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<v Speaker 1>Is there anything better in life than a great server?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean when you go into a restaurant and they

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<v Speaker 1>greet you promptly and they bring over your water, and

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<v Speaker 1>they're like, hey, how you folks doing. My name is Bailey.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll be taking care of you tonight. Can I get

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<v Speaker 1>you started with some bread? Can you get you the

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<v Speaker 1>mushroom caps with a cocktail? Anything like that, And they're

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<v Speaker 1>prompt and they come back and they're energetic. Is there

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<v Speaker 1>anything better than a good server?

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<v Speaker 2>I like the servers who are good looking men who

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<v Speaker 2>then like flirt with like a table full of like

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<v Speaker 2>fifty year old women. They're like, Oh, someone's having fun tonight,

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<v Speaker 2>and then all the women are like I like those

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<v Speaker 2>servers a lot. I think those are cute and fun experiences.

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<v Speaker 1>I just love what It's just the joy of a

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<v Speaker 1>great server. And I would say most servers are pretty good.

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<v Speaker 1>We were at I'm not gonna plug them because I

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to sound like it was a plug, but

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<v Speaker 1>we were at a like a nice dinner place on

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<v Speaker 1>Saturday night after the movie, and the guy was just

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<v Speaker 1>so enthusiastic and helpful, and you know, like I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>just he was great and he was fast, And there's

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<v Speaker 1>nothing worse than a bad server or slow service. Because

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<v Speaker 1>you go to a restaurant and you're there to like

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<v Speaker 1>have a good time and enjoy your meal, and you

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<v Speaker 1>sit down. The first thing you notice is nobody has

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<v Speaker 1>paid any attention to you, and it's been fifteen minutes,

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<v Speaker 1>and you're like, oh God, well is this the way

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<v Speaker 1>the night's going to go. So then they come by

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<v Speaker 1>and they're like, oh guy, hi folks. Yeah, my name's Bailey,

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<v Speaker 1>me taking carry you whatever? Can I get you something

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<v Speaker 1>from the bar? Okay, Y'll have a Cosmo and a

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<v Speaker 1>Gin and Tonic. And they take forever, and you're like god.

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<v Speaker 1>And then they finally amble by and they're like, okay, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you guys ready to order? Well, fuck yeah, we're ready

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<v Speaker 1>to order. Been sitting here since the Reagan administration. So

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<v Speaker 1>you order and they're like okay, they write it down

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<v Speaker 1>and they disappear, and then they know takes forever, So

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<v Speaker 1>it's nothing. There's the joy of a great server, shout

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<v Speaker 1>out great servers, and then the disappointment of a bad

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<v Speaker 1>server with slow service.

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<v Speaker 2>I saw a TikTok over the weekend that kind of

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<v Speaker 2>went viral of this man who went to Red Lobster

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<v Speaker 2>just like on his lunch break from work because he

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<v Speaker 2>wanted this like fancy crab boil that they have, and

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<v Speaker 2>he said he never had crab before. And his server

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<v Speaker 2>like stood by him and like taught him how to

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<v Speaker 2>like crack open all the legs and like get all

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<v Speaker 2>of the meat out and like every single little thing,

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<v Speaker 2>not just like oh, you just crack it. And then

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<v Speaker 2>she was like, Okay, then you take this part off

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<v Speaker 2>and there's meeting here, and then you take this part

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<v Speaker 2>off and there's meeting here, and.

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<v Speaker 3>Like whatever else you need, let me know.

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<v Speaker 2>And he kept like stopping her and being like, wait,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know exactly how to do this, but she

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<v Speaker 2>like walked him through this crab boil and he's like

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<v Speaker 2>this serf like server of the year over here, because

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<v Speaker 2>she was just this like nice middle aged lady who

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<v Speaker 2>was the waitress at Red Lobster.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, that's awesome, Like we.

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<v Speaker 2>Need to tell Red Lobster how do we get a

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<v Speaker 2>hold of Red Lobster Corporate or whatever?

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<v Speaker 3>But that that would be nice be one of those

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<v Speaker 3>kinds of servers.

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<v Speaker 1>I never had any seafood, even shrimp, until I was

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<v Speaker 1>probably twenty years old. Really never had crab legs, never

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<v Speaker 1>had anything, but you know, trout and flounder, halibu or whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>And now I love the fishy or the bet. The

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<v Speaker 1>more disgustingly fishy it is, the more I like it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, as a kid, I used to say I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>like it, but I think I was just trying to

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<v Speaker 2>be like quirky and different. I love seafood because I

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<v Speaker 2>and I have a reason too. There's never a weird

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<v Speaker 2>part in seafood as far as I'm concerned, like fish,

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<v Speaker 2>usually because calamari is all like a weird part. But

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<v Speaker 2>you know how like you eat steak and you get

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<v Speaker 2>a like gristle or something, yeah, or a weird fatty

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<v Speaker 2>part and you're like, I can't eat this anymore.

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<v Speaker 3>Fish like a piece of salmon. There's never a bad part,

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<v Speaker 3>never a bad part.

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<v Speaker 1>Well that's kind of true. Yeah. Have you ever eaten

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<v Speaker 1>fish and then realize you turned it over and you've

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<v Speaker 1>been eating the skin of the fish as well.

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<v Speaker 3>I thought you could eat the.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I think you can, but it's better to not.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh no, well, I've eaten it plenty of time.

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<v Speaker 1>It's up to you, so let us know. Great server stories,

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<v Speaker 1>horrible server stories. Did you ever get up and walk

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<v Speaker 1>out of a restaurant because the service was so bad?

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<v Speaker 1>We were at seven one time downtown. We love seven seven,

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<v Speaker 1>and they lost our reservation, so we met a reservation.

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<v Speaker 1>We show up. They're like, we don't have you in here,

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<v Speaker 1>but we can and seat you at a bar table.

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<v Speaker 1>So they sat us at a table which was the

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<v Speaker 1>most awkward table right inside the entrance. It was like

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<v Speaker 1>by the coat rack and it was like and they

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<v Speaker 1>brought us our drinks and they never came back.

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<v Speaker 3>What the heck?

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<v Speaker 1>So we ordered, you know, fifteen or twenty dollars drinks

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<v Speaker 1>each and they never came back. And I said, we're

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<v Speaker 1>fucking leaving. Yeah, And I said, if they call me

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<v Speaker 1>and complain and say they try, I want to, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>arrest me or whatever. I'll pay it, but I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>going to sit here and wait because they never came back.

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<v Speaker 1>So we drank some of our drinks and we you

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<v Speaker 1>know what we did. I think we went to like

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<v Speaker 1>the Macaroni Grill.

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<v Speaker 3>Or somebody sings so Delicious?

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<v Speaker 1>All right, emails here we go. This one says, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>curious is the show or Dave sponsored by Netflix. Morgan says,

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<v Speaker 1>I regularly hear recommendations on Netflix exclusive shows and movies,

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<v Speaker 1>but I rarely hear from other services like Hulu, Max,

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<v Speaker 1>et cetera. Netflix shows and movies have been recommended for

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<v Speaker 1>the past twelve months, Ba Rained Here, Mennndes Brothers, Gabby Patito, Cobra,

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<v Speaker 1>Kai You Love Is Blind, Adolescent Straw, and most recently,

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<v Speaker 1>train Wreck Poop Cruise. If it is sponsored, it's very

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<v Speaker 1>subtle compared to the holiday station store ads that Jenny does.

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<v Speaker 1>Been a handful of times when Dave has hyped up

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<v Speaker 1>something for me, only to be disappointed after watching it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yet I feel like Dave and I have the same

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<v Speaker 1>sense of humor, and ninety percent of the time I

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<v Speaker 1>do like what he recommends. I love the show and

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<v Speaker 1>listen every day. Honestly, I'm, of course not sponsored by

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<v Speaker 1>Netflix Race.

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<v Speaker 3>We were sponsored by Netflix.

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<v Speaker 1>We create because that's my first I don't turn on

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<v Speaker 1>local TV, I don't turn on Hulu, I don't turn

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<v Speaker 1>on Max or Prime. My button, I turn on Power,

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<v Speaker 1>which you don't even have to do. You can actually

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<v Speaker 1>just push the Netflix button. That's my go to, that

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<v Speaker 1>is my home screen, and you know, for me, to

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<v Speaker 1>switch to Max or Hulu. I have to hear something

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<v Speaker 1>recommended by you, So not you, Bailey, but somebody listening.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And I feel the same way like Netflix. In

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<v Speaker 2>my little like list on my Roku of different streaming services,

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<v Speaker 2>Netflix is just the first one, but like right now

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<v Speaker 2>I'm watching The Bear and the Bear is on Hulu.

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<v Speaker 2>So like sometimes if I am scrolling, like especially if

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<v Speaker 2>I want to watch a movie or something, I'll go

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<v Speaker 2>to Hulu or Prime because they have movies as well.

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<v Speaker 2>But like, I don't know, I think it's the interface

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<v Speaker 2>of Netflix. It's just so much I don't know, more

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<v Speaker 2>like inviting and easy to maneuver.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's categorized. Yeah, it's got little previews at the top,

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<v Speaker 1>which is nice.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, versus Prime, which feels like I open up Prime

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<v Speaker 2>and it's like, do you want to watch Shark Nato four?

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<v Speaker 2>Like no, I don't want to watch Shark Nato four.

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<v Speaker 2>So I feel like the algorithm of Netflix just gets

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<v Speaker 2>me more and it just seems more inviting.

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<v Speaker 1>I think they've done it right. They really have next

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<v Speaker 1>one please don't say. My name's kind of long. And

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<v Speaker 1>we'll see how this goes. I have not pre read it.

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<v Speaker 1>I've been listening since I've been riding the bus in

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<v Speaker 1>middle school. I'm thirty five now. I currently listen to

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<v Speaker 1>every minute of the show and the Minnesota Goodbye via

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<v Speaker 1>the app when I'm going about my day. Needs some help.

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<v Speaker 1>I've been with my boyfriend for over a year. He

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<v Speaker 1>is also early thirties. Love of my life. It's the

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<v Speaker 1>healthiest relationship I've ever been in, and I've truly never

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<v Speaker 1>been happier. The other day, he told me that he

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<v Speaker 1>wants to sleep with other people, not now, but someday.

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<v Speaker 1>He says, it's just something that he needs to do.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't know how to respond, at which he told

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<v Speaker 1>me to take my time to think about it. We

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<v Speaker 1>talked about it a little. He said it's not something

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<v Speaker 1>he would like to do all the time, but maybe

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<v Speaker 1>once or twice a year. He said threesomes are an option. Again,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know how I feel about that, and he's

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<v Speaker 1>stressed that he had no timeline on this for himself.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what to do, and I have no

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<v Speaker 1>one in my life I can talk to about this.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to be supportive of him, but how do

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<v Speaker 1>I become okay with this? He and I have always

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<v Speaker 1>had incredible communications. In fact, he said he was stressed

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<v Speaker 1>for weeks about telling me. I'm absolutely certain he has

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<v Speaker 1>never and would never cheat on me. I might sound naive,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'm not. He truly such an amazing guy. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't feel like he is pressuring me to be okay

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<v Speaker 1>with this. I already told him that if it's between

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<v Speaker 1>him being okay with this or breaking up, I would

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<v Speaker 1>absolutely want to be with him. I never thought i'd

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<v Speaker 1>be the kind of person that would consider this, but

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<v Speaker 1>he has helped me grow and experience new things sexually.

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<v Speaker 1>I know this lifestyle is for some people, but no

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<v Speaker 1>one I know of personally, and I just can't get

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<v Speaker 1>over him thinking of him making someone else feel the

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<v Speaker 1>way he makes me feel. I don't know which is worse,

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<v Speaker 1>if he becomes emotionally attached to someone else or just

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<v Speaker 1>them for sex. Any insight you or the listeners might

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<v Speaker 1>have would be great. What kind of questions or boundaries

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<v Speaker 1>do I need to bring up with him? Thank you

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<v Speaker 1>and dart lickety lick the girl with nonation. Yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. I think that if you ask some people

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<v Speaker 1>who have an open relationship, they'd be like, yes, it's

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<v Speaker 1>the healthiest thing ever. And I think other people just

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<v Speaker 1>as many people or more would say yes, that led

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<v Speaker 1>to unhappiness, mistrust, discussed, cheating, that type of thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think if that's like a route you want

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<v Speaker 2>to go on, it definitely requires like a lot more

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<v Speaker 2>you know, communication, conversation then, especially like communication wise, Like

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<v Speaker 2>if that is a thing that you guys are doing,

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<v Speaker 2>you'll have to like communicate constantly, because I think the

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<v Speaker 2>thing that really does kind of kill it in the

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<v Speaker 2>end is having an open relationship but not being honest

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<v Speaker 2>about what it is that you're doing or what it

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<v Speaker 2>is that you want. And I'm sure like a therapist would,

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<v Speaker 2>like a couple's therapy would be helpful in any situation

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<v Speaker 2>regardless if this is the path you're going down, but

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<v Speaker 2>even more so because I think we're not like raise,

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<v Speaker 2>like all people like raised in a world where that's

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<v Speaker 2>a normal thing. So in your brain, your brain's like

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<v Speaker 2>hardwired to be like this isn't normal, this is weird

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<v Speaker 2>and different and wrong.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, So going.

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<v Speaker 2>Through like therapy to like help you through it will

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<v Speaker 2>I think make it easier to confront.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, and I'm against it if you I

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<v Speaker 1>have to go through therapy to be okay with it,

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<v Speaker 1>then you're not going to be okay with it, right.

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<v Speaker 2>to teach yourself about it. So maybe like becoming wiser

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<v Speaker 2>to it will help you be more comfortable with it,

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<v Speaker 2>because again, if we're not, like, if we don't come

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<v Speaker 2>up in a world where it's a normal thing, then

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<v Speaker 2>of course we're going to be like, I'm not okay

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<v Speaker 2>with this, But it's probably just because we don't know

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<v Speaker 1>If I really loved someone intimately and I love that

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<v Speaker 1>from a weekend of banging some guy in still Water

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<v Speaker 1>to be like, and it's not a physical repulsion thing

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<v Speaker 1>like oh, I'm kissing you where he had just been,

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<v Speaker 3>What if you're getting it too with somebody else.

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<v Speaker 1>I had not thought about that one, but I would

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<v Speaker 1>not expect her to be okay with that either. Let's

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<v Speaker 1>say I said to Susan, Yeah, I want to have

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<v Speaker 1>an open marriage, and I'm going to go to Stillwater

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<v Speaker 1>and hang out all the weekend with Carrie at the

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<v Speaker 1>Lowell End, and I'm going to come home and act

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<v Speaker 1>like everything's okay, and you're supposed to ask me, how

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<v Speaker 1>is dinner? Did Carrie have a good time? Right? No,

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<v Speaker 1>I would not expect And that's just me. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know how it works. Maybe you have an insight on it,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe you know something about it. I don't know any

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<v Speaker 1>couples that have an open relationship that I know.

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<v Speaker 3>Of, and I know plenty and they all see you

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I have one friend and she's married, and they're

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<v Speaker 2>both like dating other people and they talk openly about

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<v Speaker 2>dates that they're going to go on okay, which again

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<v Speaker 2>feels weird to me because that's not like a life

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<v Speaker 2>that I have come up in. So it always feels

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<v Speaker 2>so awkward when one of them she goes like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I have a date tonight, and her husband's sitting right there,

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm like, oh, he's right there.

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<v Speaker 1>To me, that seems like it's unsustainable. I don't they

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<v Speaker 1>even do.

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<v Speaker 3>It for like a year. He married for about like

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<v Speaker 3>seven Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>It's been a year. I don't know. To me, it

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<v Speaker 1>seems unsustainable.

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<v Speaker 3>Because it doesn't because it's not normal for you.

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<v Speaker 1>But it is not normal for me. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>But but I don't think that humans are naturally monogamous.

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<v Speaker 1>They're like, oh, geese date for life. Well, yeah, because

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<v Speaker 1>they're geese. They don't have the thought systems that there's

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<v Speaker 1>no geese porn. There's no gees.

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<v Speaker 3>He's a body of sexy geese.

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<v Speaker 1>Hees live about four years, we live seventy five years.

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<v Speaker 1>We get tired of the same old sex. Okay, next one.

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<v Speaker 1>Not sure, Angelique, right, it's not sure. If you can

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<v Speaker 1>talk about it in the podcast are online because I

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<v Speaker 1>was not sure what company Carson works for. I know

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<v Speaker 1>he works in the music industry, but I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>if he works for Live Nation. I will be listening

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<v Speaker 1>as I always do, to the Morning show and the

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<v Speaker 1>Minnesota Goodbye for any comments, Angelique, he does not work

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<v Speaker 1>for Live Nation. He's basically an independent person. Right now,

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<v Speaker 1>at this very moment, he is in Lithuania. He is

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<v Speaker 1>touring with David Kushner, and it is I think coming

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<v Speaker 1>up on the night time. It's they're about twelve ish

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<v Speaker 1>hours ahead, maybe eight or ten whatever, so it's night

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<v Speaker 1>when he's over there they do the show. I think

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<v Speaker 1>today was their day off, so they went sight seeing

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<v Speaker 1>and then cool. Yeah, it look cool. It's like old

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<v Speaker 1>churches and castles or whatever. And then they usually go out.

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<v Speaker 1>They go out to get you know, food and drinks

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<v Speaker 1>and whatever. They don't go clubbing. And then tomorrow is

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<v Speaker 1>a work day and then they get ready all day

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<v Speaker 1>with sound check and food and hotels. And Carson is

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<v Speaker 1>so funny. He's working with David Kushner. David Kushner loves golf.

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<v Speaker 1>So Carson on his own volition made a tea time

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<v Speaker 1>in every city they are in with David Kushner to

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<v Speaker 1>play golf.

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<v Speaker 3>Smart smart move.

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<v Speaker 1>And I said, Carson, that is how you That is

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<v Speaker 1>why you do so well, because a lot of people

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<v Speaker 1>would have never thought about that one. And I said,

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<v Speaker 1>will he play all of them? He's like, yeah, probably not,

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<v Speaker 1>but I want to give the option. That is David

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<v Speaker 1>stre release. He loves to play golf. So Carson looked

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<v Speaker 1>up Lithuanian fucking golf courses.

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<v Speaker 3>And who knew they were there too? Who knew they're everywhere?

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<v Speaker 3>That's cool?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, okay, let me see if I got time for

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<v Speaker 1>one week, I might have time for one more. Hold on,

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<v Speaker 1>let's see. No, actually I'm out of time because the

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<v Speaker 1>dog bit longer. I want to take my electric bike

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<v Speaker 1>from Eric's bike shop out. I haven't ritten it in

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<v Speaker 1>a couple of weeks because I've been either out of

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<v Speaker 1>want to take that out for a ride. What about you?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Nothing, really, Probably go on a walk if it's not

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<v Speaker 2>too like disgustingly hot.

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<v Speaker 3>Probably are we going in the plane this weekend?

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<v Speaker 1>We might? Do you want to go on the plane

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<v Speaker 1>this weekend?

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<v Speaker 3>I got nothing going on this weekend? Okay, I might.

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<v Speaker 1>I might well look at a time and see what's

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<v Speaker 1>good time for us to go on the plane. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>taking my friend Kelly, who is a cop, and her

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<v Speaker 1>two rugrats up for a flight tomorrow, meet him up

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<v Speaker 1>in a Noka. She's got two little kids. They've both

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<v Speaker 1>been flying with me before, and so they are like, when.

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<v Speaker 3>Is Dave going to take us up in his airplane?

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<v Speaker 1>So we're going to do that speaking of airplane pictures,

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<v Speaker 1>if you have not seen it, go check out the

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<v Speaker 1>video of me and Alison flying every year annually for

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<v Speaker 1>twenty nine years. I would have never ever thought it

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<v Speaker 1>would last this long, but sure enough it has. That

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