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the bow ones on my left, the bone ones on

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my right. You know what's going sounds tonight? Yeah? Come on, Phil,

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you know I'm betting truth, bringing chains. I'm in the

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hoofs ringing bowls to your brain. No to you, no

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one in a song maid my five. Yeah, I'm in

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a zone. I'm in my hoom. Ride up. Say baby,

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you're living in bone? What I to see? You're living

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in phoney? What I can see You're living in phone?

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What I can see living in bony? What's I can see?

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Doctor zuh oh found I'm back for another one. Welcome

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back to Living Bowli with Doctor Z, the space where

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purpose meet passion and truth ignites transformation. I'm your host,

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Doctor Z, and today we're diving into something foundational, life changing,

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and necessary. The power of sisterhood and brotherhood. Now, it's

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important to build strong support systems. So that's why I'm

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gonna touch on this topic today. Now, first off, I'm

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gonna talk about God's design for your community or well,

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I'm just say God's designed for community. Now, we weren't

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created to do life alone. From the beginning, God said

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it is not good for men to be alone. And

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that's Genesis second chapter eighteenth verse And that wasn't just

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about marriage, it was also about connection. So that's why

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it's important, you know, to have that sisterhood and brotherhood

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and build support systems, strong ones, stable ones. So true

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sisterhood and brotherhood are our gifts from God. They are lifelines.

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They are iron sharpening iron, and that's Proverbs chapter twenty seventh,

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verse seventeen. And when you walk with wise, loyal, spirit

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filled people, your purpose expands, Your healing accelerates in your

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burning skit lighter. You know what bold ones know about that?

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Huh boon was? Now, let me ask you this, Who

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is in your circle? Are they fueling your fire or

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feeding your fears? Make sure you ask yourself that after

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you listen to this episode, because that's an important question

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that you need to ask yourself. Now. Another thing I

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want to talk about is the lies that isolate us.

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You know, you there's so many lies that can be

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floating around and going around from individual to individuals that

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can prevent us from spreading our wings and building a

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stable sisterhood or brotherhood relationship. Now, many of us have

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been burned betrayed, abandoned, and so we build walls instead

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of building those bridges to connect to others. But listen,

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the enemy works best in isolation, and I know I

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have experienced his firsthand throughout my whole life, So remember that.

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Now I'm gonna give some examples of three lies that

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people actually tell us to keep us disconnected and to

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not build those relationships with others. The first one is

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I can't trust anybody. You know, you can trust some people,

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but yeah, who can you trust? It even speaks of

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that in the Bible. But the thing is is healing

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happens when you open up again, but you have to

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do it wisely, slowly, but surely. Okay, you do have

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to be careful and you do have to protect yourself.

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You can't just trust anybody, But that is a lie

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because there is an individual someone out there that you

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could possibly build that sisterhood or brotherhood with. But like

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I said, you gotta be wise and you gotta pay attention.

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Number two another liar is I'm better off alone. Well,

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you know that's not strength, that's survival. And you weren't

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made to just survive, you know, you're made to thrive also,

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So yeah, a loneeness. I mean, it's good to be

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alone and meditate and think about things and get yourself

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together and you know, plan things that you want to

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do for yourself. But I'm advocating this sisterhood and brotherhood

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because we need that in order to grow, in order

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to thrive and not just survive. Okay, Number three another

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liar is no one understands me. I know, we hear

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that one a lot. And you know, the right people

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will understand you, and you have to ask God to

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send them to you, you know, and God sends them

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to you, your sisterhood and your brotherhood and your individuals

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that are like you, your tribe. You'll know when the

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right people are in your life. So you know, that

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is a lie that no one understands me, you know,

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because there is individuals out there that do understand you

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and that are like you, and that we'll be proud

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to be a part of your tribe and support you

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throughout everything that you're going through in life or your

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aspirations and dreams of things that you're planning for your future.

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So you know, don't don't give up on it, Okay,

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don't let those three lights hold you back. Now, I'm

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gonna say that you can be gifted, annoying it, and

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still lonely. That's just three of life and how it is,

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especially in these days of the revelations. Now, God is

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calling you to reconnect and rebuild. So when God blesses

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you with that brotherhood and sisterhood or with your tribe,

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don't miss out on that opportunity. You know, don't let

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those lives hold you back and keep you disconnected, because

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you might just have those special individuals that will be

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there for you and that you can deal with. Okay.

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to recognize those kingdom connections, because that's what they are.

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They're blessings from God. Now let's talk about kingdom connections.

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It's not just social connections. These are relationships are assigned

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by God. I was gonna say aligned by God. But

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they're assigned by God for your growth and for you

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to have accountability and for you to elevate. Okay, So

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this is how you'll know. First off, they'll be praying

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with you and not just playing with you. And they

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will actually correct you in love and not just criticize

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you in pride. Also, they will celebrate you. And not

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secretly compete with you. You know, you have to watch

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out for those kind of soul called friends. You know,

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because if they're just trying to secretly compete with you

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and get information to find out what they can do

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to want up on you, No, that's not the one.

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They're not a part of your tribe. Another thing is

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they show up even when it's inconvenient. If that person

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or those individuals, your tribe or your sisterhood and brother

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here is always showing up for you even when they

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don't have to, or they're going out of their way

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to support it you and be there for you, then

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those are the ones. Okay, A real sister or brother

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in Christ won't let you sit and defeat and they'll

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speak life into you until you rise. You know, so

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that those are the signs. That's how you know. Ehusiastics

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fourth chapter nine to ten Versus says two are better

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than one. If either of them falls down, one can

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help the other up. So remember that, remember that ball

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once bow, because that's what we do. If one falls down,

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we'll lift the other up. And that's true sister and brotherhood.

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Now next I'm gonna get into becoming the support you

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need because not only are you gonna need others to

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support you, but you have to become the support that

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you need for others also. So excuse me, let's flip

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the script. Let me get a drink well moment, because

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support isn't just about receiving, it's about becoming too. Now

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ask yourself, am I safe well? Am I a safe

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space for others? Because here, you know, with living bally

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doctor Z, we are a safe space for others. It's

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a place where you can come and get the support

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and the inspiration and the motivation that you need to

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be in your purpose. So you gotta ask yourself, am

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I safe space for others? If you're not, then hoop,

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you gotta work on that. Number Two, you gotta say,

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do I listen to understand or just to respond? Are

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you really listening to individuals when they're speaking to you?

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the support that you need to for yourself. So make

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sure that you are listening to what individuals are saying

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and not just present or not just existing. Listen and

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then respond, you know, in a positive manner or a

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constructive manner and a supportive manner. You know, Another thing

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is you have to ask yourself, can I celebrate others

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without envy? Now, if you can't celebrate others and lift

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them up and congratulate them without being even envious and

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jealous them, oh, you gotta go work on yourself. You're

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not ready to be a supportive sister or brother. You know,

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you gotta go work on yourself before you can be that.

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If you're jealous and envious of someone every single time

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they're accomplishing things and accomplishing milestones and making their dreams

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and goals and realities and moving forward to checking off

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the next things on their list that they want to accomplish.

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You know, So start being what you want to see.

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So loyalty, so encouragement, so love. God will multiply that

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and surround you with those who pour back into you.

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So I'm going to give you a bold moved till today.

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Reach out to someone this week and say I see you,

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I'm praying for you, I'm here. You know, you never

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know who's waiting for a word of hope, and you

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never know who you're going to expire, and you know

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the word that you say, you never know who you're

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gonna help out to make a difference in a change

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in their life and do better and be better as

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a person. So make sure you reach out to someone

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this week and give them some positive inspiration, motivation and

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say I see you, I'm praying for you. You're doing

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your thing. I got you. You know. If you need somebody,

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I'm here for you, you know. And my final word

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tonight is well, I'm gonna say some final words then

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and we'll go into a prayer. But sisterhood and brotherhood

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in Christ is a gift. It's a blessing and a

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weapon and a covering. So you're not meant to battle alone.

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You're not meant to build alone or believe alone, you know.

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So when we unite, huh, hell trembles. So that's what

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we want to continue to do. Okay, So let's close

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in prayer. Father, thank you for the divine relationships. Heal

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our hearts from past betrayals and open us up to

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love again. Send us the right people and make us

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the right people. Let our support systems be rooted in you,

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strong spirit, lad and full of purpose in Jesus name,

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I pray Amen, Thank you God, thank you, thank you

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for that. And once again, Boo, thank you for all

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the support guys, and let's see. That's it for today's

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episode of Living Bollywood doctor Z. And remember your strength.

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It just doesn't come from what you carry, but who

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you walk with. So before I get out of here,

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I'm gonna say, keep building, keep loving and above all,

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keep living Bowling. I love you all. I'm out fan

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bom such