Speaker 1: Hey, hey, I'm bad. Listen, I got something for you
Speaker 1: to think about. Listen today, I wanna talk about that
Speaker 1: old cheater again. That individual cheats on you because of
Speaker 1: who they are. Many of you think it's because of you.
Speaker 1: Some of you take on the blame. You take on
Speaker 1: the responsibility for him or her cheating. That don't fall
Speaker 1: on you. What falls on you is how you allow
Speaker 1: it to affect you. What falls on you is how
Speaker 1: you deal with it. What falls on you is how
Speaker 1: you allow it in your life. Those things fall solely
Speaker 1: on you. But what a cheater does That don't fall
Speaker 1: on you. Because a cheater cheat because of who they are. Now,
Speaker 1: mind you, many of them will blame you. They will
Speaker 1: blame you. I did it because you don't pay me attention,
Speaker 1: you don't love me, you don't treat me right. You
Speaker 1: this you that blame, blame, blame, But they know it
Speaker 1: really is them. They know they're the problem, they know it,
Speaker 1: they know exactly who they are. But see, a lot
Speaker 1: of times we just love so hard, we love so
Speaker 1: hard that we're just blind. I'm saying we, But I'm
Speaker 1: talking to you. I'm not in that boat. There was
Speaker 1: once upon a time I fell into it myself, but
Speaker 1: that's been many, many, many moons ago, so I can
Speaker 1: talk about it now. A cheat or cheat because of
Speaker 1: who they are. When individuals are seeking or chasing after something,
Speaker 1: whether it's they need their ego stroke, self gratification, satisfaction
Speaker 1: of the flesh, they feel that they need someone to
Speaker 1: validate them. I mean, it's a plethora of reasons, but
Speaker 1: the main issue is the individual, the cheater. You cheat
Speaker 1: because that's who you are. Some people have cheated all
Speaker 1: of their life as an adult. That's all they've ever
Speaker 1: done was cheated. Some people have seen their mama cheat
Speaker 1: or they've seen their daddy cheat. I mean, it's terrible,
Speaker 1: but it's the truth. Then some people are individuals who
Speaker 1: didn't see that, but something happened in life and they
Speaker 1: chose to be a cheater. People cheat for many, many reasons,
Speaker 1: but the problem is within self. A cheater cheap because
Speaker 1: of who they are, not because of the person they're with.
Speaker 1: Individuals are always investing, They're always overlooking the truth. They
Speaker 1: are always acting as if they don't see the red
Speaker 1: flags and the signs all the time. Some of you
Speaker 1: knew he was a cheater, you knew she was a
Speaker 1: cheater because they cheated with who they were with to
Speaker 1: be with you, So how do you think it's gonna
Speaker 1: be any different for you? See, that's a foolish way
Speaker 1: of thinking. That's an immature mindset. But many of you,
Speaker 1: most of you know exactly what you're getting into. You know,
Speaker 1: if they didn't cheat on you, you know someone that
Speaker 1: they cheated on, you know the history. It's no mystery,
Speaker 1: you know. But you still chose to get into that relationship.
Speaker 1: So you have to look at yourself. You have to
Speaker 1: look at yourself. Why did you get involved with someone
Speaker 1: who you knew was a cheater. Some of you think
Speaker 1: you got it so good. You think you got it
Speaker 1: on lock so hard that they'll never cheat on you.
Speaker 1: Some of you, I think you're so pretty, you got
Speaker 1: it going on so much that they will never cheat
Speaker 1: on you. I mean, that's a that's a very immature
Speaker 1: way of thinking. Because a cheater don't care how beautiful
Speaker 1: you are, they don't care how handsome you are. A
Speaker 1: cheater will cheat. So stop fooling yourselves into thinking that
Speaker 1: you can change him or her, because you can't. The
Speaker 1: only person who can change a cheater is the cheater.
Speaker 1: Some of you feel I invested all of this time.
Speaker 1: I did this for you. I did that for you.
Speaker 1: I gave birth to your children. I was there for
Speaker 1: you when you had nothing. I did this, I did that.
Speaker 1: They don't care. They don't care. And guess what a
Speaker 1: Cheaterah will say, I love you, I love you so much,
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry, I love you, even love his own self.
Speaker 1: They just think they love you, but they don't really
Speaker 1: know what love is, because when you love a person,
Speaker 1: you're not cheating on them. You're not. You're just not.
Speaker 1: It's something missing. It's something missing within that individual. They're
Speaker 1: not getting. They're trying to fill a void. There is
Speaker 1: something inside of that individual, which is why they cheat.
Speaker 1: Unhealed hearts and minds. And I'm telling you it's going
Speaker 1: to always affect you. If you don't allow yourself to heal,
Speaker 1: if you don't allow yourself to grow and mature, you're
Speaker 1: gonna keep finding yourself in similar situations with similar people.
Speaker 1: You can't change cheater, you just can't. But some people,
Speaker 1: I mean just go off the deep end. Some people
Speaker 1: to the point of murder. It's not worth it. No
Speaker 1: man or woman is worth it. If they cheated on you,
Speaker 1: they're not worthy of you. To do something foolish is foolish.
Speaker 1: You have to look at yourself, who you are as
Speaker 1: a person. If you sit there and take a person
Speaker 1: cheating on you all the time, you gotta look at
Speaker 1: yourself because again, a cheater is gonna cheat because that's
Speaker 1: what they do, that's what they're familiar with, that's what
Speaker 1: they know. You can give them the world, I mean
Speaker 1: literally the world, and they still will cheat. It does
Speaker 1: not matter what you give them, what you do for them,
Speaker 1: what you say to them, none of it matters because
Speaker 1: they have unresolved inside of self internally. So you can
Speaker 1: be as sweet as you want to be, you can
Speaker 1: be the best of the best of the best. A
Speaker 1: cheater still a cheat because it's not about you. It's
Speaker 1: about who they are, what's inside of them, what they're lacking,
Speaker 1: what voice they're trying to feel. But some of you,
Speaker 1: you lose your minds because you feel.
Speaker 2: I invested in you, I loved you, I'm always here,
Speaker 2: I'm doing the right thing. Yeah, and that's great, but
Speaker 2: they don't care.
Speaker 1: It's not going to stop them from cheating because a
Speaker 1: cheater does what a cheater does, which is cheat. Too
Speaker 1: many people get into relationship with individuals that they know
Speaker 1: are no good for them. You know it, you know it.
Speaker 1: Some of you have troubles before you ever get deep
Speaker 1: into the relationship, whether it's a deeper relationship or marriage.
Speaker 1: You know the trouble, you know the struggles. But you
Speaker 1: still go ahead and do it. You still go ahead
Speaker 1: and do it. You cause that self inflict the pain
Speaker 1: in your life by opening yourself up and allowing that
Speaker 1: person in your life. You because they're gonna do what
Speaker 1: they do. A cheater will cheat because of who they are.
Speaker 1: So so many people in life. They just feel that
Speaker 1: they can change who they're with, only to find themselves changed.
Speaker 1: And a lot of times it's for the worst because
Speaker 1: people get bitter, they become angry, they feel bad about
Speaker 1: self because they don't think they're good enough. That's why
Speaker 1: he or she has cheated. They're not good enough, they
Speaker 1: don't look good enough, they've gained weight, they've lost too much. Whatever.
Speaker 1: People start feeling that it's them if I did this,
Speaker 1: if I would do that, if I look this way up. No, no,
Speaker 1: and no. They cheat because of who they are, And
Speaker 1: you know, you just have to stop investing so deeply
Speaker 1: into people you feel you can't make it without them. Oh,
Speaker 1: I can't live without you, I'll die without you. That's stupid,
Speaker 1: it's stupid, it's an immature way of thinking. That's foolishness.
Speaker 1: And a lot of times that's why people treat you
Speaker 1: any kind wing because they know, no matter what they do,
Speaker 1: you love them. No matter how bad they treat you,
Speaker 1: you want to be with them. So that's two is
Speaker 1: why people continue to cheat because they have no repercussions,
Speaker 1: no consequences, nothing, because you welcome them back with open
Speaker 1: arms because you yourself have unhealed inside of you. So really,
Speaker 1: when you're in a relationship with someone and you're opening
Speaker 1: yourself up to all of these things, you just causing
Speaker 1: drama in your own life. Because a cheat are gonna
Speaker 1: bring it, trust and believe, but when you accept it,
Speaker 1: you're just causing unnecessary drama in your life. You have
Speaker 1: to figure out why do you feel that that's who
Speaker 1: you need to settle for? A cheater? And as I said,
Speaker 1: most times, you know what you got. You know when
Speaker 1: you are so caught up in what you want, feel, desire,
Speaker 1: When you get so caught up in those things, it
Speaker 1: literally blinds you because you can't see anything else. It's
Speaker 1: about you. So that's too, is why so many people
Speaker 1: are with cheaters and abusers and and people like that,
Speaker 1: because you're going off of your emotions, how you feel,
Speaker 1: what you want, what you desire, and it's it's blinding.
Speaker 1: Because you know the old saying, and I've mentioned it
Speaker 1: many times, people say, oh, love is blind. It's not
Speaker 1: blind at all. People are blind. People who think they're
Speaker 1: in love, they're the blind one. Love is a blind truly,
Speaker 1: it isn't. I wanted to talk about this topic again
Speaker 1: because it's never ending until the day Earth no longer exists.
Speaker 1: People gonna be in relationship with cheaters. That's just life.
Speaker 1: I'm not saying you have to accept it, you have
Speaker 1: to allow it. I'm not saying that at all, But
Speaker 1: I'm saying as long as we live, people gonna go
Speaker 1: through it. As long as we live. So when you
Speaker 1: think about your situation and who you are with, don't
Speaker 1: allow yourself to become angry and bitter because a lot
Speaker 1: of times people change for the worst because they have
Speaker 1: taken in so much of the mess, They have so
Speaker 1: much stress. Now they're angry. People don't allow any one
Speaker 1: to cause that cause you to become that person. You
Speaker 1: trying to change them, but you're the one who end
Speaker 1: up changing for the worst. Let me mention it's not
Speaker 1: all about a person changing for the worst, because sometimes
Speaker 1: people do change for the better. They realize they deserve
Speaker 1: better than that. They realize it's not their fault. They
Speaker 1: realize that that individual have issues that are unresolved that
Speaker 1: has caused him or her to have the mindset that
Speaker 1: they have. So people wake up and they realize they
Speaker 1: deserve better, and they change for the better. They realize
Speaker 1: they can't change that individual, and some people get to
Speaker 1: the point they're not trying no longer. They don't care
Speaker 1: because now they see things for what they really are.
Speaker 1: And you know you'll never be able to change him
Speaker 1: and him or her. I just have to come back
Speaker 1: to it, and I may come back to it again
Speaker 1: and again, because people are living this every day all day.
Speaker 1: I mean, your life is what you allow into it,
Speaker 1: it really is. You teach your significant other exactly, hear me,
Speaker 1: You teach them exactly how they can treat you. If
Speaker 1: you allowing accept a cheater who's constantly cheating on you,
Speaker 1: guess what they gonna keep doing It? They can see
Speaker 1: you hurt to the core, they can see it, they
Speaker 1: can see you broke down, crying sad about it, and
Speaker 1: they will say, forgive me, I'm sorry, I love you,
Speaker 1: this and that, and they will turn around and do
Speaker 1: it right on again. This is the cycle. Until individuals
Speaker 1: choose to change, you can't do it. You cannot change them.
Speaker 1: I just wish people would understand that and stop putting
Speaker 1: themselves in situations where they are so hurt, they're so crushed.
Speaker 1: Some people can't hardly go on. They go to work
Speaker 1: just full of sadness and depression over someone who's doing
Speaker 1: them wrong. Now, that's one thing I've never been. You
Speaker 1: do me wrong, that's it. Gotta we gotta figure out
Speaker 1: something here, and more than likely it's bye bye. Because
Speaker 1: I understand giving a person another chance. I really do.
Speaker 1: I'm not against second chances. I'm not even against third chances.
Speaker 1: But after that, come on, now, come on, you're just
Speaker 1: gonna keep putting yourself through it. Some people only give
Speaker 1: you one chance. That's me. Now, no more chances, because listen,
Speaker 1: when they know you're not dealing with their foolishness, and
Speaker 1: they still try you. No second chance, that's just me though,
Speaker 1: in my grown up, mature mind. Just know that you
Speaker 1: can try all day, every day, you can't do it.
Speaker 1: You can't change him or her because cheating is not
Speaker 1: about you. It's about who they are, absolutely about who
Speaker 1: they are. Individuals have so much, so much unresolved, so
Speaker 1: much unresolved, and it affects them in so many ways,
Speaker 1: so many, so many ways, because they are full of hurt,
Speaker 1: and that's why they're seeking love. They're seeking, you know,
Speaker 1: self gratification. They're seeking to have their ego stroke. They're
Speaker 1: seeking all types of things, all types, and they gonna
Speaker 1: seek it here and there and everywhere because it's about
Speaker 1: self gratification. It's about that lack, it's about filling that
Speaker 1: void inside. Many people have lost themselves in their relationships,
Speaker 1: and it's a very sad thing, but it's reality. Many
Speaker 1: people lose themselves in their relationships because your mindset is unhealthy.
Speaker 1: How you think feel an act is unhealthy. When you
Speaker 1: get in a relationship and you are led solely on
Speaker 1: your feelings, you're led wrong. That's why people cannot handle
Speaker 1: who want to cheat or cheat. Many people can't handle it.
Speaker 1: They lose themselves because you invest all of that energy
Speaker 1: into that individual, and when they hurt you, you act
Speaker 1: as if you can't function. So if you've noticed, I'm
Speaker 1: talking kind of about the individual who allow the cheater,
Speaker 1: and I'm talking about the cheater as well, because sometimes
Speaker 1: individuals you're the same mindset. You have unhealed, they have unhealed,
Speaker 1: and it's just a mess, it really is. So that's
Speaker 1: all I'm gonna say on this. But just know, a
Speaker 1: cheater cheats because of who they are. They may blame you,
Speaker 1: but it is because of who they are, just like
Speaker 1: you allow it in your life because of who you are,
Speaker 1: what you lack, the void inside of you. So i
Speaker 1: just want you to think about this, really replay this
Speaker 1: in your mind. Listen to this, especially those of you
Speaker 1: who are in these relationships. Listen to this episode and
Speaker 1: think about what I've said. I'm leaving it right there.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening. Much love to each
Speaker 1: and everyone. I appreciate you for listening. Please share this episode.
Speaker 1: I also want you to listen to relatable life chronicles.
Speaker 1: I'm kind of thinking about merging relationship chronicles and relatable
Speaker 1: life chronicles together. I have not made them a mind fully,
Speaker 1: but I'm kind of thinking about merging them both and
Speaker 1: then merging the titles to relationships and Relatable life chronicles.
Speaker 1: That's what I'm thinking about, and I think that's what
Speaker 1: I'm going to do because I noticed, no matter how
Speaker 1: much I talk about relatable life chronicles, people still are
Speaker 1: downloading ninety eight percent of relationship chronicles. So I think
Speaker 1: I'm gonna merge these together because I have a lot
Speaker 1: of very very good information on relatable life chronicles, because
Speaker 1: it's just that relatable life chronicles things that people all
Speaker 1: over the world deal with all over the world, all cultures,
Speaker 1: all racists all over the world, and people are missing out.
Speaker 1: So I might merge these two together. It's not a
Speaker 1: definite yet, but I'm leaning towards that, So thank you
Speaker 1: for listening. Much love to you. I end every episode
Speaker 1: the same, and I hope you do it. Do it, Okay,
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