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all right, are dear to see a voicemail number one?
Why be my boyfriend? If you still want other girls?
Speaker 2: M dear to see you.
Speaker 3: I've been seeing this guy for about ten months now.
We started talking in February and he asked me to
be his girlfriend about two three months ago. Hey, we've
been making memories. We introduced each other to our families,
going out to eat. I recently had access to its
fault and I seen messages between him and his friends
in the group chat, and he's basically living a double life.
He's asking friends for other girls instagrams. He telling his
friends he loved me, but then he's also asking them, Hey,
that girl that was at the party, Like I like her,
What's what's her number? What's her this? And like, I've
seen all of this and it broke my heart deeply,
and I just wanted to know why do men do
all of these things? Ask you to be their girlfriend,
introduce you to their family, take you out on dates,
and still do single stuff. I'm just I'm just so
confused her and I would love your advice.
Speaker 1: So a couple of things for me. I love to
stay out the wide weeds, Okay, I like to stay
out of the weeds of the wise, because when you
so focus on why did he do this, why do
he cheat on me? Why is he then you keep
you it's a distraction from what actually is. And the
truth of the matter is that he want to be outside.
He wants to be free. He doesn't seem to be
settled with himself. It could be a lot of things
that's going on with him. It could be insecurities, it
could be old traumas. It could be that's just the
way that he feels secure in life. Maybe he's just
in the fund say all the fucking wise that I
just name ain't got shit to do with you, baby, Okay,
the man don't want to The man don't want to
be kept all right, And so I personally like to
stay out of the wywi's. I think that it's actually
emotionally draining and it will take you so many different places.
Right The why will be like, well what about this?
And what about this? Well if he did this, and
I think it's just it makes a spiral. So I
like to think about the things that I can control.
Quite frankly, just baseline, he probably just isn't ready for
a commitment. It has nothing to do with you. I know.
It's very hard not to attach that to feelings or
like feel some kind of way about that, because, like
you said, he is your boyfriend, and so why would
you want other girls? But I think that some people
are just in different periods of their life. Some people
don't have the same idea of attachment or being in
a relationship. They just really truly don't have the same
ideas of that. And it just sounds like he's a
loose goose. Sounds like he's a little goose for the streets.
And I mean, I think that there's a time and
a place for that, but you can't be in a
relationship and doing those things. My advice is really just
to not to internalize that. What are you thinking?
Speaker 4: Well, again, like you said about the why, I find
when we start asking why, we tend to internalize it
and think something is wrong with us when it has
absolutely nothing to do with us. He outside on the
streets because that's where he wants to be. But also
it is easier to pretend to be committed to someone
than it is to actually live it. So, like you said,
he's living a double life. You don't even need to
know the why he's not living up to what you
want him to be, what you want your relationship to be.
That is your cue to just go. You don't need
to know the why. You know the type of woman
that you are, and that is what matters.
Speaker 1: What I think is interesting. She said that she's been
dating Heim for ten months. Everything look picture perfect, family introductions, dates, memories,
and he asks her to be his girlfriend. Two or
three months ago she saw the group chat, and then
that's when things start to get shaky. Why do some
men act committed but still move like they're single. I
think that that's a particular category of guy. And I
don't think she said how old she was, but I
think that to your point, it's you know when some
women asks me like, why do men they act like
they're so attracted to you and excited to be with you,
and then when they get with you, they try to
like humble you. Right, it was almost like this, and
I'm like, well, what they say, a phantom look like
a rose Wars is to a rose orce pull up.
It's admirable until you have to maintain it. It's admirable
away from you until it's sten close enough proximity to you,
and you have to maintain it until you're a point
the relationship sound good. It's actually easy to perform until
you really have to do it and be in it.
Because seeing your family or meeting your family in Dayta
and all that stuff, that's a you know. Look, I was,
that's a magical monthly moment. Okay, you can do that.
You got a Thanksgiving, it's a couple of holidays. You
can do a day night once a week or whatever.
But that's how kind of commitment is in the heart.
Maybe it's not outside, it's not in the mind, it's
not on your body. It is in the heart. And
when you want to really settle down and commit to somebody,
that takes a lot more effort because you want somebody
that's gonna respect you and actually be in relationship with
you when nobody's watching, and that when you're nowhere around
all right, And that is actually, specifically for men, a
lot harder.
Speaker 2: Like I said, it's harder to live it.
Speaker 4: It's yes, sometimes they look at it and they think
it's sugar and they get a taste of it and
it's salked.
Speaker 1: Yeah, hello, hello. And that's why that group chat is
he literally living.
Speaker 4: A whole different life. And the reality is he was
already living this life. You just had something in your
discernment whatever, in your stomach, and you decided to look.
Speaker 2: Something told you to look, because why were you inquiring
about it anyway?
Speaker 4: Yeah, so you already knew you just chose not to
listen to yourself to.
Speaker 1: The Another question is can a man love you and
still actively seek attention from others? I wish one that
we can really talk about this, like I want you
to know like to me, like love is just so fickle.
And I think that this is one of my most
controversial opinions when women like, but I love him to me,
it's just like so like love it is just so fickle.
And I don't think it has the depth that we
make it that we give to it. Because can a
man love you and seek attention from others? Absolutely, love
is not gonna make him exempt from cheating. It's not
gonna make him exempt from lying to you, from betrayal,
from looking at other women from like. That is a
layer to it, but it takes a whole bunch of
other things that actually evolve character, Okay, integrity, accountability, morals
and ethics, right, those are the things that actually matter
and love and gonna do it. You can literally love
someone and cheap, you can love someone and lie like
that is just a god honest truth. And I wish
we would stop putting so much on so much weight
on love. Love again, I would talk about I'd rather
you be in life with me than in love. So
I think that why your original question basically was like
why is he doing those kind of things? I think
it's just really just a self It's a self internal thing.
He may still be having fun, he may get validation
from those things. Even if you feel like you're validating him.
It's nothing more that you can do from somebody who
still wants to seek attention elsewhere. And so that's an
internal job and really is you could just be a
timing thing. Like I've seen men who'll been out here
in the streets in six months later a whole switch
go off. They like, I'm not really doing it no more.
I don't drink alcohol. I'm not really out here like that.
I just want they not It's a switch. And so
don't tie yourself to where he is now. Baby, that's
a personal problem for him. So don't be in the
weeds of the wives. Okay, AnyWho on to our voicemail
number two, dear to see it. His girlfriend abused my son.
Now he wants to co parent to see him.
Speaker 5: My baby father now wants to come in my seven
year old's life after two years he has not seen
my son or talked to him in two years. His
new girlfriend has done nothing but live, threaten, harassed, and
has mocked me on Instagram, down to the point where
she's dressing like me and doing her hair exactly like me.
She has overstepped boundaries so many times because he allows her.
She has also put her hands on my son before.
What do you think I should do? I think coleparenting
is impossible. She has shown so much hatred towards me
that I don't feel like my son would ever be
safe around her. It's definitely a cause for concern. I
do not feel as though my son will be safe
around his new girlfriend after a lot of things that
she has done.
Speaker 1: And as I said on the last episode, sometimes I
actually know why I'm not a parent because I will
be in jail. I'm not fit for a split household.
I'm not split. I'm not fit to pole parent and
split my child up. Will I will be a sister wife?
Were all going to be in this house? Okay I
always say that, but this is my thing. When you
go out of somebody's life, you leave a child's life
for two years. When you come back, you on my
fucking terms, okay, because you've been absent and this is
not just me trying to control you or me trying
to manipulate and play pond and puppeteer you right. This
is your girlfriend that you are still with has abuse
my son. So now, baby, we're gonna take it to
the courts. If you want to see your son, we're
gonna take it to the court, and we're gonna make
this shit legal, and we're gonna make it actually black
and white. Baby, since you still want to be with
somebody who is one immature two is interrupting your co
parents in life and also probably could be the reason
why you haven't seen your child in two years or
right now when you want to come back, and it's
called take it to the courts, it's called mediator, okay.
And what they call it shared visits or supervise visits,
supervised business. It's called supervised business. And then when you
maybe work your way up until we have built trust
that but you can't come back and tell me what
you're gonna do after you've been gone and you're with
a partner who does not create safety for my child.
I will protect my child to the end of the
day baby, Okay to today I die. I'm not going
to put my child in that type of predicament because
you want to come back and be dad today. Now
you have to earn that. Now, my child doesn't know you,
my child doesn't trust you, And just because you have
you the other half of their DNA does not mean
that I'm gonna just relinquish my child to you. There's
a children deserve to feel safe, they deserve to feel protected,
and that's something that you and I are gonna have
to work on under the guise of the law. Okay,
period point of be like, don't send your kid over there,
don't send that baby over there you don't know. And
honestly too, a lot of the women, and we've seen
a lot of din call in the media, these step bombas, babysitters, nannies,
childcare workers. Them kids are going home, they're going in
their care and they're not coming home. Okay, I watch
way too much true crimes to be playing around with
a grown adote. Okay, a lot of women, and it's
always the women for some reason. I feel like a
lot of that emotion and that spite women will take
it real far for men and when they can't get
to you.
Speaker 2: They gonna get toss.
Speaker 1: They gonna get to the next best thing that you
care about. And you have to be really careful about
spiteful people. And I think her behavior is very harmful
and this shows that she is destructive. So she will
try to destruct and I don't know what to what
end she'll go. I ain't sending my baby over there.
Don't send your baby over there. Are called the courts,
supervised visits. Period m boy smell number three. He won't
acknowledge me in public.
Speaker 2: There to see.
Speaker 6: Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year
and a half. We are in our thirties, and we
are currently on a break. I recently decided for us
to go on a break due to me becoming frustrated
with our relationship because of lack of acknowledgment. I feel
like he doesn't love me out loud, and it's starting
to make me feel like I don't matter. He says
the reason is because he's not used to being in
a relationship and that he's a private person.
Speaker 2: He's a scorpio.
Speaker 6: I'm a tourist, I'm.
Speaker 2: An open book.
Speaker 6: So yeah, I don't get so over the summer We
ran into some girls he knew at an event and
they introduced themselves and they was waiting on him to
introduce me, and he couldn't. He froze up and he
couldn't even get out that I was his girlfriend, or
couldn't even get my name out. It was an embarrassing moment. Recently,
he's been going through a lot. His mom has passed,
so I've been trying to help him through what he's
going through. Been kind of suppressed on my feelings that
I have stuff we was working on to be there
for him. At his mother's funeral, his job came in
to support him. It's people out here about on a
daily basis. So he goes to introduce his daughter, who
is right next to me, without introducing me to them,
like just acting like I wasn't even there. At three
pass that day, a few of his cousins came up
and he introduced his daughter that was at the table,
and he did not introduce me or acknowledge me as
his girlfriend. These are things that we have been going
through throughout our relationship. And like I said, he says,
he's a private person. He started therapy.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: You said you were on a break, stay on the
break and don't go back, okay, because there's a difference
between tact and having couth and a certain type of
decorum and cadence that you have with somebody and blatant
fucking disrespect like exactly you could have Like I'm a
human and I have a name. Even if your justification
is you don't feel comfortable you you're a private person. Hi,
this is to see you. They don't know if I'm
your cousin, your sister, your whomever. There's a difference between
being a private person and secrecy number one. Okay, privacy
and secrecy is two different things. And also I think
I would pay a lot of attention to his actual
neurological response. She said that Nigga choked up couldn't even
gear her name out. What you're so scared of? It's
something right about that? Is it something that you know?
Somebody around us? I want them to know. Are you
actually with somebody else? And you can't even tell the
people that you like what is really kind of going on?
And I think that that is a huge red flag
because I'm gonna tell you this, I have been around
men that I'm dating full out data and then yeah,
we probably haven't quite really announced it, but it's just
psychiatasist to see it. This man act like you cast
but a friendly ghost. He's skipping over you like he on. Okay,
you have to have a certain level of respect, and
I'm telling you it's so important how you handle these
I handle these situations. I hope that you started pulling back.
I hope that you start subtracting access because that's the
only way that people learn. And these men know that
they can't fucking play with you. Okay, that just to
me is just like blating disrespect.
Speaker 2: I think it's beyond disrespect honestly for me.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's almost like he likes what she's doing for
him privately, so he want to hold on to her,
but he hiding something else where it won't go public.
You can't remember my name, right, You don't got to
say this is my girlfriend Nicole, but you can say
this is no Cole. This the fact you don't want
people to even know my name.
Speaker 2: What are you hiding?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 1: What are you hiding? And I just feel like men
show off all the things that they proud of. Okay,
you you go on a date nap that man gonna
have his car, he gonna have a job he got,
he gonna have his fucking dog if he got a dog. Okay,
he gonna have, you know, everything that he's proud of.
A family, a boat that he got, a car, a vehicle,
a job, a dog, a child, Okay, every the men
are going to show what they're proud of. So why
is he ignoring you in this way and not really
acknowledging you to me? Even if he has you in
that space the ultimate level of respect, like just having
you there is not enough, especially if he gonna skip
over you and demean you, like, no way, no way
that man would have to go on a public announcementor
fucking with me rally all the people call them all
in there. You get up there and tell them who
I am. Okay, And now, honestly, I don't even have
the energy for that. I'm too d I'm old. I
don't even have the energy for all of that. I
feel like I feel like there's something that there's something
quite right. Can love thrive in silence or does public
validation matter?
Speaker 4: That's tricky because it's going back to love, because I've
seen love where it is silent. Yeah, and it doesn't
require the validation, and it works for those couples. Yes,
but I think a lot of people look at relationships
and the first thing they focus on is love. Do
you have the respect? Do you have integrity? Do you
have vulnerability with each other? Some things don't need to
be spoken out loud. But again, there's a difference between
being private and being secret. I don't think you need
public validation. If you do, that's something within you.
Speaker 1: And also too, my thing is if I'm out with you,
even if you didn't say them, people could see that
we together. Okay. There's a certain way that a man
carries an acts around his woman. You ain't gotta say much,
but you when it comes to me going to the bathroom,
You checking to see if I'm hungry, You wanted to
refiel my drink, You making sure I ate. There is
a certain way that a man is gonna cater to
his woman when he's in public. Not skipping over you
and can't even remember your name. Child, No, ma'am, you
own a break with them. Stay on the break, and
I mean that, stay on the break, good riddance. Tell
him to come back when he's ot therapy and also
before we move on to the next thing. I know
this sounds so crazy, but I feel like I can
say this because both of my parents are deceased. I
see so many women that are now dealing with men
who are experiencing grief and going through something, and the
first thing is always like, my mom died, somebody died,
like you know, and these men completely turned to the
opposite way. And I personally feel like that I know
that at this moment, I'm not the center of attention.
I'm not the one that I'm not everything that you're
thinking about, you know. And I don't want this to
sound selfish, but I even think that a man experiencing
grief that if he messages with you the right way,
there's a certain kind of way he's gonna handle you.
I'm coaching women who they're like, oh, these men shut down,
ain't talk to him for two, three, four months, And
I'm just like, ah, Babby, that's a little bit more
than my mama died. And I know that, oh my mom,
he's going through so much, his father passed away, and
he's just and I'm just like a man that looks
at you in the long term, he's gonna have you
as his side. Okay, he's gonna have you in his peripheral.
He's gonna really make sure that you, you know, are
a support. He's gonna position you to be a And
yes it may not be the same. Yes, he may
be a little bit more reserved. Yes he may be
pulling back a little bit. But you ain't talk to
him in two months because his mama died. Nah nah nah.
And I know that that sounds crazy, like the parent
is a big thing, but I don't think it does. Yeah,
like somebody that's that's a I know there's grief is
not linear and it's not a certain it's not monogamous, right, Like,
it's not just one kind of way. But that is
a very weird behavior for somebody to ghost you for
weeks and not talking to you, installing you out because
they lost a parent. I think that's one of the
ultimate tests in a big form of communication, intimacy and connection,
when you're experiencing grief like that and you pull me
into you, position me where you need me to be.
A man goes see you out the two months because
his mama died. I'm sorry, something right about it.
Speaker 4: You wouldn't you wouldn't have told me and to begin
in about your mom dying. If he was gonna go
to me two months you've already well it may be true,
but you're just laying out that story for me and
you're playing on my emotions when this is where the
mind knows what the heart is prepared for. You have
to ensure that you yourself have emotional safety before you're trying
to secure somebody else's emotional safety.
Speaker 1: Yeah, leave them, leave them in silence, Leave them and
leave them in silence, y'all. You you you on a break,
Stay on the break. Now to our bitch you Smell
Good segments, And we didn't get to do this well
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Nicole is also one of my fragrance booths. We always
talking about fragrances, and I felt like, you know, I
saved these ones for kind of for this, for these
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feel like Nicole can kind of get with them. Anyways,
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Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: What's your think?
Speaker 5: Well?
Speaker 4: I like this, you know, it's interesting, you know, I
always tell you like, I used to not be a
big fan of vanilla since but I realized a lot
of the unisex ones that have vanilla in.
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y'all know.
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black boat seeing and I was at We're at the
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the fragrance. It was so good. Anyways, I love this fragrance.
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up before you leave? Okay? Our red Flag report nano ships,
cute vibes or hidden red flags. There's a new dating
trend rising heading into twenty twenty six, and according to
tenders Year and Slight Report, it's one of the biggest
cultural shifts in how gen Z and millennials are approaching love.
It's called the nanoship.
Speaker 2: I remember.
Speaker 1: A nanoship is a tiny, low pressure connection more than
a situationship, less than a relationship.
Speaker 3: See this ya.
Speaker 1: Look, More than a situationship, less than a relationship built
for the moment, not the long term. Think flirty vibes,
consistent texting, hanging out, sharing playlists, self affection, but no plans,
no progression, and definitely no commitment. Tender Data says more
singles are choosing these micro connections because they feel easier, lighter,
less stressful, more flexible, and align with people who want
to enjoy the moment. On the surface, it sounds adorable,
a tiny love story, a romantic pit stop, a safe,
temporary emotional cuddle. But underneath it can also reveal something
deep because when you zoom out, nano ships are becoming
a pattern, especially among people who want companionship but fear commitment,
enjoy emotional closeness but avoid emotional responsibility, want connection without accountability,
benefit from the intimacy without offering structure, and that's where
the red flags start showing. Dating exports experts warn that
nano ships can become a comfortable holding pattern, a place
where people linger because it feels nice, not because it
builds anything. It can also create a cycle where you
pour time, emotions, and energy into someone who never intended
to move beyond the micro stage. And nano ship can
feel like romance, but it can also be emotional procrastination.
If you keep attaching yourself to tiny love stories with
no future, is that your dating style or a red
flag that you're settling for emotional crumbs because you're scared
of the full meal. Let me say this, I think
that this could very much work for gen oh they
said gen Z and millennials. Let me say this. The
millennials ain't in this shit. I say that today, baby,
the millennials were not in this ship. We did not agree.
We do not know what this is. We're not in this, Okay,
we are, We're not a part of this. I definitely
can see how this is a gen Z thing, though
very temporary, not a lot of structure. Loosey goosey, okay,
flighty right. I think millennials we are actually tired of
the nano ship situationships and we want something more. I
think we are yearning for deeper connection. Let me just
say this. We already in the AI world. We already
in AI and chat GPT. Can we not AI a
relationship and chat GPT? Like I think we are getting
away from human connection. We're getting away from substantial ways
of actually getting to know someone. And I just think
that we're losing like foundation in this world. I don't
want to nano ship with you, okay. And that's honestly,
it sounds like a real relationship to me.
Speaker 4: Like I said, it's settling, and it's on brand for
Generation Z because unlike us, like you know, back in
the day, guys had to come up to us ask
for our number in the club or we dance.
Speaker 2: They had to speak to us. You can't send a DM.
You couldn't even text us.
Speaker 4: You got lucky we had pagers, and I still had
to go find a pay phone to call the number back.
So it is very on brand from gen Z because
they do lack and their social skills when it comes
to interacting with other human beings, whether it's platonic relationships
or if it's intimate relationships. So it is very on
brand for them because they lack those skills.
Speaker 1: Yeah, think so too. And I think though as well
as that, I cannot wait till the research comes out
about this as a researcher, Like I'm a researcher by trade,
I cannot wait til the research comes out so we
can see what the long terms effects have been of
chat gpt AI. Also just simple things like fucking air
fryers and all of that, Like just simple microwave quick
fix like I think we have, like we we're losing
our way. I'm a very traditional kind of old school
person and literally I was in a car with my
homeword the other day and she was like, look at
this girl thing she looked. She was telling me to
look at her page. She said she uses chat GPT
for everything, and she's reading off the screen. And so
then she further tells me that how you know is
chad GPT if there is they It was like she
was telling me how I would know, like queues of
chet GPT, and I was like, you must use She
was like, girl, yeah, I use. I had to download
it on my phone because it was not something that
I had commonly commonly used, you know. And so I
just think we are getting away. These kids don't know
how to write in cursives, can't write an email, They
can't read, look, can't read and write, can't problem solved,
cannot It's just a weird thing. I'm the millennials. We
do not concur we do not agree to this. We
are not into any Daniel. We've been now. That's why
we where we're at now. We've been now, no shipping
this whole time from all the emotionally unavailable men. That's
just not going to fucking therapy.
Speaker 2: A new name on the situationship is what they did exactly.
Speaker 1: It ain't a relationship but in a situation. But so
it's in the middle.
Speaker 2: No, it's a situation.
Speaker 1: That's a situationship, situationship. But I think if that can
be damaging, where you are connecting mediocrely and it's nothing
materializing out of that, I think what we are losing
sight of is that even failed relationships, when you go
through infidelity, when somebody's cheating on you, when you go
through actually a great relationship that teaches you something about life.
It develops character, interpersonal skills, right, communication skills. So if
you don't actually get to the point where you have
to commit, how are you gonna develop those skills? You
have to actually be in relationship with somebody. And so
if you have a lack of accountability and you don't
actually have to uphold the relationship because it's not a
real relationship, I think you're losing out on major, major
skills that you need for life.
Speaker 2: It's avoidance.
Speaker 4: And honestly, they're losing it on who they are because
it sounds like they're just too scared to say what
they really want or they're afraid that they won't get it.
Speaker 1: Hm hmm. If you're scared of our church, are you
cause you're not gonna get the relationship. That's also like
a really big thing. People like you said, commitment issues
instead of going full throttle for what they get a rejection.
They're scared of getting hurt, and they claim that they
don't they're not looking for a relationship. I got a
couple homegirls in this category. I ain't gonna say no names.
I got a couple of homegirls that I know in
this category, child, And I was like, well, I'm not
looking for yes, you do, bitch, you want a man.
You want a man. You just looked Tyrone and Tyreek
then blew your back out and hurt your feelings and
broke your heart. And now you don't want to actually
proclaim that you won't love, all right, And so I'm proclaiming,
and I've been proclaimed proclaiming for a very long time.
If anybody want to come rescue me out these streets,
please let me know, Please call in. Okay, we need
to open up the holland R. That's a good idea.
We need to open up the hotline for anybody that
wants Okay, everybody's looking for love, all right, And you
got enough balls to call my damn hotline. Stay child name.
I hope you got a nice voice. The voice just
do something to me? Why anyways, that's all folks, see
you next time, m hm.