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<v Speaker 1>Andenogy cancel so High Ecstasy, sag Cancelgema.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not Sorryogy. What's up? Positive bitches? How are we

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<v Speaker 2>doing today? If you're hearing this episode, then you are

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<v Speaker 2>meant to be here, So keep listening on that Bitch's

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<v Speaker 2>Positive Podcast. Sometimes we will laugh. Other times, Baby Girl,

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<v Speaker 2>We're gonna cry, but we will always walk away feeling

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<v Speaker 2>our most empowered positive bitch self. That is Babe in

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<v Speaker 2>true connection with herself. On this podcast, we unbecome who

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<v Speaker 2>we are not so we can fully step into exactly

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<v Speaker 2>who we came here to be. Today, we are going

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<v Speaker 2>to talk about how to go from miserable to magnetic,

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<v Speaker 2>how to d center all of the limiting beliefs we

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<v Speaker 2>have about day and put ourselves back on the pedestal,

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<v Speaker 2>and how to remember the truth about others in relation

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<v Speaker 2>to the self. I think a lot of us experience

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<v Speaker 2>dating burnout because we don't use our divine feminine power.

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<v Speaker 2>I think we are dropping our standards and our boundaries,

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<v Speaker 2>ignoring red flags and then getting mad that we didn't

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<v Speaker 2>read the writing on the wall. When people show us

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<v Speaker 2>exactly who they've been telling us that they were, there

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<v Speaker 2>are going to be many different people you experience that

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<v Speaker 2>teach you many different lessons. How we cultivate meaning around

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<v Speaker 2>those lessons will dictate how we feel. I'm going to

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<v Speaker 2>give you tips and tricks today on how to get

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<v Speaker 2>back into your magnetic energy so you don't allow other

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<v Speaker 2>people outside of you to control your mood, your feelings,

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<v Speaker 2>your day, your life. Because true being magnetic means that

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<v Speaker 2>we are in control of ourself. We are connected to ourselves,

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<v Speaker 2>not connected to the limiting beliefs and narratives that the

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<v Speaker 2>world wants us to believe are true. Before we get

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<v Speaker 2>into it, a couple of announcements. If you have not

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<v Speaker 2>yet joined Shadow Alchemy, you definitely want to join this course.

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<v Speaker 2>It is so powerful to finally take a stand over

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<v Speaker 2>your own life and take your power back, release the shame,

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<v Speaker 2>the limiting identities that other people have projected onto you.

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<v Speaker 2>If you're ready to magnetize towards you a better timeline,

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<v Speaker 2>if you're ready to fully step into your authentic self,

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<v Speaker 2>if you're ready to attract better people and opportunities, then

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<v Speaker 2>the Shadow Alchemy course is absolutely for you. There is

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<v Speaker 2>dynamic video lessons, there's an act devation through somatic healing,

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<v Speaker 2>also a meditation. You know I give you affirmations and

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<v Speaker 2>journal prompts and so much more. This link will be

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<v Speaker 2>in the show notes. If you're not yet following me

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<v Speaker 2>on Instagram at Vibe with CC, be sure to follow

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<v Speaker 2>me there. And of course, if you've not yet gotten

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<v Speaker 2>your copy of Show Up as Her, you can also

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<v Speaker 2>find these links in the show notes. If you are

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<v Speaker 2>wanting one on one guidance, I am a certified life

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<v Speaker 2>and energy coach and I do offer one on one coaching.

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<v Speaker 2>You can reach out to me on Instagram, send me

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<v Speaker 2>over a DM and I will respond back to you there. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>let's get into today's topic, because come on, my shirt

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<v Speaker 2>says yeha. So I just know it's going to be

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<v Speaker 2>a good episode. Someone asked, because I said on an

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<v Speaker 2>Instagram story, choose what chooses you? Someone asked, choose what

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<v Speaker 2>chooses you?

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<v Speaker 1>Back?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, Can you focus on this more? I think it

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<v Speaker 2>could be helpful for a lot. I feel like I

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<v Speaker 2>may be in a breadcrumbing situation, but also can't tell

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<v Speaker 2>if this is just a normal early casual dating communication

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm being needy or putting too many expectations on things.

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<v Speaker 2>It's so hard casually dating to find your partner oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I hear you. So just a little bit of information

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<v Speaker 2>on me. I was in a seven year ish relationship

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<v Speaker 2>and I've now been single for six months, and oh

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<v Speaker 2>my god, I'm loving life. I have to be honest,

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<v Speaker 2>I am loving it now. I've only been single for

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<v Speaker 2>six months. And I understand some of us are like,

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<v Speaker 2>I've been single for six years. Okay, all right, bitch,

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<v Speaker 2>tell me how I'm supposed to be happy about that. Look,

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<v Speaker 2>I get it. We're gonna talk about it. Okay, we're

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<v Speaker 2>gonna untangle it all. So when I got out of

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<v Speaker 2>my relationship, I went from someone texting me good morning

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<v Speaker 2>every single morning. I went from the security of knowing

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<v Speaker 2>this is my person to now, whoa, I'm in this

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<v Speaker 2>dating pool with a bunch of randoms. Who are you people?

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<v Speaker 2>And what are the rules? Again? And I found myself

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<v Speaker 2>in a similar situation, like, oh my god, they're not

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<v Speaker 2>texting me good morning every single morning. I don't understand

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<v Speaker 2>what is going on? Do they like me? Do they not?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't really get this dynamic. So here's my answer

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<v Speaker 2>for what's considered normal after six months. This is what

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<v Speaker 2>I found. Number One, it depends on who the person

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<v Speaker 2>is because I've had people who I was just getting

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<v Speaker 2>to know and they were texting me a paragraph good

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<v Speaker 2>morning and positive affirmations every single day. That was how

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<v Speaker 2>they communicated. Then I've had people who I was getting

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<v Speaker 2>to know, who I've hung out with, and they also

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<v Speaker 2>were so much about me when we were together, and

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<v Speaker 2>when we did talk on the phone or something, they

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<v Speaker 2>were very interested in the conversation, asking me a million questions.

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<v Speaker 2>I could tell they were into me, but they didn't

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<v Speaker 2>text me every single day, and they weren't sending me

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<v Speaker 2>a paragraph every single morning. So the number one thing

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<v Speaker 2>we have to understand is different people have different communication styles.

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<v Speaker 2>To know thyself is the golden key. You have to

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<v Speaker 2>know what you want and what you need, because what

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<v Speaker 2>you want and what you need you can absolutely have.

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<v Speaker 2>There are people who have similar communication styles to you,

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<v Speaker 2>but it's just up to you to know what is

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<v Speaker 2>it that I really want a need for me personally,

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<v Speaker 2>it sounds good as a concept to have someone texting

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<v Speaker 2>me a paragraph of affirmations every single morning, and it

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<v Speaker 2>was nice. However, I found it to be a lot.

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<v Speaker 2>I prefer my partner to be busier. I don't want

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<v Speaker 2>them to have that much time that they can send

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<v Speaker 2>me a huge paragraph every single morning reciting parables from

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<v Speaker 2>the Bible. I okay, great energy, but I just think

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<v Speaker 2>as a man, as a grown man, adult, as an

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<v Speaker 2>adult man specimen. I would really hope you have other

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<v Speaker 2>things going on that you don't have the time to

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<v Speaker 2>do that. For me, that was a lot, but maybe

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<v Speaker 2>for someone else they would like. You know what, I

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<v Speaker 2>wish I could do everyone who I meet who I'm like, uh,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not really into this. I kind of just want

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<v Speaker 2>to like post them onto my Instagram and be like, Okay, everyone,

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<v Speaker 2>here are the attributes this person has. This is what

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<v Speaker 2>they look like. Who wantsome.

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<v Speaker 1>Like?

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<v Speaker 2>I would love to do that because I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>I'm meeting amazing men. They're just not for me. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>just not really, I don't know, not inspired. So that's

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<v Speaker 2>why I'm not in a relationship yet. But I do

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<v Speaker 2>wish I could just share them with you guys and

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<v Speaker 2>be like, Hello, does anyone want this person? Do I

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<v Speaker 2>do that one day, like a little mini matchmaking series.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll think about this anyway. So she's asking are bread

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<v Speaker 2>crumbing me? Or is this normal? Let me tell you

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<v Speaker 2>what I personally think is normal. You start talking to someone,

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<v Speaker 2>whether you meet them at a bar or on a

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<v Speaker 2>dating app, and you text a couple of times a week.

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<v Speaker 2>That is probably how it's gonna be for the first

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<v Speaker 2>couple of weeks, Like week one, then you hang out once,

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<v Speaker 2>Week two, you hang out once, Week three, you hang

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<v Speaker 2>out once. Probably around week four you're hanging out once

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<v Speaker 2>to twice, and you're gonna start texting more, not just

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<v Speaker 2>a couple of times a week, but maybe like most

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<v Speaker 2>of the week, there should be some sort of phone

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<v Speaker 2>call in. There doesn't have to be every day, but again,

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<v Speaker 2>it depends on you and that person. I've had situations

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<v Speaker 2>where I didn't even meet them yet because I met

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<v Speaker 2>them off of an app and they were calling me

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<v Speaker 2>every single day and we would be on the phone

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<v Speaker 2>for like an hour. Then I had other situations where

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<v Speaker 2>I actually liked the person more and we only talked

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<v Speaker 2>a couple of times during the week, but we would

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<v Speaker 2>have amazing dates. When you're casually dating, I don't think

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<v Speaker 2>it's necessary that you talk to this person for three

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<v Speaker 2>hours every single day. I think it kind of, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know, like takes away the magic. You're just getting

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<v Speaker 2>to know this person and you're never gonna have this

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<v Speaker 2>season ever again, where you're just getting to know them.

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<v Speaker 2>Eventually you're gonna know everything about them, like they are

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<v Speaker 2>the back of your hand. So really revel in the

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<v Speaker 2>season and respect the season for what it is. This

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<v Speaker 2>is a season of you getting to know them. So

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<v Speaker 2>if for the first month you're talking a couple of

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<v Speaker 2>times a week and at least hanging out once a week,

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<v Speaker 2>that's fine. The second month, maybe you're hanging out once

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<v Speaker 2>or twice a week, but you're talking more. What I

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<v Speaker 2>would say you want to look out for is every

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<v Speaker 2>time you end a date, is there an another date

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<v Speaker 2>lined up? Are they saying I want to see you

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<v Speaker 2>again and planning it, because those are all green flags.

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<v Speaker 2>Green flags are texting a couple times a week or more,

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<v Speaker 2>seeing each other once a week at first or more,

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<v Speaker 2>but always making sure that this person is saying and

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<v Speaker 2>I want to see you again and putting it on

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<v Speaker 2>the calendar. I have to be honest. I'm not someone

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<v Speaker 2>who's like I hate men, I love men, I love women,

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<v Speaker 2>I love everyone. There are good and bad people across

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<v Speaker 2>the board. That's just life. When a man wants to

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<v Speaker 2>see you again, it's very obvious he tells you men

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<v Speaker 2>are not complex creatures. They really aren't. Women are complex.

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<v Speaker 2>We are complex. We are decoding everything we're thinking about yesterday,

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<v Speaker 2>tomorrow and the present moment. We are much more complex creatures.

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<v Speaker 2>We are drawing connections where maybe there really aren't any.

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<v Speaker 2>Men are really simple. If they like you, you will

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<v Speaker 2>know they will call you, they will text you, they

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<v Speaker 2>will make a plan to see you. These men who

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<v Speaker 2>never actually make a solid plan to see you are

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<v Speaker 2>just using you for entertainment, unplug or their avoidance or

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<v Speaker 2>who cares. It doesn't matter. If they're not sending a

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<v Speaker 2>date to see you, it's not real. Oh my god,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if I said this. The amount of

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<v Speaker 2>men who are like you are my wife and then

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<v Speaker 2>show no action that I am their wife is astonishing.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't know this is how men spoke to women now.

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<v Speaker 2>They just tell you they want to marry you off

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<v Speaker 2>the bat, but then do no action in accordance to that.

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<v Speaker 2>Words really don't matter. If their words align with their

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<v Speaker 2>action and both are good, then fine. But words don't matter.

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<v Speaker 2>Look for action. Are they calling you? Are they texting you?

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<v Speaker 2>Are they planning a date? You'll know they're breadcrumbing you

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<v Speaker 2>if they're never planning to actually see you, and if

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<v Speaker 2>they're not seeing you at least once a week, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't care how busy someone is. I know men who

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<v Speaker 2>are in very high powered, high stress jobs, and they

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<v Speaker 2>are texting or calling their women in between meetings. They're

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<v Speaker 2>checking in with their family in between meetings. That is

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<v Speaker 2>be as if they try to tell you anything besides that.

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<v Speaker 2>I also think if you're dating someone and you want

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<v Speaker 2>it to go somewhere and you're not getting enough communication,

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<v Speaker 2>there's nothing wrong with saying something. The squeaky wheel gets

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<v Speaker 2>the grease. I was dating someone who would text me

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<v Speaker 2>a couple of times a week, but we were getting

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<v Speaker 2>to a point where I needed more communication if he

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<v Speaker 2>wanted me to like him. Because here's the thing. You

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<v Speaker 2>really are the prize as the divine feminine. If people

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<v Speaker 2>want to say that's not the truth, Okay, die mad,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know what to tell you. That's the truth.

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<v Speaker 2>You are the prize. You are the portal to other dimensions.

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<v Speaker 2>You are what makes a house a home. You really

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<v Speaker 2>bring energy into a divine masculine life that other masculine

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<v Speaker 2>energies cannot bring. Okay. The way I think about it,

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<v Speaker 2>and this is a mindset shift. This is a magnetic

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<v Speaker 2>mindset shift for you to adopt, to go from miserable

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<v Speaker 2>to magnetic. This is what I want you to think.

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<v Speaker 2>This is not about me needing this person to do

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<v Speaker 2>or text me or say something. If they want me

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<v Speaker 2>to like them, they need to pursue me. They need

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<v Speaker 2>to court me. They need to make me interested in them.

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<v Speaker 2>Because here's the thing. This person wasn't really texting me

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<v Speaker 2>or calling me. And I literally told him, look, if

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<v Speaker 2>an effort in communication or else I don't really remember

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<v Speaker 2>that you exist. And I didn't say it exactly like that.

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<v Speaker 2>I just said, we rarely talk, and you know it's

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<v Speaker 2>hard for me to connect if we rarely talk. So

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<v Speaker 2>if you do want this to go somewhere, I think

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<v Speaker 2>we need more communication. During the week, he heard me,

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<v Speaker 2>and he put it and more effort and more communication.

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<v Speaker 2>Some people just don't have the same communication style or

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<v Speaker 2>skill as you. Some people just don't know what to

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<v Speaker 2>do because everyone's so scared nowadays. It makes me sick.

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<v Speaker 2>I have to say, it makes me sick, how like scared?

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<v Speaker 2>Some I can't even call the men boys are to

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<v Speaker 2>communicate and put an effort?

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<v Speaker 1>What is that? What is that? What?

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<v Speaker 2>Sorry? I am like an animal. When I want something,

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<v Speaker 2>I absolutely go for it. I'm never going to pursue

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<v Speaker 2>a man because vomit in my mouth. But when there's

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<v Speaker 2>something in my life that I want, I go for it.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's the only kind of behavior I would ever

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<v Speaker 2>allow near me, because whatever you allow, you amplify. So

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<v Speaker 2>if someone isn't really communicating with you and you want more,

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<v Speaker 2>there's nothing wrong with saying, hey, if you want this

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<v Speaker 2>to go somewhere, I definitely need more communication, or else

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<v Speaker 2>they don't really feel connected to our relationship. And if

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<v Speaker 2>they can't raise the level of communication after you communicated

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<v Speaker 2>what you need, then they're just not for you. They're

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<v Speaker 2>not that interested, or it's just not a good match

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<v Speaker 2>of communication style and personality type. But I do think

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<v Speaker 2>it's important either way to remember if they are the

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<v Speaker 2>masculine energy, they need to be the one to really

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<v Speaker 2>show you that they want you. They're gonna do what

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<v Speaker 2>they have to do to get you, and they're giving

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<v Speaker 2>you energy they're gonna pursue to you. The masculine energy

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<v Speaker 2>is a giver and the feminine energy is the receiver.

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<v Speaker 2>So if you're not sure whether someone is pursuing you

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<v Speaker 2>or not, they're just a friend, that's it. If you're

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<v Speaker 2>not sure if they're breadcrumbing you, pursuing you, texting, you

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<v Speaker 2>don't know what it is. They are a homie, they

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<v Speaker 2>are a friend. They are just a fellow human. That's all.

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<v Speaker 1>You do.

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<v Speaker 2>Not give someone a type all that they do not deserve.

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<v Speaker 2>They have to earn their place in your life, and you,

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<v Speaker 2>on the other hand, should not be overplaying your part

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<v Speaker 2>in their life. Give people space to show you who

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<v Speaker 2>they are. If they're not texting you, let them show

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<v Speaker 2>you that. If they're not reaching out to you, let

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<v Speaker 2>them show you that. You will not be confused when

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<v Speaker 2>there's courtship. You will not be confused when there's actual

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<v Speaker 2>courtship happening. You will know based on how they look

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<v Speaker 2>at you, how they respond to you, and how they

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<v Speaker 2>plan dates with you. So is texting every day of

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<v Speaker 2>the utmost importance. No, Actually, what I think is actually

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<v Speaker 2>important is them setting into action plans to see you. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>that's at the beginning. If at three months you're not

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<v Speaker 2>really talking every day, that I would say is weird.

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<v Speaker 2>Now that's weird. Three months into it, you should be

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<v Speaker 2>talking on a daily basis. We should now kind of

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<v Speaker 2>be getting to a place of what are we because

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<v Speaker 2>maybe you needed three months to get to know one another,

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<v Speaker 2>but now it's like, all right, are we gonna be

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<v Speaker 2>girlfriend and boyfriend or are we going separate ways? What's happening?

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<v Speaker 2>If you don't know what you are at five months,

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<v Speaker 2>that is not cute. I don't like that means that

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<v Speaker 2>person isn't serious, and just cut it off. The only

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<v Speaker 2>thing worse than being in a situationship for a year

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<v Speaker 2>is being in a situationship for a year and one day. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>so just cut it off. If they don't know what

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<v Speaker 2>they want, you don't know what it is, just get

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<v Speaker 2>out of there. But I really do think this is

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<v Speaker 2>so much simpler than we think because men are pretty simple.

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<v Speaker 2>They're pretty simple. If they want to see you, they'll

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<v Speaker 2>say that. If they're interested in getting to know you more,

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<v Speaker 2>they'll say that. If they want to speak to you,

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<v Speaker 2>they will. If you're not sure, and you guys are

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<v Speaker 2>seeing each other and there is a bit of texting,

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<v Speaker 2>say something you have to communicate. You're wanting them to communicate,

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<v Speaker 2>but you won't even communicate. So take autonomy and use

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<v Speaker 2>your free will where you can and say something, but

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<v Speaker 2>not in a blamey way. You never text me manmute. No,

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<v Speaker 2>that's naggy and that's annoying, just in a hey, if

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<v Speaker 2>you want this to continue, I definitely need more communication

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<v Speaker 2>because that's how I feel connected to someone. Another question is, please,

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<v Speaker 2>please please, for one of your podcasts, can you talk

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<v Speaker 2>about not falling back into chaser energy. I'm having a

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<v Speaker 2>terrible time with a guy I was seeing, and now

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<v Speaker 2>he just keeps coming in and out. And I always

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<v Speaker 2>think I've got a grip on my self concept, but

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<v Speaker 2>the minute he pops up, I fall back into chaser

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<v Speaker 2>energy and he goes off again. Whatever you allow, you amplify.

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<v Speaker 2>If you keep allowing someone to come in and out

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<v Speaker 2>of your life, you are amplifying that behavior. You are

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<v Speaker 2>positively reinforcing. You're allowed to leave and then you're allowed

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<v Speaker 2>to come back. You need to take accountability for what

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<v Speaker 2>you're doing in this dynamic. This person is not playing you.

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<v Speaker 2>They're not playing you because they have not only told

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<v Speaker 2>you I'm sure, but they literally show you who they are.

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<v Speaker 2>And you're still like it's fine, and it's dandy, keep

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<v Speaker 2>going in and out. You need to take responsibility, put

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<v Speaker 2>up a boundary. Hey, look, I'm not interested in this

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<v Speaker 2>dynamic of on again, off again. It is boring to me.

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<v Speaker 2>The best thing you can tell them is, look, this

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<v Speaker 2>is a turnoff. I'm turned off by inconsistency. I personally,

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<v Speaker 2>here's another magnetic mindset shift. I am not turned on

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<v Speaker 2>by nonchalant men. I'm sorry. I have a love for

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<v Speaker 2>ancient architecture. I love poetry, I read philosophy. I will not,

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, I will not allow a nonchalant man

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<v Speaker 2>in my orbit, because you know what that would do

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<v Speaker 2>to my energy. It would suck it out, and it

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<v Speaker 2>would kill it, kill it, kill it. I am a

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<v Speaker 2>deep feeler. I'm a deep lover. I always say this.

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<v Speaker 2>I have absolutely no riz. I just have huge eyes

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<v Speaker 2>and very unsettling things to say. I know myself again,

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<v Speaker 2>that's golden key. Know thyself, because then you can know

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<v Speaker 2>what thyself wants. I know myself, and I know that

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<v Speaker 2>a nonchalant man would make my anxiety skyrocket. Okay, if

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<v Speaker 2>you know that, you are a lover girl. You love poetry,

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<v Speaker 2>you love reading, you love architecture, you love to pretend

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<v Speaker 2>that you're a Victorian princess. The nonchalant man who's on again,

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<v Speaker 2>off again is not your person. That is not your person.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not just about who we have chemistry with. It's

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<v Speaker 2>who's gonna be a good partner to me and for me?

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<v Speaker 2>Who does this person allow me to be If someone

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<v Speaker 2>comes in and out of your life and they're activating

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<v Speaker 2>the anxious, needy version of you, that's not a good

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<v Speaker 2>partner for you. I don't care if you have chemistry

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<v Speaker 2>with them, because chemistry means nothing. I can have chemistry

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<v Speaker 2>with the mailman, it doesn't mean I have to marry them.

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<v Speaker 2>You're going to have chemistry with people because they remind

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<v Speaker 2>you of trauma you've had in your past. You're gonna

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<v Speaker 2>have chemistry with people because sometimes they're coming in to

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<v Speaker 2>clear a karmic cord. You're gonna sometimes just have chemistry

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<v Speaker 2>with people, but that doesn't mean that they are your

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<v Speaker 2>soul mate. There's a difference between chemistry, chemicals going off

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<v Speaker 2>in your head, and a cosmic connection someone who's from

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<v Speaker 2>a past life and who's gonna be a good partner

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<v Speaker 2>to you in this one. Chemistry will make you feel oooo.

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<v Speaker 2>You're gonna have so much emotion for them, but you

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<v Speaker 2>don't even know them. They're gonna make you feel like

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<v Speaker 2>you are a firework. It's gonna be intense and hot

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<v Speaker 2>and heavy and then extremely cold within the same amount

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<v Speaker 2>of time. You don't want a microwave. You want to

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<v Speaker 2>slower burn. A slow burn allows you to feel safe

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<v Speaker 2>with that person. It's a good sign that it's a

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<v Speaker 2>cosmic connection rather than chemistry, and it will allow you

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<v Speaker 2>to build a partnership, create something together that's more than

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<v Speaker 2>just chemistry. It's gonna allow you to cultivate. It's something

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<v Speaker 2>that's long lasting. So really, you have so much power

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<v Speaker 2>in this dynamic. You just keep allowing them to come

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<v Speaker 2>in and out. If you say, I'm not doing this

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<v Speaker 2>anymore because it's a turn off. Again, this person's supposed

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<v Speaker 2>to be convincing you, courting you, showing you that they're

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<v Speaker 2>the one, they're just showing you that they have zero

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<v Speaker 2>capacity to be in a real relationship. Why are you

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<v Speaker 2>wanting that? Why are you allowing that? That's what I

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<v Speaker 2>want to know. Flip the script. Instead of asking yourself

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<v Speaker 2>why don't they like me? Why are they coming in

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<v Speaker 2>and out? Say why do I want someone who's like this.

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<v Speaker 2>Why do I want someone who comes in and out?

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<v Speaker 2>Switch the subject of your sentence with the object and

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<v Speaker 2>make yourself the subject again? Why do I want someone

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<v Speaker 2>who comes in and out not? Why do they come

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<v Speaker 2>in and out of my life? Why do I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like I have to prove myself to them? Why do

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<v Speaker 2>I want to prove myself to them?

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<v Speaker 1>Huh?

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<v Speaker 2>Could this be about the dynamic I have with the caregivers?

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<v Speaker 2>I crave love from the most? Is actually just reminding

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<v Speaker 2>me about the dynamic I have with my dad? And

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<v Speaker 2>now I'm trying to master that dynamic to prove to

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<v Speaker 2>myself that I'm worthy of love. Could that be the

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<v Speaker 2>real reason?

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<v Speaker 1>Uh?

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<v Speaker 2>Duh, duh. It's not about them, It's not about them,

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<v Speaker 2>It's not about the dude. It's about the dynamic the

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<v Speaker 2>dude allows you to have. But you know what you

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<v Speaker 2>have free will, And if you want to go from

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<v Speaker 2>miserable to magnetic, you got to flip the script and

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<v Speaker 2>you have to say, my power is in my present moment.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't care what I allowed in the past. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not going to allow this to go on for one

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<v Speaker 2>second longer. Tell them it's to turn off, Do not

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<v Speaker 2>allow them back into your life and refocus on you.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't understand why anyone thinks nonchalant men or men

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<v Speaker 2>who are not courting us is attractive. Uh, what are

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<v Speaker 2>you serving me? Silence? I can just go on a walk.

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<v Speaker 2>What are you adding to my life? Confusion? No, thank you?

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<v Speaker 2>If you are not uplifting my life in any way,

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<v Speaker 2>why would I allow you into it? And that's just

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<v Speaker 2>intimate relationships, that's friendships, that's business partnerships, that's anything. If

416
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<v Speaker 2>someone is not making your life better, why why are

417
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<v Speaker 2>you allowing them into it? If you're having trouble setting

418
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<v Speaker 2>boundaries with other people, I highly recommend you join the

419
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<v Speaker 2>Pedestal Path course and you get the Divine Feminine Healing Workbook.

420
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<v Speaker 2>In the Divine Feminine Healing Workbook, I literally give you

421
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<v Speaker 2>a script for how to set boundaries and will also

422
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<v Speaker 2>help you activate your dark divine feminine, which will empower

423
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<v Speaker 2>you to choose yourself instead of choosing people who are

424
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<v Speaker 2>nonchalant and are not choosing you. The Pedestal Path course

425
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<v Speaker 2>will help you understand why you're attracted to certain dynamics.

426
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<v Speaker 2>It will help you regulate your nervous system, and it's

427
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<v Speaker 2>also going to help you place yourself back on the pedestal,

428
00:24:50.960 --> 00:24:56.000
<v Speaker 2>decentering the people who refuse to center you, because really,

429
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<v Speaker 2>this is not about other people. This is about you.

430
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<v Speaker 2>It's about the dynamics you're attracting. You do have so

431
00:25:04.680 --> 00:25:09.440
<v Speaker 2>much power, and honestly, no one's that great, no one's

432
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<v Speaker 2>that interesting, and no one is worth you betraying yourself.

433
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<v Speaker 2>No one is worth it. I really think it's so

434
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<v Speaker 2>important that you recognize your own self worth and what

435
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<v Speaker 2>you embody. And if you feel like CC, I don't

436
00:25:29.079 --> 00:25:31.279
<v Speaker 2>really know my self worth, okay, you need to take

437
00:25:31.319 --> 00:25:34.079
<v Speaker 2>the shadow Alchemy course so that you can release the

438
00:25:34.200 --> 00:25:39.359
<v Speaker 2>shame and cultivate the confidence. I just hate to see

439
00:25:39.480 --> 00:25:44.559
<v Speaker 2>us playing ourselves because really a lot of these people

440
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<v Speaker 2>out here, they're not making the plans with you. They're

441
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<v Speaker 2>not texting you, they're not calling you, they're not pursuing you.

442
00:25:52.119 --> 00:25:55.279
<v Speaker 2>They're saying they're in transition, they're not ready for a relationship,

443
00:25:55.400 --> 00:25:58.279
<v Speaker 2>and we're thinking we can convince them. But that's not

444
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<v Speaker 2>how men operate. They don't operate like that. They know

445
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<v Speaker 2>relatively soon early whether or not they want to pursue

446
00:26:09.640 --> 00:26:14.400
<v Speaker 2>a relationship with you, if it's not blatantly obvious that

447
00:26:14.519 --> 00:26:19.240
<v Speaker 2>they're pursuing you. They probably aren't. And maybe that sounds harsh,

448
00:26:19.319 --> 00:26:21.480
<v Speaker 2>but I'd rather you have a tough pill to swallow

449
00:26:21.599 --> 00:26:25.680
<v Speaker 2>now than choke later. No one is worth you getting

450
00:26:25.759 --> 00:26:29.799
<v Speaker 2>anxious and confused and upset because they're just not the

451
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<v Speaker 2>right person for you. And also, if you are begging

452
00:26:34.119 --> 00:26:38.079
<v Speaker 2>a man to give you attention and love and affection

453
00:26:38.319 --> 00:26:44.240
<v Speaker 2>and communication, just take yourself outside of your body for

454
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<v Speaker 2>a moment. Aren't you giving yourself the ick right now?

455
00:26:52.000 --> 00:26:54.440
<v Speaker 2>Like I beg for a man to love me one

456
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<v Speaker 2>time hard, I look back and I'm like, what was that.

457
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<v Speaker 2>I send her grace and love and patience and compassion,

458
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<v Speaker 2>but oh my god, I would never do that again.

459
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<v Speaker 1>That was so.

460
00:27:07.440 --> 00:27:16.200
<v Speaker 2>Dehumanizing, horrifying. IW me me begging for a man? Well,

461
00:27:19.799 --> 00:27:23.440
<v Speaker 2>I can't, I truly can't. And if you're doing that,

462
00:27:23.680 --> 00:27:26.000
<v Speaker 2>I need you to get the ick about that situation,

463
00:27:27.319 --> 00:27:29.480
<v Speaker 2>because us women, when we get the ick, we are

464
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<v Speaker 2>icked out. By the way, let's talk about the ick.

465
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<v Speaker 2>You know what the ick is. The itch is when

466
00:27:34.720 --> 00:27:37.960
<v Speaker 2>our intuition hits and as soon as it hits, us

467
00:27:38.039 --> 00:27:41.160
<v Speaker 2>women have the amazing ability to be like and I'm

468
00:27:41.200 --> 00:27:44.000
<v Speaker 2>done with him and I don't want him anymore, and

469
00:27:44.119 --> 00:27:45.960
<v Speaker 2>I am done. I want you to get the ick

470
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<v Speaker 2>about the behavior of begging for a man to love

471
00:27:48.279 --> 00:27:53.680
<v Speaker 2>you or like you, because that is roles are so reverse. There,

472
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<v Speaker 2>the divine feminine is the most magnetic, most attractive, most powerful.

473
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<v Speaker 2>When she says on her pedestal, allowing in the masculine's energy.

474
00:28:05.039 --> 00:28:07.680
<v Speaker 2>The masculine is meant to be the pursuer. The egg

475
00:28:07.759 --> 00:28:10.359
<v Speaker 2>swims to the sperm. It's literally science. Get it through

476
00:28:10.359 --> 00:28:13.079
<v Speaker 2>your head. Get it through your head, and get icked

477
00:28:13.119 --> 00:28:15.200
<v Speaker 2>out that you would ever sit around and wait for

478
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<v Speaker 2>a man ew ew. Get picked out that you would

479
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<v Speaker 2>ever sit around and beg for a man ew get

480
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<v Speaker 2>icked out that you would ever try to convince someone

481
00:28:24.680 --> 00:28:27.079
<v Speaker 2>or manipulate yourself so that they like you.

482
00:28:28.039 --> 00:28:28.279
<v Speaker 1>Ew.

483
00:28:29.400 --> 00:28:31.880
<v Speaker 2>Get icked out at that behavior, not at yourself. You

484
00:28:32.000 --> 00:28:34.759
<v Speaker 2>were just a woman who didn't know any better. But

485
00:28:34.920 --> 00:28:37.480
<v Speaker 2>get icked out at that behavior because you can never

486
00:28:37.559 --> 00:28:42.200
<v Speaker 2>do that again. No, no, because your soulmate, the right

487
00:28:42.279 --> 00:28:44.640
<v Speaker 2>person for you, isn't going to require you to beg

488
00:28:44.759 --> 00:28:47.319
<v Speaker 2>them to love you. The right person for you isn't

489
00:28:47.400 --> 00:28:50.359
<v Speaker 2>going to require you to manipulate yourself for them to

490
00:28:50.440 --> 00:28:52.920
<v Speaker 2>love you. The right person for you is not gonna

491
00:28:53.200 --> 00:28:59.240
<v Speaker 2>require you to abandon yourself to love you. You begging

492
00:28:59.279 --> 00:29:02.279
<v Speaker 2>someone to love you, giving them more energy than they're

493
00:29:02.319 --> 00:29:04.960
<v Speaker 2>giving you, you're gonna end up resenting them and hating yourself.

494
00:29:05.240 --> 00:29:06.759
<v Speaker 2>So I would cut that out if I were you.

495
00:29:07.119 --> 00:29:09.440
<v Speaker 2>But ultimately, that's just a sign that they are not yours.

496
00:29:09.640 --> 00:29:12.240
<v Speaker 2>And I feel like every time someone isn't the right

497
00:29:12.279 --> 00:29:14.839
<v Speaker 2>person for me, or someone breaks my heart, I just

498
00:29:14.920 --> 00:29:18.960
<v Speaker 2>get more excited for my soulmate because if I liked

499
00:29:19.119 --> 00:29:22.279
<v Speaker 2>this person and they're not it, and you can't lose

500
00:29:22.319 --> 00:29:26.720
<v Speaker 2>what's not yours and everything only gets better. Then if

501
00:29:26.839 --> 00:29:29.720
<v Speaker 2>they weren't that bad, my actual partner is gonna be

502
00:29:29.799 --> 00:29:32.440
<v Speaker 2>freaking amazing. I can't wait for that. That's so exciting.

503
00:29:34.200 --> 00:29:36.839
<v Speaker 2>Someone also said there this is a big general question.

504
00:29:37.240 --> 00:29:39.799
<v Speaker 2>What does casually dating multiple people look like when you're

505
00:29:39.839 --> 00:29:44.880
<v Speaker 2>trying to find the one. I understand that a lot

506
00:29:45.000 --> 00:29:49.559
<v Speaker 2>of us are wanting to find the one, but sometimes

507
00:29:49.640 --> 00:29:52.319
<v Speaker 2>I feel like that limits us because we're going out

508
00:29:52.400 --> 00:29:53.799
<v Speaker 2>and we're thinking I have to find the one. I

509
00:29:53.880 --> 00:29:57.559
<v Speaker 2>have to find the one. Now you're stressed out, you're

510
00:29:57.640 --> 00:30:00.880
<v Speaker 2>not in your authentic energy, and you're looking outside of

511
00:30:00.960 --> 00:30:04.440
<v Speaker 2>yourself if you want to go from miserable to magnetic

512
00:30:04.559 --> 00:30:08.039
<v Speaker 2>and find the one, instead of having the intention of

513
00:30:08.119 --> 00:30:10.559
<v Speaker 2>finding the one, finding the one, finding the one, can

514
00:30:10.680 --> 00:30:14.319
<v Speaker 2>you intend to enjoy the season you're in. Can you

515
00:30:14.480 --> 00:30:17.079
<v Speaker 2>intend to have fun in the skin that you're in.

516
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<v Speaker 2>Can you intend to have patience and allow Divinity to

517
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<v Speaker 2>do its thing to bring you your best partner. I've

518
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<v Speaker 2>been reading a lot about this mystical community called the

519
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<v Speaker 2>Scenes that Jesus and the Blessed Mother Mary were a

520
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<v Speaker 2>part of in Jesus's lost years. And in this community

521
00:30:39.799 --> 00:30:44.720
<v Speaker 2>it was the elders who would match make couples based

522
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<v Speaker 2>on their energy and their astrology. And it was said

523
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<v Speaker 2>that the Blessed Mother Mary was one of these matchmakers

524
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<v Speaker 2>and actually match Jesus with Mary Magdalene. And what you

525
00:31:00.640 --> 00:31:03.480
<v Speaker 2>can do if you do want to call in the one,

526
00:31:04.680 --> 00:31:08.480
<v Speaker 2>you can call on the Blessed Mother Mary to help

527
00:31:08.559 --> 00:31:14.000
<v Speaker 2>awaken your soulmate and to begin to close the gap

528
00:31:14.039 --> 00:31:18.319
<v Speaker 2>between you and your soulmate. Call on divine assistance, because

529
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<v Speaker 2>so many of us are relying on only ourself to

530
00:31:21.480 --> 00:31:25.720
<v Speaker 2>find the one, when your higher self and their higher

531
00:31:25.799 --> 00:31:28.559
<v Speaker 2>self have already made some sort of plan for you

532
00:31:28.720 --> 00:31:31.960
<v Speaker 2>to meet. If you want to make this plan move

533
00:31:32.079 --> 00:31:34.319
<v Speaker 2>a bit more efficiently, if you want it to be

534
00:31:34.400 --> 00:31:37.359
<v Speaker 2>a bit more seamless. It doesn't matter what religion you are.

535
00:31:37.759 --> 00:31:41.599
<v Speaker 2>Call on the Blessed Mother Mary to start collapsing the

536
00:31:41.680 --> 00:31:46.480
<v Speaker 2>gap between you and your soulmate now. While you're doing this,

537
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<v Speaker 2>the other part of this is there is a reason

538
00:31:50.400 --> 00:31:52.680
<v Speaker 2>your soulmate's not in front of you right now. They

539
00:31:52.839 --> 00:31:55.079
<v Speaker 2>may still have some things they need to work on,

540
00:31:55.759 --> 00:31:58.079
<v Speaker 2>and you may have some things you need to work on.

541
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<v Speaker 2>So while you're asking either the Blessed Mother or your

542
00:32:01.680 --> 00:32:04.480
<v Speaker 2>spirit guides to close the gap between you and your soulmate,

543
00:32:04.559 --> 00:32:06.519
<v Speaker 2>I also want you to ask them the question, and

544
00:32:06.640 --> 00:32:08.640
<v Speaker 2>what do I need to focus on during this season?

545
00:32:09.400 --> 00:32:12.519
<v Speaker 2>What do I need to work on cultivating? What do

546
00:32:12.839 --> 00:32:16.440
<v Speaker 2>I need to work on growing within myself? What area

547
00:32:16.599 --> 00:32:20.359
<v Speaker 2>of my life needs my energy? If your person was

548
00:32:20.480 --> 00:32:22.720
<v Speaker 2>meant to be here right now, I truly think they

549
00:32:22.759 --> 00:32:26.799
<v Speaker 2>would be And I'll use myself for an example. I'm

550
00:32:26.960 --> 00:32:30.960
<v Speaker 2>not in a serious relationship right now because I truly

551
00:32:31.079 --> 00:32:34.319
<v Speaker 2>believe that in this season I'm meant to be pouring

552
00:32:34.440 --> 00:32:38.680
<v Speaker 2>into myself. I truly believe my main focus right now

553
00:32:38.920 --> 00:32:41.920
<v Speaker 2>is meant to be me. One day I will be

554
00:32:42.000 --> 00:32:45.359
<v Speaker 2>in a committed relationship with a family, and I will

555
00:32:45.480 --> 00:32:49.200
<v Speaker 2>never have this much me time to focus on my

556
00:32:50.400 --> 00:32:54.519
<v Speaker 2>mission that God has bestowed upon me. I'm never going

557
00:32:54.599 --> 00:32:56.640
<v Speaker 2>to have this much time to pump out the content

558
00:32:57.039 --> 00:33:01.000
<v Speaker 2>to connect, to create courses. I'm never gonna have this

559
00:33:01.079 --> 00:33:04.759
<v Speaker 2>much time because right now my responsibility is basically just

560
00:33:04.960 --> 00:33:07.720
<v Speaker 2>me and some other familial stuff, but basically just me.

561
00:33:09.000 --> 00:33:11.799
<v Speaker 2>So I when I talk to the blessed Mother Mary,

562
00:33:12.000 --> 00:33:14.759
<v Speaker 2>I always say, and what should I be focusing on

563
00:33:14.920 --> 00:33:19.039
<v Speaker 2>right now? And for me, it's health, it's abundance, it's

564
00:33:19.160 --> 00:33:22.160
<v Speaker 2>my mission, it's my creativity, and it's connecting to God,

565
00:33:24.079 --> 00:33:28.960
<v Speaker 2>really being disciplined with my spirituality. There is something in

566
00:33:29.119 --> 00:33:31.519
<v Speaker 2>your current season that you're meant to be looking at.

567
00:33:32.200 --> 00:33:35.559
<v Speaker 2>Look at it, look at it, lean into it. And

568
00:33:35.680 --> 00:33:38.039
<v Speaker 2>it doesn't mean you stop dating. It doesn't mean that

569
00:33:38.160 --> 00:33:41.200
<v Speaker 2>you stop having the desire for wanting that person. It

570
00:33:41.400 --> 00:33:44.079
<v Speaker 2>just means that you release some of the resistance around it.

571
00:33:44.480 --> 00:33:46.960
<v Speaker 2>Because if you're only looking for your person, that's so

572
00:33:47.119 --> 00:33:49.920
<v Speaker 2>much anxiety, that's so much resistance. But when you say,

573
00:33:50.000 --> 00:33:51.759
<v Speaker 2>and what do I need to be working on right now?

574
00:33:52.160 --> 00:33:54.480
<v Speaker 2>You put yourself back on your pedestal. It's a magnetic

575
00:33:54.559 --> 00:33:58.799
<v Speaker 2>mindset shift, and you now release the resistance and make

576
00:33:59.000 --> 00:34:02.279
<v Speaker 2>room for you, your person to come in. Think about

577
00:34:02.400 --> 00:34:05.920
<v Speaker 2>all those people who want a baby so bad they

578
00:34:05.960 --> 00:34:08.679
<v Speaker 2>can't get pregnant. Then they adopt, and then they get pregnant.

579
00:34:09.400 --> 00:34:12.360
<v Speaker 2>They then get pregnant after the adoption because they eased

580
00:34:12.480 --> 00:34:15.800
<v Speaker 2>up on the anxiety, on the resistance, and they allowed

581
00:34:15.880 --> 00:34:18.840
<v Speaker 2>themselves to get in the vibration of having a child

582
00:34:19.039 --> 00:34:22.159
<v Speaker 2>rather than the vibration of wanting a child. If you

583
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<v Speaker 2>want to get into the vibration of having love rather

584
00:34:25.239 --> 00:34:28.719
<v Speaker 2>than wanting love, ask what you need to be focused

585
00:34:28.760 --> 00:34:31.239
<v Speaker 2>on right now. Maybe it's self love, love of a

586
00:34:31.320 --> 00:34:35.559
<v Speaker 2>family member, love of a friend, love of creating. I

587
00:34:35.719 --> 00:34:38.880
<v Speaker 2>literally heard God say to me, Ceci, I don't want

588
00:34:38.880 --> 00:34:40.960
<v Speaker 2>you falling in love with another person right now. I

589
00:34:41.079 --> 00:34:43.400
<v Speaker 2>want you falling in love with the process of creation.

590
00:34:43.559 --> 00:34:48.480
<v Speaker 2>And I said, okay, I'll try not to, but we

591
00:34:48.679 --> 00:34:52.320
<v Speaker 2>know me I just love. Love can't help can't help

592
00:34:52.360 --> 00:34:56.960
<v Speaker 2>a girl who loves love. But I really have been focused.

593
00:34:58.519 --> 00:35:04.119
<v Speaker 2>With that being said, let yourself intend to focus on you,

594
00:35:04.400 --> 00:35:08.000
<v Speaker 2>and let yourself intend to have fun. You can still

595
00:35:08.119 --> 00:35:11.840
<v Speaker 2>be open to love. You can still look for your person,

596
00:35:12.199 --> 00:35:16.159
<v Speaker 2>but when you're obsessively scanning and hypervigilant, you do create

597
00:35:16.239 --> 00:35:19.800
<v Speaker 2>that resistance and you do get miserable. And I also

598
00:35:19.960 --> 00:35:22.639
<v Speaker 2>think that so many of us aren't using our intuition.

599
00:35:23.119 --> 00:35:25.400
<v Speaker 2>When I'm on a dating app or I'm meeting someone,

600
00:35:26.000 --> 00:35:29.119
<v Speaker 2>I don't just allow anyone who wants me into my life.

601
00:35:29.400 --> 00:35:33.480
<v Speaker 2>I use my intuition. How does my body feel? What

602
00:35:33.599 --> 00:35:36.199
<v Speaker 2>do I feel about this person? How am I responding?

603
00:35:36.840 --> 00:35:39.800
<v Speaker 2>If I meet someone or align with someone on a

604
00:35:39.880 --> 00:35:42.880
<v Speaker 2>dating app. Before I ever meet them, I FaceTime with them.

605
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<v Speaker 2>Do you know how many people their profile was fine,

606
00:35:45.760 --> 00:35:48.920
<v Speaker 2>but when we facetimed, their voice didn't resonate with me.

607
00:35:49.400 --> 00:35:53.360
<v Speaker 2>The way they moved, their personality did not resonate with me.

608
00:35:53.679 --> 00:35:56.159
<v Speaker 2>Because you can't really tell from a profile all the time.

609
00:35:56.599 --> 00:35:59.280
<v Speaker 2>You can sit back and feel into it, but if

610
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<v Speaker 2>you're not sure, don't waste all of your time getting

611
00:36:02.440 --> 00:36:06.000
<v Speaker 2>ready and going out, and say, let's FaceTime first, get

612
00:36:06.039 --> 00:36:09.039
<v Speaker 2>on a call, see how it feels. That will allow

613
00:36:09.119 --> 00:36:12.239
<v Speaker 2>you to not burn out as quickly. We have to

614
00:36:12.400 --> 00:36:17.159
<v Speaker 2>think and feel before we just do so before we

615
00:36:17.320 --> 00:36:19.960
<v Speaker 2>just go on the date, FaceTime with them first, feel

616
00:36:20.079 --> 00:36:23.280
<v Speaker 2>into the profile. Don't just go out with anyone who

617
00:36:23.360 --> 00:36:27.079
<v Speaker 2>asks you. You have to be your own protector here

618
00:36:27.119 --> 00:36:29.360
<v Speaker 2>and say, well, what does this feel like to me?

619
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<v Speaker 2>What is my intuition telling me? And you know, you

620
00:36:33.360 --> 00:36:36.039
<v Speaker 2>do know, and if you're not your FaceTime with them,

621
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<v Speaker 2>and then you'll definitely know. But we really do know,

622
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<v Speaker 2>we can feel it. But there are ways we can

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<v Speaker 2>avoid burnout by focusing on what does my current season

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<v Speaker 2>invite me to do. Let me FaceTime with them first.

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<v Speaker 2>Let me not chase a nonchalant man. Let me instead

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<v Speaker 2>see that that is a turnoff that is unattractive. Let

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<v Speaker 2>me stop allowing what I do not want to amplify.

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<v Speaker 1>Me.

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<v Speaker 2>Just see how things unfold instead of needing them to

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<v Speaker 2>text me twenty four to seven. Let me see who

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<v Speaker 2>they are and if we're getting to a point where

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<v Speaker 2>we're two months in okay, let me say something. I

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<v Speaker 2>truly think you know when someone's into you, if they

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<v Speaker 2>are setting the dates, if they are wanting to see

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<v Speaker 2>you in person, it should be their wanting to see

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<v Speaker 2>you once a week. Once a week is a good

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<v Speaker 2>solid amount of time for the first month, maybe second month,

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<v Speaker 2>it's like twice a week, third month, it's like maybe

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<v Speaker 2>twice a week, once a week. I still think that's fine.

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<v Speaker 2>Allow things to unfold for you. You don't have to

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<v Speaker 2>control everything. I do want to mention some red flags

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<v Speaker 2>I've been seeing. So the biggest red flag is if

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<v Speaker 2>they say they want to make plans sometime soon. That's

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<v Speaker 2>not real. If they're not saying an exact date and

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<v Speaker 2>setting it up with you right then and there, they

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<v Speaker 2>are not looking to date you. They're looking for entertainment

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<v Speaker 2>god knows what, but it's not real. Don't believe them.

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<v Speaker 2>They either say a date or it's not happening. Number two,

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<v Speaker 2>if they say they're in transition, run run. That is

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<v Speaker 2>someone who's confused and doesn't know what they want, which

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<v Speaker 2>is fine, respect their spiritual journey. But you don't want

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<v Speaker 2>to be on a saillless sailboat because that's directionless. A

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<v Speaker 2>sailboat with no sales is not going in any direction.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just floundering, and you don't want to be floundering. Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Number three, if they talk about how much money they have,

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<v Speaker 2>how much like success they have, this and that. If

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<v Speaker 2>they're always talking about it, they're talking about it because

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<v Speaker 2>they don't actually have it. They might have like a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit of it, but if they have to lead

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<v Speaker 2>with that twenty four to seven, it's because they have

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<v Speaker 2>low confidence, they're insecure, and they really don't even have

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<v Speaker 2>what they're trying to promote that they have. They're using

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<v Speaker 2>it as a mask to try to attract people towards them.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not real though, So you don't want that, and

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<v Speaker 2>you don't want an insecure man because they will try

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<v Speaker 2>to bleed the energy out of you and that's just

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<v Speaker 2>simply not worth it. Another red flag is if the

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<v Speaker 2>communication isn't leveling up. So if they're only talking to

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<v Speaker 2>you on the app or they're only texting you, but

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<v Speaker 2>they never move that up to a call or a

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<v Speaker 2>FaceTime or seeing you in person. If there's no progression

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<v Speaker 2>of seeing you more or talking to you more over time,

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<v Speaker 2>that is a red flag. I'm not saying that has

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<v Speaker 2>to happen in one week or one day, but there

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<v Speaker 2>should be a progression. If you're talking still for two

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<v Speaker 2>weeks only on texts and there's not been any greater communication,

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<v Speaker 2>that is a red flag. Something's weird with that. They

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<v Speaker 2>should be calling you or asking to see you in person.

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<v Speaker 2>Another red flag is that their words and their actions

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<v Speaker 2>are not in alignment. They say they want a wife,

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<v Speaker 2>they want this, they want to take you here, here,

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<v Speaker 2>and here. But if they're never actually putting those words

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<v Speaker 2>into a plan and they're never taking action, red flags.

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<v Speaker 2>They want to be about it, but they aren't. Cut

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<v Speaker 2>your losses and get out of there. And a huge

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<v Speaker 2>red flag is if they talk really bad about their ex.

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<v Speaker 2>I always find that as such a turn off. It

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<v Speaker 2>takes two to tango. Eventually, when you get to know them,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe they'll tell you some things that have happened between them.

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<v Speaker 2>But if they're off the bat saying my ex was crazy,

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<v Speaker 2>guess who's going to be the next crazy ex, It's

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<v Speaker 2>going to be you. So with that being said, they

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<v Speaker 2>should have awareness about the person they dated at one time.

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<v Speaker 2>They liked that person, that's why they dated them, So

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<v Speaker 2>to trash them to someone they really don't even know,

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<v Speaker 2>I do think is a red flag. So if you're

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<v Speaker 2>experiencing any of these things, then definitely running the opposite direction.

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<v Speaker 2>I hope this podcast episode shed some light on how

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<v Speaker 2>you can shift from a miserable mindset into a magnetic one.

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<v Speaker 2>If you enjoyed the podcast, please leave a positive review.

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<v Speaker 2>On Apple Podcasts and Spotify. As always a sparkle in me,

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<v Speaker 2>honored a sparkle and you don't forget. To grab your

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<v Speaker 2>copy of Show Up as Her and join Shadow Alchemy

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<v Speaker 2>and the Pedestal Path for more information on a magnetic mindset.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'll see you in the next one.

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<v Speaker 1>No comenogy, cancer, come

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<v Speaker 2>Enogy, No cancer, cancer, cancer