WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.320 --> 00:00:07.400 You're listening to KFI AM on demand. James, Welcome to 2 00:00:07.440 --> 00:00:08.279 the Jesus Christ Show. 3 00:00:08.439 --> 00:00:08.960 How are you doing? 4 00:00:09.000 --> 00:00:10.720 So, I'm well, James, how can I help you? 5 00:00:11.560 --> 00:00:14.480 Well, I know this is going to be different for you, 6 00:00:14.560 --> 00:00:18.559 but I'm currently incarcerated. I've been locked up for about 7 00:00:18.559 --> 00:00:21.239 three years now and I'm currently in a criminally in 8 00:00:21.280 --> 00:00:24.199 faian facility, and so I know it's probably the first 9 00:00:24.239 --> 00:00:26.120 time you've ever received a call from a place like this. 10 00:00:26.480 --> 00:00:30.160 No, it's not. But normally I hear a beep, Yeah, 11 00:00:30.559 --> 00:00:35.119 but they are they don't. They normally have a little 12 00:00:35.200 --> 00:00:39.359 uh a beep on there and something telling the person 13 00:00:39.399 --> 00:00:42.399 on the other end of the line where you're calling from. 14 00:00:42.799 --> 00:00:44.479 Not that I know what it was like. They're pretty 15 00:00:44.520 --> 00:00:47.679 much allowed with all the access we'd use little prepaid 16 00:00:47.679 --> 00:00:48.320 phone cards. 17 00:00:48.759 --> 00:00:51.159 Oh okay, But well, how can I help you, James? 18 00:00:51.280 --> 00:00:53.920 I'm still you know, I'm twenty one years old. I 19 00:00:54.039 --> 00:00:57.600 studied the Bible a whole lot, and I've always had 20 00:00:57.640 --> 00:01:01.840 a question. I'm very familiar with the Genesis and the 21 00:01:01.880 --> 00:01:06.319 fourth chapter of Genesis. It speaks about when Cain him 22 00:01:06.359 --> 00:01:09.920 and his brother it got into and to conversation and 23 00:01:10.280 --> 00:01:13.040 he killed his brother and they said that they came 24 00:01:13.079 --> 00:01:15.439 to fled from the land from the presence of the Lord, 25 00:01:15.840 --> 00:01:18.640 and he dwelt in the landa nod where he met 26 00:01:18.640 --> 00:01:22.480 his wife as she buried his child. I was just 27 00:01:22.519 --> 00:01:24.400 always curious, where did his wife come from? 28 00:01:25.000 --> 00:01:27.159 A lot of people kind of skip over this, and 29 00:01:27.840 --> 00:01:31.439 because it's it's not of great importance. Obviously, canaan Abele 30 00:01:32.000 --> 00:01:34.799 are of importance because it deals with the first murder, right, 31 00:01:35.400 --> 00:01:37.920 so that becomes a more important part of the narrative 32 00:01:38.079 --> 00:01:40.760 of what's going on in scripture. But other things kind 33 00:01:40.760 --> 00:01:43.719 of fall by the wayside because they're of less importance 34 00:01:43.799 --> 00:01:47.560 to explain certain more moral character of man or certain 35 00:01:47.840 --> 00:01:52.400 importance about the history of man, so they aren't as highlighted, 36 00:01:52.439 --> 00:01:55.840 I guess. So in this particular case, it's it's right 37 00:01:55.959 --> 00:02:01.480 under your nose. And Genesis five four it says that 38 00:02:01.799 --> 00:02:07.480 Adam begot sons and daughters, so it's talking about it's 39 00:02:07.840 --> 00:02:10.159 people think that Adam and Eve only had two kids. 40 00:02:10.840 --> 00:02:12.479 I think they had Cain and Abel, and that's not 41 00:02:12.520 --> 00:02:17.520 the case. That's just because that's important. The other stuff 42 00:02:17.680 --> 00:02:20.439 is kind of left, as I said, by the wayside. 43 00:02:20.599 --> 00:02:23.159 But in this case, you see that there are sons 44 00:02:23.159 --> 00:02:26.560 and daughters. So prepare yourself because this gets a little 45 00:02:26.560 --> 00:02:33.479 weird that Kane married a sister, or depending on when 46 00:02:33.479 --> 00:02:38.680 he got married, could have married a niece. Okay, now 47 00:02:38.960 --> 00:02:45.039 then that you know you study scripture, it's proper to 48 00:02:45.120 --> 00:02:47.599 follow that up with well, wait a second, isn't that incest? 49 00:02:47.680 --> 00:02:52.759 And doesn't the Bible condemn incest? But interestingly enough, that doesn't. 50 00:02:52.800 --> 00:02:59.360 That condemnation doesn't come until Leviticus eighteen, so that that 51 00:02:59.400 --> 00:03:06.439 particular condemnation was long, long after a thousand years or 52 00:03:06.479 --> 00:03:11.919 so after this. So the reason was that to perpetuate 53 00:03:12.199 --> 00:03:16.639 and put people on this planet, incest was necessary. Once 54 00:03:16.919 --> 00:03:20.039 that had been fulfilled, then God said no more, it's 55 00:03:20.080 --> 00:03:24.039 no longer necessary and put the kibosh on that and 56 00:03:24.120 --> 00:03:27.400 actually put that into scripture and the levitical law. So 57 00:03:28.719 --> 00:03:31.520 that is where Canon got his wife, and why it's 58 00:03:31.560 --> 00:03:33.360 okay that it's his sister. 59 00:03:33.599 --> 00:03:38.879 Didn't happen, didn't happen again after no abided art and 60 00:03:39.840 --> 00:03:40.840 great flood happened. 61 00:03:41.280 --> 00:03:44.159 Well, yes, but then you have concerns. You have concerns 62 00:03:45.240 --> 00:03:48.919 about similar things, but you had non You had other 63 00:03:49.439 --> 00:03:54.759 opportunities as well that were different than the original case. 64 00:03:54.800 --> 00:03:57.800 Dealing with Adam and Eve. But a lot of people 65 00:03:57.800 --> 00:04:00.680 get caught up in that and thinking that this is 66 00:04:01.319 --> 00:04:04.599 the incest issue and so on. And although today it's 67 00:04:04.599 --> 00:04:08.039 icky and should be icky, that at the time in 68 00:04:08.080 --> 00:04:18.439 the process that it was purposeful God allowed it. Michael, 69 00:04:18.480 --> 00:04:19.720 Welcome to the Jesus Christ Show. 70 00:04:20.120 --> 00:04:24.240 Hello Jesus. You're talking about this morning about the narrow 71 00:04:24.279 --> 00:04:28.000 door and the wide door. Yes, And I am. 72 00:04:27.920 --> 00:04:32.600 Jewish and as am I spread the word Thank you. 73 00:04:32.959 --> 00:04:35.839 I believe in that you came and you saved me. 74 00:04:36.360 --> 00:04:39.800 I believe you're a maculate conception and that you died 75 00:04:39.839 --> 00:04:42.399 on the cross for my sins, and that I am 76 00:04:42.439 --> 00:04:43.480 saved through your blood. 77 00:04:43.720 --> 00:04:46.639 Okay. The immaculate conception actually deals with a lot of 78 00:04:46.680 --> 00:04:49.600 people get this confused with the virgin birth. Maculate conception 79 00:04:49.759 --> 00:04:55.079 is a Catholic belief that Mary was without sin. So 80 00:04:55.160 --> 00:04:58.120 I'm assuming you're talking about the virgin birth. 81 00:04:58.279 --> 00:04:59.360 Correct, Okay? 82 00:04:59.439 --> 00:04:59.839 Correct? 83 00:05:00.319 --> 00:05:04.600 And I being Jewish and being a follower of you 84 00:05:04.959 --> 00:05:08.079 and trying my best anyway and reading the Bible and 85 00:05:08.120 --> 00:05:14.319 attending church not the synagogue anymore, I feel that I 86 00:05:14.360 --> 00:05:16.040 don't know how I feel. I would like to know 87 00:05:16.079 --> 00:05:20.199 how you feel that I am born Jewish and I'm 88 00:05:20.240 --> 00:05:22.920 going to die Jewish. I'm not going to be if 89 00:05:23.000 --> 00:05:25.759 I was born Christian, I really could change. But I 90 00:05:25.800 --> 00:05:29.519 am what my birth certificate says. I am, and I 91 00:05:29.560 --> 00:05:32.759 feel that I am Jewish and I believe in you. 92 00:05:32.800 --> 00:05:37.319 I'm not a Jews for Jesus because I feel that's rude. 93 00:05:38.000 --> 00:05:39.360 That's an interesting way of putting. 94 00:05:39.480 --> 00:05:40.800 For hot dogs too. 95 00:05:43.000 --> 00:05:45.600 Well, it's kind of a I think the Jews for 96 00:05:45.720 --> 00:05:47.360 Jesus do that as kind of a wink and a 97 00:05:47.360 --> 00:05:52.040 smile to explain, to help people through what sounds confusing 98 00:05:52.160 --> 00:05:56.319 but isn't really you know, if Jews didn't follow me, 99 00:05:57.240 --> 00:06:04.759 then there wouldn't be Christianity. It's it's started in Israel 100 00:06:06.000 --> 00:06:11.720 out of Judaism and cannot exist separate from that. The 101 00:06:11.879 --> 00:06:14.839 entire of what Christians refer to as the Old Testament 102 00:06:16.560 --> 00:06:23.279 are the parts of the Jewish Bible, so it's you 103 00:06:23.319 --> 00:06:25.399 can't separate it from a Christians point of view. Now, 104 00:06:25.800 --> 00:06:31.079 as a Jew, you can be as you know, many 105 00:06:31.079 --> 00:06:34.920 friends will say that aren't practicing Jews. They say I'm 106 00:06:34.959 --> 00:06:38.319 not really a Jew on Jewish, implying that they don't 107 00:06:38.360 --> 00:06:43.000 really participate in all the practices now in your particular case, 108 00:06:43.680 --> 00:06:47.920 you're a Jew by birth. That's an ethnicity as well 109 00:06:47.920 --> 00:06:50.319 as a religion, and a lot of people get that confused. 110 00:06:50.920 --> 00:06:53.759 So you can be of a different religion and still 111 00:06:53.800 --> 00:06:59.959 be a Jew by birth, by ethnicity. So you can say, listen, 112 00:07:00.240 --> 00:07:03.600 I am a Jew who believes that the Messiah that 113 00:07:03.639 --> 00:07:08.120 was spoken about in what Christians refer to as the 114 00:07:08.160 --> 00:07:15.560 Old Testament points to Yeshua being Kamsie being the Messiah. 115 00:07:16.000 --> 00:07:20.120 So that's going to be a place where you stand. 116 00:07:20.120 --> 00:07:22.720 And they aren't contradictory. And it doesn't offend God for 117 00:07:22.759 --> 00:07:24.560 you to say that you're Jewish any more than it 118 00:07:24.600 --> 00:07:26.959 offends God for me to say I'm Jewish. 119 00:07:27.000 --> 00:07:29.639 Well, thank you, thank you very much, Jesus. 120 00:07:29.319 --> 00:07:32.160 You're very very welcome, and I think it's fantastic that 121 00:07:32.199 --> 00:07:32.680 you called. 122 00:07:33.040 --> 00:07:35.360 Well, thank you. I wouldn't miss I wouldn't miss a 123 00:07:35.360 --> 00:07:36.040 Sunday morning. 124 00:07:36.240 --> 00:07:37.839 Ah, bless you. I appreciate it. 125 00:07:37.920 --> 00:07:38.319 Thank you. 126 00:07:38.360 --> 00:07:42.240 Go in peace, my friend. That is wonderful. And people 127 00:07:42.279 --> 00:07:46.480 get those confused, Well, you can't be a Christian Jew, 128 00:07:46.639 --> 00:07:53.600 and that's not true because the Christian part just means 129 00:07:53.720 --> 00:07:58.439 follower of the Messiah, and so this is just a 130 00:07:58.720 --> 00:08:03.040 Jewish person Jewish of ethnicity that believes the Messiah that 131 00:08:03.120 --> 00:08:06.839 was spoken about or promised in scripture is referring to me. 132 00:08:07.959 --> 00:08:11.519 And there are those Jews, modern day Jews that believe 133 00:08:11.560 --> 00:08:15.920 the Messiah has not yet come. They're not Christians. So 134 00:08:16.040 --> 00:08:25.720 it's not really as confounding as it may seem. Philip, 135 00:08:25.800 --> 00:08:26.800 welcome to Jesus Christ. 136 00:08:26.839 --> 00:08:33.080 Show yes now. Now, believers are instructed that God loved 137 00:08:33.080 --> 00:08:38.200 the world, that's John three point sixteen. And yet our 138 00:08:38.240 --> 00:08:41.639 believers are instructed to love not the world or the 139 00:08:41.679 --> 00:08:46.080 things in it. That's one John two fifteen. And at 140 00:08:46.080 --> 00:08:50.360 the same time, over and over, believers are instructed to 141 00:08:50.399 --> 00:08:51.639 love your neighbors, yourself. 142 00:08:51.960 --> 00:08:54.639 Yes, so all correct. 143 00:08:54.559 --> 00:09:00.159 Okay, So how does God love the world and believers 144 00:09:00.279 --> 00:09:04.519 are not to love the world? And is that first 145 00:09:04.639 --> 00:09:08.879 John two fifteen. Is that sort of a scriptural separation 146 00:09:09.039 --> 00:09:09.960 of church and state. 147 00:09:11.120 --> 00:09:16.360 Well, no, it's more a proper usage of the word 148 00:09:16.440 --> 00:09:22.399 and the word in context. The word cosmos there that 149 00:09:22.519 --> 00:09:27.320 means world in one John two fifteen is translated at 150 00:09:27.320 --> 00:09:30.799 different times to mean people. Sometimes it means the world, 151 00:09:30.919 --> 00:09:37.399 like the accumulative attitude and essence of the world versus people, 152 00:09:37.799 --> 00:09:41.480 the people of the world, and it's the same the 153 00:09:41.480 --> 00:09:44.320 way you may use it as well. Sometimes when you're 154 00:09:44.360 --> 00:09:47.399 talking about this world is crazy, you may be talking 155 00:09:47.440 --> 00:09:50.000 about the collective attitude or the things that are going on. 156 00:09:51.000 --> 00:09:52.840 But then when you say love the world, you're talking 157 00:09:52.840 --> 00:09:55.919 about the people in it, the individuals in it, and 158 00:09:56.000 --> 00:09:58.120 that's what's going on. And the difference between all the 159 00:09:58.200 --> 00:10:01.080 verses that you're talking about. And God makes this clear 160 00:10:01.120 --> 00:10:02.840 as you read on, as you continue to read on 161 00:10:02.879 --> 00:10:05.840 and you see other references. It's talking about the difference, 162 00:10:05.840 --> 00:10:10.399 for instance, of love, especially in its context. If you 163 00:10:10.480 --> 00:10:12.799 have a child, it's just hypothetically, you have a child, 164 00:10:12.960 --> 00:10:15.799 you love that child. Now let's say that child becomes 165 00:10:15.799 --> 00:10:18.519 a drug addict. Do you love that your son is 166 00:10:18.559 --> 00:10:22.519 a drug addict? No, but you still love your child. 167 00:10:23.120 --> 00:10:27.559 So loving them actively would mean to do everything you 168 00:10:27.600 --> 00:10:30.200 could to get them off of drugs. So you're not 169 00:10:30.240 --> 00:10:33.840 loving what they're doing, you're not participating in what they're doing, 170 00:10:34.240 --> 00:10:37.559 but you're loving them still. Now, there are those that 171 00:10:37.639 --> 00:10:40.679 will reject that love. Maybe a child would reject that 172 00:10:40.759 --> 00:10:43.360 and go their own way, and you would still love them, 173 00:10:43.360 --> 00:10:45.679 but you wouldn't actively love them in the same way 174 00:10:46.200 --> 00:10:47.960 because you're not going to have a relationship with them 175 00:10:47.960 --> 00:10:50.879 because they're going to be doing something destructive. So what 176 00:10:50.919 --> 00:10:54.399 God is saying in One John two fifteen is that 177 00:10:54.480 --> 00:10:59.240 if you love the world in the sense that you 178 00:10:59.480 --> 00:11:02.039 love everything about it, that you don't you want the temporal, 179 00:11:02.080 --> 00:11:04.360 You want it now, you want it on your time, 180 00:11:04.440 --> 00:11:06.320 you want it in your way. You don't want to 181 00:11:06.360 --> 00:11:08.320 wait for God's plan, you don't want to wait for 182 00:11:08.320 --> 00:11:10.440 the things of heaven, you don't want any of that. 183 00:11:11.200 --> 00:11:14.840 Then you're lost. But the people in it you should 184 00:11:14.879 --> 00:11:17.960 always be fighting for somewhere. You should be loving them 185 00:11:18.000 --> 00:11:19.879 in a way that brings them into the Kingdom, not 186 00:11:19.960 --> 00:11:21.799 loving them in a way that brings you to them 187 00:11:22.440 --> 00:11:24.600 to be sitting and wallowing in the things that are 188 00:11:24.600 --> 00:11:28.039 not of God. The same way with the analogy that 189 00:11:28.080 --> 00:11:30.279 if you're loving a child that's on drugs, you're trying 190 00:11:30.320 --> 00:11:32.200 to love them out of drugs. You're not trying to 191 00:11:32.480 --> 00:11:36.519 love them in their addiction. And that's the difference between 192 00:11:36.519 --> 00:11:39.960 these different verses. It's talking about loving people out of 193 00:11:40.759 --> 00:11:44.919 that world mindset, but the term world at different times 194 00:11:44.960 --> 00:11:48.039 is talking about the people in it, or the accumulative 195 00:11:48.120 --> 00:11:50.480 effect of all those people doing the sin. 196 00:11:50.720 --> 00:11:54.519 So John three point sixteen is the people or yes. 197 00:11:55.399 --> 00:11:57.960 Yes, it's not about otherwise that the world is temporal. 198 00:11:58.799 --> 00:12:01.720 It's not about God loving a thing in that sense. 199 00:12:03.000 --> 00:12:06.759 And one John two fifteen is not the people. 200 00:12:07.720 --> 00:12:10.200 It's about it's yeah, it's about the collective. It's talking 201 00:12:10.200 --> 00:12:13.480 about the world, like the attitude. And oftentimes you'll read 202 00:12:13.519 --> 00:12:15.840 in scripture where it's talking about the world meaning as 203 00:12:16.279 --> 00:12:20.000 the flesh the worldly ways. Uh Paul said, the spirit 204 00:12:20.080 --> 00:12:22.840 is willing, but the flesh is weak. Now does that 205 00:12:22.879 --> 00:12:24.600 mean that you only love someone's spirit and you hate 206 00:12:24.600 --> 00:12:26.759 their flesh. No, it means that the flesh is the 207 00:12:26.799 --> 00:12:28.759 part of the body that continues to want to do 208 00:12:28.840 --> 00:12:33.399 the things that satisfies it and it alone. So there 209 00:12:33.480 --> 00:12:36.679 is that separation. So when God's talking about certain things, 210 00:12:36.720 --> 00:12:39.320 you'll see at times God is talking about the collective people, 211 00:12:40.240 --> 00:12:43.240 and there's times where God's talking about the attitude of 212 00:12:43.320 --> 00:12:46.480 the sin nature of the people on the planet. Okay, 213 00:12:46.720 --> 00:12:48.960 And they're very different. And you can see in context 214 00:12:49.000 --> 00:12:50.840 if you read a little bit before and a little 215 00:12:50.840 --> 00:12:55.200 bit after, you'll see that it specifically separates the type 216 00:12:55.200 --> 00:12:58.039 of love, the context of the love and how it 217 00:12:58.039 --> 00:13:01.200 should be applied and in this case, it's saying that 218 00:13:01.279 --> 00:13:04.000 if you love the things of the world, you automatically 219 00:13:04.039 --> 00:13:06.759 reject God. Just like if you loved your child in 220 00:13:06.759 --> 00:13:09.279 the way that you wanted them to take drugs, you're 221 00:13:09.320 --> 00:13:12.759 hating them because you're doing something that's participating in their 222 00:13:12.759 --> 00:13:16.519 destruction and that's no longer love. So if you just said, well, 223 00:13:16.559 --> 00:13:18.879 loving them is letting them do whatever they want, No, 224 00:13:19.159 --> 00:13:24.080 that would be destruction of your child. You see the difference. Yeah, okay, excellent, Well, 225 00:13:24.120 --> 00:13:26.519 thank you very much. You're welcome. That was an excellent question. 226 00:13:26.879 --> 00:13:30.720 And oftentimes you have to use scripture to interpret itself. 227 00:13:31.919 --> 00:13:35.000 People say, well, you know there's something, there's interpretation that 228 00:13:35.039 --> 00:13:37.399 needs to take place in scripture. Yeah, sure, there is, 229 00:13:38.279 --> 00:13:41.000 now in many things. There's not many things. It's it's 230 00:13:41.120 --> 00:13:45.240 quite simple and usually it tells you. However, what you 231 00:13:45.360 --> 00:13:48.679 do is use the rest of scripture to explain it 232 00:13:48.840 --> 00:13:53.480 or to shed light on it. If you you know, 233 00:13:53.559 --> 00:13:57.519 if you just make it about that one scripture, you're 234 00:13:57.559 --> 00:14:02.240 going to have a problem. It's one statement in the 235 00:14:02.240 --> 00:14:05.600 midst of many many statements that have to be seen 236 00:14:05.639 --> 00:14:12.240 together in harmony to be understood. Leslie, Welcome to the 237 00:14:12.320 --> 00:14:13.120 Jesus christ show. 238 00:14:13.440 --> 00:14:18.919 Oh, Hi, Hi Leslie, Hi Jesus, how can I help you? Well, 239 00:14:19.240 --> 00:14:23.639 I have I'm fifty nine years old. I have a 240 00:14:23.720 --> 00:14:32.000 daughter who's thirty five. She's pregnant, and she's decided to 241 00:14:32.039 --> 00:14:39.240 put a healthy distance between us because I smoked cigarettes. 242 00:14:39.279 --> 00:14:43.200 But I've quit now for six weeks. And I have 243 00:14:43.240 --> 00:14:50.480 a boyfriend that she doesn't approve of, okay, and he's 244 00:14:50.519 --> 00:14:51.960 a very good person. 245 00:14:53.039 --> 00:14:54.440 Why does she not approve of him? 246 00:14:54.919 --> 00:14:59.639 Well, I was married to a very famous rock and 247 00:14:59.720 --> 00:15:03.840 roll star for twenty five years, okay, And I have 248 00:15:04.200 --> 00:15:05.159 I have some money. 249 00:15:06.320 --> 00:15:06.639 Is that? 250 00:15:06.960 --> 00:15:08.039 Is that her father. 251 00:15:09.440 --> 00:15:15.080 Her he adopted her when she was four, okay, and 252 00:15:15.120 --> 00:15:19.799 then I had another child with him when she was six. 253 00:15:21.519 --> 00:15:27.879 And her biological father was also a rock and roll star. 254 00:15:29.279 --> 00:15:38.360 But anyway, that but the thing is is the boyfriend 255 00:15:38.879 --> 00:15:47.440 is I'm Christian. I was confirmed and baptized Lutheran. 256 00:15:47.679 --> 00:15:49.480 Okay. Is a boyfriend or rock and roll star? 257 00:15:50.039 --> 00:15:53.480 No, okay, just an actor? And and uh he's he's 258 00:15:54.000 --> 00:15:58.639 he's black. I'm white. I'm very very white, okay, very 259 00:15:58.720 --> 00:15:59.240 very black. 260 00:15:59.360 --> 00:16:00.639 Okay. I'm not sure or what they has to do 261 00:16:00.720 --> 00:16:03.080 with it, but I appreciate every little bit of insight. 262 00:16:03.200 --> 00:16:05.360 So your daughter right now. 263 00:16:05.799 --> 00:16:08.120 I don't don't like him racism. 264 00:16:08.200 --> 00:16:09.879 Okay, you don't think she hasn't said that it has 265 00:16:09.919 --> 00:16:11.759 anything to do with with any of that. 266 00:16:12.039 --> 00:16:14.519 No, I don't think to do with racism at all. 267 00:16:14.919 --> 00:16:18.159 I think it has to do with I have money. 268 00:16:18.639 --> 00:16:23.320 He doesn't have as much. And she's I've been divorced 269 00:16:23.320 --> 00:16:28.759 for ten years now, okay, and I've gone I've dated 270 00:16:28.879 --> 00:16:34.679 for different people. But she always thinks that they're going 271 00:16:34.720 --> 00:16:36.399 to take financial advantage of me. 272 00:16:36.840 --> 00:16:41.120 Well do they? Well, you can solve that just by 273 00:16:41.159 --> 00:16:42.759 not never giving any money. 274 00:16:43.919 --> 00:16:49.720 I just I'm a generous person and I haven't gone 275 00:16:49.799 --> 00:16:55.240 poor or anything, and and you know. 276 00:16:55.440 --> 00:16:59.200 I so she's fearful, but I don't understand how that 277 00:16:59.200 --> 00:17:01.360 that ties into her having a baby and whether she 278 00:17:01.399 --> 00:17:02.639 wants the baby around or not. 279 00:17:04.119 --> 00:17:08.279 She's just worried that I'm going to be taking advantage 280 00:17:08.279 --> 00:17:13.759 of and she doesn't trust this person, and I. 281 00:17:13.880 --> 00:17:15.839 Well, that's a different thing now if she's using the 282 00:17:15.880 --> 00:17:20.000 baby to leverage your decisions in life. Yeah, that's not 283 00:17:20.039 --> 00:17:23.839 necessarily fair. However, she has the right as the mother 284 00:17:23.920 --> 00:17:26.960 of the child to say that I don't want it 285 00:17:27.000 --> 00:17:29.440 around an environment that I don't feel as secure. And 286 00:17:29.519 --> 00:17:31.920 if if you're dating the way you date, and people 287 00:17:31.960 --> 00:17:35.559 are coming in and leaving and and. 288 00:17:35.319 --> 00:17:40.880 Dec to quit everything and do everything she wants me 289 00:17:40.920 --> 00:17:43.160 to do, and well, that's not healthy. 290 00:17:43.480 --> 00:17:47.480 That's not healthy either unless you see them. You can't 291 00:17:47.519 --> 00:17:49.880 see it as doing what she wants and or needs. 292 00:17:49.960 --> 00:17:52.480 You have to see it as if there is a problem, 293 00:17:53.160 --> 00:17:55.759 that you are doing something that's not productive for your 294 00:17:55.759 --> 00:17:58.880 life and changing it. You can't change it for her. 295 00:17:58.960 --> 00:18:02.519 She could be a catalyst, or she could be a 296 00:18:02.559 --> 00:18:05.279 point of understanding for you and help you see something, 297 00:18:05.400 --> 00:18:08.440 but you can't do it just for her because then 298 00:18:08.440 --> 00:18:09.839 you're not learning anything either. 299 00:18:10.599 --> 00:18:16.359 Well, I would do anything for her and for this. 300 00:18:16.359 --> 00:18:20.519 Child, I understand that. But for instance, let's say you 301 00:18:20.519 --> 00:18:23.440 were doing drugs and she said, I don't want the 302 00:18:23.440 --> 00:18:25.799 baby around you because you're doing drugs, and you said, well, 303 00:18:25.839 --> 00:18:27.400 I'm just going to give up everything because I just 304 00:18:27.400 --> 00:18:29.799 want to see that baby. That's fine. You still end 305 00:18:29.880 --> 00:18:33.480 up stopping the drugs, but you don't understand that the 306 00:18:33.559 --> 00:18:36.319 drugs are wrong to begin with. So if there is 307 00:18:36.359 --> 00:18:38.759 a problem with the way you date or the people 308 00:18:38.799 --> 00:18:41.640 you date, you should take the time to look at 309 00:18:41.640 --> 00:18:44.640 that she's your daughter, she loves you, and she's trying 310 00:18:44.640 --> 00:18:47.240 to point out something. Now, it's not proper that she's 311 00:18:47.359 --> 00:18:50.079 using the baby for leverage if that's the case, but 312 00:18:50.240 --> 00:18:52.160 it is proper if she's saying, as the mother of 313 00:18:52.200 --> 00:18:55.839 this child, I don't want them near you because you're unstable. 314 00:18:55.839 --> 00:18:57.680 You tend to bring people in your life that aren't 315 00:18:57.720 --> 00:19:00.079 good for you. They end up living off of you. 316 00:19:00.079 --> 00:19:03.759 You and anybody who would live off of you is 317 00:19:03.799 --> 00:19:05.920 not the type of person or the type of character 318 00:19:06.319 --> 00:19:08.880 that I want my child around. And you have to 319 00:19:08.920 --> 00:19:13.079 recognize that if that is indeed a problem. If it's not, 320 00:19:13.599 --> 00:19:15.880 then there's something going on with your daughter. But by 321 00:19:15.920 --> 00:19:18.759 the sounds of things, you're the one that goes from 322 00:19:19.960 --> 00:19:22.359 person to person to person, and they all seem to 323 00:19:22.400 --> 00:19:26.599 be in a certain category of engaged in fame or 324 00:19:26.640 --> 00:19:30.160 seeking fame. And you know, that tells me a little 325 00:19:30.160 --> 00:19:32.640 something as well as to the type of people that 326 00:19:32.720 --> 00:19:39.079 you tend to gravitate towards. And I think that your daughter, 327 00:19:39.240 --> 00:19:41.759 by the sounds of things, the information that you're giving me, 328 00:19:42.880 --> 00:19:46.799 is concerned mostly about you and the way you are 329 00:19:46.839 --> 00:19:49.119 currently living, and doesn't want to be that around that 330 00:19:49.240 --> 00:19:50.559 or doesn't want a child around that. 331 00:19:52.039 --> 00:19:56.640 I guess so. But he's a very good man, and 332 00:19:57.920 --> 00:20:01.400 I'm gonna you know, I've alway already started to segue 333 00:20:01.480 --> 00:20:06.599 him out of my life, and I've quit smoking, and 334 00:20:06.640 --> 00:20:12.359 I have, you know, just tried to do everything she 335 00:20:12.400 --> 00:20:15.440 wants me to do because it's the most important thing 336 00:20:15.759 --> 00:20:16.480 I understand. 337 00:20:16.480 --> 00:20:18.359 But it can't be because she wants it. It has 338 00:20:18.400 --> 00:20:20.599 to be because either right or wrong. And if you're 339 00:20:20.599 --> 00:20:22.519 not learning that, then you're going to be back to 340 00:20:22.519 --> 00:20:26.240 square one sooner or later. So you need to do 341 00:20:28.359 --> 00:20:30.519 a checklist of the things going on in your life 342 00:20:30.680 --> 00:20:33.160 and really listen to what she has, what she's been 343 00:20:33.160 --> 00:20:37.599 telling you, and see either one it's true and that 344 00:20:38.759 --> 00:20:41.200 you bring people into your life that aren't necessarily the 345 00:20:41.200 --> 00:20:43.880 best for you, and if so, you need to find 346 00:20:43.920 --> 00:20:46.400 out why or it's not true, and you need to 347 00:20:46.400 --> 00:20:51.039 find out why your daughter would leverage a grandchild in 348 00:20:51.160 --> 00:20:53.359 such situation. I don't think he has anything to do 349 00:20:53.400 --> 00:20:55.160 with the skin color or anything like that. I think 350 00:20:55.240 --> 00:21:00.000 it sounds like a pattern of sorts with you, Leslie, 351 00:21:00.400 --> 00:21:04.480 and strip some things from your life that aren't good. 352 00:21:04.519 --> 00:21:07.440 The smoking, absolutely, it's good to get that out of 353 00:21:07.480 --> 00:21:12.160 your system, nasty, nasty habit, and one that could be 354 00:21:12.759 --> 00:21:15.880 quite detrimental to your health. So good that that's off 355 00:21:15.880 --> 00:21:20.839 the list. Continue down that path and check your relationships 356 00:21:20.839 --> 00:21:25.440 and see if they're healthy or productive or any of 357 00:21:25.480 --> 00:21:31.160 these things, and maybe maybe they're not. Whenever you're in 358 00:21:31.400 --> 00:21:35.960 any kind of relationship, you're going to have push and pull. 359 00:21:36.359 --> 00:21:40.359 Parental relationships a difficult one as well, because the dynamics 360 00:21:40.400 --> 00:21:43.440 in them change. That's part of the uniqueness of that 361 00:21:43.519 --> 00:21:48.240 type of relationship that as the child gets older, the 362 00:21:48.279 --> 00:21:53.039 dynamic in the relationship changes because the position of the 363 00:21:53.039 --> 00:21:56.079 individuals change. I went through this with my mother as well, 364 00:21:56.119 --> 00:21:58.119 and a lot of people miss this subtlety. At the 365 00:21:58.119 --> 00:22:03.440 wedding of Cana when my mother Mary asked me to 366 00:22:03.480 --> 00:22:07.480 do a miracle, right, this would have been the first miracle. 367 00:22:07.519 --> 00:22:14.119 This is me making water into wine and essentially saving 368 00:22:14.319 --> 00:22:18.200 face for this family who was in the middle of 369 00:22:18.240 --> 00:22:23.160 their wedding. And I said, a woman, do you not 370 00:22:23.319 --> 00:22:27.000 know that it is not my time? And this was 371 00:22:27.039 --> 00:22:30.240 a change in our relationship status as well as I 372 00:22:30.440 --> 00:22:33.599 was going to be moving now once I did that miracle, 373 00:22:33.720 --> 00:22:37.039 I was going to be moving towards that messiah ship role. 374 00:22:39.079 --> 00:22:43.640 And that that would change from there on out our 375 00:22:43.640 --> 00:22:48.720 relationship and those subtleties are seen in scripture when you look. 376 00:22:48.799 --> 00:22:52.200 But every parental relationship goes through certain things and certain 377 00:22:52.279 --> 00:22:59.839 changes as the child becomes an adult child. So that's 378 00:23:00.000 --> 00:23:04.640 difficult to begin with. And if the parents are no 379 00:23:04.720 --> 00:23:10.440 longer married or there's a divorce, or somebody is widowed, 380 00:23:10.960 --> 00:23:15.480 then it throws into more complications when someone starts to date, 381 00:23:15.519 --> 00:23:18.200 because now it's a family unit, a very intimate unit 382 00:23:19.720 --> 00:23:24.039 by design that has been opened up to a stranger, essentially, 383 00:23:24.119 --> 00:23:26.720 at least by some of the parties. So you get 384 00:23:26.720 --> 00:23:29.160 a parent who's now dating someone, and they may be 385 00:23:29.279 --> 00:23:33.519 intimate with that person or have that type of relationship, 386 00:23:34.319 --> 00:23:38.720 and it can change completely. Now we could have gotten 387 00:23:38.799 --> 00:23:41.039 to a whole bunch of other things with that leslie 388 00:23:41.079 --> 00:23:44.000 as to what kind of relationship this is and if 389 00:23:44.039 --> 00:23:46.480 you guys are living together and all of those things. 390 00:23:46.519 --> 00:23:48.680 There was much more to it, but I'm going to 391 00:23:48.680 --> 00:23:51.759 stay focused on the question at hand because I think 392 00:23:51.759 --> 00:23:53.960 in a broad sense, this affects a lot of people 393 00:23:55.279 --> 00:24:01.079 that are looking that have maybe been widowed or divorced 394 00:24:01.240 --> 00:24:04.799 and bring people into their lives. Now you may trust 395 00:24:04.799 --> 00:24:06.799 people these people that are coming into your lives, but 396 00:24:06.839 --> 00:24:09.319 it doesn't mean that your loved ones do. Doesn't mean 397 00:24:09.319 --> 00:24:11.880 that your children, your adult children will and it doesn't 398 00:24:11.920 --> 00:24:14.240 mean that others will as well, and they may not 399 00:24:14.440 --> 00:24:17.640 know this person the same way, and so it's going 400 00:24:17.720 --> 00:24:19.720 to be a different reaction. You can't just say, well, 401 00:24:20.119 --> 00:24:23.000