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Speaker 1: Live. This is pet Life Radio. Let's Talk pets.

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Speaker 2: Hello, Fila and friends and cat levers. Welcome to Cata Tude.

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I'm your show host, Michelle bern and today we have

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yet another cat book because I love cats and I'm

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a voracious reader, and I keep putting these amazing cat

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books to share with you. And this story is just incredible.

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The author just told such an amazing story. So stay tuned,

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we'll be right back.

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Speaker 4: Let's talk pets on Cetlife Radio dot com.

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Speaker 2: Welcome back everyone. I would like to welcome Josephine Spence.

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She is the author of A Cat's Tail. Welcome Josephine.

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Speaker 5: Hello everybody, thank you for having me here.

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Speaker 2: I'm very happy to have you on. So a Cat's

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Tail is about your cat, on Kyo. It's a Japanese name.

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But it's interesting how you got that name because it's

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told in the book. But hope well might get to that.

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Maybe not, we'll see. But the Cat's tell is told

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in on Kio's own voice, which you know adds a

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lot of warm personality. It makes it it's interesting. Why

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did you take it from her voice and rather than

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your perspective?

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Speaker 5: Sure, let me answer that. First of all, this is

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my fourth published book. I've written books before, but when

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I start to be honest, when I decided to write

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the book about on Kio, I started the book with

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my voice, and as I was writing it, it just

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didn't do her story justice. And I thought to myself,

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Onkle had always been a very vocal cat. She would

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have loved to tell the story in her own voice.

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And when she tells the story, it's going to be

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more relatable. So that's when I came up with the idea, Hey,

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let's write it in her voice as if she could talk.

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After all, she's almost a human to me. And that's why.

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And when I wrote first chapter and I said to myself, no,

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this book has to be different. Let the cat be

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the speaker, because she was intelligent. She's for a wisdom

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and so she could tell on the story. That's how

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I changed the gear and rewrote the first chapter starting

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with a voice, and that's the story.

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Speaker 2: Okay, thanks. You know I've had five cats. Right now,

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I have three, and in my mind, they all have

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a certain voice. They each have distinctive personalities. And I

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grew up with dogs, and their personalities are you can

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tell a little bit easier than cats. Cats take a

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little bit of time. And I was kind of tricked

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because my first cat, Dennis, is part main coon and

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so they're known as the dog of cats, so his personality,

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I thought all cats were like that, and then Molly

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came along and I realized, no, they're not, and neither

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is their sister Charlotte. So Auncio has characteristics in the

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book that come across as play and curious and very intellectual.

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How much of those traits are actually on Kio and

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how many were embellished a little bit?

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Speaker 5: Sure? I have to say that the Hope book really

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is based on real stories that I head her for

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nine nearly nineteen years, and we spent almost every day together,

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and the stories about her is endless. But I've consciously

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only picked stories that are really funny in my mind

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and humorous. So I started writing about, you know, the

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day when she was born. That part of it is

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hearsay from the pet store that we rescue her from,

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so exactly how she was born and how she was

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transported from an old lady's house to the pet store.

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That is based on hearsay because I wasn't there right,

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But from the day we met on Kill and adopted her,

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the rest of the stories are true. Of course, when

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she died, there's a chapter that she was waiting for

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me at the Rainbow Bridge that clearly is from my imagination,

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because I truly believe a cat had nine lives after

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this life, she's waiting for me to come back. So

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I would say, from chapter one to chapter twenty, it's

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all true story, truly what happened. The cat is intelligent,

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there's no to worry about it. On Kile has so

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many interesting personalities. In fact, people that know her, my

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faithful vet doctor John say that declare Uncle as the

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most vocal cat. She talks a lot. She's a thirty

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percent man con and there's a twenty five percent of

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her being Siamese.

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Speaker 2: Let me ask this, what made you decide that you

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have to write a book about on Kile. What was

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there a single memory or moment that just triggered it.

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Speaker 5: Yes, yes, I have to confess. When my first horse

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passed away, my first horse being Freckles, I was devastated

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and I wrote a book about him, but I was

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too shy to partlish it because I think I thought

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to myself, people think I'm crazy and no human should

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love an animal as much as that. So I kind

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of like regret that I did not publish my book

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about my first pet. So the moment I held on

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killing my arm, Okay, I'm not going to cry, she

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passed away in my arms. And the very last moment

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she really looked at me, her eyes was direct, in

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direct contact with me. I felt that she told me,

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you have to tell my story. Mommy, Mama, Joe, I

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love you, you have to tell my story. And that's when

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I decided, Yes. The day after we cremated her, I

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have to sit down and write her story because she

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wanted to be remembered. And the moment she told me

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was when she took her last breath. That that is

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my gut feel. She directly told me, don't forget about me,

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even though I'm gone, I don't love you any less,

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don't forget me. So the only way I could remember

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her is by writing down her stories. That's the moment

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I decided that the story needs to be told.

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Speaker 2: Well again, it's a beautiful story, and I'm sorry for

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your loss. It's always so sad when our fur babes

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leave us and they're never on this earth as long

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as we want them to be.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, then again, someone told me nineteen years is a bonus.

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Speaker 2: Yes, yes, And I haven't had a cat pass yet

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and my oldest one is seventeen. But I had two

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dogs prior and they both lived to be like like

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fourteen seven months in like fifteen and years and fourteen

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years seven months for what was fifteen years and like

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three months. Sometimes that's a bonus for their size too,

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we have with them. And it's so I think it's

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so cool, that kind of magical that she looked at

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you and you got that message from her, because I

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do truly believe we get messages. This is going to

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sound crazy to some people, but from the universe, sometimes

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from our creatures. We just get these messages and I've

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had these experiences that's not totally coutrelated, but I've just

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had things that pop into my head and go, why

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after all these years when I was trying to figure

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this out, this came to me just now. So the

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fact that you got the message to write the book

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from Anko as she was passing, I think is just amazing. Yep,

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let's talk about the bond between cats and their yemen.

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So you know, as we're some cat toud listeners were

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nuts about cats, and with your book, there are so

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many small magical moments, especially you know, living with the

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cats so special which have Ancia's everyday miracles stands out

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to you most.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that's a great question. I don't know whether I

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told you that I did have cancer back in during

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the pandemic twenty twenty one, I was diagnosed with Evans

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and domeitrium cancer and I knew Uncle knew about it

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because what she used to do is when I'm lying

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down my bed in great pain, she would come next

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to my bed. She had a little bit next to

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my bed like most people do, right, and she will

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quietly sit next to me with her front paws cross,

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just like sphinx.

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Speaker 3: Right.

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Speaker 5: She would sit there and not staring at me, but

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keeping me company. And that's a miracle way of expressing

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her love. Her love doesn't need to be loud, she

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doesn't have to say a lot, she doesn't have to mail.

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She did not have to say she loved me. The

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fact that she knew that I was suffering. I was

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in great pain, and she would sit next to me

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and with her front two paws cross just directly across,

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just like a person would cross our front to arms,

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and she sit next to me and kept me company

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without saying a word. And there's one miracles that I

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treasure every day. I think she could smell cancers. She

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knew I was sick, and her intuition is so accurate.

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Her quiet appearance, her sitting close to me, her nudging

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her nose at me, and it's her way of saying, hey,

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we can get through this cancer thing together. And she did.

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And that stands out the most with me.

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Speaker 2: To be honest, I'm sorry you have to deal with that. Honest,

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I hope you're in better help.

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Speaker 5: Yes, I'm in remission now, I'm in second year of remission,

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Speaker 2: That's wonderful news. Cats are always they're hard to understand,

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but they're people that get cats are insanely in love

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with them. Right. Why do you think cats, even though

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they're very subtle, you know, they're not like a dog

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that jumps out. And I keep going to dogs because

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most people have dogs or cats are both. Dogs are

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very you know, you see their emotion whatever. Cats once

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they get past the kitten stage, are more stoic creatures.

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Why do you think they you know? And she ates

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such a powerful love from their humans.

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: To be honest, though, I'm so allergic to cat and

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I was elected to Earth, so I wouldn't say that

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I'm totally I did not fall in love with her

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right at the beginning. She was my daughter's cat. That's

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confession number one. But because uncle loved me in a

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very regal is the word I can I can use.

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She's very elegant. She's not demanding in the sense she

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doesn't always buck me for attention. But when she chose

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to be with me, she really did spend time with me.

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It's like a sacred trust. You know, you feel that

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this little animal has so much trust in me. And

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she did not have to say much, she did not

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have to mel much or shout. She would just you know,

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quietly come nudging next to me and just say, hey,

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I want to cuddle. And her love to me is

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the strongest emotional connection. It's it's almost like unspoken kind

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of love. It's just like when you're looking at her.

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very intuitive when I'm sad, When I was, you know,

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going through tough time, she knew it before everybody. So

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her love to me is unconditional provided I feed her,

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Speaker 2: But there's always something right. They are very loyal to

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the hand that feeds them. We're almost at a break,

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but before we get there, what would you say is

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one of the lessons that on Gar taught you, as

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far as like a life lesson.

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Speaker 5: You're gonna laugh when I answer this question. The best

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thing that she ever taught me is to rest, sleep,

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nap and sleep, because that's what I learned from her.

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I was a very fast going, high power executive. I

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didn't know how to slow down. But when I had

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time and spend my time with Ankle, I learned that

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life is not about dashing around three hundred miles an hour.

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You need to sit back and enjoy your cat, or

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your dog, or your parakeet whatever. She taught me how

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to rest, and that is the biggest and most valuable

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lesson I ever learned from kill. She told me how

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to rest, like you know, im pressing.

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Speaker 2: Hey, the more I read online about how sleep is

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like one of the top things you need to make

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sure you get enough of, so cats definitely have something

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Speaker 5: According to on Kyle, nep is a very important job.

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Speaker 2: You've got to know how to do it well exactly. Well,

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we're going to take a short break and we'll be

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Speaker 7: Real people, real stories.

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Speaker 8: Our little dog developed this lump problem at the chemotherapy

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Speaker 1: Let's talk about Let's done, pet talk about radio headline Radio.

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Speaker 2: Welcome back everyone. We are talking with Josephine Spence, the

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author of a Cat's Tale, which is about her cat

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uncle and not just about her cat, but what she

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learned from her cat, what her cat taught her. And

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we talked about some of the book in the beginning

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of the show. Now we're going to talk about, you know,

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continuing your cat's love because the past there's a passage

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about feeling Onkio's presence even after she passed on. That

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is really moving. How did you approach writing that and

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you know, a way that felt honest and respectful and

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true to the story.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, Michelle, I truly believe that you cannot make grief pretty.

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There's nothing pretty pet lost grief. I did not make

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it pretty. I cried when I had to cry. I

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wrote it the way it came. Row very inconveny. Sometime

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I'll be crying in the middle of petting a traffic jam,

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and I would cry in the middle of shopping. You know,

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some hid the feelings overwhelming. I didn't make it pretty.

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I wrote it the way. It was one of her

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stories that when I was driving to my yoga and

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there's a time in front of me, it has a

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cat decoration on the windscreen wiper, and I say, oh,

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my goodness, auncle is sending me message after she passed.

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So I wrote it the way I saw it. It's

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about flickers of comfort. You know, you just know that

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even your cat had passed, she came back to check

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on me, and I felt her presence. People might say

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I'm crazy, but I sometimes I thought I heard her.

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Sometimes I felt that the paint is just too much.

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It almost hurted to breathe after you lose a cat,

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especially one that's been with you for nineteen years. I

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can hope that by being able to feel her, it

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turns my sorrow into hope. I truly believe she's going

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to come back to me another eight times, because she

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did nine lives right.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Yeah. I wrote it the way it came, and my

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book is conversational. I wrote it the way exactly how

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I felt it.

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Speaker 2: I like that style of writing. That's my favorite. Let's

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talk more about grief. Some people have said when they've

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lost their fur babes that you know, over time the

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grief has eased up a bit. I lost one of

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my fur babes five years ago, one twenty years ago.

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Those were both dogs. The two cats that we lost

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were outdoor cats that we took care of, so there

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wasn't quite the same as they either. We didn't have

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them as long, maybe four years, five years, but they

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were outdoor because they were feral. So I've had more

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of that experience of grief with losing dogs. Although I'm

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a little scared because Dennis is getting up there, although

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he's more robust than his younger sisters. So what would

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you say if people have said grief softens, how has

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that been true for you?

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Speaker 5: No? No, I don't think grief will ever be softened.

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It might become quieter, right, So, for example, the first

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week after she passed, I literally could not function. I

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cried for a little thing like I find a piece

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of fur on my sweater. I found her snot on

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the wall. You know, it's just not Yeah, she used

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to sneeze a lot.

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Speaker 5: So I know, I think in the beginning that I

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would say the grief, the pain was very sharp. It's

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almost take your breath away when you think of her.

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you know. So I would say a few months later

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it becomes softer. It's almost like a tender bruise. Right,

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it hasn't gone away, but when you press it still hurt.

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I can't say this will go away because I truly

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live on Kire so much I think she'll be with

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me until I see her again. I don't think grief

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has a timeline. There isn't such a thing that by

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month too, you're gonna feel better. My month three, you're

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gonna forget about your cat. No, that's not gonna work

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because grief. Grief is basically love that has no where

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to lend, and I have no way to lend is

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love I have for her, and I'm not going to

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adopt another cat. I'm not ready. I have no way

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to give away my love from Onkio to anyone at

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the moment. So I grieve. I grieve every day. It's

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not really easier. I have not seen or touch of

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cat since her passing. I cannot bring myself to do that.

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Speaker 2: It's interesting some people need to adopt another, you know,

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pet right away. That was the case with my first one.

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because of lifestyle changes that kept me from adopting another dog.

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Although I'm very tempted, But I know some people just

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can't bear to go through that grief again. How do

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you help? This book supports readers that are navigating the

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loss of their own feline.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, my readers. First of all, they have to learn

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pet grief is true, is genuine, It's not a pretend feeling.

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It is there. Give yourself the permission to feel everything.

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When you read my book. You can laugh, you can cry,

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you can feel the love you have gratitude that you

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have the chance to have with your pet. I want

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my reader to know that their feelings and emotions are validated.

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There's no such thing as oh, it's only a cat,

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you'll get over it. No, don't let people tell you that.

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And to be honest, I cry more when aunt you

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pass away than my mother who passed away two years ago.

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I truly did. They're part of family, so you are

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not alone. If you're sad and crying over your pet.

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That grief is very pure, it's very simple. It's the

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echo of the love that you had with your pet,

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and it's deep, and it's worth celebrating. And don't deny

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yourself that. Don't deny yourself to think of your pet,

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to laugh, to cry. All those emotions are validated.

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Speaker 2: Yes, and healthy to express.

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Speaker 5: Totally, totally. Psychology will say you need a grief.

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Speaker 1: You do.

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Speaker 2: You do like you said in your way, in your timeline,

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and I don't think the beings that leave us, whether

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they're two lagged or four lagged, the grief, it never

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goes away. It might get for some of us, it might,

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you know, get a little quieter, but it's there. Sometimes

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it comes up and weird place times, and I've experienced that,

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I've heard other people experience it. But it's yeah, it's

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never quite gone. Josephine, you also told some really cute,

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you know, cute little story or on Kio. Well, you

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told the stories, but in unki bo voice, So I say,

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an Kio told us some stories about some interesting things.

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What was one of your favorites? Okay, funniest, the funniest story.

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Speaker 5: I think the funniest story about on Kio is her

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love for Christmas trees, Christmas decoration, her relationship with my husband.

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my daughter to call my husband Dada. So I imagine

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Ankle would call my husband Dada too. They have this

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very complex love hate relationship. On Kle loved Christmas. She

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would die under the Christmas tree if she had a choice.

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on Kile would be the first one to go underneath it,

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thinking it's some sort of spy.

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Speaker 6: You know.

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Speaker 5: The Christmas when my husband decided to put a second

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tree on his desk, he put out the most expensive

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family German hand blown nutcracker ornament. Unkle jumped on it.

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house was like a Third World war zone. My husband

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went berserk on Kile was scolded. She was hiding the

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corner because she just broke. Basically, she broke Klara's lake

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and crushed Prince Nutcracker's nut and poked out you know,

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Drossamaya's second eye. And the damage was quite intense on

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the decoration. That almost spoiled out Christmas. But in the

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sense what I look back, it was hilarious. It was funny.

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It was the funniest thing she ever did with jumping

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on the Christmas tree, the second Christmas tree on my

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husband's desk. And I'm sure both uncle and my husband

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hated each other that moment.

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Speaker 2: That is funny. And I have to say, and it's

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tragic in a sense because she destroyed family heirlooms and

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those you know, they're meaningful. But I have to say

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that becoming a pet parent, and I did that. I

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started years ago. I had you know, pets is a child.

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But this when I started becoming a pet parent, I

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really learned the value of things versus furbabes.

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Speaker 5: Yep, yep, They're never wrong, Michelle. Kats are never wrong.

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They're always right right.

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Speaker 2: The shoe, the phone, I mean, my first one chewed

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up everything. It was incredible. What's the most important?

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Speaker 4: You know?

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Speaker 2: Okay, all right, I have to buy another pair of

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shoes or yes, it was an heirloom. But you know,

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you can't take it with you. So my dog doesn't

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know that, or my cat doesn't know that. You're not

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supposed to claw the everything they want, and they want

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a claw, even if you have seventeen or more, you know,

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cat trees or you know, things for them to use.

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I can't think of the word right now, but you

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guys know.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, your possession you can't take with you. So what

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your cat broke it by another one?

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Speaker 2: So Josephine, if UNKI can give listeners one piece of wisdom,

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what do you think she would share?

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Speaker 5: You know what? She'll probably wink eyes and sit, nap often,

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eat well, love unconditionally. That's what she would say. And

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always get her way. She must get her Fila mignon

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because she loves it. She would tell people to rest

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and eat well. I think those are the two key

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messages that she would give you.

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Speaker 2: Okay, kind of like take care of yourself. I like that, yep, selfless.

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So you have a cat lobbing audience listening. What message

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do you hope listeners get from reading your book.

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Speaker 5: I'm hoping to get the center mix of messages here

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of mainly comfort from your pet, joy and great memories.

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They should always feel that there's nothing wrong with, you know,

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taking in the afternoon away from your laptop from work,

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put your phone away, and coll up with your cat

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in your chest. There's nothing wrong with that. And because

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when they're gone, you're going to miss that. And there's

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nothing wrong having your cat waking you up at three

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am and ask for breakfast. It's something magical. I will

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cut my right arm, I will give you my kidneys

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just to have her waiting yet one more time. Honestly, Michelle,

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I miss this cat so much. She was my alarm

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clock for nineteen years.

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Speaker 2: There's no words. You can't explain it. But it's wonderful

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that you wrote this book. To keep her memory alive. Yes, okay,

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So where can our listeners find your book? And do

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you think Uncle has any more tales left to tell?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that's a great question. Let me answer the first

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question first. You can get this book from Amazon. It's

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out there, and also it is recorded by a professional

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voice actor. Her name happened to be Kitty Kitty j

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And the audiobooks is available about on one hundred plus

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distribution channels, from Spotify to Audible books Now it's everywhere

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Apple and Google. You can get the book the audiobook

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and it's also available in kindle as well. So if

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you want paper book, you get it from Amazon. You

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go to Amazon, type in the books by Josephine Spence.

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My books will pop up. And that's how easy it is.

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Speaker 2: Okay, thank you.

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Speaker 5: I also donated the audiobooks to library as well. If

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you prefer not to buy the book and listen for

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you can't get it from a library namely Libby and Hoopler.

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In your local library, you'll find the book too.

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Speaker 2: Okay, thank you. And any more k Tales on the Horizon.

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Speaker 5: Michelle, Yes, yes, and yes on Kio had nine lives.

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In fact, I started writing part two of her story.

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Of course, when she passed away, the second book will

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become fictional rather than real story. I had imagined that

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she came back to me as a completely different cat,

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and on Kill's story is never ending. And I have

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started my fifth book about her returning to me because

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I'm not able to get over losing her, to feel

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like the only way that I can connect to her

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is keep writing about her. That's my therapy. So yes,

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there's a part two of onkile story, maybe part three,

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part four as well. So here we go. As I said,

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the name Onkile means echo, and her love is echoing

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all over me, and she hasn't left. And all I

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could say is that in reality, she may have left me,

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and yet she's so utterly with me. That is the

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only way I could discube oh I feel about huh?

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Speaker 2: You know you're echoing some of the emotions that I've

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heard from a lot of people that have been uncatitude,

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and a lot of them are you know, cat parents,

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and a lot of stories from my listeners. So cat

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people have a very strong love for their cats, very deep.

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It's just different, it really is. Josephine. I want to

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thank you so much for coming on Catituded, and I

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can't wait for a part two. So thank you so much.

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Speaker 5: Thank you Michelle.

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Speaker 2: I hope you enjoyed this show. I want to again

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thank Josephine Spence for coming on Catitude and talking about

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her book, A Cat's Tale. It is available in many

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many places. I hope you take time to read it.

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It is a really good book. I want to thank

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my cat crew who patiently slept around me as I

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read her book. So thank you Dennis, Charlotte and Mollie.

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And of course the show would not be the same

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without the magic of my producer. Thank you so much,

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Mark Winter for all you do to make our shows

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sound amazing. This is episode two hundred ninety nine. Wow,

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So thank you for listening to Catatude for all of

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these episodes, all of these years. Now stay tuned for

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episode three hundred. I have a special celebrity guest. You

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know her from television. She is amazing. She's doing some

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incredible things coming up for animals, and she is such

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a catlever. You will not want to miss episode three

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hundred and hey lose to Attitude, have Cataitude.

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Speaker 4: Let's talk pets every week on demand only on Petlight

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Radio dot com.

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