WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.160 --> 00:00:05.759 This conversation is about more than fashion. It's about identity, 2 00:00:06.679 --> 00:00:12.000 it's about pride. It's about the quiet and sometimes loud 3 00:00:12.640 --> 00:00:18.679 revolution that happens when two people decide that representation is 4 00:00:18.719 --> 00:00:23.839 not just an idea, it's a responsibility. Prince and Omar, 5 00:00:24.559 --> 00:00:28.960 the founders of Rebjaa, took what many might have seen 6 00:00:29.120 --> 00:00:35.759 as a niche concept Jamaican culture, streetwear and unapologetic authenticity, 7 00:00:36.479 --> 00:00:40.759 and built a global platform from it. Not just a brand, 8 00:00:41.359 --> 00:00:47.079 but a voice, one that's been worn by celebrities, embraced 9 00:00:47.159 --> 00:00:52.119 by the diaspora, and recognized by the very culture they've 10 00:00:52.159 --> 00:00:57.960 worked assidiously to honor and elevate. And here's something we 11 00:00:58.159 --> 00:01:03.439 don't talk about enough. We wear clothing every day, yet 12 00:01:03.799 --> 00:01:06.959 we rarely know the stories or the people behind the 13 00:01:07.000 --> 00:01:11.920 brands we're wearing. We don't always ask who created this, 14 00:01:12.760 --> 00:01:16.400 what do they believe in? Or what message are we 15 00:01:16.560 --> 00:01:20.760 carrying on our bodies? But this episode will give you 16 00:01:20.959 --> 00:01:26.640 insight and I can guarantee you'll walk away from this 17 00:01:26.760 --> 00:01:31.799 episode knowing exactly who Prince and Omar are, not just 18 00:01:31.879 --> 00:01:37.760 as designers, but as humans, as men with deep values, 19 00:01:38.280 --> 00:01:44.400 powerful intention, and an unwavering love for their heritage. Listen. 20 00:01:45.040 --> 00:01:48.920 They could have easily named the brand after themselves or 21 00:01:49.159 --> 00:01:55.120 chosen something trendy, but instead they chose rep JA, which 22 00:01:55.159 --> 00:02:01.400 is short for Represent Jamaica, because they understood the assignment 23 00:02:02.280 --> 00:02:06.120 that what we wear can be more than fabric. What 24 00:02:06.200 --> 00:02:11.479 we wear is a statement, a billboard, a legacy. Some 25 00:02:11.680 --> 00:02:16.159 even say what you wear introduces you before you even speak. 26 00:02:17.319 --> 00:02:20.479 By the end of this episode, you won't just feel 27 00:02:20.560 --> 00:02:25.800 proud to wear a rep jaa clothing, swimwear, or a hat. 28 00:02:26.319 --> 00:02:32.560 You'll feel proud knowing who you're representing. Two real, grounded, 29 00:02:32.960 --> 00:02:38.479 genuine men who are using fashion to uplift an entire culture, 30 00:02:39.400 --> 00:02:47.080 their culture, our culture. Honestly, the Jamaica TOURUS Board might 31 00:02:47.159 --> 00:02:50.479 need to give these two a call because they're not 32 00:02:50.599 --> 00:02:55.400 just selling apparel. They are advertising Jamaica, one article of 33 00:02:55.479 --> 00:03:00.479 clothing at a time. So, yes, it's sundlight. Need to 34 00:03:00.479 --> 00:03:07.080 get on board if you ask me. As usual, this 35 00:03:07.240 --> 00:03:12.479 conversation is filled with moments of introspection, a little bit 36 00:03:12.520 --> 00:03:18.280 of eye water laughter. Of course, you know, it's not 37 00:03:18.560 --> 00:03:21.879 a l T d T episode if we're not laughing. 38 00:03:22.039 --> 00:03:24.919 That's all we do ninety percent of the time. But 39 00:03:26.080 --> 00:03:28.800 you're going to learn something. You're going to connect with 40 00:03:28.919 --> 00:03:32.360 Prince and Omar, and I'm so excited for you to 41 00:03:32.439 --> 00:03:37.479 hear this episode. So grab your tea, coffee, or a 42 00:03:37.479 --> 00:03:39.719 glass of wine and let's talk. 43 00:03:39.560 --> 00:03:47.560 To Things before gans to show I never known this 44 00:03:47.919 --> 00:03:52.759 topresent everywhere. 45 00:03:56.120 --> 00:04:01.520 Girl in Final Clean. 46 00:04:02.560 --> 00:04:02.879 If you. 47 00:04:04.840 --> 00:04:06.599 Clea it's a. 48 00:04:10.319 --> 00:04:20.240 Infinite Hello everyone, Welcome back to another episode of Let's 49 00:04:20.360 --> 00:04:25.240 Talk to Things, where we discuss personal growth, travel, music, 50 00:04:25.839 --> 00:04:30.959 beauty and wellness while encouraging you to live fearlessly and fabulously. 51 00:04:31.639 --> 00:04:35.879 I'm your host, Ash and this week we are talking 52 00:04:35.920 --> 00:04:39.639 the Things with Prince and Omar, the co founders of 53 00:04:39.839 --> 00:04:45.639 rep Ja, a bold, unapologetic lifestyle brand that's inspired by 54 00:04:45.720 --> 00:04:50.480 the energy, rhythm, and the resilience of Jamaica. Hi, Prince 55 00:04:50.519 --> 00:04:52.519 and Omar, how are you welcome? 56 00:04:52.959 --> 00:04:58.040 Thank you USh, i'ming us them one, blessed us, glad to. 57 00:04:58.120 --> 00:05:03.439 Be here, no problem. I'm happy to have you guys here. 58 00:05:03.759 --> 00:05:06.680 So yes, thank you for coming to talk the Things 59 00:05:06.720 --> 00:05:10.120 with me and for you and our first time listeners. 60 00:05:10.560 --> 00:05:14.480 We begin each episode with our listener's favorite segment, and 61 00:05:14.600 --> 00:05:21.879 it's called that no sounds safe. So the title alone 62 00:05:21.959 --> 00:05:27.240 sounds crazy, right, That's what makes it good. So I'm 63 00:05:27.360 --> 00:05:30.959 going to read messages or social media posts that listeners 64 00:05:31.000 --> 00:05:34.040 sent in, and if you think it's crazy or a 65 00:05:34.079 --> 00:05:37.759 little concerning, you'd say that sounds safe and explain why. 66 00:05:38.360 --> 00:05:40.560 And if you agree, you just say you agree or 67 00:05:40.680 --> 00:05:43.040 that sounds safe, whatever you want to say, and explain 68 00:05:43.079 --> 00:05:49.680 why sounds good? So good, all right, perfect, perfect, all right. 69 00:05:49.839 --> 00:05:53.639 So the first person said, before you argue with anyone, 70 00:05:54.079 --> 00:05:58.319 ask yourself, is that person even mentally mature enough to 71 00:05:58.439 --> 00:06:02.040 grasp the concept of a different perspective, because if not, 72 00:06:02.480 --> 00:06:04.399 there's absolutely no point. 73 00:06:05.000 --> 00:06:05.800 I say that's safe. 74 00:06:06.800 --> 00:06:07.800 Yeah, that's safe. 75 00:06:09.279 --> 00:06:11.680 Yeah, I agree. I think like longer, the days of 76 00:06:11.959 --> 00:06:15.560 arguing with people that you know don't really understand your 77 00:06:15.639 --> 00:06:18.560 perspective anyway, it just seems like a waste of energy. 78 00:06:18.720 --> 00:06:21.759 Right, I want to listen because I mean, everybody going 79 00:06:21.839 --> 00:06:25.160 with them grow up, you know, their level of reasoning, 80 00:06:25.480 --> 00:06:27.560 all of that stuff make a difference as well. 81 00:06:27.639 --> 00:06:31.639 So I agree exactly exactly, And I think that when 82 00:06:31.720 --> 00:06:34.639 you're younger, you think that you can convince other people 83 00:06:34.839 --> 00:06:36.800 to like see your side, But like you said, when 84 00:06:37.000 --> 00:06:40.199 persons grow a certain way, they have to decide to 85 00:06:40.279 --> 00:06:42.920 want to change. You can't make anybody change your mind 86 00:06:43.040 --> 00:06:45.480 and their mind. And if you think about how hard 87 00:06:45.519 --> 00:06:48.160 it is for you to change your own mind about things, 88 00:06:48.680 --> 00:06:52.040 you'd understand how difficult it is to change somebody else's mind, 89 00:06:52.240 --> 00:06:54.319 you know, right, yeah. 90 00:06:54.240 --> 00:06:54.600 For sure? 91 00:06:54.839 --> 00:06:57.199 All right, so we all agree that sounds safe. One 92 00:06:57.279 --> 00:07:03.720 the same, all right? The next one. Someone said, my 93 00:07:03.920 --> 00:07:07.360 love language is playfulness. I love when the space between 94 00:07:07.480 --> 00:07:10.519 me and someone I'm interested in is filled with laughter. 95 00:07:11.120 --> 00:07:13.560 You know, someone is God said, when they bring out 96 00:07:13.600 --> 00:07:14.759 your inner child. 97 00:07:20.120 --> 00:07:20.439 It's not. 98 00:07:23.959 --> 00:07:24.199 Chance. 99 00:07:24.480 --> 00:07:25.560 That's not over yet. 100 00:07:27.920 --> 00:07:28.399 So this is. 101 00:07:29.879 --> 00:07:32.920 But you know, somebody, if you think about it, somebody 102 00:07:33.040 --> 00:07:36.160 can think that this is not safe because maybe somebody 103 00:07:36.279 --> 00:07:40.079 out there doesn't like their inner child, and maybe they 104 00:07:40.480 --> 00:07:43.319 take life very seriously and they don't like playfulness, so 105 00:07:43.399 --> 00:07:44.600 that could not be safe. 106 00:07:44.399 --> 00:07:45.959 For some This is true. 107 00:07:46.560 --> 00:07:49.120 Yeah, And then it's also a give and take as well, 108 00:07:49.160 --> 00:07:52.160 because that person's love language could be playfulness, But do 109 00:07:52.279 --> 00:07:56.199 they understand what their partner how their partner how do 110 00:07:56.279 --> 00:07:58.360 they want their partner to interact with them as well? 111 00:07:58.439 --> 00:08:02.639 Because certain level, but I might not be as playful, 112 00:08:02.720 --> 00:08:05.879 but my way of showing you that I'm playful with 113 00:08:06.000 --> 00:08:08.680 you might not be as intense as you might like it, 114 00:08:08.879 --> 00:08:09.879 but can you accept that. 115 00:08:09.959 --> 00:08:13.279 As well exactly? And sometimes people don't run certain jokes, 116 00:08:13.360 --> 00:08:16.120 so you could think something is like playful, and somebody 117 00:08:16.160 --> 00:08:18.519 could look at you like, wait are you talking to me? 118 00:08:18.839 --> 00:08:21.120 Like you can't be talking to me, and you could think, wait, 119 00:08:21.279 --> 00:08:24.439 that's how I play around, you know. So so yeah, 120 00:08:24.560 --> 00:08:26.519 somebody out there could think it's not safe, but I 121 00:08:26.600 --> 00:08:28.600 agree with you both. I think that sounds safe. 122 00:08:29.560 --> 00:08:33.440 Yeah, yeah, them people, those people if yeah, that's a 123 00:08:33.480 --> 00:08:36.759 whole consation. But I think, I think, I think, I 124 00:08:36.840 --> 00:08:38.919 think if you take a life that serious to where 125 00:08:39.080 --> 00:08:40.879 you can't take a joke and you're really about to 126 00:08:40.960 --> 00:08:43.879 jump out the window and give somebody crazy, there's some 127 00:08:44.000 --> 00:08:47.080 other underlying issues you need to realize exactly exactly. 128 00:08:47.200 --> 00:08:48.960 Those are some things that you need to work out 129 00:08:48.960 --> 00:08:51.519 because life is too short to be that serious all 130 00:08:51.600 --> 00:08:54.159 the time. But I'm sure we do know people out 131 00:08:54.200 --> 00:08:56.399 there that are very serious for no reason. 132 00:08:56.519 --> 00:09:00.200 So for sure, Okay, the. 133 00:09:00.320 --> 00:09:03.799 Next person said, sometimes I just want someone to hug 134 00:09:03.919 --> 00:09:06.639 me and say, I know it's hard, you're going to 135 00:09:06.720 --> 00:09:10.159 be okay, here's some tea and five million dollars. 136 00:09:12.120 --> 00:09:17.399 Wish wish for thinking I think everybody wanted to, right, Yes, everybody, 137 00:09:17.440 --> 00:09:18.879 Well take a whole ground five minutes. 138 00:09:19.000 --> 00:09:20.879 Yeah, something small, nothing. 139 00:09:21.519 --> 00:09:23.279 Won't hurt the bunk account too much. 140 00:09:23.320 --> 00:09:27.240 Exactly, exactly. Something too crazy, nothing too crazy? 141 00:09:27.639 --> 00:09:29.720 Yeah, And I mean, and I guess the underline with 142 00:09:29.799 --> 00:09:33.000 that is just, you know, encouragement from some aspects, because 143 00:09:33.000 --> 00:09:38.039 most of the time, when you're going through a certain situation, 144 00:09:38.919 --> 00:09:42.440 it's harder to see how easy sometimes it is to 145 00:09:42.720 --> 00:09:44.840 just either leave it alone or go another path. But 146 00:09:44.960 --> 00:09:48.799 because we're just so much involved emotionally, it's hard to 147 00:09:48.799 --> 00:09:50.360 see it. That's why it's easy for us to give 148 00:09:51.039 --> 00:09:52.960 feedback to other people, Like all you have to do 149 00:09:53.080 --> 00:09:56.759 is this because something it just looks clearer as a 150 00:09:56.879 --> 00:09:58.879 path of how to get over out of it, But 151 00:09:58.960 --> 00:10:01.600 when you're in it, it seems much harder to get 152 00:10:01.679 --> 00:10:04.519 out of that situation. Yes, you know. So you know, 153 00:10:04.600 --> 00:10:07.000 sometimes you just need a friend to say, you know, 154 00:10:07.120 --> 00:10:10.080 sorry for doing it. This is you know. Yeah, it's 155 00:10:10.159 --> 00:10:11.879 easier for them to give up because they're not as 156 00:10:11.919 --> 00:10:14.840 emotionally involved with the outcome exactly. 157 00:10:14.879 --> 00:10:17.320 And I think that's why empathy is so important, right, 158 00:10:17.440 --> 00:10:20.279 Sometimes you just need a friend to listen, to understand 159 00:10:20.799 --> 00:10:23.720 and not necessarily to respond and come with this like 160 00:10:23.879 --> 00:10:26.200 deep op trope or advice, because you might not be 161 00:10:26.320 --> 00:10:27.639 ready for that in that moment. 162 00:10:27.840 --> 00:10:33.639 Just me, I've been there, I've been there. They're like, yeah, 163 00:10:33.639 --> 00:10:35.399 I just need it. I just needed somebody to listen 164 00:10:35.440 --> 00:10:37.159 to me. I didn't need any advice. 165 00:10:38.320 --> 00:10:40.799 Yes, that's so true, and it's so funny you say that, 166 00:10:40.919 --> 00:10:44.519 because I remember thinking my brother was so odd for 167 00:10:44.639 --> 00:10:46.960 this when when I was younger and I would come 168 00:10:47.039 --> 00:10:49.559 to him with things. He would say to me before 169 00:10:49.679 --> 00:10:52.120 I start telling him, do you want me to give 170 00:10:52.159 --> 00:10:54.240 you advice? Or do you want me to just listen? 171 00:10:54.720 --> 00:10:57.279 And I would be like, that's so weird. Just listen, 172 00:10:57.399 --> 00:10:59.240 like why are you even asking me that? But the 173 00:10:59.360 --> 00:11:02.600 old guy I appreciated that because sometimes I didn't want 174 00:11:02.639 --> 00:11:05.320 him to say anything, and other times I wanted him 175 00:11:05.360 --> 00:11:07.720 to tell me, like exactly what I need to do, 176 00:11:08.039 --> 00:11:11.879 you know. So yeah, I think that's an important distinction 177 00:11:12.159 --> 00:11:14.759 that we should try to make, even if you don't 178 00:11:15.240 --> 00:11:19.120 say that, you know, like literally just listen, like let 179 00:11:19.200 --> 00:11:22.080 the person have to tell you, okay, so omar prince, 180 00:11:22.240 --> 00:11:24.000 like what should I do next? Rather than you just 181 00:11:24.120 --> 00:11:27.799 putting it on them, you know, right, yeah, and. 182 00:11:27.879 --> 00:11:32.080 Then it goes to when when that opportunity present presents 183 00:11:32.120 --> 00:11:35.960 itself for you to give a response if they are asking, 184 00:11:36.200 --> 00:11:39.519 that's when that clarity comes in where you can see it. 185 00:11:39.559 --> 00:11:41.559 Because sometimes we want to be the hero and tell 186 00:11:41.639 --> 00:11:43.480 people what to do. Meanwhile, we don't have our own 187 00:11:43.519 --> 00:11:46.360 stuff together. So you know, when you can actually listen 188 00:11:47.159 --> 00:11:51.200 and as I said, empathetically or not emotionally connected to 189 00:11:51.279 --> 00:11:54.080 the situation, on the outcome, yeah, then it's like, okay, 190 00:11:54.159 --> 00:11:56.279 it seems much more clear. But you know, as I 191 00:11:56.320 --> 00:11:58.879 said earlier, when you're going through it, it seems like 192 00:11:59.000 --> 00:12:00.759 this is the hardest decision ever. 193 00:12:01.039 --> 00:12:01.240 Yeah. 194 00:12:01.360 --> 00:12:03.399 But the more we can can kind of step out 195 00:12:03.440 --> 00:12:06.399 of it and look up on it, you know, externally, 196 00:12:06.879 --> 00:12:10.360 then it becomes easier. But yeah, just sometimes for somebody 197 00:12:10.440 --> 00:12:12.759 to listen. Most of the time, that's all I really want. 198 00:12:12.840 --> 00:12:14.440 That somebody kill us here urself. 199 00:12:14.320 --> 00:12:16.679 Absolutely, and just one last thing to close the loop 200 00:12:16.720 --> 00:12:18.320 on that you made me, just think of something else. 201 00:12:18.759 --> 00:12:22.360 It's all so important who you have listening to, because 202 00:12:22.360 --> 00:12:24.879 if you go to somebody that's already bad mind or 203 00:12:24.960 --> 00:12:27.639 really doesn't care for you, they're probably going to tell 204 00:12:27.639 --> 00:12:30.159 you something that you probably shouldn't do. But because you're 205 00:12:30.240 --> 00:12:32.919 looking at them as someone that does care for you, 206 00:12:32.919 --> 00:12:36.120 you're thinking like, oh, maybe that is good advice, when 207 00:12:36.159 --> 00:12:38.159 in reality they could be trying to throw you off 208 00:12:38.240 --> 00:12:40.679 your path. So you have to use discernment, you know, 209 00:12:40.720 --> 00:12:43.679 when choosing, and you're going to with your problems for sure. 210 00:12:43.720 --> 00:12:46.080 Absolutely, yeah, absolutely. 211 00:12:45.639 --> 00:12:50.200 Definitely, definitely Okay, So that one, that one sounds safe 212 00:12:50.240 --> 00:12:54.159 for saying, yeah, yep, okay, perfect, all right. So the 213 00:12:54.279 --> 00:12:56.000 next person said, I think. 214 00:12:55.879 --> 00:12:58.080 You have set we up with that one, and set 215 00:12:58.279 --> 00:13:02.159 up I feel like a set up. A no, no no. 216 00:13:02.360 --> 00:13:04.919 But this one is this one is specific to men though, 217 00:13:05.000 --> 00:13:08.639 I will say that. So this person said, black men 218 00:13:08.759 --> 00:13:13.159 need to choose better mates. You can't build a peaceful, purposeful, 219 00:13:13.480 --> 00:13:16.600 or powerful life with someone who doesn't have the emotional 220 00:13:16.720 --> 00:13:21.440 maturity to co create with you. Emotional competence is everything. 221 00:13:21.879 --> 00:13:25.519 It's the ability to communicate with clarity, to hold space 222 00:13:25.840 --> 00:13:29.159 space for your growth, to challenge you with love, and 223 00:13:29.320 --> 00:13:34.039 to walk beside you through life's inevitable transitions. That one's 224 00:13:34.039 --> 00:13:34.919 a little deep. 225 00:13:34.759 --> 00:13:38.240 But yeah, one deep. I think I think that one 226 00:13:38.720 --> 00:13:45.519 is aspirational in its in its context, But how do 227 00:13:45.600 --> 00:13:48.720 you bring that to reality all right, because there's nuances 228 00:13:48.840 --> 00:13:53.519 in life that don't make the simplest thing as simple 229 00:13:53.559 --> 00:13:56.279 as it should be. And then it also depends on 230 00:13:56.679 --> 00:13:59.440 your where you are in life. You know, what age 231 00:13:59.440 --> 00:14:02.919 are you refering into? You know, how many situations have 232 00:14:03.039 --> 00:14:05.039 you been through for certain aspects to say, Okay, this 233 00:14:05.240 --> 00:14:07.200 is what I want to know, Because at twenty three, 234 00:14:07.279 --> 00:14:10.039 twenty five, twenty eight, you might not be looking for 235 00:14:10.279 --> 00:14:12.399 all of that. You know, you might just be looking 236 00:14:12.480 --> 00:14:15.080 for certain aspects. Then when the more much or older 237 00:14:15.120 --> 00:14:17.039 you get, yeah, and you're like, you know what I've 238 00:14:17.120 --> 00:14:19.039 done certain things? No, this is what I'm looking for 239 00:14:19.159 --> 00:14:21.279 in this part of my life. So there's there's a 240 00:14:21.320 --> 00:14:22.080 lot to unpack. 241 00:14:22.279 --> 00:14:22.440 You know. 242 00:14:22.759 --> 00:14:27.759 My simple overview with synopsis is not capturing everything. But 243 00:14:28.799 --> 00:14:31.559 I think it's it needs more context overall, because you 244 00:14:31.600 --> 00:14:34.679 can just say, yeah, I want this, but it depends 245 00:14:34.720 --> 00:14:35.240 on where you are. 246 00:14:35.399 --> 00:14:38.120 Yeah. My take on it is I agree with what 247 00:14:38.200 --> 00:14:41.720 you're saying. Oh, but also I think people should already 248 00:14:41.799 --> 00:14:44.200 know what they want it's like but you don't have 249 00:14:44.279 --> 00:14:45.720 to act on it. I think the problem with a 250 00:14:45.720 --> 00:14:47.840 lot of people now is they don't know what they want, 251 00:14:48.200 --> 00:14:50.240 so it takes them longer to figure out what they 252 00:14:50.320 --> 00:14:52.200 want when they get to a certain age, because it's 253 00:14:52.240 --> 00:14:54.360 somebody who's twenty three who knows exactly what they want 254 00:14:54.960 --> 00:14:56.519 and they can go get it, you know what I mean. 255 00:14:56.639 --> 00:14:59.399 So I think I think people are just lost in general, 256 00:14:59.559 --> 00:15:01.759 like black this loss in general. Women are just lost 257 00:15:01.759 --> 00:15:02.399 in general to war. 258 00:15:02.559 --> 00:15:03.080 Yeah I don't. 259 00:15:03.159 --> 00:15:03.559 They don't. 260 00:15:03.600 --> 00:15:04.240 They don't know what. 261 00:15:04.720 --> 00:15:06.480 Yeah, they don't know what they want, so they have 262 00:15:06.600 --> 00:15:09.960 no foundation to stand up. It's no different than your 263 00:15:10.039 --> 00:15:13.639 parents are preachers. Right, So you know that I'm supposed 264 00:15:13.679 --> 00:15:15.200 to do this, you know what I mean? You know 265 00:15:15.279 --> 00:15:16.879 how you're supposed to move? Like you said, if you 266 00:15:16.919 --> 00:15:20.240 knew better, you do better right, right, right, So you 267 00:15:20.519 --> 00:15:22.440 can choose. I'm gonna go left or right, but at 268 00:15:22.519 --> 00:15:24.759 least you know if I go left, this is gonna happen. 269 00:15:24.799 --> 00:15:26.600 If I go right, that's gonna happen. So I think 270 00:15:26.679 --> 00:15:28.759 people just need to know what they want. But yes, 271 00:15:28.840 --> 00:15:30.320 you don't have to act on them, because at twenty 272 00:15:30.360 --> 00:15:32.120 three or a young age, you're just trying to have fun. 273 00:15:32.799 --> 00:15:35.720 At least you can say, at least you know, eventually 274 00:15:35.879 --> 00:15:37.600 this is the type of person I want, and figure 275 00:15:37.600 --> 00:15:39.639 out who you are within yourself. You know what I mean. 276 00:15:39.639 --> 00:15:43.320 I think people don't know themselves. You don't know yourself, 277 00:15:43.360 --> 00:15:45.799 how you're gonna know somebody else? You get what I'm saying. 278 00:15:45.879 --> 00:15:51.480 So I think self improvement and working on yourself and 279 00:15:51.600 --> 00:15:54.039 your emotions so when it's time for that person to come, 280 00:15:54.120 --> 00:15:58.039 you can receive them, because you know what I mean. 281 00:15:58.519 --> 00:16:01.440 Yeah, because you can't. If you don't know yourself and 282 00:16:01.600 --> 00:16:04.960 you meet somebody that's really great and completely aligned with 283 00:16:05.080 --> 00:16:07.000 you and you know, will push you, you won't even 284 00:16:07.039 --> 00:16:10.320 appreciate it, and you won't recognize it, correct recognize it. 285 00:16:10.399 --> 00:16:13.279 And I agree, And that's why I mentioned you know 286 00:16:13.480 --> 00:16:17.240 where you are in your life because once again I can. 287 00:16:17.519 --> 00:16:21.759 Let's say we receive the keys to unlocking everything about 288 00:16:21.840 --> 00:16:24.399 business when we were twenty two. We weren't muture enough 289 00:16:24.480 --> 00:16:27.559 to accept that, or we weren't mure enough to take 290 00:16:27.600 --> 00:16:31.080 advantage of that information when it came about younger. But 291 00:16:31.240 --> 00:16:34.240 know that we're older in the game and understand certain things. No, 292 00:16:34.720 --> 00:16:37.480 it's like WHOA If I had that information, I'm sorry, 293 00:16:37.519 --> 00:16:43.559 If I was emotionally as advanced or emotionally as you know, 294 00:16:43.639 --> 00:16:46.360 ready to receive that information, then it would have been 295 00:16:46.360 --> 00:16:48.399 a different situation. No, you know what I'm saying. So 296 00:16:48.559 --> 00:16:51.559 it just depends on you can find that somebody younger, 297 00:16:52.000 --> 00:16:56.200 but if you're not at that place yet to receive that, Yeah, 298 00:16:56.639 --> 00:16:59.600 adding to what you're saying, then it doesn't it doesn't 299 00:16:59.720 --> 00:17:01.919 matter if that person come earlier. Even if you know 300 00:17:02.039 --> 00:17:07.480 who you are, I think over time you would develop 301 00:17:07.599 --> 00:17:09.759 and understand who you are. And every day we're learning 302 00:17:09.759 --> 00:17:11.720 because every day we're like whom I love that not 303 00:17:11.920 --> 00:17:16.240 to be It's part of the issue is and I 304 00:17:16.319 --> 00:17:21.200 forgot the exact phrase, but we're basically influenced and living 305 00:17:21.279 --> 00:17:24.720 other people's lives. So most of the times there's certain 306 00:17:24.799 --> 00:17:27.680 things that we say that we want, but we only 307 00:17:27.720 --> 00:17:29.480 want it because we see somebody else that did this, 308 00:17:29.519 --> 00:17:32.279 sort of have that, and that doesn't align with even 309 00:17:33.039 --> 00:17:35.599 what we want. Yeah, you know what I'm saying. So 310 00:17:36.039 --> 00:17:39.559 so there's a there's a lot of story there. Yeah, 311 00:17:39.599 --> 00:17:42.799 a lot of nuances that that and many outcomes that 312 00:17:42.880 --> 00:17:46.160 can come from it. But it's it's it's it's it's 313 00:17:46.240 --> 00:17:48.000 harder than what it is, and you know it. 314 00:17:48.200 --> 00:17:51.119 Definitely you bring up a good point because I every 315 00:17:51.160 --> 00:17:52.680 now and then I have men on here and I 316 00:17:53.000 --> 00:17:57.119 love to like pick you guys's brain in that talking 317 00:17:57.200 --> 00:17:59.759 about that? Do you think that and this is kind 318 00:17:59.799 --> 00:18:01.759 of like a separate question, which I actually never do, 319 00:18:01.880 --> 00:18:05.799 but now I'm intrigued. Do you think that social media 320 00:18:06.119 --> 00:18:11.119 hasn't has an effect on what men perceive they should 321 00:18:11.200 --> 00:18:12.440 want at a certain. 322 00:18:14.319 --> 00:18:21.200 Because I's people put unnecessary pressure on themselves, you know 323 00:18:21.240 --> 00:18:23.400 what I mean. When we were younger, all you cared 324 00:18:23.440 --> 00:18:27.200 about was just buy and see because getting fresh, hanging out, 325 00:18:27.240 --> 00:18:30.599 going to the movies, playing outside, video games. Now a 326 00:18:30.720 --> 00:18:32.440 sixteen year old feel like if I didn't make a 327 00:18:32.519 --> 00:18:35.359 millionaire because I got friends that's on TikTok or friends 328 00:18:35.400 --> 00:18:37.720 that's on YouTube, they made a million or they see 329 00:18:37.759 --> 00:18:39.279 Kyson out and they're like, man, they feel like a 330 00:18:39.359 --> 00:18:42.079 failure because they're like, you know what I mean. So 331 00:18:42.240 --> 00:18:45.200 it's like they put unecessary pressure on themselves. And then 332 00:18:45.200 --> 00:18:46.799 when you take it back to the social media with 333 00:18:46.920 --> 00:18:49.440 the men, as far as I put like this, back 334 00:18:49.480 --> 00:18:53.279 in the days, all you saw when it comes to 335 00:18:53.359 --> 00:18:55.960 like female options, well, who was in your neighborhood or 336 00:18:56.000 --> 00:18:58.519 who went to your shoes or who was you know 337 00:18:58.519 --> 00:19:00.720 what I'm saying. Now I can be in Atlanta or 338 00:19:00.839 --> 00:19:03.119 New York and I can see a girl in Australian 339 00:19:03.200 --> 00:19:06.640 I can you know what I mean? Before all I 340 00:19:06.720 --> 00:19:08.160 saw is what I saw in front of me. I 341 00:19:08.200 --> 00:19:11.599 didn't have no way to access all these different women 342 00:19:11.640 --> 00:19:13.720 around the world. So now every time you see one, 343 00:19:13.799 --> 00:19:15.559 you're like, wow, I didn't know there was a Chinese 344 00:19:15.599 --> 00:19:19.359 and black girl. Or I always put like this with people. 345 00:19:19.400 --> 00:19:22.519 I said, I'm jay Z cheated on Beyonce. Nobody's Oh 346 00:19:22.640 --> 00:19:23.079 my gosh. 347 00:19:23.160 --> 00:19:25.880 I say that all the time. If you understand, ally, 348 00:19:25.960 --> 00:19:27.799 burying not safe. None of us happened. 349 00:19:28.480 --> 00:19:32.799 Nobody is safe, you know what I mean. So I'm like, 350 00:19:32.880 --> 00:19:33.720 anybody could get it. 351 00:19:33.960 --> 00:19:37.279 Oh my god, that's hilarious. I literally say that example 352 00:19:37.440 --> 00:19:39.440 all the time, you know what I mean. 353 00:19:39.559 --> 00:19:42.720 So now I was like, there's too many options out there, 354 00:19:42.759 --> 00:19:45.200 so everybody's thinking I can get better. I can get better, and. 355 00:19:46.920 --> 00:19:49.240 Just adding to what you're same, everything he says is correct. 356 00:19:49.359 --> 00:19:52.920 So it's like just adding you just said a key friz, 357 00:19:53.000 --> 00:19:58.599 which is when it said everybody the last part of 358 00:19:58.640 --> 00:20:02.599 it Twitter, I'm trying to catch it. But the options 359 00:20:02.720 --> 00:20:06.000 everybody think we have, yes, it's the thing, and that's 360 00:20:06.079 --> 00:20:08.839 the misconception. You think you have the option. Because you 361 00:20:08.920 --> 00:20:12.000 see a hot girl, you can instantly send a d 362 00:20:12.200 --> 00:20:14.839 M to our You might ignore the girl that's down 363 00:20:14.880 --> 00:20:17.160 the street that you might need to put their attention to. 364 00:20:17.640 --> 00:20:22.640 But because you have instant access or simplified access to 365 00:20:22.799 --> 00:20:27.000 somebody who's way more quote unquote pretty, but you don't 366 00:20:27.039 --> 00:20:29.160 know how crazy this person is. And it's vice versa 367 00:20:29.200 --> 00:20:31.200 for men and women as well. You don't know, you 368 00:20:31.279 --> 00:20:33.680 don't know that. Yeah, you don't know them, You don't 369 00:20:33.720 --> 00:20:38.799 know anything. And then remember online is everybody is a facade. 370 00:20:38.920 --> 00:20:41.799 Yes, it's your best to be able to your. 371 00:20:41.720 --> 00:20:44.799 Best of everything, even that even the bad days are 372 00:20:44.799 --> 00:20:49.759 still better than everybody else best dare so nothing you 373 00:20:49.920 --> 00:20:52.079 see you can't believe. And then no, of course, going 374 00:20:52.160 --> 00:20:55.000 into the advent of AI where everything can be unfilters, 375 00:20:55.440 --> 00:20:56.720 everybody is being tricked. 376 00:20:56.799 --> 00:20:59.680 I feel for you know, sometimes I feel I don't 377 00:20:59.799 --> 00:21:04.680 like feel sorry for men often, but I feel it 378 00:21:04.799 --> 00:21:07.440 for you guys because some of these AI photos and 379 00:21:07.480 --> 00:21:10.119 stuff I've seen, I'm like, wait, that's not a real person. 380 00:21:10.319 --> 00:21:11.359 I'm so confused. 381 00:21:12.200 --> 00:21:14.240 That's crazy and everybody. 382 00:21:16.440 --> 00:21:21.880 Yeah, yeah, so that that false option that we have 383 00:21:22.160 --> 00:21:27.160 or false you know, you know, access to better is 384 00:21:27.319 --> 00:21:29.839 what's keeping a lot of people away because they're waiting 385 00:21:30.400 --> 00:21:32.680 for that. They're waiting to try that, they're waiting to 386 00:21:32.839 --> 00:21:36.119 meet that type of person, and ignoring the girl at 387 00:21:36.240 --> 00:21:38.839 school and the girl at church or the girl at 388 00:21:38.880 --> 00:21:41.480 the bus stop is like, should I like the one 389 00:21:42.480 --> 00:21:45.680 should have had like the one online? But personality she 390 00:21:45.759 --> 00:21:47.759 could be the best one for you, but you're going 391 00:21:47.839 --> 00:21:48.440 to ignore her. 392 00:21:48.799 --> 00:21:51.839 Nowadays, you see somebody online, you don't even know if 393 00:21:51.880 --> 00:21:55.200 that's how they look in person, right, you know what 394 00:21:55.319 --> 00:21:57.319 I mean? So you could see someone online and they 395 00:21:57.359 --> 00:21:59.920 could look like Beyonce and in person they look like 396 00:22:00.119 --> 00:22:03.000 Ninja man, And that's a scary thought. That is not 397 00:22:03.200 --> 00:22:04.319 so safe at all. 398 00:22:10.119 --> 00:22:12.720 Yeah, that's crazy. That's a while. If you're sure you 399 00:22:12.839 --> 00:22:16.680 look like that, that's rough. That's rough. 400 00:22:16.839 --> 00:22:19.920 Listen, all children are beautiful. But what we're trying to 401 00:22:20.000 --> 00:22:24.039