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<v Speaker 1>Hey, hey, hey, I'm bad with something for you to

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<v Speaker 1>think about. Dry them tears up, Dry those tears up,

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<v Speaker 1>Dry them up. Because you caused your own situation. You

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<v Speaker 1>caused your own self inflicted pain and hurt.

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<v Speaker 2>You caused it. No one else is to blame.

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<v Speaker 1>Other than you, because you knew the type of person

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<v Speaker 1>you were getting into a relationship with. You knew that

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<v Speaker 1>person loved someone someone else.

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<v Speaker 2>You knew it, but you tricked them.

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<v Speaker 1>You got pregnant, or you lied about being pregnant, and

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<v Speaker 1>they felt guilty and chose to be with you instead

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<v Speaker 1>of who they loved. You think it's gonna work out.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not gonna work out. He will never love you.

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<v Speaker 1>Some of you. You're so in denial. He've told you

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<v Speaker 1>I don't love you. We'll never be together. I may

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<v Speaker 1>marry you, but I'll never love you. But it's okay

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<v Speaker 1>with you because you want him that bad until down

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<v Speaker 1>the road years later or months later, you see he

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<v Speaker 1>don't want anything to do with you.

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<v Speaker 2>You know it.

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<v Speaker 1>Stop trying to force these men to love you. If

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<v Speaker 1>they don't love you, move on. Stop thinking that you

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<v Speaker 1>going to make them change their mind.

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<v Speaker 2>You're not.

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<v Speaker 1>He's gonna resent you. He's gonna regret the day he

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<v Speaker 1>ever saw your face. If a person don't love you,

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<v Speaker 1>my goodness, love your self enough to move on.

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<v Speaker 2>It is not that serious.

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<v Speaker 1>It is not that serious. It really isn't. It's not

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<v Speaker 1>that serious. If someone don't.

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<v Speaker 2>Love you, you.

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<v Speaker 1>Jesus wake up, because no matter what you do, you

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<v Speaker 1>will never, never, never make him love you. If they

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<v Speaker 1>don't love you, life is not over. It is okay. See,

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<v Speaker 1>the problem is not him. Sometimes it may be her.

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<v Speaker 1>They're not the problem. You are your own problem. That

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<v Speaker 1>mindset that you have is your problem. You are a

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<v Speaker 1>prisoner to your own mindset. But you want to laying

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<v Speaker 1>the person that don't want you, No, it's you. If

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<v Speaker 1>they've told told you I don't love you, and you

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<v Speaker 1>still doing all the things you think you can do,

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<v Speaker 1>all the tricks in your bag, thinking that it's gonna

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<v Speaker 1>make him love you or make her love you, you

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<v Speaker 1>are wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>You're so wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong you are.

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<v Speaker 1>You need to step back, get yourself together, gather your

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<v Speaker 1>wits about yourself, because it's very shameful and embarrassing to carry.

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<v Speaker 2>On over someone who don't even want you.

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<v Speaker 1>If a person don't want you, move on, stop making

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<v Speaker 1>it a big deal because it's not. Some of you,

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<v Speaker 1>a person have to just i mean just almost embarrass

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<v Speaker 1>you because you just won't get it. Some of you

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<v Speaker 1>you become angry. You want to hurt people, you want

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<v Speaker 1>to murder, You want to do all types of foolishness.

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<v Speaker 1>You want to try to do things that cause them harm.

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<v Speaker 2>You want to do all kind.

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<v Speaker 1>Of little, sneaky things. But you're only hurting yourself. It's

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<v Speaker 1>not worth it. If someone don't want to be with you,

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<v Speaker 1>move on, Move on.

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<v Speaker 2>Some of you knew it right from to start.

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<v Speaker 1>You knew he didn't want you, or you knew she

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<v Speaker 1>didn't want you, but you still wanted to be with

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<v Speaker 1>that person. You still wanted that You wanted to be

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<v Speaker 1>with that person when they do not want you. Some

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<v Speaker 1>of you have been flat out told, but it went

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<v Speaker 1>through one ear and out the other.

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<v Speaker 2>That is nuts.

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<v Speaker 1>Never cry over a person who don't want you. Never

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<v Speaker 1>allow it to get so in you rooted in you

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<v Speaker 1>as a form of hurt and pain.

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<v Speaker 2>Over someone who don't want you. That makes no sense.

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<v Speaker 1>But of course immature people with unhere hearts and minds

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<v Speaker 1>just won't get it. They want to retaliate. They want

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<v Speaker 1>family and friends not.

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<v Speaker 2>To like you.

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<v Speaker 1>It's crazy. Stop trying to be with people who don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to be with you. Stop trying to force love,

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<v Speaker 1>because that's not love. If you're trying to force it,

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<v Speaker 1>it is not love. Some of you you actually.

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<v Speaker 2>Beg I love you. Please, please don't do as you know.

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<v Speaker 2>I love you while they don't love you.

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<v Speaker 1>They don't love you, and it's okay if they don't

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<v Speaker 1>love you.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not the end of the world. It's not.

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<v Speaker 1>Some of you do the unthinkable because someone don't love you.

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<v Speaker 2>Please make it make sense.

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<v Speaker 1>Why in the world would anyone consider doing the unthinkable

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<v Speaker 1>because someone don't want to be with them.

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<v Speaker 2>Something is wrong with you. Love before that person said

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<v Speaker 2>they didn't want to be with you.

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<v Speaker 1>Because honestly, sometimes right at the beginning, a person will

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<v Speaker 1>tell you I'm in love with someone else, but you

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<v Speaker 1>still want to pursue that relationship. Some people clearly show

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<v Speaker 1>you they don't want to be with you, but you

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<v Speaker 1>still want to pursue that relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>They're not the problem.

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<v Speaker 3>It's you.

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<v Speaker 2>It's your boot.

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<v Speaker 3>It is you.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why I tell you all of the time, know

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<v Speaker 1>and love yourself. You cannot get to that mental level

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<v Speaker 1>of maturity until you allow healing to take place within you.

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<v Speaker 2>It takes some inside work for the outside to work properly.

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<v Speaker 1>And when I say the outside to work, that mean

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<v Speaker 1>your inneractions with other people, your choices and your decisions

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<v Speaker 1>and things of that nature, because what's in you is

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<v Speaker 1>coming out if you're not of the right mindset, meaning

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<v Speaker 1>you you are a person with unheal hearted mind because

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<v Speaker 1>of the un resolved issues inside of you. Or it's

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<v Speaker 1>gonna show in some form or another. It is gonna

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<v Speaker 1>show without fail, it's gonna show. You can only pretend

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<v Speaker 1>for so long. It's gonna show. A lot of people's

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<v Speaker 1>problem is they're looking over at the other person because

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<v Speaker 1>the other person don't want them. You think they're the problem,

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<v Speaker 1>so you pour the finger at them, you blame them.

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<v Speaker 3>No, it's you.

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<v Speaker 2>It's you. You the one cannot handle rejection. And really.

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<v Speaker 1>It's some on you. You're accountable and responsible for you.

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<v Speaker 1>If a person is telling you I don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>be with you and you cannot accept it, that's not

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<v Speaker 1>their fault, that's yours.

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<v Speaker 2>And there's no reason to mold over it, to have

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<v Speaker 2>ill feelings over it. Just move on. Someone will love

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<v Speaker 2>you the way you deserve.

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<v Speaker 1>Once you learn to love yourself, you have to love,

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<v Speaker 1>learn and love yourself first. That's why so many people

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<v Speaker 1>choose wrong for the wrong reasons, because they don't know

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<v Speaker 1>and love self. They're trying desperately to love someone else,

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<v Speaker 1>but they do not know or love self. So people

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<v Speaker 1>get into all kinds of bad relationships because they don't

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<v Speaker 1>know and love self. They don't know what love look like,

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<v Speaker 1>feel like, what it is, what it isn't.

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<v Speaker 2>It all falls.

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<v Speaker 3>On you, period, some of you.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, you have a bag of tricks, a bag

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<v Speaker 1>of them, and.

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<v Speaker 2>Not one single trick is working for you because the

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<v Speaker 2>person don't love you, they don't want to be with you.

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<v Speaker 2>Let it go, Let them be.

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<v Speaker 1>If they're in love with someone else and they've been

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<v Speaker 1>honest with you about it, you can't accept that.

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<v Speaker 2>That's on you. I know a situation.

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<v Speaker 1>Where the guy told the lady, I'm in love with

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<v Speaker 1>someone else.

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<v Speaker 2>You know I love this other person.

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<v Speaker 1>You know it, I know what you You can love

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<v Speaker 1>me if you just give me a.

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<v Speaker 2>Chance, you can love me. Got them drunk.

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<v Speaker 1>And you know the rest end up getting pregnant that

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<v Speaker 1>night and now ben all out of shape. And distraught

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<v Speaker 1>because she thought by getting pregnant that he was gonna

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<v Speaker 1>want to be with her. He still didn't want to

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<v Speaker 1>be with her. Didn't even remember ever sleeping with her

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<v Speaker 1>to this day, don't remember it.

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<v Speaker 2>But she thought.

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<v Speaker 1>By tricking him, getting him drugged up, that he was gonna.

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<v Speaker 2>Just go along. After he figured out that she drugged.

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<v Speaker 1>Him, she thought that he was just gonna go along

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<v Speaker 1>with it. No, you got the man drunk, slipped in

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<v Speaker 1>a little something something, and you thought that he was

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be okay because you became pregnant. That's some movie stuff,

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<v Speaker 1>isn't it. That's some movie stuff, movie stuff for real.

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<v Speaker 1>But these things happen in real life.

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<v Speaker 2>They really, really do. They happen in real life. People

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<v Speaker 2>just cannot accept no.

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<v Speaker 1>Or people cannot accept breakup, separation, divorce. People just cannot

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<v Speaker 1>accept it because it's not the other person is you,

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<v Speaker 1>it's you. A lot of people have changed their lives forever.

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<v Speaker 1>They have been their own demise because they could not

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<v Speaker 1>accept I don't love you, I don't want to be

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<v Speaker 1>with you. Some of these people never had a relationship

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<v Speaker 1>with the person, and others were in relationships with the people.

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<v Speaker 1>Random clean away I mean random out of the relationship

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<v Speaker 1>and then can't take it because no one wants to

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<v Speaker 1>be with the person who's trying.

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<v Speaker 2>To control and be obsessive and possessive. No one wants that,

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<v Speaker 2>not a person that has any sense.

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<v Speaker 1>People fail themselves every day by neglecting self because you're

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<v Speaker 1>so focused on other people. You're so focused on someone

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<v Speaker 1>loving you that you neglect yourself. You never grow and

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<v Speaker 1>mature to the level that you should be you could

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<v Speaker 1>be because you're too busy focused on someone else. People

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<v Speaker 1>that don't even really mean you any good. Sometimes they

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<v Speaker 1>don't care nothing about you. They want what you have

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<v Speaker 1>to offer. They don't want you, but you just want.

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<v Speaker 2>Them so bad. You just love them so much. When

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<v Speaker 2>they don't care, they don't want you.

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<v Speaker 1>A lot of people are in their own way. You

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<v Speaker 1>are your own worst enemy in some of these situations.

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<v Speaker 1>If a person don't love you, they don't love you,

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<v Speaker 1>that's just it. Let them go, leave them be, move

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<v Speaker 1>on with your life. If you can't move on, you

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<v Speaker 1>are the problem. I promise you, you are the problem.

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<v Speaker 1>If you cannot let go and move on, you are

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<v Speaker 1>the problem.

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<v Speaker 2>And who wants someone like that? No one?

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<v Speaker 1>You are the problem, allow him to take place in

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<v Speaker 1>your life. Grow up, love yourself, Understand who you are

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<v Speaker 1>as a person.

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<v Speaker 2>Something is wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>When you can't move on and you can't let go,

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<v Speaker 1>something is wrong with you. You are your own problem.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm not saying that to be negative or hurtful.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to help you today. You have to look

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<v Speaker 1>at that man, look at that woman in the mirror.

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<v Speaker 1>You are your own worst enemy, your mindset. You're hearing no, no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>no no. But to you, it's yes, yes, yes, yes yes,

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<v Speaker 1>because it's what you want. But just because you want

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<v Speaker 1>it doesn't mean they want it. And if they don't

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<v Speaker 1>want it, you shouldn't want it.

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<v Speaker 2>Poort blank. You shouldn't want it. You should never want

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<v Speaker 2>someone who don't want you.

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<v Speaker 1>In no shape, form or fashion should you want anyone

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<v Speaker 1>you don't want you. That's just ignorance by itself, not

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<v Speaker 1>just immaturity by itself. And that's a sign to yourself

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<v Speaker 1>about yourself. You have some healing to do, you have

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<v Speaker 1>some inner issues that are still unresolved. You have some maturity,

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<v Speaker 1>maturity and growing to do. Look at yourself. I'm leaving

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<v Speaker 1>it right there. Thank you for listening. Much love, to you,

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<v Speaker 1>you and you please share this episode. In every episode,

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<v Speaker 1>the saying, I hope Thomas winding up it's time for

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<v Speaker 1>a change for the bad tim

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<v Speaker 2>I hope you do it, think on it.