WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.160 --> 00:00:09.039 This is Pod Popular Podcast for the People, the Great 2 00:00:09.359 --> 00:00:15.080 Love Debate. It's the Great Love Debate, the Great Love Debate. 3 00:00:16.000 --> 00:00:17.600 It's a Great Love Debase. 4 00:00:17.839 --> 00:00:20.679 Hi, get everyone, it's Brian how We welcome to the 5 00:00:20.760 --> 00:00:23.960 Great Love Debate, the world's number one dating and relationship 6 00:00:23.960 --> 00:00:26.199 podcast in twenty fifteen. I'm back here in the very 7 00:00:26.239 --> 00:00:29.559 fine studios of Pod Popular Podcast. I was gonna say 8 00:00:29.559 --> 00:00:31.399 podcast for the people. This one's different. This one's the 9 00:00:31.879 --> 00:00:35.920 elevated media experience. I'm at the one in Scottsdale, Arizona. 10 00:00:35.960 --> 00:00:39.079 It is the peak, peak peak, Scott's Dazzle here right now, 11 00:00:39.119 --> 00:00:42.280 So try and find parking outside of the studio. I 12 00:00:42.320 --> 00:00:44.759 want to talk about something that I've touched on a 13 00:00:44.759 --> 00:00:47.640 few times before I get in trouble for touching on. 14 00:00:47.719 --> 00:00:51.880 It doesn't mean I'm wrong. And that is the concept 15 00:00:53.200 --> 00:00:57.200 of girl on girl crime. And I think it is rampant. 16 00:00:57.600 --> 00:00:59.280 I think it is a problem. And you might be like, 17 00:00:59.280 --> 00:01:01.159 what does that mean? And like girls getting in fights 18 00:01:01.159 --> 00:01:05.719 in locker rooms. Not really, it's I think there's a dirty, 19 00:01:05.719 --> 00:01:11.719 little undercurrent of girls and their friends and their bfsfs 20 00:01:11.760 --> 00:01:15.000 maybe not exactly rooting for their friend to have success, 21 00:01:15.640 --> 00:01:19.439 maybe not hoping that they're in a relationship, maybe not 22 00:01:19.680 --> 00:01:22.959 hoping that their life goes well. Until my life goes well. 23 00:01:23.000 --> 00:01:25.079 There's a lot of that. There's a lot going on. 24 00:01:25.359 --> 00:01:27.159 I want to talk about it, So I'm bringing somebody 25 00:01:27.200 --> 00:01:28.719 in here who may or may not be a pro 26 00:01:28.840 --> 00:01:31.640 on this. She was on our podcast fairly recently. I 27 00:01:31.719 --> 00:01:34.560 sort of pigeonholed her into answering a bunch of listener letters. 28 00:01:34.680 --> 00:01:37.359 She had our holiday mail bag. But she's back. She 29 00:01:37.439 --> 00:01:39.879 has some thoughts on this, she has some experience on this. 30 00:01:41.040 --> 00:01:43.680 She's an influencer. She's a mom, she's a beauty queen, 31 00:01:43.719 --> 00:01:46.879 she's a business owner. She's a badass. She's about to 32 00:01:47.000 --> 00:01:53.719 start her podcast called Unapologetically Me, Unapologetic Me, unapologetically we 33 00:01:53.760 --> 00:01:57.799 don't edit around here, Unapologetic Me. The Lovely Crystal Carol, 34 00:01:57.840 --> 00:01:58.239 how are you? 35 00:01:58.439 --> 00:01:58.879 I'm good? 36 00:02:00.439 --> 00:02:02.640 And because she's a lovely Crystal Carol, I threatened to 37 00:02:02.719 --> 00:02:04.840 promise whatever you guys, that there is gonna be video 38 00:02:04.959 --> 00:02:07.079 now on the Great Love Debate with Brian Howie. This 39 00:02:06.799 --> 00:02:10.360 is this is the maiden voyage. This is there's cameras rolling. 40 00:02:11.560 --> 00:02:13.719 You're the first that I've like caved in, like okay, 41 00:02:13.759 --> 00:02:16.520 the cameras are rolling out. You're the first. I know, 42 00:02:16.680 --> 00:02:18.159 you have just the right amount of makeup on and 43 00:02:18.159 --> 00:02:22.120 we're ready to roll. I know you've experienced this, but 44 00:02:22.280 --> 00:02:27.800 this starts. I've always made the comment that I don't 45 00:02:27.840 --> 00:02:30.800 think men cause insecurity. I think they prey on it. 46 00:02:31.439 --> 00:02:33.919 By the time boys get to the picture at when 47 00:02:33.960 --> 00:02:37.680 we're when you're sixteen, seventeen or whatever, you guys are 48 00:02:37.719 --> 00:02:40.840 already a little fucked up because at thirteen fourteen, you 49 00:02:40.919 --> 00:02:43.919 guys girls to each other. Are you gonna wear that? 50 00:02:43.960 --> 00:02:44.479 You're you gonna eat? 51 00:02:44.520 --> 00:02:44.599 That? 52 00:02:44.680 --> 00:02:48.360 Is he gonna call you? Creating this neurosis that by 53 00:02:48.400 --> 00:02:50.520 the time the men are confident enough to say hello 54 00:02:50.560 --> 00:02:52.560 to you, guys are already little insecure. 55 00:02:53.439 --> 00:02:53.680 You know. 56 00:02:54.199 --> 00:02:55.120 How do you know that? 57 00:02:55.280 --> 00:02:55.479 Right? 58 00:02:55.680 --> 00:02:58.479 Doing this a long time and my two sisters too. 59 00:02:58.360 --> 00:03:02.080 Which is so crazy, because I was just thinking on 60 00:03:02.439 --> 00:03:06.159 girl and Girl Crime, because I've man, I'm a hit 61 00:03:06.199 --> 00:03:09.120 list for it, and I was just thinking, do guys 62 00:03:09.240 --> 00:03:10.159 know it exists? 63 00:03:10.560 --> 00:03:12.879 Like do they understand the dynamics of women? 64 00:03:13.039 --> 00:03:16.759 I don't think so I do, because I've really, you know, 65 00:03:16.840 --> 00:03:18.680 I've worked with a lot of women. I've been around, 66 00:03:18.759 --> 00:03:23.319 I've directed theater and shows with you know, a dozen 67 00:03:23.400 --> 00:03:25.879 cast members, and people are always like, Oh, that's such 68 00:03:25.879 --> 00:03:27.680 a good job, and I'm like, that's the worst job 69 00:03:27.719 --> 00:03:30.919 ever for a straight guy. It's terrible. You see the cattiness, 70 00:03:30.960 --> 00:03:33.560 you see the insecurity. A lot of women are like, Oh, 71 00:03:33.599 --> 00:03:35.360 I'm so happy for you as long as she's in 72 00:03:35.439 --> 00:03:39.400 a good place herself. If she's not, I've seen, for example, 73 00:03:39.560 --> 00:03:44.560 this place is a hot bed for bachelorette parties. Scotts, 74 00:03:44.639 --> 00:03:48.360 Arizona is the number two bachelorette party place now after Nashville. Yep. 75 00:03:48.680 --> 00:03:51.400 The difference between a bachelor party and a bachelorette party 76 00:03:51.680 --> 00:03:53.840 is that men go to a bachelor party wanting to 77 00:03:53.879 --> 00:03:56.800 do bad things. Women go to a bachelorette party hoping 78 00:03:56.840 --> 00:03:59.919 the bride does bad things, and that's what's screwed up. 79 00:04:00.039 --> 00:04:01.800 They're like, oh, let's see if we can get her 80 00:04:01.879 --> 00:04:05.159 to do this, And I'm always like, that doesn't feel 81 00:04:05.159 --> 00:04:07.240 like a sisterhood, That doesn't feel like a rooting for 82 00:04:07.280 --> 00:04:07.840 her going on. 83 00:04:08.599 --> 00:04:11.319 No, I don't think there is. I don't think. I 84 00:04:11.400 --> 00:04:13.520 do not think most women root for other women. 85 00:04:13.680 --> 00:04:14.159 They don't. 86 00:04:14.439 --> 00:04:17.639 And you're for the underdog, the girl who's a couple 87 00:04:17.720 --> 00:04:21.560 hundred pounds and kind of fugly and oh, let's help Betty. 88 00:04:21.759 --> 00:04:23.759 But the pretty hot one with a ton of money 89 00:04:23.759 --> 00:04:26.480 and guys crawling all over her, No way are they 90 00:04:26.560 --> 00:04:27.160 rooting for that. 91 00:04:27.279 --> 00:04:28.600 And a lot of women are gonna listen to this. 92 00:04:28.639 --> 00:04:30.800 I'm gonna get emails because I'm sure I'm gonna get 93 00:04:30.800 --> 00:04:32.959 and they're gonna be like, no, you don't know my 94 00:04:33.319 --> 00:04:35.399 friends they're right or die or whatever. And I'm like, 95 00:04:35.480 --> 00:04:38.079 your friends would blow you off in two seconds for 96 00:04:38.160 --> 00:04:41.360 a dude or for some other thing, like it just happens. 97 00:04:41.399 --> 00:04:44.279 And I'm not saying it's it's right or wrong or whatever. 98 00:04:44.360 --> 00:04:45.839 I'm just saying it's a real thing, and we have 99 00:04:45.879 --> 00:04:48.120 to we have to deal with it. And I'm not 100 00:04:48.319 --> 00:04:51.120 sure we The women spend a lot of time blaming 101 00:04:51.160 --> 00:04:52.959 the men for a lot of stuff, and I'm not 102 00:04:53.000 --> 00:04:56.439 saying that's not accurate either. I'm saying that it's not 103 00:04:56.519 --> 00:04:58.319 exactly like there's a lot of girls in your corner, 104 00:04:58.399 --> 00:05:00.879 a lot of things in your court either. No. 105 00:05:01.000 --> 00:05:03.879 I agree with you one thousand percent. I do think 106 00:05:03.879 --> 00:05:08.439 there's some rare females that are overly confident and maybe 107 00:05:08.480 --> 00:05:11.399 have been the you know, like I can honestly tell 108 00:05:11.439 --> 00:05:12.480 you I root for other women. 109 00:05:12.639 --> 00:05:15.160 But it's easy to say that when I'm me. 110 00:05:15.480 --> 00:05:17.360 Yeah, you know, I'm the one that I apologetic you. 111 00:05:17.600 --> 00:05:20.120 Yeah, I mean I have the most money. I men 112 00:05:20.240 --> 00:05:21.160 usually approach me. 113 00:05:21.240 --> 00:05:25.480 I mean, I don't lack confidence, but gosh. 114 00:05:25.160 --> 00:05:28.839 I have some beautiful friends that still aren't happy when 115 00:05:28.879 --> 00:05:31.240 I'm doing amazing and I don't get it because they're 116 00:05:31.319 --> 00:05:34.560 I mean, they're beautiful, Mike, what are you worried about me? For? 117 00:05:34.920 --> 00:05:38.000 So the Bachelor franchise, you know, eighty percent of the 118 00:05:38.040 --> 00:05:41.519 Bachelor audience is women. And there's a reason why the 119 00:05:41.560 --> 00:05:45.360 Bachelor rates so much higher than the Bachelorette. It's not 120 00:05:45.439 --> 00:05:47.800 because the Bachelor is about this question for love. The 121 00:05:47.839 --> 00:05:50.800 women want to see one man reject twenty three women. 122 00:05:51.279 --> 00:05:54.279 They don't want to see twenty three guys fighting over 123 00:05:54.319 --> 00:05:56.920 one woman. This is the kind of the dirty little 124 00:05:56.920 --> 00:05:59.720 secret of what this is about. And so I think, 125 00:06:00.040 --> 00:06:02.759 you know, I'm trying to talk about this. So the first, 126 00:06:02.800 --> 00:06:04.519 you know, step two it is sort of admitting that 127 00:06:04.560 --> 00:06:08.399 it's a problem, and then be it's sort of recognizing 128 00:06:08.439 --> 00:06:12.160 that if you're looking for dating advice or your best 129 00:06:12.199 --> 00:06:14.399 friend to tell you what you should do, or how 130 00:06:14.399 --> 00:06:16.240 to answer the guy, or to write your dating profile. Whatever. 131 00:06:17.079 --> 00:06:18.720 I'm not sure that's where you should go. 132 00:06:19.000 --> 00:06:20.720 I agree, well, look at the Housewives. 133 00:06:21.360 --> 00:06:22.399 Look at the Housewives. 134 00:06:22.560 --> 00:06:27.600 Your franchise is on rich, plastic women fucking each other over. 135 00:06:27.839 --> 00:06:31.639 Yes, and people love it. I'm not a. 136 00:06:31.120 --> 00:06:32.439 Women want the cat fight. 137 00:06:32.680 --> 00:06:34.240 I'm not a fan of Housewives, and I think it's 138 00:06:34.240 --> 00:06:37.519 because they don't enjoy that. But that's a franchise, and 139 00:06:37.759 --> 00:06:38.920 isn't that all it's about. 140 00:06:39.040 --> 00:06:40.040 It's just the cat fights. 141 00:06:40.199 --> 00:06:43.000 It really is the cat fights. And and the men 142 00:06:43.079 --> 00:06:45.959 get accused of wanting to watch a good cat fight. 143 00:06:46.079 --> 00:06:49.240 I'm not saying we don't, but the women get off 144 00:06:49.279 --> 00:06:53.319 on it. And they're like they you know, they hope 145 00:06:53.399 --> 00:06:57.240 that you're dumb, they hope that you're bitchy, they hope 146 00:06:57.240 --> 00:07:01.680 that you're not successful. Nobody who doesn't know you until 147 00:07:01.720 --> 00:07:05.879 they know you, hopefully is necessary rooting for you. Oh god, no, 148 00:07:06.279 --> 00:07:08.680 they look at you. It's weird to be looked at 149 00:07:08.720 --> 00:07:10.480 as the competition by strangers. 150 00:07:11.519 --> 00:07:13.680 No, I think it's just an e I think women 151 00:07:13.720 --> 00:07:17.759 are like, you know, like cats, like wild cats. You know, 152 00:07:17.920 --> 00:07:21.360 they're out, they're fighting for the lion all the time. 153 00:07:21.160 --> 00:07:23.879 You know what I mean? So women are women are harsh, 154 00:07:24.240 --> 00:07:25.079 they're pretty brutal. 155 00:07:25.399 --> 00:07:29.879 You grew up not necessarily affluent. No, is that one? 156 00:07:29.959 --> 00:07:30.959 Is that a good way to put it? 157 00:07:31.000 --> 00:07:33.360 Definitely not. No, I'm a trailer poor girl at heart, 158 00:07:33.399 --> 00:07:33.839 for sure. 159 00:07:34.639 --> 00:07:37.040 Does this kind of behavior? Is it worse in an 160 00:07:37.120 --> 00:07:40.199 environment like that where everybody has very little or nothing? 161 00:07:40.800 --> 00:07:42.959 Was there a pretty and pink element in where you 162 00:07:43.000 --> 00:07:45.000 grew up, where there was one side of the tracks another? 163 00:07:45.120 --> 00:07:46.920 Or is it worse in a place like we're here now, 164 00:07:46.959 --> 00:07:50.600 like Scott Stillerzona, where it's it's wealthy. Is the behavior worse? 165 00:07:51.279 --> 00:07:51.800 I think? 166 00:07:52.319 --> 00:07:54.920 You know, in the eighties, when I grew up, affluent 167 00:07:54.920 --> 00:07:57.279 people hung with afluent people and poor people hung with 168 00:07:57.319 --> 00:08:00.600 poor people. There wasn't really crossovers, so there was that 169 00:08:00.639 --> 00:08:04.199 pretty impink, you know, construct and. 170 00:08:04.160 --> 00:08:07.199 I always wanted to be the affluent. And then I 171 00:08:07.240 --> 00:08:08.120 got to be with them, and. 172 00:08:08.160 --> 00:08:10.759 I realized, Man, I don't know what's worse because they're 173 00:08:10.759 --> 00:08:13.720 all hating on each other, they're all you know, they're 174 00:08:13.759 --> 00:08:17.920 definitely you know, it's crazy because you know, they just 175 00:08:17.959 --> 00:08:21.160 learned to be happy, but there's none of that. Somebody 176 00:08:21.199 --> 00:08:24.360 who's beautiful has it all, still is not happy and 177 00:08:24.399 --> 00:08:24.839 they're hating. 178 00:08:24.879 --> 00:08:25.800 I think it's insecurity. 179 00:08:26.040 --> 00:08:28.199 It's hard to even learn that when back in the 180 00:08:28.319 --> 00:08:30.600 in the early days of this show, I used to 181 00:08:30.639 --> 00:08:33.279 do a lot of talks and conferences and a lot 182 00:08:33.320 --> 00:08:36.519 of stuff where women would come and I would ask 183 00:08:37.799 --> 00:08:40.720 what is it that you need to be happy? And 184 00:08:41.679 --> 00:08:45.399 the list was mostly of what makes them unhappy? That 185 00:08:45.440 --> 00:08:48.480 list was ready to go what made them happy? They 186 00:08:48.519 --> 00:08:51.320 didn't really know because they hadn't spent quite enough time 187 00:08:51.360 --> 00:08:53.360 on thinking about that. They didn't even have the answer. 188 00:08:53.480 --> 00:08:54.840 So for a guy to come into your world and 189 00:08:54.879 --> 00:08:57.279 try and make you happy and increase your happiness when 190 00:08:57.320 --> 00:08:59.440 you're not even sure what that looks like, that's an 191 00:08:59.480 --> 00:09:02.120 invisible bullsy had to hit if I said what makes 192 00:09:02.120 --> 00:09:05.000 you unhappy? Boom boom boom. Now maybe you've had more 193 00:09:05.039 --> 00:09:07.840 experience with it, but the fact that that is foremost 194 00:09:07.879 --> 00:09:11.240 in the in the cortex for the women. I don't 195 00:09:11.240 --> 00:09:13.399 think men are like that. I don't think men like 196 00:09:13.440 --> 00:09:16.120 if I went out with my friends and they hooked up, 197 00:09:16.519 --> 00:09:17.879 I wasn't even half for them. I just didn't give 198 00:09:17.879 --> 00:09:20.960 a shit. I don't care. The women, on the other hand, 199 00:09:21.000 --> 00:09:23.000 are a lot like, wait, what, what does he do? 200 00:09:22.840 --> 00:09:22.879 What? 201 00:09:23.720 --> 00:09:26.440 They really want the details of it. I was indifferent 202 00:09:26.480 --> 00:09:27.159 to my friends. 203 00:09:27.360 --> 00:09:28.360 Oh yeah, and they want to know. 204 00:09:29.200 --> 00:09:32.000 You know, I have that dating spree for a hot second, 205 00:09:32.759 --> 00:09:37.120 and I dated some pretty amazing guys that spoiled me rotten. 206 00:09:37.559 --> 00:09:40.039 I had some girlfriends that were so jealous and so 207 00:09:40.240 --> 00:09:43.000 petty that so many things are being. 208 00:09:42.840 --> 00:09:43.399 Bought for me. 209 00:09:44.159 --> 00:09:47.200 They started a whole circle of talking shit about me 210 00:09:47.440 --> 00:09:49.559 because ugh, what did Crystal get now? 211 00:09:49.600 --> 00:09:51.840 And ugh, you know, or what did she do? 212 00:09:52.360 --> 00:09:52.559 Yeah? 213 00:09:52.600 --> 00:09:53.600 What did she do for that? 214 00:09:53.759 --> 00:09:56.279 And you know, it was just it was Crystal time 215 00:09:56.320 --> 00:09:59.440 all the time because they were jealous. So, you know, 216 00:09:59.559 --> 00:10:01.639 I think I just don't give a shit. Guys are 217 00:10:01.720 --> 00:10:03.720 just so. 218 00:10:03.000 --> 00:10:05.519 So yeah, we don't give a shit. Like I'm like, 219 00:10:05.919 --> 00:10:08.000 if she likes him, great, you. 220 00:10:07.879 --> 00:10:10.159 Know, or whatever your buddy does for a girl, you 221 00:10:10.159 --> 00:10:10.600 don't care. 222 00:10:10.799 --> 00:10:11.799 I don't care, you don't. 223 00:10:11.799 --> 00:10:14.000 Girls are really like he did what he got. 224 00:10:14.080 --> 00:10:17.120 Sometimes I'm like, good luck with that, or they'll use 225 00:10:17.159 --> 00:10:18.960 your name to their boyfriend. 226 00:10:19.080 --> 00:10:22.679 Well, Crystal's boyfriend bought her this and this and this. 227 00:10:22.919 --> 00:10:24.759 Yeah, Crystal expects to. 228 00:10:24.759 --> 00:10:28.200 Be treated like a queen, right, And the guy's like, ah, well, sorry, 229 00:10:28.320 --> 00:10:29.120 You're not Crystal. 230 00:10:29.159 --> 00:10:31.000 I'm not treating anybody like a queen. 231 00:10:31.120 --> 00:10:33.080 You know, how do you does this make you more 232 00:10:33.120 --> 00:10:35.519 reserve towards women because you assume there's going to be 233 00:10:35.559 --> 00:10:41.799 some sort of antagonistic bit, jealousy, anger, bitchiness, Do not 234 00:10:41.960 --> 00:10:44.000 trust easily? How do you deal with it? Because you're 235 00:10:44.000 --> 00:10:47.240 also raising daughters and they have friends and you're trying 236 00:10:47.279 --> 00:10:49.519 to impart lessons on them and a son. But you're 237 00:10:49.519 --> 00:10:53.320 trying to do that, like, how do you deal with 238 00:10:53.639 --> 00:10:56.039 making yourself or you're just indifferent towards it? Like who 239 00:10:56.039 --> 00:10:57.559 cares if they either like me or they don't. 240 00:10:57.799 --> 00:11:01.039 Well, you know, it's funny because you know, even even women, 241 00:11:01.440 --> 00:11:02.720 we dress for other women. 242 00:11:03.200 --> 00:11:05.279 We know, so you say we do not. 243 00:11:05.240 --> 00:11:07.840 Dress for Okay, listen, some women dress for men. 244 00:11:07.960 --> 00:11:11.440 But I'm saying, we get completely dressed up to go shopping. 245 00:11:11.039 --> 00:11:13.159 And to go to the mall, whatever we're doing. We 246 00:11:13.240 --> 00:11:14.639 really get dressed for other women. 247 00:11:15.000 --> 00:11:19.080 So I used to care what other women thought of me, 248 00:11:19.120 --> 00:11:21.120 and then I realized that's a losing game. 249 00:11:21.279 --> 00:11:24.240 So I just don't give a shit. But I do 250 00:11:24.320 --> 00:11:24.879 have three. 251 00:11:24.759 --> 00:11:28.159 Daughters, and I've taught them to treat everybody with kindness. 252 00:11:28.159 --> 00:11:31.120 And if anything, because you're beautiful, because you now come 253 00:11:31.159 --> 00:11:34.679 from money, you have to over extend your kind level 254 00:11:35.360 --> 00:11:38.759 and be extra sweet because you're intimidating the fuck out 255 00:11:38.759 --> 00:11:41.279 of that girl and that she's gonna be meaner. So 256 00:11:41.320 --> 00:11:43.759 the nicer you can be, you can drop down her 257 00:11:43.759 --> 00:11:46.080 insecurity guard and she'll start to be nice to you. 258 00:11:47.159 --> 00:11:52.399 I had a girlfriend once who educated me in Balenciaga 259 00:11:52.440 --> 00:11:55.360 and Lubitan and everything, and I go, I was like, 260 00:11:55.399 --> 00:11:57.960 who cares? Like what's the difference? And I go, I 261 00:11:57.960 --> 00:12:00.480 don't think the guys really care. She's like, the women 262 00:12:00.600 --> 00:12:03.480 notice the red soul. They're going to assume that you 263 00:12:03.519 --> 00:12:06.559 bought that that reflects well on you. And I'm like, 264 00:12:06.600 --> 00:12:08.600 I don't understand. She goes, let's try it one time. 265 00:12:08.879 --> 00:12:10.799 So we went to like meet some people, and she 266 00:12:11.240 --> 00:12:14.639 sat there and wiggled her foot so that she could 267 00:12:14.679 --> 00:12:17.960 see it. I did watch the women react to that. 268 00:12:18.120 --> 00:12:20.759 I did what Andy, They weren't necessary, and you know, 269 00:12:20.840 --> 00:12:22.679 she was an attorney, she was pretty successful. She could 270 00:12:22.679 --> 00:12:26.639 have bought them her own. But she looked at me like, see, 271 00:12:26.720 --> 00:12:31.159 they think that you're good because I'm wearing these shoes, 272 00:12:31.360 --> 00:12:34.279 and they do, but they're like this reflects well on you. 273 00:12:34.320 --> 00:12:36.519 The women are noticing what I wear. The women are 274 00:12:36.559 --> 00:12:38.799 noticing one of the the guys are just like, she's hot. 275 00:12:39.159 --> 00:12:42.519 You know, they didn't care because they don't speak fluent praduct. 276 00:12:42.600 --> 00:12:44.600 No, And I'm sure they thought you were the best 277 00:12:44.600 --> 00:12:45.200 boyfriend ever. 278 00:12:45.440 --> 00:12:45.799 Yeah. 279 00:12:45.879 --> 00:12:46.120 Yeah. 280 00:12:46.240 --> 00:12:48.399 I when I was married, I had what a seven 281 00:12:48.480 --> 00:12:51.639 or eight carrot ring, and I would be in Chanelle 282 00:12:51.919 --> 00:12:53.279 dripping and women. 283 00:12:53.080 --> 00:12:54.600 Would say to me. The first thing a woman would 284 00:12:54.600 --> 00:12:57.559 say was, wow, you have a great husband. I'm like, 285 00:12:57.679 --> 00:12:59.399 you've never met him and sactly. 286 00:13:00.080 --> 00:13:03.000 Secondly, I bought this eight carrot, I bought this sl 287 00:13:03.120 --> 00:13:05.440 I work, but he got a. 288 00:13:05.360 --> 00:13:07.519 Lot of kudos. They just thought he was amazing on 289 00:13:07.600 --> 00:13:07.919 the way. 290 00:13:08.039 --> 00:13:11.480 I drussed because they made the assumption that he bought 291 00:13:11.519 --> 00:13:12.039 me everything. 292 00:13:12.159 --> 00:13:15.080 Right, so he got to eat benefit benefit. Yeah, he 293 00:13:15.159 --> 00:13:17.960 got to swim in your wake. All right, we have 294 00:13:18.000 --> 00:13:20.320 to swim in some seven eight caret water. He's here, 295 00:13:20.360 --> 00:13:22.240 so we got to take a quick break because I 296 00:13:22.279 --> 00:13:24.120 got to pay for stuff like this. I'm with Crystal Carol. 297 00:13:24.159 --> 00:13:26.639 We're talking about girl and girl crime. We'll be back 298 00:13:26.759 --> 00:13:34.320 right after this, and we are back. How does a 299 00:13:34.360 --> 00:13:37.720 woman is there a technique or is there a question 300 00:13:37.840 --> 00:13:39.080 or is there a read that you can do to 301 00:13:39.120 --> 00:13:42.240 be like, can I trust my sisters here? Can I 302 00:13:42.279 --> 00:13:45.679 trust my girlfriends? Or is it just like there's no scenario, 303 00:13:46.000 --> 00:13:47.840 everything is different. You kind of just have to be 304 00:13:47.879 --> 00:13:49.919 comfortable on your own and if they're with you, they're 305 00:13:49.919 --> 00:13:50.919 with you. And if they're not, they're not. 306 00:13:51.600 --> 00:13:52.080 Man. 307 00:13:52.440 --> 00:13:54.080 You cannot trust women. 308 00:13:54.159 --> 00:13:56.159 I tell my daughters the only person you can trust 309 00:13:56.240 --> 00:13:58.200 is your mom, your mom and your sisters. 310 00:13:58.320 --> 00:14:01.240 That's it. Women are not trustworthy. 311 00:14:01.320 --> 00:14:03.480 I don't know some moms you can't trust either. There's 312 00:14:03.519 --> 00:14:06.519 a lot of moms who are like, I gave up 313 00:14:06.519 --> 00:14:09.080 my career as a ballerina to have you. Yeah, And 314 00:14:09.120 --> 00:14:12.360 there's a resentment there is that. That's a thing. Okay, 315 00:14:12.399 --> 00:14:17.399 that's a thing. I know girl who had a friend 316 00:14:17.399 --> 00:14:20.639 for like twenty years. During most of those twenty years, 317 00:14:20.720 --> 00:14:24.159 she was unhappily married. Well, she got divorced and then 318 00:14:24.279 --> 00:14:27.159 started dating somebody who she was great. Suddenly when she 319 00:14:27.240 --> 00:14:30.559 was happy, the friend suddenly wasn't her best friend anymore. 320 00:14:30.559 --> 00:14:32.639 And she's like, was she friends with me that whole time? 321 00:14:32.720 --> 00:14:35.679 Because I was down in the dumps? It was crushing 322 00:14:35.720 --> 00:14:37.519 for her. It was like a betrayal. 323 00:14:38.279 --> 00:14:39.440 That is such a woman thing. 324 00:14:39.519 --> 00:14:41.399 Then that is such a woman thing. See, this is 325 00:14:41.440 --> 00:14:44.000 the thing. I'm never going to give the guys the credit. 326 00:14:44.120 --> 00:14:46.440 I'm very very hard on the men. This is one 327 00:14:46.440 --> 00:14:48.759 thing that I think we are better at. Like I 328 00:14:48.840 --> 00:14:49.440 think we are. 329 00:14:49.759 --> 00:14:53.480 I think you are too. Women are just jealous cat. Hey, 330 00:14:53.519 --> 00:14:54.480 I'm a woman, m h. 331 00:14:54.799 --> 00:14:56.919 And I'd rather hang out with a bunch of dudes 332 00:14:56.960 --> 00:14:58.159 any day, any day. 333 00:14:58.279 --> 00:15:00.080 Would you rather hang out with a bunch of This 334 00:15:00.159 --> 00:15:02.000 is like I said, we are in Scottsdal, Arizona here, 335 00:15:02.320 --> 00:15:05.120 this is like ground zero for I think the medical 336 00:15:05.200 --> 00:15:09.600 term is hot chicks. Would you rather roll into somewhere 337 00:15:09.600 --> 00:15:11.440 with a bunch of pretty women? Or would you rather 338 00:15:11.519 --> 00:15:12.679 be the belle of the ball? 339 00:15:13.360 --> 00:15:15.639 I don't necessarily think I'm bello of the ball. 340 00:15:15.919 --> 00:15:17.639 I just have a lot more fun with my guy 341 00:15:17.679 --> 00:15:21.039 friends because it's just so we're just there having a 342 00:15:21.080 --> 00:15:21.480 good time. 343 00:15:21.480 --> 00:15:23.679 You're there's no jealousy going on with each other. 344 00:15:23.759 --> 00:15:25.519 But aren't they all hitting on you in some way? 345 00:15:25.840 --> 00:15:28.320 My guy friends? Yeah, no, they're my besties. 346 00:15:28.679 --> 00:15:30.679 Well if I asked them, what would they say? 347 00:15:30.960 --> 00:15:31.919 They're my besties? 348 00:15:32.039 --> 00:15:33.480 I have a lot of guys like I just want 349 00:15:33.480 --> 00:15:35.159 to be friends with Crystal. She's so nice. 350 00:15:35.559 --> 00:15:39.759 Yeah, yeah, yeah, they're like there's nobody, well you think 351 00:15:39.799 --> 00:15:42.440 they Some of them may have had crushes at one 352 00:15:42.480 --> 00:15:44.120 time or another, but I just have so much fun 353 00:15:44.159 --> 00:15:46.759 with them. Women, you get there and there's always just 354 00:15:46.799 --> 00:15:48.679 an issue, especially if a guy's talking to you and 355 00:15:48.679 --> 00:15:49.799 a guy's not talking to them. 356 00:15:49.840 --> 00:15:50.960 It just becomes problematic. 357 00:15:51.039 --> 00:15:51.919 Do you have a gay posse? 358 00:15:52.399 --> 00:15:54.120 I do, and one of my best friends is gay. 359 00:15:54.240 --> 00:15:56.759 That helps too, because you can get ninety percent of 360 00:15:56.759 --> 00:15:58.720 the benefit that you're going to get from your girlfriend. 361 00:15:58.759 --> 00:15:59.960 You're gonna get support and you look at with it 362 00:16:00.200 --> 00:16:02.360 out the jealousy and the cattiness. They are going to 363 00:16:02.440 --> 00:16:03.000 be supportive. 364 00:16:03.320 --> 00:16:06.720 But when I show up with him, everyone thinks we're married, 365 00:16:07.000 --> 00:16:07.639 so we can't. 366 00:16:07.679 --> 00:16:11.440 Well I couldn't meet any guys because my gay best 367 00:16:11.440 --> 00:16:14.200 friend is you know, a good looking older guy and 368 00:16:14.480 --> 00:16:15.600 it's Scottsdale. 369 00:16:15.519 --> 00:16:18.000 Yea Likeley assumed we're together, so I you. 370 00:16:17.960 --> 00:16:20.039 Know, guys don't Guys will fight through that. 371 00:16:20.279 --> 00:16:22.600 Oh yeah, he puts his gay meter right on too. 372 00:16:22.759 --> 00:16:25.159 He's he likes guys straight or not. 373 00:16:25.480 --> 00:16:29.519 Okay, have you ever fought over the same guy? Never? Okay? 374 00:16:30.080 --> 00:16:34.639 The you dipped your tone to the pageant world. Yeah, 375 00:16:34.759 --> 00:16:38.320 isn't that just sort of a microcosm of this on 376 00:16:38.360 --> 00:16:39.519 like a grander scale. 377 00:16:40.120 --> 00:16:43.159 Everything they say about the pageant world is true. Those 378 00:16:43.200 --> 00:16:46.440 women are out for you. But you know, I think 379 00:16:46.480 --> 00:16:49.240 it's like that. I think you're right in the pageant world. 380 00:16:49.240 --> 00:16:51.320 It's very much so like that because I was new 381 00:16:51.440 --> 00:16:54.279 to the pageant world and I experienced it firsthand. But 382 00:16:54.720 --> 00:16:58.039 I mean, it even happens in politics. I mean, I 383 00:16:58.120 --> 00:16:59.960 our mayor is a female, and she's pretty. 384 00:17:00.600 --> 00:17:01.000 She is. 385 00:17:01.200 --> 00:17:02.919 There's a good looking mayor here, and. 386 00:17:03.080 --> 00:17:06.759 I see the woman on council just want to kill 387 00:17:06.759 --> 00:17:08.119 her and take her place. 388 00:17:08.759 --> 00:17:10.640 And it's because she's a woman. 389 00:17:10.680 --> 00:17:12.759 And she's hot, and she's hot, and I've heard people 390 00:17:12.799 --> 00:17:16.640 call her dumb, bimbo, idiot a million times. She's smarter, 391 00:17:16.880 --> 00:17:19.920 I know she is. There's a lot and most of 392 00:17:19.920 --> 00:17:22.519 that comes from other women. When you watch. You know, 393 00:17:22.559 --> 00:17:26.400 we're in as we record this, we're in award season, Oscars, 394 00:17:26.440 --> 00:17:29.000 Golden Globes, whatever you have. We're in early part of 395 00:17:29.039 --> 00:17:32.559 the year. It's the women who are watching team and 396 00:17:32.559 --> 00:17:34.079 be like, oh my god, what did she get done? 397 00:17:34.119 --> 00:17:36.319 Oh my god, she's so fat. Oh my god, it's 398 00:17:36.359 --> 00:17:38.640 the women who are choosing the magazine covers. It's the 399 00:17:38.720 --> 00:17:41.599 women who are judging other women on their appearance. The 400 00:17:41.680 --> 00:17:45.279 men have a very wide spectrum of what they put 401 00:17:45.359 --> 00:17:47.200