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<v Speaker 1>Minnesota Goodbye. Let's get started. Yesterday we were talking a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit about the Lovin on the show, and so

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<v Speaker 1>it comes up at an email. We're gonna kick off

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<v Speaker 1>the Minnesota Goodbye with an email about the Loven Hello,

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<v Speaker 1>Ryan Show, don't use my name. The conversation about unsatisfactory

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<v Speaker 1>SAex is so relevant in my life right now. I

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<v Speaker 1>met someone really like him, felt we had a good connection.

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<v Speaker 1>Fast forward, we have sex and there is no connection

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<v Speaker 1>there at all. It is exactly what Dave describes as

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<v Speaker 1>he rolls on top of her and rolls off. I

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<v Speaker 1>haven't talked to him about it yet because I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to give it a few more tries to make sure

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<v Speaker 1>it wasn't just figuring out a new partner. Nope, he

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<v Speaker 1>is clueless. I tried to give feedback in the moment,

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<v Speaker 1>and he is just not getting it. I plan to

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<v Speaker 1>talk to him about it, but I've been curious if

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<v Speaker 1>a guy thinks this is how sex should be and

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't see a problem with not trying to give pleasure,

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<v Speaker 1>can he even change? He's near thirty, That was my

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<v Speaker 1>next question. Is he eighteen? Is he twenty one or

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<v Speaker 1>forty six? He's near thirty, definitely experienced enough to know better.

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<v Speaker 1>Am I making a ton of assumptions here? Or if

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<v Speaker 1>a guy treats someone like this, I feel like they

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<v Speaker 1>are probably very selfish in general. Love y'all, Anonymous, Jenny

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<v Speaker 1>your thoughts.

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<v Speaker 2>Ooh, I mean that's an age that I think you

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<v Speaker 2>should maybe have learned by now that there's more into

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<v Speaker 2>sex than what he's doing. So I would definitely like

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<v Speaker 2>have that conversation with him. I don't know that I

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<v Speaker 2>wouldn't have necessarily equate him being selfish in like every

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<v Speaker 2>day life because of that in the bedroom, but definitely

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<v Speaker 2>like have that conversation sooner rather than later and see

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<v Speaker 2>if he's open to learning. I guess if he's not,

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<v Speaker 2>then I would say, get out of that quick, get out.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. I find it shocking that somebody is kind of

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<v Speaker 1>like somebody who is like thirty years old and doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>know how to do their laundry. It's like, Okay, at

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<v Speaker 1>some point you should have, like I don't know, been

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<v Speaker 1>self awarely are they enjoying this?

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<v Speaker 2>Sure?

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<v Speaker 1>Should they be enjoying this? Are women? And he might

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<v Speaker 1>not realize that women are capable of enjoying it. Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>he was grew up in an environment where I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know where he was given the idea that sex was

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<v Speaker 1>like just for the man to enjoy.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know what would you what's your advice to

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<v Speaker 3>her for like bringing it up though, because that's I

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<v Speaker 3>think that's like a valid concern of being like, I

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<v Speaker 3>don't know how to say something like in the moment

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<v Speaker 3>you give like feedback, and even then giving feedback in

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<v Speaker 3>the moment feels awkward, like can you stop doing.

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<v Speaker 2>That or whatever?

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<v Speaker 3>Or this, that and the other thing. So like, if

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<v Speaker 3>you're gonna sit down with somebody, if it was you

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<v Speaker 3>in that position, Dave, how would you want to be

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<v Speaker 3>like approached?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's a very personal thing. I once had a

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<v Speaker 1>girl tell me that I was kissing too weirdly or

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<v Speaker 1>strangely or deeply or something, and it really was like ouch,

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<v Speaker 1>that really hurt because you know, I wasn't eighteen and

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<v Speaker 1>I was older, and I thought that my kid seeing

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<v Speaker 1>skills were on point and I was told that they

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<v Speaker 1>were not. So it was a little bit weird. I

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<v Speaker 1>think you got to handle it delicately. But this guy

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<v Speaker 1>is so clueless. I think maybe he just doesn't know.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe he's maybe his last few partners were women who

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<v Speaker 1>didn't enjoy sex. Maybe he's the reason why, and maybe

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<v Speaker 1>that's what he's been taught is just roll on, do

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<v Speaker 1>a couple of things, and then and then roll off.

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<v Speaker 1>I would you got to bring it up because if

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<v Speaker 1>you don't bring it up, he is never going to change.

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<v Speaker 1>And maybe it's something like, you know what, let's take

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<v Speaker 1>our time a little bit, you know what, try this,

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<v Speaker 1>Let's try this. There are some guys who won't talk

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<v Speaker 1>on the pink phone. Oh yeah, there's some guys who won't.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>They think it's like disgusting or whatever. And it's like

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<v Speaker 1>Khaled DJ Khaled won't talk on the pink phone. And

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<v Speaker 1>I think that that is extremely ignorant, very selfish, But

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<v Speaker 1>some people think it's beneath them. I don't know. In

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<v Speaker 1>the same manner that some women probably won't give me

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<v Speaker 1>a euphemism, Jenny, they won't.

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<v Speaker 2>Make on the lollipop stuck on that.

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<v Speaker 1>Good one. I think there probably are women who won't.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, though.

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like once you say something, though, if it

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<v Speaker 3>doesn't change at all, then I agree with Jenny, like

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<v Speaker 3>get out of it, because it's just because then you're

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<v Speaker 3>gonna end up just starting like making excuses for him

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<v Speaker 3>where we're like, well, I like him in other aspects,

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<v Speaker 3>so I guess I can get by with this terrible

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<v Speaker 3>part of my life. But I just say, drop him.

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<v Speaker 3>If he's not listening to you at all and is

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<v Speaker 3>like super clueless, then clearly he doesn't care that much.

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<v Speaker 1>I think she brought up a point, is he going

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<v Speaker 1>to be selfish in other areas of his life?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't really think that that, okay, is like a thing,

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<v Speaker 2>but yeah, I just I do just think that some

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<v Speaker 2>people aren't as sexually adventurous in certain ways, and so

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<v Speaker 2>maybe this is how he enjoys sex. That's obviously like

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<v Speaker 2>so selfish and unfair to you, But I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, during my heyday there was like one person

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<v Speaker 2>who I liked as a human, but the sex was

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<v Speaker 2>the most vanilla shit I'd ever experienced, and I was like, uh, like,

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<v Speaker 2>we got to do something more here, and eventually nothing

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<v Speaker 2>came of it because I just it wasn't there for us.

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<v Speaker 1>Ginny brought in an egg beater, which I thought was

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<v Speaker 1>really interesting. Was it an egg beater or a whisks?

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<v Speaker 1>All right, Bailey, this is for you. It's everybody can

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<v Speaker 1>offer their opinion. This past Sunday, I was at the

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<v Speaker 1>Renaissance Festival. I saw Bailey walking assuming you were headed

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<v Speaker 1>out for the day, and exactly twenty things went through

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<v Speaker 1>my brain like, oh my god, that's Bailey EO. I

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<v Speaker 1>smell and look terrible. No, that's not her. Should I

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<v Speaker 1>shout her name? Yeah, it's definitely her. I bet she

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<v Speaker 1>just wants to go home leave her alone. Nah, she

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<v Speaker 1>would love it. So my question is, Bailey, do you

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<v Speaker 1>want to be bothered out in public? When is it

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<v Speaker 1>appropriate or not appropriate?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>You can bother me out in public. Yeah, I don't

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<v Speaker 3>mind anyone bothering me out in public. Is if you say,

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<v Speaker 3>just know that, like, my resting face is not a

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<v Speaker 3>pleasant one. I don't look happy when I'm walking places.

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<v Speaker 3>So if you see me and I look pissed, it's

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<v Speaker 3>just what my face looks like. So if you say hey, Bailey,

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<v Speaker 3>and I look at you and I realize that I

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<v Speaker 3>don't know you, I will smile because I will assume

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<v Speaker 3>that you are a listener, and I will stop and

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<v Speaker 3>talk to you. I have a lot of people talk

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<v Speaker 3>to me on Sunday, which was really great. So I

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<v Speaker 3>got to meet quite a few people. So yeah, if

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<v Speaker 3>you see me in public, you can definitely say hi.

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<v Speaker 3>And if I'm with my friends too, Honestly, it makes

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<v Speaker 3>me look cooler to my friends, so I don't mind.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's still new to you, so it still feels

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<v Speaker 1>really cool or it feels like look at me. My

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<v Speaker 1>kids would get annoyed with it. Susan is very patient

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<v Speaker 1>with it, And I don't mind at all when people

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<v Speaker 1>come up and say hi, And if I have time,

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<v Speaker 1>then I'll talk to him for a little bit. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but if I'm in a hurry to get somewhere, I'll be,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, as polite as I can be. But no,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't mind it at all. It rarely, rarely, rarely

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<v Speaker 1>happens once a week maybe, and usually doesn't happen until

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<v Speaker 1>I talk, like if i'm you know, if I open

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<v Speaker 1>my mouth, somebody's like, oh I heard, and people will

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<v Speaker 1>go do I know you from somewhere? And my favorite

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<v Speaker 1>line is, well, do you watch a lot of porn?

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<v Speaker 2>And except for when you said that at a grad

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<v Speaker 2>party or.

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<v Speaker 1>Something, Yeah said to the grad party to the graduate's grandmother. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>And she's like, we've met before, haven't we? And I said,

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<v Speaker 1>do you watch a lot of porn, and she kind

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<v Speaker 1>of looked at me like sideways a little bit like

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<v Speaker 1>huh and uh, yeah, what about you, Jenny.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, I love when people come say hi. Come say

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<v Speaker 2>hi all the time. The one I feel like I've

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<v Speaker 2>put off so many people because of the way I

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<v Speaker 2>speak about I don't want to be interrupted at the gym,

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<v Speaker 2>and then I'll like learn from someone like, oh, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I work out there too, but you always seem to

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<v Speaker 2>like be in a rush. And I was like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>that's like the one place that I kind of just

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<v Speaker 2>want to get in and out. And it's not because

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to talk to you. It's just because

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<v Speaker 2>like my motivation is already lacking half the time that

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<v Speaker 2>I want to just like get my work out done

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<v Speaker 2>and get out of there. So that's like the one

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<v Speaker 2>spot that like I do think it's like very respectful

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<v Speaker 2>if you kind of like if you say hi to

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<v Speaker 2>me and passing, sure, Like I would love for you

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<v Speaker 2>to say hi, but I would I probably don't want

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<v Speaker 2>to have a conversation at the gym.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I think I would never get to a point

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<v Speaker 1>where you're like, no, leave me alone. I think the

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<v Speaker 1>one thing though, is like if I'm sitting there at

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<v Speaker 1>a table having dinner with the family mm hm and

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<v Speaker 1>you walk by and say hi. That's fine. But we

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<v Speaker 1>stop going to a restaurant one time because the manager

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<v Speaker 1>would sit down in the booth with us. Oh that's no,

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<v Speaker 1>and would chat away, and he would squat by our

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<v Speaker 1>it was like, dude, I am not here to talk

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<v Speaker 1>to you. Yeah, stop and say hi, but I want

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<v Speaker 1>to hang out with with Susan and Carson and Allison.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>It goes on to say, my daughter's been in therapy

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<v Speaker 1>most of her life, and every therapist will say, I

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<v Speaker 1>live in this town. You will see me out in

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<v Speaker 1>public and you can say hi, but I will never

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<v Speaker 1>talk about treatments or sessions while out of the office,

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<v Speaker 1>which is one hundred percent appropriate. Fortunately, we never saw

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<v Speaker 1>one out in the wild. I'm sure my daughter wouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>recognize him out of office setting. But it's a great boundary.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you ever had to set boundaries on a fan?

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<v Speaker 1>That should be enough to discuss for a whole podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Sorry to be long winded, but you know, Minnesota. Goodbye,

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<v Speaker 1>dart lig from Megan. Uh Well. The only fan that

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<v Speaker 1>I ever had to set a boundary with was many

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<v Speaker 1>years ago. There was a listener. It was a guy,

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<v Speaker 1>and I can't remember exactly, but somehow I called him

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<v Speaker 1>for something. And this is back in the days of

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<v Speaker 1>you know, cell phones worth thing, but call her ID

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<v Speaker 1>on your phone. Remember caller ID. You would call somebody

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<v Speaker 1>and they have a little box by their phone and

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<v Speaker 1>would say their phone number.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So I called him for something like oh, it could

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<v Speaker 1>like hey, just seeing what's going on. I'm like, oh hi, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>he's like, hey, Dave, it's me. Hey, can you say hi?

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<v Speaker 1>And all my friends were on speaker and I'm like hi.

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<v Speaker 1>And so next time he called. I said, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>watched fallon on TV. So when I see here at cubs,

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<v Speaker 1>she owes me fifteen minutes of time. Sure, no, no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>But I think that maybe that was his attitude, like

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a listener of your show, so you owe me.

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<v Speaker 3>But then like what if we all had your number

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. He was a nice guy, he just a little

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<v Speaker 2>Can I tell you a story of how I had

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<v Speaker 2>like girlfriends I knew, but I didn't know the people

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<v Speaker 2>someone was like, oh, yeah, she works on the Dave

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<v Speaker 2>Ryan Show. And right away the guy who drove the

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<v Speaker 2>Fallon and I looked at him and I go, I

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<v Speaker 2>You're right. That was rude.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's how literally the boat day started with me

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<v Speaker 2>the rest of the time like that. It was such

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<v Speaker 1>But I could get it. I think I know the

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<v Speaker 1>question that he asked, and I get that once in

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<v Speaker 1>a while too, and I say, I don't know anything

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<v Speaker 1>I'd be like, yeah, that's you know, people have asked

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<v Speaker 1>me that question. I don't know anything about it, all right.

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<v Speaker 1>Next one, let's go to Anika Dave Jenny vont Bailey.

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<v Speaker 1>When doing radio contest, how do you select a winner?

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<v Speaker 1>I asked, because I've been calling all last week and

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<v Speaker 1>called her number one, tried again, immediately got through and

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<v Speaker 1>was told I wasn't a winter. How does that work?

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<v Speaker 1>It's it's a matter of a couple of things. Number one, try, try, try,

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<v Speaker 1>keep trying. The people who win usually have won a

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<v Speaker 1>lot because they try. Try try number two. When the

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<v Speaker 1>phone does ring in somebody answers, make sure you respond

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<v Speaker 1>like they go, hello, Katie. Will you be sound energetics,

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<v Speaker 1>super excited. That's not a requirement to win. But sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>we take random callers. Sometimes we take caller number ten

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<v Speaker 1>and they win, whether they sound like they're on death's

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<v Speaker 1>door or what. But but if we're taking a random caller,

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<v Speaker 1>sound excited, just like you don't see people on prices, right,

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<v Speaker 1>they go, I, Drew.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm happy to be here.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so hello, you know, try try to sound excited. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and that'll help you for sure.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>And also as the person who used to answer the

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<v Speaker 2>phone for many years, don't like maybe like say someone's

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<v Speaker 2>Tom Bernard? Things like that happen sometimes, and I'm sure

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<v Speaker 2>most people would not do that.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, it's true because people people do. You know, we

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<v Speaker 1>think that people know everything about us. DJs are the worst.

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<v Speaker 1>They think that people listen to every phone number, call

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<v Speaker 1>you know, get your carpet cleaned at one eight hundred

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<v Speaker 1>and eighty two to two seventy eight fifty six, and

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<v Speaker 1>people like, I didn't hear that fucking number. But we

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<v Speaker 1>think that you're sitting there listening with a pen and paper,

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<v Speaker 1>taking careful notes. And we think that you know everybody's name.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't. Some people do. And what I always make

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<v Speaker 1>a joke is like you'll answer the phone hello, KTWB,

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<v Speaker 1>and somebody go, here's the answer, Mayonnaise. What what? Because

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<v Speaker 1>another radio station is asking a trivia question, you think

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<v Speaker 1>you're calling the other radio station. So here's an interesting one.

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<v Speaker 1>We were talking about sexual accidents yesterday on the show.

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<v Speaker 1>This text says, best station around KTWB. I was having

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<v Speaker 1>some fun loving with a guy in Chicago. Unfortunately, the

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<v Speaker 1>curtains caught on fire and spread fast enough the fireman came,

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<v Speaker 1>love that. I love y'all. Remember stay sexy and move

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<v Speaker 1>your candles away from the curtains before sexy time.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't even like having candles on usually, unless it's

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<v Speaker 2>like one of those sex candles that you use like

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<v Speaker 2>the wax to put on on your partner or something,

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<v Speaker 2>then maybe go on We Loved Different Lives. Well, there's

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<v Speaker 2>candles that, like the purpose of it is to burn

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<v Speaker 2>so you can then pour the wax onto your partner.

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<v Speaker 2>Why because it's hot? Literally?

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<v Speaker 1>Really?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you're telling me you've never done anything with candle.

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<v Speaker 1>Did Yeah, Julie and I there was a Madonna Innocent

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<v Speaker 1>There was a Madonna movie. I don't know what the

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<v Speaker 1>Madonna movie was came out around ninety ninety one, something

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<v Speaker 1>like that, where Madonna was getting it on with some

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<v Speaker 1>want to try that, and it was okay. It didn't

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<v Speaker 2>I'm pretty sure I've told this story before, but one

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<v Speaker 2>time I was trying to be all like sexy and

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<v Speaker 2>whipped cream. Whatever, but I bought like dairy free, whib free.

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<v Speaker 2>You're so fucking bad. It was disgusting. It smelled weird

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<v Speaker 2>as it like lingered on your skin afterwards. Yeah, pretty much,

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<v Speaker 2>pretty much. So regardless, I'm not a fan of food

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<v Speaker 1>No, and I agree with you. I would say we

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<v Speaker 1>did whipped cream. It wasn't Susan many years ago, and

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<v Speaker 1>I think it was dairy and so the smell of

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<v Speaker 1>sour milk gets in your nostrils. Yeah, and you can't

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<v Speaker 1>get that out. So uh, let's move on to another one.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's see what we got here. Give me one second.

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<v Speaker 1>There's some long ones that I haven't pre read. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>here we go, Dave Jenny Bailey Monday's Minnesota Goodbye. Somebody

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<v Speaker 1>mailed in about twenty year olds listening to videos on

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<v Speaker 1>their phones on speakers in public places. As much of

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<v Speaker 1>an advocate I am for not having headphones in when

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<v Speaker 1>I'm out for a walk or run, it does seem

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<v Speaker 1>that it's not just twenty year olds. Oddly enough, and

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<v Speaker 1>just last Thursday, I met my husband for lunch at

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<v Speaker 1>Number One, a couple in their thirties were listening to

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<v Speaker 1>videos or TV or something on their phone in their

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<v Speaker 1>booth while eating. Number two, an older gentleman on a

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<v Speaker 1>table full of people was having a phone call on

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<v Speaker 1>a speakerphone. It wasn't up to his ear on a speakerphone,

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<v Speaker 1>implying he was hard of hearing, nor was it held

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<v Speaker 1>out for anyone at the table to who listened to

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<v Speaker 1>the conversation. He held it flat on his hand in

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<v Speaker 1>and of course it was a recent scenario that mirrored

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<v Speaker 1>up to a Minnesota goodbye that I had to share.

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<v Speaker 1>People are just oblivious or not raised to be considerate,

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<v Speaker 1>or sometimes they still don't figure it out by growing

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<v Speaker 1>We did talk about this and reflect on it a

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, haven't people been rude like since the dawn

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<v Speaker 3>of time? Yeah? What was it like at the dawn

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<v Speaker 1>We had to slither along the beach. And I remember

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<v Speaker 1>my friend, yeah, Scott, he was finally the one