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Speaker 1: All right, y'all, Hey, come on, this is not abuse

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help you to admit where you feel in order to

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take you from the effects of narcissistic abuse. How y'all

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doing today on this lovely Wednesday morning, This is no ok,

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abuse no More with your host, doctor and evangelist kl Rich.

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On this January the fourteenth of twenty twenty six. I

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pray that you've had a blessed, stress free, narcissistic free,

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abuse free weeks so far, and not the remainder of

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this week will continue to be so as well.

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Speaker 2: But if not, we're gonna be talking about a few

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things today.

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Speaker 3: Yes we are.

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Speaker 2: We are talking about We are talking about today nine

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signs of verbal abuse. Nine signs of verbal abuse, and

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Speaker 3: But if not, we're gonna be talking about that.

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Speaker 2: So we know that, and if you don't know, we

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know that abuse comes in various forms. Oftentimes, the obvious

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signs of abuse, it we know is when we see

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like a black eye or broken bone, or some body

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parts blue and black, and so we see that obviously.

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But there are other types of abuse, and one of

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those is verbal abuse, verbal abuse, verbal abusing. So today

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we wanted to go into what is verbal abuse because

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many times when you're dealing with narcissists, you're going to

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Speaker 3: Of verbal abuse. So what is verbal abuse?

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Speaker 2: Verbal abuse is a type of emotional abuse. It's emotional

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abuse where people they may not use their fists, but

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the words. You know, there used to be a saying

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that sticks and stones may break my bones, but words

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will never harm me.

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Speaker 3: But words do hurt.

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Speaker 2: So these people use their words, Okay, they use their

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words to control the other person, to dominate the other person,

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to manipulate the other person. It also involves yelling, on threats,

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gas lighting, a shameful, demeaning comments.

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Speaker 3: That are critical that are unkind you.

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Speaker 2: When you're dealing with someone that's verbally abusive, they tend

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to use accusations, humiliation, isolation. So these are some of

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the things that you may encounter when you're dealing with

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a verbal abuser under the umbrella of narcissism. Narcissism, So

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we're gonna talk about nine things that pertains to verbal

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abuse so that you will know if you are being

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verbally abused. And let me just say this because I

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want to make sure that we're clear on something. Many

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times people think that they have to take abuse, But

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you do not have to take abuse from anyone just

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because your blood related, just because they're in your work environment,

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your school environment, wherever it is. You do not have

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to take abuse.

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Speaker 3: We are all we all have the right.

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Speaker 2: To be treated with dignity and respect. Dignity and respect

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and so on an upcoming podcast, we're gonna talk about

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your bill of rights as an individual, okay, because you

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do have your own personal bill of rights, but we're

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gonna talk about today the number one thing is name calling.

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Name calling, so oftentimes when you are dealing with someone

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that is abusive, they want to try to break you down.

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They want to dominate you, manipulate you, control you. They

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want to devalue you. They want to demean you.

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Speaker 3: They want to lower your self esteem.

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Speaker 2: They want you to feel bad about who you are

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as an individual. And one of those things they do

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is name call, So they will call you things to

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make you feel bad about yourself. You sometimes you may

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have heard appearing in the store, or call their child stupid,

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or you just like you're no good daddy or something

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like that. So these are things that can cause a

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person's self esteem to diminish, especially when you are dealing

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with this even as a child. And while many people

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have suffered from abuse, it doesn't mean that they have

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you're dealing with cognitive dissonance, you know that someone you

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know who the person is or what they're doing to you,

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but then you have another opinion, well it's because of this,

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and it's because of that. So then you have trauma

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bonding with this particular individual because you're empathizing due to

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the pain that they have gone through. But the thing

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is is hurt people do not have the right to

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hurt other people. So just because you have gone through abuse,

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and you may have gone through some psychological issues that

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may have caused some damage in your life, does not

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mean that you have the right to do it to

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someone else. So we definitely don't want to be the

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recipients of someone else's bad history because your is not

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your fault what someone did to them.

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Speaker 3: However, they can choose to change who they are and

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how they respond to other people. Number two gas lighting.

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gaslighting happens when a person go out of their way.

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Speaker 3: To make you doubt your reality.

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Speaker 2: They make you feel confused, they make you feel incompetent,

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Speaker 2: You know, so you're dealing with someone that they know

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that they're doing harm to you, but they will make

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you feel as if it's all just in your head

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and that they're not really doing the harmful damage that

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Speaker 3: They make you feel as if you can't.

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Speaker 3: You can't have your own belief system.

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Speaker 3: This is called.

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Speaker 2: Gaslighting, and this is another form of verbal abuse. Number three.

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The next one we know is an obvious one, yelling

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and screaming. Yelling and screaming when someone raises their voice

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at you. When you see someone that is always yelling

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think that it helps their point to become valid. The

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louder they get, the more valid their argument is. And

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you don't have to yell and scream at someone to

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get your point across. Now, people, they may tend to disagree,

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and you can disagree with someone without having to scream

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and yell. Now, you often see this when it comes

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to little children. Okay, they're they're fighting, they're trying to

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get their way, and therefore they may yell and scream.

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self control where you do not have to yell and

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scream in order to get a point across. Now, when

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you're dealing with verbal abusers, this is exactly what you're

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going to experience. You're going to experience that sense of

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yelling and screaming because they're trying to gain control over you.

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they're trying to demean you. So therefore they're gonna yell

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and scream at you to try to intimidate you and

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cause fear on the inside of you. Number four. When

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you're dealing with verbal abusers, they often criticize you. Okay,

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can be directly or indirectly. They may say things, even

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in the form of a joke that is not so funny,

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all right. They may disguise it as a joke, and

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like you, make you feel like, oh, well, everyone else thought.

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Speaker 3: It was funny, so why didn't you.

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Speaker 2: Well, why would you think it's funny if it's at

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Speaker 3: All right, So they will.

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Speaker 2: Criticize you, call you names, make you think it's a

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term of endearment when there's nothing endearing about it, and

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Speaker 3: Of times you will find it.

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Speaker 2: They criticize you because they feel insecure themselves.

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Speaker 3: Come on, now, they are insecure themselves, so they're gonna.

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Speaker 2: Try to nickpick and criticize you. In areas where they

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feel basically incompetent themselves.

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Speaker 3: Number five shame or humiliation. Shame on humiliation.

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Speaker 2: So when an abuser wants to make you feel bad

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about yourself, they will publicly or privately.

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Speaker 3: Try to shame you.

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or your intelligence, or some other characteristics about yourself. They

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will try to shame you. And when you're dealing with

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these type of people, one of the things that is

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best not to do is not to allow them to

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whatever they say, to penetrate on the inside of you,

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the permeat on inside of you, because you know who

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you are, so you want to For example, when you

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wash a car, you use rain x if you're familiar

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put on the windows and then when water, when the

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rain starts, it repels off of the car shield I

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mean the car window instead of actually just staying in place,

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and that way you're able to see better. Well, you

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need that type of repellent when it comes to people

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who are trying to abuse you.

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Speaker 3: Abuse in any form is wrong.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Rather it's physical, verbal, emotion, sexual, spiritual, financial, whatever

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type of abuse. Abuse in all of its forms is

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wrong and you do not have to be subject to

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anyone's abuse.

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back in just a moment.

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Speaker 4: When I found, I've found somebody who is When I

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found you found my most intentate bred.

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Speaker 5: When I found you, I've found whatevery hard trens up.

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Speaker 6: When I fall I found when I found you, I

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told you all of those good bath When I found you,

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Speaker 7: In my door.

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Speaker 6: For when I found you, I found my freeing.

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Speaker 6: My home.

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So we are talking about signs of verbal abuse, signs

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of verbal abuse, and verbal abuse is harmful just like

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any other type of abuse.

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Speaker 3: It is harmful.

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Speaker 2: Again, I spoke on the before we went into break

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about the old school saying that sticks and stones may

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break my bones, but words will never harm me.

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Speaker 3: Well, yes, words do harm.

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Speaker 2: They do a lot of harm, and it can cause

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you to oftentimes excel where someone is helping you and

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praising you, and even if they're critically not critically, if

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they're giving you constructive criticism, it can help you to

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become a better person in whatever area you're trying to

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succeed in, or it can do just the opposite. You know,

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power of the tongue. Okay, so we know life and

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death is in the power of the tongue. So if

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you're speaking life to someone, then it can it produces life.

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Speaker 2: Speaking death with someone, then they can also do that

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Speaker 2: If you're having to threaten someone to gain control, to manipulate,

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to dominate, them, then you are.

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Speaker 3: An abuser of many the many of these narcissists.

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Speaker 2: They love to threaten you, and that's their way of

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trying to control you, trying to dominate you. And I

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want to just say this, make sure that people are

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clear on this. You do not have to take abuse,

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especially you know, if you're a Christian, you do not

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have to take abuse from someone just because you feel like, well,

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Speaker 3: No, you don't. The Bible lets us know to guard

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our hearts, to guard our hearts.

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then you have to be the one to guard your heart.

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treat me any kind of way.

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Speaker 3: We teach people how to treat us by what we

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allow them to do to us.

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and on, then guess what you're giving.

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Speaker 3: Okay to say, you.

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Speaker 2: Know what, I'm gonna keep dealing with this. I'm gonna

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keep allowing this. And you don't and sometimes you just

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don't know that you're even letting someone have the okay,

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but you know what the thing is is that once

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you know, then you can say, Okay, I'm going to

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do better.

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Speaker 3: I'm going to do better. So you definitely want to make.

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Speaker 9: Sure where did they come from? All Right, we ain't

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having that, okay.

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Speaker 2: But the thing is is that you don't want to

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have someone that's going to be constantly abusing you.

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Speaker 3: You can say no to abuse, all right, all right,

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Speaker 2: So the next thing when we're talking about abuse number

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seven is isolation and control of the realm of verbal

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abuse is a way to separate you from your support system.

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abusers or our emotional abuse, there's whatever type of abuse.

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are going to give you the support that you need

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to possibly get out of that relationship. So they don't

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like people that are gonna tell you know what, you

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don't have to deal with that abuse, you need to

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get out of that situation because it's bad for you.

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have a problem with certain people, for as friends or

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family members are those who are gonna support you and

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let you know, hey, you don't have to take this abuse.

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you feel like no one is even on your side. Okay,

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we talk about I'm not sure if I spoke about

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it this year on this on this podcast, but triangulation

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where they're like, you think about this triangle. They're at

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the top, you're to the right, and the other everyone

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else is to the left, And so they want you

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to feel that everyone else is on their side and

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not on yours. So they will try to also prevent

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you from seeing your friends and family members or coworkers

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or peers. They will even encourage you to quit school,

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quit your job to be able to have total dominance

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over you. They will even go as far as and

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not allow you to have bank accounts. They want to

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control the finances because they feel like if I control

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the money, then I can control the individual. So therefore

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that is another form of abuse. They will tell you, hey,

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you can't go here, you can't go there, you can't

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wear this, you can't wear that, you cannot hang with.

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Speaker 3: This person, you cannot hang with that person. You can't

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go to school, you can't go to work.

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Speaker 2: This is a part of the verbal abuse up under

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isolation and control, you do not have to allow yourself

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to take this type of abuse.

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Speaker 3: Let me just say something because I want to make

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mention of the hot line I did. I have not

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mentioned it on this year, but I want to make

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sure that I mention it.

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Speaker 2: For let me get the information for the abuse hotline

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Abuse Hotline dot I believe it's dot org. But let

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me go ahead and make sure to get that because

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you need to know that if you're in a situation,

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that you can get out of that situation and you

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don't have to stay in an abusive situation. So let

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me let me get this information in front of me,

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and if I don't get it right now, then I'm

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gonna make sure to put it on the next one

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because you don't want to be involved in any type

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of situation where you're being abused. The National Domestic Violence

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Hotline is one eight hundred seven ninety ninety safe. There's

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one eight hundred seven nine safe. The hot line is

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a twenty four our confidential service for survivors, victims, and

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those affected by domestic violence, intimate partner violence.

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Speaker 3: And relationship abuse.

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Speaker 2: All right, so you definitely have someone you can talk

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to if you're dealing with elder abuse, and we're gonna

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be talking about that as well. You can call one

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press the number three to report any type of abuse, neglect,

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or exploitation of an elder adult, or someone with a disability. Okay,

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because we want to make sure that no one, rather

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it's a child, rather it's an elderly individual. Whoever you are,

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no one, excuse me, no one deserves to be abused.

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Speaker 3: Okay, So we want to say no to abuse. All right.

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Speaker 2: So when you when you're dealing with verbal or should

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I say verbal abuse, you're also dealing with blame and accusation.

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Speaker 3: Is blame and accusation, So.

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Speaker 2: Who wants to Who wants to ever be in a

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situation where you are blamed for something that you did

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not do? Okay, But one thing that abusers love to do,

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they love to blame you for things. They will definitely

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blame you for any and everything that they can possibly

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blame you for. So this is something that you have

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to be careful of. It is another sign of verbal

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abuse when that person tries to accuse you. Maybe they're

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accusing you of lying or cheating or doing something or

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looking at someone is another way to control you by

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making you be insecure. So if you're constantly being accused of.

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Speaker 3: Having an affair or lying or stealing or.

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Speaker 2: Cheating or something like that, then it causes you to

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have self esteem issues because you're always on walking on eggshells,

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not knowing when this person is gonna come out of

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another bag of accusations on you.

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Speaker 3: And that is emotional abuse, okay. A verbal abuse is another.

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Speaker 2: Way of trying to trigger you, and therefore they're making

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you get into an argument or is it? You know

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the things escalate where you're arguing over something that you

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did not even do. All right, we're gonna take another

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quick break and we'll be back in just a moment.

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Speaker 3: A moment in the world, it's just me and you.

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Speaker 6: I feel so low.

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Speaker 3: Because I don't know what to do.

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Speaker 7: Now. What if I you.

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Speaker 9: The wrong thing to do?

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Speaker 3: I'm so afraid, afraid I'm disappointing you.

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Speaker 10: So need to talk to you.

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Speaker 11: And ask you for your guidance, especially today.

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Speaker 9: Would my life be so cloudy? Guide me untill I should?

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Speaker 11: I could.

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Speaker 10: My home Sandry, I say, I'm old Berna, how they

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must thief?

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Speaker 9: Gonna lest.

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Speaker 7: So cry out?

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Speaker 9: Crying out.

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Speaker 12: All you know the wall who they fall on your sody.

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Speaker 7: Talk to you and ask you for your guidness espectin

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lly today when my word seems so croudy.

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Speaker 13: The anc antionpen, Oh yeah it shall do.

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Speaker 12: So show me hard to do it, Joway. Don't then

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make the same stand.

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Speaker 7: Cover bother.

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Speaker 12: You will be.

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Speaker 6: And thou me the way.

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Speaker 7: I shot to make sure hand and me. I don't

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want anything.

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Speaker 9: I'm talking you.

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Speaker 7: And ask you all your gut its.

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Speaker 11: Shilling a day, susn't end the coming lot you can

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guide me through.

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Speaker 6: That's why.

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Speaker 7: I omen up my I'm hot, my heart, my father,

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the news.

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Speaker 6: Just keep us single qua from you.

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Speaker 9: Oh I'll I'll love it of shell Jill. You you're

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the love of my son. The captain of my sea

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needed one from you.

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Speaker 10: That's why I.

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Speaker 12: Man my.

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Speaker 2: And that is opened up my heart by Yolanda Adams.

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Speaker 3: All right, so one more, one more sign of emotional

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or verbal abuse. Everbal abuse involved emotional manipulation.

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Speaker 2: Emotional manipulation, so they use tactics to try to control

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your your behavior, your emotions, your thoughts. Then this is

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not for your own good, but for their own self interest.

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You might see them do things like they act like

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they're the martyr. Okay, they they they've been slaying at

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the state just for you.

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Speaker 3: They will act as if when they trying to.

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Speaker 2: Demean or devalue that they were oh, they were just joking,

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or they're just teasing.

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Speaker 2: They will flip the script and try to make you know,

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blame shift and make it seem as if you're the

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problem and not the behavior that they did.

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Speaker 3: You might find it they give you the silent treatment.

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Speaker 2: And let me just say that, when you're dealing with

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someone that's an abuser, congratulate that silence.

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna put like this. Congratulate that silence, because.

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Speaker 2: That means that you're not dealing with them, all right,

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and that's not always a bad thing, all right. They

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try to invalidate you and your experiences and your emotions.

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esteem boost from these these verbal abusers, think again, because

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it would just be the opposite. Another thing is they

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will make you feel guilty for things that you're not

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even you have even done, or things that you are

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not guilty of. Okay, One thing that you when you're

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dealing with these emotional manipulators. They will never take responsibility

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for their actions. There's always someone else's fault. It's your fault,

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it's a cat's faulest dog's fault. There's always someone else's

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fault except for them.

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Speaker 3: One thing is another thing.

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Speaker 2: Be careful of them threatening to even commit suicide, because

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that's also a form of manipulation. They will sometimes say, oh,

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I'm gonna kill myself because they want you to stay

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in that abusive situation. But the thing is, make sure

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that if you get out of it, make sure you

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get out as safely as possible. Okay, do not allow

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their threat of suicide to keep you from getting out

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of a dangerous situation. By all means, do it as

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safely as possible. They will twist the narrative to suit

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their own interest.

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Speaker 3: So whatever they may have done or whatever the.

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Speaker 2: Truth is, believe me, they're gonna twist the truth to

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make it seem as if they're the one that's being victimized.

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And last, but not least, they're gonna use your insecurities

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Speaker 3: And I love to read you your Miranda rights.

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Speaker 2: You have the right to remain silent anything that you

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say can, and we'll be used against you in the court,

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in the court of the narcissists.

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Speaker 3: Okay, So when you are dealing with the narcissists, do

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not tell them anything personal. Anything you tell them, they'll

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try to use it against you. Okay. It could be

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I went and got my cat some litter, and they'll

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try to use it against you. Okay.

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Speaker 2: Be careful when you talk to these emotional abusers, these

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verbal abusers, because they're not looking out for your own

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best interests. And one more thing, last, but not least,

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make sure you're careful of when you take gifts from

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these people. They love to look as if they're the

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gift giver of all times, and they they will love

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bomb you because it's called love bomb. They loving you baby.

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If you know this, if you know thise some things,

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you will notice that when you were when you're taking

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gifts from them, you really have to be careful because

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if you don't say, do, think or act in the

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way that they think you should, then you're gonna see

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the bomb at the end of that particular of gifting season.

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So it's called love bombing where they do acts of kindness,

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but in actuality it's not kind at all, and you

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will feel like you're obligated, You'll feel trapped, you will

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feel as if you know what, I owe them something,

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because that's what they want. They give these gifts because

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they want you to feel as if you're indebted to them.

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They want to feel as if they want you to

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think they're the nicest, the kindness, the sweetest and most

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giving person, when it's.

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Speaker 3: Actually something underneath that.

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Speaker 2: So if you're getting all these extraordinary gifts, or they're

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giving you things all the time or doing things all

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the time, is often because there's something underneath it. And

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even though they're not verbally telling you this, and you

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can guarantee that when you're dealing with the nars is,

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they're not doing it out of the kindness of their heart,

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is often something behind it.

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Speaker 3: All right, all right, we are up out of here.

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Speaker 2: I pray today's podcast has been a blessing to you

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and that you would know your feelings they do matter.

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Speaker 1: This is doctor kl rich Or Norck Abuse Now more

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until next time.