Speaker 1: Hey, Hey, Hey, I'm bad. Listen, I gotta talk about it.
Speaker 2: I am tired of hearing men and women crying about
Speaker 2: being single.
Speaker 1: I'm tired of hearing about it. Many people.
Speaker 2: Biggest problem is self, but they want to blame other people.
Speaker 2: If you were a person who really loved yourself, although
Speaker 2: I know you think you do, But if you really
Speaker 2: loved yourself, your focus wouldn't be on whether somebody like
Speaker 2: you or want to be with you. That wouldn't be
Speaker 2: your focus. If you really loved yourself. The truth purence,
Speaker 2: but it's there to make you strong. People spend so
Speaker 2: much time and energy invested in other people. They become
Speaker 2: angry when they don't get what they feel that they
Speaker 2: deserve or that they want it that they desire, they
Speaker 2: become angry.
Speaker 1: I don't know why women are, you know, the way
Speaker 1: they are. I don't know why men are the way
Speaker 1: they are. Hey, don't worry about it.
Speaker 2: Worry about you, Worry about you, Worry about you. If
Speaker 2: you're gonna worry, worry about yourself because you can get
Speaker 2: away from other people, but you can never get away
Speaker 2: from you, and that's where the problem lies. Your mindset
Speaker 2: is your biggest problem being single is not your problem.
Speaker 1: Your mindset is your problem. Just because you are a
Speaker 1: loan does not mean you have to be lonely.
Speaker 2: That's a little piece out of my book, by the way,
Speaker 2: that's going to be coming out here pretty soon, but
Speaker 2: I'll talk about that another time.
Speaker 1: It's the truth.
Speaker 2: People get deep into loneliness and then depression because they focus.
Speaker 1: So much on being lonely.
Speaker 2: That they don't they don't take hold of the opportunity
Speaker 2: of growth and development because they're so focused.
Speaker 1: On being lonely. It becomes something else, meaning they become
Speaker 1: angry and bitter depressed.
Speaker 2: Because of their loneliness because that's all they're fixated on,
Speaker 2: and then it turns into anger at the opposite sex.
Speaker 2: A woman has the right to be single if she
Speaker 2: wants to. A man has the right to be single
Speaker 2: if he wants to. I saw a video clip. Now
Speaker 2: I'm gonna tell you. I have to be honest. See
Speaker 2: I have a funny bone.
Speaker 1: God knows I have a funny bone, and I mean
Speaker 1: I laugh, I really laugh hard.
Speaker 2: I saw this video clip and I'm about to crack
Speaker 2: up just thinking about it.
Speaker 1: I'm trying not to.
Speaker 2: It was of this guy and the guy started off
Speaker 2: real cool, calm and collective, talking about the type of
Speaker 2: guy he is and how he, you know, looking for
Speaker 2: a woman, and laying out the characteristics and things of
Speaker 2: that nature. By the time he was at the end,
Speaker 2: he was screaming and yelling and living. I laughed until
Speaker 2: I cried. You don't wonder you alone, sir, No wonder.
Speaker 1: Nobody wants to put up with that. No one.
Speaker 2: You don't want to put up with yourself. No one
Speaker 2: wants to put up with a deranged person. Clearly he
Speaker 2: was deranged or he is deranged. But it was hilarious
Speaker 2: to me. See a lot of people want to blame
Speaker 2: the opposite sex. Look at yourself.
Speaker 1: Who are you.
Speaker 2: I've seen people say, oh, I love myself.
Speaker 1: It's not me. I love myself. I'm doing this, I'm
Speaker 1: doing this, doing that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe you are, but you definitely don't love yourself,
Speaker 2: because if you did, you wouldn't be on here whining
Speaker 2: about being alone.
Speaker 1: You wouldn't you.
Speaker 2: You would embrace it, you would build on it. You
Speaker 2: will invest in yourself. You will be whining about being alone.
Speaker 1: If the opportunity comes and it's the right person, you
Speaker 1: will know well. People start their own mental maturity because.
Speaker 2: Of the mindsets that they have, they can't ever develop
Speaker 2: into mature adults. Although they are adults, they are not
Speaker 2: mature adults. And there is a difference in how you
Speaker 2: live your life whether you're mature or immature.
Speaker 1: It is a difference in how you live your life.
Speaker 2: There is a difference in the choices and decisions you make.
Speaker 1: When you have not done that inside work.
Speaker 2: You're always looking outward for what you need to be
Speaker 2: looking inside inside for you're always looking outward. Man, if
Speaker 2: you have all of these things you want in the
Speaker 2: opposite sex when you're none of them, you're absolutely none
Speaker 2: of them. That is unrealistic. You'd be what you're looking
Speaker 2: for first. That way, you will have something to offer.
Speaker 2: If you want someone to bring it to the table,
Speaker 2: you have.
Speaker 1: To bring it to the table too. People are called
Speaker 1: up in the wrong things.
Speaker 2: Their mindsets are on the wrong things. You're worried about
Speaker 2: the other person when you need to be concerned about yourself, who.
Speaker 1: You are as a person. Do you love yourself? That's
Speaker 1: why many people will never experience true love because they
Speaker 1: are so caught up on trying to find love. They're
Speaker 1: so caught up on trying to find love, never to
Speaker 1: receive it and become angry because of it.
Speaker 2: You don't know love if you don't know yourself. You
Speaker 2: don't know what it looks like. You don't know what
Speaker 2: it is, what it isn't You don't know what it
Speaker 2: feels like, because if you did, you wouldn't be worried about.
Speaker 1: A woman who don't want you.
Speaker 2: You wouldn't be worried about a man who don't want
Speaker 2: you if you loved yourself, If you loved yourself, you
Speaker 2: would be able to see when a person is no
Speaker 2: good for you, when they're trying to get something out
Speaker 2: of you, trying to get your money, when they're trying.
Speaker 1: To ride on your coattail.
Speaker 2: See again, that's the difference between being mature and immature.
Speaker 1: They are not the same.
Speaker 2: And no one gets to mental maturity without some healing
Speaker 2: taking place.
Speaker 1: You, you, me too. We all have.
Speaker 2: To do that inside work in order for things to
Speaker 2: work well on the outside. Many people have gone to
Speaker 2: their grains and will go to their grains without ever
Speaker 2: mentally maturity.
Speaker 1: That's just fact. That's just fact. You're so worried about
Speaker 1: being in love or being with someone, enjoy you, enjoy
Speaker 1: yourself and I know people say, oh, well, single people,
Speaker 1: they get into a mold where you know, they've been
Speaker 1: single so long they don't want to be around people.
Speaker 2: Just because you're single doesn't mean you're isolating yourself. Stop
Speaker 2: getting it twisted. Stop it.
Speaker 1: Just because a person that is single does not mean
Speaker 1: they're isolating their self. A lot of.
Speaker 2: People are mature, They love themselves, They are not settling
Speaker 2: anymore because they've settled in the past and they're good.
Speaker 1: Stop thinking everyone is the same because they are not.
Speaker 1: I promise you, I guarantee you on everything. People are
Speaker 1: not the same.
Speaker 2: You have some people who are single who are doing great,
Speaker 2: but then you have those who are not of the
Speaker 2: right mindsets who are struggling, struggling very hard, and they
Speaker 2: don't understand that men and women are either mature or immature,
Speaker 2: and they.
Speaker 1: Choose differently, they behave differently.
Speaker 2: And if you're a person who have not mentally matured,
Speaker 2: you know, I.
Speaker 1: Know everybody think they are because people think maturity comes
Speaker 1: with age, but it does not. It does not. So
Speaker 1: if you're worried about someone else not giving you the
Speaker 1: time of day or whatever, you need to look at yourself.
Speaker 1: Why you're worried about that. It shouldn't even affect you.
Speaker 2: If someone don't want to be with you, that shouldn't
Speaker 2: affect you at all.
Speaker 1: Life goes on when you know you.
Speaker 2: Love yourself and you got yourself together mentally, it's like
Speaker 2: the old saying, water rolling off your back.
Speaker 1: You just move on because I'm a mature person. Don't
Speaker 1: want someone who don't want them, point blank the end.
Speaker 1: They don't. But many of you are waddling.
Speaker 2: You're waddling and you're whining because you have yet to
Speaker 2: get to that level of maturity. You have yet to
Speaker 2: get to that level of self growth and development.
Speaker 1: Get yourself together. Love, you, deal.
Speaker 2: With your inner issues, know who you are as a person,
Speaker 2: know your worth and your value. When you do that,
Speaker 2: you will think differently. That's stuff that's bothering you, ma'am.
Speaker 2: It won't bother you later.
Speaker 1: You know, some people just struggle because of the mindsets
Speaker 1: that they have unhere hearts and minds. I talk about
Speaker 1: it all the time. It makes it.
Speaker 2: More difficult to maneuver through life.
Speaker 1: Love starts with you loving yourself.
Speaker 2: I don't care what your job is, I don't care
Speaker 2: how you look, I don't care what you have none
Speaker 2: of it. None of it heals your inner issues. Your
Speaker 2: inner issues has caused you the mindset that you have,
Speaker 2: and those things come from experiences. Bottom line, what we've
Speaker 2: gone through.
Speaker 1: Is what forms the mindsets that we have, and it
Speaker 1: starts from childhood.
Speaker 2: But even if you experience trauma in your childhood.
Speaker 1: You don't have to carry.
Speaker 2: That into your adulthood, but many people do because it's
Speaker 2: so much easier.
Speaker 1: To hold on to familiar.
Speaker 2: Even if it's something that's causing you further issues in life,
Speaker 2: even if it's making things hard, it's still easier.
Speaker 1: For many people to hold on to.
Speaker 2: The negativity than to let it go and move on.
Speaker 2: You can't let it go if you're holding on to it.
Speaker 2: You can't let it go if you haven't healed from it.
Speaker 2: I really want you to understand this. It starts with you.
Speaker 1: And who you are as a person. Being alone does
Speaker 1: not mean you have to be lonely.
Speaker 2: Being alone does not mean you're isolated, but people with
Speaker 2: certain mindsets think, so, oh, you're in danger. No one
Speaker 2: is meant to be alone, and in the Bible it
Speaker 2: says that to some degree.
Speaker 1: But there is also where pau is talking, and he
Speaker 1: said Hey, it's best to remain alone. I'm not saying
Speaker 1: that's good for everyone, but what I am saying is
Speaker 1: if you are alone, embrace it.
Speaker 2: Come the best you that you can be. Positive, positive,
Speaker 2: and I promise you.
Speaker 1: What's for you is coming.
Speaker 2: Most people don't know that there's a difference between wants
Speaker 2: and needs. A lot of what people desire and wants.
Speaker 1: Not what they need in the first place, but people
Speaker 1: want it.
Speaker 2: Because of the mindsets that they have. So being single
Speaker 2: isn't the problem. The problem is you and the mindset
Speaker 2: that you have. That's the problem, because if it was
Speaker 2: not a problem, you wouldn't be whining and waddling because
Speaker 2: somebody don't want to be with you or because you're single.
Speaker 1: You will embrace and in that you will become the
Speaker 1: best that you can be.
Speaker 2: If you are an individual of a positive mindset, if
Speaker 2: you are an individual who have allowed healing to take
Speaker 2: place in your life.
Speaker 1: Most people haven't look around you.
Speaker 2: That's why we're seeing all of the travesties and tragedies
Speaker 2: because people have not allowed healing to take place in
Speaker 2: their life.
Speaker 1: They're either acting or reacting. I'm just telling.
Speaker 3: You you don't have to listen to me, not a bit,
Speaker 3: but getting on social media and degrading the opposite sex,
Speaker 3: whether it's male or female.
Speaker 2: That does nothing for you. He wants to be with
Speaker 2: someone who's doing that. So you're not making things better
Speaker 2: for yourself. You're making things worse for yourself.
Speaker 1: Whining.
Speaker 2: It's not helping you, it's working against you. No matter
Speaker 2: what you think, no.
Speaker 1: Matter what you say, there is some unresolved inside of you.
Speaker 2: When you deal with that and heal from that, let
Speaker 2: me say it again, when you deal with that and
Speaker 2: heal from that.
Speaker 1: You'll be a different person.
Speaker 2: That's the only way mental maturity comes through growth. And
Speaker 2: no one I do mean, no one on the face
Speaker 2: of the earth can ever grow mentally.
Speaker 1: By remaining the same.
Speaker 4: Millions of people in this world, millions up four millions.
Speaker 2: Are blind, brainwashed, and conditioned, and they've chosen to remain
Speaker 2: that way for a lifetime.
Speaker 1: People have adopted and adapted to ill behaviors, never choosing
Speaker 1: change for the better. You have people who are young.
Speaker 2: In their late teens, like nineteen eighteen nineteen, in their.
Speaker 1: Early twenties.
Speaker 2: Whining about being single, and it really doesn't matter what age.
Speaker 1: You have to look at yourself what are you contributing
Speaker 1: in your own life? What are you contributing?
Speaker 4: No one, no one can bring what you need in
Speaker 4: your life until you find that in yourself.
Speaker 1: You have to find love within yourself first. That way, it.
Speaker 2: Opened your eyes to all the game in the bullcrap
Speaker 2: that people will bring you ignored when you see it
Speaker 2: so again for the third or fourth time. Being single
Speaker 2: is not the problem is the mindset that you have.
Speaker 2: I'm leaving it right there.
Speaker 1: Thank you for listening, Please share much love to eat
Speaker 1: in every one of you, and every episode the same,
Speaker 1: and I hope and I pray you do it. Thank
Speaker 1: on it. M