WEBVTT 1 00:00:03.439 --> 00:00:06.879 Welcome to the Parenting Roundabout podcast. I'm Terry Morrow and 2 00:00:06.919 --> 00:00:10.800 I'm Catherine Hileco. As parents and parenting writers, we can't 3 00:00:10.839 --> 00:00:13.839 help but see everything through a parenting lens. But as 4 00:00:13.880 --> 00:00:17.079 our kids have become adults, we find ourselves more interested 5 00:00:17.079 --> 00:00:19.320 in getting caught up on movies and streaming than I'm 6 00:00:19.359 --> 00:00:22.760 going over the same parenting topics over and over. 7 00:00:23.280 --> 00:00:26.879 So since we're pretty sure we can find parenting wisdom anywhere, 8 00:00:27.239 --> 00:00:29.559 we're going to talk about what we're watching, what we 9 00:00:29.600 --> 00:00:32.200 thought about it, and maybe what we can learn from it, 10 00:00:32.439 --> 00:00:35.759 if only what not to do. Watch and listen along, 11 00:00:35.799 --> 00:00:38.359 and let's all make like we're doing something important for 12 00:00:38.479 --> 00:00:41.960 our families. Each Wednesday we bring you our thoughts on 13 00:00:42.039 --> 00:00:45.439 a newer entertainment property, and for this week of August eleventh, 14 00:00:45.439 --> 00:00:50.880 we're continuing with The Gilded Age, Season three, Episode four, 15 00:00:50.920 --> 00:00:56.920 Marriage is a gambleh. As we said this followed on 16 00:00:57.320 --> 00:01:02.960 love is Never easy last week, and it's not especially 17 00:01:03.200 --> 00:01:09.000 love and marriage are a struggle for yes, everyone involved. 18 00:01:08.560 --> 00:01:14.200 In a romantic comedy. No I did did like for perspective, 19 00:01:14.400 --> 00:01:16.799 and I suppose this is a parenting tip in some way. 20 00:01:17.480 --> 00:01:21.040 Uh Marian pointing out that their friend who married for 21 00:01:21.159 --> 00:01:25.400 love it didn't work out, and her friend who their 22 00:01:25.439 --> 00:01:29.799 friends who married as a business transaction are doing quite well. 23 00:01:30.239 --> 00:01:33.599 So you can't ever say, I mean, certainly, I think 24 00:01:33.640 --> 00:01:36.040 we think the person Gladys was in love with would 25 00:01:36.040 --> 00:01:40.280 not have lasted very well, right, And so sometimes, you 26 00:01:40.319 --> 00:01:42.079 know what, you just got to. 27 00:01:42.040 --> 00:01:45.760 Go along with it, even though you don't want to 28 00:01:45.840 --> 00:01:48.920 because you don't want to show your mother that you 29 00:01:49.239 --> 00:01:49.959 are That's true. 30 00:01:50.200 --> 00:01:54.519 Oh, there was very much that element, isn't there. Don't 31 00:01:54.680 --> 00:02:00.159 want to give her the satisfaction, but you know, needther 32 00:02:00.200 --> 00:02:02.319 you nor your father can figure out anything else to 33 00:02:02.359 --> 00:02:02.879 do so. 34 00:02:03.280 --> 00:02:06.799 Right, so it's kind of game over for Gladys, even 35 00:02:06.840 --> 00:02:10.039 though she takes to her room for an indeterminate amount 36 00:02:10.080 --> 00:02:13.560 of time that might have been a few weeks unclear. 37 00:02:16.240 --> 00:02:19.840 In the you know, they make it certainly a cliffhanger 38 00:02:19.960 --> 00:02:22.800 of will she or won't she show up at the church. 39 00:02:23.360 --> 00:02:28.120 I knew that she would. I mean, we've seen pictures 40 00:02:28.680 --> 00:02:29.960 like I think it was. I feel like it was 41 00:02:30.000 --> 00:02:30.680 in the trailer. 42 00:02:31.159 --> 00:02:34.120 Maybe it wasn't, I don't know, but we're watching it 43 00:02:34.159 --> 00:02:34.759 a little behind. 44 00:02:34.840 --> 00:02:37.280 We are watching very. 45 00:02:35.840 --> 00:02:39.240 Hard to be on social media without seeing pictures of yes, 46 00:02:39.439 --> 00:02:41.199 things that have happened recently. 47 00:02:41.919 --> 00:02:48.719 Yes, so so, yes, she as I had assumed she would, 48 00:02:49.319 --> 00:02:54.759 showed up, cried her way down the aisle, with which 49 00:02:55.719 --> 00:02:59.319 maybe people couldn't see behind her veil unclear. I do 50 00:02:59.400 --> 00:03:04.080 believe that the Duke's nasty sister gotta gotta look at 51 00:03:04.080 --> 00:03:11.280 her crying. So that was that was sad. So yeah, 52 00:03:11.319 --> 00:03:14.400 we had we had two two sisters up here. We 53 00:03:14.439 --> 00:03:17.319 had Bertha's sister Monica. 54 00:03:17.360 --> 00:03:21.599 Both unwanted, yes, unwelcome, and yet there they were. 55 00:03:22.039 --> 00:03:27.479 Yes, Monica played by Merrit Weaver. She was. She was 56 00:03:27.479 --> 00:03:27.960 a lot of. 57 00:03:27.879 --> 00:03:33.280 Fun costume in the right period. I don't see her 58 00:03:33.319 --> 00:03:34.800 in historical things very often. 59 00:03:35.280 --> 00:03:41.039 Yes, And Bertha had to engineer the destruction of the 60 00:03:41.120 --> 00:03:43.280 dress she was wearing so she wouldn't wear it to 61 00:03:43.360 --> 00:03:49.639 the wedding. Oh just oops, this coffee. I don't know 62 00:03:49.680 --> 00:03:50.759 how it's spilled. 63 00:03:51.759 --> 00:03:54.360 Just appreciate for a moment how hard Bertha works. We 64 00:03:54.439 --> 00:04:00.479 don't always approve of what she works towards. But she, uh, 65 00:04:00.520 --> 00:04:03.039 she's a busy girl. Yeah, yeah. 66 00:04:04.719 --> 00:04:07.840 She is. And she wasn't going to let her sister's 67 00:04:07.960 --> 00:04:12.039 ugly dress. And she tells George it would have been 68 00:04:12.120 --> 00:04:15.439 unkind to let her wear the dress. 69 00:04:16.120 --> 00:04:18.600 With all the other things she has to worry about, 70 00:04:18.839 --> 00:04:21.519 is my daughter gonna bail on this marriage and and 71 00:04:21.759 --> 00:04:24.399 humiliate me in front of all of society, she still 72 00:04:24.399 --> 00:04:27.319 has time to think of her sister. Yep, it's kind 73 00:04:27.360 --> 00:04:27.920 of Galabertha. 74 00:04:28.240 --> 00:04:34.720 What a lovely lady. 75 00:04:34.240 --> 00:04:37.759 Who invited the former help who's married to the old dude. 76 00:04:38.240 --> 00:04:40.079 I know. I don't know how she. 77 00:04:41.800 --> 00:04:47.680 Because he was just there making observations like nice to 78 00:04:47.720 --> 00:04:51.560 see you, actress whose name I don't remember, right, but 79 00:04:51.759 --> 00:04:55.920 I remember you, and glad you get another episode? But 80 00:04:56.759 --> 00:04:59.199 why would I would think Bertha would do everything in 81 00:04:59.240 --> 00:05:01.279 her power to keep that woman away from him, unless 82 00:05:01.279 --> 00:05:04.560 she wants to be like, look at me, Yeah I did, yeah, 83 00:05:05.079 --> 00:05:06.160 uh huh. 84 00:05:05.800 --> 00:05:09.720 And and she had to kind of swallow her work, 85 00:05:09.839 --> 00:05:13.040 like I've never even met this sister, and missus Fish 86 00:05:13.160 --> 00:05:18.319 is like, oh, how would you have met her? No reason? 87 00:05:19.199 --> 00:05:19.800 Yeah? 88 00:05:19.879 --> 00:05:28.279 Yeah, oops, yeah, gotta be more careful yourself there, sister. Yeah. 89 00:05:28.360 --> 00:05:33.560 Well, the next in addition to whatever challenge is Gladys 90 00:05:33.600 --> 00:05:38.240 face is the next challenge. Romantic challenge will be uh, 91 00:05:38.800 --> 00:05:40.519 Larry selling Mary into his mother. 92 00:05:40.920 --> 00:05:41.079 Right. 93 00:05:41.279 --> 00:05:43.680 She sort of knows because she let her be the bridesmaid, 94 00:05:43.720 --> 00:05:44.360 or it was just. 95 00:05:44.879 --> 00:05:48.879 Well he didn't. He didn't push her as the bridesmaid 96 00:05:49.000 --> 00:05:52.199 because he wants to be with her. 97 00:05:52.600 --> 00:05:54.439 Just because she's a neighbor and it's convenient. 98 00:05:54.920 --> 00:05:56.000 Yeah, she'll fit there. 99 00:05:57.120 --> 00:05:59.360 I gotta think that brother's gonna have something to say 100 00:05:59.399 --> 00:06:03.759 about this. But oh yeah, absolutely, you know who knows. 101 00:06:04.160 --> 00:06:06.920 Maybe she got she got the one, she got this 102 00:06:07.120 --> 00:06:11.000 one thing done. Does she want to have I don't know. 103 00:06:11.079 --> 00:06:13.680 She probably will need Larry to marry somebody with money 104 00:06:13.720 --> 00:06:15.480 to solve their money problems. 105 00:06:16.040 --> 00:06:21.439 Yeah, but Larry, let's just no, just made a bundle 106 00:06:21.959 --> 00:06:28.879 from Jack's clock. So Jack got half, but together they 107 00:06:28.920 --> 00:06:31.879 got they each got three hundred dollars, which. 108 00:06:32.000 --> 00:06:35.279 Larry essentially for doing nothing but having a name that 109 00:06:35.319 --> 00:06:36.199 they could attach, that. 110 00:06:36.160 --> 00:06:37.279 They could set up meetings. 111 00:06:37.399 --> 00:06:41.079 Yeah right, yeah, and you didn't get it man, Although 112 00:06:41.160 --> 00:06:43.000 Jack is like, this is more money than I've ever 113 00:06:43.079 --> 00:06:45.319 imagined having in my life. So he's not upset. 114 00:06:46.680 --> 00:06:48.839 Yeah, oh yeah, he doesn't. He doesn't tell me. 115 00:06:48.800 --> 00:06:51.519 He hasn't just put this under his mattress in this 116 00:06:52.000 --> 00:06:53.800 little Footman Garrett. 117 00:06:55.160 --> 00:07:00.920 Yes, because the drinks with broad substack informs me that 118 00:07:00.959 --> 00:07:06.399 this three hundred thousand is worth in today's dollars, well 119 00:07:06.439 --> 00:07:12.199 over eleven million dollars. Yeah, so, Jack, I mean it's 120 00:07:12.240 --> 00:07:15.879 it's like abstract at that point to him, you know, 121 00:07:16.040 --> 00:07:18.360 I mean, that's crazy. 122 00:07:18.399 --> 00:07:21.160 Don't let Oscar talk in, don't let Oscar have it. 123 00:07:21.240 --> 00:07:23.959 Don't let Oscar know there's that much money in the house. No, 124 00:07:24.040 --> 00:07:26.639 don't let Agnes know there's that much money in the house. 125 00:07:27.120 --> 00:07:27.639 Yeah. 126 00:07:27.800 --> 00:07:35.800 Right, she's a bottomatic with living under the uh, the 127 00:07:35.839 --> 00:07:36.959 sponsorship of her. 128 00:07:36.839 --> 00:07:41.720 Sister, right, who, as we as we knew what happened, 129 00:07:41.959 --> 00:07:46.680 uh invited a woman into the house to perform a seance. 130 00:07:46.839 --> 00:07:48.600 Andrea Martin, Hello. 131 00:07:48.639 --> 00:07:51.160 What's it? Oh my god? Did I not notice it? 132 00:07:51.360 --> 00:07:54.639 Andria Martin? Yeah, oh shoot, I'm gonna have to go 133 00:07:54.720 --> 00:07:55.600 watch that scene again. 134 00:07:55.879 --> 00:07:56.120 Yep. 135 00:07:56.600 --> 00:08:02.319 But what you have a seance to to communicate with 136 00:08:02.360 --> 00:08:07.199 your husband, who was a religious individual. I don't think 137 00:08:07.199 --> 00:08:08.279 he would have approved of this. 138 00:08:08.720 --> 00:08:12.879 I don't think so either, although he was just a 139 00:08:13.040 --> 00:08:17.680 very agreeable person, especially where Ada came. 140 00:08:17.920 --> 00:08:19.680 This is the work of the devil. But I can 141 00:08:19.720 --> 00:08:21.959 at least talk to her, you know, and. 142 00:08:22.160 --> 00:08:25.959 Be fine, My poor wife, I just. 143 00:08:28.240 --> 00:08:30.360 Picking at your sister for buying a dress and then 144 00:08:30.360 --> 00:08:31.680 you're spending your money on this. 145 00:08:32.080 --> 00:08:36.080 Yes, and also like, I don't think most seances are 146 00:08:36.120 --> 00:08:42.720 conducted in at like eleven o'clock in the morning drink 147 00:08:43.600 --> 00:08:46.080 because Agnes was like, oh, I'll be home by lunch, 148 00:08:46.120 --> 00:08:47.960 and Ada is like, okay, great, that will give me 149 00:08:48.080 --> 00:08:52.960 enough time to fit in my seance while you're gone. No, 150 00:08:53.559 --> 00:08:54.159 I won't. 151 00:08:55.440 --> 00:09:04.440 Yeah. Uh. We had some more good times in Newport 152 00:09:04.679 --> 00:09:07.480 with Peggy and her family. 153 00:09:07.159 --> 00:09:14.639 And I forget his name, hot doctor his family. 154 00:09:15.120 --> 00:09:19.600 Lusha was shod just giving the let's see, who is 155 00:09:19.639 --> 00:09:24.000 she the equivalent of on the She's she's sort of 156 00:09:24.240 --> 00:09:28.919 sort of got some Agnes vibes. Yes, very disapproving and 157 00:09:29.480 --> 00:09:37.519 sarcastic and snobby, snobby, very snobby and not going to 158 00:09:37.559 --> 00:09:40.639 approve of Peggy and her son. I don't believe no, 159 00:09:41.960 --> 00:09:44.879 am I hallucinating Or was there a story in the 160 00:09:44.919 --> 00:09:48.120 first season where Pegy was married and had a child 161 00:09:49.120 --> 00:09:52.399 and then her dad got rid of the child. Somehow 162 00:09:53.639 --> 00:09:56.320 her dad told her the kid was dead. 163 00:09:57.919 --> 00:10:05.440 And disappeared her from the guy and somehow ended the marriage. 164 00:10:06.399 --> 00:10:09.399 Yeah, and then the kid wasn't dead, but then he 165 00:10:09.600 --> 00:10:14.240 did die subsequently die. Yes, So there was this whole scandal, 166 00:10:14.279 --> 00:10:17.399 which I gotta think Lucia Shod is going to turn 167 00:10:17.480 --> 00:10:20.720 up at some point, right, would there not be a 168 00:10:20.840 --> 00:10:21.480 chance of them? 169 00:10:21.600 --> 00:10:25.519 Well, I think this all happened in Philadelphia, and the 170 00:10:25.639 --> 00:10:27.639 dad worked very hard. 171 00:10:27.440 --> 00:10:31.279 To I feel like has people on a retainer to 172 00:10:31.360 --> 00:10:35.440 go check out individuals who show an interest in her son. 173 00:10:35.480 --> 00:10:40.519 I want to complete dossier, send the Pinkerton agents out. Yes, yeah, 174 00:10:40.679 --> 00:10:45.679 I unless we've just forgotten that part of season one 175 00:10:45.840 --> 00:10:47.960 and we're not going to ever talk about it, which 176 00:10:48.000 --> 00:10:48.919 is also possible. 177 00:10:49.919 --> 00:10:51.600 Yeah, well, I think that though. 178 00:10:51.519 --> 00:10:52.840 A different way with that character. 179 00:10:53.039 --> 00:10:57.039 Never mind, I think the former husband might also be 180 00:10:57.120 --> 00:10:58.480 dead at this point. 181 00:10:59.440 --> 00:11:03.759 Oh, speaking of former spouses. Yes, miss the chef's wife 182 00:11:04.039 --> 00:11:07.320 finally dies, So you're gonna propose to missus Bruce, And 183 00:11:07.360 --> 00:11:10.080 she's like, I have a husband that. 184 00:11:10.039 --> 00:11:15.519 Won't work for me. I'm sorry to say, Ah, she 185 00:11:15.559 --> 00:11:19.960 has a husband who's in an asylum. Yes, she doesn't 186 00:11:20.039 --> 00:11:25.000 want to abandon him and his in his illness. 187 00:11:24.679 --> 00:11:28.080 So they will just one presumes, just go on. 188 00:11:29.960 --> 00:11:33.120 Yeah, eventually he'll they just conveniently die. 189 00:11:33.159 --> 00:11:36.480 I suppose neither of them are getting any younger, though 190 00:11:36.879 --> 00:11:41.799 the chef doesn't look like he's got that long. But 191 00:11:41.960 --> 00:11:46.440 still it was a surprising little scene there between the 192 00:11:46.480 --> 00:11:50.879 two of them. But I'm not sure even if it 193 00:11:50.960 --> 00:11:54.639 is your mother's ring, I'm not sure about giving your 194 00:11:54.879 --> 00:11:58.799 next wife the same rings that your wife that here the. 195 00:11:58.919 --> 00:12:01.120 Former wife a little greedy. 196 00:12:01.080 --> 00:12:03.679 Yes, if it's in the family. Probably the rich people 197 00:12:03.720 --> 00:12:06.559 do it all the time. Yeah, it's not like you 198 00:12:06.600 --> 00:12:09.200 can go out and buy another one, right, so. 199 00:12:11.120 --> 00:12:12.159 Or take it down to the. 200 00:12:12.360 --> 00:12:16.679 Downstairs action in this, yes, this one. And who do 201 00:12:16.759 --> 00:12:19.879 we think was selling secrets to the newspapers? 202 00:12:21.559 --> 00:12:22.200 I don't know. 203 00:12:23.159 --> 00:12:26.120 We're supposed to think it was somebody, so, I mean, 204 00:12:26.240 --> 00:12:29.120 it's not above it's not out of the question that 205 00:12:29.200 --> 00:12:33.360 it might be uh Bertha, it's. 206 00:12:32.840 --> 00:12:37.720 Right, But then it went too far, you know, and 207 00:12:37.799 --> 00:12:42.320 she didn't approve of it any any longer. But I 208 00:12:42.320 --> 00:12:42.679 don't know. 209 00:12:42.879 --> 00:12:45.440 I don't realise one of the servants, well. 210 00:12:45.519 --> 00:12:47.679 Maybe Adelaide, I don't. I don't trust that one. 211 00:12:48.399 --> 00:12:51.399 She's off to England now temporarily. 212 00:12:50.879 --> 00:12:54.120 And she might be mad about that because she's off 213 00:12:54.159 --> 00:12:57.799 to England to train her replacement and then get out. 214 00:12:58.320 --> 00:13:01.480 So I take a boat act all by yourself, yeah, 215 00:13:03.519 --> 00:13:05.399 or else just be put out to service to somebody 216 00:13:05.399 --> 00:13:06.000 else in England. 217 00:13:06.039 --> 00:13:09.399 I don't know, Yeah, but would be I. 218 00:13:09.360 --> 00:13:10.919 Would think it'd be exciting for her. 219 00:13:11.799 --> 00:13:14.440 Yeah, I don't know, right. 220 00:13:14.679 --> 00:13:18.000 Leave all her friends and stuff. That's kind of think 221 00:13:18.159 --> 00:13:20.120 And I don't think Gladys is we're a real good 222 00:13:20.159 --> 00:13:20.840 time for a while. 223 00:13:21.720 --> 00:13:21.919 Yeah. 224 00:13:22.519 --> 00:13:26.879 So I'm wondering if Bertha's instruction to her marrying daughter 225 00:13:27.600 --> 00:13:32.679 is better than missus Bridgington's instruction to her first daughter 226 00:13:32.759 --> 00:13:36.720 to marry, which was declared to be unsatisfactory. 227 00:13:38.080 --> 00:13:40.879 Yeah, I feel like bas. 228 00:13:41.399 --> 00:13:44.159 More down to earth. Yes, might have just given some 229 00:13:44.440 --> 00:13:49.519 uh some slightly more graphic depiction. 230 00:13:49.559 --> 00:13:53.960 Right, Maybe that's why birth, That why Gladys was in 231 00:13:54.039 --> 00:13:57.399 her room for a couple of weeks without wanting to 232 00:13:57.440 --> 00:14:02.840 come out. You know, she's like, hold on, this is 233 00:14:02.879 --> 00:14:04.960 really too much now. 234 00:14:07.000 --> 00:14:13.360 Yeah, but as Hector says romantically, it will be embarrassing 235 00:14:13.399 --> 00:14:15.720 for us both. But other people have survived. 236 00:14:15.679 --> 00:14:20.159 Right, and let's just get it over with his basic plan. 237 00:14:21.720 --> 00:14:25.000 Which honestly not a bad idea. You don't want to 238 00:14:25.159 --> 00:14:29.480 you don't want to be just like worrying about it 239 00:14:29.840 --> 00:14:33.240 suspicious and then it becomes a whole big thing. So 240 00:14:33.480 --> 00:14:41.399 just you know, we're on a boat. Yes, that's true, 241 00:14:42.240 --> 00:14:46.320 So I don't know. I suppose the parenting tip here 242 00:14:46.519 --> 00:14:49.720 is do not marry your child to be a person 243 00:14:49.759 --> 00:14:50.879 they do not want to marry. 244 00:14:51.080 --> 00:14:55.960 But Bertha is not listening to us, that's for sure. 245 00:14:56.639 --> 00:14:58.639 Is fairly convinced that this is the way to give 246 00:14:58.679 --> 00:15:02.600 her child a meaningful life, and she is just possibly deluded, 247 00:15:02.799 --> 00:15:10.799 but she is doing it theoretically with loving intent, right, 248 00:15:11.519 --> 00:15:14.799 But I don't think it's going to go so well, 249 00:15:14.919 --> 00:15:16.120 we'll see, you never know. 250 00:15:17.279 --> 00:15:23.120 Yes, well, I watched a little trailer for the remaining episodes, 251 00:15:23.919 --> 00:15:30.120 and the sister at one point the Duke's yeah. At 252 00:15:30.159 --> 00:15:32.919 one point, the Duke says to her something like, you know, well, 253 00:15:33.000 --> 00:15:36.919 it was your idea for me to marry a Yankee 254 00:15:37.120 --> 00:15:42.759 heiress to you know, save their home or whatever, and 255 00:15:42.919 --> 00:15:46.200 she says, well, I didn't think you'd bring her back, 256 00:15:49.440 --> 00:15:52.519 basically like, I didn't even think i'd have to interact 257 00:15:52.639 --> 00:16:00.720 with this person. So yeah, well I'm not what you thought. 258 00:16:01.200 --> 00:16:03.240 You could have done, way worse than Gladys he can. 259 00:16:03.440 --> 00:16:08.000 Yeah, she's quite malleable, it seems. 260 00:16:08.759 --> 00:16:12.840 Yes, although she also one hopes, has some of her 261 00:16:12.879 --> 00:16:14.000 mother in her. 262 00:16:14.440 --> 00:16:15.559 She's gonna need that. 263 00:16:15.639 --> 00:16:18.600 I think but that require kicking. 264 00:16:18.759 --> 00:16:21.120 Yeah, well, I do hope she learned that. 265 00:16:21.320 --> 00:16:23.320 I hope she does. I hope she has it in 266 00:16:23.360 --> 00:16:29.039 her someplace. Yes, and if not, I hope Bertha hops 267 00:16:29.080 --> 00:16:32.799 on a boat and comes over there. Yes, deploys swift justice. 268 00:16:33.799 --> 00:16:37.480 So should be scared of her if you're not scared 269 00:16:37.519 --> 00:16:40.360 of the kid, although then again, they may soon be 270 00:16:40.440 --> 00:16:47.480 penniless if JP Morgan's yes, if his threats predictions are true, yes. 271 00:16:48.320 --> 00:16:50.240 Well once again Larry is now. 272 00:16:50.960 --> 00:16:53.240 Yes, Larry can help out. 273 00:16:53.720 --> 00:16:57.559 But there were some intimations in the in this trailer 274 00:16:57.679 --> 00:17:01.799 that maybe Larry isn't so good with money, like, oh, 275 00:17:01.960 --> 00:17:08.079 he's good at apparently negotiating, but yes, maybe hanging on 276 00:17:08.160 --> 00:17:09.759 to it honest, not so much. 277 00:17:10.160 --> 00:17:13.480 Oh, Larry, Marry, please do not be feckless, because we 278 00:17:13.640 --> 00:17:14.680 like you and Marion together. 279 00:17:15.079 --> 00:17:17.200 Yeah. Well, he definitely. 280 00:17:16.839 --> 00:17:21.359 Feel like she could possibly find a more stable match. 281 00:17:24.480 --> 00:17:30.279 Oh well, let's see. At one point of Bertha says, 282 00:17:30.839 --> 00:17:33.880 go to bed, George and wake up sensible. Yes, I 283 00:17:33.920 --> 00:17:37.039 feel like that's a parenting tip. You know, I think 284 00:17:37.039 --> 00:17:39.079 that you could say that to your children sometimes. 285 00:17:39.680 --> 00:17:45.079 Yes, what it worked unclear, but yes, I did enjoy that. 286 00:17:45.960 --> 00:17:48.119 It's just like, we are going to we are going 287 00:17:48.160 --> 00:17:50.119 to end this right now. 288 00:17:50.440 --> 00:17:54.440 Yeah, we're gonna you know, reset. 289 00:17:53.119 --> 00:17:57.759 Reset, and uh let's uh, let's see how it is 290 00:17:57.759 --> 00:18:00.559 in the morning. That's sometimes that is the way to 291 00:18:00.599 --> 00:18:02.000 get past a bump. 292 00:18:03.240 --> 00:18:07.960 Yes, time out, everybody, take a step back, have a 293 00:18:08.079 --> 00:18:11.839 nice rest, and we'll try again tomorrow. 294 00:18:12.519 --> 00:18:13.279 Yeah. 295 00:18:13.920 --> 00:18:17.839 Do you This isn't really parenting related, but there was 296 00:18:17.960 --> 00:18:20.519 this whole thing where there was an article in the 297 00:18:20.559 --> 00:18:26.599 newspaper about Missus Astor's daughter, and so Missus Astor was like, well, 298 00:18:26.640 --> 00:18:30.519 you're not coming to this wedding, you know, because because 299 00:18:30.519 --> 00:18:36.640 of this. And then at the wedding Ada says to 300 00:18:36.880 --> 00:18:40.000 Missus Astor some I'm like, oh, what was it? There 301 00:18:40.039 --> 00:18:40.880 was something in. 302 00:18:40.799 --> 00:18:43.440 The paper that we were gonna we were. 303 00:18:43.319 --> 00:18:46.200 Going to ask and I was like, Aida, what where 304 00:18:46.200 --> 00:18:50.359 did that come from? Like, she hasn't been that sort 305 00:18:50.400 --> 00:18:53.880 of space cadet before, has. 306 00:18:53.759 --> 00:18:55.279 She pretty space cadet? 307 00:18:55.519 --> 00:19:00.079 But I mean to just I don't know that well, 308 00:19:00.119 --> 00:19:00.680 I guess. 309 00:19:00.440 --> 00:19:02.599 She didn't remember what the story was about, just that 310 00:19:02.640 --> 00:19:05.920 there was a story, right, But still I don't think 311 00:19:05.960 --> 00:19:08.559 you talk about Missus talked to Missus Astor about her 312 00:19:08.599 --> 00:19:11.200 name being in the papers. Any reason, good or bad. 313 00:19:11.640 --> 00:19:16.839 Right, And I feel like Ada knows that or she once. 314 00:19:17.359 --> 00:19:22.000 She passive aggressively being was she acting ditsy even when 315 00:19:22.039 --> 00:19:25.599 she really meant to be, or which doesn't seem like. 316 00:19:25.559 --> 00:19:29.440 Her No, because she's just she doesn't want to be cruel, 317 00:19:29.680 --> 00:19:30.839 I mean no. 318 00:19:31.200 --> 00:19:33.559 Yeah, she's just becoming more of a Are we supposed 319 00:19:33.559 --> 00:19:35.640 to think maybe she's losing a step or something like. 320 00:19:35.680 --> 00:19:39.319 That, right, right, Yeah, that's what I mean. Like, yeah, 321 00:19:39.640 --> 00:19:44.000 I agree that she has been kind of flaky at times, 322 00:19:44.039 --> 00:19:51.880 and see hiring a psychic, but that just seemed a 323 00:19:51.960 --> 00:20:01.960 step beyond you know. Yeah, Well, don't raise your children 324 00:20:02.079 --> 00:20:07.799 so that one sister will refuse to you know, so 325 00:20:07.920 --> 00:20:10.759 that your children will have to go behind your back 326 00:20:10.799 --> 00:20:18.839 to invite yeah, to invite your sister to their wedding, Larry, Yeah, yeah, 327 00:20:19.000 --> 00:20:24.880 stay friendly with the extended family, and if not, make 328 00:20:24.960 --> 00:20:29.160 your choices specifically known, and you know, possibly. 329 00:20:28.720 --> 00:20:32.119 Cut the phone lines or the to instruct the servants 330 00:20:32.119 --> 00:20:32.319 that know. 331 00:20:32.599 --> 00:20:34.240 Yeah, don't mail any letters. 332 00:20:37.680 --> 00:20:41.000 Oh yeah. Yes. If you have a sibling that you 333 00:20:41.039 --> 00:20:46.279 do not wish to interact with in certain situations, what 334 00:20:46.359 --> 00:20:50.359 do you do? How do you you theoretically want your 335 00:20:50.680 --> 00:20:55.640 child to be to know your family members. Say friendly 336 00:20:55.640 --> 00:20:58.119 with your family members, but you don't necessarily want to 337 00:20:58.119 --> 00:21:02.519 interact with your family members. That's a difficult thing. That's 338 00:21:02.559 --> 00:21:05.200 a parenting tip. I don't think, however, that the waybirth 339 00:21:05.279 --> 00:21:11.359 handled it is the right. Is a tip, h boy 340 00:21:11.640 --> 00:21:20.880 punting tip. Anticipate family awkwardness right and think through how 341 00:21:20.920 --> 00:21:25.039 you're going to handle it instead of just assuming that 342 00:21:25.119 --> 00:21:26.799 nobody will do anything without your. 343 00:21:27.440 --> 00:21:32.400 Right Exactly when you have a son who's been making 344 00:21:32.480 --> 00:21:38.160 him a lot of noise about about stuff that's kind 345 00:21:38.160 --> 00:21:43.799 of not necessarily his business, you know, and teach your kids. 346 00:21:44.599 --> 00:21:46.960 And this is something I have not quite done sufficiently, 347 00:21:46.960 --> 00:21:49.359 although my mother before me, as I've mentioned many times, 348 00:21:49.400 --> 00:21:53.079 did it well, teach your kids to fear you. You know, 349 00:21:54.319 --> 00:21:56.680 Larry should know that if he does this thing, he's 350 00:21:56.720 --> 00:21:58.119 going to be in it with his mom, and he 351 00:21:58.200 --> 00:22:01.400 may have favors to ask of his mom in recent 352 00:22:02.920 --> 00:22:05.559 you know soon, and he perhaps wants to be on 353 00:22:05.720 --> 00:22:09.559 her good side. Yeah, you don't want your kids thinking, oh, 354 00:22:09.599 --> 00:22:11.880 we'll do this, Mom will be really happy about this. 355 00:22:12.200 --> 00:22:12.559 Ha ha ha. 356 00:22:13.680 --> 00:22:16.039 Well, well I don't care what mom thinks. I'm just 357 00:22:16.119 --> 00:22:19.400 going to do what I think is best, and you know, 358 00:22:19.440 --> 00:22:22.279 if it bothers her, that'll be hilarious. We don't want this. 359 00:22:22.720 --> 00:22:25.400 We want to train them to say, I would love 360 00:22:25.440 --> 00:22:27.519 to see my aunt, but I don't think that mom 361 00:22:27.559 --> 00:22:29.359 wants to deal with the stress of that right now, 362 00:22:29.400 --> 00:22:33.799 with the wedding and everything. I'll just keep my mouth shut. Yeah, 363 00:22:34.119 --> 00:22:38.640 parenting too, Yeah, you know, make them know that you're 364 00:22:38.680 --> 00:22:42.920 a handful and respect that. My children do not respect that. 365 00:22:42.960 --> 00:22:44.759 And I feel like I'm pretty much of a handful, 366 00:22:44.839 --> 00:22:48.039 but I don't. They don't handle me the way that 367 00:22:48.839 --> 00:22:51.559 I feel my mother earned the right to be handled, 368 00:22:52.759 --> 00:22:56.960 darn it, because anybody knows how to do that, because 369 00:22:57.000 --> 00:23:05.319 even Bertha, even Bertha is absolutely and definitively a handful. Yes, 370 00:23:06.000 --> 00:23:12.720 George and Larry, we're just off doing things that no, no, 371 00:23:12.799 --> 00:23:15.799 I mean there's one word she like just tells George 372 00:23:15.839 --> 00:23:18.119 to go to bed, right he's looking old us in 373 00:23:18.200 --> 00:23:22.000 one and I'm like, man, you made this, you made 374 00:23:22.000 --> 00:23:23.480 this bed. Now you may not lie in it. 375 00:23:23.759 --> 00:23:24.200 Yes, so. 376 00:23:25.839 --> 00:23:35.799 Yeah, just be clear mh and uh, exact punishment exactly, 377 00:23:36.200 --> 00:23:38.000 and your daughter will get her butt out of her 378 00:23:38.079 --> 00:23:41.599 room and go down the aisle. Yeh, yeh. Get me 379 00:23:41.640 --> 00:23:48.039 out of this country and away from her. Yeah, even 380 00:23:48.079 --> 00:23:51.519 the the sister may be unpleasant, but she's not my sister, 381 00:23:51.640 --> 00:23:54.799 She's not my mother. I could probably do what I want. Right, Well, 382 00:23:56.079 --> 00:23:57.319 how will this turn out? 383 00:23:57.799 --> 00:24:04.200 Yes? Well we shall so next Wednesday. The episode is 384 00:24:04.240 --> 00:24:10.359 called a different world for lots of people. That's true 385 00:24:10.519 --> 00:24:12.319 venture to guess, So. 386 00:24:13.240 --> 00:24:16.480 I will be spending the time in between worrying less 387 00:24:16.519 --> 00:24:20.480 about Gladys than I am about Jack. Buddy, put the 388 00:24:20.519 --> 00:24:25.680 money someplace, say, but Larry open up? Well again, perhaps 389 00:24:25.720 --> 00:24:28.880 not a bank? Could you put that? Where got that? 390 00:24:28.960 --> 00:24:29.160 Yet? 391 00:24:29.240 --> 00:24:31.680 I'm nervous about that money. That's a lot of money, 392 00:24:31.799 --> 00:24:38.079 even in those those days. Dollars, those dollars, right, so yikes? 393 00:24:38.720 --> 00:24:43.039 Yes, well, well we'll see what happens next week. 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