Speaker 1: Made a decision.
Speaker 2: Have pace.
Speaker 3: It's sunny sun.
Speaker 2: I had vision night.
Speaker 1: So what's happening everybody? Exciting episode today?
Speaker 2: Yes, I'm so excited to tell you my fun story.
Speaker 1: I cannot wait to hear about everything beach and debate. Yes,
I'm a speech debate. Mom, you are, you are a
little bit. You should get one of those like like
I used to have the volleyball mom, hats do they
have that for you?
Speaker 2: Guys? I should just start yelling side out for right.
Speaker 1: Get Becky Barrish to start making you your t shirts
for all your mom mom.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, it was so much fun.
Speaker 1: I can't wait.
Speaker 2: But also, you know, still had irritations to talk about.
Speaker 1: That's what I'm really more excited for now.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, almost had a fight with one of the
jokes with a fellow judge. Got real annoyed. You know,
I'm not perfect, That's what I love. I'm out here
doing my best. But you know, but for okay, let's
say hi to our friend's say you got yeah, Ricky Frolicker, Uh,
Kelly Laddie Da Katie's rolling on the e. Nikky's our girl.
Elizabeth Williamson, She's got a lot of kids, I know
too many Rita's. Try to keep up with that basnet,
you know, Polly, we love your Pancakesyrup, Valerie, it's out
of the park. Uh, Katerina better check it, gotta check it.
Gabby and Missy they.
Speaker 1: Were cleaning up stacking chairs when it was over. Yeah,
how's that baby to be so cute?
Speaker 2: Yeah, Rebecca Lubin.
Speaker 1: Oh she's cute too, Helly Bryant, she's not your amp,
but you know what she'll she'll galante the city of
El Monte.
Speaker 2: Leslie with the coughing. Do you know all these years
Leslie has rusty trustee, Uh, subscriber, never heard from her.
Don't know who she is? Oh, my gosh, I know,
but she's out there. She's on social media. Thank you.
Aaron's a dirty Sanchez, Jennifer, get up, Sandra. It's not
easy being green. Athena. We love your dancing and you
and Stephane yep Hi, Caitlin, Hi, how you doing good?
Were you at this Barbie party? No?
Speaker 3: Oh we had there was another birthday party going on
at the same time. We have like a birthday party
every weekend.
Speaker 2: O boy.
Speaker 3: I had to work anyway, so I wasn't even at
that one, I was doing my pawn work. But yeah,
we have birthday parties every single weekend for the next
leg month.
Speaker 1: We walked, I can't wait. We walk up to Patrick's
house this morning and there's a huge like step and
repeat basically with pink balloons and a Barbie sign.
Speaker 2: Oh he did it.
Speaker 1: I told Stephanie, we need to take a picture before
we leave and post it on our Facebook.
Speaker 2: I know. Yeah. How old did she turn?
Speaker 4: She would be five?
Speaker 1: Oh my right, Ellie, Yeah, I remember her. I remember
when she was born because I was in the hospital.
So she's five. That's when I had my hysterectomy.
Speaker 2: Oh wow, she was born the same.
Speaker 1: Week I had my Yeah, wow, I know.
Speaker 2: Time flies. I know if five is the big one,
is the big one?
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know he's getting to the Patrick's getting to
the corner office, except he's got the little baby. Yeah yeah,
so he's still got a little time.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 4: But man, that five, I thought that wasn't until.
Speaker 2: Like, no, yeah, that's it starts. It starts like five to.
Speaker 1: Like six seven.
Speaker 2: He's in a cubicle.
Speaker 1: It's like, yes, he's he's he's out of the mail room,
but he's not Yeah, he's not in the corner office yet,
that's true. Feel like he's still because the baby is
like what not even not even like like he's over
a year.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think he's You think he's good going on too?
Speaker 2: Yeah, oh wow, okay, so he's still he's going he's
still in the mail room. Now he's in the mail
room with the baby. But she's like that's like a cubicle. Yes,
he's got some plus. As I always say, when they're five,
they can kind of be your buddy, right and depending
on the personality. Well, I always said when they knew
that if they got in front of if they walked
in the street, they're gonna get it by a car,
like you know. And then at five was when like
Sonny was going downstairs to turn the TV on by
himself when he get up up in the morning to
watch the History Channel, remember that.
Speaker 1: Trains.
Speaker 4: It is so nice that I can just walk out
and turn the TV.
Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 4: I have to Yeah, so little, that little thing helps
so much.
Speaker 2: It does. Yeah, when they don't have to like come
to you in the morning when they wake up and
wake you up for everything.
Speaker 3: It's funny because now they can turn the TV on,
but now they both fight over the remote, so we're
constantly going like, don't touch the remote, that it's only
for adults. And then it's like, I don't want you
to go turn the TV on. I don't want to
get out. So I think they're getting a little confused
by by the long laying down.
Speaker 1: That's so funny. See, I got lucky because Sonny would
get up and in the morning like clockwork at eight am,
and Italia would just asleep the sleep asleep, so she
would be sleeping in like her mama, and Sonny would
go on the on the yeah, play with his trains.
Speaker 2: I feel like I didn't quite get that because you know,
by the time LB was old enough to do that,
the twins were only two, so there was a lot
I think I was always yeah yeah, having to be
woken up. Yeah. I don't think she could handle trying
to help Sadie Sider at two years old. Yeah yeah, yeah,
that was kind of a nightmare. I don't I don't
miss those days. I don't not those days. I miss
Elb being five, and then I miss her being like seven,
I miss all those I miss seven with LB. Yeah,
she came home. I was we have like this great
little talk because she was telling me that because and
I'll get to this too, because Xander is right at
that age because he's a junior when we're and Sadie two.
But Sadie's probably on a slightly different trajectory trajectory than Xander.
But we were talking a lot about college and how
and her messed up journey. But you know, because she
got turned down for all those schools, it made her
getting into them after the year of Pierce that much sweeter.
It was actually such a beautiful feeling, like she's so
relieved and happy, and you know, she wouldn't have had
those high highs without the low low Yeah, you know.
But also she was telling me that, you know, a
lot of people sometimes are like, you know, cause they're
they think it's cool that she goes to UCLA, but
when they find out she lives in LA people are like,
do you ever feel like you're too close to home?
And she's like, hell no, I love it. I love
that I can just you know, She's like, I still
feel like I'm fully a college student. I have my
own life at my apartment. I'm I don't feel at
all like, I don't go to college. She's like, but
I love the idea that I could just go home
for an afternoon even if I want to, and I have,
like I know where my car is. I could get
to my car if I knowed it, I could get
to other stuff. And she's like and honestly like, I
like being able to see my parents, Like, I know,
that's awesome. I know.
Speaker 1: And Nadlia just came home yesterday too.
Speaker 2: She did well.
Speaker 1: She came home Saturday afternoon with her two girlfriends to
sleep because they were going to the Palladium, ok And
Hollywood to see some house DJ play.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I wonder I think I know Lbie
loved you know. That's Oh yeah, yeah you think both
of our kids? I know. Isn't that weird? Do you
think elb wait sometime Shau she can't afford it. Oh yeah,
she's struggling, right yeah yeah, so yeah, so they would.
Speaker 1: They came and spent. So they went and then Natalia
and her friend had fake IDs and the guy, I
guess like asked them some. They let him in even
though it's eighteen and older. And I said, why didn't you?
Why did you?
Speaker 2: You know?
Speaker 1: And she goes because I left my real idea at
home in Santa Barbara. I'm like, okay, that's not good.
Speaker 2: Good because.
Speaker 1: I know I know she didn't she forgot so so
she was like okay. So anyways, they got kicked out,
so her other friends got in and then her and
her bff that she grew up with, who went with them.
They did. They didn't take they took their ID.
Speaker 2: Yeah, why they they thought it was a fake. Yeah,
I mean.
Speaker 1: It was, but I mean they I guess, yeah, they
took it and well they they let the girls in,
but then the two girls went back but they were
keeping the ID and then they had the balls or
their friend but they kept something like that. I don't know.
But they got in for like a couple of minutes
and then they got they they went and got him
and then kicked him out. Yeah, something like that. So
they were like holding on. I think the guy had it.
Speaker 2: And wanted to show his manager because he was suspect
sus So that's what happened.
Speaker 1: So her other girls went in. But anyway, it was
nice because they both came home and hung out with
me in my bedroom on Saturday night. It was really cute.
And then yesterday, I because I'm going on a trip
we'll talk about and I'm going to Florida, and I
don't have any like summer clothes. So I took Natalie
out to lunch and went to the mall and we
had a nice time. And then she drove home back
to Santa Barbara with no ID. With no ID, but
at least she has it there.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and she probably because this is how it goes
with the fake ID, she probably has a backup ID.
Speaker 1: No, she said she doesn't have one. She lost that
one too. She's like, now I'm all fresh out of IDs.
I'm like, all right, well that's good, you don't need one.
Speaker 2: Oh no, I'm sure she'll order another one. That's gonna
It's not that expensive is the crazy part. And they
get too thought it was going to be like I
thought LB would have spent like five hundred dollars because
she said it was expensive. It was like one hundred dollars.
She had two IDs.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what it was like fifty for an for
one ID or I guess they send you to Yeah.
Speaker 2: Elbie said that her. Okay, so the fake id's work
really well at this one bar that's near UCLA. Her
ID is scannable, so they scan them and if it scans,
most people are like great, you know. And she's used
it at Target, at like grocery store if they need
to scan the ID. But she told me that there
are certain bars in Westwood that are known for being
sticklers and will will take your ID. But I'm like,
how do they how can they prove that? Like if
they if it scans, it scans, right, And She's like,
not necessarily some people. Some places are just really strict.
Speaker 1: Caitlin, did you have a fake ID?
Speaker 4: I did?
Speaker 1: I feel? Who do you ad a fake ID?
Speaker 2: Right? Yeah, We've talked about this ten of times. I
had the welfare I d remember that did that looked
nothing like me? And I had the other ID that
I got from someone's purse that I stole.
Speaker 1: Right right, I'm not proud, I know, bragging. I was
a terrible I found, you know, I found my idea.
I found a California driver's license had a rat concert
on the floor and then she was brown hair, brown eyes,
and my height, my weight, And I went to the
DMV and I memorized her info and I said, I'm
Diane Warren and I lost my ID and at the
time they're like, okay, they take your picture and then
you just change your mailing address to my mailing address,
is what I did. I mean, now that I think
about it, that's criminal.
Speaker 2: I think, like, oh, you stole someone's identifications. Yeah, yeah,
back in the eighties. Oh well, remember the story about
how I had taken I guess i'd taken I probably
didn't steal her whole purse, but I think I the
purse was in a bathroom and I went in the wallet.
I took the wallet and then I left it like
I took. But whatever it was, I stole. I stole
her ID. And then you know, this was Springfield, Massachusetts,
so pretty small. All the same people went to all
the same bars every weekend, and it was very much
like Thursdays we go to the kegroom, Fridays we go
to the bar association. Yeah, Saturday we go to this place.
So one whatever day, I was using the girl's ID. Also,
she looked nothing like me. She was tall with red hair.
Oh my, but I didn't you know, whatever they listen,
it's a mafia to usually didn't give a fuck, right right,
whatever you're showing me, ID, I don't care. But one
bouncer knew the girl whose ID I had, oh, and
was like the fuck, like this is my friends, you know,
this is not you. And then he took the ID
and kicked me out and said, don't ever come O.
That sucks, I know.
Speaker 1: And I used Wendy's ID when she gave me one
of her driver's license to get into the Red Onion.
She's like, here, just try it. She's ten years older
than me, so I was like nineteen, you know, but
it said I was twenty nine. And she had green
when he has big green eyes and black hair at
the time, like pale skin, and I got this like
fro and brown eyes and nothing like her, and I
got taken away soon as I tried it. They're like, nice, try.
Speaker 2: Did you ever have one taken away? Kaitlin?
Speaker 3: No, I didn't, but I got them at the same
time that I was dating someone, so she got two
as well. We both got two each, and both of
hers got taken away pretty quickly, and they never taken
away hers dead and mine didn't. I never got mine
taken away. But they were Arizona. They were Arizona. I
d's and I remember going to a bar that one
up at Universal and I give it to the bartender
and he looks at it and then he points to
his arm and there's like a number on his arm
and he's like, looking at me, give me a thumbs up.
Speaker 4: Like look, look thet thumbs up. And I was like,
what are you talking about. He goes, it's it's our
area code in.
Speaker 3: Arizona, and I was like, oh, yeah, yeah, totally cool man, Yeah,
I got you.
Speaker 2: Now, that's what they would like.
Speaker 1: They well, like so not that, but like at the time,
like me and my friends had had fake id's. Anytime
you went to one of the bars, they would always
go what's your sign? What what year were you? Or like,
you know, they'd ask you, you know, questions that you
should know off the top of your head, right yeah,
like nobody ever.
Speaker 2: The good thing for LB is that, well a she
has a good memory. So she has a different address
obviously because she lives in New Jersey. But her info
is the same, except for the year is one off. Okay,
it's always going to be twenty one this year. Yeah,
but so it's the year's one off, so it but
her name is the same. Uh, Like I said, the
address is different but her birthday is the same. It's
just one year office. So she said she has been
questioned before really a target. Yeah, we'll ask her, you know,
oh or whatever, what what year were you born? And
then she says it and then they're like, oh, okay,
or her address she's been asked for.
Speaker 1: Before, right, right, Yeah, gotta memorize that ship.
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, but she still says she gets nervous when
she has to show it, like at a target.
Speaker 1: Oh, I don't blame her.
Speaker 2: Wow. I can't believe though, that Natalia got hers taken.
Speaker 1: Away her and her friend they both did. Yeah, that's
so crazy. But it was nice because they came in
my room. They hung out with me. I was watching
the interview with what's her face on dateline Valo.
Speaker 2: Or Valo? Did you see that?
Speaker 1: Did you see that interview? Oh my god, she's insane.
She she just was rambling. I mean, Keith Morrison was
like making mocking her, like voiceover mocking her. But like
it was, you have to watch it. It's she kept
rambling and she acted like it was disgusting. I can't
even imagine what she was thinking when he was talking
to her about her kids, and she was like yeah,
you know my daughter, uh whatever, Kaylee whatever her name was. Yeah,
she was like, you know, Kaylee comes and uh see
like she she always had she knew how to push
your buttons, you know, and she she was gonna die
anyways because she had pancreatis or some ship. Like, oh
my god, she's crazy.
Speaker 2: She's not getting out of jail for she's she's in
safe for her kids. But now she's being tried for
her brother.
Speaker 1: She's being yeah, for her No, for the ex husband.
Speaker 2: The husband, yeah, that one of the ex husbands.
Speaker 3: Right.
Speaker 2: And then there was one that's that claims that there
was an attempt on this.
Speaker 1: Yes, right, like his niece her nieces Yeah, yeah, yeah
that guy. Yes. And she's representing herself.
Speaker 2: Oh perfect, isn't that great that I hope the cameras
are in the courtroom. Yeah. I cannot even believe, like
just and why even try her? Just leave her in jail, right, right.
Speaker 1: And she told her son, her son has a podcast,
her oldest son has a podcast, and he he was
interviewed and he like he doesn't he hasn't like spoken
to her, but except for on the podcast. And she
told him that she asked Kaylee to put the little
boy to bed, and he was like, he was screaming,
and and she said, you know how, Kaylee gets really
like doesn't like it when kids scream in the in
the building or whatever, or in the apartment. So she
put her hand over his mouth and his nose and
she accidentally killed him. And then she felt so guilty
that she killed herself. That's what she said to her son.
Speaker 2: Oh my god.
Speaker 1: Wow, But then tells Keith Morrison another story.
Speaker 2: Oh my god.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
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Speaker 1: About that.
Speaker 2: My speech and debate this. This may go parton because
I have a cop I want to break it down.
I want to tell you all the irritations too. Yes,
because that's the fun part. Okay, Yeah, even though people
will sometimes be like, god, you know, you complain a lot,
but it's fun. It's called venting, right, it's called doing
a podcast. Okay. So there's so much to break up.
Speaker 1: To Part two to Friday.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean we may have to may have to
get to the that part. But so Friday, this was
two days of this. So this was the big it's
the state qualifier. So Xander, leading up to this, he's
been working really hard. He's been rehurt practicing a bunch
of times, and like a few days before this event,
he had been practicing with me and he just got
he got upset. He was like because he would forget
a line. And then he was like, I just I'm
putting so much pressure on myself and.
Speaker 1: That's what makes him good.
Speaker 2: Though. I have that stand up background, and I'm like, listen,
don't suffer the way I did. You know. I was
kind of giving him the really doesn't matter, Like I said,
it's so subjective, because it really is. These judges, their
decisions on these are all over the place, right half
these judges have never judged before. They don't know what
they're doing. They don't bother to like watch a video
and figure anything out about it. Sort Of like me,
I was just gonna say, no, you need I watched
the video. You didn't understand.
Speaker 1: You need to do a training for these parents them
get there a half hour early.
Speaker 2: I shouldeh, Well, they so pay. They have somebody who does,
like tell everybody how to do it. But it's so
much information that I think people, especially if they're anything
like me, they tune out. They don't they've never done
it before, so they're like, wait, what yeh, she's telling
everybody okay, and then this round is like this, and
this round is like this, and then you're gonna want
to do this, and then you're going to this one
needs a time, right, this one doesn't. I have no
idea what's going on. So you get these judges that
really do it incorrectly when they're in the room, and
it's frustrating for the students. But anyway, so.
Speaker 1: What was his speech are?
Speaker 2: So his speech is it's called there's a a lot
of different categories of speeches. Some speeches, now I'm going
to sound like the lady who tells it. Some speeches
are you're doing someone else's speech. So there's something called declamation,
and that is you've memorized a speech that somebody else
has given and that's pretty cool, Like you have to
make it sound like your own, and you know it,
have to make it believable. But Xander's speech is even
harder because it's original, so it's called original oratory. He
wrote the speech himself. It's a ten minute speech, and
his speech is about it's loosely about toxic masculinity, but
it's about how men, because of the way society is,
it's not acceptable for men to show vulnerability, and how
we need to change that. How there's more than one
way to like be a guy, and how the idea
that men are not supposed to be emotional or show
vulnerability often leads to mental illness and depression, physical symptoms.
And we need to be able to embrace ourselves and
that there's not one way. And it's a great speech
and there's a lot of humor in it. Yeah, And
I have told him, I'm like the fact that your
speech is funny is going to stand out. But it's
you know, it's scary and you're standing up and okay.
So the way it works is each room has one
judge for all the preliminary rounds. So basically, you think,
because people pictured it in their minds, like you're in
a big auditorium with all these people and one by
one they go up and they give a speech. No,
it's not like that, right, there's a ton of kids.
You'd be there for five days. If every kid has
to know what it is is it's you're out of school.
They split them up into classrooms. One judge per like
seven kids. You might have five, six or seven kids.
Speaker 1: There's one judge that could be a parent that just
started that day.
Speaker 2: Literally, yes, and they're the only one in the room. Yeah,
that's so. No, one's doesn't sound checking their work or yeah, exactly,
so it really you could have so you you might get,
I might get, like, let's say I get. I'll tell
you the ones that I got that day. But there's
there's a thing called impromptu, which is basically these kids
get two minutes, they get a topic, You give them
a topic, the judge does, they get two minutes to
think about it, and then they get five minutes and
they have to give a speech off the top of
their head.
Speaker 1: That's insane. And you were saying like and then something.
Speaker 2: I judge that one yesterday you did, Yeah.
Speaker 1: What were some of the topics?
Speaker 2: One of one kid got the topic table and it
was terrible. I mean it had nothing. A lot of
times these kids will have some set speeches in their
mind and then they'll try to shoe horn it into
the topic they get, but you can sniff it out
a mile away. It's like a fake id like I'm
taking this now. But then so then so you watch
all of your kids. But so if a category is
a pretty big category, like Xander's category had twenty seven kids,
so there were four different rooms, then that's the first round.
Then they do a second round and they're in with
different kids and a different judge. Wow. Then there's a
third round, different kids, different judge. Then of those kids,
whoever's ranking the highest, they go to a semi final round. Wait.
Speaker 1: So when they go to the different judges, different kids,
different judge, they're still doing the same they're still.
Speaker 2: Doing the same speech. Okay, and they do it throughout
the year. Okay, So okay, but when does the impromptu
ones come in or there? So it's all happening at
the same time. So you go into this giant room
with all the judges at eight o'clock in the morning,
and then they do they they give you a ballot,
which means that you're you're on your computer, and so
you see what is on your ballot and it's like,
I see, oh, you have an impromptu And then I
go to a room. It tells you what room you're in,
and then there's seven kids waiting outside that classroom and
all of the other judges. Some other people might get impromptu,
but some people might get humorous interpretations. Some people might
get Xander's category original oratory. There's so many there's a
lot of different categories declamation. There's dramatic, interpretation. There's some
of the categories of There was a duo improv which
Xander competed in, but it's that's not a category that
can go to the stack competition. Okay, so certain categories
don't qualify, aren't They're not like serious enough, right, So
Xander was only competing in his original oratory, which is
more I don't want to say it's more prestigious. It's
just harder because there's more kids in it. So the
biggest ones are impromptu. A lot of kids do that
because they don't have to prepare, so a lot of
kids compete in that, which it is an art form,
though it is like you have to be able to
be really well spoken and fake confidence because like if
you get a topic and you're like, right, but the
original one. Oh, there's also one called original prose and poetry,
and that's the one. The first one I ever judged,
where I told you I was like, wait, what the
fuck like and I had to stop them all in
between and I was like, wait, so this somebody wrote
this right? And they're like, yeah, we did. And I
was like that does not seem possible, Like what right?
They're like, yeah, these are all written by us. They're original, unbelievable,
And I was like, you guys are this is crazy?
I was because from that first round I ever did,
I'm like, these kids are such freaking go getters. They're
so talented it's crazy. And the category that Xanders in
is another original. They're giving these ten minute original speeches.
They're so good. The competition is fierce. So okay, So
Friday was the first it started. That was round one
and I was supposed to be driving another kid. So
this is the thing I'm going to complain about. Why
they're the parents that are go getters, that offered, that
are volunteering to judge. And then they're the parents who
do not give a fuck at all, don't even know
where their kids are, has no idea what day it is.
I don't think even understand what their kids are doing.
Speaker 1: Well, that's the crazy part because the first thing when
you said that to me, my first my first thought was,
what wouldn't you want to be in the car alone
with Xander? Or wouldn't this other kid want to his
parents want to be alone in the car so that
they can go through it and talk it through as
they're on their way down there, and give them confidence,
like they don't even they don't even go to the
thing to watch.
Speaker 2: It is shocking.
Speaker 1: That's crazy.
Speaker 2: First of all, there's not really it's not really conducive
to going to watch because there's nothing to watch. If
any judging, you're not going to see anything, you can't.
You could go in a room and watch your kid
and some parents do it that are like Tiger moms
or Tiger dads. But it's weird because you're going to
be in a room judging. A parent was like, oh,
that my kid's in here.
Speaker 1: Do you mind if I watch? You're going to be like,
I get that, guess. But what about at the end
when they want award ceremony?
Speaker 2: Yeah, very seldom do they show up for that.
Speaker 1: They don't say like what time is the award ceremony
and I'll come down and meet you. That's crazy.
Speaker 2: Yeah, everyonece in a while, but I will tell you
that at the beginning of the awards ceremony they always
say call your parents for your ride, because right, don't
I don't know, I mean, maybe you know what. I
don't want to speak for other parents. But at our school, no, okay,
So I go to school, the coach is bringing a
couple of the kids and the parents that are judging
were asked to if we could carpool because we were
going straight from school to another high school across town. Okay,
so I get there the kid I'm supposed to be driving.
Now we have to leave early the school because it's
a freaking drive. It's in Burbank and we're in North
ridg This is on Friday after Friday after school and
our school it's just so I get there, the kids
are all like in one room waiting for parents to
take them. So I get Xander, and I'm supposed to
take this other kid, let's call him Tommy Tommy. So
I go to sign out. I sign out Xander and
I try to sign out Tommy and the office ladies
are like, oh no, we don't have permission from Tommy's
parent for you to to release him to you what.
So immediately annoyed, of course, So I was like, well,
what do you mean, Like does he need permission? They're like, yeah,
his mom was supposed to email.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Tommy's mom dropped the ball.
Speaker 2: Tommy's mom was supposed to email the school and give permission.
So now I'm like, Tommy chop chob what's up with
your Your mom didn't send an email? And he's like, yeah,
I don't know. I texted her this morning and I
asked her to, but I guess she didn't. And I
was like, okay, what's that got to do with me?
Like I get hurt, like how did you not during
the day find out whether like I don't understand. I
know in my anxiety, am I crazy?
Speaker 3: Now?
Speaker 1: It's just like that generation, And I think, or well,
for like I could he's a kid, like I don't know,
I get emailed her, but like yeah, what the but
but what his mom is the one that should be
like on the ball or hey, or or at least
text your mom or call your mom right then and
there right say I'm at the office, call your mom,
get her on the horn and say I'm at the office.
So he does, Okay, so.
Speaker 2: He calls his mom. So then he's like, my mom
wants to talk to you, jeez. So Tommy's mom gets
on the phone. She's like, I let's just say I
do not understand what she's saying. Okay. She has a
very thick accent, and she's like, I don't understand if
she's true. So I'm just trying to speak to her,
and I'm like, hey, Tommy's mom like, I'm here. We
have to go, but they don't have your permission. And
so the I was like, could bless you? Excuse me?
Speaker 1: I said, bless you? The fuck kind of sneeze is
at it's a kitten sneeze.
Speaker 2: So I try to have Tommy's mom talk to the office.
They're like, no, we can't do it over the phone.
That she has to send an email. So I was like,
you need to send an email, but I cannot understand her.
So I'm like, I'm gonna put you back on the
phone with Tommy. So Tommy's like, Mom, you have to
email the school, and he's just telling her the email address. Okay.
Then he's like, okay, she's doing it right now. You
know how that went. So I'm like, did you get
the email from her? They're like nah, yet nothing. So
that goes on for a while.
Speaker 1: Guy's going this way, this guy's gone that way.
Speaker 2: What do you want to me? Hi? I am now
I'm tense. I'm about to go into traffic. I'm ten
for you. At this time, we got stuck in traffic.
There was an accident, so I was like, we got
to leave school early this time because I was legitimately late.
It was such bad traffic, couldn't even get to the
like the four h five. I was like, I am
not doing that again. Oh and especially now with all
the fires and road closures on a Friday afternoon, you
can't get any everything's always and I got to take
like four different freeways. I got to be on the
one eighteen, I gotta be on the five. I got
to be on the four h five. And it's gonna
be a nightmare cut off, right, lawson?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Right. So so now I'm just getting so mad. So
I'm like, Tommy, you got to call your mom back.
I don't think that she has the correct email address.
Oh meanwhile, our coach is upset too, and she's like,
just text her at the email address because so then
you hear Tommy on the phone with his mom going no,
it's dot Org like no you did. Then Tommy's like, well,
my mom's driving right now, of course, And I'm like
I look at the coach. I'm like, I don't know
what to tell you, but I can't. The coach figured
that why do you have to get in the middle
of that like can't well, because she's responsible. There's no
assistant coach, there's nobody. She's a response for all of
these kids and making sure that they equally, that they
all get there, that they all have permission to leave
school early, and that they all have rides home. Because
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Speaker 2: Hey, so okay, listen, we let's not spend too much
time on Tommy. We eventually got Tommy released from school again, obviously,
I guess eventually. Were you late? We were not late?
Oh good, we were fine. There was no accident, so
there's just very normal traffic. We were actually early. After
all that, we had fun and Tommy was really fun
and and we listened to music and then we got
to school, to the school where it was being held
and there was only one round though, but it was fun.
It's like such a fun day. You go in there,
you bond with like other judges. You. So, I have
a friend. I think I've told you this before, but
she's my friend and my neighbor and her daughter and
Sadie were really good friends in elementary school for a
couple of years, and then they went to the same
middle school very briefly. She's at a different school. But
I've always been like, I've always really liked this mom
so and she's really into it like me. So she
judges every single time. Right. The first time I ever
went I was we were like, oh my god, that's
so I got to hang out. I just hung out
with her the whole day. And it's really sweet because
she said she was like, ever ever since you started judging,
She's like, it's made it so much better for me
because it's like a she goes before you. I would
just be like lonely the entire day, just sort of
like on my computer, like reading my kindle, and she goes.
Now it's like a fun it's like a look forward
to it. My yeah, for sure. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So was it like from right after school until late
in the evening on Friday.
Speaker 2: So normally these speech and debates competitions are only one day,
so you'll hear about it it's like on a Saturday.
But this is the big one. This was the state qualifier,
so all the kids were feeling pressured. There's a lot
more kids, you know that they want to qualify for
the state competition. So in Xander's category, there were twenty
seven kids entered. That's a lot, a lot. So like
there the impromptu, there were like the same like maybe
even maybe thirty kids trying to do impromptu. They come
from all excuse me, high schools from around the area. Yes, yes,
they come from a lot of different schools Valencia, a
Royal as far as a Royal, Grande, Shamanad, all the
all the mostly the valley, right because there's different leagues, right,
but there's a ton of different schools that they come from.
This Taft where LB went. They have a really good team.
So it's the competition is pretty fierce. And these are
these are like brainiac kids.
Speaker 1: Yeah, of course.
Speaker 2: Like something that I would have never in a million
year's death, I would have been like nerd alert, you know,
no thanks, you know, but it's like they're there. They are,
they're super nerdy kids. But I love it because these
it's and I don't I say nerds, because they're all
pretty smart kids. They're very smart kids and good writers
and you know, but they're also like a lot of
like LGBT, like a lot of kids that like this
is a place where they can express themselves, you know.
Speaker 1: Nice.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, So it's like it's just really fun. It's
really fun to see kids from all different backgrounds. Attracts
a lot of you know, just kids that have are
very driven. Put it that way. I mean, I would
say Xander's probably one of the more well rounded kids
because he's just into also into music and theater and well, anyway,
my point is it's really fun, and you know, I
look forward to it. So Friday I did get to
judge around and Xander had his round, and then afterwards
it's fun to like debrief. But so here's so the
Saturday was the more fun day that I'm going to
tell you about. But like for my last little story,
this was so annoying. Okay, so I'm getting ready to leave.
I've got Xander and I don't have to take home Tommy,
but I had agreed to take home another girl that's
a friend of Xander's who doesn't live that far from us,
So I'm totally planning to take those two homes. We're tired.
It's been a long day at school, then it's been
you know, a drive. Then it's been a whole evening.
Speaker 1: It's now like eight o'clock, and then you got the
whole big day tomorrow.
Speaker 2: Have the whole day the next day eight o'clock. It's
like eight o'clock at night, now, okay, because the things
start didn't even start till like six. So then they
had the round. Then there's no award ceremony on Friday.
It's just one round. But now we're all gonna leave.
It's like eight o'clock at night. The the girl that
we're with, I'm gonna give her a different name too.
Let's call her Mollie. Mollie I've she's great. But Mollie's like, hey,
we have a problem. I'm like, what's the problem. She's
like this girl, let's call her Tina. She's like, uh,
Tina doesn't have a ride home, and she's gonna She's
saying she's going to take the bus, but it's like
a three hour bus ride. And I was like, me,
I ask somebody else. Now understand, there's really not a
lot of parents who came to help.
Speaker 1: So wait, Tina's got a bus ride.
Speaker 2: She's ride Tina. I don't know. I've never seen this
girl in my life. She didn't ask me for a ride.
She and she's got she's like got a post on
her face, like she's already annoyed. I don't, like, right,
how did I get hurt? Like I'm the one who's
potentially giving you a ride?
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's very like she's very she's wearing she's got
like headphones around her neck, not wearing them, but like
not like she's has autism.
Speaker 2: And she's getting overwhelmed. No, just that kind of like
kind of badass to cool, too cool. You know. She's
got like a backpack and her little headphones and she's
like walking away from everybody. So now, Mollie, she's like, Gena,
where are you going? I think Xander's mom will give
you a ride. So I'm like, she's like, can you
give her a ride? I go? Where does she live?
She's like, well, she kind of lives near school. I'm like,
which is completely out of the way, Like when I
tell you, oh, out of the way.
Speaker 1: God, does Tina go to your kids at school?
Speaker 2: Yes? She was, She's on their team. But I was like,
where's Tina's parents?
Speaker 1: Good question?
Speaker 2: Well I find out, Oh, they didn't even know she
was here. Oh my god, what the fuck? They don't
know there was a competition, They had no idea. So
do they not read emails? This is what I don't understand.
Do you not understand? Like, look, this it's not Tina's fault.
But also and maybe Tina's traumatized by having parents that
just could not give a shit what she's up to. Yeah,
She's like, yeah, I wasn't even really supposed to be here.
I'm like, why not, You're on the freaking she was competing. Yeah,
so okay.
Speaker 1: And I'm sure she's a super bright girl.
Speaker 2: Right. So at our school, speech and debate is a class,
so anybody can do it. It's not a club where,
like you know, at some other schools, it's a zero period.
You got to be committed, you got It's a time
where kid gets to school, right. But at our school,
some of the kids are very competitive, but some of
the kids don't care at all, and they're just wanting
to get it like an easy a right, which you know,
because it's kind of a participation grade. Right. Anyway, I'm like, okay,
of course, of course I'm going to take her home.
I'm like, no, she can't be on a bus for
three hours, it's already dark. Out of course, sure, I'll
give her a ride home. This girl does not speak
the entire way okay, so we're like, but I'm like,
she gave me her address, but she's acting very like
like not bitchy to me, but like really sort of like, oh,
I don't really like asking people for help, Like I'm fine,
I could have just taken the bus, but she's directing
all of that at Mollie, not at me. She's not
including me in any conversation. But you know me, I'm
just being very like, oh my gosh, girl, don't worry
about it. I got you. Like, let's just you're not
taking a bus for three hours. It's not a big deal.
We have nowhere to be. It's fine, right, you know.
I was annoyed inside, but I was I was not.
I was like, get in the car, you know. So
we're halfway home, it's really long and out of the way,
and then I hear Molly from the back seat Stephanie
we have an issue, and I was like, oh my god,
what is it. She's like, Tina doesn't have her keys?
Oh my god, wow, why do you? Now? Can you
throw off the fence? Like it's nine o'clock. It's nine
o'clock now at night. So I'm like, okay, well, are
your parents home right? Like why do you need your key?
You know they're at dinner. I go, okay, why don't
I drop you off where you're Like, let's where are
they at dinner?
Speaker 1: Huh?
Speaker 2: Also in my mind, I'm like, they're at dinner at
nine o'clock. I'm already this whole thing is starting to
get really suspect. Yeah, So but I was like, should
I and she's like, no, I'll just just you can
just drop me at my apartment. I'll get in, I'll
find a neighbor to let me in. So now I'm
of course picturing or why did.
Speaker 1: She call her mom or dad and say, hey, I'm
on my way home. Can you guys it's nine o'clock parents?
What time you guys going to be home?
Speaker 2: It's not really communicating with me. And when I say
I don't really feel comfortable just dropping you in front
of your apartment building and like having you wait for
somebody to leave to let you in, She's like, I
think my front doors probably open to my apartment, so
I just need to get in the building, so don't worry.
And I was like at first, I'm like, but I
am worried, Like I don't want to do that. Can
you call your mom or your dad and find like,
you know, no, I can't, Okay, can I drop you
off at the restaurant? It's fine, it's fine, it's fine,
it's fine. And finally I was like fuck it, then
it's fine.
Speaker 1: Yeah, what what.
Speaker 2: Am I going to do?
Speaker 1: Take her to the fire.
Speaker 2: Exactly. So I was like, okay, I go, okay, yeah,
I'm not going to keep arguing with that. So we
get to where her apartment building is and I let
her out and like obviously she got in yeah because
she was So there's a part too. She showed up
the next day, oh, and I was it was getting
hinted that I pick her up in the morning, and
I was like, oh, hell, do the fucking no, Oh no,
I have already have a long thing in the morning.
So I was when they were I heard them saying that,
and I just comely ignored it. Oh okay, I well,
they didn't ask me, but they were sort of like
I could hear him kind of discussing it. Like the
girl like Molly was like, but do you have a
ride in the morning, and she's like no, And I
just didn't say anything. Yeah, and I let her out
and anyway, okay, So that was Friday. Then I found
out after the fact that Xander came in first in
his round out of like seven kids in the first
in his first round the Friday night. Friday night, so
we went into well, actually I didn't find that out
until Saturday morning. So okay, Friday's episode, I will give
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