Speaker 1: Creativity is an addiction, unplugged because we will always say
yes to creativity, totally uncut because we always make mistakes.
So why not turn it into a tool. This is
arrow unplugged.
Speaker 2: Hey it's zero, And this is vocal d frag. This
is where we go to ask the questions, to question
the answers. I do this on a transition. Walk a transition.
Walk through this beautiful forest in South Charlotte, North Carolina.
We all go through several transitions in one day. It's
not a mood swing necessary what it is. It's a transition.
It's a whole, entire body transition. Be it from job
to job or task to task. You're going through a transition.
And sometimes we get caught up in ourselves. It's almost
like somebody has taken a stick and they've put it
in the spokes and it's say what what just hit me?
Oh I'm in a grumpy mood. Now leave me alone.
I can't handle it. It's a transition. Understanding what triggers
you is one thing, but growing with your transitions and
becoming aware of how you transition is a beautiful place.
You don't have to agree with it all the time,
but it is a moment that has been given to
you to learn from. You have all those thoughts that
keep playing over and over in your head, those transitions
boom boom right after another, after another after another. So
today on vocal d frag, I'd like to make the
subject get it out and stop living it. Stop living it.
Seems simple, right, No it does not. Huh uh. I'm
a daily writer because I want to get it out
of me. I convince other people to daily write because
I want them to get it out of them. But
here's the thing where a lot of people make their mistakes.
You write it out or you vocalize it out, like
we're doing, but then we go back and we listen
to it or we read it. You can't do that.
That's no different than those bad thoughts in your head
and heart. You keep reliving it. Get it out, don't
relive it. It's a tough thing to do because we
all think that we're designed to be brilliant with our memories,
when in fact, the memory is what's getting in the
way of so many things that you need to be
doing in your everyday world. We are to be mindful
of our present and grow with our moment of right now.
But if we're thinking about it and then we're going
back to relive it, we're not going anywhere. We're just
standing here spinning or chasing our tail like a dog.
Get it out, don't relive it. It's a journey, and
it's one that really does require self discipline, not in
an angry way, but in more of a caring way,
but not in a parenting way or a care takerway,
a caring way, in the way of saying, I'm going
to ask some questions and then I'm going to question
your answers. By questioning the answers, that means we're moving
in forward motion. Get it out, don't relive it. A
good example of that is with my daily writing. I
have twenty nine years of journals, several different journals, all
properly taken care of. They're in weather proof, airtight containers
that when you do go back and you open it up,
they stink like hell. And I think that's just what
happens with writing. The smell of ink and everything else
in the everyday life. Maybe the life stunk like hell,
and it's trying to get out and become a part
of this life. But because it's locked up it ain't
going to become a part of this life. I don't
go back and read the writing because in reading the writing,
you're reliving that moment, and what would be my interpretation
this time around? When it comes to seeing what I lived,
The interpretation might be judgment. The interpretation might be, oh,
I feel sorry for him, he was having a bad day.
What is your interpretation today versus what you put on
paper din or fifteen years ago. How about this what
you put on paper ten or fifteen minutes ago. So
that's why I try to encourage people to write. Just
don't go back and reread it, don't do it, don't
relive it. You're putting yourself back in that mental place
where you're going to start feeling sorry or angry about
something that you have done. I battle with this almost
every single day, and that's the reason why I take
a transition walk, because when I do get into those
moments where I'm doing this comparison living, I can't shake it.
It's very difficult. So therefore I use my defragged journals
to wake up the system of choice. The inner core
is always going to question, it's always going to be
its own self because it doesn't always like what the
outside self is doing. I s where you get physicalference
between your physical being and your inner being. There's got
to be a communication level that has equal ground to
be heard. You've got to be able to have that conversation,
and in doing so by way of defragging. Be it
in a journal or be it on your smartphone, get
it out, but don't relive it. Let it flow freely
from you. You know they always say that an artist,
it really doesn't belong to them. It belongs to the world.
What about your thoughts? What about those things that keep
taking you down, those worries, those things that bring on
so much anxiety that it trips you up because it
keeps playing over and over in your head. And if
you took the time to defrag, to keep a little journal,
to bitch, to moan, to celebrate, to dream, it's amazing
the feeling when you have that sense of freedom inside
your soul. I'm not preaching like a preacher. I'm not
talking like a teacher. I'm just an everyday person who
has spent the past twenty nine years of his life
trying to understand the reasons why we should all put
pen to paper and learn how to write, but don't
go back to relive it. There are many things that
I've done in my forty four years of broadcasting that
really do need to be talked about, to be sorted out,
to be listened to. Years after I went through many,
many times of great pressure, challenge, depression, oh and burnout.
I would love to go back there and see how
that kid survived, because there might be some things I
need today, But I play by that rule. I don't
go back to the writing to relive it. Whatever I
need in my moment of now is awareness, and through
awareness we can grow forward. Try sometime write something down
and then just throw it away. Get it out of
your system. Then throw it away, just get rid of it.
You're not going to reread it. I don't want you
to just throw it away. And I think that's what
I do when I put my journals inside these really
cool airtight containers, because it's my way of just saying,
go away, thank you. We had a great time together,
but we're not going to have another day together. So
getting it out but not reliving it. It's a running theme.
And if I say it enough, maybe it'll finally sink
in and you'll go. You know what I could have
should have been a better something, but because I wouldn't
let it go, I didn't get to do everything to
make me something. I'm just in anything. Oh so now
there's judgment against you on that you could have been something,
but you ended up being just in anything? Was it
part of your dreams? Was it part of your decisions
to find peace? Where in your life are you finding peace? Piece?
Is it true piece? Or does she have to go
buy it? Writing is free, so it's reliving it. But
we don't want to go there because it's going to
cost you something. I'm eron and that's vocal. D Frank