Speaker 1: And energy cancert So high ecstasy cancertor it's not Sorryenogy?
Speaker 1: What's up? Positive bitches? How are we doing today? If
Speaker 1: you're hearing this episode, then you are meant to be here,
Speaker 1: So keep listening on that Bitch's Positive Podcast. Sometimes we
Speaker 1: will laugh. Other times, Baby, we're gonna cry, but we
Speaker 1: will always walk away feeling our most empowered positive bitch self.
Speaker 1: That is Babe in true connection with herself. On this podcast,
Speaker 1: we unbecome who we are not so we can fully
Speaker 1: step into exactly who we came here to be. Today,
Speaker 1: I'm here to remind you that you are the love spell.
Speaker 1: There is nothing out there that you need to do.
Speaker 1: You are the love spell. It is you. I recently
Speaker 1: had my partner literally say to me, what did you
Speaker 1: do to me? What did you did? You put me
Speaker 1: under some sort of spell? Now, I did tell him
Speaker 1: warning before he ever met me. I said, when you're
Speaker 1: not with me, prepare yourself. You will have withdrawal symptoms
Speaker 1: and it's simply not my fault. And I did ask
Speaker 1: him about that. Now, what did you think when I
Speaker 1: said that? He thought I was just guessing myself up.
Speaker 1: And now he realizes no, you're absolutely telling the truth.
Speaker 1: I should have listened, correct I find myself frequently being
Speaker 1: right anyway. You don't need to pay someone on Etsy
Speaker 1: to do some sort of spell. You don't need to
Speaker 1: try to do anything to anyone else. All you need
Speaker 1: to do is simply be, because the truth is you
Speaker 1: are a walking, living, breathing love spell. That's who you
Speaker 1: actually are. Your presence alone has the power to shift
Speaker 1: rooms that you walk into. Your presence alone has the
Speaker 1: power to attract your divine counterpart. Your presence alone is
Speaker 1: casting the spell that is your reality. Your presence creates
Speaker 1: a ripple effect. People don't just see you, they feel you.
Speaker 1: And that is why just walking into a room some
Speaker 1: people will always have all eyes on them. That is
Speaker 1: why just being on a dating app some person will
Speaker 1: have all of these great matches. It's about the energy
Speaker 1: that you are embodying. If you are thinking of doing
Speaker 1: some sort of quote unquote love spell, just understand that's
Speaker 1: a really low level of existence. If you are trying
Speaker 1: to infringe on someone else's free will, you will get
Speaker 1: the negative karma. You don't want the person who's not
Speaker 1: yours under your divine right, because even if you successfully
Speaker 1: manifest a relationship with them. If they're not actually your person,
Speaker 1: you're not gonna be happy anyway, and now you waste
Speaker 1: it potentially your money, your time, your focus, your energy.
Speaker 1: That is not a high level love. It is a waste.
Speaker 1: You want to respect not only the divinity within you,
Speaker 1: but the divinity within other people, because if you don't,
Speaker 1: you just make your own life harder. It's not worth it.
Speaker 1: If you know what it is, you want another person,
Speaker 1: write it down so it can solidify into your reality.
Speaker 1: But that's all you need to actually physically do. The
Speaker 1: rest has to do with embodying has to do with energy.
Speaker 1: I've heard countless stories where someone had a specific person
Speaker 1: that they wanted to manifest, and they did manifest this person,
Speaker 1: but when they were actually in relation, they found out WHOA.
Speaker 1: I don't want to be treated like this. I don't
Speaker 1: want to be seen like this. I'm not being respected
Speaker 1: because they thought they knew what was best for them keyword.
Speaker 1: Thought they were using their ego egoic desires. Oh they
Speaker 1: have this, they have that, I want that person. They're
Speaker 1: going to make me feel better about myself. No, when
Speaker 1: it comes to attracting love, you'll definitely get intuitive hits.
Speaker 1: This person's for you, this person is not for you.
Speaker 1: But you want to make sure that you're manifesting from
Speaker 1: a point of love, not a point of My ego
Speaker 1: wants this to make me feel less insecure. If you
Speaker 1: want someone just because of their height or what they have,
Speaker 1: that's egoic desires. If you want to manifest divine union,
Speaker 1: that means tapping in to a love frequency. You have
Speaker 1: to broadcast what it is you wish to receive, become
Speaker 1: the energy you wish to attract. If you want to
Speaker 1: attract a love you have to enter into a love frequency.
Speaker 1: And the way to do that is simply become your
Speaker 1: own love spell. Become the embodiment of love. And that
Speaker 1: is what we're going to talk about today. But before
Speaker 1: we get into it, if you have not gotten your
Speaker 1: copy of Show Up as Her, be sure to grab that.
Speaker 1: The link will be in the show notes. Also, I
Speaker 1: literally just had a client today tell me that she's
Speaker 1: been using her eight eight eight abundance mug and she
Speaker 1: cannot believe how many random sources of income she's been attracting,
Speaker 1: and she was so happy. She couldn't believe it actually works.
Speaker 1: But this is the thing. In the same way that
Speaker 1: you become your own love spell, you can also become
Speaker 1: your own abundance spell. Because at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: you are the point of attraction for your own reality.
Speaker 1: So you have to be asking yourself, what am I
Speaker 1: pulling into my reality? What kind of invitational pull am
Speaker 1: I broadcasting? Because that is going to affect what I attract.
Speaker 1: If you want to get your very own magnetic mug,
Speaker 1: I have mugs for love, abundance, alignment, and so much more.
Speaker 1: That link will also be in the show notes. Also
Speaker 1: be sure to do the shadow work. You can join
Speaker 1: my Shadow Alchemy course, the Art of Alchemy course, and
Speaker 1: the Pedestal Path the twenty one Day Breakup Glow Up Challenge.
Speaker 1: I have a multitude of courses and workbooks to help
Speaker 1: you on your journey. I already learn this shit, Okay,
Speaker 1: I put it all together so you can learn it
Speaker 1: too and attract better results. I also offer one on
Speaker 1: one coaching sessions, and I'm currently reopening my Magnetic Mastery program,
Speaker 1: which is twelve weeks one on one over Zoom. We
Speaker 1: work on everything from divine feminine energy, attachment system, healing,
Speaker 1: self concept work, energy work, and so much more so,
Speaker 1: if you're interested, dm me on Instagram and I can
Speaker 1: tell you more about my Magnetic Masters program as well
Speaker 1: as the other offerings that I'm currently putting out there
Speaker 1: so you can align with your most magnetic timeline. The
Speaker 1: first thing you have to understand about becoming your very
Speaker 1: own love spell is that you are the gravitational pull
Speaker 1: in your own reality. Now, your energetic signature, what is
Speaker 1: actually your point of attraction, is made up of your
Speaker 1: dominant thoughts and your dominant feelings. So your internal script,
Speaker 1: the words you're saying to yourself, that's all affecting you,
Speaker 1: and it's affecting your gravitational pull. Your internal script equals
Speaker 1: your reality. The words you're whispering to yourself are encoding
Speaker 1: how you're feeling, which is then encoding your reality. That
Speaker 1: is how your internal dialogue, which then becomes your energy,
Speaker 1: cast your reality. That is what's casting the spell of
Speaker 1: what it is your receiving. Your dominant thoughts and emotions
Speaker 1: are what is creating your energy, which is then pulling
Speaker 1: in your real That is how you are the spell.
Speaker 1: So what are you currently the spell for in your life?
Speaker 1: The spell of catastrophe, because we don't love that the
Speaker 1: spell of unfortunate events because we don't love that, the
Speaker 1: spell of attracting narcissists, because we don't love that. Whatever
Speaker 1: you are broadcasting, you're going to attract the equivalent in
Speaker 1: your reality. And you can tell what type of spell
Speaker 1: you're currently embodying by looking at your reality based on
Speaker 1: what you're receiving. It's going to give you information about
Speaker 1: what you're broadcasting. Every day that I look in the mirror,
Speaker 1: I don't even tell myself I'm beautiful. At this point,
Speaker 1: I say, no, I'm something much stranger. I have an
Speaker 1: other worldly beauty that no one can even quite comprehend.
Speaker 1: I actually don't even want to look human. I personally
Speaker 1: want to look like an alien because I feel like
Speaker 1: that's closer to my authentic self, to me being human. Nah,
Speaker 1: why do that when you can literally look like an alien.
Speaker 1: I like an other worldly type of beauty. I like
Speaker 1: an ethereal feeling, a look, an angelic, weird, nostalgic phenomena.
Speaker 1: That's what I personally am into. So every day when
Speaker 1: I'm looking at myself in the mirror, that's what I'm
Speaker 1: telling myself. When I'm doing my makeup, I'm not just
Speaker 1: doing my makeup. I'm doing incantations. I am saying I
Speaker 1: have this other worldly beauty. I have that X factor.
Speaker 1: When I walk into a room, I easily attract all
Speaker 1: that is for me under my divine right. Because the
Speaker 1: thing is, so many of us want to attract everyone
Speaker 1: in the room. I personally don't. I like to be
Speaker 1: selective with who I encounter. I love human beings, but
Speaker 1: I don't want to attract every bread and Chad, Absolutely not.
Speaker 1: I want to make sure I'm attracting the right conversations,
Speaker 1: the right peace people, the right opportunities, the right energetic exchanges.
Speaker 1: I'm not thinking about myself in a desperate manner. Oh
Speaker 1: I need people to come up to me. I need
Speaker 1: them to like me. I hope they think I'm beautiful.
Speaker 1: I don't care what you think. I've worked on myself
Speaker 1: so much for so long, and when I tell myself
Speaker 1: I have that X factor, I actually believe it. I
Speaker 1: really do believe it now because I've worked on myself
Speaker 1: to the point that my internal vision of myself, my
Speaker 1: words are now something I can perceive in my external reality.
Speaker 1: If you want to become that love spell, that magnetic spell,
Speaker 1: that walking living breathing spell. You gotta be speaking life
Speaker 1: over your life. You need to be telling yourself positive
Speaker 1: things about you that you want to feel and you
Speaker 1: want to experience. And the funny thing is, as you
Speaker 1: start telling yourself, I am magnetic. With every single step
Speaker 1: that I take, I attract the right people at the
Speaker 1: right time. You're gonna start to attract those experiences just
Speaker 1: by speaking them, and then you're gonna see your three
Speaker 1: D reality is affirming your word, and then you're gonna
Speaker 1: start to believe your affirmations, and then it's going to build.
Speaker 1: It takes a little bit of time to build up
Speaker 1: momentum to build up belief, but it will happen. You
Speaker 1: need consistency and you need repetition. So when I'm doing
Speaker 1: my makeup, when I'm doing my skincare, I'm not just
Speaker 1: doing it all willy nilly, I'm really looking into my
Speaker 1: eyes and I'm telling myself, I have this other worldly beauty.
Speaker 1: I have something that nobody else has. My unique energetic
Speaker 1: signature pulls in the best possible experiences for me. I
Speaker 1: really like to focus on the energy of it. So
Speaker 1: my X factor, my energetic signature, my specific code that
Speaker 1: I'm broadcasting. I will literally I'm a walking, living, breathing
Speaker 1: love spell. Everywhere I go people can feel my energy.
Speaker 1: And because I've said it so much to myself, I
Speaker 1: started to see results over years and years and years,
Speaker 1: and now I fully and fundamentally just believe it. I
Speaker 1: know it. It is me. There's no distinction between me
Speaker 1: and my affirmations because I believe these words. I want
Speaker 1: to talk about the Marilyn Monroe effects, which we've talked
Speaker 1: about before, but I really think it's important to retouch
Speaker 1: on this subject every couple of months because every time
Speaker 1: you hear my podcast, you are never the same person.
Speaker 1: You are never vibrating at the same frequency. Even if
Speaker 1: your life looks somewhat similar, you are not the same.
Speaker 1: That's why we can read the same book three different
Speaker 1: times and pick out different meanings and notice different things,
Speaker 1: because even though the book is the same, we are not.
Speaker 1: So this energetic code that I am gifting to you
Speaker 1: is for you to harness your magnetic energy in a
Speaker 1: new way that you've never done before. This isn't just
Speaker 1: a podcast, It's a vibrational experience, and that's really what
Speaker 1: you need to understand. Just by listening to this you're
Speaker 1: elevating your frequency. You're stepping into your own love spell
Speaker 1: embodiment just by listening. Let me tell you the story
Speaker 1: about Marilyn Monroe. This was from a journalist who met
Speaker 1: up with Marilyn in New York City. I'll never forget
Speaker 1: the day Marilyn and I were walking around New York City,
Speaker 1: just having a stroll on a nice day. She loved
Speaker 1: New York because no one bothered her there like they
Speaker 1: did in Hollywood. She could put on her Plane Jane
Speaker 1: clothes and no one would notice her. She loved that.
Speaker 1: So as we are walking down Broadway, she turns to
Speaker 1: me and says, do you want to see me become her?
Speaker 1: I didn't know what she meant, but I said yes,
Speaker 1: And then oh I saw it. I saw it. Okay.
Speaker 1: I don't know how to explain what she did because
Speaker 1: it was so very subtle, but she turned something on
Speaker 1: within herself that was almost like magic. And suddenly cars
Speaker 1: were slowing, people were turning their heads and stopping to stare.
Speaker 1: They were recognizing that this, this person who was standing
Speaker 1: next to me was actually Marilyn Monroe. As if she
Speaker 1: pulls off a mask or something, even though a second
Speaker 1: ago no one noticed her. What did Marilyn Monroe do?
Speaker 1: If you want to become this walking love spell, not
Speaker 1: relying on random people from Etsy, you want to attract
Speaker 1: the best results with no negative karma, you have to
Speaker 1: decide that this is who you want now. You need
Speaker 1: to make a fundamental decision about who you are. This
Speaker 1: is why I call my book show up as Her.
Speaker 1: The first step to shifting your self concept, which Marilyn knew,
Speaker 1: was to decide who you are. When you decide who
Speaker 1: you are, you shift what you broadcast. When you decide
Speaker 1: who you are and you show up as her, other
Speaker 1: people are going to see you as that too. Because
Speaker 1: I see myself as the star, because I see myself
Speaker 1: as this et living among humans. Because I see myself
Speaker 1: as this other worldly, strange phenomena, this angelic force, other
Speaker 1: people see me as that too. I was out the
Speaker 1: other night and two women came up to me and
Speaker 1: literally said to me, you're the most beautiful human being
Speaker 1: I've ever seen in my life. You are so beautiful.
Speaker 1: One girl told me she thinks I would smell like Vanilla.
Speaker 1: I was not dressed in a certain way. I did
Speaker 1: not do my hair or makeup specifically, in a certain
Speaker 1: way that night. It's my embodiment of energy. It's my
Speaker 1: decision about who I am that affects other people. Because
Speaker 1: I see myself as this other worldly being. Other people
Speaker 1: notice it about me too, and they'll always say, there's
Speaker 1: just something different about you. There's just something. I can't
Speaker 1: put my finger on it, but there's just something different
Speaker 1: about you. You know why they think that, Because I
Speaker 1: think that because I've had so many isolation seasons, so
Speaker 1: many moments with myself screaming, crying to the divine, so
Speaker 1: many times I thought I was breaking down, that I
Speaker 1: was actually breaking open, that I had enough space and
Speaker 1: energy to say, you know what, I'm not like all
Speaker 1: you people. I'm not like the average person around me. No,
Speaker 1: I'm not, And you know what. To prove it to myself,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna take non average action. I'm gonna run the
Speaker 1: extra mile. I'm going to do the six am workout.
Speaker 1: I'm going to spend time not just looking at myself
Speaker 1: in the mirror, but lifting myself up through word. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna start going the extra mile metaphorically, figuratively, energetically to
Speaker 1: work on myself, and I'm going to embody through making
Speaker 1: a decision about who I am so I can get
Speaker 1: the results that I want from my reality. A key
Speaker 1: factor of becoming your own love spell is saying focused
Speaker 1: on you. To be honest, that wasn't even a choice
Speaker 1: for me. I went through an isolation season. People just
Speaker 1: didn't want to be my friend during the season. It
Speaker 1: was what it was. I had no other choice but
Speaker 1: to focus on me and build myself up. Don't get
Speaker 1: to that point. You don't need to unless you want
Speaker 1: to go ahead. But you don't need to get to
Speaker 1: that point. Make a decision that you are going to
Speaker 1: focus on you. You want to have the Marilyn Monroe act.
Speaker 1: She knew she had to focus on herself and make
Speaker 1: a decision about how she wanted to show up. She
Speaker 1: knew that she needed to be more internally focused and
Speaker 1: externally focused in order to become her. When you focus
Speaker 1: on you, you expand your aura. And this is something
Speaker 1: I call big aura energy. The more energy you are,
Speaker 1: the more attractive people are to you, the more madder
Speaker 1: you are, and the less energy, the less magnetic you are.
Speaker 1: How do you have big aura energy? How do you
Speaker 1: expand your field? How do you become more energy less matter?
Speaker 1: You focus on you. You ask yourself, Am I enjoying
Speaker 1: my night? Am I having fun? Is this what I
Speaker 1: want to do? You follow your joy When you're worried
Speaker 1: about how are people perceiving me? Do they think I'm pretty?
Speaker 1: All that does is send out all your energy. It's
Speaker 1: like a vacuum is sucking up your energy. You're becoming
Speaker 1: less energetic, you have a smaller or field, and you're
Speaker 1: becoming more madd When you send out your energy, anything
Speaker 1: we chase, whether it's a bug or boy, will run away.
Speaker 1: When you're so consumed about how other people are perceiving you,
Speaker 1: you're sending out all of your energy. You're depleting yourself,
Speaker 1: your or it feels as smaller and you will not
Speaker 1: get the results you want. You're not a love spell.
Speaker 1: You're a repellent spray. At that point, if you want
Speaker 1: other people to focus on you, if you want to
Speaker 1: become the love spell, and you just are thinking, you know,
Speaker 1: I just want better results, that's fine. You have to
Speaker 1: focus on you so that it pulls other people towards you. Also, really,
Speaker 1: this is just for you to feel better. It's just
Speaker 1: for you to feel better. Before I go into a meeting,
Speaker 1: a podcast a bar, I'm telling myself, I'm segment intending
Speaker 1: about how this night is going to go. I see
Speaker 1: myself as beautiful. I know that when I walk into
Speaker 1: the room, I'm an energetic gift to that room. And
Speaker 1: some people might say, whoa whoa, whoa whoa whoa whoa
Speaker 1: whoa CEC, you're not sounding so humble. Oh yeah, I
Speaker 1: didn't incarnate. I'm Planet Earth to be humble. I came
Speaker 1: here to disrupt, to make noise, and too elevate consciousness.
Speaker 1: If you want to be humble, be my fing guest.
Speaker 1: That's not what I came here to do. When I
Speaker 1: did my twenty twenty five ins and outs, my first
Speaker 1: in was turning into Kanye West. Okay, that didn't age
Speaker 1: well right now, I obviously whatever so old Kanye damn it. Anyway.
Speaker 1: My point is I'm going to do what makes me happy.
Speaker 1: No harm to others, but taking no shit and doing
Speaker 1: what makes me genuinely happy. I am focused on myself.
Speaker 1: I'm not looking over over my shoulder, who's looking at me,
Speaker 1: who's doing this? Who's l l Nope, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: no no. My question is am I having fun? Because
Speaker 1: my fun is my responsibility how are you viewing yourself?
Speaker 1: Not just even on a daily basis, but how are
Speaker 1: you viewing yourself right before you walk into that bar,
Speaker 1: that restaurant, whatever it may be. When you segment intend,
Speaker 1: meaning right before you walk in, you're telling yourself, I
Speaker 1: am on my own pedestal, I am living in my
Speaker 1: own energy, I'm self focused, I'm gonna have a good night.
Speaker 1: When you're doing that, it's like you're drinking up your energy,
Speaker 1: drinking up your energy, drinking up your energy. But if
Speaker 1: before you walk into a room, you're worried, Oh, who's
Speaker 1: gonna be there? What are they gonna think of me?
Speaker 1: You're just depleting yourself, but depleting yourself, and that is repellent.
Speaker 1: You want to be asking yourself, how do I view myself?
Speaker 1: Does my self concept? Does my self image need an upgrade?
Speaker 1: How do I upgrade it? Just decide? How does someone
Speaker 1: become vegan and change their whole entire diet and self concept?
Speaker 1: They just decide, just make the decision, and it's yours.
Speaker 1: I literally walk into every single room like God himself
Speaker 1: sent me. You know why, because he did. I believe
Speaker 1: I'm always at the right place at the right time.
Speaker 1: So if I'm in that room, that means God wanted
Speaker 1: me in that room. That means that God himself sent
Speaker 1: me here. You need to have this as a ringtone.
Speaker 1: You need to replay this over and over and over
Speaker 1: again until it sticks into your mind. Before I start
Speaker 1: my day, I make it a point to call my
Speaker 1: power back to me. Now that I'm in a relationship.
Speaker 1: I absolutely love love, love, love, blah blah love love
Speaker 1: my boyfriend. I hate calling him boyfriend because he's so
Speaker 1: much more than that to me. I'll just call him sulmate.
Speaker 1: But I love my little soulmate. But I still have
Speaker 1: to call my energy back from him because I'm a woman,
Speaker 1: and as a woman, you're fundamentally giving so much of
Speaker 1: your energy just by being next to that masculine energy
Speaker 1: that it's imperative that you call it back. Me calling
Speaker 1: my energy back does not harm him. In fact, it
Speaker 1: allows him to elevate through his own masculine energy. It
Speaker 1: helps a relationship, and it helps me maintain my spot
Speaker 1: on my pedestal. As someone who has been through codependent patterns,
Speaker 1: I will never allow that to be a part of
Speaker 1: my reality ever again. So it's really important that as
Speaker 1: a woman I maintain a high self esteem and a
Speaker 1: very positive self concept, a positive egoic state. So that
Speaker 1: means that I need to be seeing myself as that goddess,
Speaker 1: that star, as that positive energy. When I do that,
Speaker 1: I'm able to show up as my best self because
Speaker 1: it's closer to the truth than thinking I'm a piece
Speaker 1: of shit, because that's not truthful. That is the devil.
Speaker 1: And also when I do that, he then sees me
Speaker 1: as that star, as that goddess too. It helps the
Speaker 1: relationship flourish. Remember what we've been talking about in this
Speaker 1: month of February. We've been talking about how a man
Speaker 1: steps into his power when he gives up his ego,
Speaker 1: when he puts it aside and realizes that he's the
Speaker 1: giver and it's his job to protect and provide for
Speaker 1: this feminine energy. But a feminine energy, she steps into
Speaker 1: her power when she claims her ego, when she says, no,
Speaker 1: I need boundaries, I need my time to just be
Speaker 1: with me. I need time to do my feminine things,
Speaker 1: to create. So it's so imperative that you call your
Speaker 1: power back, and how do you do that. I have
Speaker 1: a whole entire workbook on how to call your power back.
Speaker 1: If you have the book, show up as her. There's
Speaker 1: also a QR code to get a meditation that's free
Speaker 1: on YouTube, so you can see all that. In the
Speaker 1: show notes, I say, I lovingly and peacefully call all
Speaker 1: of my power back to me. Now that's it, And
Speaker 1: I just think of him and I see my energy
Speaker 1: leaving his body and going back into mine. I say
Speaker 1: lovingly and peacefully, because I don't want it to hurt
Speaker 1: either vessel. I want it to be done in the
Speaker 1: most peaceful way. And I really feel that shift when
Speaker 1: I call my power back. Try it with me. Think
Speaker 1: of someone that you've been giving a lot of your
Speaker 1: time and energy to close your eyes, envision them a
Speaker 1: couple of feet in front of you, and say, I
Speaker 1: lovingly and peacefully call all of my power back to me.
Speaker 1: Now you can see your white light energy leaving their
Speaker 1: body and going back into your vessel, and you're gonna
Speaker 1: feel a shift. You're gonna feel a change. I was
Speaker 1: talking to one of my clients the other day and
Speaker 1: I was telling her how the reason you're in these
Speaker 1: rooms what really powerful people is because your energy is
Speaker 1: needed there. Those people might have a higher level of education,
Speaker 1: they might have a higher role in the company, but
Speaker 1: you're in that room purposefully because your energy is needed there.
Speaker 1: You have to remind yourself of that truth. I don't
Speaker 1: care if you walk into a bar and meeting a restaurant,
Speaker 1: does not matter what it is or where you're going.
Speaker 1: For whatever reason, your energy is needed in that space,
Speaker 1: and that is why you're there. Your energy will and
Speaker 1: can shift an entire room just by you showing up
Speaker 1: because you are that walking, living breathing spell. What do
Speaker 1: you want to cast? Now? Another tip to become this
Speaker 1: walking living breathing spell is to focus on your physiology,
Speaker 1: your body language. What's a study done that the person
Speaker 1: who gets the most attention at a bar, the person
Speaker 1: who attracts the most people to come up to them
Speaker 1: at a bar, is the person who has the most
Speaker 1: open body language. What does that mean? It means you're
Speaker 1: facing the people in the space. Your shoulders are back,
Speaker 1: your chest is open, and you will every now and
Speaker 1: again glance around the room. I do this naturally because
Speaker 1: I just want to see what's in my vicinity. I
Speaker 1: like to look around, make sure all is well. But
Speaker 1: just every now and then, looking around, open body language,
Speaker 1: face the people in the room. That just makes sense.
Speaker 1: If you have your back to everyone, no one can
Speaker 1: even see you, so how are they supposed to even
Speaker 1: come up to you. But besides that, think about it
Speaker 1: in an energetic way. When your heart space is open,
Speaker 1: your heart chakra is broadcasting more efficiently. When your heart
Speaker 1: center is open, subconsciously, peep, people are viewing you as
Speaker 1: more open to speaking to them, more loving someone who
Speaker 1: wants to have a conversation. You have to understand that
Speaker 1: as much as you are a walking, living, breathing spell,
Speaker 1: which you are, other people have their own fears and anxieties.
Speaker 1: I have met so many people who have told me
Speaker 1: I would have never walked up to you just on
Speaker 1: my own, and that really grinds my gears. But I
Speaker 1: can acknowledge, Okay, maybe it could be scary. Maybe people
Speaker 1: are intimidated. Everyone has their own wounds and their own fears.
Speaker 1: I get that it is scary to have to go
Speaker 1: up to someone, maybe in order to have a conversation
Speaker 1: with them. But then I think, just do shock therapy
Speaker 1: and force yourself to do it every single day all
Speaker 1: the time. I really talk to everyone, so going up
Speaker 1: to someone is nothing to me. It's like taking a
Speaker 1: bite of a sandwich, I'm like, who, what, when? Where? Why?
Speaker 1: I didn't even notice anything because I say hi to
Speaker 1: everyone and their mother. I start to engage with everyone
Speaker 1: and their father. You got a cousin, let me talk
Speaker 1: to them like I really don't care. So to me,
Speaker 1: not a big deal. But if you're not used to that,
Speaker 1: then it's gonna maybe be scary. Expose your therapy shock therapy.
Speaker 1: Put yourself in scenarios to do the thing that you
Speaker 1: fear the most. You'll get so practiced at doing the
Speaker 1: thing you fear the most and it's not gonna matter
Speaker 1: anymore and you won't have a fear. But anyway, yes,
Speaker 1: you focus, focus on your physiology. Put that head up high,
Speaker 1: expand those shoulders, have your chest open. This expands your
Speaker 1: org field. But also people subconsciously are gonna view you
Speaker 1: as more open, whether we want to acknowledge it or not.
Speaker 1: Your body language affects how people see you. If I
Speaker 1: walk into a library and I see some with their
Speaker 1: shoulders hunched and their head down and they look really depressed,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna think that they're depressed because of their physiology.
Speaker 1: But if I see someone smiling and their body language
Speaker 1: is open and their heads boppin', I'm gonna know they're
Speaker 1: more cheerful, they're more open to speaking, and they're gonna
Speaker 1: engage with me in a higher vibrational See. So it's
Speaker 1: not just making a decision about who you are. It's
Speaker 1: not just realizing that you're at the right place at
Speaker 1: the right time and your energy is needed there. It's
Speaker 1: not just realizing that if you just shift your thoughts,
Speaker 1: you can become the love spell. It's also what am
Speaker 1: I physically doing with my body, what am I physically
Speaker 1: saying with my voice box. The more positive your words
Speaker 1: and the more open your physiology your body language, the
Speaker 1: grander your oric field is. And that's what attracts people
Speaker 1: towards you. Because you're broadcasting so much energy, everyone's gonna
Speaker 1: want to feed on that energy. They're gonna want to
Speaker 1: come towards you. When your head is down, you have
Speaker 1: resting bitch face because you stressed yourself out and now
Speaker 1: you're in your sympathetic nervous system. Your shoulders are hunched over,
Speaker 1: you're maybe facing your friend instead of facing the whole
Speaker 1: entire room. Your org field shifts if you're worried about
Speaker 1: who's perceiving you someone gonna come up to me. You're
Speaker 1: more concerned about other people than yourself. You're not self focused.
Speaker 1: Or Fiel is going to really get in close to
Speaker 1: your body, it's gonna shrink. They'll become more matter and
Speaker 1: less energy, and that is repellent. There is this conversation
Speaker 1: about what should I wear, how should I do my makeup,
Speaker 1: how should I do my hair? That is not as
Speaker 1: important as how you're showing up. Disclaimer. I've had pink hair,
Speaker 1: I've had blonde hair. I've been a brunette. I've had
Speaker 1: thirty pounds plus on me. I've been like every single
Speaker 1: size you can possibly be. None of that mattered. I
Speaker 1: got the best results when I felt good about myself
Speaker 1: and when I was thinking positively about myself. What I
Speaker 1: notice is that my hair, my makeup, my clothing didn't
Speaker 1: affect so much how other people saw me. It affected
Speaker 1: how I saw myself, which then affected my energy, which
Speaker 1: then affected how other people saw me. So it's not
Speaker 1: the physical item of clothing. It's not the eyeliner or
Speaker 1: a fake lash that's making the difference here. It's how
Speaker 1: does it affect how I feel about myself? Because then
Speaker 1: that affects how other people see me. When you have
Speaker 1: a day where you feel bloated, you're saying negative things
Speaker 1: to yourself. You put on maybe a sweater that you're like, oh,
Speaker 1: I don't even want to be perceived today, and you
Speaker 1: go out you're kind of pissed off. You get results
Speaker 1: that are not great because you're thinking bad about yourself.
Speaker 1: Would someone really notice you're bloating? Not really if there
Speaker 1: are a dude, probably not honestly, But because we don't
Speaker 1: feel good about ourselves, that's what we're broadcasting, and then
Speaker 1: we get less people approaching us. We feel like we're
Speaker 1: not in a flow, we feel a little bit more rigid.
Speaker 1: But when I feel like, wow, I had a great day.
Speaker 1: I ate healthy foods, I nourish my body. I like
Speaker 1: how I did my hair, I like how I did
Speaker 1: my makeup. I like my outfit. I feel so good
Speaker 1: about myself that I broadcast better energy. Now, if you're
Speaker 1: having an off day, to bypass that, just decide to
Speaker 1: be confident anyway, Just say you know what, ef it,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be confident anyway because my energy speaks louder
Speaker 1: than my physical vessel could. Ever you can bypass it.
Speaker 1: And that's just what I do at this point, because
Speaker 1: we all have those days, depending on our cycle, depending
Speaker 1: on what we ate the day before, depending on what
Speaker 1: we drank. Your body's gonna look different. You got different hormones,
Speaker 1: you got different things going on. I try my best
Speaker 1: to really nourish my physical vessel because I think it's important.
Speaker 1: God gifted us this vessel. I'm gonna take care of it,
Speaker 1: and I only have one in this lifetime, so it's
Speaker 1: important to me that I do take care of my hair,
Speaker 1: that I do take care of my skin, that I
Speaker 1: do the workout, that I get on my sweat. These
Speaker 1: things are important to me because they make me feel
Speaker 1: good about myself. And I also think, if you think
Speaker 1: about plastic surgery, was it the lips or the nose
Speaker 1: or whatever that the person did that affected how they
Speaker 1: attracted other people? Or was it they felt so much
Speaker 1: better about themselves that their self concept shifted and that's
Speaker 1: what attracted better experiences. When I even just do a
Speaker 1: face mask, it doesn't really look different all the time,
Speaker 1: like right after, but I feel so much better. When
Speaker 1: I do a hair mask, it might look a little
Speaker 1: different to me because it's my hair, but I feel
Speaker 1: so much better, and so the energy I'm broadcasting is
Speaker 1: so much higher in vibration, and I get better results.
Speaker 1: It's these little things. No one knows I took a bath,
Speaker 1: No one knows I did an epsom salt and baking
Speaker 1: soda cleansing ritual. But I know, and I feel so
Speaker 1: good about myself, and therefore I broadcast better energy. So
Speaker 1: I think it's an interesting thing to maybe ponder about.
Speaker 1: Is it that this girl or man looks better and
Speaker 1: so they got better results, Or is it they feel
Speaker 1: better so they broadcasted better energy and then they got
Speaker 1: better results. I'm telling you, how you feel about yourself
Speaker 1: and how you see yourself is really going to affect everything.
Speaker 1: That's why I do think it's important to buy the
Speaker 1: outfit you like, get the hair mask, invest in the skincare,
Speaker 1: do what you want. If you want lashes, go get lashes.
Speaker 1: Really do what makes you feel good, because it's going
Speaker 1: to affect your energy and it's going to affect your results.
Speaker 1: I'm able to be this walking, living, breathing love spell
Speaker 1: because I genuinely love myself, because I've worked on myself,
Speaker 1: because I've had isolation seasons, because I give to myself.
Speaker 1: I pamper myself. I make sure that I'm good, and
Speaker 1: even in this relationship right now, there's some times where
Speaker 1: maybe we want to do something, but I'm like, you
Speaker 1: know what, I run my own business, I actually can't.
Speaker 1: I have to have boundaries here. I need to make
Speaker 1: sure that I'm not depleting myself and running myself thin,
Speaker 1: because then I'm going to be exhausted and I'm not
Speaker 1: going to feel as great about myself. I'm not going
Speaker 1: to broadcast as good of energy and it's going to
Speaker 1: affect me. So it's so important that whether you need
Speaker 1: physical boundaries, energetic boundaries, emotional boundaries, you make sure you
Speaker 1: make those. That also helps you be a walking, living,
Speaker 1: breathing love spell because you know you can trust yourself
Speaker 1: to protect yourself, so you are able to walk around
Speaker 1: in your feminine energy rather than constantly putting up that
Speaker 1: masculine shield. So if how you look really doesn't affect
Speaker 1: how they see you, but affects how you see you,
Speaker 1: which then affects the energy you broadcast, it's important to
Speaker 1: take care of yourself. It's important to like what you're wearing.
Speaker 1: If how you are looking isn't in alignment it's not
Speaker 1: resonating with you on someday because maybe it's your cycle
Speaker 1: or you're just you know, having a breakout. Whatever, we're human.
Speaker 1: You can bypass it by saying if it, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: be confident anyway because my energy will speak for me
Speaker 1: and people won't even see me. They're just gonna feel me.
Speaker 1: That's how I bypass it, because we are human and
Speaker 1: you know, things happen. I love you so much. I
Speaker 1: hope this episode resonated with you. If you want specific
Speaker 1: affirmations that I use, you can get my book show
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Speaker 1: forget to sign up for a course to really work
Speaker 1: on your energy to attract the best of the best.
Speaker 1: And by the way, if you want to watch a
Speaker 1: movie that goes really well with this episode, watch I
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