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<v Speaker 1>Helping leaders motivate their people to a higher level of

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<v Speaker 1>performance through strong human relations, team building, and GOLA giving.

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<v Speaker 1>This is the seven Minute Leadership Podcast with your host

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<v Speaker 1>Paul fella Aledo.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello everyone, and welcome to the seven Minute Leadership Podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>It's episode four to seventy eight. Today we're talking about

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<v Speaker 2>one of the most understood elements of leadership. Trust. Most

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<v Speaker 2>people think trust is something that builds slowly over months

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<v Speaker 2>or even years, but neuroscience shows us something very different.

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<v Speaker 2>Trust doesn't build over long stretches of time. It's accumulated

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<v Speaker 2>in microseconds. Think about that, microseconds faster than a blank,

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<v Speaker 2>faster than your brain can consciously process. And it's happening

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<v Speaker 2>all the time in the workplace, in meetings and common conversations,

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<v Speaker 2>even in text messages. Trust spikes or drops instantly based

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<v Speaker 2>on tone, pauses, facial expressions, and even the emoji you choose.

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<v Speaker 2>So let me break this down for you. Imagine you're

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<v Speaker 2>talking with an employee and they tell you about a

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<v Speaker 2>mistake they made. The words that come out of your

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<v Speaker 2>mouth matter, but just as much the way you pause

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<v Speaker 2>before answering matters. If your pause is too long, they

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<v Speaker 2>might read it as judgment or disappointment. If your tone

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<v Speaker 2>is sharp, even if your words are supportive, their trust

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<v Speaker 2>and you may dip. That dip might only be small,

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<v Speaker 2>but neuroscience tells us the brain remembers those dips and

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<v Speaker 2>adds them up. Now flip it around. You lean in,

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<v Speaker 2>you nod, You show with your face and body language

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<v Speaker 2>that you're listening. You take a beat, then calmly respond.

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<v Speaker 2>In that moment, trust spikes in the brain records that too.

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<v Speaker 2>Here's the leadership takeaway. Every micro moment is a trust transaction.

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<v Speaker 2>You're either making a deposit or a withdrawal. So let's

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<v Speaker 2>go even smaller. Think about written communication. A short K

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<v Speaker 2>in response to a text can feel cold and dismissive.

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<v Speaker 2>A thumbs up emoji might be efficient, but it can

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<v Speaker 2>also feel abrupt. Yet a simple got it thank you

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<v Speaker 2>with a smile emoji feels more human. One builds trust,

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<v Speaker 2>the other chips away at it. So here's the leadership challenge.

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<v Speaker 2>Stop thinking about trust is this big mountain you climb,

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<v Speaker 2>Start thinking about its grains of sand added or removed

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<v Speaker 2>with every interaction. That smile you give in the hallway,

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<v Speaker 2>the tone you use on a quick call, the speed

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<v Speaker 2>of your reply, the effort you put into choosing words

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<v Speaker 2>with care. These are all the microseconds that matter. The

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<v Speaker 2>mistake leaders make is assuming trust is built only during

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<v Speaker 2>the big moments and your reviews, promotions, crisis situations. But

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<v Speaker 2>science tells us those aren't the real drivers. Trust is

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<v Speaker 2>built or lost in the everyday microseconds where people decide

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<v Speaker 2>without even realizing it, whether you're safe, whether you're reliable,

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<v Speaker 2>and whether you're worth following. So here's an action move

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<v Speaker 2>for you tomorrow. Pick one area where you know you

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<v Speaker 2>can fine tune the microseconds. Maybe it's slowing down your

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<v Speaker 2>speech so your pause doesn't sound impatient. Maybe it's replying

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<v Speaker 2>to emails with warmth instead of one word answers. Maybe

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<v Speaker 2>it's checking your facial expressions in the mirror before walking

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<v Speaker 2>into a tough meeting. So if you take this seriously,

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<v Speaker 2>you'll notice the change. Your people will lean in more,

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<v Speaker 2>they'll share more openly, they'll trust you faster, and in leadership,

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<v Speaker 2>that's the ultimate competitive advantage. Remember, trust isn't a slow build.

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<v Speaker 2>It's an accumulation of micro moments that happen faster than

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<v Speaker 2>you think. And as the leader, you're responsible for stacking

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<v Speaker 2>the deck in your favor. This has been the seven

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<v Speaker 2>minute Leadership podcast, and I thank you for listening.

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