Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey, bad with something for you to think about.
Speaker 1: I wanted to put on a little happy music today
Speaker 1: to talk to you.
Speaker 2: Listen, listen good.
Speaker 1: To change how you see yourself, it will require inter healing.
Speaker 2: Let me say it again. To change how you.
Speaker 1: See yourself will require inner healing. There's no as if
Speaker 1: so but's about it. There's no way around it.
Speaker 2: It will require inside work.
Speaker 1: People go through life every single day trying to make it,
Speaker 1: trying to fake it. But all you have to do
Speaker 1: is allow internhaling to take place. When you allow inner
Speaker 1: healing to take place, you no longer feel that you
Speaker 1: need to put up a screen, camouflage, fake pretending. You
Speaker 1: no longer feel that way you present to the world
Speaker 1: who you really are now who you pretending to be?
Speaker 1: So many people, most people walking around faking from the
Speaker 1: rich on down, faking pretending they're happy, pretending they're riches, making.
Speaker 2: Them so happy. No, it's allowed.
Speaker 1: Until that inside work is completed. People will remain the
Speaker 1: same mentally. They will continue to be a fact that
Speaker 1: the same way. Mentally, you will believe what other people
Speaker 1: say about you. You will adopt and embrace the things
Speaker 1: that people say about you to keep you down.
Speaker 2: I know most things.
Speaker 1: Start from childhood, but not all things, but most times
Speaker 1: it does start at childhood. Your parents beat you down
Speaker 1: verbally in every way, and you allow those things to
Speaker 1: dictate the rest of your life or someone else that
Speaker 1: don't have to be your parents, people you encountered on
Speaker 1: your journey in life. You allow what they say about
Speaker 1: you to hinder your growth. But the reason you do
Speaker 1: that because you don't have that inner healing.
Speaker 2: When you have inner healing.
Speaker 1: You don't care what people are gonna say about you,
Speaker 1: because you know they're going to talk regardless, can be
Speaker 1: the best they're gonna talk about you, or she thinks
Speaker 1: she's all that, he think he's all that. You can
Speaker 1: be the worst they're gonna talk about you, So it
Speaker 1: won't matter. They're gonna talk. They are going to talk, period.
Speaker 1: It does not matter. What matters is how you see yourself,
Speaker 1: how you perceive yourself, what you think about yourself, what
Speaker 1: you believe about yourself. Many many people hold themselves back
Speaker 1: because they lack confidence, They lack that self esteem that
Speaker 1: they need, that courage that they need.
Speaker 2: Because they allow fear to hold them back.
Speaker 1: They allow what things others say about them to hold
Speaker 1: them back.
Speaker 2: But really the real truth, you're holding.
Speaker 1: Yourself back because it is you who's taken in, or
Speaker 1: have taken in what others have said, and you have
Speaker 1: embraced that as.
Speaker 2: If it's true.
Speaker 1: It's only true if you believe it's true.
Speaker 2: Some of you have no confidence. You are so.
Speaker 1: Caught up and so fixated and so hurt and broken
Speaker 1: because of what someone else said. You're fixated on that.
Speaker 1: It keeps playing through your head like a broken record.
Speaker 1: But still it is you who is doing it to you. You,
Speaker 1: you are the one who's holding you back. You are
Speaker 1: the one who's prevai in your growth and your progression
Speaker 1: mentally to that level of maturity. It is you, no
Speaker 1: matter what people do, no matter what people say, you
Speaker 1: are the person who is responsible for your life.
Speaker 2: You can blame all.
Speaker 1: You want to, but you're the one who's responsible for
Speaker 1: your life, no one else.
Speaker 2: I don't care who contributed to your pain.
Speaker 1: You, as an adult, are responsible for your life. Whichever
Speaker 1: direction you choose to go. You're responsible. You cannot hold
Speaker 1: anyone else accountable and responsible. You may want to because
Speaker 1: someone took you through hell, you went through a lot
Speaker 1: of trauma, but still you are ultimately responsible for who
Speaker 1: you become. You're responsible for how you react to what
Speaker 1: people say and what people do. To change how you
Speaker 1: see yourself will require inter healing. I was looking at
Speaker 1: a Christmas show and the guy was wanting a date
Speaker 1: for Christmas. So he went to this lady who had
Speaker 1: this business to help, you know, build their confidence and
Speaker 1: things like that. And I know that was a TV show,
Speaker 1: but I also know it was realistic. There are many
Speaker 1: people who lack confidence. They don't even walk with confidence.
Speaker 1: They walk with their shoulders slumped, just no physical show.
Speaker 2: Or signed of confidence.
Speaker 1: Because you allow others to take away your confidence. You
Speaker 1: allow others to strip you of your self esteem. And
Speaker 1: this guy had no confidence in himself to get a
Speaker 1: date for his Christmas party.
Speaker 2: He had no confidence in himself.
Speaker 1: None. But again, this is what people do to themselves.
Speaker 1: They allow other people who are by the way broken themselves.
Speaker 2: Any person that hurt you, any person.
Speaker 1: That bullies you, any person who speak down to you,
Speaker 1: belittle you, try to make you feel less than those
Speaker 1: are broken people. So many individuals in this world give
Speaker 1: their power to broken people. It's absolutely horrible giving your
Speaker 1: power to broken.
Speaker 2: People to hurt you.
Speaker 1: It's crazy, but so many people do it. Millions of
Speaker 1: people do it.
Speaker 2: They lack.
Speaker 1: Self confidence and self esteem and belief and.
Speaker 2: Self and they go through life.
Speaker 1: Whatever people say negative about their boom, they allow it
Speaker 1: to stick and then those things start messing with your mind.
Speaker 1: Oh I'm not pretty enough, I'm too big, I'm too little,
Speaker 1: i have no talent, just all types.
Speaker 2: Of negativity, negative self talk.
Speaker 1: It bruises you, It crimples you, It keeps you stagnant,
Speaker 1: and many of you have.
Speaker 2: It to dictate your life. You allowed your bad.
Speaker 1: Experiences to dictate the rest of your life, and that
Speaker 1: is a shame. It's a shame when it is you
Speaker 1: who is responsible for your life.
Speaker 2: So if you want to.
Speaker 1: Gain awareness and be mindful, love yourself, believe in yourself,
Speaker 1: have confidence, self esteem, all of those things and more, you.
Speaker 2: Have to do the necessary inner work. No one else
Speaker 2: can do it for you. You have to.
Speaker 1: Do it for yourself. So to change how you see yourself,
Speaker 1: it will require in the work that.
Speaker 2: Only you can do. Only you can.
Speaker 1: Complete the task. Stop giving power to powerless people to
Speaker 1: hurt you, to people who are broken more broken than you.
Speaker 2: Stop doing it.
Speaker 1: Wake up, love yourself, believe in yourself, have faith in yourself,
Speaker 1: know that.
Speaker 2: You are enough.
Speaker 1: When people treat you as if nothing you do is
Speaker 1: ever enough, they are the problem. But if you keep
Speaker 1: allowing that behavior in your life, you're the problem too.
Speaker 2: And in every situation, you're your biggest problem.
Speaker 1: Because your mindset is what leads you into good things
Speaker 1: and leads you into bad things. It depends on the
Speaker 1: mindset you have. And many people in this world.
Speaker 2: Don't get it.
Speaker 1: They don't understand that they are their own worst enemy.
Speaker 2: Not other people or things.
Speaker 1: Your mindset is your worst enemy. Because many people carry
Speaker 1: around old baggage. They carry it into their relationships or
Speaker 1: their jobs, at their churches, wherever they go.
Speaker 2: Because I've always told.
Speaker 1: You that one person you can never escape, you can
Speaker 1: never escape is you, because you take you everywhere you go.
Speaker 1: Can't get away from yourself. Some of you may want to,
Speaker 1: but you can't do it. So what people do is
Speaker 1: take their old baggage and project it into the lives
Speaker 1: of other people.
Speaker 2: I see it every day every.
Speaker 1: Day, unbelievable, inconceivable projection just trying to hurt other people,
Speaker 1: or just bringing chaos and just trying to torment others
Speaker 1: because they're struggling internally. I see it every day and
Speaker 1: it is so I mean extremely sad, because no one
Speaker 1: has to be that way. No one has to walk
Speaker 1: this earth miserable, lack in comforten and self esteem. People
Speaker 1: do this because they have become comfortable with that behavior.
Speaker 1: They have become comfortable with the mindset that they have.
Speaker 1: Although it causes self in the pain in their lives
Speaker 1: just constantly.
Speaker 2: Just constantly. But people are so comfortable.
Speaker 1: With it.
Speaker 2: That they never choose to change. Only thing they do
Speaker 2: is bang bang bang bang.
Speaker 1: Bang, point the fingers. It's her fault, it's their fault, it's.
Speaker 2: This or that, but it's you.
Speaker 1: Because you don't choose change. And the only way to
Speaker 1: become better is by doing better. That's why you hear
Speaker 1: me say that on cliche. People do better when they
Speaker 1: know better.
Speaker 2: That's a lie.
Speaker 1: That is a lie, bold faced lie, because people know better,
Speaker 1: but they just.
Speaker 2: Won't do better.
Speaker 1: I cannot tell you how many times I've led the
Speaker 1: horse to the water.
Speaker 2: But couldn't make them drink, and you just can't.
Speaker 1: I cannot tell you how many times I've offered to
Speaker 1: help people find jobs and do this and do that,
Speaker 1: and you give them all the tools, and they still
Speaker 1: will not create anything. They still will not move forward
Speaker 1: with all the tools because of the mindsets they have.
Speaker 1: They allow fear to cripple them. They allow that debilitating
Speaker 1: negativity that they say to themselves about themselves to cripple them,
Speaker 1: to disable them, meaning it inhibbits their growth.
Speaker 2: It inhibits them from being able to.
Speaker 1: Move forward, to gain self esteem and confidence and belief
Speaker 1: about themselves. People just don't want to put it in
Speaker 1: the work. It's like, well, I've been in this way
Speaker 1: so so long. They don't say it verbally, but their
Speaker 1: action said because they don't choose to change. But if
Speaker 1: you want to change how you think about yourself, what
Speaker 1: you believe about yourself, you are the one who have
Speaker 1: to do that in the work. And it's very possible. See,
Speaker 1: too many people give power to to people who hurt them,
Speaker 1: people who wrong them in some way.
Speaker 2: You still give them power over you.
Speaker 1: When you hold on to all the negativity and you
Speaker 1: let those memories shape your life. Some of the people
Speaker 1: are dead and gone and you're still waddling.
Speaker 2: You're still waddling in your woes.
Speaker 1: The people dead and gone, and you still allowing all
Speaker 1: the hurt to cripple you.
Speaker 2: That's on you.
Speaker 1: And yes I can say it because I've been through devastation.
Speaker 1: I'm living it now for the rest of my life.
Speaker 1: But guess what, I don't give power to nothing and
Speaker 1: no one. I don't care who it is. I don't
Speaker 1: care what happens because I understand life happens. Tragic things
Speaker 1: are going to happen in life. We always think it's
Speaker 1: going to be the next person that it happened to,
Speaker 1: until it's at your front door.
Speaker 2: And it's at our front.
Speaker 1: Door sometime, and you just have to take the good
Speaker 1: with the bad and keep rolling, not giving power to things, situations, people.
Speaker 2: To cause dysfunction in your life.
Speaker 1: That's who I am because I.
Speaker 2: Give all.
Speaker 1: All things to my Lord and Savior. I can't handle it,
Speaker 1: so I just put it at the feet of God
Speaker 1: and through Jesus Christ. Hey, they handle it for me.
Speaker 1: And I'm not saying you're not gonna feel things in life.
Speaker 1: You're not gonna experience, you know, hurt, pain, sorrow. You are,
Speaker 1: We all are because it's a part of the life process,
Speaker 1: the life cycle. But you can't let nothing in life
Speaker 1: that happens to be so devastating that it cripples you
Speaker 1: and cause dysfunction in your life, cause you to turn
Speaker 1: the drugs.
Speaker 2: And alcohol, cause you to become whatever. You shouldn't allow
Speaker 2: any of that, and unfortunately, that's what a lot of
Speaker 2: people do.
Speaker 1: And that's why I'm making this episode now, because so
Speaker 1: many people have crippled themselves by embracing the negativity that
Speaker 1: others have said to them about them. But when you
Speaker 1: take it in and you hold it in, you are
Speaker 1: causing self inflicted pain in your life because nothing no
Speaker 1: one says can hurt you unless you allow for it too.
Speaker 1: And you know what, I'm leaving it right there. I
Speaker 1: feel like sad enough. I hope you get it. I
Speaker 1: truly do. Because you are the one who create things
Speaker 1: in your life.
Speaker 2: You create the monsters in your life. You are the
Speaker 2: one who allow people to treat you any kind of way.
Speaker 1: You creating monsters. I don't care who they are. They
Speaker 1: can be your child, your husband, your wife, your girlfriend,
Speaker 1: your boyfriend, your friend, relatives, other people. You create the
Speaker 1: monsters in your life. You're the one who allow fear
Speaker 1: to grow. You're the one who allows lack of confidence
Speaker 1: to grow. Lack of self esteem to you.
Speaker 2: You're the one who.
Speaker 1: Who cultivate that and till that soil and water it
Speaker 1: to grow in your life. You, I want you to really,
Speaker 1: really really really really let this penetrate. Wake up, Wake up.
Speaker 1: Many of you have gone years and years and years.
Speaker 2: And years the same old way, never.
Speaker 1: Choosing change, never choosing to become better, when it's always
Speaker 1: been your opportunity, your right.
Speaker 2: To do so.
Speaker 1: So I'm leaving it there. Thank you for listening. Much love,
Speaker 1: much love, much love. I appreciate each and every one
Speaker 1: of you. Please share this episode. I have a book
Speaker 1: that's gonna be coming out pretty soon, and I'll keep
Speaker 1: you updated on that. I'll also have a CD project
Speaker 1: that's coming out, a gospel CD, yes, finally pretty soon.
Speaker 2: I'll keep you.
Speaker 1: Informed about that as well. So take care, God bless
Speaker 1: please share. I in every episode is the same, and
Speaker 1: I hope and I pray in the name of Jesus
Speaker 1: that you do it.
Speaker 2: Thank called it