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Speaker 2: Too.
Speaker 3: We Hey, everybody, welcome to for crying out loud. Whom
Stephanie and I are in the shoe box? I like
I think of it as the egg curtain. Yeah, we're
sitting in an egg carton. Stephanie looks three D to me.
I'm talking. I'm getting nice. I'm seeing trails. Yeah you don't.
Speaker 4: You guys know that kind of soundproofing.
Speaker 2: That's that's like little points, like a bunch of little
Madonna bras, uh huh, but a million of them on
every wall.
Speaker 3: Yes, and in like like what size is this six
by way smaller than Lisa vander Pump's closet. Oh hell,
this is like her maybe the stall that she has
the bathroom and where she.
Speaker 2: Keeps her brooms right, yeah, for her housekeepers.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, that's where we're at.
Speaker 5: Yes.
Speaker 3: Uh, My kids would never do anything like that, By
the way, could you imagine First of all, they don't
listen to any podcasts. I don't and if and they're
not going down the road like looking on my phone
to see what I'm listening to to see what they
can you know, like, how do they listen to? I
mean they're alone, she's a love.
Speaker 4: Maybe she listens with her mom. Maybe her mom plays
a podcast.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so so stellar parents going on over there? Well,
how about the lady Remember a few years ago that
lady was like, listen, I'm fine with all of like
you guys saying hunt and calling people bitches, but can
you please not talk about Santa Claus or at.
Speaker 3: Least give me a heads up?
Speaker 2: How about you don't listen to it with your child
is young enough to still believe in Santa Claus.
Speaker 3: Right, that's terrible.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry somebody right now, I just spoiled Now you
just ruined it.
Speaker 3: I just ruined Christmas. Well that's your opinion, Stephanie. There
is a Santa Claus.
Speaker 4: Kaylin, can you put a trigger warning on this show?
Speaker 2: You got it?
Speaker 3: Kaylin? What's going on?
Speaker 4: I heard there's some you have some news to share?
Speaker 5: Yeah, super exciting. I'm in the market for a new car.
Speaker 4: You guys thought I was going to say that your
mother was.
Speaker 3: The timing? Would that would make sense?
Speaker 2: So?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah, I am well with him?
Speaker 5: Yeah, is this about the same amount of time that
was there before.
Speaker 2: Maybe it's been too long at this point. I think
the age range is going.
Speaker 3: To get you to spread out now.
Speaker 5: I think it was a bit longer last time.
Speaker 3: Oh kaylen, get on it. Then, what's going on?
Speaker 5: Slow down here?
Speaker 4: Come on, catch up to the three club like me.
Speaker 3: So yeah, Sunny and I got our biggest first fight,
and I don't even remember what happens.
Speaker 4: What happened well the other night.
Speaker 3: So okay, Sunny goes for his walks like three times
a day. It's like an old man. He goes for
his long walks.
Speaker 4: O'ce is alone time like we do.
Speaker 3: He does. He walks around and he pontificates, you know,
listens to his podcasts. Yeah, he just he loves. He's
got a lot of like sports and shit to listen to. Anyway,
he goes on these walks, right, But now he's starting
to go at night. And you know, all right, you
know there we live. The neighborhood's nice, the lights are
lit up on the street. However, he loves going down
this one area that's dark right and there's no lights.
We call it Noah's Noah's House because there's a kid
that's their friend named Noah who lives in that area, right.
So so he's you know, we've been letting him go
for these walks, but I ask him, usually where you
know which way you're going? Does he ever go with Noah? No,
he doesn't. He goes on his own. So he's been
going at night, but he's been going down the right
streets that I like. Like, there's a main boulevard block up,
so he goes up there with all the restaurants and
stores and stuff, and he walks up there by Starbucks
and whatever, and that's fine. And he's gone for like
an hour each time.
Speaker 4: And three times a day he walked for an hour.
Speaker 3: Well he would go, yeah, he would go as soon
as the school's open.
Speaker 5: Thing.
Speaker 2: Adam doesn't let him have any carbs, that's.
Speaker 3: The only thing that I got for bid. Yeah, because
he's not getting any exercise else plane, thank god, he's limited. Yes,
And by the way, he's not working up a sweat
when he goes on these walks, so it's a good
thing he's moving at least. But you know, so those
there's the main streets and that's fine. Yeah, So he
goes basically right after as soon as school's over, he'll
go for a walk and go get lunch, you know.
I make him sometimes lunch the night before, and then
the next day he's like, mmm, I'll eat that for dinner.
So he goes on his walks like subway whatever, and
then he and then he goes again, like in the
middle of the afternoon. And then he's now been going
in the evenings, like after dinner and it's dark by then,
and okay, that's fine. Sometimes he takes phil but most
of the time no, because feels a pain in the
a s And now, So the other night, Adam's out
of town and Natalia wasn't around, and I was making
I was going to make dinner, some steaks, and he loves.
That's what he loves because when I cook, I have
to make exactly what he wants. Otherwise he won't eat.
Pain in the ass, and even sometimes he's still won't it.
And in this eight yes, but I made sure ahead
of time because if not, I'm ordering a pizza. I'm
gonna make this this and that is that okay with.
Speaker 4: You, sir, Sonny Corolla. So did you grill the steak
or did you make it in the on a pan?
Speaker 3: How did you do it?
Speaker 5: Hey?
Speaker 4: Even I don't know how people make steaks.
Speaker 3: I know, right, I was thinking the same thing. Do
I broil it? Sometimes? I broil it?
Speaker 4: But I we have a pan that has.
Speaker 3: Like the the you know, the the crates, you know,
so you see her the steak. It's got those lines
that you know. So we have one of those pants.
So I fried it up on that pant. But the
key is is I get to meat thermometer and I
stick it in there to see if it's done or not,
because otherwise I'll just start cutting up the steaks right
the juices, and all the juices is gone and then
that's that, right. So so now I learn my lesson
with the with the meat thermometer. Anyway, so you know,
I'm going like I would think it was Sunday night,
and I said, Sonny, you know everybody's gone, Why don't
I'll make dinner and we'll watch a movie. And he's
like okay. And so I come downstairs and I'm getting
ready in the kitchen and it's dark and it's like
seven thirty seven, almost seven forty five.
Speaker 4: I'll tell you.
Speaker 3: She was at her girlfriend Devon's house. Okay. So nobody's there,
so I'm making I tell him I'm gonna start making dinner,
and he's like, okay, I'm gonna I'm gonna go on
a walk. And I said, you know, and I was
talking Olga about this. I don't you know. He's fine.
I'm fine with him going at night, but he's got
to stay in the in the right areas where the
streets are lit, because by Noah's it's dark, right, And
and I've gone on that walk with him, and it's
it's kind of creepy, to be honest with you, because
it's kind of by the free it's by the freeway, right,
there's a lot of cold sacks, and it's just like it,
and it's dark. It's dark other than some of the
houses lit up with Christmas lights.
Speaker 4: It's just it's kind of creepy.
Speaker 3: And I told him, I said, I don't want you know.
I said, I was talking to all that and we
were both talking about that and Noah's streets are dark
and kind of creepy. And he was like, this is
what Sonny does now. He is constantly debating with me,
constantly budding heads, constantly challenging me. He's dying to talk
to people he's dying at, like debate and have conversations.
And if I say anything that he doesn't agree with,
it turns into a headache for me because I don't
want to waste all his energy and time arguing about nothing.
So I was like, Sonny, just please just go in
the other way. Well, why give me a good reason?
I said, because, well, first of all, because I'm your mother.
And I said, so, I don't have to give you
a reason. I don't want you going in that area.
Look at me, Oh mommy, Yeah, ever haven't talked to
that girl. I don't talk to any I I'm to
tell you, yeah, once in a while, but Sunny never like.
And he was like, just give me a reason. I said, Well,
for one thing, it's dark, no lights, you're by the freeway,
and I just there's other many other roads to travel.
You don't have to go that way. Just go to
the left instead of the right.
Speaker 4: I'd be like, I got a few hundred reasons, and they're.
Speaker 2: All episodes of DyLight, So hit subscribe on your podcast.
Speaker 4: Listen to a few episodes and you'll understand the reason.
Speaker 3: Yes, exactly. So he's like, listen, really, he goes I
have my flashlight. I he goes, that's so again, So
it's dark, So you don't want me to go because
it's dark, We'll have my flashlight. The other reason why
you don't go, the reason he's not camping. I see,
I know, I just don't. I said, I don't feel good.
I don't want you. It doesn't feel good to have you.
I don't want you going in that area. And he
was like, oh, so I'm not going to do it
now because you don't feel because you have a feel
about it, yes, oh totally little at him and I
was like, Sonny, I don't I don't have to give
you any reasons. I'm your mother and I don't want
you to go, and I have your little life three sixty.
I know where you are, so I will ill. Because
he was like, well, I'm just gonna go anyway or something,
he was like, oh no, he didn't. I'm gonna go
for a walk and if I go that way, I
go that way. And I was like, then, Sonny, you're
not going for a walk, that's it what? And he says, really,
you're gonna stop me from going for a walk because
you don't feel right because the lights are out and
I have a flashlight, and I was like, that's there's
more too. I don't I just don't want you to
go there. Why it's dangerous? I did, I said, it's
by the freeway. I don't like it. There's there's so
many streets that are they there, there's a freeway and
it's right there, right, and then there's a lot of
dead ends. So somebody comes down there.
Speaker 2: Every episode of dayline right, it is near a freeway,
totally near freeway entrance right right.
Speaker 3: And also there's like a walkway from it's like a
bridge that it's over the freeway, and he likes to
go up there and walk over the freeway too. Yeah.
I'm like, no, you're not going over that bridge. And
he's like, well, I won't do it at night, but
I do it during the day. And I was like,
fine during the day, but okay, but I don't care.
I don't want you it's dangerous. I don't like it.
And I, by the way, I don't have to explain
it to you. No, I don't want you to. And
he just kept going and I was like, and I
was trying to make dinner and I was getting a headache,
and I was like, fuck this. Nobody else is home
for dinner, so I'm done. I said, you're not going anywhere.
I'm done, and I went upstairs and he said, as
I was going upstairs, well, I'm just going to go.
He goes, I'm just going to go for a walk then,
or something like that, and I was like, okay, well
I can see him on the thing. So I slammed
the door and I went in my room, and I
was so pissed. I was like about to cry. I
was like, fuck, what the fuck this kid? Why does
he have to be such a pain in the ass.
His voice is changing and crackling when it's time to
Jack singing that to him all the time, and you know,
and I'm like why.
Speaker 4: I was like, it's just so it's so.
Speaker 3: Disturbing when you have an argument with your kid that
you never have an argument with. Yeah, and usually he
and I get along great, yeah, you know, pretty close.
And I just was so I was so mad. I
was like in tears, about to cry. I was like,
this is you know, trying to take a deep breath.
And so then I'm sitting there in my room and
I'm on my phone and then I keep looking at
my app and it still says he's home. I was like, oh, okay,
he left without his phone. I don't know because I
took his phone from him. At one point I said,
then you're not going give me your phone. I'm taking
your phone away. I'm like, thinking of all these punishments
at once. You're not going, I'm taking the phone away.
You're round it for three days.
Speaker 2: You can't phone said he was still at your house
If you had his phone, No.
Speaker 3: I didn't. I left it on the counter to see.
I didn't want to take his phone because if he
does go for a walk, I want him to have
his phone, right, So I left it and I went upstairs,
and uh. He says, well, I'm going anyway or something
like that, and I was like, all right, fine, but
I know where you're going. I can see you on
the app. So I kept looking. I was up there
for like ten fifteen minutes, and I was like looking
at the app and it kept saying he was home.
And then I was like, all right, I got over it.
For you know, I calmed down. I came I'm like,
I'm starving. I'm going to go make dinner. So I
came down there. He wasn't anywhere. I thought he was
in his bedroom, or I thought maybe he was downstairs
in the theater watching football whatever. And so I started cooking.
I'm rattling the pots and pans, trying to see if
he's going to come out and apologize. And I'm thinking
I'm going to go talk to him after I made dinner.
And did you see his phone? No, I didn't see
his phone. Okay, So he's home right right. So he
comes out and he comes up the stairs and I said, listen,
I'm making dinner now, it's almost ready. I just we
need to talk about this and if you any oh,
and then he said, in the middle of our arguments,
I forgot to say. He said, I'm gonna I'm just
gonna call Dad and ask him and if Dad says,
it's okay. And I just had a conversation with Adam
about being on the same page. You know, we talked
about being on the same page. So I sent him
a text really quick and I said, Sonny calls you
tell him no, stay on the same page with me.
I don't want him going and know his area. That's
all I said. And during so during when the arguments,
he's tried Adam. Adam answered, and then he's like, I can't.
I started going down the road with mom this and that,
and he's like, I got to call you back, and
so he never got a hold of Adam. But so
he came back and I said, I don't mind again.
You can go on a walk at night, just I
need you to go in the area that I want
you to stay in. I don't want you going in
that one area. Go in the pre approved, yeah, neighborhood.
There's many place there's many travels that he's gone on.
Speaker 2: It can't feel good that it's just like he now
wants to go to that neighborhood just because you told him.
He can't exactly who cares? What difference does it make
what's over there that he has to be right exactly.
Speaker 3: So I made dinner and I said, well, you know,
talk about it. Let's talk about it when Dad gets back,
and you know, just for now, I don't want you
going over there. And he was calm, and he was like,
all right, I don't I don't get it, but I
guess stop stop. I don't want to argue.
Speaker 5: Stop.
Speaker 3: And then we let it go and we started talking
about how the rams lost.
Speaker 4: And then oh, he said.
Speaker 3: When he came up to stairs for dinner, he goes,
I was downstairs and I said, yeah, I got it,
and he goes, what did he say? He goes, I said,
I didn't know if he went on a walk or not,
but it said that you were still home, and he goes, oh,
it said, oh, okay.
Speaker 4: Then I realized he turned off his VS.
Speaker 3: Motherfucker. Yes, yes, turned off his phone, he.
Speaker 4: Turned off turned off his tracker, He turned off tracker.
Speaker 3: Yeah, uh huh. He did go on a walk and
he turned off his tracker. And I didn't realize that
until I was going to bed that night. I didn't
realize it at all when we were sitting and having
dinner because I just, first of I didn't think he
would do something like that. Second of all, I so
then I was thinking about it, like, he went for
a walk and he turned if, he turned his tracker off. Yeah,
this was just the other night. And I want him
to know that I know what he did, because we're
not done talking about it, but I haven't told I
haven't told him yet that I'm onto his ass.
Speaker 2: Yeah, oh my god, that would make me so furious
because I understand in some ways wanting to like be
like not be tracked, and you know I've heard and
I don't. But you and I are the same way
about this thing. We're not parents that are like con
I don't be checking the app. I never do unless
like LB went somewhere, and I just want to know, like, hey,
is she on her way home? Like if she says
like I'm going to be home at like let's say
eleven thirty, and then I want to I checked go, oh,
is she on her way or or just or if
she's been gone all day at her friend's house and
I just want to make sure she still at her friends.
I said, do they go somewhere, I'll look, But it's
not like I track her. But if she was to
go for like a walk, like or if Sadie and Xander,
I would definitely like want to make sure they're okay,
check on their.
Speaker 3: Yeah, totally.
Speaker 2: Hey, not to believe bird this point about letting the
kids go somewhere. But it's funny that this came up
for you because my friend Laura Uh, just like this week,
said hey, my kid, she just moved to a neighborhood.
It's like Woodland hills, you know, west south of the boulevard,
and there's sort of some hilly neighborhood areas, hiking.
Speaker 3: Trails kind of thing. Yeah, familiar.
Speaker 2: And she was like, yeah. So her daughter, who's Elbie's age,
so sixteen, wanted to walk just by herself at night
up like near Molholland Noill. No. Yeah, And she was like, no,
like at night. And her daughter was like, why you
see and I said same thing. I was like, these
kids need.
Speaker 3: To listen to some dayline.
Speaker 2: I know, they need to listen to a good forty
eight hour mysteries and they'll understand why not because I.
Speaker 4: Was She was like I and my friend is very
nervous as it is.
Speaker 3: But I was like, no, in this case, I totally understand.
Speaker 2: Like no, I was like, that's how every single episode starts.
Speaker 4: Somebody just went for a walk.
Speaker 2: I went for a jog by herself, Like I was like,
or at least bring the dog with her and a friend,
a friend and a dog, like you you can't, no way, no, no,
I like a girl alone up in a deserted My
friend was like, no, this area is totally deserted. Oh,
And her daughter was trying to say mom, there are
people around. Oh she was like yeah, but like somebody
comes by every ten minutes a lot.
Speaker 4: Shit can't go down in those ten minutes.
Speaker 2: Yes, and then and I don't know, kids are so
innocent thinking, but I haven't listen to a million serial
killer stories.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I knowed. They need to have that incorporated into
the curriculum in high school. They should do that. Yes,
I mean I know, you know, Sheriff Tom comes out
and scares him in fourth grade. But now when they
get to high school and you have a little eye
opening podcast listen to.
Speaker 2: I mean, you don't want them to live in fear now,
but any time, like we had a healthy fear of
like white panel vans right when we were kids, or
just any kind of panel vans. Well actually especially not
white panel vans, because that meant you're black.
Speaker 4: Panel brown panel vans.
Speaker 3: All vans bad news, especially if it's primed, especially if
there's a primer door. Yes run, Yes.
Speaker 4: You know we had a fear of.
Speaker 3: We didn't.
Speaker 2: Just if you were walking down the street and the
ice cream truck went by without the music playing, You're like,
that's bad news right there, I'm scared, right, you pe
yourself if somebody pulled up slowly next to you. That
was it my ladder, right, we had a healthy fear.
And you know, granted the crime rate is not higher
now than it was back then, but people still commit
a lot of crime, and if you're alone by yourself,
something can have your I feel like you're just asking
for trouble, right exactly.
Speaker 4: And I will walk the dog at night.
Speaker 2: I've got I've got a dog first of all, half
pit ball. I've got mace, I've got my fists, I've
got an attitude.
Speaker 4: I got to my shoulder.
Speaker 3: I'm like, nobody better talk to me.
Speaker 2: And that's just about my stupid andsdo neighborhood, you know
what I mean. I can't imagine letting my kid like go, yeah, sure,
I walk around some deserted bluffs up Moholand.
Speaker 3: Oh hell no no.
Speaker 2: And her daughter was arguing with her too, was like,
I just don't understand why listen to this ed Kemper story, right,
But yet at the same time, like, obviously we don't
want to scare the shit out of our kids and
have them be paranoid.
Speaker 3: Right, I know, But you know, Sonny does listen to
some BuzzFeed show about crime and stuff, and he because
he told me. He said, at one point we went
for a walk like a month ago, and he said
something about doctor Pettitt, you know the doctor in Connecticut
whose wife and two daughters were killed. Yeah, he was.
Speaker 2: They tied him up, right, and then they made the
woman go to the bank.
Speaker 3: Right, there's a podcast about it. Yeah, they stabbed the boy.
They they rape the daughter. Yeah, he heard that. He
heard that story. And even then when I was talking
to him about it, he after that, after he brought
it up, he's like, I don't want to talk about
it anymore. I was like, Okay, that's fine, but why
are you listening to that stuff? And I don't know,
I like those guys at buzzfeeders. I don't know. But
he's yeah, he so he knows, Like but he always
teases me like, oh, so I'm going to get kidnapped
that I walk up to Panera like you might, Yes,
you could.
Speaker 2: I mean, and I'm not a paranoid person, I know,
but yeah, something, it's why ask for trouble. It's not
It's not like you're saying you can't go for walks
by yourself, like after dark in an area where there
aren't lights.
Speaker 3: Like, let's just be used freaking common sense exactly right, right?
Speaker 4: And why does everything have to be an argument?
Speaker 3: Well, that's the thing. This kid constant, even when it's
just little things, you know, like whatever it is, like,
oh so you know I can't do you know whatever.
It just he constantly is challenging me on everything that
he thinks he has an opinion on.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 3: Oh, like you hear that song? Oh no, it was
the night it was New Year's Eve. How they play
Imagine right on New Ye's Eve? Yeah, I guess they
do that every year, right, And he was with he
was the next day, I guess Adam was talking about it.
And the next day he was like, yeah, speaking of
the Beatles, that song Imagined, don't you think It's like,
don't you think that they have better songs to play
for New Year's Eve's just a downer or whatever? And
it's like, I don't even know what his points were,
but I go, I knew exactly what he was saying.
He said, listen, Adam, I like that song, so knock
it off. I don't know, it's just you know, George
Harrison writes better songs than John Lennon. Oh boy, okay, Adam,
well you know about their songwriting. Give me a break.
Speaker 4: Come on, He goes, well, yeah, dad said it, but
he's right.
Speaker 3: I did.
Speaker 2: I was watching it, you know, I was like, oh my,
I love when they just get a really strong opinion
about something that's such a.
Speaker 3: Why are you?
Speaker 4: Why are you getting riled up about this?
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 3: Because somebody else got riled right right? Totally.
Speaker 2: I have found that now with my kids. They're not
they're not there yet, they're not. Elbie's really not argumentative yet.
She's She's like Sonny used to be. I'm sure it
will happen, but but I hardly have to say no
to her either, which is kind of a thing. And
when I do every once in a while, she does
kind of look at me like, huh, who are you?
Speaker 3: I'm like the Italian is the word?
Speaker 2: This happens, so Elbe and this is this is kind
of a pick your battles sort of thing. But Elbie's
room is disgusting like it is, and every time I
make her clean it up, she cleans it up. But
she's I guess, like a typical teenage girl. Where she
had and where's she fucking going? I know, I know
why do you have to change your clothes? Why are
you going through your entire closet to find something to
wear when all you're gonna end up wearing is some
stupid highwaisted jean's and a.
Speaker 4: Halter top and a tank top with the hoodie over it.
Speaker 3: Yes, that's all you're gonna wear. Yah. Why don't you
just put that outfit on and leave it on for a.
Speaker 2: Month until you get a different tank top and then
wear that tank top totally?
Speaker 4: No, she has to try on like eighteen different tank tops.
Speaker 2: And then there's just so she's got these like fabric
boxes like that you get at Target that fit into
like little shelves like that, but now they're all sort
of standalone. So she's got all these sort of boxes
full of clothes, right, Like, why here's a crazy idea.
Why don't you hang some of the clothes up in
your closet then you see them, yeah, and then have
like well, and she looks at me like I'm the
dumbest person on the planet, and she's like, uh uh okay, mom.
Then she does this, So she takes all her clothes
and puts them in her hamper when they're not dirty.
That's why I'm like, I'm going to get to it.
I'm going to organize it, and then I'll go I'll
do all the laundry.
Speaker 3: I'll go into her room.
Speaker 2: The next day, her hamper is full of clothes and
I'm like, oh, hell no, I'm like, these clothes are
not dirty.
Speaker 4: I literally just did your lobdry.
Speaker 2: You just you know what happened bach you just didn't
want to fold them, so you put them in your
hamper And she's like, mom, Mom, no, I'm going to
go through those. Yeah, they're not all dirty. I'm like, yeah,
they're not all dirty. But then she never goes through them,
and she's like, can you drive me over to Dava's house.
So the other day I was like, yeah, you're not
going anywhere until you clean your room. Yeah, good, And
she gave me a look like I just got, you know,
tased her.
Speaker 3: She was like like a look a betrayal, Like I
said I was going to clean my room.
Speaker 2: I'm like yeah, now, hmm, okay I am.
Speaker 4: And then she'll give me these like defiant eyes.
Speaker 2: So she doesn't really talk back, but she gives me
these eyes like don't keep going or we're going to
get in a fight.
Speaker 3: Like she just looks.
Speaker 4: You know what I mean, she stares, I'm doing it,
like I'm doing.
Speaker 3: It following you.
Speaker 4: But then I'll come back in an hour later and.
Speaker 3: She's in bed.
Speaker 5: Uh huh.
Speaker 3: That like that thing.
Speaker 2: It's like she'd rather just not go to her friend's
house and stay in bed. By the way, this is
her friend, this is her bubble. There's three of them
together for you judge. But the point is they're back
and forth between her.
Speaker 4: That's all. She's at her friend's.
Speaker 2: House and yeah, and I'm like, oh my god, I'll
be And it's not just the clothes, because if it
was just the clothes, I would pick my battles.
Speaker 3: But it's not. My kids all eat in their rooms.
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2: And you know what, I hate that I have to
even think this way because I know people are like, well,
you gotta lay down the law and don't look them
do this and make them clean their rooms.
Speaker 4: And I do, Yeah, I do, guys. I tell them.
Speaker 2: I go into their rooms and I go, what the
hell is going on in here?
Speaker 4: How I was like, if you do this again, you're
not eating.
Speaker 2: In your room, And then I just forget about it,
right exactly, They go yeahy mom, and then they'll clean
it up. But the next day there's like you know
those Starbucks coffee in like a glass, little bottle and
you buy the grocery store or whatever. So we buy
those all the time. The kids drink them before school
in the morning, but they stack up like good idea.
Oh yeah, they love it. Really, they won't drink like
my brood coffee. So Sadie who's hurtay makes espressos. It
makes herself a lattes every day.
Speaker 3: Crazy. Yeah, it's annoying. She'd buy one for her room
next time, for if it's her birthday, get her own
little espresso machine. Oh my god, she probably love that. Yeah,
that's cute.
Speaker 2: So yeah, it's it's insane the mess that is in there.
And then I and then I come in, you know,
vacuum get under the bed.
Speaker 3: But then like a couple of days later, it's gross again.
Now listen, you're preaching. I spent three days cleaning that house.
So we don't have cleaning ladies. I mean, once in
a while they'll come, especially Adam doesn't want them, you know,
in his office and stuff, and it's like, dude, you
start cleaning. So anyway, but then I'm like, I have
two well abled bodies here that could help me clean. Yeah.
So then I tell them, look, you're in charge of
the dog chit, you're in charge of vacuuming, you're in
charge of emptying the dishwater. You're in charge.
Speaker 4: Do they do it?
Speaker 3: Never unless they got something coming up and they want
to do it right. Then they get right on it right.
But they don't do it regularly, and I end up
doing it or I have to go in there and
it's a full on argument and it's ridiculous, and they
don't do it regularly, and I don't know what I
got to. I gotta start cracking. I'm not very good
at discipline, but I gotta start cracking the whip with them.
But here's the thing with Natalia. I go into her,
you know, her room. What she does is she messes
up the whole house, right, but then she keeps her
room clean, but everything else is a mess. She goes outside,
there's a ping pong table, It's got red cups everywhere.
Because she had her little I talked about it last week,
a little prop party for her friend Annie and her
little three friends and the two boys, and they were
playing ping. They were playing ping pong, but like with soda.
Speaker 2: M hm.
Speaker 4: And I was sitting inside beer pong with soda.
Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, so I was sitting inside and I was
watching them play, and I was like, think, okay, they're fourteen,
some of them are fifteen. You know where I was
at fourteen and fifteen? I was at the school parking
lot and Thesino getting wasted smoking pot. Yeah, with Mike
Gerstein and Glenn and oh yeah, all those guys. Me too,
That's what I was doing me too, maybe giving a
low job out here, but no, but seriously that like,
they are a nicey I'm watching them play and like
one of the boys like, oh, one of the girls
went up to the boy and was like his they
were teammates. And then the boy like like was hugging
her when they won, and he would like hug her
around her waist and pick her up. And I was like,
how are they not horny as fuck? Like right at
that age? Yeah, don't tell me. Those boys aren't, you know,
taking care of business when they go home after spending
the night with these girls the evening you know what
I mean?
Speaker 4: Oh, of course they are. But I'm sitting there watching that.
Speaker 3: But anyway, Natalia leaves a mess out there and I
gotta get on it. And the thing what Natalia does
is she'll go, I'm going to I'm going to go
to Devon's house. She's on her way to pick me
up or Devon's coming over. That's the thing.
Speaker 4: I know where this is going in se right.
Speaker 3: And I'm like, but you didn't. You didn't put away
your clothes. Well, I know it's guys, I'm gonna do
it tonight when I get back, Like as if I've
lost my.
Speaker 4: Mind, yes, yes, yes, as if you're high right.
Speaker 3: Let you smoking?
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know.
Speaker 3: And then stupid me, I'm like, all right, but you
got to do it otherwise you're not doing anything tomorrow.
And then like two days go by and I open
up her door and they're still sitting there, and it's
like really yeah, and then she's made another mess, like
same as Elbie try something on it doesn't She takes
it off, puts it in the hamper. Because if it's
like she's been going, yes, so ridiculous. Yes, that's why
they She's got to do her own laundry.
Speaker 2: So Elbe's job is to empty the dishwasher and we
pretty much run the dishwasher every day to every other day, right,
But she acts like it's the first she's ever heard
of us having a dishwasher that needs to be unloaded.
Like I'll be like, Elb, the dishwashers clean, and she's like,
oh again.
Speaker 4: Yeah, like you fit your busy schedule.
Speaker 2: Right home, right, oh uh yeah, okay, okay. I'm like, okay,
but we can't really like put more dishes into it
until we take the clean ones out.
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, I said, I'll do it, like I'm gonna
do it in just a few minutes.
Speaker 2: Then she uses this, well, I'm doing my homework right now,
like you've got hours and spread in front of you
to work. I know. It's like, no, you're playing Minecraft
or talking to your friends on the phone, or laying
in bed looking at TikTok, come on, come on. But
then I feel bad because meanwhile, there's nothing really fun
to do at our house. So Elbe does have her
social life that Sadie and Xander have nothing to do,
and every day it's like Groundhog's days. Xander comes over
to me and I'm sitting at my computer doing nothing myself,
but like looking at Facebook and He's like.
Speaker 4: Hi, Mom, like, go hey, Xander, what's up?
Speaker 3: Nothing?
Speaker 2: Obviously nothing. This was like yesterday morning. This This is
typical though.
Speaker 3: What do you want to do today?
Speaker 2: And I'm out of shit to do, Lynette, because listen,
at the beginning of this pandemic, you know, I bought
that thing that makes your dining room table into a
ping pong table. Do you think we've used that one time?
It past eight months? No, we played that for a
little bit.
Speaker 3: That was fun.
Speaker 4: We played some Jenga.
Speaker 2: Back when it was like the novelty, I was like,
oh family time where it's like we're in a bomb shelter,
let's play games.
Speaker 3: And now I'm like, oh, hell no, exactly what can't you?
Is there nothing? No videos on YouTube? Like no? But
poor kid is just like do you want to do something?
Speaker 2: And my mind just goes like what I mean, what
can we do? Then I say, okay, well do you
want to like play? We got what do you mean game?
What do you mean?
Speaker 3: Really?
Speaker 2: What em It's like Apples to Apples or it's like
Cards against Humanity, but it's it's a and it's like
new phone hoods that I told you about recently. It's
very much like that, except that it's a picture and
then you have some captions for the picture.
Speaker 3: Oh, I see you have to write captions. Do you
get no?
Speaker 2: No? No, so that you get caption cards like here's
our favorite one that made us laugh so hard.
Speaker 3: There was a there.
Speaker 2: It's a picture of like an old, older man, like
a man with gray hair, and.
Speaker 4: He's just kind of like head on his hands.
Speaker 2: He just looks super bummed out right, And one of
the captions. Everybody has like seven caption cards and then
you try to match them with a picture that comes
up for everybody. And one of the caption cards was,
oh my god, I can't believe I was in the
bathroom when they did the volcano at the Hibachi restaurant
whatever it was, the blooming onion at the I can't
believe I was in the bathroom when they did the
erupting shit the onion volcano at Benny Hannah or whatever
it was.
Speaker 4: Oh my god, we left so hard.
Speaker 2: You know, Yes, but they're edgy, And there's a separate
stack that's like the adult adult cards. So if you're
playing it like with your friends, you can mix those in,
but you could also just not use them.
Speaker 3: Right, so it's like PG. Thirteen.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's edgy enough that they we laugh our asses off, right,
but it's not so horrible that you're like, I don't
think I need to hear about a rim job, really
esu it?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Wow?
Speaker 2: Anyway, I feel bad because my kids are so bored.
I don't want to just be barking at them like
to clean, I know, and then offering no reward for that.
Speaker 4: Besides, like, do you guys want to watch a movie?
Speaker 3: No? Yeah, okay, yeah, Sonny is this only wants to Well,
he'll come to me and he'll just he's he'll not say,
he won't ask me, let's do something, but he'll say
he'll just start talking about shit that I don't care about,
you know, right, And then I got to like pretend
like I'm interested because he's got nobody else to talk
about too, because it's the middle of the day and
he's done with school, and normally he'd be off with
his motherfucking friends, right, But now I'm his friend. Now
I'm his f F you know, right, And it's so
but you know, I mean, it's I guess it's I
can't complain, but it's just these guys, you have a podcast,
so you kind of have to write it's true. It's
true that thank god, though he wants to watch movies.
You know, that's my thing. Like I'll say, we'll watch
a movie tonight, so he had something to I think
of it as like, Okay, I'll have something to look
forward to, except we watch a movie almost every night.
Like I know, Sonny's yeah, he's really into movies. I
wish my kids would be.
Speaker 2: I mean, I'm not that bad into movies because it's
hard to hold my attention for two hours.
Speaker 4: So and Sadie will just tell you that straight up.
Speaker 2: She's like, I'm sorry, mom, I just don't have a
good attention span ever since phones were invented. I'm I
kind of hear you totally. And we both look at
each other sometimes during a movie. But we will practice.
I'll be like, you know what, we're going to practice
watching a movie to work on our attention spans. We're
not working to put our phones down. It's good and
we're going to watch the movie. But then it has
to be this like really good movie.
Speaker 3: I know.
Speaker 4: Oh did you start the book I told you to read?
Speaker 3: Yes? I did.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I love it. Daisy Jones and the
Six Yes. Speaking of holding attention, the reason why that
came to me is because I try so. I order
so many books through Audible and then I returned them
because I just, yeah, I know, I do that this
is not the one that we the one that we
talked about where it seemed good, the one that the undoing.
Speaker 3: I think.
Speaker 2: And then there was too much description and I was like, right,
I know, so, but all these people were telling me
that this book is good.
Speaker 3: Jody was telling me about it like six months ago.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So I downloaded it a while ago and then
kept being like books are so hard, even just being
told the story. I'm like, but I could listen to
a podcast and it'll be done in forty five minutes, right,
this book is this is a nine hour commitment, you know.
So I was like, you know what, I'm just going
to start it. I was out of podcasts to listen to.
I was too lazy to go like google some more.
So I started it and I was like, oh, no description,
all kind of dialogue and like my fun and yes
and relatable.
Speaker 3: And now we know what I love is there. The
actors are playing the characters like Jennifer Beals. Who I
love is playing the main character, right, yeah, so, and
then it goes back to you know, somebody else playing Billy,
and then somebody else playing you know, Ted or whatever. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like a memoir. What it is for anybody
that doesn't know. I can't remember the author's name, Taylor Taylor.
Speaker 3: Read Swift, No, yeah, read.
Speaker 2: So the book is based on a band that formed
in the seventies, but it's not a real band. It's
a fake like biography of the this band told first
person and how and why.
Speaker 3: They broke up.
Speaker 2: Right, they were like a big, big, huge successful band
that broke up, and it's all about how they sort
of came.
Speaker 4: To be and it's like so love story.
Speaker 3: But it's like it's just really Yeah, it's got a
lot of stuff and I love like it takes place
and you know, they talk about the Roxy and then
it's Sunset Strip and the whiskey and all that stuff
that I love.
Speaker 2: Yeah, they mix like real names right in with like
the fake people totally.
Speaker 3: Like it's it's so good. It makes you think that
they're they're really a band by the way they talk.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 3: Yes, it's great. I just downloaded and I started listening
and probably only like I don't know the first chapter
or whatever. I don't think I've gotten that far because
I just downloaded it and had a chance to start it,
and I was listening to it last night, and I'm
so happy that you told me because I needed something.
I put literally put things off, like clean out a
closet because I don't have anything to listen to.
Speaker 5: You.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I need something.
Speaker 2: This was so good that I could I It was
the first time in a really long time I was
listening to something that I could not put it down.
I was like, yeah, I kept thinking of more things
I needed to do around the house or like, because
I couldn't stop.
Speaker 4: I was like, Oh, I'll go walk the dog. Oh
I just I'll do the dishes.
Speaker 2: Oh I'll do this, Oh I'll make dinner while I'm
listening to it. I listened to it straight through. I
started it one night, listen to it for hours, listen
to it late into the night because I couldn't put
it down. Woke up in the morning, and then I
was scared because my brain, my Postman and puzzle brain,
just I can listen to something and be so into it.
And by the next day, I hang out. I could.
I remember what was going on me too. He's thinking
about that, and I gotta go back a few minutes
and go, oh, okay, right. So I was scared to
go to bed without finishing it because I was like,
it's not going to have the same pull.
Speaker 3: But it did.
Speaker 2: I woke up in the morning and I started it
back up, and I was like, back into the story,
and then I listened to it almost straight through until.
Speaker 3: It's wait, oh my god, I know, wow, everybody's gonna
here's something weird though.
Speaker 2: Okay, So this woman's written a bunch of other books.
One of them is kind of famous. It's called like
I Want to Say Something, Hugo and her Seven Husbands
or something. It's about this like old aging starlet telling
the story of her life. Which I downloaded that one
and it's kind of good, okay, But then I downloaded
one that she wrote a few years before. It's called
something something True Loves or I don't know.
Speaker 3: Something with true loves.
Speaker 5: Right.
Speaker 2: It's so bad, and I'm like, how could that have
been the same author?
Speaker 4: Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2: It's just really generic sounding and the opposite of like
this book The Daisy Jones is so specific. Everything is
like brand names, and the way they describe things is
just so you can totally get it what they're wearing.
Speaker 3: It's like right, right, right.
Speaker 2: Specific and funny and interesting to make sure them. Yeah,
but this other one is just so, it's like a
Hallmark movie.
Speaker 3: See. Well, when did she write it?
Speaker 2: I don't know, a few years before, but I was like, yeah,
I can only read her newer stuff. Right then I
was like, how did she get published when she was
a shitty writer?
Speaker 3: Right?
Speaker 2: And then she got so much better? Yeah, which was surprising,
but happy. Yeah, no, I know, I gotta I can't
wait to listen to it. I got a lot of
shit to do, a lot of things to clear out.
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, all right, thanks guys, Thanks Galen your parent, Now,
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