WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.240 --> 00:00:15.720 Hi cap Morning, John. 2 00:00:16.359 --> 00:00:21.000 So I was explaining in something of an opening kickoff 3 00:00:21.079 --> 00:00:23.280 kind of a sense, did you hear the story about 4 00:00:23.320 --> 00:00:27.879 the firecracker lobbed into the press conference room in Lega MX. 5 00:00:28.559 --> 00:00:29.160 I did not. 6 00:00:30.839 --> 00:00:38.600 So basically it is as a Chieva Squadalajara midfielder Roberto 7 00:00:38.600 --> 00:00:43.079 Alvarado has apologized to journalists, and I imagine that there 8 00:00:43.079 --> 00:00:44.719 are times when I'm sure that players would sit there 9 00:00:44.719 --> 00:00:46.159 and they'd love to do something like this. I mean, 10 00:00:46.240 --> 00:00:48.240 a lot of firecracker into a press conference room and 11 00:00:48.280 --> 00:00:51.119 see the journalist scatter. That's the most that's the most 12 00:00:51.240 --> 00:00:55.240 vert I've seen from that beat writer in years. So 13 00:00:55.719 --> 00:01:00.000 Alvarado apologized to journalists after throwing a firecracker that explodes 14 00:01:00.320 --> 00:01:05.439 in the media room ahead of Thursday's pre match news conference. 15 00:01:05.439 --> 00:01:08.400 So it's a darby presser, so I would imagine that 16 00:01:08.439 --> 00:01:11.079 there's maybe more than one or two journalists in said 17 00:01:11.079 --> 00:01:17.120 press conference room. Roberto Alvarado decides from the neighboring locker 18 00:01:17.200 --> 00:01:21.799 room to light a firecracker. Like I said, all this 19 00:01:21.840 --> 00:01:24.879 stuff is apparently like logic that's rolling through dude's head. 20 00:01:25.760 --> 00:01:28.560 So he goes from having an unlighted firecracker in his 21 00:01:28.640 --> 00:01:32.640 possession to a lighted firecracker in his possession, and like 22 00:01:32.640 --> 00:01:35.079 I said, I'm trying to walk through this process, and 23 00:01:35.159 --> 00:01:39.280 so Alvarado apparently thought that, oh, lighted firecracker. 24 00:01:39.319 --> 00:01:40.359 I have two choices. 25 00:01:40.680 --> 00:01:43.280 I can keep it here in the locker room, or 26 00:01:43.359 --> 00:01:46.840 I can have someone open a door, which just happens 27 00:01:46.840 --> 00:01:50.680 to be the to the adjoining press conference area, take 28 00:01:50.760 --> 00:01:56.200 said lighted firecracker, throw the firecracker into the press conference room, 29 00:01:57.359 --> 00:02:02.920 and have the firecracker go off with you know, journalists there. 30 00:02:03.719 --> 00:02:07.400 The press officer and one of the defenders apologized to 31 00:02:07.439 --> 00:02:10.719 the media, but the media was like, nah, fam, that's 32 00:02:10.759 --> 00:02:11.280 not going to work. 33 00:02:11.319 --> 00:02:12.319 We need the dude that did it. 34 00:02:13.400 --> 00:02:17.240 And so the so Alvarado goes in, he comes out 35 00:02:17.280 --> 00:02:20.520 of the out of the dressing room, and he claims 36 00:02:20.560 --> 00:02:23.000 it was an accident and that he had no intention 37 00:02:23.199 --> 00:02:28.479 of hurting anyone. As I sit here and wander through 38 00:02:28.520 --> 00:02:32.599 conscious decisions of it was an accident. So you go 39 00:02:32.680 --> 00:02:39.000 from unlighted firecracker, too, lighted firecracker, and lighted firecracker. Oh, 40 00:02:39.520 --> 00:02:43.520 I've got to do something with this door. Open firecracker 41 00:02:43.560 --> 00:02:46.919 through door, closed door, firecracker go boom. It was an 42 00:02:47.000 --> 00:02:53.240 accident beat two, three four. The media were so pissed. 43 00:02:53.680 --> 00:02:56.159 No one was injured, but the presser didn't take place 44 00:02:56.199 --> 00:02:58.599 because all the media were like, no, we're boycotting this thing. 45 00:02:58.639 --> 00:02:59.400 We're out. 46 00:03:00.879 --> 00:03:04.280 Have you ever, sir, in this go round of have 47 00:03:04.319 --> 00:03:08.520 I ever have you ever been with a teammate either 48 00:03:08.599 --> 00:03:11.680 named or unnamed? I don't know, statute limitations can apply here. 49 00:03:12.240 --> 00:03:15.039 Have you ever had a teammate that had that kind 50 00:03:15.039 --> 00:03:18.560 of a mischievous trouble streak attached to them where they 51 00:03:18.560 --> 00:03:21.120 thought that something would be funny something like that? Have 52 00:03:21.199 --> 00:03:23.080 you ever been with a teammate that had that kind 53 00:03:23.120 --> 00:03:25.639 of mischievous trouble streak attached to them? 54 00:03:28.560 --> 00:03:30.080 Like I said, you can name names if you want. 55 00:03:30.159 --> 00:03:31.919 You don't name names if you don't want to, but 56 00:03:31.960 --> 00:03:33.759 you can either just say yes or no and maybe 57 00:03:33.759 --> 00:03:34.599 give an incident. 58 00:03:35.000 --> 00:03:35.479 I don't know. 59 00:03:35.840 --> 00:03:38.759 I mean, I played with some crazy teammates. 60 00:03:39.120 --> 00:03:40.639 How crazy were They. 61 00:03:44.719 --> 00:03:48.800 Never did anything to the media or anything, but like 62 00:03:49.000 --> 00:03:56.400 I had a goalie teammate once, Eastern European guy, and 63 00:03:56.759 --> 00:03:59.479 he showed up at one of our teammate's house. They 64 00:03:59.520 --> 00:04:01.159 got into an on the field and he showed up 65 00:04:01.199 --> 00:04:03.000 to his house later on the later on in the 66 00:04:03.080 --> 00:04:08.919 day with a baseball bat righty telling him basically like 67 00:04:09.000 --> 00:04:12.560 he kill his whole family if he ever did anything 68 00:04:12.599 --> 00:04:16.759 like that on the field again, And wow, yeah, nut job. 69 00:04:19.959 --> 00:04:22.120 But I've never seen a firecracker even in a locker 70 00:04:22.199 --> 00:04:25.199 room before. I don't even understand how is he why 71 00:04:25.240 --> 00:04:27.600 is there even a locker room or a firecracker in 72 00:04:27.639 --> 00:04:30.160 the locker room? Craziness? 73 00:04:30.399 --> 00:04:31.240 But I don't know. 74 00:04:31.959 --> 00:04:35.839 I just it's like, dude made conscious decision A, and 75 00:04:35.920 --> 00:04:37.959 you carry it back one further You carry it back 76 00:04:38.000 --> 00:04:39.279 one further step than I did. 77 00:04:40.040 --> 00:04:42.240 Literally, Uh, firecracker. 78 00:04:42.279 --> 00:04:44.920 I think carrying a firecracker into a locker room was 79 00:04:44.959 --> 00:04:49.800 a great IDEA firecracker unlighted in locker room. Oh, let's 80 00:04:49.839 --> 00:04:51.920 light it, you know. Oh what do we do with 81 00:04:52.000 --> 00:04:56.160 lighted firecracker? Oh there's a door. Oh by the way, 82 00:04:56.279 --> 00:04:58.959 there aremediate people on the other side of that door. 83 00:04:59.800 --> 00:05:02.759 So so I just had I just had to I 84 00:05:02.839 --> 00:05:05.079 just had to ask. But yeah, Alex is like, that's 85 00:05:05.160 --> 00:05:08.000 less mischievous and more felonious when a bat is involved 86 00:05:08.120 --> 00:05:11.800 instead of a firecracker. I would agree that there's more 87 00:05:11.879 --> 00:05:14.680 that it is more of felonious when it's when a 88 00:05:14.720 --> 00:05:22.399 baseball bat is involved, or just speaking of Bielsa, we 89 00:05:22.439 --> 00:05:25.079 talked about Luis Suarez and him saying that the environment 90 00:05:25.120 --> 00:05:27.040 with El Loco as they were getting ready for the 91 00:05:27.079 --> 00:05:32.399 Copa was less than cordial when it comes to this 92 00:05:32.439 --> 00:05:36.360 will be my opening point this this this week, not 93 00:05:36.480 --> 00:05:38.839 that you would have had an l Loco as a coach, 94 00:05:39.000 --> 00:05:42.639 but when you talk to your mentees and when you 95 00:05:42.680 --> 00:05:45.240 talk to teammates X teammates and everything, when it comes 96 00:05:45.279 --> 00:05:51.000 to navigating coaches and those in positions of authority that 97 00:05:51.079 --> 00:05:57.480 have different personalities, how do you talk to your mentees about, well, yes, 98 00:05:57.560 --> 00:05:59.680 this one's a player's coach, Yes, this one's a hard 99 00:05:59.680 --> 00:06:01.759 a you know that that kind of a thing. Do 100 00:06:01.800 --> 00:06:04.959 you talk to them about navigating all the different personalities 101 00:06:04.959 --> 00:06:07.839 and just understanding that, yes, some folks operate differently than 102 00:06:07.839 --> 00:06:10.279 others when it comes to trying to get messages across 103 00:06:10.600 --> 00:06:11.000 for sure. 104 00:06:11.040 --> 00:06:12.759 We just had a blog about it because it's something 105 00:06:12.800 --> 00:06:15.680 that's come up repeatedly, so we're like, all right, we 106 00:06:15.680 --> 00:06:22.240 need to write something about this because it's mostly what 107 00:06:22.279 --> 00:06:26.639 we're dealing with is how do you deal with a 108 00:06:26.680 --> 00:06:32.279 hard ass coach who his coaching style is to get 109 00:06:32.319 --> 00:06:36.360 after you and try and push you that way, but 110 00:06:36.439 --> 00:06:39.199 they also tend to be yellers on the field and 111 00:06:40.720 --> 00:06:44.920 yell at you when you make a mistake, And just 112 00:06:45.120 --> 00:06:51.839 how do you be confident, play freely and get something 113 00:06:51.839 --> 00:06:53.720 out of it when you're playing for a coach like that, 114 00:06:53.839 --> 00:06:58.319 especially when you as an individual don't really respond well 115 00:06:58.360 --> 00:07:03.040 to that type of coaching, because as we know, there's 116 00:07:03.079 --> 00:07:07.079 different ways to motivate people, and some are motivated by 117 00:07:07.079 --> 00:07:12.160 that tactic and others are not, and it should be 118 00:07:12.199 --> 00:07:14.800 a little bit more curated to the individual based on 119 00:07:14.839 --> 00:07:18.720 some things. But we know that that's not happening all 120 00:07:18.759 --> 00:07:23.160 the time with coaching. So yeah, it's challenging, and you know, 121 00:07:23.199 --> 00:07:26.600 we try and tell them that, you know, whether you've 122 00:07:26.600 --> 00:07:28.639 got a coach that you agree with how he does 123 00:07:28.680 --> 00:07:34.439 things or not, you're hoping that and it's all proved otherwise. 124 00:07:34.959 --> 00:07:37.040 You assume they have your best interest at heart and 125 00:07:37.040 --> 00:07:39.079 they're trying to get the best out of you and 126 00:07:39.120 --> 00:07:41.920 the best for the team, and they don't mean to 127 00:07:43.800 --> 00:07:47.680 do anything to make you play poorly. It's just their 128 00:07:47.800 --> 00:07:51.079 way of coaching. So how do you get the message 129 00:07:51.439 --> 00:07:57.319 and separate that from the tone and use the information 130 00:07:58.399 --> 00:08:00.319 to the best of your ability, and sometimes not even 131 00:08:00.360 --> 00:08:04.480 going to agree with the information. But how do you 132 00:08:04.560 --> 00:08:08.000 balance that with what you've learned in the past, But 133 00:08:08.079 --> 00:08:09.439 also you want to do what you have to do 134 00:08:09.480 --> 00:08:12.040 to stay on the field. So yeah, there is a 135 00:08:12.079 --> 00:08:14.360 tough balance for sure. I mean we had it with Tata. 136 00:08:15.360 --> 00:08:19.879 When we started with Tata, especially for the English speaking group, 137 00:08:20.279 --> 00:08:23.439 it was so different than anything we had ever experienced, 138 00:08:24.000 --> 00:08:27.800 and on and off the field, and there were times 139 00:08:27.879 --> 00:08:31.360 right the way that we were playing, you know, Jeff myself, 140 00:08:32.200 --> 00:08:34.360 you know Alec in the back before Brad got there, 141 00:08:34.399 --> 00:08:37.879 We're looking at each other like, man, this is crazy, 142 00:08:38.000 --> 00:08:41.639 Like we can't play like this. We're so exposed in 143 00:08:41.679 --> 00:08:44.919 the back, Like we have to do a little differently, right, 144 00:08:44.960 --> 00:08:50.919 And so you do small little things to balance how 145 00:08:50.919 --> 00:08:52.720 the coach wants to play and how you see it 146 00:08:52.759 --> 00:08:54.799 out there on the field. And obviously we were in 147 00:08:54.799 --> 00:08:58.960 a different position because we're out there performing and we're 148 00:08:58.960 --> 00:09:01.559 a little bit more veteran and than some of the 149 00:09:01.559 --> 00:09:05.440 other players. So yeah, it's it's it's challenging though, because yeah, 150 00:09:05.440 --> 00:09:09.480 there's a whole just like individual players, there's a whole 151 00:09:09.559 --> 00:09:13.519 host of different coaches on different levels, and the way 152 00:09:13.519 --> 00:09:17.799 that they institute what they want is so so different. 153 00:09:19.639 --> 00:09:23.320 How do you in a situation like that, how do 154 00:09:23.399 --> 00:09:26.720 you and Jeff and Alec and uh, you know, and 155 00:09:26.799 --> 00:09:29.480 everybody that's a veteran who's been through this kind of 156 00:09:29.480 --> 00:09:33.000 a ringer before, how do you? How do you listen? 157 00:09:35.039 --> 00:09:40.799 Then how do you implement the what might be you know, 158 00:09:41.360 --> 00:09:45.759 crazy just in general from your own observations, and then 159 00:09:46.000 --> 00:09:48.080 not let it get to you and kind of tweak 160 00:09:48.159 --> 00:09:51.720 it where it's like you're trying to juggle about nineteen 161 00:09:51.759 --> 00:09:54.360 different things. It's like you're you're paying attention to what 162 00:09:54.399 --> 00:09:57.519 he's saying, you get it, but then you put your 163 00:09:57.519 --> 00:09:59.960 own little twist on it and not make it look 164 00:10:00.200 --> 00:10:02.639 like you're being disrespectful, I guess is what I'm saying. 165 00:10:02.639 --> 00:10:05.240 It's like, you understand where he's going, but it's like, hey, 166 00:10:05.279 --> 00:10:08.000 if we do this, then it's just as impactful and 167 00:10:08.120 --> 00:10:08.879 not as crazy. 168 00:10:08.919 --> 00:10:09.799 Does that make any sense? 169 00:10:10.080 --> 00:10:12.279 Yeah? A little bit for sure. And for us it 170 00:10:12.360 --> 00:10:15.759 was just what can we control a little bit? And 171 00:10:15.840 --> 00:10:19.080 so for us we were just like focused on especially 172 00:10:19.120 --> 00:10:22.360 counter attacks and defensive side of things, and so we 173 00:10:22.360 --> 00:10:24.320 were like, all right, well, attack wise, we're going to 174 00:10:24.360 --> 00:10:26.679 do what we do and it's fine, but okay, how 175 00:10:26.679 --> 00:10:33.559 can we be a little bit more stable defensively? Then 176 00:10:33.879 --> 00:10:36.720 maybe we're being set up for or how we see things, 177 00:10:36.879 --> 00:10:41.559 and and it's just to get results, right. You want 178 00:10:41.559 --> 00:10:45.600 to win and you want to play well and do well, 179 00:10:45.679 --> 00:10:48.000 and so it's our butts on the line out there, 180 00:10:48.080 --> 00:10:49.879 for we're giving up four goals, so we're going to 181 00:10:49.960 --> 00:10:51.159 have We're going to do what we have to do 182 00:10:51.200 --> 00:10:56.720 to make sure that that's not happening. So, yeah, just 183 00:10:56.799 --> 00:11:00.480 controlling little things about hey, telling leon or not to 184 00:11:01.679 --> 00:11:04.519 go up for crosses when the right backs crossing the 185 00:11:04.559 --> 00:11:07.279 ball and he's playing left center back, and you know, 186 00:11:07.399 --> 00:11:11.080 maybe having the wing back on the other side hang 187 00:11:11.120 --> 00:11:13.200 out every now and then, or just adjusting a little 188 00:11:13.200 --> 00:11:18.480 bit based off the opponent. But if the coach's tactics 189 00:11:18.519 --> 00:11:21.000 start working like they did with Tata, then you get 190 00:11:21.000 --> 00:11:22.960 more buy in, then you get more belief, then you 191 00:11:23.000 --> 00:11:25.399 get okay, I can see how this can work. And 192 00:11:25.440 --> 00:11:27.639 it takes a little bit of time, right, But if 193 00:11:27.639 --> 00:11:31.039 it's a huge change at the beginning, it's difficult for 194 00:11:31.080 --> 00:11:33.480 players that have played one way for a long time 195 00:11:33.559 --> 00:11:36.519 to say, oh yeah, let's just go do this, It'll 196 00:11:36.559 --> 00:11:41.519 be fine, versus like, oh, shoot, let's see if it's 197 00:11:41.559 --> 00:11:42.120 going to be fine. 198 00:11:42.200 --> 00:11:43.600 I was going to say, I don't think shoot was 199 00:11:43.639 --> 00:11:44.879 the word that you were using. 200 00:11:44.960 --> 00:11:51.440 But nevertheless, it's just I wonder about that adjustment period 201 00:11:51.519 --> 00:11:55.519 in trying to find the happy middle ground. It's like, 202 00:11:55.919 --> 00:11:57.799 we've been around the block. We know what you're saying, 203 00:11:57.960 --> 00:11:59.960 but we can also do this, do this, and do this. 204 00:12:00.679 --> 00:12:03.399 And because if you're a younger player and you're in 205 00:12:03.440 --> 00:12:05.440 a situation like that, you don't want to upset the 206 00:12:05.480 --> 00:12:07.000 apple card. You want to say it's like yes or 207 00:12:07.080 --> 00:12:09.279 yes or yes or you know right at it, reno, 208 00:12:09.360 --> 00:12:10.840 we're gonna do it. We're gonna do it. And then 209 00:12:10.840 --> 00:12:14.200 it's you're in lockstep and everything because you know it 210 00:12:14.200 --> 00:12:16.120 could affect your playing time. I mean, it's a it's 211 00:12:16.159 --> 00:12:18.799 a balance from the younger players that want to listen 212 00:12:18.840 --> 00:12:21.799 and learn and implement and the veterans that listen and 213 00:12:21.879 --> 00:12:23.919 learn and implement, but implement. 214 00:12:23.519 --> 00:12:24.200 With a twist. 215 00:12:24.919 --> 00:12:27.799 So the message is still getting out there and the 216 00:12:27.840 --> 00:12:29.639 result is still the same. It just it might be 217 00:12:29.679 --> 00:12:31.679 a little different just because of the exposure and the 218 00:12:31.679 --> 00:12:33.320 experience that you guys had out there. 219 00:12:33.320 --> 00:12:34.720 In the first place totally. 220 00:12:35.120 --> 00:12:38.320 And I think that as you as you become more 221 00:12:38.320 --> 00:12:41.919 of a veteran, and even even for youth players, as 222 00:12:41.919 --> 00:12:43.799 you play with a coach for more often or you 223 00:12:43.840 --> 00:12:46.600 get a little bit more experience. Right, there's a way 224 00:12:46.600 --> 00:12:49.240 that your coach wants you to play before the game starts, 225 00:12:50.399 --> 00:12:55.240 but then when the game starts until halftime, there's very 226 00:12:55.279 --> 00:12:58.600 little coaching that can change things on the field, right, 227 00:12:58.639 --> 00:13:02.879 And so players have to take the initiative to change things. 228 00:13:02.919 --> 00:13:06.320 If you're getting punched in the face, especially repeatedly, Right, 229 00:13:06.720 --> 00:13:09.000 you can't just assume, Okay, let's just keep doing it 230 00:13:09.039 --> 00:13:13.559 and it'll eventually work out. No, it won't, right, You 231 00:13:13.600 --> 00:13:16.759 need to adjust. And like for example, with Greg Burholtzer 232 00:13:16.919 --> 00:13:19.000 in Columbus or he wanted us to play out of 233 00:13:19.039 --> 00:13:22.000 the back all the time, every time, but there were 234 00:13:22.039 --> 00:13:25.519 certain situations where it was like, Okay, hey, guys, we're 235 00:13:25.519 --> 00:13:27.360 going to step up to midfield and have the goalie 236 00:13:27.399 --> 00:13:28.799 kicked it as far as he can, and we're going 237 00:13:28.840 --> 00:13:30.399 to kick the ball into the other half and we're 238 00:13:30.399 --> 00:13:31.960 going to go play over there for a few minutes 239 00:13:32.320 --> 00:13:34.600 and chill out, and then we'll get maybe and then 240 00:13:34.639 --> 00:13:36.440 maybe we'll get back to what we're doing here, but 241 00:13:36.519 --> 00:13:39.000 we need to we need to reset. And you know, 242 00:13:39.080 --> 00:13:41.159 same thing under Tata, like, yeah, I know that we 243 00:13:41.200 --> 00:13:42.519 want to play out of the back, but you know what, 244 00:13:42.559 --> 00:13:44.080 I'm going to kick this ball along for a little 245 00:13:44.120 --> 00:13:47.600 bit because I'm sick of us playing in our half 246 00:13:47.639 --> 00:13:49.399 of the field. And like little things like that where 247 00:13:49.399 --> 00:13:53.919 it's like, you know, you're not disregarding completely the game plan, 248 00:13:54.320 --> 00:13:56.559 but you're adapting because you see things on the field 249 00:13:56.600 --> 00:13:58.840 and you you are in it. 250 00:14:01.039 --> 00:14:03.120 I need to breather, I need to blow. I'm gonna 251 00:14:03.159 --> 00:14:06.399 kick this long for a minute. It's just I'm gonna 252 00:14:06.440 --> 00:14:08.240 go that way and I'm gonna catch my breath for 253 00:14:08.279 --> 00:14:12.559 a second. Generationally, and this is something that you've been 254 00:14:13.240 --> 00:14:15.679 kind of alluding to here in our conversation this morning. 255 00:14:16.679 --> 00:14:19.000 Are the younger players today? 256 00:14:19.440 --> 00:14:23.399 Is there bs meter lower than it was when you know, 257 00:14:23.480 --> 00:14:25.600 we were, you know, learning the game. Do they sit 258 00:14:25.639 --> 00:14:29.639 there and you know, if somebody's yelling at me these days, 259 00:14:30.279 --> 00:14:32.960 I'm gonna be like, yeah, okay, whatever, great. You know 260 00:14:33.720 --> 00:14:36.879 you can yell at me all day long. I either 261 00:14:37.279 --> 00:14:38.879 feel like I know what's going on, I know what 262 00:14:38.919 --> 00:14:40.879 you're saying. You don't have to yell at me these 263 00:14:41.000 --> 00:14:44.879 kinds of things. How how different is the intake with 264 00:14:45.159 --> 00:14:47.600 your mentees than it would be with say, folks that 265 00:14:47.759 --> 00:14:50.759 are your age or slightly younger than you. Is is 266 00:14:50.799 --> 00:14:54.159 the intake different? Is the BS meter less? Do they 267 00:14:54.399 --> 00:14:56.879 is a BS meter higher or lower? What about mentees 268 00:14:56.919 --> 00:14:57.720 these days? 269 00:14:58.159 --> 00:15:01.759 Yes, that's a good question. You know, it's and like everything, 270 00:15:01.759 --> 00:15:04.799 it depends on the personality of the player, but it's 271 00:15:04.799 --> 00:15:09.879 you know, I think in general, younger players still listen 272 00:15:09.919 --> 00:15:14.279 to their coaches. The coaches have a huge influence, and 273 00:15:14.679 --> 00:15:17.960 you know, hopefully that's a good thing. There are definitely 274 00:15:17.960 --> 00:15:20.799 some individuals who, regardless of the coach, are going to 275 00:15:20.840 --> 00:15:25.080 go out there and do their own thing. But you know, 276 00:15:25.080 --> 00:15:28.720 I think that for the most part, they are listening 277 00:15:28.799 --> 00:15:32.399 to their coach and trying to implement what they from 278 00:15:32.480 --> 00:15:35.360 the sideline are saying. And that's why it can be challenging, right, 279 00:15:35.440 --> 00:15:38.200 especially if that coach is a yeller and yelling at 280 00:15:38.240 --> 00:15:41.279 you about mistakes, because then you get out there and 281 00:15:41.279 --> 00:15:43.120 you're afraid to make mistakes because you don't want to 282 00:15:43.120 --> 00:15:46.159 get yelled at. And so that's a tough way to play, 283 00:15:46.600 --> 00:15:50.159 and you'd think that coaches would see that and understand that, 284 00:15:50.320 --> 00:15:53.240 but for some reason they all don't. 285 00:15:53.399 --> 00:15:55.919 Well, I mean, I would think that that that that 286 00:15:56.000 --> 00:15:59.159 the ego of that coach plays into this too. It's like, well, 287 00:15:59.200 --> 00:16:02.000 i have thissier of success in my brain and I've 288 00:16:02.039 --> 00:16:05.159 won you know, I've won this trophy of you know, 289 00:16:05.200 --> 00:16:08.639 I've won this miscongeniality trophy for finishing third in our division, 290 00:16:08.679 --> 00:16:11.000 you know, you know, eighteen years ago, and so obviously 291 00:16:11.039 --> 00:16:13.840 what I do works. And I would think that ego 292 00:16:13.879 --> 00:16:16.200 plays into it, from the ego of the superior of 293 00:16:16.240 --> 00:16:21.039 the of the individual in powers about to say superior, 294 00:16:21.080 --> 00:16:24.000 sometimes they're not, but the coach on the sideline, the 295 00:16:24.000 --> 00:16:27.639 administrator on the sideline, because they have this history of success, 296 00:16:27.679 --> 00:16:31.240 it's like, well, yes, obviously it works. And then you'll 297 00:16:31.240 --> 00:16:32.879 have folks these days who might sit there and go, 298 00:16:32.960 --> 00:16:36.600 really that works. No, you know, It's just there are 299 00:16:36.639 --> 00:16:39.320 times I would think that adults, and we've had this 300 00:16:39.399 --> 00:16:43.080 talk too, where adults some kind sometimes just kind of 301 00:16:43.080 --> 00:16:45.159 need to dial it back and listen more instead of 302 00:16:45.200 --> 00:16:48.799 sitting there and just yelling and ranning and raving and 303 00:16:48.840 --> 00:16:51.799 poking fingers and going this is the way, and let 304 00:16:51.840 --> 00:16:53.799 it be a two way street with you know, some 305 00:16:53.960 --> 00:16:56.919 just at least listening, even if the feedback isn't taken in. 306 00:16:56.960 --> 00:16:59.240 At least just take the effort to listen to what's 307 00:16:59.240 --> 00:17:01.879 coming back at you instead of just saying my way 308 00:17:01.960 --> 00:17:03.919 or the highway, because that doesn't work all the time. 309 00:17:04.799 --> 00:17:08.799 Rarely, rarely does it work. Oh for sure. 310 00:17:08.960 --> 00:17:11.599 I mean, fine, it's my way or you're not playing. 311 00:17:11.640 --> 00:17:13.960 But we get that. I mean, you get managers who 312 00:17:13.960 --> 00:17:15.480 are this way in different sports. 313 00:17:15.480 --> 00:17:17.160 It's like, you're going to do it my way or 314 00:17:17.160 --> 00:17:20.920 you ain't playing, and then you know, then you sit 315 00:17:21.039 --> 00:17:24.559 and it's just it. I would think that it would 316 00:17:24.640 --> 00:17:29.119 drive folks crazy where you see a better a better 317 00:17:29.200 --> 00:17:32.359 pathway and that position an individual in a position of 318 00:17:32.359 --> 00:17:36.000 power doesn't and it affects everything and down it affects 319 00:17:36.039 --> 00:17:39.200 everything downstream, and it just it doesn't do anything that's better. 320 00:17:39.359 --> 00:17:41.000 And again, I don't think that most of these coaches 321 00:17:41.039 --> 00:17:43.400 are coming from a place of trying to be the 322 00:17:43.480 --> 00:17:46.640 little kids or be mean or anything, right, they're just 323 00:17:47.200 --> 00:17:50.759 usually what I see is they're so competitive and they've 324 00:17:50.759 --> 00:17:58.039 got the juices flowing and they can't help themselves, so 325 00:17:58.079 --> 00:18:02.000 they need to They need to figure out how they 326 00:18:02.039 --> 00:18:09.359 can channel their aggression and hype for the game into 327 00:18:09.400 --> 00:18:14.759 a better way. But yeah, no, I mean anytimes, the 328 00:18:14.799 --> 00:18:18.680 best leaders are good listeners for sure, and it goes 329 00:18:18.799 --> 00:18:22.279 into parenting and leadership and coaching and everything, right, And 330 00:18:22.920 --> 00:18:25.359 it's one thing to listen and then you know, do 331 00:18:25.519 --> 00:18:27.480 what the kid wants. But it's another thing, you know, 332 00:18:27.559 --> 00:18:29.839 to just get their respect a little bit. Yeah, I 333 00:18:29.880 --> 00:18:32.519 hear you. I understand what you're saying. But here's why 334 00:18:32.559 --> 00:18:34.680 I think differently. Here's why I see it differently, you know. 335 00:18:34.720 --> 00:18:38.359 And I think if coaches explain that stuff sometimes it 336 00:18:38.400 --> 00:18:40.279 goes a little bit longer of a way. Okay, I 337 00:18:40.400 --> 00:18:44.559 understand now why we're doing something rather than this is 338 00:18:44.640 --> 00:18:45.319 just what we're doing. 339 00:18:46.160 --> 00:18:48.920 Hey, Dad, I think I should take the car out 340 00:18:48.960 --> 00:18:53.759 this weekend. Yeah, and yes, I hear you. I understand 341 00:18:53.799 --> 00:18:57.119 your point of view. The answer is still no. Exactly 342 00:18:58.720 --> 00:19:01.119 about another ten minutes or so with Michael parkerst Our 343 00:19:01.160 --> 00:19:03.359 mogul and training at MF Parkhurst on the two hundred 344 00:19:03.359 --> 00:19:05.559 and eighty character app and beyond Goals entering where we 345 00:19:05.880 --> 00:19:09.279 go completely and totally sideways, because there'll be an entry 346 00:19:09.319 --> 00:19:11.839 point every single time that you and Greg come out 347 00:19:11.839 --> 00:19:14.880 with the Friday free kick and then it goes. It 348 00:19:15.000 --> 00:19:17.720 literally is like bumper cars every single time that you're on, 349 00:19:18.000 --> 00:19:21.599 and I will tell you each and every time that 350 00:19:21.680 --> 00:19:24.079 you come on for putting up with all of these 351 00:19:24.160 --> 00:19:26.720 right turns and all of this chaos that comes through 352 00:19:26.720 --> 00:19:28.680 my brain and comes out the other side. I cannot 353 00:19:28.680 --> 00:19:31.680 thank you and Greg enough for doing this kind of stuff. 354 00:19:32.039 --> 00:19:32.839 Rhode Island FC. 355 00:19:33.079 --> 00:19:38.279 Question from Bart Keeler, what are the chances of Rhode 356 00:19:38.279 --> 00:19:41.920 Island FC bidding to host a national team match after 357 00:19:42.000 --> 00:19:46.440 tidewater landing is complete? Our IFC is mentioned in the 358 00:19:46.480 --> 00:19:50.000 next episode of the Soccer for Us podcast. 359 00:19:50.960 --> 00:19:57.759 Nice Unfortunately very low. What well, the men don't play 360 00:19:57.759 --> 00:20:01.400 on turf, and I don't think the women play on turf. 361 00:20:01.440 --> 00:20:03.799 I don't know that for sure, but I would highly 362 00:20:03.880 --> 00:20:08.519 doubt they do. And I don't think that our stadium size, 363 00:20:09.559 --> 00:20:13.920 it's a ten thousand, five hundred seat stadium. I don't 364 00:20:13.960 --> 00:20:16.319 know if the cost to bring in the grass over 365 00:20:16.359 --> 00:20:18.240 the turf and bring a team in and that type 366 00:20:18.240 --> 00:20:21.640 of stuff it would make sense for us. So unfortunately, 367 00:20:21.680 --> 00:20:26.160 probably pretty low, but we are definitely looking at other opportunities. 368 00:20:26.200 --> 00:20:28.039 We're going to fill that stadium as much as we 369 00:20:28.119 --> 00:20:33.839 can with different events and sports and opportunities and teams. 370 00:20:34.039 --> 00:20:37.160 So there'll be a lot going on other than Rhode ISLANDFC. 371 00:20:38.279 --> 00:20:42.160 Rude is DFC obviously is number one, but there will 372 00:20:42.200 --> 00:20:45.000 be a lot. I don't think that the national team, though, 373 00:20:45.279 --> 00:20:47.640 would would take. 374 00:20:47.559 --> 00:20:51.519 Us well well, bar, it's like, yeah, by a score, 375 00:20:51.640 --> 00:20:52.559 I appreciated art. 376 00:20:52.799 --> 00:20:55.359 Well, then then don't let me ask you this. 377 00:20:55.559 --> 00:20:57.799 And this might be crossing the streams and drawing the 378 00:20:57.839 --> 00:21:00.279 ire of some nationalists folks, but do you have see 379 00:21:00.359 --> 00:21:06.640 Marsh's phone number in your in your rolodex too, because 380 00:21:06.839 --> 00:21:13.319 you know, going from say Toronto and the sponsored stewardship 381 00:21:13.559 --> 00:21:17.240 that the a tenured professorship that the Jesse Marsh has 382 00:21:17.279 --> 00:21:20.839 now with that that national team to the north of US, 383 00:21:21.440 --> 00:21:24.279 it's not it's not I mean shoot in in covid. 384 00:21:24.400 --> 00:21:28.519 Toronto FC played in Hartford or Pratt and Whitney, so 385 00:21:28.799 --> 00:21:31.720 you know, playing playing in Connecticut is not something completely 386 00:21:31.720 --> 00:21:34.480 and totally foreign to Toronto FC. So maybe if you 387 00:21:34.519 --> 00:21:38.200 talk to the folks at the Maple Leaf, now, hey, hey, Jesse, 388 00:21:38.480 --> 00:21:43.279 you want to have a friendly against Azerbaijan at Tidewater Landing. 389 00:21:43.359 --> 00:21:44.480 You know, something like that. 390 00:21:45.680 --> 00:21:48.279 I'm saying, yeah, sure. 391 00:21:48.359 --> 00:21:50.720 And we all did get our recent email to purchase 392 00:21:50.960 --> 00:21:53.960 season tickets for for Tidewater Landing, by the way, that 393 00:21:53.960 --> 00:21:56.000 that has made its way down here to the south. 394 00:21:57.599 --> 00:22:00.200 What's the what's since we're here, what's the latest on 395 00:22:00.240 --> 00:22:01.079 Tidewater Landing. 396 00:22:01.079 --> 00:22:03.720 Where are things coming along? 397 00:22:03.759 --> 00:22:08.680 Well, we are definitely happy that the port is backed 398 00:22:08.759 --> 00:22:11.680 up and running and so that will not delay anything. 399 00:22:11.759 --> 00:22:14.519 But we've got seats in the stadium, not all of 400 00:22:14.559 --> 00:22:17.000 them yet, but we do have seats in the stadium, 401 00:22:17.079 --> 00:22:20.200