WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.480 --> 00:00:04.040 KFI AM six forty. You're listening to Dean Sharp The 2 00:00:04.080 --> 00:00:10.839 house Whisper on demand on the iHeartRadio app. I'm Dean Sharp, 3 00:00:10.960 --> 00:00:14.839 the house Whisper, custom home Designer, and here on the 4 00:00:14.880 --> 00:00:19.280 weekends your guide to better understanding that place where you live. 5 00:00:19.679 --> 00:00:23.480 We are all about taking your ordinary house and helping 6 00:00:23.480 --> 00:00:27.800 you make it into an extraordinary home. Today on the show, 7 00:00:28.120 --> 00:00:32.399 we're tackling one of the toughest things out there when 8 00:00:32.399 --> 00:00:35.960 it comes to you transforming your house. I mean tough. 9 00:00:36.479 --> 00:00:38.560 You thought last week was tough when we were talking 10 00:00:38.560 --> 00:00:43.359 about wrestling with color. Okay, that's the thing. But colors exist, 11 00:00:43.520 --> 00:00:45.200 They're out there. We just have to learn how to 12 00:00:45.240 --> 00:00:50.320 work with them. How about this finding your style? Uh, 13 00:00:51.039 --> 00:00:54.320 I know you're cringing. You're like, I don't have style, Dean, 14 00:00:54.880 --> 00:00:57.320 I'd have no idea where to start. Well, that's what 15 00:00:57.359 --> 00:00:59.520 we're going to help you with today. Gonna find your 16 00:00:59.560 --> 00:01:03.520 style and we're going to help to imbue it. Imbue 17 00:01:03.799 --> 00:01:08.079 Oh that's a good word, into your home more and more, 18 00:01:08.200 --> 00:01:11.640 layer by layer, so that you end up with a 19 00:01:11.719 --> 00:01:16.239 custom home experience in every moment that you are walking 20 00:01:16.280 --> 00:01:18.840 through your home. So finding your style, we'll talk about 21 00:01:18.840 --> 00:01:21.319 it in terms of the exterior of the house, like 22 00:01:21.400 --> 00:01:25.959 the architecture, the architectural style, but even more important than that, 23 00:01:26.519 --> 00:01:30.599 once we get inside the house, the flow, the sense 24 00:01:30.920 --> 00:01:34.760 of everything that's going. How do we determine if you 25 00:01:34.920 --> 00:01:38.560 have style and what style is and how do we 26 00:01:38.599 --> 00:01:42.840 find yours? Okay, and of course we're taking calls as always, 27 00:01:43.000 --> 00:01:45.439 we're going to be taking your calls today. The number 28 00:01:45.560 --> 00:01:50.519 to reach me eight three three two. Ask Dean eight 29 00:01:50.599 --> 00:01:54.519 three three, the numeral two. Ask Dean A three three 30 00:01:54.719 --> 00:01:59.079 two pep ask Dean, Okay, got it, A three three 31 00:01:59.519 --> 00:02:03.439 the numeral two, and then just spell out ask Dean. 32 00:02:03.599 --> 00:02:07.120 All right, let me introduce you to our awesome team. Elmer, 33 00:02:07.159 --> 00:02:11.080 as always is on the board. Good morning, Elmer. 34 00:02:10.759 --> 00:02:11.599 Good morning Dean. 35 00:02:11.919 --> 00:02:15.400 Happy Sunday. Happy Sunday to you. What's the what's the 36 00:02:15.479 --> 00:02:19.560 what's the plan for today? When you're done, get some breakfast. 37 00:02:19.719 --> 00:02:22.520 I have like some leftover ground beef, so I want 38 00:02:22.520 --> 00:02:24.919 to make a breakfast burrito. I got some hash brown 39 00:02:25.039 --> 00:02:26.439 so I'm looking forward to that. 40 00:02:27.199 --> 00:02:29.800 Right, you're gonna be uh when is that happening? How 41 00:02:30.159 --> 00:02:31.319 long are you on the board today? 42 00:02:32.120 --> 00:02:34.719 Until twelve? So I just have to hold that hunger 43 00:02:34.759 --> 00:02:36.159 for like two more hours. 44 00:02:36.400 --> 00:02:39.360 All right, you and me both so brunch. Technically brunch 45 00:02:39.479 --> 00:02:43.639 you should be having a breakfast burrito run all right? 46 00:02:43.840 --> 00:02:47.439 Sounds good? Uh hey, look at this sitting in studio. 47 00:02:48.400 --> 00:02:53.000 Producers Richie and Nikki both grab a mic and say hello, 48 00:02:53.120 --> 00:02:58.520 good morning guys. Hello, Hello are you? Is everybody doing good? Sure? 49 00:02:59.000 --> 00:03:01.599 I am too. I have my dunkin Donuts this morning, 50 00:03:01.960 --> 00:03:08.719 so we're good. Nikki, where exactly where exactly, I mean 51 00:03:08.960 --> 00:03:11.000 precisely does that accent come from? 52 00:03:11.199 --> 00:03:14.719 It comes from Bondai Beach in Sydney. 53 00:03:14.240 --> 00:03:19.319 Australia, Bondai Beach. Correct Ah, And how long have you? 54 00:03:19.639 --> 00:03:21.039 How long have you been here? 55 00:03:21.280 --> 00:03:24.479 I've been in the US for eleven years, but I've 56 00:03:24.520 --> 00:03:28.919 been on the West Coast for about nine or ten years. 57 00:03:29.319 --> 00:03:32.719 Okay, all right, sounds good, sounds good. I love that accent. 58 00:03:32.800 --> 00:03:33.599 I love yours too. 59 00:03:34.360 --> 00:03:38.039 Oh it's the weirdest thing to think that I have one. 60 00:03:38.319 --> 00:03:39.879 Everyone has one except for me. 61 00:03:41.599 --> 00:03:42.599 Isn't that the way it works? 62 00:03:42.840 --> 00:03:43.159 Yes? 63 00:03:43.639 --> 00:03:45.719 So what does my accent sound like? I Am not 64 00:03:45.759 --> 00:03:48.400 going to insult you by trying to do my Australian 65 00:03:48.599 --> 00:03:49.960 you know, shrimp on the barbie thing. 66 00:03:50.719 --> 00:03:53.280 I love when people tried it to the accent. 67 00:03:53.319 --> 00:03:57.199 It tickles me every time I'm in the UK. My 68 00:03:57.319 --> 00:04:00.319 friends who live in the UK, I love. I love 69 00:04:00.360 --> 00:04:02.560 asking them. I'm like, go ahead, go do an American 70 00:04:02.599 --> 00:04:05.639 accent and we all end up sounding like cowboys. You 71 00:04:05.680 --> 00:04:09.919 have a very classic accent. Classic What does that mean? 72 00:04:10.080 --> 00:04:11.159 I don't even know what that means. 73 00:04:11.240 --> 00:04:14.520 Well, it's not southern. It's not like Midwestern. It's not 74 00:04:14.599 --> 00:04:16.759 like a valley girl on you, Josey. 75 00:04:16.920 --> 00:04:22.120 It's just classic. Well, I guess that's just my So. 76 00:04:22.439 --> 00:04:26.040 You know, when I was younger, my accent sounded a 77 00:04:26.040 --> 00:04:28.680 little bit more like this. I actually pushed this away. 78 00:04:29.439 --> 00:04:31.959 This was the accent that I had that I spoke 79 00:04:32.040 --> 00:04:35.439 with until I was about seven or eight years old. 80 00:04:36.399 --> 00:04:41.639 And that's because my parents were from well Arkansas, Oklahoma, 81 00:04:42.040 --> 00:04:45.040 and I grew up in a household with that. And 82 00:04:45.079 --> 00:04:46.639 then I went to school. But I was born and 83 00:04:46.680 --> 00:04:49.000 raised right here in Los Angeles, and so I went 84 00:04:49.040 --> 00:04:51.759 to school and I realized all my friends were looking 85 00:04:51.759 --> 00:04:54.600 at me, thinking where are you from? And I'm like, 86 00:04:54.800 --> 00:04:58.319 I'm from Newport Beach and it just didn't make sense 87 00:04:58.360 --> 00:05:01.399 to anybody, and I thought, okay, I just started kind 88 00:05:01.439 --> 00:05:03.639 of pushing it down, pushing it down, and then I 89 00:05:03.720 --> 00:05:05.639 ended up with this one. See, and when I get 90 00:05:05.920 --> 00:05:09.000 so used to talk like a cowboy a little bit more, yeah, 91 00:05:09.000 --> 00:05:10.720 a little bit more, a little bit more like a 92 00:05:10.800 --> 00:05:16.680 cowboy from Los Angeles, from Los Angeles, California. But yeah, 93 00:05:16.720 --> 00:05:19.600 so I pushed it down and I thought no big 94 00:05:19.639 --> 00:05:24.240 deal until, of course, the day when I first invited 95 00:05:24.240 --> 00:05:27.639 some of my friends over to the house, and because 96 00:05:27.639 --> 00:05:31.040 I hadn't anticipated that right, and then my mom heard 97 00:05:31.079 --> 00:05:35.680 me talking like this to my friends, and she's like, 98 00:05:37.839 --> 00:05:40.120 why you change your voice when they're around? And then 99 00:05:40.160 --> 00:05:42.360 I had to spill the beans that I and she 100 00:05:42.360 --> 00:05:44.839 she thought for the longest time that I was ashamed 101 00:05:45.120 --> 00:05:48.560 of my accent, but it was just the fact that 102 00:05:48.600 --> 00:05:50.839 it was just weird. I just it was just weird 103 00:05:51.319 --> 00:05:54.879 for me to come from LA and to have an 104 00:05:54.959 --> 00:05:58.879 accent from Oklahoma. And so anyway, sometimes I'll slip up. 105 00:05:58.920 --> 00:06:01.839 You hear me say, hey, y'all, what's going on? And uh, 106 00:06:01.879 --> 00:06:04.480 And you know, I don't mind it now, but this 107 00:06:04.560 --> 00:06:08.680 has become over what fifty years, this is my this 108 00:06:08.759 --> 00:06:10.959 is my normal speaking voice. But I can get tired 109 00:06:11.000 --> 00:06:13.680 and slip into the other one. So anyway. I love 110 00:06:13.720 --> 00:06:18.040 your accent. It is classic. Thank you right back, all right, 111 00:06:20.079 --> 00:06:23.399 sitting across the table from me, the one who knows 112 00:06:23.519 --> 00:06:27.399 all of the secrets, my best buddy in all the world, 113 00:06:27.480 --> 00:06:32.040 the co founder and co owner and my design partner 114 00:06:32.079 --> 00:06:34.560 of House Whisper, my best buddy in all the world, 115 00:06:34.639 --> 00:06:40.959 Tina is here. Excuse you? No, no, what is that accent? 116 00:06:43.199 --> 00:06:49.279 That's distinctly African? I think? Welcome home. How you doing. 117 00:06:49.879 --> 00:06:53.600 I'm good. It's it's a nice morning, gorgeous outside. It's 118 00:06:53.600 --> 00:06:56.160 a gorgeous. We're going to go ride in a boat later, 119 00:06:56.199 --> 00:06:58.759 I think, I think so, hopefully, hopefully if it all 120 00:06:58.839 --> 00:07:01.199 works out. Well, all right, y'all see I did it? 121 00:07:01.240 --> 00:07:03.600 Look at it? Look at me. I'm just slipping in. 122 00:07:04.959 --> 00:07:08.439 When we come back, we're going to dive in headfirst 123 00:07:08.600 --> 00:07:12.920 into figuring out if we can figure out your style. 124 00:07:13.000 --> 00:07:17.839 It all starts with understanding what the heck is style? Anyway? 125 00:07:17.959 --> 00:07:20.279 I mean, for real, I'm going to break that down 126 00:07:20.360 --> 00:07:24.720 for you, and hopefully you'll be encouraged by the answer 127 00:07:25.160 --> 00:07:28.160 and it'll give you some handles to grab onto and say, Okay, 128 00:07:28.160 --> 00:07:29.439 maybe I can figure this out. 129 00:07:30.439 --> 00:07:33.720 You're listening to Home with Dean Sharp on demand from 130 00:07:33.839 --> 00:07:35.360 KFI AM six forty. 131 00:07:37.040 --> 00:07:41.199 We only do the good kind, uplifting, informative, non bugging 132 00:07:41.279 --> 00:07:43.920 you kind of social media. We're on all the usual 133 00:07:43.959 --> 00:07:47.720 suspects Instagram, TikTok, Facebook X. You know all those guys 134 00:07:48.000 --> 00:07:52.240 Home with Dean, same handle for them, all Home with Dean. 135 00:07:52.759 --> 00:07:55.000 And I'm going to remind you that if your home 136 00:07:55.079 --> 00:07:58.879 is in need of some personal house Whisper attention. If 137 00:07:58.920 --> 00:08:01.800 I start to poking the bear today and you're like, 138 00:08:02.040 --> 00:08:03.839 you know what, it's time for us to start redoing 139 00:08:03.879 --> 00:08:07.240 this home in our style, then you can book an 140 00:08:07.240 --> 00:08:09.920 in home design consult with me and the tea. Just 141 00:08:10.000 --> 00:08:14.160 go to house whisper dot Design for more information house 142 00:08:14.160 --> 00:08:17.240 Whisper dot Design. And of course we're gonna be going 143 00:08:17.279 --> 00:08:19.680 to the phones in a bit as we do. The 144 00:08:19.759 --> 00:08:23.040 number to reach me eight three three two Ask Dean 145 00:08:23.199 --> 00:08:27.279 eight three to three the numeral to ask Dean. Richie 146 00:08:27.319 --> 00:08:30.240 and Nicky are standing by to take your call. They'll 147 00:08:30.279 --> 00:08:32.720 tell you everything you need to know. You can listen 148 00:08:32.759 --> 00:08:37.399 to Nicky's accent from Bondai Beach, Sydney, Australia. There you go, 149 00:08:38.039 --> 00:08:44.720 all right back to it style, just as every great 150 00:08:44.759 --> 00:08:48.000 author or movie maker needs to know what kind of 151 00:08:48.200 --> 00:08:52.240 story they want to tell before they get started. Every 152 00:08:52.279 --> 00:08:56.120 great architectural project begins with that kind of an intention, 153 00:08:56.399 --> 00:09:02.120 an intention, a theme, and some sense of style. The 154 00:09:02.200 --> 00:09:06.159 stronger the sense of style, the stronger the start for 155 00:09:06.440 --> 00:09:09.720 any project. And that's just the way it goes. Now, 156 00:09:09.720 --> 00:09:14.519 here's the trouble with style. Number one, not many people 157 00:09:14.879 --> 00:09:18.639 think they have it. Number two, very few people that 158 00:09:18.679 --> 00:09:22.399 I've met really understand it. And number three, even though 159 00:09:22.600 --> 00:09:27.559 we are surrounded by examples of style and we were 160 00:09:27.639 --> 00:09:30.679 flooded with it on on a daily basis. If you 161 00:09:30.759 --> 00:09:33.840 watch if I mean, if you watch any television whatsoever, 162 00:09:33.879 --> 00:09:38.080 if there's on your feeds, if there's fashion news, if 163 00:09:38.080 --> 00:09:43.000 there's celebrity news, I mean, it's just all about style, style, style. 164 00:09:43.440 --> 00:09:46.879 But here's the thing. Even if you're watching like HDTV 165 00:09:47.080 --> 00:09:50.120 or DIY network, you know you're seeing design shows. I 166 00:09:50.399 --> 00:09:55.360 say that very loosely. Design. I'm using my air quotes 167 00:09:56.480 --> 00:10:02.000 design shows. Even and if you pick up magazines like 168 00:10:02.080 --> 00:10:05.919 Interior Design Magazine or Architectural Digest magazine, which are solid, 169 00:10:06.000 --> 00:10:11.600 lovely publication. The point is this, none of those things 170 00:10:11.759 --> 00:10:15.080 are reaching out to you to help you figure out 171 00:10:15.080 --> 00:10:17.879 what your style is. They're just showing off somebody else's style, 172 00:10:18.080 --> 00:10:20.279 and that's the way it is in the design world 173 00:10:20.360 --> 00:10:24.840 generally speaking. That's why we are kind of standouts in 174 00:10:24.879 --> 00:10:29.080 that sense because I'm sitting here with you having this conversation, 175 00:10:30.000 --> 00:10:34.200 and my concern is not showing you my style in 176 00:10:34.240 --> 00:10:38.519 a magazine spread, but helping you figure out what yours is. 177 00:10:38.879 --> 00:10:44.799 Because your home is where you live, and I assume 178 00:10:44.919 --> 00:10:48.679 you're not so worried about a magazine spread, but what 179 00:10:48.720 --> 00:10:51.279 you are concerned about is how do I make this 180 00:10:51.399 --> 00:10:56.120 house more and more my home? So that's the problem 181 00:10:56.159 --> 00:10:59.480 with style. There are examples of it all around us, 182 00:11:00.279 --> 00:11:04.639 yet other people's stuff, and there's very very little education 183 00:11:04.960 --> 00:11:08.600 about it, or instruction or anybody coming alongside and saying, 184 00:11:08.879 --> 00:11:11.159 you know, let me help you find out yours. And 185 00:11:11.200 --> 00:11:14.399 you would think, well, maybe I could hire a stylist, right, 186 00:11:14.480 --> 00:11:17.559 isn't that what designers are for? Aren't designers there to 187 00:11:17.759 --> 00:11:23.000 give me style? And there's another sense in our industry 188 00:11:23.120 --> 00:11:26.519 in which I would say, yeah, that's kind of how 189 00:11:26.559 --> 00:11:30.039 things work. But here's the question, is it how things 190 00:11:30.200 --> 00:11:33.360 should work? And my answer to that is no, that's 191 00:11:33.440 --> 00:11:36.759 not how things should work. We get hired at times 192 00:11:36.799 --> 00:11:40.840 to give people a style, and they literally say to us, listen, 193 00:11:41.879 --> 00:11:45.960 pick something and go with it, and as long as 194 00:11:46.000 --> 00:11:48.639 you know it doesn't offend me, we're good to go. 195 00:11:48.799 --> 00:11:51.000 I mean, believe it or not, that happens a lot, 196 00:11:51.240 --> 00:11:53.720 and most of the time these days, I shut that 197 00:11:53.799 --> 00:11:56.480 stuff down and I say, yeah, you know what, there's 198 00:11:56.519 --> 00:12:00.399 a lot of people out there who are happy to 199 00:12:00.480 --> 00:12:03.240 do that, to kind of take their sense of style 200 00:12:03.279 --> 00:12:06.480 and just throw it onto your house and so that 201 00:12:06.559 --> 00:12:08.720 you look good with you to your friends and you 202 00:12:08.799 --> 00:12:13.480 feel all, you know, fancy and gigi. But that's not 203 00:12:13.559 --> 00:12:15.919 what we do. What we do is try and dig 204 00:12:15.960 --> 00:12:19.639 into you and draw it out of you, and of 205 00:12:19.679 --> 00:12:22.759 course help you along the way. So the answer to 206 00:12:22.840 --> 00:12:27.240 the question is of can my designer just choose a 207 00:12:27.279 --> 00:12:30.200 style for me? Well, sure they can, but is that 208 00:12:30.320 --> 00:12:33.159 your style? Not? Necessarily I can help you find it. 209 00:12:33.639 --> 00:12:37.240 I can suggest some style choices to you. I can 210 00:12:37.320 --> 00:12:41.840 expand on your style all day long, okay, and I 211 00:12:41.879 --> 00:12:45.200 can make sure you're staying true to your style. But 212 00:12:45.279 --> 00:12:49.360 I can't choose it for you. Your job your job. If 213 00:12:49.360 --> 00:12:51.440 you really want to live in a home that is 214 00:12:51.559 --> 00:12:57.799 truly yours. You really want your personality expressed through the 215 00:12:57.840 --> 00:13:00.200 way that you live. Your job is to do the 216 00:13:00.279 --> 00:13:06.200 hard work of knowing some things about yourself. I remember this. 217 00:13:06.360 --> 00:13:14.720 In the earliest days of my design mentoring, I was 218 00:13:14.799 --> 00:13:18.600 told I was given this example. Written above the entrance 219 00:13:18.919 --> 00:13:23.879 of the Temple of Apollo at Delphi, there is this 220 00:13:24.080 --> 00:13:28.440 ancient Greek maxim. This is ancient history, right, but it's powerful. 221 00:13:28.840 --> 00:13:32.720 You would approach the Temple of Apollo at Delphi and 222 00:13:32.759 --> 00:13:42.399 as you go underneath these columns and this big stone 223 00:13:43.039 --> 00:13:47.720 lentil above the columns written on it in Greek are 224 00:13:47.879 --> 00:13:54.879 these words, know thyself, Know thyself. And I've carried that 225 00:13:54.960 --> 00:13:57.639 with me because I think that's really the heart of 226 00:13:57.799 --> 00:14:01.480 what it means to have a custom home. You have 227 00:14:01.559 --> 00:14:04.120 to know something about yourself. And I've run into a 228 00:14:04.159 --> 00:14:07.679 lot of folks who surprisingly don't know as much about 229 00:14:07.679 --> 00:14:11.200 themselves as they think. And it doesn't mean that, you know, 230 00:14:11.399 --> 00:14:16.120 being a designer of homes, an architectural designer, that doesn't 231 00:14:16.159 --> 00:14:19.320 mean that you know it's my job to take you 232 00:14:19.360 --> 00:14:22.480 to therapy or anything like that. But you know, we 233 00:14:22.559 --> 00:14:25.320 do touch on these things because living in a home 234 00:14:25.440 --> 00:14:29.240 is an emotional experience. And the better you know yourself, 235 00:14:29.639 --> 00:14:32.519 just very simply put, the better it is in terms 236 00:14:32.519 --> 00:14:35.559 of finding and expressing your style. Right, you don't have 237 00:14:35.639 --> 00:14:38.440 to know anything about design, but you do have to 238 00:14:38.440 --> 00:14:42.799 know something about yourself. And the first, last, and most 239 00:14:42.879 --> 00:14:46.360 important job of the design client, in my opinion, is 240 00:14:47.120 --> 00:14:50.919 to know something about yourself and from there we can 241 00:14:50.960 --> 00:14:52.679 get a lot done. I mean, we can get a 242 00:14:52.720 --> 00:14:55.879 lot done. So that is my first encouragement to you. 243 00:14:55.879 --> 00:14:58.600 You don't have to know anything about design. You don't 244 00:14:58.600 --> 00:15:01.720 have to be, you know, have your thumb on the 245 00:15:02.120 --> 00:15:07.039 heartbeat of the pulse of fashion or fad or anything 246 00:15:07.080 --> 00:15:09.840 that's going on in the world right now. You simply 247 00:15:10.399 --> 00:15:13.919 have to make some decisions about what you like and 248 00:15:13.960 --> 00:15:16.840 who you are. And this gets to the very definition 249 00:15:17.080 --> 00:15:20.440 of style. Okay, Now, if you look up style in 250 00:15:20.519 --> 00:15:24.879 the dictionary, you'll find all sorts of derivations of definition 251 00:15:25.039 --> 00:15:28.679 and kind of what's unseen and unspoken. But running through 252 00:15:28.720 --> 00:15:31.919 them all is this idea? Going to leave this with 253 00:15:31.960 --> 00:15:34.360 you to just ponder while we go to the news. 254 00:15:35.240 --> 00:15:43.480 Style is essentially anchored in repetition and routine. Right when 255 00:15:43.519 --> 00:15:46.120 you think of somebody's style, like you think of somebody 256 00:15:46.120 --> 00:15:49.320 who has a certain style to them. It means that 257 00:15:49.399 --> 00:15:53.200 you've seen them do a thing or act away or 258 00:15:53.320 --> 00:15:57.200 move away, or whatever the case may be, more than once. 259 00:15:57.720 --> 00:16:00.919 You've seen it again and again and again and again. 260 00:16:01.000 --> 00:16:04.480 It's kind of their flow. It is their routine. They 261 00:16:04.600 --> 00:16:08.480 routinely behave in this way, they routinely dress this way, 262 00:16:08.759 --> 00:16:13.840 they routinely move this way, they routinely make these choices 263 00:16:13.960 --> 00:16:18.080 or speak in this way. Right, And because of that, 264 00:16:18.679 --> 00:16:22.720 at the heart beat of style, the very root is 265 00:16:23.120 --> 00:16:28.120 this idea of repetition and routine. Style is whatever you 266 00:16:28.279 --> 00:16:33.039 keep coming back to. Style is what you like and 267 00:16:33.080 --> 00:16:36.440 what you keep liking, and how that translates into how 268 00:16:36.480 --> 00:16:39.679 you live. Sorry, think about that, and we're gonna get 269 00:16:39.720 --> 00:16:41.720 even crunchier and more practical with it. 270 00:16:41.799 --> 00:16:46.000 But first, you're listening to Home with Dean Sharp on 271 00:16:46.120 --> 00:16:48.399 demand from KFI AM six forty. 272 00:16:50.440 --> 00:16:52.679 We're going into the phones in just a bit. The 273 00:16:52.759 --> 00:16:56.679 number to reach us eight three three two. Ask Dean 274 00:16:56.799 --> 00:17:00.559 A three three. The numeral two ask Dean the room 275 00:17:00.600 --> 00:17:03.399 on the phone lines for you today, So give me 276 00:17:03.440 --> 00:17:06.039 a call. I'm talking about finding your style today. But 277 00:17:06.079 --> 00:17:09.240 when it comes to our calls, always, always, always, you 278 00:17:09.400 --> 00:17:12.000 set the agenda, So anything you want to talk about 279 00:17:12.000 --> 00:17:17.160 regarding your home design, construction, DIY issues, whatever the case 280 00:17:17.200 --> 00:17:23.039 may be, inside, outside, landscape, interior decor anything from fixing 281 00:17:23.079 --> 00:17:26.880 the leaky toilet, fluffing the pillows, to how do we 282 00:17:26.920 --> 00:17:30.319 pour the foundation or how do I design the dream 283 00:17:30.440 --> 00:17:33.000 home that I've always wanted, any and all of it. 284 00:17:33.359 --> 00:17:36.319 I'm here to help. Whatever's got you scratching your head 285 00:17:36.359 --> 00:17:41.119 about your home eight three three two ask Dean, it's 286 00:17:41.319 --> 00:17:47.400 just that easy, Okay. Back to the essence of finding 287 00:17:47.559 --> 00:17:52.440 your style. Okay, Well, first of all, have you thought 288 00:17:52.480 --> 00:17:55.160 about that through the break if you were with us 289 00:17:55.200 --> 00:17:56.799 before and if you just joined us, you want to 290 00:17:56.799 --> 00:17:59.079 make sure you go back and listen to the podcast 291 00:17:59.079 --> 00:18:03.559 because we've already had it out. Some pearls of wisdom here. Style. 292 00:18:03.680 --> 00:18:07.599 What is style really? It's repetition, it's routine, It's whatever 293 00:18:07.720 --> 00:18:11.880 you keep coming back to. It's the things that you like. 294 00:18:12.000 --> 00:18:15.240 It's the groove. You know. I like that term that's 295 00:18:15.240 --> 00:18:17.440 an old Is that like a that's like an old 296 00:18:18.599 --> 00:18:21.359 seventies kind of sixties and seventies kind of term, like 297 00:18:21.559 --> 00:18:25.880 your groove. But you think about that, if your style 298 00:18:26.160 --> 00:18:30.680 is described as your groove, that means that you do 299 00:18:30.720 --> 00:18:34.519 it often enough that you've worn a groove into your life. Right, 300 00:18:34.880 --> 00:18:40.920 that's it, that's the idea. So why is it even important? 301 00:18:41.559 --> 00:18:46.440 Is it just kind of theatrics? Is it just vanity? 302 00:18:47.519 --> 00:18:50.400 I don't think so, And I'll tell you why. The 303 00:18:51.519 --> 00:18:54.559 great man Winston Churchill once said, this is the most 304 00:18:54.640 --> 00:18:59.440 one of the most significant statements about architecture, I think 305 00:18:59.480 --> 00:19:02.599 ever in the history of architecture. And it was uttered 306 00:19:02.640 --> 00:19:07.119 by a non architect, but I love it anyway. Winston 307 00:19:07.240 --> 00:19:10.519 Churchill knew this, He had realized this. He said, we 308 00:19:10.720 --> 00:19:16.759 shape our buildings, and thereafter they shape us. And it's 309 00:19:16.839 --> 00:19:21.440 so true. It is so true in a thousand tiny ways. 310 00:19:21.599 --> 00:19:25.839 Every day, the buildings that we dwell in, that we 311 00:19:25.920 --> 00:19:29.359 move in, they tell us things. They tell us how 312 00:19:29.400 --> 00:19:31.519 we have to get from here to the bathroom. They 313 00:19:31.559 --> 00:19:34.119 tell us what we're going to experience as we go there. 314 00:19:34.359 --> 00:19:37.240 They tell us what a room looks like in the 315 00:19:37.279 --> 00:19:42.279 morning light or in the last you know, whispers of 316 00:19:42.359 --> 00:19:45.359 daylight as the sun sets. They tell us all of 317 00:19:45.400 --> 00:19:50.000 these things. They shape our moods, They shape the way 318 00:19:50.000 --> 00:19:52.799 we behave, they shape what we see, and they shape 319 00:19:52.799 --> 00:19:54.599 what we think. In a lot of ways, and so 320 00:19:54.680 --> 00:19:59.440 it's very true we shape our buildings, therefore thereafter they 321 00:19:59.640 --> 00:20:04.119 shape us. And this is why finding our style for 322 00:20:04.240 --> 00:20:08.519 our home is important because to understand your style, to 323 00:20:08.599 --> 00:20:11.920 embed your style into your home, it then becomes a 324 00:20:12.000 --> 00:20:16.279 mirror that reflects it back to you and allows you 325 00:20:16.319 --> 00:20:20.359 just that beautiful kind of hand in glove experience of 326 00:20:20.839 --> 00:20:24.119 living your life in a space that is truly yours. 327 00:20:24.480 --> 00:20:30.559 So it's important because our buildings shape us. It's important 328 00:20:30.720 --> 00:20:36.920 because style is not a fashion thing. Style is repetition, 329 00:20:36.960 --> 00:20:39.559 it's routine. It's finding out what it is that we're 330 00:20:39.599 --> 00:20:43.000 all about. And what is the difference between style and fashion. 331 00:20:43.279 --> 00:20:47.160 By the way, I love this phrase. Style is whatever 332 00:20:47.200 --> 00:20:50.279 I do and fashion is whatever else everybody else is 333 00:20:50.319 --> 00:20:55.319 doing to keep up with me. That's true, right A designer, 334 00:20:55.359 --> 00:20:59.240 a fashion designer comes up with their own unique style 335 00:20:59.640 --> 00:21:04.039 and and a bunch of people are, you know, chasing 336 00:21:04.119 --> 00:21:07.720 behind trying to get that look going for themselves. So 337 00:21:08.240 --> 00:21:11.799 style is whatever you do, and no, you don't have 338 00:21:11.839 --> 00:21:14.480 to look fashionable to have your own style. That's the 339 00:21:14.599 --> 00:21:17.079 very essence of it. Style is the root of fashion. 340 00:21:17.160 --> 00:21:21.200 It's not the fruit of fashion, Okay, it's the root. Okay, 341 00:21:21.960 --> 00:21:27.880 does your style have to be utterly unique? Well, Uh, 342 00:21:28.759 --> 00:21:35.599 that's a tricky question because you, I believe, are utterly unique, 343 00:21:35.640 --> 00:21:43.000 and so on some level, yes, your style should be unique. 344 00:21:43.200 --> 00:21:46.400 I think the word utterly there is the tricky part. 345 00:21:46.599 --> 00:21:49.759 Does your style have to be utterly unique? In other words, 346 00:21:49.759 --> 00:21:53.359 does your style have to be different than everybody else 347 00:21:53.480 --> 00:21:58.720 in every conceivable way? And I think that's just kind 348 00:21:58.759 --> 00:22:02.720 of silly and ridiculous, because there are we have We 349 00:22:02.799 --> 00:22:06.160 all share more things in common than we have differences 350 00:22:06.200 --> 00:22:09.799 between us, and so there's going to be a lot 351 00:22:10.039 --> 00:22:14.440 of similarities in between different people's style who have truly 352 00:22:14.559 --> 00:22:18.240 found their own style. Okay, As they say, it's not 353 00:22:18.359 --> 00:22:20.839 what you wear, but it's how you wear it. Okay. 354 00:22:21.119 --> 00:22:24.960 So the idea is that, yeah, to a certain degree, 355 00:22:25.279 --> 00:22:29.920 that's the that's that's the gold, that in the buried 356 00:22:29.920 --> 00:22:35.000 treasure to find a few elements of style that for 357 00:22:35.200 --> 00:22:40.279 you are totally and utterly unique to you. But that 358 00:22:40.319 --> 00:22:42.319 doesn't mean that we have to come up with an 359 00:22:42.400 --> 00:22:45.759 architectural style that nobody else has ever heard of before 360 00:22:46.039 --> 00:22:49.680 to express you, or an interior design style or a 361 00:22:49.680 --> 00:22:52.319 paint color or anything like. We don't have to come 362 00:22:52.400 --> 00:22:55.079 up with. You know, we don't have to reinvent the 363 00:22:55.119 --> 00:22:57.960 wheel on every turn because it's just not the way 364 00:22:58.000 --> 00:23:01.079 life works. So, uh, does your style have to be 365 00:23:01.200 --> 00:23:05.920 utterly unique? Not utterly unique, but to a certain degree. 366 00:23:06.319 --> 00:23:10.440 The goal is to find something unique about your style, 367 00:23:10.759 --> 00:23:12.920 all right? Another question that we get all the time. 368 00:23:13.480 --> 00:23:17.559 Does my style have to be what my life is 369 00:23:17.759 --> 00:23:23.599 like now? Or can it be aspirational? Can my style 370 00:23:24.400 --> 00:23:27.200 that I choose for myself be something that I really 371 00:23:27.359 --> 00:23:30.519 want to have happen, that I want more of, but 372 00:23:31.200 --> 00:23:34.680 doesn't necessarily reflect where I'm at and what's going on 373 00:23:34.839 --> 00:23:40.319 with me right now? Okay, yeah, of course, and it 374 00:23:40.359 --> 00:23:43.400 should be again a mixture of the two, because there's 375 00:23:43.480 --> 00:23:47.519 something about that style that you're aspiring to that's already 376 00:23:47.519 --> 00:23:50.480 going on in you. Does that make sense, that's already happening, 377 00:23:50.519 --> 00:23:53.440 that's already reflecting outwards. You may not be in the 378 00:23:53.480 --> 00:23:57.880 best medium to express that style fully. I hear it 379 00:23:57.920 --> 00:24:01.200 all the time. I have a certain style that I want, 380 00:24:01.200 --> 00:24:03.640 but I find myself in a house that is not 381 00:24:03.880 --> 00:24:07.640 reflecting that style at all, or maybe the idea like 382 00:24:07.720 --> 00:24:10.680 even on the big scale that you know, I'm not 383 00:24:10.720 --> 00:24:14.200 a big fan of tutor houses, but I live in one, okay, 384 00:24:14.240 --> 00:24:16.599 because this was the one my family needed, This is 385 00:24:16.640 --> 00:24:19.319 the one that we could afford. This was a lovely home. 386 00:24:19.599 --> 00:24:23.519 But it's not actually exactly my style. How do we 387 00:24:23.559 --> 00:24:26.200 get from point A to point Z there? We'll talk 388 00:24:26.240 --> 00:24:30.839 more about that. But does your style have to be 389 00:24:30.960 --> 00:24:33.039 what your life is like right now? Or can it 390 00:24:33.079 --> 00:24:35.799 be aspirational? Of course it can be aspirational. I hope 391 00:24:35.839 --> 00:24:38.880 you have aspirations to grow and to become and to 392 00:24:39.000 --> 00:24:43.480 reach out and to be more, and so style this tricky, 393 00:24:43.599 --> 00:24:47.000 slippery thing. It's a little easier to understand than what 394 00:24:47.039 --> 00:24:48.799 most people think of. We just need to kind of 395 00:24:48.839 --> 00:24:54.519 pull back the curtain and essentially see that it's routine, repetition, 396 00:24:55.079 --> 00:24:58.359 it's whatever you keep coming back to. It's what you like, 397 00:24:58.759 --> 00:25:01.400 even if what you like is not where you're living, 398 00:25:02.039 --> 00:25:06.079 and it represents to a certain degree, your authentic life 399 00:25:06.319 --> 00:25:09.039 as you live it every day. Okay. It can be 400 00:25:09.079 --> 00:25:12.920 one part aspirational, one part what your life is like now. 401 00:25:13.119 --> 00:25:16.519