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So what's up, everybody, It's me. It's no, it's not Patreon,
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I'm so excited. I don't know what because I just
feel like I cannot wait. You had a very big
thing happened this week. Yes, should we say hello to
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Speaker 1: Strap Missy and Gabby. So apparently Missy has gone rogue
on Gabby and is pitching a tent over at the
Tower Records Parking lot, oh on sunset, waiting for tickets
for Taylor Swift to go on sale, because then she
might not be able to come if we do do
our Phoenix show. She might not be able to come
to that because apparently Taylor Swift is more important than us.
Speaker 2: Wow, we're going to be competing with Taylor safe now.
Speaker 1: But Gabby wants me to tell her to come and
because I need her there, which, yes, Missy, come, we
need you there.
Speaker 2: I think we're doing it.
Speaker 1: You think so.
Speaker 2: I think we should just commit to it and then like,
let people are getting their tickets. All right, let's do it. Okay,
December seventh, we said, right, better be there. Yeah, December seventh.
It's like a Saturday night.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I believe, so why not?
Speaker 2: What's the worst the going to happen?
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 2: They charge us, they cancel us. I feel like people
will come listen. There are lesser podcasts than us who
are touring the country. Where are they getting people?
Speaker 1: Wow? I know we need to get out. We need
to get out anyway, like you know, get out there
and see us friends exactly, exactly, totally okay, Yeah, we're
gonna do it.
Speaker 2: Hmm.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and we'll see about getting Teresa. Yes, that would
be fun. Yeah, yeah, okay.
Speaker 2: We'll bring books. It's gonna be fun. It'll be a
total event. I was gonna say shit show for reason
and then I was like, why am I putting us down?
It's gonna be horrible, guys.
Speaker 1: Get your tickets. Shit show. So okay, speaking a shit
show now I'm kidding. Yeah. So yeah, last week I
moved Natalia into her apartment.
Speaker 2: Are you feeling? You know?
Speaker 1: It was. I thought I was gonna be more upset
about it when I left. But she's so close, you know,
she's really like a couple, like maybe two and a
half hours of driving. It's not that far.
Speaker 2: Isn't a full two and a half hours? Isn't it less?
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's facetiming me right now, that's weird. No, it was, well,
we had to get there at nine am, so there
was a lot of like heavy morning travels. Okay, yeah yeah,
So yeah, it was about two and a half hour drive.
So it felt like I was dropping her off at
a friend's house, you know, for the weekend or something.
And she's like, i'll be home, you know, i'll get
you know, i'll come visit, and I think she will, So.
Speaker 2: Tell tell me everything. Okay, tell me everything.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: So the so Roberto and Alvarro show up in their truck.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they come, they load up their truck and yeah,
so we caravan. Natalie's gotta drive her car. Her roommate
was at our house that night before. She's driving her car.
I'm driving my car and we caravan down there. And
so we get there and we're like the first family,
I think, to get there. She's got four other roommates
and it's in this kind of old apartment building, but
it's really industrial, you know those kind of buildings where
there you can see the the air vent you know
up up top, the the the vents, the silver you know,
right air even though there's no AC and the floors
are like in the no A C in the apartment.
Speaker 2: Oh well, Santa Barbara, Okay, in Santa Monica for years,
never use the AC or the heat, right, it's kind
of temperate.
Speaker 1: Yep. My friends that live down in Manhattan Beach, they don't.
They have a house, no air conditioning. So she's on
you know, the second to the top floor. So it
was a little warm up there. But she has these
two sliding glass windows. You open them up, there's a
balcony and you can feel the air coming. And but
there's cement floors in the apartment all cement. Oh yeah,
so do they are they going to get rugs. They
got she got an area rug in her area in
her little space. So she's got one side of the
house are the apartment. There's a huge long room with
this divider in between, so she's sharing that room with
one of her friends, that's her roommate. Okay. Then across
from her is the another big long room divided in three,
and one girl has to go through the other girl's
room to get to her side. Oh hell, and there's like,
so there's two dividers dividing all three girls. Yeah, so
that kind of sucks for them, but that's the two
girls they don't they don't know. And then Natalia's other
friend is at the very end, so on the end
of that three. And then there's two bathrooms. One's a
little smaller than the other, so Natalian her two friends
are sharing the bigger bathroom and the other two girls.
And so they've met the other girls online and like
through social media and talk to them and whatnot, so
they already kind of knew who they were going to
be meeting. And one of the girls came in when
she first got there, she seems kind of a loner,
like she didn't have any family, with her. Oh, she
just brought her stuff in, set her stuff up and
was called a day, like within an hour and a half.
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 1: And she's a freshman, oh man. Yeah, And Natalia says,
you know, she she's very outdoorsy. She goes camping a
lot and stuff, which you know, and seems to me
like a lot of her stuff, like she's not with
the friends. Maybe with one person Natalia couldn't tell, but.
Speaker 2: Who goes to school. It broke my heart, no one,
it broke my heart.
Speaker 1: I know. I kept asking her, do you want help?
Can I help you? You know, she was saying no,
I'm good, I'm good, and I'm all set up, and
she was just you know, she was done. And then
she was just on her bed on her laptop while
all of us were coming and going. So then the
other two then Natalia's other roommate that drove with us,
her parents are in Oregon. They weren't able to come out.
So we helped her, you know, Roberto and Alvo helped
her stuff too, which was nice. So she had us
to help her. And also it's our second year, so
she's already been there. Then the other roommate that she's
friends with that's her second year as well. But her
parents came great people, really sweet, love them. And then
the other girl is from Newport Beach. Parents could not
be nicer, just kind of like dad seems kind of
like a surfer dude, but like older, you know, super sweet.
Mom's great. Uh was. We were chatting it up the
whole time, and her parents were helping Natalia, like if
she needed help putting together the side table or whatever.
You know. They were helping us out and helping us
get Like they had a big truck, so there was
a lot of like pulling up, unloading, moving the car.
The other people are pulling up, unloading, moving the car,
a lot of and then I went to Target a
bunch of times. We need this, we need that. It
was a big bummer when they found out there was
no AC. They were like wait what but it's like
you guys, it's you're by the beach. Open the doors
and they're like, yeah, we'll be fine. They all have fans,
you know. So Natalia, so we put her rug down,
I should put pictures up. We put her rug down.
She hung her pictures up on her little divider. She's
got her little desk that we had to put together
her end table, and oh, and there's no lights in
the place. What. Yeah, you walk in and there's an
entry light, but there's no like can lights or any other.
Speaker 2: Kind of apartment lighting.
Speaker 1: I know, it was crazy. So I went and got
a stand lamp. What do you call it?
Speaker 2: A lamp?
Speaker 1: A lamp? Yes, that stands yeah, a floor lamp, a
floor lamp. Yeah. So anyway, so yeah, because there was
just there's no lights, and the kitchen was really small,
but it was fine, like they can share. They're gonna
share the fridge. Then they went grocery shopping and got
a bunch of stuff. They're gonna be cooking a lot,
they said. At home, they've already started. So you know,
I was there nine fifteen too in the morning till
I left it like seven thirty.
Speaker 2: So how was like was she did she seem happy?
Was she like buy a mom? Or were you like
she wasn't wanna leave you to try to sleep over?
Speaker 1: She's like, Mom, I'm gonna call you every day. Don't worry.
I'm gonna be in touch with it. And she has been.
Actually she just called me now. So she called me
the next morning. I asked her how her night was
She said it was fine. It was a little warm,
but you know, it was one of the hottest. I
mean it was very hot.
Speaker 2: So that's as warm as it's gonna get exactly. Yes,
that's it, like it's gonna be. I think it'll be
pretty nice.
Speaker 1: I think so too. I mean the set, I thought
it was gonna be cold down there by the beach,
so I brought sweatshirt. It was unshine, blue skies the
whole day, and it was pretty warm.
Speaker 2: I mean, beautiful weather. That's why all we wanted to
go to Santa Barbara so bad.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and Italian sunshine.
Speaker 2: So when do her classes start today?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 2: Wow?
Speaker 1: Okay, Yeah, she's got English today, and she's got journalism
two days a week, and she's got math on Friday.
Speaker 2: And can she walk to school from where.
Speaker 1: She is now? Okay, bummer, She will be able to
and if she stays there and when she goes to
the university, but for now, she does have a parking pass,
so she'll have to drive to the to the campus.
But she's super exciting.
Speaker 2: Even though, oh so it's not I God, I feel
like I asked you this so many times. It's not
Santa Barbara City College Housing. No, it's just it's just
an apartment departments for for students. Yeah, but it is
for students.
Speaker 1: It is for students definitely.
Speaker 2: So it is Santa Barbara City House College Housing.
Speaker 1: I mean, I guess you can call it that, but
I don't think it's affiliated with the college. It's like
a chained franchise. I've heard of it in other places.
Speaker 2: Oh okay, because like LB's in an apartment right campus,
but it's a university affiliated housing. Like they assigned her
the apartment. She didn't have to go find an apartment. Yeah, no,
it's different, okay, but it is all students.
Speaker 1: And then so we get there in the morning and
I'm like so excited and so happy, and then I
see another mom with her daughter. Oh, and like you
have to have your keyfob every single time you go
up the elevator. You can't just get in. You have
to have it to get into the building. You have
to have to get up in the elevator, which I love.
That's nice. And they had like balloons, and they had
donuts that said welcome, like the sign, big sign. They
had coffee and water, and you know, three students sitting
out front like signing people in and which was nice.
And then so I was like, so, I was like,
this is exciting again. In the elevator, there's a mom
and another daughter in the elevator and I was like, Hi, like,
is your first day moving in yet? It's our first day? Well?
Good luck, good luck, you know. And I was talking
to everybody that came in. Natalia at one point she's like, Mom,
you don't have to talk to everybody.
Speaker 2: Oh my god.
Speaker 1: That was like reel it in. And I was like, okay, god,
right right, all right, I'm excited, and the other moms
are excited. We're making eye contact, smiling at each other.
What do you want me to do?
Speaker 3: Right?
Speaker 1: You know, give them the hand?
Speaker 2: Yeah, so talk to the hand a listening right of court.
That's how my kids would be too. Well, Sadie and
Xander would be like, oh my god, mom's so funny.
She talks to everybody. And LB would be like, stop
the fun could you stop?
Speaker 1: Yes? That was that was Natalia and then uh And
we went up and down a couple times in the
elevator and we were walking back in and I go,
I go oh, Natalia, I said it pretty loud. I go,
let me get it, picture you in front of the building.
And she's like, shun, why do you got to say
that so loud? I was like, I'm excited. Can I
be excited?
Speaker 2: And other parents are doing the same thing. They all
want pictures of their kids in front of the building.
Speaker 1: Yes, exactly. So the other moms we exchanged, you know,
phone numbers, so we're on a group text all the
other moms, well except for the one that didn't have
any parents there, but uh, but the other moms, you know,
they were we were like texting the next morning. I
think the girls had a good night there. The other
girl that from Newport Beach could, I mean, she fits
in perfect with these girls, like she it was like
a long lost friend of theirs, you know. And the
other girl to the other girl too, and they were
all bonding and stuff, and they went down, they went outside,
went for a walk, and went and got pizza, all
of them together, which was nice. So I think I
think they have a really good group, which I like.
Speaker 2: So were you the first to leave or did the
other parents start leaving at the same time. Were any
of them from LA What was the story?
Speaker 1: Well, the Newport Beach parents stayed overnight at a hotel Okay,
and they then they took her for breakfast next morning,
and then the other girl's parents. They we left around
the same time. Yeah, they were wrapping it up.
Speaker 2: So how did you feel when you left?
Speaker 1: I mean I was like, I was sad, and I
took you know, took pictures with her, and I gave
her my little gifts and stuff.
Speaker 2: And would you get her?
Speaker 1: Well, I got her. I got I got a really
sentimental card and I wrote and then I wrote out
the philosophies. Oh and uh, I did get her mother
daughter bracelet, but it's not it didn't show up yet,
so I had to read the card. And then she
teared up and she's like, I love this card, thank
you so much. He hugged me for a long time
and that made me. That made me choke up. And
then we were wrapping it up and getting ready to leave,
and then she's like, okay, we're good, okay bye and
give her a hug. But it did kind of feel like,
all right, she's at a friend's house or something. That's
kind of out because she's so close.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I flew home.
Speaker 1: By by the time I left, there was no traffic
so hm didn't take me that long to get home.
I mean, I remember when I took Lbe to Santa
Barbara to tour it, and I was thinking, you know,
this is so close. I was having all kinds of
fantasies about him, like, Okay, if she goes to Santa Barbara,
it's kind of perfect because it's not across the country.
Speaker 2: You don't have to take a plane. It's also not
even like it's not like northern California because you know,
Berkeley would be like and it's you know, a seven
hour drive. So this is like a drive where if
I just you know, was like, hey, do you want
to go to lunch? I could just zip up. I
could decide at ten I want to take her to lunch. Yes,
go up, pick her up, go have a little nice day,
have lunch, go shopping a little bit, and come home.
Speaker 1: Yep, exactly That's what I told her, you know, And
she was like, I would love that you come up anytime.
Not too much, but it's all right. But she's like,
i'll be back. I'll be back, but i'll be home.
You know, She'll she'll come home for the weekend and stuff.
So you know, she's gonna be starting. Yeah, today's her
first day. I can't wait to see how she likes
her school, her classes and her teachers and so.
Speaker 2: Have you had any pangs though?
Speaker 1: Like yes? And then yeah, I noticed like Sonny would
come out of his room more now, Oh yeah, just
to come and hang out with me, you know, just
chit chat and stuff, which he didn't do before. It's
I don't know. I think maybe he's worried about me
or something. I don't know, or maybe it's just a coincidence.
But since she left, like almost every day he comes
and hangs out with me.
Speaker 2: I know, nature abhors a vacuum. Yes, that's sweet.
Speaker 1: It is sweet. And yeah, he helped me a lot
getting the house ready for Anthony and the kids to
come visit. Did I talk about that yet?
Speaker 2: We talked about it on Patreon, so we haven't brought
it up yet. Should we take it? Yeah, let's talk
about something that I think is going to be good
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I'm going to send it to Lbie. I'm totally s
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Speaker 1: Yeah nice, So yeah, then okay. So then after that
of getting Italia off and settled, my nephew Anthony, was
planning on coming for a visit to California for a
little while around Labor Day weekend, but his wife's grand
grandpa passed away, so they're doing services. So now they're coming.
They came this week, so they're staying with me some
of the days while they're here. They're going to Disneyland
on Tuesday and Wednesday, so they'll be gone those two days.
But I almost had to bring Phil today because they
got into town last night and already Phil ate one
of their bagels this morning. I told them, like, you guys,
you can't leave any He's like a shark. He's like
a jaws in the water. He will come out of
nowhere and snatch that bagel. Believe you me, asked son
He's had many bagels and burgers snatched off of his plate, right,
so you can't.
Speaker 2: Sonny shouldn't be eating bagels anywhere.
Speaker 1: No, that's right. I forgot about that, and now Phil
is eating them. So I said, like, you gotta you know.
So I was, so he's gonna go and stay at
his doggy daycare later in the week, but because they're
gonna be gone tomorrow and through Thursday basically, so I
was thinking, Okay, Phil, can you know he can he
can go to the doggy daycare Thursday night and then
until they leave on Sunday. But like, yes, they got
in last night and I'm thinking I can't leave Phil
alone with them tomorrow morning. Like he's just you gotta
watch him. And like Wesley is only like three years old,
you know, he's like jumping on Wesley and stuff. Even
though those kids are love the dog like they get
a kick out of him. I just I just don't
want him to be a menace. So I was like,
I think I'm gonna have to just take him to work.
But after he ate the bagel this morning, they were
getting ready to leave anyway to go visit her grandma.
So they're gonna be gone this morning, so I just
left Phil there. Yeah. So anyway, I have, like, you know,
house full of people this week, which is nice.
Speaker 2: Well, so how many are there.
Speaker 1: It's Anthony's wife Sam and their two kids, six year
old and a three year old.
Speaker 2: Wow, it's great.
Speaker 1: I like it, Like it was so fun to have to.
Speaker 2: Get all those guests in your house.
Speaker 1: Well, with Natalia gone, now well yeah, they have her
room and then I have a guest room where the
kids were slept. Oh wow, okay, and then at five
this morning it's pitch blackout. Phil wakes me up and
I'm like, what what do you want? He rarely ever
wakes up in the middle of the night unless he's
eight some trash or some shit. And so I opened
the door and he walks over to the guest room
and I hear the kids are up in there. They're
just up giggling and laughing and just playing with each other.
And they're in the room, and I guess Phil heard them.
I could barely hear them, so he wanted to go,
like say hi to them or something, and I was like, really, Phil,
go to the bathroom. Let's go back to sleep. So
those kids are up at five this morning. Oh I know,
remember those days? Yeah? Yes.
Speaker 2: So sometimes Penelope is you know, she's just getting older,
and stuff happens and she wakes up in the middle
of the night or she has diarrhea, and then I think, ah, like,
she's wake up in the middle of the night, and
I can't believe that I survived babies because I have
no tolerance for it. But then I remember that I
didn't back then either, and I remember how awful every
single night is awake up night, Yes, yes, And I've
forgotten just how traumatic not sleeping is and just the
threat of it's like constant alarms going off. Kaylin, you
know you're not far from it.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: And then even when they do sleep through the night,
they do wake up at an ungodly hour. It's like,
what are you guys thinking you could be sleeping right now?
Speaker 1: I know, enjoy it? Yeah, it's pitch black outside, and
you know they're on Chicago time, so they're you know,
they're from two hours or you know, they're waking up
two hours earlier.
Speaker 2: But you know what's funny is that I want to
go like, what is happening with your Why is your
body telling you to wake up at five in the morning.
But now now that I'm old, my body's telling me
to wake up, but I can't sleep in anymore to
save my life.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's crazy. So are you having? Did what time
your kids wake up?
Speaker 3: They got up somewhere between like six thirty and seven thirty.
Speaker 1: Oh, that's good, don't.
Speaker 3: Every once in a while they'll sleep until about eight
eight thirty, but typically around seven, so.
Speaker 1: They're good throughout the night. Yeah, yeah, yeah, well I
think you know they slept together. They're probably in a room.
You know, they wake up and they're like, where are we?
You know? But the nice thing is is they just
they just hung out in the room all morning. They
didn't bother. They were in the room together, playing and
giggling and laughing. There's really close the two of them,
Like she looks out for him and you know he
loves her and it's so cute. I didn't get that
with Sonny and Italia, right, I think because they're the
same age Sonny in Italia and they were totally different kids.
But these two, there's three years apart, and she feels
like the big sister, so he loves that. I mean
when they went to bed last night, they were both asleep,
but she had her hand on his belly shed her
she was turned away from him, but she had her
hand stretched out on his belly and she's kind of
like tickling it, and she's while she was falling asleep,
and I was like, that's the cutest frickin thing. He's like, yeah,
they do that all the time. It's so cute.
Speaker 2: My Sadie and Xander are very cute together. And when
they were young. I do remember at a certain point
that even though I was anxious about the fact that
they were awake, they would entertain each other and just
like hang out.
Speaker 1: Right.
Speaker 2: I feel like at a certain point I was like, Okay,
get up whatever time you want, but just hang out.
I don't want to hear from you guys until at
a certain time. And it worked. But I was thinking,
they're really they're still really close. They do get on
each other's nerves. So they're in a couple of classes
together because the school's so small, and the other day
Sadie was like, mom, Xander's in my chemistry class and
it's really annoying because we sit at the same table.
And he gets annoyed with me, like he tries to
help me, but then if I'm not like understanding it
or whatever he was getting, he got really frustrated with me,
and he's very condescending and I hate it. And I
was like, oh, well, do you want to move like,
and she's like no, she goes, but it's just God,
It's just you know how he can be. And I'm
like yeah. But then so then I just I talked
to Xander about it and I was like, hey, Xander,
I go so, so I heard you and Sadie like
are at the same table at you know, in chemistry,
and he goes, yeah, he goes, she's upset with me, right,
And I said, well, she did say that it was
a little bit tough because you know, I know, things
come like pretty easily to you, and she said you
got kind of got frustrated with her, and he was
like yeah, He's like I'm gonna be honest, I wasn't
that nice. And he's like, but he's like, but she
was already in a bad mood. He wasn't like shifting blame. Really,
He's like, she was in a bad mood from the
class she had before. She was annoyed because people were
being really loud in her Spanish class, So she was
already in a bad mood. And he's like, so she
got testy with me, So I got testy right back,
and he goes but he's like, I'm gonna tell her
I'm sorry ah, And I was like oh. And then
so later he's like, hey, Sadium, you know I'm really
sorry that you know that I got like I was
so like growlly with you or whatever, and she was like, oh,
it's okay. And then a lot of times, if she's
in a bad mood or whatever, he'll be like I
love you, Sadie, yeah, or I'll find them like if
she's having a bad day or if he's having a
bad day, they'll be like cuddled in one of their beds,
like with like one of them will have their arm
around the other one and I'm like.
Speaker 1: That's the cue sixteen. It's so cute. I love that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, they have a pretty good relationships.
Speaker 1: See when Sonny and Natalia were little like toddlers, they
were I mean, they kind of just did their own things.
And he always was building and playing with his trains
and you know, making shit and you know then the
title come and kick it over and get a reaction.
Speaker 2: They work together.
Speaker 1: They work together exactly. So then then then they got
and when they were like, I don't know, seven eight,
then they were a little bit close like that. Then
when they hit like junior high, they could not be
more further apart. Didn't people at school didn't even know
they were brother and sister, let alone twins right for
a long time because they never hung out with each other.
They had their own friends. Then I would say, I
would say junior year, they got really close, and then
they started hanging out together. Friends were hanging out with
you know, Sonny would hang out with her friends. Shere
her friends. She would hang out with his friends. They
all would go to parties together and hang out, and
they would eat with each other at school. They had
the same friends and they all got along and and
then and then the worst part is whenever I was
arguing with one of them, the other one has to
come in and butt in and stick up for the
for the one I'm arguing with, right right, And it's like,
why do you two bitches got a gang up on me?
Let me talk to one of them and then you
stay out of it.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 1: Oh, but he's right, so they would, you know, they
started sticking up for each other. And then Sonny wanted
to go on the day we went to take her
to college. He was going to go and drive up
with us and help us, and the tally was excited
about that. But the last minute he canceled because a
lot of his friends were leaving that day too, so
he wanted to say goodbye to them before they left.
And then two of his friends are now bros before
hose exactly. So now two of his friends are staying
in town and going to the community college out here.
Oh they were going to go off to different schools.
I don't know what happened, but now he's got a
couple of friends that are still in town.
Speaker 2: Interesting, Yeah, are they gonna try? Did they were? They
just decided they weren't happy with the school they got
into and they're going to do community for well. Reply
or it.
Speaker 1: Could be Sonny said he doesn't. He didn't want to
pry too much. He thinks that, well, one of them
has is lose. He's has this I vision is getting
worse as he gets older, so he might think that
that might have something to do with it. I don't know.
Speaker 2: I remember that from when they were playing basketball.
Speaker 1: Yes, and they had to look out for him. Yeah,
Stunny still hangs out with them to this day. They
just took their dog, all their dogs for a walk.
Sonny took Phil, he took his dogs for a walk,
you know, around eleven o'clock in the neighborhood. So yeah,
I don't know it's but anyway, I have Sonny for
another month.
Speaker 2: I know I have for another month too. Yeah, but
she is just living her best life. If I never
see her, I mean I see her for like a second,
she can't be bothered with me right now. I think
this is what I'm telling myself. I think she's and
maybe this has been going on for a while, but
I think she's just getting ready to like she's just
independent and she doesn't want to rely on me very much.
So she's just been I'm not gonna say distant, because
that's not true because She's still really sweet when she's
with me, and I've been I have okay. She has
been going to certain parties with some friends of hers,
and she's very responsible. She'll be like, well, we're gonna drink,
so can you your dad drive us out to the
party and then we'll uber home. I could not be
more thrilled with that, Like I am just like I
was nothing like that at her age. Oh, not give
a fuck. Yeah, didn't think about consequences, drank like always.
Speaker 1: Yeah, this generation they very much like they will. They
will chastise one of their friends if they found out
they were drinking and driving. You know, they are very
big on you just you have to take an uber.
You can't do that. That's all of their friends in
our neighborhood all seem to be that way.
Speaker 2: And like, I know, it's hypocritical because you know, I'm
gonna be honest, Like when I was drinking, the last
thing I did was drive drunk, you know, even though
nothing happened, and I can't believe. I can't believe I
did that. And then I go, well, that's because I
never thought I was drunk. But yet it's a double
standard because I'm like, well, there's no you have no
business ever getting behind the wheel if you're gonna if
you're gonna drink, there's no excuse exactly. I will say
that ubers weren't a thing back that I was when
I was still drinking. There's no such thing as uber.
There's no way to go, Oh, I'm gonna go to
this house and I might have a few drinks. I'll
just uber back now. There was also, though I don't
know if I would have done it, because if I
had two kids with me, like, we're gonna have to
get somebody with car seat, like, I don't know that
I would have. The point is, though, they do have
that option, So I'm always like, there's I know that
I would be mad out of my mind. I would
not be understanding, Like if I found out that I'll
be drove drunk, I would like lose my shit, which
is a double standard. Yeah, it's hypocritical, but she absolutely knows.
I would much rather you just be upfront with me.
And if you go somewhere and you drove and you
decide to drink, leave your car. I will never be
mad at you. Leave your car, come home. I will
drive you wherever you need to go to get your
car the next day, and it's not even a no
questions asked, like they're fourteen. It's really like you're almost
an adult. Like, look, she's almost twenty. The drinking age
is twenty one, so like in another year and a
few months be legal anyway, so what's the difference. I'm like,
I know you drink, I know you go to parties.
And the funny thing is she's I told her, I said,
you know, please be safe and don't get drunk, you know,
and she's always like, mom, I really don't. It's like
it's more the idea of it that's fun that we're
all having a few drinks than actually like I just
don't get drunk. And I'm like, oh, I guess you're
not an alcoholic.
Speaker 1: I know, No, that's the good thing. And you know
when Natalia, you know, she had that phase in high
school where you know that they were going to parties
and then she would get you know, really like she
would come home drunk and stuff. But she learned her lesson,
I think early on after that she had a little
bit of a phase there, and now it's like she
like when we went to that concert in Palm springs
and stuff. You know, they were drinking there. But then
she was like, you know, she was running the show
when her friend got lost, you know, right. And I've
seen her now come home from parties where she's fine,
and she's like, yeah, I don't ever want to ever
have that happen again. Like I learned my lesson early on, right,
So I'm kind of grateful for that, you know. And
then Sonny, I don't know, Sonny doesn't do anything.
Speaker 2: He doesn't I think.
Speaker 1: I asked Natalia. She said, you know, he once in
a while will have a beer at parties and stuff,
but the friends he hangs out with don't really do anything.
They don't really drink or they're kind of geeky golfers.
So she's like, yeah, there's more boys that just don't
have a vice. Some of them might smoke pot, but
Sonny's not really one of those people. Whereas the girls
in her school were the ones like partying and you know,
experimenting stuff, the boys not so much. I've heard it
from both of them.
Speaker 2: That's so interesting because even though Sadie I know she
doesn't drink, but I see her as being the one
that would experiment more than Xander is very like straight
and narrow, like just like no. I've asked him, have
you have you tried drinking? He's like, no, no interest.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh okay.
Speaker 1: I've talked to Sonny a little bit about it too,
because he knows that cousin sal is like that. Never
Dreak and Nicholas and Anthony were like that too in
high school, like they did not do anything until they
need to smoke pot until after high school. And Sonny's like,
I think I'm kind of like them, you know, like
I don't want to be accual. Yeah, it's nice.
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Speaker 2: So so you got sunny for another month, and I
have LB for one more month. But LB is not
interested in like doing stuff with the family, So now
I'm like probably gonna get over focused on Sadie and Xander.
I'm like trying to plan family stuff, like that's what
you guys want to go see a comedian at Largo
like this month? And they're easy that way. So I'm
just trying to pretend like LB's kind of already gone right,
not count on anything with her and not try to
force her into believe me, I'll grab lunches where I can.
But she's not. She's really never been the kid that
it comes out of her room to be like what
are you doing? Like you want to watch a movie?
Speaker 1: Never Natalia East same same.
Speaker 2: I remember the story of you watching a movie with
that Sonny suggested and her going off to watch Pretty
Little Liars in her room, mad at her.
Speaker 1: I took it so personally, Yeah, we watched Bronx Tale
and Sonny and I loved it, and we're like, Natalia,
you gotta watch it. It's a great movie. Watch it
with us, watch it with us. And she was like
sat there for five minutes and she goes, I'm bored,
I'm gonna go watch Pretty Little Liars. And I was like,
how dare you? This is a great movie. You know,
our heritage is Italian. It's like you get to see
Italian New York nineteen, you're.
Speaker 2: Sixteen, gitting on my ancestry.
Speaker 1: Yes, he was just like so mad, and I was like,
this is quality, and you're gonna watch some crappy frickin'
show about little liar. Come on, I know I did get.
I got took it. Very personally, my kids don't enjoy
watching TV with me. I'm not sure why it is,
because it's I'm not like annoying. I mean, I'm annoying
in general, but not watching TV. It's not like I'm
gonna be like talking to them through it or whatever.
But Sadie will suggest things to me, like she'll be like, mom,
I know how much you love prisons. You're gonna love
this show like ninety sixty Days or whatever, that prison show.
But then I'll be like, uh, well, she'll watch certain
things with me, but only if she's already seen it,
do you know what I mean? And then it's like
just comfort for her.
Speaker 2: And then she'll be on her phone and like you know,
she'll be like, oh, the next episode is good. You'll
like this next episode. And I'm like, but if you
already saw it I know, but then I'll be like, Sadie,
you would love Love is Blind, like come and watch
it with me, and she'll be.
Speaker 1: Like, nah, doesn't it make you mad?
Speaker 2: And then she'll watch something shitty on her own, yes,
like for hours in her room. Right, I don't understand it,
Like don't these people want company?
Speaker 1: I know? Well I did, I will say, well, Natalian
and I bonded over Jersey Shore, which she started watching
it without like she was watching it without me, But
then Love Island came along and then and she was like,
you want to watch Love Island tonight? You know? So
I did get to before last few weeks of her
being home, I did get to watch spend time with her,
you know. But she'll never go like you want to
take the dog for a walk, or if I say
you want to go for a walk. The only thing
she will do is invite me to go work out
with her, right, and I'll go as long as it's
not the hot yoga shit. Right.
Speaker 2: So, but then how much is that doing something together?
Because right, it's your driving there together, but then you're
both having a workout and then coming home. Huh, Like, Sadie,
did I tell you about how I got a gym membership.
I told you this story, right, how I got the
the guest membership. They were trying to sell me the
like six hundred dollars membership and I was like, no thanks,
and then they're like, well, I guess you could have
her as a guest on yours. And I was like,
why didn't you say so? So we've been going to
the gym, but it's the same thing, like I go
to the locker room, put my stuff away, come out,
do my own workout, and then sit on a bench
and wait for her to be done, and then we
drive home.
Speaker 1: Right, it's not like you're sitting next to me, you know,
doing the treadmill next to each other.
Speaker 2: Right, Well, I don't want to do that. I think
my kids would do that. But I'm like, now I'm
listening to a podcast, right, Like, I don't want to
chit chat. No, I hate that on the treadmill. Yeah,
I can't. That would make the time go by so slowly.
Speaker 1: I agree. And also, you can't talk and work out
at the same time. It's the world now.
Speaker 2: Yeah, although I could if it was like talking on
the phone to somebody. I was really but I can't
make conversation. N get with my kids and try to
work out.
Speaker 1: That's too much. It's too much mental gymnastics.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but Xander is like hanging out with this girlfriend
a lot and Sadie like they have their own friends,
they have their own lives and it's really cute. But
of course I am already like missing how it was
even like five, I don't know five years ago, but
then I think, but it was something really super excited,
Like there's a complaint for every age, and there's also
things that you love about every age.
Speaker 1: Oh, you know, absolutely.
Speaker 2: I would say there were definitely a lot more complaints
when they were really little. Then they go through kind
of a sweet spot where you're really feeling like, oh,
this is family time, like they want to do stuff
with you.
Speaker 1: Age you can.
Speaker 2: Give them experiences and they're not jaded, you know, like
my kids would hate, like they would complain about it
doesn't matter what we would, they would complain, Like if
I took them to Disneyland, they would be full of complaints.
Too much walking, the lines are too long. You know.
There's this sweet spot when they're young that it doesn't
matter you're standing in line. It's like, oh my god,
it's a small world. Like they're excited about everything. Then
they get to a certain age where you have to
step it up with the experiences. And I know that
even like when John took Sadie and Xander to New York, well,
you know, there was a lot of like, oh my god,
the walk, can we just can we take the subway?
Can we take a cat? You know, you deal with that.
And as you remember when I took LB, she loved
the trip in retrospect. In retrospect, she had an amazing
time and like could now see herself living in New
York at the time, there was a lot of grumpiness
right right.
Speaker 1: You know, there is so many different stages of you
go through ups and downs, and I just remember, like
I feel like it's seven, eight, nine, ten, eleve like
those were the that was that sweet spot where you
could take them to the movies and enjoy the same movie,
or you know, you can take them with you to
run errands and they'll just be happy to be able
to go. I remember, though, having trying to spend alone
time with each one. Yes, okay, now it's now it's
Sunny's but when it was sunny started to stay home
and n tally came with me, no problem. Oh but
when it was okay, your turn to stay home sunny, no, no, no,
like you would think I was abandoning her for life.
You know, she would be beg please, I want to
go please, Like she would feel like she had fomo.
And then as she got older, I could see she
still has fomo, Like she's got this fear of missing
out with her friends and stuff, so that it is
who she is. It's it's interesting. But and then you know,
then in high school they get older and then it's
a different kind of hang right yeah, yeah, but I yeah,
the most complaints were during toddler years because it was
so tough.
Speaker 2: What Kaitlin's going through right now, are you having is
it overwhelming?
Speaker 3: It hasn't quite gotten there yet. It's probably about too
now that we're doing soccer in school, Like Blake's just
starting to go back to school, So give it another
week and it'll probably be significantly overwhelmed by then.
Speaker 2: But like when you're home and their home, do you
feel a pressure to like entertain like to you know,
I don't know, play game with them or take them
somewhere or I mean because kids, your kids age can't
just hang right.
Speaker 3: I mean, we like to get them out of the
house when they're home all day, for sure, we like
to do something with them. But otherwise they have each other.
They're so close in age they can just play with
each other, and they do. They do it all day long,
to the point where I'm like, oh, well on board,
now I'm gonna go bug them. So I go try
and bug them for a little while until they tell
me to get lost.
Speaker 2: Do they watch TV? How are you handling like screen time? Yeah?
I kids watched a lot of time.
Speaker 3: Yeah. I mean now it's different because I was waking
up early to go to school, so no more TV
in the morning. But it's typically yeah, morning TV off
by about nine after breakfast, and then maybe like a
little bit more around like three or four, kind of
around nap time, and then just again right before they
go to bed. And then you know, if they're playing
together all day and they come and say, go, like
I want to play some games on the iPad, let
them play on the iPad for about half hour forty
five minutes, and then they usually get tired of that
and go to something else.
Speaker 1: So that sounds like Anthony's kids like just spending time
with and there they entertain each other. You know, they're
pretty good and they don't need TV. You know, like
they put them to bed the other night and you
know this morning they were having breakfast, no TV. You know,
they're just like happy to just play with each other.
Speaker 2: Oh my god. I have did not have the experience.
I don't have that because my kids watched a lot
of They loved it. Oh yeah, it was a full
on drug and they love they especially when they were little.
Elbie loved TV. M Oh my gosh. And I love
TV for her because I was busy with the twins
and I was like, thank god. I mean remember that
story of the twins screaming they the twins had when
they were Calligy as infants, and Elbe was just like,
please they stop. I can't hear Franklin because we didn't
have TV in the bedroom, so it was just like
one TV in the living room. And I was just like,
I'm crying, and she's just concerned that she can't hear
her Franklin show. And I was like, I've got bigger
fish to fry LB and like I'm sorry, it's loud.
Like I just remember the TV yeah, exactly. Yeah, but
oh my god, I don't know where I would have
been without TV.
Speaker 1: It totally helped me too, especially with twins. You know,
when you just you're trying to take care of one thing,
trying to put out a fire, you need one's you know,
you just got to It was a big help, you know.
Speaker 2: And I will say for anybody out there that's just like,
oh my god, that's terrible and it's going to ruin
their minds. My kids are not that into TV at
all anymore. They are not on screen. Xander's constantly. Xander
was really into TV as a kid. He would rather
go play tennis. Like he gets outside, He goes and
plays in the street with his friends. They go walk around.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like Sony does. Like same thing. Like Natalia's. She
doesn't watch a lot of TV at all. The only
time she watches is when she comes home from work
and she's you know, winding down, like she's on the go.
She's out out of the house all day. Funny is, well,
he watches a lot of sports, that's what he likes.
And then but he's he doesn't like he doesn't sit
and play video games all day. Yeah, and my kids
no my kids never did that, and on.
Speaker 2: My phone more than my kids are probably, yeah, checking emails,
playing little games, looking at my podcast. Look, well don't
you don't look at a podcast, but you know what
I mean, looking at like videos. I mean they also
this is interesting the my kids school, well all of
la USD. You just missed this. They've instituted a phone band.
Speaker 1: I heard about this.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so it is a big deal at my kids
school because even though my kids go to a charter school, uh,
it's it's still, you know, a public school, and they
do things the way the union that not the union,
the way the la School District does. So they have
to do every class they have to put their phones
in what looks like a shoe rack, like at the door.
They check their phones in at the door and then
they and at first they were all like, oh no,
it's going to be horrible. And Xander told me it's
much better, and so did Sadie. She's like, it's better
because kids are forced to like do their work or
if they're doing a group project, they have to interact
with each other. She goes, before people would just be
on their phone.
Speaker 1: Why they didn't do it sooner? I know, it makes sense. Yeah,
I can't believe. Like when my kids started going to
school they were able to have their phones on them.
I thought there would be some kind of band like
we could want you know, don't want to see your
phone out. If you get your phone out, you're gonna
you know, have Well.
Speaker 2: The's interesting thing is that my kids said that it's
not that different than it was before. It's just that
I guess some teachers were real strict about it and
would be I don't want to see your phone, so
they'd have to keep it in their backpack anyway. But
other teachers like didn't care. So the only bad thing
is that some kids and one of mine included, felt
like they needed to be listening to music to concentrate,
and they won't let them. So they can't have their
air they can't have their phone too, they can't play music,
and they can't have their airpipe. They can't have their
phone right, So that kind of sucks if they really
felt like they needed it.
Speaker 1: But I don't know, maybe they'll get used to it.
But yeah, it makes sense. So it's a whole district
wide band.
Speaker 2: Yeah wow, yeah, but so far, so good.
Speaker 1: That's good.
Speaker 2: The only reason I bring that up is because like
sort of talking about the kids getting addicted to like
screen their phones and their screens and their TV, and like,
I don't know, it's not it didn't have a lasting.
I watched a lot of TV as a kid, and
I don't really care that. I mean, I don't. I mean,
like sometimes I'll be like, oh, I want to I
want to relax and watch something, but a lot of
things I have to watch for work, I and so,
and then I'm just like, okay, let me get through this, right.
Speaker 1: I never watch TV during the day. I always watch
TV when I'm getting to bed at night. That's why
it takes me forever to finish a documentary because I'm out,
you know. Yeah, but yeah, like never, the TV's never
on during the day.
Speaker 2: So John and I have been listening to books together,
but I fall asleep immediately. I have The books are
so boring and it seems good in the moment, like
I don't know. We were listening to the some like
biography about Aaron Rodgers, and John was like, yeah, this
should be kind of juicy there. They're like going into
a whole bunch of stuff about the backstory, and you know,
he doesn't speak to his family, and I was like, yeah,
that sounds good. I fall asleep every single time he
starts playing it. I'm like, I don't understand what's going on.
Like it's all football talk, like they literally talk about
and and then this play and then on the second down,
and I'm like, darted bar. It's like, yeah, it's better
than Benadryl for me. And he's always like, did you
get to the part where I'm like, stop right, I'm
gonna stop it right there. I didn't get to any part.
As soon as I heard the narrator's voice, I was asleep.
Speaker 1: Gazing at the inside of my eyelids.
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