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<v Speaker 1>That's enough in my past to be ashamed of some

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<v Speaker 1>decisions I wish I hadn't made.

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<v Speaker 2>Some stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>I wish I could go back and fix.

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<v Speaker 2>Some things.

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<v Speaker 1>I wish I could unsay.

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<v Speaker 2>Some words I wish I could put back in my mouth.

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<v Speaker 1>Some actions I wish I had never taken.

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<v Speaker 2>But they're end my path and I'm not.

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<v Speaker 3>Gonna let you hold up my pasts as a mirror

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<v Speaker 3>when God wants me to use it as a window.

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<v Speaker 3>When you're in that darkness, you want to sit there

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<v Speaker 3>and wait for the light to come, but you can't wait.

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<v Speaker 3>The only way out is to step forward, to face

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<v Speaker 3>your fist, to.

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<v Speaker 1>Become your own life.

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<v Speaker 2>There's gonna be a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>Of times y'all about to fail. We are all a

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<v Speaker 1>work in progress. But in that moment, I want you

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<v Speaker 1>to remember the power of you. What you have and

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<v Speaker 1>who you are is enough.

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<v Speaker 3>Live like a warrior, and warrior is always in fight mode.

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<v Speaker 2>Because this thing called life it's challenging. You got to

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<v Speaker 2>fight the piece of you. Got to fight into.

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<v Speaker 3>Their way to toxic negative energy draining people.

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<v Speaker 1>You've got to fight to put all your.

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<v Speaker 3>Efforts and energy into things that's productive and purposeful. You

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<v Speaker 3>can train yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>You can condition yourself.

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<v Speaker 3>That this is my moment, this is my time, this

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<v Speaker 3>is my super Bowl. There will be no commercial breaks.

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<v Speaker 2>This is my style. So it's really about you being

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<v Speaker 2>in the state where you execute. Knowledge is not power,

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<v Speaker 2>it's total bs. Knowledge is potential power. Execution Trump's knowledge

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<v Speaker 2>every day of the week. And some of my life

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<v Speaker 2>is how do you get to yourself to execute it?

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<v Speaker 2>And execution comes from learning to put yourself in that

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<v Speaker 2>right state of.

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<v Speaker 1>It is.

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<v Speaker 2>You want to become a diamond.

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<v Speaker 3>Your whole attitude, change your whole lindset. You're thinking your

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<v Speaker 3>relationship to decisions that you make, how you spend your time,

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<v Speaker 3>your energy, Ah, it changes. You're going to determine the

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<v Speaker 3>outcome of your life. You're going to determine whether or

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<v Speaker 3>not your life is exciting or whether or not it's boring.

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<v Speaker 3>You determine that. And those people who know that, they

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<v Speaker 3>move with a sense of urgency, They move with purpose

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<v Speaker 3>and direction. They work and they've managed their time.

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<v Speaker 1>Effectively, saying it is work to maintain the discipline. That's

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<v Speaker 1>what it is.

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<v Speaker 2>Work.

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<v Speaker 1>So work through the weakness, fight through the temptation, hold

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<v Speaker 1>the line. It is not easy, but it is worth it, Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>because discipline equals freedom.

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<v Speaker 2>As more time goes by, time disappears. Because when you're

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<v Speaker 2>really fulfilled, when you're doing things that are really shifting you,

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<v Speaker 2>have you ever discovered, like you know, what's a long time?

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<v Speaker 2>A long time is anytime you're not enjoying yourself. Right,

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<v Speaker 2>a minute can feel like eternity if you're going through

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<v Speaker 2>something horrible, but if you're having a great time, hours

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<v Speaker 2>can go they can go by so quick. So time

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<v Speaker 2>is really emotion. And what we want to do here

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<v Speaker 2>this week, you see, if we can't give you some

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<v Speaker 2>key principles each day tools and then take some action

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<v Speaker 2>so we get that momentum going. So you really do

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<v Speaker 2>set yourself up without any hyperbole, without any bs, without

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<v Speaker 2>positive thing, truly set yourself up to make twenty twenty

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<v Speaker 2>one your best year, because make it twenty one your

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<v Speaker 2>best year. You got to make you move to the

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<v Speaker 2>next level. Who's with me on this? Say? I say

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<v Speaker 2>I so nor do that we kind of kind of

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<v Speaker 2>identify it. So yesterday we started with just understanding that

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<v Speaker 2>we really got to take control of our own minds.

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<v Speaker 2>That yes, some of what you experienced in the past

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<v Speaker 2>world is kind of over, something new is available, But

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<v Speaker 2>you can't move on and build something new and create

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<v Speaker 2>until you kind of let go of some of what

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<v Speaker 2>you've been hanging on to your expectations. And even if

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<v Speaker 2>it's unjust, even if it's unfair, eventually we gotta let

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<v Speaker 2>go or we're the prisoner. And so we walk through

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<v Speaker 2>those five stages. If you recall that people go through

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<v Speaker 2>that shock, that anger, or that sense of fear or loss,

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<v Speaker 2>that gam you know, you know, trying to negotiate, so

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<v Speaker 2>to speak, to make things happen. Eventually a lot of sadness,

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<v Speaker 2>eventually some acceptance of what has been. But as we said,

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<v Speaker 2>we want to create. Now that's what this is all about,

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<v Speaker 2>and creating a way to not just get back to

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<v Speaker 2>where you were, but get to a place that's even better.

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<v Speaker 2>As I've said, always, the greatest story of humanity is

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<v Speaker 2>always the comeback, isn't it. You want to root for

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<v Speaker 2>that person. It's the rocky stories, right, It's the people

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<v Speaker 2>that get knocked down, Because we all get knocked down,

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<v Speaker 2>we all get taken to our knees. COVID has done that,

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<v Speaker 2>or at least our reactions to COVID have done that.

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<v Speaker 2>And so it's not where you go, it's what do

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<v Speaker 2>you do when that happens? Because anybody can do well

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<v Speaker 2>when life is going their way, can you do well?

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<v Speaker 2>Can you find a way to do well when it's

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<v Speaker 2>going against you? So yesterday we talked just a little

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<v Speaker 2>bit about problems or gifts. Doesn't know look like it,

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<v Speaker 2>but if you recall, we chatted about there are times

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<v Speaker 2>in your life when you've had some horrible things happen,

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<v Speaker 2>but you look back three, four or five years later

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<v Speaker 2>to go don't want to have to go through it again.

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<v Speaker 2>Wouldn't anybody else I care to? But I see why

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<v Speaker 2>it happened, and maybe stronger it made me care more,

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<v Speaker 2>It made something shift in me, or it gave me

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<v Speaker 2>lessons that allowed me to succeed today. And then we

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<v Speaker 2>talked just a little bit to give you a sense

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<v Speaker 2>about what are the things that are really controlling us,

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<v Speaker 2>Those invisible forces that we're talking about, those emotions that

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<v Speaker 2>we have an emotional home that literally we find a

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<v Speaker 2>way to get back to it. If our home is

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<v Speaker 2>not so nice, we get back to it. If our

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<v Speaker 2>home is beautiful, we get back to it mentally and emotionally.

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<v Speaker 2>And so today we want to show you what controls

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<v Speaker 2>that emotional home. And it's this term called identity. Identity

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<v Speaker 2>and it's similar theme. Yesterday I saw many of you

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<v Speaker 2>going back online. Thank you for doing it, sharing your

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<v Speaker 2>old story, your new story, what you're gonna do with

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<v Speaker 2>twenty twenty one, because you need that clarity. Without a vision,

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<v Speaker 2>people perish, it says in a very good book called

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<v Speaker 2>The Good Book. And the bottom line is we need

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<v Speaker 2>that vision when we're stressed out. So many people have

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<v Speaker 2>no vision for where were we're going. If your vision

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<v Speaker 2>to just get back to work, that's not much of

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<v Speaker 2>a vision. You gotta say, how do we make it

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<v Speaker 2>even better? But to do that, it's going to require

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<v Speaker 2>a different you than the one might be overwhelmed or stressed.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's why we walked you a little bit through

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<v Speaker 2>the warrior and the lover, and the magician and the

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<v Speaker 2>king or queen or the sovereign. How many have you

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<v Speaker 2>got a lot out of yesterday and it's still with

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<v Speaker 2>you today. You gotta build on it. Here say ah, awesome.

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<v Speaker 2>So today when we talk about identity, what are we

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<v Speaker 2>really talking about? Please jot this down as a phrase.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a little a long phrase, but jotted down because

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<v Speaker 2>it's critical because when I started working with people, I

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<v Speaker 2>started studying every tool I could find that could help

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<v Speaker 2>people change quickly. And it wasn't because I was an intellectual.

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<v Speaker 2>I wanted to change me. You know, I was in

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<v Speaker 2>high school. I was I love people, but I wasn't

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<v Speaker 2>the most popular kid in school. In fact, the most

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<v Speaker 2>popular kid in school treated me and my friend's like dirt,

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<v Speaker 2>like trash. It was mean as hell. How can it

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<v Speaker 2>be popular? And it made me want to under human

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<v Speaker 2>psychology and what drives people and where they are. And

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<v Speaker 2>plus I was fat and short, that was five to one,

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<v Speaker 2>and so I had to figure out what to do

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<v Speaker 2>to turn myself around. So I want to learn hivery

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<v Speaker 2>tool and a lot of things I did gave me

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<v Speaker 2>a change for a short term. So then I go back.

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<v Speaker 2>Who's experienced this, either like with your weight or your finances,

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<v Speaker 2>start to make money or draws back or in a

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<v Speaker 2>relationship right, and it's like it would piss me off.

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<v Speaker 2>I'd be mad at myself. You know, I know many

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<v Speaker 2>of you do this because it's human nature, Like we

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<v Speaker 2>have high expectations for ourselves. Somebody like you who comes

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<v Speaker 2>to an event like this you're pushing yourself to be more,

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<v Speaker 2>to do more, to create more. And I used to

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<v Speaker 2>beat myself up, like why am I doing this? But

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<v Speaker 2>there's a problem beating yourself up? Does anybody know what

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<v Speaker 2>it is when you beat yourself up? One of the

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<v Speaker 2>critical elements that taking action for solving things, for having

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<v Speaker 2>a great psychology is energy. And when you beat yourself

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<v Speaker 2>up and you say I should have done this, why

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<v Speaker 2>did I do this? Or what's wrong with me? Does

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<v Speaker 2>your energy increase or decrease? Guys, show me which one

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<v Speaker 2>you know, damn well decreases. So what it actually does.

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<v Speaker 2>It becomes a trap. The more you beat yourself up,

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<v Speaker 2>the worse you got, and then you beat yourself up more.

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<v Speaker 2>Now you're in this vicious cycle.

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<v Speaker 4>Three Major personal development. Number one is physical. Part part

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<v Speaker 4>of success is physical. Some people don't do well because

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<v Speaker 4>they don't feel well. One of the first things to

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<v Speaker 4>go to work on with intensive effort, and that's your

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<v Speaker 4>own good health because a lot of things come from that.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, the future possibilities could be greatly, greatly, greatly,

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<v Speaker 4>greatly diminished by being lazy in producing maximum health. If

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<v Speaker 4>you'll take care of that as a support system, you

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<v Speaker 4>can't believe what else is possible. You can't believe what

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<v Speaker 4>the mind can think of. You can't believe your imagination

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<v Speaker 4>and your faith and your ability to say, Hey, I'll

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<v Speaker 4>go to work and produce the muscle to do the deal.

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<v Speaker 4>Why I'm healthy, I'm vigorous, I'm vital, I'm not out

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<v Speaker 4>of breath. But sometimes you know, when all these ideas

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<v Speaker 4>and stuff comes and you know you're too a little

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<v Speaker 4>bit too weak to even attempt, you say, oh, I'm

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<v Speaker 4>not sure I can do that. The doubts sometimes are

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<v Speaker 4>more physical than they are mental. You haven't got the

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<v Speaker 4>vitality to believe it's possible. But if you've got the

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<v Speaker 4>vitality and the strength and you've got the health to

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<v Speaker 4>do it, I'm telling you, ideas seem to love to

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<v Speaker 4>be invested in healthy people that have got the ability

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<v Speaker 4>and the ambition to pull it off. They got the

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<v Speaker 4>health to do it, they got the strength. So why

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<v Speaker 4>not start with the health and see if your own

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<v Speaker 4>vitality would inspire you to more imagination. Because now, when

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<v Speaker 4>you imagine, you can pull it off. But if you

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<v Speaker 4>can't pull it off, you know why imagine? The imagination says,

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<v Speaker 4>why to go to work and spin all these goals

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<v Speaker 4>and stuff when the body isn't ready to produce, So

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<v Speaker 4>start with physical It's very important