Speaker 1: All right, so let's we yield the floor and we
Speaker 1: bring in to Michael Parkhurst as Bart will now go
Speaker 1: into listener mode. Uh yeah, that that's the look I
Speaker 1: was kind of anticipating, Sir John. Yeah, morning cap. Uh yeah,
Speaker 1: we got some salty folks after what happened last night
Speaker 1: out at so far first and foremost, let me go back.
Speaker 1: Did you watch said match last night?
Speaker 2: Yeah? I watched most of it. I missed a little
Speaker 2: bit in the beginning.
Speaker 1: And your thoughts, Comma, sir, Comma, are question mark.
Speaker 2: Shocked? Shocked but not shocked?
Speaker 3: I guess okay, you know, I think that obviously we
Speaker 3: were the better team most of the game. I mean,
Speaker 3: we create chances, have opportunities, and you don't finish them.
Speaker 3: And you know, we've all heard the story before, we've
Speaker 3: all seen it play out before, so uh yeah, I
Speaker 3: think it's frustrating. I don't I say shocked, because it
Speaker 3: just seemed like Panama didn't even have an opportunity. So
Speaker 3: it was like and then he sticks it side netting
Speaker 3: when he when he gets an opportunity, and that's that's incredible.
Speaker 2: So yeah, I just shocked.
Speaker 3: That it went in in that like, Wow, we're actually
Speaker 3: going to lose this game, because no part of me
Speaker 3: ever thought like, oh, we're going to lose this game.
Speaker 3: I didn't think the performance was terrible. But good performances
Speaker 3: don't always need to good results, and you know, these
Speaker 3: these are these are good lessons that we have to learn.
Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, of course I wish we got the
Speaker 3: opportunity to play in Mexico because we need big games
Speaker 3: going into the World Cup, especially without qualifying.
Speaker 2: But yeah, I guess I always look at it class half.
Speaker 1: Full when a team is coming into a match and
Speaker 1: it's not I mean it's not quite the U twelve
Speaker 1: pitch at Yankee Stadium, but it ain't quite you know,
Speaker 1: the wide track stadia that you would go up against
Speaker 1: and say in some Conca cat venues. When you know
Speaker 1: a team is going to go five four one, when
Speaker 1: you know that it's a tighter play the normal, how
Speaker 1: much of a challenge is it to break something down Traditionally,
Speaker 1: you know, when they're going to put nineteen behind the
Speaker 1: ball anyway, it's going to be a challenge. But when
Speaker 1: they put nineteen behind the ball and they're playing a
Speaker 1: five four to one on a shorter pitch, how much
Speaker 1: added pressure is that to try to break something like
Speaker 1: that down, especially when you're not scoring later and later
Speaker 1: and later in a match.
Speaker 3: Yes, that's the key, right, It's it becomes very, very
Speaker 3: difficult to the longer it goes, and you know, it's
Speaker 3: difficult to play against those teams, there's no doubt about it.
Speaker 3: And you know, I always used to view it like,
Speaker 3: if we are struggling, right at some point, if we're struggling,
Speaker 3: stop pressing, come back to our own half, let them
Speaker 3: have the ball and try and counterattack. Now, we were
Speaker 3: creating chances last night, so I'm not saying that's what
Speaker 3: we needed to do, but yeah, it's challenging, and you know,
Speaker 3: I think that's where you have to just put pressure
Speaker 3: on teams. And you know that we always used to
Speaker 3: say pressure burst pipes, so balls in the box and
Speaker 3: winning second balls, and it doesn't always have to be pretty,
Speaker 3: and your fight for a knockdown and you get one
Speaker 3: or you score one off a set piece and then
Speaker 3: things open up a little bit and then you can
Speaker 3: be patient and they'll have to eventually come out. But
Speaker 3: obviously we never got that. But it's it's challenging, and
Speaker 3: you know, the smaller field makes it even more challenging.
Speaker 3: But hey, they're not the only team that's ever sat
Speaker 3: back against the national team, so and surely it was expected.
Speaker 2: So yeah, no excuses, honestly.
Speaker 1: No, I know we were Also I played the Tony
Speaker 1: Meola sound from last night, or at least part of it,
Speaker 1: because it was a good five minute conversation where Tony
Speaker 1: was looking at Matt Turner and saying, you know, you
Speaker 1: got to you gotta have that one, much like the forwards,
Speaker 1: you gotta have those opportunities. You've got to create those opportunities.
Speaker 1: So Tony wasn't blaming Matt specifically. There was a lot
Speaker 1: of that to go around, but in that instance, I
Speaker 1: understood what Matt was doing positionally, and the defense kind
Speaker 1: of just let Waterman kind of do his thing toward
Speaker 1: the end, and it's just it seems like a bunch
Speaker 1: of different things kind of cascaded into one moment where
Speaker 1: it just kind of just goes past Matten into the
Speaker 1: back of the net for a lot.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I'm trying to take another look at it
Speaker 3: right now. That's probably why the volume you heard, And yeah,
Speaker 3: I agree, you know, I think it's easy for us
Speaker 3: to say, you know, two feet to the left instead
Speaker 3: of two feet to the right and all these things.
Speaker 3: But yeah, I think there was a little bit of
Speaker 3: miscommunication on the back line. You know, it seemed like
Speaker 3: Scally had gone with his guy and stepped up. Striker
Speaker 3: pulls out wide. Tim Ream doesn't want to get sucked
Speaker 3: out there. You know, Scali doesn't know that the guy's
Speaker 3: running behind him and now he's got.
Speaker 2: A free shot inside the eighteen.
Speaker 3: So yeah, definitely a little bit of miscommunication in that
Speaker 3: in that instance, and you paid the price and these
Speaker 3: little little moments, you know, it's it's just unbelievable. And
Speaker 3: this is the difference between us having a successful work
Speaker 3: up and not.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 3: You know, say you play Panama or I guess, I
Speaker 3: don't know if we could, but you play the worst
Speaker 3: team in your group and you lose one zero, even
Speaker 3: though you dominate the game, that's it. That could be
Speaker 3: your World Cup over right. You go one to one
Speaker 3: and one and you're just out. And so you know
Speaker 3: that's a reality, and you know, I hope that this
Speaker 3: group kind of understands that moving forward, because you know,
Speaker 3: there are certain games you can't lose, and this is
Speaker 3: one of them.
Speaker 1: Were you in a room by yourself watching the smatch,
Speaker 1: Were you with family? Were there was? Was Deacon having
Speaker 1: to listen to yelling what was this? What was the situation?
Speaker 3: I actually watched it on the Spanish channel because uh yeah,
Speaker 3: I enjoy that. So Deacon was around because were one
Speaker 3: was that baseball practice, one was just getting home from
Speaker 3: softball practice, so they were kind of doing their own thing,
Speaker 3: so nobody else was watching or intrigued or anything.
Speaker 1: So I was I was just checking because you know,
Speaker 1: there are times when we are in our environments and
Speaker 1: if you're by yourself in an office and you scream
Speaker 1: at the top of your lungs, then the next thing
Speaker 1: is for everybody else to sit there and go, well,
Speaker 1: what happened? And then you're you know, you're cursing into television.
Speaker 1: I didn't know what the the dynamic was last night.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't find myself getting to that level right now.
Speaker 3: I will probably in the World Cup. But even last
Speaker 3: night where that goal went in, it was just like, wow,
Speaker 3: did that just go in?
Speaker 2: Does that count? Did we just lose this game?
Speaker 3: Not like upset or mad or frustrated or anything, kind
Speaker 3: of just like dumbfounded, I guess.
Speaker 1: So, yeah, when you have and when you have conversations
Speaker 1: with men tees about taking care of business and in
Speaker 1: whatever form that is, I mean things that you should
Speaker 1: be able to do and do them, and then they don't.
Speaker 1: How do you have these conversations about getting understanding that
Speaker 1: moments like this happen and try to prevent the moments
Speaker 1: like this from continuing to happen to where once is Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: but you don't turn it into a trend. Do you
Speaker 1: talk about controlling mistakes and getting over mistakes and how
Speaker 1: to get past it and how to improve from situations?
Speaker 2: Oh, totally. Yeah.
Speaker 3: It's one of the biggest things we talked about because
Speaker 3: you know, it affects athletes in every sport at every level,
Speaker 3: and you know with the younger generations specifically, we talk
Speaker 3: a lot about expectations going into it, right, and we
Speaker 3: say you need to expect that.
Speaker 2: You're going to make mistakes.
Speaker 3: That way, when you do make a mistake, you're not surprised,
Speaker 3: you're not shocked, you're not disappointed.
Speaker 2: In the moment. Right.
Speaker 3: We can analyze things afterwards and we can be disappointed
Speaker 3: in a mistake or performance or whatever, right, but in
Speaker 3: the moment, there's no time for those things not in
Speaker 3: soccer anyways. So if we know that we're going to
Speaker 3: make mistakes, right, the reaction, we can't control what just happened, right,
Speaker 3: it's gone. Well, all we can control is the reaction.
Speaker 3: And so if we can let go of that as
Speaker 3: soon as it happens and just control the reaction, that's
Speaker 3: the best.
Speaker 2: We can do in that moment. And usually.
Speaker 3: The mistake doesn't matter if the reaction is good. You know,
Speaker 3: most times you can make up for it. Every now
Speaker 3: and then, of course you can't ends up in it
Speaker 3: back of the net and we try and make up
Speaker 3: for it later in the game, but most of the
Speaker 3: time we can. So yeah, overcoming those things is critical.
Speaker 3: You know, game to game is a little bit more challenging,
Speaker 3: but in game, for sure is a lot based on expectations,
Speaker 3: and we, especially the attacking players, we say, hey, make
Speaker 3: a few mistakes, please, because if you're not, you're not
Speaker 3: trying to have effect on the game. You don't want
Speaker 3: your number ten, your strikers and your wingers to have
Speaker 3: one hundred percent pass completion or anything like that.
Speaker 2: Right, That's that's not the that's not how you're going.
Speaker 3: To win and showcase and do really well, right, go
Speaker 3: one on one, take shots, try and play three balls,
Speaker 3: all those things.
Speaker 2: And when you do those things, you're gonna make mistakes.
Speaker 1: How difficult is it, though, to develop short term memory
Speaker 1: regardless of what position you're in. I mean, I would
Speaker 1: imagine that you're that if you're up up top, you
Speaker 1: know that you're up there to put the ball in
Speaker 1: the back of the net, and you're up there to
Speaker 1: have the confidence to do it. You know, when you're
Speaker 1: more of a defensive posture, it's almost I would think,
Speaker 1: amplify the mistakes could be amplified. Whether it's defense or
Speaker 1: keeper or whatever. It is it easier for attackers to
Speaker 1: have short term memory, or is it easier for defenders
Speaker 1: and keepers to have a short term memory to continue
Speaker 1: to learn and proceed from a mistake.
Speaker 2: It should be easier for attackers, just because.
Speaker 3: You know, one one goal can really.
Speaker 2: Make up for four mischances.
Speaker 3: You know, even even last night, you know with Agamon,
Speaker 3: if he finishes the second one, nobody remembers that he
Speaker 3: missed the first one. True, you know, two massive chances.
Speaker 3: But I think for defenders it's a little bit more
Speaker 3: challenging sometimes because you know, like what you said, usually
Speaker 3: the mistakes are punished more often, and they're just more noticeable,
Speaker 3: they're more present, right, So yeah, as a defender, it
Speaker 3: can be a little bit more challenging because you can
Speaker 3: play a really, really good game for eighty nine and
Speaker 3: fifty eight seconds and there's two seconds you make a
Speaker 3: big mistake and you lose one zero. Now all of
Speaker 3: a sudden, everybody's looking at you like, man, how could
Speaker 3: you have made that mistake? So it's definitely a little
Speaker 3: more challenging for defenders and attackers.
Speaker 1: Then how do you keep from turning it into quicksand?
Speaker 1: Basically where if you make a mistake and another and
Speaker 1: another and I feel like I'm quoting Shane Falco from
Speaker 1: The Replacements. You know, it's like you try to avoid quicksands,
Speaker 1: you make one mistake, you make another and another, and
Speaker 1: you just feel like you're sinking. How do you how
Speaker 1: do you? I guess A, you know we've gotten into
Speaker 1: the prevention of that, but how do you pull yourself
Speaker 1: out of quick out of that quicksand? Is it one
Speaker 1: moment or is it a series of moments to develop confidence?
Speaker 1: Or does it depend on the individual where somebody could
Speaker 1: have that one moment and they're back up and running,
Speaker 1: and then someone's got to sit there and have a
Speaker 1: couple of reinforcements before they feel comfortable all over again.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's it's really on the individual.
Speaker 3: But of course there's things that we try and institute
Speaker 3: that help out. And you know, it's a lot of
Speaker 3: it based on experience. Have I have I lost a
Speaker 3: couple of nights of sleeps throughout my career when I
Speaker 3: played a really good game but made a mistake and
Speaker 3: we gave up a goal.
Speaker 2: Yeah, of course, And so we.
Speaker 3: Try and help our athletes really focus on what did
Speaker 3: you do well today?
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 3: What I know that we probably did some bad things,
Speaker 3: What did you do well coming out of the game, right,
Speaker 3: and try and focus on our positives. It's easier said
Speaker 3: than done. You know, if you're making mistake early in
Speaker 3: the game, you came back from it, that's that's a
Speaker 3: lot easier. Right If last night, say that ball went
Speaker 3: through Matt Turner's legs or Scaley got nutmeg and its
Speaker 3: discordable right at the at the last minute, that's a
Speaker 3: lot more challenging, right because now you've got to sleep
Speaker 3: on it. Now you can't really make up for it.
Speaker 3: Until you get another opportunity on the field, so that
Speaker 3: can be a little bit more challenging. That becomes tough,
Speaker 3: and we just hey, you can control what you can control.
Speaker 3: The mistakes are going to be made, and hopefully you've
Speaker 3: got some good teammates that can rally around you and
Speaker 3: really pick you up in those moments.
Speaker 1: When you have You know, when you're in one of
Speaker 1: those kinds of of moments and you're trying to dust
Speaker 1: yourself off in this what was it for you? Or
Speaker 1: was it or did your your attitude change over time
Speaker 1: when it came to turning off, turning off a mistake
Speaker 1: and putting it behind you? Did you at first? I
Speaker 1: guess when you were younger, did you kick yourself longer?
Speaker 1: Did you get over it over time? Did you still
Speaker 1: kick yourself the constant rate as you were still a professional?
Speaker 1: How did your level of adjustment go? Did you beat
Speaker 1: yourself up as much as you did earlier in your
Speaker 1: career later in your careers? I guess what I'm asking.
Speaker 2: Not as much, not as much.
Speaker 3: I think that early on in the career it's a
Speaker 3: little bit easier to read what people are saying online
Speaker 3: to care about such things too, and I think you're
Speaker 3: still out trying to prove yourself right and prove like,
Speaker 3: oh that's not me type thing, and versus you know,
Speaker 3: later later on in my career. Not that I'm not
Speaker 3: still trying to prove things, but you know, I think
Speaker 3: you have a little bit more self confidence and you know, like, hey,
Speaker 3: I've made these mistakes before.
Speaker 2: I can bounce back from this, you.
Speaker 3: Know, And then you turn the page and you try
Speaker 3: focus on getting better at training, right, if you don't
Speaker 3: have another game upcoming, that's the only way you can
Speaker 3: do it. Honestly, it's and it's it's tough, and it
Speaker 3: takes experience, There's no doubt about it.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 3: It's it's one thing to make a mistake in a game.
Speaker 3: It's another thing to make a mistake in the Olympics
Speaker 3: or in a Champions League game. In a you're representing
Speaker 3: your country and you make a huge mistake, and now
Speaker 3: you feel the weight of a lot more and that's challenging.
Speaker 1: Michael Parkers at MF parkerst on the two hundred and
Speaker 1: eighty character app at BEG Mentoring on the two hundred
Speaker 1: and eighty character app Beyond Goalsmenoring dot Com and all
Speaker 1: that you and Greg Garza do is fantastic to help
Speaker 1: the the upcoming generations when it comes to understanding all
Speaker 1: these things in context and ways to proceed through it,
Speaker 1: and then whether it's video or conversation, the whole wide
Speaker 1: ranging bit. And that's why we like to have you
Speaker 1: on here for the Friday Free Kick every single Friday
Speaker 1: that you're not globe trotting. So are you? Are you?
Speaker 1: Are you? Uh? What's what's the what are you naching
Speaker 1: on there? Sir?
Speaker 2: I'm not I'm not eating anything.
Speaker 3: I'm uh, I'm meant to I meant to wear something
Speaker 3: today and I forgot it.
Speaker 1: Oh dude, Oh there it is, Adam. Yeah, look at that.
Speaker 1: There it is from Olive and York right there.
Speaker 2: Beautiful.
Speaker 1: Now, okay, so did you you personalized with the Carolina blue? Sir?
Speaker 1: Can I say that actually the light blue? We have
Speaker 1: to say light blue for you.
Speaker 2: Can, yes, late blue, it's definitely not Carolina blue.
Speaker 1: Yeah. So there it is. There's the the Kaiser Permanente
Speaker 1: sponsored Michael Parker's jersey. And we thank you for that
Speaker 1: because it's it's very very cool that that you are
Speaker 1: there to help us out, you and Greg and beyond
Speaker 1: goals and Kaiser too to wear the Olivi and York
Speaker 1: presented Kaiser Permanente SDH Jersey to help us out for
Speaker 1: Soccer for Good here in twenty twenty five. That's strong.
Speaker 1: That's pretty good. I thought you were going to bust
Speaker 1: out your Rhode Island gear and wear that on the show.
Speaker 3: That's no, sir, No, sir, way more important than that.
Speaker 1: It's just but once again, it's it's very I will
Speaker 1: say this, it's very humbling when when someone you know
Speaker 1: cracks open an envelope and they sit there and you
Speaker 1: flash something like that, and it's very very it's very
Speaker 1: very humbling, very very cool. You've disrupted my train of thoughts, sir.
Speaker 1: I hope you're happy, Oh I am. Yes, when you know,
Speaker 1: when you have you know, we talk about moments, and
Speaker 1: we talk about quick sand, and we talk about young athletes,
Speaker 1: and we talk about all these things. With trying to
Speaker 1: get over mistakes or get past mistakes, I would think
Speaker 1: a lot of times it's easier said than done. And
Speaker 1: you mentioned the context of match versus representing your country
Speaker 1: and all these kinds of other things. I would imagine
Speaker 1: at least, you know, for those of us of a
Speaker 1: certain age, you know that were born, you know, after
Speaker 1: the Industrial revolution that just started happening, that it's probably
Speaker 1: a little bit more difficult for folks of certain ages
Speaker 1: to get over things than it is a lot younger folks.
Speaker 1: Do you find that to be the case where you're
Speaker 1: having interactions with adults, and adults may act a certain way,
Speaker 1: but with your mentees they let things brush off a
Speaker 1: little better than we would. Or because of social media,
Speaker 1: is it just as difficult but in a different way
Speaker 1: to have things brush off?
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I think a lot of it is personality as well
Speaker 3: versus you know, how confident is the person in what
Speaker 3: way did they make their mistake? Was it in something
Speaker 3: that they feel comfortable in or not? You know, what
Speaker 3: were the repercussions from the mistake? You know, those types
Speaker 3: of things I think really affect how the person is
Speaker 3: able to bounce back from things. But yeah, I will
Speaker 3: say that a lot of the younger generation can bounce
Speaker 3: back from things pretty quickly. But I also think some
Speaker 3: of that is based off of how the parents bounce
Speaker 3: back from things and their reactions to the mistakes and
Speaker 3: things like that. So I think that we can have
Speaker 3: a real effect on the next generation, no doubt as
Speaker 3: parents and our children's resiliency.
Speaker 1: How difficult, you know, how difficult is it to change
Speaker 1: a younger person's wiring or their DNA when it comes
Speaker 1: to stuff like that, Because I would imagine that if
Speaker 1: you have a student athlete that is incredibly self conscious,
Speaker 1: it might take a little more for them to turn
Speaker 1: it around than say, someone who is instantly confident. So
Speaker 1: I mean, I would imagine that you're getting a bunch
Speaker 1: of different student athletes and a bunch of mentees that
Speaker 1: come at it from different ways. Yes, how hard is
Speaker 1: it to sit there the ones that are less confident?
Speaker 1: How much of a task is it for you and
Speaker 1: Greg to try to turn them around and have them
Speaker 1: understand Yeah it's ok it's okay to fail, learn from failing.
Speaker 1: And they may not buy it initially. They're just like
Speaker 1: you know, I don't know. Oh, and they're always sometimes
Speaker 1: it might be tougher nuts to crack s it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, absolutely, And it's slow and study. It's it's not
Speaker 3: going to be overnight. It's not going to be a
Speaker 3: one conversation and then all of a sudden they've got
Speaker 3: a different mentality, right, it's it's difficult to learn new
Speaker 3: habits and institute new things.
Speaker 2: So we'd be patient with our mentees for sure. And
Speaker 2: we know that it's not.
Speaker 3: Easy for kids, especially you're dealing with peer pressure and
Speaker 3: you want to impress other kids your age, and there's
Speaker 3: a whole host of things they're going through that have
Speaker 3: nothing to do with kicking a soccer ball yet affect
Speaker 3: the confidence on the soccer field. So yeah, it's challenging,
Speaker 3: there's no doubt about it. And but it's not impossible.
Speaker 3: And we've seen some kids start to change. And we
Speaker 3: do it little by little, right, just little focusing, little
Speaker 3: little tidbits and little changes to the habits of Okay,
Speaker 3: what's the first thing I think about when I come
Speaker 3: off the field, Or that's the first thing I think
Speaker 3: about when I step onto the field. Little things like
Speaker 3: that where you slowly start to change habits.
Speaker 1: When you have these Let me let me phrase it
Speaker 1: this way. How many mentees do you and Greg currently have?
Speaker 1: I know the answer is a lot, but can you
Speaker 1: put a number to it?
Speaker 2: Probably two fifty?
Speaker 1: Wow, Now that's cool, that's that's tremendous. Do you have
Speaker 1: do you and Greg have individual files on each mentee
Speaker 1: with for lack of a better phrase, progressions and growth charts.
Speaker 1: It's like, okay, first meeting was this? Then you know
Speaker 1: I noticed this. Do you keep notes on all of
Speaker 1: your mentees or is it just you know, how do
Speaker 1: you guys keep everyone straight so where you're in tune
Speaker 1: with their learning process going forward?
Speaker 3: Yes, we do keep notes because yeah, it can be challenging,
Speaker 3: especially if you go six weeks, eight weeks between talking
Speaker 3: to a mentee.
Speaker 2: You need a.
Speaker 3: Refresher of Okay, where was this athlete at? And we
Speaker 3: sometimes have crossover, right, an athlete will do a couple
Speaker 3: of sessions with me, a couple of sessions with Greg,
Speaker 3: and we don't want to repeat things, So yeah, we
Speaker 3: take notes and we share notes, so it's hey, what
Speaker 3: did you talk about?
Speaker 2: And then also, because.
Speaker 3: We don't have a set curriculum, right, it's not like, hey,
Speaker 3: session one is this, Session two is this, Session three
Speaker 3: is this? So even if Greg's done two sessions with
Speaker 3: a kid, I don't know what he's.
Speaker 2: Talked about, right, So yeah, we keep notes.
Speaker 3: On every on every athlete that we've spoken to. That way,
Speaker 3: if I have one of Greg's kids, I shoot him
Speaker 3: a message, he share that with me.
Speaker 2: So you know we're on the same page.
Speaker 1: Can do you are you able to read Greg's handwriting?
Speaker 3: Oh, John, everything's on the computer. Jad, no handwriting, Although
Speaker 3: I do think Greg's got good handwriting.
Speaker 1: Do you understand his notes? I mean, are the notes
Speaker 1: like in actual sentence and paragraph forms where you can
Speaker 1: sit there and take the information and fully understand where
Speaker 1: he's coming from or is it shorthanded? You sit there
Speaker 1: and go, man, what did Garsa say here? And you
Speaker 1: have to dial him up and go what are you
Speaker 1: talking about?
Speaker 3: That's a good question to ask Greg next time he's
Speaker 3: on because he takes he takes really good notes and
Speaker 3: write sentences.
Speaker 2: And I'm more like, hey.
Speaker 3: You know, two words here and three words there, and like,
Speaker 3: hey you know confidence and then three other words under
Speaker 3: confidence versus Greg, will you know, really having a little
Speaker 3: more elaborate note than I do. So I think that
Speaker 3: he gets it, you know. But I think it's also
Speaker 3: good because you know, we adapt what we talk about sometimes,
Speaker 3: and you know, I, for example, I don't know what
Speaker 3: was I listening to or reading. I don't even know
Speaker 3: the other day and I heard something or saw something
Speaker 3: that was really cool, and I'm trying to find the
Speaker 3: note right.
Speaker 2: Here, it was.
Speaker 3: A person with a positive attitude can affect the group
Speaker 3: or another person by fifteen percent, but a negative person
Speaker 3: and approach to things can affect that same person or
Speaker 3: group by thirty.
Speaker 1: Percent, twice as much impact on the negative.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: So it's and we're talking about how valuable it is
Speaker 3: to be a good teammates and have a positive effect
Speaker 3: on other people, and also to be aware of said
Speaker 3: teammates that are or friends that are having positive or
Speaker 3: negative effects on you, because the negative effect is so
Speaker 3: much stronger than the positive effect, which makes sense when
Speaker 3: we think about you know, eighty percent of our thoughts
Speaker 3: daily or negative. So you know, everything negative is way
Speaker 3: more stronger than it is positive. I've heard that in
Speaker 3: the past, as far as you have to think about
Speaker 3: something positively for like three or five times times longer
Speaker 3: than something negative for it to stick in your brain
Speaker 3: and impact it as much.
Speaker 2: Yeah, definitely, So you know we anyways.
Speaker 3: We so we adapt things that we talk about, and
Speaker 3: so when I read Greg's notes, I can see, oh, shoot,
Speaker 3: you know, he's talking about something we've never talked about,
Speaker 3: or you know, an example or a story or whatever,
Speaker 3: and then I can implement into mind.
Speaker 1: See, now you opened another door that we're going to
Speaker 1: have to talk about next time. You're on about positive
Speaker 1: thoughts and negative thoughts, considering the numbers or twice as
Speaker 1: more impactful negatively than positively. But what I did want
Speaker 1: to discuss before you get out of here, other than
Speaker 1: the fact that are you flying to Phoenix for for
Speaker 1: the match tomorrow.
Speaker 3: For actually driving to Myrtle Beach, South Carolina later today?
Speaker 1: What's that you're taking your clubs?
Speaker 3: I wish I'm taking the whole house, John, accept the clubs.
Speaker 3: My daughter's got a high school little softball tournaments for
Speaker 3: spring break down there, So the whole crew is.
Speaker 1: Going, and you're bringing all of the bats and the
Speaker 1: balls and the gear. And I just have this vision
Speaker 1: of the Parkhurst Wagon Queen Family truckster just packed with
Speaker 1: softball gear in the back. It's like softball gear, softball gear,
Speaker 1: softball gear. Oh what are you packing for the trip?
Speaker 1: My bag that's about this size, you know. Literally, it's like,
Speaker 1: you know, yeah, I'll just wear the same thing because
Speaker 1: we don't have any room in the car to pack
Speaker 1: anything involving actual clothing. It's softball first, and then we
Speaker 1: get to fill the rest of the car with like
Speaker 1: clothes and things. I see how this works exactly, I see,
Speaker 1: I see how this works. Atlanta United going to Cincinnati.
Speaker 1: MLS decides that they want to continue to play through
Speaker 1: international breaks, So it creates challenges for coaching staffs and
Speaker 1: players and depth and all these kinds of things. How
Speaker 1: much of a challenge is it when you're early on
Speaker 1: in the year and you're getting relationships you know, you
Speaker 1: might be just passed the whole on my name is
Speaker 1: name tag part when you're trying to figure out, okay,
Speaker 1: this guy does this, this guy does this, and you
Speaker 1: get an international window in there, and then you're going
Speaker 1: on the road. How much of a challenge is it
Speaker 1: to deal with a variable you thought you had and
Speaker 1: then you've got an international window and you've got to
Speaker 1: deal with the variable all over again.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's challenging, especially when your team that's put together
Speaker 3: a lot of new pieces this year and you're struggling
Speaker 3: to you know, create goals, score goals, and you're looking
Speaker 3: for that consistency.
Speaker 2: That's tough.
Speaker 3: But as with everything, it's opportunities for other players and
Speaker 3: you know, oh, Cincinnati, I don't think probably are too
Speaker 3: thrilled with how their season's going either right now, and
Speaker 3: I don't even know if Miles is healthy for the match. Yeah,
Speaker 3: we'll see, so you know, obviously if he's not, it
Speaker 3: makes life easier.
Speaker 2: So yeah, but it's tough.
Speaker 3: These international breaks are are challenging, but it's I will say,
Speaker 3: as a younger player on the roster, you look forward
Speaker 3: to these games because you know, like, hey, I might
Speaker 3: have my opportunity here to get more playing times throughout
Speaker 3: the rest of the season. So it's a really big
Speaker 3: game for those players in particular.
Speaker 1: No doubt. So how long are you in myrtle with
Speaker 1: the softball a week?
Speaker 3: Yes, Friday, Well they have to be down there tomorrow.
Speaker 3: We're driving halfway tonight and then come back on the
Speaker 3: next Friday or Saturday.
Speaker 1: So is Decon going to be the security system while
Speaker 1: you're gone.
Speaker 2: M Nope, She'll be in between the kids.
Speaker 1: Oh oh, please take pictures.
Speaker 3: I don't think there's going to be enough room for
Speaker 3: me in the car to turn around and take a picture.
Speaker 2: I don't think you're going to be able to see
Speaker 2: anyone just stuff.
Speaker 1: It's like you get pulled over, mister park Hurst. Were
Speaker 1: you able to see out the rear view all because
Speaker 1: there was a dog and a bunch of softball equipment.
Speaker 2: Yeah exactly.
Speaker 1: Thank you once again for flashing the olive in York,
Speaker 1: Jersey and being a part of our family here at
Speaker 1: SDH with what you guys are doing beyond goal. See
Speaker 1: there you go there it is, yeah, beautiful and yes,
Speaker 1: the light blue to go with the Navy and the
Speaker 1: possimalization there because we can't use the C word in
Speaker 1: front of blue considering your particular school. Thanks for dropping
Speaker 1: in especially, and just look, just be safe, have fun,
Speaker 1: rent some clubs. Maybe you could do that, and you know,
Speaker 1: maybe you could find some time to steal. Just be
Speaker 1: safe getting down there, be safe getting back. We'll catch
Speaker 1: up with you soon, and obviously we'll have matches to
Speaker 1: talk about, involving trips to Phoenix and Loudon for the
Speaker 1: Rhode Island f C getting ready for Oakland Roots April
Speaker 1: fit at the Oakland Coliseum, complete with rats and raccoons
Speaker 1: and probably twenty five thousand people. Be safe, my friend.
Speaker 1: Thanks as always, We'll catch up with you soon.
Speaker 2: Thanks Jean, every great weekend.