WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.800 --> 00:00:03.799 Minnesota, Goodbye. We're gonna start off with a little bit 2 00:00:03.799 --> 00:00:08.160 of a scandal because apparently I am on a page 3 00:00:08.199 --> 00:00:11.480 that says like a Facebook page. I think that says 4 00:00:11.640 --> 00:00:14.000 are we dating the same person? And there is a 5 00:00:14.039 --> 00:00:18.120 picture of me, and people are saying, oh, I'm dating 6 00:00:18.120 --> 00:00:21.800 this guy. I'm dating this guy, and I'm obviously married 7 00:00:22.199 --> 00:00:25.320 and not dating anybody. So but the funny thing is 8 00:00:25.559 --> 00:00:27.480 it's not me, but there are people who are going, 9 00:00:27.519 --> 00:00:30.719 oh my god, that's day. And Bailey looked at it 10 00:00:30.719 --> 00:00:32.240 and said, this looks like Ai. 11 00:00:32.439 --> 00:00:35.280 I thought it was just like slightly tweaked with AI 12 00:00:35.560 --> 00:00:38.280 to resemble you more, but Jenny was like, no, it 13 00:00:38.320 --> 00:00:38.960 just looks like you. 14 00:00:39.359 --> 00:00:42.359 I agree. It's funny because when people say this person 15 00:00:42.399 --> 00:00:45.479 looks like you to me, they really don't. And I 16 00:00:45.520 --> 00:00:46.960 get that once in a while. I've just got one 17 00:00:46.960 --> 00:00:48.479 of those faces. I guess you would do that with 18 00:00:48.520 --> 00:00:50.039 Jenny once in a while. It's like, Jenny, this girl 19 00:00:50.079 --> 00:00:53.359 looks just like you, but they don't look just like Jenny. 20 00:00:53.359 --> 00:00:56.159 They look kind like Jenny. But this guy looks something 21 00:00:56.240 --> 00:01:00.000 like me, but he's had a much taller forehead. 22 00:01:01.119 --> 00:01:02.960 It's more like the eyes that I thought were in 23 00:01:02.960 --> 00:01:04.799 the eyes Man, and he's super hot. 24 00:01:05.280 --> 00:01:08.799 So, and he's super hot, and he's also probably a 25 00:01:08.799 --> 00:01:10.959 good fifteen to twenty years younger than me. So I 26 00:01:10.959 --> 00:01:12.799 thought this was kind of funny. All right, Moving on 27 00:01:12.840 --> 00:01:16.000 to the emails this week, and let's get started. Are 28 00:01:16.040 --> 00:01:19.400 you ready? Good morning? Got a question for you, guys. 29 00:01:19.400 --> 00:01:21.439 I'm planning to go to a local restaurant with about 30 00:01:21.480 --> 00:01:25.560 six people. They add on an eighteen percent hospitality charge 31 00:01:25.560 --> 00:01:28.599 to my bill. Do I still tip on top of this? 32 00:01:29.120 --> 00:01:29.200 So? 33 00:01:29.280 --> 00:01:31.719 If the total is two hundred dollars and they add 34 00:01:31.719 --> 00:01:35.400 on eighteen percent thirty six dollars, do I tip twenty 35 00:01:35.400 --> 00:01:39.239 percent more, forty dollars or more depending on the total 36 00:01:39.319 --> 00:01:43.280 versus subtotal. I think tipping is stupid for various reasons. 37 00:01:43.319 --> 00:01:45.200 I wish they could do whatever the industry needs to 38 00:01:45.239 --> 00:01:47.079 do to get rid of it. I hate having that 39 00:01:47.120 --> 00:01:49.120 moment of indecision at the table because I don't want 40 00:01:49.120 --> 00:01:51.719 to tip double, but I also don't want to stiff 41 00:01:51.799 --> 00:01:57.000 the weight staff. Thoughts, I would say no, don't tip, 42 00:01:57.400 --> 00:01:59.760 because if they have taken what I feel is an 43 00:01:59.799 --> 00:02:03.120 in consider it move to put their own tip, I 44 00:02:03.159 --> 00:02:05.439 would have tipped more. I mean I always tip at 45 00:02:05.519 --> 00:02:08.639 least twenty percent, so it's easy to figure for every 46 00:02:08.759 --> 00:02:12.240 hundred dollars that's another twenty bucks. Yeah, and I usually tip, like, 47 00:02:12.360 --> 00:02:14.319 you know, thirty on one hundred dollars. I try to 48 00:02:14.319 --> 00:02:17.919 be generous. But if they've already calculated the tip at 49 00:02:17.960 --> 00:02:22.360 eighteen percent, I'm like, fuck you. You decided for me 50 00:02:22.479 --> 00:02:25.080 that I am going to tip, but you screwed yourself 51 00:02:25.120 --> 00:02:27.199 by not letting me tip the amount that I want 52 00:02:27.199 --> 00:02:27.560 to tip. 53 00:02:27.719 --> 00:02:29.840 Sure, well, I wouldn't say that they're like screwing it 54 00:02:30.039 --> 00:02:33.240 because I totally get like the eighteen percent like built 55 00:02:33.280 --> 00:02:36.599 in tip. It's just so that I honestly I like 56 00:02:36.639 --> 00:02:39.199 it when it's built in like that, because I'm like, okay, 57 00:02:39.199 --> 00:02:40.560 well good, then I don't have to tip anything. 58 00:02:40.599 --> 00:02:42.400 I think you don't tip extra on it, Yeah, and I. 59 00:02:42.360 --> 00:02:45.039 Usually don't, even though, yes, I would normally tip twenty 60 00:02:45.080 --> 00:02:47.360 percent or like twenty two percent because I like to 61 00:02:47.400 --> 00:02:51.000 even out my round number there. But I if it's 62 00:02:51.039 --> 00:02:52.879 already built in, i'd be like, well, then I don't 63 00:02:52.879 --> 00:02:53.759 have to add in anything. 64 00:02:54.000 --> 00:02:56.280 I think, so, Jenny, Yeah, I don't tip on top 65 00:02:56.319 --> 00:02:59.080 of those. Usually I'm the same way as you guys. 66 00:02:59.199 --> 00:03:02.479 I would say that having previously been in the position 67 00:03:02.520 --> 00:03:05.560 where I could put eighteen percent on a table. I'll 68 00:03:05.560 --> 00:03:09.639 be honest, like we judge based on like these are 69 00:03:09.680 --> 00:03:11.919 already built in. But like at Bubba Gumps, we have 70 00:03:11.960 --> 00:03:14.319 the opportunity to put a tip, an eighteen percent tip 71 00:03:14.360 --> 00:03:17.400 on parties of six or more, and depending on my 72 00:03:17.479 --> 00:03:20.840 interaction with them, I would have the tip on or 73 00:03:20.840 --> 00:03:21.719 I wouldn't. 74 00:03:21.560 --> 00:03:23.199 Because you think that they're not gonna tip. 75 00:03:23.319 --> 00:03:26.159 Yeah, because some people are just awful and you're like, well, 76 00:03:26.199 --> 00:03:28.039 then you're getting this because I'm allowed to do that 77 00:03:28.080 --> 00:03:30.479 for party six or more. If it's a great group 78 00:03:30.520 --> 00:03:32.599 and I feel like they're gonna tip me twenty percent, 79 00:03:32.719 --> 00:03:36.439 then I take the gamble and I would so. But yeah, 80 00:03:36.479 --> 00:03:38.120 a lot of these restaurants do that. Now, I don't 81 00:03:38.159 --> 00:03:40.840 tip more if I have really phenomenal service. A lot 82 00:03:40.840 --> 00:03:41.719 of times I will. 83 00:03:43.360 --> 00:03:46.000 Above that. I agree, yes, if it's really phenomenal and 84 00:03:46.039 --> 00:03:49.000 they're just really personable and they keep my water glass 85 00:03:49.080 --> 00:03:52.080 full and they like, you know, bring hot rolls or whatever. 86 00:03:52.599 --> 00:03:56.680 What about Jenny. This has always puzzled me. The menu 87 00:03:56.719 --> 00:03:58.439 were the there will be a sign that says we 88 00:03:58.520 --> 00:04:02.680 automatically add a gratuity eighteen percent to parties of six 89 00:04:02.800 --> 00:04:05.280 or more or eight or more. Why is that? 90 00:04:06.360 --> 00:04:08.400 I think it's just because it's a little bit more 91 00:04:08.560 --> 00:04:12.199 work to do larger parties on your own a lot 92 00:04:12.240 --> 00:04:15.039 of times. So I think it's just like an industry standard, 93 00:04:15.199 --> 00:04:18.360 because a party of two is pretty simple. A party 94 00:04:18.399 --> 00:04:21.600 of like eight, You're like, the amount of time you 95 00:04:21.639 --> 00:04:23.279 have to spend on a party of eight versus a 96 00:04:23.279 --> 00:04:25.439 party of two is like four times the amount. 97 00:04:25.480 --> 00:04:27.560 And if they stiff you, then you're losing a tip 98 00:04:27.680 --> 00:04:31.720 on really hard work, right. And the sad thing is 99 00:04:31.720 --> 00:04:33.800 that anybody would stiff like you would have a party 100 00:04:33.800 --> 00:04:36.279 of eight and go, well, I'm not going to tip. Yeah, 101 00:04:36.319 --> 00:04:38.279 And there's certain people who just don't tip. 102 00:04:38.399 --> 00:04:40.759 Right, You've never been a server at the Mall of America, 103 00:04:41.480 --> 00:04:44.720 What do you mean? It just it was pretty regular 104 00:04:44.720 --> 00:04:46.639 to get stiffed at the Mall, was it really? 105 00:04:46.959 --> 00:04:47.160 Yeah? 106 00:04:47.199 --> 00:04:49.920 I can't imagine the mindset of somebody who doesn't tip. 107 00:04:50.040 --> 00:04:50.279 Yeah. 108 00:04:50.360 --> 00:04:52.839 I mean people come in to be fair. Bubba Gump's 109 00:04:52.920 --> 00:04:55.240 like seems like this gimmicky, cheap restaurant and it's not. 110 00:04:55.480 --> 00:04:57.800 It's kind of expensive when it comes down to it. 111 00:04:58.079 --> 00:05:00.399 So people come in, they get their light up glass 112 00:05:00.519 --> 00:05:03.040 and their fancy cocktails, and you get to take a 113 00:05:03.079 --> 00:05:05.319 souvenir cup home, and all of a sudden, their bills 114 00:05:05.319 --> 00:05:07.399 one hundred and twenty bucks when they expected it to 115 00:05:07.439 --> 00:05:09.720 be forty, and they're like, well, shit, guess I can't tip? 116 00:05:09.759 --> 00:05:13.920 Then yeah, I don't go okay. 117 00:05:14.160 --> 00:05:17.560 Next one says, please don't say my name. Longtime listener, 118 00:05:17.600 --> 00:05:19.800 I want to echo what others say about mor Vont. 119 00:05:20.199 --> 00:05:21.879 He is the first one in a very long time 120 00:05:21.879 --> 00:05:23.519 that I could see taking over for Dave when he 121 00:05:23.600 --> 00:05:27.680 retires in about twenty fifty. Twenty fifty. Oh my god. 122 00:05:28.360 --> 00:05:31.439 I want to write and follow up on Friday's topic 123 00:05:31.480 --> 00:05:35.560 of rounding up and goodwill. First, Goodwill is a charity. 124 00:05:35.639 --> 00:05:41.360 They're legit rounding up a goodwill. This one chaps my 125 00:05:41.480 --> 00:05:45.519 ass every single time your total is eighteen twenty seven? 126 00:05:45.560 --> 00:05:47.199 Would you like to round up? Are you serious? 127 00:05:47.240 --> 00:05:47.439 Hell? 128 00:05:47.519 --> 00:05:49.720 No, I would not like to round up. You just 129 00:05:49.759 --> 00:05:52.199 sold me a bag of things that people donated to you. 130 00:05:52.600 --> 00:05:54.639 It's all round up. You didn't have to pay a 131 00:05:54.680 --> 00:05:57.439 dime for your inventory. Ask my twelve year old. This 132 00:05:57.480 --> 00:05:59.399 is a regular rant in my car after I stop 133 00:05:59.439 --> 00:06:02.240 at Goodwill. I'm glad to donate there and shop there, 134 00:06:02.279 --> 00:06:06.519 but stop asking me four more anyhow, Thanks for touching 135 00:06:06.519 --> 00:06:08.079 a nerve. I love this stuff. And I will not 136 00:06:08.120 --> 00:06:09.959 say their name, but I will send you a staff 137 00:06:09.959 --> 00:06:13.160 writer sticker. Any thoughts on rounding up at Goodwill? Anybody? 138 00:06:14.319 --> 00:06:17.360 I mean, I love Goodwill, so I don't shop there 139 00:06:17.360 --> 00:06:19.439 a ton, but I only have great things to say 140 00:06:19.439 --> 00:06:20.079 about Goodwill. 141 00:06:20.160 --> 00:06:21.600 Yeah, and I shop there all the time, and I 142 00:06:21.639 --> 00:06:26.519 always round up just because yes, I'm donating clothes to them, 143 00:06:26.720 --> 00:06:29.959 but it's still a charity regardless, and they do good 144 00:06:29.959 --> 00:06:33.079 work for people with special needs to get jobs, and 145 00:06:33.120 --> 00:06:33.839 I appreciate that. 146 00:06:34.040 --> 00:06:38.040 Okay, Sydney writes in Dave Jenny Bailey, I gotta jump 147 00:06:38.079 --> 00:06:41.079 in on the conversation about putting your cart away with children. Now. 148 00:06:41.079 --> 00:06:43.839 We talked about this about, you know, put your cart 149 00:06:43.839 --> 00:06:46.399 away in the cart corral after you shop, and then 150 00:06:46.439 --> 00:06:48.720 somebody said, well, the only reason would be you have 151 00:06:48.839 --> 00:06:51.360 little kids. You don't want to leave them alone unattended 152 00:06:51.360 --> 00:06:54.079 in the car, cause you never know what's going to happen. 153 00:06:54.839 --> 00:06:56.839 And I said, okay, justified. The other night it was 154 00:06:56.879 --> 00:07:00.120 at Byerley's with the little girls four and two. I'm 155 00:07:00.120 --> 00:07:02.439 in the car, got him strapped in, and you know, 156 00:07:02.600 --> 00:07:05.879 the parking lot was kind of deserted, so I did 157 00:07:05.920 --> 00:07:08.600 push it the probably thirty yards away to the cart corral. 158 00:07:08.759 --> 00:07:10.399 But I could definitely see how a mom or dad 159 00:07:10.439 --> 00:07:13.319 would maybe not want to leave their kids unattended. They 160 00:07:13.319 --> 00:07:15.079 go on to say, I'm a mother of a year 161 00:07:15.079 --> 00:07:17.040 and a half year old and soon have my second. 162 00:07:17.439 --> 00:07:20.439 There is no excuse to not put away your shopping cart, 163 00:07:20.839 --> 00:07:23.639 plan ahead and park near a corral if you're worried 164 00:07:23.639 --> 00:07:26.199 about walking away from your child in the car. Jenny 165 00:07:26.199 --> 00:07:28.160 made a good suggestion of bringing your kid to the 166 00:07:28.199 --> 00:07:30.959 car corral, but I agree it would be more difficult 167 00:07:31.000 --> 00:07:33.639 with multiple children, but it's definitely a viable option if 168 00:07:33.680 --> 00:07:35.839 you can't leave them alone in a locked vehicle for 169 00:07:35.920 --> 00:07:40.120 less than ten seconds. Being a parent is not a handicap. 170 00:07:40.759 --> 00:07:43.879 Whoa oh oh, that is all no darting or looking 171 00:07:43.920 --> 00:07:46.160 for me. I asked my husband. He says he's okay 172 00:07:46.199 --> 00:07:49.959 without it. Okay, that's funny. Cheers from staff writer Sydney. 173 00:07:50.079 --> 00:07:51.199 Thank you, Sydney man. 174 00:07:51.360 --> 00:07:52.839 I like that statement, Jean. 175 00:07:52.920 --> 00:07:55.079 A part isn't a handicap because I feel like I 176 00:07:55.120 --> 00:07:57.680 have friends who you know, they're my age and they 177 00:07:57.680 --> 00:07:59.560 don't have kids yet, but then they work with people 178 00:07:59.600 --> 00:08:02.439 who have kids and suddenly like their kids are an 179 00:08:02.439 --> 00:08:04.199 excuse for them to get out of work. And then 180 00:08:04.240 --> 00:08:06.199 their friends, my friends have to cover their work. 181 00:08:06.199 --> 00:08:08.680 And it's like, yeah, I have said that before too. 182 00:08:08.600 --> 00:08:11.120 And I know that, like this is coming from experience 183 00:08:11.160 --> 00:08:13.560 of not having children myself, but I do think it's 184 00:08:13.680 --> 00:08:17.680 unfair to have like the other people cover your work. 185 00:08:17.800 --> 00:08:20.560 Yes, when I worked in retail, I always got the 186 00:08:20.639 --> 00:08:23.959 worst shifts ever. Or I was like or we would 187 00:08:23.959 --> 00:08:26.600 be doing inventory and they'd be like, okay, well some 188 00:08:26.600 --> 00:08:28.800 people get to leave at ten and some of you 189 00:08:28.839 --> 00:08:31.000 have to stay until one who's going to get to 190 00:08:31.079 --> 00:08:33.200 leave at ten? And everybody like, well I have kids. 191 00:08:33.360 --> 00:08:35.600 I'd be like, well, I want to freaking sleep, Like 192 00:08:35.639 --> 00:08:38.000 can I go home? Nope, I gotta stay because I 193 00:08:38.000 --> 00:08:39.559 don't have kids. I don't got a family to go 194 00:08:39.679 --> 00:08:41.799 back to. I can't be tired because I don't have 195 00:08:41.840 --> 00:08:45.159 any kids that keep me up all the time. None 196 00:08:45.200 --> 00:08:47.679 of my feelings or experiences were valid because I didn't 197 00:08:47.679 --> 00:08:51.080 have children. I oh gosh, I was always mad about it. 198 00:08:51.960 --> 00:08:55.279 Now I do have kids, but I've also have had 199 00:08:55.440 --> 00:08:59.240 a partner who will you know, share those responsibilities and 200 00:09:00.080 --> 00:09:02.759 my job is a job where I can't cut out early. Yeah, 201 00:09:02.799 --> 00:09:04.360 I mean, you know, we're on for four hours a 202 00:09:04.399 --> 00:09:06.639 day and if there was an emergency or something, or 203 00:09:06.639 --> 00:09:08.960 it was like I left early on Allison's first day 204 00:09:08.960 --> 00:09:11.759 of kindergarten. But I will try to take the other 205 00:09:11.879 --> 00:09:14.159 side and say, you know, if your kid's got a 206 00:09:14.240 --> 00:09:17.000 dentist appointment and you need to leave at four rather 207 00:09:17.080 --> 00:09:19.879 than five, I mean, I guess that's kind of the 208 00:09:19.879 --> 00:09:20.440 way it is. 209 00:09:20.720 --> 00:09:23.000 Yeah, but then let's make sure you get your work 210 00:09:23.039 --> 00:09:25.360 done so that it doesn't fall on someone else, because, 211 00:09:25.399 --> 00:09:28.440 like you, having kids shouldn't mean that someone else has 212 00:09:28.480 --> 00:09:28.960 to take. 213 00:09:28.840 --> 00:09:29.919 Over your work. 214 00:09:30.159 --> 00:09:32.879 True. I would wonder what moms or dads would say 215 00:09:32.879 --> 00:09:34.919 about that one, because we've had this discussion before on 216 00:09:34.960 --> 00:09:38.440 the show, and we definitely had a very vocal segment 217 00:09:38.440 --> 00:09:41.440 of people who were saying, look, you don't understand I'm 218 00:09:41.480 --> 00:09:43.679 the parent, and so I'm just trying to vouch for 219 00:09:43.720 --> 00:09:45.799 those people. But I don't remember any good arguments. 220 00:09:46.200 --> 00:09:49.000 So I will say, like, I hope my family doesn't 221 00:09:49.000 --> 00:09:50.759 listen to this, and I don't think they do. But 222 00:09:50.799 --> 00:09:52.320 I just know that my older sister she's the only 223 00:09:52.360 --> 00:09:54.120 one that has kids in our family, and a lot 224 00:09:54.159 --> 00:09:56.919 of things revolve around her and being able to do 225 00:09:56.960 --> 00:09:59.799 things with the kids. And it's like my mom and 226 00:10:00.080 --> 00:10:03.519 younger sister get really frustrated with that. I don't care, because, 227 00:10:03.600 --> 00:10:05.759 like I get that she has kids and we have 228 00:10:05.879 --> 00:10:08.120 more flexibility in our schedule, but my mom and younger 229 00:10:08.159 --> 00:10:10.840 sister have become very fed up with that situation, like 230 00:10:10.879 --> 00:10:14.600 she's never willing to do anything unless it really works 231 00:10:14.600 --> 00:10:18.159 with her schedule and it doesn't matter to me one 232 00:10:18.200 --> 00:10:18.679 way or another. 233 00:10:18.720 --> 00:10:19.519 I'm not home enough. 234 00:10:19.600 --> 00:10:23.399 But yeah, that is definitely a very touchy point in 235 00:10:24.000 --> 00:10:25.559 the relationship with my family. 236 00:10:25.559 --> 00:10:28.399 Oh bet it is, Hello, Jenny. I want to start 237 00:10:28.399 --> 00:10:30.639 off by saying, I went to your fit club this week, Kay, 238 00:10:30.919 --> 00:10:32.919 after many months of attempting to attend it but at 239 00:10:32.960 --> 00:10:35.840 being full, and it was so fun. As a self 240 00:10:35.840 --> 00:10:39.080 proclaimed jim junkie and marathon runner, I didn't think the 241 00:10:39.080 --> 00:10:40.960 class was too hard in the moment, but lo and 242 00:10:40.960 --> 00:10:43.799 behold the next day, I know, Lie had to use 243 00:10:43.840 --> 00:10:47.480 a grab bar in a public restroom to lower myself 244 00:10:47.519 --> 00:10:50.919 onto the toilet because my legs were so sore. That's 245 00:10:50.960 --> 00:10:53.360 how you know it's working. Yeah, if you're not sore 246 00:10:53.440 --> 00:10:57.399 after a workout, I will oversimplify and say you didn't 247 00:10:57.440 --> 00:11:00.200 work hard enough. Yeah, and I think that's true. How 248 00:11:00.200 --> 00:11:01.519 I know when I got a really good workout of 249 00:11:01.639 --> 00:11:04.360 I'm kind of like I. Coming the next day, I'm like, oh, Jenny, God, 250 00:11:04.519 --> 00:11:07.840 I can barely walk. We did goblet squats. That's how 251 00:11:07.840 --> 00:11:12.279 I know it worked. I miss Naughty Tuesday because I 252 00:11:12.320 --> 00:11:15.240 love the shock value of the Minnesota Goodbye. I've got 253 00:11:15.240 --> 00:11:18.000 an embarrassing sex story for you, and love for you 254 00:11:18.039 --> 00:11:21.279 and your listeners to share stories. Okay, well, we'll open 255 00:11:21.320 --> 00:11:23.399 it up to embarrassing sex stories if you got one. 256 00:11:23.960 --> 00:11:26.559 I was living with my parents and began dating my 257 00:11:26.720 --> 00:11:30.039 now husband now, so remember they're living with their parents. 258 00:11:30.399 --> 00:11:32.000 I had my bag packed to spend one of our 259 00:11:32.039 --> 00:11:34.519 first weekends together at his place. Now. For some reason, 260 00:11:34.879 --> 00:11:38.639 my mom was looking through my packed Duffel bag. Overly 261 00:11:38.720 --> 00:11:41.720 nosy and unaware of boundaries is her specialty, although she 262 00:11:41.919 --> 00:11:44.639 claims she was missing a shirt and just wanted a 263 00:11:44.639 --> 00:11:47.279 double check that I had not accidentally packed it. And 264 00:11:47.399 --> 00:11:51.399 sure enough, going through my duffel bag, my mom found 265 00:11:52.320 --> 00:11:54.159 the what do you think I'm gonna say? 266 00:11:56.120 --> 00:12:00.960 Cockering cockering, Bailey, what do you beads? 267 00:12:01.440 --> 00:12:04.000 Beads? No, anybody anymore guesses? 268 00:12:04.639 --> 00:12:06.960 Giant rabbit, vibrator, dildo thing? 269 00:12:07.200 --> 00:12:09.799 No, Bailey, Oh I don't know what are my other 270 00:12:09.840 --> 00:12:10.919 opp handcuffs? 271 00:12:11.360 --> 00:12:16.480 Handcuffs is correct? Yes, yes, when I went to grab 272 00:12:16.519 --> 00:12:19.720 my bag, they were sitting on top. Huh. To this day, 273 00:12:19.759 --> 00:12:21.919 my husband and I shudder at the thought and wish 274 00:12:21.919 --> 00:12:26.159 it was just a bad dream. Your turn. That is 275 00:12:26.320 --> 00:12:30.799 from kJ. I've told the story before, and it was 276 00:12:30.799 --> 00:12:33.519 not a sex story. Well, Susan, years and years ago, 277 00:12:33.799 --> 00:12:36.600 we tried to use handcuffs on the towel bar when 278 00:12:36.600 --> 00:12:39.120 we first moved here. Take it a shower, the towel 279 00:12:39.200 --> 00:12:41.799 bar in the bathroom. Okay, so yeah, where you hang 280 00:12:41.840 --> 00:12:46.039 a towel. So and I handcuffed her or she handcuffed 281 00:12:46.039 --> 00:12:48.320 me to the towel bar and proceeded to pull the 282 00:12:48.360 --> 00:12:49.799 towel bar off the wall. 283 00:12:50.440 --> 00:12:52.559 Yeah, they're not on there very surely. 284 00:12:52.799 --> 00:12:55.080 No. Did you have to get some new dry wall 285 00:12:55.120 --> 00:12:55.840 and stuff in there? 286 00:12:56.039 --> 00:12:59.080 I don't remember it was. It was literally back in 287 00:12:59.120 --> 00:13:00.799 the nineties. I don't remember. 288 00:13:02.200 --> 00:13:04.519 Nowhere else you could put the handcuffs attached to you like 289 00:13:04.559 --> 00:13:06.320 you didn't have any bedframe that you could do it. 290 00:13:06.720 --> 00:13:08.399 I think about it in my house. There's nothing I 291 00:13:08.399 --> 00:13:09.639 could attach handcuffs too. 292 00:13:10.559 --> 00:13:11.360 I've tried. 293 00:13:13.080 --> 00:13:17.879 Pick a tree, trying to think. No, I don't think 294 00:13:17.879 --> 00:13:20.200 that we considered anywhere else. I mean again, I don't 295 00:13:20.200 --> 00:13:22.799 really remember. But if you had a story about some 296 00:13:22.960 --> 00:13:26.080 a sex story gone awry, send that in. And if 297 00:13:26.080 --> 00:13:27.840 you want to stay anonymous, of course we will keep 298 00:13:27.840 --> 00:13:32.879 you anonymous. Let's see what else we got here that 299 00:13:33.360 --> 00:13:38.399 might be it. Let's see. Yeah, Okay, here we go. 300 00:13:38.919 --> 00:13:41.159 It is kind of for Jenny. We saved it for you. Jenny. OK, 301 00:13:41.639 --> 00:13:44.919 good morning. My apologies is this has been discussed or you? Jenny, 302 00:13:44.960 --> 00:13:47.200 you've given an update, But I too have been dealing 303 00:13:47.200 --> 00:13:49.879 with anxiety panic attacks, and I've been on medication for 304 00:13:49.960 --> 00:13:53.480 six weeks. I have quit drinking for the past year 305 00:13:53.600 --> 00:13:58.200 because I would get so terribly terrible anxiety and panic attacks. Jenny, 306 00:13:58.519 --> 00:14:00.759 I know you quit drinking too, but are you part 307 00:14:00.759 --> 00:14:03.519 taking now? If so, has the medication help with your 308 00:14:03.559 --> 00:14:06.720 anxiety the next morning? I would like to be able 309 00:14:06.759 --> 00:14:08.120 to have a couple of drinks when I go out 310 00:14:08.159 --> 00:14:10.200 with my friends, and I'd like to know if there 311 00:14:10.279 --> 00:14:13.399 is hope Jenny Alcohol medication, any thoughts. 312 00:14:13.519 --> 00:14:13.759 Yes. 313 00:14:13.919 --> 00:14:16.799 So I actually just had a friends giving this weekend 314 00:14:16.840 --> 00:14:18.600 and I went into it thinking like, I think I'm 315 00:14:18.600 --> 00:14:20.720 going to try to have a glass or two of wine, 316 00:14:21.080 --> 00:14:24.159 and I did and it was okay. What happens to 317 00:14:24.240 --> 00:14:26.080 me now, though, is like I'll have a drink and 318 00:14:26.120 --> 00:14:29.279 two hours later my heart is racing. And luckily the 319 00:14:29.360 --> 00:14:32.879 medication keeps me more calm now in those situations where 320 00:14:32.879 --> 00:14:35.759 before it would cause like almost an anxiety attack, anxiety 321 00:14:35.799 --> 00:14:38.799 whatever you want to call it. But I didn't experience 322 00:14:38.840 --> 00:14:41.240 that on Saturday, and that's one of the first times 323 00:14:41.279 --> 00:14:42.840 I feel like I was able to drink and I 324 00:14:42.879 --> 00:14:45.200 didn't experience anything, And the next day I felt fine. 325 00:14:45.759 --> 00:14:48.039 So I only had probably a glass and a half 326 00:14:48.039 --> 00:14:50.320 of wine. I didn't go crazy or anything like that. 327 00:14:50.440 --> 00:14:54.799 But in the last three months, I've maybe had one 328 00:14:54.799 --> 00:14:57.799 other glass of wine outside of that, because it really 329 00:14:57.840 --> 00:15:01.799 just isn't great. But I'm slowly testing the waters. 330 00:15:01.440 --> 00:15:02.840 Because that's my girl. 331 00:15:02.840 --> 00:15:05.480 Oh I'm listen. I'm not gonna be the girl going 332 00:15:05.480 --> 00:15:08.000 out and taking shots anymore. That's not who I am really, 333 00:15:08.519 --> 00:15:11.919 But I do still enjoy getting a little tipsy off 334 00:15:11.919 --> 00:15:14.399 some wine with some girlfriends a happy hour or something, 335 00:15:14.399 --> 00:15:15.759 you know, and I want to be able to do that, 336 00:15:15.799 --> 00:15:18.440 but I'm not going to put my mental health in 337 00:15:19.159 --> 00:15:22.720 jeopardy because of that, So I've just kind of withheld. However, 338 00:15:22.960 --> 00:15:25.600 we're getting back on the horse, baby girl. 339 00:15:27.679 --> 00:15:29.600 Okay. Very interesting, Yeah, because I think got to figure 340 00:15:29.639 --> 00:15:32.639 there's probably like alcohol is a depressant, and I got 341 00:15:32.679 --> 00:15:36.320 to imagine that it kind of works differently with medications. 342 00:15:36.759 --> 00:15:41.039 I don't know. I think the best anti anxiety drug 343 00:15:41.080 --> 00:15:45.039 there is is alcohol, because if you are anxious, in 344 00:15:45.080 --> 00:15:49.000 the words of Homer Simpson, sweet liquor helps numb the pain. 345 00:15:49.440 --> 00:15:51.480 I mean, yeah, twenty two year old Jenny thought that 346 00:15:51.480 --> 00:15:53.559 all the time. I was the most anxious human ever. 347 00:15:53.600 --> 00:15:56.039 But I was drinking three days a week and I 348 00:15:56.159 --> 00:15:59.639 just kept going and going and probably not realizing how 349 00:15:59.759 --> 00:16:02.039 bad that was like making my anxiety. 350 00:16:02.240 --> 00:16:07.480 Dang you last one, Dave, Jenny Bailey Vant. We all 351 00:16:07.559 --> 00:16:09.720 know the story about how you, Dave missed a party 352 00:16:09.720 --> 00:16:12.279 in which you were invited personally by Prince to Paisley Park. 353 00:16:12.799 --> 00:16:14.600 Very very quick story is that, I guess back in 354 00:16:14.639 --> 00:16:17.600 the nineties, Prince was listening to our show and he 355 00:16:17.600 --> 00:16:20.320 heard me do something and he liked me for whatever reason, 356 00:16:20.639 --> 00:16:22.600 and he said, I like this guy. I want to 357 00:16:22.600 --> 00:16:25.480 invite him to one of my big parties at Paisley Park. Well, 358 00:16:25.559 --> 00:16:28.200 his assistant called the radio station and I was never in. 359 00:16:28.240 --> 00:16:31.039 I never got the message. And the night of the party, 360 00:16:31.360 --> 00:16:33.360 Prince said, hey, is Dave Ryan here? And is this 361 00:16:33.559 --> 00:16:36.159 assistant said no, we couldn't get a hold of him. 362 00:16:36.440 --> 00:16:38.399 And I only found this out about five years ago. 363 00:16:38.600 --> 00:16:41.120 Oh no, and that I was invited to a Prince 364 00:16:41.159 --> 00:16:44.960 party and he wanted to meet me. Yeah, And I 365 00:16:45.240 --> 00:16:47.440 think I would have been so starstruck and so nervous. 366 00:16:47.440 --> 00:16:50.919 I would have been like the worst party guest ever, like, yeah, 367 00:16:51.320 --> 00:16:55.480 I like your please, it's a purple. 368 00:16:56.519 --> 00:16:57.639 Story struck at once. 369 00:16:57.759 --> 00:16:59.200 I do not think you would be like that. 370 00:17:00.279 --> 00:17:03.879 I think with Prince it would have been overwhelming, surreal. Yeah, 371 00:17:03.919 --> 00:17:05.599 you know what I mean to meet you know, to 372 00:17:05.680 --> 00:17:09.359 meet Diana Pears is one thing. To meet I don't know, 373 00:17:09.480 --> 00:17:12.160 Pat say Jack would be another thing. But to meet 374 00:17:12.240 --> 00:17:17.640 Prince it would be like it's fucking Prince, you know. Yeah, 375 00:17:17.680 --> 00:17:21.559 And so anyway, they go on with this question we 376 00:17:21.599 --> 00:17:24.519 all know your opinion of Prince's lyrics. Had you got 377 00:17:24.559 --> 00:17:27.079 because I think he's got very stupid lyrics and they work. 378 00:17:27.160 --> 00:17:30.839 You know, whatever this some of his song lyrics are 379 00:17:30.960 --> 00:17:33.799 very stupid, but it doesn't matter. They work. So, had 380 00:17:33.799 --> 00:17:35.759 you gotten to the party and become friends with Prince, 381 00:17:36.119 --> 00:17:38.000 would you have told him your opinion or would you 382 00:17:38.039 --> 00:17:39.559 have kept it to yourself? Well? 383 00:17:40.240 --> 00:17:41.920 I like that. The jump is if you've gone to 384 00:17:41.960 --> 00:17:44.720 the party and you become friends with Prince, a natural 385 00:17:44.839 --> 00:17:45.400 chain of events. 386 00:17:45.440 --> 00:17:47.759 Yeah, Like we start hanging out playing basketball, and like 387 00:17:47.799 --> 00:17:49.680 I help him move and he comes over to help 388 00:17:49.720 --> 00:17:52.079 me paint my kitchen. You know what I mean. I mean, 389 00:17:52.119 --> 00:17:59.039 if sure, I probably would have been like, okay, raspberry beret, Okay, 390 00:17:59.079 --> 00:18:02.519 I wouldn't change his stroke, because baby, I'm the most 391 00:18:02.599 --> 00:18:05.319 of the something. I wouldn't, you know, as stupid lyrics. 392 00:18:05.359 --> 00:18:09.359 I wouldn't change a stroke as a stupid lyric. If 393 00:18:09.400 --> 00:18:10.880 I knew him and we were hanging out Peyton in 394 00:18:10.920 --> 00:18:12.559 the kitchen, I'd be like, are you really proud of 395 00:18:12.559 --> 00:18:16.200 the lyrics in like you know, darling nicky and he 396 00:18:16.240 --> 00:18:18.359 would have probably said, nah, they're pretty stupid. 397 00:18:18.119 --> 00:18:19.519 And he would have gone ha ha ha ha, And 398 00:18:19.519 --> 00:18:21.079 then he would have both cracked open a beer and 399 00:18:21.160 --> 00:18:21.799 cheersed each other. 400 00:18:21.920 --> 00:18:24.039 Yeah, okay, but I would not have gone to his 401 00:18:24.079 --> 00:18:27.039