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Speaker 1: Hey, Saro, this is vocal d Vocald fragging is giving

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yourself the opportunity, the blessing to physically and verbally ask

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yourself the questions and question the answers. I do it

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also in a journal that I've been doing since November

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of twenty seventeen. It's asking yourself, the real, honest to

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God questions. Not to belittle you, not to judge you.

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It's to understand you. To create that relationship with the me,

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myself and HI. You know, your mind, your body, your soul.

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Just ask the questions and then question the answers. This

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is vocal dfrag this week. The subject is it's kind

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of really from out of nowhere, but it went somewhere.

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A coworker came up to me and asked me. He says, man,

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I just want to have a relationship with this person,

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but I don't know how to approach it. I'm afraid.

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I don't know what to do because there's pros and cons.

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But I know in my heart I need to have

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a relationship with this person. And I looked at him

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and I go, so, what are you asking me? How

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do you do it? How are you able to have

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these conversations with people you don't even know, and yet

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after you're done with him in a few short minutes

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that you were together. How do you do it? How

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do you have this respect for them and them wanting

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to come back a different day or when you're not here,

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they're asking where is that guy? Where's that guy? So

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I looked at him. I said, this person you want

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to build this relationship with. I said, do you really

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feel in your heart that it's important I mean important

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enough to invest your emotions your connections to not only

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be in a moment of now, but to grow with.

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And he goes, yes, I really need to be with

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this person. And the simple words that I gave him

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were exactly this. Every person has a problem, yes, yes,

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did you hear me? Yes? But did you understand me? Yes? Okay,

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every person has a problem. Okay, they have a problem.

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Is that going to weigh you down? No? No, I'm

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gonna ask you again. Is it going to weigh you

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down when this relationship of honesty unveils that they have

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a problem. No, that's what I want to have a

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relationship for, to offer my support, my love. Okay, you

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almost got the right answer. Every person has a problem

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when it comes to building a solid relationship, your only

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action is to be the solution. He looked at me

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and totally understood where I was coming from. Every person

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has a problem, be the solution. If you can't be

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the solution, or if they're not real receiving your solution,

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I think you've got the answer, the answer of should

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I go with this, should I grow in love? Or

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is this something that should remain of friendship. So that's

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the question today. In everything that you are doing in

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your life, we're all about connecting people. It's all about

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connecting with other people as well as other things in

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our life. In everything that you walk into there is

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a problem, Be the solution, ask the questions, question the answers.

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I call it defragging. I'm MARYL.