Speaker 1: Hello, Hello everybody. Welcome back to this Wednesday's episode of
Your Manifesting Bestie Podcast, Season four. I'm your host, Flora,
and we are diving into all things mindset and manifestation
like we always do. We are actually nearing the end
of season four. We have a few more episodes to go,
and I think this episode is going to help us
a lot with the holiday season approach, and because I
feel like holiday season we go into like rust and
hermit mode sometimes because we're like, oh, you know, we'll
start our new routines in the new year, will become
better in the new year. We'll start this and that
in the new year, and then we put everything off.
We put off our goals, we put off a lot
of our desires, we put off our strategies and all
the things that we were actually working towards. Because holiday
season is near and I want to help you guys
kind of rewire that part of your brain and rewire
that part of your habits and patterns so that this
winter season we can make insane progress through really aligned
strategic action. And I don't talk too much about action.
I know we had an aligned action podcast episode I
think like over a year ago in the first season,
but I wanted to talk a little bit more and
dive deep into what aligned action should look like. There
is this misconception with manifestation, like if I do all
the mindset work, I can sit still and everything just
comes to me. And there is truth to that statement.
So there is truth to the fact that if you're
doing the mindset and energetic work, you begin to attract
things very very quickly. You begin to receive more and
receive better. But being that we are humans and we
are mobile creatures and we need to be in motion
and our energy flows better and moves better when we
are in motion, I want to talk about the importance
of taking the type of action that really sets you
up for success with your desires, so that you're not
just kind of sitting there waiting and like meditating. Right,
we don't want to be in the energy of waiting.
We want to be in the energy of acting as if. Okay,
acting as if is so important, and manifestation it's like
being it until you become it. So acting like the
version of yourself that is living out your fantasy, that's
living out your dream, that's living out your manifestation, that's
receiving your desires, and a lot of people are like, well, yeah,
if I had my desires today, like I'd be chilling,
I'd be resting, I'd be going on a vacation, I'd
be taking more nabs. Would I would just hang out?
You know, if I had the body of my dreams,
I would just be happy. But that's so false. Let's
be so fucking real for a second. If you had
the body of your dreams, you would be doing everything
to maintain it, right. You would be nourishing it properly,
making sure or it's active, speaking kindly to it, loving it,
maybe doing some lymphatic drainage. Right. You wouldn't just have
this beautiful body that you manifested and then not nourish
it and not take care of it. So what I
want to talk about in manifestation is acting as if,
acting like you already have these things and what that
should look like. And that goes hand in hand with
aligned action, because aligned action with our desires is acting.
It's acting as if it's behaving like a brand new identity.
It's behaving like a version of ourselves that is living
a completely different reality. So we cannot act like who
we are now. The person you are now does not
have your desires. Right, the reason you have desires, you
want something is because you do not yet have it.
So if I want something I do not yet have
and I want to receive it, then I need to
act like a person who does have it. So a
person who does have it is a different person than me.
They are a completely different identity than who I am
in this moment who lacks the desire. Right, So a
person who has a desire is has different behaviors, different
personality traits, different different actions, different patterns, different behaviors than
I do. And in order for our reality to successfully shift,
we got to act as if we got to show
up as if we gotta be it. We got to
have the energy and harness the energy of the person
who has it, and we're missing the step. I feel
like we're doing the mindset work, yes, And like a
lot of our members in the Academy, they're doing a
great job because they're listening to some of those self
talk rampage tracks that we have and they're actually acting
like that version of themselves. And that's the difference. They're
not just listening, they start to act like it and
feel like it and behave like it. And that is
the secret. That's the energetic difference between lacking energy I
don't have it and fulfilled energy. It's here, it's present,
I'm grateful for it. Right. So let's kind of narrow
this down to different topics so we can go over
examples on how you today and this whole way inter
season can start acting like that version of yourself. So
in January and February comes around, you're not starting fresh.
You're already it. You're already her, You're already him. You're
in the energy of being it. So things have already
moved for you this holiday season. You're not just sitting
on your ass and be like, Oh, it's gonna come,
it's gonna come. I just I really want it, and
it's gonna come soon. I know. Okay, But are you
being it? Are you acting like it? Are you acting
like her? Are you embracing this new energy? Are you
making the energetic shifts and the changes you would be making?
Should your desires already be present? Right? Or would they
already be present? So let's talk about it. I had
a really really powerful live call yesterday inside of SCMA,
and this was all about living in your flow state.
And one of the topics we went over like ten
different ways of living in flow state, which is really
really beneficial, and one of them was acting as if
And this is an example that I give. Let's say,
I know we have a lot of entrepreneurs who listen
to this. This is gonna be so fucking helpful. Let's say
you are manifesting a million dollar brand or a multimillion
dollar business. Right if you were manifesting that and you
are already living in that reality, for example, how would
you be acting Because a lot of people are are
They really are working hard at manifesting their goals, but
they do not show up like the new version of themselves.
And the example that I was giving, I'm like, how
many times do you think Fashionova reaches out to me?
How many times every hour? Every hour I get either
a text message from Fashionova, an email from Fashionova, or
an advertisement on Instagram or TikTok from Fashionova so that
they are relevant, so that they are being seen. Why
because they are a billion dollar brand, They're rich, rich,
bitch energy. You think they give a fuck about what
anyone thinks? They sure don't. They don't They have no
shame in their game. They're not embarrassed, they're not hiding,
they're not sitting back like, oh, I'll do well. I'll
show up tomorrow and maybe they'll buy my clothes tomorrow.
But I don't want to bother them today. Get the
fuck out of here. Are you joking? No, they're in
your face. They're bold. They want to be seen, they
need to be heard. They project their voice. Okay, they
are acting like they are a billion dollar brand, and
so they are it. So they became one, they became one.
They were relentless. So let's think about that type of
energy in your business. How do you show up? Do
you show up like you already got it? Do you
speak like you already got it? Are you consistent like
you already got it? Because let me tell you something,
if you owned a multimillion dollar business, you are not
chillin You're not You're not just gonna relax for a
month and oh, my company's running itself. You want to
be seen, you want to be heard. You want to
make sure that that multimillion dollar bar brand is consistently
producing the numbers that you like, that you want, that
you're happy with, and that the growth is on the
up and up and up and up and up. That's aligned.
Action is showing up as if that those things are
already occurring. It's showing up like those things are already happening.
It's living in the energy of Oh, it's already, it's
already in the works, it's already developing. I know I
got this. I feel it. I'm on fire, I'm fucking
horny for it, I'm turned on. Okay. Do you really
think that if you are a multimillion dollar brand owner,
you'd just be sitting on your ass? Nope, the truth
is no. Okay. So yes, we can manifest through mindset
and energy work. It's that's what is required first, that's
the first step. But then we have to act like it.
We got to show up like it. Okay. So, when
I was developing my business and my goal was millions,
it always that's always been my goal, no matter what
business I start, it's always been millions. So when I
first started my current business, my manifestation coaching business, I
was like, I need to be seen. I need to
talk with confidence. I need to be so bold even
on a bad day, even if no one likes it,
no one views it. The algorithm hates me. I still
need to keep going because that's what the version of
me who is already a multimillion dollar brand owner would
be doing. That's the energy she would be projecting and
embodying and living in not sadness and not like, oh
no one cares about me, and like I'm just not
gonna show up. I've just had enough. Like that's not
aligned action, it's not okay. And I think everyone needs
like a little bit of a reality check because we
want really really big things, but we are just not
changing who we are. We're just acting like the same
version of us. But the version of you that doesn't
have those things is not gonna get those things. You
were just acting like you You're like, I don't know,
I'm not really interested in that today. Okay, Cool, then
you're not gonna get it. Cool, that's fine, Go go too,
that's fine. You think anyone else cares? Nope. You think
someone's gonna come and save you. No, you think someone's
gonna try to want to help you and boost you up. No,
you're waiting for the right moment for what what are
you waiting for? You think perfection is gonna just appear
out of thin air, and then you're gonna take action. Nope, Nope,
here's the root awakening. There's no perfect time. There's no
set time of Oh, when I have this, then I'll
show up when I when I feel like this, when
I maybe lose that ten pounds, then I'll show my
face online. Nope, that perfect moment doesn't exist. It's all
about taking a messy action that is aligned with the goal. Okay,
there's a big difference between successful people and the unsuccessful.
The successful people don't really know what they're doing, but
they're showing up and they're figuring out, and they're like,
I'm gonna take action. I'm gonna see if this works.
I'm gonna seef this works. I'm gonna see if this
feels good. I'm gonna see what the response is to this.
And then the unsuccessful people are like, I don't know
what i'm doing, so I'm just not gonna show up.
But both people don't really know what they're doing. The
successful person and the unsuccessful person, they both don't really
know what they're doing, but one of them still shows up.
That's the difference. That's the pattern of success. Okay, you
put energy into motion from the alignment of the goal
of the desire. It doesn't mean you have it all
figured out. It doesn't mean you're perfect. It doesn't mean
you get a great response in the very beginning. But
you go, you go. You're like, I'm tired of sitting here.
I'm tired of being this version of me. I'm tired.
I've had enough. I don't like her, I don't like him.
I don't want to be this version of me anymore.
They serve their purpose. But I've been this version for
ten years. Let me get the fuck up, Let me
get off my ass and go do it and behave
like a different individual, like a new me, a better me. Okay,
So what I realized is like procrastination and perfectionism is
really just laziness. That's what it is. It's like, I'm
not inspired enough, so I don't really I'm gonna say,
it's not perfect yet, it's not ready yet. I'm not
perfect yet, so I'm not gonna show up yet. So
you are unaligned with the desire. There's no aligned action
being taken, but you're manifesting things consciously and you're waiting.
You're in the energy of waiting. You're not in the
energy of receiving. Okay, aligned action is exciting. It feels passionate,
it feels on fire, it feels ooh turned on, it
feels ooh, this is juicy, this is creative, this is fun.
Like you feel more upbeat, you feel more inspired. But
you need to like put things in motion because remember energy,
and we talked about in the deep Rest episode, and
we are energetic beings where electric beings that need to move.
We need to move, We need to drew up energy,
We need to create, We need to be in creative expression.
That's when we feel our best and that's when things
start to move and we can call in more and
more and we get more excitement and more build up. Okay. So,
and if you're a business owner or you're switching careers,
analyze it. Am I acting like a new identity, like
a completely different person? Do I speak like a new version?
Do I think like a new version? Do I dress
like the new version? From whatever resources I currently have?
Do I respond in a new way? Am I offering
new energetic responses to things? Or am I always flipping
the fuck out over every little minor inconvenience and going
back into my shell and hiding myself. Does a multimillion
dollar business hide itself. Nope, nope, nope, nope, nope, nope.
They can't afford that they're gonna lose everything they work
so hard for. They got to maintain their success, so
they show up in that energy consistently. Sure, you can
have a bad day, you can have a day off,
you can take vacations, you can you can hang out
on the weekends, you can do whatever you want. But consistency,
consistently showing up an aligned action and that energy of
being the new you is where the success lives. It's
in the unknown, So tap into that. Now. Let's say
you're manifesting something such as health, and we kind of
briefly touch on that in the beginning, because I do
have people that I work with and they're very, very
focused on manifesting like weight loss and health, and they've
tried everything action wise. So that's why we always talk
about manifestation. You need to get into the mindset of it.
You need to speak to your body different. You need
to change your self concept and change your identity right,
change how you treat yourself, how you take care of yourself.
So if I was in this energy, I'm doing the
mindset work, and I'm feeling good. Now, Now what is
the aligned action? How do I show up in the
energy of it? Well, if you had that perfectly healthy, gorgeous, sexy,
fit body today, wouldn't you still be taking care of it.
Wouldn't you still be nourishing it? Why don't you try
to maintain it? Or would you be sitting on your ass?
Get super real with yourself of what aligned action would
look like. You'd be like, oh damn, I love this body.
I'm grateful for this body. I have this beautiful fit body.
It's healthy. I want to maintain it. So I need
to nourish it and nurture it and move it. I
need to speak to it kindly. I need to love
on my body and not hate it. I need to
show appreciation for it by taking good care of it. Okay,
So again we get into the mindset, the mindset work,
the right frame of mind, the right identity of I
could have a healthy body. I'm worthy of a healthy body,
a beautiful fit body. I'm worthy of the weight loss,
I'm worthy of the healing I I Oh my god,
this is feeling really good. So you start doing the
mindset work and then your body is going to feel
compelled to move. Don't resist it. Go take your body
on a walk, Go stretch it, Go do some lymphatic
drain it, Go lift some weights. Do what you need
to do to maintain that beautiful body if it was
already present. Because when we really love and appreciate something
and we're grateful for something, and we have it and
we want to keep it, what do we do. We
nurture it further, we maintain it, We take the right
action steps. So that is what aligned action would look
like physically for your body. So yes, please continue with
the mindset and energy work, but then start acting like
the version of you that has that beautiful body, that
loves their health, that values themselves, that puts their health
on a pedestal. It's important it comes first. It's a priority.
I want to pour into myself so I can always
feel better, so I can age gracefully, so I can
be fine as fuck everywhere I go, and I don't
get to worry too much about what my clothing looks
like or getting dressed up, because everything just looks great
on me because I maintain it. It feels so good
for me. Okay, So that is what acting as if
would look like if you already had that perfect health
and if you were already super confident in your skin,
that's how you would be acting. You would want to
maintain it and nourish it and nurture it even further.
So again, getting up and taking aligned action is going
to be key here. But the reason I think where
people get stuck with like taking action is because they
just want to take action from a state of disbelief.
So that's when things go wrong. That's why manifestation is
so important in mindset work and personal development and identity
framework is so important because there's people who do go
to the gym, and they go every day and guess what,
all year, they don't lose a pound. They don't lose
a single pound because energetically they haven't shifted their mindset yet.
So that is always the first step. Step one is
energy work. Step two will be your aligned action. So
if things are not moving along the way you want them,
to analyze it, take a step back. Who am I
showing up as? Do I show up in the same
energy as the old self? Am I still kind of
showering my body with disapproval and hate? And then I
sit on the couch because I don't like my body,
and then I reverse engineer my success. I diminish it. Right,
So we have to kind of take the right action
steps and act as if. And let's do it all
winter long. Let's keep acting as if, and let's see
where it gets us. Let's be delusional and be like, oh,
I already have it. I already got the body, I
already got the success, already have the health, I already
have the confidence. I'm gonna keep nurturing it and acting
as if. Doesn't that feel better than being stagnant? Doesn't
that feel better than sitting and waiting and hoping and wishing.
I think it does because we do like movement, and
the more energy we use, like to move, the more
energy we start to create. So like or not create,
because you can't create energy, but the more energy we
start to have throughout the day. Right, So, like a
person who works up and takes a walk in the morning,
they have more energy throughout the day than a person
who wakes up. And then they're like in that self
loathing energy of like, oh my god, I'm gonna go
to work like they have less energy, They feel drowsy,
they feel lousy. So it's a completely different frame of
mind and a different energetic say that that person operates
throughout their entire day because they got their movement in
that day. So these things are really important. Aligned action
shouldn't be skipped on. Acting as if is crucial on
your manifestation journey. Let's say your other desire is wanting
to manifest a beautiful relationship. Let's be super fucking real
here again. Okay, if you were in a relationship with
a loving partner who valued you, who respected you, who
was attracted to you, how would you be behaving to
maintain that, to maintain their attraction and their love and
their kindness in you. You would be someone who loves
to poort into themselves. You would take care of your appearances, everything, hair, body, skin,
nails right. You would want to always look your best
to represent your partner well. You would pour into your
personal development. You would read the books and listen to
the podcast, and you would feel good about yourself emotionally, spiritually.
You would be on a self growth journey because your
partner is so attracted to the person they met, the
one who was always taking care of themselves, the one
who loved him or herself, the one who has their
own identity and their own life. That is how you
would be showing up and you would go. You would
be going to the places that you like to go.
You would go on the hikes, and you'd go to
the bookstores, and you would go to the fun lounges
and maybe to a nice restaurant. Okay, you would go
to the places you naturally enjoy being at. That's where
you're going to meet your partner anyway, because you want
to be aligned. You want to meet people in the
places you enjoy going. Right, So you want to analyze
how would that version of me act as if to
maintain a healthy, loving, successful, romantic, passionate relationship, you would
always be taking care of yourself. I think that one
of the biggest disconnects in relationships and why relationships fail
is because one of the parties, like either the man
or the woman or whomever, they stop taking care of
themselves and they lose their identity. And we see this
happen frequently. Right, Let's say a woman settles down with
their man and then they have kids together, and then
all the responsibility of the families on the woman, Right,
she does the cooking, she does the cleaning, She raises
the children, she maintains the household, she holds all the
emotional labor of the family. And in that role that
she has to play in that she takes on, she
loses herself. She loses her identity. She doesn't pour much
into herself anymore, she doesn't have the time. She's drained.
And then that's when we see a disconnect in the relationship.
Then the man can step out right. The interests, the
magnetic interests, the attraction is lost because one of the
parties lost their identity. So what we want to do
to maintain how they relationships and act as if and
be it is maintain our identity, maintain our passions, continue
forth in our passions. Even if if I have a family,
I still need to love myself. I still need to
take care of myself. I need to feel good about myself.
I need to still see my friends. I still have hobbies. Right,
So don't lose your identity to maintain the attraction, to
maintain the relationship in a healthy way, you still have
to have your own identity that we both parties are
always going to be magnetic and ooh damn, they're so fun,
there's so sexy, there's so a DRAGONI look at them
doing their own thing, like, oh my god, I'm so
into them. So we keep that attraction alive. So that's
the version of you you want to show up as now.
If you're single, if you want to have that beautiful relationship, Okay,
you gotta have your own thing. You gotta be pouring
into you and following the things that turn you on,
that get you on fire, that make you happy, that
bring joy to your life, that put a smile on
your face. You are in your magnetic energy, and that
is how you will start to attract magnetic people too.
You're gonna be so irresistible to them. You're gonna be
so attractive to them. You're gonna get approached everywhere you go,
at the restaurant, at the bookstore, at publics, wherever you're
gonna be, everyone's gonna be drawn to your light. Because
you maintain a healthy light, you maintain a vibrance to you,
You maintain your beauty, you maintain your health, you maintain
your spirit, your heart. Okay, So that is how you're
gonna act as if you were already in this beautiful relationship.
So that when that person shows up, they are nothing
but an addition to your life. You do not depend
on them for your happiness because you have your own.
You've created your own joy, your own fulfillment, So all
they can be is an addition to your joy and
to your fulfillment. And if they leave, you're good, you're sustained,
you're health happy, you're healthy. But guess well, they're not
gonna want to leave because when a person is in
a relationship with someone who maintains a very bright light,
a vibrance to them, magnetism, that person never wants to
leave because now they know your light, they never want
to be without it. It brings brightness, it brings love,
it brings warmth into their life. You will maintain that
relationship by keeping your own light. So it's important for
you to do these things now to create your inner light,
create your inner magnetism, your inner love, your happiness, your fulfillment.
If you are craving a relationship, so first date yourself right,
First create that harmony internally, and then you're gonna be
a fucking magnet to love, a magnet because you started
with self love. Self love attracts more love, more love,
more love, more love. Don't be surprised if you have
multiple people falling in love with you, because you're just it.
You are the light, you are the beauty, you are
the attraction factor. Okay, you are it. You are the
it girl. You are that guy. And that's the difference
between sitting around and waiting. Oh I want to be married,
I want to have a family, Flora, I don't know
what to do. Where do I go? What do you mean?
Where do you go? You go to the places you love.
You show up in your own feeling of love. You
don't need to wait. You don't need to wait. There's
nothing to wait for you. Pour You have so much
love to give, so you need to first give it
to yourself, and then the right person will come along
who's an addition to that, who doesn't want to strip
it away from you, but they want to be an
addition to your love. Okay. So that is how we're
going to start acting as if we are going to
become it before we have it, so that it can
show up, it can present itself, it can start to
reveal itself, reveal its beauty in our life, and we're like,
oh my god, this is this is all it took.
It took an energetic shift inside of me instead of
my being to be a totally different individual, the best
version of myself that I could conjure up in my mind,
for me to live the best life that I can
conjure up in my mind. Because universal laws do nothing
but respond to who you are being energetically, that's the
power that they hold. They are holding up a mirror
in your face. So everywhere you look, there's a mirror.
This circumstance, it's a mere image of you. That relationship,
it's a mere image of you. The success or the
failure of your business is a mere image of you.
Your level of confidence is a mere image of you.
The way people treat you, it's a mere image of you.
The way that you treat yourself and your health, the
way that you maintain your body is a mere image
of your own self respect and self love. So every
direction you look, it as oh, the universe is holding
up a mirror to show me parts of myself. So
if I'm looking in a mirror and I don't like
what I see, I cannot get mad at the mirror.
I cannot get mad at God. I cannot get mad
at the creator. I don't even need to get mad
at myself. I need to just understand that I need
to change energetically so that the mirror that's being held
up is the one I want to see. It's the
one I want to feel, it's the one I want
to experience, it's the one that I'm in love with.
So I can do all the energy work internally. But
then I need to act as if I need to
act like a new identity. I need to become a
completely new individual who has been reborn in the mind,
who has resurrected themselves in the mind to achieve their
own salvation to their problems. Believe it or not, that
is what religious scripture is all about. It's about you
achieving your salvation and understanding that God lives within and
create creates through you, creates internally through you through your
energetic state of consciousness. Okay, so analyze yourself. Who am
I showing up ast How do I act every day?
Is it the old me who I don't like, who
I don't prefer, who keeps manifesting the things I do
not enjoy that are not pleasant to me? Or have
I been doing a great job? But I'm showing up
energetically as the new version of myself. I'm speaking like them,
I'm thinking like them, I'm acting like them, I'm behaving
like them. I'm offering responses like them. I hold my
head up high like them. I appreciate myself like them.
I love on me like them. Who am I showing
up as energetically? How am I acting? What is my behavior?
Don't miss out on this aligned action step on your journey.
It's crucial. It's so so important with everything that you're doing. Okay,
if you're trying to manifest a job promotion, are you
acting like the promoted version of yourself? Or are you
resentful that you haven't gotten the promotion yet and you're
acting like the old self? What are you acting like?
Let's do self analysis today, Okay, write down your actions,
write down your energetic state, write down your behaviors, write
down the patterns that you have every day and analyze it.
Be like, what do I need to change here? What
parts of myself are not aligned for my desire or
with my desire? What parts of me are unaligned? Only?
I know this because I know myself better than anybody,
and I'm a self aware being Okay, so through this
self analysis, we can change everything. We don't have to
be stuck anymore. We can get off the hamster wheel.
We can jump right off exit and start new and
start fresh. No one is asking me to stay the same.
There is no gun being held to my head saying
you better stay the same, you better. I mean, maybe
if I turn on the fucking news, I'll feel like
there's a gun to my head. But other than that,
keep the news off. Than that, no one is holding
a gun to my head telling me how I need
to act. It's all on me. I am responsible, I
hold the power. I am the problem, and I am
also the solution. Thank you guys so much for tuning
in to this week's episode of your Manifesting Bestie podcast,
and we will be back again next Wednesday.