WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.160 --> 00:00:03.720 That's not the same scenarios. Why I said context, context 2 00:00:03.759 --> 00:00:04.280 is everything. 3 00:00:04.360 --> 00:00:07.320 Well, ladies, I love the spirit of debate. Natalia, did 4 00:00:07.320 --> 00:00:08.439 you want to weigh in on this or can I 5 00:00:08.439 --> 00:00:11.400 go out in the next question? All right, you brought 6 00:00:11.439 --> 00:00:13.679 up the term breadwinner, so let's talk money for a 7 00:00:13.720 --> 00:00:20.039 second here. Are you typically the breadwinner in your relationship? No, 8 00:00:20.239 --> 00:00:22.640 you're not, so you only date guys that are wealthier 9 00:00:22.640 --> 00:00:22.879 than you. 10 00:00:25.039 --> 00:00:28.480 It's been the same or above from my last relationships. 11 00:00:28.519 --> 00:00:30.199 Okay, would you ever date a guy that makes way 12 00:00:30.280 --> 00:00:30.719 less than you? 13 00:00:30.879 --> 00:00:32.560 I wouldn't be opposed to it. I don't know money. 14 00:00:32.640 --> 00:00:36.240 Money doesn't if I like an individual, money isn't going 15 00:00:36.320 --> 00:00:38.840 to thrive like it doesn't make it any more enticing 16 00:00:38.880 --> 00:00:39.840 of a situation. 17 00:00:39.640 --> 00:00:42.719 Not at all. No, really do. 18 00:00:42.719 --> 00:00:43.240 You think that. 19 00:00:44.880 --> 00:00:45.200 Does that? 20 00:00:46.079 --> 00:00:49.000 Do you think them makes them a little like less 21 00:00:49.119 --> 00:00:49.960 in that alpha? 22 00:00:50.200 --> 00:00:50.399 Yes? 23 00:00:51.039 --> 00:00:53.039 I think for men that's a big problem is that 24 00:00:53.079 --> 00:00:56.240 they're intimidated off the bat because of who I am, 25 00:00:56.280 --> 00:00:57.960 And I think that there's a lot of assumptions to 26 00:00:58.079 --> 00:01:02.920 things as well. Again, a conversation is everything these days. 27 00:01:02.960 --> 00:01:05.519 If you met a really wealthy guy, nice guy, great guy, gentleman, 28 00:01:05.560 --> 00:01:07.959 and he's like listen, baby, no more working. You're gonna 29 00:01:08.000 --> 00:01:10.560 be You're gonna be my housewife. You're gonna stay home. 30 00:01:10.680 --> 00:01:13.239 You're gonna you're gonna you're gonna look good. You're gonna cook, 31 00:01:13.239 --> 00:01:16.239 you're gonna clean, do all the housewife type stuff. You know. 32 00:01:16.359 --> 00:01:18.280 You can still have your passions and your hobbies, but 33 00:01:18.879 --> 00:01:22.599 you're now gonna be taken care of Alexis. You're gonna 34 00:01:22.640 --> 00:01:24.680 have a good life. You're gonna stay home. You're gonna 35 00:01:24.680 --> 00:01:27.640 take care of the family. Do you want to Are 36 00:01:27.640 --> 00:01:28.400 you in or are you in? 37 00:01:28.719 --> 00:01:30.519 So it depends on the situation. 38 00:01:30.719 --> 00:01:32.640 If I was in love with this person and I 39 00:01:32.680 --> 00:01:37.159 like saw like growth and whatever, I don't plan. You know, 40 00:01:37.760 --> 00:01:39.920 in my I'm an entrepreneur again. I was in the 41 00:01:39.920 --> 00:01:43.840 adult entertainment for ten plus years. I have a podcast 42 00:01:43.840 --> 00:01:46.400 that's very successful. I have other branding things that are 43 00:01:46.439 --> 00:01:49.079 under my belt, you know, and so you know I'm 44 00:01:49.120 --> 00:01:49.920 a working woman. 45 00:01:50.079 --> 00:01:52.480 But he's gonna say to you, Alexis, listen, I respect 46 00:01:52.480 --> 00:01:54.760 everything you've done in the past. We have. I have 47 00:01:54.799 --> 00:01:57.159 no issue with that. But now you're with me, You're 48 00:01:57.159 --> 00:01:59.439 in my world. You're living in my house, my beautiful house. 49 00:01:59.599 --> 00:02:02.359 You're gonna drive one of my amazing supercars. No, we're 50 00:02:02.359 --> 00:02:03.040 gonna have kids. 51 00:02:03.120 --> 00:02:03.879 We're dressing this. 52 00:02:04.159 --> 00:02:06.079 I'm just saying, this is what like if you wanted 53 00:02:06.120 --> 00:02:07.640 like a guy, like a bread winner type of guy, 54 00:02:07.719 --> 00:02:09.879 compared to what you make. Because you've got some money. 55 00:02:09.919 --> 00:02:12.439 I've googled your net worth. It's upwards of three million dollars. 56 00:02:12.479 --> 00:02:14.719 I'm not sure if that's accurate or not. By the 57 00:02:14.759 --> 00:02:19.360 way you're nodding, it's pretty accurate. However, you gave me 58 00:02:19.400 --> 00:02:25.919 one of those I feel like. However, I love on 59 00:02:25.960 --> 00:02:29.439 the screen right now. Yeah. But however, if the man said, listen, man, 60 00:02:29.599 --> 00:02:34.400 I got you now, I was in love with the man. 61 00:02:34.560 --> 00:02:35.879 If I was in love with the man and in 62 00:02:35.919 --> 00:02:37.879 the right situation, and I saw a future with this 63 00:02:37.919 --> 00:02:39.520 person to have a family and do those things in 64 00:02:39.560 --> 00:02:42.840 the right situation, yes I would do those things because 65 00:02:42.840 --> 00:02:45.759 I would compromise you enough to make us be okay. 66 00:02:46.960 --> 00:02:48.639 I am not there yet. 67 00:02:48.680 --> 00:02:50.759 So when you say things like that, and when you 68 00:02:50.800 --> 00:02:53.960 put those things, it's very triggering because of the way 69 00:02:54.000 --> 00:02:57.400 that you say it. It's like the man's dictating everything 70 00:02:57.439 --> 00:03:00.000 I do. I'm about a partnership. I need a partner. 71 00:03:00.159 --> 00:03:03.080 I don't need a hierarchy. I don't need someone to 72 00:03:03.120 --> 00:03:05.199 do that for me that it doesn't work for me. 73 00:03:05.280 --> 00:03:09.639 So if a partner were to be as forward and 74 00:03:09.680 --> 00:03:11.560 saying those things and it wasn't and we weren't in 75 00:03:11.599 --> 00:03:13.960 that level of whatever, I would be absolutely not well 76 00:03:13.960 --> 00:03:16.400 because for me, it's because well. 77 00:03:16.280 --> 00:03:18.960 You're not doing this. You're not doing this, You're not you're. 78 00:03:18.840 --> 00:03:21.120 Telling me rules, you're not giving me options, you're telling 79 00:03:21.159 --> 00:03:25.400 me your rules. And we're a partner, we're a partnership. 80 00:03:25.439 --> 00:03:28.400 Well, man, was like, listen, I understand who you've been, 81 00:03:29.000 --> 00:03:30.960 but now we're about to start a family. I want 82 00:03:31.000 --> 00:03:33.120 you to be the lady of the house. You have 83 00:03:33.120 --> 00:03:36.360 the option to live your best life, take care of 84 00:03:36.400 --> 00:03:38.840 the house. I'm the bread winner. There's no more shooting 85 00:03:38.840 --> 00:03:41.680 more content, there's no more adult film, there's no more 86 00:03:41.680 --> 00:03:44.039 only fans. You're going to be a good housewife and 87 00:03:44.080 --> 00:03:47.560 a good mother and a good wife. Is that like, 88 00:03:48.120 --> 00:03:54.639 is that something that triggers you conversation from the housewife? 89 00:03:54.719 --> 00:03:58.840 Because I sign myself up for these are great. 90 00:03:59.000 --> 00:04:01.159 Here's the less you are gonna You're gonna find the 91 00:04:01.159 --> 00:04:03.039 man you'r d. This is gonna be drunk. 92 00:04:04.000 --> 00:04:06.120 I need more champagne for that. Definitely not drunk. 93 00:04:09.639 --> 00:04:10.719 But here's the thing. 94 00:04:10.919 --> 00:04:14.560 I think that, uh, especially stay at home wives stay 95 00:04:14.599 --> 00:04:18.680 at home moms get a bad rep because you think that, 96 00:04:18.720 --> 00:04:21.439 like all we're doing is just sitting at home doing nothing. 97 00:04:21.720 --> 00:04:23.279 And I know that that's not that's not. 98 00:04:23.519 --> 00:04:27.319 Particularly I'm saying men in general, Like it's this idea. 99 00:04:27.360 --> 00:04:29.920 It's like, oh, she's just lounging like blah blah blah, she's. 100 00:04:29.759 --> 00:04:31.680 Getting her nats one every day, she's getting this that. 101 00:04:31.759 --> 00:04:37.560 Yeah, I so I do YouTube. I'm uh, I do YouTube. 102 00:04:37.120 --> 00:04:41.560 Part time, right, I have a channel. It's fairly successful. 103 00:04:41.879 --> 00:04:46.160 I also do options trading. My husband funds my options trading. 104 00:04:46.800 --> 00:04:48.839 But you're being allowed. 105 00:04:50.160 --> 00:04:52.879 To say to have something of your own for me 106 00:04:52.959 --> 00:04:54.720 to say, like again, it's those things that like you 107 00:04:54.800 --> 00:04:56.839 have to just like that's the part I don't like 108 00:04:56.920 --> 00:04:59.399 because I'm a business woman and I'm an entrepreneur, so 109 00:04:59.439 --> 00:05:03.040 that'll never leave my body regardless of what it does exactly. 110 00:05:03.439 --> 00:05:06.720 And that's the same here, like I have to feel creative. 111 00:05:07.240 --> 00:05:13.480 But however, the differences is that my family comes first 112 00:05:13.879 --> 00:05:16.839 and then everything else for sure, And that's how I 113 00:05:16.839 --> 00:05:21.279 think that that's to me, that's not stifling myself. 114 00:05:21.319 --> 00:05:22.439 That's not and I don't. 115 00:05:22.319 --> 00:05:22.800 Think so either. 116 00:05:22.839 --> 00:05:24.759 And that's why I say, And if I was, if 117 00:05:24.759 --> 00:05:27.279 I felt passionate about my partner enough to be like that, 118 00:05:27.360 --> 00:05:29.920 and I was in we had a conversation about hey, 119 00:05:30.000 --> 00:05:31.959 like I don't want you doing this, but you know, 120 00:05:32.040 --> 00:05:33.439 I don't care. If you want to do your own 121 00:05:33.480 --> 00:05:36.800 thing whatever it is, and things that are like exactly, 122 00:05:36.920 --> 00:05:39.000 then that works. But for me to be told that 123 00:05:39.040 --> 00:05:40.560 I have to stay at home and I have to 124 00:05:40.560 --> 00:05:41.600 do these, that doesn't. 125 00:05:41.600 --> 00:05:43.240 That's the triggering part is because. 126 00:05:43.000 --> 00:05:46.680 I don't think that in any relationship the rules and 127 00:05:46.720 --> 00:05:48.720 the have tos and whatever it's it should be a 128 00:05:48.720 --> 00:05:51.040 community like what you talk about and compromise. And if 129 00:05:51.079 --> 00:05:52.360 what you said is like for you to be a 130 00:05:52.399 --> 00:05:54.800 better a mom and a housewife and all these you know, 131 00:05:55.160 --> 00:05:58.199 a wife is for you to be creative, for you. 132 00:05:58.199 --> 00:05:59.680 To do you know what I mean? It is those 133 00:05:59.720 --> 00:06:01.120 things and that's what drives you. 134 00:06:01.120 --> 00:06:03.240 You know, it may not be the companies and whatever before, 135 00:06:03.279 --> 00:06:05.839 but this is who you're new you. And that's why 136 00:06:05.839 --> 00:06:07.680 for me is I'm not opposed to that, but I 137 00:06:07.720 --> 00:06:11.680 don't have that option in my face right now. So 138 00:06:11.720 --> 00:06:13.720 for me is like, that's why I would want a 139 00:06:13.759 --> 00:06:16.360 partner to be on board with. You're not telling me 140 00:06:16.399 --> 00:06:19.319 what to do as far as like no, like stay 141 00:06:19.319 --> 00:06:20.319 at home, do this, do that? 142 00:06:20.360 --> 00:06:22.199 You here's your money? Like that doesn't work for me, 143 00:06:22.399 --> 00:06:26.079 alexis no, I'm a revel with chaos. 144 00:06:26.160 --> 00:06:30.800 But would you be opposed to maybe like making changes. 145 00:06:30.720 --> 00:06:33.560 Facts and that's a light or way of saying things 146 00:06:33.639 --> 00:06:37.199 or whatever, because I don't think that in some things. 147 00:06:36.759 --> 00:06:38.279 My way is the right way and everything. 148 00:06:38.319 --> 00:06:39.959 It works for me right now in my life because 149 00:06:39.959 --> 00:06:41.959 I'm a single female, but I know that if I 150 00:06:42.079 --> 00:06:44.079 want it to get to the level we're being married 151 00:06:44.079 --> 00:06:45.480 and having kids, there has. 152 00:06:45.319 --> 00:06:46.000 To be changes. 153 00:06:46.040 --> 00:06:47.680 But for me, there's no one in my life that's 154 00:06:47.720 --> 00:06:51.000 making me want to do those changes, so therefore hard No. 155 00:06:51.360 --> 00:06:53.600 Do you think the changes would be harder to make 156 00:06:54.040 --> 00:06:57.560 now based on your past no versus maybe at the 157 00:06:57.600 --> 00:06:59.959 beginning before you made certain decisions. 158 00:07:00.240 --> 00:07:05.040 I don't think so, only because of I do things on. 159 00:07:05.040 --> 00:07:06.879 The like of what feels good for me. 160 00:07:07.079 --> 00:07:09.120 So if that's really something like the change I want 161 00:07:09.120 --> 00:07:10.720 to do, it would have to be a big decision 162 00:07:10.759 --> 00:07:13.040 of me wanting to do this with this person and 163 00:07:13.120 --> 00:07:16.160 seeing where that goes and all those things. And don't 164 00:07:16.160 --> 00:07:20.240 get me wrong, I've stopped the industry for a partner 165 00:07:20.279 --> 00:07:22.519 before in the past, you know, and things like that, 166 00:07:22.600 --> 00:07:24.959 and nobody knew. It wasn't a big telling thing, but 167 00:07:25.000 --> 00:07:26.639 it was for me and it was right for my 168 00:07:26.720 --> 00:07:30.040 relationship at the time, and I supported that and I 169 00:07:30.079 --> 00:07:30.720 did those things. 170 00:07:30.720 --> 00:07:33.319 So I've done both, Rebecca. 171 00:07:33.000 --> 00:07:35.639 Question for you, and maybe this is something that Alexis 172 00:07:35.680 --> 00:07:39.160 can learn from. Oh, not that we're here to educate her, 173 00:07:39.199 --> 00:07:41.839 because she's killing it right now, Lexis. We're loving that. 174 00:07:41.959 --> 00:07:45.519 I love the accountability, that's for sure. 175 00:07:45.560 --> 00:07:48.480 I appreciate what my question to you, Rebecca is, because 176 00:07:48.519 --> 00:07:51.000 we started this conversation with can you be both? And 177 00:07:51.439 --> 00:07:53.639 you're about balanced. Don't tell me what to do options. 178 00:07:53.680 --> 00:07:56.160 I'm an entrepreneur, but I do understand that I might 179 00:07:56.199 --> 00:08:00.279 need to have changes. What percentage of your time are 180 00:08:00.319 --> 00:08:04.800 you delegating towards being more of the housewife mother? 181 00:08:05.720 --> 00:08:07.399 It's the eighty twenty eighty twenty rule. 182 00:08:07.480 --> 00:08:08.759 Yeah, okay, eighty. 183 00:08:08.560 --> 00:08:12.160 Percent of the time. Actually, when i'm in it, like 184 00:08:12.600 --> 00:08:15.120 when I'm with my baby, when I'm with my husband, 185 00:08:15.160 --> 00:08:18.480 it's one hundred percent. I'm not thinking about work I'm 186 00:08:18.519 --> 00:08:20.480 not thinking about any I'm not thinking about content. 187 00:08:20.519 --> 00:08:21.240 I'm not thinking a lot. 188 00:08:21.600 --> 00:08:26.439 I'm in there right when I'm in online, right when 189 00:08:26.480 --> 00:08:29.519 I'm talking to the camera, I'm not thinking about like 190 00:08:29.600 --> 00:08:30.560 right now my husband. 191 00:08:30.680 --> 00:08:32.919 Yeah, like I love you. I love you James, but. 192 00:08:32.919 --> 00:08:35.320 Sorry, James, it's not your time. This is our time. 193 00:08:35.799 --> 00:08:41.559 But so that's how I see how. 194 00:08:41.720 --> 00:08:44.240 That's also how I look at polarity too, because what 195 00:08:44.279 --> 00:08:49.320 you're talking about masculine feminine. I we all have masculine 196 00:08:49.360 --> 00:08:55.360 and feminine traits. However in women it's higher femininity and 197 00:08:55.519 --> 00:08:59.600 lower masculinity, and it's the eighty twenty rule applies there 198 00:08:59.639 --> 00:09:02.679 as well. But I feel like women have been operating 199 00:09:02.840 --> 00:09:06.799 too much in their masculinity to where I believe that 200 00:09:07.879 --> 00:09:11.759 it takes a lot to get us to a point 201 00:09:11.840 --> 00:09:14.200 where it's like, Okay, I can chill out, like I 202 00:09:14.200 --> 00:09:14.879 can relax. 203 00:09:14.960 --> 00:09:17.000 I agree with that, but that also goes with like again, 204 00:09:17.120 --> 00:09:21.279 your environment, your programs, past relationships, all the like, the 205 00:09:21.440 --> 00:09:22.480 scenarios of things like that. 206 00:09:22.519 --> 00:09:23.279 Because there is a. 207 00:09:23.240 --> 00:09:26.240 Time that even me being a Lexis Texas and this 208 00:09:26.399 --> 00:09:30.200 like sexual like icon, I didn't feel feminine at all, 209 00:09:30.240 --> 00:09:32.759 Like I couldn't express myself, and it is because I 210 00:09:32.799 --> 00:09:36.879 didn't really understand what I was seeking or searching. Is 211 00:09:36.879 --> 00:09:39.279 because I really had to look within to find the 212 00:09:39.320 --> 00:09:41.919 balance of the two and to have this one come. 213 00:09:41.799 --> 00:09:43.080 Here and to be like, you know what I mean. 214 00:09:43.200 --> 00:09:45.919 But again, it's not a. 215 00:09:45.799 --> 00:09:50.039 Great trait sometimes, but I thrive and accelerate more in 216 00:09:50.080 --> 00:09:52.480 my masculinity. So for me, it's like sometimes that is 217 00:09:52.519 --> 00:09:55.120 a standoff for men I am single. There are obviously 218 00:09:55.200 --> 00:09:57.240 reasons and the accountability of why I know that I 219 00:09:57.360 --> 00:10:00.879 haven't been attracting those partners because I also didn't know 220 00:10:00.879 --> 00:10:03.799 what those things were. But until you find that balance 221 00:10:04.039 --> 00:10:07.200 is when you could really be fullheartedly open and be 222 00:10:07.279 --> 00:10:09.639 like I'm ready for Is that. 223 00:10:09.600 --> 00:10:11.480 A switch you need to turn on and turn off? 224 00:10:11.519 --> 00:10:13.039 All right? Masculine time right now? 225 00:10:13.159 --> 00:10:14.200 It's just how it operates. 226 00:10:14.200 --> 00:10:16.039 It's because of the programs that I've been for the 227 00:10:16.120 --> 00:10:18.840 last thirteen plus years in my business where I've had 228 00:10:18.879 --> 00:10:21.039 to operate or I've felt that i had to operate 229 00:10:21.080 --> 00:10:24.399 from those levels to get where I have been successfully. 230 00:10:24.679 --> 00:10:27.440 How feminine Like back up twenty one years old, you 231 00:10:27.440 --> 00:10:30.000 said you started the industry if there's a scale, like 232 00:10:30.039 --> 00:10:32.679 there's this masculine feminine scale. You seem to be a 233 00:10:32.720 --> 00:10:35.840 good balance of that. What were you at twenty one 234 00:10:35.960 --> 00:10:36.879 versus thirty seven? 235 00:10:37.279 --> 00:10:39.279 I definitely was way more high femininity. 236 00:10:39.360 --> 00:10:43.559 So like, because I was eighty eight twenty okay, and 237 00:10:43.600 --> 00:10:51.519 now now sixty forty sixty forty, which direction mass we. 238 00:10:51.879 --> 00:10:53.159 Got to get you to fifty to fifty? 239 00:10:54.080 --> 00:10:55.919 Like I said, it's awesome work. 240 00:10:55.720 --> 00:10:59.360 And things take time, and things take like active practice, 241 00:10:59.440 --> 00:11:00.919 you know what I mean? Again, Like I said, I 242 00:11:01.840 --> 00:11:04.159 I am rightfully single for a lot of reasons, not 243 00:11:04.240 --> 00:11:06.559 just my own fault of doing things, but how I've 244 00:11:06.600 --> 00:11:09.279 attracted certain partners in the past that weren't fulfilling for me. 245 00:11:09.720 --> 00:11:11.679 So it's like you have to navigate the waters, and 246 00:11:11.720 --> 00:11:13.399 it's not easy. There's not a book to it. Nobody 247 00:11:13.399 --> 00:11:15.200 taught me how to do anything, but you just do 248 00:11:15.279 --> 00:11:15.879 what's going for you. 249 00:11:16.320 --> 00:11:18.440 Let's let's shift gears into this more of a topic 250 00:11:18.480 --> 00:11:20.720 of being a housewife, or even some call it a 251 00:11:20.759 --> 00:11:23.960 trophy wife. Have you ever heard this terminology before? I 252 00:11:24.000 --> 00:11:28.399 really think he's getting triggered a lot. Stop at Alexis. 253 00:11:28.440 --> 00:11:31.159 You've dealt with way worse than this. We're just having conversations, 254 00:11:31.159 --> 00:11:32.039 you're having fun, I'm not. 255 00:11:31.960 --> 00:11:33.519 Trigger to the point that I can't speak my mind. 256 00:11:35.039 --> 00:11:37.080 But tell me, if you're familiar with this girl, do 257 00:11:37.120 --> 00:11:39.799 you know who Lana Rhoads is. Okay, So here's a 258 00:11:39.840 --> 00:11:43.519 little quick, quick clip. Shout out to rich Cooper entrepreneurs 259 00:11:43.519 --> 00:11:46.039 and cars. Don't get upset with us. We play this clip. 260 00:11:46.039 --> 00:11:48.440 We're giving you a shout out. Brota this. 261 00:11:48.720 --> 00:11:49.720 Let us have your content. 262 00:11:50.200 --> 00:11:54.080 Atlanta Roads is a porn star sitting here lecturing on 263 00:11:54.399 --> 00:11:57.679 what trophy wife training looks like with her two other friends. 264 00:11:58.039 --> 00:12:01.039 All in all, a trophy wife is high value woman 265 00:12:01.159 --> 00:12:04.360 in our eyes. She works on bettering herself every single day, 266 00:12:04.360 --> 00:12:09.279 whether it's physically mentally educating herself. She dresses for herself, 267 00:12:09.320 --> 00:12:12.159 not for other people, and she just loves herself and 268 00:12:12.200 --> 00:12:15.080 puts all her energy and effort into building herself. 269 00:12:15.120 --> 00:12:17.240 She talks about what trophy or wife training looks like 270 00:12:17.360 --> 00:12:22.000 from the perspective of hypergamage. She completely butchers what hypergamy is. 271 00:12:22.080 --> 00:12:25.679 They also talk throughout this cast about this term bad bitch. 272 00:12:25.879 --> 00:12:32.639 You're real, men don't care about being around women that 273 00:12:32.720 --> 00:12:35.360 have bad attitudes. They don't want to be around, you know, 274 00:12:35.559 --> 00:12:38.240 miserable women that think that they're bad bitches. Why are 275 00:12:38.240 --> 00:12:40.600 they not showing, you know, women how to make a sandwich? 276 00:12:40.639 --> 00:12:43.759 It's just them talking about her past and poorn, her 277 00:12:43.799 --> 00:12:46.480 giant notch camp, which she suspects guys should look away from. 278 00:12:46.559 --> 00:12:48.080 It's pretty gross if I'm being honest. 279 00:12:48.720 --> 00:12:53.879 Okay, so Lona wrote a friend of yours. 280 00:12:54.399 --> 00:12:57.480 I wouldn't say, I mean, I know her, would you? 281 00:12:57.639 --> 00:12:59.320 What are your thoughts on her concept of being a 282 00:12:59.360 --> 00:13:02.240 trophy wife and even a bad bitch, and your thoughts 283 00:13:02.240 --> 00:13:04.919 on hey, listen, nobody cares about you being a bad 284 00:13:04.919 --> 00:13:07.000 bitch and having a bad attitude. Go make a sandwich. 285 00:13:07.559 --> 00:13:10.279 That was essentially the context of that clip. Well why 286 00:13:10.279 --> 00:13:10.600 are you. 287 00:13:10.600 --> 00:13:12.759 Watching her podcast in the first place? Sorry? 288 00:13:12.840 --> 00:13:15.240 Rich? But like what like this is what he does, 289 00:13:15.440 --> 00:13:18.919 He watches these types of intersexual dynamics. 290 00:13:18.399 --> 00:13:20.879 I mean, I don't think what she said in the 291 00:13:20.879 --> 00:13:22.720 beginning part. I don't know what she said the whole 292 00:13:22.720 --> 00:13:25.559 bad bitch thing other than what he emulated kind of 293 00:13:25.559 --> 00:13:27.799 thing of her. I don't think what she's saying is wrong. 294 00:13:27.879 --> 00:13:30.279 I don't know if the whole context of saying trophy 295 00:13:30.320 --> 00:13:33.799 wi righte or trophy wife whatever, what was she trying 296 00:13:33.840 --> 00:13:34.039 to say? 297 00:13:34.080 --> 00:13:36.360 That was the like the standards. I don't really in 298 00:13:36.679 --> 00:13:37.200 the context. 299 00:13:37.879 --> 00:13:41.519 Yeah, she's trying to say that that's what that's what, Yes, like, 300 00:13:41.600 --> 00:13:43.879 that's the characteristics. 301 00:13:44.200 --> 00:13:46.960 I don't think what she's saying is wrong. I don't 302 00:13:47.000 --> 00:13:47.879 know the whole rest. 303 00:13:47.679 --> 00:13:49.200 Of the context of certain things, you know what I mean, 304 00:13:49.200 --> 00:13:51.799 Like I said the bad bitch thing, but I mean 305 00:13:52.000 --> 00:13:56.200 the sandwich parts very sexist, you know, I mean. 306 00:13:56.960 --> 00:13:57.639 It is what it is. 307 00:13:57.720 --> 00:13:59.440 I think everybody has her own opinion at the end 308 00:13:59.440 --> 00:14:01.519 of the day, everybody has their opinion about what a 309 00:14:01.559 --> 00:14:03.919 trophy wife is. How triggering the word trophy ribe even 310 00:14:03.919 --> 00:14:05.679 says to me, because I mean, since you're like up 311 00:14:05.679 --> 00:14:08.320 here on some pedestal, you know, you're doing all these things, 312 00:14:08.360 --> 00:14:11.279 Like I just don't like you. 313 00:14:11.320 --> 00:14:12.840 Would you not want to be put on a pedestal 314 00:14:12.840 --> 00:14:14.000 and big a trophy I. 315 00:14:14.080 --> 00:14:16.519 Maybe that's no, I wouldn't I want to be on 316 00:14:16.559 --> 00:14:18.960 a pedestal, But like trophy wife, Like, what is that? 317 00:14:19.000 --> 00:14:20.080 You don't like that terminology? 318 00:14:20.120 --> 00:14:20.519 Right now? 319 00:14:21.080 --> 00:14:24.480 If your husband boyfriend was like, Babe, I'm hungry, would 320 00:14:24.519 --> 00:14:27.519 you make me a sandwich? You would do it? Yeah, Okay, 321 00:14:27.519 --> 00:14:28.759 I'm getting kind of hungry by that. 322 00:14:29.559 --> 00:14:34.080 I'm not sure wife. Yeah, I'm not twenty either. 323 00:14:33.960 --> 00:14:37.919 So that's true that if your husband asked you to 324 00:14:37.919 --> 00:14:39.399 make a sandwich, would you make him a sandwich? 325 00:14:40.200 --> 00:14:40.600 Sandwich? 326 00:14:40.639 --> 00:14:41.799 Oh, you cut off the crust. 327 00:14:42.080 --> 00:14:43.159 No, he likes the crowd. 328 00:14:43.200 --> 00:14:44.759 Okay, But that's the thing, is like, the whole thing 329 00:14:44.799 --> 00:14:46.480 is that she's saying is like she talked about like 330 00:14:46.519 --> 00:14:48.159 I feel like it was as a woman of things 331 00:14:48.200 --> 00:14:48.879 that you do. 332 00:14:48.960 --> 00:14:50.120 I think that that's part of. 333 00:14:50.480 --> 00:14:52.639 Being a woman in general, you know, and being a 334 00:14:52.639 --> 00:14:56.360 wife adds on responsibilities if that's what you're you know, 335 00:14:56.399 --> 00:14:58.879 thinking is if it's making a sandwich, having the kids, 336 00:14:59.480 --> 00:15:01.960 supporting working roles, or whatever it may be. 337 00:15:02.080 --> 00:15:03.519 I just don't think it needs to be. It's not 338 00:15:03.600 --> 00:15:05.279 like that's not the end all, be all. 339 00:15:05.600 --> 00:15:07.399 Definition of the problem. 340 00:15:07.000 --> 00:15:11.519 That I have with that video is I've heard I 341 00:15:11.559 --> 00:15:16.440 heard myself more than any other word in it. It 342 00:15:16.519 --> 00:15:21.159 was like myself, myself, myself, myself, if your trophy wife 343 00:15:21.240 --> 00:15:26.279 or trophy mom. Right, let's just add that your focus 344 00:15:26.360 --> 00:15:27.720 is not on yourself. 345 00:15:27.759 --> 00:15:30.000 It's on but you're also looking at someone who's not 346 00:15:30.039 --> 00:15:33.200 a wife. So therefore the context, that's what her own 347 00:15:33.240 --> 00:15:36.080 opinion is is why I think it's everybody's standards are different. 348 00:15:36.120 --> 00:15:38.480 Where in yourself is you have a partner who you 349 00:15:38.600 --> 00:15:41.480 include both of you and those things where I feel 350 00:15:41.480 --> 00:15:43.639 like it's like, okays, she's not wrong all the way off, 351 00:15:43.679 --> 00:15:45.559 but she's not a wife. 352 00:15:45.720 --> 00:15:48.000 Yeah, and you have to better yourself like I better 353 00:15:48.039 --> 00:15:54.200 myself every single day, but it's to serve my relationship 354 00:15:54.240 --> 00:15:57.320 and my family, and that's that. I think that's where 355 00:15:57.799 --> 00:16:02.240 there's issues with what she says, because I've seen a 356 00:16:02.320 --> 00:16:05.440 couple of clips about it too, and it's like myself, 357 00:16:05.440 --> 00:16:08.200 like I have to do everything for myself right, And 358 00:16:08.240 --> 00:16:12.600 that's an issue that I feel is is happening with women. 359 00:16:12.679 --> 00:16:16.080 It's all about the self, whereas like in a relationship, 360 00:16:16.080 --> 00:16:18.919 we have to give. I give one hundred and fifty 361 00:16:18.960 --> 00:16:23.600 percent of myself to my family and then I focus 362 00:16:23.679 --> 00:16:26.840 and then I see what I need to do for myself. 363 00:16:28.440 --> 00:16:31.159 Again, I'm not married, I can't and again that works 364 00:16:31.159 --> 00:16:33.360 for you. But again, like I don't think that it 365 00:16:33.480 --> 00:16:37.080 depends on where you want to like, each individual is different. 366 00:16:37.159 --> 00:16:39.600 So some people may have to focus on themselves first 367 00:16:39.639 --> 00:16:42.759 to be the better partner, to be the better whatever be, 368 00:16:43.000 --> 00:16:45.879 to fulfill those things you don't need that and that 369 00:16:45.879 --> 00:16:48.399 could be fine, but some people maybe, like with myself, 370 00:16:48.440 --> 00:16:50.559 how I talked about me doing inner work for myself, 371 00:16:50.960 --> 00:16:54.200 I personally had to turn in because I'm like, okay, 372 00:16:54.240 --> 00:16:56.879 if I'm like certain, something has to be accountable, right, 373 00:16:56.960 --> 00:16:58.879 Like obviously I'm the only one left standing here, so 374 00:16:58.960 --> 00:17:01.759 it's me, So it's like, what what am I doing wrong? 375 00:17:01.840 --> 00:17:02.679 Or what am I doing whatever? 376 00:17:02.759 --> 00:17:05.799 So until I got to the core of those real answers, 377 00:17:06.400 --> 00:17:07.880 was I really and before I was saying I wanted 378 00:17:07.880 --> 00:17:10.400 a date two years ago, I wasn't really ready to 379 00:17:10.440 --> 00:17:12.759 date because I had such high walls, because I couldn't 380 00:17:12.920 --> 00:17:16.000 serve myself any justice because I didn't know what was 381 00:17:16.000 --> 00:17:19.680 wrong internally. So therefore I would make a horrible partner 382 00:17:20.440 --> 00:17:23.240 because I couldn't really give you my whole being. 383 00:17:24.400 --> 00:17:25.519 So some people need. 384 00:17:25.359 --> 00:17:27.720 To so you have to do beforehand before you. 385 00:17:27.920 --> 00:17:29.440 But also insulationships. 386 00:17:29.599 --> 00:17:31.960 I think that that's you know myself, When I was married, 387 00:17:32.119 --> 00:17:34.640 I lost who I was as a person because I 388 00:17:34.759 --> 00:17:37.160 was bettering him. It was all about him. It wasn't 389 00:17:37.400 --> 00:17:39.880 now again, it wasn't the us, it was him. So 390 00:17:39.960 --> 00:17:42.240 that's wrong as well too. It's to figuring out the 391 00:17:42.279 --> 00:17:44.920 balance of what works for you is why I always say, like, 392 00:17:45.119 --> 00:17:46.599 what works for you may not work for me. What 393 00:17:46.599 --> 00:17:48.759 works for you may not work for you, know, vice versa. 394 00:17:49.480 --> 00:17:51.920 This whole idea of like what's supposed to be, Like 395 00:17:51.960 --> 00:17:54.160 you're supposed to have married and two point five kids whatever, 396 00:17:54.200 --> 00:17:55.559 it's unrealistic. 397 00:17:55.640 --> 00:17:57.160 Not everybody does those things. 398 00:17:57.160 --> 00:18:00.839 That everybody goes into relationships the same, people don't stay 399 00:18:00.839 --> 00:18:03.720 in relationships the same. And it's just I feel like 400 00:18:03.799 --> 00:18:07.400 people are too judge of what the dictative, what a 401 00:18:07.440 --> 00:18:10.000