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<v Speaker 1>We hear over and over again how important it is

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<v Speaker 1>to love ourselves. We are aware that love is the

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<v Speaker 1>most powerful healing force there is, and yet, no matter

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<v Speaker 1>how hard we try to love ourselves, many of us

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<v Speaker 1>keep hitting a brick wall. Something is in the way.

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<v Speaker 1>It seems impossible for us to break through. We begin

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<v Speaker 1>to believe that we just can't love who we are,

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<v Speaker 1>that there must be something wrong with us, or perhaps

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<v Speaker 1>we're not worth loving. This frustration and anger at our

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<v Speaker 1>own inability to do what we know is so important

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<v Speaker 1>to us can lead to depression. We can feel hopeless,

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<v Speaker 1>and yet there is an answer. There is something we

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<v Speaker 1>can do to open the most stubborn doorway to love.

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<v Speaker 1>We can forgive. Forgiveness opens the doorway to love so

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<v Speaker 1>that love may flow most abundantly in our life. I

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<v Speaker 1>have noticed that when the door to love seems to

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<v Speaker 1>be stuck, it is usually because there is someone or

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<v Speaker 1>something that we are unwilling to forgive. Yes, it may

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<v Speaker 1>be true that in the past we have had a

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<v Speaker 1>very unpleasant experience, and that is so unfortunate. However, it

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<v Speaker 1>is not unforgivable. Forgiveness is a gift to ourselves, for

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<v Speaker 1>it sets us free When we refuse to forgive, we

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<v Speaker 1>sit in a prison of self righteous resentment and stay

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<v Speaker 1>stuck in the past, and this hurts only ourselves. The

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<v Speaker 1>other person may.

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<v Speaker 2>Not even know we are in pain.

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<v Speaker 1>I know that you can heal your heart now and

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<v Speaker 1>that you are worth loving. Here is something we can

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<v Speaker 1>do to change things. Let's take a little journey to

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<v Speaker 1>clean out the pockets of bitterness that may still reside

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<v Speaker 1>within you. Close your eyes.

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<v Speaker 2>And let's walk down into a valley.

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<v Speaker 1>Going down is always symbolic of going into your subconscious

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<v Speaker 1>mind to do the clearing work. As you descend and

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<v Speaker 1>into this valley, you notice with delight how very beautiful

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<v Speaker 1>it is. Lush and green flowers everywhere, birds and butterflies,

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<v Speaker 1>trees and a gentle stream. Find a comfortable place to

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<v Speaker 1>sit on the bank of this stream and settle down

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<v Speaker 1>and just relax s. It is so peaceful and safe here.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a wonderful place for letting go or forgiving. Ask yourself,

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<v Speaker 1>what is the hardest thing to forgive?

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<v Speaker 2>And remember the pain that incident caused you?

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<v Speaker 1>Where are you carrying it in your body? Now? How

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<v Speaker 1>long have you been carrying that pain? In this very

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<v Speaker 1>safe place? Allow yourself to take the pain out of

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<v Speaker 1>your body and hold it in your hands.

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<v Speaker 2>Look at it from every angle? How big is it?

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<v Speaker 2>What color is this pain?

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<v Speaker 1>Does it have a sound, a smell, a taste? Do

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<v Speaker 1>you really want to keep it any longer? Are you

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<v Speaker 1>willing to let it go?

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<v Speaker 2>Now?

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<v Speaker 1>Gently place this pain in the stream and watch the

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<v Speaker 1>current dissolve it and take it away. All that hurt

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<v Speaker 1>and suffering is being dispersed, made harmless as it drifts

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<v Speaker 1>away out of sight. Feel the water flowing against your hand,

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<v Speaker 1>washing it clean. Notice how glad you are to have

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<v Speaker 1>released that old chunk. Now take another incident, really relive it,

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<v Speaker 1>feel for a moment that pain and hurt. Take a

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<v Speaker 1>breath and step back in your mind and look at

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<v Speaker 1>the incident from the other person's point of view. Does

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<v Speaker 1>it look the same from that angle? Now take another

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<v Speaker 1>breath and look at the situation from an observer's point

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<v Speaker 1>of view, someone who is watching both of you and

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<v Speaker 1>is totally objective. Is that also another point of view?

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<v Speaker 1>Every time you look at the experience from a different angle,

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<v Speaker 1>you get a different reaction. Who is right and who

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<v Speaker 1>is wrong? Is anyone really right or wrong? Let's just

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<v Speaker 1>take that whole incident, the other party, the old you,

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<v Speaker 1>the incident, and the observer, and let them all gently

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<v Speaker 1>submerge into the stream, dissolving and disappearing as they drift away.

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<v Speaker 1>Let it go, slip away until it is gone from

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<v Speaker 1>sight and from your emotional grasp. Give yourself a moment

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<v Speaker 1>of peace on the bank of the river, Lay back

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<v Speaker 1>against the grass and breathe s Who is the hardest

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<v Speaker 1>person to forgive?

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<v Speaker 2>And why?

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<v Speaker 1>If you really wanted to forgive this person, you know

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<v Speaker 1>you could. What is it you want to hold on to?

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<v Speaker 1>Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?

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<v Speaker 1>Perhaps you have held this pain long enough and now

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<v Speaker 1>it is safe enough for you to let it go.

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<v Speaker 1>What would you be willing to give in return for

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<v Speaker 1>releasing this negativity? Could you give understanding for abandonment? Could

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<v Speaker 1>you give compassion for the abuse and betrayal? Could you

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<v Speaker 1>give acceptance for rejection? Could you just forgive and let go?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you willing to change your old beliefs of I

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<v Speaker 1>am worth abusing to I am worth cherishing? How willing

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<v Speaker 1>are you to give up these old negative ideas for

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<v Speaker 1>the new freedom that forgiveness can bring you.

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<v Speaker 2>Once again?

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<v Speaker 1>Just release all of this pain. Drop all of this

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<v Speaker 1>bitterness into the river. Let the person go, release them,

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<v Speaker 1>set them free, and say to them, I forgive you

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<v Speaker 1>for not being the way I wanted you to be.

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<v Speaker 1>I forgive you, and I set you free. And then

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<v Speaker 1>let the whole experience go. Wash yourself free of every

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<v Speaker 1>vestige of the past. See blocks and barriers drifting down

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<v Speaker 1>the stream. Watch them go. They are no part of

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<v Speaker 1>you anymore. You are cleansed, and you are free. S

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<v Speaker 1>At any time, you can go through your mind and

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<v Speaker 1>find other places where unforgiveness resides, and you can take

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<v Speaker 1>each incident or person and hold them in your hands

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<v Speaker 1>and look at them and decide if you are willing

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<v Speaker 1>to be totally free. Now, I forgive you, and I

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<v Speaker 1>set you free. I forgive you, and I set myself free.

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<v Speaker 1>And in your mind, place each one in the river

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<v Speaker 1>and see them dissolve as they drift down the stream.

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<v Speaker 1>Let them go, let it all go, forgive and release

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<v Speaker 1>the whole world. Now you can step into the stream

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<v Speaker 1>yourself for a moment, let yourself be totally immersed for

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<v Speaker 1>an instant, and then stand up in the water and

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<v Speaker 1>declare for yourself, I am forgiven, I am forgiven, and

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<v Speaker 1>I am free. Your mind, your heart, your whole body

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<v Speaker 1>is being cleansed of all the negative debris. The weight

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<v Speaker 1>has been taken away. You can see it floating down

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<v Speaker 1>the stream, never to return. What a relief, what a joy.

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<v Speaker 1>As you come back up the bank, notice how light

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<v Speaker 1>and free you feel. The sunshine looks brighter and dries

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<v Speaker 1>you instantly. Colors and the sounds are more vivid. The

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<v Speaker 1>world is more beautiful, and you know you are entitled

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<v Speaker 1>to miracles now that you are free.

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<v Speaker 2>What miracle would you like see? In your mind?

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<v Speaker 1>Clearly, something wonderful that you would like to have happen

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<v Speaker 1>in your life, and know that it is now possible.

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<v Speaker 1>As you walk up out of the valley, having left

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<v Speaker 1>the old patterns behind, feel the space opening in your heart,

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<v Speaker 1>Feel the love in your heart beginning to flow.

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<v Speaker 2>There is nothing to stop it.

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<v Speaker 1>Now you feel so peaceful, so alive, so willing to love,

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<v Speaker 1>and so very free. You have forgiven, You have been forgiven.

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<v Speaker 1>Life looks good and you know that all is well

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<v Speaker 1>in your world. Missus Louise Hay and I love you.