Speaker 1: Well, this is weird. I'm the one hitting record today.
Speaker 1: It's a big job to hit the record.
Speaker 2: No, oh my god.
Speaker 1: Well, we're recording in the on air studio that we
Speaker 1: work in for KATIEWB for ones versus more of like
Speaker 1: a production studio. But hello, welcome to I'm still fun.
Speaker 2: Welcome.
Speaker 1: How was your weekend fallon? Oh, we're gonna jump right
Speaker 1: into that. Yeah, it was pretty good. I try to
Speaker 1: think of what I did.
Speaker 2: You went to a holiday bar? I did go to.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we both went to holiday bars for then. I
Speaker 3: went to the one out in Waconia and it was
Speaker 3: really good. I like their food anyway. It's at Lola's
Speaker 3: lake House and that's out my neck of the woods.
Speaker 3: So we go there for dinner, more so in the
Speaker 3: summer because like we're on the lake. It's really nice.
Speaker 3: I always like the festive holiday bars. And it's harder
Speaker 3: for me to find a drink though, because typically I
Speaker 3: don't order typically cocktails on like a signature cocktail page
Speaker 3: or restaurants because for some reason I almost always find
Speaker 3: them too sweet or they don't have the liquors I
Speaker 3: like in them if they're not too sweet. The one
Speaker 3: place I've gone where I've genuinely loved every single.
Speaker 2: Cocktail is Kolita.
Speaker 3: Yeah, every single cock and one time I went early
Speaker 3: on when they open, each person our table got a
Speaker 3: different Once we got one of every cocktail and tried it,
Speaker 3: and it was every single.
Speaker 2: One of them.
Speaker 3: But I got like kind of just basically a Cosmopolitan
Speaker 3: because I knew, like there's probably no way can go
Speaker 3: wrong with that. Yeah, it was good, and yeah, the
Speaker 3: food's always good there, so it was fun festive.
Speaker 2: Do you like tequila? I love tequila?
Speaker 1: O great, then I think you would also because I
Speaker 1: went to Nicos and I went to the South Minneapolis
Speaker 1: one because the one that's in Uptown is super booked
Speaker 1: right now. Yeah, but also like a holiday pop up situation.
Speaker 1: But their drinks are so good. Also, the tequila drinks
Speaker 1: were good. My girlfriend got some kind of eggnog drink,
Speaker 1: which I'm not an eggnogt that's Jake got was an
Speaker 1: agnogat Yeah, and she hers was really good. She had
Speaker 1: like a gingerbread cookie in it. And then my other
Speaker 1: girlfriend got some of their mulled wine cocktail and that
Speaker 1: was also really good. So I feel like that's a
Speaker 1: hotspot too. But what's the place called that it's shut
Speaker 1: down now, but the like log cabin whatever that was
Speaker 1: in like a lot minute, No, it was. It was
Speaker 1: a holiday pop up in Minnetaka. I don't know what
Speaker 1: I'm talking about, Okay, Well, anyways, it's over by Fletchers,
Speaker 1: I believe is where it was. But then that that
Speaker 1: place next door to it closed down, so I think
Speaker 1: that closed down. And when we went last year, it
Speaker 1: was all pre made cocktails that was like thirteen dollars
Speaker 1: and you don't get it in a cute cup or anything. Anyways,
Speaker 1: because I comes jam packed into this tiny little cabin
Speaker 1: and I was like, Yeah, we're definitely here for the vibes.
Speaker 1: We're not here for the drinks, that's for sure. So
Speaker 1: that's why I was excited to go to Nico's this weekend,
Speaker 1: because we had gone to the Uptown one last year,
Speaker 1: and I just knew that the drinks were good and
Speaker 1: the food is always good there because.
Speaker 3: I love plenty of times the I always I don't
Speaker 3: love a mes cow, but I like most tequila drinks.
Speaker 3: And then I know the place you're talking about now
Speaker 3: because Steve O tried to get me to go to
Speaker 3: it last year. This is like it was kind of
Speaker 3: close to me. He was like, Christy and I are here,
Speaker 3: come like over. I'm like, no, I can't get a
Speaker 3: babysitter in five minutes to.
Speaker 2: Lines forever long. You probably could by the time we
Speaker 2: get in.
Speaker 3: And I was like, I'm gonna pass. But yeah, they
Speaker 3: made the whole menu. If they did it, Nico's the
Speaker 3: whole menu food wise, I think it's their regular menu,
Speaker 3: but they changed it so it's all Christmas theme names
Speaker 3: for it, which thought was a nice little touch.
Speaker 1: Also, yeah, they just changed a bunch of the drinks
Speaker 1: to be named because they have a ton of margarita's
Speaker 1: there since it's a taco place, and so all the
Speaker 1: drinks were named something fun like Sleigh Queen or Saint
Speaker 1: Nico or something like that.
Speaker 2: Fun.
Speaker 1: But yeah, so the drink menu super good. The food
Speaker 1: there is also really good. I have never had anything
Speaker 1: there that I just like, so it was actually an enjoyable,
Speaker 1: like chill holiday pop up bar, not like crammed where
Speaker 1: you couldn't move and that kind of situation and great food.
Speaker 2: So that was fun for us. That's super nice.
Speaker 3: I have one of those weeks this week where I
Speaker 3: actually have off of the Jason Show every day but
Speaker 3: Wednesday okay, and then I have Thursday and Friday off
Speaker 3: both shows. So I'm like, been excited for this week,
Speaker 3: but I've already basically filled every moment.
Speaker 2: What do you think?
Speaker 3: What do you mean like holiday stuff or what just
Speaker 3: stuff in general? Like today, I had an event seven
Speaker 3: am to nine am. Then I got home and Jake
Speaker 3: was like, can you take Dolly to the vet because
Speaker 3: she needs like a shot to get groomed tomorrow, And
Speaker 3: I'm like yes, But then by the time I got
Speaker 3: back from that, I basically had to come here for
Speaker 3: our podcast. Then tomorrow she's gonna have to be grooms
Speaker 3: I'm probably going to drop her off, and I'm like
Speaker 3: my little windows of like where I was so excited
Speaker 3: to have time and I have a haircut at noon
Speaker 3: now I added that in I had one basically all year,
Speaker 3: So it's but I'm excited to have time off during
Speaker 3: the holidays. Man, I cannot wait to just have nothing
Speaker 3: to do all day. Yeah, looking forward to it.
Speaker 1: So I feel like I was like that last year
Speaker 1: going into the holidays, and then when it came around,
Speaker 1: I feel like I didn't because I have the issue
Speaker 1: of like, oh, I can't be lazy. I need to
Speaker 1: be productive, you know, But like I feel like I
Speaker 1: really felt like I had wasted a lot of it.
Speaker 1: So now this year, we're trying to figure out if
Speaker 1: we want to like take the van somewhere or go
Speaker 1: on a snowboarding trip or something. And I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: but like is that gonna be too much? And then
Speaker 1: I'm like, remember last year, you were bored, Like you
Speaker 1: got bored last year, and like, yes, I like the
Speaker 1: mental break of things, but like I still like to
Speaker 1: do things right during my free time. So yeah, we
Speaker 1: haven't figured out what we're doing, but I agree. I
Speaker 1: am sort of counting down the days for the next
Speaker 1: two weeks got left and then I'm off starting like
Speaker 1: finishing work on the twentieth, so that's the Friday, and
Speaker 1: then off until the new year.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I have six Jason shows left, and I have
Speaker 3: like I don't know, eight regular shows radio shows left,
Speaker 3: So I'm doing that countdown. But then it's not even
Speaker 3: completely like it's bizarre because I'm off Thursday and Friday
Speaker 3: this week, Cults off Monday and Tuesday next week, so
Speaker 3: we only have together a few shows yeah left, But anyway,
Speaker 3: I don't know if you're doing the countdown or if
Speaker 3: you go somewhere for the holidays. And I was talking
Speaker 3: to a moment early they go to like Arizona, you know,
Speaker 3: and lot of people go warmer spots.
Speaker 2: But yeah, I feel like we traveled enough this year.
Speaker 2: We're good.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we can hang out around the place and the
Speaker 3: Twin Cities. Also, I used to hate it as a
Speaker 3: kid when you'd open your presence and then have to
Speaker 3: go travel somewhere and you're not just want to play
Speaker 3: with my presence, man, So I don't want to do
Speaker 3: that to Alli in Dylan. I want them to like
Speaker 3: sit around and play with their stuff that they got
Speaker 3: for Christmas.
Speaker 1: I already have like most of the presents that I
Speaker 1: need to get wrapped in under the tree because I'm crazy,
Speaker 1: you know, Like I used to wait till Christmas Eve
Speaker 1: or the day before Christmas Eve to wrap everything, and
Speaker 1: now I'm like, I want the presence wrapped because I
Speaker 1: like the esthetic of the tree or whatever. So Andrew's
Speaker 1: already sniffing around. Oh gosh, and he listens to this.
Speaker 1: Otherwise I was going to give you a little hint
Speaker 1: of something, but I feel like he already knows one
Speaker 1: of his presents, so I'm kind of like, stop going
Speaker 1: by your pens, you a little bitch, like stay away.
Speaker 1: And he's also the type of person that I am
Speaker 1: and Andrew in this scenario, I know you are, because
Speaker 1: he's also the type of person that like, he'll have
Speaker 1: a present for me for my birthday or whatever it is,
Speaker 1: and he'd be like, what do you think it is?
Speaker 1: Do you want to open an out? And I'm like,
Speaker 1: can you not? Like, let's just wait. And so anyways,
Speaker 1: I am happy that the presents are under there already
Speaker 1: because we'll definitely be going back to Wisconsin for Christmas,
Speaker 1: and I do like the thought of us waking up
Speaker 1: at our house and opening the presents together, and we
Speaker 1: won't be doing that, like I don't know, maybe we'll
Speaker 1: open home early just so we can do it at
Speaker 1: our house together and not travel with presents for each other.
Speaker 1: But yeah, I'm I'm looking very much forward to Christmas. However,
Speaker 1: I am Andrew, and I have been starting to meet
Speaker 1: with this finance guy and we're just doing a lot
Speaker 1: of I don't know, new to me things with our
Speaker 1: money outside of your roth Ira and your four oh
Speaker 1: one K and stuff. And we're getting real strict with
Speaker 1: our budget. We are nailing down every single penny that
Speaker 1: we spend in the year, which includes presents. So I'm like, hey,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna pull back quite a bit this year for
Speaker 1: Christmas because I feel like I go a little bit
Speaker 1: crazy for Andrew a lot of times, and then honestly,
Speaker 1: on the Morning Show, I spend more on the Morning
Speaker 1: Show half the time than I do, like I don't
Speaker 1: even get my sister's presence right, So I kind of
Speaker 1: set some boundaries this year with all of that. But
Speaker 1: so I'm like excited for Christmas. However, now my sister
Speaker 1: just added in another game that we're apparently going to
Speaker 1: be playing where we have to bring three small presents.
Speaker 1: One can just be like a white elephant something around
Speaker 1: your house, and then the other two should be like
Speaker 1: five to ten dollars. And you know what, my cheap
Speaker 1: ass did. I found something that was like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: and I was like, this looks like it was five put.
Speaker 2: It in there.
Speaker 1: And then and then when Target had their little deal
Speaker 1: going out with the gift guards, They're like, well, how
Speaker 1: much do you want? And I go put eight dollars
Speaker 1: on it, because then it was discounted a little bit,
Speaker 1: and you add in the three dollar candle thing I got,
Speaker 1: and now I'm at like ten dollars totals. I feel
Speaker 1: like total. I did spend the amount, but we already
Speaker 1: also do like a twenty five dollars gift exchange thing,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, I'm trying to see money right now?
Speaker 1: Are we adding these things? Then?
Speaker 3: I should probably you that are about by, But I just
Speaker 3: have like an auto amount that comes out every single
Speaker 3: month that goes straight into our investment accounts, which, by
Speaker 3: the way, if you're listening and you are like, I
Speaker 3: need to do that, but I never have. It's intimidated.
Speaker 3: It's very intimidating. I was very scared. I don't like
Speaker 3: talking about numbers. It's very boring to me. But you
Speaker 3: don't have to have like a bazillion dollars saved to
Speaker 3: start investing.
Speaker 1: You don't.
Speaker 3: You can have little bits taken out. And I think
Speaker 3: it's really important women are still so far behind men
Speaker 3: in investing because for in real estate, well we have
Speaker 3: in our like way ahead in real estate lately in finances,
Speaker 3: and because we are just so were we started off
Speaker 3: at such a disadvantage in life of basically what year
Speaker 3: was it when women could actually start even a savings
Speaker 3: account in their own name? Right, Yeah, so we're we're
Speaker 3: catching up, but it and you know, it's important to
Speaker 3: do that stuff for yourself and for your future. So
Speaker 3: don't let it intimidate you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, don't even though, like I don't know, I think
Speaker 1: it's intimidating. And someone helps like explain certain things. But
Speaker 1: also you can do like research on your own, which
Speaker 1: I know nobody wants to do, but I do. And
Speaker 1: also there's so many like quote unquote finance gurus out
Speaker 1: there that you're.
Speaker 2: Like, well, who do I believe? Who is doing it right?
Speaker 1: Because like even the person that we're working with, like
Speaker 1: I trust him based off of Andrew's recommendation of his
Speaker 1: clients working with this person, and I'm still learning how
Speaker 1: much I trust him and what we're like doing and
Speaker 1: stuff like it's a process.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't I don't know what who your guy
Speaker 3: works for, but I will say it is good too,
Speaker 3: especially if you're just starting out and you're nervous if
Speaker 3: you don't have like a strong recommendation from someone you
Speaker 3: truly truly trust, because this is your money, it is
Speaker 3: I would say, look at like the bigger companies that
Speaker 3: you've heard of, they're going to have obviously they're going
Speaker 3: to be at least moderately reputable, you know, so for sure?
Speaker 2: Yeah uh?
Speaker 1: And then speaking of holiday stuff, we are coming over
Speaker 1: to your house, and by we, I mean myself and Tina.
Speaker 3: I know that holiday and it's actually, for like the
Speaker 3: first time in a million years, free on a streating service.
Speaker 3: Almost every year Jake and I have to like rent
Speaker 3: it or buy it, which is so weird, but it's
Speaker 3: actually free, thank god. If it isn't, I will be
Speaker 3: charging you both however much it costs to rent it,
Speaker 3: to add that to your budget. I feelink that's unfair
Speaker 3: because you invited us over, so I assume that that
Speaker 3: mean you had it on DVD at least.
Speaker 1: Who is it.
Speaker 3: I don't have a DVD player. I do actually think
Speaker 3: I have the DVD somewhere. But I last thing I
Speaker 3: do too, I think I have the DV Yeah, I
Speaker 3: do not have a function. I remember one year we
Speaker 3: were Cable went out and we were like, well, what
Speaker 3: do we do with our lives?
Speaker 2: How do we entertain our child? You know, very adult things?
Speaker 3: And I think we ended up finding the DVD player,
Speaker 3: but we could never find the remote that went with it,
Speaker 3: so we do have one somewhere. But we're debating on
Speaker 3: if I should prepare a meal or if we should
Speaker 3: order food, and I don't know, maybe we should just
Speaker 3: order food, but also I don't know, going back and
Speaker 3: forth on it. Jenny's going to make cookies and I
Speaker 3: do like that, I know.
Speaker 1: I do, however, need to get myself some because I
Speaker 1: wanted to make like Christmas cutouts, and I know everyone
Speaker 1: makes cutouts around the time of the year, but I
Speaker 1: swear that my mom's recipe is just like very top notch,
Speaker 1: and I've never made them myself, so I can't promise
Speaker 1: it'll be great, but I think they will. And I
Speaker 1: went to Target yesterday and they had no Christmas cutout
Speaker 1: things cutters whatever they're called. And so I'm like on
Speaker 1: Facebook Marketplace last night and people are trying to sell
Speaker 1: like fifty cookie cutter.
Speaker 3: I bet you should go somewhere like Michael's or hobby Lobby.
Speaker 3: I bet you that would be like a good spot
Speaker 3: to get that kind of stuff.
Speaker 1: I honestly was debating asking Dave if he could ask
Speaker 1: Susan for to borrow hers because I feel like they
Speaker 1: have everything.
Speaker 2: I have somebody.
Speaker 3: I mean, I have some that I could bring as
Speaker 3: long as you bring them back Saturday because we're doing
Speaker 3: cookie Sunday.
Speaker 1: That would work okay, because I don't know if I'll
Speaker 1: ever make them again. And I was like, oh, it'd
Speaker 1: be fun to do like a cookie thing with. I
Speaker 1: don't have a ton, but I have a few. I
Speaker 1: only want like the basics. Are they Christmas themed?
Speaker 2: Okay? I want like a tree? You got that? I
Speaker 2: don't know that I have a tree's a star? I
Speaker 2: think Santa. I have some. I know I have a
Speaker 2: mittened What do you have my yashs like the staples
Speaker 2: of Christmas cookie cut out?
Speaker 3: No, I can't remember. I have to go look when
Speaker 3: I get home. Wat y'all on me have like a
Speaker 3: heart in a Minnesota state. I know I have cats
Speaker 3: and dogs, but I'm pretty sure I have Christmas once.
Speaker 3: I want them to be like easy enough to frost.
Speaker 3: I don't want it to be like where I have
Speaker 3: to do a bunch of different colors on one.
Speaker 1: Do you know what I mean? Yeah? Because I feel
Speaker 1: like the Santas. Usually you gotta have red and white
Speaker 1: and then it's like, where do you put the red
Speaker 1: in the white?
Speaker 2: Yeah? So anyways, I'm.
Speaker 3: Saving the cookies I want to make every year. I
Speaker 3: will do the peanut butter blossoms because those are Jake's favorite,
Speaker 3: and honestly, I don't like a peanut butter cookie, but
Speaker 3: I like those because of the kiss. But I've been
Speaker 3: saving some bars and some cookies that I'm gonna try
Speaker 3: new this year.
Speaker 2: Okay, in addition to sugar cookies. I think you gave
Speaker 2: me a little bag of cookies.
Speaker 3: Last year, I want to say, and I'm gonna do
Speaker 3: just like some bark this year too. I bought a
Speaker 3: bunch of white milk chocolate to melt and a bunch
Speaker 3: of shit to pour in it.
Speaker 1: I can already tell that my body is hating me
Speaker 1: because Andrew bought a bunch of chocolate to put in
Speaker 1: this little like reindeer candy dish we have, and of
Speaker 1: course we can't control our ourselves. It's like the only
Speaker 1: snack we have in the house half the time, and
Speaker 1: so we've both been eating like chocolate, and I can
Speaker 1: tell it's messing with my stomach already, which is always
Speaker 1: what happens every year with my Mom's peanut butter balls
Speaker 1: where the chocolate gets to me, and I like feel awful,
Speaker 1: like I've worked out pretty hard the last few days.
Speaker 1: Today though, I had a couple of linch truffles yesterday
Speaker 1: and now my son was like, what in the hell? Yeah,
Speaker 1: Andrew went bougie this last time filling up that reindeer.
Speaker 1: I was like, jeez, babe, we're gonna go broke on
Speaker 1: the chocolates you're putting in this thing.
Speaker 2: They're God, they're not cheap. We gonna go broke up
Speaker 2: the lint chocolate Reinier I got. I went.
Speaker 3: I bought two tins of Jingle Jangle at Trader Joe's. Already,
Speaker 3: we're already through one. I'm like, good guy, it's bash am.
Speaker 2: I gonna have to get some because I'm probably going to.
Speaker 3: Trader Joe's today. It's ten dollars for the ten and
Speaker 3: it's worth it. It's so delicious, it's so good. I
Speaker 3: might have to Jingle Jingle is a It's something we look.
Speaker 2: Forward to as a family every year. Now, it's so good.
Speaker 2: I don't know if I've had it. I know what it,
Speaker 2: but I don't.
Speaker 1: Know I've got it.
Speaker 3: M and m's tiny which are my least favorite, my
Speaker 3: tiny little peanut butter cups, like tiny ones, chocolate covered pretzels,
Speaker 3: chocolate covered popcorns, and then they're little Jojo cookies, chunks
Speaker 3: of those.
Speaker 2: Covered in chocolate.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, it's I like a mix that if
Speaker 1: it has pretzels in it, then it's not just the
Speaker 1: pretzel it because you know, you get like your Guardetto's
Speaker 1: or whatever, and it's like the pretzels always the least
Speaker 1: favorite thing.
Speaker 2: It's not my least favorite when they're chocolate covered.
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. Like, that's why I'm saying I
Speaker 1: would like that mix with pretzels in it. It actually
Speaker 1: has like some blave it's all chocolate.
Speaker 2: Some are dark summer light.
Speaker 1: Baby.
Speaker 2: So how much does it cost? Ten dollars?
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 1: God? For like a tin? What size is it?
Speaker 2: Like the size of this chlorox bottle? A normal tin,
Speaker 2: a normal Christmas cookie tin.
Speaker 1: Okay, see I was thinking like a popcorn tin for
Speaker 1: a second. I was like, I could do.
Speaker 2: That, Jenny, What that's so fud good? You would not.
Speaker 1: I can't be eating chocolate this much because I can't
Speaker 1: control myself. I'm getting pimps around my like chin over here,
Speaker 1: and you know that is not my norm.
Speaker 2: So I don't like that.
Speaker 1: Usually that's hormonal acting. Then I'm on my period, so
Speaker 1: that could be it. Probably you're on your period again,
Speaker 1: started yesterday? Didn't you just have it?
Speaker 2: N I'm on, I'm at roat, I'm a fountain. Oh
Speaker 2: my god, I think it was like two or three
Speaker 2: weeks ago.
Speaker 1: Right, well do you do last month? You did do
Speaker 1: something different after the tsunami. Period was supposed to come
Speaker 1: right well before that.
Speaker 3: Remember I took medication to induce my period, so and
Speaker 3: then that's.
Speaker 1: These are the repercussions. Now.
Speaker 3: I don't know what's happening. I think this is normal.
Speaker 3: This is the only one I've had this month. Okay,
Speaker 3: well that would be normal. But god, I swore like
Speaker 3: two weeks ago you were like, I have a period again.
Speaker 2: I might have my week's are I'm out?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: In December and nobody knows what's going on. Nobody knows
Speaker 1: tell me about it. I I like literally dream about
Speaker 1: Christmas wish every day and I'm like, what day is it?
Speaker 1: What day? Like? Are we are we like a few
Speaker 1: weeks into it? Are we only a week? I don't
Speaker 1: know everybody knows how far I do feel like Christmas
Speaker 1: should only be a week away, and it's.
Speaker 2: Weeks Okaya is yesterday?
Speaker 3: The elf on the shelf left to eighteen days until Christmas. Note,
Speaker 3: let me tell you something that I don't envy of
Speaker 3: you parents. I don't do difficult ones. There are people
Speaker 3: who spend a lot of money, buy outfit really commit. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I have our elf really.
Speaker 1: Just like.
Speaker 3: Is a budget friendly elf. She does not go to
Speaker 3: the North Pole and spend all of her money on stuff.
Speaker 3: She looks around the house and she's like, that be
Speaker 3: a fun little thing. So you got a frugal elf,
Speaker 3: A frugal elf. Yeah, it's nice that you got one
Speaker 3: of those. I feel like some elves are just like
Speaker 3: real bougie with it. She did bring all of some
Speaker 3: little many donuts, like those little powdered sugar ones.
Speaker 1: But that's I think all she's Those are my favorite,
Speaker 1: so good god. It's like road trip snacks. Those will,
Speaker 1: hands down always be in my road trip snacks.
Speaker 3: I never get them, but if someone else has them,
Speaker 3: I'll pound them right.
Speaker 1: And it's like they're the type that you can't stop
Speaker 1: once you started, You're like, Okay, I'll have two, and
Speaker 1: then you're like, well, what's two more?
Speaker 2: Well, what's the whole bag? Yeah, that's a lot at
Speaker 2: that point. But yeah, I'm on the same page as
Speaker 2: you for sure.
Speaker 1: Here. I did get a DM from someone and I
Speaker 1: sent it to myself in an email. Hopefully I did
Speaker 1: it correctly that I would like to read and they
Speaker 1: need a little bit of help. Okay, it says fallin
Speaker 1: Jenny with a bunch of exclamation points. That's why I
Speaker 1: yelled okay, I love you guys and all that you
Speaker 1: bring to my everyday routine. I'm writing in in need
Speaker 1: of some advice. So for starters, I graduated college with
Speaker 1: close friends and some acquaintances that I'm friendly with. I
Speaker 1: met one of my best friends in college who I
Speaker 1: see regularly. However, along with this girl I consider a bestie,
Speaker 1: let's call her Joanna, also includes four of the girls
Speaker 1: in this friend group.
Speaker 2: Let me explain.
Speaker 1: I met these four girls through Joanna, and as college
Speaker 1: went on, we be came roommates, hung out quite a bit,
Speaker 1: and once we all graduated, we distanced each other, trying
Speaker 1: to figure ourselves out. Ever since that year, I've felt
Speaker 1: a feeling of not belonging in this friend group anymore.
Speaker 1: When we did get together, there'd always be lots of
Speaker 1: shit talking, being insensitive to other people and super judgmental
Speaker 1: talking about the same stories about people and memories and
Speaker 1: all that I'm a part of their group message in
Speaker 1: Snapchat and Instagram chain and as I have all of
Speaker 1: them muted and respond minimally, I wish I could put
Speaker 1: more distance between this group and myself and just have
Speaker 1: a friendship with Joanna, since I don't think it's a
Speaker 1: healthy front group. It's different when it's one on one,
Speaker 1: and I've grown to love smaller groups unless everyone's personalities
Speaker 1: are in sync. This college group all have too big
Speaker 1: of personalities where everyone wants the spotlight. I know that
Speaker 1: my feelings are valid since I don't feel this way
Speaker 1: and any other groups of friends that I have, but
Speaker 1: I am also a people pleaser and I don't like confrontation.
Speaker 1: I've put a lot of distance between the four girls
Speaker 1: that I don't consider close, but because Joanna is very
Speaker 1: good friends with them, I feel like it's really hard
Speaker 1: to detach myself from them since she adores them, and
Speaker 1: it's difficult when it comes to social settings and celebrations.
Speaker 1: So these healthy boundaries that I set, but I cannot
Speaker 1: figure out how to do this.
Speaker 2: She might have misspoke there. I'm not sure what she
Speaker 2: was trying to say.
Speaker 1: This is a I dread going to hang out with them,
Speaker 1: and I feel drained when leaving the hangout type of situation.
Speaker 1: I know it's not great, So I'm trying to be
Speaker 1: completely positive on my decision and how I go about this,
Speaker 1: because I don't want to keep coming back in and
Speaker 1: leaving the friend group. I wish we could all just
Speaker 1: naturally get involved in our own lives and be busy
Speaker 1: and maybe see each other once a year. But they
Speaker 1: literally message the friend group every day, and some with something.
Speaker 1: I have cut out friendships that no longer stuited me
Speaker 1: in the past, but this seems a little more gray area,
Speaker 1: easier said than done right now, I only just found
Speaker 1: if it's an individual message to me, please help. So
Speaker 1: I think she's asking, like, how to set boundaries with
Speaker 1: this friend group while still remaining friends with Joanna.
Speaker 2: Yeah, is what I'm getting out of this. I feel
Speaker 2: like you've done the more than me, so maybe you
Speaker 2: have more advice.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I have very much like cut certain
Speaker 1: people out of my life and then like have been
Speaker 1: scared that I wouldn't be friends with the other people
Speaker 1: that we were all associated with, and that's usually not
Speaker 1: the case. I was still friends with the people that
Speaker 1: I wanted to be friends with, and not friends with
Speaker 1: the people I didn't want to. So I think you
Speaker 1: just you know, I don't think it doesn't sound like
Speaker 1: any of them did you dirty? And anyway, it just
Speaker 1: sounds like you have grown in a different way. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I would say grown up. Yes, So I would say,
Speaker 1: just like ask Joanna to hang out and like just
Speaker 1: have you guys be in it, and then like remove
Speaker 1: yourself from the group chats if you want, because like
Speaker 1: who cares?
Speaker 2: Yeah, if you're not even responding.
Speaker 3: I mean, I realistically, you know that if that's the
Speaker 3: type of people they are, they're probably going to talk
Speaker 3: crap about you and be like what did we do?
Speaker 3: And what's her deal? And they probably ask Joanna. If
Speaker 3: Joanna is like good people like you say, then I
Speaker 3: think she'll be like, I don't know, Maybe she doesn't know.
Speaker 3: Maybe you can explain it to her and maybe she'll
Speaker 3: even agree with you, even though you say she adores them.
Speaker 3: But maybe don't bring it up or explain it unless
Speaker 3: she asks you, because then it's almost like you're starting
Speaker 3: to gossip, which you don't really like. So maybe, yeah,
Speaker 3: like Jenny said, just invite her to do solo things.
Speaker 3: The issue with that is you are gonna have to
Speaker 3: be prepared for her to be like, oh, yeah, should
Speaker 3: we like text the group and see if they want
Speaker 3: to go, And you're gonna have to be like I
Speaker 3: was hoping it could just be the two of us.
Speaker 3: Maybe you could say it like warded, like, hey, I
Speaker 3: was thinking the two of us could go grab so
Speaker 3: that it doesn't leave it open ended to them by
Speaker 3: the other people in the group. Yeah, and then she
Speaker 3: may eventually figure it out. Like Jenny said, it sounds
Speaker 3: like you are good at setting boundaries with the group
Speaker 3: text because you have all muted. But yeah, you do
Speaker 3: look at your phone and see curiosity gets you you
Speaker 3: look through it.
Speaker 1: It's no fun to be around people who just tak
Speaker 1: crap all the time and are super judgmental. Really is draining,
Speaker 1: and you might not like realize that until you're a
Speaker 1: little bit older. But like, I have definitely been in
Speaker 1: situations where I like couldn't be around certain people anymore,
Speaker 1: because it's just not who I am as a person
Speaker 1: to just constantly talk crap.
Speaker 2: So I just like wouldn't.
Speaker 1: Respond to people on text sometimes, and then then I
Speaker 1: look like I'm the bitch, right and I'm like, no,
Speaker 1: you're talking shit about someone and I don't want to partake,
Speaker 1: so leave me out of it.
Speaker 2: Yeah. So yeah, it's just I don't know.
Speaker 1: Negative energy is what I'm getting from the other girls,
Speaker 1: and you shouldn't have that in your life. So hopefully
Speaker 1: you can still be friends with Joanna and not have that.
Speaker 3: I don't know how old you are, but I am
Speaker 3: if it's like your few years your moved from college.
Speaker 3: It is so surprising to me that your group still
Speaker 3: texts every single day. I know, that's actually like so
Speaker 3: surprising to me because my good college friends.
Speaker 2: There are three of us.
Speaker 3: We text a little bit more right now because Abby
Speaker 3: got engaged, but realistically I would, I don't know, maybe
Speaker 3: text Abby every three weeks, maybe more if there was
Speaker 3: something big going on.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 3: That's actually surprising to me. If you know, I was
Speaker 3: gonna say, I don't know it for you because you
Speaker 3: don't want that. Yeah, I don't have any group chats honestly,
Speaker 3: that are very frequent. It's like a lot of memes
Speaker 3: sent back and forth on like Instagram in a couple things,
Speaker 3: but not even every day. The only frequent group chat
Speaker 3: I have is Jake's siblings. Yeah, they send something every
Speaker 3: single day. It's always just funny back and forth, funny
Speaker 3: stuff that makes me laugh.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, I don't know. Hopefully that'll help you out
Speaker 1: a little bit, but nos. Yeah, yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 3: I feel like it's I have a million things I
Speaker 3: want to talk about, and then I can't think of
Speaker 3: a single thing, Like, my thoughts are not organized today.
Speaker 1: I had to spend like five to ten hours last
Speaker 1: week transferring my U of M email to a basic
Speaker 1: Gmail because they were taking my U of M email
Speaker 1: all away from you.
Speaker 2: Finally, how dare they take it away from you?
Speaker 1: And let me tell you that is one of the
Speaker 1: most tedious things to change emails.
Speaker 2: Really.
Speaker 1: Everything is associated to your email. Yeah, everything, your Venmo,
Speaker 1: your social media accounts, your bank accounts, you're my chart,
Speaker 1: like absolutely anything that you have subscription to or you
Speaker 1: have to log into it is associated.
Speaker 2: To your email.
Speaker 3: The only thing I have associated to my college email
Speaker 3: is Facebook. But I have two emails on there, not
Speaker 3: just my college one, in case that ever happened. I
Speaker 3: haven't logged into my college email in like years and years.
Speaker 3: I don't know if it still exists.
Speaker 1: Honestly, I just never started a personal one after college
Speaker 1: because I had just always used my college one. So anyways,
Speaker 1: they took it away, and as I'm going through my
Speaker 1: Google drive, I stumbled upon all of these random things
Speaker 1: that I had saved in there from when I started
Speaker 1: on the show, and so there were so many clips
Speaker 1: of just random bits and I'd be like, what is this.
Speaker 1: I don't even know what this is, like whatever it
Speaker 1: was titled, but there were so many clips, and I
Speaker 1: don't know why I had these specifically, because it'd be
Speaker 1: soundbites of you, Dave and Steve, and I would always
Speaker 1: put these promos together and where it'd be funny clips
Speaker 1: of you guys, but I had to like go back
Speaker 1: and listen to yours because I just there were so
Speaker 1: many funny ones that I remember, but like I needed
Speaker 1: to hear them again. And one of my favorites, and
Speaker 1: I don't know the context of it, it was something
Speaker 1: like when you, oh God, when you fart, do you
Speaker 1: shit yourself or something like that. No, you didn't say shit, obviously,
Speaker 1: yeah you said shart. But it was so funny. And
Speaker 1: I remember putting this promo together with that clip and
Speaker 1: Tina being in my studio with me, and I was
Speaker 1: crying laughing, and I think she was like, Jenny, it's
Speaker 1: not that funny, and I was like, it is so funny,
Speaker 1: like whatever it was. So I heard that clip over
Speaker 1: the weekend and I wanted to play it for you,
Speaker 1: but honestly, my email's so like messed up with trying
Speaker 1: to transfer all this stuff over. I don't know where
Speaker 1: it is right now, but.
Speaker 2: I do not remember them. I'man.
Speaker 3: The only shart I truly remember is when Dave sharded
Speaker 3: himself as before a staff meeting.
Speaker 2: No one I will always remember, probably.
Speaker 1: And I think that that is the one story that
Speaker 1: I will also forever remember as like crying laughing as.
Speaker 2: You told it on the radio that day because I
Speaker 2: could not and it was so annoyed with me.
Speaker 1: I said, so funny, it was so funny. I mean,
Speaker 1: do you want to tell the cliff notes of the story.
Speaker 1: He's told it himself now at this point. Yeah, so
Speaker 1: he basely an embarrassed.
Speaker 3: We had a staff meeting and I didn't know anything,
Speaker 3: and then like I'm gonna get details wrong. But when
Speaker 3: we left the staff meeting and we go it was
Speaker 3: just he and I walked to the elevator together and
Speaker 3: he was like, hey, do I stink or whatever?
Speaker 2: And I was like what, no, and he was like, oh,
Speaker 2: thank god.
Speaker 3: He was like, right before that staff meeting, I sharded
Speaker 3: myself and he said that he went over to the
Speaker 3: back of the room like it was this conference room
Speaker 3: and sat at the end of the table where no
Speaker 3: one was at and he said as soon as he did,
Speaker 3: like someone came like hey Dave and sat right next
Speaker 3: to him or something, and he was just like, oh
Speaker 3: my god. And the whole meeting he was so stressed out.
Speaker 3: He smelled b like crap. But it was very it
Speaker 3: was funnier, and it was like obviously it was so funny.
Speaker 1: I think one of the funny parts was the fact
Speaker 1: that he was trying to go to the bathroom to
Speaker 1: clean himself up. But then Rich was like, Dave, we're
Speaker 1: in here, because like he thought Dan was going to the.
Speaker 2: Wrong room and he didn't want it to be so late.
Speaker 1: He was like, well, yeah, okay, I'll come. But then
Speaker 1: the other one was that he was next to Mike
Speaker 1: the old web guy. Yes, and he felt like Mike
Speaker 1: kept scooting away from him, so he thought he smelled
Speaker 1: really bad.
Speaker 3: My that that DAEs ring a bell. Now, I'm like,
Speaker 3: my memory gets worse and worse every day. But yeah,
Speaker 3: there'll be definitely certain moments like that that stick out
Speaker 3: that make me laugh quite a bit.
Speaker 2: If I heard it, make me laugh a lot for sure.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, since I'm on the side, I can see
Speaker 1: the time right now, we're kind of at time. But
Speaker 1: next next week's going to be our last episode of
Speaker 1: twenty twenty four.
Speaker 2: That's crazy. Should we do something crazy, something wild?
Speaker 3: Maybe we should do like a little US yes, topless
Speaker 3: topless podcast, no video elements, sorry, so that'll be removed
Speaker 3: very quickly, and then we will. Oh, I tell you
Speaker 3: that I tried the Do you see that viral Turkish
Speaker 3: pasta going around on?
Speaker 1: I have not. No.
Speaker 3: Anna Paul is a sex worker and I follow her
Speaker 3: and I love her. She's like Australian or something. She's
Speaker 3: very funny and like eats all the time, and she
Speaker 3: talks very fast and has long videos and.
Speaker 2: She's the one that like a year.
Speaker 3: Or two ago, was like, I follow this sex worker
Speaker 3: or whatever, and Jake was like, what's or He's like,
Speaker 3: ooh gross, what's her name? And we laughed like he
Speaker 3: could go look her up, but he acted like he
Speaker 3: was appalled. But she made a Turkish pasta, and it's
Speaker 3: like going. It's like everywhere on TikTok. It's probably even
Speaker 3: more so on my TikTok because I looked at one
Speaker 3: recipe of it. I made it.
Speaker 2: I none of us.
Speaker 3: Hannah came over Jake's sister never have we ever had
Speaker 3: the worst garlic breath in our lives?
Speaker 2: And it was okay.
Speaker 1: Oh, I was gonna say, was it a good recipe?
Speaker 2: It was okay. I have maybe on the garlic prepare
Speaker 2: it as well as she does. Yeah, but it was okay.
Speaker 1: So I thought you were going to say that's what
Speaker 1: you're going to make for us on Saturday. That will
Speaker 1: not be making okay for us. No.
Speaker 2: I think there was a one and done situation for me.
Speaker 3: So oh uh, nope. You might be any takeout, Jenny.
Speaker 3: I don't know what's gonna happen for you. Could be Culver's, could.
Speaker 2: Be ooh, I love calling me that butter burger hell. Yes,
Speaker 2: all right, well, have a great week.
Speaker 3: If there's anything that you'd like to email us for
Speaker 3: our final episode, you can do it fallon or final
Speaker 3: episode of the year. Yes, good point at adwb dot com. Also,
Speaker 3: maybe I'll do like a little ask us anything question
Speaker 3: box we can do for the end of the year.
Speaker 3: And yeah, have a great week.
Speaker 2: Thank you, thanks for listen man.