Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey, I'm bad with something for you to
Speaker 1: think about. Dry them tears up, Dry those tears up,
Speaker 1: Dry them up. Because you caused your own situation. You
Speaker 1: caused your own self inflicted pain and hurt.
Speaker 2: You caused it. No one else is to blame.
Speaker 1: Other than you, because you knew the type of person
Speaker 1: you were getting into a relationship with. You knew that
Speaker 1: person loved someone someone else.
Speaker 2: You knew it, but you tricked them.
Speaker 1: You got pregnant, or you lied about being pregnant, and
Speaker 1: they felt guilty and chose to be with you instead
Speaker 1: of who they loved. You think it's gonna work out.
Speaker 1: It's not gonna work out. He will never love you.
Speaker 1: Some of you. You're so in denial. He've told you
Speaker 1: I don't love you. We'll never be together. I may
Speaker 1: marry you, but I'll never love you. But it's okay
Speaker 1: with you because you want him that bad until down
Speaker 1: the road years later or months later, you see he
Speaker 1: don't want anything to do with you.
Speaker 2: You know it.
Speaker 1: Stop trying to force these men to love you. If
Speaker 1: they don't love you, move on. Stop thinking that you
Speaker 1: going to make them change their mind.
Speaker 2: You're not.
Speaker 1: He's gonna resent you. He's gonna regret the day he
Speaker 1: ever saw your face. If a person don't love you,
Speaker 1: my goodness, love your self enough to move on.
Speaker 2: It is not that serious.
Speaker 1: It is not that serious. It really isn't. It's not
Speaker 1: that serious. If someone don't.
Speaker 2: Love you, you.
Speaker 1: Jesus wake up, because no matter what you do, you
Speaker 1: will never, never, never make him love you. If they
Speaker 1: don't love you, life is not over. It is okay. See,
Speaker 1: the problem is not him. Sometimes it may be her.
Speaker 1: They're not the problem. You are your own problem. That
Speaker 1: mindset that you have is your problem. You are a
Speaker 1: prisoner to your own mindset. But you want to laying
Speaker 1: the person that don't want you, No, it's you. If
Speaker 1: they've told told you I don't love you, and you
Speaker 1: still doing all the things you think you can do,
Speaker 1: all the tricks in your bag, thinking that it's gonna
Speaker 1: make him love you or make her love you, you
Speaker 1: are wrong.
Speaker 2: You're so wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong you are.
Speaker 1: You need to step back, get yourself together, gather your
Speaker 1: wits about yourself, because it's very shameful and embarrassing to carry.
Speaker 2: On over someone who don't even want you.
Speaker 1: If a person don't want you, move on, stop making
Speaker 1: it a big deal because it's not. Some of you,
Speaker 1: a person have to just i mean just almost embarrass
Speaker 1: you because you just won't get it. Some of you
Speaker 1: you become angry. You want to hurt people, you want
Speaker 1: to murder, You want to do all types of foolishness.
Speaker 1: You want to try to do things that cause them harm.
Speaker 2: You want to do all kind.
Speaker 1: Of little, sneaky things. But you're only hurting yourself. It's
Speaker 1: not worth it. If someone don't want to be with you,
Speaker 1: move on, Move on.
Speaker 2: Some of you knew it right from to start.
Speaker 1: You knew he didn't want you, or you knew she
Speaker 1: didn't want you, but you still wanted to be with
Speaker 1: that person. You still wanted that You wanted to be
Speaker 1: with that person when they do not want you. Some
Speaker 1: of you have been flat out told, but it went
Speaker 1: through one ear and out the other.
Speaker 2: That is nuts.
Speaker 1: Never cry over a person who don't want you. Never
Speaker 1: allow it to get so in you rooted in you
Speaker 1: as a form of hurt and pain.
Speaker 2: Over someone who don't want you. That makes no sense.
Speaker 1: But of course immature people with unhere hearts and minds
Speaker 1: just won't get it. They want to retaliate. They want
Speaker 1: family and friends not.
Speaker 2: To like you.
Speaker 1: It's crazy. Stop trying to be with people who don't
Speaker 1: want to be with you. Stop trying to force love,
Speaker 1: because that's not love. If you're trying to force it,
Speaker 1: it is not love. Some of you you actually.
Speaker 2: Beg I love you. Please, please don't do as you know.
Speaker 2: I love you while they don't love you.
Speaker 1: They don't love you, and it's okay if they don't
Speaker 1: love you.
Speaker 2: It's not the end of the world. It's not.
Speaker 1: Some of you do the unthinkable because someone don't love you.
Speaker 2: Please make it make sense.
Speaker 1: Why in the world would anyone consider doing the unthinkable
Speaker 1: because someone don't want to be with them.
Speaker 2: Something is wrong with you. Love before that person said
Speaker 2: they didn't want to be with you.
Speaker 1: Because honestly, sometimes right at the beginning, a person will
Speaker 1: tell you I'm in love with someone else, but you
Speaker 1: still want to pursue that relationship. Some people clearly show
Speaker 1: you they don't want to be with you, but you
Speaker 1: still want to pursue that relationship.
Speaker 2: They're not the problem.
Speaker 3: It's you.
Speaker 2: It's your boot.
Speaker 3: It is you.
Speaker 1: That's why I tell you all of the time, know
Speaker 1: and love yourself. You cannot get to that mental level
Speaker 1: of maturity until you allow healing to take place within you.
Speaker 2: It takes some inside work for the outside to work properly.
Speaker 1: And when I say the outside to work, that mean
Speaker 1: your inneractions with other people, your choices and your decisions
Speaker 1: and things of that nature, because what's in you is
Speaker 1: coming out if you're not of the right mindset, meaning
Speaker 1: you you are a person with unheal hearted mind because
Speaker 1: of the un resolved issues inside of you. Or it's
Speaker 1: gonna show in some form or another. It is gonna
Speaker 1: show without fail, it's gonna show. You can only pretend
Speaker 1: for so long. It's gonna show. A lot of people's
Speaker 1: problem is they're looking over at the other person because
Speaker 1: the other person don't want them. You think they're the problem,
Speaker 1: so you pour the finger at them, you blame them.
Speaker 3: No, it's you.
Speaker 2: It's you. You the one cannot handle rejection. And really.
Speaker 1: It's some on you. You're accountable and responsible for you.
Speaker 1: If a person is telling you I don't want to
Speaker 1: be with you and you cannot accept it, that's not
Speaker 1: their fault, that's yours.
Speaker 2: And there's no reason to mold over it, to have
Speaker 2: ill feelings over it. Just move on. Someone will love
Speaker 2: you the way you deserve.
Speaker 1: Once you learn to love yourself, you have to love,
Speaker 1: learn and love yourself first. That's why so many people
Speaker 1: choose wrong for the wrong reasons, because they don't know
Speaker 1: and love self. They're trying desperately to love someone else,
Speaker 1: but they do not know or love self. So people
Speaker 1: get into all kinds of bad relationships because they don't
Speaker 1: know and love self. They don't know what love look like,
Speaker 1: feel like, what it is, what it isn't.
Speaker 2: It all falls.
Speaker 3: On you, period, some of you.
Speaker 1: I mean, you have a bag of tricks, a bag
Speaker 1: of them, and.
Speaker 2: Not one single trick is working for you because the
Speaker 2: person don't love you, they don't want to be with you.
Speaker 2: Let it go, Let them be.
Speaker 1: If they're in love with someone else and they've been
Speaker 1: honest with you about it, you can't accept that.
Speaker 2: That's on you. I know a situation.
Speaker 1: Where the guy told the lady, I'm in love with
Speaker 1: someone else.
Speaker 2: You know I love this other person.
Speaker 1: You know it, I know what you You can love
Speaker 1: me if you just give me a.
Speaker 2: Chance, you can love me. Got them drunk.
Speaker 1: And you know the rest end up getting pregnant that
Speaker 1: night and now ben all out of shape. And distraught
Speaker 1: because she thought by getting pregnant that he was gonna
Speaker 1: want to be with her. He still didn't want to
Speaker 1: be with her. Didn't even remember ever sleeping with her
Speaker 1: to this day, don't remember it.
Speaker 2: But she thought.
Speaker 1: By tricking him, getting him drugged up, that he was gonna.
Speaker 2: Just go along. After he figured out that she drugged.
Speaker 1: Him, she thought that he was just gonna go along
Speaker 1: with it. No, you got the man drunk, slipped in
Speaker 1: a little something something, and you thought that he was
Speaker 1: gonna be okay because you became pregnant. That's some movie stuff,
Speaker 1: isn't it. That's some movie stuff, movie stuff for real.
Speaker 1: But these things happen in real life.
Speaker 2: They really, really do. They happen in real life. People
Speaker 2: just cannot accept no.
Speaker 1: Or people cannot accept breakup, separation, divorce. People just cannot
Speaker 1: accept it because it's not the other person is you,
Speaker 1: it's you. A lot of people have changed their lives forever.
Speaker 1: They have been their own demise because they could not
Speaker 1: accept I don't love you, I don't want to be
Speaker 1: with you. Some of these people never had a relationship
Speaker 1: with the person, and others were in relationships with the people.
Speaker 1: Random clean away I mean random out of the relationship
Speaker 1: and then can't take it because no one wants to
Speaker 1: be with the person who's trying.
Speaker 2: To control and be obsessive and possessive. No one wants that,
Speaker 2: not a person that has any sense.
Speaker 1: People fail themselves every day by neglecting self because you're
Speaker 1: so focused on other people. You're so focused on someone
Speaker 1: loving you that you neglect yourself. You never grow and
Speaker 1: mature to the level that you should be you could
Speaker 1: be because you're too busy focused on someone else. People
Speaker 1: that don't even really mean you any good. Sometimes they
Speaker 1: don't care nothing about you. They want what you have
Speaker 1: to offer. They don't want you, but you just want.
Speaker 2: Them so bad. You just love them so much. When
Speaker 2: they don't care, they don't want you.
Speaker 1: A lot of people are in their own way. You
Speaker 1: are your own worst enemy in some of these situations.
Speaker 1: If a person don't love you, they don't love you,
Speaker 1: that's just it. Let them go, leave them be, move
Speaker 1: on with your life. If you can't move on, you
Speaker 1: are the problem. I promise you, you are the problem.
Speaker 1: If you cannot let go and move on, you are
Speaker 1: the problem.
Speaker 2: And who wants someone like that? No one?
Speaker 1: You are the problem, allow him to take place in
Speaker 1: your life. Grow up, love yourself, Understand who you are
Speaker 1: as a person.
Speaker 2: Something is wrong.
Speaker 1: When you can't move on and you can't let go,
Speaker 1: something is wrong with you. You are your own problem.
Speaker 1: And I'm not saying that to be negative or hurtful.
Speaker 1: I'm trying to help you today. You have to look
Speaker 1: at that man, look at that woman in the mirror.
Speaker 1: You are your own worst enemy, your mindset. You're hearing no, no, no,
Speaker 1: no no. But to you, it's yes, yes, yes, yes yes,
Speaker 1: because it's what you want. But just because you want
Speaker 1: it doesn't mean they want it. And if they don't
Speaker 1: want it, you shouldn't want it.
Speaker 2: Poort blank. You shouldn't want it. You should never want
Speaker 2: someone who don't want you.
Speaker 1: In no shape, form or fashion should you want anyone
Speaker 1: you don't want you. That's just ignorance by itself, not
Speaker 1: just immaturity by itself. And that's a sign to yourself
Speaker 1: about yourself. You have some healing to do, you have
Speaker 1: some inner issues that are still unresolved. You have some maturity,
Speaker 1: maturity and growing to do. Look at yourself. I'm leaving
Speaker 1: it right there. Thank you for listening. Much love, to you,
Speaker 1: you and you please share this episode. In every episode,
Speaker 1: the saying, I hope Thomas winding up it's time for
Speaker 1: a change for the bad tim
Speaker 2: I hope you do it, think on it.