Speaker 1: I was at an event this weekend for a friend
Speaker 1: at a friend's place, and I had this interesting conversation
Speaker 1: about trusting people and knowing who your friends are. Welcome
Speaker 1: to the Transformation Station podcast. I'm Christina, owner, operator, and
Speaker 1: founder of the Transformation Station, and this is where we
Speaker 1: talk about getting stronger while navigating real life. If you're
Speaker 1: trying to stay consistent through the ups and the downs
Speaker 1: and everywhere else in between, this is for you. Today's
Speaker 1: episode might also resonate with you because maybe you're friends
Speaker 1: with your coworkers, or maybe you also run a business
Speaker 1: and your clients are awesome and you don't really know
Speaker 1: where that line is or how exactly you're supposed to
Speaker 1: be showing up. And I when I first opened the
Speaker 1: Transformation Station, and this also goes back like far far,
Speaker 1: even when I was young in family business as well,
Speaker 1: because we always had staff and by the time I
Speaker 1: was fourteen years old, I was already training staff for
Speaker 1: our family business as well. So's there's a fine line
Speaker 1: between like who is your friend who wants what version
Speaker 1: of you? And like your co workers are your coworkers,
Speaker 1: And some people get friendly with their co workers when
Speaker 1: they don't really know who to trust and in the
Speaker 1: Transformation Station, I do have that. I have that with
Speaker 1: my incredible, fantastic, amazing members and also my incredible, fantastic,
Speaker 1: amazing staff as well. And this is something that a
Speaker 1: couple of years ago, before I grew into the new
Speaker 1: location at Cedar Point Drive, I was actually pretty closed off.
Speaker 1: And I've said this before. There was one time for
Speaker 1: three months I didn't even step foot into my own
Speaker 1: business because I was so like, I was distraught and
Speaker 1: I was overwhelmed. And thankfully that ship has sailed. I've
Speaker 1: had a lot of life changes since then, and I've
Speaker 1: learned from those. I learned how to pivot even more
Speaker 1: so now in that, but I've also learned how to
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say, like, be aware but also take a chance,
Speaker 1: because like, if my expectation of people are super high,
Speaker 1: especially like in friendships, then eventually people get hurt, right,
Speaker 1: But at the same time, it's learning how to not
Speaker 1: just let your like, not just let your got up.
Speaker 1: But building those walls sometimes comes naturally, especially when we've
Speaker 1: been hurt so many times. And I've had people come
Speaker 1: through the Transformation Station before and they're excited about fitness,
Speaker 1: they eat breathe, sleep, fitness, and all of a sudden
Speaker 1: that's what they're interested in. So a few months go
Speaker 1: by and they're like, this is the best ever and
Speaker 1: Christina is awesome, and I want Christina to be my
Speaker 1: best friend, and you have to come out with us
Speaker 1: and do this with us, and this is amazing, and
Speaker 1: I want to be in all of Christina's classes. And
Speaker 1: then all of a sudden, they just poof disappear. They
Speaker 1: don't answer my messages anymore, they don't want to be
Speaker 1: my friend anymore. Sometimes I still have a membership, sometimes
Speaker 1: end up canceling their membership, and it literally has nothing
Speaker 1: to do with me. I mean sometimes I think about that,
Speaker 1: of course, because you will when you have someone who's
Speaker 1: a coworker, let's say, at work, and all of a
Speaker 1: sudden they're not employed by that same business or profession
Speaker 1: or whichever, and then all of a sudden, you guys
Speaker 1: were super super close, and then that common denominator shifts
Speaker 1: because now you don't have the same employee. It's hard
Speaker 1: not to think like, oh, that person doesn't like me anymore.
Speaker 1: Did I do something wrong? Or is it because it
Speaker 1: was convenient at the time, Because that's something that they
Speaker 1: were interested in. And I have alliterated that so many
Speaker 1: times with people when they try to get close to me,
Speaker 1: I'm like, listen, it takes me a long long time
Speaker 1: for me to go to somebody's house. If I go
Speaker 1: to your house and you've invited me there and I've
Speaker 1: actually showed up and went, that's a pretty big deal
Speaker 1: because I don't even invite people to my own home,
Speaker 1: very very particular on that. I also don't go to
Speaker 1: anybody's houses. To me, that's like the whole another level.
Speaker 1: And it's hard because, like I think, I show up
Speaker 1: pretty transparently in my business. I'm not always super raw raw, raw,
Speaker 1: high energy. My I guess my medium energy sometimes with
Speaker 1: some people's high energy. But take what you need from that.
Speaker 1: So there's the like, I have not different versions of me,
Speaker 1: but I have different levels of intimacy of me. So
Speaker 1: the way I look at the different levels of intimacy
Speaker 1: is like my my standard level of intimacy is like
Speaker 1: for most people, right, like, hey, how are you doing?
Speaker 1: Share a few personal things. That's pretty much where it lies.
Speaker 1: People share some personal things with me and we call
Speaker 1: it a day, We go on, we high five whichever
Speaker 1: maybe even that base level, we're not even high fiving.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I like to high five. I'm a
Speaker 1: high fiver. I'm a handshaker, so I'm not overly a hugger.
Speaker 1: Unless someone is like, oh yeah, reel it in, I'm like, oh, okay, cool.
Speaker 1: I'm not offended by hugs, but I don't usually go
Speaker 1: for a hug first. And then there's different levels. So
Speaker 1: like my my friends, friends that I've known for a
Speaker 1: long time, I would kind of schedule those under a schedule.
Speaker 1: I would sort those under, let's say the acquaintance zone.
Speaker 1: And then there's of course, like my good friends, my
Speaker 1: close friends, my daily friends. There's some members that I
Speaker 1: have known for a very very long time. They may
Speaker 1: have a different level of intimacy with me based on
Speaker 1: we've known each other for longer, which means we've shared
Speaker 1: a little more intimate stories with each other because we've
Speaker 1: had time to learn each other and trust each other
Speaker 1: and understand each other as well. Then there's like my family.
Speaker 1: What level of intimacy is my family? They know me
Speaker 1: since forever, since I was born. And then there's there's
Speaker 1: my partner. There's Chris, and she gets every level of
Speaker 1: intimacy with me that I don't share with anybody else.
Speaker 1: So it's interesting to see like what those different levels
Speaker 1: are and where you can put your trust. And I've
Speaker 1: had people show up in the gym and they've been
Speaker 1: really excited and they want to be my friend, and
Speaker 1: then all of a sudden they just poof disappear. It's
Speaker 1: not my first rodeo, like that is something that is
Speaker 1: so common in business because it's like, firstly, and actually,
Speaker 1: I had this conversation with this person where I went
Speaker 1: to her home this past weekend and it was such
Speaker 1: a great time. I'm so happy that I went. And
Speaker 1: driving there, I'm I kid you not, Like this person
Speaker 1: is amazing and I know that I enjoy them, Like
Speaker 1: we have such a good friendship. We're very like transparent
Speaker 1: with each other. And I was walking into a place
Speaker 1: where I didn't know anybody. Thankfully, there was like three
Speaker 1: or four people that walked in after that I did know,
Speaker 1: so that was pretty cool. But like I met so
Speaker 1: many people and I shook hands and I gave some compliments,
Speaker 1: genuine compliments, and like it was a really fantastic time.
Speaker 1: But when I was driving there, I'm like, oh no,
Speaker 1: I'm going to say something that's going to ruin my
Speaker 1: image of what people think of me. I'm like, this
Speaker 1: is going to be no bueno. This is not going
Speaker 1: to be great because like one time I had a
Speaker 1: member and her and I became friends, and her partner
Speaker 1: at the time. I don't even know if they're still
Speaker 1: together because they ghosted me. But like I was invited
Speaker 1: with her to go to yoga. So I don't do yoga.
Speaker 1: I don't do yoga. I mean, like I like distretch
Speaker 1: and I like yoga. But it was a quiet class
Speaker 1: and there was like almost no music. I can't even
Speaker 1: tell you if there was music on. So I was
Speaker 1: in that class and there it was just a common
Speaker 1: drop in style class of like one of the city
Speaker 1: centers I was was years ago. I'm like, all right,
Speaker 1: whatever you asked me twenty five thousand times, I should
Speaker 1: probably accept your information, your invitation. So I went to
Speaker 1: do something that she wanted to do because it would
Speaker 1: make her happy. Well, it did not make her happy
Speaker 1: because when I met with her firstly, she shushed me
Speaker 1: joring yoga. I haven't shushed during yoga, which I'm like,
Speaker 1: I told you, But I wasn't like I wasn't having
Speaker 1: a conversation. I was like, ooh ah, like that just
Speaker 1: naturally comes out of my mouth because there's this was
Speaker 1: not a beginner yogurt, yo yogurt exactly my point. It
Speaker 1: was not beginner all body types friendly. It was this
Speaker 1: is what you do. There's no modifications, there's no moving
Speaker 1: away for your unique body. So I went and I
Speaker 1: did my best, and there's sometimes where I surprised myself.
Speaker 1: I was like, so eventually, I guess she's a more
Speaker 1: introverted person. She was embarrassed. Sorry, I told you I
Speaker 1: don't do yoga. You know me enough that you should
Speaker 1: not have asked me twenty five times to go to yoga.
Speaker 1: But I wanted to be a good friend because I
Speaker 1: don't always want to do what I want to do.
Speaker 1: I want to do what she wants to do. And honestly,
Speaker 1: I'm like, cool, I can go for a stretch. It
Speaker 1: was not a stretch. It was like a full blown activity.
Speaker 1: But I was there for a good time, and apparently
Speaker 1: I should not have been there for a good time.
Speaker 1: After when we're packing up, she was a little bit
Speaker 1: like stand offish, So I was trying to make conversation.
Speaker 1: We're walking to our cars. I'm go, yeah, how's things
Speaker 1: like how's your partner? How's your your pets? And she
Speaker 1: turned to me and she's like, why are you asking
Speaker 1: how my partner is? And I'm like, because that's like
Speaker 1: what you do? I think, like how are you? How's
Speaker 1: your pets? How's your animals? And then she's like do
Speaker 1: you like her? And I'm like wait, wait, sorry what
Speaker 1: I'm like, no, I'm just asking how she is? And
Speaker 1: I just asked how your your bunny is. You're not
Speaker 1: asking me if I like your bunny? Like what the fuck?
Speaker 1: I'm gonna mark this as explicit. So I was just
Speaker 1: like really caught off guard. And then she was like okay,
Speaker 1: whatever then and she literally stormed off. She emailed me
Speaker 1: the next day asked me to cancel her membership. Her
Speaker 1: then girlfriend at the time also emailed me to cancel
Speaker 1: her membership, and I was like, you're kidding me, right,
Speaker 1: Like all I wanted to do was make her happy
Speaker 1: by going to yoga, and honestly I didn't love it,
Speaker 1: but I was neutral during it because I wanted to
Speaker 1: be like, you know, like when you have a friendship,
Speaker 1: you can't always do it one person always wants to do.
Speaker 1: And now I realize that because I told her no
Speaker 1: so many times, I should have just stuck to my word.
Speaker 1: I don't know if I classify that under people pleasing,
Speaker 1: because that was like, that was a common like Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go. It wasn't like she forced me to.
Speaker 1: I accepted the invitation after how many times? And I
Speaker 1: know myself, but I thought maybe I would try something new.
Speaker 1: I haven't tried yoga in a very very very long time.
Speaker 1: So I'm like, you know what, I'll just go. It's
Speaker 1: no skin off my back. It might be a great thing.
Speaker 1: Maybe I'll fall in love with yoga. I most certainly
Speaker 1: did not, and that burnt me. I'm like, okay, so
Speaker 1: I've been to your house how many times just hanging out.
Speaker 1: You know, my spouse. I was in a relationship and
Speaker 1: still in the same relationship back in the day when
Speaker 1: that happened. So I was very very confused on that.
Speaker 1: So that's just one of the very many stories that
Speaker 1: have have happened. Sometimes it's not as like big and
Speaker 1: like such like a detailed story. And I've actually never
Speaker 1: told anybody that story. Well Chris knows, of course, And
Speaker 1: like my mom but oh yeah, and a few, like
Speaker 1: of the coaches because I've told them they don't even
Speaker 1: know who that person is. Nobody really will because it
Speaker 1: was that long ago. But like, yeah, like there's sometimes
Speaker 1: it's a just a like a quiet type of fade
Speaker 1: away because they either liked me because they wanted to
Speaker 1: use my energy and my motivation because they wanted to
Speaker 1: get closer to their goals, and they thought that that's
Speaker 1: all it took. But then the nostalgic of fitness sometimes
Speaker 1: for some people, not everybody, but for some people that
Speaker 1: come in super hot, it starts to fade away. And
Speaker 1: it could fade away because their job changes. It could
Speaker 1: fade away because mainly like their their energy can change,
Speaker 1: or they're they have life milestones that change. A lot
Speaker 1: of people come in because they're getting married and then
Speaker 1: after the wedding they just kind of disappear. And like,
Speaker 1: I see that a lot, a lot a lot in fitness.
Speaker 1: Something that sticks out in my mind. This is actually
Speaker 1: a really fun story. There's someone that I I'm gonna
Speaker 1: say I because we're talking about levels of intimacy, a
Speaker 1: fellow business owner and we were acquaintances and I cheer
Speaker 1: her from a distance because we're on different sides of
Speaker 1: Barry and she cheers me and we're always on Instagram together.
Speaker 1: But her husband, she ordered him a suit and it
Speaker 1: was a skinny suit. It was a fantastic looking suit,
Speaker 1: and it was a couple sizes too small. So all
Speaker 1: of a sudden, I saw this person every single day
Speaker 1: and he made it pretty transparent. He's like, I'm here
Speaker 1: because I need to fit into my suit. And then
Speaker 1: as soon as the wedding happened, I was like, dude,
Speaker 1: where are you going, Like are you coming back? Because
Speaker 1: we got along super well and actually got along really
Speaker 1: well with with my spouse, with with Chris, so like
Speaker 1: they worked out really fantastic together and yeah, and then
Speaker 1: all of a sudden, he's like, nuh girl, Like I
Speaker 1: fit in my suit. I don't need to fit in
Speaker 1: my student anymore. Peace out. I'm like, okay, that's fine,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna miss you. But it was like a mutual thing.
Speaker 1: I was like, Nope, I don't I don't want to
Speaker 1: do that anymore. And that's pretty much it. Like he's
Speaker 1: still active on the outside of the gym, doing like
Speaker 1: everyday things, but he's no longer in the transformation station
Speaker 1: and there's no bad blood on that. Like I can
Speaker 1: say like, hey, I really appreciated his time with us,
Speaker 1: and he can say, hey, thanks, you did me very
Speaker 1: well because he fit in his suit and it looks fantastic.
Speaker 1: So like there's there's a common I guess respect for
Speaker 1: for people. But sometimes people people don't know that. Like
Speaker 1: they come into a business and they want the business
Speaker 1: version of you. They see you as sometimes the business
Speaker 1: or sometimes just the business owner, or they sometimes look
Speaker 1: at you like you're an object in the room and
Speaker 1: they don't realize like, oh, that's just the cost of business,
Speaker 1: but they don't realize that you are a person. You
Speaker 1: are someone who is navigating life outside of owning a
Speaker 1: business and life inside owning the business as well. Like me,
Speaker 1: I'm very involved in my business, which for a lot
Speaker 1: of business owners at this stage, they're not very involved
Speaker 1: in their business. So it's navigating like what is the
Speaker 1: business version of me and what is not? And I'm
Speaker 1: not going to sit here and cry about that because
Speaker 1: I know from when I was thirteen fourteen years old,
Speaker 1: because I trained my mom's staff, we became friends. Some
Speaker 1: of them watched me grow up. Some my mom's staff
Speaker 1: worked for her for over ten years. I don't know
Speaker 1: how I didn't. Oh, speaking of that, my mom just
Speaker 1: agreed to coming onto this podcast, So hold on to
Speaker 1: the table. It's going to be a very interesting one.
Speaker 1: Make sure you too in So, yeah, it's it's like
Speaker 1: I learned that from when I was young, because I
Speaker 1: also saw this happen with my mom as well, Like
Speaker 1: you make friendships. Your staff are awesome. If I didn't
Speaker 1: believe in my staff, they wouldn't be here. So of
Speaker 1: course I like them. Of course I enjoy them. So
Speaker 1: it's interesting. And because we are such a small group,
Speaker 1: a lot of people in the workplace, they automatically if
Speaker 1: they have let's say, a corporate background, or they're used
Speaker 1: to working for like a union business, there's they're used
Speaker 1: to having like all these different levels of seniority and
Speaker 1: who's mean to who, and who loves each other and
Speaker 1: who gets who gets along and who goes for wine
Speaker 1: after work or beers or whatever the cases. But in
Speaker 1: this small business, we don't have that because I am
Speaker 1: involved in there, and the our employees here are fantastic.
Speaker 1: So it's like, there's not like that weird, like he said,
Speaker 1: she said, And when like a client goes to a business,
Speaker 1: let's say a big box business or whichever. They can
Speaker 1: start like kind of like putting their little hands in
Speaker 1: there and trying to like twist things and be like,
Speaker 1: oh oh. Then all of a sudden you have a
Speaker 1: group of ten staff that don't like each other because
Speaker 1: they let their clientele walk all over them and complain
Speaker 1: and put an ego when the other person's head to
Speaker 1: blow them up. But when that happens, it doesn't happen
Speaker 1: very often at all, very very very scarce. But when
Speaker 1: that happens and someone says, well, I like this person
Speaker 1: as an instructor and not this person. I like you
Speaker 1: as an instructor and not that person, don't forget I
Speaker 1: own the business and I need our coaches and our instructors,
Speaker 1: and our front desk staff and our ambassadors to run
Speaker 1: the business. So when someone comes up to me and
Speaker 1: they say, hey, that was a great class. You're welcome,
Speaker 1: thank you, that's awesome, I am so thankful. This used
Speaker 1: to happen back in the day, but I changed how
Speaker 1: I respond to some of the feedback because I will
Speaker 1: not tear down my own team with my own hands.
Speaker 1: So when someone comes a me like, Oh, you're such
Speaker 1: a good instructor. Oh, you're the best instructor. I'm like,
Speaker 1: I'm really glad that you enjoyed my class. Everyone here
Speaker 1: is making the same pizza recipe, and I'm not going
Speaker 1: to let that ego go to my head and then
Speaker 1: be like, oh, I'm the best instructor. I don't want
Speaker 1: to be my best instructor. I want all of us
Speaker 1: to be the best instructor. I want every single member
Speaker 1: to be able to go to every single person's class
Speaker 1: and have a freaking fantastic time. That is the goal.
Speaker 1: There is no showboating. There's no stick with me on
Speaker 1: this day, stick with me on that day. It's like, no,
Speaker 1: we can go anywhere throughout the schedule and we know
Speaker 1: we're going to have a great time because we're all
Speaker 1: making the same pizza recipe and we're all friends under
Speaker 1: the Transformation Station umbrella, and don't been like yay, we're
Speaker 1: all friends, dohdory. Life is good. Lee la la la
Speaker 1: le la. There's sometimes whe're like, Okay, this happened, we
Speaker 1: got a snip this in the butt, let's talk about
Speaker 1: it all right, cool. There's different perspectives being shared. There's
Speaker 1: sometimes some of our staff, doesn't matter, ambassador's coaches, front desk, whatever.
Speaker 1: Sometimes they'll come up to me and they'll bring something
Speaker 1: to my attention that they think needs to change, and
Speaker 1: I'll be like, okay, explain that to me, and they'll
Speaker 1: tell me. I'm like Nope, absolutely not. I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: I'm like, let me explain to you why. And I
Speaker 1: will explain to them why. I like, oh, okay, I
Speaker 1: didn't understand that perspective. Or oh, actually, before your time here,
Speaker 1: we did try that didn't work. But sometimes I'm like, hey,
Speaker 1: you know what, we tried that before your time here.
Speaker 1: Times have changed. Let me put that in the brain bank.
Speaker 1: Let's see if I can implement that as a pop up,
Speaker 1: or see if there's let me just talk about it.
Speaker 1: Because I'm a talker. Let's see what kind of conversation
Speaker 1: I can bring from this. If the general conversation is
Speaker 1: ninety five percent of like, no, try again, then we're
Speaker 1: not going to try it. If ninety five percent of
Speaker 1: the conversation is, oh, yeah, you know what, that's a
Speaker 1: pretty good idea. Okay, We're we're going to try that.
Speaker 1: And there's sometimes like hey, I never thought about that, perspective,
Speaker 1: Thank you kindly, because I'm only as good as the
Speaker 1: members that we have in it, and I'm only as
Speaker 1: good as my teammates that are also coming alongside me
Speaker 1: for the bigger vision. It cannot be a one person show.
Speaker 1: So when I have different friendships that develop, it's hard.
Speaker 1: Like I've had coaches that no longer coach for me anymore,
Speaker 1: and we're still cheering for each other because that is
Speaker 1: the type of relationship that I like to build. I
Speaker 1: like to be like, oh, you know what, I'm not
Speaker 1: going to say you were a horrible coach. Okay, there
Speaker 1: was a couple coaches that made people cry, and I
Speaker 1: would still say that's not a proper fit under our umbrella.
Speaker 1: Definitely freaking not. You take that attitude into another space
Speaker 1: where that's going to be celebrated because you're probably going
Speaker 1: to be a fantastic coach over there. But under this umbrella,
Speaker 1: this year does not fly. Try again, love you by.
Speaker 1: Like there's when I had one coach and it was
Speaker 1: just not great and it was just for a hot
Speaker 1: second and she made people cry and she wasn't very nice.
Speaker 1: She was trying to be nice, but she didn't really
Speaker 1: know how to be nice. I guess in she was
Speaker 1: tre people that she didn't have the experience training the
Speaker 1: way that I wanted it to be. So she came
Speaker 1: in and she had her own agenda of how she
Speaker 1: wanted people to move in her classes. And there was
Speaker 1: so many people that like left crying. They would call me,
Speaker 1: they walked out of the class. It was like I
Speaker 1: wasn't there because when I was there, when she was
Speaker 1: teaching classes, it seemed like it was okay. But when
Speaker 1: I was gone, it was really, really, really super not okay.
Speaker 1: And when she came in and I talked with her
Speaker 1: a few times to try to fix this, and it
Speaker 1: just it wasn't registering to her. I'm not going to
Speaker 1: say she was trying to be malicious, because she very
Speaker 1: much so wasn't. And she actually asked me for a
Speaker 1: thing for her. She ended up going back to school
Speaker 1: for some fitness stuff and she asked me to check
Speaker 1: over some of her work and I'm like, yeah, no problem,
Speaker 1: And she asked me for an interview as like a
Speaker 1: gym owner. I'm like, yeah, girl, I got your back,
Speaker 1: don't worry about it. It just wasn't a good fit
Speaker 1: for the transformation station. But I remember sitting down with her,
Speaker 1: and there's sometimes I think I say things and I
Speaker 1: try to be kind and I'm growing now and thinking
Speaker 1: about what comes out of my mouth. Sometimes not when
Speaker 1: i'm teaching classes, because that just ends up being really funny,
Speaker 1: but when I have to sit down and talk business
Speaker 1: with someone, I try to make sure that I'm just
Speaker 1: laying it down on the table and I'm not throwing
Speaker 1: my words at that person because that's not kind and
Speaker 1: I wouldn't like anyone to talk to me like that.
Speaker 1: So I sat down with her and I'm like, you
Speaker 1: know what, Listen, We've gone through this quite a few times.
Speaker 1: This doesn't seem to be a good fit. How do
Speaker 1: you feel about it? And she's like yeah, like I
Speaker 1: can kind of sense that they don't really like how
Speaker 1: I coach the classes. I'm like, yeah, we've tried to
Speaker 1: go over this. I'm like, so this is going to
Speaker 1: be your notice And she said to me, She's like okay,
Speaker 1: She's like, so do you mind if I finish off
Speaker 1: the next week or so? Or I think she asked
Speaker 1: me for two weeks and I'm like okay, I'm like so,
Speaker 1: And she didn't work there long enough that there was
Speaker 1: like that probation period or whatever. She's still technically in
Speaker 1: the probation period. And no, she wasn't, because this is
Speaker 1: what happened next. No, okay, I stand corrected. Anyway, I
Speaker 1: gave her some hours. I gave her some time. I'm
Speaker 1: pretty sure I ended up paying her and taking her
Speaker 1: off the schedule right away because I didn't want to
Speaker 1: subject the members to this style of coaching anymore. And
Speaker 1: she's like, do you mind if I tell everybody and
Speaker 1: get all their information? And I'm like, no, Like you're
Speaker 1: not allowed to do that anywhere firstly, And I'm like, like,
Speaker 1: if you want to tell people you're leaving, like that's
Speaker 1: totally up to you. Like this isn't this isn't you
Speaker 1: as a coach that they were showing up for. It's
Speaker 1: not your gym. They were showing up for the gym
Speaker 1: and the classes. So I was like, okay, that's fine,
Speaker 1: And there was definitely no relationships that were built there.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, I'm like, you only worked here for
Speaker 1: like two months, and this is how I remember. So
Speaker 1: I stand corrected now that I'm telling the story, I'm like,
Speaker 1: you only worked here for like two months. You want
Speaker 1: to get everyone's information for what reason. And she lived
Speaker 1: out of town, so it's not like she was going
Speaker 1: to try to hurdle them to go what ever. And
Speaker 1: then she's like, actually, i've been working for you for
Speaker 1: six months. And I looked at her and I'm like,
Speaker 1: you've been ruining my business for six months. And then
Speaker 1: I just like I was like, oh shit, and then
Speaker 1: I started laughing, and then she was laughing and she
Speaker 1: was like, yeah, I've worked here for six months. I'm like,
Speaker 1: oh okay, I'm like, wow, time flies. I didn't realize
Speaker 1: it was that long. And then we parted ways, and
Speaker 1: that's what it was. I did give her pay after
Speaker 1: that because I know that she needed it. Maybe not
Speaker 1: the number one business decision that I made back then,
Speaker 1: but she was going through some of her own shit
Speaker 1: in her own life and I did not want that
Speaker 1: to be like an abrupt, like full stop. So yeah,
Speaker 1: so that's it wasn't necessarily just a part time gig
Speaker 1: for her because she had other work. It was right
Speaker 1: now that was the only gig she had and she
Speaker 1: really needed the finances, so that was like a whole
Speaker 1: nother thing. But there's no animosity and like we've had
Speaker 1: like a couple of Zooma instructors come through, and we're
Speaker 1: still friends to this day. And even though we have
Speaker 1: one specific zoom In constructor that I'm thinking of, she
Speaker 1: went into more of like the fitness bikini competitor zone.
Speaker 1: And she lives out of town and she's not teaching
Speaker 1: Zoomba anymore. Was she a fantastic constructor? She sure was.
Speaker 1: At the end of our time together when her interest changed.
Speaker 1: Was there some scarcity in maybe calling in sick when
Speaker 1: I know that you weren't sick. Yes, I know I'm
Speaker 1: not dubs on my first rodeo. But then the interest
Speaker 1: changed and I noticed that. So I had the conversation.
Speaker 1: I'm like, hey, I just realized, like I know, you're
Speaker 1: going in a different direction in your fitness journey. And
Speaker 1: then she's like yeah, She's like I don't really want
Speaker 1: to be teaching anymore. I'm like that's okay. I'm like,
Speaker 1: just come and tell me to just come and talk
Speaker 1: to me. And she's like, okay, do you mind. I'm like,
Speaker 1: I don't mind. Man, Like we're good. I'm like, all
Speaker 1: I need to know is that if you're going to
Speaker 1: show up to your classes or not because I can't
Speaker 1: be told three hours before class starts that I gotta
Speaker 1: teach because I'm exhausted and I did not plan. So
Speaker 1: that's the past for me. Unless someone's actually sick then
Speaker 1: of course, But in that case I was like no.
Speaker 1: But like she still posts on Instagram. We're still like
Speaker 1: high fiving each other from a distance. She still wears
Speaker 1: I saw like one of her posts when she was
Speaker 1: at the gym that she trains in out of town
Speaker 1: closer to where she lives. And she has like this
Speaker 1: hot pink Transformation Station hoodies that we had branded like
Speaker 1: nough like three years ago maybe or even before then.
Speaker 1: But she still wears it, and she still has like
Speaker 1: her shaker cup and I'm like, oh cool, I spy
Speaker 1: with my little eye TTS sweater and she'd be like
Speaker 1: I was hoping you would see that. So, like a
Speaker 1: lot of people in their mind, because of their own
Speaker 1: experiences with big, gigantic workplaces and maybe their unionized workplace
Speaker 1: is they're used to having that animosity when somebody leaves
Speaker 1: or if someone gets told like, hey, I don't think
Speaker 1: this is a good fit anymore, And there's sometimes that
Speaker 1: that's gonna be okay, Like if someone were to come
Speaker 1: up to me and say, hey, I don't know if
Speaker 1: this is a good fit anymore, I'm going to respect
Speaker 1: them so much for having that conversation with me, instead
Speaker 1: of being like, oh, I'm just gonna not show up,
Speaker 1: or I'm just gonna stick it out until I get fired,
Speaker 1: or like some other crap like that, or until Christina
Speaker 1: has the conversation. I think that's because a lot of
Speaker 1: people are used to if they quit something, that there's
Speaker 1: bad blood. But in my opinion, I've lived through hiring, firing,
Speaker 1: having hard conversations literally since I was fourteen years old.
Speaker 1: And I remember when I was young, I was just
Speaker 1: sitting there and I had one of my mom's new hires.
Speaker 1: I was training her and she wasn't getting something, and
Speaker 1: I was like, we're gonna go over this until you
Speaker 1: get it. If you want to take a break, we
Speaker 1: can return to it. I'm like, but I have patience.
Speaker 1: I don't expect you to learn something within ten minutes,
Speaker 1: Like come on, now, give yourself some grace. And she
Speaker 1: wasn't getting it, and she was getting frustrated in herself,
Speaker 1: and she looked at me and she just tore a
Speaker 1: strip off of me. She's like, you're a child. You're
Speaker 1: younger than my kid, and you're telling me what to do.
Speaker 1: And she picked up her stuff and she walked out
Speaker 1: of the restaurant. I was like, oh, okay, I didn't
Speaker 1: even see us as an age gap because when I
Speaker 1: was fourteen years old, I was really thirty five, and
Speaker 1: when now I'm thirty nine years old, I'm really like
Speaker 1: fifty nine. So it's like, I hope that physically and
Speaker 1: longevity wise, I will always be my age and younger
Speaker 1: in my flexibility and mobility. Perhaps that's the stigma. I'm
Speaker 1: going to work real hard to make sure that I
Speaker 1: am fit and strong and healthy and pliable and flexible
Speaker 1: throughout my many days. But like you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: Like I was doing more older people things when I
Speaker 1: was in my young teens, and now that I am
Speaker 1: still thirty nine years old, I'm still doing older people things.
Speaker 1: So like it's it's interesting because some people will project
Speaker 1: based on what they know, and like if someone leaves
Speaker 1: a gym or leaves a business, then automatically sometimes you're like, oh,
Speaker 1: I don't want to talk to that person anymore because
Speaker 1: a they're either embarrassed, like I remember someone. I was like,
Speaker 1: this is an old, old friend and this is before
Speaker 1: I own the transferation station and I had a membership
Speaker 1: at the YMCA. I was pretty young at that time too,
Speaker 1: and I was like twenties, maybe before I had my
Speaker 1: first location. And I saw like one of my friends
Speaker 1: and I was like, what are you doing here. I'm like,
Speaker 1: I've never seen you here and he's like, I know,
Speaker 1: that's why I'm canceling my membership. I walked in to
Speaker 1: cancel my membership. I was like, oh, okay cool. He's like, yeah, no,
Speaker 1: I'd rather just stay at home and eat snacks. I'm like,
Speaker 1: oh okay cool. Then we met up like not long
Speaker 1: after that with a bunch of friends. We didn't eve
Speaker 1: talk about we didn't say anything like. It wasn't like
Speaker 1: it was awkward or weird. But there's sometimes when people
Speaker 1: leave a gym, they automatically feel like they're breaking up
Speaker 1: with a friend and then they just go on about
Speaker 1: their way. Like there's recently I sent it like maybe
Speaker 1: three people on different days. I sent them like a
Speaker 1: video message, and I don't really like doing that, but
Speaker 1: I really wanted them to know, like, Hey, I'm thinking
Speaker 1: about you. And when I sent them the video. I
Speaker 1: was like, hey, so and so, I said their name.
Speaker 1: I hope summer's treating you well. I'm just thinking of you,
Speaker 1: especially during this blah blah blah, and I said something
Speaker 1: that really reminded me of them, and they gave me
Speaker 1: like a thumbs up or they liked the video message.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, right on, okay, cool. Then there's
Speaker 1: some people that they'll be like, hey, Christina, I just
Speaker 1: drove by the gym and I have such amazing memories.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much. Am I cool? Thank you? I
Speaker 1: don't ask them how are you going to come back?
Speaker 1: Because they know they know what I do, and they
Speaker 1: know where I'm at. They want to come back, they
Speaker 1: can come back. But when they said that, I was like, oh, amazing,
Speaker 1: thank you so much. Your windows look fantastic. You didn't
Speaker 1: have those on your other location. I'm like, thank you
Speaker 1: for recognizing the windows look amazing. High five to you.
Speaker 1: I love you so much. I hope life is treating
Speaker 1: you well. And that's it. So it's it's really hard,
Speaker 1: Like it's easy for me to let some of these
Speaker 1: different things make me hard because at one time I
Speaker 1: did go hard and when I decided to expand the
Speaker 1: gym and really focus on my own mental health and
Speaker 1: my own emotional intelligence and learning from all of these
Speaker 1: lessons all put together. Some of them incredible lessons like
Speaker 1: I have shared, and some of them that leave me
Speaker 1: feeling ew that didn't feel so great. I've had people
Speaker 1: yelled in my face and stomp out the door because
Speaker 1: they asked me a question and I gave them the
Speaker 1: truth and it turns out that the question was sarcasm.
Speaker 1: If you've ever said a joke to me at the
Speaker 1: gym since I was a kid. And you know why
Speaker 1: I think this happens is I don't register sarcasm because
Speaker 1: my family, like I grew up my mom as a
Speaker 1: single parent, and I grew up very Italian, and I,
Speaker 1: like I always say, like, you try to hurt my feelings.
Speaker 1: I was raised by my mom. And that's not even
Speaker 1: trying to make my mom sound like a bad person.
Speaker 1: That's just the reality. It's like you're trying to hurt
Speaker 1: my feelings. But this is not how my family ever behaved.
Speaker 1: We're used to saying the truth all the time, so
Speaker 1: like we don't sugarcoat things. Things are not they're not
Speaker 1: handed on like a silver platter to be like, oh,
Speaker 1: this is what you should change. It's Christina, what are
Speaker 1: you doing with your life right now? This is like
Speaker 1: I'm saying this in my words, I would say this
Speaker 1: is absolute garbage, but there was a lot more swearing
Speaker 1: in there, and it's like, stop right now, that's stupid.
Speaker 1: You're being dumb. I'm like, oh, okay, sorry about that.
Speaker 1: Or when I was younger, I would fight back and
Speaker 1: then my mom would get really mad because I'm like,
Speaker 1: you are just mad because I'm a smaller version of you,
Speaker 1: and history repeats itself and now I'm doing to you
Speaker 1: what you did to your parents when they owned a
Speaker 1: business in a restaurant and a strip club. Snooze you lose.
Speaker 1: But now that I'm a little bit older and she's
Speaker 1: a little bit older, we're actually getting along really well,
Speaker 1: which I'm really happy to hear, like it's really neat.
Speaker 1: So like I think time and experience really it changes people.
Speaker 1: And honestly, when I was twenty years old, twenty five
Speaker 1: years old, even thirty years old, like I had a
Speaker 1: lot to learn and I still have so much to learn.
Speaker 1: And I think when we let those things harden us.
Speaker 1: For me, like when I hardened myself. I wasn't enjoying life,
Speaker 1: and like there's I can look at people and I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: that's a forever friend. And I can look at people
Speaker 1: and say, hey, that's questionable. And I can look at
Speaker 1: some people and say that's not anything other than just business.
Speaker 1: So like, because I can reciprocate there, I'm feeling what
Speaker 1: they're putting down and that's going to be okay, because
Speaker 1: not everybody has to be a friend. Like people join
Speaker 1: a gym because they want to be like, they want
Speaker 1: to get stronger, they want to be more fit than
Speaker 1: when they walk through the door. And there's some people
Speaker 1: that they're really looking for friends and they're looking for
Speaker 1: that the friendship, and they're looking for something to be exciting.
Speaker 1: And then there's some people that are like, nope, I
Speaker 1: pick you. Do we just become best friends? Yes, we did,
Speaker 1: And if time changes and they leave the gym, we're
Speaker 1: still friends and vice versa. I mean, like, I've had
Speaker 1: people that I didn't think we're going to be part
Speaker 1: of my personal friendship circle and fast forward three, four, five, six,
Speaker 1: seven years later and they are. Because somewhere along the lines,
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, I can let my guard down. But
Speaker 1: I've learned like if you always let these bad experiences
Speaker 1: is like ruin having trust for people, I wouldn't be
Speaker 1: able to live as free as I do. And also,
Speaker 1: like I I don't want to say it like I
Speaker 1: go into life unapologetic. I feel like I go into
Speaker 1: life very transparent and I know who I am. I
Speaker 1: know what I'm good at. It's taking me and I
Speaker 1: know what I'm not great at either, but it's taking
Speaker 1: me like a really long time to finally be secure
Speaker 1: in who I am. And there's sometimes when things happen,
Speaker 1: I'm like, hey, that person's ghosting me now, and before
Speaker 1: they didn't, What did I do wrong? And I think
Speaker 1: that for like a split second, and I'm like, oh, well,
Speaker 1: I guess it's not a meat problem because they haven't
Speaker 1: said anything. So I'm just going to assume that it's
Speaker 1: nothing to do with me. Because most of the time,
Speaker 1: everyone has their own shit going on in their life,
Speaker 1: and there's sometimes it just doesn't fit, like I just said,
Speaker 1: their interest has changed, or maybe they're sick, or maybe
Speaker 1: they're on vacation, or maybe they're dealing with a lot
Speaker 1: of heavy things in their life, or maybe they just
Speaker 1: don't like me anymore, and that's just gonna have to
Speaker 1: be okay. It's just in that pivoting point. Like I know,
Speaker 1: like some people say like, oh, you don't know oh
Speaker 1: anybody in apology. You don't have to tell anybody anything.
Speaker 1: You don't have to have the conversation, you don't have
Speaker 1: to answer the messages, you don't have to do any
Speaker 1: of those things if you care about people. In my opinion,
Speaker 1: if someone asks me something, I'm gonna explain it. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna tell them why. I don't do my very best
Speaker 1: not to over explain because that's something that I have
Speaker 1: really I'm gonna say struggled with because I want someone
Speaker 1: to really truly understand how much that I'm telling them.
Speaker 1: But if it comes out of my mouth, it's the truth. Period.
Speaker 1: So like when people ask me to go somewhere, I'm like,
Speaker 1: that's a no. I don't go anywhere. I don't go
Speaker 1: to people's houses. And I've said that a lot. I
Speaker 1: don't go to people's houses. If it's someone that asks
Speaker 1: me something, I'm like, okay, yes, I would love to
Speaker 1: do that. I will be there, or it's oh, I
Speaker 1: have another commitment if I actually do have another commitment.
Speaker 1: I'm also a firm believer, Like I tell myself this
Speaker 1: all the time that people only lie when they're afraid.
Speaker 1: And sometimes people are like, oh, I'm just I just
Speaker 1: told them a white lie because I don't want to
Speaker 1: hurt their feelings. I'm like, oh, okay, I'm not going
Speaker 1: to do that. If there's something that someone asks me
Speaker 1: and I know the truth and it's not my truth
Speaker 1: to tell people, I'm going to say you need to
Speaker 1: go to the source. You need to go ask that person.
Speaker 1: If someone asks me a question, I'm gonna answer it.
Speaker 1: If I'm afraid it's going to hurt their feelings, I'm
Speaker 1: still going to answer the question because then I give
Speaker 1: them the power to make a decision of what they're
Speaker 1: going to do. So that's why if someone asked me
Speaker 1: a sarcastic question, or they make a joke and I
Speaker 1: don't understand. You might have to explain a joke to
Speaker 1: me three times and you think it's not funny, but
Speaker 1: I'm just understanding it for the first time, so I'm
Speaker 1: still laughing because now it's clicked and it is actually funny,
Speaker 1: and so they're like, oh, it's not even funny. Anymore.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't know about you, but I just
Speaker 1: found out what the joke meant. So I think that's hilarious.
Speaker 1: And then I go on about my day, like I
Speaker 1: feel like, if we hold things so tightly and hurt
Speaker 1: feelings so tightly, it's gonna like it's it hardens the
Speaker 1: outside of us. And to me, like life is so beautiful,
Speaker 1: Like there's so many people that I meet on a
Speaker 1: daily basis and I learned so much from them. Like
Speaker 1: I had one of our members, she's a member now
Speaker 1: for five years. She's incredible, and she said to me,
Speaker 1: She's like, oh, you're asking about this book. I have it.
Speaker 1: Let me bring it for you. And I said, girl,
Speaker 1: I will not return that book to you, because you
Speaker 1: lent me two other books like three years ago, and
Speaker 1: I read them and they're fantastic, but I don't know
Speaker 1: where they are. Or there's one book that another friend
Speaker 1: let me my dog chewed it. I shared that story
Speaker 1: today at the gym. Actually, I was like, oh, I try.
Speaker 1: I had a hard time getting into that book. I
Speaker 1: read the first half a chapter probably like five or
Speaker 1: six times over the last few years, and I keep
Speaker 1: putting this book back, but I'm like all the other
Speaker 1: books that this person has lent me, I have loved them.
Speaker 1: So I really wanted to read the book and I
Speaker 1: just couldn't get into it. So I'm like, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: read like four pages past when I normally would stop,
Speaker 1: and I did. I'm like, this is shit. I'm like whatever,
Speaker 1: I'll go back to it. I put it down. I
Speaker 1: got locked into my home office and we have a puppy,
Speaker 1: and that puppy took that book and just chewed it
Speaker 1: to smithereens. If it wasn't for me piecing the colors
Speaker 1: of the cover of the book together, I would not
Speaker 1: even know what book it was. So I guess he decided,
Speaker 1: you don't like this book. I don't like this book,
Speaker 1: let me destroy it for you and I'll take care
Speaker 1: of it. So I couldn't even tell you what that
Speaker 1: book was called at this point, who knows. All I
Speaker 1: know is that it wasn't pretty. But like if and oh,
Speaker 1: the remaining of that story is this person brought me
Speaker 1: her book. She's like, I don't expect my book's backstory.
Speaker 1: And she's an avid reader, and I always ask her
Speaker 1: different questions, and I like when she recommends a book
Speaker 1: to me because she has fantastic taste and so many things.
Speaker 1: And I went into the gym today and one of
Speaker 1: the coaches actually told me, oh, so and so was
Speaker 1: here and dropped off a book for you. It's in
Speaker 1: the office. And she also sent me a message on Instagram.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, my gosh, that's so nice. To
Speaker 1: the gym today. I taught my step class and my
Speaker 1: stretch in my mobility plate style class core and is
Speaker 1: a pop up class. It doesn't really have a set name,
Speaker 1: but it was great. And I went into the workshop
Speaker 1: room and I picked up the book. I stuck it
Speaker 1: in my computer bag. I came home, I worked a
Speaker 1: little bit, I had a bath, and I cracked open
Speaker 1: the book and I'm like, yes, this is gonna be great.
Speaker 1: I read the first chapter more than the first chapter,
Speaker 1: and it is actually fantastic. But it was so nice
Speaker 1: for her to lend me this book. And like the
Speaker 1: if that was like someone that I didn't really know, well,
Speaker 1: I would absolutely not have accepted that book because if
Speaker 1: I destroyed it or I didn't return it, that person
Speaker 1: might be very upset with me. And then it becomes like, oh, Christina,
Speaker 1: I lent her something and she ruined my stuff, so
Speaker 1: like it's something even just as small as that, and
Speaker 1: like that might relate to you as well, to be like, oh,
Speaker 1: I borrowed something of my friends and they never got
Speaker 1: it back and I lost it. So now I don't
Speaker 1: even talk to that person anymore because I'm embarrassed. But
Speaker 1: when we hold onto things like that so tightly, it
Speaker 1: can truly be what's the word, it can truly be
Speaker 1: discouraging to making friends, especially as an adult. It's hard
Speaker 1: to make adult friendships. Where do we make friendships? At
Speaker 1: the gym? Me too? And I'd always joke I'm like,
Speaker 1: I go to work, and I go home, and like
Speaker 1: once in a while I'll leave my house and go
Speaker 1: grocery shopping or meet up with like the handful of
Speaker 1: friends that I do have on one hand, because I
Speaker 1: don't usually go places unless I trust people, But now
Speaker 1: I'm starting to go and experience things, and like I've
Speaker 1: gone to do mud Girl two June's in a row,
Speaker 1: two years in a row. They're in June, and like
Speaker 1: that's something I normally would not have done because I'm like, nope,
Speaker 1: I have to keep a wall. I don't want anybody
Speaker 1: in my wall. But this is how I've been living
Speaker 1: in the last couple of years. I'm going to say
Speaker 1: is it's like, Okay, you know what, I'm going to
Speaker 1: put down my wall, and you are welcome to be
Speaker 1: in my space, and you are welcome to exit my space,
Speaker 1: and we can learn stuff from each other. Sometimes. And
Speaker 1: someone said this to me once, actually was it was Amanda.
Speaker 1: She's a member at the gym. She's phenomenal, she's been
Speaker 1: around for a very very long time. She's also a friend,
Speaker 1: and she's like, people come into your life for a reason,
Speaker 1: a season or something else, or like to leave. I
Speaker 1: guess maybe a reason a season, oh, or a lesson
Speaker 1: or a blessing or something like that. Anyway, So that's
Speaker 1: something that I think of, even though it's all jambled
Speaker 1: up in my brain, I think of the context of that.
Speaker 1: I'm like, Okay, this person taught me this. This person
Speaker 1: taught me that. I've learned from these things. Sometimes I've
Speaker 1: lost friendships. Most of the friendships I've walked away from,
Speaker 1: and they know why. Sometimes it's just a lifestyle change,
Speaker 1: Like I no longer drink. So when I went to
Speaker 1: this weekend, when I went to my friend's home. It
Speaker 1: was a big party, and it was actually very tasteful
Speaker 1: and very very well done, and the people were so amazed.
Speaker 1: I should know because this person has such a good
Speaker 1: personality and such like a very nice like I don't know,
Speaker 1: she's just a really well rounded good and I should
Speaker 1: have known that. Of course, all of the extensions of
Speaker 1: her and all of her friends and family are very
Speaker 1: very very similar. So in that small time that I
Speaker 1: was there, I was like, these people are great, like
Speaker 1: super tasteful, but there was alcohol there and people were great.
Speaker 1: I was there in the afternoon into the evening and
Speaker 1: then I ended up coming home just about six thirty
Speaker 1: dogs feeding dogs, partner coming on dinner time from work.
Speaker 1: And also I don't drink, and I didn't even feel
Speaker 1: left out at all, like I had such a good time.
Speaker 1: Another gym member brought a couple of non alcoholic beverages
Speaker 1: that were like like fifty calorie low sugar, whatever it is,
Speaker 1: And normally I would have said no, and I'm like, yeah, sure,
Speaker 1: I'll try it. I've never had. I usually just drink
Speaker 1: water or like like a light sand pellegrino or whichever.
Speaker 1: And I was like, you know what, I'm going to
Speaker 1: try that. It looks really tasty, and it wasn't alcohol.
Speaker 1: I just don't like to drink. I don't like to
Speaker 1: lose control of myself. I used to partake periodically when
Speaker 1: I was like, I don't know, years ago, I just
Speaker 1: lost that taste for alcohol. And when I was in
Speaker 1: my fitness journey, and I was like, even when I
Speaker 1: was like through my my last marriage was very, very
Speaker 1: complicated and toxic and all those other things that people
Speaker 1: normally slapt with like it was my ex marriage or whatever,
Speaker 1: I don't say that about all my past relationships, so
Speaker 1: that there was very many, but that one I will
Speaker 1: definitely slap with that label. So I was hanging out
Speaker 1: with people that were more like her, and it was
Speaker 1: people that liked to party and people that like to drink,
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh, well, this is not what
Speaker 1: I like to do. So I lost some of those
Speaker 1: friends and it's like, okay, well that's just not my lifestyle.
Speaker 1: I don't want fitness and healthy living is literally my life.
Speaker 1: It's not just an interest to me. So when I
Speaker 1: tell you I don't drink, I'm not going home to
Speaker 1: get drunk that night. I just I don't partake. That's
Speaker 1: not what I love to do. Sobriety is my life,
Speaker 1: fitness is my life, life making money making money is
Speaker 1: my life because I got lots of bills to pay,
Speaker 1: and I got a lot of bills on my shoulders
Speaker 1: running a business that people are relying on me to pay,
Speaker 1: which they don't even know. But everything comes down to
Speaker 1: Christina paying the bills at the transformation station. So that's
Speaker 1: why I don't have late nights, because I know that
Speaker 1: I value my business and showing up more than I
Speaker 1: value sleeping until eleven o'clock. I just don't have that
Speaker 1: about me. And I'm not saying that to make anyone
Speaker 1: feel bad if they like to sleep until eleven o'clock
Speaker 1: or they do stay out late, because maybe that's where
Speaker 1: their priorities lie and that's what they like to do.
Speaker 1: I know people that run businesses that stay up until
Speaker 1: two o'clock in the morning, getting drunk hammered with their
Speaker 1: friends and they have other people opening their business and
Speaker 1: they don't even blink an eye and they're like, oh,
Speaker 1: that's my best life, and they're happy about that, and
Speaker 1: their business still runs properly. So I'm not throwing shade
Speaker 1: on that, but that's just not how I like to live.
Speaker 1: So if people have different lifestyles than me and they
Speaker 1: do like to do all of those things, well, don't
Speaker 1: invite me because I'm not going. But there's different parts
Speaker 1: of people because people are complex. If they want to
Speaker 1: catch a workout or they want to go do Like
Speaker 1: I'm not really a karaoke person. Usually think I love karaoke,
Speaker 1: but it usually happens at night time and I'm sleeping. So, like,
Speaker 1: there's certain things that I do like to go. We
Speaker 1: want to go to a farmer's market on the weekend,
Speaker 1: hit me up, man, I'm excited about that. You want
Speaker 1: to go for a walk, or you want to go
Speaker 1: run around the block, or you want to go kayaking,
Speaker 1: if you want to go shoot stuff, sure, as long
Speaker 1: as you have your own legal things, you'll be fine.
Speaker 1: So like that's kind of like where I'm at. So
Speaker 1: it's not that I don't like a person. It just
Speaker 1: depends am I gonna like doing what you like to do?
Speaker 1: And do you like what I'm doing? Because I don't
Speaker 1: like to force anything. So anyway, I'm going to wrap
Speaker 1: this up at the end of the day. I hope
Speaker 1: that you are able to find a piece of yourself
Speaker 1: that can trust other people and use use your discrepancy.
Speaker 1: Of course, I'm gonna say trust everybody. Go with your
Speaker 1: gut instinct. I've gone with my gut instinct and it's
Speaker 1: saved me a lot of prob And I've also ignored
Speaker 1: my gut instinct and that got me my last marriage. So, like,
Speaker 1: there's certain things where it's like, is this true? Is
Speaker 1: this not true? Is this good? Am I making this
Speaker 1: what I want it to be? Is this actually what
Speaker 1: it is? But I've learned that being aware and not
Speaker 1: keeping tally, but keeping tally, being aware and evaluating but
Speaker 1: also loosening up a little bit, that to me goes
Speaker 1: a very long way. So I hope you got something
Speaker 1: out of this episode today. I hope you are healthy, happy,
Speaker 1: and things go smoothly whatever it is that you're going through.
Speaker 1: I know we're at the end of August, some people
Speaker 1: are gearing up back to work. I hope everything runs
Speaker 1: very well for you and as smooth as able, is
Speaker 1: what I'm going to say. Catch you tomorrow, see you
Speaker 1: on the next episode.