Speaker 1: Welcome to the Becoming You Show, where limits get torched
Speaker 1: and possibility takes the MCing. I'm Leah, rowing human in
Speaker 1: permanent beta, neurostrategist, mom to three amazing humans, married to
Speaker 1: one legendary soul, and your no fluff permission slip to
Speaker 1: stop waiting. Every week we rewire brain patterns, smash hand
Speaker 1: me down mindsets, and die into the daring identity shifting conversations.
Speaker 1: Most people got ready to turn potential into proof. Grab
Speaker 1: your pen. Your next chapter starts now. I'm glad, I'm
Speaker 1: glad you're here with me in this conversation because it
Speaker 1: is one that I want every single person that I love,
Speaker 1: and that's you, to hear. This is the work that
Speaker 1: actually changes things, not not the dramatic stuff that this stuff,
Speaker 1: this stuff, this stuff that looks relatively simple on the
Speaker 1: outside but rearranges everything on the inside. So, okay, this
Speaker 1: is where we're at week three of the August series,
Speaker 1: So quick catch up if you're just landing here. There
Speaker 1: are four connected episodes this month, one word each right,
Speaker 1: and the words build into a framework. Sometimes I give
Speaker 1: you the framework at the very beginning. I'm intentionally slowing
Speaker 1: down so that you can capture each word in its essence, right.
Speaker 1: So week one was raw, it's the unedited truth about
Speaker 1: your pain. Okay. Week two was authentic who you are
Speaker 1: underneath the story about who you are, right, And that's
Speaker 1: not a bunch of word jumble. I make a lot
Speaker 1: of sense of it. I think good sense of it.
Speaker 1: And so for those of you that have told me
Speaker 1: that you love that one, thank you. And then this
Speaker 1: week's word is necessary necessary, And in this conversation we're
Speaker 1: talking about agency. And I'll tell you where we're going
Speaker 1: so you can hold me to it, because by the
Speaker 1: end of this episode, I'm going to give you one
Speaker 1: question and that question has seven words. And I genuinely believe,
Speaker 1: and I know this is a strong statement, but from
Speaker 1: years of doing this work, that this question can hand
Speaker 1: you your life back. It can and it has and
Speaker 1: I've witnessed it and I have observed it. But first
Speaker 1: we get to clear some things out of the way,
Speaker 1: because agency might be one of the most misunderstood words
Speaker 1: in personal growth. I have a few, and you know
Speaker 1: what they are. This is one of them. And what
Speaker 1: people think it means, right, is exactly why that it
Speaker 1: gets pushed away. So I want to give you a
Speaker 1: heads up. The episode collects a lot of dots. It's
Speaker 1: going to bring back the story from week one, the
Speaker 1: labels from week two, and it's good a point where
Speaker 1: we're going next week. So if any of it feels
Speaker 1: like a lot, that's why we're building. But just just
Speaker 1: stay with me. So I want to start with a
Speaker 1: confession about my own audience, my own audience, right, and
Speaker 1: you're part of that audience, but the audience that I
Speaker 1: wrote this book for. Right. I wrote a book called
Speaker 1: No One Is Coming to Save You, a whole book,
Speaker 1: and it's right there in the title. Long story shirt
Speaker 1: producer didn't want that title. Whatever, that's the title I wanted.
Speaker 1: That's the title I got. I still meet people every
Speaker 1: single week who are waiting, right, waiting for the apology,
Speaker 1: waiting for circumstances to ease out, waiting for other for
Speaker 1: the other person to finally change any day. Now, surely
Speaker 1: they're going to waiting for the market, waiting for the
Speaker 1: kids to get older, waiting for the summers not to
Speaker 1: go so fast, waiting for the schedule to come down,
Speaker 1: waiting for January, waiting for somebody to notice how hard
Speaker 1: it's been and come and make sense of it. And
Speaker 1: I want to say it. I get it, I've done it,
Speaker 1: and there are probably corners of my life where I'm
Speaker 1: doing it right now and I haven't caught it yet.
Speaker 1: Because that's the thing about waiting. It doesn't feel like
Speaker 1: waiting from the inside. From the inside, it feels very responsible.
Speaker 1: It feels patient, it feels humble even right. Good people
Speaker 1: wait their turn, right, That's how so many of us
Speaker 1: were raised. But here's what I want to offer you today.
Speaker 1: And it might sting a little. Waiting feels like patience,
Speaker 1: it isn't, okay, And here's how you can tell the difference.
Speaker 1: Patience is doing something while it waits, right, It's building,
Speaker 1: it's getting ready so when that moment opens up, you're
Speaker 1: prepared for it. Waiting is just watching the door, watching
Speaker 1: the door, sitting on your hands. So I really want
Speaker 1: you to ask yourself, what are you building while you wait?
Speaker 1: What are you building? And if you can't answer that,
Speaker 1: I say this with love. You might not be You're
Speaker 1: not you might not you or might not being patient. Okay,
Speaker 1: you're just waiting. And what you're waiting for, right, and
Speaker 1: I want you to be honest with yourself is you're
Speaker 1: waiting for something outside of you to hand your life back,
Speaker 1: and I am here to tell you that it's not coming.
Speaker 1: And that is the whole book, Okay. And I've had
Speaker 1: this exact moment with so many clients, right. They come
Speaker 1: in with a situation that they've been sitting in for months,
Speaker 1: sometimes years, oh my gosh, sometimes decades, waiting waiting, waiting,
Speaker 1: waiting waiting for the spouse to change, waiting for the
Speaker 1: boss to notice, waiting for the market to turn, waiting
Speaker 1: for their body to cooperate. And I will say, so,
Speaker 1: what have you done about it? And they'll pause and
Speaker 1: they'll say, well, I've just kind of been giving it time.
Speaker 1: And I'll say, giving what time? Because time doesn't do
Speaker 1: the thing you do the thing. Time just passes, and
Speaker 1: time passing without you moving isn't patients either. It's not
Speaker 1: even neutral. It's just time that you don't get back.
Speaker 1: And that's when it usually lands, right because deep down,
Speaker 1: you know they know, right, some they just needed to
Speaker 1: hear somebody say it out loud. Yeah, me too. Okay,
Speaker 1: So if we don't have that, what's the other option? Agency? Agency?
Speaker 1: But before I tell you what it is, okay, I
Speaker 1: have to be clear about what it isn't because there
Speaker 1: are four things, and I'm sure there's more, but as
Speaker 1: I was like working through my notes, there are about
Speaker 1: four things that I when I think about agency, right,
Speaker 1: that people define it as and then it gives them
Speaker 1: really great reason to kind of push the thing away.
Speaker 1: And so maybe that's you. It's for sure been me.
Speaker 1: So first, people think agency means control. Right, they hear
Speaker 1: agency and they think it means that life right is
Speaker 1: supposed to cooperate. Now, okay, and then life doesn't cooperate.
Speaker 1: Have you noticed, mm hmm, Yeah, yeah, the economy is
Speaker 1: going to do what it does, and and other people, yeah,
Speaker 1: they're going to keep being them. They're going to keep
Speaker 1: being other people, right, And the diagnosis comes anyway, right,
Speaker 1: and then what happens is they go, see, Celia, I tried,
Speaker 1: I tried, I tried take a charge of my life
Speaker 1: and it just didn't work. So agency must not be real.
Speaker 1: But agency in the way that I define agency never
Speaker 1: said love that the world would cooperate. Other people, not yours,
Speaker 1: the past, not yours, the weather, the algorithm, whether somebody
Speaker 1: likes you, what they decide to do, not yours, not yours.
Speaker 1: Not yours, not yours? Right. Anybody who told you that
Speaker 1: agency means controlling outcomes right outside of you set you
Speaker 1: up to quit, set you up to fail. Right. Control,
Speaker 1: External control is a game you cannot win. Agency is
Speaker 1: a different game. I'm gonna show you that in a
Speaker 1: minute second. And I think this is a big one.
Speaker 1: People think that agency means blame, right. This is the
Speaker 1: real reason that most people push it away. They hear
Speaker 1: take responsibility for your life and what lands is right?
Speaker 1: So many times, oh oh, so, what happened to me
Speaker 1: is my fault? Right? And everything in them says no,
Speaker 1: and then they shut the door, And honestly, probably good instinct,
Speaker 1: because that would kind of be a terrible deal. But
Speaker 1: I want you to hear me out on this one.
Speaker 1: What happened to you and what you do next two
Speaker 1: different questions. Right. Fault looks backward, It asks who caused this?
Speaker 1: Responsibility looks forward, it asks who's got it from here?
Speaker 1: And you can answer those two questions differently. You can
Speaker 1: be completely not at fault at all for what happened,
Speaker 1: completely and completely responsible for what happens next. Both at
Speaker 1: the same time. They don't cancel each other out. I
Speaker 1: had a client once, right, and this was such a
Speaker 1: big moment for her. She'd been through something awful, just
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, so so so awful, right, not her fault,
Speaker 1: not even a little, and she'd been stuck in it
Speaker 1: for years because taking any ownership of her recovery felt
Speaker 1: like letting the other person who hurt her off the hook,
Speaker 1: like if I move forward, I'm saying it was okay.
Speaker 1: And we spent an entire session on this exact distinction, right,
Speaker 1: not at fault, yes, yes, true and responsible from here
Speaker 1: true right. It took her a minute okay, but when
Speaker 1: it landed, I mean tears, tears, and she said, so
Speaker 1: I'm allowed, I'm allowed to move from here. Took her
Speaker 1: a minute, right, But when it landed, yes, yes, I said, yes,
Speaker 1: you're allowed to move. You always were. And that was
Speaker 1: the beginning of her actually rebuilding her life. Not because
Speaker 1: she agreed right the thing that was okay, but because
Speaker 1: she stopped waiting for permission to have a life again.
Speaker 1: She stopped waiting for someone to save her okay. And
Speaker 1: the second part is not a burden. It's the best news, right,
Speaker 1: because it means that the person who hurt you doesn't
Speaker 1: get to continue to hurt you and doesn't get to
Speaker 1: write you the script for your future. I want you
Speaker 1: to think about the alternative. If my healing, if my future,
Speaker 1: if if the capacity of me to build my life
Speaker 1: waits on somebody else, waits on their apology, waits for
Speaker 1: the very thing that happened to not have happened. Right,
Speaker 1: if my piece requires them to change, I've made my
Speaker 1: piece depend on them. And well, I don't know, but
Speaker 1: a lot of times these stories don't Necessarily the people
Speaker 1: in these stories don't actually prove to be reliable. So
Speaker 1: why would we hand the person right who did the
Speaker 1: damage to the next chapter of our life? Right? They
Speaker 1: had enough? They had enough paragraphs, maybe a whole chapter,
Speaker 1: maybe a whole like a whole book, maybe many books.
Speaker 1: Maybe it's a whole secrets. Isn't it enough? Isn't it enough?
Speaker 1: The third one, right, is that people think that agency
Speaker 1: means hustle, right, grip harder, grind more, push through, And
Speaker 1: I'm here effort matters, for sure. I'll never tell you
Speaker 1: that effort doesn't matter. But working really hard inside the
Speaker 1: same story isn't agency. It's just effort. If the story
Speaker 1: running underneath is I have to prove that I'm enough,
Speaker 1: Ask me how I know? Right. You can grind for
Speaker 1: thirty years and end up exhausted in the same place.
Speaker 1: The question isn't how hard you're running, it's who wrote
Speaker 1: the track you're running on. I meet so many high
Speaker 1: performers here, people who look from the outside like the
Speaker 1: opposite of stuck. Right. They're accomplishing constantly, right, They've got
Speaker 1: the results, they've got the resume. They're the person that
Speaker 1: other people point to and say, wow, wow, how while
Speaker 1: they've really got it together. But when we get inside
Speaker 1: the whole engine, their entire fueling system is running on
Speaker 1: the same story that it's always run on, and more
Speaker 1: accomplishing doesn't change that story. Actually, sometimes it feeds it.
Speaker 1: Sometimes the more they do, the louder the not enough
Speaker 1: gets right, And they can't rest because rest feels like
Speaker 1: admitting the story is wrong, right, And they can't afford
Speaker 1: for that story to be wrong, because the story is
Speaker 1: what's been driving them. Agency isn't the answer for that, right,
Speaker 1: It isn't Rewriting the story is the answer. Agency is
Speaker 1: what lets you do the rewriting right. Hustle is often
Speaker 1: the exact thing that, like HRIPs the pen out of
Speaker 1: your hand, right, because you're too busy. At least I
Speaker 1: was proving efforting to sit down and write. And lastly,
Speaker 1: people think agency means positivity, right, put a smile on it,
Speaker 1: good vibes. Right, don't look at the hard thing because
Speaker 1: looking feels negative. Right. That's not ownership, that's avoidance. That
Speaker 1: just is as dressed up as pretty and positive. Right.
Speaker 1: Real agency, real agency can look at the whole thing,
Speaker 1: the whole thing, the news, the numbers, the actual state
Speaker 1: of the marriage, or the business or the health. They
Speaker 1: don't have to run, they can stay in the room
Speaker 1: with it. Right. And you can't take ownership of something
Speaker 1: that you refuse to look at. Right. If you can't
Speaker 1: say the true thing about where you are, you can't
Speaker 1: move from where you are, right. You can only move
Speaker 1: from a starting point that you were willing to see. Right.
Speaker 1: And this this one is very sneaky too, because positivity
Speaker 1: looks so much like health, right, it looks like resilience,
Speaker 1: It looks like having a great attitude. But underneath, if
Speaker 1: it's just covering up something that you refuse to face, right,
Speaker 1: it's not helpful. It's not helpful. It's denial. Every single
Speaker 1: time right, You can't write, you can't author, you can't
Speaker 1: pick up the pen right and create that with which
Speaker 1: you refuse to acknowledge. So what agency actually is? Right? So,
Speaker 1: if it's not control, if it's not blame, if it's
Speaker 1: not hustle, and it's not positivity, then what is it?
Speaker 1: What is it? Maybe just quickly grasp it for yourself
Speaker 1: in your mind and just kind of see where we're
Speaker 1: at philosophically on this. Like what when I asked, if
Speaker 1: I were to ask you, if you were sitting across
Speaker 1: from me and I say, what does agency mean to you?
Speaker 1: What would you say? Because here's what I would say.
Speaker 1: Between what happens to you and what you do about it.
Speaker 1: There's a gap, and it's small, it's quiet a lot
Speaker 1: of times, but it's always there. Right, Something happens right,
Speaker 1: the email lands, the comment stings, the door closes, the
Speaker 1: client says no, the market crashes, right, and before your response,
Speaker 1: there's a space. Most people never notice it because their
Speaker 1: patterns jump the gap so fast it feels like there's
Speaker 1: no gap at all. Right, something happens, they react, Something happens,
Speaker 1: they react, something happens, they react, right, A whole life
Speaker 1: on autopilot. That feels like fate, feels as if life
Speaker 1: is happening to you. Okay, agency is deciding to live
Speaker 1: in that gap on purpose. It is because here's a
Speaker 1: very casual truth underneath everything I teach. Right, you don't
Speaker 1: author every event in your life. Nobody does, Thank goodness. Honestly,
Speaker 1: what a job? What a job? That would be right?
Speaker 1: But you do author every meaning, every meaning. The event happens,
Speaker 1: and then in that gap, your mind decides what it means.
Speaker 1: He didn't call back. That's the event. What does it mean, right?
Speaker 1: What does it mean? Does it mean that I'm not
Speaker 1: worth calling back? Right? That's one option. He's swapped. That's another.
Speaker 1: He's not my person and I just found out early.
Speaker 1: That's another. Same event. Three meanings, and there are many
Speaker 1: many more meanings, right, And those three meanings create three
Speaker 1: totally different feelings, and those feelings drive three totally different
Speaker 1: sets of actions and behaviors. And those actions and behaviors, well,
Speaker 1: they build three different lives. The event starts the sentence, right,
Speaker 1: something happens, The event starts the sentence, the meaning, and
Speaker 1: the meaning finishes it, and you're the one finishing it.
Speaker 1: You have always been the one. Nobody took that from you.
Speaker 1: We just forgot that we're doing it, or we were
Speaker 1: never told that it was ours to own. So I
Speaker 1: want to give you another one because I really want
Speaker 1: you to see this. Okay, let's just say your kid
Speaker 1: did bad on the test. Let's just say that's the event.
Speaker 1: What does it mean? Right? There's a thousand different meanings
Speaker 1: you could make based on your experience. None of them
Speaker 1: are right, none of them are wrong. Okay, but maybe
Speaker 1: the meaning is that they're not applying themselves, right. That's one.
Speaker 1: Maybe they're overwhelmed and I need to check in. That's another.
Speaker 1: Maybe this class is just over their head and we
Speaker 1: need a new place and a new start. That's another.
Speaker 1: I failed them somewhere somehow, that's another. Right, Maybe the
Speaker 1: teacher isn't doing a very good job at explaining and
Speaker 1: describing the scenarios that are being tested. That's another. Each
Speaker 1: of those creates a different feeling, which drives a completely
Speaker 1: different conversation and ends up in a different place three
Speaker 1: months from now, same event, same event. Right. The meaning
Speaker 1: that you give it has been assigned to you the
Speaker 1: whole time, and that's the whole switch. And I know
Speaker 1: you guys, I know you've heard me one hundred times,
Speaker 1: if not more than that. We spend all this time
Speaker 1: in our life and almost no time working on our life. Right.
Speaker 1: This is that living in in your life is reacting
Speaker 1: to whatever happens. Working on your life is noticing the
Speaker 1: gap and choosing on purpose. That's it, that's the switch.
Speaker 1: So the honest question is, if this is available to
Speaker 1: all of us all the time, why do we keep
Speaker 1: hand handing it away? Why do we just keep giving
Speaker 1: it away? And the honest answer, the honest answer is
Speaker 1: agency is heavy. It's heavy. The minute you accept that
Speaker 1: you have it, Waiting stops being in an option. Right,
Speaker 1: there's no there's there's no more Sunday when when they apologize,
Speaker 1: when there's none of that. There's just you, just you,
Speaker 1: beautiful and the gap and the choice. And I have
Speaker 1: to be honest with you. Powerlessness, that's the word I
Speaker 1: want to use here. Powerlessness has perks, just it does
Speaker 1: blame comfortable, blame asks nothing of you, right, no decisions,
Speaker 1: no no chance of failing, right, because you've just given
Speaker 1: over the wheel. Right. But it also builds nothing for you. Nothing.
Speaker 1: That's the trade. Comfort now, nothing later, And most people
Speaker 1: take the trade without ever looking at what it costs.
Speaker 1: So remember week one, that rehearse story. Here's where it connects,
Speaker 1: because I told you these build on each other. Right,
Speaker 1: Our rehearse story is the one. It is one of
Speaker 1: the most commonplaces agency goes to die because you cannot
Speaker 1: write the next chapter while you're still performing the last one.
Speaker 1: Something has to put the old script down first. Right.
Speaker 1: That's why raw came before necessary, before agency. That was
Speaker 1: very purposeful when I created this framework. So here's the
Speaker 1: question that I promised to you. This week's word is necessary,
Speaker 1: and this question is how you find what's necessary every swing.
Speaker 1: Everything's swirling in your life right now, the noise, the unfairness,
Speaker 1: the shoulds. This question sorts all of it. Here's the question,
Speaker 1: what is mine to do here? Really? What is mine
Speaker 1: to do here? Really? That's it? What is mine to
Speaker 1: do here? Really? So let me tell you what it's
Speaker 1: not asking. It's not asking what would be fair? Fair's
Speaker 1: a great idea, it's not. It's just not a plan, right,
Speaker 1: and a lot of us are on hold waiting for
Speaker 1: fair to show up. Know what else? It isn't It's
Speaker 1: not asking what should have happened here? Right? Should is
Speaker 1: arguing with something that already happened. You lose that argument
Speaker 1: every single time. It's also not asking who's fold it is?
Speaker 1: We've covered that, just what is mine to do here? Really?
Speaker 1: And I want you to watch what happens the very
Speaker 1: first time you actually ask it, because something almost almost
Speaker 1: innate happens. Right. Most of what you've been carrying doesn't
Speaker 1: survive the question, right, what is mine here to do here? Really? Right?
Speaker 1: A lot of times we were like their opinion of you, Nope,
Speaker 1: not yours. The apology that may never come, Nope, not yours,
Speaker 1: whether they change, whether it was fair, whether what will
Speaker 1: everybody think? Not yours, not yours, not yours? All that weight, right,
Speaker 1: most of it not yours. So then what's left is
Speaker 1: so small, so small? Right? Your attention, that's yours, Where
Speaker 1: you pointed, your interpretation, what you decide things mean, what
Speaker 1: your next action is? And here's really what I want
Speaker 1: you to hear. That little pile who is enough? Every
Speaker 1: transformation I have ever watched in every client, in every company,
Speaker 1: in my own life started with that little pile and
Speaker 1: nothing else right. So I want to give you a
Speaker 1: real example of what asking this question can do, right,
Speaker 1: I had a client, business owner incredibly frustrated with the
Speaker 1: partner situation. Right, she came into a session hot rightfully,
Speaker 1: so honestly, there were real things happening that in her
Speaker 1: mind were not fair. And I let her get all
Speaker 1: of that out, all of the way, and then I said, okay,
Speaker 1: what is yours to do here? Really? And she got
Speaker 1: quiet and she said, honestly, I've been so busy proving
Speaker 1: that I'm right that I haven't asked what I actually
Speaker 1: want to do. Right, And within literally, you guys, thirty days,
Speaker 1: she made three moves that she'd been waiting for an
Speaker 1: entire year, not because the partner situation changed, but because
Speaker 1: she stopped waiting for the partner situation to change. Right,
Speaker 1: That's what the question does. It doesn't fix the situation,
Speaker 1: just hands you back you as an asset as the solution,
Speaker 1: as as as somebody that is incredibly resourced. So here's
Speaker 1: where I want you to take home in this conversation. Hey,
Speaker 1: I want you to pick a situation that you've been
Speaker 1: waiting the longest for. Right, you already know which one
Speaker 1: it is. It came to mind when I was talking
Speaker 1: about the waiting, didn't it right? Maybe it's the apology
Speaker 1: that you're owed. Maybe it's the change that you were promised.
Speaker 1: Maybe it's the permission that you hope somebody grants to you.
Speaker 1: Maybe maybe it's the economy. Maybe it's the president. I
Speaker 1: don't care, right, what is mine to do here? Really?
Speaker 1: And write down whatever comes? It might be small, small
Speaker 1: as fine, okay. Maybe it's make the call. Maybe it's
Speaker 1: have the conversation. Maybe it's update the resume. Maybe it's
Speaker 1: booked the I don't care what it is. Maybe it's
Speaker 1: just to forgive them with theout the apology. Maybe it's
Speaker 1: just to let go for the first time ever of
Speaker 1: something that you have known, that you have no control over,
Speaker 1: and for whatever reason, control things entirely necessary in your mind. Okay,
Speaker 1: because you're done paying for it, not because they earned it,
Speaker 1: because you're done paying for it. And then I want
Speaker 1: you to do one piece of it whatever you wrote down,
Speaker 1: in the next forty eight hours, because intention expires faster
Speaker 1: than we think. If it doesn't get scheduled, it becomes someday.
Speaker 1: And I'm not interested in a Suday life for you.
Speaker 1: I'm interested in a nowday life for you. Okay, Okay,
Speaker 1: So one more thing before you go, and it's it's
Speaker 1: and I'm asking because it's a simple it's it's it's
Speaker 1: simple to do, but living it is a practice. Your
Speaker 1: brain is going to try really hard to hand the
Speaker 1: pen right back to the circumstances, to the situation, to
Speaker 1: the other person the first chance it gets. It's just
Speaker 1: what brains do. They want to go back to the familiar,
Speaker 1: and for most of us, the familiar is the waiting right.
Speaker 1: So you have to keep asking right. You have to
Speaker 1: build the muscle of catching yourself waiting and stepping back
Speaker 1: into the question, and that takes reps, and that is
Speaker 1: where we do the reps in inner Board. So if
Speaker 1: they're not in the lab, it's my membership and it's
Speaker 1: where this work actually gets done right. You come in,
Speaker 1: you bring the situation that you've been waiting on, and
Speaker 1: you get coached on it, real feedback, real direction in
Speaker 1: a room full of people that are done waiting too.
Speaker 1: We spend all of this time, as I mentioned earlier,
Speaker 1: in our life, and almost none working on it. Inner
Speaker 1: lab is where you work on it, right, And we're
Speaker 1: in these four words all month long. So I want
Speaker 1: you to bring in the very thing that you have
Speaker 1: been waiting on that you think patiently on, but that
Speaker 1: is suffocating you and keeping you stuck in and maybe
Speaker 1: you don't even realize it. So that's my offer, that's
Speaker 1: my invitation join us in the lab. It might just
Speaker 1: be the very best thing that you do. And I
Speaker 1: can say that because that is what the members are saying. Okay,
Speaker 1: next week is the finale, and it all comes together.
Speaker 1: We're talking about vulnerability, what it costs, why most of
Speaker 1: us get it wrong. It's like agency. We define it wrong,
Speaker 1: and then therefore we put guardrails around a definition that
Speaker 1: isn't even a definition that we can have any sort
Speaker 1: of ownership in. Right. And then I'm gonna put all
Speaker 1: the four weeks together into a framework and I'm going
Speaker 1: to deliver it to you next week, so I hope
Speaker 1: that you will join us in it. Until then, have
Speaker 1: a most beautiful, awesome day and I will see you
Speaker 1: in the next show. Take care of everybody, goodbye. If
Speaker 1: this episode cracked something, open good let it and then
Speaker 1: head to lerollincoaching dot com and grab the tools to
Speaker 1: rewire this story and read plaim your future, it is yours,
Speaker 1: and then share this with someone who's still waiting to
Speaker 1: be chosen, still waiting for permission, and remind them they
Speaker 1: don't need a breakthrough, that they are the breakthrough. Until
Speaker 1: next time, my beautiful friends, invest in you and keep
Speaker 1: becoming