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<v Speaker 1>Get value. You can't argue with at Tesco with their

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<v Speaker 1>Goozillionaire or Solder caramel cheesecake. Can't argue with that shop

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<v Speaker 1>in store or online. Tesco. Every Little Helps available to

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<v Speaker 2>Oh hey, hey, if anyone's been wondering where is Ali,

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<v Speaker 2>I have been so sick. I had pneumonia and it

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<v Speaker 2>got worse and then I got in the hospital and

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<v Speaker 2>then I was asked please take a break. So that

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<v Speaker 2>is what I'm doing. And as I record this, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>literally looking at the ocean. So that's the good news.

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<v Speaker 2>And I thought, Hey, as long as we're trying to

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<v Speaker 2>model good behavior, how about some life tips. This is

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<v Speaker 2>a really great episode that has been shared a ton,

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<v Speaker 2>and so I thought I would bring it back for y'all.

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<v Speaker 2>I've recorded it a couple of years ago, and it

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<v Speaker 2>was right around the ADHD episodes, and I asked people

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<v Speaker 2>from Patreon if they had any life tips or hacks.

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<v Speaker 2>I added some of my own in there too, And

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<v Speaker 2>it's just choc a block with things to make your

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<v Speaker 2>life better and also things to distress you. So I

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<v Speaker 2>know a ton of you loved it the first time around.

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<v Speaker 2>If you haven't heard it, or if you've forgotten a lot,

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<v Speaker 2>have another listen seriously, some life changers, life changers. Okay, enjoy.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll be back in Nah just a little while longer.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm literally gonna go surfing today, Okay, enjoy. Oh Hi,

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<v Speaker 2>it's your life, just gasping and hobbling day into the

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<v Speaker 2>next day, begging you for help. Hey, does life feel

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<v Speaker 2>out of hand? Of course it does. Could we all

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<v Speaker 2>use some tips on how to grease your wheels and

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<v Speaker 2>just slide into comfort and maybe even increased productivity so

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<v Speaker 2>that you have more time to enjoy comfort. Yes, and yes,

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<v Speaker 2>which is why I asked my friends tron dot com

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<v Speaker 2>slash ologies for life tips, hacks, some tricks, some strategies,

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<v Speaker 2>some smarts. Folks, These are great if you have ADHD,

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<v Speaker 2>if you think you have ADHD, if you love someone

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<v Speaker 2>with ADHD, or if you're just a person on planet

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<v Speaker 2>Earth who is expected to hold their shit together in

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<v Speaker 2>a very distracting time. So this will be the button

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<v Speaker 2>on our ADHD episode. But we made this for people

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<v Speaker 2>who are neurotypical and neuroatypical. It's just how to get

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<v Speaker 2>your life in order with a bunch of great tips.

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<v Speaker 2>But just a quick note up top, this episode is

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<v Speaker 2>a little weird. If this is the very first episode

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<v Speaker 2>of ologies you've ever listened to, this isn't what they

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<v Speaker 2>are normally like. This is probably the most mellow podcast

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<v Speaker 2>I have ever recorded or ever been on. It's very mellow.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just me talking and it's a vibe. But I

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<v Speaker 2>also explained later on why it's such a vibe. But

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<v Speaker 2>it was recorded late at night, quietly in a guest bedroom.

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<v Speaker 2>We get into it anyway before we dive in. Thank

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<v Speaker 2>you to everyone who shares these episodes and tells friends

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<v Speaker 2>about them, and who rates and subscribes and even review

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<v Speaker 2>because you know, I read all the reviews. For example,

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<v Speaker 2>this Threshold donut from insta Ashley, who wrote in the review,

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<v Speaker 2>pretty sure my unborn baby will recognize Ali's voice before mine.

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<v Speaker 2>Insta Ashley's baby. I just want to say, what's up?

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<v Speaker 2>That was a great fresh review that your host body wrote. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>let's polish off the sharp edges and just have a

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<v Speaker 2>smoother existence with a bunch of advice on how to

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<v Speaker 2>be healthier, more well rested, better fed, less distracted, perhaps

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<v Speaker 2>a little less irritable, and have a smoother and more

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<v Speaker 2>empathetic relationship perhaps with yourself and others and more. I

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<v Speaker 2>put these into five parts. Okay, we cover part number one.

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<v Speaker 2>Your hot bod needs this. Part two Home is where

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<v Speaker 2>the heart is, domestic strategies. Part three is a wrestling

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<v Speaker 2>match with father time about scheduling. Four is let your

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<v Speaker 2>brain trick your brain some productivity hacks. And five is

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<v Speaker 2>emo stuff just feeling around your feet. So life tricks

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<v Speaker 2>from ologites two ologites. They're good, They're for everyone, They're

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<v Speaker 2>for you. Here we go, all right, kiddos. Part one,

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<v Speaker 2>Your hot bod needs this for your brain. So this

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<v Speaker 2>is not about how you look nude or your bathing

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<v Speaker 2>suit aspirations. This is about the lump of jello in

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<v Speaker 2>your bone bowl, moving around in whatever way you can

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<v Speaker 2>to help your brain, so I asked patrons, give me

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<v Speaker 2>all of your life acts. Joe Alexander said, I either

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<v Speaker 2>run or walk or get on the elliptical for as

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<v Speaker 2>little as six minutes just to get my heart right

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<v Speaker 2>up a bit, and if I don't do it, the

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<v Speaker 2>day is terrible and I'm mostly non functional. And Ann

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<v Speaker 2>Dolmeyer uses an exercise bike at home and says it's

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<v Speaker 2>where I go and they need to think or focus

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<v Speaker 2>or when I need to get things done. Saffron Alabassi

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<v Speaker 2>said the clarity after a quick ten minute jog around

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<v Speaker 2>the block is bonkers, and this was echoed by Emily

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<v Speaker 2>Anderson and Ted Hamilton, who said whatever happens on a

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<v Speaker 2>long run makes my brain go from badly tuned radio

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<v Speaker 2>to sil it. It's pure bliss to quiet everything for

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<v Speaker 2>an hour, and I've noticed the effects lasts for a

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<v Speaker 2>couple days after. It's not for everyone, but it's a

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<v Speaker 2>necessary part of my life now, Ted said, and Janetta

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<v Speaker 2>Sore said, if you need to move to think, find

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<v Speaker 2>ways to do it. Have walking meetings or do exercisey

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<v Speaker 2>things right before sit still things so you do not

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<v Speaker 2>have to break your sprinting record. You do not even

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<v Speaker 2>have to change shoes. You don't have to beat a

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<v Speaker 2>stranger on a peloton leader board or even sweat. Just

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<v Speaker 2>whatever way you can move, just move your brain will

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<v Speaker 2>be like my God. Finally, thank you to the meat

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<v Speaker 2>parts of me from the brain part. And another hot

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<v Speaker 2>tip from patrons sleep, why don't maybe try sleeping? Christy

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<v Speaker 2>Lowry wrote in and said, no medication note there be

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<v Speaker 2>no treatment is going to work if your body is tired, hungry,

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<v Speaker 2>or thirsty. And protect your sleep as if it is

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<v Speaker 2>your life or sanity. Christy says, I'm a grown ass

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<v Speaker 2>adult with a stricter bedtime routine than any kid out there.

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<v Speaker 2>Turn your phone to silent in the evening. Let your

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<v Speaker 2>crew know that if they contact you after seven, they

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<v Speaker 2>better be dead. Normalize healthy sleep hygiene. Above all, be

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<v Speaker 2>kind and loving to yourself, Christy said, and Peter West said,

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<v Speaker 2>I have a nine year old with ADHD. We changed

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<v Speaker 2>our lights to ones that automatically gradually dim for the

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<v Speaker 2>hour before bed and then turn off, and that helps

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<v Speaker 2>with sleep. Janettosaur says, get fussy af about your bedtime

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<v Speaker 2>routine and then wind down. And Hannah Michelle says, my

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<v Speaker 2>sleep is sacred and needs to be guarded. And also

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<v Speaker 2>while you're sleeping, ABC always be charging. How many of

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<v Speaker 2>you have woken up with a phone that has less

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<v Speaker 2>energy than you? Waking up in the red with the

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<v Speaker 2>battery on your phone is just the best way to

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<v Speaker 2>make your day a nightmare. It has happened to me

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<v Speaker 2>so many times. Patron Emily Palin said, I just got

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<v Speaker 2>a charging station on my nightstand to keep my phone,

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<v Speaker 2>AirPods and watch together. That way, when I grab one,

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<v Speaker 2>I see the others and I actually charge them. Okay, well,

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<v Speaker 2>what else is on your nightstands? I wanted to know.

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<v Speaker 2>And Rosa and Miranda Panda both wrote in about sunrise

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<v Speaker 2>light alarm clocks and in Rosa's words, mornings are made

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<v Speaker 2>tremendously better when I wake up with light instead of sound,

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<v Speaker 2>and Miranda said, I absolutely love feeling like I woke

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<v Speaker 2>up gradually on my own rather than being forced awake.

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<v Speaker 2>So these are alarm clocks that gradually wake you up

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<v Speaker 2>with light. And I got to say me personally, some

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<v Speaker 2>of the happiest weeks of my life have been when

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<v Speaker 2>I went to bed super early and then got up

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<v Speaker 2>when it was not quite even dawn yet. Because I

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<v Speaker 2>think some of us are night owls, just because we're

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<v Speaker 2>more productive when everyone else is asleep, so we don't

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<v Speaker 2>have text to return and emails popping up. And if

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<v Speaker 2>you're one of those people, try early mornings instead. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to try and get back into it with you,

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<v Speaker 2>because you get a jump on things when the world

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<v Speaker 2>is quiet, and then you're ahead of the game when

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<v Speaker 2>people wake up, and then you can use your evening's

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<v Speaker 2>guilt free chillin' instead of trying to force yourself to

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<v Speaker 2>be productive after a long, aggravating day of dodging distractions

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<v Speaker 2>like an American ninja course. Also, there's coffee at down

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<v Speaker 2>and that's the best. So when the sunrise alarm goes off,

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<v Speaker 2>open the blinds, let the sun do its thing. It

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<v Speaker 2>helps your brain wake up. Maybe meditate for a couple minutes.

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<v Speaker 2>If you can make a list of how your day

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<v Speaker 2>will go, you just beat everyone to the punch. But

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<v Speaker 2>if you're still in bed and you do have ADHD

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<v Speaker 2>Mackenzie Foss rode in if you take stimulants and struggle

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<v Speaker 2>to get out of bed in the morning, take them

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<v Speaker 2>an hour before you actually need to get up, and

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<v Speaker 2>then you'll have no problem waking up and you need to,

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<v Speaker 2>and Derek Allen chimed in and said the riddle and

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<v Speaker 2>wake up call is basically a superpower. And we mentioned

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<v Speaker 2>in part two of the ADHD episodes though, if you

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<v Speaker 2>have ADHD and you take stimulants and have anxiety, you

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<v Speaker 2>may want to take your meds with protein and in

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<v Speaker 2>Adrian Gregor's words, water breakfast meds in that order.

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<v Speaker 3>Otherwise I ever get to eat.

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<v Speaker 2>What about nighttime meds, I wondered. Derek was like, might

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<v Speaker 2>not be for everyone, but a little nibble of forbidden brownie,

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<v Speaker 2>which is medically legal in thirty seven states, quiets their

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<v Speaker 2>thoughts and commits them to doing a task which brings us,

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<v Speaker 2>by the way, to appetite.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's talk about food for a second.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, you're a person, right, You need food, You need

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<v Speaker 2>to eat food, You want to eat food, but just

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<v Speaker 2>the soreness of it has you ordering expensive, stale peta

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<v Speaker 2>from a place you don't even like. We've all been there.

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<v Speaker 2>So let's fix your life with some food tips. You

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<v Speaker 2>want to try to shake off a funk, or maybe

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<v Speaker 2>turn a corner, or just make a new chapter. Just

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<v Speaker 2>take a quick gander at what's on your plate. Good, fresh,

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<v Speaker 2>food is sadly not accessible to everyone and that sucks.

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<v Speaker 2>So for economic to convenience reasons, I completely get it,

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<v Speaker 2>but if you can get it, Patron Lisa Smith says

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<v Speaker 2>that clean eating is a biggie just for their mental

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<v Speaker 2>health and productivity and life. They say carbs, dairy and

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<v Speaker 2>greasy food make my brain not work right, and Morgan

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<v Speaker 2>Underwood said they cut processed foods and stuff with high

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<v Speaker 2>sugar content to increase focus and reduce grouchiness. So what

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<v Speaker 2>if you know what to eat though, and you're just

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<v Speaker 2>bored and tired. Mia says that they found making sure

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<v Speaker 2>to incorporate mushrooms into meals will make them more likely

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<v Speaker 2>to cook and eat because my coology is one of

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<v Speaker 2>their oldest and most loved special interests. So I guess

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<v Speaker 2>just walk around the produce aisle just like what am

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<v Speaker 2>I connecting with here? What do I actually want to

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<v Speaker 2>spend some time in the kitchen? With some more kitchen

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<v Speaker 2>strategies from patrons, Tyler Hudson keeps a bunch of bulk,

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<v Speaker 2>non perishable and frozen food on hand and always has

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<v Speaker 2>some fancy meats in the freezer to make quote something

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<v Speaker 2>extravagant and that helps them get hyped about cooking, and

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<v Speaker 2>Alexandra wrote in that the instant pot keeps things warm

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<v Speaker 2>and unburnt when done, which I can appreciate.

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<v Speaker 3>That is something that I.

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<v Speaker 2>Another life act, they say, is take your condiments and

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<v Speaker 2>that's become liquid, I support that. I would like to

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<v Speaker 2>and not in my sister's guest bedroom. I think I'm

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<v Speaker 2>just wrote that their fridge is a whiteboard. It's a

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<v Speaker 2>None of us do that except for them. Also, let's

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<v Speaker 2>clean up your life. How about some domestic strategies to

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<v Speaker 2>save some time and some brain efforts for everyone. Here

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<v Speaker 2>we go Part two. Home is where the heart is.

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<v Speaker 2>Karina Bruce wrote in and said, my big tip for

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<v Speaker 2>half jobs of everything, and eventually everything gets done.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you, Karina.

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<v Speaker 2>I will live by that. Aubry Nelson used my favorite

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<v Speaker 2>cleaning hack and said having company is a big motivator.

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<v Speaker 2>benefit from that as well. So cut banks, text your crush,

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<v Speaker 2>fold your laundry. It's all connected. Also, here's a secret

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<v Speaker 3>You're ready.

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<v Speaker 2>So patron Sarah Horden says, have multiple laundry baskets and hampers,

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<v Speaker 2>Nano naturalists sorts their laundry by type and not by color.

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<v Speaker 2>there's no sorting afterwards. And they pin their socks together

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<v Speaker 2>have to hunt for pairs again. But Star Star wrote

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<v Speaker 2>in it was like, let's lower the bar people. Star says,

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<v Speaker 2>I do not spend time folding or matching socks and underwear,

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<v Speaker 2>just throw them into their own drawers. It's small, but

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<v Speaker 2>Maria agrees. They say, I simply no longer fold my items.

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<v Speaker 2>Mediocrity is freedom. Mediocrity is freedom, y'all. Let's just lower

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<v Speaker 2>the bar. No one's looking in your underwear drawer, and

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<v Speaker 2>if they are, that's their problem. Now you could also

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<v Speaker 2>just ease your stress by outsourcing all your shit to

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<v Speaker 2>a robot. So Cassandra Grassroom says, this is absolutely coming

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<v Speaker 2>from a place of privilege. But auto pay any and

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<v Speaker 2>And Sarah Albrick agrees, saying, if you can swing it,

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<v Speaker 2>my dishes don't pile up as often, and the litter

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<v Speaker 2>box doesn't get so stinky. So, now that you have

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<v Speaker 2>some tips for your home, let's engage in a wrestling match.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's grapple with father time. Let's get some of your

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<v Speaker 2>life back from him. Okay, first, you need a dump location.

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<v Speaker 2>You need to give yourself the gift of a trip

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<v Speaker 2>to Ross or TJ Max and just say, what basket

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<v Speaker 2>speaks to me?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>Go to a flea market and look for a cool bowl.

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<v Speaker 2>Because patrons Julie McDonald, Taylor, Benard, Christy LaForce, we're all

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<v Speaker 2>like basket by door, put important stuff into it, and

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<v Speaker 2>in Kristin Rosenblum's words, make sure everything in the house

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<v Speaker 2>has a place, otherwise piles of stuff will just happen

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<v Speaker 2>as your own grandpod mom Fancy. Nancy always used to

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<v Speaker 2>say a place for everything, and everything in its place,

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<v Speaker 2>which sounds so peaceful, doesn't it. My keys have hung

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<v Speaker 2>on a hook by the door for decades because in

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<v Speaker 2>college I locked myself out of my dorm room seventeen

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<v Speaker 3>The ARA kept track. Oops.

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<v Speaker 2>This whole time, I've been like, I don't have a

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<v Speaker 2>I have a hook by the door. So location, location, location,

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<v Speaker 2>So what's another way to grease up and pin down

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<v Speaker 2>father time reminders? Professor Koshka genetto Sore and Casey Krrick

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<v Speaker 2>wrote in they all say they use the computer in

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<v Speaker 2>your pocket or the eavesdropping music robot in your house

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<v Speaker 2>to set so many reminders, send them when you need them.

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<v Speaker 2>Patron Caffeine had this extra hack if you use a

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<v Speaker 2>reminder hap on mobile electronic devices right the reason you

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<v Speaker 2>have to do the thing rather than just do the thing. Example,

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<v Speaker 2>they say, instead of scheduling a reminder that says use

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<v Speaker 2>in hailer, try anyone that says ah caps OMG lung

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<v Speaker 2>asthma medicine woman and include many emojis. If bright colors

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<v Speaker 2>help you, so reminders and use a clock when you

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<v Speaker 2>need to kick your own ass gently and with fun.

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<v Speaker 2>So many patrons wrote in with this, and Caitlyn M said,

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<v Speaker 2>say it's really good for visualizing how much time you

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<v Speaker 2>have left for a particular task. And Joe Alexander also

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<v Speaker 2>but more visually and socially friendly. And they were invented

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<v Speaker 2>by this cool lady in Cincinnati and I got to

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<v Speaker 2>love her. Now, if you don't have a timetimer, you

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<v Speaker 2>can also use the laundry as one. This is a

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<v Speaker 2>cool hack. See if you can get certain things done

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<v Speaker 2>before the washing cycle is up. Recommended Olivia Shaeffer and

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<v Speaker 2>Miranda Buckley keeps it light and fun and wrote in

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<v Speaker 2>on good days, I keep a timer and I race

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<v Speaker 2>myself to see how quickly I can get all my

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<v Speaker 2>boring chores done, while don Zwart creates a dystopian prison chamber,

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<v Speaker 2>saying when I clean, I set a timer for ten

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<v Speaker 3>I can see how that would be effective. Also, no judgment.

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<v Speaker 2>So many people pomodoro, which is when you work typically

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<v Speaker 2>twenty five minutes and then take a five minute break,

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<v Speaker 2>and then after three cycles, you take a longer thirty

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<v Speaker 2>to sixty minute break. So many Pomadoros out there, so

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<v Speaker 2>many of you, wrote in Francesco Cirilio is the person

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<v Speaker 2>who invented this in the nineteen eighties because he had

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<v Speaker 2>a tomato shaped kitchen timer. And I personally hate tomatoes.

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<v Speaker 2>I hate them so much. I hate the name Pomodoro,

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<v Speaker 2>I hate the idea of a tomato shaped object on

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<v Speaker 3>I hate it all.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm like, palmadoro, You're not for me. And then

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<v Speaker 2>I try it and I was like, this does work.

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<v Speaker 2>So my ears are open for some new names. Maybe

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<v Speaker 2>Katie Courtwright, Rebecca Lyn Weiselberg, Jasmine Quasa and Peta Luck,

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<v Speaker 2>who all swear by this tomato technique, please come up

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you.

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<v Speaker 2>And Mercedes Maitland wrote in and said, I doubted Pomadero's

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<v Speaker 2>at first, but it's done wonders, so use it when

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<v Speaker 2>Mercedes said, so if you're like me, if you hate

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<v Speaker 2>tomatoes but you love bears and you have a dollar

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<v Speaker 2>ninety nine burning a hole in your pocket, there's an

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<v Speaker 2>interval as soon as you put your phone face down

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<v Speaker 2>so you can't look at your phone, and it plays

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<v Speaker 2>white noise to remind you it's workie time. It's Workie

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<v Speaker 2>time now. It also has very cool Bear art, So

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<v Speaker 2>twelve out of ten Ward approved Bear Focus Timer. I

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<v Speaker 2>think you're cool now. When it comes to a strict

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<v Speaker 2>twenty five minutes working and five minutes off, patron Michelle

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<v Speaker 2>is like, eh, not so much. She likes the hyper

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<v Speaker 2>focus and uses something called the flow time technique, which

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<v Speaker 2>is where you start a task and you stop when

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<v Speaker 2>you're tired or when you're just like, I'm done here,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm reaching my limit. And she uses the twenty percent

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<v Speaker 2>the fish, and Chelsea Feris both use it. And the

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<v Speaker 2>Eisenhower matrix helps you wrangle priorities. It's like four quadrants.

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<v Speaker 2>There's a do do it now. There's a decide, which

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<v Speaker 2>means schedule it. There's a delegate, see if you can

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<v Speaker 2>a delete quadrant, which is like just forget about it.

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<v Speaker 2>You'd pretend you don't.

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<v Speaker 3>Have to do it.

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<v Speaker 2>So where are you going to write that down?

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<v Speaker 3>Though?

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<v Speaker 2>How about in a planner? Okay, if you listen to

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<v Speaker 2>ADHD Part two, Renee Brooks is like, not talk to

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<v Speaker 2>me about a notebook. Don't talk to me about it,

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<v Speaker 2>But other people do find variations of a notebook helpful.

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<v Speaker 2>Rebecca Lynn Weiselberg and Branda Snodgrass, Robin Stumbo, and Faith

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<v Speaker 2>Stein all said that bullet journals have you covered in

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<v Speaker 2>the flexibility area, and Faith said quote, I can make

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<v Speaker 2>that moment, and Kitlyn m, also a boojo or bullet journaler, agreed,

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<v Speaker 2>but Ward quote a caveat though. Don't get all bogged

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<v Speaker 2>spend more time making their journal pretty than actually using it.

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<v Speaker 2>It's meant to increase productivity, not drain away all your

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<v Speaker 2>up not touching it for months at a time. Now

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<v Speaker 2>I've found a nice balance of functionality with just enough

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<v Speaker 3>That I can't fit.

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<v Speaker 2>Team Pretty Stuff also includes Katie Courtwright, who says I

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<v Speaker 2>use the planner that I find visually appealing, and Chanelle's

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<v Speaker 2>There's also Heroes Journal, which has spots to identify your

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<v Speaker 2>daily quests rather than to do's. And there's Notion Planners,

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<v Speaker 2>which has lines for gratitude to get you out of

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<v Speaker 2>a funk. Those also got shout outs. And I'm going

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<v Speaker 2>to toss in my own dadly advice here in a

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<v Speaker 2>Patreon life stream I did last week, I showed my

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<v Speaker 2>daily Planner, which is just a small mini binder. It

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<v Speaker 2>has three rings and it holds sheets that are half

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<v Speaker 2>letter size, and you can just go to an office

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<v Speaker 2>supply or print shop and buy a rim of paper,

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<v Speaker 2>ask them to cut it in half. You now have

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<v Speaker 2>one thousand sheets of paper. And you know those black

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<v Speaker 2>three whole punch you know the ones you steal from.

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<v Speaker 3>Your office job.

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<v Speaker 2>They have a place to slide the holes and you

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<v Speaker 2>can just wear the holes punch and it'll punch three

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<v Speaker 2>holes and a half sheet that fit right in your minibinder.

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<v Speaker 2>And you can also print templates at half size and

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<v Speaker 2>then just cut the paper in half. I have sections

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<v Speaker 2>for my big yearly goals like brushing my hair every day,

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<v Speaker 2>and my calendars and my daily to do lists, and

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<v Speaker 2>then I have sections where I take notes or I

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<v Speaker 2>write down ideas. And I like it better than a

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<v Speaker 2>bound journal because I can edit out what I don't

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<v Speaker 2>want and I can just spin it out from time

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<v Speaker 2>to time and throw away the drunk and I draw

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<v Speaker 2>little pictures on some days if I'm feeling fancy, and

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<v Speaker 2>I too love a nice pen and can I just

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<v Speaker 2>say that colored pencils that turn to water color when

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<v Speaker 2>wet are just the best. They never dry out like pens.

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<v Speaker 2>You can use them like dry ass pencils, or you

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<v Speaker 2>can make them come alive and you can blend that

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<v Speaker 2>with just a drop of water and a paint brush.

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<v Speaker 2>And I have the same set of water colored pencils

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<v Speaker 2>that I got in high school, which was almost like

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<v Speaker 2>five years ago now. And on my best days, I

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<v Speaker 2>take little breaks to draw tiny pictures of my activities,

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<v Speaker 2>like a little nice mug of tea, or maybe I

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<v Speaker 2>saw a frog or something. And I need you to

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<v Speaker 2>know that I googled the brand of colored pencil to

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<v Speaker 2>figure out what they were, and I was looking it

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<v Speaker 2>up for a few minutes until I realized that the

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<v Speaker 2>colored pencils were in my backpack four inches away from

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<v Speaker 2>me the whole time. And they're the Stadler kind. Just

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<v Speaker 2>so you know, they're great. And you know what else

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<v Speaker 2>is great? Giving away money? And this week, let's toss

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<v Speaker 2>some in two different directions, why don't we. I'm currently

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<v Speaker 2>at my sister's I'm recording this in my nephew's bed,

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<v Speaker 2>but I'm helping out with some family hell stuff. But

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<v Speaker 2>March happens to be the awareness month for multiple sclerosis,

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<v Speaker 2>which is a neurodegenerative autoimmune disease which my mom, a

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<v Speaker 2>fancist of Nancy's, has, and March is also the awareness

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<v Speaker 2>month for multiple maloma, a blood cancer that my dad has.

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<v Speaker 2>So donations went to the National MS Society, which connects

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<v Speaker 2>patients and their families to resources and information and support

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<v Speaker 2>groups and funds for accelerated research and shout out to

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<v Speaker 2>my mom's MS group. There's more information about groups at

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<v Speaker 2>NATIONALMS Society dot org. And another donation went to the

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<v Speaker 2>International Maloma Foundation, which is IMF, which is the first

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<v Speaker 2>and the largest organization focusing specifically on multiple maloma and

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<v Speaker 2>you can learn more about them at maloma dot org.

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<v Speaker 2>You can also check out the Hematology episode with doctor

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<v Speaker 2>Brian Durry for more about blood and also about multiple maloma.

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<v Speaker 2>So my visit to see and help them out is

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<v Speaker 2>made possible by you listeners understanding when I'm a few

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<v Speaker 2>days late, and donations were made possible by sponsors of oologies. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>more of your advice. We're still wrestling with father. Time

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<v Speaker 2>listener to listener, let's talk apps. So apps, you got them?

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<v Speaker 2>Several of you love Have Been, which is a role

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<v Speaker 2>player game that gamifies habit building and they have to

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<v Speaker 2>do lists and daily lists and peta Luck says, I

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<v Speaker 2>get a reward every single time remark something is done.

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<v Speaker 2>It's life changing. Tyler Hudson and Jellybean Green second and

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<v Speaker 2>third Habitica. I had never heard of it before. It

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<v Speaker 2>sounds delightful. Shell uses a free app called Owwaves, and

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<v Speaker 2>they say Owwaves it's I think it's always. Owabes helps

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<v Speaker 2>manage my cognitive chaos and has changed my life, y'all.

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<v Speaker 2>My time management skills are typically that of a disoriented pigeon.

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<v Speaker 2>Shell rights, but this app helps me divide each day

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<v Speaker 2>into productive slots with visual cues and color coding and

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<v Speaker 2>gentle notifications highly recommend So that was Ouwaves and Emil says,

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<v Speaker 2>I've been using Finch, which combines health and goal setting.

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<v Speaker 2>Cheese says, instead of an app, they made their own

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<v Speaker 2>Discord server to save links and pictures and to write

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<v Speaker 2>lists and save ideas and notes for later, and She's

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<v Speaker 2>says it's very multifunctional and I never forget it because

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<v Speaker 2>I also use Discord for friends and such, unlike most

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<v Speaker 2>organizing apps that Cheese tends to download and forget. And

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<v Speaker 2>also Miranda Panda told me that you can categorize your

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<v Speaker 2>Google tabs into groups and as long as we're just

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<v Speaker 2>given some Google tips. Side note for me, I found

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<v Speaker 2>out from Hollywood writer and producer Shaddy Patowski that in

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<v Speaker 2>Gmail you can add a task list and it's tiny.

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<v Speaker 2>It's hard to find. It looks like a circle with

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<v Speaker 2>a check mark through it. But if you select an

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<v Speaker 2>email and then click that checky little circle, it'll add

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<v Speaker 2>it to a taskbar on the right hand side of

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<v Speaker 2>your Gmail so that you can respond to it later.

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<v Speaker 2>Since I know even the most well intentioned, starred emails

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<v Speaker 2>just fall to the bottom of your inbox like a

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<v Speaker 2>vapepen in a bucket purse. But if you use the

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<v Speaker 2>task list in Gmail, it's like right there in your face.

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<v Speaker 2>I have returned to so many emails I would have

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<v Speaker 2>forgotten about. Is so good and so yes, we all

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<v Speaker 2>live and die. Buy a to do list, but what

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<v Speaker 2>about a to done list? What This is a thing

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<v Speaker 2>and it can help your brain like a tiny little treat.

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<v Speaker 2>So Fee Cameron says that if a to do list

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<v Speaker 2>is too overwhelming, start writing a done list to see

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<v Speaker 2>what you've already done. Or write stuff in your to

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<v Speaker 2>do list that you've already done so you can click

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<v Speaker 2>them off straight away, like brush my teeth, tick did it.

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<v Speaker 2>And Amy Ducre says that they write a post mortem

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<v Speaker 2>at the end of the day to see where hiccups

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<v Speaker 2>happened and figure out what strategies they could use to

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<v Speaker 2>streamline it for next time. And Miranda uses Trello boards

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<v Speaker 2>for work and for their personal life and says, I

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<v Speaker 2>love that you can move things from your to do

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<v Speaker 2>to your done list or archive tasks rather than totally

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<v Speaker 2>deleting them and keeping with the Captain's log vibe cat

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<v Speaker 2>Backlars also says, quote, I track what I did and

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<v Speaker 2>when on Google calendar. So not just like, oh, I

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<v Speaker 2>had class and then I studied, but they change it afterward?

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<v Speaker 2>Did class enderly, did they skip? Did they study for

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<v Speaker 2>a full hour after did they scroll half the time?

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<v Speaker 2>And ideally they say that would keep me accountable. And

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<v Speaker 2>the final piece of advice in Kicking Father Times ass

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<v Speaker 2>comes from patron Charlotte Felkgarde, who reminds us all that

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<v Speaker 2>being kind and considerate of your future self is a

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<v Speaker 2>life saving skill. So think of you in the future

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<v Speaker 2>and do things for them. So, speaking of the future,

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<v Speaker 2>let's just march straight into part four, which is let

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<v Speaker 2>your brain trick your brain to learn some little ways

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<v Speaker 2>you can help your nogain. So you know how you

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<v Speaker 2>feel like you are dragged in a bunch of direction

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<v Speaker 2>by distractions, right, things you want to look up, things

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<v Speaker 2>that you should do now or maybe later. What is

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<v Speaker 2>the solution A parking lot, says Laura Bee, who continues, basically,

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<v Speaker 2>you have a designated notepad and if you have a

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<v Speaker 2>thought or something you remember you need to do, you

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<v Speaker 2>write it down and you just revisit it later. And

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<v Speaker 2>Sarah Simpson does this too and calls this a later list.

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<v Speaker 2>And Sarah wrote when you start to go down a

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<v Speaker 2>rabbit hole, write it on your later list. When you're

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<v Speaker 2>done with the task at hand, you can go back

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<v Speaker 2>and decide if you still want to do those things

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<v Speaker 2>or not. And most recently, Sarah wrote while working on

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<v Speaker 2>a project, their nine year old kiddo included things like

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<v Speaker 2>play Pokemon, learn braille, and insult my sister, and Sarah

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<v Speaker 2>writes she decided she was cool not learning brail by

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<v Speaker 2>the time her assignment was done, but everything else was important.

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<v Speaker 2>And side note, I have been doing this parking lot

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<v Speaker 2>method the later list, and it does help. And later,

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<v Speaker 2>when I have clarity, I realize that no, I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>need to urgently search perfumes from the nineteen nineties, or

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<v Speaker 2>how the woman who played Andy and the Goonies is

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<v Speaker 2>doing career.

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<v Speaker 3>Wise, I love her?

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<v Speaker 2>Or how to build the house out of old windows. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>those things could wait while I filed my overdue expense reports. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>if you ever look things up on YouTube, by the way,

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<v Speaker 2>and then emerge from a fugue state hours later, because

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<v Speaker 2>of that right hand column, they keep suggesting you videos.

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<v Speaker 2>I just learned yesterday that the browser Chrome has an

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<v Speaker 2>ad block extension that solves this entirely, so you get

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<v Speaker 2>ad block, and when you download it, it'll ask for

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<v Speaker 2>a donation. I gave ten bucks on a lark and

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<v Speaker 2>it turned out it's been worth it so far. So essentially,

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<v Speaker 2>you go to say YouTube and you write, click on

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<v Speaker 2>the suggested videos column and a little window will pop

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<v Speaker 2>up asking if you want to hide that using ad block,

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<v Speaker 2>and you say fuck yes. And then instead of a

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<v Speaker 2>bunch of delicious, irresistible videos you watch for hours, you

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<v Speaker 2>just have a big blank white space there instead, so

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<v Speaker 2>you don't have to keep writing, watch another, say yes

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<v Speaker 2>to the dress suggested video on your notepad later list.

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<v Speaker 2>By the way, if you don't have a paper list.

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<v Speaker 2>Donia Molmquist all caps vouches for dry erase boards for this,

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<v Speaker 2>saying I can write faster, it's easier to edit, pleasing

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<v Speaker 2>colors and just fun. And I guess, as long as

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<v Speaker 2>we're talking about whiteboards, let's use them for your brains.

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<v Speaker 2>So Hayley Aronson is also a whiteboard fan, and Mercury

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<v Speaker 2>offered the life advice that if you can afford it,

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<v Speaker 2>it's okay to spend a little money to make your

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<v Speaker 2>life easier. Buy a fancy whiteboard if it helps you remember,

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<v Speaker 2>buy cloud storage and upload important documents directly to it,

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<v Speaker 2>and Kate Zer below agrees and engages in what they

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<v Speaker 2>call the magic of multiples. If you have a lip

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<v Speaker 2>balm in your bag, on your desk, on your dresser,

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<v Speaker 2>in your car, you haven't ever forgotten or misplaced it,

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<v Speaker 2>Kate says. But let's talk cash. What if you don't

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<v Speaker 2>have it? How can we save a little more?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay?

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<v Speaker 2>This Life Act was written in by Stacy Simmons, who

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<v Speaker 2>says to try split up your direct deposit if you

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<v Speaker 2>get it to a savings at a different financial institution

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<v Speaker 2>than you do your normal banking and out of site,

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<v Speaker 2>out of mind can really work in your favor with

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit of pre planning. Stacy says, quote, I

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<v Speaker 2>started this with a transfer of five dollars per paycheck

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<v Speaker 2>over seven years ago and slowly increased over the years.

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<v Speaker 2>And I still struggle with impulsive spending, but I was

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<v Speaker 2>also able to save up a down payment for a

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<v Speaker 2>house and my first off the lot new car, all

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<v Speaker 2>using funds from my out of side account. Thank you, Stacy,

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<v Speaker 2>good tip.

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<v Speaker 3>You know what else?

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<v Speaker 2>You can spend that money on library fines. But if

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<v Speaker 2>you want to avoid them. El Wink says that they

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<v Speaker 2>started using dollar bills as bookmarks. Strange, yes, but effective.

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<v Speaker 2>They said, if I lost a book after putting a

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<v Speaker 2>one dollar bill inside it, I would switch to a five,

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<v Speaker 2>to a ten, and then a twenty. Having an economic incentive,

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<v Speaker 2>they RT helped activate a different part of my memory

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<v Speaker 2>and made remembering where I left the books a lot easier.

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<v Speaker 2>So if you do that, perhaps you can show your

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<v Speaker 2>face at the library again, especially if that's where you

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<v Speaker 2>do your working. But if you are forced to work

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<v Speaker 2>in an open office, patron Caitlin m wanted to offer

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<v Speaker 2>some advice. They said, this is not so much a

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<v Speaker 2>tip as a reminder to myself. No open offices ever.

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<v Speaker 2>Bring it up to HR as a disability accommodation if

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<v Speaker 2>you need to. I didn't do this in previous jobs,

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<v Speaker 2>and I really wish I had now. If you don't

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<v Speaker 2>have that option, so many Alagites said three magic words,

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<v Speaker 2>and those people were a very good painter, Heather Horton, Whedon,

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<v Speaker 2>Laila Green Touchet, Ann, Marie Benz, and Joe Alexander. Those

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<v Speaker 2>three words noise canceling headphones. I personally got some like

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<v Speaker 2>one hundred dollars, skull candy venue active noise canceling headphones

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<v Speaker 2>at the start of the pandemic. Can't imagine life without them. Well,

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<v Speaker 2>I can't imagine life without them, and it would not

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<v Speaker 2>be good. It would be very loud. But what should

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<v Speaker 2>you want listen to? So Brenda Cornett says when they work,

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<v Speaker 2>they listen to focus at will dot com, which has

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<v Speaker 2>a rain sounds channel, There's a zen piano channel. They

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<v Speaker 2>have cinematic channels. But Joe Alexander uses a brown noise

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<v Speaker 2>generating app. And there's something called noise Genet and it

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<v Speaker 2>does white and pink and blue noise too. But Joe says,

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<v Speaker 2>I like brown best when I have to focus on work.

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<v Speaker 3>And I was like, come again, what now?

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<v Speaker 2>Of course I had to look into it for this

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<v Speaker 2>and I just learned, okay. So white noise is all

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<v Speaker 2>kinds of frequencies mixed up, and pink noise is frequencies

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<v Speaker 2>within human hearing, and it sounds basier than the static

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<v Speaker 2>of white noise, but blue noise is higher frequency than

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<v Speaker 2>white noise, and then brown noise has more of a

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<v Speaker 2>low bass roar. And according to an article on Live Science,

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<v Speaker 2>it was named after some guy with the last name

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<v Speaker 2>Brown and quote brown noise has nothing to do with

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<v Speaker 2>the mythical brown note, a hypothetical low frequency sound said

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<v Speaker 2>to cause people to lose control of their bowels. So

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<v Speaker 2>brown noise is just basy stuff to listen to. It's

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<v Speaker 2>just a bad name for a good thing, unlike shikshuka,

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<v Speaker 2>which is a beautiful name for a disgusting thing. No

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<v Speaker 2>offense shukchuka. Just please see my feelings about tomatoes earlier

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<v Speaker 2>in this episode of Ologies, which is a podcast. Also,

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<v Speaker 2>many of you said, Hi, Hello, I listened to podcasts

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<v Speaker 2>while I work to stay entertained, which makes sense given

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<v Speaker 2>that you were writing into me someone who hosts a podcast,

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm looking at you and Dolmeyer, Emily Anderson, Adam Weaver,

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<v Speaker 2>Ren Beach, Rosa Vincentosaurus, and Sara And speaking of speaking

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<v Speaker 2>another brain, tricking your own brain tip. Gary Stobbs says,

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<v Speaker 2>when I'm reading, I pretend that I'm reading in front

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<v Speaker 2>of a sixth grade class because it helps me day focused.

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<v Speaker 2>And logan m uses the spoken content aid and the

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<v Speaker 2>accessibility portion of the settings on an iPhone if there's

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<v Speaker 2>no audiobook version of something, or when they want to

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<v Speaker 2>listen to something rather than read it or listen as

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<v Speaker 2>they read, and Katrina Wibol was like, heck, yes, screen Rader,

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<v Speaker 2>but Katrina increases the playback speed to one and a

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<v Speaker 2>half to two times of speed and then follows along

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<v Speaker 2>reading with their eyes, and Katrina says, I get through

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<v Speaker 2>everything so much faster, and my brain's some water at all.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe you're listening to this on noise canceling headphones.

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<v Speaker 3>Well.

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<v Speaker 2>El Wink says, if you put something down, say out

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<v Speaker 2>loud where you put it down, specifically, like quote, I

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<v Speaker 2>put my headphones on the side table next to the

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<v Speaker 2>green lamp. Amanda Spinosa does this too and says it

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<v Speaker 2>feels very helpful. Speaking of feeling, let's wrap up with

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<v Speaker 2>the chapter emo stuff feeling around your feelings. Are you

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<v Speaker 2>having a tough time? Do you want to get your

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<v Speaker 2>scrambled brain together ADHD or not? I feel yeah, so's

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<v Speaker 2>Rosalo Dulita, who said, I have practiced that positive self

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<v Speaker 2>talk can fight and write out the very intense feelings

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<v Speaker 2>when they come. And another hot tip said many of

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<v Speaker 2>you maybe therapy. Miranda says, get a therapist if you

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<v Speaker 2>have the means, and so does Jamie Kishimoto. Get a therapist.

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<v Speaker 2>They say, even if you think you're not quote depressed

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<v Speaker 2>enough for one and Kasey Kerrick and Lee t both agree,

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<v Speaker 2>and Shannon and Marianna both wrote in to recommend dialectical

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<v Speaker 2>behavioral therapy for some people for developing skills around emotional

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<v Speaker 2>regulation and distress tolerance. And if you do have ADHD,

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<v Speaker 2>perhaps gather a good support.

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<v Speaker 3>Group if you can.

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<v Speaker 2>Brianna Snodgrass says, friends, get you some friends who have ADHD.

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<v Speaker 2>Once I realized I likely have it, I then came

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<v Speaker 2>to realize that most of the people I'm closest to

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<v Speaker 2>also have it. We just get each other, are able

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<v Speaker 2>to communicate really easily and give each other grace for

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<v Speaker 2>being late and forgetting things, etc. And Laura Laura says,

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<v Speaker 2>I have a little group that I work with on

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<v Speaker 2>zoom three times a week and it's been great for

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<v Speaker 2>my productivity and my mental health. And Gaelic Pearl and

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<v Speaker 2>Lizzie also say gather your people and maybe work together.

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<v Speaker 2>Literally it's called body doubling. Janetta Sour says doing things

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<v Speaker 2>in the presence of a solidarity human is amazing. Janetta

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<v Speaker 2>Sour says I started hosting co working sessions in my

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<v Speaker 2>coaching group, and they're the best decision I've made in

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<v Speaker 2>the past year or so. And Miranda Buckley and Katie

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<v Speaker 2>Courtwright are like, yes this Yes. And Lisa wrote in

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<v Speaker 2>to say, married to a lovely man with ADHD and

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<v Speaker 2>what helps him is scaffolding, setting up a routine, and

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<v Speaker 2>body doubling. So relationships, let's talk about them. So we're

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<v Speaker 2>gonna cover some ADHD stuff, but just good practices, nonetheless

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<v Speaker 2>from y'all. Derek says, I try to check in regularly

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<v Speaker 2>with whomever I'm talking with. I say, do you have

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<v Speaker 2>any thoughts, concerns, or feelings at this time? Very frequently.

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<v Speaker 2>It helps keep me from dominating a conversation act accidentally.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm also time blind, they say, so I end up

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<v Speaker 2>saying how are we doing for time? Pretty regularly too.

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<v Speaker 2>The third phrase I say a lot is asking my

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<v Speaker 2>cat why she is so baby? Derek Allen, thank you

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<v Speaker 2>for that. Now, if you accidentally interrupt people, Adam Weaver,

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<v Speaker 2>Mercedes Maitland, and Analista Young all recommend holding up a

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<v Speaker 2>finger instead or touching your nose to indicate I have

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<v Speaker 2>a thing I want to say that I'm holding in

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<v Speaker 2>So fingernosers unite.

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<v Speaker 3>Does your partner have ADHD? You're not alone?

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<v Speaker 2>So many ologites wrote in and Serena Brontide offered the

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<v Speaker 2>advice when your partner has ADHD and you're struggling to

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<v Speaker 2>get their attention, create a code word, something weird that

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<v Speaker 2>catches their attention even if they forget. And Serena wrote,

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<v Speaker 2>my partner and I both ADHD, use the code aw

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<v Speaker 2>my butthole because who could ignore that? But it saved

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of arguments. And Katie tim says that they

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<v Speaker 2>refer to their ADHD girlfriends long pauses mid sentence as

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<v Speaker 2>glitches and wrote, we make it all into a computer metaphor.

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<v Speaker 2>For her, it takes the feeling of being a burden

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<v Speaker 2>away because she definitely isn't And I can just say, hey,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe you're glitching and she snaps out of it without

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<v Speaker 2>being made to feel guilty about it, because glitching is

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<v Speaker 2>just fine with me, Kate writes, and on that note,

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<v Speaker 2>for people whose partners have ADHD, Stephanie Broches says, my

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<v Speaker 2>main tip to those like me is purposely remember to

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<v Speaker 2>be kind, and Brooke Elizabeth says just meet them where

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<v Speaker 2>they are for a while, listen to the actual struggle

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<v Speaker 2>that they have and work to find a solution together.

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<v Speaker 2>Loving your person means doing your best to understand them

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<v Speaker 2>and why they do.

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<v Speaker 3>What they do.

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<v Speaker 2>Once you get better at that, the ability to problem

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<v Speaker 2>solve becomes much more simple. Aaron gil added, also have

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<v Speaker 2>a sense of humor. He is my sweet squirrel and

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<v Speaker 2>his dopamine chasing led to me. And Lisa wrote in

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<v Speaker 2>married to a lovely man with ADHD and the best

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<v Speaker 2>advice give him grace if or when he fails at something.

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<v Speaker 2>Everyone has bad days. But while focus is hard, burnout

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<v Speaker 2>is real, and ADHD is becoming more commonly diagnosed. Let's

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<v Speaker 2>end on some of the goods, shall we. Let's get

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<v Speaker 2>it up. Are you ready?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm ready? Okay?

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<v Speaker 2>Sarah Nelson wrote in and said I just wanted to

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<v Speaker 2>comment that many designers and artists use the ability to

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<v Speaker 2>see different kinds of relationships between things is a way

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<v Speaker 2>to extract nonlinear information, and nonlinear thinking is essential for

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<v Speaker 2>creative activity. So there's a bonus and Bimbo Bookshelf said,

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<v Speaker 2>my son is almost twelve, and he's also aware that

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<v Speaker 2>this is a gift, and he's able to focus on

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<v Speaker 2>his art and video games. For hours, and remember it's

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<v Speaker 2>a totally livable thing if you just find how your

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<v Speaker 2>brain and body work and you listen to yourself. And

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<v Speaker 2>lorain Aorad said, my tip is to be patient and

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<v Speaker 2>kind with yourself. I also remind myself that ADHD gives

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<v Speaker 2>me a unique perspective, and that perspective is extremely valuable.

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<v Speaker 2>Rosa said, I try not to be too hard on

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<v Speaker 2>myself when I make mistakes or I have troubles. Exceeding

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<v Speaker 2>is something. This is just how my brain works, and

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<v Speaker 2>I wouldn't trade it for anything. Another pro tip is

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<v Speaker 2>figure out what you're passionate about, and Miriam Hoflock wrote

796
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<v Speaker 2>in and said, find your passion and run at it

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<v Speaker 2>with full speed. And finally, never ever ever think of

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<v Speaker 2>yourself as someone with a damaged or dysfunctional brain. We

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<v Speaker 2>all think in processing comprehend differently, and you have the

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<v Speaker 2>ability to see things in ways most other people don't.

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<v Speaker 2>So find your bliss and obsess about it and change

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<v Speaker 2>the paradigm. Or, as Janetarsour said, find the perks and

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<v Speaker 2>celebrate the shit out of them. ADHD also comes with superpowers,

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<v Speaker 2>not just flaws. While Natalie Parsons made the point the

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<v Speaker 2>only unhappy ADHD people I know are those who feel

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<v Speaker 2>abnormal and rejected. Don't you think the problem is society,

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<v Speaker 2>not us? And last piece of advice applicable to everyone

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<v Speaker 2>from patron Patrick Voy said, most of all, give yourself

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<v Speaker 2>a break. Life is hard, and bullying yourself accomplishes nothing,

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<v Speaker 2>while loving yourself, no matter what, accomplishes what is most important,

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<v Speaker 2>accepting yourself, which is really sweet and it's making me cry.

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<v Speaker 2>So there you go, folks. So now you know what

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<v Speaker 2>your hot bod needs is you. You know, home is

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<v Speaker 2>where the heart is, but it doesn't have to be

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<v Speaker 2>that hard, and you do not have to match your socks,

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<v Speaker 2>and that you can win a grappling match with father time.

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<v Speaker 2>And it's good to let your brain trick your brain.

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<v Speaker 2>And that emo stuff is normal and okay, and you

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<v Speaker 2>deserve some help and some solidarity to get through it.

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<v Speaker 3>So we did it.

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<v Speaker 2>A whole bunch of life advice to round out the

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<v Speaker 2>ADHD episode, hopefully helpful for plenty of neurotypical folks as well.

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<v Speaker 2>Once again, donations went to multiple places, the National Multiple

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<v Speaker 2>Sclerosis Society and Multiple malomasimf at Maloma dot org. So

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<v Speaker 2>to become a patron and submit questions for future episodes.

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<v Speaker 2>You can join at patreon dot com slash Ologies. Everyone's

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<v Speaker 2>advice who submitted something for this even if I couldn't

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<v Speaker 2>fit it all in, but the whole thread is up

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<v Speaker 2>at patreon dot com slash ologies too, and more links

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<v Speaker 2>will be up at aliward dot com slash life Advice,

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<v Speaker 2>which we'll have links to the ADHD episodes as well.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you Aaron Talbot for admitting the Ologies podcast Facebook group,

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<v Speaker 2>Shannon and Bonnie for helping out, Noel Dilworth for scheduling,

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<v Speaker 2>Susan Hale for handling merch, and so many behind the

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<v Speaker 2>scene things. Ze Rodriguez Thomas heads up smologies the short

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<v Speaker 2>classroom friendly versions of Ologies classics. Stephen ray Morris helps

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<v Speaker 2>with that. Emily White of the Wordy makes transcripts. Caleb

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<v Speaker 2>Patten bleeps episodes and those are up for free at

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<v Speaker 2>eliward dot com slash Ologies dash Extras along with the transcripts.

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<v Speaker 2>Kelly Dwyer makes the website and can make yours too,

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<v Speaker 2>and big thanks to lead editor and road trip Buddy.

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<v Speaker 2>Also professional husband Jarret Sleeper of mind Gi Media for

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<v Speaker 2>helping get these out of the door, even on the

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<v Speaker 2>hardest hardest weeks.

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<v Speaker 3>Tore it, got it.

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<v Speaker 2>He's sitting on my nephew's futon right now. Nick Dorvern

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<v Speaker 2>made the theme music and if you stick around to

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<v Speaker 2>the end, I tell you a secret. And this week's okay.

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<v Speaker 2>So hmm, what's going on board? It's been a.

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<v Speaker 3>Pretty rough couple of weeks.

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<v Speaker 2>We've had some emergency family health stuff that's come up

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<v Speaker 2>with my dad's cancer, and it's been really really tough,

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<v Speaker 2>and I really need to be here for my folks.

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<v Speaker 2>So thank you to everyone who listens for making that

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<v Speaker 2>possible to make this for my sister's guest bedroom at

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<v Speaker 2>you know, one twenty six in the morning, as a

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<v Speaker 2>privilege to be able to do that.

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<v Speaker 3>And I've said before.

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<v Speaker 2>That I feel like a hollow mannequin filled with bees sometimes.

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<v Speaker 2>But the last two weeks have been really really, really

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<v Speaker 2>really hard. Some of the hardest moments and I have

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<v Speaker 2>felt very much like a hollow mannequin filled with bees.

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<v Speaker 2>And this week I was there were hard moments where

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<v Speaker 2>I just kept thinking, just smoke the bees.

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<v Speaker 3>Just smoke the bees.

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<v Speaker 2>Because when honey bees get scared, they emit pheromones to

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<v Speaker 2>communicate with each other. And the reason beekeepers who smoke

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<v Speaker 2>to calm them is to prevent the smell of alarm.

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<v Speaker 2>So in times of high anxiety lately, I've just pictured

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<v Speaker 2>like smoking my bees and just calming them down and

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<v Speaker 2>just getting through whatever shit is coming away. So just

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<v Speaker 2>onward and yeah, thanks for the last couple of weeks

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<v Speaker 2>of everyone being patient. All right, worker bees, Remember to rest,

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<v Speaker 2>be nice to yourself.

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<v Speaker 4>Bye bye, Thanks Dad, that's great advice.

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