Speaker 1: Minnesota Goodbye. Let's get started. Yesterday we were talking a
Speaker 1: little bit about the Lovin on the show, and so
Speaker 1: it comes up at an email. We're gonna kick off
Speaker 1: the Minnesota Goodbye with an email about the Loven Hello,
Speaker 1: Ryan Show, don't use my name. The conversation about unsatisfactory
Speaker 1: SAex is so relevant in my life right now. I
Speaker 1: met someone really like him, felt we had a good connection.
Speaker 1: Fast forward, we have sex and there is no connection
Speaker 1: there at all. It is exactly what Dave describes as
Speaker 1: he rolls on top of her and rolls off. I
Speaker 1: haven't talked to him about it yet because I wanted
Speaker 1: to give it a few more tries to make sure
Speaker 1: it wasn't just figuring out a new partner. Nope, he
Speaker 1: is clueless. I tried to give feedback in the moment,
Speaker 1: and he is just not getting it. I plan to
Speaker 1: talk to him about it, but I've been curious if
Speaker 1: a guy thinks this is how sex should be and
Speaker 1: doesn't see a problem with not trying to give pleasure,
Speaker 1: can he even change? He's near thirty, That was my
Speaker 1: next question. Is he eighteen? Is he twenty one or
Speaker 1: forty six? He's near thirty, definitely experienced enough to know better.
Speaker 1: Am I making a ton of assumptions here? Or if
Speaker 1: a guy treats someone like this, I feel like they
Speaker 1: are probably very selfish in general. Love y'all, Anonymous, Jenny
Speaker 1: your thoughts.
Speaker 2: Ooh, I mean that's an age that I think you
Speaker 2: should maybe have learned by now that there's more into
Speaker 2: sex than what he's doing. So I would definitely like
Speaker 2: have that conversation with him. I don't know that I
Speaker 2: wouldn't have necessarily equate him being selfish in like every
Speaker 2: day life because of that in the bedroom, but definitely
Speaker 2: like have that conversation sooner rather than later and see
Speaker 2: if he's open to learning. I guess if he's not,
Speaker 2: then I would say, get out of that quick, get out.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I find it shocking that somebody is kind of
Speaker 1: like somebody who is like thirty years old and doesn't
Speaker 1: know how to do their laundry. It's like, Okay, at
Speaker 1: some point you should have, like I don't know, been
Speaker 1: self awarely are they enjoying this?
Speaker 2: Sure?
Speaker 1: Should they be enjoying this? Are women? And he might
Speaker 1: not realize that women are capable of enjoying it. Maybe
Speaker 1: he was grew up in an environment where I don't
Speaker 1: know where he was given the idea that sex was
Speaker 1: like just for the man to enjoy.
Speaker 3: I don't know what would you what's your advice to
Speaker 3: her for like bringing it up though, because that's I
Speaker 3: think that's like a valid concern of being like, I
Speaker 3: don't know how to say something like in the moment
Speaker 3: you give like feedback, and even then giving feedback in
Speaker 3: the moment feels awkward, like can you stop doing.
Speaker 2: That or whatever?
Speaker 3: Or this, that and the other thing. So like, if
Speaker 3: you're gonna sit down with somebody, if it was you
Speaker 3: in that position, Dave, how would you want to be
Speaker 3: like approached?
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a very personal thing. I once had a
Speaker 1: girl tell me that I was kissing too weirdly or
Speaker 1: strangely or deeply or something, and it really was like ouch,
Speaker 1: that really hurt because you know, I wasn't eighteen and
Speaker 1: I was older, and I thought that my kid seeing
Speaker 1: skills were on point and I was told that they
Speaker 1: were not. So it was a little bit weird. I
Speaker 1: think you got to handle it delicately. But this guy
Speaker 1: is so clueless. I think maybe he just doesn't know.
Speaker 1: Maybe he's maybe his last few partners were women who
Speaker 1: didn't enjoy sex. Maybe he's the reason why, and maybe
Speaker 1: that's what he's been taught is just roll on, do
Speaker 1: a couple of things, and then and then roll off.
Speaker 1: I would you got to bring it up because if
Speaker 1: you don't bring it up, he is never going to change.
Speaker 1: And maybe it's something like, you know what, let's take
Speaker 1: our time a little bit, you know what, try this,
Speaker 1: Let's try this. There are some guys who won't talk
Speaker 1: on the pink phone. Oh yeah, there's some guys who won't.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: They think it's like disgusting or whatever. And it's like
Speaker 1: Khaled DJ Khaled won't talk on the pink phone. And
Speaker 1: I think that that is extremely ignorant, very selfish, But
Speaker 1: some people think it's beneath them. I don't know. In
Speaker 1: the same manner that some women probably won't give me
Speaker 1: a euphemism, Jenny, they won't.
Speaker 2: Make on the lollipop stuck on that.
Speaker 1: Good one. I think there probably are women who won't.
Speaker 1: I don't know, though.
Speaker 3: I feel like once you say something, though, if it
Speaker 3: doesn't change at all, then I agree with Jenny, like
Speaker 3: get out of it, because it's just because then you're
Speaker 3: gonna end up just starting like making excuses for him
Speaker 3: where we're like, well, I like him in other aspects,
Speaker 3: so I guess I can get by with this terrible
Speaker 3: part of my life. But I just say, drop him.
Speaker 3: If he's not listening to you at all and is
Speaker 3: like super clueless, then clearly he doesn't care that much.
Speaker 1: I think she brought up a point, is he going
Speaker 1: to be selfish in other areas of his life?
Speaker 2: I don't really think that that, okay, is like a thing,
Speaker 2: but yeah, I just I do just think that some
Speaker 2: people aren't as sexually adventurous in certain ways, and so
Speaker 2: maybe this is how he enjoys sex. That's obviously like
Speaker 2: so selfish and unfair to you, But I don't know.
Speaker 2: I mean, during my heyday there was like one person
Speaker 2: who I liked as a human, but the sex was
Speaker 2: the most vanilla shit I'd ever experienced, and I was like, uh, like,
Speaker 2: we got to do something more here, and eventually nothing
Speaker 2: came of it because I just it wasn't there for us.
Speaker 1: Ginny brought in an egg beater, which I thought was
Speaker 1: really interesting. Was it an egg beater or a whisks?
Speaker 1: All right, Bailey, this is for you. It's everybody can
Speaker 1: offer their opinion. This past Sunday, I was at the
Speaker 1: Renaissance Festival. I saw Bailey walking assuming you were headed
Speaker 1: out for the day, and exactly twenty things went through
Speaker 1: my brain like, oh my god, that's Bailey EO. I
Speaker 1: smell and look terrible. No, that's not her. Should I
Speaker 1: shout her name? Yeah, it's definitely her. I bet she
Speaker 1: just wants to go home leave her alone. Nah, she
Speaker 1: would love it. So my question is, Bailey, do you
Speaker 1: want to be bothered out in public? When is it
Speaker 1: appropriate or not appropriate?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 3: You can bother me out in public. Yeah, I don't
Speaker 3: mind anyone bothering me out in public. Is if you say,
Speaker 3: just know that, like, my resting face is not a
Speaker 3: pleasant one. I don't look happy when I'm walking places.
Speaker 3: So if you see me and I look pissed, it's
Speaker 3: just what my face looks like. So if you say hey, Bailey,
Speaker 3: and I look at you and I realize that I
Speaker 3: don't know you, I will smile because I will assume
Speaker 3: that you are a listener, and I will stop and
Speaker 3: talk to you. I have a lot of people talk
Speaker 3: to me on Sunday, which was really great. So I
Speaker 3: got to meet quite a few people. So yeah, if
Speaker 3: you see me in public, you can definitely say hi.
Speaker 3: And if I'm with my friends too, Honestly, it makes
Speaker 3: me look cooler to my friends, so I don't mind.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's still new to you, so it still feels
Speaker 1: really cool or it feels like look at me. My
Speaker 1: kids would get annoyed with it. Susan is very patient
Speaker 1: with it, And I don't mind at all when people
Speaker 1: come up and say hi, And if I have time,
Speaker 1: then I'll talk to him for a little bit. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but if I'm in a hurry to get somewhere, I'll be,
Speaker 1: you know, as polite as I can be. But no,
Speaker 1: I don't mind it at all. It rarely, rarely, rarely
Speaker 1: happens once a week maybe, and usually doesn't happen until
Speaker 1: I talk, like if i'm you know, if I open
Speaker 1: my mouth, somebody's like, oh I heard, and people will
Speaker 1: go do I know you from somewhere? And my favorite
Speaker 1: line is, well, do you watch a lot of porn?
Speaker 2: And except for when you said that at a grad
Speaker 2: party or.
Speaker 1: Something, Yeah said to the grad party to the graduate's grandmother. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And she's like, we've met before, haven't we? And I said,
Speaker 1: do you watch a lot of porn, and she kind
Speaker 1: of looked at me like sideways a little bit like
Speaker 1: huh and uh, yeah, what about you, Jenny.
Speaker 2: Oh, I love when people come say hi. Come say
Speaker 2: hi all the time. The one I feel like I've
Speaker 2: put off so many people because of the way I
Speaker 2: speak about I don't want to be interrupted at the gym,
Speaker 2: and then I'll like learn from someone like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 2: I work out there too, but you always seem to
Speaker 2: like be in a rush. And I was like, yeah,
Speaker 2: that's like the one place that I kind of just
Speaker 2: want to get in and out. And it's not because
Speaker 2: I don't want to talk to you. It's just because
Speaker 2: like my motivation is already lacking half the time that
Speaker 2: I want to just like get my work out done
Speaker 2: and get out of there. So that's like the one
Speaker 2: spot that like I do think it's like very respectful
Speaker 2: if you kind of like if you say hi to
Speaker 2: me and passing, sure, Like I would love for you
Speaker 2: to say hi, but I would I probably don't want
Speaker 2: to have a conversation at the gym.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I would never get to a point
Speaker 1: where you're like, no, leave me alone. I think the
Speaker 1: one thing though, is like if I'm sitting there at
Speaker 1: a table having dinner with the family mm hm and
Speaker 1: you walk by and say hi. That's fine. But we
Speaker 1: stop going to a restaurant one time because the manager
Speaker 1: would sit down in the booth with us. Oh that's no,
Speaker 1: and would chat away, and he would squat by our
Speaker 1: table and put his elbows in his arms up on
Speaker 1: the table and sit there and talk to us. And
Speaker 1: it was like, dude, I am not here to talk
Speaker 1: to you. Yeah, stop and say hi, but I want
Speaker 1: to hang out with with Susan and Carson and Allison.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: It goes on to say, my daughter's been in therapy
Speaker 1: most of her life, and every therapist will say, I
Speaker 1: live in this town. You will see me out in
Speaker 1: public and you can say hi, but I will never
Speaker 1: talk about treatments or sessions while out of the office,
Speaker 1: which is one hundred percent appropriate. Fortunately, we never saw
Speaker 1: one out in the wild. I'm sure my daughter wouldn't
Speaker 1: recognize him out of office setting. But it's a great boundary.
Speaker 1: Have you ever had to set boundaries on a fan?
Speaker 1: That should be enough to discuss for a whole podcast.
Speaker 1: Sorry to be long winded, but you know, Minnesota. Goodbye,
Speaker 1: dart lig from Megan. Uh Well. The only fan that
Speaker 1: I ever had to set a boundary with was many
Speaker 1: years ago. There was a listener. It was a guy,
Speaker 1: and I can't remember exactly, but somehow I called him
Speaker 1: for something. And this is back in the days of
Speaker 1: you know, cell phones worth thing, but call her ID
Speaker 1: on your phone. Remember caller ID. You would call somebody
Speaker 1: and they have a little box by their phone and
Speaker 1: would say their phone number.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So I called him for something like oh, it could
Speaker 1: have been like, hey, you want a T shirt? I
Speaker 1: need to get your address. I didn't get it. So
Speaker 1: then he started calling my home number because it was
Speaker 1: a novelty to have my number, and he'd called me
Speaker 1: like hey, just seeing what's going on. I'm like, oh hi, yeah,
Speaker 1: blah blah blah. And I'd be like, I don't want
Speaker 1: you to call me, oh yeah, calling me at home.
Speaker 1: And so then he he called me. He had a
Speaker 1: bunch of friends over and he wanted to show off
Speaker 1: that he had my numbers. So he calls me and
Speaker 1: he's like, hey, Dave, it's me. Hey, can you say hi?
Speaker 1: And all my friends were on speaker and I'm like hi.
Speaker 1: And so next time he called. I said, I don't
Speaker 1: want you calling me. You know, we're not friends. You
Speaker 1: shouldn't have my phone number. And he got so mad
Speaker 1: that he called my boss, Oh god, and told my
Speaker 1: boss how rude I was for not wanting to talk
Speaker 1: to him. And I think that there are certain people
Speaker 1: like they'll be like, I'm a Taylor Swift fan. She
Speaker 1: owes me, right, she owes me yeah, because I buy
Speaker 1: her albums and I spent twelve hundred dollars on concert tickets,
Speaker 1: she owes me. Or I watched I listened to I
Speaker 1: watched fallon on TV. So when I see here at cubs,
Speaker 1: she owes me fifteen minutes of time. Sure, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: I don't. Taylor Swift doesn't owe me or you anything.
Speaker 1: But I think that maybe that was his attitude, like
Speaker 1: I'm a listener of your show, so you owe me.
Speaker 1: I should be able to call you.
Speaker 3: But then like what if we all had your number
Speaker 3: and we were all calling you at home because you
Speaker 3: were Yeah, then that's like, no, oh my gosh, I'm
Speaker 3: so annoyed that he called.
Speaker 1: Yeah. He was a nice guy, he just a little
Speaker 1: bit different.
Speaker 2: Can I tell you a story of how I had
Speaker 2: to set a boundary one time. Okay, so I was
Speaker 2: going on a boat with some friends and it was
Speaker 2: like girlfriends I knew, but I didn't know the people
Speaker 2: who owned the boat. And as soon as I got
Speaker 2: on the boat, we were like introducing ourselves and then
Speaker 2: someone was like, oh, yeah, she works on the Dave
Speaker 2: Ryan Show. And right away the guy who drove the
Speaker 2: boat was like asking me a very personal question about
Speaker 2: Fallon and I looked at him and I go, I
Speaker 2: don't think that's really any of your business. And he
Speaker 2: looked back at me and he goes, you know what,
Speaker 2: You're right. That was rude.
Speaker 1: Wow.
Speaker 2: And that's how literally the boat day started with me
Speaker 2: being like, no, motherfucker, I am not answering that that's
Speaker 2: none of your business and so like. And he was
Speaker 2: cool after that, but then I was in my head
Speaker 2: the rest of the time like that. It was such
Speaker 2: a bit and then it just like fluffed up an
Speaker 2: answer and whatever.
Speaker 1: But I could get it. I think I know the
Speaker 1: question that he asked, and I get that once in
Speaker 1: a while too, and I say, I don't know anything
Speaker 1: about it. Yeah I don't, and I know little about it,
Speaker 1: but it's certainly maybe it certainly is not any of
Speaker 1: my business, and I'm certainly not going to discuss it.
Speaker 1: I'd be like, yeah, that's you know, people have asked
Speaker 1: me that question. I don't know anything about it, all right.
Speaker 1: Next one, let's go to Anika Dave Jenny vont Bailey.
Speaker 1: When doing radio contest, how do you select a winner?
Speaker 1: I asked, because I've been calling all last week and
Speaker 1: again this morning for pink tickets and it just seems
Speaker 1: like I can never ever win. This morning I was
Speaker 1: called her number one, tried again, immediately got through and
Speaker 1: was told I wasn't a winter. How does that work?
Speaker 1: It's it's a matter of a couple of things. Number one, try, try, try,
Speaker 1: keep trying. The people who win usually have won a
Speaker 1: lot because they try. Try try number two. When the
Speaker 1: phone does ring in somebody answers, make sure you respond
Speaker 1: like they go, hello, Katie. Will you be sound energetics,
Speaker 1: super excited. That's not a requirement to win. But sometimes
Speaker 1: we take random callers. Sometimes we take caller number ten
Speaker 1: and they win, whether they sound like they're on death's
Speaker 1: door or what. But but if we're taking a random caller,
Speaker 1: sound excited, just like you don't see people on prices, right,
Speaker 1: they go, I, Drew.
Speaker 2: I'm happy to be here.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so hello, you know, try try to sound excited. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and that'll help you for sure.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: And also as the person who used to answer the
Speaker 2: phone for many years, don't like maybe like say someone's
Speaker 2: name wrong, like oh, like yeah, can I talk to
Speaker 2: Tom Bernard? Things like that happen sometimes, and I'm sure
Speaker 2: most people would not do that.
Speaker 1: Well, it's true because people people do. You know, we
Speaker 1: think that people know everything about us. DJs are the worst.
Speaker 1: They think that people listen to every phone number, call
Speaker 1: you know, get your carpet cleaned at one eight hundred
Speaker 1: and eighty two to two seventy eight fifty six, and
Speaker 1: people like, I didn't hear that fucking number. But we
Speaker 1: think that you're sitting there listening with a pen and paper,
Speaker 1: taking careful notes. And we think that you know everybody's name.
Speaker 1: You don't. Some people do. And what I always make
Speaker 1: a joke is like you'll answer the phone hello, KTWB,
Speaker 1: and somebody go, here's the answer, Mayonnaise. What what? Because
Speaker 1: another radio station is asking a trivia question, you think
Speaker 1: you're calling the other radio station. So here's an interesting one.
Speaker 1: We were talking about sexual accidents yesterday on the show.
Speaker 1: This text says, best station around KTWB. I was having
Speaker 1: some fun loving with a guy in Chicago. Unfortunately, the
Speaker 1: curtains caught on fire and spread fast enough the fireman came,
Speaker 1: and not in a good way. Ha ha oh I
Speaker 1: love that. I love y'all. Remember stay sexy and move
Speaker 1: your candles away from the curtains before sexy time.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I don't even like having candles on usually, unless it's
Speaker 2: like one of those sex candles that you use like
Speaker 2: the wax to put on on your partner or something,
Speaker 2: then maybe go on We Loved Different Lives. Well, there's
Speaker 2: candles that, like the purpose of it is to burn
Speaker 2: so you can then pour the wax onto your partner.
Speaker 2: Why because it's hot? Literally?
Speaker 1: Really?
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're telling me you've never done anything with candle.
Speaker 1: Did Yeah, Julie and I there was a Madonna Innocent
Speaker 1: There was a Madonna movie. I don't know what the
Speaker 1: Madonna movie was came out around ninety ninety one, something
Speaker 1: like that, where Madonna was getting it on with some
Speaker 1: guy and they were dripping candle wax on each other.
Speaker 1: So Julie, who was kind of kinky. She's like, I
Speaker 1: want to try that, and it was okay. It didn't
Speaker 1: do anything for me. It was kind of like the
Speaker 1: girl one time who wanted to bring hot chocolate or
Speaker 1: syrup into the bedroom and I'm like, yeah, sure, I'll
Speaker 1: try it. It was nasty, it was sticky, it was
Speaker 1: and she even said, yeah, this is kind of gross
Speaker 1: syrup and hot syrup and chocolate.
Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure I've told this story before, but one
Speaker 2: time I was trying to be all like sexy and
Speaker 2: cute with the sky I was seen and I bought
Speaker 2: whipped cream. Whatever, but I bought like dairy free, whib free.
Speaker 2: You're so fucking bad. It was disgusting. It smelled weird
Speaker 2: as it like lingered on your skin afterwards. Yeah, pretty much,
Speaker 2: pretty much. So regardless, I'm not a fan of food
Speaker 2: in the bed.
Speaker 1: No, and I agree with you. I would say we
Speaker 1: did whipped cream. It wasn't Susan many years ago, and
Speaker 1: I think it was dairy and so the smell of
Speaker 1: sour milk gets in your nostrils. Yeah, and you can't
Speaker 1: get that out. So uh, let's move on to another one.
Speaker 1: Let's see what we got here. Give me one second.
Speaker 1: There's some long ones that I haven't pre read. Okay,
Speaker 1: here we go, Dave Jenny Bailey Monday's Minnesota Goodbye. Somebody
Speaker 1: mailed in about twenty year olds listening to videos on
Speaker 1: their phones on speakers in public places. As much of
Speaker 1: an advocate I am for not having headphones in when
Speaker 1: I'm out for a walk or run, it does seem
Speaker 1: rude to me, but I want to advocate that advocate
Speaker 1: that it's not just twenty year olds. Oddly enough, and
Speaker 1: just last Thursday, I met my husband for lunch at
Speaker 1: a Chinese buffet and we sat down and there were
Speaker 1: two separate scenarios in the restaurant that made my mouth drop.
Speaker 1: Number One, a couple in their thirties were listening to
Speaker 1: videos or TV or something on their phone in their
Speaker 1: booth while eating. Number two, an older gentleman on a
Speaker 1: table full of people was having a phone call on
Speaker 1: a speakerphone. It wasn't up to his ear on a speakerphone,
Speaker 1: implying he was hard of hearing, nor was it held
Speaker 1: out for anyone at the table to who listened to
Speaker 1: the conversation. He held it flat on his hand in
Speaker 1: front of him. Perpendicular to his body. I couldn't believe it,
Speaker 1: and of course it was a recent scenario that mirrored
Speaker 1: up to a Minnesota goodbye that I had to share.
Speaker 1: People are just oblivious or not raised to be considerate,
Speaker 1: or sometimes they still don't figure it out by growing
Speaker 1: up crazy. Anyway, Happy Tuesday cheers from staff writer Sydney.
Speaker 1: We did talk about this and reflect on it a
Speaker 1: little bit. Is it becoming more the norm to be
Speaker 1: on a speaker in public? Or is it becoming the
Speaker 1: norm to be rude and self centered?
Speaker 3: I mean, haven't people been rude like since the dawn
Speaker 3: of time? Yeah? What was it like at the dawn
Speaker 3: of time?
Speaker 1: Well, it was surprising because we did not actually have limbs.
Speaker 1: We had to slither along the beach. And I remember
Speaker 1: my friend, yeah, Scott, he was finally the one