WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:02.919 The Bible says, if you want to be more attractive, 2 00:00:03.839 --> 00:00:08.160 you need to learn to be more gentle in your life. Now, 3 00:00:08.160 --> 00:00:11.080 this is true in both men and in women. 4 00:00:11.880 --> 00:00:12.599 Now, one of. 5 00:00:12.560 --> 00:00:16.320 The laws of life is I attract what I am. 6 00:00:16.879 --> 00:00:21.440 I don't attract what I want. I attract what I am. 7 00:00:21.879 --> 00:00:24.600 If you want to attract a godly man, you have 8 00:00:24.679 --> 00:00:28.960 to be a godly woman. If you want to attract 9 00:00:29.000 --> 00:00:31.839 a godly woman, you have to be a godly man. 10 00:00:33.119 --> 00:00:35.840 You can't be some rude dude in a crude mood 11 00:00:37.159 --> 00:00:39.119 and say I really want one of those good women. 12 00:00:39.920 --> 00:00:44.359 Now you will attract what you are. And so gentleness 13 00:00:44.560 --> 00:00:52.840 attracts gentleness, and godliness attracts godliness. Now, since we've got 14 00:00:52.840 --> 00:00:56.359 a bunch of singles in this service for some guys, 15 00:00:56.439 --> 00:00:58.960 let me show you this one Timothy six eleven here 16 00:00:59.000 --> 00:01:01.439 on the screen. Here's the I'm gonna give a verse 17 00:01:01.479 --> 00:01:04.599 for guys and verse for guiles. One Timothy six eleven. 18 00:01:04.799 --> 00:01:07.280 As a man of God, and I want all of 19 00:01:07.319 --> 00:01:09.560 you guys to be men of God. As a man 20 00:01:09.599 --> 00:01:13.719 of God, pursue what God approves of, and then he 21 00:01:13.799 --> 00:01:17.159 gives you the five marks of a godly man. This 22 00:01:17.239 --> 00:01:19.799 is Paul talking to Timothy. He's mentoring his son in 23 00:01:19.840 --> 00:01:23.319 the ministry. He says, pursue what God approves of. And 24 00:01:23.359 --> 00:01:28.239 here are the five things that make a godly man Godliness, faith, love, endurance, 25 00:01:28.280 --> 00:01:33.560 and oh, by the way, gentleness, gentleness. Now, he says, 26 00:01:33.680 --> 00:01:35.719 God approves of godliness. What is God in thiss? It 27 00:01:35.719 --> 00:01:38.959 means I'm trying to let Jesus live through me. And 28 00:01:39.000 --> 00:01:40.879 then he says, another mark of a man of God 29 00:01:41.120 --> 00:01:43.959 is faith. I trust God in every area of my life. 30 00:01:44.120 --> 00:01:47.120 Another mark of a man of God is love. You're loving, 31 00:01:47.480 --> 00:01:50.799 You're unselfish. Another mark of a man of God of endurance. 32 00:01:50.959 --> 00:01:54.760 You don't give up, you don't quit. You have endurance, 33 00:01:54.799 --> 00:01:58.079 you have diligence, you have determination. And then one of 34 00:01:58.120 --> 00:02:02.079 the marks of a man of God is gentleness. That 35 00:02:02.239 --> 00:02:07.159 is strength under control, and that is attractive. Now, I 36 00:02:07.159 --> 00:02:11.080 don't want to belabor this point, but for you single guys, 37 00:02:11.520 --> 00:02:14.639 I'm gonna give you a little advice tonight, because doctor 38 00:02:14.719 --> 00:02:22.000 Love is in the house, all right, Doctor Ricky Love. 39 00:02:21.919 --> 00:02:28.280 Here he is. Guys, if you want to attract. 40 00:02:27.879 --> 00:02:32.439 A good woman, you need to do what Boaz did? 41 00:02:33.039 --> 00:02:37.560 Who Boas? Where is he in the old Deskma, where 42 00:02:37.599 --> 00:02:41.000 is it? Look it up? No, No, I'll tell you. 43 00:02:41.080 --> 00:02:41.639 I'll tell you. 44 00:02:42.000 --> 00:02:46.439 Bo As is in the Story of Ruth, named after her. 45 00:02:46.800 --> 00:02:49.840 In the Book of Ruth. Now here's the story of Boaz. 46 00:02:50.240 --> 00:02:55.280 Boas is a young businessman and he is pretty successful, 47 00:02:55.840 --> 00:02:58.360 and he's got a wheat farm and he's doing a 48 00:02:58.360 --> 00:03:01.960 good job, and he's got he's got his business interest 49 00:03:02.240 --> 00:03:05.319 going pretty good. And one day he looks out on 50 00:03:05.400 --> 00:03:11.240 his field and he sees some stragglers taking wheat from 51 00:03:11.280 --> 00:03:14.520 his crop. Now, he'd already harvest the crop, but there's 52 00:03:14.520 --> 00:03:17.879 a little left over. And a lot of times homeless 53 00:03:17.879 --> 00:03:20.919 people are very poor. People would go out into the 54 00:03:20.960 --> 00:03:25.080 fields that had already been harvested and find the little extra. 55 00:03:25.159 --> 00:03:26.360 This is called gleaning. 56 00:03:27.280 --> 00:03:29.280 And he looks out and he sees one of these 57 00:03:29.280 --> 00:03:32.599 people is a woman named Ruth. And she's very, very 58 00:03:32.599 --> 00:03:37.080 poor because her husband has died. She's a widow, she's young, 59 00:03:37.360 --> 00:03:42.400 but her husband has died. And Ruth decides, I'm going 60 00:03:42.439 --> 00:03:45.000 to take care of my aged mother in law. 61 00:03:45.159 --> 00:03:46.159 My husband has died. 62 00:03:46.439 --> 00:03:49.960 She has no legal responsibility to take care of her 63 00:03:49.960 --> 00:03:53.280 mother in law, but she goes, this is what God 64 00:03:53.280 --> 00:03:55.159 would want me to do. So, I'm going to take 65 00:03:55.199 --> 00:03:57.479 care of my aged mother in law, even though my 66 00:03:57.520 --> 00:04:00.360 young husband has died. And so she's out out here 67 00:04:00.400 --> 00:04:04.639 picking grains in the fields in bo As' this field. Now, 68 00:04:04.919 --> 00:04:08.000 bo As could have gone out. He could have been rude. 69 00:04:08.159 --> 00:04:10.599 He could have been ruthless. He could have been demanding, 70 00:04:10.759 --> 00:04:14.520 and he could have said, get off my property. This 71 00:04:14.560 --> 00:04:16.759 is my property. You don't have any right to be 72 00:04:16.800 --> 00:04:20.079 harvesting my grain. It's my grain, and if I want 73 00:04:20.120 --> 00:04:23.079 to leave it out, there can. But he was not rude, 74 00:04:23.439 --> 00:04:26.360 he was not ruthless. He was not crude. In fact, 75 00:04:26.480 --> 00:04:30.639 he was gentle with Ruth. And not only does he 76 00:04:30.720 --> 00:04:35.399 allow her to pick, he says, I got enough, Let 77 00:04:35.399 --> 00:04:38.439 her pick some grain on my crops. Go ahead and 78 00:04:38.480 --> 00:04:42.360 let her do. He then commends her. He compliments Ruth 79 00:04:43.399 --> 00:04:47.160 for taking care of her aged mother in law, and 80 00:04:47.160 --> 00:04:49.560 he compliments her, and he's very kind, and if you 81 00:04:49.600 --> 00:04:53.000 read the whole story, he's very gentle with this total stranger. 82 00:04:53.959 --> 00:04:57.639 And so then Ruth responds this way. 83 00:04:58.399 --> 00:05:02.560 In Ruth Chapter two, verse thirteen fourteen, Ruth said to Boaz, 84 00:05:04.079 --> 00:05:08.439 you're very kind to me. You have made me feel better. 85 00:05:09.360 --> 00:05:15.079 You have made me feel better by speaking gently to me. Pause, guys, 86 00:05:15.519 --> 00:05:19.759 A woman always feels better when you speak gently to her, 87 00:05:20.279 --> 00:05:22.920 when you're not in a hurry, when you're not rushing, 88 00:05:23.079 --> 00:05:26.439 you're not rude, you're not forceful. A woman always feels 89 00:05:26.680 --> 00:05:30.160 better when you speak gently to her. You have made 90 00:05:30.160 --> 00:05:31.199 me feel better by. 91 00:05:31.079 --> 00:05:34.800 Speaking gently to me, and so it's going good. 92 00:05:34.959 --> 00:05:38.879 So Boas invites her at the lunch And then at lunchtime, 93 00:05:39.120 --> 00:05:42.600 Boaz says to Ruth, come have a piece of bread 94 00:05:42.639 --> 00:05:45.160 with me, and dip it in the sauce. Now you 95 00:05:45.279 --> 00:05:50.680 thought fondue was Swedish two thousand years before anybody said 96 00:05:50.680 --> 00:05:56.600 the word fondu. Boas is dipping in the sauce with Ruth, 97 00:05:57.079 --> 00:06:00.600 and it says, then Boas pastor some roasted grain to eat, 98 00:06:00.759 --> 00:06:04.759 little granola, and she ate it until she was satisfied, 99 00:06:05.040 --> 00:06:07.160 and she still had food left. He gives her a 100 00:06:07.199 --> 00:06:12.120 doggie bag. Now this is a good thing. He's being kind, 101 00:06:12.439 --> 00:06:18.519 he's being gentle. Now here's an interesting thing out of that? 102 00:06:18.680 --> 00:06:20.480 Simple is it? Because he was kind? 103 00:06:20.800 --> 00:06:24.879 Because he was gentle, they end up becoming an item, 104 00:06:25.600 --> 00:06:29.040 falling in love and getting married. Now, why is that 105 00:06:29.079 --> 00:06:35.360 story even in the Bible? Because Ruth was not even Jewish, 106 00:06:36.399 --> 00:06:39.399 and it was illegal for a Jewish man Boaz to 107 00:06:39.480 --> 00:06:43.360 marry a non Jewish woman, but he did, and God had. 108 00:06:43.279 --> 00:06:44.000 A plan in it. 109 00:06:44.199 --> 00:06:47.600 And in Matthew chapter one, where it gives the genealogy 110 00:06:47.680 --> 00:06:51.680 of Jesus Christ the Messiah, there are four women mentioned 111 00:06:52.000 --> 00:06:55.600 in that genealogy and one of them is not even Jewish. 112 00:06:55.720 --> 00:07:01.319 Her name is Ruth, and God used that marriage as 113 00:07:01.480 --> 00:07:06.160 one of the marriages to bring the Messiah into the world. 114 00:07:07.480 --> 00:07:13.560 In fact, Ruth had a grandson and his name was 115 00:07:13.959 --> 00:07:20.480 King David, King David, And it all happened because Boaz 116 00:07:21.319 --> 00:07:24.439 was gentle with a woman he didn't even know. 117 00:07:24.959 --> 00:07:26.079 Here's the point. 118 00:07:26.759 --> 00:07:30.399 If Boaz had been ruthless, he would have been ruth less. 119 00:07:34.000 --> 00:07:37.079 I've waited all week to share that with you. Okay, 120 00:07:37.480 --> 00:07:38.800 come on, that's pretty good. 121 00:07:38.720 --> 00:07:39.720 Right, Okay. 122 00:07:40.000 --> 00:07:45.519 If Boaz had been ruthless, he would have been ruth less, 123 00:07:46.680 --> 00:07:49.879 and all of that history would not have happened. But 124 00:07:49.959 --> 00:07:55.000 it all started with him just being gentle. Would you 125 00:07:55.040 --> 00:08:02.839 write this down. Gentle Men are gentlemen. Gentlemen are gentlemen. 126 00:08:03.000 --> 00:08:06.240 The way you become a gentleman is by being gentle. 127 00:08:07.519 --> 00:08:09.800 Now that's for the guys. Let me talk to you 128 00:08:09.920 --> 00:08:13.839 women for just a minute. Gentleness is attractive not just 129 00:08:13.920 --> 00:08:16.560 on a gentle man, on a man, but gentleness is 130 00:08:16.600 --> 00:08:18.279 attractive in women too. 131 00:08:18.519 --> 00:08:23.040 One Peter, chapter three, verse four says this talking to women. 132 00:08:24.160 --> 00:08:28.759 You should be known for the beauty that comes from within, 133 00:08:29.759 --> 00:08:36.720 the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which 134 00:08:36.799 --> 00:08:41.919 is so precious to God. Now I want you to 135 00:08:41.960 --> 00:08:45.840 circle the word on fading. God says, I want you 136 00:08:45.879 --> 00:08:50.440 to focus on unfading beauty. I hate to tell you this, ladies, 137 00:08:50.759 --> 00:08:56.600 but your beauty is gonna fade. In fact, all men 138 00:08:56.639 --> 00:08:59.600 and all women are beauty. Faith some of us are beauty. 139 00:08:59.639 --> 00:09:06.039 Start about year one. We recute as babies. But he says, 140 00:09:06.159 --> 00:09:09.440 there is an unfading beauty that is attractive. And what 141 00:09:09.559 --> 00:09:13.000 is that unfading beauty that is attractive The beauty of 142 00:09:13.039 --> 00:09:19.240 a gentle spirit. Gentleness is attractive. Number five. The fifth 143 00:09:19.279 --> 00:09:21.320 reason why you want to learn this quality in your 144 00:09:21.399 --> 00:09:29.720 life is it Gentleness communicates love. Gentleness communicates love, It 145 00:09:29.759 --> 00:09:36.039 diffuses conflict, it disarms critics, it's persuasive, it's attractive, and 146 00:09:36.200 --> 00:09:41.080 gentleness communicates love. Guys, those are her husbands and are married. 147 00:09:41.639 --> 00:09:45.440 The quickest way to improve your marriage. The quickest way 148 00:09:45.480 --> 00:09:48.600 to improve your marriage is to start talking to your 149 00:09:48.639 --> 00:09:53.799 wife more gently. It'll do wonders if you'll begin to 150 00:09:53.879 --> 00:09:58.039 talk to your wife in a more gentle way. Colossians, 151 00:09:58.320 --> 00:10:03.559 Chapter three, verse nineteen. Husbands, love your wives and be 152 00:10:04.159 --> 00:10:09.480 gentle with them. Any fool can be selfish, any fool 153 00:10:09.519 --> 00:10:13.559 can be rough, any fool can be rude. But gentlemen 154 00:10:13.759 --> 00:10:18.039 aren't gentle men. Now this is true not only in marriage. 155 00:10:18.399 --> 00:10:23.840 The key a great marriage is simply the union of 156 00:10:23.960 --> 00:10:29.960 two great forgivers, because you're going to hurt each other 157 00:10:30.039 --> 00:10:32.080 a lot in life. I've been married to Kay thirty 158 00:10:32.120 --> 00:10:34.840 eight years. I've heard her so many times, and she's 159 00:10:34.879 --> 00:10:38.080 hurt me so many times. But we're both great forgivers, 160 00:10:39.080 --> 00:10:42.960 and that's part of gentleness. Now, it's not only a 161 00:10:43.039 --> 00:10:46.159 key to effective marriage. Gentleness you're going to need this 162 00:10:46.200 --> 00:10:51.600 someday is the key to effective parenting. Never discipline, I 163 00:10:51.600 --> 00:10:54.600 said out of anger or out of frustration, but always 164 00:10:54.840 --> 00:10:56.039 gently out of love. 165 00:10:56.440 --> 00:10:56.879 Esian six'. 166 00:10:57.000 --> 00:11:04.320 Four, fathers do not irritate your. Children do not provoke 167 00:11:04.600 --> 00:11:07.559 your children to. Anger, now they don't do things that 168 00:11:07.639 --> 00:11:12.600 make them intentionally. Upset do not exasperate your children to resent, 169 00:11:12.639 --> 00:11:16.840 it rear them, tenderly gently in the training and in the, 170 00:11:16.919 --> 00:11:21.679 discipline and in the council of The. LORD i can 171 00:11:21.759 --> 00:11:25.720 honestly say to you THAT i never remember my father 172 00:11:26.080 --> 00:11:30.360 ever raising his voice against me growing, Up not one. 173 00:11:30.399 --> 00:11:33.879 Time did you ever get? Angry of course he. Did 174 00:11:34.279 --> 00:11:35.799 was he ever upset with? Me of course he was. 175 00:11:35.879 --> 00:11:38.919 Upset DID i ever really blow? It and have every 176 00:11:38.919 --> 00:11:42.480 reason for him to get at, many many, times almost 177 00:11:42.519 --> 00:11:47.639 a daily. Basis but he was a gentle. Man he 178 00:11:47.720 --> 00:11:53.720 had strength under, control and he would not yell at. 179 00:11:53.759 --> 00:12:07.159 Me gentleness communicates. Love one of the greatest joys of 180 00:12:07.159 --> 00:12:10.759 my days reading letters from our. Listeners it truly is 181 00:12:10.879 --> 00:12:13.559 inspiring to see How god is working in your, lives 182 00:12:14.200 --> 00:12:17.639 and it encourages me just as much AS i hope 183 00:12:17.639 --> 00:12:20.799 to encourage. You so TODAY i want to share a 184 00:12:20.840 --> 00:12:24.919 note From, heather who has been discovering the incredible benefits 185 00:12:25.279 --> 00:12:28.799 of Studying god's word every. Day heather wrote to, me she, Said, 186 00:12:28.840 --> 00:12:31.879 Hi Pastor, rick a friend of mine recently sent me 187 00:12:31.919 --> 00:12:35.320 your podcast And i've been feeling lost and, helpless AND 188 00:12:35.360 --> 00:12:37.480 i DIDN'T i wasn't sure what to pray or how 189 00:12:37.480 --> 00:12:39.159 to pray or when to, pray and it's LIKE i 190 00:12:39.240 --> 00:12:41.600 hit a wall AND i haven't been sure how to 191 00:12:41.639 --> 00:12:46.840 get back on. Track, well your message really spoke truth to, 192 00:12:46.879 --> 00:12:50.840 me and it made me realize the missing PIECES i 193 00:12:50.879 --> 00:12:53.919 had in my life BECAUSE i was not In God's word. 194 00:12:54.000 --> 00:12:57.919 DAILY i was basically living my life Without god AND 195 00:12:57.960 --> 00:13:01.039 i was trying to do everything on my. Own, well Pastor, 196 00:13:01.120 --> 00:13:03.639 rick it goes without saying that doing life Without god 197 00:13:03.679 --> 00:13:07.720 has been miserable. Failure so thank you for stirring The 198 00:13:07.759 --> 00:13:11.200 Holy spirit in my heart with the words THAT i 199 00:13:11.320 --> 00:13:14.440 needed to. HEAR i have now made the commitment to 200 00:13:14.519 --> 00:13:18.039 Read God's word every day and to pray, daily AND 201 00:13:18.080 --> 00:13:20.360 i even started praying in the CARS i go about my. 202 00:13:20.440 --> 00:13:22.600 Day just like, you it's hard for me to close 203 00:13:22.639 --> 00:13:27.039 my eyes and not fall. Asleep you were. Listening please 204 00:13:27.120 --> 00:13:29.559 keep doing what you're doing and reaching people who really 205 00:13:29.559 --> 00:13:33.240 need to hear About jesus And god's. Love, Well, HEATHER 206 00:13:33.679 --> 00:13:36.279 i am so glad to hear that you're back In 207 00:13:36.360 --> 00:13:38.519 god's word and that you're making it a part of 208 00:13:38.559 --> 00:13:41.759 your daily. Life there really isn't anything more important than 209 00:13:41.759 --> 00:13:44.840 deepening your relationship With, him AND i love the fact 210 00:13:45.120 --> 00:13:48.840 that you are praying every, day especially keeping your eyes 211 00:13:48.879 --> 00:13:54.600 open while you're. Driving do you or somebody know or 212 00:13:54.679 --> 00:14:00.200 even feel lost yourself Like heather once? Did, well the 213 00:14:00.200 --> 00:14:02.120 best way to find hope and strength is by staying 214 00:14:02.120 --> 00:14:03.120 connected To god every. 215 00:14:03.200 --> 00:14:04.960 Day that's the purpose Of Daily. 216 00:14:04.759 --> 00:14:07.919 Hope and that's WHY i started it to help people 217 00:14:08.080 --> 00:14:12.039 Like heather dive Into God's word and experiences encouragement on 218 00:14:12.120 --> 00:14:16.320 a daily. 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Six this is an important earns. 229 00:15:01.399 --> 00:15:09.639 Respect gentleness earns Respect proverbs, eleven verse. 230 00:15:09.639 --> 00:15:10.120 Sixteen. 231 00:15:11.039 --> 00:15:13.200 Women if you want to be respected as a, woman 232 00:15:13.240 --> 00:15:17.039 here's what The bible. SAYS a woman of gentle grace 233 00:15:17.600 --> 00:15:23.679 will be respected a woman of gentle grace will be. 234 00:15:23.799 --> 00:15:26.960 Respected that's also true of. Men if you want to 235 00:15:26.960 --> 00:15:29.080 be a leader in any area of, life you're going 236 00:15:29.120 --> 00:15:31.080 to have to learn what we're talking about. Tonight if 237 00:15:31.120 --> 00:15:33.679 you want to be a leader in the, church if 238 00:15:33.679 --> 00:15:35.960 you want to be a leader in, government if you 239 00:15:36.039 --> 00:15:38.399 want to be a leader in, business if you want 240 00:15:38.440 --> 00:15:40.960 to be a leader in your, home if you want 241 00:15:41.000 --> 00:15:43.840 to be a leader in your, community in your, school 242 00:15:44.279 --> 00:15:50.480 or in any other. Organization every great leader is a gentle. 243 00:15:50.759 --> 00:15:53.559 Leader the greatest leaders of all time were the most 244 00:15:53.799 --> 00:15:58.240 Gentle jesus being a supreme. Example but for, instance the 245 00:15:58.279 --> 00:16:01.720 greatest president in our history Was Abraham. Lincoln no one 246 00:16:01.960 --> 00:16:05.759 was more gentle Than Abraham. Lincoln and he even showed 247 00:16:05.799 --> 00:16:09.000 gentleness in the way he treated the Defeated southern states 248 00:16:09.320 --> 00:16:11.120 with respect and brought them back. 249 00:16:10.960 --> 00:16:12.000 In in a gentle. 250 00:16:12.159 --> 00:16:16.960 Way if he hadn't been a, gentleman that we haven't divided. 251 00:16:17.080 --> 00:16:23.000 Nation gandhi was a gentle. Person Martin Luther king was 252 00:16:23.080 --> 00:16:28.200 a gentle. Person George washington was a. Gentleman he was 253 00:16:28.600 --> 00:16:35.039 truly known as a. Gentleman and great leaders are Gentle you, 254 00:16:35.080 --> 00:16:38.080 know there's a story in The bible that you really 255 00:16:38.159 --> 00:16:39.919 ought to know, about and it's the story of a 256 00:16:39.919 --> 00:16:40.679 guy Named Ria. 257 00:16:40.720 --> 00:16:43.200 Bohm in The, bible. 258 00:16:43.080 --> 00:16:46.080 There was a guy Named King david who united all 259 00:16:46.200 --> 00:16:48.360 twelve tribes Of israel. 260 00:16:48.320 --> 00:16:49.399 And they became one. 261 00:16:49.600 --> 00:16:54.840 Nation and together the twelve tribes became quite, powerful and. 262 00:16:54.600 --> 00:16:56.639 They had a lot of, land and they were very. 263 00:16:56.639 --> 00:16:57.360 Strong it was the. 264 00:16:57.320 --> 00:17:01.759 Apex of the Power solomon, HAD i Mean Abraham david 265 00:17:01.759 --> 00:17:07.480 had a son Named. Solomon solomon expanded the empire Of 266 00:17:07.519 --> 00:17:11.119 israel and united the tribes even, more and they were 267 00:17:11.160 --> 00:17:13.680 at the greatest power at that point in. 268 00:17:13.759 --> 00:17:15.440 History they were the most powerful nation at that. 269 00:17:15.559 --> 00:17:18.839 Time solomon was the wisest man in the. World he 270 00:17:18.880 --> 00:17:20.519 was the wealthiest man in the, world and he was 271 00:17:20.519 --> 00:17:23.400 the most powerful man in the. World and he had 272 00:17:23.440 --> 00:17:28.400 this great united. Kingdom and Then solomon dies and he 273 00:17:28.480 --> 00:17:33.880 turns this, enormous huge kingdom to his young son Named Ria. 274 00:17:33.920 --> 00:17:38.119 Boham Ria boham had no experience. 275 00:17:37.640 --> 00:17:40.920 In leadership at, all and so he starts by doing 276 00:17:40.960 --> 00:17:42.720 the right, thing and then he does the wrong. Thing 277 00:17:43.079 --> 00:17:46.079 he starts by going to the older leaders of the. 278 00:17:46.160 --> 00:17:50.079 Nation they are called the, elders And Ria boham goes said, 279 00:17:50.119 --> 00:17:52.200 Look i'm just a young. GUY i don't know anything about, 280 00:17:52.279 --> 00:17:55.200 leadership And i'm thrust in this. Position would you guys 281 00:17:55.240 --> 00:17:57.920 tell me what DO i need to do to earn 282 00:17:58.039 --> 00:18:00.559 the respect of the nation and be the kind of 283 00:18:00.640 --> 00:18:03.759 leader my Father solomon and my Grandfather david. 284 00:18:03.839 --> 00:18:06.839 Were and he did the right. Things he. 285 00:18:07.000 --> 00:18:10.519 Listened he went to the, elders the, wise and you 286 00:18:10.559 --> 00:18:13.720 should be listening to older men and older women in your, 287 00:18:13.720 --> 00:18:16.200 life listening to them, always at every stage of your. 288 00:18:16.200 --> 00:18:20.039 Life and the elders of the nation say To Rea, 289 00:18:20.079 --> 00:18:22.319 Boem i'll tell you, what if you'll just do two, 290 00:18:22.440 --> 00:18:25.960 things the people will follow you. Anywhere first if you 291 00:18:26.160 --> 00:18:28.759 genuinely serve them and you show that you're there to 292 00:18:28.799 --> 00:18:29.400 meet their. 293 00:18:29.480 --> 00:18:33.319 Needs and, second if you always speak to them. 294 00:18:33.599 --> 00:18:38.160 Gently don't do a power, surge don't do a power, 295 00:18:38.279 --> 00:18:40.880 grab don't be on an ego. Trip speak to them. 296 00:18:40.920 --> 00:18:45.480 Gently he, said these people will follow you anywhere'll they'll 297 00:18:45.519 --> 00:18:46.319 be petty in your. 298 00:18:46.319 --> 00:18:48.720 Hands they'll do whatever you ask them to do as. Leaders, 299 00:18:49.559 --> 00:18:50.799 now that's the good thing he. 300 00:18:50.839 --> 00:18:53.480 Did the bad thing is he paid no attention to 301 00:18:53.519 --> 00:18:55.599 the advice of the. Elders and so then he goes 302 00:18:55.640 --> 00:18:57.559 to all the young. Guys he grew up with all 303 00:18:57.599 --> 00:18:59.720 of his, peers and he, says what do you guys 304 00:18:59.759 --> 00:19:03.240 THINK i should do? Now they weren't any wiser than he, 305 00:19:03.319 --> 00:19:05.079 Was they had no more experience than he. Did so 306 00:19:05.119 --> 00:19:07.279 he says to his, friends young, friends what do you 307 00:19:07.319 --> 00:19:09.599 THINK i should do as the new leader of this? 308 00:19:09.759 --> 00:19:14.400 Nation and the young men gave him the exact opposite. 309 00:19:14.400 --> 00:19:18.079 Advice they, said you got to prove that you are an. 310 00:19:18.160 --> 00:19:20.599 Authority you got to prove you have the right to be. 311 00:19:20.720 --> 00:19:23.519 King you got to be, tough you got to be, 312 00:19:23.640 --> 00:19:26.319 hard you got to do me. Demanding you need to 313 00:19:26.400 --> 00:19:30.519 lay down the law right now and let everybody know 314 00:19:30.839 --> 00:19:33.680 that you're in, charge and you. Can't you have to 315 00:19:33.680 --> 00:19:37.000 be unbending and you need to. Prove because you're, young 316 00:19:37.240 --> 00:19:39.519 you're going to need to prove that you are the 317 00:19:39.599 --> 00:19:44.640 authority and the. Leader and that's exactly what he followed that. 318 00:19:44.720 --> 00:19:49.359 Advice you know what. Happened the whole nation. Rebelled they 319 00:19:49.400 --> 00:19:54.119 went into riots and chaos and eventually civil, war and 320 00:19:54.359 --> 00:19:58.839 ten of the twelve tribes Of israel split from Rear 321 00:19:58.880 --> 00:20:03.759 broham's kingdom and started a whole new. Kingdom and that 322 00:20:04.119 --> 00:20:08.160 was the end of The United. Israel and from then 323 00:20:08.240 --> 00:20:13.240 on they have no more power as a. People why 324 00:20:13.559 --> 00:20:18.559 Because Ria boham refused to be. Gentle it was just 325 00:20:18.599 --> 00:20:21.799 a stupid. Thing, instead he threw his weight. Around, listen 326 00:20:22.119 --> 00:20:23.759 anytime you have to stand up in front of a 327 00:20:23.759 --> 00:20:27.119 group of people says excuse, me everybody in ther business, 328 00:20:27.200 --> 00:20:31.799 room in a, clubhouse or or in a, boardroom anytime 329 00:20:31.839 --> 00:20:34.640 you say excuse, ME i am the. Leader if you 330 00:20:34.720 --> 00:20:37.319 have to tell the people you're a, leader you. Ain't 331 00:20:38.599 --> 00:20:41.880 if you have to tell him you're. Not it he who, 332 00:20:41.920 --> 00:20:45.160 thinketh he, leadeth and hath no one following him is 333 00:20:45.200 --> 00:20:53.039 only taking a. Walk so leadership is, earned it is, 334 00:20:53.200 --> 00:20:57.880 learned and it is. Discerned it is never. Demanded if 335 00:20:57.920 --> 00:21:01.200 you demand that you're the, leader you're not a. Leader 336 00:21:01.319 --> 00:21:05.240 you're a. Dictator and that's a big. Difference there's ma 337 00:21:05.400 --> 00:21:08.000 being a boss and a. LEADER a leader leads by 338 00:21:08.039 --> 00:21:15.839 example and leads by. Influence, now gentleness earns, respect and 339 00:21:15.920 --> 00:21:18.720 the more gentle you, are the more respected you're going. 340 00:21:18.680 --> 00:21:20.000 To be as a. 341 00:21:20.079 --> 00:21:23.680 Leader the greatest leader in The bible, was of, Course. 342 00:21:24.039 --> 00:21:30.400 Moses moses Liberated israelites from four hundred years of. Slavery 343 00:21:30.559 --> 00:21:32.599 he took on the most powerful men in the world 344 00:21:32.599 --> 00:21:36.200 at that. Time pharaoh let my people. Go he had 345 00:21:36.279 --> 00:21:38.720 nothing But god on his, side and that was. Enough 346 00:21:39.000 --> 00:21:43.000 and he was, fearless and he was unafraid to go 347 00:21:43.319 --> 00:21:47.680 speak truth to. Power and, yet here's what The bible 348 00:21:47.720 --> 00:21:52.440 says About, moses the greatest leader in The bible numbers chapter, 349 00:21:52.480 --> 00:21:58.039 twelve verse. Three moses was a very meek and gentle. 350 00:21:58.440 --> 00:22:02.720 Man in, fact he was more gentle than anyone else 351 00:22:02.880 --> 00:22:07.759 on the face of the. Earth this is why you 352 00:22:07.799 --> 00:22:12.160 can understand meekness is not. Weakness gentleness is not. Weakness 353 00:22:12.279 --> 00:22:14.880 in The, bible there are only two people in the 354 00:22:15.079 --> 00:22:19.880 Entire bible who were called meek or. Gentle only two 355 00:22:20.079 --> 00:22:24.599 in the Entire. Bible you know who they, Are moses And. 356 00:22:25.359 --> 00:22:30.119 Jesus neither of them were. Weak jesus knew how to 357 00:22:30.160 --> 00:22:32.480 call the shots and turn the tables upside down when 358 00:22:32.480 --> 00:22:36.079 he needed, to and you, know turn over the money. 359 00:22:36.160 --> 00:22:39.240 Changers and he had no problem being. Strong he was 360 00:22:39.279 --> 00:22:43.720 strength under. Control here's the amazing. Thing moses is the 361 00:22:43.720 --> 00:22:46.480 only other man in The bible called. Meek and yet 362 00:22:46.519 --> 00:22:51.319 do you know what moses persistent sin. Was he had 363 00:22:51.319 --> 00:22:56.599 an anger management. Problem moses had a, temper a violent. 364 00:22:56.960 --> 00:23:00.440 Temper in, fact it is moses temper That god trouble 365 00:23:00.480 --> 00:23:01.359 throughout his entire. 366 00:23:01.440 --> 00:23:02.559 Life one Day. 367 00:23:02.359 --> 00:23:05.519 Moses got so, mad got so, angry he killed An. 368 00:23:05.559 --> 00:23:08.839 Egyptian he murdered a guy out of. Anger that's pretty. 369 00:23:08.880 --> 00:23:13.000 Angry another, Time god gave him The Ten commandments up 370 00:23:13.000 --> 00:23:15.200 On Mount. Sinai he came down and he saw all 371 00:23:15.279 --> 00:23:18.559 the people and they were, all, like you, know having an. 372 00:23:18.720 --> 00:23:21.079 Orgy and he got so angry at. That he throws 373 00:23:21.200 --> 00:23:23.799 down the Ten commandments That god had made for him 374 00:23:24.000 --> 00:23:29.039 and they break And god, says you're making the second, set, 375 00:23:29.079 --> 00:23:33.680 buddy it's. True and he had to go back up 376 00:23:33.759 --> 00:23:37.319 and he had to carve personally the second. Set god 377 00:23:37.359 --> 00:23:40.160 had given him the first, set but he broke him 378 00:23:40.319 --> 00:23:44.640 out of his. Anger another, Time god said that people were. 379 00:23:44.640 --> 00:23:46.119 Thirsty he, said, WELL i want you to speak to 380 00:23:46.160 --> 00:23:47.799 the rock and water will come out Of he, says, No, 381 00:23:47.880 --> 00:23:50.359 lord we've always done it another. WAY i want to 382 00:23:50.400 --> 00:23:52.599 do it the traditional, way and he struck the. Rock 383 00:23:52.960 --> 00:23:56.079 he got angry and struck the. Rock it was anger 384 00:23:56.200 --> 00:23:59.240 that Kept moses out of The Promised. Land she had 385 00:23:59.240 --> 00:24:02.119 a lifelong. Problem how the guy has a lifelong problem 386 00:24:02.119 --> 00:24:04.160 with anger be the only other guy in The bible called. 387 00:24:04.720 --> 00:24:09.079 Gentle here's the, reason and this should give hope to 388 00:24:09.160 --> 00:24:15.480 you who struggle with anger. Management moses was, teachable and 389 00:24:15.559 --> 00:24:19.000 when people spoke to him about areas of his life 390 00:24:19.359 --> 00:24:22.400 that needed to be, changing he didn't get angry back at. 391 00:24:22.400 --> 00:24:25.960 That he learned from. Them, now you may have a 392 00:24:26.000 --> 00:24:29.440 struggle controlling your. Temper the real issue is not. That 393 00:24:29.519 --> 00:24:33.039 the real issue is are you? Teachable and when somebody 394 00:24:33.079 --> 00:24:36.960 points out that you have a temper, problem do you 395 00:24:37.079 --> 00:24:40.640 humbly listen and respond with gentleness or do you get 396 00:24:40.680 --> 00:24:43.720 mad at that too and have a hissy fit and a. 397 00:24:43.759 --> 00:24:53.160 Cow moses was meek because he was. Teachable now there's number. 398 00:24:53.200 --> 00:24:59.000 Seven gentleness is a witness to. Unbelievers gentleness witnesses to. 399 00:24:59.160 --> 00:25:02.920 Unbelievers when people look at, you and non believers are 400 00:25:02.920 --> 00:25:06.519 watching you all the, time and they're watching to see 401 00:25:06.559 --> 00:25:09.319