Speaker 1: It is the Minnesota Goodbye Friday Edition and special edition
Speaker 1: because Bailey's on it.
Speaker 2: Also, that other guy that what's his name that's on
Speaker 2: our show. I think it's Steve Steeeeay.
Speaker 1: No VOD gets to be on it today because Davy
Speaker 1: is on vacation. So okay, first email, this is for Bailey.
Speaker 2: It's a hello.
Speaker 1: I was curious after listening to Bailey's had a vulnerability
Speaker 1: story from Tuesday's show. And if Bailey doesn't want to
Speaker 1: talk about it, you don't have to, but I think
Speaker 1: you'll be willing to. It says since your accident wanting
Speaker 1: to break up when he resigned the lease, was it
Speaker 1: awkward at first living with him like he was trying
Speaker 1: to make the relationship work, or acting like you were
Speaker 1: still dating and you were done with it, or it
Speaker 1: took a while to get used to your new dynamic.
Speaker 1: I can't imagine being in that situation of living with
Speaker 1: someone you've broken up with for another full year. I
Speaker 1: love everyone on the show, but Bailey, I think you're
Speaker 1: a great addition and bring a fun and quirky personality
Speaker 1: that I really enjoy listening to. And this is from Rachel,
Speaker 1: So thanks, you want to talk about it. Yeah, so
Speaker 1: it was really weird.
Speaker 3: So when we when, well, essentially I broke up with
Speaker 3: him because if there is any issue or conflict at
Speaker 3: all in our entire relationship, he would never bring it up.
Speaker 3: So I would have to bring it up, and he'd
Speaker 3: always get super defensive if I brought up any kind
Speaker 3: of conflict to the point where I stopped bringing things up.
Speaker 3: And so when I said I wanted to break up,
Speaker 3: he said he didn't want to. He was like, no,
Speaker 3: I don't want to, and I said no, I really do.
Speaker 3: He's like, well, we can make it work, like we
Speaker 3: can both like change and for the better or whatever,
Speaker 3: because all of the issues I was bringing up, Like
Speaker 3: He's like, well, we can change, and I said I
Speaker 3: don't think so, and he's like, well, let me let
Speaker 3: me like show like I can change, Like we can
Speaker 3: make at work. Not necessarily I can change. I don't
Speaker 3: think he ever really said I will change. He just
Speaker 3: said we can make this work. And I remember saying, like,
Speaker 3: whatever you do, I can't guarantee that my resolve will
Speaker 3: be any different, because I was like I had made
Speaker 3: up my mind and like I had talked to so
Speaker 3: many of my friends who had like helped me. Yes,
Speaker 3: I felt bad because he didn't have anyone to talk
Speaker 3: to about it. I say that like a lot because
Speaker 3: I do feel bad for him, but like I got
Speaker 3: to stop kind of like enabling his sort of behavior
Speaker 3: of like feel bad for me. I'm I'm just a
Speaker 3: little baby kind of thing. Yes, but it's really hard
Speaker 3: because I feel like that's what women do a lot.
Speaker 3: And so then after that, I mentioned in the Hat
Speaker 3: of Vulnerability that I went on a work trip, and
Speaker 3: so on the work trip, I thought he was going
Speaker 3: to be moving out, but like at that time, our
Speaker 3: lease was still like for another month, so I knew
Speaker 3: I would still have to live with him for at
Speaker 3: least another month. And then after my work trip, I
Speaker 3: came home. I was there for a day. He said
Speaker 3: nothing about like us breaking up at all. He said
Speaker 3: nothing about it, which was really really weird. And then
Speaker 3: he went on a trip for like a week, so
Speaker 3: then he was gone for a week, and then when
Speaker 3: he came back, said nothing about it.
Speaker 2: And I would just like stew on my long walks.
Speaker 3: I had like a note in my notes app that
Speaker 3: was just everything that I wanted to say to him,
Speaker 3: and I was just like waiting for the end of
Speaker 3: the lease because I was like, well, he's going to
Speaker 3: move out, because that's what I said to the landlord.
Speaker 3: And then he never moved out, okay, And it just
Speaker 3: kind of became like a weird game of Chicken of
Speaker 3: who was going to say something and no one ever
Speaker 3: said anything because I realized like that I'm an I
Speaker 3: was like a coward in this situation, Like I should
Speaker 3: have said something. I should have said something said. But
Speaker 3: it sucks when you're the only one who ever says
Speaker 3: anything and then every time you say something, they get
Speaker 3: super defensive. And I don't want like everyone and their
Speaker 3: mom to hate this guy, because I don't hate him.
Speaker 3: I mean, I have a lot of love for him,
Speaker 3: and like I thought we were going to get married,
Speaker 3: but a lot of the choices that he made, like
Speaker 3: especially within this last year, have really pissed me off.
Speaker 2: And so it's really like.
Speaker 3: It's easy to be done with it, but like, as
Speaker 3: he's packing stuff up right now, it's really hard to
Speaker 3: like be mourning the life that I thought I was
Speaker 3: going to have. Yeah, and I'm not going to have anymore.
Speaker 3: So yeah, No, it was really fucking weird. To answer
Speaker 3: your question, it was really.
Speaker 4: Weird, all right, No, it was really weird. I hated it.
Speaker 3: I hated it so much, and I hated going home
Speaker 3: This past year, I hated going home.
Speaker 1: And it's just like, I mean, I have been in
Speaker 1: some situations where I've had bed roommates where I've kind
Speaker 1: of been like that, but like to have to consistently
Speaker 1: go through that for a year in like this space
Speaker 1: that is supposed to be like the space that you
Speaker 1: like get to decompress, you get to relax, and for
Speaker 1: like a year, you're kind of like, oh, I don't
Speaker 1: want to go home. That is like so unfair to you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's insane. And I don't know. I have a friend
Speaker 1: who I'll keep the details vague. But they got divorced
Speaker 1: and they were like sitting at home one day after
Speaker 1: the divorce went through and her partner wasn't living with
Speaker 1: her anymore, and she was just like super sad thinking
Speaker 1: about it. And then she also thought about how it's
Speaker 1: no different though, than what it was when she was
Speaker 1: married to this person, and so she was like, why
Speaker 1: am I sad? This is the same thing I was
Speaker 1: doing when I was like still married to this person,
Speaker 1: you know, And now she has the freedom to do
Speaker 1: the things she did because essentially their their lives didn't
Speaker 1: end up aligning. She thought it was going to and
Speaker 1: she didn't, you know, they didn't come to realize that
Speaker 1: till after they were married. Yeah, so she also still
Speaker 1: has a lot of love for this person and she
Speaker 1: cares about them and thinks they're a good person. But like,
Speaker 1: in the end, it was better that they were just
Speaker 1: not together.
Speaker 2: Your friend and I have a lot in common week
Speaker 2: you talk.
Speaker 1: So I will just say, like I can imagine the
Speaker 1: range of emotions that you feel about it, because yeah,
Speaker 1: it's hard because you did care about this person and
Speaker 1: you saw this full life and now it's about to
Speaker 1: like drastically change.
Speaker 2: But it's a weird one. It's a weird one.
Speaker 1: Okay, Well there's your answer, Rachel. And also, if you
Speaker 1: want to listen to Bailey's Hat of Vulnerability if you
Speaker 1: missed it, she did it on Tuesday, so September third,
Speaker 1: and it's in the seventh.
Speaker 2: Hour on the podcast.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so you can listen to that if you missed
Speaker 1: that entire story. So, okay, here's the next email. Says
Speaker 1: I have event about recycling. I really wish we could
Speaker 1: have recycling pick up every single week? Am I the
Speaker 1: only one who has a full slash overflowing recycling bin
Speaker 1: because it only gets picked up every other week? With
Speaker 1: all of the bubbly cans my husband drinks the Amazon
Speaker 1: package cardboard milk, jug sauce, and soup cans, it ends
Speaker 1: up being so much recycling. Since recycling is supposed to
Speaker 1: be good, why can't we have it picked up every week? Honestly,
Speaker 1: our garbage can is only ever half full, so we
Speaker 1: could wait to have garbage picked up every other week. Anyway,
Speaker 1: wondering if anyone else is in our boat and would
Speaker 1: really love to have recycling picked up every week. Compost
Speaker 1: yard waists and garbage is picked up weekly, so odd
Speaker 1: that recycling is the one that isn't. I'll likely send
Speaker 1: an email to the city and ask if that's an option.
Speaker 1: Maybe I'm just clueless, and I don't know if this
Speaker 1: person wants us to say their name, so I won't
Speaker 1: say it. But I'm going to have a little bit
Speaker 1: of a hot take on this, and you might not
Speaker 1: like what I have to say. We don't have issues
Speaker 1: with recycling every two weeks. Every once in a while,
Speaker 1: sure like around Christmas, time, but I will say that
Speaker 1: you might have like too much waste and you might
Speaker 1: be doing too much online shopping if you're recycling, is
Speaker 1: that full constantly? Oh and I just personally we've called
Speaker 1: Dave out on this on the show before, so I
Speaker 1: don't I'm not like talking shit right now. And Susan
Speaker 1: get things on like like scheduled deliveries from Amazon, things
Speaker 1: like floss and like stuff you can go get from Target,
Speaker 1: which builds up so much waste. Yeah, And I just
Speaker 1: I try my best to only buy things online like that.
Speaker 1: I feel like I can only get online. I go
Speaker 1: to Target for most things that I would need that
Speaker 1: you can get I would never buy flows Amazon.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So like or I am guilty every once in a
Speaker 1: while of being like influenced for something that maybe Target
Speaker 1: might have, like this mosquito thing that's called Thermoicelle. Maybe
Speaker 1: they have that at Target, but I don't know. I
Speaker 1: saw it on Amazon and I love it. It's a
Speaker 1: mosquito repellent. So yes, that's something I bought on Amazon,
Speaker 1: and maybe I could have found it somewhere else.
Speaker 2: But I will say, maybe just.
Speaker 1: Look into some of the things you're buying and if
Speaker 1: you're able to not buy it online, so you don't
Speaker 1: have so much building up in your recycling. But also
Speaker 1: at the same time, maybe it differs with how many bubbly.
Speaker 2: Cans you said your husband try. Can you crush them? Yeah,
Speaker 2: I would crush them.
Speaker 3: That'd be a fun activity of smashing cans to take
Speaker 3: up less space.
Speaker 1: But do you guys have anything to say about recycling
Speaker 1: every week?
Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, I know. I also have an apartment.
Speaker 3: I mean I have a lot of I feel the
Speaker 3: same way as this person, like I have a lot
Speaker 3: of recycling in general, but a lot of it is
Speaker 3: like cans of like diet coke, or like the boxes too,
Speaker 3: like a cereal and whatever. But it does like accumulate
Speaker 3: a lot. But then I'm just like, oh, I'm not
Speaker 3: breaking down things right enough so they take up less space.
Speaker 2: So I don't know.
Speaker 3: I doubt you're fulling or throwing full boxes with the
Speaker 3: tape still on of Amazon boxes into the recycling bin.
Speaker 3: But if so, use some sage advice break those down
Speaker 3: to take them up less space.
Speaker 1: And I do want to say I understand that recycling
Speaker 1: is good and so like it can be reused in whatever,
Speaker 1: So I get where you're coming from. I'm not saying
Speaker 1: like it's awful that your garbage is like so full, but.
Speaker 2: Please can you recycling yet?
Speaker 1: But maybe try to consider if you're able to cut
Speaker 1: down some of the boxes that you get because you
Speaker 1: could buy them without having to order online.
Speaker 2: Maybe just maybe look into that.
Speaker 1: But I do also understand that recycling, like I feel
Speaker 1: like it just gets filled so much easier because it's
Speaker 1: big boxes or big whatever. Whereas garbage cans you can
Speaker 1: easily like smosh a lot of that stuff yeah down
Speaker 1: without having a like breakdown.
Speaker 2: So we all could be better at composting too, But
Speaker 2: that s oh, I know, I know. We had Okay,
Speaker 2: you don't know what composting is. Okay, we had a
Speaker 2: compost bin in our yard growing up.
Speaker 1: My mom still has it, and like anything goes into
Speaker 1: like eggshells, food scraps, yeah, like banana peels, stuff like that,
Speaker 1: and so we my mom would fill this bucket.
Speaker 2: It was so disgusting now that I looked back at it.
Speaker 1: It would sit on our counter and she'd fill it up,
Speaker 1: and then it was one of our chores, like hey, Jenny,
Speaker 1: go take the compost into the bin. Because we did
Speaker 1: have like a bigger backyard, so we had to like
Speaker 1: walk a little bit to the back to get to
Speaker 1: the composting bin. But my mom's also a landscaper, so
Speaker 1: she like tills that up and uses it for soil
Speaker 1: and stuff. So I grew up around having composts and
Speaker 1: doing all that stuff. But we just don't have that
Speaker 1: really in our yard. I don't need a smelly compost
Speaker 1: play in my yard.
Speaker 4: Is it shit that would go in a garbage diso? Essentially?
Speaker 2: Yeah, for the most part.
Speaker 1: Well, I wouldn't put a banana piel and a garbage
Speaker 1: but it's just stuff that, yes, you could reuse it
Speaker 1: for like soil purposes and maybe biale. You can correct
Speaker 1: me if I'm wrong. There's probably other stuff you can
Speaker 1: use it for too, But.
Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, I would say mostly like soil stuff,
Speaker 3: which now you say that, man, I should get a
Speaker 3: compost bin because I keep getting roasted on Instagram for
Speaker 3: my crappy soil for my garden.
Speaker 4: But I just whatever, people are coming for you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, they're like your soil sucks. And I was like, yeah,
Speaker 2: I know, it's.
Speaker 1: Why as I saying that, that's where I look at it.
Speaker 3: Well, it's because the soil does suck, and my garden's
Speaker 3: not doing so great this year. But in my defense,
Speaker 3: it did really great last year. It's just been raining
Speaker 3: so much this year that it doesn't do well. But
Speaker 3: my soil is crap because it's just random dirt that
Speaker 3: was on the side of my building. And I don't
Speaker 3: feel like paying damn enrich the soil.
Speaker 4: I st have enough time in my data analyze your
Speaker 4: soil on your Instagram store.
Speaker 2: But anyway, I should start composting.
Speaker 1: All right, we are going to get a little serious
Speaker 1: for one email here Vaunt. You weren't here, but yesterday
Speaker 1: we did talk on the Minnesota Goodbye about the awful
Speaker 1: tragedy that happened at Park Tavern and killed two people
Speaker 1: because the drunk driver drove into the patio And someone
Speaker 1: emailed and says, just chiming in, I did hear that
Speaker 1: the drunk driver that drove into the patrons at the
Speaker 1: Park Tavern did have a valid license. His last DWI
Speaker 1: was back in twenty fifteen. He has had his license revoked, suspended,
Speaker 1: slash suspended four or five times since the nineteen eighties.
Speaker 1: I agree he should have had his He should have
Speaker 1: had his license taken away. But after a second one,
Speaker 1: you get one. Okay, you get a second one, you
Speaker 1: are done. But like we said, I think we said
Speaker 1: this on the podcast, it's not going to stop someone,
Speaker 1: right Like, whether you have a license or not, it's
Speaker 1: not going to stop someone. And I don't know what
Speaker 1: the solution is. I think the solution is don't be
Speaker 1: a fucking idiot and don't risk taking someone's life and
Speaker 1: order a goddamn uber ruber.
Speaker 2: I just it.
Speaker 1: Oh, I get very upset about. I don't have a
Speaker 1: personal tie to this, obviously I don't. I've luckily never
Speaker 1: had anyone killed from a drunk driver or even injured.
Speaker 1: But it's just a disgusting thing when like you can
Speaker 1: leave your car somewhere if you accidentally ended up drinking
Speaker 1: too much and pay for an uber like I know
Speaker 1: that ubers can get to be expensive, but like, man,
Speaker 1: it's much better to maybe be in a little bit
Speaker 1: of debt than do what this fucking guy did. So okay,
Speaker 1: moving on, we're gonna keep it more light hearted. Now
Speaker 1: this looks like a press release, so we'll get that one.
Speaker 1: This one says, can Bailey please do a daily Bailey
Speaker 1: on what she ideally would like for her birthday now
Speaker 1: and maybe even back in the day, and then promote
Speaker 1: the birthday party could be fun if people bring her
Speaker 1: gifts to her party or send things to the station
Speaker 1: an idea. So we could do that on the Daily, Bailey.
Speaker 1: But if you want to speak about it on the
Speaker 1: podcast too, yeah, let's do that.
Speaker 4: That's a question about Charter real quick. I wanted to
Speaker 4: ask you this yesterday. Yeah, why did Mama Ronda and
Speaker 4: or your dad throw your sister Madison a birthday once?
Speaker 4: But not you?
Speaker 2: So my mom I don't think she listens to the
Speaker 2: Minnesota Goodbye.
Speaker 3: But like my mom said that we both got one
Speaker 3: birthday party and we got to choose when our birthday
Speaker 3: party was. And so my sister like, we each got
Speaker 3: one birthday party like in our childhood, and you had
Speaker 3: to choose when you wanted it. And she said, oh,
Speaker 3: Bailey never chose one, So that's why she never got one.
Speaker 2: But like, in my humble defense, I'm a child. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm a kid.
Speaker 3: How am I supposed to choose when to have it?
Speaker 3: And also like her telling us that because I think
Speaker 3: she said it to Dave on air at some point.
Speaker 2: Okay, when like her saying that was news to me.
Speaker 3: I don't remember having to choose my own birthday party,
Speaker 3: so clearly my sister chose it when she was eight,
Speaker 3: and I remember she invited like, I don't know, ten
Speaker 3: twelve girls, and my mom was pissed because she had
Speaker 3: told her she could invite like four or whatever, and
Speaker 3: so my sister invited a butt ton of girls.
Speaker 2: But yeah, we just it.
Speaker 3: Like at the time, it wasn't weird to me because
Speaker 3: I never considered having one, because no one ever threw
Speaker 3: me one. Like the closest I had to a birthday
Speaker 3: party was when I turned one and my family was
Speaker 3: around to watch me eat a cupcake.
Speaker 2: You know. Yeah, and that's kind of it.
Speaker 3: And like my parents were divorced and my mom had custody,
Speaker 3: so like my dad wouldn't throw me a birthday party either,
Speaker 3: because I probably wasn't at my dad's house on my birthday.
Speaker 2: But yeah, like we would just probably make a cake.
Speaker 3: Like me and my dad have birthdays one day apart
Speaker 3: from each other, so we'd just make two cakes and
Speaker 3: we would eat the cakes together. That's kind of like it, yeah,
Speaker 3: but yeah, it's I don't want to like poop on
Speaker 3: my mom because I love my mom's so much.
Speaker 2: But yeah, that's why your birthday.
Speaker 4: So now my birthday sleep of demands.
Speaker 3: So yeah, I can start talking about it next week
Speaker 3: on Daily Bailey probably, But first of all, I don't
Speaker 3: need anything. You don't need to bring me anything that's
Speaker 3: really sweet because now I'm old now, like I'm in
Speaker 3: my thirties.
Speaker 2: The stuff that I want is like.
Speaker 3: Mid century modern furniture, and you're not going to go
Speaker 3: out and buy.
Speaker 2: That as soone brings a dresser, like, oh my god,
Speaker 2: I love it.
Speaker 3: It's such a beautiful, like atomic design.
Speaker 2: So no, I don't need anything.
Speaker 3: I consider it at one point in time it would
Speaker 3: be kind of cool to like buy gifts that you
Speaker 3: would buy for kids, and then I could donate all
Speaker 3: of them to like some kind of charity. That would
Speaker 3: be sort of fun. I don't know, I'm it's still
Speaker 3: like kind of new the whole idea that I'm having
Speaker 3: a birthday party in the first place, so like, I'm
Speaker 3: not sure exactly what it looks like, but I know
Speaker 3: that we're giving out like T shirts and stuff, so
Speaker 3: we're giving you gifts at my birthday party. Please come
Speaker 3: to my birthday party. I have a fear that.
Speaker 2: No one will be there. Oh my gosh.
Speaker 3: So I know people will come, but like I don't
Speaker 3: want it to be like six people in a giant
Speaker 3: room that it's not.
Speaker 1: It's not gonna be that. I promise people are gonna
Speaker 1: come out. We've been talking about having a birthday party
Speaker 1: for you since like before you were on the show,
Speaker 1: obviously like officially on the show, I should say. And
Speaker 1: I just think like people are hyped to get like
Speaker 1: give you this joy that you didn't like I guess
Speaker 1: you didn't get as a child. I don't even honestly remember.
Speaker 1: I think my parents threw me birthday parties when I
Speaker 1: was younger. I don't even remember anymore because I feel
Speaker 1: like I was so young. But yeah, birthday parties are
Speaker 1: just like a staple.
Speaker 2: Of I don't know, the childhood.
Speaker 1: But also, like you get to a point I think, like, Bailly,
Speaker 1: you'll be happy to have this, and maybe you'll be
Speaker 1: different than me, But like, I have no desire for
Speaker 1: anyone to celebrate my age anymore, because now I'm at
Speaker 1: a point where I'm like, nah, I kind of want
Speaker 1: to forget about my birthday.
Speaker 2: How old are you, Jenny, I'm thirty four.
Speaker 3: That nor Yes, Yeah, I gotta find the actual sound
Speaker 3: so I can play the sound.
Speaker 2: Yeah for sure.
Speaker 1: Well, Bailey, we'll get into that on the Daily Bailey,
Speaker 1: but we got to wrap up the Minnesota goodbye. Thanks
Speaker 1: for your emails today, but send emails in Ryan Show
Speaker 1: at KDIWB dot com and Dave will be back on Monday.
Speaker 4: I'll talk to you in three years.
Speaker 2: Thanks for listening.