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Speaker 1: I made a decision.

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Speaker 2: Pay sunny sad on my head a vision.

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Speaker 1: It's nice. Hello everybody, it's me Stephanie. Welcome to fcol.

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Lynette is not here today because she's sick. She has

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a bad cold, and she was like, hey, why don't

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we just cancel this week and run a best of?

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And I was like, how dare you, Lynette? That is

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why would you rob from our fans with the show

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the updates that they so deserved. So I brought in

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one of my best friends, Tamra Mello. Hi Tamra, Hi,

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Hi guys, she's been here before. Sorry, I just took

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off my headphones because I had to make sure the

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sound was right because I'm also the engineer of the show.

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Speaker 2: She's producing, she's engineering or.

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Speaker 1: A lot of hats. So Tamra was on, I think

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you co hosted with me and you were just a

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regular guest. You did you do it twice?

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 3: I think I only did it one time. Oh I

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think so I've done your drunkish podcast a couple of

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times all time.

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Speaker 2: I think I've only done this once. Well, she's back, I'm.

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Speaker 1: Back more showbiz stories. She uh. I feel like I

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want to give you like a proper introduction. She's an actress,

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but you also know her as our jewelry business extraordinary.

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I'm wearing one of her pieces right now. Ye bring

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your little chunk locket chain so cute. The holidays are

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coming up, so why would you not go to Gray

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by tam Ramello on the old Etsy and just peruse

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some gifts?

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Speaker 2: Why would you not?

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Speaker 1: She does? Your main thing is like anniversary type stuff.

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You work with metals?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I do a lot of anniversary bracelets. A lot

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of I handstamp like a Roman numeral date or your names,

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or you know, like a little love note onto metal,

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and then I form it into a bracelet.

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Speaker 2: I do a lot of that.

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Speaker 3: But this weekend I decided that I had far too

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many beads, like semi precious stone beads collecting dust in

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my studios. So I spent literally twelve hours on Saturday

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sitting in front of the television making bracelets. So if

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anybody needs any stretchy bracelets, I'm sellad. I'm real cheap

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twelve bucks on the website they make wow, Yeah, and

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they're really pretty. I just am trying to get rid

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of stuff to make some more room.

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Speaker 1: What are you Okay, so you have I keep feeling

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like the audience doesn't remember you have a son, your

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son Gray. He's at Berkeley now, he's home right now, visiting.

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So have you been thinking about Christmas gifts? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: I'm thinking about Well I did end up, did I

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tell you this? When we were at Costco looking at headphones.

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I ended up getting him a pair of Bo's headphones

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because he's a sound engineer and he's got like these shitty,

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like twenty five dollars headphones that he bought himself because

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he liked the color.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, and that's not good. No, it's ridiculous. So

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I got him a pair of nice headphones.

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Speaker 3: But I'm also thinking of getting him like some airline

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gift cards because his boyfriend goes to school in Boston.

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Speaker 2: And they miss each other so much.

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Speaker 3: So I thought that's probably the way to go, so

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he can fly and see his boyfriend and not have

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to worry about paying for it.

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Speaker 1: Oh that is so sweet.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Now is his boyfriend home right now? Have they seen

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each other?

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Speaker 3: They haven't seen each other yet. His boyfriend gets home

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I think late? Oh so late tonight is today?

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Speaker 1: Todayay, Today's when people are listening to this. It's Tuesday, Okay,

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today's we're recording on a Monday.

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Speaker 3: I have no idea what day it is. So he

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gets home late tomorrow night and they're so cute. But

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Grayson came home on Friday. He wasn't supposed to come

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home until today, and then his classes got canceled, so

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he came home Friday. And I'm so excited because I

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get like four extra days with him that I didn't

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know I was going to have. And once the boyfriend

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is home, all bets are off. I'm going to like

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lose him. So I'm like honkering down and like making

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him watch shows with me.

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Speaker 1: And I made you leave your house today. It's okay.

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Speaker 3: I think he can survive without me for a couple

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of hours. He's probably stoked, like like please please leave

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me alone.

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Speaker 1: So funny this morning. Xander, Well, so Xander is supposed

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to be well. First of all, I almost feel weird

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talking about Xander. And here's why. The other day did

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I tell you this? The other day, We're in the

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car and his phone connected to the bluetooth and oh no,

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oh no, and it's just started playing for crying out loud,

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and I was like wait, wait, what why is Oh?

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Why is playing on your phone? And he was like, oh,

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I just because I subscribe. I don't like He's like,

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I wasn't listening to it, but it's he was listening

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to something. It can come up because I subscribe. Maybe

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maybe I was like, now I have to be careful

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talking about him. Yeah, pretty am careful talking about him,

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but now I have to be more careful talking about him. Yeah,

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he's been on house arrest right now.

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Speaker 2: Because of college apps. Yes, how's he doing?

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Speaker 1: I never thought there would be a person who is

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more procrastinator than Elbie. Elbie and I, our audience knows

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very well. I don't want to say almost came to

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blows because that would be overstating it. But like most

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tension ever, when it came to the college applications, because

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at some point I was just like, you're not leaving

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the house until you finish your essays. And looking back,

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she tells me, she has told me many times, I

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am so glad you did that. Did it twice the

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year that she didn't end up getting in, and then

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the next year was almost worse because she was so

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scared about how it came out. The year BEFO. Yes,

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she was defeated. She was defeated and anxious and not

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wanting to do it. And I was like, oh, you're

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doing it. Yeah, you didn't go through this year of

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hell did not apply. You're doing it. Not a year.

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It hadn't been a year, but it had been not

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getting in in let's say April March, right, and now

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it was November. So it had been six months of

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knowing she wasn't going to college, then starting Pierce and

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then so that whole thing. I made her do it.

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How I'm doing that kind of with Xander.

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Speaker 3: Do you think there's any world where Xander feels like, well,

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Alby didn't get in on her first try, so I

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probably won't either.

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Speaker 2: So I'm not going to bother. I'm not going to

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work as hard at it.

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Speaker 3: Well, I'm not that I think Xander's not going to

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get in. He's going to get in tons of places.

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Speaker 1: Well, we'll see. I don't know, because I don't know.

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I don't know what's going to happen. Because he's only

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applying to a few schools that he says. He says

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he only wants to apply to schools that he would

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go to, and so he feels very comfortable with the

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idea that if he doesn't get into a school he

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really wants to go to, he'll just do what i'l

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Bee did.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think that's so smart. Grayson was saying the

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other day that he almost wished that he had done that.

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He's like, he saved so much money, you know, And

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I think that was his main reason, is that you

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just you save a ton of money and you still

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get to go to the school you want to. Anyway, No,

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he's not paying for it, but he's he's I don't

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know how, but this child is very frugal minded. Like

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yesterday he was at the mall with a friend and

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he texted me. He's like, I spent so much money.

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I shouldn't have, Like on these dumb they're called like

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gotcha machines. They're like these Japanese kind of machines that

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you like put money in and you got like a

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blind bag or something. And like this child, he loves

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a trinket. It's the bane of my existence. But anyway,

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he's like, oh, I spent so much money.

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Speaker 2: I feel so dumb. I shouldn't have. And I was like, honey,

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you never spend money on just like fun.

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Speaker 3: Stuff, don't worry about it, thinking he had spent like

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eighty dollars on bullshit and he comes home and he's like,

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I spent eighteen dollars. He's very money conscious and I

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appreciate that as his mother.

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Speaker 2: But anyway, back to Xander.

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Speaker 1: I don't think I think Xander is thinking that way.

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He's just doesn't know what he wants to do, and

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what he does want to do doesn't really matter if

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you go to college, right. He wants to live at

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home and like be in ground do groundlings, and take

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stand up classes and like kind of do what he

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wants to be doing. And he sees college as like,

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I don't know, just more boring classes that aren't going

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to matter to my future. But of course, speaking as

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an ex stand up comedian turned writer turned like struggle,

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always struggling to figure out what's next, I'm like, it

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wouldn't hurt you to spend four years fuck around to

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college then and take a bunch of things that you

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want to do, and then join an improv group at college.

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Speaker 3: Like it's a huge gift I think to give to

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your kid, saying, go fuck around for four years in

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college and I'm going to pay for it. I think

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that's an amazing gift. But also, you know, like at eighteen,

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they think that they know everything already, right, so it's tough.

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That being said, Xander is the consummate performer. Like before

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I even knew you, I saw Xander in something at school,

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and that kid he lights up a fucking room. Like

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he gets on that stage and he owns the stage.

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Speaker 2: There are zero nerves. He's great at improv.

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Speaker 3: Like, you know, can I guarantee that he's going to

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have a successful career as a stand up.

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Speaker 2: No, but I think he's got a shot just based

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Speaker 1: I mean, he's never done it.

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 1: Listen, I was like he. I was like he was

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at that same age. I mean at eighteen, I was like,

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I'm just gonna move out to LA and like be

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a stand up.

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Speaker 3: Although I do have to say that most comics that

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I know yourself included, there's there's a darkness that do

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you know what I mean.

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Speaker 2: It's like a lot of comics come.

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Speaker 3: From a sort of like fucked up background and there's

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a darkness that lends itself to the comedy.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Like Xander is just like all light and love.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but he is. I mean, he's got his stuff.

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You know, he's got his stuff that I'm sure he

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can pull from. I don't know. Listen, I'm so torn

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because of course John is like John will be supportive

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obviously no matter what, right, But John feels like that

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would be a huge waste for him to not go

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to college.

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Speaker 3: Well, John did tell me the other day not to

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speak out of school about your husband. But he was

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kind of like cool with the idea of Xander going

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to Peers for a couple of years. Really, yeah, he's

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he actually seemed enthused by it. And if you're wondering

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why I'm hanging out with Stephanie's husb without her, yeah,

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I know. We were doing a Thanksgiving thing and Stephanie

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couldn't come.

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Speaker 1: So John feeding the immigrants, Yeah, joins me in that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we did a nice Thanksgiving dinner for the guys

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and it was very sweet and they were very grateful

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and it was it was a beautiful experience.

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Speaker 1: But now I prepared mac and cheese, so my job.

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This was one of the few times that I didn't go.

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Speaker 2: The only time you didn't go.

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Speaker 1: I didn't go in person, but I sent John yeah,

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so I made I woke up in the morning and

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made pots of like macaroni and cheese so I could

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make a big platter of it. First of all, this

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is just a little digression, but you know, sometimes it's

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I have trouble with as simple as things like I

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was assigned mac and cheese and pie. So pie was easy.

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they were only selling half pies. Oh so I had

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I bought it eight half pumpkin pie. Oh yeah, I

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saw them there, right, Okay, So then the mac and cheese,

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I was like, sure, I'm going to buy mac and cheese. Like,

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I'm like, I'm not going to homemake mac and cheese

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for forty people.

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Speaker 2: I don't even know where you would get it.

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Speaker 1: Well, thank you. So when I decided, I'm like, yeah,

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I'll just buy it. And then the day before I

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was like, where am I going to just buy it? Yeah?

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have like that hot food area where they do mac

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and cheese, and I was like, oh, I'll just go

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there and buy like a platter of mac and cheese.

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So I get there and it's all gone. I mean

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it was only like seven thirty at night, but huh,

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no hot food there anymore. So I was like, how

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do I go about getting like a bunch of the

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mac and cheese that you guys make, and she was like, oh,

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you have to pre order that, so it would have

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been too late in the morning. So then I was

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going to go to Costco. Anyway, the whole thing started

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making me really tired, so I went. I was like,

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could I make just could I get away with just

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making boxed mac and cheese? And then I thought that's

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going to be super lame to get like craft mac

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and cheese. But when I went to the boxed mac

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and cheese aisle, I was like, oh, they have like

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stuff that looks like real mac and cheese. Yeah, like shells.

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So I bought like three family sized boxes and then

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I just had to get up in the morning and

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make mac and cheese.

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Speaker 2: Like I had a couple of pots going didn't have

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the powdered cheese.

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Speaker 1: No, it actually no, it's like it was Amy's. It's

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like velveta e.

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Speaker 2: Oh okay, like it squeeze pouch.

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Speaker 1: Yes?

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Speaker 2: Was it good?

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Speaker 1: Sure, it's no better? I don't know. I didn't taste it.

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Speaker 3: I think that, like there's a particular person that really

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likes to like some boxed mac and cheese. I am

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not that person, although I do get the trader Joe's

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has a boxed like white cheddar.

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Speaker 1: That wis contact. Yeah, yeah, yeah, And I used.

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and like had no money, and I would get that

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and I would mix a bunch of pepper into it,

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so it was like like a faux coccio pepe Oh.

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Like I even had to be extra with my box

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mac and cheese. But we did have lots of mac

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and cheese and.

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Speaker 1: It all went. Yeah. So I sent John. So we

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were doing a big Thanksgiving and there were I was like,

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I don't know where I was going.

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Speaker 2: I think he had to do this, didn't you know?

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Speaker 1: I had to record that's what it was on Thursday mornings.

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So I sent John with all the stuff and he

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was so happy to see you.

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Speaker 2: Oh that's nice. Yeah. We had a nice chat.

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Speaker 1: Because I think he was a little nervous because he

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knew Jane, our friend Jane, would be busy. She was

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so busy. Tara was Aaron. I got to talk to

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her the whole time.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it was nice.

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Speaker 3: I was on the end passing out food and John

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was on the end talking to me while I was

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passing out food.

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Speaker 1: He wasn't helping, No, he was helping. He would do things, honest,

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be so for real right now.

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Speaker 2: I think he might have been on plate duty.

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Speaker 3: I can't remember, but like when I was thirsty, he

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would fetch me drinks.

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Speaker 1: Oh that's nice, that's nice. Yeah, No, it was good.

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Speaker 3: He was helpful because when people were loading stuff in,

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there was so much stuff, and then people kept asking me.

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For whatever reason, there were people like like bringing stuff

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in to like stalk the fridge and bringing other things

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that had nothing to do with our group, but for

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whatever reason, they all came to me.

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Speaker 2: And I was like, I don't I don't know, I

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don't know anything.

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Speaker 1: Right, but it all got sorted and then yeah, and

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then John said he got there and somebody had had

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like a soda incident and didn't bring soda, so they

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were he had They sent him to the store, Yeah,

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to go procure many twelve packs of soda. So he

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felt useful.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that was good.

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Speaker 3: I did hear him saying like could I go to

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seven eleven? I don't know where he ended up. I

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also don't understand why it's so important for these guys

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to have soda, Like it's a nice thing to have,

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but they have like you know, like we don't need

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to be pushing sugar on people.

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Speaker 1: Big sugar. Yeah, that's true. I think the idea of

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it is now I'm gonna like somehow splain to you.

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I feel like the idea of it is for it

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to be a treat. Yeah, for it to be like

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for them to feel a little spoiled. Yeah, yeah, I

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get it.

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Speaker 2: I get that.

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Speaker 1: You know what.

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Speaker 3: The biggest thing that went the quickest was the El Poiloco.

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Someone brought all poiloco and I remember thinking that is

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so lazy.

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Speaker 2: They loved it. They were bummed when it was gone.

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Speaker 3: I was like, seriously, I made a whole turkey for

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you jerks, and like they just wanted the chicken.

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Speaker 1: You know what's really funny, is okay, so most of

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the community, most of the guys there are Mexican or Hispanic, right, yeah,

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And I literally was having this thought of like is

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it racist to bring something that I feel like, you

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know what I mean, Like in my brain, I was

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like it would if I brought alo.

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Speaker 2: Huh, well you would have been a hero because it

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was fucking stoked about that in my.

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Speaker 1: Head of like is that gonna feel like really like yeah,

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because we're Mexican, like you're brain as alpoio loco. But

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you know, then I'm like, but are they really appreciating

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as much like all the subway sandwiches or would they

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be like, we love El Poyo Locos. So thank you

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for clarifying that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, no, they loved it.

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Speaker 3: It was like the first thing that went and then

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everybody's really into the ham somehow that I was trying

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to cut with like a plastic knife.

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Speaker 1: And I think I might just do cater l Poyo Loco.

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Speaker 2: Then Yeah, seriously, they were super strid about it.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, it's not that bad. You'd be surprised at

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how much how expensive, like trying to do like a

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Jersey Mike's order is.

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Speaker 2: I know how expense it is? Yeah, because we tried

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to do it for school for yes, we sure did. Yeah,

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it's expensive. It's far more expensive than you think it

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would be.

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Speaker 3: I thought that we could get subway to cater for

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like one hundred bucks, and it is not that it's

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like seven or eight dollars per person.

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Speaker 1: Oh, I did subway one week. A lot of people

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have been so generously like throwing money at me to help.

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You think, so I can do that, Like and I

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did subway, but it came to it was like three

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point fifty. Yeah, that's just for sandwiches because I brought

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the other stuff separately.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: We brought soda and chips separately. Yeah, and water.

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Speaker 2: It's expensive.

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Speaker 3: It's my hope that we can keep doing this because

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they're so like grateful and appreciative, and you know, I

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think that interest tends to wane a little bit the

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more it goes on. But like, I feel like we're

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in this for the long haul, you know, Like I

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don't anticipate things getting better as much as Karen Bass

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wants them to get better.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, I agree, you know, I agree. So anyway,

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to wrap up this part, Xander he has agreed to

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really try to do his best job on the essays

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and the applications. And then I told him, if you

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feel that you want to do a year of peers

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and stay home and like take do other you know,

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do groundlings for that year and reapply in the fall,

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I'm fine. Yeah, but you know, I still want you

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to trus see where you get in, right, So he's

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going to do that. But like we're getting to the deadline.

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Speaker 2: Yeah is it November thirtieth?

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Speaker 1: It's December first? Okay here, but still so whatever, I'm

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trying to, yeah, not ask him twenty times a day,

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like if he's done, so he's everybody's heard me talk

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about Melissa and yes, Melissa, yeah, omrale amr al, I

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think yeah, I think so. I don't know. I've sent

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it to a lot of people, so he I guess

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he turned it all in, he said last night or

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I didn't ask him, but he was.

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Speaker 3: That was his goal, Okay, you know, I mean all

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he can do is what truly what he wants to do,

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you know, And he's going to be fine. He's going

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to get into some good schools and then he'll yeah,

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have a choice to make.

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I should tell you, and I don't want to cry

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like I did on the show that, but Rippanel will

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be hardest week of my whole life. Last week. I

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on last week's show it was impending doom because it

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was coming up on that Friday, and you spent time

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with me after I had already made the decision, saw

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how upset I was. One of the hard things, the

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hardest thing I think was making that decision, you know.

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And then during that week, you know, she just had

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a lot of they call it, they call it like

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she just had a few little rallies where it made

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me like crazy because John and I just kept going like,

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oh my god, I just took her out and she

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went to the park, so I don't know, like you know,

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and then I was looking it up online and it

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was like, yeah, that that can happen. And then really

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it was just the you know, it's just like every

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time I looked at her, it just made me so sad. Yeah,

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and then you.

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Speaker 3: Did something which I don't think a lot of people do,

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is you sort of gave yourself a week to love

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her and to sort of get used to the idea.

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But I think it's really hard once you make the

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decision to wait. You know, it's a different kind of

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grief when you're grieving them when they're still alive.

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Speaker 1: I mean, that was the hardest part, and it probably

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wasn't the best idea. But when we realized we have

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to make this decision, Okay, well it probably needs to

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be before Thanksgiving because it was going to be a

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big hardship on her to go to be in the car,

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right in the car, be at my brother's house all day.

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00:25:11,480 --> 00:25:18,640
And I was like, you know, yeah, so also just

475
00:25:18,839 --> 00:25:22,000
every day was starting to feel really long for her,

476
00:25:22,559 --> 00:25:25,079
you know, and not a good quality of life, as

477
00:25:25,160 --> 00:25:27,119
I said. But then it was like, okay, we we'd

478
00:25:27,200 --> 00:25:30,960
either have to make the decision like tomorrow or over

479
00:25:31,039 --> 00:25:34,119
the weekend, or it was you know. Then Monday I

480
00:25:34,240 --> 00:25:37,519
had this show, and then Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday I

481
00:25:37,640 --> 00:25:39,839
was teaching, So I was like, I'm not going to

482
00:25:40,519 --> 00:25:42,279
put my dog to sleep and then try to teach

483
00:25:42,279 --> 00:25:43,119
a class that night.

484
00:25:43,359 --> 00:25:44,960
Speaker 2: So you planned it well.

485
00:25:45,079 --> 00:25:47,720
Speaker 1: It was just but I didn't know how that was

486
00:25:47,799 --> 00:25:50,759
going to feel. So I was just a hot mess,

487
00:25:51,119 --> 00:25:55,759
constantly crying. And then Friday, you know, listen, I'm not

488
00:25:55,799 --> 00:25:58,480
going to tell you details because it's very triggering, but

489
00:25:59,039 --> 00:26:01,200
I will tell you that Sadie and Xander stayed home

490
00:26:01,240 --> 00:26:03,880
from school. They insisted.

491
00:26:04,440 --> 00:26:07,000
Speaker 3: I'm glad that they stayed because I think initially you

492
00:26:07,079 --> 00:26:08,160
weren't going to have them.

493
00:26:08,440 --> 00:26:11,880
Speaker 1: No, I was thinking of them as younger kids. I

494
00:26:11,960 --> 00:26:14,599
was like, why do they need to have that. I've

495
00:26:14,640 --> 00:26:17,680
never done it before, so I had no idea what

496
00:26:17,839 --> 00:26:19,440
it was going to be like and if it would

497
00:26:19,480 --> 00:26:22,599
be traumatizing. I knew that I had to be there

498
00:26:22,680 --> 00:26:27,279
because she's my love and I wouldn't not be there.

499
00:26:28,559 --> 00:26:31,720
We did it at home. We used a company. I'm

500
00:26:31,759 --> 00:26:35,640
going to give them a shout out God forbid, but

501
00:26:35,960 --> 00:26:38,359
you know, anyone needs to do this, and if you're

502
00:26:38,400 --> 00:26:41,599
in LA. I used a company called gem Core and

503
00:26:43,000 --> 00:26:47,039
this woman so anyway, Sadie and Xander wanted to be home,

504
00:26:48,039 --> 00:26:51,160
and Xander especially was being really sensitive and he was

505
00:26:51,319 --> 00:26:54,559
just like, what, I can't just go to school? Yeah,

506
00:26:54,759 --> 00:26:59,440
and you know that's going to be too hard. So

507
00:26:59,599 --> 00:27:04,039
I said, I was like, are you sure, because I

508
00:27:04,119 --> 00:27:06,640
don't want you to have that like image in your head, right,

509
00:27:07,000 --> 00:27:11,359
And he was like, I really want to stay home

510
00:27:12,559 --> 00:27:17,839
from school. Yeah, So I said okay, And then Sadie,

511
00:27:18,720 --> 00:27:22,440
who I did not think wanted to stay home, was like, well,

512
00:27:22,960 --> 00:27:24,960
Xander's going to stay home. I want to be there.

513
00:27:25,160 --> 00:27:25,359
Speaker 2: Yeah.

514
00:27:26,839 --> 00:27:29,160
Speaker 1: And I got to tell you they were so strong,

515
00:27:29,720 --> 00:27:35,279
both of them. The night before, Okay, I don't want

516
00:27:35,279 --> 00:27:36,200
to have another show.

517
00:27:36,000 --> 00:27:37,599
Speaker 2: Where I'm crying, oh honey.

518
00:27:38,079 --> 00:27:40,559
Speaker 1: The night before we gave her like we ordered her

519
00:27:41,880 --> 00:27:45,720
like a really nice dinner. Yeah. We got her food

520
00:27:45,759 --> 00:27:48,039
from the habit and we got her a double jar

521
00:27:48,519 --> 00:27:51,599
with bacon, and then we ordered her to order French

522
00:27:51,680 --> 00:27:55,400
fries yea, and a vanilla shake. Her favorite part was

523
00:27:55,480 --> 00:27:56,279
the vanilla shaks.

524
00:27:56,359 --> 00:27:58,160
Speaker 2: Oh sweet girl, and.

525
00:28:00,240 --> 00:28:02,920
Speaker 1: She I think she knew.

526
00:28:03,440 --> 00:28:07,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, she enjoyed her food. She had a tough night though,

527
00:28:08,039 --> 00:28:10,359
like with the anxiety and the like, and it was

528
00:28:10,880 --> 00:28:14,799
almost like she was giving us a gift like I've done. Yeah,

529
00:28:15,480 --> 00:28:18,880
this is not fun for me this life. And John

530
00:28:18,960 --> 00:28:21,000
and I just like laid in bed and held hands

531
00:28:21,079 --> 00:28:23,519
and were like, she knows and she's ready.

532
00:28:24,200 --> 00:28:28,559
Speaker 1: Then the next morning, again I won't go into details,

533
00:28:28,920 --> 00:28:31,680
but I will tell you this, the vet came in

534
00:28:31,759 --> 00:28:34,039
the morning over to our house. We did it at home,

535
00:28:34,240 --> 00:28:37,440
and Penelope didn't even lift her head off the bed.

536
00:28:37,720 --> 00:28:37,960
Speaker 2: Wow.

537
00:28:38,359 --> 00:28:41,839
Speaker 1: She was just like didn't care. Wow. And this woman

538
00:28:42,039 --> 00:28:45,720
was so nice. Her name was doctor Gonzalez. I mean,

539
00:28:45,960 --> 00:28:52,200
she was just like the most caring, understanding. She was like, anyway,

540
00:28:53,160 --> 00:28:59,519
it happened, and then you know, it was awful. I

541
00:28:59,599 --> 00:29:02,359
cried more. I've cried more in the past couple of

542
00:29:02,359 --> 00:29:05,799
weeks than I have probably over the last ten years.

543
00:29:06,039 --> 00:29:11,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, there's something there's something about losing a

544
00:29:11,400 --> 00:29:16,119
pet that is so hard because the love that you

545
00:29:16,279 --> 00:29:21,640
share with this animal, it's so unconditional and there's no

546
00:29:21,880 --> 00:29:25,960
complicated feelings when it's your dog. The feelings are just

547
00:29:26,240 --> 00:29:29,960
pure and absolute love. So it's a very pure and

548
00:29:30,079 --> 00:29:35,799
strong grief. And having gone through this a few times, though,

549
00:29:35,880 --> 00:29:40,640
I have to say there's something very very peaceful when

550
00:29:40,680 --> 00:29:43,519
they finally go and cross over.

551
00:29:43,680 --> 00:29:45,079
Speaker 2: It's very peaceful.

552
00:29:45,160 --> 00:29:47,319
Speaker 3: And I think that the times that I've had to

553
00:29:47,480 --> 00:29:52,480
do it, I've always afterwards said, Okay, yeah, it was

554
00:29:52,559 --> 00:29:54,759
the right time. We did this the right way, because

555
00:29:55,119 --> 00:29:57,680
I think when you feel their little bodies finally relaxed

556
00:29:57,720 --> 00:29:59,960
when they've been holding so much tension and anxiety.

557
00:30:01,160 --> 00:30:02,599
Speaker 2: But it's the fucking hardest thing.

558
00:30:03,200 --> 00:30:09,759
Speaker 1: It's so hard. Yeah, I mean I thought it was

559
00:30:09,839 --> 00:30:13,400
really hard when it happened. Then I took Sadie and

560
00:30:13,519 --> 00:30:16,119
Xander to go get a bagel, and it had been

561
00:30:16,240 --> 00:30:20,599
pouring rain all week, remember that it was pouring rain

562
00:30:20,680 --> 00:30:25,039
Friday morning. And then I swear to God, we went

563
00:30:25,559 --> 00:30:27,640
and to this place. It was like a couple of

564
00:30:27,680 --> 00:30:29,319
blocks away. We got to get out of the car

565
00:30:29,640 --> 00:30:33,720
look up at the sky. The sun was just shining.

566
00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:38,599
It had stopped raining this period of time, beautiful sun

567
00:30:38,759 --> 00:30:43,160
shining through with like sunbeams, and both me and both

568
00:30:43,200 --> 00:30:45,000
of the kids looked up and we were like, oh

569
00:30:45,119 --> 00:30:49,400
my god, it's Penelope. She's like happy now and she's

570
00:30:49,480 --> 00:30:54,359
telling us she's okay. Yeah, yeah, but then the last

571
00:30:54,519 --> 00:30:59,319
few days have been hard. Yeah. Yeah, it's because I

572
00:30:59,400 --> 00:31:00,279
missed her so much.

573
00:31:00,920 --> 00:31:04,279
Speaker 2: I know you do, but you have to just remind

574
00:31:04,359 --> 00:31:07,240
yourself you gave her such a beautiful life. That dog

575
00:31:07,400 --> 00:31:08,319
was so loved.

576
00:31:08,720 --> 00:31:13,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, and she was ready, but I wasn't ready.

577
00:31:13,519 --> 00:31:15,960
Speaker 2: You weren't ready. We're never ready. And that's the thing

578
00:31:16,079 --> 00:31:19,680
about like dogs, they just don't live long enough. Why

579
00:31:19,880 --> 00:31:21,640
don't they, Tam, I don't know.

580
00:31:21,960 --> 00:31:24,160
Speaker 3: And you know, Grayson just came home from school. He's

581
00:31:24,200 --> 00:31:26,119
only been gone for a few months, but he saw

582
00:31:26,200 --> 00:31:27,720
our dog, Yuki, and he.

583
00:31:27,759 --> 00:31:30,160
Speaker 2: Goes, oh, my gosh, she's so old. She has so

584
00:31:30,359 --> 00:31:32,160
much white hair on her face.

585
00:31:32,519 --> 00:31:35,880
Speaker 1: How old is She's only seven? Oh, she's not old.

586
00:31:36,119 --> 00:31:42,359
Speaker 2: She's not old. He really is, but she is sure.

587
00:31:42,799 --> 00:31:45,799
Speaker 3: Bird's only three birds, Like Bird's gonna be a puppy forever.

588
00:31:46,079 --> 00:31:49,799
Oh but but Yuki, Yeah, she does have a lot

589
00:31:49,839 --> 00:31:52,200
of white on her face. And I've never had a

590
00:31:52,240 --> 00:31:55,680
big dog before. I've only ever had little dogs. And

591
00:31:55,880 --> 00:31:59,200
little dogs live to be a million, like they live

592
00:31:59,279 --> 00:32:03,079
sixteen seven years, and so I know big dogs don't

593
00:32:03,079 --> 00:32:03,839
live quite as long.

594
00:32:03,880 --> 00:32:05,720
Speaker 2: So I'm already like stealing myself.

595
00:32:07,559 --> 00:32:13,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's very shocking. Sometimes the decline happens kind of quickly. Yeah,

596
00:32:13,519 --> 00:32:17,319
and you're like, wait, what, Yeah, she was just ten

597
00:32:17,880 --> 00:32:20,400
like a minute ago, like, how is she fourteen? Like

598
00:32:20,519 --> 00:32:24,119
that's that's fucked up. Yeah, I know, it's not fair.

599
00:32:24,519 --> 00:32:27,079
It's not fair. We were looking at a picture of

600
00:32:27,279 --> 00:32:32,279
Penelope from when we like shortly after we got her,

601
00:32:32,640 --> 00:32:34,839
and she we have this picture where she's like looking

602
00:32:34,960 --> 00:32:37,000
up at Xander sitting on the floor, and then we

603
00:32:37,079 --> 00:32:39,200
have another picture where she's looking up at Xander the

604
00:32:39,279 --> 00:32:42,559
same way, but from the bed like the day before. Yeah,

605
00:32:42,720 --> 00:32:46,920
and her face is completely different. Like one picture she's brown.

606
00:32:47,160 --> 00:32:49,759
Half her face is brown, h brown around her eye,

607
00:32:50,039 --> 00:32:53,160
and the next picture her whole face is basically like white. Wow.

608
00:32:54,000 --> 00:32:57,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, is it is it too soon to think about

609
00:32:57,519 --> 00:32:58,400
getting another dog?

610
00:32:58,960 --> 00:33:03,000
Speaker 1: It's yeah, it's too soon right this minute. But don't

611
00:33:03,039 --> 00:33:06,680
think I haven't been trolling the yeah dog adoption sites.

612
00:33:06,839 --> 00:33:09,720
Speaker 2: I have to tell you that my secret because we

613
00:33:09,839 --> 00:33:10,440
have too.

614
00:33:10,720 --> 00:33:15,240
Speaker 3: We have one who is like full blood Border Collie

615
00:33:15,920 --> 00:33:19,599
and then our other one is an Australian Shepherd and

616
00:33:19,720 --> 00:33:24,000
I got both of them as puppies from There's a

617
00:33:24,119 --> 00:33:28,640
humane society in I think it's Riverside, maybe Apple Valley,

618
00:33:29,640 --> 00:33:32,200
and there's a lot of dog breeders out there, and

619
00:33:32,400 --> 00:33:35,440
so I think they end up somehow getting a lot

620
00:33:35,519 --> 00:33:39,960
of these puppies. And so I call it the Designer

621
00:33:40,000 --> 00:33:43,880
Dog Discount Warehouse because we were able to adopt both

622
00:33:43,960 --> 00:33:46,519
of our dogs from there. And it's a kill shelter.

623
00:33:47,559 --> 00:33:52,319
So Bird, who's this perfect, beautiful dog, was going to

624
00:33:52,359 --> 00:33:56,319
be euthanized the day after I got her, Like I

625
00:33:56,480 --> 00:33:59,759
completely I saw her on the internet and I can

626
00:34:00,000 --> 00:34:03,160
depletely uprooted. I was like, can we get this dog please?

627
00:34:03,200 --> 00:34:06,000
And I'm showing her picture to my husband and to Grayson,

628
00:34:06,359 --> 00:34:08,480
and they were like, we don't need another dog, we

629
00:34:08,559 --> 00:34:10,480
don't need another dog, and I'm like, but look at

630
00:34:10,559 --> 00:34:13,559
this dog. This dog is a special dog. And they

631
00:34:13,599 --> 00:34:17,519
were finally like, go get your dog. Really yeah, Paalo,

632
00:34:17,679 --> 00:34:20,599
my husband finally went, it's fine, we like dogs.

633
00:34:21,920 --> 00:34:25,320
Speaker 2: So Yuki and I went and got us a puppy.

634
00:34:26,119 --> 00:34:29,119
Speaker 3: Ah, but yeah, I would encourage any of you if

635
00:34:29,159 --> 00:34:30,320
you're looking so you were.

636
00:34:30,480 --> 00:34:32,840
Speaker 1: Yuki with you. Yeah, they actually they would get along.

637
00:34:33,000 --> 00:34:36,039
Speaker 3: They actually said I had to oh to make sure

638
00:34:36,119 --> 00:34:37,199
that the dogs got along.

639
00:34:37,320 --> 00:34:38,480
Speaker 2: And this is how crazy.

640
00:34:38,840 --> 00:34:41,760
Speaker 3: So you know, we had had Yuki five years at

641
00:34:41,760 --> 00:34:45,360
this point, but she was adopted from the same shelter

642
00:34:45,679 --> 00:34:47,639
and when we got there, we weren't even out of

643
00:34:47,679 --> 00:34:50,199
the car yet, and she was shaking like a leaf

644
00:34:50,559 --> 00:34:53,519
because she remembered it and it was it was awful,

645
00:34:54,079 --> 00:34:56,920
like they put us in a little room so that

646
00:34:57,039 --> 00:34:59,960
the dogs could meet, and Yuki crawled under a chair

647
00:35:00,280 --> 00:35:04,719
in the corner and was shaking, shaking, shaking, shaking, And

648
00:35:04,840 --> 00:35:08,199
then they brought Burden and Bird hadn't walked since.

649
00:35:08,039 --> 00:35:12,360
Speaker 2: They She was so messed up. She was madded, she stunk,

650
00:35:12,920 --> 00:35:13,760
she was sick.

651
00:35:14,119 --> 00:35:15,280
Speaker 1: Even given her a bathroot.

652
00:35:15,440 --> 00:35:15,840
Speaker 2: I don't know.

653
00:35:16,239 --> 00:35:19,519
Speaker 3: I think they must have because they shaved her like

654
00:35:19,639 --> 00:35:21,199
she was all mad at so I don't know, but

655
00:35:21,320 --> 00:35:22,320
she was stinky, she was.

656
00:35:22,440 --> 00:35:26,199
Speaker 1: Sick, and they brought her do you like candl cough?

657
00:35:26,559 --> 00:35:30,119
Speaker 3: No, she had like like a like gastro intestinal situation,

658
00:35:31,000 --> 00:35:35,079
which we now know why because after we brought her home,

659
00:35:35,480 --> 00:35:37,719
and I'm sorry this is going to be gross, but

660
00:35:37,840 --> 00:35:41,000
I saw her poop and she was pooping like yarn

661
00:35:41,199 --> 00:35:44,039
and string like. I think she had just been eating

662
00:35:44,079 --> 00:35:46,559
stuff on the street to fill her stomach that wasn't

663
00:35:46,599 --> 00:35:49,840
real food. And because even after we brought her home,

664
00:35:49,920 --> 00:35:53,760
she was eating like like rugs and pillows.

665
00:35:53,440 --> 00:35:54,559
Speaker 1: And stuff like that.

666
00:35:54,719 --> 00:35:57,800
Speaker 2: I think you're like that's kind of what we thought too.

667
00:35:57,920 --> 00:36:01,000
Speaker 3: I mean, eventually it evened out once she started eating

668
00:36:01,039 --> 00:36:05,039
regular food and getting healthy. But anyway, when they brought

669
00:36:05,119 --> 00:36:07,840
her in the room, like they were carrying her because

670
00:36:07,840 --> 00:36:10,119
she wouldn't walk, and they put her on the ground.

671
00:36:10,199 --> 00:36:12,639
Speaker 2: But then she saw Yuki and she started wagging her

672
00:36:12,719 --> 00:36:16,760
little tail nub and it was the sweetest thing. So

673
00:36:17,159 --> 00:36:22,320
they let us keep her. And she's a great dog's

674
00:36:22,559 --> 00:36:25,639
they both are. They're both great dogs. They're so smart.

675
00:36:25,960 --> 00:36:29,360
And like the fact that these kill shelters still exists,

676
00:36:30,320 --> 00:36:34,280
it's so heartbreaking. There's so many great dogs that just

677
00:36:34,360 --> 00:36:35,079
need a chance.

678
00:36:36,519 --> 00:36:42,719
Speaker 1: When Penelope, Penelope had been in a shelter, not even

679
00:36:42,840 --> 00:36:49,000
like a dog pound, basically in Porterville, and the one

680
00:36:49,159 --> 00:36:51,480
the woman who rescued her, had gone there because there

681
00:36:51,559 --> 00:36:54,599
had been a hoarding situation some woman. They took they

682
00:36:54,760 --> 00:37:00,840
confiscated like eleven dogs. She was she was hoarding and

683
00:37:00,920 --> 00:37:03,800
that we're starving. So this woman who ran the shelter

684
00:37:04,000 --> 00:37:08,000
called Rescue from the Heart, had gone to Porterville and

685
00:37:09,039 --> 00:37:12,960
got all like, took eleven dogs, but there were two dogs.

686
00:37:13,039 --> 00:37:15,599
She said that we're not part of that situation, but

687
00:37:15,719 --> 00:37:18,119
that she couldn't get out of her mind. One of

688
00:37:18,159 --> 00:37:22,360
them was Penelope, who had been an owner's surrender and

689
00:37:22,559 --> 00:37:26,199
had we think just lived outside and had just had puppies,

690
00:37:26,840 --> 00:37:30,840
and oh she did. She'd had a litter. They couldn't

691
00:37:30,840 --> 00:37:35,239
find the puppies anywhere, and the owners played dumb. Oh no,

692
00:37:35,719 --> 00:37:37,800
so they never could find any of the puppies, but

693
00:37:38,079 --> 00:37:41,400
they but she was like still lactating when we're in

694
00:37:41,960 --> 00:37:44,440
and she'd been in the shelter and she totally shut

695
00:37:44,519 --> 00:37:47,039
down and just like faced to the wall and wouldn't

696
00:37:47,199 --> 00:37:52,599
like And then this woman, this saint Annie Annie Hart

697
00:37:52,920 --> 00:37:55,159
was like she said, I couldn't get her out of

698
00:37:55,239 --> 00:37:57,639
my mind. So like two days later she went back

699
00:37:58,280 --> 00:38:01,000
and got her. And she was sick too, she had

700
00:38:01,079 --> 00:38:03,800
like kennel cough. And then so she was in the

701
00:38:03,880 --> 00:38:08,280
hospital for like these people that run rescues are saints. Yeah, yeah,

702
00:38:08,360 --> 00:38:10,519
the money they spend on these dogs. I mean they

703
00:38:10,599 --> 00:38:13,039
had to hospitalize Penelope. She was in the hospital for

704
00:38:13,159 --> 00:38:17,599
like two weeks. Oh, poor baby, that's so expensive. It's

705
00:38:17,719 --> 00:38:18,719
so expensive.

706
00:38:19,119 --> 00:38:19,280
Speaker 4: Yeah.

707
00:38:19,360 --> 00:38:23,559
Speaker 3: When we got Yuki, so she had been rescued by

708
00:38:24,719 --> 00:38:30,000
like a border collie rescue from that riverside shelter. Huh,

709
00:38:30,199 --> 00:38:33,960
And so that's how Grayson, for whatever reason, really wanted

710
00:38:34,000 --> 00:38:37,679
a Border Collie. He met one once in Montana and

711
00:38:37,800 --> 00:38:41,480
then decided that's the dog he wanted it. But I

712
00:38:41,599 --> 00:38:44,480
was like, we're not gonna buy a dog from a breeder,

713
00:38:45,320 --> 00:38:48,599
and so I looked up there's some like search engine.

714
00:38:48,679 --> 00:38:51,480
Speaker 2: It's called like, h what is it called.

715
00:38:51,880 --> 00:38:55,280
Speaker 3: It's like dog rescue dot org or something like that,

716
00:38:55,360 --> 00:38:56,920
but you can put in the kind of dog you

717
00:38:57,000 --> 00:39:01,239
want and it will show you like rescues have that

718
00:39:01,400 --> 00:39:04,880
kind of dog, and it's this picture of this perfect

719
00:39:05,000 --> 00:39:09,400
border Collie puffy puppy, like perfect, like a six week

720
00:39:09,480 --> 00:39:12,000
old puppy. And I was like, there's no way, there

721
00:39:12,159 --> 00:39:14,920
is no way that someone is gonna let me rescue

722
00:39:15,000 --> 00:39:15,360
this dog.

723
00:39:15,760 --> 00:39:17,719
Speaker 2: And they were like, yeah, she's available.

724
00:39:18,719 --> 00:39:21,119
Speaker 1: Like I mean, was this local?

725
00:39:21,599 --> 00:39:25,239
Speaker 2: It was in like Apple Valley Okay, yeah, And part

726
00:39:25,280 --> 00:39:25,480
of I.

727
00:39:25,480 --> 00:39:28,400
Speaker 3: Think what some of these rescues do, not all of them,

728
00:39:28,480 --> 00:39:30,800
but they had gotten this puppy from the shelter. And

729
00:39:30,880 --> 00:39:33,719
then they were like, you know, so the adoption fee

730
00:39:33,760 --> 00:39:34,679
is eight hundred.

731
00:39:34,440 --> 00:39:37,480
Speaker 2: Dollars, right, And it's like, well, that's that's.

732
00:39:37,360 --> 00:39:39,519
Speaker 3: Steep considering she's a puppy and you haven't had to

733
00:39:39,559 --> 00:39:42,360
do anything for her, but great if it helps other dogs.

734
00:39:42,920 --> 00:39:45,239
But I was convinced because they were like, she's not

735
00:39:45,320 --> 00:39:47,760
old enough yet, we need two weeks. I was convinced

736
00:39:47,800 --> 00:39:51,199
I was being catfished because this dog looked too perfect.

737
00:39:51,280 --> 00:39:53,559
So I kept asking them. I'm like, can you send me, like,

738
00:39:53,639 --> 00:39:55,280
can you send me a picture of her holding up

739
00:39:55,320 --> 00:39:59,480
today's date. I just kept asking for pictures of her,

740
00:39:59,559 --> 00:40:01,039
and they they kept sending them.

741
00:40:01,239 --> 00:40:02,679
Speaker 2: So we went and got her.

742
00:40:02,840 --> 00:40:06,280
Speaker 3: And so ultimately did I buy a dog kind of,

743
00:40:07,280 --> 00:40:10,679
but you know, she was ultimately a rescue and.

744
00:40:12,159 --> 00:40:13,920
Speaker 2: At a great kid one time.

745
00:40:14,159 --> 00:40:16,360
Speaker 1: And this was so many years ago because it was

746
00:40:16,519 --> 00:40:20,199
before I got Penelope. I was like, looking on these

747
00:40:20,239 --> 00:40:23,760
adoption sites. Somehow I'd found this dog, and I told

748
00:40:23,840 --> 00:40:25,679
this story on the show, but it was, you know,

749
00:40:25,960 --> 00:40:27,679
I guess it would have been like ten years ago

750
00:40:28,800 --> 00:40:32,719
I had I'd found this dog. And there was something

751
00:40:32,960 --> 00:40:35,480
really funky about the woman that I was dealing with.

752
00:40:36,000 --> 00:40:38,320
I was texting with her and there was something really weird,

753
00:40:38,760 --> 00:40:42,519
and I was being catfish because she was telling me

754
00:40:42,559 --> 00:40:47,000
about this dog, this brindle. It was basically it was

755
00:40:47,039 --> 00:40:50,480
a pit bull, but she was telling me it wasn't.

756
00:40:51,599 --> 00:40:54,039
This is like hard to explain because because I don't

757
00:40:54,119 --> 00:40:58,840
quite remember the story, except to say that somebody smart

758
00:40:58,920 --> 00:41:01,480
that I was like something off about this. They did

759
00:41:01,840 --> 00:41:07,400
a Google image reverse image search, and it was not

760
00:41:07,840 --> 00:41:11,119
that she was claiming this picture. It was from a

761
00:41:12,320 --> 00:41:15,480
like somebody's flicker account. Oh wow, got her like the

762
00:41:15,599 --> 00:41:18,519
image that that dog. And so I did end up

763
00:41:18,559 --> 00:41:22,719
writing to her and being like, hey, that's like, send

764
00:41:22,760 --> 00:41:24,559
me another picture, send me a picture of the dog,

765
00:41:24,760 --> 00:41:27,880
like now you know, I would love to see another

766
00:41:27,920 --> 00:41:30,519
picture of the dog. And she was like, oh, I

767
00:41:30,599 --> 00:41:32,800
can't write now, but I will later. And then I

768
00:41:32,880 --> 00:41:37,480
got really mad, and my god, it was on this podcast.

769
00:41:37,599 --> 00:41:42,119
I think I fake called her, like I called her

770
00:41:42,519 --> 00:41:45,000
on the podcast to try to to try to like

771
00:41:45,679 --> 00:41:48,000
I don't remember, but like that could freaking.

772
00:41:47,800 --> 00:41:50,079
Speaker 2: Happen, Like, so, what's the end game?

773
00:41:50,360 --> 00:41:53,199
Speaker 1: Like I was cam from me for the dog, right,

774
00:41:54,119 --> 00:41:55,800
and and then not have the dog?

775
00:41:55,880 --> 00:41:58,960
Speaker 2: Actually, yeah, I guess they do make you pay up front.

776
00:41:59,039 --> 00:42:02,239
Speaker 1: I remember what she wanted me to do was pay upfront,

777
00:42:02,360 --> 00:42:04,480
and then she was going to claiming that she was

778
00:42:04,519 --> 00:42:05,920
going to just come drop the dog off.

779
00:42:06,199 --> 00:42:14,039
Speaker 2: Yeah that's so disgusting. Yeah, it's so gross. Well, Andy Hayes,

780
00:42:15,079 --> 00:42:19,079
So okay, Grayson's home, Grayson's home.

781
00:42:19,199 --> 00:42:20,280
Speaker 1: How's Berkeley going?

782
00:42:22,360 --> 00:42:27,360
Speaker 3: He loves it, you know, he's he's doing really well.

783
00:42:27,519 --> 00:42:30,320
And I talked to him and I'm going to brag

784
00:42:30,400 --> 00:42:32,119
about him for one second.

785
00:42:31,880 --> 00:42:34,400
Speaker 1: Because sure its parent post.

786
00:42:34,599 --> 00:42:38,400
Speaker 2: And he got a's on all of his midterms, and

787
00:42:38,519 --> 00:42:41,320
I'm so proud of him. He worked his ass off.

788
00:42:42,280 --> 00:42:45,119
Speaker 3: And I was saying to him, like, I have to

789
00:42:45,239 --> 00:42:48,199
imagine that if you get into a school like Berkeley

790
00:42:48,280 --> 00:42:50,000
and you show up there, there's got to be part

791
00:42:50,039 --> 00:42:53,760
of your brain that is like, do I really belong here?

792
00:42:53,960 --> 00:42:56,639
Did they make a mistake? Like there's got to be

793
00:42:56,760 --> 00:43:03,400
some imposter syndrome? And I said, did acing your midterms

794
00:43:03,960 --> 00:43:04,719
like make.

795
00:43:04,679 --> 00:43:08,599
Speaker 2: You feel like you really do belong? And then he goes, well,

796
00:43:08,800 --> 00:43:11,719
I mean some of my classes are really easy. And

797
00:43:11,800 --> 00:43:14,559
I was like, just take it, just take the win.

798
00:43:14,679 --> 00:43:17,800
And I don't believe you. Yeah, like I don't. I

799
00:43:17,880 --> 00:43:18,880
also don't buy.

800
00:43:18,719 --> 00:43:21,320
Speaker 3: That your classes are easy like his classes have Like

801
00:43:21,400 --> 00:43:23,960
I don't even understand the names of his classes.

802
00:43:24,840 --> 00:43:28,239
Speaker 1: That's so funny. Well, I remember you and I were

803
00:43:28,280 --> 00:43:30,920
talking about the fact that art because our kids went

804
00:43:30,960 --> 00:43:34,519
to the same school. That's how we met, but how

805
00:43:34,559 --> 00:43:36,360
we were like, I don't know, is our school like

806
00:43:36,440 --> 00:43:37,000
super easy?

807
00:43:37,199 --> 00:43:37,360
Speaker 2: Yes?

808
00:43:38,000 --> 00:43:41,199
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I was convinced of that, but yeah, it

809
00:43:41,239 --> 00:43:44,159
turns out it's not like either great.

810
00:43:44,000 --> 00:43:46,920
Speaker 1: Inflation, Like do they just want everybody to do well?

811
00:43:47,039 --> 00:43:49,280
But no, I think there's quite a few kids at

812
00:43:49,280 --> 00:43:51,400
our kids' school that aren't doing well. Yeah.

813
00:43:51,440 --> 00:43:53,599
Speaker 3: I think you're right, and I think that I think

814
00:43:53,800 --> 00:43:56,840
the true test was the AP tests, and both of

815
00:43:56,880 --> 00:43:59,360
our kids did pretty well on those, So I was like, oh, okay,

816
00:43:59,480 --> 00:44:02,400
maybe they are learning something. I mean, my kid went

817
00:44:02,400 --> 00:44:04,400
to a school for two years that didn't teach math,

818
00:44:05,519 --> 00:44:07,599
but I think they taught math one or two days

819
00:44:07,639 --> 00:44:12,400
a week and everyone ended up in mathnasiums. So when

820
00:44:12,440 --> 00:44:15,679
I first pitched the idea of our school to my husband,

821
00:44:15,719 --> 00:44:20,559
he was like, no, no more fake schools, Like he's

822
00:44:20,639 --> 00:44:22,719
going to a real school and that's it. And then

823
00:44:23,239 --> 00:44:26,119
eventually I got my way and it worked out.

824
00:44:27,360 --> 00:44:30,599
Speaker 1: Yeah, it really did. I'm so grateful for the school

825
00:44:30,679 --> 00:44:34,960
our kids go to. There are some there's some quirks,

826
00:44:35,599 --> 00:44:38,920
but honestly, like there's quirks at every school. Yeah, and

827
00:44:39,159 --> 00:44:42,119
our school works with the kids. They have a person

828
00:44:42,159 --> 00:44:46,400
who's a designated college advisor so you don't have to

829
00:44:46,440 --> 00:44:51,599
pay for us outside college counselor. She does that. And

830
00:44:51,840 --> 00:44:55,639
at Elbie's school, which was a traditional a lot of

831
00:44:55,760 --> 00:44:58,840
our audience so going. You know, I've been doing this

832
00:44:58,960 --> 00:45:01,960
podcast since and Xander were like two years old, right,

833
00:45:02,639 --> 00:45:04,360
and a lot of our audience used to get mad

834
00:45:04,440 --> 00:45:09,199
at me because the kids would not be doing well

835
00:45:09,480 --> 00:45:13,280
at like Valley Charter where they were going to elementary school,

836
00:45:13,320 --> 00:45:15,079
and I'd be like, they're having so much trouble finding

837
00:45:15,119 --> 00:45:18,480
their people, and people that don't live like in LA

838
00:45:18,719 --> 00:45:21,239
would be like, oh my god, send them to a

839
00:45:21,320 --> 00:45:24,320
regular school, Send them to your neighborhood school so that

840
00:45:24,440 --> 00:45:28,320
they will meet their people. And it just they were wrong.

841
00:45:29,440 --> 00:45:32,480
It doesn't quite work that way. No, in Los Angeles.

842
00:45:32,760 --> 00:45:36,960
Speaker 3: No, I mean, listen, I think that it's very easy

843
00:45:37,079 --> 00:45:39,719
to get caught up in also that game of like

844
00:45:39,880 --> 00:45:42,039
I have to get my kids to the next best school.

845
00:45:42,760 --> 00:45:46,280
But what I can tell you is that Grayson, before

846
00:45:46,320 --> 00:45:50,199
he started at our school, went to Marshall High School

847
00:45:50,239 --> 00:45:54,960
in Silver Lake and was so miserable. I would pick

848
00:45:55,039 --> 00:45:57,079
him up after school every day. He'd just be sitting

849
00:45:57,119 --> 00:45:59,599
on a curb like half a block down from the school,

850
00:46:00,480 --> 00:46:03,960
not talking to anyone. He didn't have a single friend.

851
00:46:04,079 --> 00:46:06,880
He would eat lunch in the library every day and

852
00:46:07,039 --> 00:46:11,800
it was so fucking heartbreaking. And I pulled him out

853
00:46:11,840 --> 00:46:14,480
of there, and I like, I, you know, I called

854
00:46:15,639 --> 00:46:16,639
the school that the kids go.

855
00:46:16,679 --> 00:46:20,079
Speaker 1: To and I was the middle school, right, No, it

856
00:46:20,159 --> 00:46:20,719
was high school.

857
00:46:20,920 --> 00:46:24,559
Speaker 2: He spent his first semester of high school at Marshaol.

858
00:46:24,840 --> 00:46:25,039
Speaker 1: Yeah.

859
00:46:25,159 --> 00:46:28,800
Speaker 3: So he didn't started our school until the end of

860
00:46:28,840 --> 00:46:33,000
the fall semester freshman year. Oh, but like I called,

861
00:46:33,079 --> 00:46:34,960
I pled my case. I don't think you can do

862
00:46:35,039 --> 00:46:38,079
this with our school anymore. But oh that's good to know.

863
00:46:38,280 --> 00:46:40,639
Speaker 1: My kids tell me there's new kids starting all the time.

864
00:46:40,760 --> 00:46:41,199
Speaker 2: Oh really.

865
00:46:41,400 --> 00:46:41,639
Speaker 1: Yeah.

866
00:46:42,119 --> 00:46:45,840
Speaker 3: Well, luckily we were able to get him in and

867
00:46:47,320 --> 00:46:50,000
it was kind of life changing, you know. He went

868
00:46:50,039 --> 00:46:53,360
in and the kids just were so welcoming, like came up,

869
00:46:53,440 --> 00:46:57,000
introduced themselves. He immediately like had a group of friends

870
00:46:57,159 --> 00:47:00,320
and really good friends he made like like he's still

871
00:47:00,360 --> 00:47:02,159
friends with the people he went to high school with.

872
00:47:02,920 --> 00:47:07,679
And it was such a warm, nurturing environment. I feel

873
00:47:07,719 --> 00:47:11,679
incredibly lucky that he got to go there. And yes,

874
00:47:11,800 --> 00:47:17,159
are there quirks, Yes, is it like Are we privy

875
00:47:17,400 --> 00:47:18,280
to way.

876
00:47:18,320 --> 00:47:21,039
Speaker 2: Too much information that goes on behind the scenes?

877
00:47:21,440 --> 00:47:21,679
Speaker 1: Yes?

878
00:47:22,519 --> 00:47:23,280
Speaker 2: Is that great?

879
00:47:23,599 --> 00:47:27,239
Speaker 1: Probably not, But it's like a small town.

880
00:47:27,559 --> 00:47:30,360
Speaker 2: It is like a small town and have you know

881
00:47:30,519 --> 00:47:31,000
too much?

882
00:47:31,360 --> 00:47:34,920
Speaker 1: You're like with But with Elbie, she did go that

883
00:47:35,079 --> 00:47:38,840
traditional what everybody wanted, which and she wanted was this

884
00:47:39,119 --> 00:47:43,719
big neighborhood high school. Yeah, which was fine. She had

885
00:47:43,719 --> 00:47:45,559
a lot of her friends there. But I can tell

886
00:47:45,599 --> 00:47:49,000
you she did not try a lot of stuff the

887
00:47:49,079 --> 00:47:53,159
way my kids and your kid got involved. There's still

888
00:47:53,159 --> 00:47:56,079
many opportunities when you're kind of a big fish in

889
00:47:56,119 --> 00:47:59,679
a small pond, you can just try stuff. Yeah, and

890
00:48:00,039 --> 00:48:02,800
always felt very intimidated. It's like if you're not in

891
00:48:03,000 --> 00:48:06,880
I don't know, Knights and Ladies or all these kids

892
00:48:06,960 --> 00:48:10,800
that join these very typical clubs, or you know, I

893
00:48:10,840 --> 00:48:14,599
didn't want to be a cheerleader. It was also COVID,

894
00:48:14,760 --> 00:48:17,360
so it was a little bit different. But you know,

895
00:48:19,159 --> 00:48:23,719
alb says that she wouldn't trade, you know, her experience, right,

896
00:48:23,960 --> 00:48:27,239
But my kids are very happy that they chose this route.

897
00:48:27,639 --> 00:48:28,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think you know.

898
00:48:29,039 --> 00:48:32,880
Speaker 3: Listen, when before Grayson went to high school, I really

899
00:48:33,000 --> 00:48:35,280
wanted him to go to a big, traditional high school,

900
00:48:35,360 --> 00:48:37,840
I wanted him to go to Friday night football games.

901
00:48:38,000 --> 00:48:41,679
I wanted that experience for him, but that's not the

902
00:48:41,840 --> 00:48:44,320
experience that he wanted, you know.

903
00:48:44,320 --> 00:48:44,719
Speaker 2: What I mean.

904
00:48:44,840 --> 00:48:47,280
Speaker 3: So, like every school is not right for every kid.

905
00:48:47,760 --> 00:48:50,159
For sure, our school is not right for every kid.

906
00:48:50,840 --> 00:48:53,800
You know, there's no there's no sports, there's no pe.

907
00:48:55,880 --> 00:48:59,159
But there's a lot of other things that are that

908
00:48:59,280 --> 00:49:01,400
are great for the right kind of kid.

909
00:49:02,599 --> 00:49:06,119
Speaker 1: Yes, for a lot of kinds of kids though, because

910
00:49:06,440 --> 00:49:10,599
just as long as they don't want well, small schools

911
00:49:10,679 --> 00:49:17,320
are a certain fit. But like Sadie and Xander super different,

912
00:49:17,400 --> 00:49:20,079
that's true. Both are getting what they need out of

913
00:49:20,119 --> 00:49:20,639
there school.

914
00:49:20,880 --> 00:49:21,679
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's true.

915
00:49:21,760 --> 00:49:23,559
Speaker 3: I mean I think that there are kids that thrive

916
00:49:24,159 --> 00:49:26,039
in a smaller environment, and that was one of the

917
00:49:26,159 --> 00:49:29,400
things when Grayson was trying to pick a college, he

918
00:49:29,599 --> 00:49:32,880
wanted to go to a smaller college because of his

919
00:49:33,039 --> 00:49:37,760
experience with our school, and ultimately that didn't end up happening.

920
00:49:37,800 --> 00:49:39,039
Speaker 2: He's going to a huge college.

921
00:49:40,199 --> 00:49:42,880
Speaker 3: But I think that our school sort of taught him

922
00:49:43,000 --> 00:49:46,199
that he'll find his people, Like he kind of knows

923
00:49:46,239 --> 00:49:48,960
who his people are and he knows he'll find them.

924
00:49:49,519 --> 00:49:54,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm just glad that he's in school like in California. Yeah,

925
00:49:55,039 --> 00:49:56,840
it's not so far. Yeah.

926
00:49:57,000 --> 00:50:00,239
Speaker 3: I feel so lucky about that. And I think kind of,

927
00:50:00,840 --> 00:50:04,159
you know, he applied to so many schools. He applied

928
00:50:04,199 --> 00:50:09,039
to like twenty schools, and that was completely on my

929
00:50:09,280 --> 00:50:15,079
anxiety driven recommendation. But then like kind of early on

930
00:50:15,239 --> 00:50:17,360
in the acceptance process, he's like, I don't want to

931
00:50:17,400 --> 00:50:20,840
go to the East Coast for school. I was like, okay, great,

932
00:50:21,280 --> 00:50:23,599
and so that kind of narrowed it down, and we

933
00:50:23,679 --> 00:50:25,079
thought he was going to go to school in.

934
00:50:25,159 --> 00:50:27,719
Speaker 2: Oregon, but like, no, he's here. He's six hours away.

935
00:50:27,760 --> 00:50:28,519
It's amazing.

936
00:50:28,920 --> 00:50:31,159
Speaker 1: I mean I remember, like yesterday you said to me,

937
00:50:32,519 --> 00:50:36,119
I just want him to read. You wanted he was

938
00:50:36,199 --> 00:50:39,079
deciding between Lewis and Clark and Reid, and you were like,

939
00:50:39,519 --> 00:50:41,719
I'm having so much anxiety about this. I just want

940
00:50:41,800 --> 00:50:43,760
him to commit to read. And I was like, but

941
00:50:43,960 --> 00:50:47,400
hold on in a minute. Yeah, because Berkeley decisions hadn't

942
00:50:47,440 --> 00:50:50,119
come out. I think some of the couple of the UC's.

943
00:50:50,480 --> 00:50:54,519
Speaker 3: Yeah, he got into like a handful of UC's and

944
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but he was still like he really liked read, and

945
00:50:57,320 --> 00:50:59,199
I was like, just commit to read. Like I wanted

946
00:50:59,239 --> 00:51:01,760
the anxiety to be done and Reads a great school

947
00:51:01,880 --> 00:51:04,800
and it's small, and he loved it, but he just

948
00:51:04,920 --> 00:51:08,119
kept going, I'm just gonna wait, I'm just gonna wait.

949
00:51:08,239 --> 00:51:10,800
And I think he wanted to wait to hear about Berkeley.

950
00:51:11,159 --> 00:51:14,800
But then that motherfucker like wouldn't decide between the two schools.

951
00:51:14,960 --> 00:51:19,000
Remember he made me wait for weeks and like secretly

952
00:51:19,119 --> 00:51:22,000
I had bought like a vintage Berkeley sweatshirt for him,

953
00:51:22,559 --> 00:51:25,960
And then finally when he decided, I was like yay,

954
00:51:26,079 --> 00:51:28,440
and like trotted the sweatshirt out and.

955
00:51:28,559 --> 00:51:31,960
Speaker 1: We were somewhere remember where when we were where were

956
00:51:32,079 --> 00:51:34,960
we that there were two people and one had a

957
00:51:35,039 --> 00:51:38,159
kid at Berkeley and one had had a kid at Reid.

958
00:51:38,719 --> 00:51:41,159
And you were like, oh my god, this is so great,

959
00:51:41,320 --> 00:51:44,480
Like I can ask both these people remember that? And

960
00:51:44,559 --> 00:51:46,960
you were like, what are the chances there'd be somebody

961
00:51:47,639 --> 00:51:50,719
who don't. Maybe one of them went to read and

962
00:51:50,880 --> 00:51:53,199
one of them's had or something.

963
00:51:53,360 --> 00:51:56,320
Speaker 3: Oh maybe it was like a parent. Yeah I think that,

964
00:51:56,480 --> 00:51:58,559
you're Oh, no, I know what it was. It was

965
00:51:58,639 --> 00:52:00,880
a woman that had start did it read and then

966
00:52:01,000 --> 00:52:02,159
transferred to Berkeley.

967
00:52:02,400 --> 00:52:03,920
Speaker 1: Oh okay, yeah, okay.

968
00:52:04,000 --> 00:52:06,239
Speaker 2: So but they were like a big cal family. They

969
00:52:06,280 --> 00:52:11,079
were like Berkeley all the way right, But ultimately he

970
00:52:11,199 --> 00:52:13,559
made his decision, but he really made me wait till

971
00:52:13,559 --> 00:52:14,280
the last minute.

972
00:52:15,800 --> 00:52:19,320
Speaker 1: I'm I'm so grateful that I'm not having to deal

973
00:52:19,360 --> 00:52:22,199
with this with Sadie because she was just like, I'll

974
00:52:22,280 --> 00:52:24,280
either go to Seasun or I'll go to Peers. And

975
00:52:24,400 --> 00:52:25,679
she got accepted at season.

976
00:52:25,800 --> 00:52:28,000
Speaker 2: Oh she did, yeh oh yeah, congratulations.

977
00:52:29,000 --> 00:52:31,480
Speaker 1: Yeah. And you know who else got accepted at season?

978
00:52:31,639 --> 00:52:33,719
Oh my god. I wanted to say this before the

979
00:52:33,840 --> 00:52:35,159
end of the show, and we're going to end this

980
00:52:35,440 --> 00:52:36,639
show in a few minutes.

981
00:52:36,400 --> 00:52:36,480
Speaker 4: But.

982
00:52:38,159 --> 00:52:44,840
Speaker 1: I call Xander's friend who you know, who's the my

983
00:52:45,079 --> 00:52:49,480
friend who was previously unhoused. Oh yes, yes, I call

984
00:52:49,599 --> 00:52:53,440
him Lyle Lyle Crocodile. Okay, okay, We've always called him that, huh.

985
00:52:53,440 --> 00:52:57,159
And I've always raised money for that family at the

986
00:52:57,320 --> 00:52:59,800
end of the year, I give her a gift always

987
00:53:00,039 --> 00:53:03,960
at the time that they do their music show at

988
00:53:03,960 --> 00:53:06,960
our school. So I wanted to say that, you guys,

989
00:53:07,480 --> 00:53:12,119
but guess what, Liela Crocodile got into Seasun. It's like

990
00:53:12,159 --> 00:53:15,119
a big deal. That's a huge to know this kid

991
00:53:15,199 --> 00:53:17,800
since he was in middle school and we've seen him

992
00:53:18,519 --> 00:53:23,760
absolutely flourish and that family and Lilah Crocodile's younger sister

993
00:53:24,079 --> 00:53:28,480
goes to the school and is so happy. And you know,

994
00:53:29,400 --> 00:53:33,400
she was at a different at a like traditional middle school, right,

995
00:53:33,880 --> 00:53:36,840
and she didn't really have any friends that she ever

996
00:53:37,079 --> 00:53:41,400
saw outside of school. And you know, she's just these

997
00:53:41,480 --> 00:53:44,519
kids went through a lot, a lot, and she was

998
00:53:44,559 --> 00:53:48,800
a little shut down. But her mom told me that

999
00:53:48,920 --> 00:53:51,559
she she had friends like at school that she talked

1000
00:53:51,599 --> 00:53:53,960
to and ate lunch with, but she'd never hung out

1001
00:53:54,000 --> 00:53:56,599
with them, like outside of school. And now that she's

1002
00:53:56,760 --> 00:54:01,679
at our kids' school, the mom was telling me. Anna

1003
00:54:01,880 --> 00:54:05,039
was telling me like that it's the most amazing thing.

1004
00:54:05,159 --> 00:54:08,599
She already has friends that she sees like she has

1005
00:54:08,719 --> 00:54:11,239
like a good friend already that she's like gone to

1006
00:54:11,320 --> 00:54:14,079
the movies with and like hung out at their house

1007
00:54:14,320 --> 00:54:17,519
that she's like was just beaming about it. Oh, I

1008
00:54:17,719 --> 00:54:20,840
love her at Halloween. But yeah, I want to do

1009
00:54:21,079 --> 00:54:23,800
another little raise some money for her because you know

1010
00:54:23,880 --> 00:54:27,639
that mom works so hard. She works at a she

1011
00:54:27,760 --> 00:54:30,119
works as a CPN. I want to see is that

1012
00:54:30,159 --> 00:54:30,719
what it's called.

1013
00:54:31,079 --> 00:54:35,159
Speaker 2: We're going to certified certified nurse's assistant.

1014
00:54:35,440 --> 00:54:38,079
Speaker 1: But she works at a nursing home base. Okay, and

1015
00:54:38,199 --> 00:54:39,360
she makes minimum wage.

1016
00:54:39,480 --> 00:54:41,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean that's unbelievable to me.

1017
00:54:41,559 --> 00:54:45,519
Speaker 1: Yeah. So I usually do a little not a go fundme,

1018
00:54:45,599 --> 00:54:47,079
but I just tell people to send me money and

1019
00:54:47,280 --> 00:54:50,440
I give her some cash. That's amazing, and I want

1020
00:54:50,480 --> 00:54:54,400
to do that again this year. But yeah, So on

1021
00:54:55,079 --> 00:55:00,239
Friday's episode, I was thinking for Patreon, if you we

1022
00:55:00,320 --> 00:55:03,239
could come up with a gossipy show business story that

1023
00:55:03,800 --> 00:55:07,639
from your past, or we could talk about like Thanksgiving,

1024
00:55:07,679 --> 00:55:09,719
which I think we should talk about that because we

1025
00:55:09,840 --> 00:55:13,000
both have like a complicated relationship with family and Thanksgiving.

1026
00:55:13,079 --> 00:55:13,239
Speaker 4: Yep.

1027
00:55:13,800 --> 00:55:17,719
Speaker 1: But for Friday, let's I want to hear it's been

1028
00:55:17,760 --> 00:55:19,480
a while since you were on, so I want to

1029
00:55:19,559 --> 00:55:24,760
hear some of your past like acting stories and okay, okay, okay,

1030
00:55:24,800 --> 00:55:27,719
all right, so before we go, I want to thank

1031
00:55:28,159 --> 00:55:32,880
our Patreon subscribers like Dick Frolicker and Nikki Collier and

1032
00:55:33,039 --> 00:55:38,920
Elizabeth Williamson and Rita Bassiet and Holly Butterfield sorry I

1033
00:55:38,920 --> 00:55:41,599
couldn't see for a minute, and Valerie Bba Fenwick and

1034
00:55:41,679 --> 00:55:46,280
Katerina Muller and Gabrie Gabrielle Gabby and Missy those two

1035
00:55:46,400 --> 00:55:50,119
Scamps and Ishan vaje Pe and Rebecca Lubin, Kelly Brian,

1036
00:55:50,199 --> 00:55:52,480
Alicia Esca a Lante from the City of al Monte

1037
00:55:52,960 --> 00:55:57,000
and Leslie still coughing and Aaron is A Dirty Sanchez,

1038
00:55:57,119 --> 00:56:02,719
Jennifer Fall, Sandra Green, Stephanie Stinker Rinker Christa Stroop. Also,

1039
00:56:03,760 --> 00:56:07,960
I want to thank all of you guys for just

1040
00:56:08,039 --> 00:56:10,639
feeling emotional again for a second. For all you guys

1041
00:56:11,159 --> 00:56:14,760
all sent me so many messages and left me so

1042
00:56:14,880 --> 00:56:19,519
many beautiful comments about Penelope. I know that even just

1043
00:56:19,599 --> 00:56:21,599
hearing the stories meant a lot to you guys too,

1044
00:56:21,679 --> 00:56:25,559
And I just really appreciate I just appreciate our listeners.

1045
00:56:26,000 --> 00:56:30,199
It's just Thanksgiving Appreciation Week. Yeah, and our business shout

1046
00:56:30,239 --> 00:56:32,920
outs we got. Katie Coleman has the Elf on the

1047
00:56:33,000 --> 00:56:36,480
Shelf kits for Christmas. Every kit comes with twenty four

1048
00:56:36,559 --> 00:56:40,920
days of ELF setups, props, even customizable letters. You can

1049
00:56:41,000 --> 00:56:44,800
find it on Etsy by searching Little Merry Moments.

1050
00:56:45,239 --> 00:56:46,719
Speaker 2: Such a good idea, right.

1051
00:56:48,000 --> 00:56:50,079
Speaker 1: I mean, Elf on the Shelf is the most painful

1052
00:56:50,159 --> 00:56:52,800
fucking part of Christmas when your kids are younger, So

1053
00:56:52,880 --> 00:56:56,280
why not do something cool like that? Courtney Moore has

1054
00:56:56,400 --> 00:57:00,480
Ie embroidery. It's on Facebook, so go to Facebook just

1055
00:57:00,639 --> 00:57:04,159
put in the search ie embroidery and they do really

1056
00:57:04,239 --> 00:57:07,920
cool stuff. They did some merch for Xander's band. It

1057
00:57:08,159 --> 00:57:13,239
was so cute. And then Kaylee Pettis is a marriage

1058
00:57:13,320 --> 00:57:16,119
and family therapist. She's out of Seattle, but she can

1059
00:57:16,159 --> 00:57:21,000
see clients virtually all across Washington State and she specializes

1060
00:57:21,079 --> 00:57:25,960
in helping high achieving women feel confident and well who

1061
00:57:26,039 --> 00:57:28,599
feel confident in every area of their life except their

1062
00:57:28,639 --> 00:57:31,400
love lives. She's really good at that. So go to

1063
00:57:31,840 --> 00:57:38,360
Emeraldbloomtherapy dot com. And my friend has a medium account

1064
00:57:38,400 --> 00:57:41,559
where she tells these incredible stories about living with this

1065
00:57:42,000 --> 00:57:45,760
fucking asshole of an ex husband who's in the military,

1066
00:57:45,840 --> 00:57:50,320
and it's called Unbecoming Stories. She's a great writer. Check

1067
00:57:50,360 --> 00:57:53,360
that out. Family Skeptical is a podcast about raising kids

1068
00:57:53,760 --> 00:57:57,000
without religion, so you don't have to raise your kids

1069
00:57:57,480 --> 00:58:00,519
with a bunch of dogma. Just listen to Families Skeptical.

1070
00:58:01,079 --> 00:58:03,880
Also Willmanfrida if you're out in the Palm Springs or

1071
00:58:03,920 --> 00:58:07,960
Palm Desert area, best brunch in town. They make amazing salmon.

1072
00:58:08,119 --> 00:58:10,679
Ever been to Womanfrida, No, I have not I will

1073
00:58:10,800 --> 00:58:14,400
it's really good. Basic Becky makes the T shirts and

1074
00:58:14,440 --> 00:58:18,039
the mousepads and the mugs. I have so many things

1075
00:58:18,360 --> 00:58:20,679
of her stuff. I love her. She always does a

1076
00:58:20,679 --> 00:58:23,880
great job and ship's really fast. So check out just

1077
00:58:24,000 --> 00:58:28,760
Basicbecky dot com. Sugar Skull is a small bakery and

1078
00:58:28,840 --> 00:58:31,519
gift shop on the island of Kawhi. They do wedding cakes,

1079
00:58:31,599 --> 00:58:35,119
they do all kinds of stuff. Follow their Instagram page

1080
00:58:35,280 --> 00:58:39,440
at sugar Skull eight o eight. Also, if you want

1081
00:58:39,480 --> 00:58:41,760
to get to Hawaii but you need a travel agent,

1082
00:58:42,119 --> 00:58:46,480
why not use Christine Black with Waves and Wonder Travel. Yeah,

1083
00:58:46,639 --> 00:58:51,199
she's a travel planner. Check them out. My friend Jacob God,

1084
00:58:51,239 --> 00:58:54,079
I love this man. He's so awesome and he just

1085
00:58:54,440 --> 00:58:57,800
gives shout out money for the ACLU.

1086
00:58:58,119 --> 00:58:58,400
Speaker 2: Love it.

1087
00:58:58,880 --> 00:59:02,679
Speaker 1: Yeah, and God we need them. Yeah, I'm on that wall.

1088
00:59:03,679 --> 00:59:07,599
And then last shout out for our friend Heather Hoyt.

1089
00:59:07,880 --> 00:59:10,719
The Holder Wide Foundation, which was created in honor of

1090
00:59:10,800 --> 00:59:13,440
the boys who were killed in the Borderline shooting. Of

1091
00:59:13,559 --> 00:59:16,639
two boys that were killed, and they do a huge

1092
00:59:16,679 --> 00:59:20,320
event every November around the anniversary of the shooting and

1093
00:59:20,519 --> 00:59:23,400
they raise money and they pick a recipient every year

1094
00:59:23,639 --> 00:59:26,960
and they help them retro fit their homes, get a

1095
00:59:27,039 --> 00:59:30,280
fancy wheelchairs and get medical care. So to donate, go

1096
00:59:30,360 --> 00:59:35,360
to Holderwide dot org. And then our friend Kelsey Ferncandle

1097
00:59:36,559 --> 00:59:40,840
great business, delicious smelling candles, make awesome gifts for the

1098
00:59:40,920 --> 00:59:44,679
holidays Fncandle dot com. And then every episode Adam Lerner

1099
00:59:45,000 --> 00:59:47,880
Adam's Got a Car dot com. Let him help you

1100
00:59:47,920 --> 00:59:50,480
buy a car, like I got my ID four from him,

1101
00:59:50,800 --> 00:59:54,239
So my friends use him to get their cars. And yeah, anyway,

1102
00:59:54,480 --> 00:59:57,760
thank you Tamra, thank you to Etsy, and go to

1103
00:59:57,920 --> 01:00:04,280
Gray by Tamramellow for her stuff. Great gift ideas, thank you,

1104
01:00:04,639 --> 01:00:09,000
awesome holiday gifts, hanukkah whatever you want. You gotta just

1105
01:00:09,039 --> 01:00:11,679
go peruse her stuff and she'll be back on the

1106
01:00:11,760 --> 01:00:14,400
next episode to talk like more fun topics. Yeah, I

1107
01:00:14,480 --> 01:00:18,320
see you. Then all right, you're a parent now, don't

1108
01:00:18,360 --> 01:00:18,920
fuck it up.

1109
01:00:23,679 --> 01:00:24,440
Speaker 2: Let angle