Speaker 1: Hello, Welcome to a new week. Is this the last
Speaker 1: week of April? Yes, okay, I'm sorry. Where did that go?
Speaker 1: Where did that go?
Speaker 2: I don't know?
Speaker 3: That is frightening me. Oh my gosh. May First is
Speaker 3: next week?
Speaker 4: You're frightening me?
Speaker 1: Why my face? No, yeah, you're it's my face. I
Speaker 1: can tell by the way he looks.
Speaker 3: In my eyes.
Speaker 4: No, it's not your face.
Speaker 2: What's wrong with your face? Nothing's wrong with her face.
Speaker 3: How could you tell?
Speaker 2: What's wrong with you? Have very nervous energy. It's making
Speaker 2: me very nervous.
Speaker 3: Really, I'm sending out a nervous vibe. There can be
Speaker 3: a reason because of that, and we'll find out.
Speaker 4: Oh of what I'm going to read on the air. Yes,
Speaker 4: oh okay.
Speaker 3: This is my co host Eric Rimmer and How To
Speaker 3: producer Brian.
Speaker 2: Hello.
Speaker 1: We all went out on Friday night and the goal
Speaker 1: was to find or to get a number. The goal
Speaker 1: was to get a number or two or three from
Speaker 1: guys that we found attractive.
Speaker 4: So let me let me just pre guys we found
Speaker 4: at traffic was guys you and Marie found attractive.
Speaker 2: I found lots of guys attractive.
Speaker 3: We'll get into the entire story from start to finish
Speaker 3: because it was a well some of it was, and
Speaker 3: it was.
Speaker 5: Very, very awkward, so awkward at one point that I
Speaker 5: was sweating and Brian walked away. Oh yeah, I did awkward,
Speaker 5: but I got a comment about that.
Speaker 2: That was awkward in a good way.
Speaker 3: You're right, so.
Speaker 1: You're going to find out. I mean, do we meet anybody?
Speaker 1: Did we seeingybody attractive?
Speaker 2: Like?
Speaker 3: What happened is that?
Speaker 4: I do have a question. Did Sandy go lower the
Speaker 4: drinking age to like twelve? Seriously, let's go.
Speaker 3: We're going to get to that. We're gonna get to that.
Speaker 3: For sure.
Speaker 2: That was a younger crowd and I was expecting like
Speaker 2: toddlers last time I was there was it was significantly older.
Speaker 3: Okay, so let's put that this on hold real quick,
Speaker 3: put a pin in it, and we'll give you the
Speaker 3: whole night in a nutshell. And what happened after you
Speaker 3: do the double D? Let's like start off with the
Speaker 3: double D.
Speaker 4: You want to right out of the starting game with that.
Speaker 3: I mean, we're changing things up. Let's do it.
Speaker 4: Okay, let's do it.
Speaker 3: I'm hit the music. Let's go double D ten? What
Speaker 3: is in Hollywood?
Speaker 4: Well, so it's mainly upcoming tours that are colossal disasters,
Speaker 4: like Katie Perry's lifetime tour has been. She sold out
Speaker 4: in I believe it was Australia, but here in the
Speaker 4: States it's been a colossal failure. And have you seen
Speaker 4: have you seen the memes that are remember on SNL
Speaker 4: where it was like, I'm Janet, I'm whatever, and they're
Speaker 4: they're doing the thing from like the not Ed Sullivan Show,
Speaker 4: but Laurence Welke where and then Anna, I'm Junie and
Speaker 4: she comes out, and then it's like they'll show Shakira
Speaker 4: and then who's the one that sings espresso Sabrina Carpenter
Speaker 4: and then share or something. And then when it says
Speaker 4: and I'm Junius, it's Katie Perry like fighting with one
Speaker 4: of her, like doing jiu jitsu with one of her.
Speaker 4: It looks really bad. Yeah, it doesn't look like anybody's
Speaker 4: practiced anything like.
Speaker 3: It looks bad.
Speaker 4: They're bad. Her opening night in l A.
Speaker 2: I think there's.
Speaker 4: Thirty eight hundred tickets left.
Speaker 1: Dude, this, I'm telling you what, this, this Elton John
Speaker 1: thing a Petco Park in May is going to be enormous.
Speaker 2: I wish I could afford to go to it that.
Speaker 3: Now we're talking expensive.
Speaker 2: I think I saw a minimum is thirteen hundred.
Speaker 3: Well, because like think about it, this literally could be
Speaker 3: the last time you ever see him.
Speaker 2: It probably will be. Which I considered forking over thirteen
Speaker 2: hundred four. What Yeah, that's how much tickets were.
Speaker 4: Thirteen hundred dollars.
Speaker 2: I think I'll pass. I think maybe there were some
Speaker 2: nosebleeders that started like three eighty.
Speaker 4: That's ridiculous.
Speaker 3: I encourage you to do that.
Speaker 2: No, No, I.
Speaker 4: Encourage you not to. I'll take your wallet away from you.
Speaker 2: We know which one goes to because you know which
Speaker 2: one is.
Speaker 4: Now, do not listen to mommy tonight.
Speaker 3: This is a good lesson, Laura.
Speaker 2: Okay, Laura, take a moment.
Speaker 1: And you know how when water goes down the wrong pipe,
Speaker 1: I know it makes you choke for like five minutes.
Speaker 3: That's what happened.
Speaker 2: No, I what I was saying, I'm not going to
Speaker 2: spend thirteen hundred dollars on Elton Johns.
Speaker 3: But this is the life. Okay, think about it. You've
Speaker 3: always wanted to see him.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know we're not thirteen hundred dollars.
Speaker 4: Really, they're going there he's gonna come out with like
Speaker 4: an HBO Max special.
Speaker 2: Watch it there.
Speaker 1: At that point he co park happens. I think it's
Speaker 1: like on the sixth or something. He dies two days later,
Speaker 1: are you bomb? Oh well, spend the thirteen hundred.
Speaker 4: No, goodbye Yellow Brook Road?
Speaker 3: All right, then don't I will?
Speaker 2: I will sing a song in his honor.
Speaker 3: Well, then you don't really want to spend the money
Speaker 3: and go I don't.
Speaker 2: That's why I'm not spending the money. That was my point.
Speaker 4: We'll sing Goodbye Norma Jean and just change it to
Speaker 4: goodbye Elton John. Then there we go, different problems Elton Joe. Yeah,
Speaker 4: there we go.
Speaker 1: Oh god, okay, you start the dirt. I'm going to
Speaker 1: go have like a final cough attack in the kitchen.
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, out of this is classy. We have
Speaker 4: wait a minute, hold on, could.
Speaker 3: You we have a cough button in the studio?
Speaker 2: Could you stop coughing? Oh, don't go there, boy, listen girlfriend,
Speaker 2: And it doesn't do in the studio. I don't think
Speaker 2: they have a coughing some time to cover how much
Speaker 2: you're coughing.
Speaker 4: I don't smoke nothing, I've never smoked. Don't smoke never
Speaker 4: intend to smoke, and I have a cough like a
Speaker 4: smoker's cough. It's so weird, cough a lot I do.
Speaker 2: I don't. I think it's allergies. I don't know. I've
Speaker 2: had everything done, but maybe it's maybe it's like a
Speaker 2: Benjamin Button thing where if you started smoking, you would
Speaker 2: stop coughing. Probably. Well, no, you know what I think
Speaker 2: it is.
Speaker 4: I think it's because I'm so damn old now that
Speaker 4: I'm probably getting that that acid reflux.
Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, you guys are killing me with all
Speaker 2: this coughing.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I know, we sound like a sick ward, a
Speaker 4: geriatric communion here.
Speaker 3: You know what I heard in the newsroom?
Speaker 1: What was that that there is a virus going around
Speaker 1: called the six week cough?
Speaker 2: That is that the medical name of it?
Speaker 1: Well, no, it's like the nickname when people get a cough.
Speaker 1: I don't think this is it. This is the sheer
Speaker 1: like something like down the long pipe that one of
Speaker 1: my co workers has that has been coffee for like
Speaker 1: three weeks and apparently it lasts six weeks.
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh my god, hey, coughing.
Speaker 2: That sounds like a fake disease. That like a smoker
Speaker 2: said to like cover the fact that they were always coughing.
Speaker 3: No, you know.
Speaker 1: You know what's so crazy to me is when people
Speaker 1: get lung cancer and they say I've never had a
Speaker 1: cigarette in my life.
Speaker 2: Yeah, It's like, well, cigarettes aren't the only thing that
Speaker 2: caused lung cancer.
Speaker 3: True, I know, but that's like I was a bummer,
Speaker 3: you know, like I worked hard not to be that
Speaker 3: guy that got lung cancer because I didn't smoke. I
Speaker 3: got it anyway.
Speaker 4: Wow, I'm so depressed right now.
Speaker 3: All right, let's let's get happy. Let's music, music, music,
Speaker 3: We're I.
Speaker 4: Know, I want to keep me do you want to
Speaker 4: keep the moment going instead of bringing it down? And
Speaker 4: said the dumbster fire that it is right now?
Speaker 3: There we go.
Speaker 4: So you know who Chloe Finamin is.
Speaker 3: Chloe Spiderman. She a new Castle.
Speaker 4: She's been on for a couple of years now on SNL.
Speaker 4: She's really funny.
Speaker 3: I probably would recognize her.
Speaker 4: She got kicked out of a room in a New
Speaker 4: York City restaurant for walking up to Demi Moore and
Speaker 4: saying hello because they thought she was just some random
Speaker 4: and she was. She pulled the don't you know who
Speaker 4: I am?
Speaker 2: I'm on snl. I'm not just some commoner, and why
Speaker 2: would you get kicked out for that?
Speaker 4: Anyways, even after that, she got kicked out, Yeah, the
Speaker 4: matre d said, pleased Lee she was. She was in
Speaker 4: a private room eating with her dog. You know that
Speaker 4: little tiny she takes that dog.
Speaker 5: Every She was alone with the dog in a private room,
Speaker 5: and she got kicked out for even if she was
Speaker 5: a commoner, I can't believe they kick her out over that.
Speaker 4: I'd like them to try doing that with me.
Speaker 3: I would like to make it to that level of society.
Speaker 2: I would not That sounds awful, that sounds terrible.
Speaker 4: Eating alone with your dog, Oh my god, I.
Speaker 3: Me and elis the best time ever.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: But if someone came up to you'd be like, oh
Speaker 2: my god, take a seat, sit down, get whatever you like.
Speaker 3: I know that's totally that's how it would happen.
Speaker 2: Is Demi Moore widely loved or she kind of hated?
Speaker 4: What did you do with my bad?
Speaker 3: She's been doing She's just been doing it so long.
Speaker 2: Was she like rude or no?
Speaker 3: You know what, you got to give it to them.
Speaker 1: Sometimes you just don't want to be photographed. Maybe she
Speaker 1: was there like not as fancy as she.
Speaker 2: Normally have a restaurants kind of crazy though.
Speaker 1: Well maybe she didn't, but maybe the Max she like
Speaker 1: to secure that she.
Speaker 4: Comes back because she she actually did say she was
Speaker 4: really nice and she said hello, and the matro g
Speaker 4: then came in and.
Speaker 2: Oh no, not at all. I think she's probably a
Speaker 2: delight who.
Speaker 3: Knows somewhat somewhat.
Speaker 4: Speaking of Demi Moore, she is People Magazine's World's most
Speaker 4: Beautiful person. She's sixty two.
Speaker 2: I love it.
Speaker 3: I love it.
Speaker 4: She is hot the world.
Speaker 2: I jumped the fence.
Speaker 5: That's crazy in the world she is.
Speaker 2: She is great for age. But the most beautiful person
Speaker 2: in the world is now Doorman Young May absolutely mos currently, Yes, Armis.
Speaker 4: Did you see Blonde the Marilyn Monroe.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I did not like it. I did any
Speaker 2: It was weird and it was very weird. I think
Speaker 2: I think neck up the carpenter. No, neck up, Angelina Jolie.
Speaker 3: No, she still looks really great. I just saw her up.
Speaker 2: She's way too cut paper on her cheekbones.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I know, it's like that's a beautiful face.
Speaker 2: Yeah, objectively, subjectively it's a little severe for me.
Speaker 1: It was just very it's different. But it's also when
Speaker 1: you put it all together, all the pieces, the big
Speaker 1: lips and the the little nose and everything, it just
Speaker 1: looks so beautiful.
Speaker 4: Do you want to hear Laura?
Speaker 2: Try not to gag?
Speaker 3: Why?
Speaker 2: Oh did you see? Did you get the text I
Speaker 2: sent you the other night?
Speaker 5: No?
Speaker 3: I refused to open it. What I will in things
Speaker 3: from you?
Speaker 2: Fine?
Speaker 3: I'm leading because you always send me throw up videos
Speaker 3: and I can't.
Speaker 4: It's not a throwout videos, it's something similar.
Speaker 1: It's something it was somebody eating some like crazy stuff
Speaker 1: and I'm like, I don't want to see it happen.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it was like it was like petrified fish.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, because that was hilarious.
Speaker 1: We'll cause puking and I can't deal with that. Well,
Speaker 1: so I just to make right on out of that one.
Speaker 4: So here are some gross movie facts from TV shows
Speaker 4: and movies.
Speaker 3: Okay, are you ready bring them all?
Speaker 4: Did you guys see The paper Boy with Nicole Kimmen
Speaker 4: and Zach Effron?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 3: Should we?
Speaker 2: It was good. It sounds like a graduate stufle.
Speaker 3: Yeah, is that what it is?
Speaker 4: It's not like Baby Girl that she's in currently now
Speaker 4: that just came a graduates.
Speaker 3: I was weird, but I liked it.
Speaker 2: I don't like those style. I don't like that narrative.
Speaker 2: For now.
Speaker 4: It's those older, older women that are into younger men thing.
Speaker 2: Hey, no, I'm not hating on real Laura, but like.
Speaker 4: Filming The Paper Boy too substance too Yeah, Oh my god,
Speaker 4: So Nicole kimmen peede on Zach Effron for real in
Speaker 4: the jellyfish scene in The Paperway.
Speaker 2: Oh you got to keep it real, you don't.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you got to get a real reaction.
Speaker 2: Not that authentic nick That was brilliant.
Speaker 4: Nicholas cage a live cockroach for vampires kiss. Oh, that's fine,
Speaker 4: absolutely disgusting. Will Ferrell had to film the spaghetti scene
Speaker 4: in Elf twice because he threw up during the first scene.
Speaker 3: Does he in El? I've known? Okay, that's another movie
Speaker 3: I've never watched Elf.
Speaker 2: Funny, what's wrong with So he pours a bunch of
Speaker 2: maple syrup on top of the bowl played spaghetti, and
Speaker 2: then he puts a bunch of marshmallows chocolate sauce, and
Speaker 2: he cracks a pop tart in two and then like
Speaker 2: scoops it all up and shovels in his mouth. Then
Speaker 2: he throws up. Well, that was the first take they did.
Speaker 2: I guess he threw up.
Speaker 4: Yeah, how Bury didn't shower or take a bath for
Speaker 4: two weeks to get into the character for Jungle Fever Ooh,
Speaker 4: Night of the Living Dead. The human remains the zombies
Speaker 4: had to eat were made of ham and sheep organs
Speaker 4: covered in chocolate syrup.
Speaker 2: That's cool. Gross.
Speaker 4: When Gunnar Hansen played leather Face in The Texas Chainsaw Massacre,
Speaker 4: he wasn't allowed to wash his costume. He wore it
Speaker 4: for twelve hours a day in over one hundred degree weather.
Speaker 4: That is enough to make me throw it right. That
Speaker 4: is disgusting. And during the family dinner scene in the
Speaker 4: Texas Chainsaw Massacre, the table was set with real rotting
Speaker 4: animal carcasses. They filmed for twenty six straight hours in
Speaker 4: over one hundred degree heat.
Speaker 2: Disgusting.
Speaker 4: Danny DeVito ate raw bluefish and Batman returns mixed with
Speaker 4: mouthwash and spiralina, which is algae. Christian Bale ate real
Speaker 4: maggots in Rescue Dawn.
Speaker 3: I know, I think I'd do that if I had
Speaker 3: to apart.
Speaker 2: I don't.
Speaker 1: They're just like little white things. That's not the worst
Speaker 1: kind of thing to put around.
Speaker 2: Also, they can make you sick, absolutely sure.
Speaker 3: Well, hey, it's for art, it's for the art, it's
Speaker 3: for the art.
Speaker 2: I don't know if there's anything that artistic about eating
Speaker 2: maggots and stuff. So okay, never.
Speaker 3: Now I have illicit songs.
Speaker 1: God, this coughing thing I want to throw I want
Speaker 1: to tear my throw it out.
Speaker 2: Are you gonna be all right.
Speaker 3: That?
Speaker 4: Are you going to have an episode? Do you need it?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 3: I don't need an episode. I didn't just go away. Okay,
Speaker 3: you knew me.
Speaker 4: It might surprise you that these popular songs were written
Speaker 4: by other popular artists. Here are some highlights. Until the
Speaker 4: World Ends, which I love That song by Britney Spears
Speaker 4: was written by Kesha. Forget You by Cee Lo Green
Speaker 4: was written by brune O Mars.
Speaker 3: Okay, so does Bruno Mars get money from that song?
Speaker 2: Obviously if he's a for writing it, I would think
Speaker 2: so he'll get royalties of something kind unless he sold
Speaker 2: the rights to it.
Speaker 4: Irreplaceable by Beyonce was written by Neo Get The Party
Speaker 4: Started by Pink was written by four non blonde singer
Speaker 4: Linda Perry. Little Things by One Direction was written by
Speaker 4: Ed Sheeran breakaway for Kelly Clarkson was written by Avril Levine.
Speaker 3: I thought it was about her life story. I thought
Speaker 3: she wrote that.
Speaker 4: Manic Monday by the Bengals was written by.
Speaker 3: Prince Oh that's a cool factuoid.
Speaker 4: Can you handle it? By Usher was written by Robin Thick.
Speaker 3: Oh, okay, okay, he's got some rhythm.
Speaker 2: And then what happened to Usher? Actually?
Speaker 3: And Thick?
Speaker 4: He's dead?
Speaker 3: Robin Thick die? No, the dad died, Alan think, Alan Thick.
Speaker 2: That's sorry, Robin, Well, what happened to Usher? He was
Speaker 2: all big and then he just disappeared.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't know. And then You'll always find your
Speaker 4: way back home. By Miley Cyrus was written by Taylor
Speaker 4: Swift and Boys Like Girl singer Martin Johnson.
Speaker 2: That feels like almost an insult.
Speaker 3: Now do you know that song?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 1: Okay, so that's kind of an obscure song. Okay, we
Speaker 1: have a guest coming on tonight's show. We're gonna bring
Speaker 1: her up after we discuss that night that unfolded on Friday.
Speaker 1: Because it was if you were tagging along with us, yes,
Speaker 1: you either would have been entertained, horrified, embarrassed.
Speaker 3: Or just completely laughing.
Speaker 2: I was all four were He was just perpetually embarrassed me. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So after we talk about what happened with you guys
Speaker 1: being our wingman to try to find days Mey.
Speaker 2: And Marie, which we didn't, but we're.
Speaker 1: Gonna talk to Jocelyn Hatfield from sd Pride and she's
Speaker 1: gonna tell us of a super special festival that's coming
Speaker 1: up next month and also tell us the big headliners
Speaker 1: for the big big Pride festival.
Speaker 2: Awesome.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So we're gonna and then just some other roots
Speaker 1: and stuff and it's just gonna be great. So hang
Speaker 1: on for that, all right, So do you want me
Speaker 1: here all set the scene? You can add the comments.
Speaker 4: Do we have any Death March music that you can
Speaker 4: really doubt it?
Speaker 3: Well?
Speaker 2: Good play. Just start your story. I'll see I can
Speaker 2: find Oh boy.
Speaker 3: This all started on the radio, on the radio. Look
Speaker 3: at me, I'm still on radio.
Speaker 1: This all start on the podcast when we were talking
Speaker 1: about being single, and I was talking about my roommate
Speaker 1: also being single. At one thing led to another. Eric
Speaker 1: and Brian agreed to come out with me and Marie
Speaker 1: on a Friday or Saturday night to a hot happening
Speaker 1: place and be our wingman and try to help us
Speaker 1: navigate and possibly get a number, find a guy, you know,
Speaker 1: if you find someone cute, maybe like do the walk
Speaker 1: up to the guys that she thinks you're a cute
Speaker 1: kind of thing.
Speaker 3: Who knows, you know. That was just that was the plan, and.
Speaker 4: I had some great ideas on things I was going
Speaker 4: to say as your wingman.
Speaker 2: None of which were. It worked, but that was not
Speaker 2: in that crowd or in any other crowd.
Speaker 3: We get to University Heights, which is a great area,
Speaker 3: great great area, and the bar parking.
Speaker 1: Wreck was shut down until nine because there was some
Speaker 1: big event happening there, so we had to go get
Speaker 1: something to eat for forty five minutes.
Speaker 4: And by the way, sorry to interrupt you, but that
Speaker 4: was my first meltdown of the night when I found
Speaker 4: out they weren't opening until nine.
Speaker 3: Because my grandpa here had to work it.
Speaker 2: To be fair, we should have gone to the Mexican
Speaker 2: food nice.
Speaker 1: No, no, because I am excited to say that I
Speaker 1: tried Ethiopian food I never had before.
Speaker 3: And I didn't ask for a fork like an American would.
Speaker 2: I wish I had a fork, unsophisticated yeah, like an,
Speaker 2: I just.
Speaker 3: To eat it with the bread.
Speaker 2: I tried it that way, and in hindsight, I wouldn't
Speaker 2: have enjoyed it more with a fork.
Speaker 4: Well, anyway, I enjoyed mine with a fork. Yeah, And
Speaker 4: how are you supposed to eat what I eat?
Speaker 3: It's called moozy.
Speaker 2: I'm still not sure with bread. Yeah, I'm still not
Speaker 2: sure we did it right.
Speaker 3: Well.
Speaker 1: I was grabbing a big old pilot chunks and shoving
Speaker 1: it down and I like that bread.
Speaker 3: And the place was cool.
Speaker 2: It was just fun.
Speaker 3: It was fun to experience. It was it was food
Speaker 3: that I've never tried before forever because it was packed
Speaker 3: down there. I know. Okay, So we go back over
Speaker 3: to Park and Rik, which is right across the street.
Speaker 4: And now, or as I like to call it, nursery school.
Speaker 3: Now, the doors are open for the public. So first
Speaker 3: goes you. Guys go in first. Brian goes in first.
Speaker 3: Then Marie. They check her ID.
Speaker 1: She's twenty nine, she checked check your idea, of course, Eric,
Speaker 1: they checked Eric's.
Speaker 2: I D Yeah.
Speaker 4: I wanted to kiss the bouncer on the mouth. I
Speaker 4: think they went checked my ID because once we got in,
Speaker 4: I was like.
Speaker 1: Two steps behind. But I saw this happening. And I
Speaker 1: walk up to the guy and he's like, you can
Speaker 1: just go ahead.
Speaker 3: I'm like, wait, you card that last guy that just
Speaker 3: went in there, and you're not going to card me?
Speaker 3: Like and he goes, no, I have, like I have
Speaker 3: women in my life, and I know how difficult it
Speaker 3: is to dig down in your purse to find an ID.
Speaker 3: You're cool, go in.
Speaker 4: Meanwhile, her purse was about this big.
Speaker 3: Well that's what he said. I'm just saying. So I said, okay,
Speaker 3: I'll accept that.
Speaker 1: Okay, so and then in the meantime, I was like,
Speaker 1: he's pretty cute, young but nice guy. We get into
Speaker 1: the place and it's like upstairs, downstairs, kind of indoor outdoor.
Speaker 3: It's really nice. And we went to we walked around,
Speaker 3: we did a couple laps, and we were noticing something very.
Speaker 1: Interesting about ninety five percent of the crowd that was there,
Speaker 1: and it was crowded.
Speaker 4: It was not terrible, but yeah, maybe just got their
Speaker 4: license their twenty one years.
Speaker 2: It was like barely twenty one.
Speaker 3: It was like Eric said, we were at a high
Speaker 3: school dance.
Speaker 2: And that's typically not from what I you know, from
Speaker 2: what I know, that's not like a that's not like
Speaker 2: a PB where like the second you get your idea,
Speaker 2: you go get blasted on the weekends of PB sort
Speaker 2: of place.
Speaker 1: What we think is that private event must have had
Speaker 1: something to do with these young people.
Speaker 2: I don't know, Maybe I don't know about how young
Speaker 2: people get invited to a private event.
Speaker 1: We were searching for someone it was like even close
Speaker 1: to my age. Yeah, and one guy we're like, wait him,
Speaker 1: and then some woman grabs him.
Speaker 2: Also he was not good looking, so.
Speaker 1: No, they have a drink Marie and Brian and then
Speaker 1: we don't.
Speaker 3: We just hanging out.
Speaker 4: And this is this is a thing that I noticed.
Speaker 4: Oh god, is it's not going to be bad. No. No,
Speaker 4: A lot of the men that were there I don't
Speaker 4: think owned a hairbrush.
Speaker 3: Or hair pants or shirt.
Speaker 2: I thought it was fine. That's that's kind of the
Speaker 2: the style of these days.
Speaker 4: Really be yourself.
Speaker 2: Yeah, not to groom I don't I didn't see anyone
Speaker 2: that looked explicitly ungroomed. Wow, just I think you just
Speaker 2: have really high standards for grooming. Well.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so we sat at this table for a little
Speaker 3: while they finished their drinks. I'm like, let's go to
Speaker 3: the dance.
Speaker 2: Floor, and that's where all these kids really were. Also,
Speaker 2: that was like a chick bar apparently because it was
Speaker 2: like ninety percent women. There were not that many.
Speaker 1: There were women dancing with women, which is fine, but like,
Speaker 1: there's no there were no single men that were like
Speaker 1: twenty two around at all. Yeah, and Maurice twenty nine,
Speaker 1: so she could get away with it. But we were
Speaker 1: looking around and we had fun. We danced and we
Speaker 1: were laughing.
Speaker 3: It was hysterical, and we thought, maybe we'll just pop
Speaker 3: into another bar and see if it's exkews a little older.
Speaker 2: There was a dive bar down the street. There were
Speaker 2: old divorces down.
Speaker 3: There, and then I decided to go in for the kill.
Speaker 3: Brian's suggestion.
Speaker 2: It's good advice, by the way.
Speaker 3: His advice was, you have a way better chance of
Speaker 3: getting a number by going up there yourself and asking
Speaker 3: for it, rather than having me say something to him like,
Speaker 3: oh she thinks you're cute, blah blah blah. Cut out
Speaker 3: the middleman.
Speaker 4: Basically yeah, And then that's when I wondered why am
Speaker 4: I even here?
Speaker 3: Exact conversation to a tea.
Speaker 1: I remember it distinctly because right as I was starting Brian.
Speaker 1: I knew he couldn't handle it, so he starts peeling off.
Speaker 2: Let me just say, you already have a tolerance for
Speaker 2: you're not social away, You're you're very aware. You just
Speaker 2: have no like filter or any awareness of social awkwardness.
Speaker 3: I do not.
Speaker 2: And the secondhand embarrassing embarrassment can be really extreme. And
Speaker 2: then you're especially when you're making a romantic pass. I
Speaker 2: assumed that would be like a million times worse.
Speaker 4: I was sweating and she was like, here, turn on
Speaker 4: your camera and film this. And I was like, oh, Eric.
Speaker 2: Looked really uncomfortable that I was. I don't need to
Speaker 2: and he just walked away. Yeah, And I was just like,
Speaker 2: I'm just gonna keep I'm gonna see there's a bar
Speaker 2: down the street. I don't need to be part of this.
Speaker 2: She got it.
Speaker 1: I thought that the guy at the front that was
Speaker 1: checking ours was very cute and handsome.
Speaker 2: I wish we could show, we could show a picture.
Speaker 2: People would not I'm going to give them what they
Speaker 2: would guess.
Speaker 3: What's his fake name? Stan Stan? He doesn't look like.
Speaker 2: A like what does he look like Rudas?
Speaker 4: His name is Brutus.
Speaker 3: No like a Jonathan maybe?
Speaker 2: No, no, I don't know.
Speaker 3: Okay, Derek, how about Derek?
Speaker 2: No, but that works, okay, Derek.
Speaker 3: Okay, so we're gonna call him Derek. We're leaving. I'm like,
Speaker 3: I'm go going for it. I'm going for it. He's
Speaker 3: really cute. I know I was really young, but whatever,
Speaker 3: who cares? So I walk up Sue Derek and I
Speaker 3: say how old are you? And he says, I'm twenty nine?
Speaker 3: And Marie's right next week She's like, so am I yeah,
Speaker 3: you know.
Speaker 1: We were making a conversation and I said, how old
Speaker 1: do you think I am? And I want you to
Speaker 1: be totally honest and whatever you say will not offend me,
Speaker 1: I promise. And he totally gave me an up and
Speaker 1: down without any smirks or and he said, I don't
Speaker 1: know forty three.
Speaker 2: With a generous answer.
Speaker 3: I know. I was like, I almost kiss him right
Speaker 3: then and there.
Speaker 2: I yeah, that was probably a little calculated on his part,
Speaker 2: but I.
Speaker 3: Feel like almost almost. Not the way he or he's
Speaker 3: a good actor.
Speaker 2: You can pass for younger, for sure. I don't know
Speaker 2: about forty forty.
Speaker 4: And you did look really hot that night, not that
Speaker 4: you don't look hot all the time, but you looked
Speaker 4: really good.
Speaker 3: So then I said the awkward.
Speaker 2: Sentence, this is why I walked away.
Speaker 3: This is what when he just goes whoop and goes
Speaker 3: right the other way, I said, I was just curious.
Speaker 3: I asked questions.
Speaker 2: Okay, no, I know, I'm glad you did it. I
Speaker 2: just didn't want to be around to see it.
Speaker 3: Would you ever be interested in dating somebody like me.
Speaker 2: Who gets a senior discount at dinner?
Speaker 1: And he said he he he had a beat and
Speaker 1: he said, you know what, I really find older women attractive.
Speaker 2: That guy handled it like a champ. Actually he was good.
Speaker 2: And again he works at a bar.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, well, that's awesome, thank you. You know,
Speaker 1: I just thought you were a really cute guy. And
Speaker 1: I was just trying to make very basic conversations. So
Speaker 1: then the phone thing came up.
Speaker 2: Oh ma saved you here, she did, right, give on
Speaker 2: your phone, Give on your phone, Like.
Speaker 3: I didn't know how to exchange phone numbers. I don't
Speaker 3: know how to do it these. I don't have no
Speaker 3: game right now.
Speaker 1: Like, so he took my number and he goes all
Speaker 1: this text you and then you have my number. I'm like, okay, fine,
Speaker 1: great it was really nice meeting you. Thank you so much.
Speaker 3: Goodbye.
Speaker 1: By the time we walked to our car and get
Speaker 1: in the car, boom, first text message, yeah, oh yeah, okay, so.
Speaker 2: Brian's get an argument.
Speaker 3: Then we get into a huge.
Speaker 1: Argument in the car because Brian's like, you do not
Speaker 1: respond to that for let it simmer for it at
Speaker 1: least an hour and a half.
Speaker 2: I said, like thirty I think, I said, like forty minutes.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you pushed it to him.
Speaker 2: I said eleven fifteen. It was it was like ten
Speaker 2: forty at that point.
Speaker 3: Yeah, don't answer right away.
Speaker 2: And he was like, no texting back right now?
Speaker 3: You know, so conflict.
Speaker 2: So that's such a funny cart right, It so funny.
Speaker 1: So why did Eric, why don't you read what I
Speaker 1: the conversation thus far with Derek, who texted me again
Speaker 1: that same night and maybe even again the next day
Speaker 1: without any provoking him. Okay, okay, here's the here's the
Speaker 1: whole text chain.
Speaker 3: Tell me what you think. I don't want you guys
Speaker 3: to tell me if you think that this is like
Speaker 3: an okay thing to do.
Speaker 4: Okay, So a guy like this, he introduces himself again.
Speaker 4: He said, it was very nice meeting you tonight. Laura says, Hi,
Speaker 4: you're really cute. It was so nice to meet you too.
Speaker 1: By the way, I wrote that for sure, and I
Speaker 1: accepted it.
Speaker 3: I let her send it.
Speaker 4: So he says, you're attractive as well. What are your
Speaker 4: plans for the rest of the night.
Speaker 3: And Laura says, so you want to hook up? No,
Speaker 3: I understand that.
Speaker 4: Sure, I'm heading home and I'm working early tomorrow. Okay, Well,
Speaker 4: hope you enjoyed your night. Get home safe. Let me
Speaker 4: know when you get there safe.
Speaker 3: Sweet. I loved that.
Speaker 2: That's good.
Speaker 4: I did. And you're so sweet. Thank you.
Speaker 2: I'm home.
Speaker 4: You're very nice and cute, and you're very bold and beautiful.
Speaker 4: Have a good night, love.
Speaker 3: Wait wait, wait, listen to what he said to me.
Speaker 4: And you're very bold and beautiful. Have a good night.
Speaker 2: Love, bold for sure.
Speaker 3: Old, for sure. He probably has never experienced anything like that.
Speaker 4: Here's Laura's response.
Speaker 3: Oh god, I think this is it is a cringey
Speaker 3: one might walk out.
Speaker 4: I think this is where it goes out here. That
Speaker 4: right there just made my whole night. What a gentleman,
Speaker 4: and what a great smile. You light up the night.
Speaker 2: Okay, that's a little your age is starting to betray.
Speaker 4: You did not smile up my night.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but that's what that's what grandparents say their grandkids.
Speaker 3: No, wow, I'm bringing up.
Speaker 2: Back, young man. You have the nicest smile. It just
Speaker 2: lights up the whole night.
Speaker 4: Have you thought, you know what you're on your.
Speaker 3: Phone kind of actually sell like my mom?
Speaker 2: Oh my god?
Speaker 4: Yeap when you when you go out on your first dat,
Speaker 4: are you going to bring him some muffins? Like some
Speaker 4: candy and a dollar bill?
Speaker 1: They finish the text conversation.
Speaker 2: You need to bring Marie with you so she can scrub.
Speaker 3: And then you need to tell me where you take
Speaker 3: it from here to continue.
Speaker 4: So, good morning, Good afternoon love. How is your day
Speaker 4: going so far?
Speaker 3: Initiated the day?
Speaker 4: Hi, I'm heading back home from a very smoke filled
Speaker 4: casino with my roommate. I worked a little today too.
Speaker 4: How about your handsome self? Are you on duty tonight?
Speaker 5: Oh?
Speaker 2: God, but you I know, but you are somehow filling
Speaker 2: every stereotype of someone even older than yourself.
Speaker 3: Do you know how any young people learn casinos?
Speaker 2: It's just not that many and the ratio of youngs whatever.
Speaker 4: Okay, so did you tell him you had your wicker bag,
Speaker 4: and you were smoking a Timperillo.
Speaker 2: No, just social security.
Speaker 1: Look seriously, it was so bad in there that night,
Speaker 1: I could I leapt like two hours.
Speaker 4: So his response is, yes, I am. It's a pretty
Speaker 4: crowded tonight. I hope you enjoyed yourself at the casino.
Speaker 1: Here's my last here's the last response, and then tell
Speaker 1: me what to do from here.
Speaker 4: I came home with an extra two hundred, So enjoy
Speaker 4: I did. I could barely keep my eyes open though,
Speaker 4: because of all the cigarette smoke. Are you doing something
Speaker 4: for yourself today?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 3: Oh, there's more, There's more, there's more.
Speaker 4: Hang on, oh god, Oh.
Speaker 3: Okay, come on, here's okay, let's go.
Speaker 4: I would have never texted you back. Okay, you give
Speaker 4: off very good, positive, attractive vibes.
Speaker 6: What I told.
Speaker 1: Him, I was trying to be say it.
Speaker 3: Well, I don't want to be naughty. I wanted to
Speaker 3: be nice. I just wanted to see something nice.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna be honest. He's not looking for nice.
Speaker 3: I know, you know what. You were right. You're right
Speaker 3: about that.
Speaker 2: He's also not looking for the age that you're projecting through.
Speaker 4: Mass to text anyway, continue, Wow, So he says, I
Speaker 4: went to the gym today and now I'm cooking, just
Speaker 4: watching sports on TV and relaxing and getting ready for
Speaker 4: the week. How about you? Oh boy, here we go,
Speaker 4: I said, good morning. I hope I'm not waking you.
Speaker 4: I've been at work since four forty five am. Shoot
Speaker 4: me now, please? Was it ready to stop the weekend?
Speaker 4: Do you get some time to yourself today? I'm sure
Speaker 4: you work your butt off like the rest of us.
Speaker 2: This is a dumpster fire.
Speaker 3: That wasn't that bad?
Speaker 2: This? This feels like a young guy texting someone's grandmother.
Speaker 4: Which lever do I pull to be crushed by a safe?
Speaker 3: Here's the thing, and then let's discuss continue.
Speaker 4: Good morning, and know I do not Lol. I'm in
Speaker 4: a rebuilding stage right now in my life, so I'm
Speaker 4: always working and trying to get better. So I have
Speaker 4: leveled ground. Can't build a house without a foundation.
Speaker 3: True, that's true, he's trying to find No.
Speaker 2: I agree, but that those type of siloquisms and young
Speaker 2: men typically are indicative of weird types.
Speaker 4: Okay, now, don't response oh because it was Oh boy.
Speaker 2: Young man, here we go, full sentiment.
Speaker 3: Tell me super super grandma? What I just say?
Speaker 2: Oh gosh, wait a minute, hold on.
Speaker 3: Because I kind of give him a pep talk.
Speaker 4: Oh no, oh no, so you didn't. You didn't respond
Speaker 4: with something like do you want to lay some wood
Speaker 4: on my foundation?
Speaker 3: No, I'm not getting to that point yet.
Speaker 2: Okay, well, okay, to be fair, what are you waiting for?
Speaker 2: And not that that's a bad thing that you're waiting
Speaker 2: But you guys are just two days. I know, But
Speaker 2: what are these conversations? These are awful.
Speaker 3: I'm just getting know each other.
Speaker 2: You're not getting to know.
Speaker 1: Each other, right, okay, boy, okay, then look finish, it's
Speaker 1: almost done, and then we're gonna send them a text
Speaker 1: tonight and we'll a more racing.
Speaker 2: I'm washing my hands of this.
Speaker 4: Well maybe you can say no, you can't go from this. Well,
Speaker 4: there be a little bit.
Speaker 2: Wait till Marie gets back.
Speaker 4: Oh my god, listen to how she responds, Oh.
Speaker 3: This is this is kind of a bad party thing.
Speaker 4: Oh god, so so true. And you know what, people
Speaker 4: go through that stage again sometimes at midlife. Oh no, no.
Speaker 3: Are you speaking in general terms?
Speaker 6: Wow?
Speaker 4: I know you have got your boy. He's not over
Speaker 4: the mountain yet. Yeah, but you're like old exactly. Oh
Speaker 4: there's more.
Speaker 3: Oh it gets more.
Speaker 4: That's kind of what I'm doing. Although I've been in
Speaker 4: my same business for twenty five years, I'm still learning
Speaker 4: and changing things.
Speaker 3: Shall the ten years?
Speaker 4: Where do you want to be in two years?
Speaker 5: Ask?
Speaker 2: You knew about his two year plan?
Speaker 4: Yeah, I just want to know, like one kind of
Speaker 4: are you?
Speaker 2: Is this an interview or I am?
Speaker 3: I'm totally. I have so many questions for like, I
Speaker 3: want to know what his sign is. I want to
Speaker 3: know do I get in what conversation like that? Then
Speaker 3: stop asking like we're going to be sexting?
Speaker 2: No, but like, have I ever had a casual conversation before?
Speaker 4: So he says, I want to be making six figures.
Speaker 4: I'm in the process of trying to get into cybersecurity.
Speaker 3: Okay, And then I said.
Speaker 4: Oh no, here's what she says.
Speaker 2: Oh no, I said something don't worry about.
Speaker 4: Oh, let's not gloss over this response.
Speaker 3: Oh no, when did you send this today?
Speaker 4: At what time?
Speaker 3: I don't know?
Speaker 4: Oh, not that long ago. I'm going to do it
Speaker 4: in a voice that I think would be appropriate.
Speaker 2: Good for you?
Speaker 4: Oh god, you know, my god, I'm ambitious. I like
Speaker 4: people like you. Are you going to school for?
Speaker 2: It?
Speaker 7: Was?
Speaker 3: Give me my phone or get or get No. All right,
Speaker 3: during the break, we're not.
Speaker 2: Saying a text right now. I need this needs to
Speaker 2: steal alone.
Speaker 1: Un we need to formulate after we have Joscelyn on.
Speaker 1: Has Marie seen all these Yes, and she's we've been
Speaker 1: discussing them.
Speaker 2: She also mortified.
Speaker 1: See here's the problem with Marie. She is a text freak.
Speaker 1: She will text the minute somebody texts her. She doesn't
Speaker 1: let a second go.
Speaker 4: Oh. So Marie and I have so much in common
Speaker 4: that Marie even texted me to she have it to
Speaker 4: me that Laura followed her advice.
Speaker 2: I was like, first, I was like, who's number is
Speaker 2: this I I was like, it's Marie. I was like, wow, okay.
Speaker 3: Anyway, yeah.
Speaker 2: So it was like ten minutes after I left.
Speaker 3: To oh my gosh, there's such Funday night.
Speaker 7: Though.
Speaker 3: It was really really funny, and.
Speaker 4: I told Laura that I was going to go up
Speaker 4: to guys and just be like, hey, I'm here with
Speaker 4: my kids.
Speaker 2: I considered saying that, except reverse and here the parents.
Speaker 1: Those kids at Park and Rec were kids. They were
Speaker 1: kids there.
Speaker 3: It may have been an eighteen and under club for
Speaker 3: that night.
Speaker 2: For that matter, I felt too old because I like,
Speaker 2: I locked eyes years around and I was yeah, I
Speaker 2: got a couple of eyes and I was like, oh yeah, no,
Speaker 2: too young for me. I'm sorry, Like I was.
Speaker 3: We were the oldest people in there, oh by far,
Speaker 3: the oldest. We probably they probably thought we were.
Speaker 4: The owners or someone's grandparents that were like or like
Speaker 4: secret shoppers looking for over cops.
Speaker 3: Yeah, oh jeez.
Speaker 1: All right, So now I want you to play some
Speaker 1: music because we're going to bring up our special guest.
Speaker 1: Her name is Jocelyn Hatfield and I met her at
Speaker 1: our Taco's restaurant in Hillcrest. I just happened to go
Speaker 1: on the night of the twenty fourth come on of
Speaker 1: Jocelyn and and there was a big event going on her.
Speaker 3: Let me turn your mic on there you go.
Speaker 1: Okay, So they were having an event and that's why
Speaker 1: I was super crowded that and I'm like, why is
Speaker 1: so crowded tonight?
Speaker 3: Which was great for you guys.
Speaker 1: And that what the the A lot of restaurants in
Speaker 1: and around this area were participating in giving back a
Speaker 1: percentage of the sales to fund HIV testing and underserved
Speaker 1: people for HIV purposes and things like that. Right, So
Speaker 1: and there was a drawing and it was it was cool,
Speaker 1: and then you could donate and it was a really interesting,
Speaker 1: cool thing to see.
Speaker 3: And then I thought, you know, we should have somebody
Speaker 3: on that is a representative of SD Pride to talk
Speaker 3: about some things that are coming up.
Speaker 1: One thing is something that I don't think anybody's heard of,
Speaker 1: which could be great, is coming up soon. And another
Speaker 1: thing is huge And you're gonna tell us who's headlining.
Speaker 6: Yes, okay, very excited for our headliners.
Speaker 3: Well, welcome to the show, Jocelyn.
Speaker 6: Thank you for having me. This is such a cool
Speaker 6: setup in here, really living. I love it.
Speaker 7: Actually, it really creates a vibe. I'm mom into and
Speaker 7: I'm feeling it.
Speaker 3: Good, good good. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Okay, So what is talk to me first about what's
Speaker 1: coming up in May?
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 7: So I am a community advocate and so my my
Speaker 7: day job is at San Diego Pride and very fortunate
Speaker 7: and passionate about that work. But as a volunteer, I'm
Speaker 7: involved with this amazing event called No Other Festival, and
Speaker 7: it's a wellness and camping experience for LGBTQ, women, queer
Speaker 7: and trans folks. It's in its second year, it's its
Speaker 7: first time down here in southern California. Previously we've been
Speaker 7: up in northern California, so it's kind of a flex
Speaker 7: to be in San Diego. It's about an hour outside
Speaker 7: of town. We're really excited. It's it's wellness workshops, and
Speaker 7: it's connection in community and joyful dancing and there's pool
Speaker 7: parties and night parties and it's just a really great
Speaker 7: opportunity for the community to get out in nature. So
Speaker 7: often our community gathers in entertainment spaces, in bars and
Speaker 7: then my life, which hey, I love that, love that
Speaker 7: many amazing experiences, but it's it's rare for us to
Speaker 7: find connection and community in a space in nature and kind.
Speaker 6: Of outside of the hustle and bustle.
Speaker 7: So that is May eight through the eleventh, so we're
Speaker 7: really close to that, really really close. And yeah, so
Speaker 7: it's it's you know, getting out in nature and being
Speaker 7: wild and free and queer amongst.
Speaker 3: What are And this is a personal question. You don't
Speaker 3: have to answer it, but are you I am okay? Now?
Speaker 3: When you so, you really you really are passionate about
Speaker 3: the cause. I mean I would be passionate about the
Speaker 3: cause being a straight person too. As well.
Speaker 6: Absolutely, But I how did you.
Speaker 1: Come across being the marketing person for SD Pride. That's
Speaker 1: a pretty big deal. And what's like a little background.
Speaker 7: Yeah, what's my origin story? Yeah, if you will, Well,
Speaker 7: thank you for asking. I actually started as a volunteer
Speaker 7: for San Diego Pride about a decade ago, and I
Speaker 7: became a Pride organizer through that. So I've worked in
Speaker 7: San Diego, in Las Vegas and Palm Springs, and most
Speaker 7: prides around the country, believe it or not, are ran
Speaker 7: by volunteers, and San Diego is pretty unique in that
Speaker 7: we are very lucky to have a full time staff
Speaker 7: that puts on year round programming for the community, you know,
Speaker 7: three sixty five, but most prides don't have that. So
Speaker 7: we're very lucky to have that infrastructure here. And I
Speaker 7: started as a volunteer at San Diego Pride, became inspired
Speaker 7: and moved away and you know, kind of came back
Speaker 7: and then there was an opportunity to come back and
Speaker 7: join the organization on staff, and I threw my hat
Speaker 7: in the ring for it and was thrilled to come
Speaker 7: back and take on the role there.
Speaker 3: So the director of pr good for you. That's awesome. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 3: So No Other Festival is happening in May, and where
Speaker 3: is it happening again?
Speaker 6: So it's in Hakumba Hot Springs.
Speaker 3: Those are good.
Speaker 7: Those are fun, very desert vibe, very you know, beautiful,
Speaker 7: big open sky and it's a you know, if you're
Speaker 7: if you ever done desert camping, it's just it's a
Speaker 7: it's a unique experience. But I definitely think.
Speaker 6: That the best part of it is the stars. I mean,
Speaker 6: it's amazing.
Speaker 7: And we'll have kind of a little insular space where
Speaker 7: we're creating our community. So we've got a great, great
Speaker 7: campground and people content camp they can bring our v's,
Speaker 7: we've got some glamping yurts.
Speaker 3: Or the RV.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 7: So it's it's it's great and it's almost here and
Speaker 7: I were so excited, but you know, it's like park
Speaker 7: is full.
Speaker 6: It's not that the some tickets.
Speaker 3: Available, So does somebody get tickets?
Speaker 6: Well, thank you for asking.
Speaker 7: Yeah, they can head to No Other Festival dot com
Speaker 7: and that's k n O W Other Festival dot com.
Speaker 3: So it's like know thyself, okay, and you know we'll
Speaker 3: put it on our website.
Speaker 6: Tokay, amazing, Yeah, thank you.
Speaker 3: And now there's a giant festival that you guys put
Speaker 3: on every year, the Pride Festival, the one and only.
Speaker 3: It's a three day or is it four days? I
Speaker 3: don't even know anymore.
Speaker 7: Well, the festival itself is two days. The parade is
Speaker 7: you know, obviously a one day.
Speaker 3: And then there's a thing beforehand, right, there's various things there.
Speaker 7: Yeah, So we have several events leading up to what
Speaker 7: we consider to be Pride Week. So we have a
Speaker 7: great event at Saint Paul's Cathedral. It's called Light Up
Speaker 7: the Cathedral and it's an interfaith kind of celebration of Pride.
Speaker 6: We do a Stonewall.
Speaker 7: Rally, which is typically held at the at the Flagpole
Speaker 7: and Hillcrest.
Speaker 6: But you know, there's things happen, and.
Speaker 7: So we're working through all that, and it's a full
Speaker 7: week of programming that really just kind of centers people
Speaker 7: around why we come together in Pride and why Pride
Speaker 7: is still important and frankly more relevant than it's ever
Speaker 7: been for our community.
Speaker 1: And can I tell you that, as a straight woman
Speaker 1: with kids, I used to take my daughter when she
Speaker 1: was like a preteen and we would go to the parade,
Speaker 1: and I have never felt so much love and acceptance
Speaker 1: in the most warm vibes ever. And I'm so glad
Speaker 1: that she was able to experience that because it's like
Speaker 1: you realize, it just doesn't matter. As long as you love,
Speaker 1: it doesn't matter, and everybody can express themselves however they
Speaker 1: want and still be loving, beautiful people. And that's what
Speaker 1: I get out of the parade, and that's why I
Speaker 1: love it so so much, you know, all right.
Speaker 3: But the headliners. We need to talk about this year's headliners.
Speaker 7: Yes, we are so excited. So we have a Grammy
Speaker 7: level lineup this year. We've got Kilani and Kim Petris
Speaker 7: on Saturday and Sunday for our Stonewall stage entertainers. And
Speaker 7: we always have really high quality, high caliber entertainment at
Speaker 7: San Diego Pride. We've become known for that over time.
Speaker 7: But this year we're very excited for these these icons
Speaker 7: to kind of come and and join us, and we're
Speaker 7: going to fill around them also really talented national level acts.
Speaker 7: But we also are very intentional about bringing in and
Speaker 7: celebrating our local queer entertainers because some of our best
Speaker 7: artists in the region are right here. You know, there
Speaker 7: are queer entertainers from our own community, and.
Speaker 6: So there's will be a lot of celebration of that
Speaker 6: as well.
Speaker 1: Oh that's because musicians in music or like is it
Speaker 1: stand up or is it like dancing?
Speaker 7: You know, we I don't think we've had a comedians,
Speaker 7: you know, a stand up type situation.
Speaker 6: But I don't know that we would rule it out.
Speaker 7: I don't know what that would look like like on
Speaker 7: the main stage.
Speaker 5: You know what.
Speaker 3: Let me just tell you we did it here. We
Speaker 3: had a contest among the three of us and a
Speaker 3: real comedian like judged it, and it would be a
Speaker 3: little awkward. Let me just put it that way.
Speaker 4: Okay, I think you know, you've been doing it for.
Speaker 6: Helen in community ten years.
Speaker 4: But okay, so yeah, I think it was maybe twenty
Speaker 4: years ago that they had Margaret Show. Yeah, yeah, she did.
Speaker 4: And I think no, I don't know if they did.
Speaker 4: I don't know if they did. But Margaret Show was
Speaker 4: years and years and years ago, and I don't think
Speaker 4: they've ever had it. I think that's a little more
Speaker 4: people want to dance and stuff like that, you know.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I think that's right. I think you're right.
Speaker 7: I mean, it's so amazing to have that kind of talent,
Speaker 7: but also people are kind of wanting to have a
Speaker 7: little bit of a vibe in the park, you know.
Speaker 3: Okay, so somebody who's watching or listening is straight and
Speaker 3: maybe has young kids, old kids, no kids, whatever, Speak
Speaker 3: to them, why is it important to go to the festival?
Speaker 3: Why should they as a straight person?
Speaker 7: Awesome, awesome question and thank you. So this year's theme
Speaker 7: is Unbreakable, Unbreakable pride, unshakable power, and I think it
Speaker 7: really speaks to the unity of our community, whether you
Speaker 7: are someone who is a part of the community or
Speaker 7: someone who just supports the community and supports the quality
Speaker 7: and supports rights and things like that. And I think
Speaker 7: we definitely need our allies to now more than ever.
Speaker 7: We need you in this fight. We need we need unity,
Speaker 7: and we need to celebrate and uplift our queer artists
Speaker 7: and our queer community. So we could not do that
Speaker 7: without our allies. And I think that's the message that
Speaker 7: you know, I would I would leave with y'all, is
Speaker 7: that you know you're important too to this very important
Speaker 7: and we need that, you know.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 6: So it's like we see you, Yeah, well, thank you, we.
Speaker 1: Love you, we support you, and you guys are it's
Speaker 1: just such a fun festival, so many things to see,
Speaker 1: so many things to do, and it's right after.
Speaker 3: The Prey, right it is.
Speaker 6: It's right after the Prey in.
Speaker 3: Bubble Park, it is. Okay, So when is Pride this year?
Speaker 6: It is the nineteenth and twentieth of July.
Speaker 3: Okay, Yeah, and then we'll put on the website no
Speaker 3: other festival the link to that.
Speaker 6: Yep.
Speaker 1: And that sounds like a beautiful bonding of things for
Speaker 1: people that may have fallen through the cracks a little bit, right,
Speaker 1: Is that what this is for as people who might
Speaker 1: not be overserved?
Speaker 6: Yeah, I think.
Speaker 7: I mean, there's definitely an element of that. It's for everyone,
Speaker 7: and you know, that's a part of that community. But
Speaker 7: we have found that people find a sense of community
Speaker 7: and connection that they've really been looking for. So in
Speaker 7: that way, I think you're right that there are some
Speaker 7: folks who haven't found exactly where they fit in to
Speaker 7: the community, and no other festival has been that place.
Speaker 4: Well, you know, And I think it's also important to
Speaker 4: say the media, some media outlets paint a very different
Speaker 4: picture of what Pride is that it's and I think maybe, well, yeah,
Speaker 4: and I think people with young certain families with young
Speaker 4: children might be like, I don't know if this would
Speaker 4: be kid friendly, but it is. So it's nothing to
Speaker 4: be afraid of. It's a lot of fun, it's very joyous,
Speaker 4: and it's not something to be frightened of. So just
Speaker 4: know that it's a black Yeah, it's a lot of fun,
Speaker 4: a real sense of community, a lot of families, a
Speaker 4: lot of kids. Yeah. Absolutely, people bring their dogs like.
Speaker 4: It's not anything that certain outlets paint pride to be anywhere,
Speaker 4: not just San Diego, but anywhere in the world. So
Speaker 4: if you are watching media and you're a little bit
Speaker 4: have a little bit of trepidation, don't.
Speaker 3: We'll go Yeah.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Now, in closing, as a queer woman, I want you
Speaker 1: to speak to our listeners and I want you to
Speaker 1: tell them what's on your mind or something that you
Speaker 1: want to say to people who are not queer.
Speaker 6: Oh hello, hello, hello.
Speaker 3: Hello, hello, hello.
Speaker 7: Now that I have your attention, yeah, hello, heterosexuals.
Speaker 6: That's put me on the spot.
Speaker 3: I know, I do that.
Speaker 6: I'm here for it.
Speaker 7: I think just kind of like we were saying, you know,
Speaker 7: really leaning into the ways that we are alike and
Speaker 7: the commonalities that we have and the things that we
Speaker 7: share and the ways that we can connect. I think
Speaker 7: that is really valuable for our community. So my dear heteros,
Speaker 7: just you know, lean in to us and.
Speaker 6: And help us build together.
Speaker 7: You know, I think that I am very blessed to
Speaker 7: have a lot of people in my life who aren't
Speaker 7: a part of the community, who are heterosexual and who have,
Speaker 7: you know, frankly, in the last few months, have really
Speaker 7: reached out and to reiterate you know, we're with you. Good,
Speaker 7: you know, you are supported, you are loved, and that's
Speaker 7: you know, very kind of reaffirming, I would say. But yeah,
Speaker 7: I mean, I just think if you're questioning whether or
Speaker 7: not it's the right time to lean into your queer
Speaker 7: community and your queer folks, yes, do it.
Speaker 6: It is the right time.
Speaker 3: Guess what, you're not going to catch it? Yeah, you know,
Speaker 3: like you know what, and you guys, it's just not
Speaker 3: like you're permiscuous and your bad influence, Like that's that's
Speaker 3: the stigma we have to just totally cute and kill
Speaker 3: among others.
Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, because it's not true.
Speaker 5: No.
Speaker 4: Well, and you know, I think you're right on the
Speaker 4: money with that. I think that a lot of people
Speaker 4: that I'll tell you this. Anybody that says they don't
Speaker 4: know somebody that's gay, lesbian, queer, trans anything like that,
Speaker 4: they do. They're just not aware of it. Yeah, So
Speaker 4: it's it's a situation where who cares who someone chooses
Speaker 4: to love. I don't the question I asked. I don't
Speaker 4: ask people in a conversation, well, who do you choose
Speaker 4: to love? Who do you choose to It doesn't matter.
Speaker 4: It doesn't matter what's under your clothes, that matters, what's
Speaker 4: in your heart. So anybody that's out there that it
Speaker 4: doesn't it doesn't matter.
Speaker 3: And you know, I mean, and so many things do
Speaker 3: right now, they do.
Speaker 7: There's a lot of stuff that matters way more than
Speaker 7: who you love or who's in your bedroom, you know.
Speaker 7: And to your point, I think one of my and
Speaker 7: I can't attribute this to anyone. I'm sure someone amazing
Speaker 7: said this, but and it's it's kind of like a
Speaker 7: sound bite, but it's like, you know, be careful who
Speaker 7: you hate, because it might be someone you love. And
Speaker 7: I think to your point, there is no doubt that
Speaker 7: every person has someone queer in their life, whether they
Speaker 7: know it or not.
Speaker 1: Absolutely, because I'm one thousand percent sure you are born that.
Speaker 6: Way, you really are.
Speaker 1: This man right here is living proof, like I living proof.
Speaker 3: This is the way he was made right and that's
Speaker 3: perfectly fine. What's wrong with that. He's such a big
Speaker 3: heart and he loves with all of it and that's
Speaker 3: what matters in this life.
Speaker 4: Yeah, there was a guy on I think it went viral.
Speaker 4: He was on I think they showed it on TikTok
Speaker 4: or something last night. But he's trans and he's in
Speaker 4: Middle America and have you seen that? And he is
Speaker 4: not able to get his testosterone shots and so now
Speaker 4: his body is going backwards. And because of what's going
Speaker 4: on right now, medical companies are able to say, no,
Speaker 4: we don't feel like it.
Speaker 6: Yeah, we're not going to provide gender.
Speaker 4: It's our decision whether you get it or not. Meanwhile,
Speaker 4: people take it for health reasons, so who is someone
Speaker 4: to judge what medication you can't take?
Speaker 3: So those are fighty to come in.
Speaker 6: Yes, So it's very kind of happening.
Speaker 3: It started out and it.
Speaker 4: Broke my heart to watch that because honestly, it doesn't
Speaker 4: affect me. I mean, I'm not trans, but for somebody
Speaker 4: that is and is going through that, that's a hard
Speaker 4: enough journey for someone now to have this kind of
Speaker 4: a situation happen, And it's like, who cares? As long
Speaker 4: as you're not hurting animals or children, I don't care
Speaker 4: what you do.
Speaker 3: Honestly, we're all the same, we have the same parts.
Speaker 4: You do. You know, you all have a heart, we
Speaker 4: all bleed. Come on, who cares? So I do think
Speaker 4: the foundation is very important and it does get a
Speaker 4: message out there that just because you're choosing to love
Speaker 4: somebody that somebody else doesn't choose to love it doesn't
Speaker 4: mean that you're a weirdo or crazy or or no.
Speaker 1: So yeah, well it is is about love. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: I love that, and so okay, we have two festivals
Speaker 1: to look forward to.
Speaker 6: We do.
Speaker 3: SD Pride is a great organization. I didn't know that
Speaker 3: we had one of the best ones.
Speaker 5: We do.
Speaker 4: Are you the you're building right now?
Speaker 3: We are.
Speaker 6: We have a beautiful mural going.
Speaker 4: Yes, it looks really good. I just walked by it
Speaker 4: the other day and it looks great.
Speaker 6: I love it too.
Speaker 7: It's been We did a whole fundraiser for it. We
Speaker 7: had artists in the community submit concepts for it and
Speaker 7: someone was selected. So it's been a whole you know,
Speaker 7: long process and so to see it come together.
Speaker 6: And it looks really exciting for the staff.
Speaker 1: So at Sdpride dot org, are there resources on there
Speaker 1: for people who may want to like how am I
Speaker 1: going to tell my family? Resources on the website like
Speaker 1: that kind of thing, like are there people that can
Speaker 1: reach out to?
Speaker 3: And yeah, there absolutely are literature whatever.
Speaker 6: Sdpride dot org is our website.
Speaker 7: We have a lot of resources everything from advocacy and
Speaker 7: you know, how to find community and affirming care. We
Speaker 7: also work really closely with the LGBTQ Center, which is
Speaker 7: a separate organization from us. Some people you know pairs together.
Speaker 7: We are separate organizations, but we work very closely together
Speaker 7: because we do very different things, so direct services and
Speaker 7: things that are more related to healthcare and seeking you know,
Speaker 7: mental health care or gender affirming care.
Speaker 6: Our friends at the Center.
Speaker 7: Actually have a lot of resources available for that.
Speaker 6: And at San Diego Pride, we're really.
Speaker 7: More about we have a huge advocacy components the work
Speaker 7: that we do, but we also are about creating spaces
Speaker 7: for people to come together and find community. So yeah,
Speaker 7: I would say there are definitely really great resources available.
Speaker 1: Okay, good we'll put all those links on our website,
Speaker 1: which is absolutely okay.
Speaker 3: Thank you so much for being so nice to meet
Speaker 3: you the other night, and thank you for talking to me.
Speaker 1: I know I sometimes come off a little forward.
Speaker 6: My pleasure. It was amazing. Thank you for having me.
Speaker 4: Thank you for not making us both uncomfortable.
Speaker 3: I know, I know. No, she wasn't even uncomfortable. I'm
Speaker 3: saying at dinner when I when when I hooked this up,
Speaker 3: when I was at dinner for uncomfortable? No, I don't
Speaker 3: did I a little bit, not at all.
Speaker 2: Thank goodness, it was great.
Speaker 3: Thank you.
Speaker 4: Well she showed up, so that's a good thing.
Speaker 6: I know that I did.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 1: At the end of our show, we say something and
Speaker 1: I say it first, Eric, and then you say it last.
Speaker 3: Okay or no me you boom ready. Thank you guys.
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Speaker 3: I love you, my sweet babies. Bye everybody, Thank you
Speaker 3: so much for watching.
Speaker 2: Bye.