 --> 01:01:46.400
<v Speaker 2>How you like one nigga you podcast, you said, what's

1338
01:01:46.400 --> 01:01:48.639
<v Speaker 2>the worst show this motherfucker said? Nigga said, sucks a

1339
01:01:48.639 --> 01:01:49.000
<v Speaker 2>little dick.

1340
01:01:49.159 --> 01:01:50.280
<v Speaker 4>He was like you talking about Eli.

1341
01:01:51.480 --> 01:01:55.400
<v Speaker 2>Because you have this open reaction around people being themselves,

1342
01:01:56.039 --> 01:01:58.440
<v Speaker 2>it gives a lot of niggas pause and that's real shit,

1343
01:01:58.719 --> 01:02:01.039
<v Speaker 2>Like that is actually something I can tangribly say that

1344
01:02:01.039 --> 01:02:01.679
<v Speaker 2>it's happening.

1345
01:02:01.920 --> 01:02:03.599
<v Speaker 4>When I would say, have you seen the harder stung? Like, yeah,

1346
01:02:03.639 --> 01:02:05.719
<v Speaker 4>the niggata o crazy, but I fuck I respect them.

1347
01:02:06.000 --> 01:02:08.320
<v Speaker 2>So a lot of you are doing a work in

1348
01:02:08.360 --> 01:02:11.000
<v Speaker 2>your own way, and so having more people like you

1349
01:02:11.039 --> 01:02:13.239
<v Speaker 2>come and experiencing and talking about it, that's a big help.

1350
01:02:15.400 --> 01:02:18.559
<v Speaker 2>But yeah, you're doing all you you You have done

1351
01:02:18.559 --> 01:02:20.840
<v Speaker 2>everything that I've asked you to do in conjunction with this,

1352
01:02:21.000 --> 01:02:22.639
<v Speaker 2>So I'm satisfied.

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01:02:22.880 --> 01:02:25.719
<v Speaker 1>All right, Well, I could do more, and I'll try

1354
01:02:25.760 --> 01:02:27.559
<v Speaker 1>to do more. I love what I do. I love

1355
01:02:27.599 --> 01:02:29.639
<v Speaker 1>our life, you know what I'm saying. I love where

1356
01:02:29.639 --> 01:02:32.119
<v Speaker 1>I am now. I love the journey that I've been on,

1357
01:02:32.320 --> 01:02:34.679
<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying. So I'm excited to see

1358
01:02:34.679 --> 01:02:39.000
<v Speaker 1>where it takes me. What are the dates of Sex Down.

1359
01:02:38.840 --> 01:02:41.760
<v Speaker 4>South September fourth, fifth and sixth.

1360
01:02:41.639 --> 01:02:44.760
<v Speaker 1>September fourth, fifth, and six If you are out there,

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01:02:46.440 --> 01:02:51.639
<v Speaker 1>join me in Atlanta at Sex Down South September, fourth,

1362
01:02:52.000 --> 01:02:56.199
<v Speaker 1>fifth and sixth. And also, what is your new Instagram?

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01:02:56.760 --> 01:02:58.719
<v Speaker 2>Eli Daniel seven eleven?

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01:02:59.159 --> 01:03:02.159
<v Speaker 1>No dot, no nothing, no doubt, no nothing, Eli Daniel

1365
01:03:02.599 --> 01:03:05.840
<v Speaker 1>seven eleven. Right. Has anybody ever asked you to play

1366
01:03:05.840 --> 01:03:07.119
<v Speaker 1>a specific song on nave Ova?

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01:03:07.519 --> 01:03:12.880
<v Speaker 2>Yeah? Anytime any plays Happy Birthday, ROBERTA. Flack, a whole

1368
01:03:12.920 --> 01:03:15.119
<v Speaker 2>bunch of different things. But on my Instagram, I'm only

1369
01:03:15.119 --> 01:03:18.079
<v Speaker 2>doing music. If you want to hear porn, go to Twitter.

1370
01:03:18.159 --> 01:03:21.000
<v Speaker 2>On Instagram, I only do music. I'm not doing anything

1371
01:03:21.079 --> 01:03:25.760
<v Speaker 2>sex related. Yeah, niggas can't even tag me that I

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01:03:25.840 --> 01:03:27.519
<v Speaker 2>work with them if they are sex worker. I don't

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01:03:27.559 --> 01:03:27.920
<v Speaker 2>even do.

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01:03:27.880 --> 01:03:32.400
<v Speaker 1>That thank you so much on here. This is a

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01:03:32.440 --> 01:03:34.519
<v Speaker 1>great episode. By the way, I don't even think I'm

1376
01:03:34.519 --> 01:03:36.800
<v Speaker 1>gonna put I was gonna do this as a short.

1377
01:03:37.159 --> 01:03:40.199
<v Speaker 1>I think I'm just gonna release this as it. Do it,

1378
01:03:40.239 --> 01:03:42.119
<v Speaker 1>Iel what I'm saying, because this has been such an

1379
01:03:42.119 --> 01:03:47.079
<v Speaker 1>amazing moment. We will see you in Atlanta the fourth,

1380
01:03:47.199 --> 01:03:53.360
<v Speaker 1>September fourth, September fifth, and September sixth. Sex, Love, Relationships

1381
01:03:53.840 --> 01:03:57.639
<v Speaker 1>and Accountability. This is the hardest so show with the

1382
01:03:57.760 --> 01:03:59.079
<v Speaker 1>naked trumpeter.

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01:03:59.480 --> 01:04:03.639
<v Speaker 2>Eli did Yes, thank you man, I appreciate your brother show.

1384
01:04:04.000 --> 01:04:05.280
<v Speaker 2>Are you still adjusting your breast?

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01:04:05.599 --> 01:04:07.159
<v Speaker 5>Yeah? I have to do.

1386
01:04:07.199 --> 01:04:08.519
<v Speaker 1>You have that problem a lot.

1387
01:04:08.440 --> 01:04:12.679
<v Speaker 5>Like oh women have of titties women.

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01:04:13.519 --> 01:04:17.480
<v Speaker 1>I'm just wondering if it's like you're not used to

1389
01:04:17.679 --> 01:04:18.000
<v Speaker 1>by now?

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01:04:18.519 --> 01:04:22.239
<v Speaker 5>No, I mean I am, but like you know, like.

1391
01:04:22.239 --> 01:04:24.159
<v Speaker 1>I feel like you're mad at the right one, like

1392
01:04:24.199 --> 01:04:26.360
<v Speaker 1>you or mad at the left one, but you mad at.

1393
01:04:26.239 --> 01:04:28.559
<v Speaker 5>One of them. This one's bigger.

1394
01:04:28.519 --> 01:04:31.440
<v Speaker 1>Left the left one, So do you like it bigger or.

1395
01:04:31.960 --> 01:04:34.199
<v Speaker 5>Like if this bitch could cooperate, So.

1396
01:04:34.159 --> 01:04:35.599
<v Speaker 1>You're mad at the right one for not being as

1397
01:04:35.639 --> 01:04:36.320
<v Speaker 1>big right?

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01:04:37.039 --> 01:04:40.119
<v Speaker 5>No, because if it was, if it was smaller, I

1399
01:04:40.159 --> 01:04:41.079
<v Speaker 5>think it would have looked better.

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01:04:42.199 --> 01:04:46.480
<v Speaker 1>Oh okay, well they look great. Think you look great? Definitely? Yes?

1401
01:04:47.159 --> 01:04:50.559
<v Speaker 1>All right, So here we are on our second edition. Yes,

1402
01:04:51.239 --> 01:04:55.960
<v Speaker 1>for the oh you're talking today, Relax you relax, you

1403
01:04:56.079 --> 01:05:00.760
<v Speaker 1>have to relax. I don't even I am. I am

1404
01:05:00.800 --> 01:05:07.599
<v Speaker 1>here with my cousin, Sir Yesterday Slim Jones side quest. Yes,

1405
01:05:10.440 --> 01:05:14.320
<v Speaker 1>on our second edition for the love of Yesterday. Show.

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01:05:14.719 --> 01:05:17.559
<v Speaker 1>Very exciting. The first show was pretty good. It's pretty good.

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01:05:17.639 --> 01:05:20.559
<v Speaker 1>You got a lot of good reviews.

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01:05:20.760 --> 01:05:23.880
<v Speaker 3>Yes, yes, yes, I definitely appreciate everybody supporting that for sure.

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01:05:24.079 --> 01:05:28.079
<v Speaker 1>For sure. Yeah, we have an internet sensation. Yes, oh

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01:05:28.199 --> 01:05:35.840
<v Speaker 1>I like that sensation. Yeah, sensation here with us as

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01:05:36.039 --> 01:05:41.840
<v Speaker 1>our second contestant, right, probably our best contestant, hopefully our

1412
01:05:41.880 --> 01:05:45.760
<v Speaker 1>best contestant. We'll see our first contestant. Our first contestant

1413
01:05:45.800 --> 01:05:47.760
<v Speaker 1>wasn't nothing to sneeze at. So we're going to see

1414
01:05:47.760 --> 01:05:52.519
<v Speaker 1>what you got to offer. My cousin on his quest

1415
01:05:53.960 --> 01:05:59.880
<v Speaker 1>for a partner in the game. What your name is, Crystally, Crystally, Yes,

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01:06:00.000 --> 01:06:01.159
<v Speaker 1>tell us about yourself, Christally.

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01:06:04.320 --> 01:06:05.400
<v Speaker 5>I'm just like girl.

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01:06:06.840 --> 01:06:08.159
<v Speaker 1>Like that. This is good.

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01:06:08.239 --> 01:06:08.480
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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01:06:08.679 --> 01:06:11.559
<v Speaker 1>Confidence, you know early, you know early confidence.

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01:06:11.119 --> 01:06:15.159
<v Speaker 5>Is like for real, I am that girl. But how

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01:06:15.320 --> 01:06:18.800
<v Speaker 5>y'all when I was crystally thirty years old. No kids,

1423
01:06:18.960 --> 01:06:23.679
<v Speaker 5>I don't smoke. I drink a little bit. Content creator

1424
01:06:23.920 --> 01:06:30.000
<v Speaker 5>slash business women. M that's really it? Yeah?

1425
01:06:30.599 --> 01:06:36.679
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, are you actually looking for a relationship You're just

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01:06:36.679 --> 01:06:39.480
<v Speaker 1>playing around? Do you? Are you monogamous? Are you?

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01:06:40.239 --> 01:06:43.320
<v Speaker 5>I want love like I want to. I don't have

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01:06:43.400 --> 01:06:46.679
<v Speaker 5>no holes. I really don't have a roster like. I

1429
01:06:46.760 --> 01:06:50.719
<v Speaker 5>have low tolerance for people in general, and that goes

1430
01:06:50.719 --> 01:06:53.960
<v Speaker 5>for men too. But I want to be people. Men

1431
01:06:54.079 --> 01:07:01.679
<v Speaker 5>are people, but like everybody, like everybody can get it.

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01:07:01.920 --> 01:07:05.239
<v Speaker 1>Everybody get the smoke, equal opportunity.

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01:07:05.639 --> 01:07:08.199
<v Speaker 5>It just straight because I think people will be like,

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01:07:08.239 --> 01:07:11.599
<v Speaker 5>you know, men are in a different boat.

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01:07:11.679 --> 01:07:14.599
<v Speaker 1>And it's like, no, I like that.

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01:07:15.199 --> 01:07:18.360
<v Speaker 5>But yeah, I just I want to be married, you know.

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01:07:18.559 --> 01:07:20.760
<v Speaker 5>I want to have kids one day. I want to

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01:07:20.760 --> 01:07:21.280
<v Speaker 5>be in love.

1439
01:07:21.719 --> 01:07:23.559
<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Have you ever been in love before?

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01:07:24.639 --> 01:07:25.679
<v Speaker 5>I think it was puppy love.

1441
01:07:26.719 --> 01:07:27.320
<v Speaker 1>You had a dog?

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01:07:27.960 --> 01:07:32.639
<v Speaker 5>Pretty much? Yeah, pretty much. I have the babysit, feed

1443
01:07:32.679 --> 01:07:35.880
<v Speaker 5>him once a day, walk him.

1444
01:07:35.920 --> 01:07:42.480
<v Speaker 1>He was cute When you said everybody could get it,

1445
01:07:42.559 --> 01:07:49.760
<v Speaker 1>obviously for me we very lgbt Q friendly. I'm straight, Okay.

1446
01:07:49.639 --> 01:07:52.880
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I tried it.

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01:07:54.280 --> 01:07:54.760
<v Speaker 1>Clean it up?

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01:07:54.800 --> 01:08:03.039
<v Speaker 5>What did you do I don't know. Gruh you knowycky

1449
01:08:03.440 --> 01:08:04.119
<v Speaker 5>ca memorium.

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01:08:04.280 --> 01:08:06.360
<v Speaker 1>Wait was it a mutral?

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01:08:06.559 --> 01:08:12.320
<v Speaker 3>That's yeah, mutual, that's I love it. I love a

1452
01:08:12.320 --> 01:08:16.439
<v Speaker 3>person that recipics. Yet, no fairness, I don't like stingy lesbians.

1453
01:08:17.199 --> 01:08:19.399
<v Speaker 5>Oh was it a pillow princess?

1454
01:08:19.560 --> 01:08:21.760
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, they don't, they don't. They would love you to

1455
01:08:21.800 --> 01:08:23.319
<v Speaker 1>do it, but they like they but.

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01:08:23.479 --> 01:08:26.399
<v Speaker 5>Some women don't want it to be done to them.

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01:08:26.800 --> 01:08:27.159
<v Speaker 1>Really.

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01:08:27.359 --> 01:08:27.560
<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

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01:08:27.680 --> 01:08:32.760
<v Speaker 1>So it's like like the studs or this regular woman

1460
01:08:32.760 --> 01:08:34.199
<v Speaker 1>that like eating pussy that don't want you to eat.

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01:08:34.479 --> 01:08:35.760
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I can't.

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01:08:35.960 --> 01:08:41.039
<v Speaker 1>Maybe I'm one of those about that you like get ahead,

1463
01:08:41.079 --> 01:08:42.039
<v Speaker 1>but you don't want that back.

1464
01:08:45.039 --> 01:08:48.560
<v Speaker 5>That's kind of like, wait, you don't like give ahead.

1465
01:08:48.600 --> 01:08:49.239
<v Speaker 5>I'm confused.

1466
01:08:49.680 --> 01:08:51.600
<v Speaker 1>I mean, if I could be a pillow princess, I

1467
01:08:51.600 --> 01:08:55.000
<v Speaker 1>would be okay, just have your feet up, just do

1468
01:08:55.039 --> 01:08:56.840
<v Speaker 1>your you know what I'm saying. I pay the bills

1469
01:08:56.840 --> 01:09:05.479
<v Speaker 1>around here, Okay, I didn't start the timer. It's very

1470
01:09:05.600 --> 01:09:12.159
<v Speaker 1>like me so crystally. Yes, this is a show where

1471
01:09:12.199 --> 01:09:14.760
<v Speaker 1>we really are trying to see what what the energy

1472
01:09:14.840 --> 01:09:16.720
<v Speaker 1>is like between y'all right, We're gonna ask you a

1473
01:09:16.720 --> 01:09:19.439
<v Speaker 1>bunch of questions. I'm going to ask the questions, but don't.

1474
01:09:19.520 --> 01:09:23.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm not here when you answer the question. Y'all talk

1475
01:09:23.079 --> 01:09:25.640
<v Speaker 1>to each other exactly, y'all talk to each other, don't

1476
01:09:25.680 --> 01:09:27.960
<v Speaker 1>talk to me. I'm whatever. You know what I'm saying.

1477
01:09:28.000 --> 01:09:35.279
<v Speaker 1>I'm just a voice here. Y'all are the personality. Yeah, hello, look,

1478
01:09:35.720 --> 01:09:41.239
<v Speaker 1>thank you, appreciate it. Wait to y'all booze already.

1479
01:09:41.520 --> 01:09:47.159
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, it's no competition, shut it down.

1480
01:09:48.119 --> 01:09:51.840
<v Speaker 3>Feeling about how you're feeling about crystally, and I'm feeling good.

1481
01:09:51.880 --> 01:09:53.880
<v Speaker 3>I'm feeling really good like she. I'm first of all,

1482
01:09:53.880 --> 01:09:56.239
<v Speaker 3>I'm happy that you came, very very appreciative of you.

1483
01:09:56.439 --> 01:09:59.680
<v Speaker 3>So and I'm so excited to do this because I

1484
01:09:59.680 --> 01:10:01.800
<v Speaker 3>feel like I could just kind of sense that this

1485
01:10:01.920 --> 01:10:04.000
<v Speaker 3>is going to be it's going to be good.

1486
01:10:04.359 --> 01:10:06.119
<v Speaker 1>So I'm just looking forward to it.

1487
01:10:06.359 --> 01:10:09.159
<v Speaker 5>Thank you. I appreciated yourself.

1488
01:10:09.359 --> 01:10:09.680
<v Speaker 1>Thank you.

1489
01:10:09.720 --> 01:10:10.720
<v Speaker 5>I appreciate it.

1490
01:10:12.479 --> 01:10:19.720
<v Speaker 1>Oh why so which one? Black? Okay? Look crazy little tea.

1491
01:10:19.760 --> 01:10:21.279
<v Speaker 1>You had to you know, I had to have to

1492
01:10:21.279 --> 01:10:22.760
<v Speaker 1>come right because you know, I know what was in

1493
01:10:22.760 --> 01:10:25.920
<v Speaker 1>the building. You know what I'm saying. You know, it's

1494
01:10:25.920 --> 01:10:29.000
<v Speaker 1>been a nice summer. It's midsummer in summer. How you

1495
01:10:29.079 --> 01:10:31.560
<v Speaker 1>doing out there? You're still single, you're taking you're dating.

1496
01:10:31.399 --> 01:10:34.359
<v Speaker 3>Very much still single. I've just been in grid mode. Yeah,

1497
01:10:34.760 --> 01:10:39.399
<v Speaker 3>been in grind old roster. It's been finny throat, no roster,

1498
01:10:39.680 --> 01:10:52.760
<v Speaker 3>no roster. So you haven't got no box. Oh summer now, hello, hello, relaxing.

1499
01:10:53.199 --> 01:10:57.479
<v Speaker 3>All right, you're asking different questions now. Oh so you're saying,

1500
01:10:57.520 --> 01:10:58.199
<v Speaker 3>how is my summer?

1501
01:10:58.279 --> 01:11:00.520
<v Speaker 1>Right? So there's no right, so let's clean it up,

1502
01:11:00.800 --> 01:11:01.359
<v Speaker 1>clean it up.

1503
01:11:02.960 --> 01:11:06.520
<v Speaker 3>So yes, I have had sex this summer, but very

1504
01:11:06.600 --> 01:11:08.640
<v Speaker 3>early in the summer because like it's almost non.

1505
01:11:08.560 --> 01:11:09.439
<v Speaker 1>Existent at this point.

1506
01:11:09.560 --> 01:11:12.319
<v Speaker 3>Okay, okay, But as far as like my dating and

1507
01:11:12.479 --> 01:11:16.119
<v Speaker 3>like you know, the whole ship bang, very minimums.

1508
01:11:16.319 --> 01:11:20.720
<v Speaker 1>Nothing right if she were openly dating with that bother

1509
01:11:20.800 --> 01:11:22.600
<v Speaker 1>you like dating other people, No.

1510
01:11:22.800 --> 01:11:25.840
<v Speaker 3>Not at all, because I feel like eventually they'll just

1511
01:11:25.920 --> 01:11:29.640
<v Speaker 3>fall off anyway, that's just how it goes. Yeah, once

1512
01:11:29.680 --> 01:11:31.720
<v Speaker 3>I show up, it's kind of just like a you

1513
01:11:31.880 --> 01:11:40.600
<v Speaker 3>that girl too, technically, come on, come on. But yeah,

1514
01:11:40.840 --> 01:11:41.960
<v Speaker 3>it wouldn't bought me, not at all.

1515
01:11:42.359 --> 01:11:44.439
<v Speaker 1>Christly, what about what about you? If he were dating

1516
01:11:44.520 --> 01:11:47.199
<v Speaker 1>other people with that bother you, yeah, it would.

1517
01:11:47.600 --> 01:11:51.560
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I'm greedy because it's me or.

1518
01:11:51.600 --> 01:11:57.319
<v Speaker 1>Nothing from the door from inception from the men I

1519
01:11:57.439 --> 01:11:58.720
<v Speaker 1>meet you drop them.

1520
01:11:58.640 --> 01:12:03.119
<v Speaker 5>Host, figure it out, figure it out, figure it out?

1521
01:12:04.560 --> 01:12:06.880
<v Speaker 5>You like her? Like her? Or do you are you

1522
01:12:07.119 --> 01:12:11.239
<v Speaker 5>like single? Or are you looking for something different? You

1523
01:12:11.319 --> 01:12:13.800
<v Speaker 5>know what I'm saying. So I feel like for me,

1524
01:12:13.880 --> 01:12:19.119
<v Speaker 5>it's like, yeah, like figure it out, learn how to

1525
01:12:19.119 --> 01:12:19.680
<v Speaker 5>figure it out.

1526
01:12:19.880 --> 01:12:21.239
<v Speaker 1>So is it like a time period for that or

1527
01:12:21.279 --> 01:12:21.840
<v Speaker 1>you just feel like.

1528
01:12:21.880 --> 01:12:23.560
<v Speaker 5>As soon as I mean, I mean, there is like

1529
01:12:23.600 --> 01:12:25.640
<v Speaker 5>a low key time period, like don't you know not

1530
01:12:25.800 --> 01:12:30.359
<v Speaker 5>honestly not, I mean, I'm not delusional some time, but

1531
01:12:30.600 --> 01:12:32.520
<v Speaker 5>like you know, I guess, as we get to know

1532
01:12:32.640 --> 01:12:36.600
<v Speaker 5>each other, ask yourself like, Okay, do I want to

1533
01:12:36.640 --> 01:12:38.880
<v Speaker 5>continue getting to know her or do I want to

1534
01:12:38.920 --> 01:12:40.840
<v Speaker 5>continue getting to know the other person? You know what

1535
01:12:40.880 --> 01:12:46.640
<v Speaker 5>I mean? So if you pick one, I don't think

1536
01:12:46.640 --> 01:12:47.159
<v Speaker 5>there's really like.

1537
01:12:47.199 --> 01:12:52.680
<v Speaker 1>A generally generally two weeks, four weeks, some change.

1538
01:12:53.199 --> 01:12:55.840
<v Speaker 5>Because I think like during the month where it'll be like,

1539
01:12:55.960 --> 01:12:57.640
<v Speaker 5>you know, getting to know each other, talking to each other,

1540
01:12:57.760 --> 01:13:01.359
<v Speaker 5>probably went on a date or two, but I guess,

1541
01:13:01.479 --> 01:13:04.560
<v Speaker 5>depending how fast is going or I think.

1542
01:13:04.479 --> 01:13:07.079
<v Speaker 1>Everything is situational, so it kind of depends on So.

1543
01:13:07.119 --> 01:13:10.720
<v Speaker 5>It's not like a time period, but in a timely

1544
01:13:10.880 --> 01:13:12.840
<v Speaker 5>man yeah, like we're like.

1545
01:13:12.880 --> 01:13:18.600
<v Speaker 1>Hurry up right very very time. You guys actually know

1546
01:13:18.680 --> 01:13:23.039
<v Speaker 1>each other, do you guys or just on Instagram? Christy,

1547
01:13:23.119 --> 01:13:24.720
<v Speaker 1>I have a question for you.

1548
01:13:24.960 --> 01:13:27.960
<v Speaker 5>It's like I want to like, look you look.

1549
01:13:29.159 --> 01:13:34.560
<v Speaker 1>How long after expressing interest on Instagram do you expect

1550
01:13:34.600 --> 01:13:36.479
<v Speaker 1>the guy to like ask for your number?

1551
01:13:39.760 --> 01:13:42.159
<v Speaker 5>I don't know, like depending on what we're talking about,

1552
01:13:42.239 --> 01:13:44.920
<v Speaker 5>Like if he's on something like you know, I want

1553
01:13:44.920 --> 01:13:46.640
<v Speaker 5>to go, you know, go out, or I want to

1554
01:13:46.680 --> 01:13:48.239
<v Speaker 5>like talk to you and get to know you better.

1555
01:13:50.039 --> 01:13:52.319
<v Speaker 5>So to get to know me better, you have to

1556
01:13:52.399 --> 01:13:53.000
<v Speaker 5>have a number.

1557
01:13:53.760 --> 01:13:55.399
<v Speaker 1>Like if you ever get turned off if a guy

1558
01:13:55.479 --> 01:13:57.600
<v Speaker 1>just stays for yeah, you do.

1559
01:13:57.960 --> 01:14:00.319
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, because not for like we pampals, like please leave

1560
01:14:00.319 --> 01:14:02.399
<v Speaker 5>me alone. I have a lot.

1561
01:14:03.039 --> 01:14:04.920
<v Speaker 1>So it's like, what is it two weeks? Three weeks?

1562
01:14:04.960 --> 01:14:06.119
<v Speaker 1>Maybe it could be three months, Like.

1563
01:14:06.159 --> 01:14:06.720
<v Speaker 2>What is it?

1564
01:14:07.159 --> 01:14:09.359
<v Speaker 5>It's like two weeks, Like I'll give it like two weeks.

1565
01:14:09.479 --> 01:14:12.840
<v Speaker 5>If you take more than two weeks of even trying

1566
01:14:12.880 --> 01:14:17.600
<v Speaker 5>to plan anything or seeing if anything is go go

1567
01:14:17.960 --> 01:14:22.439
<v Speaker 5>any further, then cool. I'm gonna just suggest that you're

1568
01:14:23.880 --> 01:14:26.159
<v Speaker 5>you know, I want to be friends, and that's as

1569
01:14:26.199 --> 01:14:29.880
<v Speaker 5>far as it goes. And if you later on like

1570
01:14:30.039 --> 01:14:32.520
<v Speaker 5>a month later or two months later, be like you know,

1571
01:14:32.600 --> 01:14:35.279
<v Speaker 5>I want to I want to know you had that

1572
01:14:35.439 --> 01:14:36.399
<v Speaker 5>time done?

1573
01:14:37.399 --> 01:14:39.880
<v Speaker 1>No more time. Do you can see yourself to be possessive?

1574
01:14:40.800 --> 01:14:40.840
<v Speaker 5>No?

1575
01:14:41.560 --> 01:14:45.279
<v Speaker 1>Because you was like yeah on inception dropped him home,

1576
01:14:46.279 --> 01:14:49.039
<v Speaker 1>So I just wanted to. People might be like, yeah,

1577
01:14:49.079 --> 01:14:52.359
<v Speaker 1>I'm possessive, Like like I guess.

1578
01:14:52.279 --> 01:14:56.800
<v Speaker 5>If he I need the energy to be reciprocated at

1579
01:14:56.840 --> 01:14:58.920
<v Speaker 5>all times. So it's like if you're not giving me that,

1580
01:14:59.079 --> 01:15:00.479
<v Speaker 5>I'm not going to give it to you either, So

1581
01:15:01.279 --> 01:15:02.560
<v Speaker 5>I will drop you as fast.

1582
01:15:02.399 --> 01:15:06.640
<v Speaker 3>As you break up with people quick ques just for

1583
01:15:06.720 --> 01:15:09.600
<v Speaker 3>anything tolebrate or you're not going for nothing?

1584
01:15:10.479 --> 01:15:11.319
<v Speaker 1>What's your sign.

1585
01:15:11.720 --> 01:15:13.079
<v Speaker 5>Around to find out? Capricorn.

1586
01:15:13.239 --> 01:15:23.720
<v Speaker 1>Sorry, that's a good sign. Capricorns don't like people though

1587
01:15:24.520 --> 01:15:24.960
<v Speaker 1>we don't know.

1588
01:15:25.880 --> 01:15:29.439
<v Speaker 5>I think we like some people, and then the people

1589
01:15:29.520 --> 01:15:32.640
<v Speaker 5>that we like, we want them like all in our world,

1590
01:15:32.840 --> 01:15:35.159
<v Speaker 5>like we want them invested in everything. We want to

1591
01:15:35.199 --> 01:15:39.520
<v Speaker 5>invest in you, like we're in there, like yeah, like

1592
01:15:39.600 --> 01:15:41.159
<v Speaker 5>you ever hear like one of them girls, but like,

1593
01:15:41.239 --> 01:15:43.760
<v Speaker 5>oh my god, I want to be in your skin yes, yeah,

1594
01:15:44.000 --> 01:15:46.199
<v Speaker 5>like your back pocket under you fit it, like I

1595
01:15:46.319 --> 01:15:49.399
<v Speaker 5>want to be everywhere like a crackhead.

1596
01:15:51.279 --> 01:15:52.000
<v Speaker 1>I never heard that one.

1597
01:15:53.760 --> 01:15:56.239
<v Speaker 5>I just want to be in there. But it's like

1598
01:15:56.560 --> 01:15:59.079
<v Speaker 5>and then if a man like does something or say

1599
01:15:59.199 --> 01:16:03.479
<v Speaker 5>something just slightly fucking wrong, or just if the energy

1600
01:16:03.600 --> 01:16:06.399
<v Speaker 5>doesn't feel like I said, if it's just not a

1601
01:16:06.439 --> 01:16:07.800
<v Speaker 5>two way street, then I'm out of there.

1602
01:16:09.279 --> 01:16:11.760
<v Speaker 1>And it would be like immediately up to that challenge,

1603
01:16:12.039 --> 01:16:14.800
<v Speaker 1>like it seems kind of strict. Do you think she's strict?

1604
01:16:15.479 --> 01:16:15.760
<v Speaker 5>Mm hm.

1605
01:16:15.880 --> 01:16:18.000
<v Speaker 3>I wouldn't say strict. I would say that she's very,

1606
01:16:18.760 --> 01:16:20.239
<v Speaker 3>very matter of fact. And I feel like, you know

1607
01:16:21.119 --> 01:16:24.199
<v Speaker 3>exactly what you're not going for. So I feel like

1608
01:16:24.239 --> 01:16:27.239
<v Speaker 3>I respect that. I feel like when people present that initially,

1609
01:16:28.920 --> 01:16:31.119
<v Speaker 3>I feel like I can. I can get with the program.

1610
01:16:33.279 --> 01:16:33.319
<v Speaker 5>That.

1611
01:16:35.560 --> 01:16:41.840
<v Speaker 1>I like that. You good, yeah, straight. Anytime I'm listening

1612
01:16:41.920 --> 01:16:44.199
<v Speaker 1>to you, yo, you you really y'all are both of

1613
01:16:44.279 --> 01:16:47.960
<v Speaker 1>y'all are really good at this. I would not be

1614
01:16:48.079 --> 01:16:50.800
<v Speaker 1>that good at this. It's almost like, y'all do this,

1615
01:16:51.239 --> 01:16:53.239
<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean. I'm sitting here like I

1616
01:16:53.399 --> 01:16:58.720
<v Speaker 1>got great ye got great energy. You have great energy. Okay,

1617
01:17:00.039 --> 01:17:04.399
<v Speaker 1>letus get into the show a little bit right. The

1618
01:17:04.479 --> 01:17:07.279
<v Speaker 1>first thing I want to do, I'm gonna go kinky first.

1619
01:17:10.399 --> 01:17:12.560
<v Speaker 1>This is a segment of the show called the two

1620
01:17:12.760 --> 01:17:15.840
<v Speaker 1>hards and the soft. Now the show that the home

1621
01:17:15.960 --> 01:17:20.159
<v Speaker 1>the network, right, it's called the hard or Soft show.

1622
01:17:20.439 --> 01:17:22.479
<v Speaker 1>So that's where this comes from, right, And we talk

1623
01:17:22.520 --> 01:17:24.600
<v Speaker 1>about things we like in the bedroom versus things we

1624
01:17:24.640 --> 01:17:26.920
<v Speaker 1>don't like in the bedroom, things that make us hard

1625
01:17:27.079 --> 01:17:31.279
<v Speaker 1>versus things that make us soft. Are you comfortable like

1626
01:17:31.520 --> 01:17:36.279
<v Speaker 1>with this line of question, I don't want to hard

1627
01:17:37.520 --> 01:17:38.399
<v Speaker 1>your pussy get hard?

1628
01:17:39.479 --> 01:17:40.720
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, well, yeah, that.

1629
01:17:44.840 --> 01:17:53.159
<v Speaker 1>I'm bugging and you are soft? I would think, well,

1630
01:17:53.319 --> 01:18:02.159
<v Speaker 1>you're supposed to be a little tough. Yeah yeah, So

1631
01:18:02.239 --> 01:18:07.520
<v Speaker 1>we could do the wet and drive for you. But

1632
01:18:07.640 --> 01:18:11.119
<v Speaker 1>the idea of this is for the person to kind

1633
01:18:11.159 --> 01:18:14.159
<v Speaker 1>of guess what you're telling the truth about versus what

1634
01:18:14.279 --> 01:18:16.439
<v Speaker 1>you're not telling the truth about. So I would ask

1635
01:18:16.479 --> 01:18:19.960
<v Speaker 1>you to come up with three things. Two of them

1636
01:18:21.720 --> 01:18:28.199
<v Speaker 1>are your things, one of them is not right, and

1637
01:18:28.359 --> 01:18:30.720
<v Speaker 1>he would have to answer at He would have to

1638
01:18:31.119 --> 01:18:34.680
<v Speaker 1>figure out which ones are the truth by just you know,

1639
01:18:34.760 --> 01:18:36.720
<v Speaker 1>your energy, looking at you, whatever, which one is the

1640
01:18:36.760 --> 01:18:40.520
<v Speaker 1>truth and which one he thinks is a lie? And

1641
01:18:40.960 --> 01:18:45.560
<v Speaker 1>you would do the same after that, All right, that.

1642
01:18:49.600 --> 01:18:56.199
<v Speaker 5>You have such a radio voice, you yeah, just the headphones.

1643
01:18:57.520 --> 01:19:01.239
<v Speaker 1>I'm wearing headphones today because Yesterday's normally our engineer, but

1644
01:19:01.319 --> 01:19:03.079
<v Speaker 1>he's in front of the camera today, so I'm just

1645
01:19:03.119 --> 01:19:05.760
<v Speaker 1>making sure that our sound is right and everything. You know,

1646
01:19:07.560 --> 01:19:09.840
<v Speaker 1>two wets and the dry.

1647
01:19:10.119 --> 01:19:23.720
<v Speaker 5>Wait, I go first, mm hmm. Ok I like my

1648
01:19:23.880 --> 01:19:28.439
<v Speaker 5>feet being stucked to one. I like the coach, and

1649
01:19:29.199 --> 01:19:31.159
<v Speaker 5>I like a summer My ass.

1650
01:19:32.600 --> 01:19:35.159
<v Speaker 1>Damn hold on. One of them is a lot. Yeah,

1651
01:19:38.239 --> 01:19:44.600
<v Speaker 1>that's tough. That's really good. That is really good. It's

1652
01:19:44.600 --> 01:19:46.840
<v Speaker 1>gonna be tough. Yes, what are you feeling over there?

1653
01:19:46.840 --> 01:19:51.000
<v Speaker 1>How you what are you thinking? I don't know.

1654
01:19:51.119 --> 01:19:57.399
<v Speaker 3>There was all convincing, like, hmm okay, I'm gonna go.

1655
01:19:58.960 --> 01:20:05.760
<v Speaker 3>Yes to the toes. Mm hmm, I'm gonna go.

1656
01:20:06.800 --> 01:20:11.399
<v Speaker 1>That's tough. These other two, which one isn't she with

1657
01:20:12.239 --> 01:20:13.880
<v Speaker 1>because both of those could be it no for somebody

1658
01:20:14.199 --> 01:20:19.239
<v Speaker 1>exactly right. But what are you getting from her, she asked,

1659
01:20:19.279 --> 01:20:23.359
<v Speaker 1>either or you're plugging her? No, she said, right, yeah,

1660
01:20:23.479 --> 01:20:26.960
<v Speaker 1>but her nose is somewhere nice. Well depends on which

1661
01:20:26.960 --> 01:20:30.399
<v Speaker 1>way she's going. I'm gonna go. You like the THUMBI

1662
01:20:30.560 --> 01:20:31.800
<v Speaker 1>ass no, guc.

1663
01:20:33.840 --> 01:20:34.239
<v Speaker 5>Mm hmm.

1664
01:20:34.319 --> 01:20:36.680
<v Speaker 1>That's what crystally, what do you think?

1665
01:20:37.800 --> 01:20:44.039
<v Speaker 5>Correct? I do not like no fucking you, Please do

1666
01:20:44.159 --> 01:20:45.079
<v Speaker 5>not put your leg up.

1667
01:20:45.640 --> 01:20:52.039
<v Speaker 3>That's exactly see, that's the energy that I because I

1668
01:20:52.159 --> 01:20:57.000
<v Speaker 3>was like, I don't know, okay.

1669
01:20:57.000 --> 01:20:59.960
<v Speaker 5>I was not thinking anybody was gonna get it because

1670
01:21:00.039 --> 01:21:01.239
<v Speaker 5>I was like, I don't want to say I look

1671
01:21:01.279 --> 01:21:03.960
<v Speaker 5>ass because then I'm like that sounds like I'm joking.

1672
01:21:05.720 --> 01:21:07.199
<v Speaker 1>It was hard. It was hard because it was like

1673
01:21:08.279 --> 01:21:13.239
<v Speaker 1>it's either one or the other, like for sure, but

1674
01:21:13.359 --> 01:21:16.279
<v Speaker 1>the Gucca is not even that ass, so it's like

1675
01:21:16.720 --> 01:21:24.720
<v Speaker 1>it's under the nuts. I'm not like, okay, I didn't

1676
01:21:24.760 --> 01:21:25.399
<v Speaker 1>mean to say it like that.

1677
01:21:25.479 --> 01:21:30.199
<v Speaker 5>Like your legs, No, don't be up your legs.

1678
01:21:34.920 --> 01:21:37.640
<v Speaker 1>Why are you looking at me like your legs be up?

1679
01:21:40.319 --> 01:21:40.960
<v Speaker 1>Why you did that?

1680
01:21:41.479 --> 01:21:42.399
<v Speaker 5>You disappointed?

1681
01:21:42.840 --> 01:21:46.119
<v Speaker 1>I mean, you're not listen, my gucci gets licked and more.

1682
01:21:46.560 --> 01:21:48.520
<v Speaker 1>But my thing is like that's not even like a

1683
01:21:48.600 --> 01:21:52.199
<v Speaker 1>forbidden planet, like it's it's under the nuts. What's wrong

1684
01:21:52.279 --> 01:21:55.640
<v Speaker 1>with that? It's not that butthole, it's gooch. It's literally

1685
01:21:55.680 --> 01:21:57.520
<v Speaker 1>a piece of skin. There's no hole or nothing. It's

1686
01:21:57.560 --> 01:22:04.800
<v Speaker 1>just like a skin patch. It's a I think sex thing, period.

1687
01:22:04.840 --> 01:22:07.239
<v Speaker 1>But this ain't about me. This is about y'all. I

1688
01:22:07.399 --> 01:22:09.680
<v Speaker 1>just confused. Why is that?

1689
01:22:09.800 --> 01:22:12.640
<v Speaker 3>That's like, you know, so I'm gonna say that you're

1690
01:22:12.840 --> 01:22:16.640
<v Speaker 3>so that's completely off the that whole region is all yeah.

1691
01:22:16.720 --> 01:22:21.479
<v Speaker 5>A yeah, I get the I don't understand. Look by

1692
01:22:21.560 --> 01:22:26.000
<v Speaker 5>all means do you're a big one like you say to.

1693
01:22:26.079 --> 01:22:31.119
<v Speaker 1>You like you know anything to you no, like women

1694
01:22:31.399 --> 01:22:33.000
<v Speaker 1>like you know if you want to do that?

1695
01:22:34.239 --> 01:22:38.760
<v Speaker 5>It me personally, I do cross the lines something like

1696
01:22:39.199 --> 01:22:42.840
<v Speaker 5>insects something. Some lines gotta be crossed, Like we can't

1697
01:22:43.000 --> 01:22:44.920
<v Speaker 5>just just be doing anything, you know what I mean.

1698
01:22:45.079 --> 01:22:46.920
<v Speaker 1>Okay, so you got to have some parameters on this,

1699
01:22:47.840 --> 01:22:48.640
<v Speaker 1>some rules.

1700
01:22:49.880 --> 01:22:52.439
<v Speaker 5>I mean to watch.

1701
01:22:53.439 --> 01:22:58.359
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, okay, I'm glad this year's show. I'll be looking

1702
01:22:58.399 --> 01:22:58.960
<v Speaker 1>at the door.

1703
01:23:00.039 --> 01:23:00.359
<v Speaker 5>All right.

1704
01:23:01.039 --> 01:23:09.000
<v Speaker 1>Oh, I forgot, I'm freaky. I'm sorry, but this ain't

1705
01:23:09.000 --> 01:23:11.479
<v Speaker 1>about me my bad? Are you? Are you good? Are

1706
01:23:11.520 --> 01:23:14.520
<v Speaker 1>you good with that? You could go forever without.

1707
01:23:14.319 --> 01:23:16.600
<v Speaker 3>Getting that's not a make a break for me. Yeah, yeah,

1708
01:23:17.199 --> 01:23:18.000
<v Speaker 3>totally okay.

1709
01:23:18.039 --> 01:23:23.119
<v Speaker 5>Because I feel like there's other things it's am not

1710
01:23:23.239 --> 01:23:24.119
<v Speaker 5>willing to try.

1711
01:23:27.479 --> 01:23:30.199
<v Speaker 3>Always it always depends because you can't listen because I'm

1712
01:23:30.199 --> 01:23:31.319
<v Speaker 3>not going to try just anything.

1713
01:23:32.319 --> 01:23:33.720
<v Speaker 1>I get that. Like, so I feel like people got

1714
01:23:33.840 --> 01:23:37.279
<v Speaker 1>to be able to have their right the lines where

1715
01:23:37.279 --> 01:23:37.760
<v Speaker 1>they draw them.

1716
01:23:37.880 --> 01:23:39.479
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, And I feel like if a man is too

1717
01:23:39.520 --> 01:23:40.399
<v Speaker 5>freaky then you just.

1718
01:23:40.560 --> 01:23:43.600
<v Speaker 1>You just it's just what's too freaky? Too much for me?

1719
01:23:44.960 --> 01:23:54.039
<v Speaker 5>Like we schedule ahead. I just I feel like, damn,

1720
01:23:54.239 --> 01:23:58.399
<v Speaker 5>I'm not that Like okay, a lot of should be

1721
01:23:58.439 --> 01:23:59.319
<v Speaker 5>too freaky to me.

1722
01:24:01.079 --> 01:24:02.439
<v Speaker 1>So do you consider yourself like vanilla?

1723
01:24:03.000 --> 01:24:04.079
<v Speaker 5>What's that? Like?

1724
01:24:04.279 --> 01:24:06.560
<v Speaker 3>Very like plain sexually, so like you're like you know,

1725
01:24:06.640 --> 01:24:09.039
<v Speaker 3>you're with like regular sex, but like you're not with like.

1726
01:24:10.640 --> 01:24:13.760
<v Speaker 5>The extra toys and no, like that's the thing, like

1727
01:24:13.840 --> 01:24:19.039
<v Speaker 5>I'm with the toys, like the full play gets down outside,

1728
01:24:21.319 --> 01:24:23.039
<v Speaker 5>you know what I mean. So it's like I'm cool

1729
01:24:23.159 --> 01:24:27.279
<v Speaker 5>with certain things if we get down. Getting down is

1730
01:24:27.319 --> 01:24:27.840
<v Speaker 5>not the problem.

1731
01:24:30.399 --> 01:24:30.880
<v Speaker 1>It's just like.

1732
01:24:32.359 --> 01:24:35.600
<v Speaker 5>What's your experience of getting down? Because I might be

1733
01:24:35.680 --> 01:24:40.119
<v Speaker 5>too boring, like me being trying to be you know,

1734
01:24:40.960 --> 01:24:45.119
<v Speaker 5>different might be too boring for you because you've done

1735
01:24:45.800 --> 01:24:47.520
<v Speaker 5>everything in the book. You know what I'm saying. So

1736
01:24:47.600 --> 01:24:48.800
<v Speaker 5>it's like not satisfying.

1737
01:24:49.560 --> 01:24:54.159
<v Speaker 1>No, I get that, not for me, but okay, I

1738
01:24:54.279 --> 01:24:58.000
<v Speaker 1>like boring. You like boring when they look like this, Yeah,

1739
01:24:58.760 --> 01:25:05.359
<v Speaker 1>thanks s interesting, very very interesting. You could tone yourself

1740
01:25:05.439 --> 01:25:10.159
<v Speaker 1>down forever. It's not really she's gorgeous. No, no, no,

1741
01:25:10.319 --> 01:25:10.520
<v Speaker 1>it's not.

1742
01:25:11.000 --> 01:25:12.840
<v Speaker 3>I feel like once I like somebody, then I can

1743
01:25:12.920 --> 01:25:14.760
<v Speaker 3>kind of adjust and also to that stuff is not

1744
01:25:15.039 --> 01:25:16.000
<v Speaker 3>that important.

1745
01:25:15.680 --> 01:25:16.920
<v Speaker 1>To me where I feel like it's sex is not

1746
01:25:16.960 --> 01:25:17.439
<v Speaker 1>that important.

1747
01:25:18.119 --> 01:25:20.560
<v Speaker 3>I mean it's important, but it's not like I can't

1748
01:25:21.760 --> 01:25:23.760
<v Speaker 3>you know, live or breathe if I'm not like, you know,

1749
01:25:24.000 --> 01:25:24.880
<v Speaker 3>going to that earth.

1750
01:25:25.399 --> 01:25:33.119
<v Speaker 1>Okay, well let's see if she can guess you're two

1751
01:25:33.239 --> 01:25:34.960
<v Speaker 1>hearts and yourself.

1752
01:25:35.560 --> 01:25:38.159
<v Speaker 3>Okay, make it good because she wouldn't play. I know

1753
01:25:38.279 --> 01:25:41.680
<v Speaker 3>that was the age that was yours was really good. Like, okay,

1754
01:25:41.960 --> 01:25:51.640
<v Speaker 3>so I like to be smothered. I like to be

1755
01:25:52.359 --> 01:25:54.640
<v Speaker 3>bound and gagged, and.

1756
01:25:56.319 --> 01:26:00.520
<v Speaker 1>I like, you're not going to do that. Gonna do that.

1757
01:26:02.600 --> 01:26:03.880
<v Speaker 5>You're not gonna do that.

1758
01:26:04.359 --> 01:26:06.760
<v Speaker 1>You're not even gonna do that because there's no way

1759
01:26:06.880 --> 01:26:09.479
<v Speaker 1>she's gonna think that she's like being bound and gagged?

1760
01:26:09.880 --> 01:26:10.439
<v Speaker 1>What do you think?

1761
01:26:10.479 --> 01:26:11.039
<v Speaker 5>What do you think of?

1762
01:26:12.680 --> 01:26:16.000
<v Speaker 1>What you're not? Come on, go funk up my gig man,

1763
01:26:17.159 --> 01:26:19.119
<v Speaker 1>keep it, let's keep let's come on, let's make it.

1764
01:26:20.880 --> 01:26:26.479
<v Speaker 1>Get that off. What's you going for that? No, not

1765
01:26:26.600 --> 01:26:29.399
<v Speaker 1>even a little bit. Come on, now, you gotta both

1766
01:26:29.439 --> 01:26:31.760
<v Speaker 1>of them is off the board. You can't do that.

1767
01:26:33.520 --> 01:26:35.680
<v Speaker 1>You hit the bell was.

1768
01:26:40.840 --> 01:26:41.119
<v Speaker 2>Good on?

1769
01:26:42.119 --> 01:26:50.479
<v Speaker 1>Okay? Fuck all right, all right,
