WEBVTT 1 00:00:04.080 --> 00:00:24.559 Canst, canst. It's not sorry. Can you feel that that place, 2 00:00:25.039 --> 00:00:30.440 that space where we're at right now, where time itself 3 00:00:30.640 --> 00:00:37.359 feels suspended. It's not a stillness of peace, but a 4 00:00:37.439 --> 00:00:44.039 point of potential waiting to be activated. The kind of 5 00:00:44.240 --> 00:00:48.759 silence that's inviting you to go deeper into yourself, into 6 00:00:48.799 --> 00:00:53.880 your internal world, into the dreams you've been carrying around 7 00:00:54.039 --> 00:00:58.399 with you since you've made it to this planet. It's 8 00:00:58.600 --> 00:01:05.400 the stillness before the storm, the quietness before you transcend 9 00:01:05.519 --> 00:01:12.319 to the next level, waiting at that threshold. It's in 10 00:01:12.400 --> 00:01:19.159 this stillness that change actually begins to take place. It's 11 00:01:19.200 --> 00:01:24.640 through a whisper, It's through a tiny decision to show 12 00:01:24.760 --> 00:01:30.480 up differently, speak differently, act differently, feel differently. If you're 13 00:01:30.640 --> 00:01:34.959 listening to this podcast right now, it's because you are 14 00:01:35.079 --> 00:01:39.239 aligned with the in between. You are standing at the 15 00:01:39.400 --> 00:01:45.079 door of your next reality, and it can feel like 16 00:01:45.159 --> 00:01:47.719 you're in the fog. It can feel like you're in 17 00:01:47.760 --> 00:01:53.879 a mystical place of unknowing, suspended. But this is not 18 00:01:54.640 --> 00:01:59.159 to hurt you. It is to prepare you. We've all 19 00:01:59.239 --> 00:02:01.280 been in this space before and we're going to be 20 00:02:01.359 --> 00:02:05.640 in it again. And this is a space between who 21 00:02:05.760 --> 00:02:12.439 we were in who we are becoming in the moments 22 00:02:12.479 --> 00:02:16.120 before we know, before we understand that there's a transformation 23 00:02:16.840 --> 00:02:20.360 about to take place, a new manifestation about to come in, 24 00:02:20.680 --> 00:02:25.000 a new reality waiting to flood our lives. We stand 25 00:02:25.199 --> 00:02:32.199 in this stillness. The unknown lies before us, and all 26 00:02:32.240 --> 00:02:36.319 we can do is lean into it. You want to 27 00:02:36.360 --> 00:02:40.400 try to control it, well, good luck, because our ceiling 28 00:02:40.520 --> 00:02:44.560 is God's floor, and there are certain seasons where we 29 00:02:44.759 --> 00:02:48.400 do not have total control over what's going on, but 30 00:02:48.479 --> 00:02:52.560 we can control the direction in which we shift. When 31 00:02:52.599 --> 00:02:56.680 the unknown lies before us. The best thing we can 32 00:02:56.759 --> 00:03:02.599 do is go a little bit slower, is listen. Listen 33 00:03:02.680 --> 00:03:06.520 instead of talk, lean in instead of run, Open up 34 00:03:06.520 --> 00:03:11.439 to the whispers our higher self is trying to download 35 00:03:11.479 --> 00:03:16.919 within our vessels. Listen to the pulse of the energetic universe, 36 00:03:17.520 --> 00:03:20.560 that quiet tension that just fills the air. You can 37 00:03:20.599 --> 00:03:24.199 feel a storm coming, you can feel when something's about 38 00:03:24.199 --> 00:03:27.000 to change. You can feel when you're on the brink 39 00:03:27.120 --> 00:03:33.800 of transformation. That space, it's energy that's waiting to be activated. 40 00:03:34.240 --> 00:03:40.360 This is liminal space, the edge of change, and this 41 00:03:41.199 --> 00:03:46.719 is a silence before your new reality. Congratulations, we are 42 00:03:46.800 --> 00:03:49.800 all manifesting twenty four to seven. But we don't realize 43 00:03:49.800 --> 00:03:52.960 it because we end up manifesting the same reality over 44 00:03:53.000 --> 00:03:56.000 and over and over and over again. If you now 45 00:03:56.080 --> 00:03:59.400 manifested the liminal space, the space in between, it means 46 00:03:59.439 --> 00:04:03.639 you actually already shifted something that got you these new results. 47 00:04:04.159 --> 00:04:07.960 You're already halfway there. Just keep going. Commit to this 48 00:04:08.120 --> 00:04:13.479 sacred practice of remembrance. Commit to the sacred practice of 49 00:04:13.599 --> 00:04:18.399 stepping into your power. This is a revolution. Every act, 50 00:04:18.639 --> 00:04:21.720 you are fighting the matrix. Instead of doing your life 51 00:04:21.720 --> 00:04:24.920 like everyone else, You're saying, no, I'm going to remember 52 00:04:25.000 --> 00:04:28.519 my sacred divine path instead of just falling into the 53 00:04:28.560 --> 00:04:32.600 flow that everyone else seems to be flowing within. There's 54 00:04:32.639 --> 00:04:36.319 no reason to have fomo, baby. You just have different values, 55 00:04:36.600 --> 00:04:39.079 you want different things. You're not meant to be a 56 00:04:39.120 --> 00:04:41.959 part of the pact when you're simply meant to lead 57 00:04:42.519 --> 00:04:44.759 the pact. Your life is going to look at it 58 00:04:44.879 --> 00:04:49.480 till different lean into it, whether it's the loneliness or 59 00:04:49.519 --> 00:04:54.079 the unknown. There's medicine in every season, there is gifts 60 00:04:54.120 --> 00:04:58.279 in every season at every level. What's up, positive bitches, 61 00:04:58.360 --> 00:05:01.399 how are we doing today? If you're hearing this episode, 62 00:05:01.399 --> 00:05:03.920 then you are meant to be here. So keep listening 63 00:05:04.399 --> 00:05:08.759 on that Bitch's Positive Podcast. Sometimes we will laugh. Other times, Baby, 64 00:05:08.800 --> 00:05:13.160 we're gonna cry, but we will always walk away feeling 65 00:05:13.240 --> 00:05:17.680 our most empowered positive bitch self that is a babe 66 00:05:17.720 --> 00:05:21.240 and true connection with herself himself human self. You know, 67 00:05:21.319 --> 00:05:24.839 I don't care what you are. I just care that 68 00:05:25.000 --> 00:05:29.959 you are taking your best energy forward every single day 69 00:05:30.519 --> 00:05:33.040 and giving your attention to that which you wish to 70 00:05:33.079 --> 00:05:36.600 see more of in your reality. Because on this podcast, 71 00:05:36.920 --> 00:05:40.439 we unbecome who we are so we can fully step 72 00:05:40.480 --> 00:05:45.120 into exactly who we came here to be. In order 73 00:05:45.199 --> 00:05:47.839 to step into who we came here to be, there's 74 00:05:47.879 --> 00:05:52.199 going to be moments where you're in eliminal space. I 75 00:05:52.240 --> 00:05:56.920 always think about eliminal space as an empty school during 76 00:05:56.959 --> 00:06:02.720 the summer. You can feel something usually happens here. Usually 77 00:06:02.759 --> 00:06:06.240 there's a ton of energy in this school, but it's summer. 78 00:06:06.279 --> 00:06:08.839 The halls are empty, but it feels a little eerie, 79 00:06:09.360 --> 00:06:14.680 that eerie feeling of uh, something about to happen. That 80 00:06:14.920 --> 00:06:17.879 is what you feel when you're in the in between, 81 00:06:17.920 --> 00:06:23.360 when you're in liminal space, when you are done existing 82 00:06:23.480 --> 00:06:25.720 as who you decided to be, out of your wounds 83 00:06:26.120 --> 00:06:29.360 and ready to step into who you actually are when 84 00:06:29.399 --> 00:06:35.879 you are empowered. Liminal states, liminal spaces are of the 85 00:06:36.040 --> 00:06:39.879 utmost importance. Most people, when they get to the space 86 00:06:39.879 --> 00:06:44.120 of the unknown, freak out and go running back to 87 00:06:44.199 --> 00:06:46.759 the life that they knew, the people they knew, the 88 00:06:46.759 --> 00:06:51.360 town that they knew. That only delays your blessings. And 89 00:06:51.399 --> 00:06:54.160 I just saw five five five on the timer. Change 90 00:06:54.199 --> 00:06:57.920 is here, positive change to heal you, to help you, 91 00:06:58.040 --> 00:07:03.199 to guide you. Most people are gonna run back to 92 00:07:03.360 --> 00:07:06.439 the life that they knew, to the identity that they knew. 93 00:07:06.800 --> 00:07:10.600 But that is not you. That is not you. And 94 00:07:10.639 --> 00:07:13.800 that's why you're sitting here, or maybe you're walking, but 95 00:07:13.920 --> 00:07:18.720 you're listening. You're listening to these words because you're one 96 00:07:18.759 --> 00:07:22.399 of the ones who's gonna make it. You're one of 97 00:07:22.439 --> 00:07:25.560 the ones who's meant to transcend. You're one of the 98 00:07:25.560 --> 00:07:29.680 ones who came here for big impact and big impact 99 00:07:29.879 --> 00:07:35.560 you will make. You're one of the ones that are 100 00:07:35.680 --> 00:07:38.160 actually going to do what you set out to do. 101 00:07:39.079 --> 00:07:42.120 And you know this, you know this in your body. 102 00:07:42.199 --> 00:07:45.079 You fear it, but you know it. You fear it, 103 00:07:45.160 --> 00:07:49.879 but you know it. You know you came here to 104 00:07:50.000 --> 00:07:53.199 leave this world better than you found it and you 105 00:07:53.319 --> 00:07:57.399 want that you desire that. That desire is not random. 106 00:07:57.920 --> 00:08:02.519 Your desires are your blueprint for your destiny. You wouldn't 107 00:08:02.560 --> 00:08:05.600 desire it if it was not part of your destiny. 108 00:08:06.240 --> 00:08:09.240 If you're unsure, if something is part of your destiny, 109 00:08:09.279 --> 00:08:13.120 If you're unsure, if something's really for you, ask dividity God. 110 00:08:13.680 --> 00:08:17.279 Mold my heart's desires so that I want what's for 111 00:08:17.399 --> 00:08:20.920 my highest good. Mold my heart's desire so I want 112 00:08:20.959 --> 00:08:23.920 what is best for me, just in case my limited 113 00:08:23.920 --> 00:08:27.279 mind doesn't understand what's best for me. Mold my heart's 114 00:08:27.279 --> 00:08:31.839 desire so that I walk in step with the energetic universe, 115 00:08:32.240 --> 00:08:34.759 so I can have that impact that I want to have. 116 00:08:35.879 --> 00:08:40.360 Call on assistance when you feel like you're not sure 117 00:08:40.360 --> 00:08:44.039 what's step to take. You're never meant to be here 118 00:08:44.200 --> 00:08:46.840 and doing this journey alone. That's why you have friends, 119 00:08:46.840 --> 00:08:49.440 That's why you have family. But if those friends and 120 00:08:49.480 --> 00:08:52.559 family happen to suck, Okay, you signed up for a big, 121 00:08:52.679 --> 00:08:56.440 big impact. You're gonna call on divine beings to help 122 00:08:56.480 --> 00:09:02.440 you through your guardian angels, your loving anset, the ascended masters, Jesus. Hello. 123 00:09:03.559 --> 00:09:05.840 Before we get further into this episode, I do want 124 00:09:05.840 --> 00:09:09.200 to remind you I've opened up my Magnetic Mastery program. 125 00:09:09.279 --> 00:09:14.000 It's a twelve week program to guide you into your 126 00:09:14.080 --> 00:09:18.600 most magnetic timeline, where you stop playing small and instead 127 00:09:18.639 --> 00:09:21.200 stand in your power to attract everything that which you 128 00:09:21.360 --> 00:09:25.559 truly desire. If you're interested in learning more about this 129 00:09:25.960 --> 00:09:29.639 Magnetic Mastery program, that is one on one via zoom 130 00:09:30.080 --> 00:09:32.759 DM me on Instagram, at vibe and with CC. My 131 00:09:32.919 --> 00:09:35.720 link for my Instagram is in the show notes. If 132 00:09:35.759 --> 00:09:39.720 you are looking to really shed your old reality learn 133 00:09:39.759 --> 00:09:42.080 how to make quantum leaps, you can get my book 134 00:09:42.080 --> 00:09:45.080 Show Up as Her, which is now available in hardcover. 135 00:09:45.840 --> 00:09:48.879 That link will also be in the show notes. If 136 00:09:48.919 --> 00:09:52.600 you are looking for maybe some guidance but you're not 137 00:09:52.679 --> 00:09:54.600 ready for one on one, I have a ton of 138 00:09:54.600 --> 00:09:59.639 different courses to help you not only regulate your own mindset, 139 00:10:00.200 --> 00:10:05.159 but also attract better, whether it comes to dating circumstance 140 00:10:05.240 --> 00:10:08.000 or even healing through a breakup. And of course I 141 00:10:08.120 --> 00:10:11.120 also have workbooks that can help you decode angel numbers, 142 00:10:11.360 --> 00:10:14.639 call your power back, and anchor into your divine feminine energy. 143 00:10:15.480 --> 00:10:18.440 Let's continue on because we have a lot to talk about. 144 00:10:19.559 --> 00:10:24.000 This moment in time can feel unsettling because the rules 145 00:10:24.080 --> 00:10:28.159 don't apply the way you knew how to exist as 146 00:10:28.200 --> 00:10:32.279 your older identity. Well, you just decided that identity doesn't 147 00:10:32.320 --> 00:10:35.480 work for you anymore. So what are you really supposed 148 00:10:35.519 --> 00:10:38.440 to do? How are you supposed to show up when 149 00:10:38.480 --> 00:10:41.879 you realize, Wait a damn minute, this identity is one 150 00:10:41.879 --> 00:10:44.279 that I created in order to survive, and I don't 151 00:10:44.279 --> 00:10:48.840 want to just survive anymore. I want to thrive. This 152 00:10:49.039 --> 00:10:54.240 moment rushes in, but it speaks no words. It's a 153 00:10:54.360 --> 00:11:00.799 moment of hush, of room to grow into who you 154 00:11:01.159 --> 00:11:05.000 actually want to be, really into who you came here 155 00:11:05.080 --> 00:11:07.360 to be, because we spent so much of our life 156 00:11:07.399 --> 00:11:10.879 just unbecoming all the lessons and identities we learned to 157 00:11:11.159 --> 00:11:18.000 grow into who we actually are. That wind that rushes 158 00:11:18.039 --> 00:11:21.399 into your life and feels your being feels unsettling because 159 00:11:21.840 --> 00:11:23.519 you don't know how to be this new person because 160 00:11:23.519 --> 00:11:27.960 you've never been them, or have you? Or have you? 161 00:11:28.840 --> 00:11:32.480 Because really, when I think about becoming a new person, 162 00:11:32.759 --> 00:11:36.240 I really think it is more unbecoming who you are 163 00:11:36.320 --> 00:11:40.639 not and remembering your true soul essence. Now, maybe you 164 00:11:40.759 --> 00:11:45.039 haven't existed as your true soul essence, but you're not 165 00:11:45.120 --> 00:11:48.480 really becoming someone new, You're taking off all the layers 166 00:11:48.519 --> 00:11:53.519 that aren't you. You're remembering the divine codes that you 167 00:11:53.639 --> 00:11:58.320 incarnated with. Maybe it doesn't have to be as hard 168 00:11:58.360 --> 00:12:01.639 as we think it is. Maybe it can actually be 169 00:12:02.480 --> 00:12:06.960 Dare I say it? Maybe it can actually be easy. 170 00:12:09.320 --> 00:12:13.480 Maybe we can slow down and say, maybe I already 171 00:12:13.519 --> 00:12:16.399 have the answers, I just have to locate them within. 172 00:12:17.080 --> 00:12:21.559 How do we locate answers within? More space? Leaning into 173 00:12:21.600 --> 00:12:26.639 the unsettling feeling, leaning into the loneliness, leaning into the 174 00:12:26.799 --> 00:12:29.799 I don't really know who I am, but I'm gonna 175 00:12:29.840 --> 00:12:34.600 discover it. I'm gonna find out. So many people we 176 00:12:34.679 --> 00:12:39.039 see go through a transformation, they're not really becoming someone 177 00:12:39.039 --> 00:12:41.919 they're not. They're finally stepping into who they've always been 178 00:12:42.000 --> 00:12:45.960 but didn't know. This process doesn't have to be hard. 179 00:12:46.039 --> 00:12:50.639 What if you start telling yourself this can be easy. 180 00:12:50.799 --> 00:12:56.159 This is your sacred quest back to yourself. It's initiation 181 00:12:56.720 --> 00:13:02.519 to go back home to who you've always been. Let 182 00:13:02.559 --> 00:13:06.840 me tell you, there have been so many moments after 183 00:13:06.919 --> 00:13:12.159 a breakup where I freak out and I think, oh no, 184 00:13:12.600 --> 00:13:14.799 I'm not getting that text anymore, I'm not getting that 185 00:13:14.840 --> 00:13:17.480 call anymore. What am I gonna do with myself? What 186 00:13:17.600 --> 00:13:20.080 am I gonna do with all this time? M m 187 00:13:21.399 --> 00:13:25.960 the way I love my solitude Now, old me wouldn't 188 00:13:26.000 --> 00:13:30.120 even recognize current me. Casolitude. Time alone used to be 189 00:13:30.240 --> 00:13:34.799 my worst nightmare. It wasn't until I started leaning into 190 00:13:34.879 --> 00:13:39.879 the space, the silence, the loneliness, that I started to realize, 191 00:13:40.120 --> 00:13:43.360 Wait a damn minute, I think I've been lied to. 192 00:13:44.440 --> 00:13:46.639 I think I've been lied to. I've been told to 193 00:13:46.639 --> 00:13:49.840 get in a relationship, get in a relationship. But I 194 00:13:49.960 --> 00:13:54.799 kind of am loving existing within my own energy. What 195 00:13:55.399 --> 00:13:59.279 It's almost as if we incarnated to experience our own energy. 196 00:14:00.240 --> 00:14:05.440 Go with me on the journey. If Divinity fragmented into 197 00:14:05.600 --> 00:14:09.240 you to experience life through your perception, don't you think 198 00:14:09.279 --> 00:14:12.480 you should try to exist within that perception? Don't you 199 00:14:12.519 --> 00:14:14.919 think you should try to find out? Well, if Divinity 200 00:14:14.960 --> 00:14:17.720 thought it was important enough for me to fragment into 201 00:14:17.720 --> 00:14:22.799 this being, shouldn't I find out who the hell I am? 202 00:14:22.919 --> 00:14:25.360 And the only way to do that is by dating yourself, 203 00:14:25.840 --> 00:14:28.360 by spending time with yourself. And I know right now 204 00:14:28.399 --> 00:14:32.519 your toes and your fingers might be getting all clammed up. 205 00:14:33.039 --> 00:14:36.679 It's okay, it's all right, it's okay. If it's new, 206 00:14:37.159 --> 00:14:40.159 it's okay if it's the unknown. What are you so 207 00:14:40.320 --> 00:14:44.120 afraid to discover about you? What are you so afraid 208 00:14:44.159 --> 00:14:46.840 to look at? If you are afraid to look at something, 209 00:14:47.200 --> 00:14:50.000 oh my god, you better sit that ass down and 210 00:14:50.200 --> 00:14:52.519 look at it. You cannot run for the rest of 211 00:14:52.559 --> 00:14:55.480 your life if you run from whatever it is that 212 00:14:55.519 --> 00:14:58.399 you happen to be running from. Maybe it's your inner 213 00:14:58.519 --> 00:15:01.320 child's wounds, your shat parts of you you don't want 214 00:15:01.360 --> 00:15:04.720 to accept. You're gonna run into the wrong relationships. You're 215 00:15:04.720 --> 00:15:07.720 gonna run into codependency. You're gonna run into staying at 216 00:15:07.799 --> 00:15:09.600 jobs that are not for you. But you're too afraid 217 00:15:09.639 --> 00:15:12.000 to spend any time with yourself, so you can't actually 218 00:15:12.000 --> 00:15:15.240 figure out what is for you. If you keep running, 219 00:15:15.519 --> 00:15:20.320 prepare to be haunted. Prepare, prepare yourself to be haunted 220 00:15:20.320 --> 00:15:23.720 for the rest of your life. You can't outrun yourself, baby, 221 00:15:23.919 --> 00:15:28.039 because you incarnated in your own vessel. Sure get an addictive, 222 00:15:28.200 --> 00:15:31.600 maladapted coping mechanism. See how that turns out for you. 223 00:15:32.000 --> 00:15:35.320 Hah yeah, see how that works out for you. That's 224 00:15:35.360 --> 00:15:38.039 not a journey that you want. That is not a 225 00:15:38.120 --> 00:15:42.200 journey you want. You cannot outrun the wounds that you're 226 00:15:42.200 --> 00:15:44.240 afraid to look at, because they will find a way 227 00:15:44.279 --> 00:15:47.159 to manifest in your physical reality. If you don't face 228 00:15:47.200 --> 00:15:50.759 them within here, prepare to face them out there in 229 00:15:50.840 --> 00:15:58.720 your relationships, at the workplace, at the supermarket, on social media. 230 00:15:58.960 --> 00:16:03.720 You can't outrun those wounds, those fears, because they'll have 231 00:16:03.799 --> 00:16:09.000 a funny way of subconsciously bleeding out into your physical reality. 232 00:16:09.600 --> 00:16:15.399 Take this time, honestly, my last relationship. I've been reflecting 233 00:16:15.399 --> 00:16:18.360 on it a lot, and I'm very thankful for it 234 00:16:18.399 --> 00:16:21.279 because I've learned a ton. And one of the things 235 00:16:21.279 --> 00:16:24.759 that I've really learned is once again realizing I really 236 00:16:24.799 --> 00:16:27.399 miss my own energy because when you're in a relationship, 237 00:16:27.879 --> 00:16:31.320 instead of you spending that time maybe meditating or journaling 238 00:16:31.399 --> 00:16:34.679 as much as you would have, or even just kind 239 00:16:34.720 --> 00:16:38.519 of planting yourself and going on TikTok or twenty minutes, 240 00:16:38.919 --> 00:16:42.240 those times are sacred. I don't care what they are. 241 00:16:42.639 --> 00:16:46.720 They're sacred because it's time you're just unbecoming. It's time 242 00:16:46.759 --> 00:16:49.720 you're just resting into the present moment. It's time you're 243 00:16:49.759 --> 00:16:53.279 just being with yourself. When you get into a relationship, 244 00:16:53.360 --> 00:16:56.159 there's less of that and more you're now spending time 245 00:16:56.200 --> 00:17:01.399 in someone else's energy. And I really coming back home 246 00:17:01.399 --> 00:17:04.440 to myself once again, realize I missed my energy. I 247 00:17:04.480 --> 00:17:09.039 can do whatever I want almost whenever I want. Of course, 248 00:17:09.079 --> 00:17:12.279 if I have responsibility for a client or my job, 249 00:17:12.440 --> 00:17:16.039 I go do that social media things or a podcast. 250 00:17:16.480 --> 00:17:19.039 But I really can do what I want when I want. 251 00:17:19.440 --> 00:17:26.519 That's liberation, that's sovereignty. That is freedom. Oh yeah, it's freedom, 252 00:17:26.720 --> 00:17:29.119 regardless if you're in a relationship or not. You should 253 00:17:29.119 --> 00:17:31.960 always have non negotiables time that you're just spending with you, 254 00:17:32.400 --> 00:17:36.160 going to the workout class, doing the meditation, doing the journaling, 255 00:17:36.279 --> 00:17:39.000 meeting up with your girlfriends. That should never stop because 256 00:17:39.039 --> 00:17:42.039 someone else now enters your life. But it would be 257 00:17:42.039 --> 00:17:45.279 a lie to say that your timetable doesn't shift when 258 00:17:45.279 --> 00:17:48.000 you're in a relationship, because of course you want to 259 00:17:48.119 --> 00:17:50.039 and you just end up spending more time with this 260 00:17:50.079 --> 00:17:53.240 other person. And that's a beautiful thing when it's in alignment. 261 00:17:53.759 --> 00:17:56.799 Just don't lose yourself for someone else. Coming out of that, 262 00:17:57.240 --> 00:18:00.640 I was in this liminal space again of Okay, things 263 00:18:00.720 --> 00:18:03.400 feel weird. I no longer have that person to text 264 00:18:03.480 --> 00:18:07.279 or call, I wanted to run back, but I said, no, no, 265 00:18:08.400 --> 00:18:10.920 I'm not going to run back to things that I 266 00:18:11.119 --> 00:18:14.160 already know are not in alignment with me anymore. They 267 00:18:14.200 --> 00:18:16.559 were in alignment at one time, and I knew that. 268 00:18:16.799 --> 00:18:18.920 And when you know, you know, and then I also 269 00:18:19.000 --> 00:18:22.000 knew when it was time to release myself from that 270 00:18:22.200 --> 00:18:27.079 energetic relationship and move into my own vessel a little 271 00:18:27.119 --> 00:18:32.240 bit more and really nurture me. And I will just 272 00:18:32.319 --> 00:18:36.559 say it. If you're surrounded by people who you feel 273 00:18:36.640 --> 00:18:39.599 are depleting you every single day, get away from them. 274 00:18:39.960 --> 00:18:43.319 Your codependency is gonna flare up when you leave, Your 275 00:18:43.359 --> 00:18:46.119 anxious attachment is gonna flare up when you leave. But 276 00:18:46.200 --> 00:18:48.960 you know what, you will heal through that. If you 277 00:18:49.039 --> 00:18:51.720 stay around people who you know are not in alignment 278 00:18:51.759 --> 00:18:53.480 with you, prepare to get ugly. I don't know how 279 00:18:53.559 --> 00:18:55.559 else to say that. Prepared to get ugly because your 280 00:18:55.640 --> 00:18:58.559 cortisol is going to be up every single day. What 281 00:18:58.640 --> 00:19:00.759 happens when that happens you either there's too much weight, 282 00:19:00.839 --> 00:19:03.960 gain weight, your hair starts falling out, your skin's a mess, 283 00:19:04.079 --> 00:19:09.359 digestion forget about it, bloating out to the next continent. Yeah, 284 00:19:09.599 --> 00:19:13.640 it's not a fun experience. There are some people in 285 00:19:13.680 --> 00:19:15.680 my life who are like, well, what are you doing? 286 00:19:15.799 --> 00:19:18.960 Do you want a relationship? What do you want? I'm like, uh, 287 00:19:19.000 --> 00:19:23.119 I'm enjoying my life, That's what I'm doing. Those people 288 00:19:23.920 --> 00:19:28.079 don't understand liminal space. They don't understand how to maneuver 289 00:19:28.240 --> 00:19:31.920 their energetic universe, and that's why not to throw shade. 290 00:19:32.000 --> 00:19:34.640 But when I look at their reality factually, and I 291 00:19:34.680 --> 00:19:37.319 look at how they feel about their reality, they're less 292 00:19:37.319 --> 00:19:41.559 happy than me. I know in my body one day 293 00:19:41.759 --> 00:19:44.000 I will have a family. I'm going to do that 294 00:19:44.039 --> 00:19:47.400 whole shebang. But the fact I don't have it right 295 00:19:47.440 --> 00:19:51.079 now kind of feels liberating. Cause one day I might 296 00:19:51.119 --> 00:19:53.359 not be able to do what I want when I want. 297 00:19:53.440 --> 00:19:55.400 I might not be able to do the face mask. 298 00:19:55.440 --> 00:19:57.599 I might not be able to do the TikTok on 299 00:19:57.640 --> 00:20:00.000 my time or be with this client on my time, 300 00:20:00.279 --> 00:20:03.160 because I might have other responsibilities to a partner, to 301 00:20:03.279 --> 00:20:07.559 a child. I want to bask in this liminal space. 302 00:20:07.960 --> 00:20:11.039 I want to bask in this present moment because I'm 303 00:20:11.079 --> 00:20:14.480 never getting this moment again. I'm never getting this moment again. 304 00:20:14.759 --> 00:20:18.680 And when the matrix or other people try to rush me, 305 00:20:19.599 --> 00:20:24.240 I literally think to myself, Holy hell, I don't want 306 00:20:24.880 --> 00:20:29.319 what you have. Your normal is my effing nightmare. Your 307 00:20:29.400 --> 00:20:33.279 normal is my never, Your normal is my no, thank you. 308 00:20:34.480 --> 00:20:38.119 I want more for myself. I want to enjoy my incarnation. 309 00:20:38.640 --> 00:20:40.640 I don't want to feel like a chicken running without 310 00:20:40.640 --> 00:20:42.799 a head. I don't want to feel tied down to 311 00:20:42.839 --> 00:20:45.559 relationships that I don't want to be in. So if 312 00:20:45.599 --> 00:20:48.960 that means more time being with me, if that means 313 00:20:49.000 --> 00:20:53.119 more liminal space, okay, tune it the hell up. I'll 314 00:20:53.160 --> 00:20:56.599 be in the liminal space fine with me now. A 315 00:20:56.640 --> 00:20:59.400 theme that I see come up for me and other 316 00:20:59.400 --> 00:21:03.920 people that I'm meat is this sense of loneliness. I 317 00:21:03.920 --> 00:21:06.960 gotta be honest, though, every night, when I'm in my 318 00:21:07.039 --> 00:21:10.000 bed and I'm just snuggled up with my little CaCO 319 00:21:10.920 --> 00:21:15.200 and my pillow and my blankets, I have so much 320 00:21:15.240 --> 00:21:18.759 peace in my heart. I have so much peace in 321 00:21:18.799 --> 00:21:22.799 my body. I don't have a partner that I'm worried about. 322 00:21:22.839 --> 00:21:25.440 Are they doing what they said they're gonna do? Are 323 00:21:25.440 --> 00:21:29.759 they staying in alignment with me? Are they slacking? Are 324 00:21:29.799 --> 00:21:31.400 they going to be able to keep up with me? 325 00:21:31.559 --> 00:21:35.720 I don't have any of those stressors anymore. I just 326 00:21:35.799 --> 00:21:40.599 have peace. And sometimes I think it's really holidays for 327 00:21:40.680 --> 00:21:45.200 me that I'm like, damn, it'd be nice to have 328 00:21:45.240 --> 00:21:47.960 a partner when I see everyone else with their partners 329 00:21:47.960 --> 00:21:52.720 and families. But then I think I don't know what 330 00:21:52.759 --> 00:21:54.920 it is actually like to be in that family or 331 00:21:54.960 --> 00:21:57.480 be with that person. I have so much peace being 332 00:21:57.480 --> 00:21:59.799 where I am. I recently was talking to a friend. 333 00:22:00.079 --> 00:22:05.079 She was talking to me about her relationship and WHOA, 334 00:22:05.160 --> 00:22:14.559 I had no idea. How anxiety provoking and not great. 335 00:22:15.119 --> 00:22:17.359 I'm not gonna spill someone else's tea on this podcast, 336 00:22:17.680 --> 00:22:20.720 but it was not a good relationship. Okay, I had 337 00:22:20.799 --> 00:22:24.200 no idea, and I think we can get sucked into. Oh, 338 00:22:24.240 --> 00:22:25.920 they look like they have so much happiness. They look 339 00:22:25.960 --> 00:22:28.160 like they have so much joy, they look like they 340 00:22:28.160 --> 00:22:29.920 have so much fun. I really want this. I really 341 00:22:29.920 --> 00:22:33.559 want this. When the right thing is prepped, prepared and 342 00:22:33.599 --> 00:22:37.400 primed for you, it will come in. But she really 343 00:22:37.440 --> 00:22:40.359 reminded me when she would talk about her relationship like 344 00:22:40.400 --> 00:22:43.319 a year ago, it sounded like the most perfect relationship. 345 00:22:43.400 --> 00:22:45.640 I envied it. I wanted that. I was like, yes, 346 00:22:45.680 --> 00:22:48.720 I'm gonna manifest that. But now getting a closer look 347 00:22:48.960 --> 00:22:51.920 into what it was actually like, I thought, holy shit, 348 00:22:52.720 --> 00:22:57.359 holy shit, here I was idolizing this relationship that sounded 349 00:22:57.400 --> 00:23:00.519 really great. But now that she's telling me all the tea, 350 00:23:00.640 --> 00:23:05.640 all the details, the gag is I'd rather be single 351 00:23:06.440 --> 00:23:09.359 and have peace than have to be dealing with someone 352 00:23:09.440 --> 00:23:12.880 or something like that. Now, when the right person comes 353 00:23:12.920 --> 00:23:15.480 in at the right time, I will be so happy. 354 00:23:15.559 --> 00:23:19.200 I love love, I love seeing people in relationships. But 355 00:23:19.279 --> 00:23:23.359 do not rush because this place, I know it's not 356 00:23:23.440 --> 00:23:26.400 the most comfortable. But when do you grow the most. 357 00:23:26.519 --> 00:23:29.200 It's when you're uncomfortable. It's when you don't know what 358 00:23:29.200 --> 00:23:33.519 the hell is going on. It's when you're confused, when 359 00:23:33.599 --> 00:23:35.920 you're not sure what's step to take. It's actually when 360 00:23:35.920 --> 00:23:40.720 you have the most options available to you. When you 361 00:23:40.759 --> 00:23:42.720 go to school to become an accountant, and you become 362 00:23:42.720 --> 00:23:45.240 an accountant, that's it that your path is laid out 363 00:23:45.240 --> 00:23:48.000 for you. But let's say you think, well, I don't 364 00:23:48.000 --> 00:23:50.440 really know what I want to do. Suddenly there's nine 365 00:23:50.519 --> 00:23:53.200 thousand doors that are just waiting for you to walk 366 00:23:53.240 --> 00:23:55.680 through them. When you are in the unknown, not only 367 00:23:55.680 --> 00:23:59.000 do you have the most options present, but you have 368 00:23:59.079 --> 00:24:02.480 the most space to lean in to the person you 369 00:24:02.559 --> 00:24:07.079 really want to grow into. The space, the silence, that's 370 00:24:07.079 --> 00:24:12.880 what creatives use to actually channel information. Ninety percent of 371 00:24:12.920 --> 00:24:15.799 the time, when I'm getting downloads, it's not when I'm 372 00:24:16.119 --> 00:24:21.480 surrounded by fifteen people having a pow wow. It's when 373 00:24:21.480 --> 00:24:24.799 I'm walking alone on the beach. It's when I'm journaling, 374 00:24:24.920 --> 00:24:27.720 it's when I'm meditating, it's at the end of yoga. 375 00:24:27.839 --> 00:24:33.920 It's more comforting to distract yourself with friend groups, with relationships, 376 00:24:33.960 --> 00:24:36.200 with a job you don't like. But it's comfortable, but 377 00:24:36.519 --> 00:24:39.839 it doesn't allow for the life that you actually want, 378 00:24:39.960 --> 00:24:43.440 or else it would have gifted you that already. In 379 00:24:43.519 --> 00:24:48.119 liminal space, that's where you channel the insights. That's where 380 00:24:48.160 --> 00:24:50.119 you get to see who you truly are. I went 381 00:24:50.240 --> 00:24:53.240 through a friendship breakup years ago where I was in 382 00:24:53.319 --> 00:24:56.119 a friend group and then all them pretty much decided 383 00:24:56.160 --> 00:24:59.519 to not be friends with me anymore. And at first 384 00:24:59.599 --> 00:25:04.079 this sucked because those were my girls for years and 385 00:25:04.160 --> 00:25:07.319 years and years and years, and it really was hurtful 386 00:25:07.359 --> 00:25:13.759 to me. But in that liminal space, instead of me worrying, well, 387 00:25:13.799 --> 00:25:15.319 I don't want to post because what are they going 388 00:25:15.359 --> 00:25:19.759 to think of me? I started posting on TikTok on YouTube, 389 00:25:19.799 --> 00:25:23.720 and that started my whole entire career. When I went 390 00:25:23.759 --> 00:25:26.319 through a breakup. Instead of me worrying is he going 391 00:25:26.400 --> 00:25:27.839 to be able to keep up with me? What's going 392 00:25:27.920 --> 00:25:31.160 to happen? I now had all this freed up time, 393 00:25:31.480 --> 00:25:36.680 energy space. I had enough availability to feed my dreams. 394 00:25:37.359 --> 00:25:42.039 And once again that caused a quantum shift because instead 395 00:25:42.079 --> 00:25:46.160 of me giving my focus to someone who maybe didn't 396 00:25:46.200 --> 00:25:49.519 want to give me a high return on investment, I 397 00:25:49.559 --> 00:25:53.119 was giving that focus back onto myself. I was growing 398 00:25:53.240 --> 00:25:56.519 something that I actually had more control over. I was 399 00:25:56.559 --> 00:25:59.279 growing something that was going to allow me to step 400 00:25:59.279 --> 00:26:02.920 into who I try truly wanted to be. We need 401 00:26:02.920 --> 00:26:05.720