WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.160 --> 00:00:02.439 All right, so let's we yield the floor and we 2 00:00:02.480 --> 00:00:04.559 bring in to Michael Parkhurst as Bart will now go 3 00:00:04.639 --> 00:00:07.759 into listener mode. Uh yeah, that that's the look I 4 00:00:07.839 --> 00:00:14.960 was kind of anticipating, Sir John. Yeah, morning cap. Uh yeah, 5 00:00:15.000 --> 00:00:18.559 we got some salty folks after what happened last night 6 00:00:18.600 --> 00:00:22.000 out at so far first and foremost, let me go back. 7 00:00:22.000 --> 00:00:24.039 Did you watch said match last night? 8 00:00:24.440 --> 00:00:26.719 Yeah? I watched most of it. I missed a little 9 00:00:26.719 --> 00:00:27.399 bit in the beginning. 10 00:00:27.839 --> 00:00:31.480 And your thoughts, Comma, sir, Comma, are question mark. 11 00:00:32.960 --> 00:00:35.799 Shocked? Shocked but not shocked? 12 00:00:35.840 --> 00:00:38.560 I guess okay, you know, I think that obviously we 13 00:00:38.560 --> 00:00:40.119 were the better team most of the game. I mean, 14 00:00:40.159 --> 00:00:42.880 we create chances, have opportunities, and you don't finish them. 15 00:00:42.920 --> 00:00:46.439 And you know, we've all heard the story before, we've 16 00:00:46.479 --> 00:00:49.079 all seen it play out before, so uh yeah, I 17 00:00:49.079 --> 00:00:53.880 think it's frustrating. I don't I say shocked, because it 18 00:00:54.000 --> 00:00:58.119 just seemed like Panama didn't even have an opportunity. So 19 00:00:58.280 --> 00:01:00.880 it was like and then he sticks it side netting 20 00:01:00.920 --> 00:01:04.439 when he when he gets an opportunity, and that's that's incredible. 21 00:01:05.760 --> 00:01:07.280 So yeah, I just shocked. 22 00:01:07.040 --> 00:01:09.239 That it went in in that like, Wow, we're actually 23 00:01:09.280 --> 00:01:10.879 going to lose this game, because no part of me 24 00:01:10.959 --> 00:01:12.599 ever thought like, oh, we're going to lose this game. 25 00:01:13.280 --> 00:01:19.239 I didn't think the performance was terrible. But good performances 26 00:01:19.239 --> 00:01:22.159 don't always need to good results, and you know, these 27 00:01:22.280 --> 00:01:25.120 these are these are good lessons that we have to learn. 28 00:01:25.359 --> 00:01:27.480 I mean, yeah, of course I wish we got the 29 00:01:27.480 --> 00:01:29.879 opportunity to play in Mexico because we need big games 30 00:01:29.920 --> 00:01:32.640 going into the World Cup, especially without qualifying. 31 00:01:33.359 --> 00:01:37.719 But yeah, I guess I always look at it class half. 32 00:01:37.519 --> 00:01:44.680 Full when a team is coming into a match and 33 00:01:44.840 --> 00:01:46.920 it's not I mean it's not quite the U twelve 34 00:01:46.920 --> 00:01:49.200 pitch at Yankee Stadium, but it ain't quite you know, 35 00:01:49.319 --> 00:01:52.840 the wide track stadia that you would go up against 36 00:01:52.879 --> 00:01:56.239 and say in some Conca cat venues. When you know 37 00:01:56.280 --> 00:01:58.480 a team is going to go five four one, when 38 00:01:58.519 --> 00:02:02.000 you know that it's a tighter play the normal, how 39 00:02:02.079 --> 00:02:06.079 much of a challenge is it to break something down Traditionally, 40 00:02:06.120 --> 00:02:07.680 you know, when they're going to put nineteen behind the 41 00:02:07.680 --> 00:02:09.680 ball anyway, it's going to be a challenge. But when 42 00:02:09.719 --> 00:02:12.039 they put nineteen behind the ball and they're playing a 43 00:02:12.080 --> 00:02:14.560 five four to one on a shorter pitch, how much 44 00:02:14.639 --> 00:02:18.319 added pressure is that to try to break something like 45 00:02:18.360 --> 00:02:20.919 that down, especially when you're not scoring later and later 46 00:02:20.960 --> 00:02:21.719 and later in a match. 47 00:02:22.280 --> 00:02:26.159 Yes, that's the key, right, It's it becomes very, very 48 00:02:26.159 --> 00:02:29.960 difficult to the longer it goes, and you know, it's 49 00:02:30.000 --> 00:02:32.159 difficult to play against those teams, there's no doubt about it. 50 00:02:32.280 --> 00:02:34.680 And you know, I always used to view it like, 51 00:02:35.400 --> 00:02:39.879 if we are struggling, right at some point, if we're struggling, 52 00:02:41.479 --> 00:02:45.120 stop pressing, come back to our own half, let them 53 00:02:45.280 --> 00:02:50.520 have the ball and try and counterattack. Now, we were 54 00:02:50.560 --> 00:02:52.520 creating chances last night, so I'm not saying that's what 55 00:02:52.560 --> 00:02:55.560 we needed to do, but yeah, it's challenging, and you know, 56 00:02:55.599 --> 00:02:58.960 I think that's where you have to just put pressure 57 00:02:59.080 --> 00:03:02.080 on teams. And you know that we always used to 58 00:03:02.080 --> 00:03:05.319 say pressure burst pipes, so balls in the box and 59 00:03:05.360 --> 00:03:07.639 winning second balls, and it doesn't always have to be pretty, 60 00:03:07.960 --> 00:03:10.560 and your fight for a knockdown and you get one 61 00:03:11.039 --> 00:03:13.000 or you score one off a set piece and then 62 00:03:13.120 --> 00:03:14.960 things open up a little bit and then you can 63 00:03:15.039 --> 00:03:19.319 be patient and they'll have to eventually come out. But 64 00:03:19.439 --> 00:03:22.719 obviously we never got that. But it's it's challenging, and 65 00:03:23.199 --> 00:03:26.319 you know, the smaller field makes it even more challenging. 66 00:03:26.360 --> 00:03:29.879 But hey, they're not the only team that's ever sat 67 00:03:29.960 --> 00:03:34.120 back against the national team, so and surely it was expected. 68 00:03:34.599 --> 00:03:38.039 So yeah, no excuses, honestly. 69 00:03:37.960 --> 00:03:41.520 No, I know we were Also I played the Tony 70 00:03:41.599 --> 00:03:43.560 Meola sound from last night, or at least part of it, 71 00:03:43.599 --> 00:03:46.479 because it was a good five minute conversation where Tony 72 00:03:46.560 --> 00:03:49.479 was looking at Matt Turner and saying, you know, you 73 00:03:49.560 --> 00:03:52.199 got to you gotta have that one, much like the forwards, 74 00:03:52.280 --> 00:03:55.439 you gotta have those opportunities. You've got to create those opportunities. 75 00:03:55.479 --> 00:03:59.560 So Tony wasn't blaming Matt specifically. There was a lot 76 00:03:59.599 --> 00:04:02.000 of that to go around, but in that instance, I 77 00:04:02.080 --> 00:04:06.599 understood what Matt was doing positionally, and the defense kind 78 00:04:06.639 --> 00:04:09.120 of just let Waterman kind of do his thing toward 79 00:04:09.199 --> 00:04:11.639 the end, and it's just it seems like a bunch 80 00:04:11.719 --> 00:04:14.360 of different things kind of cascaded into one moment where 81 00:04:14.360 --> 00:04:16.439 it just kind of just goes past Matten into the 82 00:04:16.480 --> 00:04:17.600 back of the net for a lot. 83 00:04:17.879 --> 00:04:19.839 Yeah, and I'm trying to take another look at it 84 00:04:19.920 --> 00:04:24.040 right now. That's probably why the volume you heard, And yeah, 85 00:04:24.079 --> 00:04:26.800 I agree, you know, I think it's easy for us 86 00:04:26.800 --> 00:04:30.120 to say, you know, two feet to the left instead 87 00:04:30.160 --> 00:04:32.600 of two feet to the right and all these things. 88 00:04:33.160 --> 00:04:35.319 But yeah, I think there was a little bit of 89 00:04:35.319 --> 00:04:38.519 miscommunication on the back line. You know, it seemed like 90 00:04:39.279 --> 00:04:42.000 Scally had gone with his guy and stepped up. Striker 91 00:04:42.040 --> 00:04:44.439 pulls out wide. Tim Ream doesn't want to get sucked 92 00:04:44.439 --> 00:04:48.839 out there. You know, Scali doesn't know that the guy's 93 00:04:49.040 --> 00:04:50.920 running behind him and now he's got. 94 00:04:50.839 --> 00:04:52.120 A free shot inside the eighteen. 95 00:04:52.240 --> 00:04:55.439 So yeah, definitely a little bit of miscommunication in that 96 00:04:56.399 --> 00:05:00.199 in that instance, and you paid the price and these 97 00:05:00.240 --> 00:05:03.439 little little moments, you know, it's it's just unbelievable. And 98 00:05:03.560 --> 00:05:05.839 this is the difference between us having a successful work 99 00:05:05.920 --> 00:05:06.240 up and not. 100 00:05:07.120 --> 00:05:07.279 Right. 101 00:05:07.560 --> 00:05:11.079 You know, say you play Panama or I guess, I 102 00:05:11.120 --> 00:05:13.319 don't know if we could, but you play the worst 103 00:05:13.319 --> 00:05:16.120 team in your group and you lose one zero, even 104 00:05:16.160 --> 00:05:18.160 though you dominate the game, that's it. That could be 105 00:05:18.199 --> 00:05:20.680 your World Cup over right. You go one to one 106 00:05:20.720 --> 00:05:23.759 and one and you're just out. And so you know 107 00:05:23.800 --> 00:05:28.120 that's a reality, and you know, I hope that this 108 00:05:28.279 --> 00:05:31.600 group kind of understands that moving forward, because you know, 109 00:05:31.600 --> 00:05:33.680 there are certain games you can't lose, and this is 110 00:05:33.680 --> 00:05:34.800 one of them. 111 00:05:35.360 --> 00:05:39.079 Were you in a room by yourself watching the smatch, 112 00:05:39.160 --> 00:05:43.839 Were you with family? Were there was? Was Deacon having 113 00:05:43.879 --> 00:05:46.519 to listen to yelling what was this? What was the situation? 114 00:05:47.600 --> 00:05:53.199 I actually watched it on the Spanish channel because uh yeah, 115 00:05:53.360 --> 00:06:00.319 I enjoy that. So Deacon was around because were one 116 00:06:00.399 --> 00:06:03.240 was that baseball practice, one was just getting home from 117 00:06:03.240 --> 00:06:06.399 softball practice, so they were kind of doing their own thing, 118 00:06:06.480 --> 00:06:09.319 so nobody else was watching or intrigued or anything. 119 00:06:09.920 --> 00:06:12.759 So I was I was just checking because you know, 120 00:06:12.879 --> 00:06:15.800 there are times when we are in our environments and 121 00:06:16.600 --> 00:06:19.560 if you're by yourself in an office and you scream 122 00:06:19.600 --> 00:06:21.279 at the top of your lungs, then the next thing 123 00:06:21.319 --> 00:06:22.759 is for everybody else to sit there and go, well, 124 00:06:22.759 --> 00:06:25.240 what happened? And then you're you know, you're cursing into television. 125 00:06:25.240 --> 00:06:28.040 I didn't know what the the dynamic was last night. 126 00:06:28.079 --> 00:06:31.560 Yeah, I don't find myself getting to that level right now. 127 00:06:31.600 --> 00:06:33.800 I will probably in the World Cup. But even last 128 00:06:33.879 --> 00:06:37.800 night where that goal went in, it was just like, wow, 129 00:06:38.160 --> 00:06:38.959 did that just go in? 130 00:06:39.040 --> 00:06:41.720 Does that count? Did we just lose this game? 131 00:06:42.720 --> 00:06:46.199 Not like upset or mad or frustrated or anything, kind 132 00:06:46.199 --> 00:06:48.399 of just like dumbfounded, I guess. 133 00:06:49.000 --> 00:06:55.560 So, yeah, when you have and when you have conversations 134 00:06:55.720 --> 00:07:01.040 with men tees about taking care of business and in 135 00:07:01.160 --> 00:07:03.839 whatever form that is, I mean things that you should 136 00:07:03.839 --> 00:07:08.120 be able to do and do them, and then they don't. 137 00:07:08.639 --> 00:07:13.120 How do you have these conversations about getting understanding that 138 00:07:13.160 --> 00:07:16.560 moments like this happen and try to prevent the moments 139 00:07:16.639 --> 00:07:20.959 like this from continuing to happen to where once is Yeah, okay, 140 00:07:21.160 --> 00:07:23.240 but you don't turn it into a trend. Do you 141 00:07:23.279 --> 00:07:26.279 talk about controlling mistakes and getting over mistakes and how 142 00:07:26.279 --> 00:07:29.600 to get past it and how to improve from situations? 143 00:07:29.920 --> 00:07:30.920 Oh, totally. Yeah. 144 00:07:30.920 --> 00:07:33.160 It's one of the biggest things we talked about because 145 00:07:34.199 --> 00:07:38.720 you know, it affects athletes in every sport at every level, 146 00:07:38.959 --> 00:07:43.040 and you know with the younger generations specifically, we talk 147 00:07:43.040 --> 00:07:46.040 a lot about expectations going into it, right, and we 148 00:07:46.120 --> 00:07:48.240 say you need to expect that. 149 00:07:48.240 --> 00:07:49.199 You're going to make mistakes. 150 00:07:49.240 --> 00:07:51.519 That way, when you do make a mistake, you're not surprised, 151 00:07:51.519 --> 00:07:54.199 you're not shocked, you're not disappointed. 152 00:07:53.519 --> 00:07:54.600 In the moment. Right. 153 00:07:54.680 --> 00:07:57.639 We can analyze things afterwards and we can be disappointed 154 00:07:57.639 --> 00:08:00.600 in a mistake or performance or whatever, right, but in 155 00:08:00.600 --> 00:08:02.920 the moment, there's no time for those things not in 156 00:08:02.959 --> 00:08:07.279 soccer anyways. So if we know that we're going to 157 00:08:07.319 --> 00:08:12.240 make mistakes, right, the reaction, we can't control what just happened, right, 158 00:08:12.839 --> 00:08:16.000 it's gone. Well, all we can control is the reaction. 159 00:08:16.120 --> 00:08:19.199 And so if we can let go of that as 160 00:08:19.240 --> 00:08:21.920 soon as it happens and just control the reaction, that's 161 00:08:21.959 --> 00:08:22.519 the best. 162 00:08:22.279 --> 00:08:25.160 We can do in that moment. And usually. 163 00:08:26.079 --> 00:08:28.759 The mistake doesn't matter if the reaction is good. You know, 164 00:08:28.879 --> 00:08:30.800 most times you can make up for it. Every now 165 00:08:30.839 --> 00:08:32.600 and then, of course you can't ends up in it 166 00:08:32.639 --> 00:08:34.679 back of the net and we try and make up 167 00:08:34.679 --> 00:08:37.679 for it later in the game, but most of the 168 00:08:37.759 --> 00:08:41.679 time we can. So yeah, overcoming those things is critical. 169 00:08:42.480 --> 00:08:44.600 You know, game to game is a little bit more challenging, 170 00:08:45.200 --> 00:08:48.480 but in game, for sure is a lot based on expectations, 171 00:08:48.480 --> 00:08:53.440 and we, especially the attacking players, we say, hey, make 172 00:08:54.080 --> 00:08:58.000 a few mistakes, please, because if you're not, you're not 173 00:08:58.320 --> 00:09:01.759 trying to have effect on the game. You don't want 174 00:09:01.759 --> 00:09:03.519 your number ten, your strikers and your wingers to have 175 00:09:03.600 --> 00:09:05.799 one hundred percent pass completion or anything like that. 176 00:09:05.840 --> 00:09:08.200 Right, That's that's not the that's not how you're going. 177 00:09:08.200 --> 00:09:10.919 To win and showcase and do really well, right, go 178 00:09:10.960 --> 00:09:13.559 one on one, take shots, try and play three balls, 179 00:09:13.559 --> 00:09:14.200 all those things. 180 00:09:14.039 --> 00:09:15.559 And when you do those things, you're gonna make mistakes. 181 00:09:17.240 --> 00:09:20.080 How difficult is it, though, to develop short term memory 182 00:09:20.120 --> 00:09:22.600 regardless of what position you're in. I mean, I would 183 00:09:22.639 --> 00:09:26.480 imagine that you're that if you're up up top, you 184 00:09:26.559 --> 00:09:28.559 know that you're up there to put the ball in 185 00:09:28.600 --> 00:09:30.039 the back of the net, and you're up there to 186 00:09:30.360 --> 00:09:32.759 have the confidence to do it. You know, when you're 187 00:09:32.960 --> 00:09:36.759 more of a defensive posture, it's almost I would think, 188 00:09:36.840 --> 00:09:40.720 amplify the mistakes could be amplified. Whether it's defense or 189 00:09:40.799 --> 00:09:45.759 keeper or whatever. It is it easier for attackers to 190 00:09:45.840 --> 00:09:48.679 have short term memory, or is it easier for defenders 191 00:09:48.720 --> 00:09:51.200 and keepers to have a short term memory to continue 192 00:09:51.200 --> 00:09:53.120 to learn and proceed from a mistake. 193 00:09:53.960 --> 00:09:57.519 It should be easier for attackers, just because. 194 00:09:58.960 --> 00:10:02.519 You know, one one goal can really. 195 00:10:02.440 --> 00:10:04.480 Make up for four mischances. 196 00:10:05.679 --> 00:10:08.679 You know, even even last night, you know with Agamon, 197 00:10:10.039 --> 00:10:12.360 if he finishes the second one, nobody remembers that he 198 00:10:12.399 --> 00:10:16.080 missed the first one. True, you know, two massive chances. 199 00:10:16.440 --> 00:10:20.639 But I think for defenders it's a little bit more 200 00:10:20.679 --> 00:10:24.320 challenging sometimes because you know, like what you said, usually 201 00:10:24.399 --> 00:10:29.519 the mistakes are punished more often, and they're just more noticeable, 202 00:10:29.519 --> 00:10:34.320 they're more present, right, So yeah, as a defender, it 203 00:10:34.360 --> 00:10:36.000 can be a little bit more challenging because you can 204 00:10:36.000 --> 00:10:40.799 play a really, really good game for eighty nine and 205 00:10:40.840 --> 00:10:43.159 fifty eight seconds and there's two seconds you make a 206 00:10:43.159 --> 00:10:45.799 big mistake and you lose one zero. Now all of 207 00:10:45.840 --> 00:10:48.000 a sudden, everybody's looking at you like, man, how could 208 00:10:48.000 --> 00:10:51.600 you have made that mistake? So it's definitely a little 209 00:10:51.639 --> 00:10:53.679 more challenging for defenders and attackers. 210 00:10:54.720 --> 00:10:57.320 Then how do you keep from turning it into quicksand? 211 00:10:57.399 --> 00:10:59.879 Basically where if you make a mistake and another and 212 00:11:00.039 --> 00:11:03.200 another and I feel like I'm quoting Shane Falco from 213 00:11:03.200 --> 00:11:06.120 The Replacements. You know, it's like you try to avoid quicksands, 214 00:11:06.240 --> 00:11:08.080 you make one mistake, you make another and another, and 215 00:11:08.120 --> 00:11:11.000 you just feel like you're sinking. How do you how 216 00:11:11.000 --> 00:11:13.639 do you? I guess A, you know we've gotten into 217 00:11:13.639 --> 00:11:15.799 the prevention of that, but how do you pull yourself 218 00:11:15.840 --> 00:11:17.799 out of quick out of that quicksand? Is it one 219 00:11:17.840 --> 00:11:20.440 moment or is it a series of moments to develop confidence? 220 00:11:20.519 --> 00:11:23.159 Or does it depend on the individual where somebody could 221 00:11:23.200 --> 00:11:25.360 have that one moment and they're back up and running, 222 00:11:25.440 --> 00:11:27.320 and then someone's got to sit there and have a 223 00:11:27.360 --> 00:11:31.039 couple of reinforcements before they feel comfortable all over again. 224 00:11:31.559 --> 00:11:33.600 Yeah, it's it's really on the individual. 225 00:11:34.159 --> 00:11:37.279 But of course there's things that we try and institute 226 00:11:37.360 --> 00:11:40.519 that help out. And you know, it's a lot of 227 00:11:40.519 --> 00:11:43.480 it based on experience. Have I have I lost a 228 00:11:43.519 --> 00:11:46.240 couple of nights of sleeps throughout my career when I 229 00:11:46.279 --> 00:11:48.120 played a really good game but made a mistake and 230 00:11:48.120 --> 00:11:48.759 we gave up a goal. 231 00:11:48.840 --> 00:11:51.639 Yeah, of course, And so we. 232 00:11:51.759 --> 00:11:55.279 Try and help our athletes really focus on what did 233 00:11:55.279 --> 00:11:56.039 you do well today? 234 00:11:56.240 --> 00:11:56.440 Right? 235 00:11:56.639 --> 00:11:58.840 What I know that we probably did some bad things, 236 00:11:58.840 --> 00:12:00.679 What did you do well coming out of the game, right, 237 00:12:00.720 --> 00:12:04.120 and try and focus on our positives. It's easier said 238 00:12:04.159 --> 00:12:06.360 than done. You know, if you're making mistake early in 239 00:12:06.360 --> 00:12:09.440 the game, you came back from it, that's that's a 240 00:12:09.480 --> 00:12:13.799 lot easier. Right If last night, say that ball went 241 00:12:13.840 --> 00:12:16.720 through Matt Turner's legs or Scaley got nutmeg and its 242 00:12:16.759 --> 00:12:19.559 discordable right at the at the last minute, that's a 243 00:12:19.600 --> 00:12:21.679 lot more challenging, right because now you've got to sleep 244 00:12:21.720 --> 00:12:24.080 on it. Now you can't really make up for it. 245 00:12:24.480 --> 00:12:27.440 Until you get another opportunity on the field, so that 246 00:12:27.480 --> 00:12:29.720 can be a little bit more challenging. That becomes tough, 247 00:12:30.200 --> 00:12:32.879 and we just hey, you can control what you can control. 248 00:12:32.879 --> 00:12:35.240 The mistakes are going to be made, and hopefully you've 249 00:12:35.240 --> 00:12:38.080 got some good teammates that can rally around you and 250 00:12:38.320 --> 00:12:40.159 really pick you up in those moments. 251 00:12:41.039 --> 00:12:45.080 When you have You know, when you're in one of 252 00:12:45.159 --> 00:12:49.519 those kinds of of moments and you're trying to dust 253 00:12:49.559 --> 00:12:54.279 yourself off in this what was it for you? Or 254 00:12:54.399 --> 00:12:58.240 was it or did your your attitude change over time 255 00:12:58.320 --> 00:13:02.320 when it came to turning off, turning off a mistake 256 00:13:02.399 --> 00:13:05.559 and putting it behind you? Did you at first? I 257 00:13:05.559 --> 00:13:08.080 guess when you were younger, did you kick yourself longer? 258 00:13:08.120 --> 00:13:10.120 Did you get over it over time? Did you still 259 00:13:10.200 --> 00:13:13.000 kick yourself the constant rate as you were still a professional? 260 00:13:13.320 --> 00:13:19.960 How did your level of adjustment go? Did you beat 261 00:13:20.000 --> 00:13:22.879 yourself up as much as you did earlier in your 262 00:13:22.879 --> 00:13:25.600 career later in your careers? I guess what I'm asking. 263 00:13:28.639 --> 00:13:30.679 Not as much, not as much. 264 00:13:31.200 --> 00:13:34.080 I think that early on in the career it's a 265 00:13:34.080 --> 00:13:40.279 little bit easier to read what people are saying online 266 00:13:40.320 --> 00:13:45.080 to care about such things too, and I think you're 267 00:13:45.080 --> 00:13:47.840 still out trying to prove yourself right and prove like, 268 00:13:47.879 --> 00:13:52.480 oh that's not me type thing, and versus you know, 269 00:13:52.600 --> 00:13:55.720 later later on in my career. Not that I'm not 270 00:13:55.879 --> 00:13:59.159 still trying to prove things, but you know, I think 271 00:13:59.200 --> 00:14:01.720 you have a little bit more self confidence and you know, like, hey, 272 00:14:02.080 --> 00:14:03.440 I've made these mistakes before. 273 00:14:03.519 --> 00:14:05.960 I can bounce back from this, you. 274 00:14:05.919 --> 00:14:07.720 Know, And then you turn the page and you try 275 00:14:08.039 --> 00:14:10.440 focus on getting better at training, right, if you don't 276 00:14:10.480 --> 00:14:13.000 have another game upcoming, that's the only way you can 277 00:14:13.039 --> 00:14:15.759 do it. Honestly, it's and it's it's tough, and it 278 00:14:15.840 --> 00:14:18.120 takes experience, There's no doubt about it. 279 00:14:18.200 --> 00:14:18.360 Right. 280 00:14:18.399 --> 00:14:21.480 It's it's one thing to make a mistake in a game. 281 00:14:21.519 --> 00:14:23.799 It's another thing to make a mistake in the Olympics 282 00:14:24.080 --> 00:14:27.000 or in a Champions League game. In a you're representing 283 00:14:27.000 --> 00:14:28.960 your country and you make a huge mistake, and now 284 00:14:29.000 --> 00:14:32.639 you feel the weight of a lot more and that's challenging. 285 00:14:33.519 --> 00:14:35.799 Michael Parkers at MF parkerst on the two hundred and 286 00:14:35.799 --> 00:14:38.480 eighty character app at BEG Mentoring on the two hundred 287 00:14:38.480 --> 00:14:42.159 and eighty character app Beyond Goalsmenoring dot Com and all 288 00:14:42.159 --> 00:14:45.440 that you and Greg Garza do is fantastic to help 289 00:14:45.519 --> 00:14:48.919 the the upcoming generations when it comes to understanding all 290 00:14:48.960 --> 00:14:52.279 these things in context and ways to proceed through it, 291 00:14:52.360 --> 00:14:56.720 and then whether it's video or conversation, the whole wide 292 00:14:56.840 --> 00:14:58.320 ranging bit. And that's why we like to have you 293 00:14:58.360 --> 00:15:01.279 on here for the Friday Free Kick every single Friday 294 00:15:01.320 --> 00:15:04.559 that you're not globe trotting. So are you? Are you? 295 00:15:04.919 --> 00:15:07.440 Are you? Uh? What's what's the what are you naching 296 00:15:07.519 --> 00:15:08.000 on there? Sir? 297 00:15:08.360 --> 00:15:09.759 I'm not I'm not eating anything. 298 00:15:09.879 --> 00:15:13.759 I'm uh, I'm meant to I meant to wear something 299 00:15:13.799 --> 00:15:14.919 today and I forgot it. 300 00:15:15.159 --> 00:15:22.639 Oh dude, Oh there it is, Adam. Yeah, look at that. 301 00:15:22.879 --> 00:15:25.120 There it is from Olive and York right there. 302 00:15:25.480 --> 00:15:26.120 Beautiful. 303 00:15:26.440 --> 00:15:30.159 Now, okay, so did you you personalized with the Carolina blue? Sir? 304 00:15:30.240 --> 00:15:33.759 Can I say that actually the light blue? We have 305 00:15:33.799 --> 00:15:35.039 to say light blue for you. 306 00:15:34.879 --> 00:15:37.240 Can, yes, late blue, it's definitely not Carolina blue. 307 00:15:37.440 --> 00:15:40.440 Yeah. So there it is. There's the the Kaiser Permanente 308 00:15:40.480 --> 00:15:43.200 sponsored Michael Parker's jersey. And we thank you for that 309 00:15:43.279 --> 00:15:47.279 because it's it's very very cool that that you are 310 00:15:47.279 --> 00:15:49.480 there to help us out, you and Greg and beyond 311 00:15:49.519 --> 00:15:54.279 goals and Kaiser too to wear the Olivi and York 312 00:15:55.080 --> 00:15:58.320 presented Kaiser Permanente SDH Jersey to help us out for 313 00:15:58.399 --> 00:16:00.679 Soccer for Good here in twenty twenty five. That's strong. 314 00:16:00.919 --> 00:16:02.480 That's pretty good. I thought you were going to bust 315 00:16:02.480 --> 00:16:04.559 out your Rhode Island gear and wear that on the show. 316 00:16:04.600 --> 00:16:09.240 That's no, sir, No, sir, way more important than that. 317 00:16:12.879 --> 00:16:16.200 It's just but once again, it's it's very I will 318 00:16:16.240 --> 00:16:19.399 say this, it's very humbling when when someone you know 319 00:16:19.639 --> 00:16:21.759 cracks open an envelope and they sit there and you 320 00:16:21.799 --> 00:16:23.960 flash something like that, and it's very very it's very 321 00:16:24.000 --> 00:16:27.480 very humbling, very very cool. You've disrupted my train of thoughts, sir. 322 00:16:27.559 --> 00:16:31.399 I hope you're happy, Oh I am. Yes, when you know, 323 00:16:31.480 --> 00:16:34.440 when you have you know, we talk about moments, and 324 00:16:34.480 --> 00:16:37.080 we talk about quick sand, and we talk about young athletes, 325 00:16:37.120 --> 00:16:39.919 and we talk about all these things. With trying to 326 00:16:40.399 --> 00:16:45.679 get over mistakes or get past mistakes, I would think 327 00:16:45.720 --> 00:16:47.879 a lot of times it's easier said than done. And 328 00:16:47.919 --> 00:16:51.360 you mentioned the context of match versus representing your country 329 00:16:51.360 --> 00:16:54.919 and all these kinds of other things. I would imagine 330 00:16:54.960 --> 00:16:57.159 at least, you know, for those of us of a 331 00:16:57.200 --> 00:16:59.879 certain age, you know that were born, you know, after 332 00:16:59.879 --> 00:17:03.799 the Industrial revolution that just started happening, that it's probably 333 00:17:03.840 --> 00:17:06.519 a little bit more difficult for folks of certain ages 334 00:17:06.559 --> 00:17:09.680 to get over things than it is a lot younger folks. 335 00:17:09.799 --> 00:17:12.119 Do you find that to be the case where you're 336 00:17:12.160 --> 00:17:16.599 having interactions with adults, and adults may act a certain way, 337 00:17:16.640 --> 00:17:19.920 but with your mentees they let things brush off a 338 00:17:19.920 --> 00:17:23.400 little better than we would. Or because of social media, 339 00:17:23.599 --> 00:17:25.599 is it just as difficult but in a different way 340 00:17:25.640 --> 00:17:26.640 to have things brush off? 341 00:17:27.200 --> 00:17:27.400 Yeah. 342 00:17:27.440 --> 00:17:29.839 I think a lot of it is personality as well 343 00:17:30.839 --> 00:17:34.759 versus you know, how confident is the person in what 344 00:17:34.839 --> 00:17:37.240 way did they make their mistake? Was it in something 345 00:17:37.279 --> 00:17:41.799 that they feel comfortable in or not? You know, what 346 00:17:41.839 --> 00:17:46.599 were the repercussions from the mistake? You know, those types 347 00:17:46.640 --> 00:17:50.480 of things I think really affect how the person is 348 00:17:50.519 --> 00:17:52.599 able to bounce back from things. But yeah, I will 349 00:17:52.640 --> 00:17:57.640 say that a lot of the younger generation can bounce 350 00:17:57.720 --> 00:18:00.880 back from things pretty quickly. But I also think some 351 00:18:00.920 --> 00:18:04.599 of that is based off of how the parents bounce 352 00:18:04.640 --> 00:18:06.960 back from things and their reactions to the mistakes and 353 00:18:07.000 --> 00:18:09.400 things like that. So I think that we can have 354 00:18:09.440 --> 00:18:12.720 a real effect on the next generation, no doubt as 355 00:18:12.799 --> 00:18:16.319 parents and our children's resiliency. 356 00:18:17.079 --> 00:18:20.200 How difficult, you know, how difficult is it to change 357 00:18:20.240 --> 00:18:25.000 a younger person's wiring or their DNA when it comes 358 00:18:25.039 --> 00:18:27.640 to stuff like that, Because I would imagine that if 359 00:18:28.119 --> 00:18:32.519 you have a student athlete that is incredibly self conscious, 360 00:18:32.920 --> 00:18:34.759 it might take a little more for them to turn 361 00:18:34.839 --> 00:18:38.440 it around than say, someone who is instantly confident. So 362 00:18:39.400 --> 00:18:41.359 I mean, I would imagine that you're getting a bunch 363 00:18:41.440 --> 00:18:43.599 of different student athletes and a bunch of mentees that 364 00:18:43.680 --> 00:18:46.599 come at it from different ways. Yes, how hard is 365 00:18:46.640 --> 00:18:48.880 it to sit there the ones that are less confident? 366 00:18:48.920 --> 00:18:50.519 How much of a task is it for you and 367 00:18:50.559 --> 00:18:52.240 Greg to try to turn them around and have them 368 00:18:52.319 --> 00:18:56.000 understand Yeah it's ok it's okay to fail, learn from failing. 369 00:18:56.640 --> 00:18:58.960 And they may not buy it initially. They're just like 370 00:18:59.000 --> 00:19:01.319 you know, I don't know. Oh, and they're always sometimes 371 00:19:01.319 --> 00:19:02.920 it might be tougher nuts to crack s it. 372 00:19:03.279 --> 00:19:06.720 Yeah, absolutely, And it's slow and study. It's it's not 373 00:19:06.799 --> 00:19:08.960 going to be overnight. It's not going to be a 374 00:19:09.000 --> 00:19:12.000 one conversation and then all of a sudden they've got 375 00:19:12.000 --> 00:19:15.240 a different mentality, right, it's it's difficult to learn new 376 00:19:15.279 --> 00:19:17.160 habits and institute new things. 377 00:19:17.200 --> 00:19:21.119 So we'd be patient with our mentees for sure. And 378 00:19:21.160 --> 00:19:22.079 we know that it's not. 379 00:19:22.240 --> 00:19:26.880 Easy for kids, especially you're dealing with peer pressure and 380 00:19:26.920 --> 00:19:31.559 you want to impress other kids your age, and there's 381 00:19:31.599 --> 00:19:35.000 a whole host of things they're going through that have 382 00:19:35.119 --> 00:19:37.160 nothing to do with kicking a soccer ball yet affect 383 00:19:37.200 --> 00:19:42.119 the confidence on the soccer field. So yeah, it's challenging, 384 00:19:42.160 --> 00:19:44.759 there's no doubt about it. And but it's not impossible. 385 00:19:45.200 --> 00:19:47.960 And we've seen some kids start to change. And we 386 00:19:48.039 --> 00:19:51.240 do it little by little, right, just little focusing, little 387 00:19:51.960 --> 00:19:57.039 little tidbits and little changes to the habits of Okay, 388 00:19:57.039 --> 00:19:58.559 what's the first thing I think about when I come 389 00:19:58.599 --> 00:20:00.920 off the field, Or that's the first thing I think 390 00:20:00.960 --> 00:20:04.119 about when I step onto the field. Little things like 391 00:20:04.160 --> 00:20:08.279 that where you slowly start to change habits. 392 00:20:09.559 --> 00:20:13.400 When you have these Let me let me phrase it 393 00:20:13.440 --> 00:20:15.839 this way. How many mentees do you and Greg currently have? 394 00:20:20.039 --> 00:20:21.519 I know the answer is a lot, but can you 395 00:20:21.519 --> 00:20:23.200 put a number to it? 396 00:20:23.359 --> 00:20:24.799 Probably two fifty? 397 00:20:25.240 --> 00:20:31.160 Wow, Now that's cool, that's that's tremendous. Do you have 398 00:20:31.319 --> 00:20:36.759 do you and Greg have individual files on each mentee 399 00:20:37.200 --> 00:20:41.839 with for lack of a better phrase, progressions and growth charts. 400 00:20:41.839 --> 00:20:45.519 It's like, okay, first meeting was this? Then you know 401 00:20:45.799 --> 00:20:48.039