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Speaker 2: Oh hey, hey, if anyone's been wondering where is Ali,
Speaker 2: I have been so sick. I had pneumonia and it
Speaker 2: got worse and then I got in the hospital and
Speaker 2: then I was asked please take a break. So that
Speaker 2: is what I'm doing. And as I record this, I'm
Speaker 2: literally looking at the ocean. So that's the good news.
Speaker 2: And I thought, Hey, as long as we're trying to
Speaker 2: model good behavior, how about some life tips. This is
Speaker 2: a really great episode that has been shared a ton,
Speaker 2: and so I thought I would bring it back for y'all.
Speaker 2: I've recorded it a couple of years ago, and it
Speaker 2: was right around the ADHD episodes, and I asked people
Speaker 2: from Patreon if they had any life tips or hacks.
Speaker 2: I added some of my own in there too, And
Speaker 2: it's just choc a block with things to make your
Speaker 2: life better and also things to distress you. So I
Speaker 2: know a ton of you loved it the first time around.
Speaker 2: If you haven't heard it, or if you've forgotten a lot,
Speaker 2: have another listen seriously, some life changers, life changers. Okay, enjoy.
Speaker 2: I'll be back in Nah just a little while longer.
Speaker 2: I'm literally gonna go surfing today, Okay, enjoy. Oh Hi,
Speaker 2: it's your life, just gasping and hobbling day into the
Speaker 2: next day, begging you for help. Hey, does life feel
Speaker 2: out of hand? Of course it does. Could we all
Speaker 2: use some tips on how to grease your wheels and
Speaker 2: just slide into comfort and maybe even increased productivity so
Speaker 2: that you have more time to enjoy comfort. Yes, and yes,
Speaker 2: which is why I asked my friends tron dot com
Speaker 2: slash ologies for life tips, hacks, some tricks, some strategies,
Speaker 2: some smarts. Folks, These are great if you have ADHD,
Speaker 2: if you think you have ADHD, if you love someone
Speaker 2: with ADHD, or if you're just a person on planet
Speaker 2: Earth who is expected to hold their shit together in
Speaker 2: a very distracting time. So this will be the button
Speaker 2: on our ADHD episode. But we made this for people
Speaker 2: who are neurotypical and neuroatypical. It's just how to get
Speaker 2: your life in order with a bunch of great tips.
Speaker 2: But just a quick note up top, this episode is
Speaker 2: a little weird. If this is the very first episode
Speaker 2: of ologies you've ever listened to, this isn't what they
Speaker 2: are normally like. This is probably the most mellow podcast
Speaker 2: I have ever recorded or ever been on. It's very mellow.
Speaker 2: It's just me talking and it's a vibe. But I
Speaker 2: also explained later on why it's such a vibe. But
Speaker 2: it was recorded late at night, quietly in a guest bedroom.
Speaker 2: We get into it anyway before we dive in. Thank
Speaker 2: you to everyone who shares these episodes and tells friends
Speaker 2: about them, and who rates and subscribes and even review
Speaker 2: because you know, I read all the reviews. For example,
Speaker 2: this Threshold donut from insta Ashley, who wrote in the review,
Speaker 2: pretty sure my unborn baby will recognize Ali's voice before mine.
Speaker 2: Insta Ashley's baby. I just want to say, what's up?
Speaker 2: That was a great fresh review that your host body wrote. Okay,
Speaker 2: let's polish off the sharp edges and just have a
Speaker 2: smoother existence with a bunch of advice on how to
Speaker 2: be healthier, more well rested, better fed, less distracted, perhaps
Speaker 2: a little less irritable, and have a smoother and more
Speaker 2: empathetic relationship perhaps with yourself and others and more. I
Speaker 2: put these into five parts. Okay, we cover part number one.
Speaker 2: Your hot bod needs this. Part two Home is where
Speaker 2: the heart is, domestic strategies. Part three is a wrestling
Speaker 2: match with father time about scheduling. Four is let your
Speaker 2: brain trick your brain some productivity hacks. And five is
Speaker 2: emo stuff just feeling around your feet. So life tricks
Speaker 2: from ologites two ologites. They're good, They're for everyone, They're
Speaker 2: for you. Here we go, all right, kiddos. Part one,
Speaker 2: Your hot bod needs this for your brain. So this
Speaker 2: is not about how you look nude or your bathing
Speaker 2: suit aspirations. This is about the lump of jello in
Speaker 2: your bone bowl, moving around in whatever way you can
Speaker 2: to help your brain, so I asked patrons, give me
Speaker 2: all of your life acts. Joe Alexander said, I either
Speaker 2: run or walk or get on the elliptical for as
Speaker 2: little as six minutes just to get my heart right
Speaker 2: up a bit, and if I don't do it, the
Speaker 2: day is terrible and I'm mostly non functional. And Ann
Speaker 2: Dolmeyer uses an exercise bike at home and says it's
Speaker 2: where I go and they need to think or focus
Speaker 2: or when I need to get things done. Saffron Alabassi
Speaker 2: said the clarity after a quick ten minute jog around
Speaker 2: the block is bonkers, and this was echoed by Emily
Speaker 2: Anderson and Ted Hamilton, who said whatever happens on a
Speaker 2: long run makes my brain go from badly tuned radio
Speaker 2: to sil it. It's pure bliss to quiet everything for
Speaker 2: an hour, and I've noticed the effects lasts for a
Speaker 2: couple days after. It's not for everyone, but it's a
Speaker 2: necessary part of my life now, Ted said, and Janetta
Speaker 2: Sore said, if you need to move to think, find
Speaker 2: ways to do it. Have walking meetings or do exercisey
Speaker 2: things right before sit still things so you do not
Speaker 2: have to break your sprinting record. You do not even
Speaker 2: have to change shoes. You don't have to beat a
Speaker 2: stranger on a peloton leader board or even sweat. Just
Speaker 2: whatever way you can move, just move your brain will
Speaker 2: be like my God. Finally, thank you to the meat
Speaker 2: parts of me from the brain part. And another hot
Speaker 2: tip from patrons sleep, why don't maybe try sleeping? Christy
Speaker 2: Lowry wrote in and said, no medication note there be
Speaker 2: no treatment is going to work if your body is tired, hungry,
Speaker 2: or thirsty. And protect your sleep as if it is
Speaker 2: your life or sanity. Christy says, I'm a grown ass
Speaker 2: adult with a stricter bedtime routine than any kid out there.
Speaker 2: Turn your phone to silent in the evening. Let your
Speaker 2: crew know that if they contact you after seven, they
Speaker 2: better be dead. Normalize healthy sleep hygiene. Above all, be
Speaker 2: kind and loving to yourself, Christy said, and Peter West said,
Speaker 2: I have a nine year old with ADHD. We changed
Speaker 2: our lights to ones that automatically gradually dim for the
Speaker 2: hour before bed and then turn off, and that helps
Speaker 2: with sleep. Janettosaur says, get fussy af about your bedtime
Speaker 2: routine and then wind down. And Hannah Michelle says, my
Speaker 2: sleep is sacred and needs to be guarded. And also
Speaker 2: while you're sleeping, ABC always be charging. How many of
Speaker 2: you have woken up with a phone that has less
Speaker 2: energy than you? Waking up in the red with the
Speaker 2: battery on your phone is just the best way to
Speaker 2: make your day a nightmare. It has happened to me
Speaker 2: so many times. Patron Emily Palin said, I just got
Speaker 2: a charging station on my nightstand to keep my phone,
Speaker 2: AirPods and watch together. That way, when I grab one,
Speaker 2: I see the others and I actually charge them. Okay, well,
Speaker 2: what else is on your nightstands? I wanted to know.
Speaker 2: And Rosa and Miranda Panda both wrote in about sunrise
Speaker 2: light alarm clocks and in Rosa's words, mornings are made
Speaker 2: tremendously better when I wake up with light instead of sound,
Speaker 2: and Miranda said, I absolutely love feeling like I woke
Speaker 2: up gradually on my own rather than being forced awake.
Speaker 2: So these are alarm clocks that gradually wake you up
Speaker 2: with light. And I got to say me personally, some
Speaker 2: of the happiest weeks of my life have been when
Speaker 2: I went to bed super early and then got up
Speaker 2: when it was not quite even dawn yet. Because I
Speaker 2: think some of us are night owls, just because we're
Speaker 2: more productive when everyone else is asleep, so we don't
Speaker 2: have text to return and emails popping up. And if
Speaker 2: you're one of those people, try early mornings instead. I'm
Speaker 2: going to try and get back into it with you,
Speaker 2: because you get a jump on things when the world
Speaker 2: is quiet, and then you're ahead of the game when
Speaker 2: people wake up, and then you can use your evening's
Speaker 2: guilt free chillin' instead of trying to force yourself to
Speaker 2: be productive after a long, aggravating day of dodging distractions
Speaker 2: like an American ninja course. Also, there's coffee at down
Speaker 2: and that's the best. So when the sunrise alarm goes off,
Speaker 2: open the blinds, let the sun do its thing. It
Speaker 2: helps your brain wake up. Maybe meditate for a couple minutes.
Speaker 2: If you can make a list of how your day
Speaker 2: will go, you just beat everyone to the punch. But
Speaker 2: if you're still in bed and you do have ADHD
Speaker 2: Mackenzie Foss rode in if you take stimulants and struggle
Speaker 2: to get out of bed in the morning, take them
Speaker 2: an hour before you actually need to get up, and
Speaker 2: then you'll have no problem waking up and you need to,
Speaker 2: and Derek Allen chimed in and said the riddle and
Speaker 2: wake up call is basically a superpower. And we mentioned
Speaker 2: in part two of the ADHD episodes though, if you
Speaker 2: have ADHD and you take stimulants and have anxiety, you
Speaker 2: may want to take your meds with protein and in
Speaker 2: Adrian Gregor's words, water breakfast meds in that order.
Speaker 3: Otherwise I ever get to eat.
Speaker 2: What about nighttime meds, I wondered. Derek was like, might
Speaker 2: not be for everyone, but a little nibble of forbidden brownie,
Speaker 2: which is medically legal in thirty seven states, quiets their
Speaker 2: thoughts and commits them to doing a task which brings us,
Speaker 2: by the way, to appetite.
Speaker 1: Let's talk about food for a second.
Speaker 2: Okay, you're a person, right, You need food, You need
Speaker 2: to eat food, You want to eat food, but just
Speaker 2: the soreness of it has you ordering expensive, stale peta
Speaker 2: from a place you don't even like. We've all been there.
Speaker 2: So let's fix your life with some food tips. You
Speaker 2: want to try to shake off a funk, or maybe
Speaker 2: turn a corner, or just make a new chapter. Just
Speaker 2: take a quick gander at what's on your plate. Good, fresh,
Speaker 2: food is sadly not accessible to everyone and that sucks.
Speaker 2: So for economic to convenience reasons, I completely get it,
Speaker 2: but if you can get it, Patron Lisa Smith says
Speaker 2: that clean eating is a biggie just for their mental
Speaker 2: health and productivity and life. They say carbs, dairy and
Speaker 2: greasy food make my brain not work right, and Morgan
Speaker 2: Underwood said they cut processed foods and stuff with high
Speaker 2: sugar content to increase focus and reduce grouchiness. So what
Speaker 2: if you know what to eat though, and you're just
Speaker 2: bored and tired. Mia says that they found making sure
Speaker 2: to incorporate mushrooms into meals will make them more likely
Speaker 2: to cook and eat because my coology is one of
Speaker 2: their oldest and most loved special interests. So I guess
Speaker 2: just walk around the produce aisle just like what am
Speaker 2: I connecting with here? What do I actually want to
Speaker 2: spend some time in the kitchen? With some more kitchen
Speaker 2: strategies from patrons, Tyler Hudson keeps a bunch of bulk,
Speaker 2: non perishable and frozen food on hand and always has
Speaker 2: some fancy meats in the freezer to make quote something
Speaker 2: extravagant and that helps them get hyped about cooking, and
Speaker 2: Alexandra wrote in that the instant pot keeps things warm
Speaker 2: and unburnt when done, which I can appreciate.
Speaker 3: That is something that I.
Speaker 2: Strive to achieve myself. Stacy Simmons says that they love
Speaker 2: their convection oven because the one they have cooks like
Speaker 2: an oven, but has a spin timer like a toaster oven,
Speaker 2: and it keeps them from burning down the house. And
Speaker 2: Sarah Albrook says that if you're in a slump and
Speaker 2: if meal planning and prep feels impossible to to try
Speaker 2: a meal kit like Hello Fresh, who also sponsors the show.
Speaker 2: They say this has been a game changer for me
Speaker 2: and has cut down on the amount of fast food
Speaker 2: I've been eating because they just simply could not plan meals.
Speaker 2: And yes, we do have a code if you need one,
Speaker 2: go to Alleyward dot com Slash ologies, Dash sponsors, there's
Speaker 2: a discount link for you. Just saying what about leftovers?
Speaker 2: Silas Clish says that flipping over Pyrex glass tupperware so
Speaker 2: they can see their leftovers will for sure make me
Speaker 2: polish them off more regularly, and Eliza hammer Gage advises
Speaker 2: you to just label that shit, put a date on it,
Speaker 2: so you know you're like.
Speaker 3: Not this time.
Speaker 2: Another life act, they say, is take your condiments and
Speaker 2: put them in the crisper drawers, and then take your
Speaker 2: veggies and put it in the main fridge area so
Speaker 2: that you can actually see the veggies and you'll want
Speaker 2: to eat the veggies. And myself, as a person who
Speaker 2: stares vacantly at mustard and I have thrown out kale
Speaker 2: that's become liquid, I support that. I would like to
Speaker 2: try that as soon as I am at my house
Speaker 2: and not in my sister's guest bedroom. I think I'm
Speaker 2: going to try that. Skylar Ward, no relation to me,
Speaker 2: not my not their guest room, beat us all and
Speaker 2: just wrote that their fridge is a whiteboard. It's a
Speaker 2: menu and a grocery list. You can whiteboard your fridge.
Speaker 2: None of us do that except for them. Also, let's
Speaker 2: clean up your life. How about some domestic strategies to
Speaker 2: save some time and some brain efforts for everyone. Here
Speaker 2: we go Part two. Home is where the heart is.
Speaker 2: Karina Bruce wrote in and said, my big tip for
Speaker 2: cleaning is to do it often and badly. I do
Speaker 2: half jobs of everything, and eventually everything gets done.
Speaker 3: Thank you, Karina.
Speaker 2: I will live by that. Aubry Nelson used my favorite
Speaker 2: cleaning hack and said having company is a big motivator.
Speaker 2: I'll kick into gear to clean for company and then
Speaker 2: benefit from that as well. So cut banks, text your crush,
Speaker 2: fold your laundry. It's all connected. Also, here's a secret
Speaker 2: fix for your laundry problems.
Speaker 3: You're ready.
Speaker 2: So patron Sarah Horden says, have multiple laundry baskets and hampers,
Speaker 2: put them in different rooms.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 2: Nano naturalists sorts their laundry by type and not by color.
Speaker 2: They say, all my pants earn one load, and then
Speaker 2: there's no sorting afterwards. And they pin their socks together
Speaker 2: when they throw them in the laundry so they never
Speaker 2: have to hunt for pairs again. But Star Star wrote
Speaker 2: in it was like, let's lower the bar people. Star says,
Speaker 2: I do not spend time folding or matching socks and underwear,
Speaker 2: just throw them into their own drawers. It's small, but
Speaker 2: it takes the dread out for me, they said, and
Speaker 2: Maria agrees. They say, I simply no longer fold my items.
Speaker 2: Mediocrity is freedom. Mediocrity is freedom, y'all. Let's just lower
Speaker 2: the bar. No one's looking in your underwear drawer, and
Speaker 2: if they are, that's their problem. Now you could also
Speaker 2: just ease your stress by outsourcing all your shit to
Speaker 2: a robot. So Cassandra Grassroom says, this is absolutely coming
Speaker 2: from a place of privilege. But auto pay any and
Speaker 2: all bills and get a robot vacuum. Take thing off
Speaker 2: everyone's plate so that you're all less likely to get overwhelmed.
Speaker 2: And Sarah Albrick agrees, saying, if you can swing it,
Speaker 2: invest in things to make life easier for you, like
Speaker 2: a robot vacuum, a quality dishwasher, an automatic litter box,
Speaker 2: et cetera. And Sarah says, my floors are clean now,
Speaker 2: my dishes don't pile up as often, and the litter
Speaker 2: box doesn't get so stinky. So, now that you have
Speaker 2: some tips for your home, let's engage in a wrestling match.
Speaker 2: Let's grapple with father time. Let's get some of your
Speaker 2: life back from him. Okay, first, you need a dump location.
Speaker 2: You need to give yourself the gift of a trip
Speaker 2: to Ross or TJ Max and just say, what basket
Speaker 2: speaks to me?
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 2: Go to a flea market and look for a cool bowl.
Speaker 2: Because patrons Julie McDonald, Taylor, Benard, Christy LaForce, we're all
Speaker 2: like basket by door, put important stuff into it, and
Speaker 2: in Kristin Rosenblum's words, make sure everything in the house
Speaker 2: has a place, otherwise piles of stuff will just happen
Speaker 2: as your own grandpod mom Fancy. Nancy always used to
Speaker 2: say a place for everything, and everything in its place,
Speaker 2: which sounds so peaceful, doesn't it. My keys have hung
Speaker 2: on a hook by the door for decades because in
Speaker 2: college I locked myself out of my dorm room seventeen
Speaker 2: times in the first six weeks.
Speaker 3: The ARA kept track. Oops.
Speaker 2: This whole time, I've been like, I don't have a
Speaker 2: problem losing my keys, and I realize it's just because
Speaker 2: I have a hook by the door. So location, location, location,
Speaker 2: So what's another way to grease up and pin down
Speaker 2: father time reminders? Professor Koshka genetto Sore and Casey Krrick
Speaker 2: wrote in they all say they use the computer in
Speaker 2: your pocket or the eavesdropping music robot in your house
Speaker 2: to set so many reminders, send them when you need them.
Speaker 2: Patron Caffeine had this extra hack if you use a
Speaker 2: reminder hap on mobile electronic devices right the reason you
Speaker 2: have to do the thing rather than just do the thing. Example,
Speaker 2: they say, instead of scheduling a reminder that says use
Speaker 2: in hailer, try anyone that says ah caps OMG lung
Speaker 2: damage is bad for your health. Just take your damn
Speaker 2: asthma medicine woman and include many emojis. If bright colors
Speaker 2: help you, so reminders and use a clock when you
Speaker 2: need to kick your own ass gently and with fun.
Speaker 2: So many patrons wrote in with this, and Caitlyn M said,
Speaker 2: I recently discovered the time timer, which is basically just
Speaker 2: a visual timer, but they absolutely love it and they
Speaker 2: say it's really good for visualizing how much time you
Speaker 2: have left for a particular task. And Joe Alexander also
Speaker 2: loves a timetimer. They're kind of like an egg timer,
Speaker 2: but more visually and socially friendly. And they were invented
Speaker 2: by this cool lady in Cincinnati and I got to
Speaker 2: interview her for my CBS show Innovation Nation, and I
Speaker 2: love her. Now, if you don't have a timetimer, you
Speaker 2: can also use the laundry as one. This is a
Speaker 2: cool hack. See if you can get certain things done
Speaker 2: before the washing cycle is up. Recommended Olivia Shaeffer and
Speaker 2: Miranda Buckley keeps it light and fun and wrote in
Speaker 2: on good days, I keep a timer and I race
Speaker 2: myself to see how quickly I can get all my
Speaker 2: boring chores done, while don Zwart creates a dystopian prison chamber,
Speaker 2: saying when I clean, I set a timer for ten
Speaker 2: minutes and I don't let myself leave the room until
Speaker 2: the timer goes off.
Speaker 3: I can see how that would be effective. Also, no judgment.
Speaker 2: So many people pomodoro, which is when you work typically
Speaker 2: twenty five minutes and then take a five minute break,
Speaker 2: and then after three cycles, you take a longer thirty
Speaker 2: to sixty minute break. So many Pomadoros out there, so
Speaker 2: many of you, wrote in Francesco Cirilio is the person
Speaker 2: who invented this in the nineteen eighties because he had
Speaker 2: a tomato shaped kitchen timer. And I personally hate tomatoes.
Speaker 2: I hate them so much. I hate the name Pomodoro,
Speaker 2: I hate the idea of a tomato shaped object on
Speaker 2: my desk.
Speaker 3: I hate it all.
Speaker 2: So I'm like, palmadoro, You're not for me. And then
Speaker 2: I try it and I was like, this does work.
Speaker 2: So my ears are open for some new names. Maybe
Speaker 2: Katie Courtwright, Rebecca Lyn Weiselberg, Jasmine Quasa and Peta Luck,
Speaker 2: who all swear by this tomato technique, please come up
Speaker 2: with a new name.
Speaker 3: Thank you.
Speaker 2: And Mercedes Maitland wrote in and said, I doubted Pomadero's
Speaker 2: at first, but it's done wonders, so use it when
Speaker 2: you're in hyper focus too, and your bladder will thank you.
Speaker 2: Mercedes said, so if you're like me, if you hate
Speaker 2: tomatoes but you love bears and you have a dollar
Speaker 2: ninety nine burning a hole in your pocket, there's an
Speaker 2: app called Bear Focus Timer, and it starts the work
Speaker 2: interval as soon as you put your phone face down
Speaker 2: so you can't look at your phone, and it plays
Speaker 2: white noise to remind you it's workie time. It's Workie
Speaker 2: time now. It also has very cool Bear art, So
Speaker 2: twelve out of ten Ward approved Bear Focus Timer. I
Speaker 2: think you're cool now. When it comes to a strict
Speaker 2: twenty five minutes working and five minutes off, patron Michelle
Speaker 2: is like, eh, not so much. She likes the hyper
Speaker 2: focus and uses something called the flow time technique, which
Speaker 2: is where you start a task and you stop when
Speaker 2: you're tired or when you're just like, I'm done here,
Speaker 2: I'm reaching my limit. And she uses the twenty percent
Speaker 2: of break time to eighty percent of worktime kind of
Speaker 2: ratio there. But there's also this thing called the Eisenhower matrix,
Speaker 2: and I was like, Eisenhower matrix, it's just like a
Speaker 2: post war history fact. I don't know, but Salmon like
Speaker 2: the fish, and Chelsea Feris both use it. And the
Speaker 2: Eisenhower matrix helps you wrangle priorities. It's like four quadrants.
Speaker 2: There's a do do it now. There's a decide, which
Speaker 2: means schedule it. There's a delegate, see if you can
Speaker 2: outsource that, maybe to a vacuum robot. And then there's
Speaker 2: a delete quadrant, which is like just forget about it.
Speaker 2: You'd pretend you don't.
Speaker 3: Have to do it.
Speaker 2: So where are you going to write that down?
Speaker 3: Though?
Speaker 2: How about in a planner? Okay, if you listen to
Speaker 2: ADHD Part two, Renee Brooks is like, not talk to
Speaker 2: me about a notebook. Don't talk to me about it,
Speaker 2: But other people do find variations of a notebook helpful.
Speaker 2: Rebecca Lynn Weiselberg and Branda Snodgrass, Robin Stumbo, and Faith
Speaker 2: Stein all said that bullet journals have you covered in
Speaker 2: the flexibility area, and Faith said quote, I can make
Speaker 2: it as fancy or as minimal as I'm feeling in
Speaker 2: that moment, and Kitlyn m, also a boojo or bullet journaler, agreed,
Speaker 2: but Ward quote a caveat though. Don't get all bogged
Speaker 2: down looking at the crazy Instagram pages of people who
Speaker 2: spend more time making their journal pretty than actually using it.
Speaker 2: It's meant to increase productivity, not drain away all your
Speaker 2: energy thinking up a monthly theme and drawing out intricately
Speaker 2: illustrated layouts, and Caitlyn says I wasted two years trying
Speaker 2: to make pretty layouts with my bullet journal and ended
Speaker 2: up not touching it for months at a time. Now
Speaker 2: I've found a nice balance of functionality with just enough
Speaker 2: creativity to make it interesting without becoming just another task.
Speaker 3: That I can't fit.
Speaker 2: Team Pretty Stuff also includes Katie Courtwright, who says I
Speaker 2: keep a very cute planner, and I will only consistently
Speaker 2: use the planner that I find visually appealing, and Chanelle's
Speaker 2: app aka your favorite maritime archaeology shipwreck expert says color
Speaker 2: coordinated pens and fountain pens allow her to derive a
Speaker 2: little bit of joy from something that I need to do.
Speaker 2: There's also Heroes Journal, which has spots to identify your
Speaker 2: daily quests rather than to do's. And there's Notion Planners,
Speaker 2: which has lines for gratitude to get you out of
Speaker 2: a funk. Those also got shout outs. And I'm going
Speaker 2: to toss in my own dadly advice here in a
Speaker 2: Patreon life stream I did last week, I showed my
Speaker 2: daily Planner, which is just a small mini binder. It
Speaker 2: has three rings and it holds sheets that are half
Speaker 2: letter size, and you can just go to an office
Speaker 2: supply or print shop and buy a rim of paper,
Speaker 2: ask them to cut it in half. You now have
Speaker 2: one thousand sheets of paper. And you know those black
Speaker 2: three whole punch you know the ones you steal from.
Speaker 3: Your office job.
Speaker 2: They have a place to slide the holes and you
Speaker 2: can just wear the holes punch and it'll punch three
Speaker 2: holes and a half sheet that fit right in your minibinder.
Speaker 2: And you can also print templates at half size and
Speaker 2: then just cut the paper in half. I have sections
Speaker 2: for my big yearly goals like brushing my hair every day,
Speaker 2: and my calendars and my daily to do lists, and
Speaker 2: then I have sections where I take notes or I
Speaker 2: write down ideas. And I like it better than a
Speaker 2: bound journal because I can edit out what I don't
Speaker 2: want and I can just spin it out from time
Speaker 2: to time and throw away the drunk and I draw
Speaker 2: little pictures on some days if I'm feeling fancy, and
Speaker 2: I too love a nice pen and can I just
Speaker 2: say that colored pencils that turn to water color when
Speaker 2: wet are just the best. They never dry out like pens.
Speaker 2: You can use them like dry ass pencils, or you
Speaker 2: can make them come alive and you can blend that
Speaker 2: with just a drop of water and a paint brush.
Speaker 2: And I have the same set of water colored pencils
Speaker 2: that I got in high school, which was almost like
Speaker 2: five years ago now. And on my best days, I
Speaker 2: take little breaks to draw tiny pictures of my activities,
Speaker 2: like a little nice mug of tea, or maybe I
Speaker 2: saw a frog or something. And I need you to
Speaker 2: know that I googled the brand of colored pencil to
Speaker 2: figure out what they were, and I was looking it
Speaker 2: up for a few minutes until I realized that the
Speaker 2: colored pencils were in my backpack four inches away from
Speaker 2: me the whole time. And they're the Stadler kind. Just
Speaker 2: so you know, they're great. And you know what else
Speaker 2: is great? Giving away money? And this week, let's toss
Speaker 2: some in two different directions, why don't we. I'm currently
Speaker 2: at my sister's I'm recording this in my nephew's bed,
Speaker 2: but I'm helping out with some family hell stuff. But
Speaker 2: March happens to be the awareness month for multiple sclerosis,
Speaker 2: which is a neurodegenerative autoimmune disease which my mom, a
Speaker 2: fancist of Nancy's, has, and March is also the awareness
Speaker 2: month for multiple maloma, a blood cancer that my dad has.
Speaker 2: So donations went to the National MS Society, which connects
Speaker 2: patients and their families to resources and information and support
Speaker 2: groups and funds for accelerated research and shout out to
Speaker 2: my mom's MS group. There's more information about groups at
Speaker 2: NATIONALMS Society dot org. And another donation went to the
Speaker 2: International Maloma Foundation, which is IMF, which is the first
Speaker 2: and the largest organization focusing specifically on multiple maloma and
Speaker 2: you can learn more about them at maloma dot org.
Speaker 2: You can also check out the Hematology episode with doctor
Speaker 2: Brian Durry for more about blood and also about multiple maloma.
Speaker 2: So my visit to see and help them out is
Speaker 2: made possible by you listeners understanding when I'm a few
Speaker 2: days late, and donations were made possible by sponsors of oologies. Okay,
Speaker 2: more of your advice. We're still wrestling with father. Time
Speaker 2: listener to listener, let's talk apps. So apps, you got them?
Speaker 2: Several of you love Have Been, which is a role
Speaker 2: player game that gamifies habit building and they have to
Speaker 2: do lists and daily lists and peta Luck says, I
Speaker 2: get a reward every single time remark something is done.
Speaker 2: It's life changing. Tyler Hudson and Jellybean Green second and
Speaker 2: third Habitica. I had never heard of it before. It
Speaker 2: sounds delightful. Shell uses a free app called Owwaves, and
Speaker 2: they say Owwaves it's I think it's always. Owabes helps
Speaker 2: manage my cognitive chaos and has changed my life, y'all.
Speaker 2: My time management skills are typically that of a disoriented pigeon.
Speaker 2: Shell rights, but this app helps me divide each day
Speaker 2: into productive slots with visual cues and color coding and
Speaker 2: gentle notifications highly recommend So that was Ouwaves and Emil says,
Speaker 2: I've been using Finch, which combines health and goal setting.
Speaker 2: Cheese says, instead of an app, they made their own
Speaker 2: Discord server to save links and pictures and to write
Speaker 2: lists and save ideas and notes for later, and She's
Speaker 2: says it's very multifunctional and I never forget it because
Speaker 2: I also use Discord for friends and such, unlike most
Speaker 2: organizing apps that Cheese tends to download and forget. And
Speaker 2: also Miranda Panda told me that you can categorize your
Speaker 2: Google tabs into groups and as long as we're just
Speaker 2: given some Google tips. Side note for me, I found
Speaker 2: out from Hollywood writer and producer Shaddy Patowski that in
Speaker 2: Gmail you can add a task list and it's tiny.
Speaker 2: It's hard to find. It looks like a circle with
Speaker 2: a check mark through it. But if you select an
Speaker 2: email and then click that checky little circle, it'll add
Speaker 2: it to a taskbar on the right hand side of
Speaker 2: your Gmail so that you can respond to it later.
Speaker 2: Since I know even the most well intentioned, starred emails
Speaker 2: just fall to the bottom of your inbox like a
Speaker 2: vapepen in a bucket purse. But if you use the
Speaker 2: task list in Gmail, it's like right there in your face.
Speaker 2: I have returned to so many emails I would have
Speaker 2: forgotten about. Is so good and so yes, we all
Speaker 2: live and die. Buy a to do list, but what
Speaker 2: about a to done list? What This is a thing
Speaker 2: and it can help your brain like a tiny little treat.
Speaker 2: So Fee Cameron says that if a to do list
Speaker 2: is too overwhelming, start writing a done list to see
Speaker 2: what you've already done. Or write stuff in your to
Speaker 2: do list that you've already done so you can click
Speaker 2: them off straight away, like brush my teeth, tick did it.
Speaker 2: And Amy Ducre says that they write a post mortem
Speaker 2: at the end of the day to see where hiccups
Speaker 2: happened and figure out what strategies they could use to
Speaker 2: streamline it for next time. And Miranda uses Trello boards
Speaker 2: for work and for their personal life and says, I
Speaker 2: love that you can move things from your to do
Speaker 2: to your done list or archive tasks rather than totally
Speaker 2: deleting them and keeping with the Captain's log vibe cat
Speaker 2: Backlars also says, quote, I track what I did and
Speaker 2: when on Google calendar. So not just like, oh, I
Speaker 2: had class and then I studied, but they change it afterward?
Speaker 2: Did class enderly, did they skip? Did they study for
Speaker 2: a full hour after did they scroll half the time?
Speaker 2: And ideally they say that would keep me accountable. And
Speaker 2: the final piece of advice in Kicking Father Times ass
Speaker 2: comes from patron Charlotte Felkgarde, who reminds us all that
Speaker 2: being kind and considerate of your future self is a
Speaker 2: life saving skill. So think of you in the future
Speaker 2: and do things for them. So, speaking of the future,
Speaker 2: let's just march straight into part four, which is let
Speaker 2: your brain trick your brain to learn some little ways
Speaker 2: you can help your nogain. So you know how you
Speaker 2: feel like you are dragged in a bunch of direction
Speaker 2: by distractions, right, things you want to look up, things
Speaker 2: that you should do now or maybe later. What is
Speaker 2: the solution A parking lot, says Laura Bee, who continues, basically,
Speaker 2: you have a designated notepad and if you have a
Speaker 2: thought or something you remember you need to do, you
Speaker 2: write it down and you just revisit it later. And
Speaker 2: Sarah Simpson does this too and calls this a later list.
Speaker 2: And Sarah wrote when you start to go down a
Speaker 2: rabbit hole, write it on your later list. When you're
Speaker 2: done with the task at hand, you can go back
Speaker 2: and decide if you still want to do those things
Speaker 2: or not. And most recently, Sarah wrote while working on
Speaker 2: a project, their nine year old kiddo included things like
Speaker 2: play Pokemon, learn braille, and insult my sister, and Sarah
Speaker 2: writes she decided she was cool not learning brail by
Speaker 2: the time her assignment was done, but everything else was important.
Speaker 2: And side note, I have been doing this parking lot
Speaker 2: method the later list, and it does help. And later,
Speaker 2: when I have clarity, I realize that no, I didn't
Speaker 2: need to urgently search perfumes from the nineteen nineties, or
Speaker 2: how the woman who played Andy and the Goonies is
Speaker 2: doing career.
Speaker 3: Wise, I love her?
Speaker 2: Or how to build the house out of old windows. Yes,
Speaker 2: those things could wait while I filed my overdue expense reports. Now,
Speaker 2: if you ever look things up on YouTube, by the way,
Speaker 2: and then emerge from a fugue state hours later, because
Speaker 2: of that right hand column, they keep suggesting you videos.
Speaker 2: I just learned yesterday that the browser Chrome has an
Speaker 2: ad block extension that solves this entirely, so you get
Speaker 2: ad block, and when you download it, it'll ask for
Speaker 2: a donation. I gave ten bucks on a lark and
Speaker 2: it turned out it's been worth it so far. So essentially,
Speaker 2: you go to say YouTube and you write, click on
Speaker 2: the suggested videos column and a little window will pop
Speaker 2: up asking if you want to hide that using ad block,
Speaker 2: and you say fuck yes. And then instead of a
Speaker 2: bunch of delicious, irresistible videos you watch for hours, you
Speaker 2: just have a big blank white space there instead, so
Speaker 2: you don't have to keep writing, watch another, say yes
Speaker 2: to the dress suggested video on your notepad later list.
Speaker 2: By the way, if you don't have a paper list.
Speaker 2: Donia Molmquist all caps vouches for dry erase boards for this,
Speaker 2: saying I can write faster, it's easier to edit, pleasing
Speaker 2: colors and just fun. And I guess, as long as
Speaker 2: we're talking about whiteboards, let's use them for your brains.
Speaker 2: So Hayley Aronson is also a whiteboard fan, and Mercury
Speaker 2: offered the life advice that if you can afford it,
Speaker 2: it's okay to spend a little money to make your
Speaker 2: life easier. Buy a fancy whiteboard if it helps you remember,
Speaker 2: buy cloud storage and upload important documents directly to it,
Speaker 2: and Kate Zer below agrees and engages in what they
Speaker 2: call the magic of multiples. If you have a lip
Speaker 2: balm in your bag, on your desk, on your dresser,
Speaker 2: in your car, you haven't ever forgotten or misplaced it,
Speaker 2: Kate says. But let's talk cash. What if you don't
Speaker 2: have it? How can we save a little more?
Speaker 3: Okay?
Speaker 2: This Life Act was written in by Stacy Simmons, who
Speaker 2: says to try split up your direct deposit if you
Speaker 2: get it to a savings at a different financial institution
Speaker 2: than you do your normal banking and out of site,
Speaker 2: out of mind can really work in your favor with
Speaker 2: a little bit of pre planning. Stacy says, quote, I
Speaker 2: started this with a transfer of five dollars per paycheck
Speaker 2: over seven years ago and slowly increased over the years.
Speaker 2: And I still struggle with impulsive spending, but I was
Speaker 2: also able to save up a down payment for a
Speaker 2: house and my first off the lot new car, all
Speaker 2: using funds from my out of side account. Thank you, Stacy,
Speaker 2: good tip.
Speaker 3: You know what else?
Speaker 2: You can spend that money on library fines. But if
Speaker 2: you want to avoid them. El Wink says that they
Speaker 2: started using dollar bills as bookmarks. Strange, yes, but effective.
Speaker 2: They said, if I lost a book after putting a
Speaker 2: one dollar bill inside it, I would switch to a five,
Speaker 2: to a ten, and then a twenty. Having an economic incentive,
Speaker 2: they RT helped activate a different part of my memory
Speaker 2: and made remembering where I left the books a lot easier.
Speaker 2: So if you do that, perhaps you can show your
Speaker 2: face at the library again, especially if that's where you
Speaker 2: do your working. But if you are forced to work
Speaker 2: in an open office, patron Caitlin m wanted to offer
Speaker 2: some advice. They said, this is not so much a
Speaker 2: tip as a reminder to myself. No open offices ever.
Speaker 2: Bring it up to HR as a disability accommodation if
Speaker 2: you need to. I didn't do this in previous jobs,
Speaker 2: and I really wish I had now. If you don't
Speaker 2: have that option, so many Alagites said three magic words,
Speaker 2: and those people were a very good painter, Heather Horton, Whedon,
Speaker 2: Laila Green Touchet, Ann, Marie Benz, and Joe Alexander. Those
Speaker 2: three words noise canceling headphones. I personally got some like
Speaker 2: one hundred dollars, skull candy venue active noise canceling headphones
Speaker 2: at the start of the pandemic. Can't imagine life without them. Well,
Speaker 2: I can't imagine life without them, and it would not
Speaker 2: be good. It would be very loud. But what should
Speaker 2: you want listen to? So Brenda Cornett says when they work,
Speaker 2: they listen to focus at will dot com, which has
Speaker 2: a rain sounds channel, There's a zen piano channel. They
Speaker 2: have cinematic channels. But Joe Alexander uses a brown noise
Speaker 2: generating app. And there's something called noise Genet and it
Speaker 2: does white and pink and blue noise too. But Joe says,
Speaker 2: I like brown best when I have to focus on work.
Speaker 3: And I was like, come again, what now?
Speaker 2: Of course I had to look into it for this
Speaker 2: and I just learned, okay. So white noise is all
Speaker 2: kinds of frequencies mixed up, and pink noise is frequencies
Speaker 2: within human hearing, and it sounds basier than the static
Speaker 2: of white noise, but blue noise is higher frequency than
Speaker 2: white noise, and then brown noise has more of a
Speaker 2: low bass roar. And according to an article on Live Science,
Speaker 2: it was named after some guy with the last name
Speaker 2: Brown and quote brown noise has nothing to do with
Speaker 2: the mythical brown note, a hypothetical low frequency sound said
Speaker 2: to cause people to lose control of their bowels. So
Speaker 2: brown noise is just basy stuff to listen to. It's
Speaker 2: just a bad name for a good thing, unlike shikshuka,
Speaker 2: which is a beautiful name for a disgusting thing. No
Speaker 2: offense shukchuka. Just please see my feelings about tomatoes earlier
Speaker 2: in this episode of Ologies, which is a podcast. Also,
Speaker 2: many of you said, Hi, Hello, I listened to podcasts
Speaker 2: while I work to stay entertained, which makes sense given
Speaker 2: that you were writing into me someone who hosts a podcast,
Speaker 2: and I'm looking at you and Dolmeyer, Emily Anderson, Adam Weaver,
Speaker 2: Ren Beach, Rosa Vincentosaurus, and Sara And speaking of speaking
Speaker 2: another brain, tricking your own brain tip. Gary Stobbs says,
Speaker 2: when I'm reading, I pretend that I'm reading in front
Speaker 2: of a sixth grade class because it helps me day focused.
Speaker 2: And logan m uses the spoken content aid and the
Speaker 2: accessibility portion of the settings on an iPhone if there's
Speaker 2: no audiobook version of something, or when they want to
Speaker 2: listen to something rather than read it or listen as
Speaker 2: they read, and Katrina Wibol was like, heck, yes, screen Rader,
Speaker 2: but Katrina increases the playback speed to one and a
Speaker 2: half to two times of speed and then follows along
Speaker 2: reading with their eyes, and Katrina says, I get through
Speaker 2: everything so much faster, and my brain's some water at all.
Speaker 2: Maybe you're listening to this on noise canceling headphones.
Speaker 3: Well.
Speaker 2: El Wink says, if you put something down, say out
Speaker 2: loud where you put it down, specifically, like quote, I
Speaker 2: put my headphones on the side table next to the
Speaker 2: green lamp. Amanda Spinosa does this too and says it
Speaker 2: feels very helpful. Speaking of feeling, let's wrap up with
Speaker 2: the chapter emo stuff feeling around your feelings. Are you
Speaker 2: having a tough time? Do you want to get your
Speaker 2: scrambled brain together ADHD or not? I feel yeah, so's
Speaker 2: Rosalo Dulita, who said, I have practiced that positive self
Speaker 2: talk can fight and write out the very intense feelings
Speaker 2: when they come. And another hot tip said many of
Speaker 2: you maybe therapy. Miranda says, get a therapist if you
Speaker 2: have the means, and so does Jamie Kishimoto. Get a therapist.
Speaker 2: They say, even if you think you're not quote depressed
Speaker 2: enough for one and Kasey Kerrick and Lee t both agree,
Speaker 2: and Shannon and Marianna both wrote in to recommend dialectical
Speaker 2: behavioral therapy for some people for developing skills around emotional
Speaker 2: regulation and distress tolerance. And if you do have ADHD,
Speaker 2: perhaps gather a good support.
Speaker 3: Group if you can.
Speaker 2: Brianna Snodgrass says, friends, get you some friends who have ADHD.
Speaker 2: Once I realized I likely have it, I then came
Speaker 2: to realize that most of the people I'm closest to
Speaker 2: also have it. We just get each other, are able
Speaker 2: to communicate really easily and give each other grace for
Speaker 2: being late and forgetting things, etc. And Laura Laura says,
Speaker 2: I have a little group that I work with on
Speaker 2: zoom three times a week and it's been great for
Speaker 2: my productivity and my mental health. And Gaelic Pearl and
Speaker 2: Lizzie also say gather your people and maybe work together.
Speaker 2: Literally it's called body doubling. Janetta Sour says doing things
Speaker 2: in the presence of a solidarity human is amazing. Janetta
Speaker 2: Sour says I started hosting co working sessions in my
Speaker 2: coaching group, and they're the best decision I've made in
Speaker 2: the past year or so. And Miranda Buckley and Katie
Speaker 2: Courtwright are like, yes this Yes. And Lisa wrote in
Speaker 2: to say, married to a lovely man with ADHD and
Speaker 2: what helps him is scaffolding, setting up a routine, and
Speaker 2: body doubling. So relationships, let's talk about them. So we're
Speaker 2: gonna cover some ADHD stuff, but just good practices, nonetheless
Speaker 2: from y'all. Derek says, I try to check in regularly
Speaker 2: with whomever I'm talking with. I say, do you have
Speaker 2: any thoughts, concerns, or feelings at this time? Very frequently.
Speaker 2: It helps keep me from dominating a conversation act accidentally.
Speaker 2: I'm also time blind, they say, so I end up
Speaker 2: saying how are we doing for time? Pretty regularly too.
Speaker 2: The third phrase I say a lot is asking my
Speaker 2: cat why she is so baby? Derek Allen, thank you
Speaker 2: for that. Now, if you accidentally interrupt people, Adam Weaver,
Speaker 2: Mercedes Maitland, and Analista Young all recommend holding up a
Speaker 2: finger instead or touching your nose to indicate I have
Speaker 2: a thing I want to say that I'm holding in
Speaker 2: So fingernosers unite.
Speaker 3: Does your partner have ADHD? You're not alone?
Speaker 2: So many ologites wrote in and Serena Brontide offered the
Speaker 2: advice when your partner has ADHD and you're struggling to
Speaker 2: get their attention, create a code word, something weird that
Speaker 2: catches their attention even if they forget. And Serena wrote,
Speaker 2: my partner and I both ADHD, use the code aw
Speaker 2: my butthole because who could ignore that? But it saved
Speaker 2: a lot of arguments. And Katie tim says that they
Speaker 2: refer to their ADHD girlfriends long pauses mid sentence as
Speaker 2: glitches and wrote, we make it all into a computer metaphor.
Speaker 2: For her, it takes the feeling of being a burden
Speaker 2: away because she definitely isn't And I can just say, hey,
Speaker 2: maybe you're glitching and she snaps out of it without
Speaker 2: being made to feel guilty about it, because glitching is
Speaker 2: just fine with me, Kate writes, and on that note,
Speaker 2: for people whose partners have ADHD, Stephanie Broches says, my
Speaker 2: main tip to those like me is purposely remember to
Speaker 2: be kind, and Brooke Elizabeth says just meet them where
Speaker 2: they are for a while, listen to the actual struggle
Speaker 2: that they have and work to find a solution together.
Speaker 2: Loving your person means doing your best to understand them
Speaker 2: and why they do.
Speaker 3: What they do.
Speaker 2: Once you get better at that, the ability to problem
Speaker 2: solve becomes much more simple. Aaron gil added, also have
Speaker 2: a sense of humor. He is my sweet squirrel and
Speaker 2: his dopamine chasing led to me. And Lisa wrote in
Speaker 2: married to a lovely man with ADHD and the best
Speaker 2: advice give him grace if or when he fails at something.
Speaker 2: Everyone has bad days. But while focus is hard, burnout
Speaker 2: is real, and ADHD is becoming more commonly diagnosed. Let's
Speaker 2: end on some of the goods, shall we. Let's get
Speaker 2: it up. Are you ready?
Speaker 3: I'm ready? Okay?
Speaker 2: Sarah Nelson wrote in and said I just wanted to
Speaker 2: comment that many designers and artists use the ability to
Speaker 2: see different kinds of relationships between things is a way
Speaker 2: to extract nonlinear information, and nonlinear thinking is essential for
Speaker 2: creative activity. So there's a bonus and Bimbo Bookshelf said,
Speaker 2: my son is almost twelve, and he's also aware that
Speaker 2: this is a gift, and he's able to focus on
Speaker 2: his art and video games. For hours, and remember it's
Speaker 2: a totally livable thing if you just find how your
Speaker 2: brain and body work and you listen to yourself. And
Speaker 2: lorain Aorad said, my tip is to be patient and
Speaker 2: kind with yourself. I also remind myself that ADHD gives
Speaker 2: me a unique perspective, and that perspective is extremely valuable.
Speaker 2: Rosa said, I try not to be too hard on
Speaker 2: myself when I make mistakes or I have troubles. Exceeding
Speaker 2: is something. This is just how my brain works, and
Speaker 2: I wouldn't trade it for anything. Another pro tip is
Speaker 2: figure out what you're passionate about, and Miriam Hoflock wrote
Speaker 2: in and said, find your passion and run at it
Speaker 2: with full speed. And finally, never ever ever think of
Speaker 2: yourself as someone with a damaged or dysfunctional brain. We
Speaker 2: all think in processing comprehend differently, and you have the
Speaker 2: ability to see things in ways most other people don't.
Speaker 2: So find your bliss and obsess about it and change
Speaker 2: the paradigm. Or, as Janetarsour said, find the perks and
Speaker 2: celebrate the shit out of them. ADHD also comes with superpowers,
Speaker 2: not just flaws. While Natalie Parsons made the point the
Speaker 2: only unhappy ADHD people I know are those who feel
Speaker 2: abnormal and rejected. Don't you think the problem is society,
Speaker 2: not us? And last piece of advice applicable to everyone
Speaker 2: from patron Patrick Voy said, most of all, give yourself
Speaker 2: a break. Life is hard, and bullying yourself accomplishes nothing,
Speaker 2: while loving yourself, no matter what, accomplishes what is most important,
Speaker 2: accepting yourself, which is really sweet and it's making me cry.
Speaker 2: So there you go, folks. So now you know what
Speaker 2: your hot bod needs is you. You know, home is
Speaker 2: where the heart is, but it doesn't have to be
Speaker 2: that hard, and you do not have to match your socks,
Speaker 2: and that you can win a grappling match with father time.
Speaker 2: And it's good to let your brain trick your brain.
Speaker 2: And that emo stuff is normal and okay, and you
Speaker 2: deserve some help and some solidarity to get through it.
Speaker 3: So we did it.
Speaker 2: A whole bunch of life advice to round out the
Speaker 2: ADHD episode, hopefully helpful for plenty of neurotypical folks as well.
Speaker 2: Once again, donations went to multiple places, the National Multiple
Speaker 2: Sclerosis Society and Multiple malomasimf at Maloma dot org. So
Speaker 2: to become a patron and submit questions for future episodes.
Speaker 2: You can join at patreon dot com slash Ologies. Everyone's
Speaker 2: advice who submitted something for this even if I couldn't
Speaker 2: fit it all in, but the whole thread is up
Speaker 2: at patreon dot com slash ologies too, and more links
Speaker 2: will be up at aliward dot com slash life Advice,
Speaker 2: which we'll have links to the ADHD episodes as well.
Speaker 2: Thank you Aaron Talbot for admitting the Ologies podcast Facebook group,
Speaker 2: Shannon and Bonnie for helping out, Noel Dilworth for scheduling,
Speaker 2: Susan Hale for handling merch, and so many behind the
Speaker 2: scene things. Ze Rodriguez Thomas heads up smologies the short
Speaker 2: classroom friendly versions of Ologies classics. Stephen ray Morris helps
Speaker 2: with that. Emily White of the Wordy makes transcripts. Caleb
Speaker 2: Patten bleeps episodes and those are up for free at
Speaker 2: eliward dot com slash Ologies dash Extras along with the transcripts.
Speaker 2: Kelly Dwyer makes the website and can make yours too,
Speaker 2: and big thanks to lead editor and road trip Buddy.
Speaker 2: Also professional husband Jarret Sleeper of mind Gi Media for
Speaker 2: helping get these out of the door, even on the
Speaker 2: hardest hardest weeks.
Speaker 3: Tore it, got it.
Speaker 2: He's sitting on my nephew's futon right now. Nick Dorvern
Speaker 2: made the theme music and if you stick around to
Speaker 2: the end, I tell you a secret. And this week's okay.
Speaker 2: So hmm, what's going on board? It's been a.
Speaker 3: Pretty rough couple of weeks.
Speaker 2: We've had some emergency family health stuff that's come up
Speaker 2: with my dad's cancer, and it's been really really tough,
Speaker 2: and I really need to be here for my folks.
Speaker 2: So thank you to everyone who listens for making that
Speaker 2: possible to make this for my sister's guest bedroom at
Speaker 2: you know, one twenty six in the morning, as a
Speaker 2: privilege to be able to do that.
Speaker 3: And I've said before.
Speaker 2: That I feel like a hollow mannequin filled with bees sometimes.
Speaker 2: But the last two weeks have been really really, really
Speaker 2: really hard. Some of the hardest moments and I have
Speaker 2: felt very much like a hollow mannequin filled with bees.
Speaker 2: And this week I was there were hard moments where
Speaker 2: I just kept thinking, just smoke the bees.
Speaker 3: Just smoke the bees.
Speaker 2: Because when honey bees get scared, they emit pheromones to
Speaker 2: communicate with each other. And the reason beekeepers who smoke
Speaker 2: to calm them is to prevent the smell of alarm.
Speaker 2: So in times of high anxiety lately, I've just pictured
Speaker 2: like smoking my bees and just calming them down and
Speaker 2: just getting through whatever shit is coming away. So just
Speaker 2: onward and yeah, thanks for the last couple of weeks
Speaker 2: of everyone being patient. All right, worker bees, Remember to rest,
Speaker 2: be nice to yourself.
Speaker 4: Bye bye, Thanks Dad, that's great advice.
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