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Speaker 1: I'm always asking questions, and the reason why is because

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the fund begins when you start researching for answers such as,

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how is it that we've gotten really good at hiding

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our reality? Plus, now that we know that we're hiders,

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how did we even get into this situation? My name

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is Errow. I'm a daily writer, a silent wolf. I

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stand on the sidelines and do nothing but watch, listen, study,

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then activate. I call it the daily Mess, a chronological

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walk through an everyday world. Yeah, it's my morning writing

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as a receiver of thoughts and ideas. We as people

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tend to throw things to the side because we think

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we're going to deal with it later. Well, when a

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subject arrives inside of me, I know it's time to

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dig in. It's still keeping that daily journal, but by

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doing the research, the picture becomes clearer. This is the

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daily Mess. Are we really good at hiding reality? As

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in to bury the truth to better accept the unpredicted? Uh? Oh,

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I kind of figured, but really didn't want to see

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it or be real with it. Yeah. Humans are very

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good at hiding the physical steps and experiences that make

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up what is our reality. It's called social masking. It's

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when we present to the world various versions of ourselves.

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It's actually seen as a survival mechanism to gain access

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and avoid rejection. We are guilty of convincing ourselves of

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a story. Yeah, we've got this nack to readjust things

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that are safer and more manageable. Selective sharing is something

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that a lot of us jump into. Who we are

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on social media is a far cry from where we

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are when it comes to physical, face to face conversations.

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We tend to cut up our storylines and present only

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pieces parts. It's almost like watching ESPN Sports Center. Why

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go to the game if the highlights are really what

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we're looking for. Another reason why we're really good at

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hiding things is emotional regulation. Hiding our truth helps us

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maintain control on protecting ourselves from judgment. Hey, coming up next,

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Now that we know that we're pretty much a hider,

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how did we even get into this situation? Hey, welcome

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back to the daily Mess. Now that we know how,

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reality has checked in with us and we're pretty much

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a bunch of hiders. When it comes to what we

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do really in life, the choice is, how did we

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even get into this position of decision making? How do

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we develop such an ability to hide what is our

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real legacy? Mental health professionals lean in on the idea

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of being tied to our desire to feel like that

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we belong or we can be a source of self preservation. Listen,

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show me someone who doesn't hide from themselves. Self deception

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makes a beautiful buffer. How does this process even begin?

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Your brain gets the blame. It's learned to soften the

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truth to reduce pain, drama, trauma, and cognitive dissonance. This

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is what allows us to function every day without being overwhelmed. Plus,

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we can't leave out the pressures of society, who pretty

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much tell us to toughen up, get it together, dude,

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put on your brave face. Hiding our reality is instinct

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that requires social conditioning. Plus, don't be freaked out if

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self defense doesn't play a role in your game. Hiding

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from yourself will always lead to people who lived it

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with you, and they're not afraid to say, yeah, that's

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only part of the story. Can we put focus on

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what really happened here? Or are you still hiding? Hi? Mario?

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And that's the daily mess