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Speaker 1: H is Devlin. I'm welcome to another episode, so I

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hope you're laying comfortable. Those earbuds are in. I'd like

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to do something a little different today. I'd like to

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push a few boundaries. No story this time, well, not

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the kind of story you're used to from me, But

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I did want to talk to you directly, just you

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and me, just for a few minutes, because there's something

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I've been working on, and you know, the more I've

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sat with it, the more I've realized it really belongs

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in your hands, specifically, not despite everything we've shared together

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because of it. So stay with me. This won't take long,

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and I think I genuinely think it might matter to you.

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You know, you and I have spent a lot of

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intimate time together enjoying moments of intense pleasure. We have

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experienced stories built for arousal, for fantasy, and for the

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particular pleasure of being told something that just lights you

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up inside, that starts so tingles flowing. Right now, I

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want to say something clearly. There is nothing lacking in that,

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nothing that needs fixing, nothing that needs to be left behind,

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nothing immature, secret or incomplete about loving what we've built together,

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those fantasies we share bridge They always have been the

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fact that a story can move through your body, can

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make your breath change, can make something stir inside you.

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That's not separate from what I'm about to tell you.

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You can actually enjoy the same sensations, just stronger, the

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same body, the same capacity for feeling, just one particular

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expression of something much larger. You know, I want to

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say something now, and I don't think this gets said enough.

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Most of the women I've worked with over the years,

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in all the different forms of work that I've taken,

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are carrying something quietly underneath everything else, something that isn't

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really about pleasure at all, not at first. It's about

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being seen seen as essential, being, as a passionate woman,

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as someone alive worth desiring, not just someone who manages

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a house, raises children, holds a job together and keeps

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everyone else's lives running smoothly. Somewhere in all of the holding,

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somewhere in being endlessly capable, endlessly responsible, endlessly needed, the

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part of you that is a living, a breathing, deeply

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central and passionate woman stops being seen not just by

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anyone else by you. You stop seeing yourself that way,

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and the age underneath that, the quiet, rarely spoken ache

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isn't really I want more pleasure? Is I want to

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be a woman again, essential woman, not a function, not

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a role, a real, passionate woman. I think that take

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is exactly what brings so many people to these stories

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in the first place. The stories give you a safe

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place where you can be seen that way completely, if

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only just in your imagination for twenty minutes. So what

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I want to tell you about today goes a layer

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deeper than that. Here's what I've noticed. Those stories, the

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stories we share that give us a sensation, that give

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us a feeling of being seen, of being wanted, of

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being desired, of being essential being rather than a job

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a role. Now that sensation is real, it matters, and

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I will never stop believing in it. But there's something

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underneath the sensation, something the stories point toward without fully delivering,

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a deeper aliveness that doesn't depend on a scene, a voice,

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or a particular fantasy to access it. The capacity to

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see yourself as essential woman. You truly are not borrowed

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from a story, not performed for anyone, simply felt in

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your own body as the truth of who you are

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underneath the noise of everything you carry, and that noise

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is loud. The school run, the laundry, the emails, the endless, small,

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invisible labor of keeping everyone else all right. It's not

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your fault that you're a sensuality gets buried under all

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of it. But you can know that sensuality, that fire,

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that passion is still there, and there is a way

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of filling that gap without needing a bridge. It's called

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Tantric Flame. It's a podcast I've built separate from this one,

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with its own home now, that uses tantric philosophy and

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somatic practice to clear away all that noise and to

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help you fully arrive in your own senral body, not

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through a story, through guided experience, so you can live

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essentially every single day through your own breath, your own feelings,

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your own felt presence. There's no plot, no characters, no scene.

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There's just you, you being genuinely seen by yourself as

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the alive, passionate woman who has been quietly waiting beneath

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all the other roles with the ach I described a

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moment ago felt familiar, even a little. I think Tantric

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Flame might matter to you. So just for a moment,

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I want to give you a small taste right now.

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So just settle down wherever you are, take care your

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spine is straight. Now, just take one breath, just a

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nice normal breath, and let it go, and just for

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a moment, let a moment of intimacy raised your mind

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and perhaps from a story, perhaps a memory, or even

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a fantasy. Each're perfect in their own way. Just notice

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any images that come to mind. You can hear any sounds,

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smell any fragrances, and just now notice the feeling in

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your body. And as you let that feeling settle within

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your body, you can notice how the image becomes distance

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and the edges blur, just leaving behind that feeling, that sensation. Now,

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let your attention gently into your body, not your mind,

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not the part of you that manages and plans and

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holds everything together, just your body, sitting or lying exactly

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where you are right now, And notice, without looking for

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anything in particular, whether there's a place in your body

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where that sensation feels stronger, more alive. It might be small,

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it might be subtle. That's completely fine, it is there.

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Whatever you notice, that's not nothing, that's you seeing your sense, yourself,

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your passion, your desire right there, without a story, without

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anyone else's eyes on you, without someone else's permission, that

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you can feel just using your own attention, finally simply

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arriving in you as essential being rather than everything else.

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You carry that quality, That's what Tantric Flame is built around.

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In steps of twenty minutes at a time, going deeper

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than a single minute ever could So just take a breath,

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come back to wherever you are, We'll go your fingers

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and toes good. That's the taste. Even a quiet part,

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even a part you haven't acknowledged out loud to anyone,

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felt something just now. I was talking if some part

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of you is tired of being capable and invisible and

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once just wants to just try and feel like a

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woman rather than a series of roles. And I think

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you might be ready. And if you are, Tantric Flame

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is exactly where I'd love to meet you. Tantric Flame

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has its own channel now, completely separate from this one.

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I'll put the link in the episode's notes. There are

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two episodes to start worth, one that explains all of

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this properly, and one that takes you through a full

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guided experience. The real version of what I gave you

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a taste of. I genuinely love for you to join

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me over there and subscribe, not instead of staying here

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with me both if you want me that way, They're

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different rooms in the same house. And if it's not

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right for you now, that's completely fine too. I'll still

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be right here, same as always with the next story.

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Thank you for staying with me through something a little

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different today. I built tan trip flame because I believe

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the same thing about you that I've always believed. That

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you are someone capable of intense passion, of intense sensuality,

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and you deserve to explore that that is your birthright,

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and I just wanted to offer you another way to

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be seen for it, especially by yourself. The link is

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in the show's notes if you want it, and I'll

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be back here soon with something else entirely so until then,

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just know, if nothing else know, you are a deeply

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centual woman. You are beautiful just as you are, not

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just everything you do for everyone else, but who you are.

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Take care of that. It's more special than you can know. Then,

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the younger