Speaker 1: Following yesterday's podcast episode where we talked about living with
Speaker 1: an entrepreneurial and we dropped some financial data, today's episode
Speaker 1: was only appropriate. Welcome to the Transformation Station podcast. I'm Christina, owner, operator,
Speaker 1: and founder of the Transformation Station, and this is where
Speaker 1: we talk about getting stronger while navigating real life. If
Speaker 1: you're trying to stay consistent through the ups and the
Speaker 1: downs and everywhere else in between, this is for you.
Speaker 1: There's certain things that we're just not supposed to collectively
Speaker 1: talk about. And I don't know who or when this
Speaker 1: happened or this decided, Like apparently you're not supposed to
Speaker 1: talk about money or weight, or age or debt or salaries, menopause.
Speaker 1: We don't want menopause every day in our space, or
Speaker 1: maybe like how much something does cost or how much
Speaker 1: you make, or maybe how much you've gained, and like why,
Speaker 1: Like this is something that all always made me so
Speaker 1: incredibly curious. And when I started asking questions like if
Speaker 1: someone tells me like, oh, at my age, I shouldn't
Speaker 1: be doing that, like how old are you? I'm like
Speaker 1: and then in my brain I'm like, oh, I don't
Speaker 1: know why I always just ask that, But if they say, oh,
Speaker 1: at my age, they didn't disclose it. I'm gonna ask, like,
Speaker 1: how old are you? Just so I get some contexts
Speaker 1: to the idea. And sometimes I think that because I
Speaker 1: work with a lot of women, and like I think, like, oh,
Speaker 1: you should never ask a woman what are ages. I'm like, well,
Speaker 1: I need to know for contacts, especially if we're talking
Speaker 1: about Finnis. So like when people say these things or
Speaker 1: they talk about these things, it's like, why just I
Speaker 1: think that's part of everyday life. And like I said
Speaker 1: with Chris yesterday on the podcast, like this isn't a
Speaker 1: lot of the unless you went to school for accounting,
Speaker 1: Like in elementary school, high school. Financial stuff wasn't taught
Speaker 1: at least where I went to school anyway. And like
Speaker 1: when someone says like, oh, I bought a new car,
Speaker 1: but then when you ask what they paid for it,
Speaker 1: if you're interested in that car, it's it seems like
Speaker 1: it's it's inappropriate. And like if someone says like, oh,
Speaker 1: I like I lost thirty pounds, like that's like, oh cool,
Speaker 1: like awesome. People celebrate it. But if someone's like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: I gained thirty pounds, like suddenly it feels like they're
Speaker 1: in a confession booth and they have to feel shame
Speaker 1: that goes along with it. That's like when I when
Speaker 1: I hear that, it's like, well, that's the same thing.
Speaker 1: Like when people are having life changes. We congratulate someone
Speaker 1: for getting married, we congratulate someone for having a baby.
Speaker 1: Let's say we congratulate someone for graduating school, but we
Speaker 1: don't congratulate somebody for they bought a new car and
Speaker 1: they were able to do so because their other one
Speaker 1: was breaking down. So yeah, let's chear for safety. We
Speaker 1: hear someone who started a business or that grew their business,
Speaker 1: but I guess that's what a grand opening is for.
Speaker 1: But like we don't celebrate it the same way. We
Speaker 1: don't celebrate like, oh, your business is doing well the
Speaker 1: same way as Oh, someone just had a baby. So
Speaker 1: it's like everyone's milestones and things can look different. But
Speaker 1: like on the other side of things too, it's like
Speaker 1: we talk about being successful or being proud of our
Speaker 1: jobs or our professions. So I just got a job
Speaker 1: in my field, this is so great, Or oh I
Speaker 1: got a work promotion, high five, that's awesome, But like
Speaker 1: sometimes people can be uncomfortable with that or saying how
Speaker 1: much money they make or how much something costs, and like,
Speaker 1: people can really be struggling financially while everyone about them
Speaker 1: and around them it's like, oh, you're actually doing great,
Speaker 1: but that person is such a depression and they have
Speaker 1: nobody to talk to about it. Because I think a
Speaker 1: lot of it comes down to the same thing, like
Speaker 1: weight gain. It comes to people feel shameful. I'll always
Speaker 1: say too, like comparison is the thief of joy, and
Speaker 1: I think people tend to like they feel shame and
Speaker 1: they feel like they're comparing themselves to somebody else because
Speaker 1: on the outside they look like they have it all together.
Speaker 1: Someone could be driving the latest Tesla and people are like, oh,
Speaker 1: my gosh, I have so much respect for you. I
Speaker 1: drive a shipbox. Meanwhile, that person has one hundred and
Speaker 1: fifty thousand dollars in debt, and the person I've in
Speaker 1: their shipbox, well, they haven't had a car payment for
Speaker 1: the last five years. So it's interesting to see. So
Speaker 1: when I was in my early twenties, I learned that
Speaker 1: I read a book there was I rented a basement
Speaker 1: apartment for a hot second after I had sold my
Speaker 1: home and the landlord there she's like oh, She's like
Speaker 1: you're You're different. I'm like, oh, okay. And then she
Speaker 1: for Christmas she gave me this book. It was a
Speaker 1: business book. I'm like, badass cool. And that was before
Speaker 1: I started my first location. And that's something I think
Speaker 1: it was called The Wealthy Barber, Rich Dad, Poor Dad
Speaker 1: or something like that. It was one of those books.
Speaker 1: I think it was a Wealthy Barber and that was
Speaker 1: actually in that book. And that's something I still remember
Speaker 1: over like twenty years later. Really was it twenty years
Speaker 1: later or something like that, But it's true. It's like
Speaker 1: we compare the latest shiny thing to something else. And
Speaker 1: a lot of people have said to me, like I
Speaker 1: want to do what you're doing. Is I want to
Speaker 1: start a business? Or I've had people come up to
Speaker 1: me and they're like, I got five P in my bank.
Speaker 1: You think I can lease a business like this? You
Speaker 1: think I could do this? Because you think I can
Speaker 1: do that, I'm like, if you have the drive for it,
Speaker 1: of course you can do it. If you have the
Speaker 1: thirst for it, and you like to get knocked down
Speaker 1: to stand back up and knock down to stand back
Speaker 1: up and have everyone's opinions in your face. If you
Speaker 1: have boundaries that you can uphold, because that's what it's
Speaker 1: going to take is a lot of boundary setting. Then
Speaker 1: of course money money, money comes and money goes. Like
Speaker 1: will you be able to pay first and last on
Speaker 1: a decent commercial space with five K? No, you can
Speaker 1: barely do that for a basement apartment these days, never
Speaker 1: mind a commercial space. Which is interesting even to say
Speaker 1: out loud, because like the second we put a number
Speaker 1: on something, all of a sudden, it's like, oh, we
Speaker 1: have something to compare in general, like my salary versus
Speaker 1: your salary, or my weight versus your weight, what size
Speaker 1: you wear at that weight when we wear the same
Speaker 1: or when we weigh the same and we have we
Speaker 1: are actually different sizes, so it's interesting, like my debt
Speaker 1: versus your debt, my savings versus your I don't have debt,
Speaker 1: but like my versus your age, or even body shapes,
Speaker 1: body sizes. I've heard people so many times that they're like, oh,
Speaker 1: I don't love my body, but at least I'm not
Speaker 1: the shape that she is. I'm like, excuse you, that
Speaker 1: person was born with that shape, Like how dare you?
Speaker 1: And that person maybe he's looking at you and saying
Speaker 1: thank God that I don't have her shape, Like you
Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like, why is that a thing?
Speaker 1: Why can't we just like share to empower people or
Speaker 1: share to get knowledge out into the world. So then
Speaker 1: this normalizes it, and like you are allowed to totally
Speaker 1: keep things private, okay, Like there is a difference between
Speaker 1: privacy and secrecy. You're allowed to keep things private. Nobody
Speaker 1: is entitled to know anything about you, your weight, how
Speaker 1: much money you make, what your job is, your finances,
Speaker 1: your dead amount, like anything about you, Like you are
Speaker 1: so entitled to keep that completely private. I do not
Speaker 1: think that we should feel like we have to hide
Speaker 1: those things in that same context, because like sometimes you
Speaker 1: hear someone, oh, yeah, I gained weight this year, Oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, I'm in debt, or oh my business is
Speaker 1: doing really well and I'm proud of that. Sometimes those
Speaker 1: three different things it can make someone else feel a
Speaker 1: little bit more normal as well, to be like, oh, finally,
Speaker 1: my business is doing well. When I hear business owners
Speaker 1: say that, I'm like, how are you celebrating today? High five?
Speaker 1: That is awesome. Or if someone comes up to me
Speaker 1: and they're like, Christina, my business is struggling. Do you
Speaker 1: have any ideas? I'm like, okay, show me what you got.
Speaker 1: Where do you want to go? What are you working with?
Speaker 1: How much time forget finances? You don't necessarily need finances
Speaker 1: for different ideas? What can we implement? And they're like, oh,
Speaker 1: having another set of eyes is really awesome because you
Speaker 1: talk about those things. So it's like when we understand
Speaker 1: where other people are coming from, then maybe it makes
Speaker 1: people be like, oh, okay, this is okay, this is normal.
Speaker 1: And like if we always just assume that being uncomfortable
Speaker 1: means we shouldn't have those feelings either, then that's like
Speaker 1: that's a totally different thing, because like I want to know,
Speaker 1: like why are you not wanting to share that? Like,
Speaker 1: what is something maybe that you were taught growing up
Speaker 1: or in school or by other people around you, your peers?
Speaker 1: What is something that you were taught that you shouldn't
Speaker 1: talk about? And then you're like, oh, well why why not?
Speaker 1: Like people get their backup when we talk about like
Speaker 1: different things, like if we say fertility, I gotta put
Speaker 1: a warning on this now in the description we talk
Speaker 1: about fertility, some people are like, oh my gosh, we
Speaker 1: need to talk about this more, but we talk about
Speaker 1: like peeing your pants. At one time that was taboo,
Speaker 1: but then we realized that you're not the only person
Speaker 1: in the room that when you do a small little hop,
Speaker 1: you're gonna you're you're an eight, Like you're that's you're
Speaker 1: not you're not actually alone. And when we started to
Speaker 1: normalize that, Now in female spaces, we're talking about those
Speaker 1: things like it is incredible when we're when we're like, okay,
Speaker 1: so what about debt, Like sometimes people like I don't
Speaker 1: want them to know that I have debt and they're
Speaker 1: working hard to pay debt. How many people do we
Speaker 1: mean on a daily basis that just paid off a
Speaker 1: crazy amount of debt and they finally feel freedom and
Speaker 1: they have nobody to tell, nobody to high five them,
Speaker 1: and they're just they're like, oh my gosh, like that
Speaker 1: was a huge weight on my shoulders. They got to
Speaker 1: live in secrecy because they're afraid they're going to offend
Speaker 1: someone or they're afraid that they're gonna see them in
Speaker 1: a different light. When someone comes up to me and
Speaker 1: they're like I got my credit score right, I'm like, fuck, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: you did do that. I don't know why I'm by myself,
Speaker 1: so I swear sometimes I swear more on this podcast
Speaker 1: than I actually do in person. No, I don't know
Speaker 1: if that's true actually, but like I want to high
Speaker 1: five someone for doing that, because getting your credit score
Speaker 1: right is a big deal. Same like you made it
Speaker 1: to the gas station and you didn't run out of gas.
Speaker 1: High five to you, Like you can change your entire
Speaker 1: life with having these normal conversations. Someone come out to me, Christina,
Speaker 1: how do I get my credit score? How do I
Speaker 1: get my credit score right? Well, what you're working with? Also,
Speaker 1: that's not really my profession. I have done that for myself.
Speaker 1: I'm I have grown to be very good with finances. However,
Speaker 1: I don't have a financial advisor. I just know that
Speaker 1: I don't want to. I don't want to sink. I
Speaker 1: just want to swim. I sink and swim off and
Speaker 1: on for the last I don't know since I was born.
Speaker 1: So now I'm swimming and I'm doing pretty all right.
Speaker 1: I know how to manage things. I know how to Okay,
Speaker 1: this is here, this is here. It's like you know
Speaker 1: that thing we had at Christmas time and we had
Speaker 1: it at the summer social the Tetris tumblr thing. It's
Speaker 1: like Jenga. Eventually you get pretty good at playing Jenga
Speaker 1: to make the vision work. Teammate teamwork makes the dreamwork.
Speaker 1: But sometimes there's certain things that don't involve the entire team.
Speaker 1: So yeah, like there's sometimes you go through things on
Speaker 1: your own. And like one of my really super good
Speaker 1: friends also owns a business, and like I could say
Speaker 1: things to him and it's normal and he's not jealous,
Speaker 1: and he's like, oh that is so good. And there's
Speaker 1: sometimes he can tell me so I'm like, oh, I'm
Speaker 1: implementing this. Check it out. Check it out. And I
Speaker 1: listen and I'm like, damn. I'm like that's gonna that's
Speaker 1: gonna set you up for success. And then there's certain
Speaker 1: things like oh what are you working on today? Oh,
Speaker 1: I'm putting out this fire. And then I like, oh,
Speaker 1: that's a fire, and then vice versa, I'm putting out
Speaker 1: this fire over here. Oh my gosh, that is a
Speaker 1: huge fire. So like it's pretty interesting, and sometimes it's like, oh,
Speaker 1: we're doing this, Okay, I had to do that last year.
Speaker 1: Oh cool, what result did you get? How did you
Speaker 1: manage this? So it's pretty interesting in that way when
Speaker 1: you do have those conversations, and maybe it's like, well,
Speaker 1: maybe business owners should have conversations with fellow business owners. However,
Speaker 1: a lot of us have a hard time making friends
Speaker 1: because we're always just so busy. And it's interesting because
Speaker 1: you don't know who's going to be a business owner
Speaker 1: amongst everybody. I don't know who's listening to this. We're
Speaker 1: all over the world at this point with the Transformation
Speaker 1: Station podcast, and like, in my brain, I'm like I
Speaker 1: just offended everybody all over the entire world talking about
Speaker 1: money on the podcast. But it is a part of
Speaker 1: daily living. It's also a part of what cuts into
Speaker 1: people's workouts. How many times people have said, Oh, I
Speaker 1: can't afford my membership, so I'm going to quit the gym,
Speaker 1: Or how many times have people said, like, oh, I
Speaker 1: have to work extra hours because I need to pay
Speaker 1: my bills, so I don't have time to exercise. Oh
Speaker 1: I'm picking up extra shifts, so I'm always constantly tired,
Speaker 1: so I'm not making it to work out, even if
Speaker 1: they work out at home or maybe they go to
Speaker 1: another gym. So it's like these are things that are
Speaker 1: pretty normal along every aspect of life, like not just
Speaker 1: like okay, so health is a huge thing. We got health,
Speaker 1: we got relationships and intimacy and god forbid if I
Speaker 1: say sex and finances like those are those are like
Speaker 1: detrimental pillars, especially let's say in a relationship. But we
Speaker 1: can't talk about it, so like we don't in my opinion,
Speaker 1: we don't need to make these conversations uncomfortable. And the
Speaker 1: reason why sometimes I like to talk about these things
Speaker 1: is because it's really an eye opener because then you
Speaker 1: can see what someone is really dealing with. So like
Speaker 1: if you're complaining about lights on or lights off, and
Speaker 1: I'm not talking about sex this time, I'm talking about
Speaker 1: in the gym during a clock, you don't understand what
Speaker 1: the bigger picture is. But maybe you just listen to
Speaker 1: the last podcast episode and you went, I did not realize. Yes,
Speaker 1: that's why I'm sharing my experiences with you. And that's why.
Speaker 1: Also when someone shares fitness and shares the transformation station
Speaker 1: with their friends with their family, they share posts on
Speaker 1: social media that to me is one of like I
Speaker 1: am so proud when I see that, and like people
Speaker 1: are taking their friends on that one year giveaway transformation
Speaker 1: package with all the bells and whistles, even gift cards
Speaker 1: for new shoes and new workout clothes and in your transformation,
Speaker 1: and a year's worth of coaching one on one and
Speaker 1: a year's worth of freaking in body composition analysis scans.
Speaker 1: And I see people tagging their friends and like badass cool.
Speaker 1: Then they like the page, and then they go and
Speaker 1: they tag their friend. I'm like, that's awesome. You see
Speaker 1: that there's value in that. Thank you so much. And
Speaker 1: when someone brings like, oh, this is my this is
Speaker 1: my mom. I wanted her to come see where I
Speaker 1: work out, I'm like, sweet, I've been waiting to meet
Speaker 1: your mom. This is awesome. That to me is one
Speaker 1: of the biggest honors in business because it means that
Speaker 1: that means something to you. And that is what propels
Speaker 1: me to keep on going because when I see someone
Speaker 1: else happy. I love hitting goals in one way, shape
Speaker 1: or form and all of the above. But when I
Speaker 1: see that people are changing their lives in the space,
Speaker 1: that is what makes it worth the hustle. It's not
Speaker 1: just I'm not sitting here on a fat sum of
Speaker 1: money and living in a five million dollar castle. I
Speaker 1: love three minutes from the gym. I live in Burry.
Speaker 1: I don't live for three million dollar castle. I don't
Speaker 1: live in LA with all the palm trees and all
Speaker 1: the celebrities. I'm a very local. I've moved here when
Speaker 1: I was four years old. I did not move here
Speaker 1: when I was four years old. My mom moved me
Speaker 1: here when I was four years old with her. Obviously,
Speaker 1: I've been here since I was four years old. These
Speaker 1: are things that are amongst our community, but we don't
Speaker 1: really know. So I'm gonna leave that with you. That's
Speaker 1: the tidbit. Why are things so secret? And what would
Speaker 1: change if we actually had support? What if you actually
Speaker 1: spoke to people about what's actually going hold in your life?
Speaker 1: And I mean, like I said, there's different levels of intimacy.
Speaker 1: Sometimes people just don't need to know. But when there's
Speaker 1: things going off and you're like okay, I just want
Speaker 1: you to realize what it actually looks like, what it
Speaker 1: actually takes because I am so proud of seeing other
Speaker 1: people break free and have freedom with fitness and having
Speaker 1: breakthroughs and freedom in their lives. And that can look
Speaker 1: like health freedoms, lowering medication, getting off of medication, normalizing
Speaker 1: different blood work stats. It could also be having financial freedom.
Speaker 1: It could also be talking about like relationship freedom. Maybe
Speaker 1: someone just broke free of a damaging relationship, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. Like, it's just so interesting. There's different
Speaker 1: avenues for these conversations to take place. These are conversations
Speaker 1: that can literally change people's lives. All right, On the
Speaker 1: next episode, it will not be anything about this. It
Speaker 1: will not be anything about finances. I do a put.
Speaker 1: I will say, sincerely apologize if talking about money made
Speaker 1: you uncomfortable, because that is never never, that is never ever.
Speaker 1: My goal or my AMMO, is just to share different
Speaker 1: data and share different information so maybe you can see
Speaker 1: what the bigger picture truly is. Alright, friends, I'll talk
Speaker 1: to you tomorrow.