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Speaker 4: Today we're going to talk about the new rules of
Speaker 4: attraction for those who are dating and over fifty years old.
Speaker 4: You know, if you're over fifty and single, you've probably
Speaker 4: heard plenty of dating advice. Download the apps, write a
Speaker 4: better profile, be authentic, don't settle all good advice. But
Speaker 4: today we're taking a different approach. Instead of focusing on
Speaker 4: how to date, we're going to talk about how dating
Speaker 4: itself is changing, what does attraction really look like today,
Speaker 4: Why are couples choosing to live apart while staying deeply committed,
Speaker 4: how do you balance independence with intimacy, And perhaps the
Speaker 4: biggest quest of all, what does a successful relationship look
Speaker 4: like at this stage of life when you're over fifty?
Speaker 4: Joining us once again is going to be one of
Speaker 4: my favorite return guests. Silka Schwartzkov, Founder and host of
Speaker 4: Second activ a media platform dedicated to helping people thrive
Speaker 4: in the second half of life. Silka has become a
Speaker 4: trusted voice on topics ranging from relationships and wellness to
Speaker 4: reinvention and longevity, and she always brings a fresh mix
Speaker 4: of wisdom, curiosity, and common sense to the conversation. Today,
Speaker 4: we're going to leave behind the tired dating cliches and
Speaker 4: explore what's really happening for mature singles in today's world.
Speaker 4: Whether you're actively dating, happily partnered, or simply curious about
Speaker 4: the evolving dating landscape and modern relationships, I think you'll
Speaker 4: find plenty of useful takeaways. So settle in because we're
Speaker 4: about to have a lively conversation about love, connection, and
Speaker 4: creating relationships that truly fit the life you've built.
Speaker 5: It's guys guy Radio.
Speaker 4: Okay, guys, guys Radio. It is the interview portion of
Speaker 4: our show. And I am delighted to welcome back our friend,
Speaker 4: Soka Schwarzkoff. She is the creator and host of the
Speaker 4: wildly successful Second Act TV YouTube program that is just
Speaker 4: a runaway sensation. And I'm fortunate enough to be a
Speaker 4: frequent guest on the show and because of that, I
Speaker 4: got my own Second Act merch year, got my Second
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Speaker 6: Yes, thanks calling, Thank you, Robert, Welcome back to the show.
Speaker 4: Silka, Thank you.
Speaker 6: It's always fun talking with you, and I like being
Speaker 6: on this side.
Speaker 4: Well, listen, you have spoken to and kind of picked
Speaker 4: the brains of so many dating experts male, female and
Speaker 4: other people, and kind of the over fifty wellness field,
Speaker 4: if you will. That I thought it would be great
Speaker 4: to bring you back and we get into dating after fifty,
Speaker 4: but a fresh angle, which is kind of since everything's changed.
Speaker 4: And I was talking to my wife yesterday, I said,
Speaker 4: you know, I'm going to be talking with Silka about
Speaker 4: dating over fifty. What's your take on that. My wife's
Speaker 4: over fifty now and she said, you know what, I'm
Speaker 4: I can imagine it must be really tough now because
Speaker 4: I'm so out of that mind space, but with everything's
Speaker 4: so complicated now, so I thought we'd frame this as
Speaker 4: the new rules for dating after fifty.
Speaker 6: So I think that's true. I think that's terrific. I
Speaker 6: think that you know, Uni is right. It does seem overwhelming,
Speaker 6: but it's more overwhelming the longer you've been away from it,
Speaker 6: and you know, if you're just starting, it gets easier
Speaker 6: and easier once you just understand, you know, the world,
Speaker 6: the new new dating world. So that's that's what the
Speaker 6: channel does.
Speaker 4: Okay, So let's well have convo on this and do
Speaker 4: you tell me what you think and what some of
Speaker 4: the experts that you've interviewed have told you. And I'll
Speaker 4: share what I've heard from some of the experts that
Speaker 4: I've interviewed, and also my own practical experience as a
Speaker 4: guys guy on this whole thing, and from my experience
Speaker 4: and appearances on Second Act TV. So let's start right
Speaker 4: at the top. New rules of attraction for twenty twenty six,
Speaker 4: like what people over fifty are finding attractive today versus
Speaker 4: ten years ago. And we've both been doing this about
Speaker 4: that time. What do you think? What's your What comes
Speaker 4: to mind first when you hear how attraction has changed
Speaker 4: for people over fifty now versus ten years ago.
Speaker 6: Well, I think one thing we've learned is that chemistry
Speaker 6: isn't the most important thing. And while I say that,
Speaker 6: let me just really make that clear. Chemistry is extremely important.
Speaker 6: That I mean, you have to have chemistry. However, chemistry
Speaker 6: isn't what keeps a relationship together. And I think after fifty,
Speaker 6: because we have had we're older, we're older, we have
Speaker 6: had more experience. We may not be wiser, but we've
Speaker 6: had a lot more experience, and we realize that relationships
Speaker 6: that start strong with chemistry can easily end in divorce
Speaker 6: and have So I think that would were becoming more
Speaker 6: conscious of that. And we discussed that, you know on
Speaker 6: the show a lot too. And I think another overarching
Speaker 6: topic would be chemistry or just the whole attraction to excitement,
Speaker 6: you know, is we've learned that excitement is not always
Speaker 6: guiding principle of a relationship, that we really appreciate peace
Speaker 6: and believe it or not, A lot of men express that.
Speaker 6: So I think those are maybe some of the bigger,
Speaker 6: The bigger areas fascinating.
Speaker 4: Well, let's follow up on that. So you think emotional
Speaker 4: maturity has become the new chemistry.
Speaker 6: No, I won't say it's a new one. I think
Speaker 6: that we I think chemistry. And the reason I say this, Robert,
Speaker 6: is because we are still you know, the visual is
Speaker 6: the first impression, especially especially for men. Women are a
Speaker 6: little bit more open to understanding that that isn't everything.
Speaker 6: So I don't want to just underline, you know, emotional
Speaker 6: maturity is the new chemistry. I want to clearly differentiate
Speaker 6: that that's what keeps a relationship together. And if we
Speaker 6: understood that from the start, we may give somebody who
Speaker 6: who are not like you know, we don't have the
Speaker 6: butterflies going, we might give them more of a chance
Speaker 6: because we realize that's how real, lasting chemistry develops.
Speaker 4: If that makes sense, It makes perfect sense. You know,
Speaker 4: when I think back in high school and college and
Speaker 4: when we're dating and stuff, and even after that, when
Speaker 4: I was in New York City in the marketing and
Speaker 4: advertising business, I never thought that status was the ultimate
Speaker 4: decider in terms of dating. But now it seems like
Speaker 4: there's a whole eighty twenty thing where you know, eighty
Speaker 4: percent of the women are after twenty percent of the
Speaker 4: guys who were super successful. It seems from a distance
Speaker 4: that seems to be the case now more than ever.
Speaker 4: It didn't seem to be as important. Status didn't seem
Speaker 4: to be quite the differentiator or driver then than it
Speaker 4: is now. It's like you, it's not about having a dream,
Speaker 4: it's having your dream fulfilled. Do you think that nowadays
Speaker 4: and for people over fifty, that confidence is a form
Speaker 4: of status now or is it still all about money
Speaker 4: and power and position.
Speaker 6: Okay, so first of all, I would agree with you
Speaker 6: that even when I was younger that yes, it's part
Speaker 6: of it. I mean, you don't want a day to
Speaker 6: lose or a man or woman or whatever that meant
Speaker 6: at the time. But I think it's largely superficial. It
Speaker 6: really is largely superficial unless it somehow displays confirms whatever
Speaker 6: you know, that you've accomplished something in life. I think
Speaker 6: that's more. Maybe that's where the difference is between younger
Speaker 6: and now older. That if the the the cars, the whatever,
Speaker 6: you know, the vacations, the houses, it means that you
Speaker 6: have accomplished something. You're not guessing that you know whether
Speaker 6: or not you can. Does that make sense?
Speaker 7: How?
Speaker 4: I mean? The accomplishment is one thing. But having those toys,
Speaker 4: if you will, whether it's the home or the car,
Speaker 4: or the ability to travel or are they after fifty? Now,
Speaker 4: do you think those are more important than kindness and compatibility?
Speaker 6: Absolutely not? No, No, I mean I can say that
Speaker 6: absolutely not, because we also realize that doesn't make a relationship.
Speaker 6: You know, it doesn't. The toys mean nothing to a relationship.
Speaker 6: I lets say the other kind of toys, but not
Speaker 6: the car, nothing like folks.
Speaker 4: How about authenticity then? Do you think then in the
Speaker 4: same kind of area we're talking about, has authenticity replaced perfection? Then?
Speaker 4: So it's not all about your achievements and your position
Speaker 4: and your wallet, but being real. You think that's something
Speaker 4: that people that you've talked to for the over fifty
Speaker 4: crowd find really attractive nowadays.
Speaker 6: You know what I find super interesting one about the question,
Speaker 6: and two about what I'm starting to read and hear
Speaker 6: is that you know, the vulnerability is now a big
Speaker 6: you know, everybody more vulnerable meaning authentic, show the real
Speaker 6: you da da da. And what happens sometimes is that
Speaker 6: being more authentic almost becomes a show of its own
Speaker 6: because it's been so pushed in our faces. So it's
Speaker 6: really super important that you actually are authentic and not
Speaker 6: falling into another trap of pretending you are. Does that
Speaker 6: make sense? I mean I thought that was so interesting
Speaker 6: when somebody pointed that out to me. I mean, that
Speaker 6: makes total sense to me.
Speaker 4: Yeah. I think authenticity is super important, and I think
Speaker 4: nowadays people are still over fifty two concerned about what
Speaker 4: other people think of them instead of just being themselves.
Speaker 4: They're always filtering in how do I answer this? And
Speaker 4: I guess when you're meeting for somebody, a potential partner
Speaker 4: for the first time, you want to you want to
Speaker 4: say the right thing, and you don't want to get
Speaker 4: that X You know, you don't want to get the
Speaker 4: X mark right off the bat, so you're going to
Speaker 4: be careful about that. But to me, ultimately, it's all
Speaker 4: about authenticity. It's all about being who you are and
Speaker 4: not trying to be somebody you're not, particularly for folks
Speaker 4: over fifty because who has time to play, you know,
Speaker 4: charades at that point. I can see maybe when you're
Speaker 4: younger a little bit, you want to you want to
Speaker 4: play the game a little bit differently, but I think
Speaker 4: for folks over fifty, you want to you don't want
Speaker 4: to waste time. There is a clock. It's not ticking
Speaker 4: that loudly for some people, but it's it's ticking, and
Speaker 4: you don't want to waste your time. So I think
Speaker 4: authenticity like, you want to get to who this person
Speaker 4: really is and ultimately how do you feel when you
Speaker 4: are around them? And you can't get to how do
Speaker 4: you feel when you're around them unless you know who
Speaker 4: they are?
Speaker 6: No, one hundred percent agree with you. That's why I
Speaker 6: thought this one thought leader that brought us up was
Speaker 6: so interesting because we do realize how important it is,
Speaker 6: and now we have to really pay attention to showing
Speaker 6: who we are. This is who we are, we're not
Speaker 6: and got that this is I know it almost sounds
Speaker 6: jue now, but even at this age, and again when
Speaker 6: you're starting over it's been a long time, you do
Speaker 6: think about, you know, how what does he or she want?
Speaker 7: You know?
Speaker 6: How should I? But you can't help but think that,
Speaker 6: and that's when you that's what It's more important than
Speaker 6: ever to show who you are and balance that with
Speaker 6: not over sharing or showing who you are. Maybe too
Speaker 6: soon or certain areas and that becomes a whole other conversation.
Speaker 4: Okay, my special guest on Guys Guys Radio is the
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Speaker 4: So let's move to another topic, which I because you
Speaker 4: explore a lot of real niche topics on Second ACTV
Speaker 4: in terms of relationships. That a lot of times with
Speaker 4: the women guests, and it's really fascinating for me as
Speaker 4: a guy to see them, Like there's these new concepts
Speaker 4: like lat living apart together the relationship trend. Nobody saw
Speaker 4: coming couples committed to one another while maintaining separate homes
Speaker 4: or separate bedrooms, or separate beds or a lot of separation.
Speaker 4: Talk to us about that and why it's becomes so important,
Speaker 4: particularly for folks over fifty.
Speaker 6: Well, because we both have lives. You know, chances are
Speaker 6: that when you meet after fifty, you both have a
Speaker 6: very established existence already. You know, you either have a house,
Speaker 6: you have children, you have maybe you're still working, maybe
Speaker 6: you're not, but you're you're likely entrenched somewhere that you
Speaker 6: don't really want to leave. You know. The best example
Speaker 6: of that was the Golden Bachelor thing. I mean, I
Speaker 6: won't get off on that tangent, but that was the
Speaker 6: perfect demonstration that you really have to think about, Okay,
Speaker 6: if we're going to couple up, what does that mean
Speaker 6: to our daily to our daily living. And a lot
Speaker 6: of us have figured out that it's okay to have
Speaker 6: a committed long term relationship and not give up what
Speaker 6: you've already established. But you go back and forth whatever
Speaker 6: that means. And that might sound weird, but I have
Speaker 6: Paul and I actually did that for like ten years.
Speaker 6: You know. It wasn't like a conscious decision, it was
Speaker 6: it just happened that way. We met, we lived an
Speaker 6: hour apart, and it just went on for ten years
Speaker 6: like that, And I think that that is what kept
Speaker 6: us together actually, quite frankly, you know, we're fifteen years now,
Speaker 6: we've been living together. But it is a different adjustment.
Speaker 6: There is a lot that you know, there's a lot
Speaker 6: of compromise, and you don't necessarily have to do that
Speaker 6: from the start when there might be so many things
Speaker 6: that you compromise about. So, yeah, LAT has become LAT
Speaker 6: has become almost not common terminology perhaps, but yeah, something
Speaker 6: that is very beneficial, especially to the older people like Ushska.
Speaker 4: Do you find that this is happening with couples that
Speaker 4: are already together and even married couples that they're finding
Speaker 4: way they're using LAT to make to strengthen the relationship
Speaker 4: by creating a space for more personal freedom and just
Speaker 4: realizing that, hey, we're mature, we're together, but we don't
Speaker 4: have to be physically together all the time. I mean,
Speaker 4: I'm personally old school. I didn't get married until I
Speaker 4: was in my early fifties. But then when I got married,
Speaker 4: I want to sleep in the same bed as my wife.
Speaker 4: I don't get a king bed. Then you don't have
Speaker 4: to be hear me all the time. But I know
Speaker 4: a lot of people they have separate bedrooms, separate beds
Speaker 4: and all that stuff. And then you know, the more
Speaker 4: you separate, it becomes your You know, there's a lot
Speaker 4: of separation and maybe the separation over arches the togetherness.
Speaker 4: So it's a slippery slope there.
Speaker 6: Yeah, it is a slippery slope. And here's where, yes,
Speaker 6: there's a big distinction in my opinion, going into it
Speaker 6: like like Paul and I did you know, we met
Speaker 6: and you know, we started spending more time together, but
Speaker 6: it was commuting to each other. There's places and then
Speaker 6: you know, I mean, it's going that way if you're
Speaker 6: married or you're already established a relationship together. I think,
Speaker 6: and I've heard this, this comes up a lot in
Speaker 6: lat discussions. That's a tough one to manage because there
Speaker 6: is something wrong at that point. In my opinion, you
Speaker 6: are dealing with rescuing perhaps a relationship instead of just saying,
Speaker 6: you know what, we're just sick of each other. And
Speaker 6: maybe it can, but I think one person's going to
Speaker 6: want it more than the other. And I think that
Speaker 6: is indicative of you know something more. You're dealing with
Speaker 6: with something that's wrong, not creating something that's right for
Speaker 6: both of you.
Speaker 4: In my opinion, how about this whole notion. And I
Speaker 4: don't know if it's an over fifty crowd thing, but
Speaker 4: this whole lot you get this whole pass. I mean,
Speaker 4: I think it's a younger thing where yeah, you can
Speaker 4: go if you meet somebody very special, you can you
Speaker 4: can have a sexual relationship with them. Maybe it's just
Speaker 4: a one time or thing. But that's okay. But I
Speaker 4: don't know, I don't think that's going to help. I
Speaker 4: don't see how that helps the relationship if I know,
Speaker 4: like my wife's out there getting it from somebody else, like, yeah,
Speaker 4: I feel so much better about our relationship. Now I don't.
Speaker 4: I don't see.
Speaker 6: No that. I think that's that's BS all the way around,
Speaker 6: including for the younger crowd. Now I get it. There's
Speaker 6: you know, people have there's all kinds of alternative relationships,
Speaker 6: and it works for some people. Absolutely. You know, I'm
Speaker 6: not speaking for everybody here by by any means, but
Speaker 6: I do believe I'm speaking for the majority because it's
Speaker 6: just it's just, you know, if you're together, if you're
Speaker 6: supposed to be together, you love each other, you're in
Speaker 6: a committed relationship. That sort of play it just causes
Speaker 6: concern and cause, I mean, it does no, it doesn't.
Speaker 6: It does not help, and it is in my opinion,
Speaker 6: it's it's total BS. Now I have to say something else.
Speaker 6: I don't know if you want to go or not.
Speaker 6: It's actually a segment that I'm thinking about doing. I
Speaker 6: think it's important that will be very controversial is if
Speaker 6: you are if your husband, your spouse, your significant other
Speaker 6: is becoming it like impaired, like with Alzheimer's or you know,
Speaker 6: to where the mind just isn't there and you're married,
Speaker 6: is it okay? Two? You know, to establish a new
Speaker 6: relationship just to save your own sanity. And there's there's
Speaker 6: a lot of discussion about that that is super super interesting,
Speaker 6: and I think I want to explore that at some point.
Speaker 6: So that's where But that's typically you know, for this
Speaker 6: is really an older person's discussion, and that doesn't apply
Speaker 6: to the undercrowd.
Speaker 4: It could it could be you know, flipped around also
Speaker 4: like oh my my wife became paralyzed or something. Can
Speaker 4: I go have sex with somebody else and I'll still
Speaker 4: take care of her? Right? So it can work both ways.
Speaker 6: Oh no, it can absolutely work with male and female
Speaker 6: and with with the paralyzing. And that's I know, this
Speaker 6: is why work gets so controversial because to me, it's
Speaker 6: if the mind isn't there, then you don't have that
Speaker 6: person anymore, you know, physical disability where you know, we're
Speaker 6: getting off on another subject, but I may want to,
Speaker 6: but it's interesting, it's super super interesting, Okay.
Speaker 4: Let's switch gears again and go to like Guys Guys Radio.
Speaker 4: Let's talk about the new masculinity meets the new feminine.
Speaker 4: How men and women over fifty are redefining relationships. So
Speaker 4: why do you think, why are many traditional dating expectations
Speaker 4: they don't fit anymore when you're over fifty. And what
Speaker 4: modern women really appreciate about guys now versus in the
Speaker 4: past where there was certain expectations. You know, how our
Speaker 4: culture gives us narratives and over time those narratives change.
Speaker 4: What's your sense from what you hear in terms of
Speaker 4: is there a new masculinity with women being self sufficient?
Speaker 1: Now?
Speaker 4: They can take care, they can sustain, they can take
Speaker 4: care of themselves, they don't necessarily have to rely on
Speaker 4: the guy. There's so many more women in management positions.
Speaker 4: I mean, women are getting long overdue recognition, but it's
Speaker 4: just starting. It's going to be more and more. And
Speaker 4: guys are going to school. The younger guys are going
Speaker 4: to school college in all less than the women. How
Speaker 4: does that affect the over fifty crowd or they are
Speaker 4: the male and female roles being redefined the same way
Speaker 4: they kind of are for the younger crowd.
Speaker 6: Yeah, yes, yes and no. Here here's what I find
Speaker 6: interesting in what I've gathered from conversations not just with
Speaker 6: people our age, but yes, the experts on the show,
Speaker 6: one of which being John Gray, who is highly has
Speaker 6: become highly controversial because you know, men of from was
Speaker 6: women are from venus. The fact is that, yes, women
Speaker 6: have needed the have earned. As you say, the recognitions
Speaker 6: was a long time in coming. Yes. What it's also
Speaker 6: done is really put stress on relationships and you know,
Speaker 6: with what maturel you bring to the relationship. Like like
Speaker 6: from my personal opinion, of course, men and women are different.
Speaker 6: We're feminine, you know, we have a vagina and men
Speaker 6: are masculine, they have a I mean, we're different, and
Speaker 6: the hormones associated with that affect each other differently. One
Speaker 6: isn't better than the other, but there are certain roles
Speaker 6: that still compliment each other in the you know, in
Speaker 6: a heterosexual relationship. And that's I think where the where
Speaker 6: the issue start is how what kind of maturity do
Speaker 6: you bring you know to that is it oh no
Speaker 6: women or not? How can you say that you know
Speaker 6: women are different men blah blah blah. See that's that's
Speaker 6: the power play it's acknowledging really what we bring to
Speaker 6: each other. And having said that, I think women though,
Speaker 6: what I found, like women like myself and a lot
Speaker 6: of my colleagues and peers, we want a confident man.
Speaker 6: We want a man who is you know, who's in charge.
Speaker 6: I mean, that's part of being a woman. That doesn't
Speaker 6: mean it's overpowering or controlling, but yeah, we want a
Speaker 6: strong man, most of us. Again, I'm not talking for everyone.
Speaker 4: So when you say that, you mean confident, not arrogant,
Speaker 4: and that marge meaning capable, not really like domineering, right.
Speaker 6: Exactly Exactly.
Speaker 4: You don't want somebody like making all the decisions for you,
Speaker 4: but you want to know that, hey, I can rely
Speaker 4: this guy can take care of your stuff.
Speaker 8: Right.
Speaker 4: There's a fine line.
Speaker 6: There, exactly, because what's happening with what women have brought
Speaker 6: to the table by doing everything, the man just kind
Speaker 6: of sits back and gets too comfortable and not doing
Speaker 6: what maybe perhaps they should be should in quotes, and
Speaker 6: then the woman gets tired of them because he's gotten
Speaker 6: to be a bore. I mean those as I mean.
Speaker 6: I'm saying this very crass, perhaps, but that's ultimately what's happening.
Speaker 6: You're creating a person I'm talking about women. Now, you're
Speaker 6: creating a man that you don't want because of this.
Speaker 6: And I'm a big I've done that. I've done to
Speaker 6: where I just you know, bring the what I brought
Speaker 6: from my career my work space home and you know,
Speaker 6: next thing, I know, I've got a couch potato that
Speaker 6: I want to be with. So I think there's a lot,
Speaker 6: there's a lot of deep discussions that are associated, you know,
Speaker 6: with that particular topic. I think it ultimately boils down
Speaker 6: to is that we are both strong people. We both
Speaker 6: bring really strong things to the table, and we need
Speaker 6: to respect each other, you know, and enjoy the feminine
Speaker 6: qualities and the masculine qualities without overpowering each other. I
Speaker 6: hope that makes sense and didn't offend to me.
Speaker 4: Yeah, because you know, when we get into the topic
Speaker 4: like the definitions with a man, a man is this,
Speaker 4: and a woman is that? And what is a man
Speaker 4: and what is a woman? And guys have babies and
Speaker 4: stuff like that, you get into the I've seen people
Speaker 4: in Congress arguing about, you know, can a man have
Speaker 4: a baby or not, and they get into they go
Speaker 4: deep on it.
Speaker 7: And it.
Speaker 4: But this is the cult. All I'm saying is I'm
Speaker 4: not judging. I'm saying this is the culture who are
Speaker 4: living in. So my curiosity is about for the over
Speaker 4: fifty crowd and the experts that you've spoken to, how
Speaker 4: are how is the over fifty crowd factoring that into
Speaker 4: their relationships or are they pushing at arms length and saying, no,
Speaker 4: I want the guy to be the traditional guy. It's
Speaker 4: it's just easier. I don't want to change everything at
Speaker 4: this stage of the game. Or is it a welcome thing. Yeah,
Speaker 4: it's nice that he's showing his feminine side because men
Speaker 4: have a feminine side and women have a masculine side,
Speaker 4: and the patriarchy has been running things for like a long, long,
Speaker 4: long long time, and the matriarchy is bound to be
Speaker 4: taking over soon because just just the you know, the
Speaker 4: yin and yang of the world. So how boiling that
Speaker 4: down to just dating after fifty? What's the net takeaway
Speaker 4: in terms of this kind of redefinition of male and
Speaker 4: females who they are, what they are, and what they for,
Speaker 4: what they bring to the table in a relationship. Is
Speaker 4: that something that's creating confusion or is it becoming more
Speaker 4: and more clear where the over fifty women say, No,
Speaker 4: I want a guy to be like a guy, but
Speaker 4: I don't want him to be arrogant. I want him
Speaker 4: to be confident. I want him to pay the first
Speaker 4: check on the first pay the check on the first date.
Speaker 4: I want him to initiate action, come up with ideas
Speaker 4: or is it no, No, I welcome the new guy.
Speaker 4: I want to be the dominant one.
Speaker 6: I think, like, yeah, it's personal preference, really, and I'm
Speaker 6: not sure that we put that much thought into it.
Speaker 6: I think it like it just kind of happens. And
Speaker 6: that's where the awareness becomes important. Like am I overpowering
Speaker 6: and am I hurting this relationship? You know? Or maybe
Speaker 6: I'm not encouraged. I'm not accepting of a man showing
Speaker 6: his emotions or that's not a whole other you know,
Speaker 6: big topic. Women. Oh no, I want you to be emotional,
Speaker 6: you know, And then the minute he is, that's really
Speaker 6: not what I want there, Well.
Speaker 4: Talk to us about that. Let's let's go there right now,
Speaker 4: because what that's tricky because a lot of this stuff
Speaker 4: we're talking about is the one who's in the crosshairs
Speaker 4: is the guys, the guys are not sure, you know,
Speaker 4: can I kiss her? Or do I have to like
Speaker 4: sign a contract? How do what is expected of the guy?
Speaker 4: She makes more money than me. Now she's in charge
Speaker 4: of an organization. I'm not maybe I got laid off
Speaker 4: or whatever, but the whole everything's kind of gun flipped
Speaker 4: upside down for a lot of men, and they're not
Speaker 4: sure about, Okay, what do I do. I don't want
Speaker 4: to I don't want to do the wrong thing. I
Speaker 4: want to do the right thing, but I want to
Speaker 4: be a guy. And it's just it's challenging for men nowadays.
Speaker 4: And I'm not saying, you know, men are week and
Speaker 4: they can't handle it. I just I always say, just
Speaker 4: be yourself. Just be yourself and do the right thing,
Speaker 4: Be respectful, be fun, come up with ideas, and don't
Speaker 4: worry about all of that stuff. Just just be a gentleman.
Speaker 6: And that's good advice. And when you say you know,
Speaker 6: I mean what what certainly isn't acceptable anymore is cat
Speaker 6: calling and slapping her on the ass and down the street.
Speaker 6: I mean, those kinds of those days are gone, or
Speaker 6: or even just you know in a bar, you know,
Speaker 6: the overpowering lines that men have expectations they brought. It's
Speaker 6: very insulting, very insulting, and always has been to me.
Speaker 6: I never put up with that anyway, but a lot
Speaker 6: of women have had to put up with it, and
Speaker 6: I'm glad those days are gone. What because of the again,
Speaker 6: how far swant swung swung to the other side? Is
Speaker 6: now where men are confused? You know, am I if
Speaker 6: I kiss? Or am I doing something? I think that's
Speaker 6: where it gets. You know, you want a confident man
Speaker 6: and a woman has to help. I mean there are
Speaker 6: signals you know that that she's interested that you can
Speaker 6: absolutely read, and we have videos about that. Yeah I know,
Speaker 6: I know. And then but then just yeah, you're right,
Speaker 6: let's not just be respectful. If the mood drive and
Speaker 6: if you get that, if you feel that, no, then stop.
Speaker 6: I mean, it's we make it. I think we over
Speaker 6: complicate it, and partially because of shows like mine, because
Speaker 6: we talk a lot, we address this topic, and then
Speaker 6: while we talk about it, it does become complicated and
Speaker 6: you do become confused. So to your the way you
Speaker 6: close the question or state to just be respectful is
Speaker 6: probably the best rule really to go by. I don't
Speaker 6: know if I answer your question absolutely.
Speaker 4: I want to keep going on that because something came
Speaker 4: up there where I was talking to a guy and
Speaker 4: he's just turning fifty and he was dating somebody new
Speaker 4: and she'd been kind of out of dating for a while,
Speaker 4: and I think she had some physical challenges also when
Speaker 4: he wanted to, you know, get going with the sexual
Speaker 4: part of the relationship, and I think he was, you know,
Speaker 4: pushing her a little bit, I don't mean physically, and
Speaker 4: he was a little bit frustrated. And then things happened
Speaker 4: and everything worked out, and I said to him, I said,
Speaker 4: you know what, don't never just the woman will let
Speaker 4: you know. You never have to. It's going to happen
Speaker 4: when it's going to happen, and you will get the
Speaker 4: signal and just wait and have a good time, enjoy yourself,
Speaker 4: get to know the person. Believe me, every woman knows
Speaker 4: that you're you're interested in and you know what, and
Speaker 4: they'll let you know when it's okay. I give the
Speaker 4: example like I was dating this gal. She was hot,
Speaker 4: and I was like, I really want to have some
Speaker 4: fun here, and I figured I'll just forget about it.
Speaker 4: So came over my place down the Jersey Shore, on
Speaker 4: a Saturday. I took her to a little local parade
Speaker 4: Fourth of July parade. We went back to my place.
Speaker 4: All of a sudden, she was all over me. It
Speaker 4: was just because it was just a nice, original, authentic
Speaker 4: thing to do. I I wasn't I wasn't trying to
Speaker 4: seduce her by taking it to a parade. But for
Speaker 4: some reason, click that that was something that turned her on.
Speaker 4: I guess or it is just like, okay, I'm down
Speaker 4: here now for whatever. But it's like it's it's the
Speaker 4: point is if you're a guy, even if you're over fifty,
Speaker 4: don't if you can't figure out the woman wants the
Speaker 4: same thing you want. But this you have to go
Speaker 4: about it. You have to be cool.
Speaker 6: Well okay, so I'm going to agree with you and
Speaker 6: not just not complete or I want to clarify. It's
Speaker 6: funny because we just just released a video with Trevor
Speaker 6: about that. It's you know, we're kissing now what? And
Speaker 6: it's the most Julnile really premise for a discussion, and
Speaker 6: it's just blowing up on YouTube. We're just getting hundreds
Speaker 6: of comments on it because so many people see themselves
Speaker 6: in that in that position and The way that came
Speaker 6: up was a viewer suggestion was a woman she goes,
Speaker 6: you know, I've been dating this guy now for for
Speaker 6: two months. I really like him. You know, we hold hands,
Speaker 6: we do this, we do that. But like, how what
Speaker 6: now he's not making a move? Should I say that?
Speaker 6: Should I tell that's not you know, should I assume
Speaker 6: he's not interested? You know? What? Do I do?
Speaker 4: So?
Speaker 6: And then so we based it on that, and then
Speaker 6: we got tons of comments with the same thing that
Speaker 6: men maybe aren't reading the signals. And I don't know
Speaker 6: where the answer is other than again to raise that awareness,
Speaker 6: you know, what women can do and what men maybe
Speaker 6: should see or shouldn't see. Maybe there is too much caution.
Speaker 6: I don't know, but it's super, super interesting and apparently
Speaker 6: helpful or cautious topic. We're calling it the gray zone
Speaker 6: between dating, you know, and getting busy.
Speaker 4: Oh, I love it, And it just shows you even
Speaker 4: people over fifty or over forty five or whatever, because
Speaker 4: I know Trevor's market is a little bit more elastic
Speaker 4: than ours, but they still struggle with that. And I
Speaker 4: think maybe a lot of guys are backing off saying
Speaker 4: I don't want to I don't want to be accused
Speaker 4: of anything. So I'm not going to do anything until
Speaker 4: she makes a move, which I think is a mistake. Frankly,
Speaker 4: I think if you're just cool about it and you're
Speaker 4: respectful and you pay attention, guys, you know, you pay attention.
Speaker 6: If I can up to just for a second before
Speaker 6: I forget, because you said in the first the first
Speaker 6: time you asked me that to you, you know, just
Speaker 6: be cool. And I know what that means from you,
Speaker 6: but that means a lot.
Speaker 4: I don't mean cool like aloof.
Speaker 6: I mean, that's why I brought it up.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, relax, yeah, and that's.
Speaker 6: Why that's why men do misinterpret it. That's why women,
Speaker 6: you know, what does that mean? Because we do advise that,
Speaker 6: and what does that mean because you do you know,
Speaker 6: maybe it's maybe you're being too drum but too cool
Speaker 6: and apparently there's a lot to this. I mean, I
Speaker 6: was surprised. I know this would be a good video.
Speaker 6: I didn't realize it was going to just stir up
Speaker 6: all these memories and all these comments that were you know,
Speaker 6: deep comments. You should look at them.
Speaker 4: I want to. I want to get into that Silka
Speaker 4: Schwartzkoff my special guest on this week's Guys Guys Raiders
Speaker 4: back on the show, great information. I want to follow
Speaker 4: up on what we were just talking about, that kind
Speaker 4: of gray zone, if it's okay with you, because this one,
Speaker 4: you know this, you're talking about this one guy and
Speaker 4: the woman. He wasn't any moves and a woman was like,
Speaker 4: he holds hands. But that's it? Is that an isolated
Speaker 4: case that from what you've heard, is that is that
Speaker 4: a thing now that the guys are like not making
Speaker 4: moves and the women have to kind of like hey,
Speaker 4: or rub their shoulders or whatever to like be more
Speaker 4: overt in terms of the like it's okay, here's the
Speaker 4: go you know, here's the green light.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm well, and we start the interview like that.
Speaker 6: The woman. Another thing she brought up in her comment was,
Speaker 6: you know, I love your channel, watch it all the time,
Speaker 6: but you know, like most channels out there where you
Speaker 6: guys talk about it, you talk a lot about dating,
Speaker 6: what to do, what not to do, and then you
Speaker 6: talk about sex. You get great information about sex after fifteen,
Speaker 6: all the issues with it and blah blah blah blah,
Speaker 6: but nobody talks about the in between. How do you
Speaker 6: get from having that attraction wanting you know, to hear
Speaker 6: and then you know, then she gave me the example
Speaker 6: of what she's going through and I told HERU about that.
Speaker 6: She goes, that's a great topic because I'm going through
Speaker 6: that right now with a man I'm helping. But she goes, yeah,
Speaker 6: let's do let's do it. And then the response, yes,
Speaker 6: this is a big, a big issue. Also. One one
Speaker 6: thing that comes into that Robert is for after fifty
Speaker 6: that meets I don't know if it's more or less complicated,
Speaker 6: but where like where do you have that hot kiss
Speaker 6: the first time? Do you make out of the car?
Speaker 6: Like teenagers? You know, when do you you were talking
Speaker 6: about inviting the woman you were dating, you know, to
Speaker 6: parade and then they're like, at what point do you
Speaker 6: do that? Does that imply you are going to sleep together?
Speaker 6: You know? But again it's like where where do you
Speaker 6: do it? If you have do it and you have
Speaker 6: maybe children at home, maybe you ever root me a
Speaker 6: lot more complications logistics, Yeah, the logistics do complicated and
Speaker 6: make it awkward unless you're willing to talk about it.
Speaker 6: And this is difficult to talk about for a lot
Speaker 6: of people. Where the signals become even more important.
Speaker 4: Wow, so much to consider. Where can I have my
Speaker 4: first hot kiss? So I got to figure that out
Speaker 4: out now too. I think it just has to be organic,
Speaker 4: like you know, you both know you lock eyes and
Speaker 4: if it's there, it's there. But people can misread that
Speaker 4: situation so at any age, So that's tricky. Let's what
Speaker 4: I thought we'd do. It might be fun. Is I
Speaker 4: want to get into like a lightning round with you?
Speaker 4: A silka on this, I'm I don't fire Q and
Speaker 4: a let's try it. So one the biggest dating myth
Speaker 4: people over fifty still believe, from what you've heard and
Speaker 4: from what you think and from what you've learned.
Speaker 6: Well, that we're too old. They can't find love after fifty.
Speaker 6: That is just it's futile. And you know, why do it?
Speaker 6: I mean that that probably is one of the myths
Speaker 6: that we that we talk about that we don't think
Speaker 6: it's going to happen. And that is the huge myth,
Speaker 6: because you can find somebody after fifty and have best relationship,
Speaker 6: the best sex of your life.
Speaker 4: Oh great, I love it. What we were just talking about,
Speaker 4: the one green flag that everyone should look for, particularly
Speaker 4: for the guys.
Speaker 6: Particularly for the guys, I guess just being emotionally available
Speaker 6: really for both people. It's another buzzword, emotional you know
Speaker 6: what does that mean? But being warm, being yeah, available,
Speaker 6: that you really are available for a relationship. That's the
Speaker 6: biggest green flag. That you're not bringing a bunch of
Speaker 6: drama to the table or a bunch of baggage another
Speaker 6: whole other topic. But yeah, that you're emotionally available.
Speaker 4: Well, let me drill down a little bit deeper on that.
Speaker 4: So the green flag in terms of you mentioned the
Speaker 4: guy and he wasn't doing anything, So maybe he was
Speaker 4: looking for a sign and he wasn't getting it in
Speaker 4: his mind's eye, but it was there.
Speaker 6: So what I have the buzzword? I have the buzzword
Speaker 6: emotional safety. That's what everybody's talking about, that both men
Speaker 6: and women need to feel emotionally safe that when they do,
Speaker 6: you're you're off to the races.
Speaker 4: And so what's the signal that the guy should look
Speaker 4: for to know that the women it's like, come on, buddy,
Speaker 4: give me a kiss. I put it that way instead
Speaker 4: of emotional safety, like what's the what's the green flag? Well,
Speaker 4: if she checkered flag.
Speaker 6: Or what gosh, I mean there there's not a it's
Speaker 6: not a blacken with the checker. It's not a black
Speaker 6: and white answer.
Speaker 7: Uh.
Speaker 6: I mean, for example, if you want to give them
Speaker 6: a strong signal, I mean, can you lean in, touch
Speaker 6: his arm, you know, maybe even take his face? I
Speaker 6: mean you can, you can do some physical overtures. That
Speaker 6: that all that can't be miss red.
Speaker 4: Okay, gotcha?
Speaker 6: All right?
Speaker 4: Texting versus phone calls a lot of obviously the younger
Speaker 4: generation when you're doing match and will the other online. Uh,
Speaker 4: everything's you know, swiping left and right and it's very fast.
Speaker 4: But the old fashioned phone call is is that something
Speaker 4: that could help build a relationship? I like to personally
Speaker 4: when I was dating, I want to hear the other
Speaker 4: person's voice.
Speaker 6: Oh, absolutely no. That you need to get off text
Speaker 6: as soon as possible. Us you you physically meet, and
Speaker 6: you know, a calling or hearing their voice and having
Speaker 6: a real conversation is key because that's also where the
Speaker 6: scamming and all that comes in. You know, are you
Speaker 6: really even talking you know, to the person you think
Speaker 6: you're talking with. So that's it's so important, so important,
Speaker 6: you know, I personally, when I first started dating, I had.
Speaker 6: I was dating a guy liked I liked him, and
Speaker 6: but he would I mean, he would text me through
Speaker 6: the night and they were like really engaging. And second
Speaker 6: I mean I was like, well, yeah, I can't wait
Speaker 6: to get and in person it was just totally different.
Speaker 6: I mean, text texture before planning the day to meet
Speaker 6: you here, you know, hey, good night. I had fun, but.
Speaker 4: Not for getting to getting to know somebody else in
Speaker 4: the right way. Okay, what's one dating trend that you
Speaker 4: hope disappears for, particularly for folks over fifty.
Speaker 6: A dating trend? Well, we talk about trends or you know,
Speaker 6: bad behave I hope that what online dating has created,
Speaker 6: like the you know, the ghosting and then we know
Speaker 6: all the buzzwords that and people are recognizing that that's
Speaker 6: just it's horrible when it's done, especially when you experience
Speaker 6: it yourself. So I'm hoping that that that you know,
Speaker 6: the bad dating behavior which is really fueled by online dating,
Speaker 6: that that subsides that we're starting to learn our lesson there.
Speaker 4: Okay, after fifty, can opposites really attract or is that
Speaker 4: something for the younger crowd where you're dating so many
Speaker 4: different people? Hopefully when you're younger, you're getting around and
Speaker 4: at least meeting a lot of people, and like, sometimes
Speaker 4: the opposite thing is like, oh he's quirky. You know,
Speaker 4: you're in finance, he's a painter and he's struggling, and
Speaker 4: you're making a lot of money, and like, okay, that's okay.
Speaker 4: But then when you're over fifty, well maybe from a
Speaker 4: different standpoint, that's a good fit also. But it also
Speaker 4: could be well, he's got no money and I've got
Speaker 4: a big house and I don't know if that's going
Speaker 4: to work.
Speaker 6: Yeah, that that is also I think a personal thing
Speaker 6: for the my again my personal opinion. I think opposites
Speaker 6: absolutely attract and can make something very exciting and fun.
Speaker 6: I don't think that it keeps you together. I think
Speaker 6: you're more likely I mean some I think being having
Speaker 6: a genuine connection means sharing a lot of the same
Speaker 6: opinions or values and that sort of thing. So if
Speaker 6: you're you know, interesting chang if your interests don't have
Speaker 6: to be the same, you do not have to have
Speaker 6: the same. But I think value based stuff, yeah, that's
Speaker 6: where opposites sometimes do not keep you together, all right.
Speaker 4: The last one, there's a lot of folks who are professionals,
Speaker 4: they're over fifty, they've had a career. They may still
Speaker 4: be working, they may not, but a lot of them
Speaker 4: are if they're successful. What's the biggest mistake that the
Speaker 4: professionals make when they're.
Speaker 6: Dating, well, just not being available to date, not being available.
Speaker 6: That you have to decide is you know, do I
Speaker 6: have time for someone in my life? Because like you
Speaker 6: said earlier, said, you know, we don't have that much
Speaker 6: time to waste. So if you're dating, what do you
Speaker 6: want out of that? Do you really want a relationship?
Speaker 6: Do you have room for a relationship? That's I think
Speaker 6: the biggest.
Speaker 7: The biggest thing.
Speaker 4: Do you think people from what you've heard, are people
Speaker 4: actually taking the time? I always say, before you get
Speaker 4: back out in the dating game and the dating world
Speaker 4: and dating environment, you need to take a step back
Speaker 4: and kind of be a little circumspect. What do I want?
Speaker 4: What do I have to offer? Am I attracting the
Speaker 4: same type of person who ultimately isn't right for me?
Speaker 4: Like take that time before going back out there.
Speaker 6: Do you notice that something absolutely absolutely we just did
Speaker 6: a video on it. I'm going to edit at this afternoon.
Speaker 6: Is like the like three traits that absolutely will get you,
Speaker 6: you know, a date or anyway that is. It's huge
Speaker 6: and people some people do, some people don't. And then
Speaker 6: there's also things like when you talk about what you
Speaker 6: want that that becomes a whole discussion also, But yes,
Speaker 6: you have to be you have to look look aside.
Speaker 6: You know, what is it am I bringing to the table?
Speaker 6: What I want you to bring to the table? You know,
Speaker 6: are we two people who can grow together? Or do
Speaker 6: I have expectations that I can't meet myself?
Speaker 4: Okay, fair enough, Soka. Incredible insights and information As always,
Speaker 4: what's given you the most hope about love today?
Speaker 6: The most hopeble, I mean, it exists, you can and
Speaker 6: you can find it at any age. I'm not saying
Speaker 6: it's easy, but all the examples that I have both
Speaker 6: you know that I gain from my viewers and then
Speaker 6: just in my personal life close friends over seventy that
Speaker 6: found the love in their lives. You know, it's all
Speaker 6: about mindset and believing that you can. And I know
Speaker 6: that that sounds oh yeah, yeah sure, but it's true.
Speaker 6: You know, if you at that old saying whether you
Speaker 6: believe you can or you can't, you're right. And the
Speaker 6: first thing about finding love is believing that you can.
Speaker 7: I love it.
Speaker 4: Silka schwartz cough back on Second Act TIV always and
Speaker 4: also right now on Guys Guys Radio, we're going to
Speaker 4: have you back again. Of course, thank you so much
Speaker 4: for being with us and love talking to you all right.
Speaker 6: I love to talk to you with you too. I
Speaker 6: know our last video is doing great.
Speaker 4: Awesome, subscribe to it Second Act TV. All right, folks,
Speaker 4: see you soon. It's Guys Guy Radio. Okay, another terrific
Speaker 4: conversation and my very special thanks to Silka Schwartzov for
Speaker 4: joining us once again and for sharing her thoughtful perspective
Speaker 4: on what it means to date and build meaningful relationships
Speaker 4: in today's world when you're over fifty. You know, one
Speaker 4: of the biggest takeaways for me is that this chapter
Speaker 4: of life isn't about trying to recreate relationships we had
Speaker 4: in the twenties and thirties. It's about creating something that
Speaker 4: reflects who we are now, wiser, more self aware, and
Speaker 4: hopefully more intentional about the kind of partnership we want,
Speaker 4: and whether that means embracing independence, redefining commitment, recognizing red
Speaker 4: flags earlier or simply staying open to unexpected possibilities. Love
Speaker 4: doesn't come with an expiration date. In many ways, it
Speaker 4: can become richer because we know ourselves so much better
Speaker 4: as we age. If you want to learn more about
Speaker 4: Silka and her work, be sure to check out Silka
Speaker 4: on Second Act TV. And just one other point here.
Speaker 4: You know, we talked about heterosexual dating and gay and
Speaker 4: trans and we're not judging. It doesn't matter. My credo
Speaker 4: and our credo on Guys Guys Radio is there's not
Speaker 4: enough love in the world. And whoever you are and
Speaker 4: whoever you define yourself as your business, we just want
Speaker 4: to help people find relationships that work for them. And
Speaker 4: I think the biggest key is just to be authentic,
Speaker 4: be yourself and be positive. And of course you got
Speaker 4: to be in it to win it, so you got
Speaker 4: to put yourself out there and meet new people and
Speaker 4: enjoy the journey. So that's what we've got for you
Speaker 4: today on Guys Guys Radio. Thank you for listening to
Speaker 4: Guys Guys Radio. We'll be back next week with a
Speaker 4: brand new episode. And until then, like I always say,
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Speaker 7: Open AI has agreed to a three point two million
Speaker 7: dollars settlement with the Department of Justice over allegations the
Speaker 7: research group had discriminated against American workers in its hiring practices.
Speaker 12: The DOJAY says the investigation involved fewer than ten positions,
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Speaker 7: The fourth Spider Man movie starring Tom Holland as the
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