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<v Speaker 2>Allie Ward back with the first ever rerun of Ologies. Listen.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to be quick because this already has an introduction,

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<v Speaker 2>but this is a timely episode. It was originally released

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<v Speaker 2>last November when Ologies was just a tiny, maybe infant podcast,

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<v Speaker 2>so so many of you may have missed it and

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<v Speaker 2>I just listened to it and the refresher course on

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<v Speaker 2>this topic was helpful as hell, so it might be

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<v Speaker 2>worth your fifteen minutes. Maybe have a re listen. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>here we go. Allie warned, you're gonna record how many

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<v Speaker 2>sald Maybe people will like it, maybe they won't, so

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<v Speaker 2>what Okay, Hey, it's long weekend here in America and

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<v Speaker 2>y'all might be on trains or buying butter or talking

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<v Speaker 2>to your aunt. So I made you a short episode

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<v Speaker 2>so you can listen while hiding in the bathroom in

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<v Speaker 2>case you need some alone time. And also one fun

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<v Speaker 2>need a discount code, I'll say at the end of

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<v Speaker 2>this minisode, so that you have time right now to

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<v Speaker 2>find a crusty pen in your parents junk drawer. You

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<v Speaker 2>can write it on the back of a receipt for potatoes,

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<v Speaker 2>so stand by. You're gonna want the code. I'm just

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<v Speaker 2>gonna give it to you now. Also, it's black Fritology

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<v Speaker 2>b l A C K frid O l O G Y.

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<v Speaker 2>Got it great. I'll say it again at the end

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<v Speaker 2>of the episode. Okay, first the minisod, let's do some

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<v Speaker 2>free association. I'm going to say the word Thanksgiving. What

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<v Speaker 2>do you think of first Thanksgiving? You got it? Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I myself, I think of gravy. You say Thanksgiving, I

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<v Speaker 2>immediately conjure an image of a hot gravy dish that's

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<v Speaker 2>kind of growing skin by the moment. Maybe you thought

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<v Speaker 2>about layovers in a crowded airport or an itchy turtleneck.

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<v Speaker 2>I can tell you that one of the last things

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<v Speaker 2>I think about, to be honest, is gratitude. Because I

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<v Speaker 2>felt like a garbage this week, and I don't know

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<v Speaker 2>it's I don't know. Maybe I had the flu and

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<v Speaker 2>I've just been feeling like like if you took a

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<v Speaker 2>burlap sack and you sighed heavily into it, but it

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<v Speaker 2>had eyes and hair, that would be me. So I

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<v Speaker 2>was going to make a mini episode this week, just

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<v Speaker 2>a quickie about how cells recognize each other. But I

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<v Speaker 2>was in such a bad mood I googled is there

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<v Speaker 2>a Science of Gratitude? And an article written by a

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<v Speaker 2>husband and wife team of clinical psychologists, doctors Blair and

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<v Speaker 2>Rita Justice, popped up. It was called grateful Ology, and

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<v Speaker 2>I rolled my eyes so hard I think I sprained one.

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<v Speaker 2>Then I read on because clearly I was paying a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit. So this episode is a quickie about what

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<v Speaker 2>dumb holidays are supposed to be about, Thanksgiving and gratitude,

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<v Speaker 2>and why it's not just a thing that Oprah uses

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<v Speaker 2>to sell a blank journal. Sixteen years ago, I started

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<v Speaker 2>a gratitude journal, and I will have to say it

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<v Speaker 2>was the single most important thing I believe I've ever done.

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<v Speaker 2>But why. Neuroscientists say it's a good way to be

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<v Speaker 2>less annoyed, less unhappy, and overall live longer. If you're

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<v Speaker 2>into that kind of thing, just buckle up. I promise

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<v Speaker 2>you it's worth it. Just me and you chit chatting

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<v Speaker 2>privately about this. You don't even have to tell anyone

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<v Speaker 2>that you listen to this. Okay, So grateful Oology heavier.

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<v Speaker 3>Soon, very soon, very soon. So okay.

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<v Speaker 2>First off, the players, the main players in the science

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<v Speaker 2>of does being thankful for the life you have actually

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<v Speaker 2>make you happier are doctor Blair Justice, professor of psychology

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<v Speaker 2>at the University of Texas School of Public Health, and

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<v Speaker 2>read a Justice who is a psychologist in Houston. So

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<v Speaker 2>they wrote this article called grateful Ology. It's like ten

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<v Speaker 2>years old, so I googled to make sure that they

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<v Speaker 2>haven't been arrested or divorced or appointed a cabinet position

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<v Speaker 2>in the White House. And sadly, doctor Blair Justice has

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<v Speaker 2>since passed away. But he and Rita were married over

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<v Speaker 2>forty years and that's amazing and adorable. So they were

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<v Speaker 2>doing something right when together. They were huge advocates for

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<v Speaker 2>gratitude in general, and they also study the effects of

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<v Speaker 2>mood and emotional wellbeing on physical wellbeing. There wrote books

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<v Speaker 2>on it. Now. Other players in the scientific field of

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<v Speaker 2>appreciating your shit are doctor Robert Emmons, he goes by

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<v Speaker 2>Bob Hi of the University of California Davis. He wrote

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<v Speaker 2>a book called Thanks, How Practicing Gratitude can make You Happier.

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<v Speaker 2>And doctor Michael mcculloff of the University of Miami. And

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<v Speaker 2>together these two doctors just did a dumb truck or

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<v Speaker 2>their research, and I mean that in a good way

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<v Speaker 2>about how taking stock of the good stuff can help

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<v Speaker 2>you be less miserable. Doctor mcculloff and doctor Emmons did

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<v Speaker 2>one study that had three sets of participants. Those who

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<v Speaker 2>were asked to write down weekly the things they were

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<v Speaker 2>grateful for, or compose a letter of thanks to a person.

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<v Speaker 2>They don't have to send it. They could eat it

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<v Speaker 2>didn't matter. Another group wrote down their hassles of the week,

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<v Speaker 2>and then another just jotted down neutral events. They found

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<v Speaker 2>that those who kept gratitude journals on a weekly basis

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<v Speaker 2>exercise more regularly, which is super weird. They reported fewer

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<v Speaker 2>physical ailments, they felt better about their lives as a whole,

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<v Speaker 2>like twenty five percent happier, which is yeah, and they

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<v Speaker 2>were more optimistic about the upcoming week compared to those

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<v Speaker 2>who recorded hassles or neutral life events. Now, participants who

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<v Speaker 2>kept gratitude lists were more likely to have made progress

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<v Speaker 2>toward important goals over a two month period compared to

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<v Speaker 2>the other subjects. So, how how does it do this?

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<v Speaker 2>How does saying I'm really I really like mustard or

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<v Speaker 2>this is flower snows gay like? How does this? How

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<v Speaker 2>does this help keep you healthy? How does it help

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<v Speaker 2>you reach your goals? What's the deal? Well? According to

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<v Speaker 2>UCLA neuroscience researcher doctor Alex Korb, the benefits of gratitude

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<v Speaker 2>start with the dopamine system, and he says, feeling grateful

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<v Speaker 2>activates the brain stem region that produces dopamine. He also

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<v Speaker 2>says that gratitude can boost serotonin, and trying to think

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<v Speaker 2>of things you're grateful for makes you focus on positive

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<v Speaker 2>aspects of your life and that increases serotonin production in

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<v Speaker 2>the anterior singulate cortex, which is something that is bobbing

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<v Speaker 2>around in your skull. He also said that it's not

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<v Speaker 2>finding gratitude that matters most, it's remembering to look. So

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<v Speaker 2>it's just remembering to look that's important. So even if

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<v Speaker 2>you're like, what's something I'm grateful for and then there's

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<v Speaker 2>just like a long pause and then you say, horseshit, nothing,

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<v Speaker 2>that's still better than not thinking. Isn't that great? They say?

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<v Speaker 2>Just looking for things to be grateful for found that

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<v Speaker 2>it actually affected neuron density in certain parts of the brain,

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<v Speaker 2>and it suggests that as emotional intelligence increases, the neurons

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<v Speaker 2>become more efficient. So with higher emotional intelligence, it takes

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<v Speaker 2>less effort to be grateful and it has some lasting effects.

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<v Speaker 2>How much of all of this is weird fringe research,

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<v Speaker 2>It's actually not like UC Berkeley has a whole arm

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<v Speaker 2>dedicated to positive psychology. It's called the Greater Goods Science

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<v Speaker 2>Center at Berkeley, and they have also found that people

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<v Speaker 2>who practice gratitude consistently have stronger immune systems, less depression,

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<v Speaker 2>more joy, optimism, happiness, they have better relationships, and they

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<v Speaker 2>have less feelings of isolation or loneliness. So they gave

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<v Speaker 2>out three million dollars in research grants a few years

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<v Speaker 2>ago on the topic, and there were fourteen winners, and

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<v Speaker 2>they went on to use that money to study. Here

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<v Speaker 2>are some of the papers that they published, Cultivating Gratitude

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<v Speaker 2>and a Consumerist Society, the impact of gratitude on biology

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<v Speaker 2>and behavior in persons with heart disease, a model of

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<v Speaker 2>bullying based on gratitude and its effects on social bonds,

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<v Speaker 2>and even friend a Wall noted primatologists used some research

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<v Speaker 2>money and studied gratitude and partner preference in chimpanzee cooperation.

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<v Speaker 2>So people are working on it. People are like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>there's something to this. You got to force yourself to

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<v Speaker 2>look on the bright side. Now. Doctor Emmons, we talked

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<v Speaker 2>about him before, says that the choice of gratitude doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>come without effort. You got to put some effort. But

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<v Speaker 2>each time we make the effort, it does get easier

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<v Speaker 2>because remember we're making those neural highways more efficient. He

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<v Speaker 2>also says there's two types of gratitude. There's relational and conditional,

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<v Speaker 2>and relational is focused on the giver and conditional on

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<v Speaker 2>the gift, and relational is more potent. So, hey, thanks

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<v Speaker 2>for being so thoughtful for the thing you did is

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<v Speaker 2>more important than thank you for this bag of bees

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<v Speaker 2>that you gave me, assuming that you liked bees. I myself,

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<v Speaker 2>if you gave me a bag of bees, I'd be like, whoo.

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<v Speaker 2>That might not be you anyway, but you know what

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<v Speaker 2>I'm saying. So I was researching this episode and writing today,

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<v Speaker 2>and I wish I ha thought of the topic sooner,

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<v Speaker 2>and I wish I had an interview for you. But

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<v Speaker 2>I did the next best thing, and I gently stock

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<v Speaker 2>doctor mmns on Twitter and I lobbed a question at him.

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<v Speaker 2>He doesn't know who I am, so what? And I said, Hey,

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<v Speaker 2>this must be the busiest time of year for you,

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<v Speaker 2>but how can people stay grateful with the deluge of

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<v Speaker 2>tough news lately? And he he tweeted me back. I

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<v Speaker 2>felt it was so exciting. I felt like Bett Middler

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<v Speaker 2>saying hello or something. Oh, he said, gratitude is undentable,

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<v Speaker 2>joy time's good, Celebrate time's tough, find the opportunity. It's

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<v Speaker 2>an attitude. It's not based on circumstances. So snap, okay.

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<v Speaker 2>So he was like, even though things are garbage, it's

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<v Speaker 2>very important to look for things to be appreciative of.

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<v Speaker 2>Stay aware as you need to be, be as active

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<v Speaker 2>in the community as you need to be. Resist what

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<v Speaker 2>you need to, but make time to appreciate the good.

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<v Speaker 2>This is like doctor's orders. It will make you a

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<v Speaker 2>better fighter of wrong. So how do you do this?

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<v Speaker 2>Nart in his book Thanks Doctor Emmon suggests keeping a

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<v Speaker 2>gratitude journal daily and you can record in writing what

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<v Speaker 2>you're grateful for. One time, it was just two squirrels

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<v Speaker 2>eat and I said, I better write that down. Come

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<v Speaker 2>to your set is so count bodily related things like

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<v Speaker 2>being able to see here, walk, eat, breathe, listen to podcasts.

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<v Speaker 2>Use visual reminders like pictures of loved ones or scenes

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<v Speaker 2>of nature, and think outside the box. So think of

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<v Speaker 2>the non obvious things to be grateful for, like the

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<v Speaker 2>fact that aliens haven't come down on our planet yet,

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<v Speaker 2>or maybe they have and you're thankful for them. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know. There's also this site called thanks for dot

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<v Speaker 2>org and it's t h n x four dot org.

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<v Speaker 2>It's the opposite of Twitter. You can just sign up

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<v Speaker 2>and have a twenty day challenge and just post and

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<v Speaker 2>write things that you're thankful for. You open it up

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<v Speaker 2>and just see what everyone's thankful for, and it's it,

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<v Speaker 2>honestly is It's like a weird Seinfeld.

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<v Speaker 3>Jerry George Kramer.

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<v Speaker 1>This is Kevin gene and Feld him.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like the intro to the opposite sketches. So you

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<v Speaker 2>You can open your own secret private Twitter account and

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<v Speaker 2>have it be locked and not tell anyone that you

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<v Speaker 2>have it, and then whenever you want to scroll on

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<v Speaker 2>depressing stuff, you just hop over to your secret private

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<v Speaker 2>Twitter and just toss out a bunch of tweets listing

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<v Speaker 2>what you're grateful for. No one has to know about it.

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<v Speaker 2>You look like you're scrolling, but really you're just tweeting

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<v Speaker 2>things that you're like, Eh, pretzels are pretty good, and

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<v Speaker 2>then later you can scroll through them for like an

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<v Speaker 2>instant mood boost. But apparently try and find a couple

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<v Speaker 2>things today that you're like thumbs up and about so

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<v Speaker 2>happy started the holidays. If you're having a tough time, No,

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<v Speaker 2>you're not alone. It's kind of a weird time of

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<v Speaker 2>year for a lot of people. It's a weird year

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<v Speaker 2>for a lot of people. It's weird. And just know

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<v Speaker 2>the list of what's good might bring you almost as

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<v Speaker 2>much joy as a lackey. It might change your life

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<v Speaker 2>even more than a nosehair trimmer and you're stalking. Oh,

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<v Speaker 2>speaking of gifts, if you're looking to do any shopping again,

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<v Speaker 2>Black fried Oology on ologiesmerch dot com. That's the code.

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<v Speaker 2>I told you, I'd tell you at the end B

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<v Speaker 2>I told you, i'd tell you. I hope you got

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<v Speaker 2>a pen. Thanks to Shannon Feltis aka Urban Farm Foods

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<v Speaker 2>on Etsy and Amazing Artist for helping me with merch.

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<v Speaker 2>Thanks to Hannah Lippo and Aaron Talbert for being awesome

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<v Speaker 2>friends and running the Facebook group, and my parents and

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<v Speaker 2>sisters for listening and pretending that the swear words don't

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<v Speaker 2>bother them. So go ask smart people dumb questions, maybe

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<v Speaker 2>even via Twitter, because it's the only way to learn.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm on Instagram and Twitter as Ali Ward and ologies

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<v Speaker 2>on Instagram, ologies pot on Twitter. So go, I don't know,

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<v Speaker 2>down on a gravy stained paper napkin. Just look for

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<v Speaker 2>things that are good. It will change your brain. All right,

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<v Speaker 2>you got this? Okay? Hi, Okay, this was before I

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<v Speaker 2>recorded Secrets at the Ends. Also, it was before I

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<v Speaker 2>had Stephen Ray Morris helping me do all the edits,

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm grateful for him so much. Also, okay, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to give you for my secret at the end.

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<v Speaker 2>Five things I'm thankful for pine incense, frozen berries, dusk

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<v Speaker 2>and or dawn. When one of my sisters remembers a

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<v Speaker 2>movie line from like decades ago that I totally forgot

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<v Speaker 2>about and it kills me dead laughing. And when I

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<v Speaker 2>hear my parents in another room and they're still giggling

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<v Speaker 2>at each other's jokes after like fifty years of marriage,

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<v Speaker 2>which is cute as hell. Also ice craffee okay, bayebye, pacadermatology, hombiology,

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<v Speaker 2>ydo zoology, lithology, technology, meteorology, paratology, anthology, seriology, seminology, listen

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<v Speaker 2>to yourselves. All you can do is complain about what

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<v Speaker 2>you don't have. What about being thankful for all the

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<v Speaker 2>things you do have?

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