Speaker 1: Someone I know. We're acquaintances. We're not really good friends,
Speaker 1: so we know each other and we're friendly when we
Speaker 1: see each other. Recently announced you checking himself into a
Speaker 1: mental facility because he was thinking about unliving himself. And
Speaker 1: he was talking about how being in his fifties is
Speaker 1: feeling invisible. And yes he has friends, yes he has
Speaker 1: coworkers and stuff, but he just it was it was
Speaker 1: the silence at night. I always taughtout this all the time,
Speaker 1: about how but it's quieter at night, your brain gets louder.
Speaker 1: As we have a lot of insomniacs. All people have problems.
Speaker 1: There were a thing also called twilight syndromes by their
Speaker 1: daylight syndrum ers by sunlight sense like that too, sundown syndrome.
Speaker 1: And I just thought what you were talking about. I
Speaker 1: totally related to him when he was talking about that.
Speaker 1: I'm glad he's checking it was self placed to getself helped.
Speaker 1: But I get what he's saying. You know, it's I
Speaker 1: guess you know. I just saw actually have this song
Speaker 1: on my latest album called The Grass Is Green on
Speaker 1: both sides. I know it seems like that that whole thing,
Speaker 1: the grasses and Greener over there and seems greener, but
Speaker 1: it isn't the fast people want to talk to you
Speaker 1: who have partners. Yes, no one's relationship is perfect. We
Speaker 1: know that no one's relationship is perfect. However common there's
Speaker 1: still a difference that you go home and that person's
Speaker 1: sleeping next to you, or he's sleeping in the next room,
Speaker 1: or he's in the same house. Like there's there's a difference.
Speaker 1: I'm not talking if you're being physically abused, about talking
Speaker 1: if you're being mentally abused, I am I talking about
Speaker 1: that kind of stuff. That's that's something totally that you're right,
Speaker 1: it's that's all of a story by itself. But I'm
Speaker 1: talking average relationship, regular relationship, and may I be perfect,
Speaker 1: but you have your ups and downs, but you're still
Speaker 1: together and it might be things missing that you used
Speaker 1: to have as a whole the conversation I'm talking versus
Speaker 1: someone who's alone or who's single and by themselves. It's
Speaker 1: a trip cause there is a difference, and especially as
Speaker 1: you get always this show is called fifty Pluss, So
Speaker 1: as you get older, even if you're trying to get
Speaker 1: plastic surgery or working out or trying to save your hair,
Speaker 1: and people go to Turkey and save their hair all
Speaker 1: these things. I don't a lot of folks who do
Speaker 1: all that and they're still alone meeting someone. These days.
Speaker 1: I think it's the hardest it's ever been in my lifetime.
Speaker 1: It was to be way easier back in the day
Speaker 1: twenty thirty years ago. And when you're younger, you have
Speaker 1: the world at your feet. The world is at your feet,
Speaker 1: it really is. We're all the advancements, everything we're trying
Speaker 1: to do with agents, and everybody's living longer, you know,
Speaker 1: We're all like, you know, you're looking better or living longer.
Speaker 1: It's still worse. I think it's I'm sorry, I think
Speaker 1: it's worse. And now we had a pandemic, so it's
Speaker 1: people now are not wanting to go out the house
Speaker 1: anymore or meet people, don't trust anybody anymore. It's like
Speaker 1: it's it's it's a trip, you know, and the like
Speaker 1: in the gay words, like there's no more cruising anymore,
Speaker 1: Like it's just going to happen. That's it. The old
Speaker 1: days you cruise than the straight world. It's like, I
Speaker 1: don't know how to talk to women because all this
Speaker 1: stuff that's been going on. It's just like it's just
Speaker 1: it's you know, men being toxic. You know, there's a
Speaker 1: whole there's all this stuff going. I'm like, what happened
Speaker 1: to just people getting together because they are attracting each other,
Speaker 1: they see something, they connect. Yes, some walls are up
Speaker 1: and you break them down, you know as you get
Speaker 1: to know each other, Like what happened to them that?
Speaker 1: So I've talked about I thin I've talked about this
Speaker 1: or other shows I've talked to. I have shared how
Speaker 1: lonely I am. You know, I I have young friends,
Speaker 1: I have family and I but they all go home
Speaker 1: to their homes and I still go to bed by myself.
Speaker 1: And I'm at the point where and I think it's
Speaker 1: before where I've stopped looking because I've I feel like
Speaker 1: I've done every different I've taken advice from thirty different people.
Speaker 1: I have had specialists on my show, love specialists and therapists.
Speaker 1: I've done all of that. I feel like I've tried
Speaker 1: every different thing, and people still ghost you at somebody
Speaker 1: the other day again, try a separ day with this
Speaker 1: person and we're almost there, like, okay, so meeting tomorrow,
Speaker 1: what time is good for you? And they never answered
Speaker 1: back then two months later, Hi, how are you? I
Speaker 1: didn't respond, then it give me a how have you
Speaker 1: pen Like two days later did respond a thumbs up?
Speaker 1: Like they get an attitude because because I won't respond
Speaker 1: to them, now they have an attitude. But like, but
Speaker 1: I'm still waiting for the two months ago to go
Speaker 1: to dinner. So it's kind of like that's what people have,
Speaker 1: not just me, but I don't. Maybe you're doing the
Speaker 1: same thing I'm doing. This dealer going well, I did
Speaker 1: everything I was supposed to do, or there we're friends
Speaker 1: off somebody else. We're friends on Facebook because we like
Speaker 1: each other finding each other Facebook, and you like my posts,
Speaker 1: but you don't call real text. You start out, you stuck,
Speaker 1: you're into me, and then you just kind of stopped.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's I mean, I understand there's times when
Speaker 1: people you meet each other you realize you're not for
Speaker 1: each other, but like say that that's somebody you know,
Speaker 1: I'm kind that it's not that into you whatever. But
Speaker 1: for me, I've had it once where I did reach
Speaker 1: out later like I'm still into you. I'm like, well
Speaker 1: want to so I'm not suposed to chase you. You completely
Speaker 1: do odd so I'm i star be doing just all
Speaker 1: the phone calls, all the text cause one person tell
Speaker 1: me I will always text you back or call you back,
Speaker 1: and you're like, but what about you checking on me?
Speaker 1: Where are me? And as you get older, in many ways,
Speaker 1: many of us get more set in our ways or
Speaker 1: and or we've had so many experiences that were just
Speaker 1: like gunshoting, Okay, We're like, okay, I'm good. I don't
Speaker 1: do that. I'm good. You try this, I'm good, and
Speaker 1: the whole like how how young should I date? Cause
Speaker 1: when they're younger, they're trying. Then they're looking for sugar
Speaker 1: days and in some cases or how sh I tried
Speaker 1: dating older and they were even more set in their ways.
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm trying to I'm trying to go.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm not even try I'm just like thinking
Speaker 1: we're too mature people. I mean that could I've tried everything,
Speaker 1: so I just I just I've given I've given up.
Speaker 1: But meanwhile my needs aren't being met. So I'm at
Speaker 1: home myself and I haven't been. I'm a busy person.
Speaker 1: I'm doing ten hundre million different things, so maytimes I
Speaker 1: can go for like two weeks not even thinking about it.
Speaker 1: Just I'm working, working, work, We're working, and then I
Speaker 1: get that one day off and then I'm like depressed.
Speaker 1: Get it. But it's like you and all your friends
Speaker 1: like you're so wonderful, Why can't you find anybody? What's
Speaker 1: wrong with you? And that's like that. I'm like, some
Speaker 1: must be wrong with me, But I don't the only
Speaker 1: person I know that a lot of folks, especially in
Speaker 1: my it's all ages, but especially in fifty plus, you
Speaker 1: just feel like, Okay, well I don't look the same
Speaker 1: way as I did before. I'm not, you know, or
Speaker 1: maybe I'm too old for a lot of people like
Speaker 1: what should like? What should I do? It's a it's
Speaker 1: a hard thing to navigate, and I don't see it
Speaker 1: getting easier. And so I know there's there's high shoe
Speaker 1: side rates with youngst men and especially and and it's
Speaker 1: just it's it's so sad. I want anybody dance themselves,
Speaker 1: of course not. And I want people to be happy.
Speaker 1: I wish no folks could be happy, and I I don't.
Speaker 1: Folks are still meeting up and falling in love and
Speaker 1: getting married. Stuff I don't know. Not my direction and
Speaker 1: part of me and I've talked to other people around
Speaker 1: my age who are single part of us, part of me,
Speaker 1: and other people I talk to you at my age
Speaker 1: kind of feel like we know we can be alone.
Speaker 1: We're already were already doing it. We know it could,
Speaker 1: we know it could be alone, and we know that
Speaker 1: for the most part, we can survive. It's and but
Speaker 1: it's still this thing of kind of like, wow, it
Speaker 1: would be kind of nice if someone did come through
Speaker 1: and stick around. That could be nice too. It's like
Speaker 1: how much older am I gonna get? Like that might
Speaker 1: even get say, well, I get to the point where
Speaker 1: I'm like, because I've talked to people who are inder
Speaker 1: Seid and they're like, I'm done. They're good, Like, is
Speaker 1: that is that? I Am? I done? Am I really done?
Speaker 1: Did I do everything I was supposed to do with
Speaker 1: somebody people? Is that is that? As it? I had
Speaker 1: a lot of fun, folks. I mean I think I
Speaker 1: think my folks, she's never done anything or done very much.
Speaker 1: I feel bad for damn, especially because I'm like, you
Speaker 1: get to say I could say I could I literally
Speaker 1: could say I've had a lot of fun, I've had
Speaker 1: a lot of experiences. I'm trying to get this PG
Speaker 1: and g on here this on this podcast. I had
Speaker 1: a good time. So I mean, if I'm retired, done it,
Speaker 1: that's it. I live in my memories. Yeah, I live
Speaker 1: with my memories. That's it. So I'm like, I don't
Speaker 1: even know what that means, right, you guys, it's it's
Speaker 1: life is I mean, just likes for today. As I
Speaker 1: am recording this podcast, it is a Thursday. It's a
Speaker 1: beautiful day outside by windows are all open, everything's open,
Speaker 1: it's beautiful. The weather it's great here in Los Angeles.
Speaker 1: I actually had a nice personal week hanging out with
Speaker 1: a friend of mine for the last couple of days.
Speaker 1: We had a really great just nice, relaxing, fun record
Speaker 1: shopping going. So I went to the water. So I
Speaker 1: lived near the water, so I don't going to water. Me
Speaker 1: and Delray did all that. I had good food, So
Speaker 1: I mean, so I had a good week, had a
Speaker 1: good week in terms of per I feel pretty good.
Speaker 1: You know, take car business, My business do really well,
Speaker 1: you know, but they're al still fixing my roof. They
Speaker 1: had to fixed my direct TV, they had to fix
Speaker 1: my RS.
Speaker 2: I mean, but I was still skiing done, so I
Speaker 2: do have all that, but I still go to bed
Speaker 2: by myself with nobody checking on me, like didn't nobody
Speaker 2: Roman take nobody, nothing, the sexual nothing, just that's it
Speaker 2: because I just go Okay, I guess so.
Speaker 1: I'm very blessed in highly favor. Life is good anyways,
Speaker 1: can't complain too much. But there are people, yes, who
Speaker 1: will die of loneliness, and that part is kind of sad.
Speaker 1: I don't have the answer. It's just a continuing conversation
Speaker 1: that we'll be having on this show especially. But YEA
Speaker 1: have no answers to this. If you have an answers,
Speaker 1: tell me to HeSE some answers. Here's some answers. Here's
Speaker 1: fifty plus. It's mostly an audio audio podcast. There are
Speaker 1: some videos on my YouTube channel. Jailj Media is a playlist.
Speaker 1: It depends on if I have a guest, I feel
Speaker 1: like doing video and audio. If I feel like doing
Speaker 1: something video, there's times I want to get a message
Speaker 1: out there, I do it. Video all depends, but check
Speaker 1: out the channel. But audio, of course. Where you found this,
Speaker 1: continue finding it. I'll talk to you next time. I'm
Speaker 1: James Lojinger