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<v Speaker 1>Someone I know. We're acquaintances. We're not really good friends,

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<v Speaker 1>so we know each other and we're friendly when we

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<v Speaker 1>see each other. Recently announced you checking himself into a

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<v Speaker 1>mental facility because he was thinking about unliving himself. And

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<v Speaker 1>he was talking about how being in his fifties is

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<v Speaker 1>feeling invisible. And yes he has friends, yes he has

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<v Speaker 1>coworkers and stuff, but he just it was it was

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<v Speaker 1>the silence at night. I always taughtout this all the time,

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<v Speaker 1>about how but it's quieter at night, your brain gets louder.

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<v Speaker 1>As we have a lot of insomniacs. All people have problems.

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<v Speaker 1>There were a thing also called twilight syndromes by their

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<v Speaker 1>daylight syndrum ers by sunlight sense like that too, sundown syndrome.

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<v Speaker 1>And I just thought what you were talking about. I

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<v Speaker 1>totally related to him when he was talking about that.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm glad he's checking it was self placed to getself helped.

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<v Speaker 1>But I get what he's saying. You know, it's I

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<v Speaker 1>guess you know. I just saw actually have this song

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<v Speaker 1>on my latest album called The Grass Is Green on

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<v Speaker 1>both sides. I know it seems like that that whole thing,

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<v Speaker 1>the grasses and Greener over there and seems greener, but

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<v Speaker 1>it isn't the fast people want to talk to you

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<v Speaker 1>who have partners. Yes, no one's relationship is perfect. We

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<v Speaker 1>know that no one's relationship is perfect. However common there's

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<v Speaker 1>still a difference that you go home and that person's

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<v Speaker 1>sleeping next to you, or he's sleeping in the next room,

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<v Speaker 1>or he's in the same house. Like there's there's a difference.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not talking if you're being physically abused, about talking

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<v Speaker 1>if you're being mentally abused, I am I talking about

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<v Speaker 1>that kind of stuff. That's that's something totally that you're right,

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<v Speaker 1>it's that's all of a story by itself. But I'm

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<v Speaker 1>talking average relationship, regular relationship, and may I be perfect,

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<v Speaker 1>but you have your ups and downs, but you're still

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<v Speaker 1>together and it might be things missing that you used

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<v Speaker 1>to have as a whole the conversation I'm talking versus

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<v Speaker 1>someone who's alone or who's single and by themselves. It's

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<v Speaker 1>a trip cause there is a difference, and especially as

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<v Speaker 1>you get always this show is called fifty Pluss, So

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<v Speaker 1>as you get older, even if you're trying to get

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<v Speaker 1>plastic surgery or working out or trying to save your hair,

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<v Speaker 1>and people go to Turkey and save their hair all

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<v Speaker 1>these things. I don't a lot of folks who do

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<v Speaker 1>all that and they're still alone meeting someone. These days.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's the hardest it's ever been in my lifetime.

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<v Speaker 1>It was to be way easier back in the day

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<v Speaker 1>twenty thirty years ago. And when you're younger, you have

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<v Speaker 1>the world at your feet. The world is at your feet,

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<v Speaker 1>it really is. We're all the advancements, everything we're trying

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<v Speaker 1>to do with agents, and everybody's living longer, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>We're all like, you know, you're looking better or living longer.

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<v Speaker 1>It's still worse. I think it's I'm sorry, I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's worse. And now we had a pandemic, so it's

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<v Speaker 1>people now are not wanting to go out the house

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<v Speaker 1>anymore or meet people, don't trust anybody anymore. It's like

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<v Speaker 1>it's it's it's a trip, you know, and the like

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<v Speaker 1>in the gay words, like there's no more cruising anymore,

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<v Speaker 1>Like it's just going to happen. That's it. The old

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<v Speaker 1>days you cruise than the straight world. It's like, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know how to talk to women because all this

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<v Speaker 1>stuff that's been going on. It's just like it's just

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<v Speaker 1>it's you know, men being toxic. You know, there's a

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<v Speaker 1>whole there's all this stuff going. I'm like, what happened

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<v Speaker 1>to just people getting together because they are attracting each other,

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<v Speaker 1>they see something, they connect. Yes, some walls are up

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<v Speaker 1>and you break them down, you know as you get

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<v Speaker 1>to know each other, Like what happened to them that?

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<v Speaker 1>So I've talked about I thin I've talked about this

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<v Speaker 1>or other shows I've talked to. I have shared how

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<v Speaker 1>lonely I am. You know, I I have young friends,

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<v Speaker 1>I have family and I but they all go home

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<v Speaker 1>to their homes and I still go to bed by myself.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm at the point where and I think it's

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<v Speaker 1>before where I've stopped looking because I've I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>I've done every different I've taken advice from thirty different people.

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<v Speaker 1>I have had specialists on my show, love specialists and therapists.

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<v Speaker 1>I've done all of that. I feel like I've tried

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<v Speaker 1>every different thing, and people still ghost you at somebody

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<v Speaker 1>the other day again, try a separ day with this

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<v Speaker 1>person and we're almost there, like, okay, so meeting tomorrow,

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<v Speaker 1>what time is good for you? And they never answered

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<v Speaker 1>back then two months later, Hi, how are you? I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't respond, then it give me a how have you

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<v Speaker 1>pen Like two days later did respond a thumbs up?

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<v Speaker 1>Like they get an attitude because because I won't respond

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<v Speaker 1>to them, now they have an attitude. But like, but

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<v Speaker 1>I'm still waiting for the two months ago to go

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<v Speaker 1>to dinner. So it's kind of like that's what people have,

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<v Speaker 1>not just me, but I don't. Maybe you're doing the

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<v Speaker 1>same thing I'm doing. This dealer going well, I did

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<v Speaker 1>everything I was supposed to do, or there we're friends

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<v Speaker 1>off somebody else. We're friends on Facebook because we like

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<v Speaker 1>each other finding each other Facebook, and you like my posts,

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<v Speaker 1>but you don't call real text. You start out, you stuck,

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<v Speaker 1>you're into me, and then you just kind of stopped.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, it's I mean, I understand there's times when

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<v Speaker 1>people you meet each other you realize you're not for

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<v Speaker 1>each other, but like say that that's somebody you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm kind that it's not that into you whatever. But

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<v Speaker 1>for me, I've had it once where I did reach

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<v Speaker 1>out later like I'm still into you. I'm like, well

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<v Speaker 1>want to so I'm not suposed to chase you. You completely

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<v Speaker 1>do odd so I'm i star be doing just all

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<v Speaker 1>the phone calls, all the text cause one person tell

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<v Speaker 1>me I will always text you back or call you back,

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<v Speaker 1>and you're like, but what about you checking on me?

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<v Speaker 1>Where are me? And as you get older, in many ways,

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<v Speaker 1>many of us get more set in our ways or

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<v Speaker 1>and or we've had so many experiences that were just

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<v Speaker 1>like gunshoting, Okay, We're like, okay, I'm good. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>do that. I'm good. You try this, I'm good, and

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<v Speaker 1>the whole like how how young should I date? Cause

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<v Speaker 1>when they're younger, they're trying. Then they're looking for sugar

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<v Speaker 1>days and in some cases or how sh I tried

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<v Speaker 1>dating older and they were even more set in their ways.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, I'm trying to I'm trying to go.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I'm not even try I'm just like thinking

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<v Speaker 1>we're too mature people. I mean that could I've tried everything,

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<v Speaker 1>so I just I just I've given I've given up.

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<v Speaker 1>But meanwhile my needs aren't being met. So I'm at

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<v Speaker 1>home myself and I haven't been. I'm a busy person.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm doing ten hundre million different things, so maytimes I

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<v Speaker 1>can go for like two weeks not even thinking about it.

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<v Speaker 1>Just I'm working, working, work, We're working, and then I

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<v Speaker 1>get that one day off and then I'm like depressed.

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<v Speaker 1>Get it. But it's like you and all your friends

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<v Speaker 1>like you're so wonderful, Why can't you find anybody? What's

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<v Speaker 1>wrong with you? And that's like that. I'm like, some

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<v Speaker 1>must be wrong with me, But I don't the only

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<v Speaker 1>person I know that a lot of folks, especially in

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<v Speaker 1>my it's all ages, but especially in fifty plus, you

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<v Speaker 1>just feel like, Okay, well I don't look the same

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<v Speaker 1>way as I did before. I'm not, you know, or

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<v Speaker 1>maybe I'm too old for a lot of people like

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<v Speaker 1>what should like? What should I do? It's a it's

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<v Speaker 1>a hard thing to navigate, and I don't see it

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<v Speaker 1>getting easier. And so I know there's there's high shoe

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<v Speaker 1>side rates with youngst men and especially and and it's

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<v Speaker 1>just it's it's so sad. I want anybody dance themselves,

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<v Speaker 1>of course not. And I want people to be happy.

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<v Speaker 1>I wish no folks could be happy, and I I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Folks are still meeting up and falling in love and

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<v Speaker 1>getting married. Stuff I don't know. Not my direction and

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<v Speaker 1>part of me and I've talked to other people around

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<v Speaker 1>my age who are single part of us, part of me,

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<v Speaker 1>and other people I talk to you at my age

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<v Speaker 1>kind of feel like we know we can be alone.

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<v Speaker 1>We're already were already doing it. We know it could,

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<v Speaker 1>we know it could be alone, and we know that

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<v Speaker 1>for the most part, we can survive. It's and but

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<v Speaker 1>it's still this thing of kind of like, wow, it

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<v Speaker 1>would be kind of nice if someone did come through

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<v Speaker 1>and stick around. That could be nice too. It's like

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<v Speaker 1>how much older am I gonna get? Like that might

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<v Speaker 1>even get say, well, I get to the point where

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, because I've talked to people who are inder

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<v Speaker 1>Seid and they're like, I'm done. They're good, Like, is

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<v Speaker 1>that is that? I Am? I done? Am I really done?

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<v Speaker 1>Did I do everything I was supposed to do with

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<v Speaker 1>somebody people? Is that is that? As it? I had

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of fun, folks. I mean I think I

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<v Speaker 1>think my folks, she's never done anything or done very much.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel bad for damn, especially because I'm like, you

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<v Speaker 1>get to say I could say I could I literally

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<v Speaker 1>could say I've had a lot of fun, I've had

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of experiences. I'm trying to get this PG

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<v Speaker 1>and g on here this on this podcast. I had

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<v Speaker 1>a good time. So I mean, if I'm retired, done it,

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<v Speaker 1>that's it. I live in my memories. Yeah, I live

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<v Speaker 1>with my memories. That's it. So I'm like, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>even know what that means, right, you guys, it's it's

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<v Speaker 1>life is I mean, just likes for today. As I

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<v Speaker 1>am recording this podcast, it is a Thursday. It's a

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<v Speaker 1>beautiful day outside by windows are all open, everything's open,

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<v Speaker 1>it's beautiful. The weather it's great here in Los Angeles.

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<v Speaker 1>I actually had a nice personal week hanging out with

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<v Speaker 1>We had a really great just nice, relaxing, fun record

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<v Speaker 1>shopping going. So I went to the water. So I

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<v Speaker 1>lived near the water, so I don't going to water. Me

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<v Speaker 1>and Delray did all that. I had good food, So

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, so I had a good week, had a

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<v Speaker 1>good week in terms of per I feel pretty good.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, take car business, My business do really well,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, but they're al still fixing my roof. They

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<v Speaker 1>had to fixed my direct TV, they had to fix

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, but I was still skiing done, so I

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<v Speaker 2>do have all that, but I still go to bed

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<v Speaker 2>by myself with nobody checking on me, like didn't nobody

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<v Speaker 2>Roman take nobody, nothing, the sexual nothing, just that's it

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<v Speaker 2>because I just go Okay, I guess so.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm very blessed in highly favor. Life is good anyways,

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<v Speaker 1>can't complain too much. But there are people, yes, who

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<v Speaker 1>will die of loneliness, and that part is kind of sad.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't have the answer. It's just a continuing conversation

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<v Speaker 1>that we'll be having on this show especially. But YEA

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<v Speaker 1>have no answers to this. If you have an answers,

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<v Speaker 1>tell me to HeSE some answers. Here's some answers. Here's

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<v Speaker 1>fifty plus. It's mostly an audio audio podcast. There are

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<v Speaker 1>some videos on my YouTube channel. Jailj Media is a playlist.

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<v Speaker 1>It depends on if I have a guest, I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like doing video and audio. If I feel like doing

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<v Speaker 1>something video, there's times I want to get a message

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<v Speaker 1>out there, I do it. Video all depends, but check

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<v Speaker 1>out the channel. But audio, of course. Where you found this,

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<v Speaker 1>continue finding it. I'll talk to you next time. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>James Lojinger