WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.560 --> 00:00:05.440 Welcome to Our Soul Whisper with Kathy Belmont and co 2 00:00:05.559 --> 00:00:10.759 host Doctor Pat a sacred space for self discovery, healing, 3 00:00:11.119 --> 00:00:15.480 and transformation. At the heart of our soul Whisper is 4 00:00:15.519 --> 00:00:19.960 the sacred truth. When we pause and listen inward, the 5 00:00:20.079 --> 00:00:25.760 soul always speaks. This show offers a safe, empowering space 6 00:00:26.280 --> 00:00:31.679 where those whispers are heard, honored, and lovingly guided into 7 00:00:32.359 --> 00:00:36.679 full expression. Each episode invites you to be curious about 8 00:00:36.679 --> 00:00:40.719 yourself and the reality you're in, while gently reminding you 9 00:00:40.960 --> 00:00:45.359 that you are exactly where you need to be. Let 10 00:00:45.439 --> 00:00:49.799 today's message settle in your heart, maybe even journal about it, 11 00:00:50.439 --> 00:00:55.640 and if something resonates peace, clarity, or insight, pass it 12 00:00:55.679 --> 00:00:59.320 along to someone whose soul might be calling for the same. 13 00:01:00.200 --> 00:01:04.680 Keep listening inward. Your soul knows the way Our Soul 14 00:01:04.760 --> 00:01:12.359 Whisper starts. Now. Hi, everyone, I want to welcome you 15 00:01:12.439 --> 00:01:15.519 to this amazing episode. I am the co host here 16 00:01:15.560 --> 00:01:18.879 with the most incredible Kathy Belmont. But first, before we 17 00:01:18.959 --> 00:01:21.439 go any further, I want to tell you that this 18 00:01:21.480 --> 00:01:25.159 is a show. What you're going to hear Kathy provides solutions, 19 00:01:25.439 --> 00:01:27.640 and what I mean by that is solutions to all 20 00:01:27.680 --> 00:01:30.079 of you out there. As a spiritual coach and so 21 00:01:30.159 --> 00:01:34.120 much more. The topics we talk about are topics that 22 00:01:34.239 --> 00:01:37.879 one show up in life too, that she has experience 23 00:01:37.920 --> 00:01:40.599 in working with people on. So today, right out of 24 00:01:40.640 --> 00:01:45.439 the gate, this is really important finding your true north, 25 00:01:46.200 --> 00:01:51.400 the walls in between. All right, Kathy, this is a 26 00:01:51.400 --> 00:01:55.159 good one, and it doesn't it doesn't really require a 27 00:01:55.200 --> 00:01:58.439 bit of an explanation, especially from where you come from 28 00:01:59.280 --> 00:02:01.120 the beginning journey for us today. 29 00:02:01.680 --> 00:02:05.400 Yeah yeah, so yeah, thanks everyone, Thanks, thanks for being here. 30 00:02:05.439 --> 00:02:08.840 And I'm excited to talk about this because it's really 31 00:02:10.400 --> 00:02:14.520 it's it's recognizing those misalignments, like when we just feel 32 00:02:14.560 --> 00:02:18.319 something's off. And what I'd like to do is really 33 00:02:18.360 --> 00:02:23.039 have a conversation today about how to recognize these misalignments 34 00:02:23.039 --> 00:02:26.800 in general, and then looking at different aspects of our 35 00:02:26.879 --> 00:02:30.360 lives and so we have these something feels off, which 36 00:02:31.960 --> 00:02:34.879 can see maybe a little bit easier to at least 37 00:02:34.960 --> 00:02:39.840 identify what can be challenging. Sometimes it's what's underneath, what 38 00:02:39.879 --> 00:02:43.840 are those blocks and obstacles that are really keeping those 39 00:02:44.039 --> 00:02:48.159 misalignments those something just doesn't feel right in place. So 40 00:02:48.719 --> 00:02:50.960 that's what I'd really like to talk about. And then 41 00:02:51.039 --> 00:02:55.479 just a little exciting news for the next episode really 42 00:02:55.520 --> 00:02:58.680 talk about how we can then clear all that so 43 00:02:59.039 --> 00:03:01.960 we'll kind of get through what's holding this back, and 44 00:03:02.039 --> 00:03:07.080 the next week how we can really start living that 45 00:03:07.319 --> 00:03:10.879 life that we really want, that we're really yearning to 46 00:03:11.400 --> 00:03:15.879 express and be creative. And so, you know, the on 47 00:03:15.960 --> 00:03:19.879 the just a general level, some of these signs are 48 00:03:19.960 --> 00:03:23.159 you may find you're just living on autopilot. You're just 49 00:03:23.199 --> 00:03:27.759 going through the day. You know, maybe if work today 50 00:03:27.840 --> 00:03:30.439 looks so different, but say you're in an office, you know, 51 00:03:30.520 --> 00:03:33.879 you get up, you go to work, come home, cook dinner, 52 00:03:34.759 --> 00:03:36.280 do what you need to do, and go to bed, 53 00:03:36.319 --> 00:03:39.240 and so it's like you're just you're not really an 54 00:03:39.280 --> 00:03:44.240 active participant in your life. Or maybe people ask you 55 00:03:44.319 --> 00:03:47.560 so how you're doing, and you find yourself saying, well, 56 00:03:47.680 --> 00:03:49.800 I'm all right, or you know, I'm really stressed, or 57 00:03:50.520 --> 00:03:54.840 and you don't really you find yourself saying these but 58 00:03:54.879 --> 00:03:57.879 maybe you're really not identifying with what's going on, or 59 00:03:57.919 --> 00:04:02.800 you're just not you getting these gut instincts, but you're 60 00:04:02.840 --> 00:04:07.800 not listening, or you're taking the back seat to things. 61 00:04:07.879 --> 00:04:11.520 You know, you're putting yourself second to things in your life. 62 00:04:11.879 --> 00:04:14.719 And so a lot of how this can look is say, 63 00:04:14.800 --> 00:04:18.800 maybe in your work, maybe you're just constantly thinking about 64 00:04:18.839 --> 00:04:20.759 you know, I just I just don't want to be 65 00:04:20.800 --> 00:04:25.240 here anymore. And yet the next thought is you talk 66 00:04:25.279 --> 00:04:29.920 yourself out of it. Well, you know, I just should 67 00:04:29.920 --> 00:04:32.360 be grateful for this. Or you know a lot of 68 00:04:32.399 --> 00:04:36.519 people you know would love a job like mine, you know, 69 00:04:36.680 --> 00:04:40.480 or we feel more alive talking about other possibilities rather 70 00:04:40.560 --> 00:04:44.439 than what you're currently doing. Or it could even be 71 00:04:44.680 --> 00:04:47.480 feeling like where you're maybe you like what you do, 72 00:04:47.600 --> 00:04:52.040 however the environment you're in doesn't seem to match, and 73 00:04:52.120 --> 00:04:56.000 so that's kind of how maybe out of alignment things 74 00:04:56.000 --> 00:04:58.720 can feel. But if you think about how would you 75 00:04:58.839 --> 00:05:02.199 like to feel, what would all feel like in your work? 76 00:05:02.279 --> 00:05:05.279 You know, maybe you really feel connected to what you're doing, 77 00:05:05.759 --> 00:05:09.079 and you really feel like you're bringing some meaningfulness into 78 00:05:09.079 --> 00:05:12.160 what you're doing. You're able to bring in the creativity 79 00:05:12.199 --> 00:05:17.000 that makes you feel so alive. And then there's relationships. 80 00:05:17.480 --> 00:05:22.000 You know, maybe we're we're starting to feel like we 81 00:05:22.000 --> 00:05:24.759 we were once in this role and we've just outgrown it. 82 00:05:24.759 --> 00:05:28.199 It's just not who we are anymore. Or you know, 83 00:05:28.240 --> 00:05:30.279 I think a lot of us can relate to you know, 84 00:05:30.360 --> 00:05:34.240 we avoid those difficult conversations that seem to either rock 85 00:05:34.319 --> 00:05:37.439 the boat or everything seems good. I don't want to 86 00:05:37.920 --> 00:05:40.800 I don't want to disturb the peace, you know, or 87 00:05:41.360 --> 00:05:45.519 we really start feeling responsible for everyone else around us, 88 00:05:46.040 --> 00:05:48.920 maybe they're comfort or what they like rather than our own. 89 00:05:49.959 --> 00:05:53.920 And so what alignment can feel like in relationships when 90 00:05:53.959 --> 00:05:57.600 we kind of get past, you know, those obstacles, is 91 00:05:57.639 --> 00:06:00.800 you really you're able to express your thoughts and feelings 92 00:06:00.839 --> 00:06:04.319 more openly. And it may not be you know, it's 93 00:06:04.360 --> 00:06:07.600 not at the expense of but it could be you know, 94 00:06:07.639 --> 00:06:10.120 as simple as you know, I just don't really want 95 00:06:10.160 --> 00:06:12.480 to go to that restaurant today, and it may turn 96 00:06:12.519 --> 00:06:16.279 into a compromise. However, you've given yourself a voice. You're 97 00:06:16.279 --> 00:06:21.399 not giving it over automatically. And you know, the mutuality, 98 00:06:21.759 --> 00:06:25.160 this care and support goes both ways. It's not just 99 00:06:26.079 --> 00:06:29.360 it's not just one person always giving and one person 100 00:06:29.399 --> 00:06:32.319 always receiving. So that's what alignment can really feel like, 101 00:06:32.399 --> 00:06:35.839 and that's where we can get to when we start 102 00:06:35.879 --> 00:06:38.959 identifying where things feel off. 103 00:06:39.480 --> 00:06:44.600 Yeah, because being out of alignment does not feel great, no, 104 00:06:44.680 --> 00:06:48.879 and we get signed to that and we're great ignorers 105 00:06:49.639 --> 00:06:53.759 like you know what I mean, like not denial, but 106 00:06:54.079 --> 00:06:57.279 it's great to just like ignore it. You know that 107 00:06:58.120 --> 00:07:01.720 stomach ache, you always have a headache als or you 108 00:07:01.759 --> 00:07:04.360 know you don't pick up the phone when Mary calls, 109 00:07:04.600 --> 00:07:08.639 you know, whatever that is, right, or you just tired 110 00:07:08.680 --> 00:07:12.720 of cook and chicken catchatory, whatever that comes, whatever format 111 00:07:12.759 --> 00:07:16.439 comes in, it's always a sign and indicator, isn't it? 112 00:07:16.439 --> 00:07:18.560 It is? It is And that's what we get to, 113 00:07:19.000 --> 00:07:22.920 you know, a lot into coaching, and especially the spiritual 114 00:07:22.959 --> 00:07:26.639 life coaching is we get at what are those what's 115 00:07:26.720 --> 00:07:29.439 behind the reason why you don't want to call Mary? 116 00:07:29.639 --> 00:07:33.120 What's what's that energy? What what are you what are 117 00:07:33.160 --> 00:07:35.600 you not saying? Or what do you not admitting? Or 118 00:07:35.879 --> 00:07:38.879 what is it that you're really not honest about? And 119 00:07:39.160 --> 00:07:42.560 you know it sounds, you know, like well what's the 120 00:07:42.560 --> 00:07:47.759 big deal? But those things add up. I mean they 121 00:07:47.920 --> 00:07:50.680 that energy just grows and grows and in it and 122 00:07:50.720 --> 00:07:54.199 it's really not just I'm going to say, it doesn't 123 00:07:54.319 --> 00:07:57.240 really just be in one part of our lives. It's 124 00:07:57.360 --> 00:08:00.240 we can look at all parts of our life life 125 00:08:00.279 --> 00:08:02.519 and see well where am I doing that somewhere else 126 00:08:03.680 --> 00:08:07.279 and so and so. In the coaching, we really get 127 00:08:07.319 --> 00:08:10.600 to what's behind that for you, what's the real reason, 128 00:08:11.079 --> 00:08:14.920 not maybe what you're telling yourself, but what's really underneath there. 129 00:08:15.399 --> 00:08:20.000 Sometimes it's fear, you know, worthiness some of those deeper 130 00:08:21.879 --> 00:08:26.439 wounds or experiences that we just were saying, no, you know, 131 00:08:26.480 --> 00:08:30.120 I'm not going to go there. And so what's beautiful 132 00:08:30.120 --> 00:08:33.960 too is bringing in that spiritual piece. And it's not 133 00:08:34.360 --> 00:08:36.639 you know, I don't work with people that are any 134 00:08:36.759 --> 00:08:39.639 religious affiliation, and truly people who want to get to 135 00:08:39.759 --> 00:08:43.840 that deeper meaning and connection and bringing in that piece 136 00:08:44.919 --> 00:08:50.519 of spirituality can be so enriching because you're allowing yourself 137 00:08:51.200 --> 00:08:55.279 to open up to some other possibilities that you're like, 138 00:08:55.360 --> 00:08:58.320 oh my gosh, I never thought about that before a while. 139 00:08:58.320 --> 00:09:01.799 What an awareness there? And so it's truly bringing that 140 00:09:01.960 --> 00:09:07.840 in and so really continuing with these misalignments, you know, 141 00:09:07.879 --> 00:09:10.159 maybe in our environment or our lifestyle, it could be 142 00:09:10.200 --> 00:09:14.279 maybe you're just living somewhere it just doesn't feel like 143 00:09:14.399 --> 00:09:19.159 home anymore, or you're feeling disconnected from things that you 144 00:09:19.279 --> 00:09:23.399 love to do, like activities or things in your community 145 00:09:23.559 --> 00:09:27.799 or things that mattered to you. And what alignment can 146 00:09:27.840 --> 00:09:31.799 feel like there is that you you can feel more 147 00:09:31.879 --> 00:09:36.000 moments of peace and contentment. You're not going against the 148 00:09:36.039 --> 00:09:39.039 grain trying to make something fit that just doesn't fit anymore, 149 00:09:39.279 --> 00:09:42.799 and you start feeling engaged in your own life. 150 00:09:43.240 --> 00:09:46.399 Yeah, I think it's so important to pinpoint these and 151 00:09:46.440 --> 00:09:48.679 then you know, also figure it out. For a really 152 00:09:48.759 --> 00:09:53.559 long time, Kathy, I dreaded Sundays, man, until I was 153 00:09:53.600 --> 00:09:56.720 able to figure out why. Now, there's nothing wrong with Sunday. 154 00:09:56.799 --> 00:09:59.519 And it certainly wasn't about church. When I was a 155 00:09:59.639 --> 00:10:02.960 very young child. You know, at age six years old, 156 00:10:03.639 --> 00:10:07.000 I was sent off to Catholic boarding school and every 157 00:10:07.080 --> 00:10:09.879 Sunday we would pile in the car and I would 158 00:10:09.919 --> 00:10:14.039 get dropped off, right unless, of course they forgot to 159 00:10:14.080 --> 00:10:17.200 pick me up on Friday. But I had to trace 160 00:10:17.279 --> 00:10:21.200 that back to why that was happening, and then I realized, 161 00:10:21.559 --> 00:10:25.320 I'm not a six year old child anymore. Right, Sundays 162 00:10:25.360 --> 00:10:30.399 are amazing. Now some people cannot stand Mondays. Whatever that 163 00:10:30.480 --> 00:10:33.519 looks like for you. What you're saying is, yeah, you 164 00:10:33.639 --> 00:10:34.559 got to become aware. 165 00:10:35.360 --> 00:10:38.519 Yeah, and it's becoming aware, doctor Pat of that six 166 00:10:38.600 --> 00:10:43.440 year old who may be still in that maybe stuck 167 00:10:43.480 --> 00:10:47.960 in the past like that, and we're still allowing that 168 00:10:48.080 --> 00:10:50.679 six year old to make decisions to where she just 169 00:10:51.399 --> 00:10:54.240 doesn't realize there's something better. She's not aware of that. 170 00:10:54.320 --> 00:10:57.799 And so you know, along with spiritual coaching, we can 171 00:10:57.840 --> 00:11:02.039 bring that integrated piece in two What how do we 172 00:11:02.080 --> 00:11:05.720 want to acknowledge that piece of ourselves It still dreads 173 00:11:05.759 --> 00:11:09.399 those sundays and has this attachment to what's going to 174 00:11:09.480 --> 00:11:13.720 happen and to let that six year old, no, it's okay, 175 00:11:13.720 --> 00:11:19.000 and that we're going to take We're the big person here, 176 00:11:19.399 --> 00:11:21.960 we know and we can allow you to be that 177 00:11:22.039 --> 00:11:25.399 six year old that just wanted to play and just 178 00:11:25.440 --> 00:11:28.679 wanted to So it's bringing that in as well. 179 00:11:29.519 --> 00:11:32.559 It's the game changer. You know, Spiritual life coaching is 180 00:11:32.559 --> 00:11:34.480 the game changer. And I want to say this. I 181 00:11:34.559 --> 00:11:37.799 was on an earlier show today and I quoted something 182 00:11:37.840 --> 00:11:40.159 from The Big Book. Now I say this for people 183 00:11:40.240 --> 00:11:43.120 to redefine this in your own way, because what Kathy 184 00:11:43.120 --> 00:11:46.159 and I refer to is we talk about spirit spirituality, 185 00:11:46.559 --> 00:11:49.320 what that means. It's whatever that means to you, really. 186 00:11:50.000 --> 00:11:54.320 But in the Big Book, in the second chapter we agnostics, 187 00:11:54.399 --> 00:11:57.879 which is not about agnostics. As a matter of fact, 188 00:11:57.919 --> 00:12:00.879 they mentioned God like one hundred and twenty two or something. 189 00:12:01.480 --> 00:12:04.120 But there's a quote in the book and it says 190 00:12:04.480 --> 00:12:07.720 God is either everything and again you can replace God 191 00:12:07.759 --> 00:12:12.360 like I did. God is either everything. God is. God 192 00:12:12.440 --> 00:12:15.440 is either everything or nothing. God either is or isn't. 193 00:12:15.799 --> 00:12:18.480 What shall I choose? So what are they saying? Spirit 194 00:12:19.120 --> 00:12:21.960 is either everything or nothing? And so what does that mean? 195 00:12:22.440 --> 00:12:25.159 That means having a coaching program that doesn't have a 196 00:12:25.200 --> 00:12:29.759 spiritual element doesn't really honor that phrase. And that is 197 00:12:29.759 --> 00:12:33.840 a powerful phrase in all of the twelve steps. Why 198 00:12:34.399 --> 00:12:38.759 because we know that it is the game changing factor. 199 00:12:39.639 --> 00:12:44.440 It is like the X factor plus a million. There 200 00:12:44.480 --> 00:12:47.120 are a lot of things we can do in life 201 00:12:47.320 --> 00:12:51.879 without it. But when we add that element into our 202 00:12:51.919 --> 00:12:56.759 coaching practice, which means into our change practice, which means 203 00:12:56.879 --> 00:13:01.879 into our behavioral practice, that's the magic. That's the miracle, 204 00:13:02.000 --> 00:13:03.120 isn't it? 205 00:13:03.120 --> 00:13:05.360 It is? And it's really getting in touch with a 206 00:13:05.360 --> 00:13:12.120 lot of times we've outgrown what was spiritual. Spiritual to us, 207 00:13:12.159 --> 00:13:16.519 I couldn't remember. I grew up as a Roman Catholic, 208 00:13:16.559 --> 00:13:20.200 grew up, you know, through the Catholic faith, and you know, 209 00:13:20.240 --> 00:13:23.759 I remember really early on saying Okay, yeah, I don't 210 00:13:23.799 --> 00:13:26.759 really connect with this, but I'll go through the motions. However, 211 00:13:26.799 --> 00:13:30.159 there was always this magical part, especially on Christmas Eve 212 00:13:30.200 --> 00:13:33.279 and the candlelight, and I would just it was such 213 00:13:33.279 --> 00:13:38.200 a magic to me that I held onto that. But 214 00:13:38.320 --> 00:13:41.039 where the spiritual practice comes in it, I just realized 215 00:13:41.080 --> 00:13:44.159 it just didn't fit for me anymore. And I began 216 00:13:44.279 --> 00:13:47.600 my journey into well what really does? And that was 217 00:13:47.799 --> 00:13:52.519 really part of honoring myself. And you know, I could 218 00:13:52.519 --> 00:13:54.799 have talked myself out of it and said, yeah, well 219 00:13:54.799 --> 00:13:57.960 I don't connect, but everybody else seems to, so let 220 00:13:58.039 --> 00:14:01.639 me just go with it. That's that's the difference. That's 221 00:14:01.679 --> 00:14:03.799 where we can stop and really ask ourselves, I am I'm 222 00:14:03.799 --> 00:14:06.440 really honoring myself here? Do I really enjoy it? Am 223 00:14:06.440 --> 00:14:07.679 I really inspired? 224 00:14:08.480 --> 00:14:11.879 Yeah? And so but that gives us the freedom then 225 00:14:12.279 --> 00:14:15.200 to really say I can work with this spiritual life 226 00:14:15.320 --> 00:14:18.919 coach Kathy Belmes, because you have that opinion of it, 227 00:14:19.200 --> 00:14:22.600 people and work with you and not be concerned. You know, 228 00:14:22.600 --> 00:14:25.200 we're not going to talk about this. And yet the 229 00:14:25.240 --> 00:14:32.159 most powerful element in transformation is what you do. It 230 00:14:32.240 --> 00:14:36.960 is extremely difficult with my thirty six years in recovery 231 00:14:37.320 --> 00:14:38.320 to do it without that. 232 00:14:39.840 --> 00:14:43.360 Yeah, and a lot of times in when we talk 233 00:14:43.399 --> 00:14:46.519 about spiritual. I'll jump to kind of some of the obstacles. 234 00:14:46.919 --> 00:14:50.080 You know, we have these to them, we have these misalignments, 235 00:14:50.200 --> 00:14:52.279 and then we say, okay, we're out, but what's keeping 236 00:14:52.360 --> 00:14:56.240 us from that? And I'll jump to spirituality because you know, 237 00:14:56.320 --> 00:14:59.200 we think that we should have it figured out or 238 00:14:59.240 --> 00:15:06.000 that we should do on our own. And you know, 239 00:15:06.080 --> 00:15:08.919 you get to spirituality and what does that mean to you? 240 00:15:09.679 --> 00:15:13.240 And what is that deeper meaning for you? I know 241 00:15:13.399 --> 00:15:18.480 for me, it goes to something to my higher self. 242 00:15:19.120 --> 00:15:22.840 You know, I my brain works in a certain way, 243 00:15:23.000 --> 00:15:26.440 and I have beliefs that it's limited as far as 244 00:15:26.480 --> 00:15:28.799 what it can really come up with. I think it 245 00:15:29.000 --> 00:15:34.120 just you know, my higher self has the bigger perspective, 246 00:15:34.960 --> 00:15:37.879 and so if I can open up to those possibilities 247 00:15:37.919 --> 00:15:43.039 and allow that bigger perspective, that's what keeps me going. 248 00:15:43.399 --> 00:15:47.759 And that higher perspective may mean may send me some 249 00:15:47.799 --> 00:15:52.279 physical support to say, okay, Kathy, we're here, but you know, 250 00:15:52.399 --> 00:15:56.039 go meet up with this person. They have something that's 251 00:15:56.120 --> 00:15:59.360 going to support you. And so that's how it can work. 252 00:15:59.440 --> 00:16:04.559 It's really opening yourself up and then allowing whatever comes 253 00:16:04.559 --> 00:16:07.320 in to receive to direct you to what you need 254 00:16:08.440 --> 00:16:10.879 and spiritual life coaching. I just you know, I find 255 00:16:10.919 --> 00:16:14.360 it where it's changed my life in a sense that 256 00:16:15.360 --> 00:16:20.600 my conversations are different, you know. I when I'm not coaching, 257 00:16:21.120 --> 00:16:26.559 I speak to family friends from that perspective, I'm you know, 258 00:16:26.960 --> 00:16:29.200 what is it that interests you about that I'm not 259 00:16:29.799 --> 00:16:35.480 I'm gauging my conversations differently, and it's really awesome to 260 00:16:35.519 --> 00:16:41.080 see the the results of that. So it really it 261 00:16:41.159 --> 00:16:45.799 brings fullness to the client's life as well as to mine. 262 00:16:46.559 --> 00:16:51.559 Yeah, and also doesn't it also help accelerate overcoming those 263 00:16:51.600 --> 00:16:57.240 obstacles because it didn't Einstein say akennthy abutor paraphrase Einstein. 264 00:16:57.399 --> 00:17:00.000 But didn't Einstein say, oh, by the way, we can 265 00:17:00.120 --> 00:17:03.080 not solve the problem at the level it was created. Yeah, 266 00:17:03.120 --> 00:17:05.960 And so we you know, people are like, well does Einstein, Well, 267 00:17:06.000 --> 00:17:09.880 we know what he meant. We know that Einstein didn't 268 00:17:09.920 --> 00:17:15.039 become Einstein without a spiritual tone in his mindset. And 269 00:17:15.079 --> 00:17:18.359 that's really what we're talking about, and so many others. 270 00:17:18.880 --> 00:17:23.079 We have to leave room for solving or getting to 271 00:17:23.200 --> 00:17:27.000 solution in ways that we hadn't thought about. But when 272 00:17:27.039 --> 00:17:30.400 we think about the many, many, many, many many people 273 00:17:31.200 --> 00:17:35.559 that have overcome obstacles. They do have a common factor. 274 00:17:36.279 --> 00:17:39.680 And it doesn't mean they believe in God. They talk 275 00:17:39.680 --> 00:17:43.480 about the universe, they talk about whatever that is. It 276 00:17:43.599 --> 00:17:47.200 is a higher vibration of something that is included in 277 00:17:47.240 --> 00:17:49.079 the solution and included in your work. 278 00:17:50.279 --> 00:17:53.839 Yeah, and you know that that's a wonderful leading because 279 00:17:53.880 --> 00:17:57.240 when you talk about work, some objective objections that may 280 00:17:57.240 --> 00:18:00.519 come up in our minds is you know, I'm going 281 00:18:00.599 --> 00:18:02.720 to jump to what do I have to offer here? 282 00:18:02.960 --> 00:18:05.279 You know we think that maybe oh my gosh, there's 283 00:18:05.319 --> 00:18:08.480 so many coaches out there, or I know I had 284 00:18:08.519 --> 00:18:13.559 that question. I know in me the fire was burning deeply. 285 00:18:13.599 --> 00:18:15.319 It's like, this is what I want to do, And 286 00:18:15.400 --> 00:18:17.519 that second thought came in, well what do I have 287 00:18:17.640 --> 00:18:19.880 to offer? I'm coming in late in the game. Everyone's 288 00:18:19.920 --> 00:18:23.319 been doing this and I had to be. I was 289 00:18:23.400 --> 00:18:30.440 reminded that my life, my experience, my flavor is unique. 290 00:18:30.920 --> 00:18:33.839 And when I think about the teachers and the people 291 00:18:33.880 --> 00:18:37.160 that I listen to and that I learned from, I 292 00:18:37.200 --> 00:18:40.119 get bits and pieces from everyone. There's certain people that 293 00:18:40.200 --> 00:18:43.880 I just really resonate and love to listen to. But 294 00:18:44.000 --> 00:18:48.720 as I'm searching, as I'm searching for answers to some 295 00:18:48.759 --> 00:18:53.720 of my questions. Sometimes it you know, a teacher can 296 00:18:53.799 --> 00:18:56.200 say it such in a certain way that I've heard 297 00:18:56.279 --> 00:18:59.200 thousands of times, and it's I think it's two ways. 298 00:18:59.240 --> 00:19:01.559 One I'm ready to the way that they say it. 299 00:19:02.000 --> 00:19:07.319 So it's what honoring what you bring, honoring the fact 300 00:19:07.359 --> 00:19:11.960 that there are billions of people out there and we 301 00:19:12.079 --> 00:19:15.319 all have different tastes, experiences, we're all on different levels 302 00:19:15.319 --> 00:19:19.759 of learning, and so we have something to offer. You 303 00:19:19.839 --> 00:19:25.119 have something to offer to someone, and I like to 304 00:19:25.200 --> 00:19:29.440 believe that if we're given something to give, there's someone 305 00:19:29.480 --> 00:19:32.680 on the other side that's there to receive. Doctor pat 306 00:19:32.720 --> 00:19:35.440 you may have said that to me, but it's a 307 00:19:35.480 --> 00:19:40.119 beautiful thing to remember because it's that given receiving. So 308 00:19:40.519 --> 00:19:42.640 one of the things that coaching does is it helps 309 00:19:42.720 --> 00:19:45.440 us to reframe. And that's what we're doing. We're taking 310 00:19:45.480 --> 00:19:49.920 these objections. That's what's keeping us stuck and stop from 311 00:19:49.960 --> 00:19:52.400 doing what we really want to do. What are those 312 00:19:52.480 --> 00:19:55.240 quiet moments are they saying to us when we're washing 313 00:19:55.279 --> 00:19:58.920 the dishes, I'd really rather be doing this. I really 314 00:19:58.920 --> 00:20:04.720 would rather be more in tune with people. I can 315 00:20:04.759 --> 00:20:09.400 relate to her. Whatever that is for you. It's listening 316 00:20:09.440 --> 00:20:13.960 to those moments and then what are the objections and 317 00:20:14.119 --> 00:20:17.160 reframing them. You know, how can you look at things differently? 318 00:20:17.920 --> 00:20:20.400 You know, when we look at relationships, we may say 319 00:20:20.480 --> 00:20:23.599 we talked about this a little bit earlier, but maybe 320 00:20:23.680 --> 00:20:25.480 you know you don't want to hurt someone, or it's 321 00:20:25.480 --> 00:20:31.640 easier not to say anything. You know, by not saying anything, 322 00:20:31.759 --> 00:20:34.119 we're not honoring you're not honoring yourself, and you're not 323 00:20:34.200 --> 00:20:37.759 honoring your relationship. Because on the short term it may 324 00:20:37.799 --> 00:20:42.759 seem okay, things are at peace, but you know, nine 325 00:20:42.759 --> 00:20:45.440 times out of ten, that other person or those other 326 00:20:45.519 --> 00:20:50.200 people are feeling it too, because as this planet, as 327 00:20:50.240 --> 00:20:52.720 we get more in touch with energy, you know, we 328 00:20:52.759 --> 00:20:54.920 can all feel it. I don't think we can hide 329 00:20:55.440 --> 00:20:59.119 much anymore. We think we can. But those are the 330 00:20:59.240 --> 00:21:01.880 kind of things we tell ourselves. So the reframing of 331 00:21:01.920 --> 00:21:09.839 that is again this pretending it it doesn't it does. 332 00:21:09.960 --> 00:21:12.720 It creates distance and so to be able to look 333 00:21:12.759 --> 00:21:16.400 at it like, okay, well I want to say something 334 00:21:16.480 --> 00:21:19.720 now because this relationship is important to me enough where 335 00:21:19.720 --> 00:21:23.200 I don't want to create that distance. Or maybe you know, 336 00:21:23.359 --> 00:21:27.400 people expect you to be a certain way. You know, 337 00:21:27.480 --> 00:21:30.640 you need time. Another reframing is you need time to 338 00:21:30.680 --> 00:21:33.519 grow into yourself. Other people need time to get used 339 00:21:33.519 --> 00:21:37.119 to that you knew the new. Yeah, however, that's not 340 00:21:37.759 --> 00:21:41.119 you know, so those aren't reasons to hold yourself back, 341 00:21:41.680 --> 00:21:43.799 you know, allow yourself that time. 342 00:21:45.160 --> 00:21:47.480 Yeah, you know, Kathy, that is one of the greatest 343 00:21:47.559 --> 00:21:50.359 challenges in people that enter recovery. I don't know if 344 00:21:50.400 --> 00:21:53.160 you knew that. You know, of course there are other challenges, 345 00:21:53.240 --> 00:21:56.160 but that's not that's not that, that's not the thing 346 00:21:56.200 --> 00:22:01.720 that really causes this, you know, uh, dissonance. It's here 347 00:22:01.759 --> 00:22:04.319 you are and you're starting to change, and you go 348 00:22:04.400 --> 00:22:06.160 out you tell people you're going to change, and of 349 00:22:06.200 --> 00:22:08.920 course they don't believe you because they don't see it, 350 00:22:09.480 --> 00:22:11.839 and you go down a rabbit hole about it when 351 00:22:11.839 --> 00:22:13.759 you think, how am I going to convince them? No, 352 00:22:14.480 --> 00:22:17.079 it is not our job to convince other people. It's 353 00:22:17.079 --> 00:22:19.839 what you're saying. You know, you know what you're doing, 354 00:22:19.920 --> 00:22:21.240 you know what you're changing. 355 00:22:21.559 --> 00:22:23.119 But in those. 356 00:22:22.880 --> 00:22:26.960 Programs, nine times out of tend Kathy, you have to 357 00:22:27.160 --> 00:22:33.759 let your past people, environments go. You really do. I mean, 358 00:22:34.559 --> 00:22:38.279 I move clear across the country, That's what I did. 359 00:22:38.319 --> 00:22:40.079 I mean, I'm not saying, y'all have to do that, 360 00:22:40.119 --> 00:22:43.720 but you understand, we learn a different level of discernment 361 00:22:45.039 --> 00:22:48.839 and we get this intuitive insight and that is spiritual. 362 00:22:49.319 --> 00:22:53.240 I believe intuition and intuitive insight, and that's what is 363 00:22:53.279 --> 00:22:56.599 blocked when we don't do what you're talking about today. 364 00:22:57.519 --> 00:23:03.039 Yeah, and you know it when we allow ourselves to 365 00:23:03.079 --> 00:23:05.880 become aware of these where it feels a little often 366 00:23:05.960 --> 00:23:12.359 what's in our way and as we work through that, 367 00:23:12.359 --> 00:23:16.880 that's our kind of work. That's what we do. And 368 00:23:16.960 --> 00:23:21.799 once we clear that energy, you know, life says, oh 369 00:23:21.839 --> 00:23:25.000 my gosh, now it can come on in. All we 370 00:23:25.039 --> 00:23:26.799 have to do is get out of our own way 371 00:23:27.359 --> 00:23:31.240 and we allow that. And so to your point, doctor pat, 372 00:23:31.279 --> 00:23:35.880 when you talk about, you know, making the changes within 373 00:23:35.960 --> 00:23:41.160 yourself and you are solid and secure and yes, this 374 00:23:41.200 --> 00:23:44.559 is who I want to be today. Life is going 375 00:23:44.640 --> 00:23:46.960 to take care of the rest. And that's where we 376 00:23:47.039 --> 00:23:49.000 hear a lot about we don't have to worry about 377 00:23:49.039 --> 00:23:52.480 the how we just put out there, you know. So 378 00:23:53.960 --> 00:23:56.480 it can be very powerful. And I think sometimes when 379 00:23:56.480 --> 00:24:00.079 we talk about change and what's in our way and 380 00:24:00.200 --> 00:24:02.720 feel so overwhelming and we think, okay, well, once I 381 00:24:02.759 --> 00:24:07.079 get through this, now what Yeah, but it's really once 382 00:24:07.119 --> 00:24:09.880 we clear that energy and we get clear about what 383 00:24:09.920 --> 00:24:11.920 it is that we'd like. You know, I made a 384 00:24:16.200 --> 00:24:19.799 I made a decision about my work, and there was 385 00:24:19.839 --> 00:24:22.359 at one point where I realized I wasn't fully in. 386 00:24:22.440 --> 00:24:25.319 I was still had my foot out into safety and security. 387 00:24:26.279 --> 00:24:29.440 And I became aware of that and I was like, oh, okay, 388 00:24:29.559 --> 00:24:33.640 that's why that's why things aren't moving and grubing. And 389 00:24:33.720 --> 00:24:36.920 once I said okay, I'm going all in. This is 390 00:24:37.279 --> 00:24:40.720 this is what I'm doing, opportunities showed up. 391 00:24:41.079 --> 00:24:41.480 Yeah. 392 00:24:42.000 --> 00:24:45.079 I you know, I was. I received invitations and just 393 00:24:45.160 --> 00:24:49.079 my and my energy it was all in. So it 394 00:24:49.119 --> 00:24:51.839 can be very powerful. Just so as little that we've 395 00:24:51.880 --> 00:24:55.079 talked about before, those little degrees of change. 396 00:24:55.640 --> 00:24:58.440 Yeah, that's all it takes. Kathy, thank you for today. 397 00:24:58.640 --> 00:25:00.599 How do people work with you? How do they find 398 00:25:00.599 --> 00:25:02.799 out more about you? And thank you so much? Leave 399 00:25:02.880 --> 00:25:04.519 us with your closing message. 400 00:25:04.799 --> 00:25:10.079 Yeah, so you can find me on ourso whisper dot 401 00:25:10.119 --> 00:25:14.519