Speaker 1: Welcome, Welcome to the podcast.
Speaker 2: I'm Still Fun is the name of the podcast, and
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Speaker 2: those night shifts are crazy.
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Speaker 2: This weekend, we both had big weekends. I went to
Speaker 2: Disney World without children, which is glorious. Might I recommend
Speaker 2: so you went with the Jason Show.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was so.
Speaker 2: Jason goes very They're like season past people. They're Disney adults,
Speaker 2: and they are Disney adults. They love Disney. They know
Speaker 2: the ins and outs. They know bartenders all throughout all
Speaker 2: the parks and stuff, and Jason was kind enough he
Speaker 2: paid for the VIP experience for us on Saturday, so
Speaker 2: we went. A lot of them went Thursday afternoon, but
Speaker 2: I didn't want to take off of work Thursday, so
Speaker 2: I worked and I flew in super early Friday and
Speaker 2: just hit the ground running. We went straight to Epcot
Speaker 2: and stuff. So we rode some rides on Friday, and
Speaker 2: it was like the hottest of all time. But because
Speaker 2: it was so hot and it's like the weird transition
Speaker 2: before Memorial Day weekend in summer, it was much slower
Speaker 2: than normal, which was nice. So I'm trying to focus
Speaker 2: on the positive there. And then, so the VIP tour
Speaker 2: how that works because I didn't even really know about this,
Speaker 2: but it's like what celebrities do, and it's it's not
Speaker 2: cheap obviously, so you have to pay for your park
Speaker 2: ticket still, but then the person will pay for a
Speaker 2: VIP tour and you can split up your however you want.
Speaker 2: You can you have to do at least seven hours,
Speaker 2: but I think you can do ten as the max maybe,
Speaker 2: so I think we did ten and basically a Disney
Speaker 2: Park expert takes you around and you go to any
Speaker 2: ride you want, and you.
Speaker 1: Go to the front ish of the line.
Speaker 2: So how Disney they have like they call them lightning
Speaker 2: lanes kind of like and you usually pay for that
Speaker 2: or like I think when you part tickets, you get
Speaker 2: like two lightning lanes a day, and then once you
Speaker 2: use one, you could try to get another one, but
Speaker 2: you just basically get put in the lightning lane. So
Speaker 2: you get pretty much ride on every ride you don't wait.
Speaker 2: They take you behind behind the park to get into
Speaker 2: different entrances.
Speaker 1: When you get off the ride, she'll have like waters.
Speaker 2: You get like unlimited Mickey ice cream bars if you
Speaker 2: want them, you get like two. Each person gets like
Speaker 2: two like advanced snacks included. Like when we arrived in
Speaker 2: our van to Epcot, there were people waiting out front
Speaker 2: with like snacks for us. And so it's really really
Speaker 2: really really luxurious and nice and so you get to
Speaker 2: ride ever, I told Jake, I'm like I would, and
Speaker 2: you get to have ten people in your group for
Speaker 2: that price. Okay, I told Jake, I'm like I would
Speaker 2: legit if I could find a couple of other families.
Speaker 1: That would split this. It is worth it.
Speaker 2: Because you could knock out all four parks in one day,
Speaker 2: so you're saving money on daily park tickets, get to
Speaker 2: the front of the line for like the ride you want,
Speaker 2: and then be done with it. And will you save money,
Speaker 2: I don't know, but you would save mental capacity. And
Speaker 2: it is so expensive you wouldn't be paying for food
Speaker 2: every single day in the parks and the park tickets
Speaker 2: every day, so I think it could almost balance out, honestly.
Speaker 2: So my favorite ride is Guardians of the Galaxy. It's
Speaker 2: a newer one. It's at Epcot, and we wrote it
Speaker 2: three times. You can only ride a ride on your
Speaker 2: tour twice, so you can do it two times in
Speaker 2: a row if you want, so we did that one
Speaker 2: two times. We had already done that on Friday. Also,
Speaker 2: it is epic. It is so good.
Speaker 3: What is it? Is it a roller coaster?
Speaker 1: You ride?
Speaker 2: Yeah, so it's kind of it's like a roller coaster
Speaker 2: and you get one of six songs. You don't know
Speaker 2: what you're gonna get until it takes off, and so
Speaker 2: the song choices are I ran Everybody wants to Roll
Speaker 2: the World Conga September Disco Inferno, and then I can't
Speaker 2: think of the other one, which Jason's favorite, is Conga.
Speaker 2: I wanted September, so we of course got all the
Speaker 2: other three, but we didn't double up, which was nice.
Speaker 2: And my favorite of the three was Everybody Wants to
Speaker 2: Roll the World, I think because it gives a very
Speaker 2: different vibe than the other ones. The other ones are
Speaker 2: like fast, upbeat, fun and Everybody wants to Roll the World.
Speaker 2: It's kind of like, I don't know, it's one of
Speaker 2: those weird songs that makes me kind of emotional.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So you go, You basically go.
Speaker 2: In and then there's a there's an explosion, and then
Speaker 2: your car goes backwards sixty miles an hour, and then
Speaker 2: it's inside, so it's dark and you're it's a roller
Speaker 2: coaster inside and then like the car turns and you
Speaker 2: like rotate around the Moon and Earth.
Speaker 1: You can like see them. It's fucking cool.
Speaker 3: It's so cool.
Speaker 2: So that was like my top ride. I wanted to ride,
Speaker 2: and it was sick, and we sweat a lot and
Speaker 2: we had a lot of fun. And so memory.
Speaker 3: Im thigh shaven on her boobswat, so I always want
Speaker 3: a sweat.
Speaker 2: I wore these like little thin kind of track pants
Speaker 2: things I get like the athletic pants, and everyone thought
Speaker 2: I was psycho, but I'm like I if I were shorts,
Speaker 2: I'd be pulling them down all day, I'd be so miserable.
Speaker 2: So I'd rather have a little sweat and these pants.
Speaker 2: Everyone else was in shorts and stuff like a normal,
Speaker 2: normal people, but I just don't. I'm not a shorts person.
Speaker 1: I hate them. Yeah.
Speaker 3: I feel like I probably would have gone like leggings
Speaker 3: shorts if I've done before, but those just collect sweat
Speaker 3: on like my crotch, and I didn't want it.
Speaker 1: I didn't want it.
Speaker 2: So one conversation we had, and I'm not going to
Speaker 2: say who shared this, we got into the conversation of
Speaker 2: the worst lay you've ever had, okay, and one of
Speaker 2: the people almost like girls, but I don't want to
Speaker 2: say exactly who said it. Necessarily, one of the people
Speaker 2: on this trip said they didn't have sex with a person,
Speaker 2: but the person had a Tunican and I go, what
Speaker 2: the fuck's a tunic can? And they go they turned
Speaker 2: around and it looked like a Tunican and the person
Speaker 2: held their hand up like around like a Tunican, and
Speaker 2: I go, oh, like super girthy, and they go, no.
Speaker 2: Every it was identical to a Tunican. I go, wait,
Speaker 2: so as round as a Tunican and as thick, So
Speaker 2: it was like a hockey puck just sitting on their
Speaker 2: grunt and they go yeah, and I what the fuck?
Speaker 1: And they were like yeah, And I'm like, and I'm asking.
Speaker 2: Every cause anyone ever and no one has ever seen
Speaker 2: the person called the person that, like, I don't remember
Speaker 2: the name, I call them Tunican. And they said, I
Speaker 2: have to work, and they left and went to work.
Speaker 2: There they go, I could not wrap my head around
Speaker 2: how that would work? How would that fit within my body?
Speaker 3: Yeah, oh my god, I would have been my life ever. Man,
Speaker 3: obviously you've heard of like a micrope and things like that,
Speaker 3: and I feel very bad, like I don't, like ever
Speaker 3: want to mock that, Like it's not like someone can
Speaker 3: help being born like that. But man, tunican crazy. Never
Speaker 3: heard of it in my life. I haven't either. I'm
Speaker 3: did you share your worst leg because I think mine
Speaker 3: probably was the fact that this guy thought he was
Speaker 3: having sex with me and he was actually just fucking
Speaker 3: my like thighep. And I also was extremely skinny at
Speaker 3: the time, like I literally probably weighed one hundred and
Speaker 3: thirty pounds top, So there's no reason he should have
Speaker 3: got like it wasn't like my thighs were super thick
Speaker 3: and thought he was doing what he was doing. No,
Speaker 3: he definitely like thought he was having sex with me
Speaker 3: and then realized it and changed. But I immediately was like
Speaker 3: turned off. This is fucking awful. Yeah. I just I
Speaker 3: wanted him out of my bed as quick as I could,
Speaker 3: And of course we were drunk, and so I was like, yeah, whatever,
Speaker 3: you can sleep over, and then I had to give
Speaker 3: him a fucking ride home in the morning, and I
Speaker 3: just wanted to be like, go out, get out.
Speaker 2: So mine is nothing like exceptional like that. Mine was
Speaker 2: just like, you know, really short, really not good. Yeah,
Speaker 2: nothing was beneficial for me at all in it so quick,
Speaker 2: you know. So mine wasn't like a standout story. It's
Speaker 2: like tale as old as time. Yeah, but with this person,
Speaker 2: it was always like that, Like so that was the problem. Yeah, Yeah,
Speaker 2: that it wasn't because you give people a person a
Speaker 2: pass if it's like a one time thing or an
Speaker 2: occasional thing.
Speaker 3: One of my f buddies that I had when I
Speaker 3: was single last he like would go really quick sometimes. Yeah,
Speaker 3: it happens, and that's whatever, really fine. However, for me
Speaker 3: to get to his house took about twenty minutes because
Speaker 3: he wasn't that far away, but it was just like
Speaker 3: the roads that I had to take to get there,
Speaker 3: it was like a twenty minute drive one way, and
Speaker 3: I got there one time. And I'm telling you, the
Speaker 3: amount of time I spent there between having sex and
Speaker 3: leaving was less time than it took for me to
Speaker 3: just drive one way to his house. And I sat
Speaker 3: there and I'm just like, man, this you. I mean,
Speaker 3: I I think he did come to me a couple
Speaker 3: of times, but I think that particular time, I don't know.
Speaker 3: I just went to his place. So anyways, after that,
Speaker 3: I just sat there and I was like, if it
Speaker 3: takes me longer to drive to you, then we are
Speaker 3: hooking up. Like I don't need to hook up for
Speaker 3: an hour and a half, but like, like this was
Speaker 3: way too quick and he knew it without a conversation
Speaker 3: needed to be had. Yep, And the next time he
Speaker 3: very much lasted much longer and like did different things
Speaker 3: I think to help him last longer because I was like,
Speaker 3: I know he was embarrassed by that time because it
Speaker 3: was particularly short, and I just sat there and yeah,
Speaker 3: I don't know. He was one of those guys who
Speaker 3: I thought I was going to like date him, and
Speaker 3: then I realized he was a fuck boy huh, and
Speaker 3: so then I was like nope, just kidding. And then
Speaker 3: of course what happens is he like falls in love
Speaker 3: with me like six months later and does want to
Speaker 3: try to actually date me. And I was like, no, yeah,
Speaker 3: you got put in this category. Yeah, you are not
Speaker 3: D material anymore in my brain. Okay, you are here
Speaker 3: for the pein wa and the poos wah oh Like no,
Speaker 3: I don't know. But anyways, So I had a birthday
Speaker 3: this past weekend and did yes and happy belated thank you.
Speaker 3: I don't normally like to go out and like force
Speaker 3: friends to do things for my birthday. However, I did
Speaker 3: not want to be alone on my birthday this year,
Speaker 3: so I did force Fiends to go out with me
Speaker 3: and we went out in the North Loop had a
Speaker 3: really good time. Started at the Hewing Hotel. They were
Speaker 3: having a private event that started at eight, and I
Speaker 3: told the girls, like five thirty six, let's meet up.
Speaker 3: So we were able to go to the rooftop for
Speaker 3: a little bit, but then we had to get kicked
Speaker 3: out at like seven and forty five, which was fine,
Speaker 3: but I was kind of bummed about that because I
Speaker 3: just really love hanging out there. It's sophisticated and chill,
Speaker 3: and it's not loud, rowdy, clouded. I mean sometimes it's crowded.
Speaker 3: But my friends bought me drink after drink after drink,
Speaker 3: and it's like, I don't Once I had a couple
Speaker 3: of drinks, I.
Speaker 1: Thought you said you weren't going to allow that didn't shot.
Speaker 3: I said, I'm not, I'm not going to do a show. However,
Speaker 3: I did also do a shot. Okay, I get one shot,
Speaker 3: and I'm telling you, like, we had all these bougie
Speaker 3: drinks at Hewing, and then we went to Cuzzies, because like,
Speaker 3: you've got to end up at Cuzzi's at some point
Speaker 3: if you're in the North Loop, I feel like, and
Speaker 3: there my friend bought like a what are they called
Speaker 3: the beer buckets of ns, so someone else had already
Speaker 3: bought me a drink. Then I'm drinking a high noon.
Speaker 3: Then someone's like, let's take a shot, and I'm like, okay, fine,
Speaker 3: Then I'm putting a dollar up on the ceiling.
Speaker 1: Hey, you got it.
Speaker 3: And then we're trying to make it to the rabbit Hole,
Speaker 3: which is a newerish bar in North Loop, and some
Speaker 3: shitty cover band was playing there at ten. Okay, so
Speaker 3: we got there a little bit before ten, and that
Speaker 3: was the moment it was time for me to go home.
Speaker 3: Oh I got there and things it started going dark,
Speaker 3: and oh, my friend Tiff was like, Johnny, I think
Speaker 3: it's time for you to go home. My friend Jeanie
Speaker 3: and I ubered back to my place used together. I
Speaker 3: of course made a pizza that I burned, not not
Speaker 3: to like an unedible amount, but like I went and
Speaker 3: showered as I always do when and I came out
Speaker 3: too late and the pizza's burnt. I wake up on
Speaker 3: the couch to the dog snuggling me that I was
Speaker 3: watching at like four in the morning. I have a
Speaker 3: bag of popcorn next to me, just the most classic
Speaker 3: Jenny Drunken Gone Back carries. Yes, I was back at
Speaker 3: my roots and I just sat there and I'm.
Speaker 2: Like, missing a burrito on your bedstand? What did you
Speaker 2: used to lose your phone or your ID or something.
Speaker 3: Always would know I would always be nervous that my
Speaker 3: phone was not laying next to me in the morning.
Speaker 3: And also, my friends have got me like an actual
Speaker 3: nice present. She got me this big kind of like
Speaker 3: farmer's market bag that's wifey on it, and then a
Speaker 3: cute little like camper van cookbook thing and a few
Speaker 3: other little trinkets of fat. And she didn't really understand
Speaker 3: that like we probably were gonna end up like bar
Speaker 3: hopping and stuff, and so she's like, well, like, I'll
Speaker 3: just take it home with me if I have to.
Speaker 3: And so the one thing I looked for in the
Speaker 3: morning when I was like sober, was like, did the
Speaker 3: wifey bag make it home in me? And it did.
Speaker 3: I came back safe and sound. I probably would have
Speaker 3: she probably would have taken it if she thought there
Speaker 3: was a risk of me not right bringing it home.
Speaker 3: But anyways, it was now mind you, it was fun
Speaker 3: in the moment, but I just I know that I'm
Speaker 3: just not that kind of a drinker anymore. And so
Speaker 3: you know, it's Monday. That was Saturday night. I still
Speaker 3: feel like shit, I still feel anxiety, and it just
Speaker 3: really proves that, like that's not my life anymore. I
Speaker 3: don't want to go out and get hammered. I wish
Speaker 3: I would have just like had a few drinks and
Speaker 3: had fun and stayed sober enough to watch the cover
Speaker 3: band or some shitty cover band whatever, and I didn't,
Speaker 3: And so I'm a little bit sad about that. But whatever,
Speaker 3: you live and you learn.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean there are certain moments like that. Yeah,
Speaker 2: you're gonna live it up a little bit. Your friends
Speaker 2: are probably going extra hard to trying to like they
Speaker 2: make sure it was a special one because I knew
Speaker 2: it might be hard.
Speaker 3: For you or whatever. But then yeah, right, it just anyways,
Speaker 3: like I just knew the moment out of hewing because
Speaker 3: I was already two drinks in and then they the
Speaker 3: bartender screwed up a drink or like ordered an extra one,
Speaker 3: and they're like, well, here, this was what you were drinking,
Speaker 3: so you should just have this now too, And I'm
Speaker 3: like those drinks were going down too easily because they
Speaker 3: were spoushy, like fun, nice drinks. So I was like, no,
Speaker 3: like I don't need all these but whatever, it's fine.
Speaker 3: In the end, I don't ever want to be out
Speaker 3: super late anyways, So the fact that I went home
Speaker 3: at like ten pm is totally fine with me. I
Speaker 3: just wish I would have stayed more sober so I
Speaker 3: could have like enjoyed more times with my friends because
Speaker 3: I just we had so much fun. And I also
Speaker 3: love the fact that like it was literally five different
Speaker 3: groups of friends practically that were out. Yeah, like said,
Speaker 3: some people kind of knew each other, but like not really,
Speaker 3: and everyone like got along and became friends really easy.
Speaker 1: I love when that happens.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like one of the sales girls here, she's a
Speaker 3: little bit newer to the cities, and she came out
Speaker 3: and she just chatted with everyone. So I was, you know,
Speaker 3: you get stressed when you're the one kind of hosting
Speaker 3: a gathering of sorts. So I'm like, God, I hope
Speaker 3: everyone likes each other. And the sales girl even texted
Speaker 3: me yesterday and was like, your friends are so awesome.
Speaker 3: I got so much fun blah blah blah. So anyways,
Speaker 3: it was a really fun birthday night out. But I
Speaker 3: will not be celebrating in that way. I've got a
Speaker 3: bachelorette party coming up, like a dinner and party bus Vibe, yeah,
Speaker 3: in a few weeks, And i just know that I
Speaker 3: know how to drink better now, and I'm just not
Speaker 3: going to be that crazy hammered person anymore. Like it's
Speaker 3: just not me. I have.
Speaker 2: Two bachelorette parties coming up this year. I'm like, what
Speaker 2: is happening with my life? By the way, we have
Speaker 2: obviously Tina's Yep, that one I'm not worried about because
Speaker 2: Tina's been in this situation herself where she's been to
Speaker 2: like a bachelorette party and like people have pressured her
Speaker 2: to drink and it pissed her off. So it's hers
Speaker 2: is like chill cabin vibes, like when it happens or whatever.
Speaker 2: So I'm not worried about Tina's. Yeah, like I thought
Speaker 2: that's just gonna be like a chill cabin weekend. But
Speaker 2: my friend Abby, she's my college friend, not that, Like
Speaker 2: I'm not an adult and can say no. But I
Speaker 2: hate the feeling when people feel like you feel like
Speaker 2: you're making someone mad or disappointed because you're not getting
Speaker 2: to their drunk level. Yeah, I hate that feeling. Like
Speaker 2: my friends know me well at this point, but I
Speaker 2: think they have the attitude of can't you just for one,
Speaker 2: like one time, for something special And I can't explain
Speaker 2: it because like I could and I do sometimes like
Speaker 2: when we went out like, but I like burn IM
Speaker 2: always say I am a match. I burn bright and
Speaker 2: I burn out very quickly. So like for me, I
Speaker 2: don't want to be miserable. I'm the only one that
Speaker 2: has to fly on a plane, and I don't want
Speaker 2: to be like hungover or sick. And I also, yeah,
Speaker 2: I can't hang so I'm like, I'm already just preparing myself.
Speaker 2: She's not doing anything crazy. There's she wants an airbnb
Speaker 2: and she wants to do like a daytime kind of
Speaker 2: adventure like one of those aerial parks or like rafting
Speaker 2: or something, which that's all fine, but then I don't
Speaker 2: even I would. I hope that we just like drink
Speaker 2: at the house that we're renting or whatever and don't
Speaker 2: go to bars.
Speaker 1: But I don't know what.
Speaker 2: It's going to be like, and I just hope that
Speaker 2: I'm not made to feel like I'm letting down the
Speaker 2: bachelorette party if i'm because it's only four of us,
Speaker 2: that does.
Speaker 3: Make it a little bit they've done. It's less people.
Speaker 3: Because I was like, I was like, well, then they
Speaker 3: can go out and have their fun and then you
Speaker 3: just irish goodbye. That's what I did when I know.
Speaker 3: I went to Savannah, my girlfriend's party. We had been
Speaker 3: we had done a pedal pub already during the day,
Speaker 3: and then we're out again at night and I was
Speaker 3: just hitting my wall at like eleven thirty, and I
Speaker 3: was like, I want to go home, and so I
Speaker 3: started calling myself an uber or some of the other
Speaker 3: girls caught when that I was leaving, so a couple
Speaker 3: other people hopped in with me, whereas the rest of
Speaker 3: the group stayed out, and but we had like ten people.
Speaker 2: So I feel like it's because when you're a bride,
Speaker 2: you've walked movies and stuff for so long, you think
Speaker 2: it's gonna be like this hangover movie crazy.
Speaker 1: Night out, and some people do have that, but I think.
Speaker 2: The more realistic is two or three people get really
Speaker 2: drunk and they're puking, and everyone else is kind of
Speaker 2: like in the same vibe of like, I don't want
Speaker 2: to be sloppy.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 2: So not that anyone has already pretexted me and saying
Speaker 2: get your shit ready or anything like that. I just
Speaker 2: am used to my lovely group of friends, So I
Speaker 2: love very much. If you're listening, by the way, I
Speaker 2: just don't want anyone to feel like, you know, I
Speaker 2: am letting the party down if I'm not drunk or something.
Speaker 3: So we'll see how it goes. I don't don't you
Speaker 3: think that they know you well enough to know that, Like, yeah,
Speaker 3: it never fails, right, it never fails. I was like,
Speaker 3: but that makes me.
Speaker 2: It makes me sad because I can still stubborn about it.
Speaker 2: I'm always like, you know who I am, and I'll
Speaker 2: like leave the room.
Speaker 3: I mean, I've definitely probably been the friend before when
Speaker 3: people didn't want to like drink as much, but that's
Speaker 3: because that's who they were to and so then when
Speaker 3: suddenly they didn't want to, I was like, what the fuck?
Speaker 3: But like with you, I would never ever expect you
Speaker 3: to come to if I was having a bachelorette party,
Speaker 3: to like come out and be out with me all night,
Speaker 3: Like I would literally not expect that. Yeah, I don't know. Well,
Speaker 3: I don't know if this person listens to the podcast,
Speaker 3: but I do need to break up with someone and
Speaker 3: that is my therapist. Oh my god, why because I
Speaker 3: don't think so. I started therapy again after Andrew and
Speaker 3: I broke up, and this is a new therapist from
Speaker 3: who I used to go to and she's very sweet
Speaker 3: and kind. However, I feel like our sessions have been
Speaker 3: a lot of just me explaining my feelings, my thoughts,
Speaker 3: what I'm dealing with and stuff, and not really like
Speaker 3: any sort of tools, any sort of like she's very
Speaker 3: comforting in the fact that I have the feelings that
Speaker 3: I have, but I'm not getting any tools to help
Speaker 3: me out, I don't think. I also feel like the
Speaker 3: last session or two I've had with her, I've been
Speaker 3: kind of pointless because I don't really feel like I
Speaker 3: need to talk about anything I don't know. So there's that,
Speaker 3: But then there's the fact that I understand that I
Speaker 3: work in radio. I get that, and I understand that
Speaker 3: people are curious about things because my relationship was very public.
Speaker 3: But she straight up told me that she went online
Speaker 3: to like look at things about me, and she doesn't
Speaker 3: really like listen to the show as much because like
Speaker 3: she has listened to the show before, she knows I
Speaker 3: work in radio, she knows of me from the show.
Speaker 3: But it felt like there was like this line crossed
Speaker 3: when she said that she had gone online to look
Speaker 3: at stuff. That like made me feel like I'm your
Speaker 3: patient and you should be like only paying attention to me,
Speaker 3: you shouldn't be looking at online chatter. Yeah, And she
Speaker 3: said she did it in a way to like understand
Speaker 3: what I could potentially be going through since it is
Speaker 3: like a public breakup pretty much. But that really put
Speaker 3: me off with her at the last session I had,
Speaker 3: and I was like, I don't know that I'm getting
Speaker 3: anything at this point anyways, And so that was kind
Speaker 3: of probably the line in the sand for me to
Speaker 3: be like, I don't think that this is working for me.
Speaker 1: That's so wild.
Speaker 2: I have never I've heard of like kind of therapist
Speaker 2: like when you're in a public thing, kind of crossing
Speaker 2: a line a little bit. Like there's a podcast I
Speaker 2: listened to and the guy like has merch and he
Speaker 2: got an order from his therapist and that made him
Speaker 2: like super uncomfortable, Like oh god no. And he's like
Speaker 2: maybe she was just trying to be supportive, but also
Speaker 2: like it's kind of the same as they usually tell
Speaker 2: you if I see you in public, I will not
Speaker 2: acknowledge you. If you say hi to me, I'll say hi,
Speaker 2: because you just don't. They don't talk about you in public.
Speaker 1: You don't.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so it feels like it would be kind of
Speaker 2: a mutual thing. My therapist was like, I don't listen
Speaker 2: to Top forty radio. I mean, I'm sure I've heard
Speaker 2: of your station, but I don't care. And I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 2: so that is and not to pile on and I
Speaker 2: also not to share information that is in min I
Speaker 2: know you and my radio partner call go to the
Speaker 2: same person. Yes, he also just ended thanks to really
Speaker 2: yeah for other reasons, right, and him and I have
Speaker 2: talked about things ourselves like that we understand.
Speaker 3: But yeah, I don't know. It's it's not that she
Speaker 3: wasn't good at the beginning, Like I think she was
Speaker 3: what I sort of needed at the beginning. But like,
Speaker 3: I don't know. I think as a therapist, you've got
Speaker 3: to be so careful of what you say.
Speaker 2: I'm just careful. The tools are very important. I've like
Speaker 2: action like points are really important for maybe not for everyone.
Speaker 2: Maybe some people do need to just like each week
Speaker 2: cry and get something out for a while. But for me, yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm like I to feel like I'm like making progress
Speaker 2: and making changes. I need actionable tools here. And that
Speaker 2: was one thing my person gave me, and like almost
Speaker 2: an assignment or a book recommendation or this recommendation and
Speaker 2: every single time, and then she'd email like a follow
Speaker 2: up with that information. And that's why she was my
Speaker 2: favorite I had, because I had some who hads been
Speaker 2: the first like ten or fifteen minutes having me fill
Speaker 2: in a fucking questionnaire of one to ten? How am
Speaker 2: I feeling on these? And I'm like, don't waste my
Speaker 2: god dang time with this. This is such what is this?
Speaker 2: Is this to fill ten minutes of our session?
Speaker 3: I'm just.
Speaker 2: Every time and I stopped going very quickly to that person.
Speaker 3: Yeah no, I mean I did. I've done like those
Speaker 3: surveys before, but it was always like ahead of time
Speaker 3: of the session, so the therapist could see where I was.
Speaker 2: A normal intake paperwork, which is always a little annoying too,
Speaker 2: because you finally get the courage to go. I know
Speaker 2: they have to do it, but I'm like, I don't
Speaker 2: want to use my first session doing intake and for
Speaker 2: like paperwork. But I know that's part of it, but
Speaker 2: I think you're just like so ready to start therapy.
Speaker 2: You want to start talking so quickly. I'm like, let's
Speaker 2: let's dive in. Yeah know that one person did every
Speaker 2: time it was. It was weird, So you gotta find, yeah,
Speaker 2: like the right one that works for you. So maybe
Speaker 2: you just need to find like a different one. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and it just sucks to restart. It does suck to restart.
Speaker 2: And it's not that she was like bad or anything.
Speaker 2: I just I felt like it wasn't the right match.
Speaker 2: And they say finding therapist is like dating, so I
Speaker 2: get it. I got really lucky with the girl that
Speaker 2: I used to go to, and I probably can go
Speaker 2: back to her, honestly, because it's through the same company.
Speaker 3: At least I would assume I could go back to her.
Speaker 3: But I really did like her. She gave me tools whatever.
Speaker 3: I also know that I need a very empathetic person
Speaker 3: and that was who this current therapist was. She was
Speaker 3: so empathetic, but it was almost like it was almost
Speaker 3: too much of like, yes, your feelings are warranted, Yes
Speaker 3: you should feel this way, blah blah blah, and like
Speaker 3: not enough reality almost. It was almost like I was
Speaker 3: just crying to a friend for my sessions, right, and
Speaker 3: that was all it was. And yes, like you said,
Speaker 3: some people might that might be all right they need
Speaker 3: but I needed something else. So anyways, yeah, probably breaking
Speaker 3: up and maybe she'll hear this. She does seem to
Speaker 3: follow along my life.
Speaker 2: You know, they're like I think that therapists are people. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and they probably learn things through their process too, So
Speaker 2: this will probably just be if she does listen, Like again,
Speaker 2: doesn't mean that like, you're a bad therapist. It just
Speaker 2: didn't work out for you to And I from what
Speaker 2: I hear from most therapists, they they truly want you
Speaker 2: to find the right person, Like they don't like being
Speaker 2: stuck with someone they don't fill as the right match either,
Speaker 2: But they can't they can't really fire you as easily
Speaker 2: they can, but they won't necessarily as easily as you
Speaker 2: can fire them if you will. So she'll probably be like, oh,
Speaker 2: lesson learned there and won't make that mistake again in
Speaker 2: the future, and it's not like a big deal or whatever.
Speaker 3: She also won't have half the Katiewb's staff as her client.
Speaker 1: I know, my god, I'll call this should I call
Speaker 1: this episode? Jenny?
Speaker 2: Jenny has another breakup too soon, too okay, too much
Speaker 2: of a click baby bullshit headlines.
Speaker 3: So you're saying I should for the listens, Okay, I
Speaker 3: don't know.
Speaker 2: We have a couple of emails let me pull this
Speaker 2: bad boy open.
Speaker 1: How many do you have?
Speaker 3: I have two?
Speaker 2: Okay, do you want me to read one first? I
Speaker 2: can have three because one just came in this morning.
Speaker 3: Okay. Well, this first one that I have was sent
Speaker 3: to both of us and says hello, I have an
Speaker 3: issue i'd like your assistance with. But first, two things. One, Jenny,
Speaker 3: it's my b day this weekend too well, happy, belated.
Speaker 3: I also feel victimized by the drastic change in the
Speaker 3: weather and my office. Yes, it was not fun. And two,
Speaker 3: thank you both for being vulnerable with your relationships. My
Speaker 3: daughter is potentially on the verge of a breakup with
Speaker 3: a man she currently lives with and has been with
Speaker 3: for four years. As her mother, it has been heartbreaking
Speaker 3: to watch her go through this. It's her path and
Speaker 3: she needs to walk it. Jenny, your recent life events
Speaker 3: have been helpful to me to know that she will
Speaker 3: get through this. Thank you for sharing. Now on to
Speaker 3: the issue. My daughter has a dog that she will
Speaker 3: be taking with her if flush when the breakup happens.
Speaker 3: She works twelve hour shifts as a nurse. Being a
Speaker 3: first time dog owner, she is concerned about what to
Speaker 3: do with her dog while she is away for long
Speaker 3: periods of time during her shift. Also, these shifts are
Speaker 3: often three days in a row, so it's not just
Speaker 3: a day here or there. Her dad and I will
Speaker 3: absolutely help when we can, but we are out here
Speaker 3: living our best lives and going and doing all the
Speaker 3: things we will not always be able to help. I
Speaker 3: know Jenny dog sits and Fallon has two dogs. Wondering
Speaker 3: what advice and recommendations you may have for a single
Speaker 3: gal in this situation where she may need assistance with
Speaker 3: dog sitting or walking slash feeding while she is at work.
Speaker 3: I don't know if this is if my issue is
Speaker 3: podcast worthy, but if you do share, please use my
Speaker 3: code name, which is Lolita. Thanks to advance from this
Speaker 3: Worried Mama love the podcast. You discussed so many relatable
Speaker 3: girlfriend topics and let me know that I'm not the
Speaker 3: only one who deals with some of this stuff in life.
Speaker 3: So thank you, Lolita. Lolita.
Speaker 1: Jenny, do you want to pop in with this first?
Speaker 3: I would say, I know not everyone has the spear
Speaker 3: money to do this, but what you could have your
Speaker 3: daughter do is have someone come do either a dog
Speaker 3: visit through Rover or wag throughout the day to give
Speaker 3: the dog a break. You can hire them for walks. Usually,
Speaker 3: I mean Rover and Wig take a portion of it,
Speaker 3: but I think it's like twelve dollars for a thirty
Speaker 3: minute walk or something, and like the dog walker, I
Speaker 3: don't know, makes ten bucks off of it or something
Speaker 3: like that. So that's like one way that's not overly
Speaker 3: expensive and could be really helpful with just hiring someone
Speaker 3: out to come every day. There's one couple that I've
Speaker 3: watched her their dog quite a few times, but then
Speaker 3: they also ask me to walk her every once in
Speaker 3: a while and it's honestly the only dog that I
Speaker 3: go walk. But I have a few days coming up
Speaker 3: next week that I'm going to go help them out
Speaker 3: because they have long days at work, and it's cheaper
Speaker 3: to do that than like hire someone to be like
Speaker 3: dog sitting for the day or doing overnight stuff. So
Speaker 3: I would say look into options of having someone stop in.
Speaker 3: I could just be a check in too. It doesn't
Speaker 3: have to be a walk. You can literally like hire
Speaker 3: someone to come in for like thirty minutes to hang
Speaker 3: out at the apartment or house and feed the dog
Speaker 3: and let them out and stuff.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know how I guess I would need
Speaker 2: more details on the dog because obviously if it's a puppy,
Speaker 2: it's very different than if the dog is like four
Speaker 2: years old, because like a four year old doesn't need
Speaker 2: to go out every couple of hours, whereas puppy does.
Speaker 2: So I was going to suggest the same thing. I mean,
Speaker 2: we used to do doggy daycare, but I don't know
Speaker 2: about a twelve hour shift. Yeah, I don't know that
Speaker 2: they do that, Like, I don't know if.
Speaker 1: It feels like they wouldn't.
Speaker 2: I mean we maybe could if it's like, it depends
Speaker 2: on what her twelve hours are, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2: If it's like six to six, then that probably is
Speaker 2: fine because you could do a drop off and then
Speaker 2: you pick them up and then it's just three days
Speaker 2: of that. But if not, then I would, yeah, suggest
Speaker 2: what Jenny said, I don't know where she's going to
Speaker 2: be living. Like my neighborhood, we have like a group email,
Speaker 2: and sometimes you know, you could send out, like if
Speaker 2: it's a small neighborhood, a group email, like does anyone
Speaker 2: have like a teen looking for a little extra work?
Speaker 2: And you could have the teen come over and like,
Speaker 2: because like we have like a couple of teens that
Speaker 2: always will you know, do the law and mowing service
Speaker 2: or different things. They're like trying to get that side hustle,
Speaker 2: just like or we have one girl who like went
Speaker 2: and got her babysitter's license and the mom will post like, hey,
Speaker 2: my daughter certified if anyone needs a babysitter kind of thing.
Speaker 2: But it depends on the neighborhood you're in, and you
Speaker 2: still would want to obviously do research and talk to
Speaker 2: like the parents and different things to make sure that
Speaker 2: your dog is in safe hands. Those are just a
Speaker 2: few of suggestions. I don't know if those are the
Speaker 2: greatest though, but I think they're probably the top ones
Speaker 2: you could go for.
Speaker 3: And here's what I'll say, as someone selfishly who is
Speaker 3: obviously went through a breakup myself, I don't have a
Speaker 3: dog I need to like have help with. But maybe
Speaker 3: if you and your husband can be there for her
Speaker 3: for the beginning part with the dog, that's one less
Speaker 3: stressor in her life. I know you're out living your
Speaker 3: best life too, but maybe it just helped her out
Speaker 3: for a little bit, because I'm sure she's gonna be
Speaker 3: going through obviously a lot. Yeah, and then to add
Speaker 3: in the stress of what to do with the dog
Speaker 3: is just really gonna suck.
Speaker 2: I know part of me hopes that she has like
Speaker 2: a nursing job where it's so busy for those twelve
Speaker 2: hours she can't think about it, because that's a really
Speaker 2: long shift to work, to try to keep it together,
Speaker 2: to be a friendly nurse to people when you're going
Speaker 2: through it. So I feel so bad for Here we go, hey, ladies,
Speaker 2: sending much love as usual. I binge the four seasons
Speaker 2: this weekend. Well really in one and a half sittings.
Speaker 2: Not sure if you're done yet, so if not, I
Speaker 2: won't spoil anything. Oh my god, can we talk about it?
Speaker 2: Jenny's not watching it right? No?
Speaker 3: I actually am on. I did start, but I'm only
Speaker 3: on episode four or five. I think I think nowhere
Speaker 3: near You're nowhere near? What the there's only like eight episodes.
Speaker 1: I don't even think there are eight?
Speaker 3: Okay, well, are there even eight? I think there's eight
Speaker 3: because I think I I'd like fell asleep during one
Speaker 3: of them, and it went up to like six, and
Speaker 3: I think there was still it's like eight episodes total,
Speaker 3: so I had to like go back.
Speaker 2: We cannot talk about it, though, okay, because I know
Speaker 2: what she wants to talk about.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 2: Also, is it me or is Steve Carrell just getting
Speaker 2: our just one gorgeous man? Yes, Oh my gosh, this
Speaker 2: is so funny because he's gotten hotter. I think rere
Speaker 2: email then on the Minnesota Goodbye Today too, and so
Speaker 2: we kind of talked about Steve Carell on there. I'm
Speaker 2: like so put off by his character in this show. Well,
Speaker 2: to me, I find him repulsive. So in the show,
Speaker 2: this isn't like a huge spoiler because I think you
Speaker 2: can piece it together because it happens basically in like
Speaker 2: the firstsh episode they've it's like multiple couples that have
Speaker 2: been married for like twenty something years, and he's unhappy
Speaker 2: because his wife, he says, doesn't.
Speaker 1: Do anything blah blah blah.
Speaker 2: So he ends it and he gets with a younger woman. Yeah,
Speaker 2: that's basically the gist of it. But as an outsider,
Speaker 2: just a fan of Steve Corrella, do you think he's attractive?
Speaker 2: So she says, I mean, he really pulled a reverse
Speaker 2: Benjamin Button went from awkward forty year old virgin energy
Speaker 2: to four seasons Silver Fox and now I'm over here,
Speaker 2: like I'll be your thirty something year old girl, Jenny.
Speaker 2: I blinked, and suddenly I'm thirstying over a man who
Speaker 2: used to struggle describing Taters. Wait, is that what it is?
Speaker 3: Tatas?
Speaker 2: Yeah, there's an R there, but I think she meant tatas,
Speaker 2: so that's what I think I was saying.
Speaker 3: I'm sorry. I know I have the email too, so
Speaker 3: I'm pretty Suretas auto corrected you.
Speaker 1: So I'm sorry.
Speaker 3: That's my fault.
Speaker 1: What happened to me?
Speaker 2: I signed up for comedy, not a midlife crush crisis.
Speaker 2: And PS, Jenny, hope you had an amazing birthday, Thanks
Speaker 2: b Yeah, it was pretty fun. They've already been confirmed
Speaker 2: for a season two. By the way, Oh nice, Okay,
Speaker 2: one more Ques.
Speaker 3: Well, I guess whatever it is that we'll talk about,
Speaker 3: we can probably talk about next week.
Speaker 1: Hey, Fallon and Jenny.
Speaker 2: I'm someone who hasn't ever really had a lot of friends,
Speaker 2: but recently had a huge friend group, and over the
Speaker 2: past five years we've all kind of drifted apart. Some
Speaker 2: I'm super close with, others we catch up every few months.
Speaker 2: The one I'm super close with has a new bestie
Speaker 2: who she spends a lot of her time with and,
Speaker 2: much to my dismay, I'm jealous. How do you handle
Speaker 2: friendship jealousy and not being jealous when one of your
Speaker 2: friends is hanging out and you don't get an invite?
Speaker 2: Any tips on making more friends? My job is very lonely.
Speaker 2: I work from home, and my hobbies I enjoy don't
Speaker 2: really have events that I'm aware of. I'd like board games,
Speaker 2: watching sports, etc.
Speaker 1: Thank you.
Speaker 2: That's a tough one. I've definitely been jealous of friendships before.
Speaker 2: I don't know if there's any way to deal with
Speaker 2: it because it's kind of like watching your crush hit
Speaker 2: on someone else, but it's like totally worse because it's
Speaker 2: like your person you hang out with, is it something?
Speaker 2: Where do you get along with the other person? Can
Speaker 2: the three of you hang out?
Speaker 3: I was gonna ask about two like friends with other persons.
Speaker 2: If you're not getting invited, that's weird. But I would
Speaker 2: say then you have to almost put it on yourself
Speaker 2: and invite both of them, and maybe that increases the
Speaker 2: odds of you getting the invite hang out with them.
Speaker 2: I know I've had this happen too, though, where it's like, yeah,
Speaker 2: but I wanted to spend one on one time with
Speaker 2: my best friend. I don't want like the other person
Speaker 2: around all the time. I think guild just have to
Speaker 2: have a lo a little bit less of that. As
Speaker 2: far as making friends, that is, it is really hard.
Speaker 2: But I do think you could go because in the
Speaker 2: past she said she doesn't do that. In the past,
Speaker 2: we'd said, oh, you could join like a kickball, you
Speaker 2: can join this, but that's not what you're into. But
Speaker 2: I think there are lots of Facebook groups, so many
Speaker 2: for the things you're actually interested in, and I think
Speaker 2: you start commenting on there and maybe those groups have meetups.
Speaker 2: Like I think it's more common to have like board
Speaker 2: game nights at different like places or different things, and
Speaker 2: then maybe you meet a person through that who's a
Speaker 2: one off person or you just meet them through the
Speaker 2: Facebook group and you're like, hey, would.
Speaker 1: You ever want to like not in a weird way,
Speaker 1: you know, like.
Speaker 2: I just like, you know, I think a lot of
Speaker 2: people are seeking friendship, so not people aren't necessarily going
Speaker 2: to just jump to what a weirdo. And if they are,
Speaker 2: then maybe they're not your person. But it does take
Speaker 2: a lot of courage, Yeah, initiate that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I would say, I mean I know you're looking
Speaker 3: for friends, so maybe you don't even have people to
Speaker 3: like message about this. But I mean I have people
Speaker 3: message me sometimes like hey, let's get a coffee or
Speaker 3: whatever and like talk, and I'm always down for it,
Speaker 3: like I just I really am, usually because I'm also like,
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm at a very different phase in life
Speaker 3: right now, so I am down to do like more
Speaker 3: things than I would have if I wasn't single. Yeah,
Speaker 3: but I don't know, I think just asking someone for coffee,
Speaker 3: if you did meet them somehow, is a very chill,
Speaker 3: like non invasive kind of hang seck.
Speaker 1: Yes, agreed, So agreed.
Speaker 2: The beginning parts of the friendship are always awkward though,
Speaker 2: or you're like trying to get to that comfort level
Speaker 2: with people and is like you're on a first date.
Speaker 2: But also maybe you can just have a vulnerable conversation
Speaker 2: with your bestie of like, hey, I miss you and
Speaker 2: I miss us, and I'm totally down to hang out
Speaker 2: with this other person. And if they're really your best friend,
Speaker 2: I would hope that they would be like, dude, I
Speaker 2: don't want to leave you out. Like that doesn't mean
Speaker 2: that they're not going to do stuff with the other person.
Speaker 2: Without you obviously, but I would hope that if they
Speaker 2: were your best friend too, they would like be understanding
Speaker 2: and and I know that that's also a hard conversation
Speaker 2: to have.
Speaker 3: I know it is. It's like communication is key, they
Speaker 3: always say. I say, it's like you're in a relationship
Speaker 3: but you're not, and it's yeah, I don't I don't know,
Speaker 3: but I mean, good luck and let us know. Yeah,
Speaker 3: let us know goes before we end today. Can I
Speaker 3: just do my creepy DM of the week?
Speaker 1: Absolutely?
Speaker 3: Okay. It came from someone who the first message they
Speaker 3: ever sent is Jenny from katiewb is hot. That's nice.
Speaker 3: Now this is to me, so they're like talking to
Speaker 3: me and like.
Speaker 2: Thirdird person here or kind of well that's our third
Speaker 2: I don't remember, it's one of the persons. Third person
Speaker 2: maybe if you were saying it about yourself.
Speaker 3: Yeah, But then immediately followed up with you missed one
Speaker 3: hundred percent of the shots you don't take yep. So
Speaker 3: there's that. And then the next message came in when
Speaker 3: I had a video of me cuddling with a dog,
Speaker 3: and it said can I come cuddle with two finger
Speaker 3: emojis that point to each other like awkward whatever. Yep,
Speaker 3: So that is my creepy DM of the week that
Speaker 3: comes from Actually, I don't think i'll say names. Do
Speaker 3: you just too much?
Speaker 1: Are you gonna let them come cuddle?
Speaker 3: No? Okay, all right, I don't even open these messages
Speaker 3: so that they can see it. But I just want
Speaker 3: you all to know that I do see every message
Speaker 3: that comes in. It's not a matter. And like, if
Speaker 3: I accepted it, it will show as scene, right, but
Speaker 3: if I do not accept it, it will still shown
Speaker 3: as unseen. However, I've seen it. Okay, so I've seen it.
Speaker 3: I've screenshotted it, and it is now in a folder
Speaker 3: called creepy dim on my phone. So thank you for
Speaker 3: that one. That's the creepy DM of the week.
Speaker 1: But thank you. Have a great week, Thanks for listening.